Mark if you are reading this, you have absolutely changed my life and way of thinking I am a much better person now, overthink less and live life more. Lots of love continue what you are doing
Been reading Mark Manson's books for some time now; The Subtle Art and Everything is Fucked. Actually read subtle 5 times and on my 5th read of Everything so it all syncs in. And oh my goodness the difference in my life, I'm much more awake, self awareness improved a lot, few old shitty habits and values are dying down lessening their grip. Thank you Mark truly!
Yesterday I took a "mental health" day, and completely fucking blew it by playing videogames pretty much the whole day. Not the first time this has happened. So, I'm quitting playing videogames for the rest of the summer. I procrastinate a lot. There is a ton of shit I want to do, have started, should be doing, said I would do, bought the shit I need to do it... But I spend more time hating myself for not doing things than I spend getting things done. I think, at age 46, I'm finally making some small strides towards being less of a piece of shit in my life. I quit drinking in May (A choice partially inspired by your videos about drinking). I exercise more consistently than I ever have. Goddamnit Carl!
sounds like you're on the path. TH-cam is my biggest time suck. Quitting alcohol is massive. Video games are pointless. You're transforming yourself in real time
Yeah, I've berated myself about wasting my time off or my mental health day. Lately, I've started to think that maybe giving myself a long to do list on my mental health day is the problem. Maybe I need a coma day where I sleep 20 hours. Or s day of reading trash, or watching trash, or playing ridiculous games. I try to give myself a day or afternoon a week to pursue whatever project I want to work on, no matter how ridiculous. Now, I have to figure out how to remember to actually add some time off to my schedule!
1:40 “My struggle is with my own sense of usefulness in this world” really hammers home the point that my problems aren’t special, they’re universal. I struggle to give myself a break, even if I’ve been busting my ass off or if I just need a quick break from life. It’s that fear of dying knowing I’ve wasted my life instead of focusing on what matters most to me that stops me from enjoying gaming in my free time. Keep in mind I’m only 21, but yet I obsess about “using my time wisely” so much that I forget that taking a break and doing something for fun is ok from time to time.
Hey Mark, last Friday I flirted with a girl for and for the first time I didn’t feel anxious. You’re teaching me a lot about values and being myself, and I hope that one day I am able to be my true, happy self. Thanks Mark. I recommend your book to everyone around me.
I bet that required you to find some bravery that you never knew you had! But then once you were out there doing it, it probably didn't feel that scary (speaking from experience) and you could totally do it again. It sounds like a big personal achievement. Well done 😊 You dirty flirty spicy little sausage!
You shouldn't, keep good info to yourself. Let the sheep wander around and btw how did it go with the girl? Also this was 4 months ago, how you doing now?
This video really relates well with "The War of Art," which labels those demons as "Resistance," that is like a magnet opposing true North that pushes back harder the closer you get to fulfilling your unlived life. Very helpful book for creatives who struggle to commit imo.
@@smileyginger1 I'll take a look at Brooks, thanks. As someone who already uses playing music as a somewhat spiritual/meditative practice, I really connected with his writing style. The book helped me become significantly more of a pro with what I do, even though it was a pretty short read. Highly recommend it
Great video! I had to pause it at this one: ""Whatever you choose to value in your life, you are also choosing to experience the failure of that value.""
Agreed. Almost as good is Conan's Dartmouth Commencement where he says, "It is our failure to become our perceived ideal that ultimately defines us and makes us unique."
I want to clarify something about the concept of shadow that I think gets misconstrued a lot (I am a Jungian-informed therapist who's been attending a Jungian seminar for three years). The shadow is NOT ONLY things we despise or loathe. They are the parts of us that are *unknown* to us on a conscious level (hence being in the "shadows" - we cannot see them). In order to despise or loathe a quality about yourself, you have to have some kind of identification or awareness of the part you despise. That happens through *projection* - seeing it outside of you. Projection happens when a shadow aspect of ourselves is *on its way* to consciousness - projection is the first stop. Projection can be either an idealization or a hatred of the quality being projected. The shadow on its own is a thing we could never conceive of ourselves embodying or being - this can go in the direction of hatred or idealization. We can be unaware of parts of ourselves that are actually *desirable* to us, and that we would wish to cultivate if we had the chance. The bright, shiny parts of others can also be shadow aspects in ourselves. Mark, I encourage that you change your languaging around the concept of the shadow, or do some more reading on it, because it is not fully fleshed out, and can lead people to thinking that they are doing "shadow work" if they just identify the things they hate about themselves. It's partially true, but your way of describing it is incomplete. It takes a fuck ton of work to discover shadow aspects, and if it were as simple as "note what you hate about yourself and befriend it" - I imagine the world would look entirely different that the one we are currently in.
I totally understand where you are coming from here - and I think that while true, so many people are so completely disconnected from themselves that Mark's advice, while incomplete, is somewhere to START. Imagine a world where at least we had THAT. We need to crawl before we can walk. Sometimes just sitting with the aspects of yourself that you dislike can lead to uncovering things about yourself that you never knew - "good" or "bad." One needs to start somewhere to make the space where that can arise.
@@frettymercuryI love your comment. I’ve done some research into Jung, not as deeply as you. So my innocent question is do you think some of our greatest gifts and potentials can also be in our shadow? Like possibilities and drive we may be repressing because of recent trauma? Id love your insight.
The demons you use as an example sound too nice lol. My demons are my temper, my judgmental nature, my criticalness of myself and others, my commitment issues, my selfishness, my habit of manipulation, my lust/struggles with fidelity/wandering eye, gossiping, talking negatively about others, the list goes on… I feel like such an awful person. But I love this video so much (as usual) and I’m a huge fan of Jung and his thoughts on the shadow. I am a huge proponent of shadow work for healing. Inspires me to read one of his books again. Thank you Mark!
On my worst days, I remind myself that at least I'm not a war criminal. Unless you are, in which case, it's time to remember at least you didn't start World War I. Or WW2, probably. I know I've definitely not killed a penguin, so at least there's a place to start. If you're a leopard seal, again, I apologize.
Keep going. I’m sorry to say but you’re in the easy phase… a lot of newbies to sobriety get in over their head and as my dad and his AA friends say, “get a little too confident”. Just keep going one day at a time. Stay consistent with meetings. You got this.
Mark, I saw this video two years ago in your channel, it changed completely the inner voice in my head, same as you “laziness”. I just wanna say thank you.
My problem is that my demon says I am a loser. That I have wasted my whole life till now. That I will never be able to redeem it because I am getting old and am still not getting better. And even with my most level headed analysis I find that my demon is f**king right.
Mark, this timely video resonated with me. Harsh inner critic as a reflection of enormous ambition Being distant from people also allowing me to take risks that other people wouldn't. I am still combating my inner demon to this day, but the wisdom you shared just propelled me so much closer to self acceptance. I think this can work as your next book title
A mental narrative, I've created: I'm sitting in a movie theater, with my "shadow self" on the right, and the "mentor/best friend" on left. It took me a long time to see the shadow clearly to shrink him down, and bind him up. He can not be erased, and masking or suppressing him, has its limitations...shrinking by close examination, is what you want to do, and you need to always be a little vigilante, to ensure he doesn't grow, and take over. On the left is my mentor, who usually tells me NOT to keep playing the same bits of film over and over. And just reassures me, "everything is fine, just stop playing the bad parts". The theater is consciousness itself. Technically, nothing in this theater is real...the self doesn't exist. It's just a construct. Sometimes, it's helpful to mediate on this point: the empty theater is the real me.
This reminds me the movie ‘Inside Out’ - When the existing emotion chase away the ‘sad’ emotion thinking that would keep the young girl happy, instead it did the opposite. Only when they accept, embrace ‘sadness’ only then they see the positive value/emotion it can bring to the young girl.
When the mushrooms brought me into confrontation with my most hideous & long denied shadows, I wrapped my arms around them in acceptance rather than trying to run. They were immediately disarmed & lost all power to control my future behaviour. They’ve not gone anywhere. But now they work for me, rather than the other way round. Trying to cast them aside is neither wise nor possible. They’ll just take control again.
Still they give relief from the chaos world sometimes, when everything falls apart, confusing, they are there present with us even if it makes us more miserable in the long term.
thank u so much mark(i regard us as an angel,please never stop sharing ur lessons,i really wish i could meet u once in my life,manifesting the best and only the best for u today,tomorrow and always
I cannot tell you how on time this is. I keep asking god, when am I going to actually overcome my demons. I’m hyper self aware so I just think I’m an awful person. Last night I acted in a way I know better than. At the end of the night I asked myself “what could I have done better tonight?” And I had a list. I knew better but I didn’t do better and that’s what kills me.
I just have to say that all those funny and witty caption on b-rolls and graphic inserts are freaking hilarious and deserve a like on their own! I definitely love this sense of humor 😁 Please keep adding them, Mark!
It’s called the Shadow work. In the dark night of soul you encounter your shadow. It would shatter your worldly beliefs, judgements etc. you will also experience mild depression for weeks before you integrate with your shadow and make it your friend. It is concept when your soul re-enters your body.
Treat your demons friendly. They are honest but offensive sometimes, they are shadow aspects of our mind. So make friends with them, acknowledge your lacks of something.
I found something similar advice in a book called No Bad Parts which goes like - "Everything u hate about yourself is just a part that loves u and wants to protect you , even the self harming one wants the physical pain to protect u from the unbearable emotional pain and if u just took time to listen to it and love it back it might become ur greatest gift". In short words don't let ur discipline become yet another distraction . Don't let ur inner child bulldozed by a drill sergeant. And just like mark said - Every demon has an associated angel , No Bad Parts folks , Stay safe and happy.
I used to fall into the trap of arguing about the accuracy of what my demons told me. While CBT helped identify where some of these negative beliefs came from, the strategies to disprove them just encouraged me to be my regular overthinking self. Then one stressful day, I gave up. Have at it, I told myself, throw every negative judgement at me. The following morning I asked myself, did I get anthing done yesterday? Did the experience offer any solutions to my terribleness? Was it a fun day? Nope, nope, and nope. I realized right there the achilles heels of all my demons. I'm a pragmatic person, so the real problem with my self hatred wasn't how inaccurate it might be. Nope, the problem was how unhelpful (to put it mildly) these negative thoughts were. So now I'm learning to listen to the negative thought that pops up, and then think, well, that's not really helpful, brain. Why don't we come up with a thought that will help. And if my brain doesn't want to right now, I'm going to focus on something else and my brain is welcome to come back when it has something interesting to say.
One of my struggle is I use to get called ugly growing up so now I think I'm a good looking dude I work out and stuff but it's hard to still get pass that so now it hard to ask girls out bc I always tell myself there is a better guy out there for them
I thought I was the only one with this problem. When I see my image in the mirror and in certain angles that I look I hear that voice that says that I'm ugly. And when a girl rejected me my demon said "it's because you're ugly" and I work out and do self care routine but it's so hard to let go the demon
Nice video and valuable insights about dealing with demons. I will say that this line of thinking is covered in IFS, bit it's a bit more broad with very specific recommendations to dealing with various parts. It would be cool if you did a video on IFS.
I had the same problem with video games, but lately I kinda learned that those games keeps my anxiety in check when it gets high and gives me a lot of time to think about some new ideas for work, etc. My brain just works better when it gets hour or two of dark souls or final fantasy a day, game a day keeps doctor away I guess...
I think video games are great as a hobby when they aren’t a replacement for life, but another fun activity and vocation that can be a source of recreation and excitement. Kinda like chess, sports etc. I love playing Street Fighter after a day of doing what I need to do
Mark, THIS IS STH I REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR, YOU HAVE CONTRIBUTED IN THE BETTERMENT OF MY LIFE IN A WAY YOU CANT EVEN IMAGINE, YOU ARE AN ANGEL MARK ❤️❤️❤️
I really got a chuckle when you referred to your demon as a “dickface” then made a point to illustrate that fact. Only to blur it out to reinforce the point. Well played. That aside, I’ll be sure to share this video with my son because the message of the video is something I know he struggles with. His autism and ADHD only exacerbate the problem. Thanks for posting this!
The Tibetan ritual is the real deal, and I'm saying that without ever immersing myself in one. One of the things so effective about Seven was not letting us see "What's in the box????" If you see something, you take power away. We're always more afraid of the Unknown, which means the Unknown is more likely to gain control over our thoughts and feelings if we let it...GREAT video!
Thank you for this specific review on Feeding Your Demons (the book), which I have now ordered, and for making it in the single-voice format. While I really like your co-presenters on TH-cam, I find the focus is more chaotic and harder for me to follow. My dyslexia and hyperactivity (which has been rebranded as ADHD, I think? I get it mixed up with HDTV...) make the less-linear presentation harder for me to follow. Or maybe I like feeling like your words are directed only at me, no sharing? Or both. A format you have used that splits the difference is similar to the one you used for this book/concept review, where it's you presenting them as a subject, sometimes with germane video snips. Anyway, thanks for another great video.
Great video, felt quite light to consume because of the tone set up in it, fortunately I've been dealing with this kind of thing a bit well than before for some time and you also mentioned things like how to deal with them and the shadow etc that I was thinking of during the video as well
Thank you Mark, i hated my demon, maybe i still hate him and that means i hate myself because he is a part of me that i want to hide. I feel like my demon is a terrible being and that showing him around the people i know would make them hate me, he seems unpleasant and destructive, but maybe i should stop caring so much about what other people think about my true self and give myself and my demon more love, even though i don't know how. From today i won't hide him anymore and if he wants to take control and mess things up i guess i have to speak to him frankly and say to not be a jerk. Thank you for the good reflection time, much love
Other than a demon, I believe i have an angel. Her name is Angel Apheus. Every night when i sleep, i tell her all the things i was thankful for throughout the day. Subsequently, my day becomes better. Sounds delusional but im living life happy
Mark, I cannot ignore nor dislike the inner demon’s voice from now onwards. For sure he will be presence at all time and giving me his piece using his soothing voice because I love Morgan Freeman voice.
I’ve come to understand that the voice of my demon is nothing but the critics (mom, dad, brother, friends, relatives) when I was a child. Not good enough, you’re lazy, you should be strong, courageous, etc. Accepting that I’m no longer that child and forgiving those critics, who had their own demons to deal with. Have eased much of the insecurities and negative self beliefs
First 30s cut so deep I nearly screamed. Forcing me to take a lengthy pause and distract from the moment and type out this comment. so imma pretend I didn’t feel that and watch the rest of the video now.
This sounds in line with Internal Family Systems therapy. Where we have multiple personalities within our minds with different roles. And how to heal our relationship with them.
Having lunch with your demon reminds me of this existentialist tip for anxiety. Anxiety becomes way, way worse when you try to fight it and get away from it. The tip from this book said instead, sit in the couch with your anxiety and have a conversation with it. Get to know it. Ask why it’s showing up right now and what it’s doing here. This was a huge unlock for me. I realized I was losing to it by running from it, trying to avoid it. Instead, personifying it and having a conversation with it I could understand it better and navigate with it.
Just try IFS - Internal Family Systems - therapy. It focuses on integrating all parts of you as a whole. It's not talking therapy. It's great for healing.
My Carl is called the Antagonist. I realised that it is a part of me and it is there to challenge my beliefs and morals. So it went from being a negative part of myself to something that mostly helps me make good choices by reasoning out all the shit choices first.
Mark if you are reading this, you have absolutely changed my life and way of thinking I am a much better person now, overthink less and live life more. Lots of love continue what you are doing
Same here!
Same bro
Diddo buddy
Mark saved me from deep shit, i owe him a big fat one!!
Been reading Mark Manson's books for some time now; The Subtle Art and Everything is Fucked. Actually read subtle 5 times and on my 5th read of Everything so it all syncs in. And oh my goodness the difference in my life, I'm much more awake, self awareness improved a lot, few old shitty habits and values are dying down lessening their grip. Thank you Mark truly!
Nice to see Mark giving smaller stars like Morgan Freeman a chance to shine
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This video could not have been uploaded at a better time for me. I needed to hear that. Thanks Mark!
Yesterday I took a "mental health" day, and completely fucking blew it by playing videogames pretty much the whole day. Not the first time this has happened. So, I'm quitting playing videogames for the rest of the summer. I procrastinate a lot. There is a ton of shit I want to do, have started, should be doing, said I would do, bought the shit I need to do it... But I spend more time hating myself for not doing things than I spend getting things done. I think, at age 46, I'm finally making some small strides towards being less of a piece of shit in my life. I quit drinking in May (A choice partially inspired by your videos about drinking). I exercise more consistently than I ever have. Goddamnit Carl!
sounds like you're on the path. TH-cam is my biggest time suck. Quitting alcohol is massive. Video games are pointless. You're transforming yourself in real time
Yeah, I've berated myself about wasting my time off or my mental health day. Lately, I've started to think that maybe giving myself a long to do list on my mental health day is the problem. Maybe I need a coma day where I sleep 20 hours. Or s day of reading trash, or watching trash, or playing ridiculous games. I try to give myself a day or afternoon a week to pursue whatever project I want to work on, no matter how ridiculous.
Now, I have to figure out how to remember to actually add some time off to my schedule!
I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you! 😊
"Every Demon has an associated Angel"
-Mark Manson
"If I got rid of my Demons
I would lose my Angels"
- Tennessee Williams
It makes perfect sense now
1:40 “My struggle is with my own sense of usefulness in this world” really hammers home the point that my problems aren’t special, they’re universal. I struggle to give myself a break, even if I’ve been busting my ass off or if I just need a quick break from life. It’s that fear of dying knowing I’ve wasted my life instead of focusing on what matters most to me that stops me from enjoying gaming in my free time. Keep in mind I’m only 21, but yet I obsess about “using my time wisely” so much that I forget that taking a break and doing something for fun is ok from time to time.
Hey Mark, last Friday I flirted with a girl for and for the first time I didn’t feel anxious. You’re teaching me a lot about values and being myself, and I hope that one day I am able to be my true, happy self. Thanks Mark. I recommend your book to everyone around me.
I bet that required you to find some bravery that you never knew you had! But then once you were out there doing it, it probably didn't feel that scary (speaking from experience) and you could totally do it again.
It sounds like a big personal achievement. Well done 😊
You dirty flirty spicy little sausage!
You shouldn't, keep good info to yourself. Let the sheep wander around and btw how did it go with the girl?
Also this was 4 months ago, how you doing now?
This video really relates well with "The War of Art,"
which labels those demons as "Resistance," that is like a magnet opposing true North that pushes back harder the closer you get to fulfilling your unlived life. Very helpful book for creatives who struggle to commit imo.
Yes, great pairing!!
Pressfield's stuff is at the top of my TBR list. Arthur Brooks is another great one.
@@smileyginger1 I'll take a look at Brooks, thanks. As someone who already uses playing music as a somewhat spiritual/meditative practice, I really connected with his writing style. The book helped me become significantly more of a pro with what I do, even though it was a pretty short read. Highly recommend it
Great video! I had to pause it at this one: ""Whatever you choose to value in your life, you are also choosing to experience the failure of that value.""
Same here, KAPOW!!😂
Didn’t notice that during the video, glad I read comments!!
Agreed.
Almost as good is Conan's Dartmouth Commencement where he says, "It is our failure to become our perceived ideal that ultimately defines us and makes us unique."
@@willl5970 oh nice!
I want to clarify something about the concept of shadow that I think gets misconstrued a lot (I am a Jungian-informed therapist who's been attending a Jungian seminar for three years). The shadow is NOT ONLY things we despise or loathe. They are the parts of us that are *unknown* to us on a conscious level (hence being in the "shadows" - we cannot see them). In order to despise or loathe a quality about yourself, you have to have some kind of identification or awareness of the part you despise. That happens through *projection* - seeing it outside of you. Projection happens when a shadow aspect of ourselves is *on its way* to consciousness - projection is the first stop. Projection can be either an idealization or a hatred of the quality being projected.
The shadow on its own is a thing we could never conceive of ourselves embodying or being - this can go in the direction of hatred or idealization. We can be unaware of parts of ourselves that are actually *desirable* to us, and that we would wish to cultivate if we had the chance. The bright, shiny parts of others can also be shadow aspects in ourselves.
Mark, I encourage that you change your languaging around the concept of the shadow, or do some more reading on it, because it is not fully fleshed out, and can lead people to thinking that they are doing "shadow work" if they just identify the things they hate about themselves. It's partially true, but your way of describing it is incomplete. It takes a fuck ton of work to discover shadow aspects, and if it were as simple as "note what you hate about yourself and befriend it" - I imagine the world would look entirely different that the one we are currently in.
I totally understand where you are coming from here - and I think that while true, so many people are so completely disconnected from themselves that Mark's advice, while incomplete, is somewhere to START. Imagine a world where at least we had THAT. We need to crawl before we can walk. Sometimes just sitting with the aspects of yourself that you dislike can lead to uncovering things about yourself that you never knew - "good" or "bad." One needs to start somewhere to make the space where that can arise.
@@smileyginger1 yes this is a great point! i appreciate this thoughtful input
@@frettymercuryI love your comment. I’ve done some research into Jung, not as deeply as you. So my innocent question is do you think some of our greatest gifts and potentials can also be in our shadow? Like possibilities and drive we may be repressing because of recent trauma? Id love your insight.
The demons you use as an example sound too nice lol. My demons are my temper, my judgmental nature, my criticalness of myself and others, my commitment issues, my selfishness, my habit of manipulation, my lust/struggles with fidelity/wandering eye, gossiping, talking negatively about others, the list goes on… I feel like such an awful person. But I love this video so much (as usual) and I’m a huge fan of Jung and his thoughts on the shadow. I am a huge proponent of shadow work for healing. Inspires me to read one of his books again. Thank you Mark!
On my worst days, I remind myself that at least I'm not a war criminal. Unless you are, in which case, it's time to remember at least you didn't start World War I. Or WW2, probably. I know I've definitely not killed a penguin, so at least there's a place to start.
If you're a leopard seal, again, I apologize.
"Don't get attached, don't get hurt" that's so relatable.
Great video Mark, I've missed these shorter form videos from you. This one hit with me. I've got some things to think about.
I can't stress enough how much I appreciate your work.............from the bottom of my heart.
15 days sober. What a blessing.
keep going King
35! the demons just keep yapping though.
One day at a time.
Congratulations. I don't know what it's like, but I'm proud of you. Keep it up. Your future self will be so proud of you.
Keep going. I’m sorry to say but you’re in the easy phase… a lot of newbies to sobriety get in over their head and as my dad and his AA friends say, “get a little too confident”. Just keep going one day at a time. Stay consistent with meetings. You got this.
this came right on time for me. literally for the past 30 minutes i have been feeling the same was as you put "demos"
Mark, I saw this video two years ago in your channel, it changed completely the inner voice in my head, same as you “laziness”. I just wanna say thank you.
My problem is that my demon says I am a loser. That I have wasted my whole life till now. That I will never be able to redeem it because I am getting old and am still not getting better. And even with my most level headed analysis I find that my demon is f**king right.
Start proving him wrong. It’s not easy but worth it
@@leo-loves-life Thanks.
Mark, this timely video resonated with me.
Harsh inner critic as a reflection of enormous ambition
Being distant from people also allowing me to take risks that other people wouldn't.
I am still combating my inner demon to this day, but the wisdom you shared just propelled me so much closer to self acceptance.
I think this can work as your next book title
Thanks Mark. That perspective on my Demon doubting everything, helped me Slot today. I cannot want something and not fear loosing it.
A mental narrative, I've created:
I'm sitting in a movie theater, with my "shadow self" on the right, and the "mentor/best friend" on left. It took me a long time to see the shadow clearly to shrink him down, and bind him up. He can not be erased, and masking or suppressing him, has its limitations...shrinking by close examination, is what you want to do, and you need to always be a little vigilante, to ensure he doesn't grow, and take over. On the left is my mentor, who usually tells me NOT to keep playing the same bits of film over and over. And just reassures me, "everything is fine, just stop playing the bad parts". The theater is consciousness itself. Technically, nothing in this theater is real...the self doesn't exist. It's just a construct. Sometimes, it's helpful to mediate on this point: the empty theater is the real me.
This reminds me the movie ‘Inside Out’ - When the existing emotion chase away the ‘sad’ emotion thinking that would keep the young girl happy, instead it did the opposite. Only when they accept, embrace ‘sadness’ only then they see the positive value/emotion it can bring to the young girl.
Your books have helped me change my life and I have no idea how I didn't know you had a channel. I'm so stoked to binge all of this.
I thought I was alone thinking this. Thank you, Mark.
When the mushrooms brought me into confrontation with my most hideous & long denied shadows, I wrapped my arms around them in acceptance rather than trying to run. They were immediately disarmed & lost all power to control my future behaviour. They’ve not gone anywhere. But now they work for me, rather than the other way round. Trying to cast them aside is neither wise nor possible. They’ll just take control again.
The reason your demons are so hard to get rid of is because they were there when nobody else was.
They were not the demons then.
@@skepticonHGH They always were. They were playing the slow game.
Still they give relief from the chaos world sometimes, when everything falls apart, confusing, they are there present with us even if it makes us more miserable in the long term.
They are us
@@skepticonHGHAlcoholism isn't a "demon"? It's always there when you're down, if you're an alcoholic. By your definition, that means it's not bad. Lol
thank u so much mark(i regard us as an angel,please never stop sharing ur lessons,i really wish i could meet u once in my life,manifesting the best and only the best for u today,tomorrow and always
Mark... Are you hiding in my house or something ?!
All your latest videos are spot on , great work !
Always enjoy your content, Mark!
Thank you for this video dude, I needed it today
I cannot tell you how on time this is. I keep asking god, when am I going to actually overcome my demons. I’m hyper self aware so I just think I’m an awful person. Last night I acted in a way I know better than. At the end of the night I asked myself “what could I have done better tonight?” And I had a list. I knew better but I didn’t do better and that’s what kills me.
Heyy!! I'll suggest Jesus to u try him he's a game changer
Avoidant attachment style. Glad you figured it out!
10 minutes of pure value! Thank you Mark❤
The ego is our main demon; become friends with it.
I just have to say that all those funny and witty caption on b-rolls and graphic inserts are freaking hilarious and deserve a like on their own! I definitely love this sense of humor 😁
Please keep adding them, Mark!
we love you Mark!!
It’s called the Shadow work.
In the dark night of soul you encounter your shadow. It would shatter your worldly beliefs, judgements etc. you will also experience mild depression for weeks before you integrate with your shadow and make it your friend.
It is concept when your soul re-enters your body.
Mark, You are one of the most important persons of the century, Thank U for who you are ❤
Thank you so much Mark for putting in the effort to help so many people, including myself.
Treat your demons friendly. They are honest but offensive sometimes, they are shadow aspects of our mind. So make friends with them, acknowledge your lacks of something.
This is a relatable take on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Oh, absolutely! I signed up with that and it really padded my account Made trying out all the different games a lot easier
This one is profound and has just made an impact in my perception of life. Thanks Mark.
"Every demon has an associated ángel. Our demos are just the other side of our best qualities". Brilliant.
I found something similar advice in a book called No Bad Parts which goes like - "Everything u hate about yourself is just a part that loves u and wants to protect you , even the self harming one wants the physical pain to protect u from the unbearable emotional pain and if u just took time to listen to it and love it back it might become ur greatest gift".
In short words don't let ur discipline become yet another distraction .
Don't let ur inner child bulldozed by a drill sergeant.
And just like mark said - Every demon has an associated angel , No Bad Parts folks , Stay safe and happy.
I used to fall into the trap of arguing about the accuracy of what my demons told me. While CBT helped identify where some of these negative beliefs came from, the strategies to disprove them just encouraged me to be my regular overthinking self.
Then one stressful day, I gave up. Have at it, I told myself, throw every negative judgement at me. The following morning I asked myself, did I get anthing done yesterday? Did the experience offer any solutions to my terribleness? Was it a fun day? Nope, nope, and nope.
I realized right there the achilles heels of all my demons. I'm a pragmatic person, so the real problem with my self hatred wasn't how inaccurate it might be. Nope, the problem was how unhelpful (to put it mildly) these negative thoughts were. So now I'm learning to listen to the negative thought that pops up, and then think, well, that's not really helpful, brain. Why don't we come up with a thought that will help. And if my brain doesn't want to right now, I'm going to focus on something else and my brain is welcome to come back when it has something interesting to say.
One of my struggle is I use to get called ugly growing up so now I think I'm a good looking dude I work out and stuff but it's hard to still get pass that so now it hard to ask girls out bc I always tell myself there is a better guy out there for them
I thought I was the only one with this problem. When I see my image in the mirror and in certain angles that I look I hear that voice that says that I'm ugly. And when a girl rejected me my demon said "it's because you're ugly" and I work out and do self care routine but it's so hard to let go the demon
This is My favourite episode!!!
Nice video and valuable insights about dealing with demons. I will say that this line of thinking is covered in IFS, bit it's a bit more broad with very specific recommendations to dealing with various parts. It would be cool if you did a video on IFS.
I had the same problem with video games, but lately I kinda learned that those games keeps my anxiety in check when it gets high and gives me a lot of time to think about some new ideas for work, etc. My brain just works better when it gets hour or two of dark souls or final fantasy a day, game a day keeps doctor away I guess...
I think video games are great as a hobby when they aren’t a replacement for life, but another fun activity and vocation that can be a source of recreation and excitement. Kinda like chess, sports etc. I love playing Street Fighter after a day of doing what I need to do
Probs to the person who made the thumbnail! Phenomenal work
Absolutely marvellous,
I actually feel like I relate to you Mark on a personal level. Thanks for the video.
I don't think I need better help after seeing this, super eye opening, thank you so much for sharing.
That cashback was a lifesaver last week. It’s comforting to know you get something back after a rough day
Mark is like a father figure for me ❤
You won me over with the corgi B roll :)
Mark, THIS IS STH I REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR, YOU HAVE CONTRIBUTED IN THE BETTERMENT OF MY LIFE IN A WAY YOU CANT EVEN IMAGINE, YOU ARE AN ANGEL MARK ❤️❤️❤️
I really got a chuckle when you referred to your demon as a “dickface” then made a point to illustrate that fact. Only to blur it out to reinforce the point. Well played. That aside, I’ll be sure to share this video with my son because the message of the video is something I know he struggles with. His autism and ADHD only exacerbate the problem. Thanks for posting this!
Similar to Carl Jung's shadow work. Currently reading Connor Beaton's ManTalks based on Jung's work. Awesome book. Thanks Mark.
Great video. I think it says a lot about the acceptance about one self seeing the bad and also the good part
Perfect timing. Thank you very much Mark ❤
Finally there’s AI. I’m so glad you got the Morgan freeman’s voice. You have come so far. Hello from South Africa.
Exactly, it’s like getting rewarded for staying active. I tend to go for those, especially when the slots aren't treating me well
Mark , that was a great video. As an orthodox Christian I understand the depth of this .
Absolutely, I signed up and used that bonus right away. It’s a great way to start exploring their games. Have you decided to dive in yet
Love your content! Keep up the good work Mark, eager to meet you in the future along my journey!
The Tibetan ritual is the real deal, and I'm saying that without ever immersing myself in one. One of the things so effective about Seven was not letting us see "What's in the box????" If you see something, you take power away. We're always more afraid of the Unknown, which means the Unknown is more likely to gain control over our thoughts and feelings if we let it...GREAT video!
Better help can help me communicate better with my demons? Even by text? Wow!
I noticed that too. Time to subscribe to that service! :D
They'll also sell your personal health information to the highest bidder.
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It's obviously your own choice, but do keep in mind Better Help, as someone else mentioned, sells your personal information.
Thank you for this specific review on Feeding Your Demons (the book), which I have now ordered, and for making it in the single-voice format. While I really like your co-presenters on TH-cam, I find the focus is more chaotic and harder for me to follow. My dyslexia and hyperactivity (which has been rebranded as ADHD, I think? I get it mixed up with HDTV...) make the less-linear presentation harder for me to follow. Or maybe I like feeling like your words are directed only at me, no sharing? Or both.
A format you have used that splits the difference is similar to the one you used for this book/concept review, where it's you presenting them as a subject, sometimes with germane video snips.
Anyway, thanks for another great video.
Great video, felt quite light to consume because of the tone set up in it, fortunately I've been dealing with this kind of thing a bit well than before for some time and you also mentioned things like how to deal with them and the shadow etc that I was thinking of during the video as well
Basically use "Talk no jutsu" on your demons hahaha
Jokes Apart, that was some great advice thanks mark!!
Thank you Mark, i hated my demon, maybe i still hate him and that means i hate myself because he is a part of me that i want to hide.
I feel like my demon is a terrible being and that showing him around the people i know would make them hate me, he seems unpleasant and destructive, but maybe i should stop caring so much about what other people think about my true self and give myself and my demon more love, even though i don't know how.
From today i won't hide him anymore and if he wants to take control and mess things up i guess i have to speak to him frankly and say to not be a jerk. Thank you for the good reflection time, much love
ugh so timely THANK YOU
I love you mark. You are my biggest motivator
I needed to hear this today... thank you
Always learn something important with Mark content.. good stuff
One can easily tell this was well thought out. Great content.
Mark broo
U are becoming smarter and better looking day by day😅
I’m glad authors like him are adapting to different sources of media to keep the content alive. Gold move ✨
Other than a demon,
I believe i have an angel. Her name is Angel Apheus. Every night when i sleep, i tell her all the things i was thankful for throughout the day. Subsequently, my day becomes better. Sounds delusional but im living life happy
Mark, I cannot ignore nor dislike the inner demon’s voice from now onwards.
For sure he will be presence at all time and giving me his piece using his soothing voice because I love Morgan Freeman voice.
That demon claw freaks me out! I'm expecting a nightmare on that shit!
I too am a slave to Fromsoftware's creations.
I believe on Miyazaki's supremacy too 🤌
so real
There is happiness in this slavery.
@@Batzarn82 bro the notification i got from this comment had me so concerned 😭
I’ve come to understand that the voice of my demon is nothing but the critics (mom, dad, brother, friends, relatives) when I was a child. Not good enough, you’re lazy, you should be strong, courageous, etc.
Accepting that I’m no longer that child and forgiving those critics, who had their own demons to deal with. Have eased much of the insecurities and negative self beliefs
Yep, planning to use it for some cricket betting. There’s a big match I've got my eye on this weekend
Ram Dass has much vital info on this as well.
First 30s cut so deep I nearly screamed. Forcing me to take a lengthy pause and distract from the moment and type out this comment. so imma pretend I didn’t feel that and watch the rest of the video now.
This sounds in line with Internal Family Systems therapy. Where we have multiple personalities within our minds with different roles. And how to heal our relationship with them.
Having lunch with your demon reminds me of this existentialist tip for anxiety. Anxiety becomes way, way worse when you try to fight it and get away from it. The tip from this book said instead, sit in the couch with your anxiety and have a conversation with it. Get to know it. Ask why it’s showing up right now and what it’s doing here. This was a huge unlock for me. I realized I was losing to it by running from it, trying to avoid it. Instead, personifying it and having a conversation with it I could understand it better and navigate with it.
And for anyone wondering the book was called The existentialist survival guide by Gordon Marino. A truly fantastic book for anyone.
Just try IFS - Internal Family Systems - therapy. It focuses on integrating all parts of you as a whole. It's not talking therapy. It's great for healing.
My Carl is called the Antagonist. I realised that it is a part of me and it is there to challenge my beliefs and morals. So it went from being a negative part of myself to something that mostly helps me make good choices by reasoning out all the shit choices first.
Thank you so much for this video. It has truly helped me understand better.❤️
It's been a few minutes that this video is released so we are gonna watch it
56 mins ago....i was like whuuaaaatttt i rlly need this now
Damn yet another video that slaps Mark
Bomb video. Love it
This really deserves to be on trending
This was awesome 👏 💙
I'm thinking about it, especially with the cricket season heating up. Seems like a good time to take advantage of the extra betting power
Awesome video! Mark is the goat 🐐 Love listening to your podcast, and love the channel. Love what you do🤝
Well said, straight to the point, calm delivery, noice