Mark's series proves 1 thing I've been saying for decades. The root thing wrong with society is the lack of real friends. Mark has shown him what it's like to have a real friend / support.
Mark changed this guy's life without all the toxic nonsense men hear about how they aren't being man enough or that they need to man up. Men need to know that other people care about them and that they need to find a way to love themselves. The solutions are simple, it seems, but some men just don't know what to do to change their lives for the better. Mark Manson, you're an amazing human being. Will, you're amazing too.
My mum was never supportive of anything I ever did . She might be ok that is cool and good for you . Always rather heartless . She thinks I'm super good at art and wants me to paint and draw lol . She's like you could making 1000s . I don't even care .
Unf*ck Your Life Checklist 1. Join a Gym... and Go. 2. Meal Prep Healthy Options 3. Read More Books 4. Try Something New 5. Learn a New Skill 6. Cold Plunge 7. Go Out and Be Social 8. Show Appreciation 9. Apologize to Someone 10. Forgive Yourself
@@minnowx7099 yeah, turns out I was undiagnosed autistic and ADHD in severe burnout with complex ptsd. No money and unable to find a job that won't cause my health to deteriorate again, not that I've fully recovered from my last burnout. Just debating ways to off myself while looking for a miracle 🤷 being optimistic and hopeful was my greatest strength but it always got used against me. I don't have spoons anymore to keep trying different jobs or industries trying to find a fit.
The letter Will wrote to himself … it hit HARD! So vulnerable, beautiful but also full of… commitment to go forward. Will is an amazing dude and I hope all the good things in life will now follow! ❤ Mark - chapeau, for the incredible work you are doing! This made my day!
"Behind every strong person, is a story that gave them no choice. Never let anything stand in your way". Your letter to yourself was SO powerful. Hell YEAH Will. Proud of you brother.
You've probably heard this from five billion people but your book is pretty f****n' lit. I read it (okay… listened to it, but I read it later) five years ago after having taken care of my mom passing from cancer for about 4 months, after having bought a right hand steering Mitsubishi Delica to tour the USA and try to become one with the world or some shit. Your book arrived just at the right time, so I thank you for that. To this day I still read it, and listen to the audiobook to remind myself of certain principles. Either way, I'm wodering if you're still helping people out like you did with Will it's super inspiring. I don't want to bore you with my life story, but I was in a wicked ass car accident , I almost died. in fact to this day doctors are still stunned at how I was able to survive. My entire life I've been very sad and I wasn't able to notice that I was very sad because I didn't know what it was to not be sad, or some people might consider this depression which eventually became anxiety and eventually it turns out all this crap that happened to me in my childhood led to me developing complex post-traumatic stress disorder. and unfortunately due to not knowing what it is to not be depressed, I didn't know what it felt like to not be depressed. to me this was normal, this was life. life is hard life is difficult life is impossible, we're here to just suffer and I wasn't able to see all the doors that were available to me, be it through meeting new people helping out asking for help. for some reason in my mind I had it ingrained that I couldn't ask for help, that nobody wanted to help because why would they want to? Like some real emo sh*t, ya know? I was a gothpunk rock emo kid, so. Any who, I'd like to write a book one day too, and share my experiences. And how you said I have to be a contrarian on a certain degree, I got that covered (for success) I think, either way. It would be f**king awesome to like have an orange soda and a pizza, or a redbull and a reeses (well not really I'd ra ther just have a drink or a coffee) and maybe if you could help me. I think I'm finally getting out thanks to PROZAC, here go to this website for a coupon... Lol just kidding, this isn't a paid advertisement. But either way man, I imagine you're super busy and sh*t, but I want to also help people too, like you have. That's what I want to give a f**k about, granted yes the reason I want to is because it gets my nipples hard (quoting you from your book) and that's an interesting thing, we could go down that philosophical route about how love is selfish or ultimately alla Thomas Paine I think, who said that all humans are inherently evil. Either way I'm not really organizing my thoughts as well as I'd hoped to make it seem like I'm cool and worth one of your f**ks cuz I know they're super limited, but, yeah uhh... In summary I'm looking to see if you can help me like you did Will to a degree and maybe help me share my story and I'm dying to travel. I'm not ignorant of travel, I have more story about how I lived in New York, but because of my moms death, I sort of abandoned my career and all that hokey pokey bullsh*t, butI don't want to drown you in my woes (unless you want to be drowned, because you're into that ;3) but yeah man. that's it. I was gonna stick all this crap in chatgpt and have it prepare a letter, (Yes I pay for premium, and f*ck you if you judge me). Hell I'll even paste the prompt I was gonna use: "I'm trying to write a fun letter to Mark Manson, I see he went to help somone out so I'm also applying for something similar and this is what I'm trying to do, could to turn this into a fun letter format, very casual and fun and use vulgar language like f*ck, and make my ideas coherent:” But I feel just vomiting all this into a letter would be more authentic, and you'd appreciate it better Big hug, and may your f*cks be given to worthwhile things. P.S. yes I copy pasted this and sent it to you through every possible channel I could find so you'd see it. Am I desperate? Maybe, but there's a fine line between desperation and perseverance P.P.S. each one of these I send you are slightly different.
One of the most beautiful videos I have ever seen on this platform. Also reminds me of this quote. I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” - Jim Carrey
And Jim Carrey's words are so very true. I'd fallen ill during my last years in school, and the result was a depression. My husband also suffered a depression at the end of his school days. But, though we didn't know each other, we both had the sense to keep active and outdoors, whether in our choice of hobbies or in my case, my career. I changed my diet significantly. I would read, paint, write, embroider, and went hiking in my spare time, while my husband was motorcycle building, racing, scrambling and doing stunts. Anything to break the mould. However, our grown up son 'wallows' in idle anxiety. He's snappy, reclusive, doesn't exercise, and spends too much time online conversing with odd people with weird ideas. He won't come out of his room except for meals and to go to work (his work is sat down in front of a computer all day designing websites). It is like living with a ghost. Of course, as concerned parents, we try to do our best, to give advice, to invite him to do various things, to get him out of that tiny, stuffy room and away from that damn screen. But he is the stubbornest of mules. He shuns our advice as if we are stupid, don't understand, or not worth listening to. I don't know what it is. We have never done anything to warrant this lack of trust. This morning he goes to the psychologist, and it worries us sick that all these people ever do is 'talk,' until the day they finally put him on medication. That's all they do - talk. There has been no change in his behaviour whatsoever; no one telling him to get outside, get exercise, stop drinking the coffee, stop drinking so many energy drinks, stop sitting in front of the computer the minute he gets home (until 3:20am the other morning). He doesn't socialise with us at all - except Christmas Day, and then it's a day we all spend on tenterhooks, us parents worried that the wrong word will send him flying back to his room. If we want him to help us with anything, it's, 'I'm busy,' or 'Wait 10 minutes,' - and some hours later, he 'might' appear. He often just doesn't bother coming out of his room at all, hoping that if he just stays quiet, we'll just go away and cope with the issue ourselves. I have joint problems and his dad is much older than me - so we would appreciate the help and not this constant dismissal... In fact, I change my mind about comparing him to a ghost, because I'm sure that if our house 'was' haunted, we'd interact with a ghost more than with him. Obsession with the internet is a global problem; I'd call it a disease. I wish now we'd never had it installed here. It would have been far better if all he had available was an hour of internet booked at the local library (10 miles away), and I guess I might have reverted to that option if so many companies hadn't started making it so impossible to deal with them any other way.
@lewis7870Wow - do you have a teenage son with this problem (now 21) ? I do! All the “help” we have offered and everything we have tried has not helped so far and has not worked. We tried a psychologist but they actually ran out of things to talk about after a few sessions and said there was “nothing” wrong - well staying in your room and being up until 3-4am every night and only interacting online unless you are at work - having virtually no interactions with live people, no exercise etc, etc, is ok then what? We can’t “stop” him, we don’t want to abandon him or throw him out - what else can we do? He wanted to go to Japan so we said if he saved a percentage we would also put some money towards it - he went for 5 weeks with a friend - came back and still nothing has changed. We really hoped that a change from his “normal” environment would help…. He works a minimum wage job and we charge him $100 a week rent - mostly to help him learn to be responsible and accountable - nothing works
@@debbiehenri345 I'm so moved by your message and totally agree about the internet. My son has a disability and so for different reasons I worry about him and can relate to your anxiety. What I'd like to see if men all over the world making a solid commitment to friendship with other men, and doing all that that entails. Friendship done right is demanding, and it's worth it. In the meantime all the best to you and your family. I have faith it will turn around.
this is why i consider Mark’s channel one of my best subscriptions, he’s just so down to earth and he’s making you feel the true sense of being a human. Love it
@@willcolip7975hey Will. (First off, love the gaming set up) secondly, congratulations on your progress. I relate to pretty much all of your struggles, and it’s inspiring to know that I can make the progress you made
There is a little bad in us all. Don't ever think you aren't partly good, because you obviously are. Yin and Yang. You can't be a good man without being capable of bad things.
As a 23 years old boy who's going through hard times (as everyone does, I think), watching this video and getting to know that I'm already doing a lot of items from the list really made me feel a little happier. I suffered from abuse, and too much agression when I was just a child. I didn't know that it could destroy my self-esteem and fuck with my brain. But I'm getting better everyday, and being strong. I'm learning my third language, and started learning computer science again because soon I'll be applying for a job in German. I have no doubt that I'll ascend from a poor Brazilian guy to a strong man that'll provide value for society, help others and form a beautiful family. God bless you, Mark! 🙌
I'm twice your age and am inspired by your grit and determination. Keep it up. I'd love to keep in touch and hear more about your journey. I need to learn some new skills myself! I was a process engineer with a chemical engineering degree, but now have been unemployed for nearly eight years.
Amen brother....all power to you...btw i am trying to learn german as well for my masters degree....maybe we could help each other out a bit if that's okay with you? Let me know if we can connect and then i will share my insta id here .. Stay Strong and may god give you everything you need to excel🚀🚀🍾🍾⚡⚡⚡⚡
Gosh the comment from the mom re the ice bath was adorable. She didnt care about the ice bath but she just wanted to connect with her son more deeply. What a gorgeous comment from a caring mom.
Glad you caught that quote. It’s one of my favorites. I followed it up with something my father always told my brother and I, “Never let anything stand in your way.”
When you forgive yourself and decide to love yourself in spite of your faults and resolve to do better after every mistake you become fearless. Then your productivity shoots thru the roof bringing even more confidence and joy. Confident people with skills and a positive caring attitude are extremely attractive to other humans.😊
Man, I had to hold back tears! Great work you guys. And, Mark, I apologize for criticizing your decision to go into video content. I realize now that I’m the one who wasn’t chasing my own dreams and projecting that inner failure upon you. You’re killing it and I’m proud of your new work.
That scene with Will reading his forgiveness letter made me cry. I've always like Mark's "no BS approach" to unf*ck your life and been a long-term reader of his newsletter but seeing all the success stories on this channel is even more motivating. He truly cares about helping people. What an amazing accomplishment, Will. Keep up the good work! 👍
I thought this was just going to be another video i will watch and forget about, but when it was time for him to forgive himself i broke down in tears. I felt that.....
True story: I find myself at yet another of life’s um transitions. I bought your book when it first came out for my two adult daughters. Landed on your you tube channel years ago, surprised at your sound/wholesome content. Love this new format as you embrace a powerful mission. I’m 77 and soon moving into an assisted living home. Been feeling all the feels. Guess what. Just watching this beautiful video I’m feeling a bit more confident and a bit less like giving up. Thanks m’dear.
I hope your time there is marked by peace and joy rather than restlessness. Congratulations on entering this new stage in life with grace and self-control.❤
I literally cried when he read that letter to himself at the end of the video. I want to say a big thank you, Mark. I will forgive myself as well today. Thank you for this video!
Tears, tears rolling. In college rn, sitting alone at my canteen table and couldn't stop myself from bursting out. Feels great. The letter to yourself was POWERFULL. Thank you Thank you so much.
Amazing video. It had me in tears by the end. I recently went through my own journey of mental health, forgiveness of myself and my past mistakes, and learning to be able to actually look in the eyes of the reflection in the mirror. Taking me back was painful but humbling. I hope this man is able to continue on the right path. I absolutely recommend doing more videos like this!
Mark, thank you so much for this ❤ My son is going thru a similar situation and is stuck there. As a mom, I try to be supportive and just love him without blasting into parent mode. I shared this video with him hoping he will watch it. I have been thru divorce, cancer, being kicked out of a crazy cult and none of that compares to the overwhelming weight of seeing your child suffer and being helpless to make change happen for him.
I always knew that there's a self help book with the word f*ck in it but have never read it. Never needed to, actually. But i've just discovered the author behind it today! You are an amazing man! Really impressed me what you did for this man. If there is heaven, you've claimed your spot :) cheers
You not only helped him but also brought joy to his mom and his friends who were missing out a good person who was beneath under anxiety and depression.
man, I cried the hell out of myself with his "forgive myself" note, I felt that, I was there months ago and now I feel the best I've been in my whole life, all things must pass, remember that, we love you
Dude you are a beast! I love what you said. "Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice." When you hit rock bottom you have no where to go but up. Keep going dude!
This literally made me cry a little because these steps are easy for me to follow to help others I know in similar situations. I am so happy I saw this. Thank you for changing Will's life and showing him how to make things better.
I appreciate Marks message in this video. I would also like to point out that this somewhat puts unrealistic expectations on people. In real life you won’t have a “savior” come to help you unf*ck your life. You will have to do that yourself because there won’t be anyone coming to save you. With that said, once we realize that, starting with small steps is the way out.
This is just such a great example of simply showing up in life for another, yet Mark moved the needle a tad higher by showing up for what I assume is a stranger. Will showed up and pushed his edges and I hope you are still kicking ass! We all have skills to help others and we all have areas where others can help lift us higher. Hell yeah brother! Thanks to both of you for this lesson!
Will has a great personality, and his mom is precious. I wish them all the best in this journey. I was so excited to see Will two months later. He looks amazing! I can see his sunshine radiating from his face. Way to go, Will!
Dear Mark, Your videos humble me. I remember your advice even when I'm not trying to. When I see you practice what you preach, it has a huge, and I mean huge, impact on me. I feel lucky to have known you
"Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice. Never let anything stand in your way. I love you, stop worrying so much, I forgive you." This video touched my heart. Thank you both for sharing.
I think people under estimate the value of friendship and having fun, i think its vital in any aspect of life. People that loose connection and fun really have problems
The fact that you, Mark Manson, are willing to invest time and energy in Will's life would be so motivating to so any of the lost lonely males in our current society. Bravo!
Holy crap. Just seeing his face after the 2 months, before he even said anything about working out I was like.... damn. he lost a lot of weight. Looking good man!
That's was such a nice video! It got into some necessary tears that have been trapped inside Thanks for both of you, and the whole crew! Hell yeah, brother!
I wacth this video 3 times . Mark, you really change my life the very first book I read was models, nearly 8 year ago . Really change me alot I owe you much more than I can express. You are really like my big brother. I really what you are doing on TH-cam now. It's really entertaining and provide values . Thanks man please make more videos like this ! ❤ Love you bro
"It's really something to see [...] how many people are dying for lack of an encouraging word. And how easy it is to provide that if you are careful" I'm not gonna lie, i started crying when he talked to his friend and couldn't stop until now. This is so touching and i'm loving it. You changed this man's life in just a weekend.
You are on the road - remember you only fail when quit trying. You’re probably gonna fall down now and then but never stop trying and your total accumulation will be positive. Forgive yourself for any missed steps and just learn from them. You got this!
What I tell everyone who is going through it: just keep going. Head up, look back to see how far you've come only once in a while, stay focused on the future, and the especially the uphill journey. Keep Going!
Mark, I appreciate you and this beautiful way to help others. I read your book when I was 17, fantastic! Now 24 and I love your realistic grounding content, keep going the good work! And Will, I celebrate you choosing yourself and being open enough to go through this process and inspire others by having it shared online. All the best for you both, much love ✨🌻
Well here’s some advice from the source. Something that’s not mentioned in the video is that I’ve been seeing the same therapist for 5 years. Learning to love yourself and then staying dedicated to self improvement are key. Yes I have a ton of support, but I also have a ton of love for myself and the will to push forward even when I’m uncomfortable. You got this brother!!!
What you just said about him, he never saw in him that. Same goes for you. When you unfuck your life, others will find what they don't have and you have.
@@willcolip7975 I don't got it. All the therapy and confidence, and dedication, I was there for many years, it was unsustainable and exhausting without results. Success and happiness just aren't in the cards for me. I don't make it anyone else's problem, I'm not angry about it, but it is just something I have to accept.
There's a reason people are most likely to fall into depression when they're separated from people. Humans are social creatures. We need each other, no matter how much you tell yourself you don't need anyone. A good friend is priceless.
Hope everyone is doing well and can learn something from my experience. Stay hard everyone!!! Hell yeah brother!!! 🤠
You're the GOAT Will
You´re amazing, I know that in some years you'll see this video and will see how many changes you have done, keep it hard, we believe in you.
I'm so inspired and I really needed that! All the best to you!
Hell yeah brother keep going, you became an inspiration for a lot people here.
Nice work bro!
Mark's series proves 1 thing I've been saying for decades. The root thing wrong with society is the lack of real friends. Mark has shown him what it's like to have a real friend / support.
You have a brilliant mind.
100 per cent agreed :-)
So true 💯💯
❤ Facts
We can be friends. If you are willing to be real one. Let's make world a better place by showing true brotherhood.
This is what men really need, just another man who will just talk to him , give him some company ,and cheer him on the way .
All men could do with that
I've heard of the mythological "Friend" you are describing.
Women, too, want a man like that ❤(to help with losing weight and so on…)
Honestly, this is the kind of thing Fred Rogers was talking about.
@@polyglotmonaOr another woman
Mark changed this guy's life without all the toxic nonsense men hear about how they aren't being man enough or that they need to man up. Men need to know that other people care about them and that they need to find a way to love themselves. The solutions are simple, it seems, but some men just don't know what to do to change their lives for the better. Mark Manson, you're an amazing human being. Will, you're amazing too.
Well basically he told him to man up in a loving way. And that's what men need.
THIS!!
Beautifully said
This! Exactly my thoughts.
Yessss!!
Everyone needs a Mark in his/her life.
Learn to be your own Mark.
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@@Glenn705 no...we need to promote social connection and forming a community, not enabling this hyper individualistic crap we have going on.
WE need to be like Mark in someones life.
He is with his Books
His Mum is amazing, everyone needs somebody who supports you like that
I agree, such a wholesome moment
My mum was never supportive of anything I ever did . She might be ok that is cool and good for you . Always rather heartless . She thinks I'm super good at art and wants me to paint and draw lol . She's like you could making 1000s . I don't even care .
That's right but she also has to let her son have his own life, his own experiences apart from being with her
Unf*ck Your Life
Checklist
1. Join a Gym... and Go.
2. Meal Prep Healthy Options
3. Read More Books
4. Try Something New
5. Learn a New Skill
6. Cold Plunge
7. Go Out and Be Social
8. Show Appreciation
9. Apologize to Someone
10. Forgive Yourself
11. Star in a riveting TH-cam video.
Thank you, saved me from wasting time with listing it out, none of those have worked for me.
@@Onthe9thlife3730Did you REALLY try them all without thinking you would fail before you started?
@@Onthe9thlife3730Man, that is the wrong attitude to have. There isn't any ONE thing.
@@minnowx7099 yeah, turns out I was undiagnosed autistic and ADHD in severe burnout with complex ptsd. No money and unable to find a job that won't cause my health to deteriorate again, not that I've fully recovered from my last burnout. Just debating ways to off myself while looking for a miracle 🤷 being optimistic and hopeful was my greatest strength but it always got used against me. I don't have spoons anymore to keep trying different jobs or industries trying to find a fit.
Incredible video ❤❤
Love your content too i am productive than ever cuz of you
What i really like about this video is that you don't judge him, you are just with him and it's beautiful.
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The letter Will wrote to himself … it hit HARD! So vulnerable, beautiful but also full of… commitment to go forward. Will is an amazing dude and I hope all the good things in life will now follow! ❤ Mark - chapeau, for the incredible work you are doing! This made my day!
i cried lol
"Behind every strong person, is a story that gave them no choice. Never let anything stand in your way".
Your letter to yourself was SO powerful.
Hell YEAH Will.
Proud of you brother.
That letter, that quote, was amazing.
You've probably heard this from five billion people but your book is pretty f****n' lit. I read it (okay… listened to it, but I read it later) five years ago after having taken care of my mom passing from cancer for about 4 months, after having bought a right hand steering Mitsubishi Delica to tour the USA and try to become one with the world or some shit. Your book arrived just at the right time, so I thank you for that. To this day I still read it, and listen to the audiobook to remind myself of certain principles.
Either way, I'm wodering if you're still helping people out like you did with Will it's super inspiring. I don't want to bore you with my life story, but I was in a wicked ass car accident , I almost died. in fact to this day doctors are still stunned at how I was able to survive. My entire life I've been very sad and I wasn't able to notice that I was very sad because I didn't know what it was to not be sad, or some people might consider this depression which eventually became anxiety and eventually it turns out all this crap that happened to me in my childhood led to me developing complex post-traumatic stress disorder. and unfortunately due to not knowing what it is to not be depressed, I didn't know what it felt like to not be depressed. to me this was normal, this was life. life is hard life is difficult life is impossible, we're here to just suffer and I wasn't able to see all the doors that were available to me, be it through meeting new people helping out asking for help. for some reason in my mind I had it ingrained that I couldn't ask for help, that nobody wanted to help because why would they want to? Like some real emo sh*t, ya know? I was a gothpunk rock emo kid, so. Any who, I'd like to write a book one day too, and share my experiences. And how you said I have to be a contrarian on a certain degree, I got that covered (for success) I think, either way. It would be f**king awesome to like have an orange soda and a pizza, or a redbull and a reeses (well not really I'd ra ther just have a drink or a coffee) and maybe if you could help me. I think I'm finally getting out thanks to PROZAC, here go to this website for a coupon... Lol just kidding, this isn't a paid advertisement. But either way man, I imagine you're super busy and sh*t, but I want to also help people too, like you have. That's what I want to give a f**k about, granted yes the reason I want to is because it gets my nipples hard (quoting you from your book) and that's an interesting thing, we could go down that philosophical route about how love is selfish or ultimately alla Thomas Paine I think, who said that all humans are inherently evil. Either way I'm not really organizing my thoughts as well as I'd hoped to make it seem like I'm cool and worth one of your f**ks cuz I know they're super limited, but, yeah uhh... In summary I'm looking to see if you can help me like you did Will to a degree and maybe help me share my story and I'm dying to travel. I'm not ignorant of travel, I have more story about how I lived in New York, but because of my moms death, I sort of abandoned my career and all that hokey pokey bullsh*t, butI don't want to drown you in my woes (unless you want to be drowned, because you're into that ;3) but yeah man. that's it. I was gonna stick all this crap in chatgpt and have it prepare a letter, (Yes I pay for premium, and f*ck you if you judge me). Hell I'll even paste the prompt I was gonna use:
"I'm trying to write a fun letter to Mark Manson, I see he went to help somone out so I'm also applying for something similar and this is what I'm trying to do, could to turn this into a fun letter format, very casual and fun and use vulgar language like f*ck, and make my ideas coherent:”
But I feel just vomiting all this into a letter would be more authentic, and you'd appreciate it better
Big hug, and may your f*cks be given to worthwhile things.
P.S. yes I copy pasted this and sent it to you through every possible channel I could find so you'd see it. Am I desperate? Maybe, but there's a fine line between desperation and perseverance
P.P.S. each one of these I send you are slightly different.
One of the most beautiful videos I have ever seen on this platform. Also reminds me of this quote.
I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.”
- Jim Carrey
And Jim Carrey's words are so very true.
I'd fallen ill during my last years in school, and the result was a depression. My husband also suffered a depression at the end of his school days.
But, though we didn't know each other, we both had the sense to keep active and outdoors, whether in our choice of hobbies or in my case, my career.
I changed my diet significantly. I would read, paint, write, embroider, and went hiking in my spare time, while my husband was motorcycle building, racing, scrambling and doing stunts.
Anything to break the mould.
However, our grown up son 'wallows' in idle anxiety.
He's snappy, reclusive, doesn't exercise, and spends too much time online conversing with odd people with weird ideas. He won't come out of his room except for meals and to go to work (his work is sat down in front of a computer all day designing websites).
It is like living with a ghost.
Of course, as concerned parents, we try to do our best, to give advice, to invite him to do various things, to get him out of that tiny, stuffy room and away from that damn screen.
But he is the stubbornest of mules. He shuns our advice as if we are stupid, don't understand, or not worth listening to. I don't know what it is. We have never done anything to warrant this lack of trust.
This morning he goes to the psychologist, and it worries us sick that all these people ever do is 'talk,' until the day they finally put him on medication.
That's all they do - talk.
There has been no change in his behaviour whatsoever; no one telling him to get outside, get exercise, stop drinking the coffee, stop drinking so many energy drinks, stop sitting in front of the computer the minute he gets home (until 3:20am the other morning).
He doesn't socialise with us at all - except Christmas Day, and then it's a day we all spend on tenterhooks, us parents worried that the wrong word will send him flying back to his room.
If we want him to help us with anything, it's, 'I'm busy,' or 'Wait 10 minutes,' - and some hours later, he 'might' appear. He often just doesn't bother coming out of his room at all, hoping that if he just stays quiet, we'll just go away and cope with the issue ourselves. I have joint problems and his dad is much older than me - so we would appreciate the help and not this constant dismissal...
In fact, I change my mind about comparing him to a ghost, because I'm sure that if our house 'was' haunted, we'd interact with a ghost more than with him.
Obsession with the internet is a global problem; I'd call it a disease. I wish now we'd never had it installed here.
It would have been far better if all he had available was an hour of internet booked at the local library (10 miles away), and I guess I might have reverted to that option if so many companies hadn't started making it so impossible to deal with them any other way.
@lewis7870Wow - do you have a teenage son with this problem (now 21) ? I do! All the “help” we have offered and everything we have tried has not helped so far and has not worked. We tried a psychologist but they actually ran out of things to talk about after a few sessions and said there was “nothing” wrong - well staying in your room and being up until 3-4am every night and only interacting online unless you are at work - having virtually no interactions with live people, no exercise etc, etc, is ok then what? We can’t “stop” him, we don’t want to abandon him or throw him out - what else can we do? He wanted to go to Japan so we said if he saved a percentage we would also put some money towards it - he went for 5 weeks with a friend - came back and still nothing has changed. We really hoped that a change from his “normal” environment would help…. He works a minimum wage job and we charge him $100 a week rent - mostly to help him learn to be responsible and accountable - nothing works
@@debbiehenri345It sounds like he needs to watch these videos. He certainly needs a Mark Manson in his life.
@@debbiehenri345 I'm so moved by your message and totally agree about the internet. My son has a disability and so for different reasons I worry about him and can relate to your anxiety. What I'd like to see if men all over the world making a solid commitment to friendship with other men, and doing all that that entails. Friendship done right is demanding, and it's worth it. In the meantime all the best to you and your family. I have faith it will turn around.
The phone conversation with his friend made me teary-eyed and gave me goosebumps. Beautiful.
I wish the best for this dude..he seems so genuine and suchhh a buddy. HELL YEAH BRUTHER!!
Hell yeah sister!!!
this is why i consider Mark’s channel one of my best subscriptions, he’s just so down to earth and he’s making you feel the true sense of being a human. Love it
You spoke my mind ❤
Will is amazing for being WILLING to change, letting you guide him, and sharing that journey ❤
Thanks partner! Change starts from within. Gotta be willing to make the change before any kind of progress can be made.
@@willcolip7975hey Will. (First off, love the gaming set up) secondly, congratulations on your progress. I relate to pretty much all of your struggles, and it’s inspiring to know that I can make the progress you made
WILL-ing
I am not a good person but this made me cry. All the best to you two, Will and Mark. This video gives hope.
same
You have empathy; that's a fundamental part of being a good person.
You are a good person. Bad people don't doubt themselves. You might not be all good, but you have good in you.
There are good and bad in everyone, let’s try to help the good part grow stronger than the bas
There is a little bad in us all. Don't ever think you aren't partly good, because you obviously are. Yin and Yang. You can't be a good man without being capable of bad things.
As a 23 years old boy who's going through hard times (as everyone does, I think), watching this video and getting to know that I'm already doing a lot of items from the list really made me feel a little happier. I suffered from abuse, and too much agression when I was just a child. I didn't know that it could destroy my self-esteem and fuck with my brain. But I'm getting better everyday, and being strong. I'm learning my third language, and started learning computer science again because soon I'll be applying for a job in German. I have no doubt that I'll ascend from a poor Brazilian guy to a strong man that'll provide value for society, help others and form a beautiful family. God bless you, Mark! 🙌
I'm twice your age and am inspired by your grit and determination. Keep it up. I'd love to keep in touch and hear more about your journey. I need to learn some new skills myself! I was a process engineer with a chemical engineering degree, but now have been unemployed for nearly eight years.
Let's connect bro, I'm German e eu estou estudando o suo idioma🇧🇷
Amen brother....all power to you...btw i am trying to learn german as well for my masters degree....maybe we could help each other out a bit if that's okay with you?
Let me know if we can connect and then i will share my insta id here ..
Stay Strong and may god give you everything you need to excel🚀🚀🍾🍾⚡⚡⚡⚡
Good luck Marcos!
E aí Marcos! Tu é o bixão memo rapaz, tu consegue tudo!! Muita força e foco nessa tua jornada, tamo junto !!
I like the attitude he had. No whining, even though it was a hard thing, a really hard thing. He took it with a laugh and did what he had to.
Dude's got a sense of humour, wouldn't mind sharing a pint with him!
Good stuff Mark!
No, say no to alcohol.
Gosh the comment from the mom re the ice bath was adorable. She didnt care about the ice bath but she just wanted to connect with her son more deeply.
What a gorgeous comment from a caring mom.
Hell yeah, brother.
"Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice." -Paulo Coehlo.
Glad you caught that quote. It’s one of my favorites. I followed it up with something my father always told my brother and I, “Never let anything stand in your way.”
When you forgive yourself and decide to love yourself in spite of your faults and resolve to do better after every mistake you become fearless. Then your productivity shoots thru the roof bringing even more confidence and joy. Confident people with skills and a positive caring attitude are extremely attractive to other humans.😊
😭😭😭 What a beautiful gift you gave him - but also, how beautifully eloquent he was in his letter to himself. Super inspiring, thank you for sharing.
Man, I had to hold back tears! Great work you guys. And, Mark, I apologize for criticizing your decision to go into video content. I realize now that I’m the one who wasn’t chasing my own dreams and projecting that inner failure upon you. You’re killing it and I’m proud of your new work.
Mark you the GOAT, look forward to working with you one day
Nice to see ya here. Hoping for that Collab.
Hello denmo
That scene with Will reading his forgiveness letter made me cry. I've always like Mark's "no BS approach" to unf*ck your life and been a long-term reader of his newsletter but seeing all the success stories on this channel is even more motivating. He truly cares about helping people. What an amazing accomplishment, Will. Keep up the good work! 👍
Saying "I forgive myself" is such a powerful statement.
Great video as always.
I thought this was just going to be another video i will watch and forget about, but when it was time for him to forgive himself i broke down in tears. I felt that.....
True story: I find myself at yet another of life’s um transitions. I bought your book when it first came out for my two adult daughters. Landed on your you tube channel years ago, surprised at your sound/wholesome content. Love this new format as you embrace a powerful mission. I’m 77 and soon moving into an assisted living home. Been feeling all the feels. Guess what. Just watching this beautiful video I’m feeling a bit more confident and a bit less like giving up. Thanks m’dear.
I hope your time there is marked by peace and joy rather than restlessness. Congratulations on entering this new stage in life with grace and self-control.❤
@@Oldladies_o7 Thank you for your lovely comment. May you be well.❤️
Hugs hugs hugs
@@foxque2149 😉🌟🙏
I literally cried when he read that letter to himself at the end of the video. I want to say a big thank you, Mark. I will forgive myself as well today. Thank you for this video!
Wow... bringing a positive change in someone's life is a blessing.... hats off to you Mark for being such a good inspiration
Tears, tears rolling. In college rn, sitting alone at my canteen table and couldn't stop myself from bursting out. Feels great. The letter to yourself was POWERFULL. Thank you Thank you so much.
Sending a virtual hug, good luck with everything!
Amazing video. It had me in tears by the end. I recently went through my own journey of mental health, forgiveness of myself and my past mistakes, and learning to be able to actually look in the eyes of the reflection in the mirror. Taking me back was painful but humbling. I hope this man is able to continue on the right path. I absolutely recommend doing more videos like this!
I thought this was going to be kind of cheesy, but I'm deeply moved. This is like a wakeup call from a caring friend.
Mark, thank you so much for this ❤ My son is going thru a similar situation and is stuck there. As a mom, I try to be supportive and just love him without blasting into parent mode. I shared this video with him hoping he will watch it. I have been thru divorce, cancer, being kicked out of a crazy cult and none of that compares to the overwhelming weight of seeing your child suffer and being helpless to make change happen for him.
I feel you my 23 yr old has been back home since covid messed up his college. He goes online and is isolated himself.
I'm 41 and completely hopeless.@@donnagranier6375
I always knew that there's a self help book with the word f*ck in it but have never read it. Never needed to, actually. But i've just discovered the author behind it today! You are an amazing man! Really impressed me what you did for this man. If there is heaven, you've claimed your spot :) cheers
You not only helped him but also brought joy to his mom and his friends who were missing out a good person who was beneath under anxiety and depression.
man, I cried the hell out of myself with his "forgive myself" note, I felt that, I was there months ago and now I feel the best I've been in my whole life, all things must pass, remember that, we love you
1 join gym
2 healthy meal prep
3 read books
4 try something new
5 learn new skill
6 cold plunge
7 be social
8 show appreciation
89 apologize
10 forgive yourself
Mark, you’re such a blessing! ❤
Absolutely unreal that you are taking the time to help others.
I love this.
Can’t wait for another case story, let’s go bro!!!
Dude you are a beast! I love what you said. "Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice." When you hit rock bottom you have no where to go but up. Keep going dude!
Man this guy gave so much willpower. He was not playing. Really impressed with the cold bath part with his mom. They did a great job 👏
Thanks partner!!🤠
@@willcolip7975WILL! Stay strong brother.
I have a baby kitten purring on my lap, but still, this is the most beautiful thing I've seen today
TH-cam needs a LOVE button. Hell yeah brother!
This literally made me cry a little because these steps are easy for me to follow to help others I know in similar situations. I am so happy I saw this. Thank you for changing Will's life and showing him how to make things better.
2:51 I love how I noticed him buying The Creative Act: A Way of Being because I fucking love that book!!!!
I appreciate Marks message in this video. I would also like to point out that this somewhat puts unrealistic expectations on people. In real life you won’t have a “savior” come to help you unf*ck your life. You will have to do that yourself because there won’t be anyone coming to save you. With that said, once we realize that, starting with small steps is the way out.
Reached that point in life where I don’t even have to watch your whole video to give it a like.
Hoping TH-cam put this content in the place it deserves. This can help a lot of people. Thank you for this content, Mark.
These dudes got some serious sneaker drip, Frfr. Love seeing all these transformation and seeing Mark going out and helping people, this is DOPE!
Watching this series MADE me get off the couch to workout and be better with family.
This is just such a great example of simply showing up in life for another, yet Mark moved the needle a tad higher by showing up for what I assume is a stranger. Will showed up and pushed his edges and I hope you are still kicking ass! We all have skills to help others and we all have areas where others can help lift us higher. Hell yeah brother! Thanks to both of you for this lesson!
This is me. Although I'm not overweight. Inspirational!
Thank you Mark for all the love and support
It hurts seeing such a beautiful soul feel so lost. Amazing work turning it round Will you are an inspiration!!
Will has a great personality, and his mom is precious. I wish them all the best in this journey. I was so excited to see Will two months later. He looks amazing! I can see his sunshine radiating from his face. Way to go, Will!
I balled my eyes out listening to Will’s letter to himself. It’s so relatable and really hits home
This was absolutely beautiful Mark. This video is an eye opener for me. Very impactful 🎉
This is a great video. The world needs more of this. Stay strong and enjoy life!
Dear Mark,
Your videos humble me. I remember your advice even when I'm not trying to. When I see you practice what you preach, it has a huge, and I mean huge, impact on me. I feel lucky to have known you
"Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice. Never let anything stand in your way. I love you, stop worrying so much, I forgive you." This video touched my heart. Thank you both for sharing.
2:48 ... Imagine going to a bookstore with the favorite author whose book is on top of the shelves there... what an experience...
Unexpected Rick ROLL. truly enjoyed the video and got to learn so much from this short video.
Will has so much natural charisma and such a good sense of humour! Awesome to see the progress he made. Stay hard brother 💪
I think people under estimate the value of friendship and having fun, i think its vital in any aspect of life. People that loose connection and fun really have problems
Hell yeah Will. Keep at it man, it's great to see and definitely going to inspire others. Thanks for your work too Mark.
The fact that you, Mark Manson, are willing to invest time and energy in Will's life would be so motivating to so any of the lost lonely males in our current society. Bravo!
Holy crap. Just seeing his face after the 2 months, before he even said anything about working out I was like.... damn. he lost a lot of weight. Looking good man!
I also noticed the weight loss immediately, Good for him!
That's was such a nice video! It got into some necessary tears that have been trapped inside
Thanks for both of you, and the whole crew!
Hell yeah, brother!
I wacth this video 3 times . Mark, you really change my life the very first book I read was models, nearly 8 year ago .
Really change me alot
I owe you much more than I can express.
You are really like my big brother.
I really what you are doing on TH-cam now.
It's really entertaining and provide values .
Thanks man please make more videos like this ! ❤
Love you bro
well i almost shed my tears when his mom said "i wanna connect more deeply with my son". sounds like very supportive mom.
Thank you both for sharing this amazing journey with us❤
I believe in Will 😊
Mark, you are the best for supporting him.
You made my day/week.
Thank you!!! Hell yeah sister!!🤠
"It's really something to see [...] how many people are dying for lack of an encouraging word. And how easy it is to provide that if you are careful"
I'm not gonna lie, i started crying when he talked to his friend and couldn't stop until now. This is so touching and i'm loving it. You changed this man's life in just a weekend.
Fabulous Mark. Please do more. There are many people in the world who need to see this and explore their life to the max. God bless you
I am superfan of Will, I love people want to improve their life and start doing something, big hug from Italy Will
Damn I actually cried to this bro 😭 great job mark
Honestly, that was so touching. I am glad to see a space on the internet where men are helping men in a positive and productive way. Aweseome!
I teared up when he read his letter. Thank you Mark Manson🤟
You are on the road - remember you only fail when quit trying. You’re probably gonna fall down now and then but never stop trying and your total accumulation will be positive. Forgive yourself for any missed steps and just learn from them. You got this!
NEW MARK MANSON UPLOAD YIPEEE!!!!
FINALLY A WORTHY PIECE OF CONTENT TO WATCH
What I tell everyone who is going through it: just keep going. Head up, look back to see how far you've come only once in a while, stay focused on the future, and the especially the uphill journey. Keep Going!
You're the goat Marky mark. You've help millions and you're just getting started. Congrats Will! The people want to see you succeed!
Fuk yeah, Wil!! You rock! Seeing his eyes light up as he encountered his life was amazing. Best vid yet!!
The world needs more like you Mark.
Thank you 😊
Tears! From the letter you wrote. Thanks for being vulnerable.
I love you (as a friend) and your work man, thanks a lot again, I appreciate your effort❤!
I love you not in a friend way, hell yeah brother ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
I am not easily swayed by emotions, but damn that's the nicest thing i have ever seen. Thanks for being such a good person, that's rare (:
Mark, I appreciate you and this beautiful way to help others. I read your book when I was 17, fantastic! Now 24 and I love your realistic grounding content, keep going the good work! And Will, I celebrate you choosing yourself and being open enough to go through this process and inspire others by having it shared online. All the best for you both, much love ✨🌻
Thank you for the kind words!!!
This is the best video I've seen in a long time. All the best to you, Will, you're a good guy!
So wholesome!!! 🥹🫰🏼So much respect to Mark 💓 Cheers to Will 🥳💪🏼
I actually really love the chemistry between you guys. You even wrote a song together just for the video
I WISH I had Will's life. Similar problems except Will has a supportive family & friends, and a good face.
Well here’s some advice from the source. Something that’s not mentioned in the video is that I’ve been seeing the same therapist for 5 years. Learning to love yourself and then staying dedicated to self improvement are key. Yes I have a ton of support, but I also have a ton of love for myself and the will to push forward even when I’m uncomfortable. You got this brother!!!
@@willcolip7975I just want to wish you to keep up and having good luck. Everything will be great eventually!
What you just said about him, he never saw in him that. Same goes for you. When you unfuck your life, others will find what they don't have and you have.
@@willcolip7975 I don't got it. All the therapy and confidence, and dedication, I was there for many years, it was unsustainable and exhausting without results. Success and happiness just aren't in the cards for me. I don't make it anyone else's problem, I'm not angry about it, but it is just something I have to accept.
That’s seriously powerful ❤ Thanks for that, I really needed this, 2moro is Day 1 at the gym no matter what 👊 Wish me luck 🍀
There's a reason people are most likely to fall into depression when they're separated from people. Humans are social creatures. We need each other, no matter how much you tell yourself you don't need anyone. A good friend is priceless.
Mark is a rockstar for me!!❤
Dude wow this gave me goosebumps. I really pray he stays on track and continues to glorify the Lord
"trying not to puke" that's god tier words of a man doing his god given all!