Why Did God Let My Loved One Die? | Questions Grieving Christians Ask Ep. 8
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QUESTIONS GRIEVING CHRISTIANS ASK: Why Did God Let My Loved One Die?
This is a common and tough question from grieving people. As Christians we turn to scripture for answers. And, while the Bible tells us a lot about God and how he wants us to live, it doesn’t promise that God will answer every question that begins with “Why?” God may seem very real and present when we witness a miracle and He may seem distant right now since He didn’t heal or protect your loved one from death. You may be asking “Where were you God when I needed you?” or “How could you let this happen?”
Anne-Marie Lockmyer and Ron Gray, LMFT, are professional grief specialists who both lost their beloved spouses. They run the Grief & Trauma Healing Network, LLC, have created MyGriefCare.com online grief support program and offer life-changing grief retreats for widows and other grief healing programs and services.
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My baby brother Brent just passed away yesterday. He's was only 31 he left 3 beautiful babys behind. Please pray for our family. This hurt is overwhelming.
So sad to hear. Someone very close to me died this morning, I’ll pray for your family and healing
@dolfindive thanks for the prayers I'll pray for you to I'm sorry for your loss 😞
No happy endings in the end. My life will never be the same.
No, it won't be. We can just hear the pain in your words. So sorry for your suffering. Please don't walk this journey alone. It's hard to have hope when you hurt so much and your whole world has changed. Sometimes, all we can do is just breathe.
I agree. God isn't gonna grant us what he did Job and God got his son back in 3 days. My life also will never be the same after losing my only child. Can't have anymore. Too old. Lost all my biological family now so I am alone.
Turn to Jesus. He will never leave you, and really wants you to bring everything that troubles you to Him. He will help you if you let Him, I promise.
@@shellylewis6663I’m sorry to hear that I lost my only son my first born April 14 2024 life isn’t the same
My life will never be the same either, I lost my boyfriend and soulmate, and the hole in my heart will never heal, I hope and pray that we all can find peace someday and heal.
They say trust in God. That’s what I’m doing, but it’s so hard to not to be with my son and husband at this time. My heart hurts, but I will keep praying for peace ✝️
Nothing can ever heal the deep wounds of losing an absolute loved one...there can be no remedy or consolation. The only thing we can do is simply flow with time until our own moment arrives to leave this physical body and meet them again in heaven!!🙏🙏
For you and others who may read this, having worked with hundreds of grieving souls, and having loss precious loved ones myself, I'm going to gently disagree with you. Indeed, I can attest to the fact that people do heal through grief. Healing comes not just with time, but with concerted effort and willingness to allow oneself to feel, identify and express their emotional pain. People grieving loss are still alive and have a life to live. What will their contributions be to the world be? What other lives might be touched? When we properly and effectively grieve, we do heal. That doesn't mean we'll never be sad again, that we'll never miss our loved one again, but healing and completing a grief journey is actually the norm - not the exception. If you are feeling stuck in your grief, please consider getting help from a trained professional. Check out www.mygriefcare.com and look for resources on the site. It is completely free and lots of potential help for you.
I have fought this for 20 years after my wife died…..I have spoken to God in anger, pain, sorrow, indescribable grief, I had to stop and let it go…..now I sit alone and try my very best to put it in his hands….many times during the day I ask Jesus to bring me closer to him , I lean my head back and I feel what seems like a gentle breath and I feel that is the Holy Spirit helping me , I feel better on most days…..I beg you for your own salvation ( don’t give up ) we will get the answer when it’s time) May God Almighty bless all of you with your broken heart….
Beautifully said.
Ron
Amen amen our salvation matters the most
I'm struggling with this. I read my son's journals, and he begged God to help him, to save him from the fear and pain he was suffering in his mental health illness...and God didn't help him. My son died by suicide. This is very hard for me to accept and understand.
OMG! Same thing happened to me. My son begged God to help him out of the pain he was suffering. God didn't help my son; in fact several road blocks in the mental health care system occurred and he died by suicide. I will never understand or accept God's plan and I am quickly becoming agnostic after 60 years of being a devout christian. Thank you for sharing your story. It helps to know there are others with same or very similiar circumstances. Please feel free to reach out to me. Sounds like we have a few themes with our son's in common.
God did allow him to die. He did take him home. He is no longer in pain.
@@shellylewis6663 I'm sorry Shelly. I truly understand this pain.
I'm so sorry I understand the pain but God is in control. We will meet again in Heaven, Jesus conquered death.
My son died by suicide 8 months ago. I feel so alone . Reading that I'm not alone was something I needed to hear tonight.
The one thing keeping me going is trusting God has a plan even though I feel so much pain and don't understand any of this.
My uncle just died, he was trampled by a bull, he was only about 30 years old, he left behind a wife and 2 beautiful little daughters, please pray for his soul and his family
My grandmother died today.
This world is a cruel place.
But i stay strong.
Because it was his plan.
And i wont give up that easily.
My 80 year old mom died after she was knocked over by a car ,its been 6 years, and the pain, heartache, and tears never ends..i miss you so very much.🎉
I'm so sad to hear about your mom and the tragedy that led to her physical death. Of course you miss her. When your period of serious mourning, following the death of a loved one, extends for years, that's a probable sign that you may benefit from some professional help. I would recommend that you consider seeking out a counselor or coach who specializes in grief. One generic source is the Grief Recovery Method (GRM) groups. Some GRM specialists facilitate groups that go for about 8 weeks and focus on active recovery. Some GRM specialists work with individuals and even offer help via video sessions. You can find out more atwww.griefrecoverymethod.com/our-programs/support-groups
Sometime we just don’t understand why god don’t answer our prayers when my son of forty nine years old was told he had cancer of the neck I prayed to god and cried out to god for the four years he had the cancer when he died I died iv never been the same since going through the second year of grieving I loved him so much more than my life I just want to scream out to god why oh why did you let him die but they say we all have our time here on earth must of been his time to go but I don’t find any comfort in this my heart as been broken hate life now long to be with him any one who is reading this that as lost a loved one my heart goes out to you as I know just what you are going through I will pray for you all god bless you all dot ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I lost my momy to ovarian cancer. She was diagnosed on my birthday and died exactly a year later on my birthday. We prayed almost everyday, believed in her healing, we had faith but Jesus still called her home. Until today its difficult to believe she's no longer with us. She was my best friend. The most amazing person I've ever met after my grandmother. I understand your pain, hold on to the very fact that Jesus conquered death. Our loved ones are in heaven with Jesus and we will see them again when our time comes and our time is sure to come. The hour, the place, the age does not matter but going to Jesus matters more.
I too lost my son 27 years of age in an accident in 2022.i understand your pain. I still scream and cry for him. Only time will heal. Don't know what's God's plan for him.😢
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I lost my brother to alcoholism. A part of me left with him and the part left here is thanks to God ❤
I have heard many people say. ( you have to let it go) there is just one large problem with letting a loved one go…..a large part of your heart goes with them….i will never be the same but I know that Christ loves me
I lost my father from a second stroke… I always ask god why? Why did this happen to my dad? The more I talk to god, the more I feel ignored
I was searching for the same thing as you and found this video. I don't know Gods plan or why he let our loved ones pass but I do know his heart. He loves you and is walking with you now, ik it's hard to feel it when your heart hurts but he is there. Keep reaching out, you will find him. Deuteromy 4:29 Jeremiah 33:3 psalms 34:18
God answers all prayers, but sometimes the answer is NO ❤
I’m trying my best God, I really am, my beautiful Kayleigh. She’s gone, 34. I’m broken, I’m so broken, the pain the suffering with her cancer. I’m so heartbroken, I have to go on with life. I loved her more than my life, more than anything. Please give me the strength and courage.
I COULD SAY THAT TOO. when i really thought the lord was healing my husband over the course of a year, but suddenly he took a turn for the worse, and died. i am broken hearted, yet I know that the Lord God never makes as mistake. He had called him Home.
Our faith can be a source of strength and healing. It can also leave us disappointed because we'd like God to explain just what was going on, why he allowed it, and how this loss could ever lead to something good. Fact it - we don't know and God never promised that he'd answer our questions that start with "why." And, 'why' the abrupt turn in your case. The bigger take home though, is that you are still alive and your life matters. You may not know exactly how to invest your life right now because you are still grieving as you should be. If you end up feeling stuck, you may wish to find a therapist who is well trained in helping people move through their grief journey. But, most people will end up grieving well over time as long as they don't stuff/avoid/deny their emotions and related thoughts and instead identify them, allow themselves to feel the pain and find a safe place and way to express them openly, completely and without censoring.
Why does God answer some people's prayers & not mine? Where's God's bigger plan in my husband dying, even after I prayed for his healing. It's difficult in raising two kids financially. Everyday is a struggle. Can't see God's plan knowing the struggle & challenges were experiencing.
Same here… l missed my husband so much😭
My son died I was so angry at God because I couldn’t understand why he would allow my son to die...Grief is the hardest thing to endure...about a year later, of being mad at God... I decided to make him a deal...I would stop asking...If he would tell me when I get to heaven...I think that was the point when my healing process began...That was 28 years ago and I am still standing on my deal with God...
Yup...no answers...a distant God..no relief. Ive lost my faith. Scripture or worship songs dont bring anything anymore. How can i believe he is a good God? I feel like my life is over
Yep. Same. A distant God. No relief. My faith is lost as well.
When you have a very strong faith in God you will understand why things happen. We blame God for the lost of love ones but the truth is that we the humans have done so much damage to our clean earth that everything we eat and breathe is damaging us. Our Heavenly Father is watching our reactions, please know that our love ones are in a better place! And when you pass you will see them again!
@@libertadnicafitzpatrick8143 thank you
It is hard to accept it when your husband or wife died recently when I thought Gods was definitely healing him -then he took a turn for the worst and I lost him, It is so painful without him, Life seems to have very little meaning. Yet I know he would have wanted me to press on serving the lord in any little way I can.
Don't lose your faith your in a season of grieving, no one stays alive forever
I prayed day and night. Cried out to God but He still took my mom. Wats the point of it all. Everything is random like the roll of a dice & we're all pawns.
So why take everyone that loved me and leave me alone to suffer?????
Sadly, God doesn't promise to explain the "why" to so many experiences we have - including grief and loss.I don't know how long it has been since your loss, but please consider finding some pastoral or counseling help. One option is the Grief Recovery Method. Find out more atwww.griefrecoverymethod.com/our-programs/support-groups
Sorry for your loss. I lost my wife too. I prayed for God to tell me why. He did through a church sermon that week. The sermon was on Romans 12:1-2. I had never heard that scripture before. I know her death brought me back to making Christ the center of my life, saved others in both our families, and God only knows what further ripple effects according to His plan. God does not see death the same way we do. We will be reunited for all eternity. God's comfort and peace be upon all who who turn to Him in mourning.
Thank you for your comment. My wife brought me back to Christ about 30 years prior to her death. And, having his spirit rekindled within me helped me to be a loving caretaker for her during her battle with cancer - especially her last 6 months. I do love the Romans 12:1-2 message. It is tough not to be shaped by the world which wars against the transformation God wants for his children. God, as you know, doesn't prevent all our mourning. But he sits with us in our initial pit of confusion and despair. And, he walks alongside us as we trudge forward on our individual healing journeys.
My hubby was suffering
I miss him
I have the same question
I know God has a plan and I know he loves me.... Its all about His love... He won't leave me alone.... Im learning more about who Jesus is
I am sorry for the loss of your husband.
Cheryl - I'm so sorry to learn of your loss. It sounds as though you have a good sense of God, his love for you, his commitment to be with you and you seem open to growth through the suffering you are experiencing. But just give yourself time, find ways to express yourself to other safe people, maybe find a GriefShare group at a local church, perhaps find a grief counselor or coach. There is no specific amount of steps or amount of time for healing, but wading into your feelings, expressing them and conversing with others can help your journey along.
Ron
I am 13, lost my great grandmother, and my aunt back to back days. 6-12-2024, and 6-12-2024. I read that when your following god closer you probably will get your faith tested. I Questioned god and I found myself saying oh I'm sinning by questioning his ways because he says "Don't question the Lord" but also doubt is okay because the devil is in my ear so I have been confused, but I know God does everything for a reason.
I just lost my two oldest children within two months apart.
I am so so sorry for your loss, it is unbearable just to think about it. I have 2sons they lost their dad 15months ago, we are devasteted howbyou coupe with a lost is there anybody who helps you,
My wife died while i was at work. Never had a chance to say goodbye. I hope someday we will be together again.
My heart goes out to you and prayers for healing brother. My mother was called home to heaven whilst I was on a plane, on my way to see her.
My husband died of a heart attack going into work my younger son died alone bleeding to death during a hurricane Both my parents died young and I have had numerous lengthy hospitalizations.i ask these questions also..8 have also lost my pets and house in a fire.hooefully we will be together in heaven.
Trust, you will
I just recently lost my father the pain is unbearable mommy dependent on dad for everything when my father dead I ask the priest why does this happens I never got a answer but God please help me and understand so I can get through this amen 🙏🙏 Linda gunnels
Of course you are experiencing unbearable pain. Continue to pray. Consider finding a GriefShare group near you (many churches sponsor them). You may gain some spiritual insight in doing so, and being with others who are grieving a loss can also be very helpful. So sorry that you are suffering. There will be an end to your suffering - but it will take a while. And, being able to honestly and openly express yourself with other safe non-judging people can be very helpful in the healing process.
Ron
Whatever bit of faith I had, I lost when I lost my spouse of 25 years, half my life. I don’t even pray anymore.
I want you to know you're being prayed for
God is still there …my life is almost identical, I’ll never be the same…I had 22 years and I don’t think that I can recover….but I know he’s there, sometimes I feel him, sometimes I try to talk to him, I still pray but I leave the question of why alone…I give him all honor, all love and all reverence , but I just ask to take me through this coldness that I feel enveloping me….
So very sad to hear this.
My brother is very ill with cancer and my mother has dementia the possibility of losing both of them in the next year is overwhelming me physically and emotionally my body is becoming sick because of it having a hard time crying it's almost as if my brain is shutting off my emotions in some way how do you grieve even though the person is still alive but you know it's coming and handle the situation without a destroying your own body and mind
I'm so sorry to hear of your anticipatory losses. Grieving can be cumulative. And, you are probably exactly right, our brains do seem to have some sort of ability to only let us feel so much at one time. We can almost numb out at times. I just want to say that this all sounds normal and natural considering the circumstances. My greatest advice is to be able to say everything that may need to be said to your two loved ones. What would you like them to know about how much they mean to you? Is there anything you need to forgive them for or that you need to apologize for? What can you share about the best parts of your relationship? What will you miss when they are gone? Maybe your brother is capable to sharing such things back and forth with you - and maybe your mother isn't. But, even if everything doesn't register with you mother, it can be very healing to say things aloud in her presence. If you just can verbalize these things, consider writing them each a letter (that will never be delivered) but reading it aloud in front of a favorite picture. You don't have to wait until they actually die to express yourself to or about them - which is a small consolation of an impending death that those who experience a sudden unexpected loss often wish they'd had.
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I feel like him saying there are no clear awnsers, though I agree to a point.... is a little bit of a cop out. There's plenty to talk about, point to, try to find and parse out awnsers. There's a lot you can discuss with grief Biblically
My dear older brother died after a road accident in 1970. ❤But why did God stop myself from a couple of accidents s recently? 😊
because it is God's will not ours.
Hi Victor. These "why" questions often plague us after a loss. And, in your case, you may be wondering why you were spared, but in 1970 your brother was not spared. Smiley Maria points out that we cannot fully understand God's purposes and decisions. Our job is to seek his leading, to live life according to his teachings, to love others and express our love and gratitude. Maybe it will all makes sense to us when we reach heaven. But, then again, once we are in the direct presence of the living God, we probably won't care much about the suffering and questioning that we experience during this physical life. Praying that God shows you a sign about the purpose of your life yet to come.
God doesn't always answer your prayers 🙏.He has his reason 🙏 Not to hurt You.
God always answers prayers but not always in the way we want or expect him to answer. Sometimes the answer is no.
Matthew 22:32
The one who goes goes the ones left behind dies living
God has his reason why he didn't save your love one.
Yes only God does.