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The Loneliness and Isolation of Being a Widow
This episode is from MyGriefCare's - Widow Series www.mygriefcare.com/
Widows often experience excruciating loneliness and isolation. Here are some ideas on how to to respond to those feelings.
Join our life-changing widow retreat and find the support you need to experience hope and healing! www.griefandtraumahealing.com/widows-grief-retreat/
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Grieving widows can find much-needed solace and support with the help of a retreat created by grief specialists and authors Ron Gray, LMFT and Anne-Marie Lockmyer. This retreat is specifically designed to help widows process their grief and create a new life for themselves. Intimate and all-inclusive, this retreat is limited to 4 participants and provides counseling and group sessions, pre-care and preparation exercises, all meals and lodging, activities during the retreat, and two online after-care group sessions. This life-changing program promises to transform the life of a widow and give them a chance to live again. So, if you're a widow, take the opportunity to join this retreat and find the comfort you need to move forward.
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Some of our past attendees are still in contact with each other almost 4 years later. It's a powerful experience!
After losing your spouse, life will be different. You will be different. But life can be good and you can be good! We are living proof that you can get through this - that you can thrive and not just survive. And we get the joy of guiding others through the same transformation.
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Pain is real! But so is hope and healing dear friends! :)
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Why Widow Pain Can Feel Like Homesickness
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This episode is from MyGriefCare's - Widow Series www.mygriefcare.com/ Join our life-changing widow retreat and find the support you need to experience hope and healing! www.griefandtraumahealing.com/widows-grief-retreat/ Please check out our website for more information and testimonies. Schedule a clarity call with me today here: griefandtraumahealing.as.me/widowsretreat Grieving widows can fi...
I Lost Myself When My Husband Died
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This episode is from MyGriefCare's - Widow Series www.mygriefcare.com/ Join our life-changing widow retreat and find the support you need to experience hope and healing! www.griefandtraumahealing.com/widows-grief-retreat/ Please check out our website for more information and testimonies. Schedule a clarity call with me today here: griefandtraumahealing.as.me/widowsretreat Grieving widows can fi...
I Lost My Husband by Suicide. Now what?
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This episode is from MyGriefCare's - Grieving A Suicide Series. For any mentioned downloads, more great grief support series, grief support resources and tools visit www.mygriefcare.com/ Are you a widow who lost their husband by suicide? Join our life-changing widow retreat and find the support you need to experience hope and healing! www.griefandtraumahealing.com/widows-grief-retreat/ Please c...
Coping With Holiday Grief Webinar
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Here is the link to the holiday grief workbook: drive.google.com/file/d/1T3RZDuoCKZ5lgZ9H40p77TnDG4RQEPZY/view Grief and loss specialist, speaker and award-winning author, Anne-Marie Lockmyer's holiday grief webinar on dealing with grief during the holidays, as well as those special days throughout the year that remind us even more of our loved one's absence. This grief webinar gives you tools ...
Why Did God Let My Loved One Die? | Questions Grieving Christians Ask Ep. 8
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Why Do I Dislike Platitudes and Bible Verses? | Questions Grieving Christians Ask Ep. 7
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Is Suicide An Unforgivable Sin? | Questions Grieving Christians Ask Ep. 6
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This episode is from MyGriefCare's Questions Grieving Christian Ask Series. For any mentioned downloads, more great grief support series, grief support resources and tools visit www.mygriefcare.com/ Anne-Marie Lockmyer and Ron Gray, LMFT, are professional grief specialists who both lost their beloved spouses. They run the Grief & Trauma Healing Network, LLC, have created MyGriefCare.com online ...
Why Does God Heal Some People But Not Others? | Questions Grieving Christians Ask Ep. 5
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This episode is from MyGriefCare's Questions Grieving Christian Ask Series. For any mentioned downloads, more great grief support series, grief support resources and tools visit www.mygriefcare.com/ Anne-Marie Lockmyer and Ron Gray, LMFT, are professional grief specialists who both lost their beloved spouses. They run the Grief & Trauma Healing Network, LLC, have created MyGriefCare.com online ...
Can Grief and Hope Co-Exist? | Questions Grieving Christians Ask Ep. 4
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This episode is from MyGriefCare's Questions Grieving Christian Ask Series. For any mentioned downloads, more great grief support series, grief support resources and tools visit www.mygriefcare.com/ Anne-Marie Lockmyer and Ron Gray, LMFT, are professional grief specialists who both lost their beloved spouses. They run the Grief & Trauma Healing Network, LLC, have created MyGriefCare.com online ...
Where Did My Peace, Joy and Gratitude Go? | Questions Grieving Christians Ask Ep. 3
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This episode is from MyGriefCare's Questions Grieving Christian Ask Series. For any mentioned downloads, more great grief support series, grief support resources and tools visit www.mygriefcare.com/ Anne-Marie Lockmyer and Ron Gray, LMFT, are professional grief specialists who both lost their beloved spouses. They run the Grief & Trauma Healing Network, LLC, have created MyGriefCare.com online ...
Is Being Angry at God a Sin? | Questions Grieving Christians Ask Ep. 2
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Introduction | Questions Grieving Christians Ask Ep.1
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The Ultimate Grief Support Website
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Grief Talks (Q&A) | Episode 1
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Co-Dependency | Grief & Mental Health Ep. 4
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Conversations on Grief: Hope When Shattered - Interview with John Polo
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I Lost My Spouse and then I Lost Our Friends | Relationships After Loss Ep. 5
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I Lost My Spouse and then I Lost Our Friends | Relationships After Loss Ep. 5

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  • @Wookinpanub235
    @Wookinpanub235 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I find that most people wont even reply to such a letter. They don’t GAF about my problems. I cant even get them to reply to a text asking them how they’re doing. They probably don’t want to answer me for fear that I might tell them how I am doing. Yeah it pizzes me off and just makes me want to crawl further into my hole and disappear.

  • @francerichard801
    @francerichard801 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    So why take everyone that loved me and leave me alone to suffer?????

  • @EagleRockers
    @EagleRockers 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'm 9 months into grief brain and keep wondering how long this will last? My husband of 48 years passed away after a very brief illness and I'm crying everyday I miss him so.

  • @yourghost26
    @yourghost26 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I lost my bf to suicide a day after we broke up. I said really cruel things and denied him of my presence so he came up to that point. It’s difficult not to take the blame. But I want everyone to blame me as well. His family and friend did nothing wrong. It’s on me.

  • @Godsnotdead777
    @Godsnotdead777 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My baby brother Brent just passed away yesterday. He's was only 31 he left 3 beautiful babys behind. Please pray for our family. This hurt is overwhelming.

  • @Gigrunt887
    @Gigrunt887 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for this

  • @maryannmartinez9425
    @maryannmartinez9425 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am very isolated an alone

  • @randyboring6077
    @randyboring6077 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have heard many people say. ( you have to let it go) there is just one large problem with letting a loved one go…..a large part of your heart goes with them….i will never be the same but I know that Christ loves me

  • @_kshitijsingh.1799
    @_kshitijsingh.1799 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The one who goes goes the ones left behind dies living

  • @yelafan
    @yelafan หลายเดือนก่อน

    I prayed day and night. Cried out to God but He still took my mom. Wats the point of it all. Everything is random like the roll of a dice & we're all pawns.

  • @randyrstevens4403
    @randyrstevens4403 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just lost my two oldest children within two months apart.

    • @vedrakuca
      @vedrakuca หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am so so sorry for your loss, it is unbearable just to think about it. I have 2sons they lost their dad 15months ago, we are devasteted howbyou coupe with a lost is there anybody who helps you,

  • @mreverstrucked23
    @mreverstrucked23 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am 13, lost my great grandmother, and my aunt back to back days. 6-12-2024, and 6-12-2024. I read that when your following god closer you probably will get your faith tested. I Questioned god and I found myself saying oh I'm sinning by questioning his ways because he says "Don't question the Lord" but also doubt is okay because the devil is in my ear so I have been confused, but I know God does everything for a reason.

  • @angelikabetancourt8648
    @angelikabetancourt8648 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I lost my brother to alcoholism. A part of me left with him and the part left here is thanks to God ❤

  • @kalebkoehn8909
    @kalebkoehn8909 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Four months after I lost my best friend, im here, watching videos for affirmation that I should keep walking this path. I never thought I'd feel so broken as a grown man, but i lost a brother. He wasn't just a friend, or my best friend, he was someone I was supposed to watch grow old and gray, raising his family. We were supposed to make music together until we were too senile or arthritic to play. If youre reading this keep going. Keep fighting for room to experience joy in life again. The ones we love would want to see us grow and prosper. I beleive in you.

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is such a rough patch to go through. You probably have questions to which there are no answers available. You've not just lost your dear friend, but also shared dreams of sharing life, experiencing family and your music. You are right that those we lose would want to see others continue to grow and prosper. While it may be hard for you to completely accept the brokenness you are experiencing, I can assure you that it is a natural and normal response to losing a person who means so much to you. 4 months can sure seem long, but a relative short period of time to recover from a tough loss. Take it easy on yourself, allow yourself to feel your emotions, find a good safe way to express them (writing song lyrics, or a letter to him that you may not share with anyone, finding privacy so you can speak to him aloud without embarrassment). You'll be fine in time, if you allow yourself to feel and express honestly and uncensored. Ron

  • @I-am-victim-of-gangstalking
    @I-am-victim-of-gangstalking หลายเดือนก่อน

    A real god doesn't allow evil on earth to torture me if he really cares about me. I'm sorry i have too horrible painful life injustice experience.

  • @rosefenton3005
    @rosefenton3005 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I COULD SAY THAT TOO. when i really thought the lord was healing my husband over the course of a year, but suddenly he took a turn for the worse, and died. i am broken hearted, yet I know that the Lord God never makes as mistake. He had called him Home.

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      Our faith can be a source of strength and healing. It can also leave us disappointed because we'd like God to explain just what was going on, why he allowed it, and how this loss could ever lead to something good. Fact it - we don't know and God never promised that he'd answer our questions that start with "why." And, 'why' the abrupt turn in your case. The bigger take home though, is that you are still alive and your life matters. You may not know exactly how to invest your life right now because you are still grieving as you should be. If you end up feeling stuck, you may wish to find a therapist who is well trained in helping people move through their grief journey. But, most people will end up grieving well over time as long as they don't stuff/avoid/deny their emotions and related thoughts and instead identify them, allow themselves to feel the pain and find a safe place and way to express them openly, completely and without censoring.

  • @michellemustari498
    @michellemustari498 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My brother is very ill with cancer and my mother has dementia the possibility of losing both of them in the next year is overwhelming me physically and emotionally my body is becoming sick because of it having a hard time crying it's almost as if my brain is shutting off my emotions in some way how do you grieve even though the person is still alive but you know it's coming and handle the situation without a destroying your own body and mind

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm so sorry to hear of your anticipatory losses. Grieving can be cumulative. And, you are probably exactly right, our brains do seem to have some sort of ability to only let us feel so much at one time. We can almost numb out at times. I just want to say that this all sounds normal and natural considering the circumstances. My greatest advice is to be able to say everything that may need to be said to your two loved ones. What would you like them to know about how much they mean to you? Is there anything you need to forgive them for or that you need to apologize for? What can you share about the best parts of your relationship? What will you miss when they are gone? Maybe your brother is capable to sharing such things back and forth with you - and maybe your mother isn't. But, even if everything doesn't register with you mother, it can be very healing to say things aloud in her presence. If you just can verbalize these things, consider writing them each a letter (that will never be delivered) but reading it aloud in front of a favorite picture. You don't have to wait until they actually die to express yourself to or about them - which is a small consolation of an impending death that those who experience a sudden unexpected loss often wish they'd had.

  • @FrankFranks-rj7le
    @FrankFranks-rj7le หลายเดือนก่อน

    I feel like him saying there are no clear awnsers, though I agree to a point.... is a little bit of a cop out. There's plenty to talk about, point to, try to find and parse out awnsers. There's a lot you can discuss with grief Biblically

  • @FrankFranks-rj7le
    @FrankFranks-rj7le หลายเดือนก่อน

    Matthew 22:32

  • @totallyn0taferret
    @totallyn0taferret หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think my boyfriend is going to kill himself. I can't breathe and he's not responding to any messages, I'm so scared and i just want to know if he's okay and what I did wrong I love him so much and I don't know what to do without him

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      That must feel terrifying. I'm not sure if you actually wronged him in some way, but you are not responsible for decisions that he may make himself. I hope my note back to you finds that some things have already be resolved. If you have evidence to suggest your fears are real and he won't respond, you could try reporting your concerns to the local law enforcement and they might arrange to do a welfare check - just to see how he's doing. Hoping for the best.

  • @lindagunnels9794
    @lindagunnels9794 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I just recently lost my father the pain is unbearable mommy dependent on dad for everything when my father dead I ask the priest why does this happens I never got a answer but God please help me and understand so I can get through this amen 🙏🙏 Linda gunnels

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      Of course you are experiencing unbearable pain. Continue to pray. Consider finding a GriefShare group near you (many churches sponsor them). You may gain some spiritual insight in doing so, and being with others who are grieving a loss can also be very helpful. So sorry that you are suffering. There will be an end to your suffering - but it will take a while. And, being able to honestly and openly express yourself with other safe non-judging people can be very helpful in the healing process. Ron

  • @cheryljulius9433
    @cheryljulius9433 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My hubby was suffering I miss him I have the same question I know God has a plan and I know he loves me.... Its all about His love... He won't leave me alone.... Im learning more about who Jesus is

    • @smileymaria6164
      @smileymaria6164 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am sorry for the loss of your husband.

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      Cheryl - I'm so sorry to learn of your loss. It sounds as though you have a good sense of God, his love for you, his commitment to be with you and you seem open to growth through the suffering you are experiencing. But just give yourself time, find ways to express yourself to other safe people, maybe find a GriefShare group at a local church, perhaps find a grief counselor or coach. There is no specific amount of steps or amount of time for healing, but wading into your feelings, expressing them and conversing with others can help your journey along. Ron

  • @ruthlopez4925
    @ruthlopez4925 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    God doesn't always answer your prayers 🙏.He has his reason 🙏 Not to hurt You.

    • @cleojeff
      @cleojeff 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      God always answers prayers but not always in the way we want or expect him to answer. Sometimes the answer is no.

  • @ruthlopez4925
    @ruthlopez4925 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    God has his reason why he didn't save your love one.

  • @artperez6
    @artperez6 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Whatever bit of faith I had, I lost when I lost my spouse of 25 years, half my life. I don’t even pray anymore.

    • @FrankFranks-rj7le
      @FrankFranks-rj7le หลายเดือนก่อน

      I want you to know you're being prayed for

    • @randyboring6077
      @randyboring6077 หลายเดือนก่อน

      God is still there …my life is almost identical, I’ll never be the same…I had 22 years and I don’t think that I can recover….but I know he’s there, sometimes I feel him, sometimes I try to talk to him, I still pray but I leave the question of why alone…I give him all honor, all love and all reverence , but I just ask to take me through this coldness that I feel enveloping me….

    • @rosefenton3005
      @rosefenton3005 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So very sad to hear this.

  • @parthakhanparthography
    @parthakhanparthography 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nothing can ever heal the deep wounds of losing an absolute loved one...there can be no remedy or consolation. The only thing we can do is simply flow with time until our own moment arrives to leave this physical body and meet them again in heaven!!🙏🙏

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      For you and others who may read this, having worked with hundreds of grieving souls, and having loss precious loved ones myself, I'm going to gently disagree with you. Indeed, I can attest to the fact that people do heal through grief. Healing comes not just with time, but with concerted effort and willingness to allow oneself to feel, identify and express their emotional pain. People grieving loss are still alive and have a life to live. What will their contributions be to the world be? What other lives might be touched? When we properly and effectively grieve, we do heal. That doesn't mean we'll never be sad again, that we'll never miss our loved one again, but healing and completing a grief journey is actually the norm - not the exception. If you are feeling stuck in your grief, please consider getting help from a trained professional. Check out www.mygriefcare.com and look for resources on the site. It is completely free and lots of potential help for you.

  • @KristenBockeno
    @KristenBockeno 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yes, I will always blame myself no matter what anyone says

  • @Wookinpanub235
    @Wookinpanub235 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My Wifes death has been a whirlwind of red tape, legal wranglings, kids, government, deadliness, taxes and heartless corporations pulling the carpet out from under me. There were 100 javelins pointed at me in all directions. It has been not two months since cancer took my Wife and the stress of all the red tape and heartless corporate rules on accounts and things has really got me stressed. My brain fog has been so bad that I feel like I have early dimensia. My adult children have been helping me and I sometimes feel like a helpless child. For 33 years of marriage my wife and I were a well oiled machine. She took care of all the red tape and finances and I took care of everything else. We both worked but I had side gigs which kept me busy and I was always busy busy busy and so was she. We also got roped into adopting two of our grandkids that came from one of our adult children that we adopted years ago. We were very busy people over the years and adolted and fostered several children all while my wife pursued a very busy nursing and teaching career that ended up in a doctorate and a professorship in her alma mater. She was a go getter and so was I . We were relentlessly busy people and when she got sick I had everything on my shoulders. I had to put my business on hold to take care of my wife , the household, the kids and everything but the finances….my wife was still doing that diligently from her bed. So now that she passed All of those things cane rushing in on me like a tidal wave. The stress and fear of all these unknowns was and still is overwhelming. I am making significant progress but I needed alot of help from my adult Daughters who all stepped up to help me in one significsnt way or another. I still have a lot to do before I can finally breathe again and I am looking forward to the day where I can say I have all my ducks in a row and I can finally take a breath and start thinking about rediscovering myself. I have to tell myself, and my Daughters keep telling me not to worry so much and its okay to make mistakes, people do it all the time and not to take things so seriously but its hard not to with deadlines, taxes, legal matters, bills, accounts, insurances, kids, government, etc, etc. Just add grief and brainfog, lack of sleep due to stress, loneliness, fear of the unknown and its a very scary reality to be thrust into. Thank God we were debt free and invested in our future from an early age otherwise my worries would be even more compounded. I truly don’t wish this on anyone. Everyone has their judgements and opinions on how I just need to suck it up and get things done which I am its just pretty hard because the brain fog makes all these things seem like a spinning tornado and its so hard to grasp and focus on just one thing when there are 100 more pressing issues and they all seem to affect the other. Therefore the lack of sleep comes into play. I need to take mental health days where I just step away from it all and go do something I enjoy or just take a day to jump into bed and try to sleep in between doing small things and then jump back into bed and cry due to the loneliness and the empty feeling I have from my soul mate leaving my life so abruptly….they dont give you time to grieve with all the Bs…..youll find out life is cruel when it comes to erasing your spouses existence on paper and starting out like an 18 year ild all over again. I know Ill get there…its baby steps and its happening…I just cant wait till I can breathe again with the machine running on single phase with me as captain of the ship ready for new adventures.

  • @victormuscella3388
    @victormuscella3388 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My dear older brother died after a road accident in 1970. ❤But why did God stop myself from a couple of accidents s recently? 😊

    • @smileymaria6164
      @smileymaria6164 หลายเดือนก่อน

      because it is God's will not ours.

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi Victor. These "why" questions often plague us after a loss. And, in your case, you may be wondering why you were spared, but in 1970 your brother was not spared. Smiley Maria points out that we cannot fully understand God's purposes and decisions. Our job is to seek his leading, to live life according to his teachings, to love others and express our love and gratitude. Maybe it will all makes sense to us when we reach heaven. But, then again, once we are in the direct presence of the living God, we probably won't care much about the suffering and questioning that we experience during this physical life. Praying that God shows you a sign about the purpose of your life yet to come.

  • @PraveenSrJ01
    @PraveenSrJ01 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just subscribed to your channel after watching this video

  • @randyboring6077
    @randyboring6077 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have fought this for 20 years after my wife died…..I have spoken to God in anger, pain, sorrow, indescribable grief, I had to stop and let it go…..now I sit alone and try my very best to put it in his hands….many times during the day I ask Jesus to bring me closer to him , I lean my head back and I feel what seems like a gentle breath and I feel that is the Holy Spirit helping me , I feel better on most days…..I beg you for your own salvation ( don’t give up ) we will get the answer when it’s time) May God Almighty bless all of you with your broken heart….

  • @jillgran490
    @jillgran490 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So many years I prayed for help for my addicted son. For just one ray of light to change things, for the right person to make difference, for him to have the desire and strength to change... I don't feel angry, but I definitely am disappointed, confused, asking why... and heartbroken. I am confident that my child was saved many times prior to his death and am grateful to God for that. I also believe that my child is whole, safe and living in God's love but I wish it gave me more comfort.

  • @pamcybulskis346
    @pamcybulskis346 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I make lists of this I’ve DONE, not things I have to do. It helps me to keep track of bills I’ve paid, phone calls I’ve made, etc. It also helps me to see that I AM doing things….even small things. I’m still in active grief for my husband of 42 years and it’s been two years since his unexpected death. Seems like one step forward, two steps back. 😢

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      It makes sense, doesn't it, that having shared life with another person for 42 years of marriage, you might be overwhelmed? One truth is that our brains do an amazing thing after we lose a loved one. The brain is designed to "remap" everything that has to do with your husband in your memory banks. And imagine that there are millions of memories stored in your brain. It isn't trying to make you forget - you won't forget him. Rather, it is amending every thought and memory and experience you had with him while still allowing you to keep the "attachment" between you and him. You will remember him and your experiences, but with the footnote that he is now out of touch from present reality. If you are feeling stuck, however, consider looking at our intensive widow retreat weekends. www.griefandtraumahealing.com/widows-grief-retreat/ You may not need this level of assistance. But if your life still feels on hold and unmanageable after 2 years, you might consider this weekend or getting another type of professional assistance.

  • @SimkiKidwai
    @SimkiKidwai 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    So true, there is a constant hole in my heart, lost my husband almost 5 months ago, putting a brave smile for the kids always

  • @SimkiKidwai
    @SimkiKidwai 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Living for my kids, putting a brave front for them

    • @SimkiKidwai
      @SimkiKidwai 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My husband passed away 4 months ago

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      I just want to add a point that it is OK and healthy to let your kids know that you are grieving the loss of your husband (and their father). It's OK to cry and to be brave as well. Your kids will benefit also from knowing that it's OK for them to be sad, angry, afraid, unsure and a host of other emotions. we have to be careful about holding too much inside - and your kids are going to take cues from you. I'm sorry. It is such a hard place to be. But sharing our pain in a healthy way allows everyone to heal.

  • @ginacap100
    @ginacap100 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    They say trust in God. That’s what I’m doing, but it’s so hard to not to be with my son and husband at this time. My heart hurts, but I will keep praying for peace ✝️

  • @maryscott4008
    @maryscott4008 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Three months after loosing my husband of 54 years a friend of ours asked me “ so, have you found a new honey yet?” I was appalled. I can’t let it go.

    • @nanceenurse
      @nanceenurse 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I've had a few people say incredibly dumb things to me after the loss of my husband. I try to let go of it, but it's hard because they are disregarding how incredibly painful and devastating the loss is.

  • @hannesRSA
    @hannesRSA 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There is not enough appreciation for this series, but i would like you to know that you have created a much needed aid.

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for that note. I can only get to these comments every once in a while. But, we are very glad that this is helping you in some small way. Ron

  • @rosefenton3005
    @rosefenton3005 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That is so true. Losing your husband is indeed losing part or half of yourself. It’s now a loss of life for yourself too. The grief is so bad. You do not know whether you can carry on each day or night, but if you are a true Christian, you know you must! That would have been what he wanted for you and God certainly does.

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      You so on track, Rose. Grief from loss can be debilitating. But, that doesn't have to last forever. If you haven't yet, please consider finding a GriefShare group near you - we both attended these in the early part of our own grief journey and found them helpful. If you find yourself stuck in your grief over time, we recommend finding professional help (therapist, counselor, coach) with expertise in grief and loss. And you might consider our widow retreats. www.griefandtraumahealing.com/widows-grief-retreat/ I'm not sure when you lost your husband, but if you are't comfortable with your pace of healing after 6 - 12 months (or longer) consider it. Blessings Ron

    • @rosefenton3005
      @rosefenton3005 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Your-Grief-Guides I lost my dear husband nearly 7 months ago. Thank you for your kind response to,help.

  • @rosefenton3005
    @rosefenton3005 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It has been very hard going since my dear husband died 5 months ago. Life is so lonely as he was also my carer. If I did not. Know that he is with the Lord now in heaven, no way could I cope. I have that glorious hope that I shall see him again yet in the meantime, Christ is my husband. Grief must be the worst pain there is.

  • @AndreaNugent-gw8tr
    @AndreaNugent-gw8tr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you

  • @franktroina3014
    @franktroina3014 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My wife died while i was at work. Never had a chance to say goodbye. I hope someday we will be together again.

    • @valeriemapfumo6877
      @valeriemapfumo6877 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My heart goes out to you and prayers for healing brother. My mother was called home to heaven whilst I was on a plane, on my way to see her.

    • @lindaobrien8538
      @lindaobrien8538 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My husband died of a heart attack going into work my younger son died alone bleeding to death during a hurricane Both my parents died young and I have had numerous lengthy hospitalizations.i ask these questions also..8 have also lost my pets and house in a fire.hooefully we will be together in heaven.

    • @randyboring6077
      @randyboring6077 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Trust, you will

  • @HatredEmpress666
    @HatredEmpress666 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well i highly suspect a bassist of my favorite band commited suicide and i can't really talk with my family about it because they don't understand. I am myself kinda suicidal and he threw himself into abyss not alone but grabbed by the wrist me and lot of people with him. I know it is not something he wanted

    • @Your-Grief-Guides
      @Your-Grief-Guides หลายเดือนก่อน

      How frustrating. You learn of a death by suicide and aren't able to really talk with your family. Please consider finding someone you really can talk to who has some knowledge and training about grief and loss. You know, suicide is a sort of solution - but its a terrible solution. Terrible because you simply don't know what many good things may happen in your life - especially if you are open to the possibilities. You made this comment a month or so ago. I sure hope you are OK. If not - please find a therapist/counselor/coach or physician to help you. I promise you that there are good things ahead that you cannot see right now. I also promise you that hope can be regenerated. Sometimes we need other people to help us see it. Praying for you right now.

  • @MrRayopt
    @MrRayopt 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Lost your lists. Yeah I know about that. Thank you

  • @Dbusdriver71
    @Dbusdriver71 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good message. I knew guys I served in the Army with the ended their lives prematurely. It makes sense. His grace is infinite.

  • @nanceenurse
    @nanceenurse 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Couldn't remember my PIN number or my zip code. And, dropping my mail at the mailbox and walking into the house. It took a standard poodle walking down the street to find my mail, retreat it and leave it at my door (with his owner).

  • @joanneschultz5876
    @joanneschultz5876 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much

  • @dotthompson9146
    @dotthompson9146 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sometime we just don’t understand why god don’t answer our prayers when my son of forty nine years old was told he had cancer of the neck I prayed to god and cried out to god for the four years he had the cancer when he died I died iv never been the same since going through the second year of grieving I loved him so much more than my life I just want to scream out to god why oh why did you let him die but they say we all have our time here on earth must of been his time to go but I don’t find any comfort in this my heart as been broken hate life now long to be with him any one who is reading this that as lost a loved one my heart goes out to you as I know just what you are going through I will pray for you all god bless you all dot ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @valeriemapfumo6877
      @valeriemapfumo6877 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I lost my momy to ovarian cancer. She was diagnosed on my birthday and died exactly a year later on my birthday. We prayed almost everyday, believed in her healing, we had faith but Jesus still called her home. Until today its difficult to believe she's no longer with us. She was my best friend. The most amazing person I've ever met after my grandmother. I understand your pain, hold on to the very fact that Jesus conquered death. Our loved ones are in heaven with Jesus and we will see them again when our time comes and our time is sure to come. The hour, the place, the age does not matter but going to Jesus matters more.

    • @jeandaniel4277
      @jeandaniel4277 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I too lost my son 27 years of age in an accident in 2022.i understand your pain. I still scream and cry for him. Only time will heal. Don't know what's God's plan for him.😢

    • @dotthompson9146
      @dotthompson9146 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jeandaniel4277 t

  • @sandrakozlowski3405
    @sandrakozlowski3405 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have anxiety and grief. Feeling sick. Cloudy brain, tingling in arms, heaviness in chest and nausea. Normal??

  • @rosaliethon6285
    @rosaliethon6285 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ah,, i love that i found this... life has not been easy.. but after dealing with renal health..and some other stuff...i have crashed.. and my brain is such a fight...