Thank you for being vulnerable with us, Jess. We know the healing process takes time, but we're here for you as much as fans can be. Hope you're doing better today than you felt yesterday and that your support network can give you any amount of love that you need.
i wish i could give you some comforting words, grief is a weird thing. i lost a child in 2021 and welcomed another in 2022 and its such a weird experience. idk how to describe it. its like im still waiting to miscarry her even though shes almost 9 months old. it never ends, im sorry.
love and condolences to you, bethanie. you have gone through one of the hardest things a person ever has to go through. i hope all that pain and grief will pour out into love for your new child 🦋🤍
TW: Death I totally understand where you’re coming from. My cousin who help raise me the first few years of my life passed away last year and I still get so emotional about it at the mention of hospitals or other things that remind me of her. I don’t think I will ever be fully over it because it was all very traumatic and sudden. But sending you lots of love. We got this! We honor their memory everyday with the things we do.
I'm a rotation player so I put household of 8 elders into a "elder care home" I built, used the roommate feature to fill out the rest of the empty bedrooms and aged up the roomates I didn't want to look like care takers and hired a maid, a butler and garden services to take care of them, I had a mod which let me change the uniforms of service workers to fit with the other 'service workers' (i cant remember where I got it and I can't find it anymore) and poof, it was pretty functional with enough imagination if you pretend the bills are for the combined rental home and I'm telling you it was scandalous. I had em throw raves, master skills, fall in love, Don was elderly and still trying to get with the ladies, it was one of the most fun households I played with
fr this was the PERFECT pack to bring more elder gameplay in, bet they'll release a seperate elders pack at some point to get more money from us (e.g. most infant gameplay being in the pack)
Oh we gave you elder gameplay! Elders now have one new interaction in base game, and 16 new interactions, 3 new aspirations, and 1 new hobby for elders in the "Get Old" pack!
@@chickensalad3535 You know how you have to teach the toddlers to walk, talk, and shit in the toilet? Something like that. I feel like if Growing Together hadn't been an EP, the milestones would've just been base game.
Agreed with raunchy crap on shows. I cannot watch them because I get a fully physical anxious reaction. No idea why. Also yes to the grief part. It’s expected to take a long time with it, don’t get upset at yourself for not processing things quickly or well. I’m 27 and still processing deaths from my middle school years. Take it easy on yourself ❤️
I feel similar. It's like this mixture of vicarious embarassment and viseral horror. And yet it's not like I'm totally averse to all things romantic or sexy. Like I am a married adult, have a toddler and am pregnant with my 2nd child-- def on purpose. Yet in shows? If it gets past kissing my brain can't. It's like accidentally walking in on someone in the bathroom, I do not want to be there. I leave the room.
@@purpleghost106 you worded it exactly as I feel! I’ve gotten picked on for it my whole life too, like I’m just prudish. But it’s hard to explain to people who don’t feel it. I feel massively validated now haha
oh my god yes thank you all of you i'm the same! Literally it is like walking in on someone doing it, it just feels awkward and if theres as many as there are in got its exasperating, i'm like "oh this again? when are we actually going to watch a show??"
It might be a bit morbid, but it’s also EFFICIENT. There’s a funeral home right across the street from an elder care facility in my city, you’re just one step ahead of the curve
My city has the same layout with an elder care facility across from a funeral home but theres also a crematorium and Graveyard just a block down the road
ooh if they did an elderly pack they could add some assistance devices like the chair lift for stairs or walkers (and ofc put a plainer walker/cane/etc one in base game for disability rep stuff like the hearing aids), and maybe some cute family heirlooms like photo albums and family recipe cards
I'm with you on sexual content in shows usually adding nothing tbh. Also, totally normal to feel messed up over losing someone essential to your upbringing, this would probably trigger me too...although I'd probably dissociate lol
I obviously don’t know you but thanks for being real about your grief. It makes those of us who have been through or are currently going through our own grieving feel a bit less alone. ❤
There is a way to have a funeral kinda! When the Sim dies, put their gravestone in your sim's personal inventory, then you can place down a podium. If the active sim with the gravestone in their inventory is in a sad mood they can give a touching eulogy by clicking on the gravestone in their possession. Edit- Only one sim can give a eulogy, passing the urn from sim to sim does not count unless you want to place down individual podiums for some reason.
On the funeral home; and to lighten the mood: the elderly sim who spent their life getting their mischief to the maximum level will scare the other sims under full autonomy! 😂🎉 ❤❤❤
I lost my Mum in October of 2020, thanks for being open with us about the realities of your grief. I found your content in March of 2020 and it's been such a comfort to me through the past 3 years, thanks Jesse ❤
“2 years ago….. in 2015.” Me too bestie. I told my old best friend who I haven’t seen in 9 years (because of moving countries.) that it had only been 5 years 😭
Can honestly say I never expected to cry during a Plumbella build video, but here we are. Lost my dad in 2020, and yeah... the perspective shift when we lose someone so close is just wild. Love you ma'am!
My cousin who was my first friend, she died when we were 25. I'm just about to turn 40, and I still can't think about her without crying. We spoke together before I could talk, I remember it so clearly. I'll always wish I could talk to her again. It really does fuck you up, I'm sorry.
This touched on something that I don’t think is discussed very often - how this game can have a big impact on how we process trauma and life changes. I really appreciate you sharing with us and stepping away from the camera to finish the build. This was an incredible build!!
this makes me want to make a sim who owns a care home and takes care of the elders from other families I've made in that save :o love the build and thanks for the idea lol
Oh man, my best friend passed when I was 20 and at 30, sometimes it's still overwhelming, but I grew around it. There's no timeline on grief, it'll be there and man, I feeeel this because that guy was like a brother to me, coming to Christmases and shit and it's suuuuucks so fckingmuch. ❤
As interesting as I think funerals/funeral homes would be it may be hard to implement as not every culture handles death and passing the same way. Most likely would be something EA would have to workshop. Anyways, please give us the elder sim content we need Jesse 😢
@@stuffwithsoph8264 Exactly. They were perfectly fine making the high school a White American school, don't know why they'd be as picky about funerals.
a lot of stuff in the game is extremely americanized anyway so i don’t think it would matter. i think it’s more probable that they just don’t want to add such grim things to the game. funerals kinda hit harder than your regular sim death
Thank you for building this despite your meltdown, and also thank you for showing real emotions on social media. I hope you are a bit better now, sending you lots of love ❤
I appreciate your vulnerability about grief and death. It’s so often such an isolating experience, but it’s so human to mourn. I lost a friend in 2021, then a cousin, and then a caregiver in 2022. My brain is still trying to reconcile all my experiences of death, and I can only imagine the loss of a (chosen/found) family member ❤️🩹 I hope your healing journey eases you ❤️🩹
It would be so funny if an Elder Vampire sim just moved in and started living in that coffin And then they had a nurse to be like "why do you sleep here?" And they just answered "I like the drama of a funeral home"
I'd love an elder pack with retirement homes/villages and the like! I really hope they do this someday. I don't know how they'd ever sell it, but I love the idea of having funerals, wills, maybe some choice in disposition of remains (more than just outside for a tombstone, inside for an urn), official graveyard lot types, etc. Death and grieving are such a huge part of life, and I think the Sims can be a really nice way to process difficult emotions through storytelling.
I wish you the absolute best vibes on your healing, it's different for everyone so it's okay to go at your own pace. The community that you've built are so proud of you and how far you've come💕
I made a funeral home wedding venue for my occult sims/ghosty sims once, and I can attest to the **trauma** it put me through. Took me several sessions to finish thanks to those lovely thoughts. Love your build!
You're working through it in your own way and it takes time. Never feel bad about how you process your grief because it will always be unique to you. I lost my dad last year and I understand the feeling of losing someone you had such a close bond with, the world really does feel different without them in it. I still pick up the phone to call him and it's such a weird realization like oh wait he's not here, every single time. You're doing your best and that's all you can do, and it will be good enough. We love you 💛
Babe, don’t feel the need to apologize for getting emotional. I appreciate that you kept that bit in the video. It made me feel seen. I’m starting to believe there is no processing of grief. It just comes and goes. Some days you hardly feel it and some days you can’t feel anything else. But every day you try your best to live in a way your loved one would be proud of 💗
I definitely agree that grief isn't linear. There's a theory that describes it as more of a spiral, with different emotions, and you cycle through them all but over time the emotions get less intense. The grief doesn't go away, but we grow around it and find it feels less overwhelming over time. I hope you are doing OK with whatever you are going through!
Thank you for sharing about the relative you lost babes! Grief is a process and honestly the Sims isnt a weird way to deal with that kinda stuff since its a life simulator.^_^
The funeral home section is actually really beautiful. As someone whose religion’s funerals are basically the complete opposite of the ‘typical’ funeral home experience, personally I find it weirdly healing in a way to imagine a calmer, proper funeral for someone I’ve lost. There are some things about my religion’s grieving process which are good, but some that I really disagree with, and the way funerals are handled is one of them. This for some reason made me emotional to watch but thank you 😂
Thanks for taking a moment to acknowledge this part of life, Jesse and sharing with us. It can be hard for some of us 🙋🏻♀️ to process our feelings, especially the complex and painful ones and being vulnerable can be scary. Sending love ❤. Btw you did an amazing job with the landscaping and roofing, etc.
I feel the same @ raunchy scenes in Game of Thrones. I got to where I just skipped through the unnecessary stuff. The first 4 seasons or so are pretty bad about it and then it actually dies down a bit. So if you can, try to get through it because the story (up until Season 8) is fantastic and worth the watch. :) Great build, poor Elders always get the short end.
I love your attitude and just everything 😂 the fact you were vulnerable with telling us something like that, you’d think I’d be more heartbroken 😢 but the way you said it made me laugh so hard 😂
Coming from an American Long Term Care Nurse, this is actually the exact audio from building LTC facilities here lmao. They care and want them to have the world ❤
as far as grieving goes, i find sims quite a therapeutic outlet as it allows me to “live” life until it seems a little less impossible in the real world without them
I love your builds and your personality. I look forward to seeing your videos. Meltdowns are normal. I think we all have that loss in life that changes us, mine was in 2021. Grief is a journey not a destination and you dont ever heal from it you just live a but differently as time goes on. ❤
We're not gonna get funerals unless they're willing to give them as much detail as weddings in the wedding pack because every culture's ceremonies are different, and recently Sims tries to have a more global appeal. Same as they're not gonna give us elders that feel like real life old people unless they introduce diseases and disabilities properly.
I've lost a few friends across this last year, the closest of which when this video first came out. it was both overwhelming and very comforting to see you first making a funeral home and then reprocessing the same grief I was having. It's certainly not a fun experience, but I thank you for being public and honest about your experience with losing them. much love xx
i have the exact same opinion about woohoo in movies and tv shows and i’m not ace! for me it’s just always made me feel really weird when watching with anyone else. it makes me feel like i’m watching porn with someone, which feels weirdly intimate so i fast forward as soon as they even THINK about giving on screen bedroom eyes!
fellow ace here, i felt your mini rant about rudy tudy scenes in the depths of my soul😭 truly there are so many stories I want to consume but they’re too ❌ for me to be comfortable watching them especially when those scenes will come out of nowhere
A care home probably don't have elevated floors here and there, because some of the elderly are using staff or even on a wheelchair to move, but this is a reaaly good home care build.
They should definitely do an expansion or game pack focused around care/nursing homes. They could also add a new career path for your sim to be a carer just give elder sims some more gameplay elements and interactions.
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤ Thank you for being you, your videos have made me laugh on some of my hardest days. Wishing you all the best and I hope tomorrow will be easier. Hugs xx
i appreciate you talking about your experience with grief, i lost my great aunt last year and even though i didn't know her that well (i was adopted in my late teens and i rarely ever got to see her anyway), she was a wonderful person and i still struggle with her passing. i've kept the small little pack of tissues i got at her funeral and i don't think i'll ever get rid of it, it's one of the few things i've got left of her and i also haven't worn my formal pants since then either. everyone grieves at their own pace in their own way and it's nice to hear other people talk about their experiences because it helps me personally feel less alone
I love this build and definitely want to play with it! ❤ Thank you, especially, for being vulnerable with us. My grandma passed 3 weeks ago and it's comforting to know I'm not alone in grief or in how I react to things.
Round two... Care home but nhs 😂 one giant bungalow with mismatched salmon pink and maroon furniture and infinite tea and biscuits. Staffed entirely by absolute legends and smelling faintly of wee ❤
I built a retirement villa that I use in my legacy game and it’s “run” by a vampire I made and maxed out. The story is that Winter (the vampire) and the first matriarch were absolutely best friends and winter promised to look after the family for generations to come.
It is stunning! You're my favorite youtuber and I love it when you talk about yourself. I am also having difficulty grieving people atm and seeing this validated me. Much love xoxo
Hey hen! So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. The timing of this build is so serendipitous for me because I just lost my grandma. Funny how things go like that!
I lost my grandmother the 1st of july 2022. She was like a second mom for me. I loved her so much. The thing with grief is, I don’t know how to do it. I can’t cry and for me that is weird because I cry pretty easily. But since then it’s hard to cry until I burst and actually drown in it. I can’t tell you how to accept it, I don’t know either. But I can send you virtual hugs and support. Thank you for opening up to us ♥️
As someone who lives in a care home (not an elderly one) you actually nailed it with cramming as many bedrooms in the building as possible 😂 More bedrooms means more residents means more money 😂 I actually built my care home on sims 4 and I was studying the whole house and that how I realised how squashed into the house all the bedrooms were.
Can totally relate to the meltdown. Am going thru a family crisis right now, and I never know when I'll have a sudden crying jag. Fun! My only note is that senior living communities would never have platforms/level changes in them. Ramps yes, random step up, no. Too many people using walkers... It's all smooth floors and elevators, with stairs for the spry ones. My Mom lives in one, so I'm there all the time. Beautiful build though, really handsome structure. And I agree with you on Game Of Thrones. No need for all of the on-screen Woohoo. Ugh.
i lost my grandma earlier this year. it's weird knowing i won't see her again, and i regret not seeing her more. i learned so much i never knew at her funeral from the eulogies her loved ones gave. it's hard to grieve and to process death. i think it ebbs and flows, never fully passing but sometimes loosening its grip. maybe one day it's something you accept, but losing someone you loved, that you still love, is a monumental feat, and it is okay if you grieve that loss for months to years to decades. for as long as you need to. one day you will feel whole again but if you don't right now there is no shame to be had. they would not want you to feel bad for loving them. ❤
I remember in the GT trailer I thought the part with the girl and her grandfather(?) were doing a puzzle I thought they were in a senior citizen home so I was surprised that those weren’t included
i was watching this like oh this will be a great time and then you got to the funeral home and i started sobbing because i've just lost my grandparents and uncle and cat and so yes i feel the trauma too but it came out so nice and i am also fine but not okay xxx
"I'm gonna make a care center for elderly!" Aweeee! "With a funeral home cause two birds one stone" I oop..
Thank you for being vulnerable with us, Jess. We know the healing process takes time, but we're here for you as much as fans can be. Hope you're doing better today than you felt yesterday and that your support network can give you any amount of love that you need.
this!!!!
summed up all i was gonna say in my own comment,
We ❤ you Jesse!! 😊🤟
I love how you just started throwing platforms and extra steps near the door for the elderly to contend with haha
If it was realistic, it would also need an elevator for disabled residents lol
I miss elevators so much!!
If you add a nursery it could be a birth to death center ❤
that is so conceptually beautiful and terrifying. i want to write a story about that now
I hate it😂
Cradle to Grave?
I now want to make that. A birth to death center. Like a multi-generational home but for many people.
Reincarnated sims only need to remember one address for all of time
Bonehilda as the community maid 😂
LMAO
So accurate and very fitting lmao
A vision of where they’re finna be
i wish i could give you some comforting words, grief is a weird thing. i lost a child in 2021 and welcomed another in 2022 and its such a weird experience. idk how to describe it. its like im still waiting to miscarry her even though shes almost 9 months old. it never ends, im sorry.
I'm sorry
@@Emthe30something no need to be sorry, its just life❤️
I feel u ❤
I’m so sorry, my mother had to go through that and I saw how it wasn’t easy, I just hope you’re doing okay 🤎
love and condolences to you, bethanie. you have gone through one of the hardest things a person ever has to go through. i hope all that pain and grief will pour out into love for your new child 🦋🤍
one thing about Jesse is that she will always be an advocate for elder rights in the sims
TW: Death
I totally understand where you’re coming from. My cousin who help raise me the first few years of my life passed away last year and I still get so emotional about it at the mention of hospitals or other things that remind me of her. I don’t think I will ever be fully over it because it was all very traumatic and sudden. But sending you lots of love. We got this! We honor their memory everyday with the things we do.
I'm a rotation player so I put household of 8 elders into a "elder care home" I built, used the roommate feature to fill out the rest of the empty bedrooms and aged up the roomates I didn't want to look like care takers and hired a maid, a butler and garden services to take care of them, I had a mod which let me change the uniforms of service workers to fit with the other 'service workers' (i cant remember where I got it and I can't find it anymore) and poof, it was pretty functional with enough imagination if you pretend the bills are for the combined rental home and I'm telling you it was scandalous. I had em throw raves, master skills, fall in love, Don was elderly and still trying to get with the ladies, it was one of the most fun households I played with
fr this was the PERFECT pack to bring more elder gameplay in, bet they'll release a seperate elders pack at some point to get more money from us (e.g. most infant gameplay being in the pack)
Oh we gave you elder gameplay! Elders now have one new interaction in base game, and 16 new interactions, 3 new aspirations, and 1 new hobby for elders in the "Get Old" pack!
The way base game infants don't do anything more than the babies... diabolical.
@@ByrdCampWhat do you want them to do? They're BABIES
@@chickensalad3535 You know how you have to teach the toddlers to walk, talk, and shit in the toilet? Something like that. I feel like if Growing Together hadn't been an EP, the milestones would've just been base game.
I also lost my brother in 2021. He was only 34. I agree it has fucked me up. I'm in therapy but the world often just doesn't make sense without him.
I did too but in 2022. Nothing feels right anymore without my brother here
Don’t apologise for getting upset, you have every right to. We are here for you, we care about you. ❤
Agreed with raunchy crap on shows. I cannot watch them because I get a fully physical anxious reaction. No idea why.
Also yes to the grief part. It’s expected to take a long time with it, don’t get upset at yourself for not processing things quickly or well. I’m 27 and still processing deaths from my middle school years.
Take it easy on yourself ❤️
I feel similar. It's like this mixture of vicarious embarassment and viseral horror. And yet it's not like I'm totally averse to all things romantic or sexy. Like I am a married adult, have a toddler and am pregnant with my 2nd child-- def on purpose. Yet in shows? If it gets past kissing my brain can't. It's like accidentally walking in on someone in the bathroom, I do not want to be there. I leave the room.
@@purpleghost106 you worded it exactly as I feel! I’ve gotten picked on for it my whole life too, like I’m just prudish. But it’s hard to explain to people who don’t feel it.
I feel massively validated now haha
oh my god yes thank you all of you i'm the same! Literally it is like walking in on someone doing it, it just feels awkward and if theres as many as there are in got its exasperating, i'm like "oh this again? when are we actually going to watch a show??"
Why does EA think we don't love Nana and Peepop and want to build them a world too? So silly.
Peepop! 🤣
It might be a bit morbid, but it’s also EFFICIENT. There’s a funeral home right across the street from an elder care facility in my city, you’re just one step ahead of the curve
More old people buddies could make funerals too. All the elders in my life treat funerals like a damn get together anyway lol
My city has the same layout with an elder care facility across from a funeral home but theres also a crematorium and Graveyard just a block down the road
My town has its big hospital overlooking a graveyard. Completely cuts out the middleman.
there are a couple of funeral homes right across the street from the big hospital in my town lmao
ooh if they did an elderly pack they could add some assistance devices like the chair lift for stairs or walkers (and ofc put a plainer walker/cane/etc one in base game for disability rep stuff like the hearing aids), and maybe some cute family heirlooms like photo albums and family recipe cards
Are there mods with this stuff?
I was literally just thinking that as she was putting in the stairs. I'd love to see more mobility aids in the sims
I'm with you on sexual content in shows usually adding nothing tbh.
Also, totally normal to feel messed up over losing someone essential to your upbringing, this would probably trigger me too...although I'd probably dissociate lol
I obviously don’t know you but thanks for being real about your grief. It makes those of us who have been through or are currently going through our own grieving feel a bit less alone. ❤
There is a way to have a funeral kinda! When the Sim dies, put their gravestone in your sim's personal inventory, then you can place down a podium. If the active sim with the gravestone in their inventory is in a sad mood they can give a touching eulogy by clicking on the gravestone in their possession. Edit- Only one sim can give a eulogy, passing the urn from sim to sim does not count unless you want to place down individual podiums for some reason.
Thanks for this tip!
@@favorites2547 I just remembered that you have to have charisma 6 or above!
Thank you!!
On the funeral home; and to lighten the mood: the elderly sim who spent their life getting their mischief to the maximum level will scare the other sims under full autonomy! 😂🎉
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Morbid efficiency, love it.
I lost my Mum in October of 2020, thanks for being open with us about the realities of your grief. I found your content in March of 2020 and it's been such a comfort to me through the past 3 years, thanks Jesse ❤
“2 years ago….. in 2015.”
Me too bestie.
I told my old best friend who I haven’t seen in 9 years (because of moving countries.) that it had only been 5 years 😭
I have severe social anxiety but plumbella would be the kind of person I would like to hang out with
Love from 🇧🇷
This does remind me how much I miss that bingo game they had in the Sims 2, oh how I would love to make a Mecca bingo hall in the Sims!
I still sometimes ahout out "MYSHUNOOOOO" when I'm bored, like they constantly did in that game. Iconic.
Can honestly say I never expected to cry during a Plumbella build video, but here we are. Lost my dad in 2020, and yeah... the perspective shift when we lose someone so close is just wild. Love you ma'am!
this build reminded me of the iconic lady in my grandma's nursing home that was playing the sims in her room every time i visited
I feel your pain!! My dad passed this last November and it’s been a whirlwind. The healing will take as long as it takes. Much love to you 💕
My cousin who was my first friend, she died when we were 25. I'm just about to turn 40, and I still can't think about her without crying. We spoke together before I could talk, I remember it so clearly. I'll always wish I could talk to her again. It really does fuck you up, I'm sorry.
This touched on something that I don’t think is discussed very often - how this game can have a big impact on how we process trauma and life changes. I really appreciate you sharing with us and stepping away from the camera to finish the build. This was an incredible build!!
I feel like jess’s builds are underrated
this makes me want to make a sim who owns a care home and takes care of the elders from other families I've made in that save :o love the build and thanks for the idea lol
Oh man, my best friend passed when I was 20 and at 30, sometimes it's still overwhelming, but I grew around it. There's no timeline on grief, it'll be there and man, I feeeel this because that guy was like a brother to me, coming to Christmases and shit and it's suuuuucks so fckingmuch. ❤
Grief always hits you when you least expect it, wishing you the best dealing with that. Love ya, hen
As interesting as I think funerals/funeral homes would be it may be hard to implement as not every culture handles death and passing the same way. Most likely would be something EA would have to workshop. Anyways, please give us the elder sim content we need Jesse 😢
I feel like “wake” could be a social event? And you could just make a community lot suitable idk. I do churches in a similar fashion
yeah but sims 4 is just a white american simulator anyways, so not really a concern for EA lol
They’d probably have to do it similar to how they made wedding stories (oof) with the optional traditions
@@stuffwithsoph8264 Exactly. They were perfectly fine making the high school a White American school, don't know why they'd be as picky about funerals.
a lot of stuff in the game is extremely americanized anyway so i don’t think it would matter. i think it’s more probable that they just don’t want to add such grim things to the game. funerals kinda hit harder than your regular sim death
"the new pack ignored elders so I'm building them a care home". Yay 😃, now we can ignore them too.
Thank you for building this despite your meltdown, and also thank you for showing real emotions on social media. I hope you are a bit better now, sending you lots of love ❤
I appreciate your vulnerability about grief and death. It’s so often such an isolating experience, but it’s so human to mourn.
I lost a friend in 2021, then a cousin, and then a caregiver in 2022. My brain is still trying to reconcile all my experiences of death, and I can only imagine the loss of a (chosen/found) family member ❤️🩹 I hope your healing journey eases you ❤️🩹
It would be so funny if an Elder Vampire sim just moved in and started living in that coffin
And then they had a nurse to be like "why do you sleep here?" And they just answered "I like the drama of a funeral home"
Jesse is the advocate for everyone being discriminated about whether your an infant or an elder
I'd love an elder pack with retirement homes/villages and the like! I really hope they do this someday. I don't know how they'd ever sell it, but I love the idea of having funerals, wills, maybe some choice in disposition of remains (more than just outside for a tombstone, inside for an urn), official graveyard lot types, etc. Death and grieving are such a huge part of life, and I think the Sims can be a really nice way to process difficult emotions through storytelling.
I wish you the absolute best vibes on your healing, it's different for everyone so it's okay to go at your own pace. The community that you've built are so proud of you and how far you've come💕
I love everything about this. I just really need elders to be able to live their best lives so I can do a Grace and Frankie themed lets play...
I made a funeral home wedding venue for my occult sims/ghosty sims once, and I can attest to the **trauma** it put me through. Took me several sessions to finish thanks to those lovely thoughts. Love your build!
Thank you Jess, for making me laugh while also showing me that mental health is a bitch to others too, not just me
I love this build!!!!!!! Elevators are the only thing that could’ve been added to make this even more perfect imo
Lol Maxis treats elders like the games bugs, they pretend they don't see it
You're working through it in your own way and it takes time. Never feel bad about how you process your grief because it will always be unique to you. I lost my dad last year and I understand the feeling of losing someone you had such a close bond with, the world really does feel different without them in it. I still pick up the phone to call him and it's such a weird realization like oh wait he's not here, every single time. You're doing your best and that's all you can do, and it will be good enough. We love you 💛
This video makes me wish that @AskaMortician would build a funeral home in the Sims.
Oh my, yes! I would love it too! She’s amazing
Babe, don’t feel the need to apologize for getting emotional. I appreciate that you kept that bit in the video. It made me feel seen. I’m starting to believe there is no processing of grief. It just comes and goes. Some days you hardly feel it and some days you can’t feel anything else. But every day you try your best to live in a way your loved one would be proud of 💗
I definitely agree that grief isn't linear. There's a theory that describes it as more of a spiral, with different emotions, and you cycle through them all but over time the emotions get less intense. The grief doesn't go away, but we grow around it and find it feels less overwhelming over time. I hope you are doing OK with whatever you are going through!
Thank you for sharing about the relative you lost babes! Grief is a process and honestly the Sims isnt a weird way to deal with that kinda stuff since its a life simulator.^_^
The funeral home section is actually really beautiful. As someone whose religion’s funerals are basically the complete opposite of the ‘typical’ funeral home experience, personally I find it weirdly healing in a way to imagine a calmer, proper funeral for someone I’ve lost. There are some things about my religion’s grieving process which are good, but some that I really disagree with, and the way funerals are handled is one of them. This for some reason made me emotional to watch but thank you 😂
Thanks for taking a moment to acknowledge this part of life, Jesse and sharing with us. It can be hard for some of us 🙋🏻♀️ to process our feelings, especially the complex and painful ones and being vulnerable can be scary. Sending love ❤. Btw you did an amazing job with the landscaping and roofing, etc.
The way you're dealing with loss resonated with me so much.
I really want to hug Jess right now!!! I’m so sorry you lost your close friend and cousin ❤
Never apologise for your grief. I lost my mum in 2013 and I still have days when it hits me just how much I miss her.
My local funeral home is pink. somehow, it works. inside, there are rooms with pink and purple spring blossoms. I dunno, its kind pretty.
I'm a nurse and I started in geriatrics!! I love my old folks so much 😂❤️
I absolutely love the build! Sending you much love for your grief. No need to apologize for it; losing a loved one is never easy. ❤
I feel the same @ raunchy scenes in Game of Thrones. I got to where I just skipped through the unnecessary stuff. The first 4 seasons or so are pretty bad about it and then it actually dies down a bit. So if you can, try to get through it because the story (up until Season 8) is fantastic and worth the watch. :) Great build, poor Elders always get the short end.
You should do a create a sim of the elders that live in the nursing home.
I love your attitude and just everything 😂 the fact you were vulnerable with telling us something like that, you’d think I’d be more heartbroken 😢 but the way you said it made me laugh so hard 😂
took me years to even scratch the surface of healing from my grief trauma. it takes time and healing isn't linear. wishing you the best 💖
Coming from an American Long Term Care Nurse, this is actually the exact audio from building LTC facilities here lmao. They care and want them to have the world ❤
as far as grieving goes, i find sims quite a therapeutic outlet as it allows me to “live” life until it seems a little less impossible in the real world without them
Definitely need some chess tables and some painting spots.
this was a really beautiful tribute especially the quiet part. I found myself reflecting on life & friends & family
I love your builds and your personality. I look forward to seeing your videos. Meltdowns are normal. I think we all have that loss in life that changes us, mine was in 2021. Grief is a journey not a destination and you dont ever heal from it you just live a but differently as time goes on. ❤
We're not gonna get funerals unless they're willing to give them as much detail as weddings in the wedding pack because every culture's ceremonies are different, and recently Sims tries to have a more global appeal.
Same as they're not gonna give us elders that feel like real life old people unless they introduce diseases and disabilities properly.
I've lost a few friends across this last year, the closest of which when this video first came out. it was both overwhelming and very comforting to see you first making a funeral home and then reprocessing the same grief I was having. It's certainly not a fun experience, but I thank you for being public and honest about your experience with losing them. much love xx
i have the exact same opinion about woohoo in movies and tv shows and i’m not ace! for me it’s just always made me feel really weird when watching with anyone else.
it makes me feel like i’m watching porn with someone, which feels weirdly intimate so i fast forward as soon as they even THINK about giving on screen bedroom eyes!
fellow ace here, i felt your mini rant about rudy tudy scenes in the depths of my soul😭 truly there are so many stories I want to consume but they’re too ❌ for me to be comfortable watching them especially when those scenes will come out of nowhere
A care home probably don't have elevated floors here and there, because some of the elderly are using staff or even on a wheelchair to move, but this is a reaaly good home care build.
They should definitely do an expansion or game pack focused around care/nursing homes. They could also add a new career path for your sim to be a carer just give elder sims some more gameplay elements and interactions.
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤ Thank you for being you, your videos have made me laugh on some of my hardest days. Wishing you all the best and I hope tomorrow will be easier. Hugs xx
i appreciate you talking about your experience with grief, i lost my great aunt last year and even though i didn't know her that well (i was adopted in my late teens and i rarely ever got to see her anyway), she was a wonderful person and i still struggle with her passing. i've kept the small little pack of tissues i got at her funeral and i don't think i'll ever get rid of it, it's one of the few things i've got left of her and i also haven't worn my formal pants since then either. everyone grieves at their own pace in their own way and it's nice to hear other people talk about their experiences because it helps me personally feel less alone
I’m sorry for your loss, we are here for you. 💗
I love this build and definitely want to play with it! ❤ Thank you, especially, for being vulnerable with us. My grandma passed 3 weeks ago and it's comforting to know I'm not alone in grief or in how I react to things.
You’re definitely not. My grandmother passed away back in January and I still have moments
Round two... Care home but nhs 😂 one giant bungalow with mismatched salmon pink and maroon furniture and infinite tea and biscuits. Staffed entirely by absolute legends and smelling faintly of wee ❤
This is so spot on it really made me laugh
he was so lucky to have you as a friend and I hope you know that he’s always watching out for you❤
I built a retirement villa that I use in my legacy game and it’s “run” by a vampire I made and maxed out. The story is that Winter (the vampire) and the first matriarch were absolutely best friends and winter promised to look after the family for generations to come.
Loving all these building videos lately - both inspiring and chaotic
Only Jessie can build a funeral home next to an elderly care home.. God's waiting room?
It is stunning! You're my favorite youtuber and I love it when you talk about yourself. I am also having difficulty grieving people atm and seeing this validated me. Much love xoxo
I definitely relate to picking a favourite version of myself to win games against myself
Hey hen! So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. The timing of this build is so serendipitous for me because I just lost my grandma. Funny how things go like that!
I feel the same way about "woohoo". Ive realized people are usually really narsty 😫😫 and im unusual
such a beautiful build! there is so much love and effort put into it. you are such a kind, gentle soul
I lost my grandmother the 1st of july 2022. She was like a second mom for me. I loved her so much. The thing with grief is, I don’t know how to do it. I can’t cry and for me that is weird because I cry pretty easily. But since then it’s hard to cry until I burst and actually drown in it. I can’t tell you how to accept it, I don’t know either. But I can send you virtual hugs and support. Thank you for opening up to us ♥️
As someone who lives in a care home (not an elderly one) you actually nailed it with cramming as many bedrooms in the building as possible 😂 More bedrooms means more residents means more money 😂 I actually built my care home on sims 4 and I was studying the whole house and that how I realised how squashed into the house all the bedrooms were.
Thank you so much for going there. There's so much I wish I could say but nothing comes to mind.. other than I'm grateful for this.
Can totally relate to the meltdown. Am going thru a family crisis right now, and I never know when I'll have a sudden crying jag. Fun!
My only note is that senior living communities would never have platforms/level changes in them. Ramps yes, random step up, no. Too many people using walkers... It's all smooth floors and elevators, with stairs for the spry ones. My Mom lives in one, so I'm there all the time. Beautiful build though, really handsome structure. And I agree with you on Game Of Thrones. No need for all of the on-screen Woohoo. Ugh.
plum putting kisses in the title is like me sending kisses to my teacher in an email
luv u x
i lost my grandma earlier this year. it's weird knowing i won't see her again, and i regret not seeing her more. i learned so much i never knew at her funeral from the eulogies her loved ones gave. it's hard to grieve and to process death. i think it ebbs and flows, never fully passing but sometimes loosening its grip. maybe one day it's something you accept, but losing someone you loved, that you still love, is a monumental feat, and it is okay if you grieve that loss for months to years to decades. for as long as you need to. one day you will feel whole again but if you don't right now there is no shame to be had. they would not want you to feel bad for loving them. ❤
This is amazing! I can't wait to download it. Thank you for always just being yourself.
sending my love❤ thank you for bringing us great content and a glimpse into your life all at the same time
I get how the funeral home is triggering. I just lost my grandmother, so I understand. Beautiful build, though. I really dig it! 😊
I remember in the GT trailer I thought the part with the girl and her grandfather(?) were doing a puzzle I thought they were in a senior citizen home so I was surprised that those weren’t included
Lovely build, totally agree with you on the Game of Thrones thing a good story doesn’t need those extra bits 😅
i was watching this like oh this will be a great time and then you got to the funeral home and i started sobbing because i've just lost my grandparents and uncle and cat and so yes i feel the trauma too but it came out so nice and i am also fine but not okay xxx