Hi Kaitlin. I’m so glad you guys are back. I’m a single mum too ❤ I just want to say that your hair in its natural colour is looking amazing. Looks so healthy. Looking great mumma ❤
I was surprised to hear you talk about how in tune he is to you. My son is high functioning but has always been the same way. He is clueless on reading social clues with basically anyone else, but he’s so in tune to me that I have to really watch my tone and control my emotions to make sure I’m not putting unnecessary weight on him. I enjoyed watching. You tube suggested your channel to me a few months ago but I have seen you in real before at the pool! They must have wanted me to connect haha.
That’s awesome! Kaidale loves the pools so much. And yes, he feeds of the slightest changes in my emotions or any display of frustration. I have to really try my best to maintain composure around him, especially if he’s already having a difficult time with something.
Good question! It has to be used sparingly but also firmly. That way he knows it’s for real. For example…if I say “unreasonable” to his request for a pack of skittles at the store, I’m going to ignore his immediate requests/mands for 10 other types of candy. Because the would be the “scrolling” behavior I mentioned in the video. I also can’t go back on my answer. If I say unreasonable, it has to be concrete so he learns that no amount of scrolling or begging or even tantrums will change the answer. This gives him structure and boundaries which he responds really well too.
Would love more videos like this! The aba therapy clinic in my area closed. My 5 year old son has been struggling in school with being aggressive and i get calls every day that hes hitting, biting, throwing things and eloping. Do you have any advice for these behaviors you could make into a video?
Kaitlin, wondering has Kaidale ever requested "Big Guy" at school if he was upset or worried and if you had picked him up he didnt want to go home at all??
Can I scream? Just wrote out a long comment telling you what I got out of watching the video two times. And I was telling you that it's kind of like positive reinforcement training that they use for service dogs now and dogs in general where you break each piece down and then you reward instead of you know disciplining or getting angry. It was very interesting the yes with the fingers laced Fist and yes later than the fist bump letting you know we've made that agreement is yes later with eye contact. I wanted to know Caitlin and I've always wanted to ask you what do you think about ABA therapy as a whole do you like it and what don't you like about it? Also I wanted to know what you think about Gentle parenting? I think I've brought this up before but you know there are a couple of other channels where the children have autism but they say that what they're doing is trying to show the public what autism is all about to demystify it to take it and destigmatize it. However, what they don't do is they don't show their child having a full-blown meltdown and showing people ALL the sides of autism not just the easier sides. I have written both of these fathers and said you know you say your mission is to Enlighten people about autism. However I never have seen you show your child really having a meltdown really getting out of hand and crazy why is that when you say that your mission is so that the public can understand what autism is all about and they got mad at me and said things like well would you want to be on camera at your worst moment? Well maybe not but then change your mission statement you know if you want everybody to really understand and get it then do it all not just some of it. I want to thank you Caitlin for all the videos you've been putting out I really just love what you're doing and really respect all the hard work and what I really love is how much you adore and what you give to your son. I don't know what that's about because I had very very abusive parents but when I see you and Kaidale, itshows me what unconditional love is about.
Yea I think in those moments Kaidale is very vulnerable so to pull out a camera and record would feel taking advantage of a situation and not helpful for him. I also want to preserve his dignity. I think most parents goals is to shed light on autism awareness in hopes to create a more inclusive world for their kids. But not to necessarily be so transparent that it oversteps on their kids individual boundaries.
Hi Kaitlin. I’m so glad you guys are back.
I’m a single mum too ❤
I just want to say that your hair in its natural colour is looking amazing. Looks so healthy.
Looking great mumma ❤
Honestly, you’re an amazing mom
Thank you❤️
I saw the short of him working 😂😂 man you guys don’t even know you are about to be blessed with an amazing builder
Thank you❤️
@@Kaitlin_and_Kaidale thank you for being strong
I'm going to try some of this with my daughter. Thanks!
Awesome we all need a form of communication with our kids, thank you!
Absolutely!
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I was surprised to hear you talk about how in tune he is to you. My son is high functioning but has always been the same way. He is clueless on reading social clues with basically anyone else, but he’s so in tune to me that I have to really watch my tone and control my emotions to make sure I’m not putting unnecessary weight on him. I enjoyed watching. You tube suggested your channel to me a few months ago but I have seen you in real before at the pool! They must have wanted me to connect haha.
That’s awesome! Kaidale loves the pools so much. And yes, he feeds of the slightest changes in my emotions or any display of frustration. I have to really try my best to maintain composure around him, especially if he’s already having a difficult time with something.
This was so informative. Thank you! ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Excellent video! ❤
Thank you!
Hi Kaitlin! Can you do a video on how Kaidale does at the dentist?
Awesome! Love this. How did you work on reinforcing him accepting unreasonable?
Good question! It has to be used sparingly but also firmly. That way he knows it’s for real. For example…if I say “unreasonable” to his request for a pack of skittles at the store, I’m going to ignore his immediate requests/mands for 10 other types of candy. Because the would be the “scrolling” behavior I mentioned in the video. I also can’t go back on my answer. If I say unreasonable, it has to be concrete so he learns that no amount of scrolling or begging or even tantrums will change the answer. This gives him structure and boundaries which he responds really well too.
Would love more videos like this! The aba therapy clinic in my area closed. My 5 year old son has been struggling in school with being aggressive and i get calls every day that hes hitting, biting, throwing things and eloping. Do you have any advice for these behaviors you could make into a video?
I'm liking the dark hair on you!!
Thank you! It’s actually my natural hair color
We tell my brother and will keep asking when he has to wait
So does Kaidale. But that’s part of the “scrolling” that I mentioned. It just has to be ignored.
Good video
Glad you enjoyed
Sorry for misspelled words and bad grammar, I was just too scared to fix it and lose a comment again. Thank you for understanding
very interesting. can the time delay be all the way until the next day or do you always make sure it’s that same day?
No, if it’s a time delay then “later” will be sometime that day. If it’s not something he will have access to that day then it will be “unreasonable”.
Is your son is toilet trained? Your amazing mum ❤
Yes he is and thank you!
Kaitlin, wondering has Kaidale ever requested "Big Guy" at school if he was upset or worried and if you had picked him up he didnt want to go home at all??
No he just request “mommy pick me up”.
I have followed for awhile but I since lost track. How old is he now?
13
Thank You
dose he not use his proloquo2go anymore?
Not too much. He mostly just uses his words.
Thought of an awesome Xmas idea, would Kaidale like to do a nail art that spelled out "Big Guy", sorry Daryl if you see this... Hehehehehehe
That’s actually a great idea, thank you
If he asks to go visit big guy, and the answer isn’t later or after…And the answer is not today, how does that fit in with this method?
That would be an “unreasonable” response
Can I scream? Just wrote out a long comment telling you what I got out of watching the video two times. And I was telling you that it's kind of like positive reinforcement training that they use for service dogs now and dogs in general where you break each piece down and then you reward instead of you know disciplining or getting angry. It was very interesting the yes with the fingers laced Fist and yes later than the fist bump letting you know we've made that agreement is yes later with eye contact. I wanted to know Caitlin and I've always wanted to ask you what do you think about ABA therapy as a whole do you like it and what don't you like about it? Also I wanted to know what you think about Gentle parenting?
I think I've brought this up before but you know there are a couple of other channels where the children have autism but they say that what they're doing is trying to show the public what autism is all about to demystify it to take it and destigmatize it. However, what they don't do is they don't show their child having a full-blown meltdown and showing people ALL the sides of autism not just the easier sides. I have written both of these fathers and said you know you say your mission is to Enlighten people about autism. However I never have seen you show your child really having a meltdown really getting out of hand and crazy why is that when you say that your mission is so that the public can understand what autism is all about and they got mad at me and said things like well would you want to be on camera at your worst moment? Well maybe not but then change your mission statement you know if you want everybody to really understand and get it then do it all not just some of it. I want to thank you Caitlin for all the videos you've been putting out I really just love what you're doing and really respect all the hard work and what I really love is how much you adore and what you give to your son. I don't know what that's about because I had very very abusive parents but when I see you and Kaidale, itshows me what unconditional love is about.
Yea I think in those moments Kaidale is very vulnerable so to pull out a camera and record would feel taking advantage of a situation and not helpful for him. I also want to preserve his dignity. I think most parents goals is to shed light on autism awareness in hopes to create a more inclusive world for their kids. But not to necessarily be so transparent that it oversteps on their kids individual boundaries.
@Kaitlin_and_Kaidale great answer. Makes perfect sense, I agree with how you explained it, Kaitlin.
Thanks.
@@kavitadevaof course❤🫶