1. Trust and believe your partner. 2. Stop comparing yourself to others. - A big part of jealousy is driven by low self-esteem. 3. Be prepared to lose them. - To love someone properly be prepared to lose them. Imagine your life without your partner. 4. Don't play games with your partner. 5. Stop confusing make-believe with reality. 6. Lengthen the leash. 7. Use your imagination to feel better, not worse.
I'm currently trying to deal with jealousy issues myself. You pretty much nailed everything i feel..I am EXTREMELY jealous and possessive. It's just a feeling of doom that comes over me and i try to get out of it. I come up with random situations in my head and its sooo hard to get out of it. I get extremely jealous of them talking to someone else or when i mention my feelings of affection and it doesnt go the way i thought it was going to go. It's killed a few relationships and im over it. I know im the cause and i need to fix it before it ruins anymore. I want them to hang out with only me and its so wrong. Im going to live by these steps. Thank you. Jealousy is a silent killer.
Stay strong! It's a double killer because by displaying jealousy you become less attractive, making them question things and put some distance on, which is exactly what you feared in the first place. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy of your own making. Hope you can think your way out of it!
TOTALLY get where you’re coming from. So you’re not alone. This video seems like a great place to start. Good luck to us all.. but recognizing it is the first step. We got this
She may be younger than me, prettier than me and have a slimmer body than me, BUT SHE ISN'T ME. This is a mantra I am repeating, alongside this video I am getting there.
I haven’t gotten this jealous, but my past has caused me to feel insecure about my partner finding other women attractive. It’s enough where I feel it hurts my own feelings for nothing. My last partner tried to make me jealous and would borderline cheat. His actions of using attractive women to make me feel degraded and ignored left a mark. My current partner is amazing, I have no doubt he’s faithful, so it’s up to me to heal the irrational fears I have.
My ex did the same thing. Compared me to the cute college girls at his campus and told me my arms were fat, asked why I don’t dress like them, etc. He even used to talk about how hot all of the moms were, especially when he was upset with me because he knew it made me insecure, so in my new current relationship Ive even gotten jealous of his female coworkers who are old enough to be his mom/aunt and have kids of their own. It’s actually insane. Have you done anything to shift your perspective on this?
I think the best point in the video is number 1. Just believe everything they say or what's the point in being in the relationship if they want to lie it's on them you're doing the right thing by trusting them...
I don’t care if my boyfriend gets affection from another. I don’t think I am so great and I know I can’t, but even if I could I wouldn’t want to be the all mighty one and only a person needs. I don’t want the responsibility of meeting someone’s expectations always. I don’t ever want to prevent someone’s life from experiencing experiences. If someone wants to relieve me from a persons neediness, need for affection, I don’t mind. If my boyfriend wants to stay he can stay if he wants to leave that’s fine to. My energy is for me Not wasted trying to change someone which is impossible. One might disagree and say what a shame, that’s not love, but for me loving someone is not being petty and selfish It’s encouraging the other to gain as many life experiences Freedom Being happy the person I love is happy Not keeping them in prison.
Dealing with jealousy now. I always love more than the other person, so the fact that he can find someone better scares me. No matter how much I try to love myself and grow my confidence, once it’s a situation with a girl I suddenly shrink immediately. It’s tough.
Sounds like your dealing with anxious attachment. Same as me. Try working on building yourself up and building self respect. One way to do this is to face fears. And be kind to yourself in the process. If you prove to yourself you are strong, you will start feeling respect for yourself. That's my advice anyways ❤
My girlfriend recently met a new boy at her school and as a long distance boyfriend with anxiety disorder who's been treated bad in the past, I got very nervous and anxious about how strong our relationship really is. I can't help but feel like I'm not enough.
I find the best tip: Imagine loosing your partner and still be okay. My Girlfriend loves that i work as a Musician. But i would rather learn another job. I always say to myself: If i loose her (wich would still hurt badly) i can go and learn this other job, that i wanted. So, maybe you cant realy controll what you GF is doing, but you can still be okay, if she's up for something bad. If so, it would be no happy Relationship anyway. But also, maybe it is allright, and she is just a loyal, grown up Person.
This sounds like me 100%. I always said to myself “I’m not jealous, I just don’t trust other men around my girl”. What a wake up call to me. That part about me not trusting men around her is definitely true but even more true is me being jealous. This video has been so insightful to me and it’s time to make some serious changes and bite my tongue when I feel the urge to say something or ask something regarding other men or saying things like “did anyone look at you”, “did anyone try to talk to you”, “what did you say back”, etc etc. I don’t want to damage my relationship. I want to spend my life with this woman. Thanks again, amazing video. Time for me to be confident and chill and enjoy my relationship instead of making her feeling like she’s walking in egg shells and making my own mind go crazy by potential scenarios I think may be happening when I know they aren’t and she’s so honest since day one. ❤
Omg this is the most helpful video I found on how to overcome jealousy! Esp the bit about imagining your partner doing things that would normally make me jealous but imagine myself to be detached and maybe even enjoy the fact that he is having a good time! Thank you sooo much! 🙏
I have developed a jelousy problem. I was cheated before when i was naive person and now i feel in certain situations it triggers a feeling of anxiety. I feel im sick. My jelousy feels like a ptsd attack from previous experiences.
I’m there with you. It’s awful when someone else is the cause of harm to us and then we have to pick up the pieces and try not to let it impact our present. Know that just like you’re someone who would never cheat or try to make your partner feel unworthy, there are people out there who would do the same.
I've watched tons of videos on this topic "insecurity and jealousy" but no one explained better than him. Thanks to you sir.✌️😇 I've learned something from you
May God bless you, this was sooo so helpful, especially the part with "stop believing everything you can imagine" and "stop trying to prevent every uncomfortable situation"
Before watching this I implemented some of these tips. They are not easy to do. But I will apply all seven daily. Focus on my life and my self esteem. Not the other person. I believe it's also best that instead of letting the jealous thoughts into the relationship, I focus on attraction, connection and bonding with my partner when on the phone or in person. The thought of feeling like a fool if they do infact cheat or micro cheat with someone else behind my back that fear I have to overcome it.
Yes it very tough. My last relationship 10yrs ago my wife cheated on me several times and forgave her now I’m messed up in the head from it. I just talked to my gf like 10mins ago about the jealousy and she said that she’s glad that I’m self aware and appreciates that I’m trying to do better! 1 step closer to overcoming jealousy and insecurity!
This video helped me so much , ever just hear something and something in your head just clicks and you're like ok so what if it doesn't work out life goes on...this let me detach a see this , guess you have to just be ready to accept that but I promise when you do everything changes
Wow wow wow! 2:20 you said “the root of jealousy is fear of loss...” this hit the nail 🔨🔩 on the head. I’ve dealt with so much lose since childhood that this is where the root of my jealousy has come from. I made my partner miserable (albeit he did do some things behind my back that I verbally said i forgave him for but in reality I hadn’t) and myself with my suspicions with even him lying about going out and where with his own dad. I wanted more time from him and this was a reasonable request. However, my jealousy might not have made him towards the end of our relationship want more time with me. I need to work on the feelings of fear of loss in order to rid myself of this jealousy streak.
The last part about kevin was so emotional. So happy he turned it around... mime is down to childhood trauma and being with an ex who was so controlling and jealous... he was the one cheating while I was locked in doors.... I know have a new relationship that im fucking up as a result... :( Great video. X
Me too! 🥲 I used to date someone who would accuse me of the craziest things. Turns out he was cheating on me. Now I’m in a healthy relationship with someone who treats me like a princess but I can’t help but think of him looking at other girls.. or just horrible thoughts that make me distant towards him. I never though I’d be this way and I want to stop 😭
I'm with you both, mine is from childhood trauma and getting into a relationship with an older man at the age of 15 he was 22 but I fell so hard in love with him, but, he was so jealous and possessive, and cheated on me right left and centre, and when I said anything about it he would beat me up, I was so scared of him in the following years, he said he would kill me if I left him. He abused me physically and mentally. When I was 19 I got a court order so he couldn't come near me. He messed my head up so much that I have issues with trust and jealousy, a fear of being deceived, if you want someone else then please leave me alone!. I have been married for 25 yrs and now divorced, now in another long relationship of 14yrs but still struggling with my issues, it is causing problems in this relationship, I just want to get over it. This video has helped me and I will keep trying.
“3. Be prepared to lose them⁉️” I don’t quite agree with the delivery. Yes you should acknowledge that your partner has the autonomy to leave you if you take them for granted. However, a constant readiness to jump ship might cause insecurity in the relationship itself (I.e) not allowing oneself to fully love someone because they might leave tomorrow, or possibly having “escape routes” ready. I feel as though people should try their damnedest while seeing a long future with such person. And if anything happens (coupled with the other points made): One should grieve and feel absolutely devastated by shock and surprise, but also self aware of what went wrong (if anything), and in that grief, re-define their individuality.
Mark, you’re the best psychologist I’ve ever known! As a Psy.D. student I always look up to you and get inspired. I am hoping to be as effective as you to my patients. I’m so grateful! Thank you oceans!🙏🌹
I’m not totally sure I would call it jealousy. It does make me jealous, but it is concerning my wife’s big brother when they were younger he tried to take her virginity. It didn’t happen though and they worked it all out so no harm done. But when I found out about this something rolls up inside of me, I tried to explain it jealousy, rage, possessiveness,or a sense of wanting to grudge my wife. It will go years without bothering me and then I will think about it and get stuck on it and jealousy grudge protectiveness. I can’t describe it all like a pit in my stomach.
I don't know that it's jealousy ... it could extreme, justified anger ! The brother needs to be held accountable for what he has done, even if it's psychological (to the wife/sister.). His actions were very sick. I would want to keep him away from my wife. Even the Bible says that we are permitted to have a Righteous Indignation. Talk to God about this issue & have faith that he will help you with it. God bless you. ✝️
This video is gold! I wish I found it five years ago. Thank you so much for this clear explanation and the tips. I'm putting this to use right away. ❤🎉
Thank you for this video.....I have a wonderful husband, I never doubt his commitment to me.....BUT.....I go crazy when he looks at any attractive woman on the web....tv.....pics.......why??????...why I'm I so crazy?...he treats me like a queen....but I cant handle him even looking at women!.....why.....help me!
You hate it when he looks at other attractive women because deep down you feel that you aren’t as beautiful as those other women. Deep down you feel that these other women can compete with you, but in your husbands eyes....that isn’t true. If your husband treats you like a queen then he’s doing it for a reason, and that reason is because he loves you. I don’t know your husband or anything, but it’s obvious that if he treats you like a queen then he doesn’t look at these other woman the way he looks at you. Me and my beautiful girlfriend have been together for 9 months and we still get jealous over stuff like that, so I’m not saying that anybody can get over it that fast. But when the time comes, you’ll get over it and realize that he only loves you. It just all has to start with self love. Whenever you see him looking at those women, just tell yourself that you’re better than them. Remember that you’re the only beautiful girl in his eyes. Now I’m not therapist, but I hope this helped or gave you an answer!
My gf goes out a lot and has tons of friends. Usually alcohol is involved. Some friends go way back, some are exes, some she met on tinder. She often flirts with them through text. I’ve expressed my concerns but she still does whatever she wants…
This video is great thanks 👍. Do you have any specific advice for retroactive jealousy? I've been fighting it for 8 years. I've been listening to your recording related to it at least once a day but because I've been living with this for so long I'm not sure it'll be enough to beat it completely
What about being jealous of him looking at other women or women online? He’s guilty, and it’s making me feel sick, can’t sleep… Im 58, and they’re 25-30
Number one with no self control and Number two with emotional inteligence. 1.- Imagination > Emotions > Reaction 2.- Imagination > Emotion > Self-regulation > Action
How do you stop being jealous when your partner constantly comes to you about other women being interested in him? It difficult to deal with something like this, especially when you have insecurities of their own.
This is a lovely video, lots of juice, preferring to be in a polyamorous relationship, and holding people with love, kindness, and compassion, looking after ego, respecting that there's an abundance of love and that we are special in our own way. That we don't have to compare ourselves to others, and that we have our own kingdom, and there's no shortage as we were programmed to believe by society was eye an eye-opener. - More blessings to you Mark :)
I just have to say, when Kevin is truly evolved he will say, "Why deny my partner, who I love, the pleasure of people watching and not having to face a wall? Why not graciously give her the better view and allow her to enjoy the restaurant decor?" This, rather than continuing to objectify her.
Life becomes so chilled when we stop trying to control things outside of own self
That true but is hard when u think ur partner talking to other female on fb
For some it’s easier said than done
1. Trust and believe your partner.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others. - A big part of jealousy is driven by low self-esteem.
3. Be prepared to lose them. - To love someone properly be prepared to lose them. Imagine your life without your partner.
4. Don't play games with your partner.
5. Stop confusing make-believe with reality.
6. Lengthen the leash.
7. Use your imagination to feel better, not worse.
Thank you!
It’s hard cause you don’t want to be strung along while someone has their cake and eats it too
@@Ehlaar precisely!
#3 is strong.😏
I need advice i'm so jealous woman
I'm currently trying to deal with jealousy issues myself. You pretty much nailed everything i feel..I am EXTREMELY jealous and possessive. It's just a feeling of doom that comes over me and i try to get out of it. I come up with random situations in my head and its sooo hard to get out of it. I get extremely jealous of them talking to someone else or when i mention my feelings of affection and it doesnt go the way i thought it was going to go. It's killed a few relationships and im over it. I know im the cause and i need to fix it before it ruins anymore. I want them to hang out with only me and its so wrong. Im going to live by these steps. Thank you. Jealousy is a silent killer.
Stay strong! It's a double killer because by displaying jealousy you become less attractive, making them question things and put some distance on, which is exactly what you feared in the first place. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy of your own making. Hope you can think your way out of it!
Omg I can relate!!
I just read that being jealous is a sin because you don’t love the beauty that God gave you in your uniqueness.
TOTALLY get where you’re coming from. So you’re not alone. This video seems like a great place to start. Good luck to us all.. but recognizing it is the first step. We got this
I was the most un-jealous guy ever. Got cheated on anyway 😅
“Responding to everything with calm and detachment” are words i will lived by from now on
She may be younger than me, prettier than me and have a slimmer body than me, BUT SHE ISN'T ME. This is a mantra I am repeating, alongside this video I am getting there.
Tips 2 (stop comparing yourself)
*if he or she loves you it will be because of an extra indefinability quality that they cant even explain perhaps...
Love this ❤️❤️
It's like poetry
I haven’t gotten this jealous, but my past has caused me to feel insecure about my partner finding other women attractive. It’s enough where I feel it hurts my own feelings for nothing. My last partner tried to make me jealous and would borderline cheat. His actions of using attractive women to make me feel degraded and ignored left a mark. My current partner is amazing, I have no doubt he’s faithful, so it’s up to me to heal the irrational fears I have.
I am so sorry you had to go through that. Hoping the best for you and your relationship! Communication is key :)
same. how are you now? it's making me feel miserable.
My ex did the same thing. Compared me to the cute college girls at his campus and told me my arms were fat, asked why I don’t dress like them, etc. He even used to talk about how hot all of the moms were, especially when he was upset with me because he knew it made me insecure, so in my new current relationship Ive even gotten jealous of his female coworkers who are old enough to be his mom/aunt and have kids of their own. It’s actually insane. Have you done anything to shift your perspective on this?
I think the best point in the video is number 1.
Just believe everything they say or what's the point in being in the relationship if they want to lie it's on them you're doing the right thing by trusting them...
This guy is the man !! I’m seriously learning an abundance of knowledgeable information. God bless you good sir. Thank you for your wisdom.
this is my problem. fear of losing him and jealousy starts to kick in. thank you for the advice.
We have the same problem
@@vivpayton3959lesson learned 😅
I don’t care if my boyfriend gets affection from another.
I don’t think I am so great and I know I can’t, but even if I could I wouldn’t want to be the all mighty one and only a person needs.
I don’t want the responsibility of meeting someone’s expectations always.
I don’t ever want to prevent someone’s life from experiencing experiences.
If someone wants to relieve me from a persons neediness, need for affection, I don’t mind.
If my boyfriend wants to stay he can stay if he wants to leave that’s fine to.
My energy is for me
Not wasted trying to change someone which is impossible.
One might disagree and say what a shame, that’s not love, but for me loving someone is not being petty and selfish
It’s encouraging the other to gain as many life experiences
Freedom
Being happy the person I love is happy
Not keeping them in prison.
I he i
Dealing with jealousy now. I always love more than the other person, so the fact that he can find someone better scares me. No matter how much I try to love myself and grow my confidence, once it’s a situation with a girl I suddenly shrink immediately. It’s tough.
Sounds like your dealing with anxious attachment. Same as me. Try working on building yourself up and building self respect. One way to do this is to face fears. And be kind to yourself in the process. If you prove to yourself you are strong, you will start feeling respect for yourself. That's my advice anyways ❤
@@jessika9488thank you for this
My girlfriend recently met a new boy at her school and as a long distance boyfriend with anxiety disorder who's been treated bad in the past, I got very nervous and anxious about how strong our relationship really is. I can't help but feel like I'm not enough.
I find the best tip: Imagine loosing your partner and still be okay. My Girlfriend loves that i work as a Musician. But i would rather learn another job. I always say to myself: If i loose her (wich would still hurt badly) i can go and learn this other job, that i wanted.
So, maybe you cant realy controll what you GF is doing, but you can still be okay, if she's up for something bad. If so, it would be no happy Relationship anyway. But also, maybe it is allright, and she is just a loyal, grown up Person.
How's your relationship going now?
My partner suffered with my doubts. That is hard life for both of us. We do have a good life. Thank you.
This sounds like me 100%. I always said to myself “I’m not jealous, I just don’t trust other men around my girl”. What a wake up call to me. That part about me not trusting men around her is definitely true but even more true is me being jealous. This video has been so insightful to me and it’s time to make some serious changes and bite my tongue when I feel the urge to say something or ask something regarding other men or saying things like “did anyone look at you”, “did anyone try to talk to you”, “what did you say back”, etc etc. I don’t want to damage my relationship. I want to spend my life with this woman. Thanks again, amazing video. Time for me to be confident and chill and enjoy my relationship instead of making her feeling like she’s walking in egg shells and making my own mind go crazy by potential scenarios I think may be happening when I know they aren’t and she’s so honest since day one. ❤
I can't thank you enough for this video. I have a mountain to climb but you have packed my lunch and sent me on a positive journey
This video literally made me subscribe. I will watch this 20 times!
Omg this is the most helpful video I found on how to overcome jealousy! Esp the bit about imagining your partner doing things that would normally make me jealous but imagine myself to be detached and maybe even enjoy the fact that he is having a good time! Thank you sooo much! 🙏
I have developed a jelousy problem. I was cheated before when i was naive person and now i feel in certain situations it triggers a feeling of anxiety. I feel im sick. My jelousy feels like a ptsd attack from previous experiences.
I’m there with you. It’s awful when someone else is the cause of harm to us and then we have to pick up the pieces and try not to let it impact our present. Know that just like you’re someone who would never cheat or try to make your partner feel unworthy, there are people out there who would do the same.
Try to remember that it's not the same person, that hopefully you've picked a better person, and treat them as if they are!
I've watched tons of videos on this topic "insecurity and jealousy" but no one explained better than him.
Thanks to you sir.✌️😇
I've learned something from you
May God bless you, this was sooo so helpful, especially the part with "stop believing everything you can imagine" and "stop trying to prevent every uncomfortable situation"
I do this a lot too and it gets me in so much trouble.. 😢 I’m glad to see I’m not Ali e in this and I thank you for your honest post! 😊👍
Before watching this I implemented some of these tips. They are not easy to do. But I will apply all seven daily. Focus on my life and my self esteem. Not the other person. I believe it's also best that instead of letting the jealous thoughts into the relationship, I focus on attraction, connection and bonding with my partner when on the phone or in person. The thought of feeling like a fool if they do infact cheat or micro cheat with someone else behind my back that fear I have to overcome it.
me too .. it's tough
Yes it very tough. My last relationship 10yrs ago my wife cheated on me several times and forgave her now I’m messed up in the head from it. I just talked to my gf like 10mins ago about the jealousy and she said that she’s glad that I’m self aware and appreciates that I’m trying to do better! 1 step closer to overcoming jealousy and insecurity!
This video helped me so much , ever just hear something and something in your head just clicks and you're like ok so what if it doesn't work out life goes on...this let me detach a see this , guess you have to just be ready to accept that but I promise when you do everything changes
That last tip was the most helpful advice I have found in my quest to overcome my jealousy!
How do we do it cuz I’m struggling to imagine him doing everything with a female coworker and not caring 😢
It’s hard but if you can manage it, then you’ll feel powerful enough to be able to handle anything ! 😊
You touched on so many things I’ve been experiencing, thank you!
Wow wow wow! 2:20 you said “the root of jealousy is fear of loss...” this hit the nail 🔨🔩 on the head. I’ve dealt with so much lose since childhood that this is where the root of my jealousy has come from. I made my partner miserable (albeit he did do some things behind my back that I verbally said i forgave him for but in reality I hadn’t) and myself with my suspicions with even him lying about going out and where with his own dad. I wanted more time from him and this was a reasonable request. However, my jealousy might not have made him towards the end of our relationship want more time with me. I need to work on the feelings of fear of loss in order to rid myself of this jealousy streak.
The last part about kevin was so emotional. So happy he turned it around... mime is down to childhood trauma and being with an ex who was so controlling and jealous... he was the one cheating while I was locked in doors.... I know have a new relationship that im fucking up as a result... :( Great video. X
Me too! 🥲 I used to date someone who would accuse me of the craziest things. Turns out he was cheating on me.
Now I’m in a healthy relationship with someone who treats me like a princess but I can’t help but think of him looking at other girls.. or just horrible thoughts that make me distant towards him. I never though I’d be this way and I want to stop 😭
I'm with you both, mine is from childhood trauma and getting into a relationship with an older man at the age of 15 he was 22 but I fell so hard in love with him, but, he was so jealous and possessive, and cheated on me right left and centre, and when I said anything about it he would beat me up, I was so scared of him in the following years, he said he would kill me if I left him. He abused me physically and mentally. When I was 19 I got a court order so he couldn't come near me. He messed my head up so much that I have issues with trust and jealousy, a fear of being deceived, if you want someone else then please leave me alone!.
I have been married for 25 yrs and now divorced, now in another long relationship of 14yrs but still struggling with my issues, it is causing problems in this relationship, I just want to get over it. This video has helped me and I will keep trying.
😢 just try to imagine how special you are and how lucky he is to have you! 😊
Thank you. I will always do the last exercise until i overcome it.
“3. Be prepared to lose them⁉️”
I don’t quite agree with the delivery.
Yes you should acknowledge that your partner has the autonomy to leave you if you take them for granted.
However, a constant readiness to jump ship might cause insecurity in the relationship itself
(I.e) not allowing oneself to fully love someone because they might leave tomorrow, or possibly having “escape routes” ready.
I feel as though people should try their damnedest while seeing a long future with such person. And if anything happens (coupled with the other points made):
One should grieve and feel absolutely devastated by shock and surprise, but also self aware of what went wrong (if anything), and in that grief, re-define their individuality.
Thank you fot this. That exercise about using your imagination to feel good about yourself is so helpful.
This helped so much and made me emotional. I wish I could’ve done this sooner 😔 I hope to apply this to my irrational outbursts of jealousy.
Had an epiphany watching the video. Thank you!
This is an amazing video, thank you for making this and sharing it with the world.
WONDERFUL SIR, "JEALOUSY IS BLIND" 👌
This video was so helpful. Honestly, it benefitted me so much.
I'll never get over jealousy. Im trash 😂
Loved your words though
Mark, you’re the best psychologist I’ve ever known! As a Psy.D. student I always look up to you and get inspired. I am hoping to be as effective as you to my patients. I’m so grateful! Thank you oceans!🙏🌹
I’m not totally sure I would call it jealousy. It does make me jealous, but it is concerning my wife’s big brother when they were younger he tried to take her virginity. It didn’t happen though and they worked it all out so no harm done. But when I found out about this something rolls up inside of me, I tried to explain it jealousy, rage, possessiveness,or a sense of wanting to grudge my wife. It will go years without bothering me and then I will think about it and get stuck on it and jealousy grudge protectiveness. I can’t describe it all like a pit in my stomach.
I don't know that it's jealousy ... it could extreme, justified anger ! The brother needs to be held accountable for what he has done, even if it's psychological (to the wife/sister.). His actions were very sick. I would want to keep him away from my wife. Even the Bible says that we are permitted to have a Righteous Indignation. Talk to God about this issue & have faith that he will help you with it. God bless you. ✝️
This video is gold! I wish I found it five years ago. Thank you so much for this clear explanation and the tips. I'm putting this to use right away. ❤🎉
that hear me out moment was gold
This Man is extremely wise.
I couldn't thank you enough for this and many other videos. But thank you. You saved us both.
It's so easy to say but hard to stop this feelings.
We have to fight.
#7 Calm Detachment of the jealous situation and the negative personal reaction of insecurity.
This was very good and helpful! Just really hard to implement when you are this crazy jealous person...
His voice is so soothing
i literally love this guy hes helped me with this so much and another thing that i couldn't get any help on. Absolutely amazing thank you !
This is a gem of a video 💎 Thank you
Great video, definitely therapeutic. Greetings from Spain
I just want to say thank you for this video it’s definitely given me a amazing start to change how view my problems
Thank you for this video.....I have a wonderful husband, I never doubt his commitment to me.....BUT.....I go crazy when he looks at any attractive woman on the web....tv.....pics.......why??????...why I'm I so crazy?...he treats me like a queen....but I cant handle him even looking at women!.....why.....help me!
Same..
You hate it when he looks at other attractive women because deep down you feel that you aren’t as beautiful as those other women. Deep down you feel that these other women can compete with you, but in your husbands eyes....that isn’t true. If your husband treats you like a queen then he’s doing it for a reason, and that reason is because he loves you. I don’t know your husband or anything, but it’s obvious that if he treats you like a queen then he doesn’t look at these other woman the way he looks at you. Me and my beautiful girlfriend have been together for 9 months and we still get jealous over stuff like that, so I’m not saying that anybody can get over it that fast. But when the time comes, you’ll get over it and realize that he only loves you. It just all has to start with self love. Whenever you see him looking at those women, just tell yourself that you’re better than them. Remember that you’re the only beautiful girl in his eyes. Now I’m not therapist, but I hope this helped or gave you an answer!
@@loriarthur2484 did you tell him you wanted to get treated like a queen? Did you tell him you’re insecure about what he says?
Fantastic, thank you, spot on !!
you have won a new fan and a new follower...... this was gold. Thanks
My gf goes out a lot and has tons of friends. Usually alcohol is involved. Some friends go way back, some are exes, some she met on tinder. She often flirts with them through text. I’ve expressed my concerns but she still does whatever she wants…
Same with my relationship....pretty hard to imagine anything positive in that situation.
She belongs to the streets my man.
this is the best video i have ever seen. helps me a lot. thanks a lot sir. wish you a happy and healthy life.
This video is great thanks 👍. Do you have any specific advice for retroactive jealousy? I've been fighting it for 8 years. I've been listening to your recording related to it at least once a day but because I've been living with this for so long I'm not sure it'll be enough to beat it completely
Can't find any words
Buy I am so thankful. Every step helped me
Incredibly detailed advice. Thank you 🙏🏼
This helped me so much. Thank you so much for this.
What about being jealous of him looking at other women or women online? He’s guilty, and it’s making me feel sick, can’t sleep… Im 58, and they’re 25-30
This was very helpful 🙏
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This video is calmly taught. Thank you.
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I just found this video and I'm so thankful that I did! Thank you for the great tips. Have a nice day 😊
Great input. Thank you for your help
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Thank you for this,i will use your technique and try harder .
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Thank you ❤ Great video I have trust issues
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Fantastic. Thanks.
Number one with no self control and Number two with emotional inteligence.
1.- Imagination > Emotions > Reaction
2.- Imagination > Emotion > Self-regulation > Action
This actually works thank you so much
Very good. Thank you.
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Brilliant video x
Thank you, this is so helpfull!
Thank you! Very useful
It's really very good tips, it helps we understand and to handle other's jealousy.
how common is psychological/irrational jealousy anyway? i've only ever met one person who has had any symptoms similar to these
Youre so soothing ❤ ty
Thank you Thank you Thank you!
How do you stop being jealous when your partner constantly comes to you about other women being interested in him? It difficult to deal with something like this, especially when you have insecurities of their own.
So helpful
Thank you!
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U r a life savior
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It’s fear 💯
This is a lovely video, lots of juice, preferring to be in a polyamorous relationship, and holding people with love, kindness, and compassion, looking after ego, respecting that there's an abundance of love and that we are special in our own way. That we don't have to compare ourselves to others, and that we have our own kingdom, and there's no shortage as we were programmed to believe by society was eye an eye-opener. - More blessings to you Mark :)
I just have to say, when Kevin is truly evolved he will say, "Why deny my partner, who I love, the pleasure of people watching and not having to face a wall? Why not graciously give her the better view and allow her to enjoy the restaurant decor?" This, rather than continuing to objectify her.