I really loved this. Even if I don’t feel pretty, I still am, and so is everyone reading this comment. Feeling beautiful is what really counts, not what others say about it. Do whatever you want, just stay safe ❤️
Totally! What you feel is not always the truth. You are beautiful no matter what your feelings say. But feeling beautiful every day no matter what you see in the mirror is a consistent process that we should practice and you'll be amazed on how this will affect your confidence as well your self-love. xx
Some of the people that I know think they are ugly, and some people find them ugly as well… but i see them as the most gorgeous people ever. As long as u take care of ur health and skin, it’s not a matter of anything but time, you’ll find the person that will see the beauty you cant see in yourself.
I've been told I'm not attractive most of my life. I've had people pretend to ask me out just to laugh at me with their friends. I've had people tell me straight up that they or someone else is just better than me. At this point, why would I believe anything else when I've been told this same thing for nearly 28 years of existing?
I'm so sorry, idk how to help but moving work place and leaving those who bullied u behind really works, I recommend swifting and if u can't you should cut them off be as rude as you can they them to shut up, angry people are always safe I know exactly how it feels and I'm so sorry I really wish I could do something I had a friend who got bullied for looks and her mental health got worse I wish nothing but misery apon those who hurt u
Damn same I've had those same exact scenarios occur, doesn't exactly help literally being told you're ugly and never once been told anything other than that.
I'm so sorry about that 😔 I'm 30 this year and been through similar situations and haven't even dated anyone yet, while my friends have already been in relationships with multiple people by now. Almost everyone of them are settling down to have families. It's just so painful... and I feel like I'm truly losing them because we no longer have things in common and our lives are so different and I'm the only odd one out. I truly feel for you.
"this person is never gonna like me because I'm too ugly" is something that I have always said to myself, maybe it's also an excuse for not to open up an have feelings for that person. Being a teen it's pretty hard on these days; mental health, fake standards on social media, etc it's destroying my self esteem and it's not easy to recognize that you're not feeling okay. :/
I sometimes think “I am too ugly to be around, to be looked at”, and I start self isolating as much as possible. Whenever I’m in a place that I could be being watched I like to detach myself and pretend none of it is real. I recognize this as a damaging and the potential for this to continue on a downward spiral. I will continue to try but energy comes as quickly as it fades.
I used to tell myself this...until the prettiest girl at work (imo the prettiest) said she thought I was cute af (not in front of me, but girls talk lmao). Sadly, she's taken. Story of my life I guess 🤣😅
yeah i used the same excuse because somehow it feels better to blame it on looks, something you cant fully change, verses blaming your attitude and needing to put in the effort to meet people. but its still soemthing i fall back on when my effort doesnt pay off even though i know im average looking so it shouldnt have a negative affect.
Low-key this channel gives the best therapy a person can ever receive.... People are slowly getting to love themselves and see themselves differently in a positive way... Big ups
@Insectavamour What makes you think that people don't love you?? 9 times out of 10, we tell ourselves that other people don't love us. Accept and love who you are and present yourself out there with confidence..... Our minds can be our strongest enemy not other people
This is a good video. However, when you're 33 years old and never had someone that seemed interested in you romantically in your entire life, it's hard to feel secure that you are good looking enough for a relationship and you won't be alone forever.
Try to find people who have the same interests as you, don't beat yourself up,words are spells. Stop telling yourself that, you have other qualities and some women don't care about looks. They care about your character, leave the girls alone and find a Woman. If you're a gamer who plays tabletop D&D look for women who enjoys that. That's the best thing I can tell you. And please don't put yourself down anymore.
@@c.antoniojohnson7114 Thanks for the advice. I don't thinks looks are my problem as much as intimacy issues and confidence. I don't feel like a complete lost cause and I know that things can change, but just saying that's it's really hard not to think this way when you're in that situation. You can tell yourself all the positive affirmations you want but when there's no proof in the pudding, it's hard to believe that what you're telling yourself is true.
@@justrd9 You're welcome,I too have difficulties finding love. I'm a Pagan who is into fantasy,D&D, also video games. It's not my looks. It's the fact I'm considered "weird". I'm sorry, but the Simpsons, family guy,and Bob's burgers is something Im not interested in. Stupidity isn't funny, it's a disability.
I do wonder, have you actually tried to be around people and asked out others? I'm feeling like I'm unattractive but now that I'm thinking about it, I only tried to ask out girls, 2 times. And one time, one actually was interested in my and complemented my style (which I think is the most important think for a guy's attractiveness).
I’ve always had low self esteem, and sometimes I do think that I’m not good enough for a relationship. But this video has really helped me realise what beauty and self love can really be:)
Thanks for this video! I’d like to point out a couple of things: 1. The media still often portrays “beautiful” as skinny, muscular, etc. It’s a major reason why many people lose confidence. They’re so busy comparing themselves to others to stop and realize that many of these “healthy habits” that are being pushed are unrealistic. 2. Negative feelings about one’s attributes don’t go away overnight for most. Many people who think they’re ugly have spent months or even years struggling with that mentality.
Skinny and muscular is not unrealistic. That's done through exercise and good nutrition. There are unrealistic bodies because of eating disorders, drugs, steroids and cosmetic surgery. But general good health is represented through a proportionate body size and muscle.
I completely agree with you. Now we live in a more narcisstic culture with selfies etc it makes it very easy to compare ourselves to others and also how the media portrays beauty through certain celebrities. However behind this media favoured "beauty" you'll find that these people tend to be the most unhappy as they are constantly worrying about how they look.
You can get skinny or muscular. What is unrealistic is Face Beauty Standards, they show you what 5% of the people look like as if it was common, and it's unfair because no matter how hard you try you can't change your face genetics
Everyone says " media show beautiful as skinny girl etc " " and so everyone like only skinny girl " but I've never liked skinny girl like I prefer them a bit bigger than skinny ( I don't know the words I'm not English but you got it ) so it's not because media show something that everyone listen to it or is ok with it
The reason why mental health has declined so much in today’s era is because of social media, you’re constantly looking at people who are more beautiful, more fit and more successful than you. You feel jealousy and insecurity, just delete all social media. It has helped me a lot and now I’m feeling a lot more confident than I used to.
Some people even use TH-cam to make a personal attack on others . It's very hard to catch these individuals. If they weren't minding my personal business they wouldn't have realized that I wasn't perfect. I didn't stand for it , so now I am too assertive. The one way to feel good about yourself is to disable some social media apps.
I never compare myself with people on social media but mostly with my friends. They are what I would rate about 7/10 and girls always ignore me when they are next to me. I don't think deleting social media would change that...
@@aspartam_ have you though that maybe not everyone are like you? And that there are alot of people that unconsciously compare themselves to strangers online? And besides, deleting social media helps with your ability to focus a bit more, but that's just the first step for that.
The worst feeling is realising youll never have a romantic life like in those rom coms in movies you watched when you were young. My inner child dies everytime i think abt that
Thank you for this video. I have felt I was too ugly for a relationship. I lost a lot of weight and still am getting use to my new body and don't feel so confident about it. we all are beautiful and deserve love
through high school, i’ve had people straight up tell me someone looks better than me, got made fun of for my appearance, not having anyone being genuinely interested in me etc. which really hurt my self esteem. these years, a lot of people have taken interest in me and now im dating someone who genuinely sees my true self❤ to anyone who is struggling, it is not your fault for how people treat you. society can be harsh but please believe in yourself, you are not alone💖💖
I have been feeling ugly my entire life because of bullying, resulting in being single my entire life. So, I stopped wanting a relationship and just enjoy my life. I am getting old and life is too short to spend on my couch.
I’ve struggled with this problem for years along with my social anxiety… I can understand how these tips help others but I feel that I can’t tell myself these things and suddenly it magically becomes true… I’ve just turned 25 and not once in my entire life up til now has anyone shown any romantic interest in me… As each day goes by it gets harder and harder to believe it’ll ever happen… I honestly think I’m an incredibly boring, dull person and I can’t just tell myself positive things about myself simply because I believe they’re not true. Rant over… but I truly hope these tips help someone out there
that sounds really painful - i believe going out and talking to people, finding a style you like, a haircut you like, and looking how you wanna look will help. If you have people that spend time with you that shows you are not a boring person, and personally I believe there's no such thing as that. For example, i can have amazing convos with some people and not be able to start one with others but its just because we don't know each other enough and not because I'm boring. If you are interested in dating, dating apps are pretty useful for that and its often easier to talk online first.
The problem is if you've always and everywhere been told you're ugly (or even worse) of course at one point you start to believe it and it's hard to get away from that if people around you still act on that. Plus there exists no nice photo of me so it's really hard for me to believe otherwise... But I know that how you see yourself is not how others see you. And I slowly start to "accept" I can't change anything about it anyway.
Hii, i undwrstand what you're going through and how hard it can be to think positive. But if you are the girl in your profile picture. You're actually really pretty! 😍
I am disabled, in a wheelchair, a bit chubby, have alopecia, and have majorly crooked teeth. Not only have I been bullied first hand, but society as a whole finds these things unattractive... then so do I. Yet when I'm by myself or at home, I personally don't find these things ugly. For me, they're just part of me. But the reason I have insecurities about them is because society says I need to. Food for thought. I found out maybe people don't see our flaws as much as we do. I usually don't smile with teeth because I don't want my crooked teeth to show. So I do a sort of half smile with closed lips, and I guess the insecurity shows. My aunt told me that my natural toothy smile is beautiful and unique, and that it's just a part of the special unique being that is me. So if you're reading this and have anything society says is "ugly"- like crooked teeth, frizzy hair, acne, birthmarks, scars, amputations, hair loss- you are beautiful, no matter what society says. It's part of what makes you, you. And you're pretty awesome, so please know that you deserve all the love. Stay strong, beautiful people. ❤
You are so sweet tbh!not gonna lie,when I saw your profile picture without reading your comment I feel like you are kinda beautiful Don't be sad..ok❤(sorry for my bad English)
I don’t need this video anymore, but I ADORE that it exists. Selfie cameras and social media have a lot to answer for. I felt this way for most of my teen years, even when people told me otherwise I didn’t believe them, until I met a guy who managed to see the beauty and bring out the best in everything and everyone. I finally realised I *was* loveable and became the person I wanted to be. He’s long gone but the confidence he gave me stayed. I’m still single but I don’t let that negate my self worth. I am beautiful, and so, dear reader, are you 💗
Anyone remember when we would be called time travelers for commenting here before it was uploaded? I still love this channel as much as I did back then.
I'm 'ugly' and socially awkward, Every day I have to cope with it. But to let them be gone I just listen to Podcast, make art and listening music. But even then I feel sometimes like worthless for how I look. But I'm trying to get a positive mindset and looking for my interest. And it works. Spend some quality time alone. Its difficult to explain but just listening to some music or podcasts in bed is amazing to give my feelings a boost. I'm ~beginning~ to embrace myself for who I am
@@sencatpuig I had and still have this too, I'm just hoping music, art and podcast works, and I'm staying away from incel shit. And try to focus on my qualities. You should too.
You're not ugly at all. No one is. You've just got to stop telling yourself this lie. We are all beautiful and unique in our own way and discard anyone from your life who tells you otherwise.
@@greenkitty82 I heard a 'friend' talking shit over me (and another), which is just so annoying, and demoralising to hear. Its bad to hear something like that.
@@danilvanlaethem9463 it does hurt when people do that but always remember the issue has nothing to do with you at all. Its their issues that they are projecting onto you. They have low self esteem and low self worth as content confident people dont tear others down like that.
I’ve started a new practice in which I find the parts of myself and my body that I like and take extra good care of them. Then I’m slowly working my way toward the parts I feel neutral toward. Then hopefully one day I’ll get to the parts I dislike. Example: I like my hands. So each night I take the time to thoroughly pamper them with lotion and oils to make myself feel good. If you like your hair, pamper it. Your teeth? Pamper! Your calves? Pamper! Then work your way toward those other parts. You deserve comfort and confidence.
What makes me think I'm too ugly is lack of girls being interested. So the reason isn't from my mind, it's from female actions of rejecting me all my life. So how am I supposed to think not ugly if im always rejected? It can't all just be on me. My thoughts are inspired by others actions towards me. If I'm always told no then I'm obviously going to think it's me. If I was rejected by half but the other half we're into me, I'd just think I'm not what some girls want. But it's every god damn girl, so it has to be me. I've come to the conclusion I'm not going to have kids of get married.
The best thing to do is try to find a girl who has similar interests as you, having something in common is a icebreaker. Focus on the personality,beauty is a waste on a mentally ugly person. Of course you need some attraction, but it's not the most important thing.
@@c.antoniojohnson7114 Personality is the man thing i do focus on. Them being attractive is what makes me want to know their personalities. If their personality sucks, it don't matter how hot they are. I wouldn't be into them.
This sounds on the surface like placation. Some people actually have family and strangers tell them they are ugly. People are superficial and do treat others as outcasts, or don't bother to care. For those of you, I'm sorry they missed out on getting to know you. This won't change so, modern science, money, fame... you have to create your happiness and roll with it, like I have to.
This is what I'm thinking too much lately. There were some guys who showed their interest, but I just can't get into the idea of giving the same attention they were giving me because I don't think I have the right. I even liked that one guy, but I avoided him thinking he deserves someone much better. I just can't find myself attractive or enough in any way to be with anyone.
the reason that i know it is .nobody ever wanted/liked me in any more that a basic friend that got dropt when they dont need me any more. after 29 year and still no experience on every level of any relations schip , no dates not even can land a single match on an dating app. it is hard loving ppl while no one loves you back. and yes im starting to give up the hope that i will be loved by someone, im giving up on love and ppl it self. but all i want is just to know what it feels like being loved by someone for once in my life, just to know it is worth all the pain to find someone
For me its a combination of low self esteem being socially awkward and the fear of being falsely accused again. Not sure what to do about the last one.
Honestly today my mind barraged me with really negative thoughts about my appearance. I needed to watch this so my mind can return to reality. I'm really glad I'm subscribed to this channel. The advice is really helpful ♥️
This channel is really helpful in these uncertain times we live in. There's no such thing as a completely sane person,we all have our idiosyncrasies and qirks. No two people are meant to be exactly the same. Societal definition of what is unattractive is unrealistic and very damaging, especially for young women. Everyone IS beautiful,I look at quality of character before a pretty face.
That's great and all, buy I know that I'm a solid 3/10. "Changing my perspective" isn't going to change that fact and the fact that nobody wants someone like that.
My ex-crush once called me "ugly" in a humorous way publically on a Facebook post, that time I cried whole night and straight up accepted the fact that I am ugly and no one will ever want me and I was happy with it being that way. Fast forward to today (4 years later), 6-7 guys confessed that they really like me and I believe that is solely based on the fact that I accepted the way I am and feeling confident in myself without having to change anything about me. Guys just because someone makes fun of your appearance doesn't mean its a fact, learn to endure it and embrace it with pride, the right person hasn't entered in your life yet.
I'm sorry this happened to you but I am proud that you learned a valuable lesson through this experience. Other people's opinions should never be the basis of your self-love and confidence. It should come from you! More power to your self-love journey! xx
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I realize now that when I’m at school I am super insecure about how I look and no guys seem to like me but when I’m out of school with my friends or my siblings I don’t have that on my mind and guys ask for my snap and my number even if I don’t even know them and this video definitely helped me see that.
When I look at myself in the mirror and I thought I looks good.. so I will go outside and be confident.. and stuff .. and even assume girls who look at me have some slightly crush at me.. until I saw a pic of myself .. then realize ..oh so I’m not as this good looking as i thought huh.. and my confident level went down. Sad stuff .. wish our own mirror self was our real looks and what people saw us.
I've always felt like I'm too unattractive for a relationship... People would always compare me to my brother or other guys. And every single time, the consensus was that those other guys were always cuter or more attractive. It kinda stung to hear that whenever people had to choose between me or someone else, they'd always choose someone else. I'm also a theater kid, and I generally don't like watching videos of my performances. When I'm onstage, everything feels perfect. But when I watch a video of that performance, I realize that I looked cringe. Not to mention, whenever we had to sing for a piece, my classmates would tell me to shut up and stop singing. And I agree that my voice is just overall really bad, and I think it's because I breathe through my chest (as dancers do) rather than through my diaphragm. In my eyes and ears, I look bad and sound bad. And I don't really blame people for always choosing someone else because I wouldn't choose me either.
if you know that you sing bad because you breathe through your chest you should learn how to breath through your diaphragm. I don't know much about singing but if others can do it i bet you can too. Ngl saying "i wouldn't choose me either" sounds like a pick me boy. Ik that harsh to say but it can come off like that so I truly believe that if you stop prioritizing relationships and instead work on yourself to get yourself to something YOU like, others will start to like you too. Also if your brother is older theres a chance you will get a glow up soon. Also why are people choosing between you and someone else? If people just randomly say that then they are likely rude and not people you want to be around.
i feel you, the feeling of being a “backup plan” stings so much, and i had a panic attack back when my school broadcasted my drama performance from before, without my consent, to eveyrbody at school. i did not hesitate to run to the bathroom and i hid there until the end of the day.
@@sarahlaux calling someone a pick me while their mental health is already low, is the least thing you should do. You gave give advice to someone or tell them what they have to improve about their thinking instead of bringing them down even more
Problem is I’ve openly been told that I am lol, unless they were just wanting a one night stand. I’m not ashamed about it anymore tho, I have a lot of other awesome qualities. Usually people don’t care about them, which is part of why I’m single, but whatever. That’s on them, not me.
Omg I kid you not this channel gives me more help and comfort way more than what camhs does honestly all they tell me is if I feel “down” that’s what they refer depression as they will said to me have a hot bath or go for a walk like what. But this channel actually helps in so many ways you don’t even know. Thank you 💗
Appearance and Height didn’t roll too high for me. As soon as someone looks at me, I’m already feeling like they’re judging and decided I’m not good enough.
One of the many things I feel insecure about is the gap between my upper front teeth, for example I never dare to have an "open" smile. One day an ex colleague told me that it's more a feature than a flaw and that it gives me a "modern and edgy" look. She thought it's pretty cool and unique. That was so nice of her.
@@bobros2736 we have a long history with the women in my family of being obsessed with looks and being overweight to the point where it's way over the top
I felt like my body was not overweight but had a larger than average stomach which stuck out in the mirror. I was confused as I am a generally sporty person (running, basketball, football/soccer, rugby etc) this video encouraged me to face this and ask a family member about it. Turns out that one of my ribs on one side sticks out an abnormal amount compared to the other one and thats what was wrong. Going to a doctors appointment in a few weeks to see if its anything to worry about, thanks again for this video and the help it gave me, I will update this comment if its something serious otherwise assume the best!
It's important to remember that [A reason] you are beautiful because no matter who you are, or where you've come from, or what you've done, you have a story that is your very own, perfectly unique to you, and all that you've experienced, has been yours and yours alone, though often shared in proximity to others, never quite like your own. So like a the original raw recording of a song, or an original painting with the actual artist's oil or acrylic on the canvas, or the very celluloid that captured the light... there will never be another... and we're so brief in time and so unlimited in scope. Such a shame that there's so much that tends to keep us from truly living freely in the moment; careless and natural
Just from my experience, I believe people made me feel ugly growing up, which is why I hide myself away from a lot of people. Rather wear a mask than be out in public but either way, I feel I will get judgmental looks no matter what, and I'm the hyper-aware type.
What would help me is to know what I can do to feel more secure. I already know I'm insecure and don't feel worthy of the love, affection and attention of anyone I'm attracted to. I feel like I don't deserve to be in a relationship with someone who I find attractive because my experience has proven time and time again that I'll be rejected.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Just note, there is someone out there for everyone and you are worthy. We made this video a few years ago on insecurity. I hope this might help you! th-cam.com/video/DdJYwXPdAec/w-d-xo.html
i feel like working on yourself might help till you feel worthy? thats probably not helpful. But what does help is first of all it seems like your paying only attention to people who don't like you and there are probuably people who do like you that you dont give as much attention to. Also getting rejected doesn't mean your are not worthy of them, it just means that you both may not go well together. You look pretty if that you on your profile so I think you can pay attention to how you act around peope you like (some people compleatly switch up their personality on accident which causes the other person not to like them, even if they would have liked their real personality). Also if theres an Ex that had a negative affect on your self view they likely just arent a great person.
I've come to the realization that love is just a one way street. I give unconditional love to my daughter, and I'm responsible for my students and that's it. My only fulfillment in life I can expect is the effort I make toward others. If I can make others lives better then maybe I won't feel so worthless. I realize I'm not worth effort. I'm too broken, defective, and ugly. Even my parents think I'm not worth giving a crap about. I've asked out women and I just get rejected. I don't have the energy to try anymore. My daughter is the only real reason I bother with my life. She has lots of friends and everyone just adores her. I can at least be glad she won't suffer from the same misery I feel.
i sent my crush a picture of me and my friends where i felt really pretty in and he called me ugly in the dress i was wearing in the picture. i realised i looked kinda weird.. now i've got myself moody for the whole week.
When I was in a relationship, I was always told that I looked bad with my hair tied. I felt a little upset about it at first but then I confidently started tying up my hair every time. Later he started me to see beautiful in that way. (Your beauty is not decided by others, it's decided by you yourself)☄️❤️
I feel like I’m ugly, but in terms of everything else I’m fairly confident and doing well. I just haven’t able to shake the self-image I’ve created for me
No words are more important then the words you tell yourself. Tell yourself you look fab, tell yourself you deserve great relationships etc and you'll start to feel more confident. And if your confident already, the right people will pick up on that as confidence and being good at things is very attractive.
@@greenkitty82 Thank you for the advice and encouragement, I appreciate it! I’ve been getting better at it slowly but surely. People I work with and go to school with really like me for the most part
@@admirbarucija2018 you are very welcome and the fact that people like you already is very encouraging to hear. You just need to tell yourself you are worthy and deserve the best. Noone else can do that except you and the more you like yourself and have that confidence the more people will find themselves gravitate towards you.
@@greenkitty82 You’re absolutely right, I need to remember that moving forward. :) There’s a reason people seem to be drawn to me and I do make an impact on the world. Sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of that in the moment, but I need to keep the big picture in mind. Hope you’re doing well!
Wow. You can't even believe how much I needed this. I guess the self doubts of my looks came when I was on a dating app and matched with a girl who insulted me because of my weight.
yall this is the best therapy sentences ive ever heard in my life.. now im reading the comments and half of the people are still saying that heyre ugly and ect. but like listen to it again ! If u have moles like i do and ur inseure about them, just enjoy life having that thought that when u grow up and u realllly dont like them u can always remove it!:)
Timestamps: 1. 0:50 - Where did these feelings come from? 2. 1:33 - What do I do with these feelings? 3. 2:21 - Why you should care? 4. 3:24 - Long story short ( You are beautiful inside and out )
People who make these things often mean well, but magnetism and appeal are God-given to some, and withheld from others. End of story. So many try to uplift, not knowing how much they take for granted.
I’m struggling because I don’t really have a funny or witty personality, and not that great of a voice. Being ugly and having not much else to go with it, sucks a lot. I’m trying my best to change this view, but I just can’t seem to see myself in any other light.
I've always been told by whoever I was interested in, that they only like me as a friend. So that's why I've always felt that I'm just not pretty enough for guys and that nobody will want me.
This is the most beautiful video I've ever watched in yt today. I love the ending messages very much. As someone who deals with this, this is very calming and comforting. It motivated me to change the way I look at myself. Thank you very much!
I avoid relationships and keep telling everyone that is is because I m not that kind of person that likes to settle down but thats not the reality , recently my crush told me he likes me and I couldn't reply because I felt like I way too ugly yo be in a relationship and now I get it where this came from this video really helped me thankyou
Biggest reason I feel insecure is the constant stream of negativity on social media and a complete and total lack of positivity. It's tough to get that positive feedback as a man, since we rarely get complimented on our appearance. But I've also had times when people have complimented me on my appearance but I haven't believed them, so to speak. For instance, I've had a bunch of times people have complimented me on my beard when I thought it was too frizzy or thin looking on that particular day. So then I process the compliment as insincere, which further deepens the insecurity. I have to tell myself that being overly self-critical is a flaw virtually everybody has, and they wouldn't be complimenting me if they didn't mean it.
@@Willow-fk4kp try exactly what? pretend that you are a happy-go-lucky person that is confident and believes in herself - how long can you keep that mask before you fall apart? I couldn't stand exposing myself to anyone and risk being rejected in that moment. That kind of humiliation, I couldn't live with it. Alternative is to pretend you don't care about relationships, and keep that kind of mask and a shred of dignity.
I’ve finally learned how to love myself. Now I’m totally fine being single for the time being. I expect my dating life to take off in due time, just keep grinding and working on myself!
Well I want to thank you very much for all of this videos. I've always been insecure about my face and body (I'm overweight). When I was little I was always insulted as fat (and if was bald, I was called the sun), your questions put me into perspective and realised that well, couple years ago there was a girl who flirted with me but you know how men are, years later until I understood what she was doing. Anyway, I appreciate your videos and have been helping me trying to get into shape.
as much as i really want to be liked by someone, i just know that it isn’t going to happen. it’s an unrealistic expectation and i am still accepting that i am kind of doomed to be alone
every relationship has just proved to hurt me...thats why i prefer being single for now what is the right way to date someone...cuz it just ends in a hurtful way every single time.
I really loved this. Even if I don’t feel pretty, I still am, and so is everyone reading this comment. Feeling beautiful is what really counts, not what others say about it. Do whatever you want, just stay safe ❤️
So lovely of you to say so
I agree 100%
Totally! What you feel is not always the truth. You are beautiful no matter what your feelings say. But feeling beautiful every day no matter what you see in the mirror is a consistent process that we should practice and you'll be amazed on how this will affect your confidence as well your self-love. xx
Yeah! Love the positive energy! Let's all stay positive and spread lots of love!!!
And...what what if you feel "not pretty" not because others said, but because you believe it, and even worse, you are?
Im not body ugly, im face ugly, cant fix that
Same. But surgery can. Of course it’s very time consuming and expensive but imo it’d be worth it. I’d finally feel human.
@@lollol-g5s8p i am both face and body 😂
Some of the people that I know think they are ugly, and some people find them ugly as well… but i see them as the most gorgeous people ever. As long as u take care of ur health and skin, it’s not a matter of anything but time, you’ll find the person that will see the beauty you cant see in yourself.
Exactly same here as well
@@NSN-qy4sf I think if someone truly loves you , he won’t care if your face and body are ugly or not, attraction doesn’t necessarily mean love🙂
I can’t even imagine someone loving me romantically. Everyone around me has found the love of their lives and I haven’t even had a kiss
Treu
God this is too relatable
Just take a shower with tactical soap bro
@@socramzetroc1535 "Although shower will improve your hygiene they cannot wash away flaws beneath the skin" - Wheat Waffles
M very ugly too 😢😢😢 yrr
I've been told I'm not attractive most of my life. I've had people pretend to ask me out just to laugh at me with their friends. I've had people tell me straight up that they or someone else is just better than me. At this point, why would I believe anything else when I've been told this same thing for nearly 28 years of existing?
I'm so sorry, idk how to help but moving work place and leaving those who bullied u behind really works, I recommend swifting and if u can't you should cut them off be as rude as you can they them to shut up, angry people are always safe I know exactly how it feels and I'm so sorry I really wish I could do something I had a friend who got bullied for looks and her mental health got worse I wish nothing but misery apon those who hurt u
Damn same I've had those same exact scenarios occur, doesn't exactly help literally being told you're ugly and never once been told anything other than that.
I'm so sorry about that 😔 I'm 30 this year and been through similar situations and haven't even dated anyone yet, while my friends have already been in relationships with multiple people by now. Almost everyone of them are settling down to have families. It's just so painful... and I feel like I'm truly losing them because we no longer have things in common and our lives are so different and I'm the only odd one out. I truly feel for you.
@Lauren Lewis I avoid talking to people if I can help it. Less chance of being insulted or having to deal with passive aggressiveness.
@Lauren Lewis I have a small circle and I've already spiralled.
"this person is never gonna like me because I'm too ugly" is something that I have always said to myself, maybe it's also an excuse for not to open up an have feelings for that person. Being a teen it's pretty hard on these days; mental health, fake standards on social media, etc it's destroying my self esteem and it's not easy to recognize that you're not feeling okay. :/
I sometimes think “I am too ugly to be around, to be looked at”, and I start self isolating as much as possible. Whenever I’m in a place that I could be being watched I like to detach myself and pretend none of it is real.
I recognize this as a damaging and the potential for this to continue on a downward spiral. I will continue to try but energy comes as quickly as it fades.
me too, the covid has made everything much more difficult, I always use the mask to cover my face and I can't help it
I used to tell myself this...until the prettiest girl at work (imo the prettiest) said she thought I was cute af (not in front of me, but girls talk lmao).
Sadly, she's taken. Story of my life I guess 🤣😅
yeah i used the same excuse because somehow it feels better to blame it on looks, something you cant fully change, verses blaming your attitude and needing to put in the effort to meet people. but its still soemthing i fall back on when my effort doesnt pay off even though i know im average looking so it shouldnt have a negative affect.
@@-unsigned2706 me too, the covid has made everything much more difficult, I always use the mask to cover my face and I help it
I do not feel ugly
I am ugly !!
Same
Exactly! Same!
Daamn that sad and funny at the same time
Your not ugly your just in your own head thinking that
Relatable
Low-key this channel gives the best therapy a person can ever receive.... People are slowly getting to love themselves and see themselves differently in a positive way... Big ups
I so much agree
@Insectavamour No you not one day someone will love you immensely for who you are just be positive there can't always be dark days 😊
@Insectavamour You're unlovable by others if you don't love yourself..... Learn to love yourself first before you feel loved by other people.
@Insectavamour What makes you think that people don't love you?? 9 times out of 10, we tell ourselves that other people don't love us. Accept and love who you are and present yourself out there with confidence..... Our minds can be our strongest enemy not other people
@Insectavamour Well, then make peace with that.
This is a good video. However, when you're 33 years old and never had someone that seemed interested in you romantically in your entire life, it's hard to feel secure that you are good looking enough for a relationship and you won't be alone forever.
Yes
Try to find people who have the same interests as you, don't beat yourself up,words are spells. Stop telling yourself that, you have other qualities and some women don't care about looks. They care about your character, leave the girls alone and find a Woman. If you're a gamer who plays tabletop D&D look for women who enjoys that. That's the best thing I can tell you. And please don't put yourself down anymore.
@@c.antoniojohnson7114 Thanks for the advice. I don't thinks looks are my problem as much as intimacy issues and confidence. I don't feel like a complete lost cause and I know that things can change, but just saying that's it's really hard not to think this way when you're in that situation. You can tell yourself all the positive affirmations you want but when there's no proof in the pudding, it's hard to believe that what you're telling yourself is true.
@@justrd9 You're welcome,I too have difficulties finding love. I'm a Pagan who is into fantasy,D&D, also video games. It's not my looks. It's the fact I'm considered "weird". I'm sorry, but the Simpsons, family guy,and Bob's burgers is something Im not interested in. Stupidity isn't funny, it's a disability.
I do wonder, have you actually tried to be around people and asked out others?
I'm feeling like I'm unattractive but now that I'm thinking about it, I only tried to ask out girls, 2 times. And one time, one actually was interested in my and complemented my style (which I think is the most important think for a guy's attractiveness).
I’ve always had low self esteem, and sometimes I do think that I’m not good enough for a relationship. But this video has really helped me realise what beauty and self love can really be:)
Release your Inner beauty
Same here!
@@internationalentertainment6906 Only outward beauty matters. These videos are created for desperate below average lonely people.
I dont believe in self love because I've been a dumpster fire with my looks for around 8 years
@@slayer-arc1 Same
Thanks for this video! I’d like to point out a couple of things:
1. The media still often portrays “beautiful” as skinny, muscular, etc. It’s a major reason why many people lose confidence. They’re so busy comparing themselves to others to stop and realize that many of these “healthy habits” that are being pushed are unrealistic.
2. Negative feelings about one’s attributes don’t go away overnight for most. Many people who think they’re ugly have spent months or even years struggling with that mentality.
Skinny and muscular is not unrealistic. That's done through exercise and good nutrition. There are unrealistic bodies because of eating disorders, drugs, steroids and cosmetic surgery. But general good health is represented through a proportionate body size and muscle.
I completely agree with you. Now we live in a more narcisstic culture with selfies etc it makes it very easy to compare ourselves to others and also how the media portrays beauty through certain celebrities. However behind this media favoured "beauty" you'll find that these people tend to be the most unhappy as they are constantly worrying about how they look.
You can get skinny or muscular. What is unrealistic is Face Beauty Standards, they show you what 5% of the people look like as if it was common, and it's unfair because no matter how hard you try you can't change your face genetics
Everyone says " media show beautiful as skinny girl etc " " and so everyone like only skinny girl " but I've never liked skinny girl like I prefer them a bit bigger than skinny ( I don't know the words I'm not English but you got it ) so it's not because media show something that everyone listen to it or is ok with it
@@jeremvfx you mean thicc?
The reason why mental health has declined so much in today’s era is because of social media, you’re constantly looking at people who are more beautiful, more fit and more successful than you. You feel jealousy and insecurity, just delete all social media. It has helped me a lot and now I’m feeling a lot more confident than I used to.
Some people even use TH-cam to make a personal attack on others . It's very hard to catch these individuals. If they weren't minding my personal business they wouldn't have realized that I wasn't perfect. I didn't stand for it , so now I am too assertive. The one way to feel good about yourself is to disable some social media apps.
It’s not only on social media It can be irl as well.. I even wish to be someone else that is walking down the street
@@taesrose9028 you’re more exposed to it on the internet
I never compare myself with people on social media but mostly with my friends. They are what I would rate about 7/10 and girls always ignore me when they are next to me. I don't think deleting social media would change that...
@@aspartam_ have you though that maybe not everyone are like you? And that there are alot of people that unconsciously compare themselves to strangers online? And besides, deleting social media helps with your ability to focus a bit more, but that's just the first step for that.
The worst feeling is realising youll never have a romantic life like in those rom coms in movies you watched when you were young. My inner child dies everytime i think abt that
I've been told I was too ugly to even being alive. This was in childhood into adulthood.
Me to but them people are just toxic don't suround yourself with them people
Same 😔
Thank you for this video. I have felt I was too ugly for a relationship. I lost a lot of weight and still am getting use to my new body and don't feel so confident about it. we all are beautiful and deserve love
"Where did these feelings come from?" The mirror
the camera 😔
I feel too particular for a relationship, that means I don't think I have that big amount of chances
Less options means it's easier to find the right one
Anyone has a chance you don't have to look good to find someone you wanna see the people where I live you just gotta be you be confident
Someone please notice my comment.🥺
@@doctorvladandhisbluejaysd2802 I'm not sure she wanted it from you 🤭
@@mickey_blewmymind8178 hey you ok
0:50 Where did these feelings come from?
1:35 What do i do with these feelings?
2:21 Why you should care?
3:28 You are beautiful
@@user40ココ you can make shapes with your forehead, be grateful.
I use to say that beauty is health. Just care yourself, keep healthy and you will look attractive.
I've seen a lot of wierd names on the internet, but yours takes the cake🎂
HOW IS THIS COMMENT FROM 4 WEEKS AGO!?
@@douglasbullet6456 Thanks
I've felt too ugly for a relationship my entire life.
Same
I will take plastic surgery
@@Mohammedangel2999please don’t. It’s not the right decision
This video should be called "Comforting Lies."
These videos will never be able to be taken seriously until they accept beauty is objective
through high school, i’ve had people straight up tell me someone looks better than me, got made fun of for my appearance, not having anyone being genuinely interested in me etc. which really hurt my self esteem. these years, a lot of people have taken interest in me and now im dating someone who genuinely sees my true self❤ to anyone who is struggling, it is not your fault for how people treat you. society can be harsh but please believe in yourself, you are not alone💖💖
I don't care about relationships, I just don't want to be called names when I go somewhere
Damn u sem like a chill guy ngl I woulve liked to hangout haha
Lol the comment section of a TH-cam video is the last place you wanna look, bub.
I have been feeling ugly my entire life because of bullying, resulting in being single my entire life. So, I stopped wanting a relationship and just enjoy my life. I am getting old and life is too short to spend on my couch.
great perspective
I’ve struggled with this problem for years along with my social anxiety… I can understand how these tips help others but I feel that I can’t tell myself these things and suddenly it magically becomes true… I’ve just turned 25 and not once in my entire life up til now has anyone shown any romantic interest in me… As each day goes by it gets harder and harder to believe it’ll ever happen… I honestly think I’m an incredibly boring, dull person and I can’t just tell myself positive things about myself simply because I believe they’re not true.
Rant over… but I truly hope these tips help someone out there
Welcome home, brother.
Hi mirror
i feel exactly the same
@Ugli PurrltatoTM kinda only half true, we live in a society and you wanna take part in that. so we kinda depend on other people
that sounds really painful - i believe going out and talking to people, finding a style you like, a haircut you like, and looking how you wanna look will help. If you have people that spend time with you that shows you are not a boring person, and personally I believe there's no such thing as that. For example, i can have amazing convos with some people and not be able to start one with others but its just because we don't know each other enough and not because I'm boring. If you are interested in dating, dating apps are pretty useful for that and its often easier to talk online first.
The problem is if you've always and everywhere been told you're ugly (or even worse) of course at one point you start to believe it and it's hard to get away from that if people around you still act on that. Plus there exists no nice photo of me so it's really hard for me to believe otherwise... But I know that how you see yourself is not how others see you. And I slowly start to "accept" I can't change anything about it anyway.
Get away from people who tell you that "you're ugly!" They are neither your friends nor people you can trust.
Hii, i undwrstand what you're going through and how hard it can be to think positive. But if you are the girl in your profile picture. You're actually really pretty! 😍
Treu
I am disabled, in a wheelchair, a bit chubby, have alopecia, and have majorly crooked teeth. Not only have I been bullied first hand, but society as a whole finds these things unattractive... then so do I. Yet when I'm by myself or at home, I personally don't find these things ugly. For me, they're just part of me. But the reason I have insecurities about them is because society says I need to. Food for thought.
I found out maybe people don't see our flaws as much as we do. I usually don't smile with teeth because I don't want my crooked teeth to show. So I do a sort of half smile with closed lips, and I guess the insecurity shows. My aunt told me that my natural toothy smile is beautiful and unique, and that it's just a part of the special unique being that is me.
So if you're reading this and have anything society says is "ugly"- like crooked teeth, frizzy hair, acne, birthmarks, scars, amputations, hair loss- you are beautiful, no matter what society says. It's part of what makes you, you. And you're pretty awesome, so please know that you deserve all the love. Stay strong, beautiful people. ❤
Wish you good luck! Sending my love to you and everyone else that needs it! ❤❤❤
I'm so sorry for you. I'm literally tearing up rn😢
@@bigpal don't feel sorry kind stranger. i'll be okay! and so will you. 💕
Your comment is so beautiful thank you for sharing
You are so sweet tbh!not gonna lie,when I saw your profile picture without reading your comment I feel like you are kinda beautiful
Don't be sad..ok❤(sorry for my bad English)
One of the worst feelings is being told that your sibling is very handsome and that you're just nice.
I don’t need this video anymore, but I ADORE that it exists. Selfie cameras and social media have a lot to answer for. I felt this way for most of my teen years, even when people told me otherwise I didn’t believe them, until I met a guy who managed to see the beauty and bring out the best in everything and everyone. I finally realised I *was* loveable and became the person I wanted to be. He’s long gone but the confidence he gave me stayed. I’m still single but I don’t let that negate my self worth. I am beautiful, and so, dear reader, are you 💗
" Everyone will love you once you are gone , so love yourself "
-Me
"If you are ugly, you are ugly stop talking about inner beauty men don't walk around with x rays to see your inner beauty"
- Robert Mugabe
Bro ain't no fcking way that the former president of Zimbabwe said that
real
Anyone remember when we would be called time travelers for commenting here before it was uploaded? I still love this channel as much as I did back then.
Bro has the DeLorean 💀
Someone please notice my comment.🥺
@@rowanpittman5493 I commented on how I was abused in a psych ward. I'm hoping to spread awareness of this type of abuse.
@@mickey_blewmymind8178 I'm sorry to hear about that 😔
@@doctorvladandhisbluejaysd2802 Thank you.
I'm 'ugly' and socially awkward,
Every day I have to cope with it.
But to let them be gone I just listen to Podcast, make art and listening music.
But even then I feel sometimes like worthless for how I look. But I'm trying to get a positive mindset and looking for my interest. And it works. Spend some quality time alone. Its difficult to explain but just listening to some music or podcasts in bed is amazing to give my feelings a boost.
I'm ~beginning~ to embrace myself for who I am
@@sencatpuig I had and still have this too, I'm just hoping music, art and podcast works, and I'm staying away from incel shit. And try to focus on my qualities. You should too.
You're not ugly at all. No one is. You've just got to stop telling yourself this lie. We are all beautiful and unique in our own way and discard anyone from your life who tells you otherwise.
@@greenkitty82 I heard a 'friend' talking shit over me (and another), which is just so annoying, and demoralising to hear. Its bad to hear something like that.
@@danilvanlaethem9463 it does hurt when people do that but always remember the issue has nothing to do with you at all. Its their issues that they are projecting onto you. They have low self esteem and low self worth as content confident people dont tear others down like that.
@@greenkitty82 you're right, we'll im just going to mind my own business and yeah still, it needs time.
I’ve started a new practice in which I find the parts of myself and my body that I like and take extra good care of them. Then I’m slowly working my way toward the parts I feel neutral toward. Then hopefully one day I’ll get to the parts I dislike. Example: I like my hands. So each night I take the time to thoroughly pamper them with lotion and oils to make myself feel good. If you like your hair, pamper it. Your teeth? Pamper! Your calves? Pamper! Then work your way toward those other parts. You deserve comfort and confidence.
What makes me think I'm too ugly is lack of girls being interested. So the reason isn't from my mind, it's from female actions of rejecting me all my life.
So how am I supposed to think not ugly if im always rejected? It can't all just be on me. My thoughts are inspired by others actions towards me. If I'm always told no then I'm obviously going to think it's me.
If I was rejected by half but the other half we're into me, I'd just think I'm not what some girls want.
But it's every god damn girl, so it has to be me. I've come to the conclusion I'm not going to have kids of get married.
The best thing to do is try to find a girl who has similar interests as you, having something in common is a icebreaker. Focus on the personality,beauty is a waste on a mentally ugly person. Of course you need some attraction, but it's not the most important thing.
@@c.antoniojohnson7114 Personality is the man thing i do focus on. Them being attractive is what makes me want to know their personalities. If their personality sucks, it don't matter how hot they are. I wouldn't be into them.
@@RockBoBsteRMusic You will find someone wonderful, you care about what really matters.
There is someone out there for everyone. I know this isn’t much coming from a random internet person. But you are perfect.
@@c.antoniojohnson7114don't give people false hope.
I don’t feel ugly or think I’m ugly, I just am ugly. But that’s ok, I don’t need the approval of random people to feel happy.
This sounds on the surface like placation. Some people actually have family and strangers tell them they are ugly. People are superficial and do treat others as outcasts, or don't bother to care.
For those of you, I'm sorry they missed out on getting to know you. This won't change so, modern science, money, fame... you have to create your happiness and roll with it, like I have to.
Not to say sex and a relationship are the same thing
Love needs to be earned and I've done nothing to deserve it.
Then earn it
This is what I'm thinking too much lately. There were some guys who showed their interest, but I just can't get into the idea of giving the same attention they were giving me because I don't think I have the right. I even liked that one guy, but I avoided him thinking he deserves someone much better. I just can't find myself attractive or enough in any way to be with anyone.
the reason that i know it is .nobody ever wanted/liked me in any more that a basic friend that got dropt when they dont need me any more. after 29 year and still no experience on every level of any relations schip , no dates not even can land a single match on an dating app. it is hard loving ppl while no one loves you back. and yes im starting to give up the hope that i will be loved by someone, im giving up on love and ppl it self. but all i want is just to know what it feels like being loved by someone for once in my life, just to know it is worth all the pain to find someone
My girlfriend feels this way a lot. So I’m gonna send this to her
Everytime i see myself in mirror, my whole body burns with sadness. I'm so tired now.😢
There is always an expectation.....I am it.
For me its a combination of low self esteem being socially awkward and the fear of being falsely accused again. Not sure what to do about the last one.
Honestly today my mind barraged me with really negative thoughts about my appearance. I needed to watch this so my mind can return to reality. I'm really glad I'm subscribed to this channel. The advice is really helpful ♥️
I'm so glad! Thank you for your support!
This channel is really helpful in these uncertain times we live in. There's no such thing as a completely sane person,we all have our idiosyncrasies and qirks. No two people are meant to be exactly the same. Societal definition of what is unattractive is unrealistic and very damaging, especially for young women. Everyone IS beautiful,I look at quality of character before a pretty face.
Yes honestly i dont blame people to saying meh ugly because truth is truth
That's great and all, buy I know that I'm a solid 3/10. "Changing my perspective" isn't going to change that fact and the fact that nobody wants someone like that.
My ex-crush once called me "ugly" in a humorous way publically on a Facebook post, that time I cried whole night and straight up accepted the fact that I am ugly and no one will ever want me and I was happy with it being that way. Fast forward to today (4 years later), 6-7 guys confessed that they really like me and I believe that is solely based on the fact that I accepted the way I am and feeling confident in myself without having to change anything about me. Guys just because someone makes fun of your appearance doesn't mean its a fact, learn to endure it and embrace it with pride, the right person hasn't entered in your life yet.
Facts I had the samething happen to me as well with my first crush but it was in elementary school
I got rejected
I'm sorry this happened to you but I am proud that you learned a valuable lesson through this experience. Other people's opinions should never be the basis of your self-love and confidence. It should come from you! More power to your self-love journey! xx
that might happen to me except without the 6-7 people confessing that they like me and more like the former
I accepted myself and for years nothing happened so i began having even worse doubts after that
Vid #3 of trying to request a video highlighting the following topics:
1. What you can do if you can't access therapy.
2. Signs your therapist might be harming rather then helping your mental health.
3. What to do in life situations that a therapist cannot fix.
I realize now that when I’m at school I am super insecure about how I look and no guys seem to like me but when I’m out of school with my friends or my siblings I don’t have that on my mind and guys ask for my snap and my number even if I don’t even know them and this video definitely helped me see that.
What if you’re just ugly 💀😭.
In my opinion where a suit
When I look at myself in the mirror and I thought I looks good.. so I will go outside and be confident.. and stuff .. and even assume girls who look at me have some slightly crush at me.. until I saw a pic of myself .. then realize ..oh so I’m not as this good looking as i thought huh.. and my confident level went down. Sad stuff .. wish our own mirror self was our real looks and what people saw us.
100%
We may not have it altogether...but together we have it all!
I've always felt like I'm too unattractive for a relationship...
People would always compare me to my brother or other guys. And every single time, the consensus was that those other guys were always cuter or more attractive. It kinda stung to hear that whenever people had to choose between me or someone else, they'd always choose someone else.
I'm also a theater kid, and I generally don't like watching videos of my performances. When I'm onstage, everything feels perfect. But when I watch a video of that performance, I realize that I looked cringe.
Not to mention, whenever we had to sing for a piece, my classmates would tell me to shut up and stop singing. And I agree that my voice is just overall really bad, and I think it's because I breathe through my chest (as dancers do) rather than through my diaphragm.
In my eyes and ears, I look bad and sound bad. And I don't really blame people for always choosing someone else because I wouldn't choose me either.
if you know that you sing bad because you breathe through your chest you should learn how to breath through your diaphragm. I don't know much about singing but if others can do it i bet you can too. Ngl saying "i wouldn't choose me either" sounds like a pick me boy. Ik that harsh to say but it can come off like that so I truly believe that if you stop prioritizing relationships and instead work on yourself to get yourself to something YOU like, others will start to like you too. Also if your brother is older theres a chance you will get a glow up soon. Also why are people choosing between you and someone else? If people just randomly say that then they are likely rude and not people you want to be around.
i feel you, the feeling of being a “backup plan” stings so much, and i had a panic attack back when my school broadcasted my drama performance from before, without my consent, to eveyrbody at school. i did not hesitate to run to the bathroom and i hid there until the end of the day.
@@sarahlaux calling someone a pick me while their mental health is already low, is the least thing you should do. You gave give advice to someone or tell them what they have to improve about their thinking instead of bringing them down even more
Problem is I’ve openly been told that I am lol, unless they were just wanting a one night stand.
I’m not ashamed about it anymore tho, I have a lot of other awesome qualities. Usually people don’t care about them, which is part of why I’m single, but whatever. That’s on them, not me.
Omg I kid you not this channel gives me more help and comfort way more than what camhs does honestly all they tell me is if I feel “down” that’s what they refer depression as they will said to me have a hot bath or go for a walk like what. But this channel actually helps in so many ways you don’t even know. Thank you 💗
Where did these feelings come from?
What do i do with these feelings?
Why you should care?
You are beautiful
Appearance and Height didn’t roll too high for me. As soon as someone looks at me, I’m already feeling like they’re judging and decided I’m not good enough.
@@golferorb I’m 5’6. Just under the average height
Treu
Wow great advice. “Don’t feel ugly or else you’ll become ugly”
One of the many things I feel insecure about is the gap between my upper front teeth, for example I never dare to have an "open" smile. One day an ex colleague told me that it's more a feature than a flaw and that it gives me a "modern and edgy" look. She thought it's pretty cool and unique. That was so nice of her.
I've lived in a family with a generational body image issues, so this helped me loads!
Wdym?
@@bobros2736 we have a long history with the women in my family of being obsessed with looks and being overweight to the point where it's way over the top
I found a secret video!
Bro how tf this comment a month ago
wait how-
Uhhhmm.. magic??..
😅
Wtf how
I will never stop sharing these with everyone! Thank you for all the content! Sending this one to my bf!😊
I felt like my body was not overweight but had a larger than average stomach which stuck out in the mirror. I was confused as I am a generally sporty person (running, basketball, football/soccer, rugby etc) this video encouraged me to face this and ask a family member about it. Turns out that one of my ribs on one side sticks out an abnormal amount compared to the other one and thats what was wrong. Going to a doctors appointment in a few weeks to see if its anything to worry about, thanks again for this video and the help it gave me, I will update this comment if its something serious otherwise assume the best!
It's important to remember that [A reason] you are beautiful because no matter who you are, or where you've come from, or what you've done, you have a story that is your very own, perfectly unique to you, and all that you've experienced, has been yours and yours alone, though often shared in proximity to others, never quite like your own.
So like a the original raw recording of a song, or an original painting with the actual artist's oil or acrylic on the canvas, or the very celluloid that captured the light... there will never be another... and we're so brief in time and so unlimited in scope. Such a shame that there's so much that tends to keep us from truly living freely in the moment; careless and natural
Relationship status
Attractive: Easy Mode
Average: Medium mode
Below Average: Difficult mode
Me: Nightmare mode
Nah I don’t FEEL ugly… I AM ugly.
I dont feel ugly i am ugly i have insecurities and low self esteem i dont think i would ever be in a relationship cause im not good enough
thanks for admitting that people are ugly but not too ugly.
I know I'm ugly because 99.999% of the time when a girl looks at me, her smile drops and the look of disgust is clearly visible.
“There is perfection in imperfection.” -Lego Monkie Kid, MK.
Just from my experience, I believe people made me feel ugly growing up, which is why I hide myself away from a lot of people. Rather wear a mask than be out in public but either way, I feel I will get judgmental looks no matter what, and I'm the hyper-aware type.
Same
Same
I'm not too ugly for any relationship, but feel too ugly for the relationship I would actually enjoy and would like to put the effort in
What would help me is to know what I can do to feel more secure. I already know I'm insecure and don't feel worthy of the love, affection and attention of anyone I'm attracted to. I feel like I don't deserve to be in a relationship with someone who I find attractive because my experience has proven time and time again that I'll be rejected.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! Just note, there is someone out there for everyone and you are worthy. We made this video a few years ago on insecurity. I hope this might help you! th-cam.com/video/DdJYwXPdAec/w-d-xo.html
@@Psych2go Thank you!
i feel like working on yourself might help till you feel worthy? thats probably not helpful. But what does help is first of all it seems like your paying only attention to people who don't like you and there are probuably people who do like you that you dont give as much attention to. Also getting rejected doesn't mean your are not worthy of them, it just means that you both may not go well together. You look pretty if that you on your profile so I think you can pay attention to how you act around peope you like (some people compleatly switch up their personality on accident which causes the other person not to like them, even if they would have liked their real personality). Also if theres an Ex that had a negative affect on your self view they likely just arent a great person.
Same about me so am find it very hard to go into relationship because I know I will be dumbed at the long round.
I've come to the realization that love is just a one way street. I give unconditional love to my daughter, and I'm responsible for my students and that's it. My only fulfillment in life I can expect is the effort I make toward others. If I can make others lives better then maybe I won't feel so worthless. I realize I'm not worth effort. I'm too broken, defective, and ugly. Even my parents think I'm not worth giving a crap about. I've asked out women and I just get rejected. I don't have the energy to try anymore. My daughter is the only real reason I bother with my life. She has lots of friends and everyone just adores her. I can at least be glad she won't suffer from the same misery I feel.
i sent my crush a picture of me and my friends where i felt really pretty in and he called me ugly in the dress i was wearing in the picture. i realised i looked kinda weird.. now i've got myself moody for the whole week.
My friends often told me I'm handsome and girls often praised me for being good looking but I feel like I don't look good and ugly.
When I was in a relationship, I was always told that I looked bad with my hair tied. I felt a little upset about it at first but then I confidently started tying up my hair every time. Later he started me to see beautiful in that way. (Your beauty is not decided by others, it's decided by you yourself)☄️❤️
Bro when I saw this video title in my notifications my jaw dropped. How the hell are y’all so spot on?
I feel like I’m ugly, but in terms of everything else I’m fairly confident and doing well. I just haven’t able to shake the self-image I’ve created for me
@@rowanpittman5493 the vid was unlisted I think
No words are more important then the words you tell yourself. Tell yourself you look fab, tell yourself you deserve great relationships etc and you'll start to feel more confident. And if your confident already, the right people will pick up on that as confidence and being good at things is very attractive.
@@greenkitty82 Thank you for the advice and encouragement, I appreciate it! I’ve been getting better at it slowly but surely. People I work with and go to school with really like me for the most part
@@admirbarucija2018 you are very welcome and the fact that people like you already is very encouraging to hear. You just need to tell yourself you are worthy and deserve the best. Noone else can do that except you and the more you like yourself and have that confidence the more people will find themselves gravitate towards you.
@@greenkitty82 You’re absolutely right, I need to remember that moving forward. :) There’s a reason people seem to be drawn to me and I do make an impact on the world. Sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of that in the moment, but I need to keep the big picture in mind. Hope you’re doing well!
honestly, while I think I look just fine, I sometimes worry if fine is good enough for a relationship lol. Thanks!
Wow. You can't even believe how much I needed this.
I guess the self doubts of my looks came when I was on a dating app and matched with a girl who insulted me because of my weight.
If she insults you, she's the wrong girl! The right person will never insult you for your body.
Screw her man, you don’t need people like that. Belive in you!
That speaks about the type of person she is more than anything! Keep your head up my guy
yall this is the best therapy sentences ive ever heard in my life.. now im reading the comments and half of the people are still saying that heyre ugly and ect. but like listen to it again ! If u have moles like i do and ur inseure about them, just enjoy life having that thought that when u grow up and u realllly dont like them u can always remove it!:)
Timestamps:
1. 0:50 - Where did these feelings come from?
2. 1:33 - What do I do with these feelings?
3. 2:21 - Why you should care?
4. 3:24 - Long story short ( You are beautiful inside and out )
People who make these things often mean well, but magnetism and appeal are God-given to some, and withheld from others. End of story. So many try to uplift, not knowing how much they take for granted.
Well, I don’t just feel ugly, I really am ugly.
I’m struggling because I don’t really have a funny or witty personality, and not that great of a voice. Being ugly and having not much else to go with it, sucks a lot. I’m trying my best to change this view, but I just can’t seem to see myself in any other light.
What if I'm just ugly objectively speaking?
It has to be because I never have a problem getting people to like me. I only have a problem getting girls to like me more than a friend.
i feel as if i can’t fall in love for this exact reason. i can’t picture myself doing romantic things with people
I am too ugly to be imagining myself doing romantic things with people
Again! Someone that is FAR AWAY FROM UGLY!! Commenting !
@@Sullitude87 the person in the photo isn’t me if i looked like her i would never feel this way😂😭
I've always been told by whoever I was interested in, that they only like me as a friend. So that's why I've always felt that I'm just not pretty enough for guys and that nobody will want me.
This is the most beautiful video I've ever watched in yt today. I love the ending messages very much. As someone who deals with this, this is very calming and comforting. It motivated me to change the way I look at myself. Thank you very much!
I avoid relationships and keep telling everyone that is is because I m not that kind of person that likes to settle down but thats not the reality , recently my crush told me he likes me and I couldn't reply because I felt like I way too ugly yo be in a relationship and now I get it where this came from this video really helped me thankyou
Biggest reason I feel insecure is the constant stream of negativity on social media and a complete and total lack of positivity. It's tough to get that positive feedback as a man, since we rarely get complimented on our appearance. But I've also had times when people have complimented me on my appearance but I haven't believed them, so to speak. For instance, I've had a bunch of times people have complimented me on my beard when I thought it was too frizzy or thin looking on that particular day. So then I process the compliment as insincere, which further deepens the insecurity. I have to tell myself that being overly self-critical is a flaw virtually everybody has, and they wouldn't be complimenting me if they didn't mean it.
This channel is literally saving me from depression
I don't feel ugly i am ugly.
There are 8 billion ppl on this planet at least one will find you attractive
@@Willow-fk4kp great! and chances of finding that one person? hahaa At best case, he would be married with children hahaaa
@@user-fi4pr yh but the thing is i’d u keep feeling and calling yourself ugly then u will belive it but if u acc try a then ppl will see u as oretty
@@Willow-fk4kp try exactly what? pretend that you are a happy-go-lucky person that is confident and believes in herself - how long can you keep that mask before you fall apart? I couldn't stand exposing myself to anyone and risk being rejected in that moment. That kind of humiliation, I couldn't live with it. Alternative is to pretend you don't care about relationships, and keep that kind of mask and a shred of dignity.
@@user-fi4pr just ask someone out, hang out with the people you want to and stop wallowing in the internet
I’ve finally learned how to love myself. Now I’m totally fine being single for the time being. I expect my dating life to take off in due time, just keep grinding and working on myself!
Well I want to thank you very much for all of this videos. I've always been insecure about my face and body (I'm overweight). When I was little I was always insulted as fat (and if was bald, I was called the sun), your questions put me into perspective and realised that well, couple years ago there was a girl who flirted with me but you know how men are, years later until I understood what she was doing. Anyway, I appreciate your videos and have been helping me trying to get into shape.
as much as i really want to be liked by someone, i just know that it isn’t going to happen. it’s an unrealistic expectation and i am still accepting that i am kind of doomed to be alone
every relationship has just proved to hurt me...thats why i prefer being single for now
what is the right way to date someone...cuz it just ends in a hurtful way every single time.