I 100% agree about the posture and confidence thing. I've recently been trying to fix my posture so I'm constantly thinking about it. Sometimes I feel stupid standing up so straight but then I look in the mirror and realize it looks completley normal. Better posture helps suck in the stomach too! Haha
In response to your question: I prefer to be a wallflower but I guess the wallflower that people still know. I LOVE to get dressed up nice once in a millennium and go out but am still pretty reserved even in a social setting. Like I enjoy being involved but also just absorbing the moment:)
Me too, I love dressing up but I’m more of an observant person and I’m also on the quiet side. Not a shy thing, but I like to figure out people and ask them questions rather than talking about myself
Alcohol is definitely a good social lubricant. I avoided it for years when I was younger because I didn't want it to be a crutch but now a days a few vodka red bulls never hurt haha
I am a very confident person, so I tend to want to be the center of attention XD. However, I also love building people up and making them the center of attention as well.
I like to look fierce. I feel confident in what I wear. I have my style for my own self. I love fashion and I’m very particular with what I wear. If it grabs peoples attention whatever. I’m introverted so I will happily be a fierce looking wallflower.
I'm usually the center of attention I feel that I have a good sense of style and ppl comment on my walk. But I'm usually not the most confident at all 😭😩
I prefer being a wallflower because I rather have a good time with few people or just with my friends rather then every guy trying to talk to me or get with me. I rather be a good person to talk to or having a good time then trying to fight off the guys trying to sleep with me.
i normally like to be the center of attention but sometimes ill get anxious so ill just sort of stick to myself, because ive always been more of an extrovert and just being there and everyone notices you is such a gravitating experience to be honest.
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Kinda in-between. I like being a wall flower when I am around people I don't know much, but love being the center of attention around my friends and people I am comfortable with.
I’m probably a wall flower, I feel very uncomfortable with how I look but I’m getting better, and I think if I had friends at the party I’d slowly start to stand out and be very loud with them 😂
I like to be in-between. I use not to feel that way and just be a wallflower. Reason why I prefer in between is sometimes I just rather not be noticed and just have fun. But at the same time I'm starting to love clothes that are out of my comfort zone that are asymmetrical and/or showing my natural curves. Which I grew to love about my body. So, for me it's about showing my confidence and still feeling cute in something I like.
I am 100% a wallflower because I am one of those people who needs to be persuaded to be made apart of the crowd most of the time. Unless I am with my closest friends or people whose company I enjoy.
I'd say I'm more comfortable being in the centre of attention hah. In all seriousness, I have no problem coming up to ppl and I have no problem when they come up to me. But it's much easier to start a conversation when sb notices you. When it's tons of ppl I can come up to those giving of vibes I dig with a feeling that they wanted me to come up. I also am used to be being in the centre of everyone's attention due to what I do. This week me and my friend were comperes during a concert and I was also presenting my book the day after that. So it simply feels natural to have ppl noticing me
I would say it can appear as if I exude confidence through clothing I wear. For the most part it can be alittle extra, so naturally people are paying attention. Sometimes it may be too much attention and I would much rather throw something on that's comfortable & more laid back. But no matter what, people will notice the way you present yourself, whether that just be strutting on the street or how you interact socially with others. Friends have noticed a significant difference in my confidence over the years and it makes me happy to hear that once you start working on yourself that can easily be reflected from the outside! It's just a enticing energy that people will always want to be surrounded with-- someone who shows great love and care with themselves. Because if you show that with yourself, maybe they'll feel like it's a safe space and you'll treat them with care as well :)
Yeah I want to be the center of attention in a party especially when I don't know anybody there because it makes me feel special, like they come and talk to me that makes me feel sure about myself
I don’t go out, so when it comes to kid birthday parties, depending on who it is, I can be a wallflower or more social. But if I’m around a bunch of people that I don’t know, I’m a wallflower because I’m so shy/quiet, and I’m not good at starting or holding a conversation
Hi for the answer to your question, I am more of a wallflower type of girl. The reason being is that I have started to hide who I am more because I feel not many people would want to see it. So I tend to become this wallflower and I like doing that. The reason for this is I can get a clear sense of the room before jumping into a conversation I do not know what is happening in.
I would say, to answer your question is that I love being the center of attention over a wall flower because it is not in my nature to be a wall flower. I appreciate compliments and I put effort in to look, feel good and dress to the 9’s💃🏻
To your question about being a wallflower, I actually like to be both bold and a wallflower. I like attention but I don't want to steal the show. I have no idea if that makes sense or not. I've walked into places and people glance at me and do a double-take usually. Not because of me. I have parrots and I go almost everywhere with them. They're very eyecatching lol. I like talking about my birds but I hate talking about me because I get very uncomfortable easily, so I tend to let my birds take the pressure off of me. So idk if that makes any sense at all but I'm a bold wallflower.
I'd rather be a wallflower in bigger parties. Because if I would be in the center of attention I feel watched, which makes me uncomfortable. In smaller parties tho, where you know more people I don't mind be in the center because I know the people so it doesn't make me uncomfortable.
I would say I like to be the friend of the life of the party. I like to be very active and stuff but not the center of attention, cause that's awkward to me :)
Hm I prefer to be under the radar. But I am self-conscious. I have PCOS so like a dude I grow a noticeable beard if I don’t shave. So going to parties already self conscious about making sure I properly shaved my face, “oh my hips are too big I’m banging into everyone let me fit myself in a corner...” then yeah I wouldn’t want to stick out.
I hope you know that not every girl is gonna wear a bikini m, sundress, or smething revealing in the summer due to religious reasons. You’ve seen Muslim women wearing hijab year round, right? I’m not preaching religion and I know you didn’t say that every girl should wear revealing clothing. Just wondering if you respect a woman’s choice to stay completely covered. But I did like your point about patterns and asymmetry.
You're definitely right! Some girls won't wear a bikini for religious or personal reasons and that's okay:) This is why I gave a bunch of examples rather than just one. I appreciate your feedback, Eesha.
The products you’re trying to sell on your “merch” site are insulting. What are you really trying to tell your audience?? I’m honestly appalled. This is ridiculous.
Yep:) I love promoting cool fashion trends rather than slapping my logo on a sweatshirt like everyone else and selling that. Doesn't really make sense to me right now. What are your thoughts?
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I 100% agree about the posture and confidence thing. I've recently been trying to fix my posture so I'm constantly thinking about it. Sometimes I feel stupid standing up so straight but then I look in the mirror and realize it looks completley normal. Better posture helps suck in the stomach too! Haha
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In response to your question: I prefer to be a wallflower but I guess the wallflower that people still know. I LOVE to get dressed up nice once in a millennium and go out but am still pretty reserved even in a social setting. Like I enjoy being involved but also just absorbing the moment:)
Me too, I love dressing up but I’m more of an observant person and I’m also on the quiet side. Not a shy thing, but I like to figure out people and ask them questions rather than talking about myself
I usually start as a wallflower at parties, but that quickly changes as people I know show up and as I have a few drinks
Alcohol is definitely a good social lubricant. I avoided it for years when I was younger because I didn't want it to be a crutch but now a days a few vodka red bulls never hurt haha
Like how he mentions to wear clothes that YOU LIKE! Instead of being a sheep and following trends that don’t even suit you.
Tom: can you roll your shoulders back right now
Me: *laying down*
I feel more confident in long black velvet dress but low cut on top. 😂
I am a very confident person, so I tend to want to be the center of attention XD. However, I also love building people up and making them the center of attention as well.
Are we just gonna ignore the fact that Tom has been missing for a millennia and didn’t even address it?!
Yeah I'm focusing on getting back to posting weekly (we'll see how that goes lol) but I'm always appreciative of you coming back still:)
Amazing content Tom!! I've been trying to fix my posture BEFORE I watched this vid so that really JUMPED out. Love ur store btw!
I like to look fierce. I feel confident in what I wear. I have my style for my own self. I love fashion and I’m very particular with what I wear. If it grabs peoples attention whatever. I’m introverted so I will happily be a fierce looking wallflower.
Fierce wallflower is a vibe👍🏼
I'm usually the center of attention I feel that I have a good sense of style and ppl comment on my walk. But I'm usually not the most confident at all 😭😩
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I prefer being a wallflower because I rather have a good time with few people or just with my friends rather then every guy trying to talk to me or get with me. I rather be a good person to talk to or having a good time then trying to fight off the guys trying to sleep with me.
i normally like to be the center of attention but sometimes ill get anxious so ill just sort of stick to myself, because ive always been more of an extrovert and just being there and everyone notices you is such a gravitating experience to be honest.
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If this video does well, I'll definitely do a video on that.
Kinda in-between. I like being a wall flower when I am around people I don't know much, but love being the center of attention around my friends and people I am comfortable with.
I’m probably a wall flower, I feel very uncomfortable with how I look but I’m getting better, and I think if I had friends at the party I’d slowly start to stand out and be very loud with them 😂
we love you Tom !!!!!
I like to be in-between. I use not to feel that way and just be a wallflower. Reason why I prefer in between is sometimes I just rather not be noticed and just have fun. But at the same time I'm starting to love clothes that are out of my comfort zone that are asymmetrical and/or showing my natural curves. Which I grew to love about my body. So, for me it's about showing my confidence and still feeling cute in something I like.
I am 100% a wallflower because I am one of those people who needs to be persuaded to be made apart of the crowd most of the time. Unless I am with my closest friends or people whose company I enjoy.
It's funny how it's so much easier to be social when you're around people you're already close with but not strangers.
I'd say I'm more comfortable being in the centre of attention hah. In all seriousness, I have no problem coming up to ppl and I have no problem when they come up to me. But it's much easier to start a conversation when sb notices you. When it's tons of ppl I can come up to those giving of vibes I dig with a feeling that they wanted me to come up. I also am used to be being in the centre of everyone's attention due to what I do. This week me and my friend were comperes during a concert and I was also presenting my book the day after that. So it simply feels natural to have ppl noticing me
I agree, we both definitely share extrovert traits.
I love to be a wallflower because I can then see the group dynamics and find out who I want to socialize with.
I would say it can appear as if I exude confidence through clothing I wear. For the most part it can be alittle extra, so naturally people are paying attention. Sometimes it may be too much attention and I would much rather throw something on that's comfortable & more laid back. But no matter what, people will notice the way you present yourself, whether that just be strutting on the street or how you interact socially with others. Friends have noticed a significant difference in my confidence over the years and it makes me happy to hear that once you start working on yourself that can easily be reflected from the outside! It's just a enticing energy that people will always want to be surrounded with-- someone who shows great love and care with themselves. Because if you show that with yourself, maybe they'll feel like it's a safe space and you'll treat them with care as well :)
Yeah I want to be the center of attention in a party especially when I don't know anybody there because it makes me feel special, like they come and talk to me that makes me feel sure about myself
I don’t go out, so when it comes to kid birthday parties, depending on who it is, I can be a wallflower or more social. But if I’m around a bunch of people that I don’t know, I’m a wallflower because I’m so shy/quiet, and I’m not good at starting or holding a conversation
Hi for the answer to your question, I am more of a wallflower type of girl. The reason being is that I have started to hide who I am more because I feel not many people would want to see it. So I tend to become this wallflower and I like doing that. The reason for this is I can get a clear sense of the room before jumping into a conversation I do not know what is happening in.
I would say, to answer your question is that I love being the center of attention over a wall flower because it is not in my nature to be a wall flower. I appreciate compliments and I put effort in to look, feel good and dress to the 9’s💃🏻
Exactly💯 like when I go out I want to get noticed otherwise I'd rather be at home
Loved this video! More please
More to come! Thank you.
My boyyy Tom!!!
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@@TomFlynn fucking awesome video. We have to chill in Vegas soon man
To your question about being a wallflower, I actually like to be both bold and a wallflower. I like attention but I don't want to steal the show. I have no idea if that makes sense or not. I've walked into places and people glance at me and do a double-take usually. Not because of me. I have parrots and I go almost everywhere with them. They're very eyecatching lol. I like talking about my birds but I hate talking about me because I get very uncomfortable easily, so I tend to let my birds take the pressure off of me. So idk if that makes any sense at all but I'm a bold wallflower.
I'd rather be a wallflower in bigger parties. Because if I would be in the center of attention I feel watched, which makes me uncomfortable. In smaller parties tho, where you know more people I don't mind be in the center because I know the people so it doesn't make me uncomfortable.
@Tom Flynn. I just found the some items of clothing you’re selling elsewhere online for a lot cheaper.
Well I like to come to the party unnoticed but when I get fully comfortable I like to be the center of attention. Sry for my english😁 Ly💓
I would say I’m more of a wallflower. Don’t get me wrong, I love attention but not the complete center of attention (if that makes sense lol)
Omg 5th vid a year!
Yeah I'm working on posting more lol
@@TomFlynn if TH-cam downs give you much income then focus on your life Man, it’s fine
I would say I like to be the friend of the life of the party. I like to be very active and stuff but not the center of attention, cause that's awkward to me :)
I can be center for attention and wall flower. Depends upon my mood.
Definitely. I think that's most people.
0:22 MY EYES! 😵 wtf happened there?
Hm I prefer to be under the radar. But I am self-conscious. I have PCOS so like a dude I grow a noticeable beard if I don’t shave. So going to parties already self conscious about making sure I properly shaved my face, “oh my hips are too big I’m banging into everyone let me fit myself in a corner...” then yeah I wouldn’t want to stick out.
Totally see where you're coming from. Nothing wrong with that.
I have a crush but he doesn't like me but he said he wants me to be there for him if his crush breaks his heart can you explain this please tom
I personally prefer to be the one who isnt noticed bc i dont like all the attention
Do a video about (things that guys do that turn girls off)
Is it just me or does the majority of men also go crazy for a subtle septum piercing?
Why is the full screen black ...
What do you mean ?
I hope you know that not every girl is gonna wear a bikini m, sundress, or smething revealing in the summer due to religious reasons. You’ve seen Muslim women wearing hijab year round, right? I’m not preaching religion and I know you didn’t say that every girl should wear revealing clothing. Just wondering if you respect a woman’s choice to stay completely covered. But I did like your point about patterns and asymmetry.
I’m also curious if you’d ever date a girl who refuses to wear anything that’s revealing
You're definitely right! Some girls won't wear a bikini for religious or personal reasons and that's okay:) This is why I gave a bunch of examples rather than just one. I appreciate your feedback, Eesha.
I don’t want to be seen. I get asked out way to often… not me braging
The products you’re trying to sell on your “merch” site are insulting. What are you really trying to tell your audience?? I’m honestly appalled. This is ridiculous.
Why is it ridiculous ?
Ok so he’s selling stuff.
Yep:) I love promoting cool fashion trends rather than slapping my logo on a sweatshirt like everyone else and selling that. Doesn't really make sense to me right now. What are your thoughts?
@@TomFlynn Ok, if you put it that way, that’s fair. 👍 Good on you.
not to be too straight forward but 😍😍🤩 can you marry me though ... HA
Hahaha not too straight forward at all😂❤️