Takes a lot of courage to express what you’re going through/feeling, I commend you for that. Sorry to hear about your friend, it’s never easy losing someone, especially in that kind of way. I’m in my 30’s and I can tell you I’ve felt the same way for a long time. We can be very tough on ourselves. I still experience what you’ve talked about on a consistent basis but you’ve just got to do what you know will make you happy in the current moment. You seem very passionate in some of your other videos, you have a talent there budd. And you ain’t letting anyone down, everyone has roadblocks; life is tough. You’ll get there! Happy Birthday bro.
I'm 26 and feel that same "behind" feeling. Whenever I see someone who's 25, 24, or younger who's done more than me, or just other things I feel good for them but sometimes I feel pressure on myself to do more. At times this is good because it can be motivating, other times demotivating, because in the overall scheme of things, being 25 you've still got so much more time to do things in your young adult life. What helps me when I feel this way is, I think of myself at the start of my 20's, and how much I've changed since then and what I've done. It gets me excited rather than depressed thinking of how far I've come and how much further I'll be in another 5 years. Also, it's a good thought to focus on what you're doing now that you're excited about and where those things will lead. That might help you too, or might totally not haha. That's what I think though. I think it's really good you're focusing on yourself and going to school to build a better foundation of Japanese you can have for life. I really appreciate the deep video, and sorry to hear about the loss of your friend too. Don't feel a need to immediately make videos right away, it's ok to take time!
Very late reply, but thanks for your kind words! I appreciate it a lot. A lot has happened recently, but I have moved into a new apartment and will get back into the groove soon once again. I think having a big reset will help a lot, and I really am just excited to start really pushing TH-cam more and more, seeing how far I can take it. I'm glad my thoughts about being 25 have resonated too, it seems a lot of people feel the same, and that's comforting! Good luck to you too, and stay tuned❤️
Yo thanks for sharing & I’m also turning 25 very soon. It kinda hit me recently that I'm still "young" but I don't feel super young anymore where I can afford to dilly dally, make "mistakes" and waste time anymore. I already made all the dumb mistakes from 18-23ish(ok...24 lol) so my 25-30 will be me playing "catch up" or just a wiser me making better choices. I can kind of relate with the ‘feeling behind’ thing though. I’m just about to finish my degree and I’m having trouble finding a job in my state because of the shitty entry level tech job market and I’m also not where I want to be Japanese level wise in order to find a job in Japan. All that is moreso on me probably, but then again a year ago I didn’t really have any clear direction in my life. But now, almost 25, I do know what I want, which is to get fluent in Japanese (enough to survive in a japanese company) and get a programming job in Japan. I never really had that feeling of ‘feeling behind’ until recently when I started watching more YT videos and going on LinkedIn lol. I guess i subconsciously compared myself to others and i had to catch myself...I think everyone kinda does that. As a piece of advice, even though it’s pretty hard, try not to compare yourself to others. There’s always going to be a bigger fish in the pond, or some dude that’s more successful, or people that are ‘ahead’. Everyone has their own problems, hardships and their own unique journey in life and stuff so comparing yourself to another person/your position in life to someone else’s is like comparing an apple to an orange. Just keep doing your best dude, I’m sure things will get better and just stick to your path. It's good that you know that you want to stay in Japan and you have clear goals that you want to achieve!
I totally agree, one of the downsides of being on social media of any form and TH-cam is comparing yourself to amazing things others are doing. I think my biggest thing is I'm probably 40% comparing myself to others, and 60% comparing myself to where I think I should be based on my own skills or expectations for myself. It's hard to see other people doing things, but it's even more difficult to feel that I've somehow failed myself. But my mindset is evolving, and will lead to a brighter future. I wish you the best of luck with your pursuit of programming in Japan... they could really use the help 😂😂
Ah brother dearest 💗 first of all happiest of birthdays 🥳 as you well know, I know what you’re feeling so so well. I think we all do - it’s a part of the human experience, especially when we get into comparison mode. But not only comparing to other people. I’ve come to realize it really sets in strong when we compare ourselves to the person we see ourselves becoming. Give yourself grace, and understand that that person is already within you. The seeds have 10148291% already been planted, and now just need tending too. There is absolutely NO rushing the process, and it’s going to be full of ups, downs, twists and turns. 😅One thing I’ve learned is the moment I’ve found balance, the next moment something has shifted and I’m finding a new balance 😂 Your fam and friends, and I believe the community you have already built and are continuing to build are gonna love and support you regardless of how many videos you share 🙏 Proud of you for sharing and letting your emotions move through you ❤❤
Turning 23 this October. I believe that I am at the best of point in my life right now even though I attributed some of the best times of my life to my short 10 months stay in Japan. For all the good, however, I feel like I am burdened with a sinner with a tumultous amount of karmic debt who has yet to fully give himself to a complete, submissive virtue of cleansing himself. I can not say that I am particularly afraid of where I am going to go in the near and far future, but I do hate the moments when all my consciousness comes together to have me confronts my good and bad all in one go.
Turning 24 this November, I get this feeling a lot. I feel like I've wasted half of my twenties. I kept pointing fingers and trying to lie to myself that "it was not my fault," but ultimately, it always was my fault for not working hard enough. Now, I feel so behind compared to my friends, and I'm just so ashamed of myself. I also have a dream to live in Japan and pursue my life there, but I'm so immature and irresponsible. I know life in Japan is going to be twice as hard, being alone in a foreign country, but I just feel that my life is there and ultimately I have to go. Yet, I'm so unprepared as an adult. I'm trying to work on that and become a better person, but every step I take forward, it feels like I'm also taking two steps back, I just want to one day feel proud of myself. Also, happy birthday! I hope we can both find our true selves in this life journey.
Happy birthday! It might not be the happiest of birthdays or like you said it might be pretty lonely but I’ve become a person that’s gotten used to that. Ever since I found your channel you’ve helped me feel less lonely and more relatable in someone around my age and on top of that a midwesterner moving to Japan which is my dream. Just seeing you and other youtubers I look up to that live in Japan this whole video you made engulfs my feelings of also feeling behind, friends I’m around that have achieved so much and are still going even further, make me feel behind and I feel like I got a long way to finally live in Japan. I appreciate you making this to realize there’s more to my goal once I finally am able to move there. It’s ok to feel behind but just know you still inspire people even if you think that way and I know you’re friend would think so as well. I wish I was closer to you just so I can learn more about just life advice or how you got to where you are but your videos alone just make me believe in myself more and help in learning more, as well seeing how you were able to achieve what you have so far. All I ask is you don’t overwork yourself don’t make feeling behind a reason to burn yourself out but to get to that rhythm you finally want to achieve like you said. I’ll always be here to watch your uploads or try and catch a stream because I truly look up to you and your content reflects how creative you are and how much you care. I’ll be 24 soon and I really am tired of being behind as well but seeing this makes me know you can’t move forward without being behind some people. Thank you and I look forward to more content as always ❤️ (I also just wanted to edit this and add that I appreciate anyone that took the time to read my long ass comment I feel like I ramble on too much but thank you😅)
I always appreciate the support! I'm really excited for you to finally get to Japan, a midwestern invasion force is coming 🫡. I will be making more videos soon about different advice for people moving to Japan or planning to move to Japan, like finding apartments, setting up bank accounts, etc. I'm gonna be moving to a new apartment (again) very soon, so I have lots of experience to share with people... 頑張れ～
I don't want to sound cliche, but it's the 25 existential crisis. Older you are, time will pass "faster". Remember that you are still so young. You are not behind. My BF is much older than you and back then he was in a really bad era (nearly homeless). Years later, he has a really great job, a house, a dog, etc lol. The most important tip I will tell you it's to create contact with people around you. You don't know on who you will stumble one day, but I can understand that it's a lot more difficult for you because of the language barrier. That's why I would tell me to focus a lot on learning Japanese, even if this is quite hard. Yeah it's important to have degree/qualification, but to create link/relationship with people it's also a lot important. PS: I'm sorry about your friend, and also thanks again because of you I have been running for a year by this week. :)
I totally agree... it's like some sort of existential crisis, but instead of questioning my existence it's questioning the speed at which I am able to accomplish my goals. We'll save the real existential crisis for after I've become successful and accomplished what I want 😂 Also I'm so glad you've been running for a year, had no idea I helped inspire you! That makes me so happy, you have no idea.
So sorry to hear about your friend 😣 But happy birthday, and I hope you can have some fun today. I've been in a similar headspace for a long time. That feeling of being left behind. And I'm 31 now... I see how my peers from school days are getting on and how many of them are vastly successful, living their best life, etc. It's galling. And yet I still struggle to muster the willpower and positivity to be productive. My dream is to be an author, and that's a difficult career path even when you're writing and sending out stories left, right, and centre. Thought the lockdowns would turn it around. Being told to stay at home seemed like an opportunity to get so much done. Instead my willpower was sapped and it still hasn't really come back. But although the career didn't take off, I started a relationship, and we had our fourth anniversary a few days ago. She does what she can to pep me up but it's still incredibly difficult. I'm infinitely jealous of you being in Japan. Having recently discovered Chris Broad and the Abroad in Japan videos, I wish I could go back in time, get a degree, go work in Japan. But it wasn't to be. And I might not have found my partner if my life had been different. Instead I'm saving money to have a kickass holiday in Japan one day soon instead! I'll keep following your channel and see what you come out with. I started a Instagram account a ways back, writing book reviews and trying to promote my own writing at the same time. It is tough maintaining that presence and keep it ticking over, especially when you don't necessarily see the returns right away. But your vids have been great, so keep going 👏
Thank you so much for your comment, and thanks for sharing! I'm glad it's been working out in the end for you, and you've been able to adjust your mindset. I think for me, this video is a first step to changing my mindset about these things, and getting those feelings out there. Stay tuned, and I hope you can come to Japan for that holiday someday soon!
There's still a ways to go, and a lot to deal with mentally but I've had various forms of therapy and counselling to help. Some work better than others but it has helped overall. Confidence and self-esteem are what I really lack, while anxiety I have in abundance 😅 But I'm improving...slowly. I'm glad you see this video as the first step 💁♂️ Good luck with the subsequent steps. It's a tough road but I'm certain it will be worth it.
First off, happy birthday! I usually never comment on videos, but I wanted to react to this one. I think my advice would be to not compare yourself to anyone else and follow you own path. You live in Japan, what I think is the most interesting place on earth and you produce things that add genuine joy te people's lives. That already is way more than what most people can say about their own life. I love your videos, thank you for making them and I hope you will make many more. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure you friend would be very proud of you. You are braver, stronger and farther ahead in life than you think. Ganbatte!
Sorry to hear about your friend. Your Persona video was great. I think you should edit out the infringement and relist it. It will do numbers over time and you should be paid. Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday fella. I feel you man, that's a lot to think about, and a lot I can definitely relate to. "Willpower" and "discipline" really can only get anyone so far. I totally get having awesome plans and working really hard and feeling like you've got something going and then something happens that totally throws it off(getting your car stolen, needing to move, having bed bugs, etc). Really excited to see what you do next dude, pace yourself and I'm sure it'll come out fantastic. Have a fantastic rest of your birthday dude, myself and the rest of your eager subscribers are here and we are going to love whatever comes out of your corner of the world. 💛💛💛💛
Also anyone that’s feeling similar, and especially into creative pursuits of ANY kind I HIGHLY RECOMMEND reading The War of Art by Steven Pressfield. Literally amazing
Well you are 3-4 years younger than I am, yet you are living my dreams out being in Japan so idk...
Takes a lot of courage to express what you’re going through/feeling, I commend you for that. Sorry to hear about your friend, it’s never easy losing someone, especially in that kind of way.
I’m in my 30’s and I can tell you I’ve felt the same way for a long time. We can be very tough on ourselves. I still experience what you’ve talked about on a consistent basis but you’ve just got to do what you know will make you happy in the current moment.
You seem very passionate in some of your other videos, you have a talent there budd. And you ain’t letting anyone down, everyone has roadblocks; life is tough.
You’ll get there! Happy Birthday bro.
I'm 26 and feel that same "behind" feeling. Whenever I see someone who's 25, 24, or younger who's done more than me, or just other things I feel good for them but sometimes I feel pressure on myself to do more. At times this is good because it can be motivating, other times demotivating, because in the overall scheme of things, being 25 you've still got so much more time to do things in your young adult life.
What helps me when I feel this way is, I think of myself at the start of my 20's, and how much I've changed since then and what I've done. It gets me excited rather than depressed thinking of how far I've come and how much further I'll be in another 5 years. Also, it's a good thought to focus on what you're doing now that you're excited about and where those things will lead. That might help you too, or might totally not haha. That's what I think though. I think it's really good you're focusing on yourself and going to school to build a better foundation of Japanese you can have for life.
I really appreciate the deep video, and sorry to hear about the loss of your friend too. Don't feel a need to immediately make videos right away, it's ok to take time!
Very late reply, but thanks for your kind words! I appreciate it a lot.
A lot has happened recently, but I have moved into a new apartment and will get back into the groove soon once again. I think having a big reset will help a lot, and I really am just excited to start really pushing TH-cam more and more, seeing how far I can take it.
I'm glad my thoughts about being 25 have resonated too, it seems a lot of people feel the same, and that's comforting!
Good luck to you too, and stay tuned❤️
Yo thanks for sharing & I’m also turning 25 very soon. It kinda hit me recently that I'm still "young" but I don't feel super young anymore where I can afford to dilly dally, make "mistakes" and waste time anymore. I already made all the dumb mistakes from 18-23ish(ok...24 lol) so my 25-30 will be me playing "catch up" or just a wiser me making better choices.
I can kind of relate with the ‘feeling behind’ thing though. I’m just about to finish my degree and I’m having trouble finding a job in my state because of the shitty entry level tech job market and I’m also not where I want to be Japanese level wise in order to find a job in Japan. All that is moreso on me probably, but then again a year ago I didn’t really have any clear direction in my life. But now, almost 25, I do know what I want, which is to get fluent in Japanese (enough to survive in a japanese company) and get a programming job in Japan.
I never really had that feeling of ‘feeling behind’ until recently when I started watching more YT videos and going on LinkedIn lol. I guess i subconsciously compared myself to others and i had to catch myself...I think everyone kinda does that. As a piece of advice, even though it’s pretty hard, try not to compare yourself to others. There’s always going to be a bigger fish in the pond, or some dude that’s more successful, or people that are ‘ahead’. Everyone has their own problems, hardships and their own unique journey in life and stuff so comparing yourself to another person/your position in life to someone else’s is like comparing an apple to an orange.
Just keep doing your best dude, I’m sure things will get better and just stick to your path. It's good that you know that you want to stay in Japan and you have clear goals that you want to achieve!
I totally agree, one of the downsides of being on social media of any form and TH-cam is comparing yourself to amazing things others are doing. I think my biggest thing is I'm probably 40% comparing myself to others, and 60% comparing myself to where I think I should be based on my own skills or expectations for myself. It's hard to see other people doing things, but it's even more difficult to feel that I've somehow failed myself.
But my mindset is evolving, and will lead to a brighter future. I wish you the best of luck with your pursuit of programming in Japan... they could really use the help 😂😂
Ah brother dearest 💗 first of all happiest of birthdays 🥳 as you well know, I know what you’re feeling so so well. I think we all do - it’s a part of the human experience, especially when we get into comparison mode. But not only comparing to other people. I’ve come to realize it really sets in strong when we compare ourselves to the person we see ourselves becoming. Give yourself grace, and understand that that person is already within you. The seeds have 10148291% already been planted, and now just need tending too. There is absolutely NO rushing the process, and it’s going to be full of ups, downs, twists and turns. 😅One thing I’ve learned is the moment I’ve found balance, the next moment something has shifted and I’m finding a new balance 😂
Your fam and friends, and I believe the community you have already built and are continuing to build are gonna love and support you regardless of how many videos you share 🙏
Proud of you for sharing and letting your emotions move through you ❤❤
Great comment from my favorite older sister! 😁😁
Turning 23 this October. I believe that I am at the best of point in my life right now even though I attributed some of the best times of my life to my short 10 months stay in Japan. For all the good, however, I feel like I am burdened with a sinner with a tumultous amount of karmic debt who has yet to fully give himself to a complete, submissive virtue of cleansing himself. I can not say that I am particularly afraid of where I am going to go in the near and far future, but I do hate the moments when all my consciousness comes together to have me confronts my good and bad all in one go.
Turning 24 this November, I get this feeling a lot. I feel like I've wasted half of my twenties. I kept pointing fingers and trying to lie to myself that "it was not my fault," but ultimately, it always was my fault for not working hard enough. Now, I feel so behind compared to my friends, and I'm just so ashamed of myself. I also have a dream to live in Japan and pursue my life there, but I'm so immature and irresponsible. I know life in Japan is going to be twice as hard, being alone in a foreign country, but I just feel that my life is there and ultimately I have to go. Yet, I'm so unprepared as an adult. I'm trying to work on that and become a better person, but every step I take forward, it feels like I'm also taking two steps back, I just want to one day feel proud of myself.
Also, happy birthday! I hope we can both find our true selves in this life journey.
Happy birthday! It might not be the happiest of birthdays or like you said it might be pretty lonely but I’ve become a person that’s gotten used to that. Ever since I found your channel you’ve helped me feel less lonely and more relatable in someone around my age and on top of that a midwesterner moving to Japan which is my dream. Just seeing you and other youtubers I look up to that live in Japan this whole video you made engulfs my feelings of also feeling behind, friends I’m around that have achieved so much and are still going even further, make me feel behind and I feel like I got a long way to finally live in Japan. I appreciate you making this to realize there’s more to my goal once I finally am able to move there. It’s ok to feel behind but just know you still inspire people even if you think that way and I know you’re friend would think so as well. I wish I was closer to you just so I can learn more about just life advice or how you got to where you are but your videos alone just make me believe in myself more and help in learning more, as well seeing how you were able to achieve what you have so far. All I ask is you don’t overwork yourself don’t make feeling behind a reason to burn yourself out but to get to that rhythm you finally want to achieve like you said. I’ll always be here to watch your uploads or try and catch a stream because I truly look up to you and your content reflects how creative you are and how much you care. I’ll be 24 soon and I really am tired of being behind as well but seeing this makes me know you can’t move forward without being behind some people. Thank you and I look forward to more content as always ❤️
(I also just wanted to edit this and add that I appreciate anyone that took the time to read my long ass comment I feel like I ramble on too much but thank you😅)
I always appreciate the support! I'm really excited for you to finally get to Japan, a midwestern invasion force is coming 🫡. I will be making more videos soon about different advice for people moving to Japan or planning to move to Japan, like finding apartments, setting up bank accounts, etc. I'm gonna be moving to a new apartment (again) very soon, so I have lots of experience to share with people...
頑張れ～
I don't want to sound cliche, but it's the 25 existential crisis. Older you are, time will pass "faster". Remember that you are still so young. You are not behind. My BF is much older than you and back then he was in a really bad era (nearly homeless). Years later, he has a really great job, a house, a dog, etc lol. The most important tip I will tell you it's to create contact with people around you. You don't know on who you will stumble one day, but I can understand that it's a lot more difficult for you because of the language barrier. That's why I would tell me to focus a lot on learning Japanese, even if this is quite hard. Yeah it's important to have degree/qualification, but to create link/relationship with people it's also a lot important. PS: I'm sorry about your friend, and also thanks again because of you I have been running for a year by this week. :)
I totally agree... it's like some sort of existential crisis, but instead of questioning my existence it's questioning the speed at which I am able to accomplish my goals. We'll save the real existential crisis for after I've become successful and accomplished what I want 😂
Also I'm so glad you've been running for a year, had no idea I helped inspire you! That makes me so happy, you have no idea.
So sorry to hear about your friend 😣 But happy birthday, and I hope you can have some fun today. I've been in a similar headspace for a long time. That feeling of being left behind. And I'm 31 now... I see how my peers from school days are getting on and how many of them are vastly successful, living their best life, etc. It's galling. And yet I still struggle to muster the willpower and positivity to be productive. My dream is to be an author, and that's a difficult career path even when you're writing and sending out stories left, right, and centre. Thought the lockdowns would turn it around. Being told to stay at home seemed like an opportunity to get so much done. Instead my willpower was sapped and it still hasn't really come back. But although the career didn't take off, I started a relationship, and we had our fourth anniversary a few days ago. She does what she can to pep me up but it's still incredibly difficult. I'm infinitely jealous of you being in Japan. Having recently discovered Chris Broad and the Abroad in Japan videos, I wish I could go back in time, get a degree, go work in Japan. But it wasn't to be. And I might not have found my partner if my life had been different. Instead I'm saving money to have a kickass holiday in Japan one day soon instead! I'll keep following your channel and see what you come out with. I started a Instagram account a ways back, writing book reviews and trying to promote my own writing at the same time. It is tough maintaining that presence and keep it ticking over, especially when you don't necessarily see the returns right away. But your vids have been great, so keep going 👏
Thank you so much for your comment, and thanks for sharing! I'm glad it's been working out in the end for you, and you've been able to adjust your mindset. I think for me, this video is a first step to changing my mindset about these things, and getting those feelings out there.
Stay tuned, and I hope you can come to Japan for that holiday someday soon!
There's still a ways to go, and a lot to deal with mentally but I've had various forms of therapy and counselling to help. Some work better than others but it has helped overall. Confidence and self-esteem are what I really lack, while anxiety I have in abundance 😅 But I'm improving...slowly.
I'm glad you see this video as the first step 💁♂️ Good luck with the subsequent steps. It's a tough road but I'm certain it will be worth it.
First off, happy birthday!
I usually never comment on videos, but I wanted to react to this one. I think my advice would be to not compare yourself to anyone else and follow you own path. You live in Japan, what I think is the most interesting place on earth and you produce things that add genuine joy te people's lives. That already is way more than what most people can say about their own life. I love your videos, thank you for making them and I hope you will make many more.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure you friend would be very proud of you. You are braver, stronger and farther ahead in life than you think. Ganbatte!
Sorry to hear about your friend. Your Persona video was great. I think you should edit out the infringement and relist it. It will do numbers over time and you should be paid. Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday fella. I feel you man, that's a lot to think about, and a lot I can definitely relate to. "Willpower" and "discipline" really can only get anyone so far. I totally get having awesome plans and working really hard and feeling like you've got something going and then something happens that totally throws it off(getting your car stolen, needing to move, having bed bugs, etc). Really excited to see what you do next dude, pace yourself and I'm sure it'll come out fantastic. Have a fantastic rest of your birthday dude, myself and the rest of your eager subscribers are here and we are going to love whatever comes out of your corner of the world. 💛💛💛💛
Greatly appreciated, I know I have lot's of support and will never forget that 🙏🙏
@@KozyKotatsu you know it brotherrrrrr
Also anyone that’s feeling similar, and especially into creative pursuits of ANY kind I HIGHLY RECOMMEND reading The War of Art by Steven Pressfield. Literally amazing