Your friends and family are VERY lucky to have someone as honest, strong AND sensitive as you. The partner you haven't met yet would be thrilled if he knew you were in his future. My best, Brad
What a generous thought in your second sentence. I'm sure you had the response I just had, "This man has a great capacity to love honestly, and I hope he and that special man will meet up and recognize each other"--something like that. I'm 4-5 years late in seeing this, but I'm sure his situation has changed for the better. I often feel like I'm allowed to read only the first part of a book.
True!! If being gay was a choice, then why would anyone choose to get killed in hate crimes, get discriminated against, lose their jobs and be shunned by their own parents?
Christopher, the real sin is the hatred that has been imparted upon you through perceived religious dogma, that really does not exist.I cry that you felt that you wanted to change who you really are. praying to be straight is not the answer. The answers are in our own hearts as each one of us has a separate journey to take through life.. No one else's choices for you should control you. Love as you choose. Live as you choose. Laugh as you choose. Be at peace with your choices, no matter what anyone else feels. Peace and love to you my friend I hope to see more videos from you.
Christopher, not a week goes by without me watching one of these " Coming out" videos that touches my soul. Like yourself, I am attracted to men and have been all my life. I don't like labels, so piss on "gay", " straight" or whatever else the judeo/christian society in which we are imprisoned vomits into our brains as truths. My story is literally the same as yours, suicidal ideation and all. I love you brother and you are never alone in this even when you think you are. My question to you is are you into guys that are older than yourself? Because whoever you end up with is the luckiest man in the world. I seriously mean that.
Dad gum Christopher ... what a handsome devil u r!!! I'm sure this sincere and heartfelt message has already helped thousands of guys who are in the same, exact position gain courage and self respect. This is one of my favorite coming out videos. I'm sure you are immeasurably happier now than anytime in your hiding years. Thanks for sharing your message and helping others.
Very brave and mature of you. Many of us have gone through the same steps and experiences that you speak about. Just remember, you are a child of God and he loves you. We all love and support you! Stay strong!
Emmanuel and Bless you Friend. 60 yrs old here who had the same exact experiences. One thing I learned that changed my life is if you REALLY ANALYSE the scriptures, loving is not the sin. It's the act (which by the way is in effect for M/F relations too). If you could learn to avoid the physical (which actually is one of the main tenants of Christianity), your entire life will change. You can still love anther man. Ask yourself, when is love EVER a sin??? 37 year relationship here, but God called my soul mate home last year. The devistation is indescribable, almost inhumane. It is only my faith that holds me toghether. Please belive in yourself. You are handsome, honest and mature. My prayers are with you, brother.
This is a real man! You are so wonderful. There is still hope in this world. Your honesty is powerful. It took a great deal of courage to overcome the brainwashings of religion and to emerge from that circumstance. It takes a lot of strength and resolve but you did it. I too was told all about hell being the result of being gay. It damn near did me in. I rejected the whole thing, accepted myself as I was, and have been happy ever since. You are going to make someone a tremendous partner. I think you are even more beautiful on the inside than you are on the outside. I would love to have a friend like you. Good luck with your future.
This is when I hear such a heartbreaking story that I am so glad that I've been raised away from religion by parents who taught me from the very start that I am a great person and that I can do whatever I want as long as I lead a life I can be proud of. You look very sincere and seem to be a great guy. I am sure that if it's not already done you will find your soulmate, someone that you can rely on, support and that you will also sometimes want to kill ... hey hey Good luck
I think our society and religious organizations do such damage to us with their misguided views on sex and marriage. To have such a burden placed upon us at the same time as you were going through puberty is too much the bare for some. I am glad you were able to overcome the many obstacles placed in front of you by your family, faith and community to be who you are. I came out to my family at 65 and growing old without a partner is not recommended! Your comment that we all must just remain celibate and can never love anyone, is completely unrealistic and cruel. I can not believe God would give us the power and desire to love and then say we could never have the joy of the gifts love can bring us to the end of life.
Wow Chris. This was the most heartfelt and sincere coming out I've ever seen. I relived my own experiences with every word you spoke. I can see and feel the apprehension and the weariness in your eyes and in your voice. I think I had to remind myself to breathe a couple of times there. It's a heavy load to bear, trying to live our life to fit the expectations of others, and it only serves to add guilt and shame to our already difficult situation. Once we lift this burden of denial, we can truly begin the journey to happiness. It doesn't make everything instantly good, but it's a start. I think you will be surprised to find how many people in your life will be unaffected by this, as they will know that you are still the same guy they have always known. And those that have a problem with it, you will just have to learn to accept that it is their problem to work through and not yours. And sadly there may be a few that you will just have to let go. I wish you the best in your journey, if the world had more people who value honesty as you do, it would be such a better place for us all.
CHRISTOPHER -- Wow, what a powerful story about discovering yourself and transforming your fears. I am a 70-year-old gay American man now living in Great Britain. I love how you spoke so directly and honestly about no longer living a lie but yet terrified of speaking your truth -- yet you did it anyway. This confirms the equation that I have learned -- FEAR + Love = MAGIC. In other words, if we allow ourselves to fear and discover our many fears and fear-based limitations, we can then give ourselves self-love and thereby transform those fears into positive energy. You can take this to the bank. I love your line about "Why can't I love the way I want to." Congratulations, Big Soul. THIS is what spiritual growth is about. Accepting and loving yourself. -- Donald in Wales
Absolutely love you back Christopher. You are a legend. Such a strong person. Thanks for sharing your story. I know you’ll find someone to be very happy with. Good luck.
Very powerful story. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a strong anti-gay message growing up, but it sounds like you have come out the other side and are now on the right path. I hope your family and friends see that you are still you and are still a lovable human being who deserves love himself and that being gay is just a part of who you are. Stay strong, my friend and thanks for sharing your story.
Oh man I know this is over 5 years old now and you probably won't see this but I feel this so much, especially coming from such a similar background and family. I've come out to everyone I'm close to, I still get that feeling of sinning or not being worthy but that's slowly improving. Videos like this even tho I've come out still help so much. Glad everything is working out, so happy for you - much love.
I can completely understand. I too was raised in a Southern Baptist. I am 48 years old and have just now accepted that there is nothing wrong with me. You are a great guy for doing this video. I would love to meet more people like you.
Raised southern Baptist and served as a music director for 37 years in southern Baptist churches. Lived in the same fear and denial as you did but mine was based on suppressed feelings. Attraction to men terrified me and I suppressed those too. Ate to overcome the pain and developed an eating disorder by the age of ten. Did not come out until the age of 63 in 2019. Proud that you had the courage to face your fears at such a young age.
Your video has broken a million hearts - including mine. It's been several years since you posted this. Today, I pray and trust that you've found a man who is completely worthy of you. Bravo.
All those who sympathise with you (I'm one of them) trust your life has changed for the better. Live your life to the full. We're sure you will find the love of your life! The Best of Luck to You, Christopher!
Thank you for baring your soul and your humanity. It takes personal courage and integrity to come out. I came out at age 50. So I am a bit envious. But at the same time I celebrate your happiness at being who you are. You deserve to be with your peers in total transparency. Bless you.
Dear Christopher, I'm very proud of you! I really love your video, it's so honest. You're a wonderful person and I'm sure you'll find a man, who will also see how much love you deserve. Lots of love and hugs from Germany! ♥
You seem to be such a nice guy, being gay is definitely not a choice. I reckon not having feelings for girls ever since I can remember. Always remember that the Bible and all religious books are just interpretations, people interpret things the way they like and like to discriminate minorities but use the ignorance and hatred of those individuals to keep on improving and being yourself. You are awesome, never change who you are for anyone or anything because thats how you shine best. From Stranger, to another stranger, Love you too :P.
Christopher, Thank you so much for your story my beautiful man! I admire your intelligence and heart, we LGBT are as worthy as anyone else in this world to be happy, I suffered 33 years before coming out, and even after that I continued living in the straight world like a shadow because of the wounds of shame and rejection when I was young. I find myself at 56 never having experienced love, and living with the pain of feeling I missed out on life. I'm only now reaching out, I want to experience like and not just exist, thank you so much for your inspiration.
Christopher...bravo my good man. Proud to have you among us...I didn’t come out til I was 26...I’m now 54, married and wouldn’t have it any other way. You are going to love your life.
I'm writing this the end of June, 2020. So I doubt you'll even see this. But I wanted to sincerely thank you for your honesty, courage and integrity. The pain that you experienced growing up, though horrific, has made you the strong person you are in this video. If you haven't already discovered the deep freedom of non-belief, I encourage you to explore it. No matter how much you try to rationalize or excuse religion, it will always disappoint you, judge you, and remain a shackle around your neck. So let go - you don't need it. And see how much true freedom and deep happiness there is for you to discover in atheism/agnosticism. This "break" may be absolutely necessary for your very survival as a gay person, not to mention your full self-realization. I wish you much love and genuine acceptance in your beautiful gay life, my friend. ❤️
Just remember: "Sin is an imaginary disease invented to sell you an imaginary cure." You've come such a long way. The gay community is always out here...for you. The guy who eventually settles down with you...one lucky dude, indeed! Congratulations!
Christopher, you have a lovely personality and are REALLY good looking. The part where he told us he wants to be able to hold a guy's hand in public, take care of him when he's sick, etc. brought me to tears, it was so genuine and raw. There is some very lucky guy out there who is gonna win your heart.
You're quite brave!, being gay is not a sin, society transformed it into one, but that doesn't necessarily means God will stop loving you, remember he loves you for who you are!. BEIGN GAY IS NOT AN OPTION.
My favorite coming out video it helped me so much before and now that it just popped up on my screen I just decided to thank you ❤️❤️❤️ I came out one year ago after a BUNCH of problems in my personal life. Everything is way better now but I'm still in a process of acceptance💖🙌 XOXO from Brazil 🇧🇷
Congrats on making this video! It's a huge step. I grew up in a christian home as well and went to a private Southern Baptist University. I prayed hard to become straight until finally I came to realize it was all crap. We were dupe'd into thinking and believing a certain way growing up. We were impressionable kids being force fed junk. Luckily in adulthood, we can really seek and learn the truth. I'm sending love and hugs.
Thank you very much, Christopher, for sharing your story with us. You are a beautiful (inside and outside) young man: intelligent, honest, nuanced, tender and friendly. If hell existed, there would absolutely be no room for you in there! I’m so glad you finally dared to love yourself.....it took me even a lot more time than it took you, so I know the horrors that accompany this proces very well. Live long with your future boyfriend and make him happy! I love you Christopher!
It's nice to see how real, honest and unpretentious you are. A lot of gay people put on a big act to not seem vulnerable. But this kind of honesty is beautiful. I want to know more people like you.
Thank you for sharing. There is a very large distinction between being religious and being Christian: the former may be overtly bigoted, unaccepting and judgmental but the latter is not. I believe your story will help many whose lives are made miserable by religious zealots.
Hi Christopher, I just came across your video today. So you are now a year down the road and the sound of things, you have graduated as well. Very proud of people like you and what you did. I'm almost 53, didn't "come out" to my family until I was 30. It didnt' go well at all. I've got a similar background as you just substitute Church of Christ for Southern Baptist. My mom wrote me a very long scathing letter condemning me to hell for the choices I was making and on and on. I lost several friends during the process as well. It took well over a year before my mom & I even spoke again and then for years after the relationship was strained. You know the funny thing, I finally relented and took my then partner, now husband, home to meet the family. I was scared more then than I was about coming out to them. After they met my Andy, almost overnight my relationship with my family was actually stronger than it had ever been. They love Andy as much (i think he is mom's favorite) as they do me. I cry every time I think about how wonderful my family has been to us. They genuinely love him and know without a doubt that he is absolutely the best thing that has ever happened in my life. I still from time to time let my mind fall back onto the religion that I was brought up in, and I have to admit, that those teachings can still haunt me. But in the end, I realize God creates out of love and not hate. I hope at this point in your life you've got that first great post-college job and maybe just maybe someone really close to your heart too. You seem like a great guy, someone I would definitely want to be friends with, someone that people can look up to as a role model. Keep up the good work. ~ John
Hey Christopher -- Just saw your story. You are amazing and I am proud of you. I love you and I want you to always be yourself. Stay you and stay safe. Keep being strong and yourself. -- David
Well done mate. be strong, keep your head high and never let anyone let you lose control of that power you have. your 1 of a kind, not a copy, or script written by someone else for your life instructions. do what makes you smile, feel warm and fuzzy. Keep your faith and morals and you will be fine. Good Luck in your bright new future you have nothing to hide from anyone.
you real friends will stick by you, remember God doesn't make mistakes, your here for a reason and you will find that special person... Congradulations, loveya
Your concerns are what we've all thought. Young man, BE yourself. If you lose a friend, let them go because if they're truly your friend, they will stand by you!
Brother I was raised a Baptist also. & I just want to tell you Don’t ever worry about going to Hell because you’ve already been there! The hateful Christian church has tried to guilt us into believing that lie. God created us to love other men for his own purposes. We will find out what for when we get to Heaven. Until then find a good man to marry & raise your beautiful family and always remember God loves you & I love you too 🌈👍💜⭐️🏳️🌈🇺🇸✝️💪💙❤️
Proud of you for sharing this!! You are worthy of choosing whom you love - as is every other person! My son came out to me when he was 18 yrs. old - and honestly I had always know he would do that one day although he too, "dated" girls, etc. Luckily, we had raised him although Catholic - always sharing that we didn't believe everything they preached - and included that being gay was not a choice, everyone deserved to love who they love. If you've never been to Provincetown, MA - you should visit! It's a very accepting and beautiful community!!! Also, you may know me from Ancestry DNA....please connect!! JC
The friends or family that shun you will lead to you making up your own family, one who acts not based on what is in books but on what human nature is. Don't waste your time on haters, they are not worth a second of your time... let them lose theirs by hating other people as the bigoted frightened and frustated persons they are. Your speech was very moving and shows how big your heart is. Salutations from the north of France. Olivier
Thank you for posting this video. I believe it was an act of considerable courage for you to do so, and I believe this video, and others like it, will ease the way for other people struggling with accepting that they are gay and coming out to their friends and family. I hope that your friends and family realized that, in coming out, you're still the same person--it's just that your friends and family now know more about who you have been all along. As you note, you're no longer hiding your true self and lying about who you really are.
Nothing but love for you, dude! I hope you are doing well now! Know that you have support from all over the world (this one is from Germany). Your video is very inspirational and I think that it will be a part of my coming out very soon. And I am scared. But I can't live like this anymore! After so many years I have to start to live eventually. Thank you so much for your video! And I would love to see a follow up ;)
Not only are you clearly intellectually intelligent, Christopher but you possess an emotional intelligence that is quite awe-inspiring in one so young - oftentimes, it is the pain and sorrow that we feel - through the ignorance and outrage of others - that becomes the crucible on which our beauty as Gay men and women is wrought. Goodnight, Christopher. Arohanui. x
Hey, thank you for sharing this. Haven't come out yet but this is soooo inspiring, I wished I could be the brave. And yes, I want to have a guy to hold hands with, take care when he's sick (and when I am), and marry him and build a little family. Thank you.
Christopher, you are a beautiful Child of God who is Gay. Thanks for your story and being honest with yourself. I am a Southern Baptist Minister of Music and I am gay and I love and appreciate you. Take care and love yourself. Andy
That is correct you are still the same person. When I came out I lost all my guy friends but, I found that one guy, together for over 20 yrs. Hold your head up and keep your heart open.
You got it right Christopher. Keep on keepin on! Soon you'll realize that this video and being out really doesn't "change my life dramatically or permanently" . Theres nothing new under the sun, including being gay and it's as normal as the air we breath. I don't know you but I am proud of you and your courage!
Hey Christopher that was one of the most Beautiful and Sad and also Brave ''coming Out'' Posts I have ever seen ! I send all My Love to You from over the pond here in London and some Man is going to be very Lucky to meet and fall in Love with You ! Take Care of Yourself while He still searches for You Handsome .
I feel really bad for that young boy who'd been taught lies merely for religious propaganda. I'm so happy for you!! You can live your truth now. I'm 18 and yet to be free from the closet. You gave me hope :)
Chris, you're perfect just the way you are. I have no use for religion, but if it's still important to you to be a part of that environment, find a place that is accepting of you as you are.
Loved your story bud. I went thru so many of the same things you talked about. I want you to remember, that DIFFERENT IS GOOD! Can you imagine how boring, and sad, it would be if we were all the same? Keep the faith my friend, (and don't get me started on religion; I grew up fundamental Baptist) and often existed with feelings of fear and guilt...and shame. I believed I was "damaged goods." Well now I say, if you don't like or accept me for who I am, get over it!
You are 100% OK! If there really is a god, he made you the way you are and he loves you. No matter what ‘christians’ or other religious zealots say. Be yourself and be happy. You deserve that, just like everyone else. And if you lose friends because of this, they weren’t real friends anyway. You will find better ones.
I'm so happy for you Christopher, its been over a month now, how has the journey been going? I hope you have recieved some pleasant suprises. Ignore those hypocrite haters that hide behind the church. You get the biggest of hugs from me, i'm sure your story will help a lot of people. thank you so much.
Hey. I am doing well Thank You for your support. It has been a long journey thus far and continues to be. I have been thinking about making another video as a follow up but will probably do so after I graduate in May. The support from friends has been amazing!! My family life is still very rough though. My parents still say its a choice and a sin. My Grandparents have been worse. The night I posted the video they called demanding I take it down and have since left me 2 long nasty emails that are one attack after another. I know it will take time and I am prepared to wait but with every Bible thumping text I get from my mom and other family members that continue to hate it hurts all the more.. If things don't get better soon with them I might have to make the difficult choice to shut them out.. Thank you again for your support.The greatest thing I have gotten out of this is hearing that I have inspired others. That really means alot to me.
Christopher Stickle Christopher, you're fine. Get on with your life. Your parents are brainwashed by the oldest institution on the planet. There's no sin. There's only our lives to live and to love. Best wishes!
Christopher Stickle I just came across your video. It is so important that you follow through with moving on and away from family who are so incredibly ignorant and hateful. Your young, educated and have everything going for you. These family members will tear you down if you let them -- don't. You have grown so much and been able to move away from all the absurd things you have been taught concerning your sexuality. You will find a soul mate who you can love and be loved by and have that marriage and family you want. Congratulations and best wishes.
You're awesome dude. Just know that you are who you are and that is 100% perfect. Being gay doesn't make you any less worthy of love, success, happiness, or anything else.
Kia Ora Christopher! I come from an entirely different generation from you. When I was your age, the general consensus of society, as a whole, was extremely anti-Gay. At 19 years old, I was dismissed from the British Armed Services for the "blackmail risk" I posed to fellow soldiers. It didn't seem to occur to them that in allowing me to live openly and freely, there would be nothing to blackmail me for!? The situation is changing, rapidly and worldwide. Here in New Zealand, marriage is an equal right for every gender and orientation. More and more nations are becoming intolerant of intolerance (except those corrupted by a religious perversion - which happens to be the real sin). At this stage of your journey, Christopher it is not necessary to know all the answers, but it does help in being open to all the questions. In moving away from a place of religious intolerance to one of Spiritual curiosity, you will ultimately discover that you are a creature of natural beauty and there is nothing shameful in your capacity to love another human being who "just so happens" to be of the same gender! May you always have enough light, to illuminate the path ahead! Love. Ben (Auckland, New Zealand)
Cristopher, you are very brave. It saddens me to see that people use religion to judge others, for instance, you for being gay. I know first hand how hard it is to come out but let me tell you that it will get better. The worst is behind you... and you are lucky too in that this new generation is more open towards gay people. I applaud your strength and your sensitivity, you are a beautiful man. Live your life without shame as you are a beautiful human being and God loves you.
Well... this says it was 9 years ago.... Dude - you are quite handsome! How are you today? I hope you are happy, healthy and with a fantastic spouse. If you could, post an update. These stories help - not matter what you think. Don't look at "likes" or click count. They help! I am the generation before you. Same background: religious, closed community, suicide attempt. As I said - I hope you are doing awesome and happy with your relationship and life. Just realize - you have SO many people that support you! About me? Well - I am in a 29 year relationship with my husband. Am a Guncle (Gay Uncle) and have so much of my life devoted to my husband and extended family. Life is awesome and moves forward. Blessings to you and yours!!
Hey Christopher, I know this is late but I will tell you though, a friend of mine came out to me once and I was shocked but I'm still friends with him, he's still the same person I've known since I was a kid just like you're still the same person too. The people who will be there for you are the ones who love you unconditionally no matter what warts and all. My kid brother and I both are on the Autism Spectrum, I have Asperger's Syndrome, a mild form of autism, and my brother has severe autism, my point is everyone, straight or gay, special needs or normal, deserve and need to be loved unconditionally, especially when it comes to when people become parents themselves, unconditional love is for everyone!
Yes Christopher, YOU are fine. What isn't fine are the ignorant nay sayers around you. Shed them. Surround yourself with true friends. People that bring negativity to your life are poison, just as they are for everyone else. Free yourself of that burden. I've traveled the same road as you. Some people will always be locked in stupidity and ignorance. They aren't interested in growth and happiness. There are literally thousands of coming out stories. The saddest are those where family stand in your way of true happiness. Put distance between you and them as soon as you can. The best of everything to you.
Hi Christopher, My partner and I have just watched your Coming Out Story and are now wiping away the tears because of the emotion that you shown in telling us about yourself. You are one hell of a guy and as you are moving through the different stages of your life you are discovering some truths. Discovering them and accepting them is paramount. You are Gay, you are worthy of love, giving and receiving, you are normal, you are human etc etc. In my case, I only found peace when I came out. The nervous energy that I used in hiding my secret was now free to flow into things that I loved, not deceit. It Does Get Better, sounds corny, but it is the truth. Warmest wishes to you for a happy and safe life full of love. You've earned it and deserve it.
Your a great guy! I wish I knew you. Please try and keep around people who support you. Give your family time to accept you. Hopefully they will. Your a cool guy. Thanks, Kerry.
Hey Christopher, Congratulations for your courage! I do so hope that you will find happiness. I was brought up in a hyper-calvinistic environment in Holland (they can be incredibly religious over here....). Homosexuality wasn't even mentioned in church because it was the biggest taboo. Luckily for me this type of religion is a very small (but strong, when your in it) subculture in Holland. I went to study classical singing, and in this environment you must be truly yourself, which was a huge shock at first! It is so wonderful to become and be yourself and I do so hope you can experience the same with a wonderful boyfriend next to you and lovely friends. Enjoy yourselves, you are beautiful !
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Your friends and family are VERY lucky to have someone as honest, strong AND sensitive as you. The partner you haven't met yet would be thrilled if he knew you were in his future.
My best, Brad
What a generous thought in your second sentence. I'm sure you had the response I just had, "This man has a great capacity to love honestly, and I hope he and that special man will meet up and recognize each other"--something like that. I'm 4-5 years late in seeing this, but I'm sure his situation has changed for the better.
I often feel like I'm allowed to read only the first part of a book.
Awesome Job!!! Stand tall, shoulders back and Hold your head high!!!! Be proud that God made you a wonderful man.
+mosichat ---"Mosi" dont you agree too? i so agree with what you said ,,,,god made him a beautiful person and gay man just like he did me too
True!! If being gay was a choice, then why would anyone choose to get killed in hate crimes, get discriminated against, lose their jobs and be shunned by their own parents?
The questions Christians will never answer, nor will they ever come to terms with the fact that even they never chose to be straight.
If you lose friends because of coming out then they are not friends you need in your life. Be strong and be what makes you happy. Cheers!
Christopher, the real sin is the hatred that has been imparted upon you through perceived religious dogma, that really does not exist.I cry that you felt that you wanted to change who you really are. praying to be straight is not the answer. The answers are in our own hearts as each one of us has a separate journey to take through life.. No one else's choices for you should control you. Love as you choose. Live as you choose. Laugh as you choose. Be at peace with your choices, no matter what anyone else feels. Peace and love to you my friend I hope to see more videos from you.
Christopher, not a week goes by without me watching one of these " Coming out" videos that touches my soul. Like yourself, I am attracted to men and have been all my life. I don't like labels, so piss on "gay", " straight" or whatever else the judeo/christian society in which we are imprisoned vomits into our brains as truths. My story is literally the same as yours, suicidal ideation and all. I love you brother and you are never alone in this even when you think you are. My question to you is are you into guys that are older than yourself? Because whoever you end up with is the luckiest man in the world. I seriously mean that.
he is not alone!
Thanks for saying it. "Suicide is not an option"
Thanks for sharing! Quiet, yet powerful message. Glad you found the strength you needed to live your life. Now this video can inspire others!
This coming out was really awesome! No edits and continuous sharing makes it just about perfect.
You have suffered terribly, and I feel deeply for you. But you have enormous courage, too.
I know I'm 9 years late, but I find this video very relatable to my own life. Thank you for making it!
I'm 53. I have so been where you were when you made this video. I have no right to be proud of you, but I am anyway.
Congratulations Christopher for doing one of the hardest things in life, being YOU!
It Gets Better!!
I can see the pain in your eyes Chris, be strong, God loves you! I hope your loved ones too.
Dad gum Christopher ... what a handsome devil u r!!! I'm sure this sincere and heartfelt message has already helped thousands of guys who are in the same, exact position gain courage and self respect. This is one of my favorite coming out videos. I'm sure you are immeasurably happier now than anytime in your hiding years. Thanks for sharing your message and helping others.
You're handsome, honest, self-confident and brave. I wish you really the best and I hope all your wishes come true some day. A big hug.
Very brave and mature of you. Many of us have gone through the same steps and experiences that you speak about. Just remember, you are a child of God and he loves you. We all love and support you! Stay strong!
Emmanuel and Bless you Friend. 60 yrs old here who had the same exact experiences. One thing I learned that changed my life is if you REALLY ANALYSE the scriptures, loving is not the sin. It's the act (which by the way is in effect for M/F relations too). If you could learn to avoid the physical (which actually is one of the main tenants of Christianity), your entire life will change. You can still love anther man. Ask yourself, when is love EVER a sin??? 37 year relationship here, but God called my soul mate home last year. The devistation is indescribable, almost inhumane. It is only my faith that holds me toghether. Please belive in yourself. You are handsome, honest and mature. My prayers are with you, brother.
This is a real man! You are so wonderful. There is still hope in this world. Your honesty is powerful. It took a great deal of courage to overcome the brainwashings of religion and to emerge from that circumstance. It takes a lot of strength and resolve but you did it. I too was told all about hell being the result of being gay. It damn near did me in. I rejected the whole thing, accepted myself as I was, and have been happy ever since. You are going to make someone a tremendous partner. I think you are even more beautiful on the inside than you are on the outside. I would love to have a friend like you. Good luck with your future.
This is when I hear such a heartbreaking story that I am so glad that I've been raised away from religion by parents who taught me from the very start that I am a great person and that I can do whatever I want as long as I lead a life I can be proud of. You look very sincere and seem to be a great guy. I am sure that if it's not already done you will find your soulmate, someone that you can rely on, support and that you will also sometimes want to kill ... hey hey Good luck
I think our society and religious organizations do such damage to us with their misguided views on sex and marriage. To have such a burden placed upon us at the same time as you were going through puberty is too much the bare for some. I am glad you were able to overcome the many obstacles placed in front of you by your family, faith and community to be who you are. I came out to my family at 65 and growing old without a partner is not recommended! Your comment that we all must just remain celibate and can never love anyone, is completely unrealistic and cruel. I can not believe God would give us the power and desire to love and then say we could never have the joy of the gifts love can bring us to the end of life.
Wow Chris. This was the most heartfelt and sincere coming out I've ever seen. I relived my own experiences with every word you spoke. I can see and feel the apprehension and the weariness in your eyes and in your voice. I think I had to remind myself to breathe a couple of times there. It's a heavy load to bear, trying to live our life to fit the expectations of others, and it only serves to add guilt and shame to our already difficult situation. Once we lift this burden of denial, we can truly begin the journey to happiness. It doesn't make everything instantly good, but it's a start. I think you will be surprised to find how many people in your life will be unaffected by this, as they will know that you are still the same guy they have always known. And those that have a problem with it, you will just have to learn to accept that it is their problem to work through and not yours. And sadly there may be a few that you will just have to let go. I wish you the best in your journey, if the world had more people who value honesty as you do, it would be such a better place for us all.
Christopher, you have a very lucky man in your future. Thanks for this. You are enviable.
CHRISTOPHER -- Wow, what a powerful story about discovering yourself and transforming your fears. I am a 70-year-old gay American man now living in Great Britain. I love how you spoke so directly and honestly about no longer living a lie but yet terrified of speaking your truth -- yet you did it anyway. This confirms the equation that I have learned -- FEAR + Love = MAGIC. In other words, if we allow ourselves to fear and discover our many fears and fear-based limitations, we can then give ourselves self-love and thereby transform those fears into positive energy. You can take this to the bank. I love your line about "Why can't I love the way I want to." Congratulations, Big Soul. THIS is what spiritual growth is about. Accepting and loving yourself. -- Donald in Wales
Absolutely love you back Christopher. You are a legend. Such a strong person. Thanks for sharing your story. I know you’ll find someone to be very happy with. Good luck.
Very powerful story. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a strong anti-gay message growing up, but it sounds like you have come out the other side and are now on the right path. I hope your family and friends see that you are still you and are still a lovable human being who deserves love himself and that being gay is just a part of who you are. Stay strong, my friend and thanks for sharing your story.
Oh man I know this is over 5 years old now and you probably won't see this but I feel this so much, especially coming from such a similar background and family. I've come out to everyone I'm close to, I still get that feeling of sinning or not being worthy but that's slowly improving. Videos like this even tho I've come out still help so much. Glad everything is working out, so happy for you - much love.
I can completely understand. I too was raised in a Southern Baptist. I am 48 years old and have just now accepted that there is nothing wrong with me. You are a great guy for doing this video. I would love to meet more people like you.
Raised southern Baptist and served as a music director for 37 years in southern Baptist churches. Lived in the same fear and denial as you did but mine was based on suppressed feelings. Attraction to men terrified me and I suppressed those too. Ate to overcome the pain and developed an eating disorder by the age of ten. Did not come out until the age of 63 in 2019. Proud that you had the courage to face your fears at such a young age.
I feel you Chris.
I'm so happy for you to have this courage and finally came out. I wish one day I have this courage too. Keep strong Chris xoxo
Bravo....great leap of faith...you are loved and will be loved...your passion and your heart are perfect!
Your video has broken a million hearts - including mine. It's been several years since you posted this. Today, I pray and trust that you've found a man who is completely worthy of you. Bravo.
All those who sympathise with you (I'm one of them) trust your life has changed for the better. Live your life to the full. We're sure you will find the love of your life! The Best of Luck to You, Christopher!
You are amazing! I support your bravery for coming out, take care and stay safe always.
Thank you for baring your soul and your humanity. It takes personal courage and integrity to come out. I came out at age 50. So I am a bit envious. But at the same time I celebrate your happiness at being who you are. You deserve to be with your peers in total transparency. Bless you.
Dear Christopher, I'm very proud of you! I really love your video, it's so honest. You're a wonderful person and I'm sure you'll find a man, who will also see how much love you deserve.
Lots of love and hugs from Germany! ♥
You seem to be such a nice guy, being gay is definitely not a choice. I reckon not having feelings for girls ever since I can remember. Always remember that the Bible and all religious books are just interpretations, people interpret things the way they like and like to discriminate minorities but use the ignorance and hatred of those individuals to keep on improving and being yourself. You are awesome, never change who you are for anyone or anything because thats how you shine best. From Stranger, to another stranger, Love you too :P.
Thank you for being so brave. Any true friend will stand by you no matter your sexuality.
Christopher, Thank you so much for your story my beautiful man! I admire your intelligence and heart, we LGBT are as worthy as anyone else in this world to be happy, I suffered 33 years before coming out, and even after that I continued living in the straight world like a shadow because of the wounds of shame and rejection when I was young. I find myself at 56 never having experienced love, and living with the pain of feeling I missed out on life. I'm only now reaching out, I want to experience like and not just exist, thank you so much for your inspiration.
You have a beautiful soul, please never change.
Christopher...bravo my good man. Proud to have you among us...I didn’t come out til I was 26...I’m now 54, married and wouldn’t have it any other way. You are going to love your life.
You are brave. I am proud of you.
I'm writing this the end of June, 2020. So I doubt you'll even see this. But I wanted to sincerely thank you for your honesty, courage and integrity.
The pain that you experienced growing up, though horrific, has made you the strong person you are in this video.
If you haven't already discovered the deep freedom of non-belief, I encourage you to explore it. No matter how much you try to rationalize or excuse religion, it will always disappoint you, judge you, and remain a shackle around your neck. So let go - you don't need it. And see how much true freedom and deep happiness there is for you to discover in atheism/agnosticism. This "break" may be absolutely necessary for your very survival as a gay person, not to mention your full self-realization.
I wish you much love and genuine acceptance in your beautiful gay life, my friend. ❤️
Just remember: "Sin is an imaginary disease invented to sell you an imaginary cure." You've come such a long way. The gay community is always out here...for you. The guy who eventually settles down with you...one lucky dude, indeed! Congratulations!
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Christopher, you have a lovely personality and are REALLY good looking. The part where he told us he wants to be able to hold a guy's hand in public, take care of him when he's sick, etc. brought me to tears, it was so genuine and raw. There is some very lucky guy out there who is gonna win your heart.
You're quite brave!, being gay is not a sin, society transformed it into one, but that doesn't necessarily means God will stop loving you, remember he loves you for who you are!. BEIGN GAY IS NOT AN OPTION.
Be proud and accept who you are and love yourself. Be strong and keep your head up high and....COWBOY UP!
proud proud proud proud proud proud
My favorite coming out video it helped me so much before and now that it just popped up on my screen I just decided to thank you ❤️❤️❤️ I came out one year ago after a BUNCH of problems in my personal life. Everything is way better now but I'm still in a process of acceptance💖🙌 XOXO from Brazil 🇧🇷
You're strong, thanks for sharing with the world. hope you're well.
Be strong. I love you and wish you all the best.
Congrats on making this video! It's a huge step. I grew up in a christian home as well and went to a private Southern Baptist University. I prayed hard to become straight until finally I came to realize it was all crap. We were dupe'd into thinking and believing a certain way growing up. We were impressionable kids being force fed junk. Luckily in adulthood, we can really seek and learn the truth. I'm sending love and hugs.
Thank you very much, Christopher, for sharing your story with us. You are a beautiful (inside and outside) young man: intelligent, honest, nuanced, tender and friendly. If hell existed, there would absolutely be no room for you in there! I’m so glad you finally dared to love yourself.....it took me even a lot more time than it took you, so I know the horrors that accompany this proces very well. Live long with your future boyfriend and make him happy! I love you Christopher!
It's nice to see how real, honest and unpretentious you are. A lot of gay people put on a big act to not seem vulnerable. But this kind of honesty is beautiful. I want to know more people like you.
Hi Cris, you inspire me about your story. Thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing. There is a very large distinction between being religious and being Christian: the former may be overtly bigoted, unaccepting and judgmental but the latter is not. I believe your story will help many whose lives are made miserable by religious zealots.
Hi Christopher, I just came across your video today. So you are now a year down the road and the sound of things, you have graduated as well. Very proud of people like you and what you did. I'm almost 53, didn't "come out" to my family until I was 30. It didnt' go well at all. I've got a similar background as you just substitute Church of Christ for Southern Baptist. My mom wrote me a very long scathing letter condemning me to hell for the choices I was making and on and on. I lost several friends during the process as well. It took well over a year before my mom & I even spoke again and then for years after the relationship was strained. You know the funny thing, I finally relented and took my then partner, now husband, home to meet the family. I was scared more then than I was about coming out to them. After they met my Andy, almost overnight my relationship with my family was actually stronger than it had ever been. They love Andy as much (i think he is mom's favorite) as they do me. I cry every time I think about how wonderful my family has been to us. They genuinely love him and know without a doubt that he is absolutely the best thing that has ever happened in my life. I still from time to time let my mind fall back onto the religion that I was brought up in, and I have to admit, that those teachings can still haunt me. But in the end, I realize God creates out of love and not hate. I hope at this point in your life you've got that first great post-college job and maybe just maybe someone really close to your heart too. You seem like a great guy, someone I would definitely want to be friends with, someone that people can look up to as a role model. Keep up the good work. ~ John
Thanks for posting this!! Best wishes to you.
Loved your story. Keep up the way you are. Even being far away from you, you have my support.and love. A big hug. Valdecir, Brasil.
Thank you for your amazing post. You are absolutely right in asking for support.
Hey Christopher -- Just saw your story. You are amazing and I am proud of you. I love you and I want you to always be yourself. Stay you and stay safe. Keep being strong and yourself. -- David
Love, love, love , you are hero :)
Well done mate. be strong, keep your head high and never let anyone let you lose control of that power you have. your 1 of a kind, not a copy, or script written by someone else for your life instructions. do what makes you smile, feel warm and fuzzy.
Keep your faith and morals and you will be fine. Good Luck in your bright new future you have nothing to hide from anyone.
you real friends will stick by you, remember God doesn't make mistakes, your here for a reason and you will find that special person... Congradulations, loveya
So proud of you.
Your concerns are what we've all thought. Young man, BE yourself. If you lose a friend, let them go because if they're truly your friend, they will stand by you!
Brother I was raised a Baptist also. & I just want to tell you Don’t ever worry about going to Hell because you’ve already been there! The hateful Christian church has tried to guilt us into believing that lie. God created us to love other men for his own purposes. We will find out what for when we get to Heaven. Until then find a good man to marry & raise your beautiful family and always remember God loves you & I love you too 🌈👍💜⭐️🏳️🌈🇺🇸✝️💪💙❤️
Proud of you for sharing this!! You are worthy of choosing whom you love - as is every other person! My son came out to me when he was 18 yrs. old - and honestly I had always know he would do that one day although he too, "dated" girls, etc. Luckily, we had raised him although Catholic - always sharing that we didn't believe everything they preached - and included that being gay was not a choice, everyone deserved to love who they love. If you've never been to Provincetown, MA - you should visit! It's a very accepting and beautiful community!!! Also, you may know me from Ancestry DNA....please connect!! JC
The friends or family that shun you will lead to you making up your own family, one who acts not based on what is in books but on what human nature is. Don't waste your time on haters, they are not worth a second of your time... let them lose theirs by hating other people as the bigoted frightened and frustated persons they are. Your speech was very moving and shows how big your heart is. Salutations from the north of France. Olivier
Thank you for posting this video. I believe it was an act of considerable courage for you to do so, and I believe this video, and others like it, will ease the way for other people struggling with accepting that they are gay and coming out to their friends and family. I hope that your friends and family realized that, in coming out, you're still the same person--it's just that your friends and family now know more about who you have been all along. As you note, you're no longer hiding your true self and lying about who you really are.
Nothing but love for you, dude! I hope you are doing well now! Know that you have support from all over the world (this one is from Germany). Your video is very inspirational and I think that it will be a part of my coming out very soon. And I am scared. But I can't live like this anymore! After so many years I have to start to live eventually. Thank you so much for your video! And I would love to see a follow up ;)
Not only are you clearly intellectually intelligent, Christopher but you possess an emotional intelligence that is quite awe-inspiring in one so young - oftentimes, it is the pain and sorrow that we feel - through the ignorance and outrage of others - that becomes the crucible on which our beauty as Gay men and women is wrought. Goodnight, Christopher. Arohanui. x
Bless you ! ! Yesterday never was. Tomorrow never will be. There's only Today. So why not LIVE now. All the best to you, Christopher.
Hey, thank you for sharing this. Haven't come out yet but this is soooo inspiring, I wished I could be the brave. And yes, I want to have a guy to hold hands with, take care when he's sick (and when I am), and marry him and build a little family. Thank you.
Christopher, you are a beautiful Child of God who is Gay. Thanks for your story and being honest with yourself. I am a Southern Baptist Minister of Music and I am gay and I love and appreciate you. Take care and love yourself. Andy
You are a beautiful young man. Wishing you every happiness. Big HUG.
That is correct you are still the same person. When I came out I lost all my guy friends but, I found that one guy, together for over 20 yrs. Hold your head up and keep your heart open.
You got it right Christopher. Keep on keepin on! Soon you'll realize that this video and being out really doesn't "change my life dramatically or permanently" . Theres nothing new under the sun, including being gay and it's as normal as the air we breath. I don't know you but I am proud of you and your courage!
Hey Christopher that was one of the most Beautiful and Sad and also Brave ''coming Out'' Posts I have ever seen ! I send all My Love to You from over the pond here in London and some Man is going to be very Lucky to meet and fall in Love with You ! Take Care of Yourself while He still searches for You Handsome .
I feel really bad for that young boy who'd been taught lies merely for religious propaganda. I'm so happy for you!! You can live your truth now.
I'm 18 and yet to be free from the closet. You gave me hope :)
So inspiring! Stay strong, and be yourself ❤
Chris, you're perfect just the way you are. I have no use for religion, but if it's still important to you to be a part of that environment, find a place that is accepting of you as you are.
Your wonderful just believe in yourself. God made you just the way he wanted you.
Loved your story bud. I went thru so many of the same things you talked about. I want you to remember, that DIFFERENT IS GOOD! Can you imagine how boring, and sad, it would be if we were all the same? Keep the faith my friend, (and don't get me started on religion; I grew up fundamental Baptist) and often existed with feelings of fear and guilt...and shame. I believed I was "damaged goods." Well now I say, if you don't like or accept me for who I am, get over it!
Sending love and warm hugs to you Chris.
I wish you a long and happy life..
It gets better, so long as you love and believe in yourself proud of you x
You are 100% OK! If there really is a god, he made you the way you are and he loves you. No matter what ‘christians’ or other religious zealots say. Be yourself and be happy. You deserve that, just like everyone else. And if you lose friends because of this, they weren’t real friends anyway. You will find better ones.
TKS for this openess et Truth. Hope the best for you. Shines georgous !
I'm so happy for you Christopher, its been over a month now, how has the journey been going? I hope you have recieved some pleasant suprises. Ignore those hypocrite haters that hide behind the church. You get the biggest of hugs from me, i'm sure your story will help a lot of people. thank you so much.
Hey. I am doing well Thank You for your support. It has been a long journey thus far and continues to be. I have been thinking about making another video as a follow up but will probably do so after I graduate in May. The support from friends has been amazing!! My family life is still very rough though. My parents still say its a choice and a sin. My Grandparents have been worse. The night I posted the video they called demanding I take it down and have since left me 2 long nasty emails that are one attack after another. I know it will take time and I am prepared to wait but with every Bible thumping text I get from my mom and other family members that continue to hate it hurts all the more.. If things don't get better soon with them I might have to make the difficult choice to shut them out.. Thank you again for your support.The greatest thing I have gotten out of this is hearing that I have inspired others. That really means alot to me.
Christopher Stickle
Christopher, you're fine. Get on with your life. Your parents are brainwashed by the oldest institution on the planet. There's no sin. There's only our lives to live and to love. Best wishes!
Christopher Stickle I just came across your video. It is so important that you follow through with moving on and away from family who are so incredibly ignorant and hateful. Your young, educated and have everything going for you. These family members will tear you down if you let them -- don't. You have grown so much and
been able to move away from all the absurd things you have been taught concerning your sexuality. You will find a soul mate who you can love and be loved by and have that marriage and family you want. Congratulations and best wishes.
todd716 sorry you gonna burn in the hell
Bravos to you.
You're awesome dude. Just know that you are who you are and that is 100% perfect. Being gay doesn't make you any less worthy of love, success, happiness, or anything else.
Christopher, now that you made the leap to what is naturally you, enjoy life.
Kia Ora Christopher! I come from an entirely different generation from you. When I was your age, the general consensus of society, as a whole, was extremely anti-Gay. At 19 years old, I was dismissed from the British Armed Services for the "blackmail risk" I posed to fellow soldiers. It didn't seem to occur to them that in allowing me to live openly and freely, there would be nothing to blackmail me for!? The situation is changing, rapidly and worldwide. Here in New Zealand, marriage is an equal right for every gender and orientation. More and more nations are becoming intolerant of intolerance (except those corrupted by a religious perversion - which happens to be the real sin). At this stage of your journey, Christopher it is not necessary to know all the answers, but it does help in being open to all the questions. In moving away from a place of religious intolerance to one of Spiritual curiosity, you will ultimately discover that you are a creature of natural beauty and there is nothing shameful in your capacity to love another human being who "just so happens" to be of the same gender! May you always have enough light, to illuminate the path ahead! Love. Ben (Auckland, New Zealand)
Ben Crowley, thank you for a loving, thoughtful post that speaks healing, not only for Christopher, but for many. Peace and love to you, good man!
we love u !!! ur meant to be happi !! go have fun!!! seems like religion is often used to punish, thats not right...
Cristopher, you are very brave. It saddens me to see that people use religion to judge others, for instance, you for being gay. I know first hand how hard it is to come out but let me tell you that it will get better. The worst is behind you... and you are lucky too in that this new generation is more open towards gay people. I applaud your strength and your sensitivity, you are a beautiful man. Live your life without shame as you are a beautiful human being and God loves you.
Well... this says it was 9 years ago.... Dude - you are quite handsome! How are you today? I hope you are happy, healthy and with a fantastic spouse. If you could, post an update. These stories help - not matter what you think. Don't look at "likes" or click count. They help! I am the generation before you. Same background: religious, closed community, suicide attempt. As I said - I hope you are doing awesome and happy with your relationship and life. Just realize - you have SO many people that support you!
About me? Well - I am in a 29 year relationship with my husband. Am a Guncle (Gay Uncle) and have so much of my life devoted to my husband and extended family. Life is awesome and moves forward. Blessings to you and yours!!
Hey Christopher, I know this is late but I will tell you though, a friend of mine came out to me once and I was shocked but I'm still friends with him, he's still the same person I've known since I was a kid just like you're still the same person too. The people who will be there for you are the ones who love you unconditionally no matter what warts and all. My kid brother and I both are on the Autism Spectrum, I have Asperger's Syndrome, a mild form of autism, and my brother has severe autism, my point is everyone, straight or gay, special needs or normal, deserve and need to be loved unconditionally, especially when it comes to when people become parents themselves, unconditional love is for everyone!
Yes Christopher, YOU are fine. What isn't fine are the ignorant nay sayers around you. Shed them. Surround yourself with true friends. People that bring negativity to your life are poison, just as they are for everyone else. Free yourself of that burden. I've traveled the same road as you. Some people will always be locked in stupidity and ignorance. They aren't interested in growth and happiness.
There are literally thousands of coming out stories. The saddest are those where family stand in your way of true happiness. Put distance between you and them as soon as you can. The best of everything to you.
Hi Christopher, My partner and I have just watched your Coming Out Story and are now wiping away the tears because of the emotion that you shown in telling us about yourself. You are one hell of a guy and as you are moving through the different stages of your life you are discovering some truths. Discovering them and accepting them is paramount. You are Gay, you are worthy of love, giving and receiving, you are normal, you are human etc etc. In my case, I only found peace when I came out. The nervous energy that I used in hiding my secret was now free to flow into things that I loved, not deceit. It Does Get Better, sounds corny, but it is the truth. Warmest wishes to you for a happy and safe life full of love. You've earned it and deserve it.
Your a great guy! I wish I knew you. Please try and keep around people who support you. Give your family time to accept you. Hopefully they will. Your a cool guy. Thanks, Kerry.
Hey Christopher,
Congratulations for your courage! I do so hope that you will find happiness. I was brought up in a hyper-calvinistic environment in Holland (they can be incredibly religious over here....). Homosexuality wasn't even mentioned in church because it was the biggest taboo. Luckily for me this type of religion is a very small (but strong, when your in it) subculture in Holland. I went to study classical singing, and in this environment you must be truly yourself, which was a huge shock at first!
It is so wonderful to become and be yourself and I do so hope you can experience the same with a wonderful boyfriend next to you and lovely friends. Enjoy yourselves, you are beautiful !
Hope you have had a good life since you published this video and maybe even have a husband by now...what a lucky guy! Beautiful boy/man. Take care.