As a kid one of my friends was intersex, they endured so much degradation they took their life in 8th grade, age 14. It was 1991. Later on, I was in medical school and on the elevator one day with two new surgeons. They were crudely joking about a patient who was born intersex and I bit my lip not knowing how to react. I wanted to say SOMETHING. As I reached my floor it came to me, I held the door open with the button as I stepped off and stared both of them in the eyes and said “you do realize this is common? And you’d never know, for example I am intersex and I’ve had to stand here and listen to your drivel. You are doctors. Do better, this isn’t anything to joke about or be proud of”. Maybe not the BEST move but it was the early 2000s and I couldn’t stand it. Fast forward I was in the OR with one of them a decade later and he said “I never forgot that moment. At the time we laughed but I didn’t stop thinking about it, and I’m ashamed, and sorry” I ended up saying cool, glad to hear that, but I’m not actually intersex, I just didn’t know how to advocate for my dead friend and others like her. He was still sorry and I was glad to find out it left a mark.
His parents did the best by not choosing a sex assignment surgery when he was born or young…intersex people must have the rights to choose by themselves.
Or not some might just end up non binary~ why does one have to choose one or the other to fit in some box society expects one to fit into? Trans, nonbinary, gay, ace, aromatic, non monogamous~ list goes on people are expected to conform and its people who say no and step outside the box that challenges that status quo! Overall I think LGBTQIA2+ existence in itself is an act of rebellion and as a person in the LGBT community I can state those rebellions should continue! This world is filled with so many people that should be embraced not thrown into a box or forced to conform. Choosing one gender or the other some might choose not to because maybe that's just not their right fit just like how being with men was not fit for me not matter how I tried to make it fit. Some people just cannot conform without damaging themself so I applaud people who stand up and share their story! Everyone has a different walk of life it's why empathy is so important!
@@kaieastty8948 This is not legal, doctor need consent form and baby can't concent so parents is requested to sign...the only way a doctor is allowed without consent is in case of emergency life or death situation...so i don't understand how can they do that without consent .
He said " i set the tone". That is very important. When i came out as gay, i set the tone as to how i would be treated. Any disrespect was stopped in its tracks. You need to teach people how to treat you
One of my best friends was born intersex. Her parents took the Doctor’s advice and chose a gender. Not only did they choose the wrong one (based on other appearances and her own belief), they unintentionally caused a lifetime of unnecessary suffering. I firmly believe parents should let their children be who they are. The children inevitably become adults, fully empowered to do what they feel is necessary for their own fulfillment.
That is with 20/20 hindsight.. In the past, you could not just go around calling yourself non binary/trans as a child. You would be bullied and social services would be called on your parents in some states.
@@carrington2949I get that, but to preform surgery and not allow the child to have a choice at all for the rest of their lives? When you could’ve just picked a gender for them to conform to for the meantime without surgery? All because it'd be hard to explain why your son or daughter is having different traits? It's awful.
@@bobtheball5384 Agree on the surgery part. Allow them to live socially as one and then they decide on surgery as an informed adult. Again though, back then people used to be so freaked out by the notion. Society has come a long way.
@@carrington2949Those labels are irrelevant. They honestly don’t make things any easier. We’ve simply created more labels. You completely missed the point of this post though. The point is that it wasn’t necessary for the parents to choose gender reassignment at birth. Their job was to just raise the child. Once an adult the person should be able to choose how they want to live. The video is about a man whose parents did just that. Did you not watch it?
@@jaeshasway You decided your point of view and missed the exchange between myself and the op entirely. I agree the surgery was not needed. However socially, at that point in time, the world was a different place, The parents might have even faced prosecution if they had not given their child an assigned gender. They may have lost custody. However you again chose to ignore that. Also stop saying labels do not matter. They obviously do considering the fact that the LGBTQ++ ….. keeps adding new ones everyday. You want a label, you just want a new , trendy one. 🙄
As a past teacher, I taught an intersex child in 3rd grade. The mom chose for him to be a girl. He was obviously a boy. But she made him wear pink everyday, pink bows, pink shoes, skirts, and my heart broke for him. I caught him going in the boys bathroom several times when no one was around, I had to hold him while he cried at the playground because he was not allowed to play football with the boys. The other teachers were aware, it was a small community, and constantly reminded him of what little girls did and didn’t do. He was amazing at football, none of the boys could catch him. He had a crush on a little girl, and his mom met with me and demanded that they not play together. I was told by the teachers that the mom had his male parts removed as a baby. I often wonder what happened to him when he got to high school. It truly broke my heart what he had to endure. There needs to be more education about this in the rural communities, and everywhere. To this day, I still say a prayer for him when I think of him. I did my part in the classroom, and let him be apart of the boys when he wanted to be. But outside the classroom, I had too many eyes on him and I could not. The mom was resistant to any conversation about his identity. 🍎😢
@@MarthaAnthonyisn’t it ironic that the same people who insist trans kids wait til they are older also insist on making these decisions for their children while they are too little to make them for themselves.
He’s absolutely right about adults asking him how he pees back when he was a kid. That is so inappropriate. ... *edit: Adults should not as ANY child how they use the restroom! If an adult wants to learn more about intersex anatomy they should seek out articles and other sources. Asking a child how they use their body to pee is and will always be inappropriate! It is NOT a child's job to educate an adult about issues such as a this. It is great if an adult wants to learn more about intersex people but they need to seek out other adult professionals with their questions and reputable sources.
How can people learn if they can't ask questions? Adults or not, there are very few people with a vag and penis, so when the opportunity rises, ask the question...
I believe most of “conservative” adults’ abuse and rudeness toward kids, especially their own, is based in their own gender and sexual insecurities. sick literally. it’s why I don’t judge, just identify and heal the issue if possible. if not possible, separate that adult
I have an intersex child. I chose no treatment and a Gender Neutral name. No surgery no way- thats their choice ❤ I dont share which child because its not my story. I hope my baby is this confident thank you for sharing.
Thank you for saying this - I'm so relieved to hear there are parents like you! I'm horrified by all the stories of doctors telling parents to "fix it" by picking a gender. I hope videos like this, and comments like yours, help people see that there is nothing to fix.
@@leannejasminex1991 I can say this. you are likely a white person who feels the need to control what everyone else says and does because your life is built based on assumptions. Do you know my first and last name? What city I am from... State!? What are each of my 11 children's names and which one do you think is Intersex? You are more embarrassed than my own child is....and yet you don't know who I am. Frankly Leanne 1991 you are definitely one of the not so smart millennials that thinks they are super smart 🤓 You have nothing figured out and I am sorry if you have the condition and your parents have taught you be ashamed or you think it's something that should be shamed. Assumptions are emotional poison without clarification. My child is very open about their condition. If someone asks, they are not ashamed I'm Intersex have the day you deserve.
I can see why everyone is obsessed with this person! Self awareness, self acceptance, open heart, all beautiful traits in a human! More people need to be this way, it'd be a much more happier peaceful place!
A dash of ummm... narcissistic 🤭 I use that lightly, but the more I listen to them, yeah... very much in the ego and it's magnetic but also a red flag. I'd still challenge it 😂
He should be a radio host, he has the perfect voice for it. A lot of people wouldn't want to share this story, I'm glad he did so others can learn more about intersex individuals and their life experiences
In my opinion doctors should not advise parents to choose a gender when their child is born intersex. Eventually the child will grow up and choose for themselves, like you did.
I would've been terrified to pick the wrong one. When you choose and do the operation and mess it up, that has got to be HORRIBLE. Let them grow ,give them confidence like this person and let them choose after.
If anyone ever thinks that intersex is so rare that we shouldn’t talk about it or treat it like its own category, remember there are around the same amount of intersex people as there are ginger haired people.
@@JohnnyHobbs-of3ly It may considerably lower than 1.7% actually, as that estimate "includes conditions which most clinicians do not recognize as intersex, such as Klinefelter syndrome, Turner syndrome, and late-onset adrenal hyperplasia. If the term intersex is to retain any meaning, the term should be restricted to those conditions in which chromosomal sex is inconsistent with phenotypic sex, or in which the phenotype is not classifiable as either male or female. Applying this more precise definition, the true prevalence of intersex is seen to be about 0.018%" (Sax 2002). In any case, equating the intersex population with the number of people with red hair is a fallacy. It's a misrepresentation for the sake of a certain narrative.
@drstewart You must not know that Adrenal Hyperplasia and Klinefelters both influence body shape, voice, and hair among other things, which creates androgynous or male/female presenting opposite in many of their physical features. These conditions do affect the perception of these people's sex in society, and are considered intersex because, like I said, they cause opposite sex expression of certain things. Genitalia is not the only deciding factor in intersex-ness. The term intersex does in fact include chromosomal abnormalities which do not fit into a binary, and significant hormonal disorders which cause opposite sex expression. It isn't a "certain narrative" you absolute brainlet, it is real people with real experiences coming together to make the world realize that they exist, deserve respect, and that they don't have to fit into ridiculous societal boxes, which only exist to make others comfortable.
a lot of people fail to realize, confidence like this is built i. childhood, by your parents and how they treat you. If your parents talk down to you and put you down, or disempower you in some way, you WILL struggle with your confidence. If your parents talk you up and treat you as an worthy equal with agency, and don’t try make you feel bad about yourself, you’ll have this guy’s confidence, or confidence like Kanye West, etc. Your parents play a CRITICAL role in the forming of your confidence and self image. It’s not that you’re doomed once you turn 21 and realize your confidence isn’t where you’d like, but you have to give yourself grace and compassion. We did not all start off with the same resources or tools, both physically but also energetically, emotionally, spiritually.
Parents give us the building blocks to make our own houses. If you're not given those building blocks or even directions how to make them, you will struggle to make a home, let alone one that actually functions. It's not peoples fault they are insecure, scared and reactionary. That's a failure on society to both encourage parents to actually help build up their young (and give the resource and time to make sure it actually happens) and when possible, make up for parental failure in other areas. And yes, you're not doomed, but you are handicapped by and starting a lot later. Therapy can help a lot to learn to accept that your childhood wasn't what a childhood should be or should contain and that can be the first blue print on how to start those building blocks. Friends, found family etc. can also show you and give tips they (hopefully) learned too, either from their parents or also being late bloomers. Some people discover and accept this way into their life. I've seen people in their 60's come to terms with how they were treated and start new. It's never too late, but recognizing it for what it is, is the only way to move forward. You can't travel somewhere if you don't know where you are to find out where you are going.
Parents are NOT an always absolute determinate in confidence. I am living proof. It's not easy but absolutely possible there is greater source of strength and power
So true. It amazes me how that impacts your confidence into adulthood. Of course there are other ways to gain confidence but I do believe one of the most certain ways to do it is thru parental support from day one. That's a privilege I didn't realize was a privilege until I got into adulthood. I had to earn my confidence the long and hard way. Always so refreshing to see people with day 1 confidence. It's a sort of magic
Its so interesting how God made us in so many different ways yet we are so judgemental, homophobic, sexist, racist and put each other in boxes. Life would be so much better if we lived in harmony and were understanding of each other.
It is wild to say one worships the creator then deny or oppresses all the beautiful creations we are. Humans are so much more than the capitalist or otherwise controlling boxes provide. To live authentically is to be free and that scares the “powerful.”
@@alphacharmnobody truely knows who made us, where we come from or why we’re here. You have your “beliefs” and they have thier “beliefs” but you dont know. What you think could be wrong, or you could be right, or we could all be way off
@@alphacharmwow look everyone! They’re an atheist! Wow they’re so cool.. /s Like I’m not religious either but this comment was respectful, supporting and loving as belief should be. Leave them be.
I went to elementary school and had a female friend who was truly a boy. My Mom was a nurse and explained to me that she was a “hermaphadite” and what that meant. I didn’t care and we played games and had kid fun. But looking back many of the other kids didn’t play with her. Like they knew she was different. When I went to college and met someone, they were then being called intersex, she said that her parents choose what she would be and removed her penis. She told me my childhood friends parents probably did the same thing. He was blessed his parents let him figure it out for himself. Now with all the advances in DNA and catscans, etc. they should be able to see what’s more developed organ wise and still let the person choose for themselves. I remember watching something online yrs ago where a doctor told adoptive parents to remove their child’s penis and they said no. The child needed surgery and the doctor also took the penis claiming there was cancer. It was a lie and they were sueing. As he grew it was obvious he was a boy and that, that doctor had destroyed his life. Now that’s truly scary.
This is so powerful the way he takes ownership of a life he was thrown into from jump, which doesn’t sound easy. Some humans will break over this stuff.
We ALL must simply be ourselves. We should not be required to make changes in order to fit in. This person is amazing, and fascinating just as he is today. This fact has been true from the day of his birth. Period.
He has such a healthy mindset and confidence (especially considering that intersex representation was probably very minimal at his time, so he paved his own pathway), I really hope he finishes that book!
I made a friend who is an intersex advocate in Uganda in the 1990s and 2000s. He did so much education work in my society. He had gone to my all girls boarding school as a teenager because he had been assigned femal at birth. When he became adult, he reassigned to male, wrote a book called _Juliette to Julius_ . When he got married, my church, which had been supportive up till then suddenly stopped being openly supportive. That broke my heart. I'll always applaud Julius' amazing work in a country where people have recently become rather closed minded.
What an amazing individual! I enjoyed every bit of this. I’m all for people being authentic unapologetically! He is very confident and handsome. I love it.
If I had a child that was intersex I’d show them this video and hope they’d feel this way about themselves. Everyone deserves to love who they are and feel confident and comfortable in their own skin, good for him.
Yesterday I was having a conversation about Intersex with a friend who wasn't being hateful or anything, they just didn't know much and had questions. I guess since I am a gay man , I was the go to person for information. I wish that I had seen Roshaante's loving and open discussion beforehand. And YES I am going to have my friend watch this as soon as I have a chance.
You’re the boss! If I had 10% of your confidence, I could fly to the moon. You’re beautiful inside and out. The people who think of sexuality in binary terms should listen to you. If only. I know, dream on. Keep on being you, man. You’re an inspiration to us all.
I am the opposite version of him i was raised as a boy that most people perceived as androgynous or feminine but id been corrected as a baby among lther things Im working on getting my story out there i know there are people that may benefit from it
Same for me but I've always been called pretty .I've even been called beautiful .I'm a very tiny person .But a long time ago I made choice to give myself to God and live a life of celibacy .I don't regret my choice .I have a name and it's not a pronoun my name is Stacy and I am a child of GOD !!!
I am intersex. We are all so different and am psyched that there is no more visibility. Embracing our intersexuality is a high. I love myself! Thank you Roshaante for sharing your story. I remember being dressed in skirts and dresses and being like cool though I always imagined aging as an old man. I was a kid that enjoyed fashion and dressing up until I wanted to dress in the fashion that I was more into. In my family we don't talk about it because I have always felt like people have enough on their plate and my family loves and respects me. Being intersex feels like a superpower. Sexuality wise, I am omnisexual. Cool space to share, glad we crossed paths. Later
I really enjoyed this episode! Roshaante is amazing, and I can feel that Delial energy through the screen too. Had my knees buckling, for a few seconds. Lol.
I'm glad you shared your story. Too many people are unknowledgeable and ignorant of people being born Intersex or with DSDs as if you all don't exist or if you all are too small in number to respectfully say that there are more than two sexes which opens up the conversation of the social construct/stipulations of gender [fluidity]. Roshaante, you matter, you deserve to be represented, you deserve to be loved and you deserve to be understood. Wishing you well!
WOW! That was so informative and enlightening. Informative because I simply didn't know what intersex was. Enlightening because your confidence is infectious!! I'm a cis gendered gay man. After watching you here, I'm impressed by your confidence and somewhat questioning my own confidence. You decided to live YOUR life on YOUR terms and I salute you for that. Thank you for sharing this and putting this information out there. Some people think this shit is new, lol! As you said, it's been around for ages. But with technology/social media now days, it's a lot easier to put your own experiences out there with the benefit of other's going through similar circumstances the knowledge of knowing there are others experiencing the same thing!
Very inspirational and powerful! Roshaate is such a great educator to those who are unfamiliar to intersex people. I learned so much! And yes, his confidence is captivating.
Has anyone actually seen what Roshonte is like on social media? Man has a bad drug problem and it constantly live streaming himself struggling, in trouble with the police etc etc, its absolutely wild - not everything is as it seems
Yes ma’am! I have been seen him a long time ago & i thought he was a fione man! Beautiful inside & out. Positive energy from him. Mad cool & much respect for him. Great voice to.
Orientation is a spectrum and tends to be fluid not meant to be a regimented one or the other so just do what feels natural to you! Hugs and love your way❤
I love how authentically himself that he is. So charming, open and chill. I want to hear more about his philosophies and views. Dream blunt rotation lol
@@geriannroth449Yes he was born with every reproductive organ from both male and female. I am not sure if he had the ability to produce sperm, or semen, but he did have the ability to produce ovums.
Is this possible? When he says trolls took down his book could it be people didn't beleive the story. I had to rewind because I don't believe such a condition exist
@@elliee5675 I've never heard of it either, intersex is more accurately described as differences in sex development, as in most are genetically either male or female but differences can cause the way the body and reproductive organs develop to be different than what the genetic sex normally prescribes. The genetic sex usually grants one set of functioning reproductive organs, even though both or a combo might be there visually only one set actually works. I have not seen any official documentation saying that humans can be both and able to impregnate themselves or impregnate others and also become pregnant themselves. That would indeed be "diety" level stuff, not just difference in development. If it's true, it should be it's own category.
Oh wow! It’s almost like gender is just a social construct and has absolutely nothing to do with what genitalia someone is born with. Support trans and intersex people 💗
bro actual intersex and just mutilating yourself are very different polar opposite things. intersex is an actual part of your body that ur born with lol
Omg. I wondered what happened to Reshonte over the years. Love me some of him. If yall dont know Reshante has been speading the message on intersex for over 10 years. I became fascinated with what intersex was. I wish there would be a huge conversation with intersex and trans people. I have to see what happened to Reshantes youtube because i was subscribed for a long time and was subscribed well before the penis surgery (that explicit version was worth the sight). Glad to see you are alive and well. Continue to do your work and inform the world
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As a kid one of my friends was intersex, they endured so much degradation they took their life in 8th grade, age 14.
It was 1991.
Later on, I was in medical school and on the elevator one day with two new surgeons.
They were crudely joking about a patient who was born intersex and I bit my lip not knowing how to react.
I wanted to say SOMETHING.
As I reached my floor it came to me, I held the door open with the button as I stepped off and stared both of them in the eyes and said “you do realize this is common? And you’d never know, for example I am intersex and I’ve had to stand here and listen to your drivel. You are doctors. Do better, this isn’t anything to joke about or be proud of”.
Maybe not the BEST move but it was the early 2000s and I couldn’t stand it.
Fast forward I was in the OR with one of them a decade later and he said “I never forgot that moment. At the time we laughed but I didn’t stop thinking about it, and I’m ashamed, and sorry”
I ended up saying cool, glad to hear that, but I’m not actually intersex, I just didn’t know how to advocate for my dead friend and others like her.
He was still sorry and I was glad to find out it left a mark.
Brave ❤
Thank you for sharing this story ❤
That’s really cool. Thank you for sharing. 🩵
Thank you for standing up for your friend. This is what being an ally is about.
You did well for speaking up! Great Story ❤
His parents did the best by not choosing a sex assignment surgery when he was born or young…intersex people must have the rights to choose by themselves.
Or not some might just end up non binary~ why does one have to choose one or the other to fit in some box society expects one to fit into?
Trans, nonbinary, gay, ace, aromatic, non monogamous~ list goes on people are expected to conform and its people who say no and step outside the box that challenges that status quo!
Overall I think LGBTQIA2+ existence in itself is an act of rebellion and as a person in the LGBT community I can state those rebellions should continue! This world is filled with so many people that should be embraced not thrown into a box or forced to conform. Choosing one gender or the other some might choose not to because maybe that's just not their right fit just like how being with men was not fit for me not matter how I tried to make it fit.
Some people just cannot conform without damaging themself so I applaud people who stand up and share their story! Everyone has a different walk of life it's why empathy is so important!
ows really?
Sometimes doctors do surgery without telling the parents.
@@kaieastty8948 This is not legal, doctor need consent form and baby can't concent so parents is requested to sign...the only way a doctor is allowed without consent is in case of emergency life or death situation...so i don't understand how can they do that without consent .
@@kaieastty8948 That is patently false.
He said " i set the tone". That is very important. When i came out as gay, i set the tone as to how i would be treated. Any disrespect was stopped in its tracks. You need to teach people how to treat you
Unfortunately yes you do.
So true
Woah neve thought of that
I did the same.
That’s for everyone. Women have to learn this as children.
One of my best friends was born intersex. Her parents took the Doctor’s advice and chose a gender. Not only did they choose the wrong one (based on other appearances and her own belief), they unintentionally caused a lifetime of unnecessary suffering. I firmly believe parents should let their children be who they are. The children inevitably become adults, fully empowered to do what they feel is necessary for their own fulfillment.
That is with 20/20 hindsight.. In the past, you could not just go around calling yourself non binary/trans as a child. You would be bullied and social services would be called on your parents in some states.
@@carrington2949I get that, but to preform surgery and not allow the child to have a choice at all for the rest of their lives? When you could’ve just picked a gender for them to conform to for the meantime without surgery? All because it'd be hard to explain why your son or daughter is having different traits? It's awful.
@@bobtheball5384 Agree on the surgery part. Allow them to live socially as one and then they decide on surgery as an informed adult. Again though, back then people used to be so freaked out by the notion. Society has come a long way.
@@carrington2949Those labels are irrelevant. They honestly don’t make things any easier. We’ve simply created more labels. You completely missed the point of this post though. The point is that it wasn’t necessary for the parents to choose gender reassignment at birth. Their job was to just raise the child. Once an adult the person should be able to choose how they want to live. The video is about a man whose parents did just that. Did you not watch it?
@@jaeshasway You decided your point of view and missed the exchange between myself and the op entirely. I agree the surgery was not needed. However socially, at that point in time, the world was a different place, The parents might have even faced prosecution if they had not given their child an assigned gender. They may have lost custody. However you again chose to ignore that.
Also stop saying labels do not matter. They obviously do considering the fact that the LGBTQ++ ….. keeps adding new ones everyday. You want a label, you just want a new , trendy one. 🙄
As a past teacher, I taught an intersex child in 3rd grade. The mom chose for him to be a girl. He was obviously a boy. But she made him wear pink everyday, pink bows, pink shoes, skirts, and my heart broke for him. I caught him going in the boys bathroom several times when no one was around, I had to hold him while he cried at the playground because he was not allowed to play football with the boys. The other teachers were aware, it was a small community, and constantly reminded him of what little girls did and didn’t do. He was amazing at football, none of the boys could catch him. He had a crush on a little girl, and his mom met with me and demanded that they not play together. I was told by the teachers that the mom had his male parts removed as a baby. I often wonder what happened to him when he got to high school. It truly broke my heart what he had to endure. There needs to be more education about this in the rural communities, and everywhere. To this day, I still say a prayer for him when I think of him. I did my part in the classroom, and let him be apart of the boys when he wanted to be. But outside the classroom, I had too many eyes on him and I could not. The mom was resistant to any conversation about his identity. 🍎😢
Such a sad story. Kudos to you for doing your part! I pray wherever he is, he's doing amazing in life!
Please keep praying for him..
Heartbreaking 💔
Oh, so sad! That's his body. He should have been left alone to make decisions as he got older.
@@MarthaAnthonyisn’t it ironic that the same people who insist trans kids wait til they are older also insist on making these decisions for their children while they are too little to make them for themselves.
He’s absolutely right about adults asking him how he pees back when he was a kid. That is so inappropriate. ... *edit: Adults should not as ANY child how they use the restroom! If an adult wants to learn more about intersex anatomy they should seek out articles and other sources. Asking a child how they use their body to pee is and will always be inappropriate! It is NOT a child's job to educate an adult about issues such as a this. It is great if an adult wants to learn more about intersex people but they need to seek out other adult professionals with their questions and reputable sources.
Very Very Inappropriate
How can people learn if they can't ask questions? Adults or not, there are very few people with a vag and penis, so when the opportunity rises, ask the question...
That’s the thing… most adults are lude to kids, they say the most outrageous things to children
Also a stupid question. Loads of boys and men pee sitting anyway.
I believe most of “conservative” adults’ abuse and rudeness toward kids, especially their own, is based in their own gender and sexual insecurities. sick literally. it’s why I don’t judge, just identify and heal the issue if possible. if not possible, separate that adult
I can see why people fall for him cuz he got a real swag/vibe about himself...very inviting and sensual 🔥
You are fantastic!!! So happy to have come across your story
Really? I fing him very annoying and full of himself. And not particularly intelligent.
do you fall too?
@@dewilew2137 I agree.
Right
Dream of having just 1% of his confidence. Brilliant interview, smashing a lot of stereotypes as well
Swear to God
that's not confidence that's narcissism
@@mahatemeboncampiThin line
Absolutely!
@@mahatemeboncampi Yea not sure about that, he doesn't lack empathy and doesn't really seem overly entitled.. why did you think that?
I have an intersex child. I chose no treatment and a Gender Neutral name. No surgery no way- thats their choice ❤ I dont share which child because its not my story.
I hope my baby is this confident thank you for sharing.
Thank you for saying this - I'm so relieved to hear there are parents like you! I'm horrified by all the stories of doctors telling parents to "fix it" by picking a gender. I hope videos like this, and comments like yours, help people see that there is nothing to fix.
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Would it not be better to keep this to your self your child may not want people to know . Your not gonna know that until their older .
@@leannejasminex1991 Well I have 11 children so it's pretty safe to say, No one is going to figure it out. I'm also using my sister's account 😂
@@leannejasminex1991 I can say this. you are likely a white person who feels the need to control what everyone else says and does because your life is built based on assumptions. Do you know my first and last name? What city I am from... State!? What are each of my 11 children's names and which one do you think is Intersex? You are more embarrassed than my own child is....and yet you don't know who I am. Frankly Leanne 1991 you are definitely one of the not so smart millennials that thinks they are super smart 🤓 You have nothing figured out and I am sorry if you have the condition and your parents have taught you be ashamed or you think it's something that should be shamed. Assumptions are emotional poison without clarification. My child is very open about their condition. If someone asks, they are not ashamed I'm Intersex have the day you deserve.
I think it’s great that his parents didn’t choose for him. That probably played a huge role in his self confidence!
As someone with also very loose parents, definitely
I agree. But then parents should also stop naming their children, 'Precious', Princess etc. Which is enough for them to change their name at 18.
Brooo he's so gorgeous whaaat
Let’s not get crazy, now.
@@Alesae132 honestly, what’s crazy about this? A human is attracted to another human. woah crazy 🤯
@@Alesae132 What's crazy in calling someone handsome / pretty / gorgeous whatever? Have you never been called pretty?
@@xiaomin3509Probably not. That’s why they’re mad. It’s jealousy.
Agreed
I can see why everyone is obsessed with this person! Self awareness, self acceptance, open heart, all beautiful traits in a human! More people need to be this way, it'd be a much more happier peaceful place!
Right!!!!
he’s also very easy on the eyes 😂
He doesn’t know that 16 and 24 is abuse
😂yall weird
They haven't seen this guy hi on tiktok with young girls have they?
😂😂😂 It's the way he's like, "Everybody loves me," and I'm like, "Yeah, and now so do I."!!!! 😂😂 What power is this???
Two Spirits vibes
Narcissism.
A dash of ummm... narcissistic 🤭 I use that lightly, but the more I listen to them, yeah... very much in the ego and it's magnetic but also a red flag. I'd still challenge it 😂
Jedi mind control 😂😂😂😂
@@kitakhatur toxic 😂😂😂😂😂🤦🏽♀️
He should be a radio host, he has the perfect voice for it. A lot of people wouldn't want to share this story, I'm glad he did so others can learn more about intersex individuals and their life experiences
Yes he does! Or he could give interviews, write books, give speeches/seminars, produce a movie about his experience, and make more money.
Everyone needs to watch this. People can't help how they were born. Intersexual people should not be shunned
Amen. God makes no mistakes.
*intersex (not sexual)
And also even if ppl could help how they were born, there's nothing wrong with being intersex. Our bodies are neutral, society adds normative
labels.
No person should shunned
Not just intersex people. Men get shamed horribly for their genitals. It's disgusting and has been normalized for some reason.
In my opinion doctors should not advise parents to choose a gender when their child is born intersex. Eventually the child will grow up and choose for themselves, like you did.
I agree down to the kids they know how they are feeling
Can't they test their chromosomes?
@@cynthiaholland13not really because some really be both
It depends on the country too
I would've been terrified to pick the wrong one. When you choose and do the operation and mess it up, that has got to be HORRIBLE. Let them grow ,give them confidence like this person and let them choose after.
If anyone ever thinks that intersex is so rare that we shouldn’t talk about it or treat it like its own category, remember there are around the same amount of intersex people as there are ginger haired people.
Intersex - 1.7%
Red-haired people - 2-6%
Not quite the same.
@@drstewart many intersex people aren't comfortable telling others about it across the world, so that number may be a lot less
@@JohnnyHobbs-of3ly It may considerably lower than 1.7% actually, as that estimate "includes conditions which most clinicians do not recognize as intersex, such as Klinefelter syndrome, Turner syndrome, and late-onset adrenal hyperplasia. If the term intersex is to retain any meaning, the term should be restricted to those conditions in which chromosomal sex is inconsistent with phenotypic sex, or in which the phenotype is not classifiable as either male or female. Applying this more precise definition, the true prevalence of intersex is seen to be about 0.018%" (Sax 2002). In any case, equating the intersex population with the number of people with red hair is a fallacy. It's a misrepresentation for the sake of a certain narrative.
@drstewart You must not know that Adrenal Hyperplasia and Klinefelters both influence body shape, voice, and hair among other things, which creates androgynous or male/female presenting opposite in many of their physical features. These conditions do affect the perception of these people's sex in society, and are considered intersex because, like I said, they cause opposite sex expression of certain things. Genitalia is not the only deciding factor in intersex-ness. The term intersex does in fact include chromosomal abnormalities which do not fit into a binary, and significant hormonal disorders which cause opposite sex expression. It isn't a "certain narrative" you absolute brainlet, it is real people with real experiences coming together to make the world realize that they exist, deserve respect, and that they don't have to fit into ridiculous societal boxes, which only exist to make others comfortable.
@@drstewart that 1.7 figure is wrong
Everything about him is so attractive i can’t 😳🫠
I instantly thought the same thing! 😅
To who
@@melisaswaby5086 to her stupid
Ew
@@melisaswaby5086 To the person who said it 🤦🏾♀️ you sound like a hater lol
a lot of people fail to realize, confidence like this is built i. childhood, by your parents and how they treat you. If your parents talk down to you and put you down, or disempower you in some way, you WILL struggle with your confidence. If your parents talk you up and treat you as an worthy equal with agency, and don’t try make you feel bad about yourself, you’ll have this guy’s confidence, or confidence like Kanye West, etc. Your parents play a CRITICAL role in the forming of your confidence and self image. It’s not that you’re doomed once you turn 21 and realize your confidence isn’t where you’d like, but you have to give yourself grace and compassion. We did not all start off with the same resources or tools, both physically but also energetically, emotionally, spiritually.
Parents give us the building blocks to make our own houses. If you're not given those building blocks or even directions how to make them, you will struggle to make a home, let alone one that actually functions. It's not peoples fault they are insecure, scared and reactionary. That's a failure on society to both encourage parents to actually help build up their young (and give the resource and time to make sure it actually happens) and when possible, make up for parental failure in other areas.
And yes, you're not doomed, but you are handicapped by and starting a lot later. Therapy can help a lot to learn to accept that your childhood wasn't what a childhood should be or should contain and that can be the first blue print on how to start those building blocks. Friends, found family etc. can also show you and give tips they (hopefully) learned too, either from their parents or also being late bloomers.
Some people discover and accept this way into their life. I've seen people in their 60's come to terms with how they were treated and start new. It's never too late, but recognizing it for what it is, is the only way to move forward. You can't travel somewhere if you don't know where you are to find out where you are going.
Parents are NOT an always absolute determinate in confidence. I am living proof. It's not easy but absolutely possible there is greater source of strength and power
So true. It amazes me how that impacts your confidence into adulthood. Of course there are other ways to gain confidence but I do believe one of the most certain ways to do it is thru parental support from day one. That's a privilege I didn't realize was a privilege until I got into adulthood. I had to earn my confidence the long and hard way. Always so refreshing to see people with day 1 confidence. It's a sort of magic
ikr. dude got lucky his parents accepted him and let him be himself
1000% 🎉
I love interviews/videos like these when there isn’t a voice asking the questions.
Stick around - plenty more coming!
Its so interesting how God made us in so many different ways yet we are so judgemental, homophobic, sexist, racist and put each other in boxes. Life would be so much better if we lived in harmony and were understanding of each other.
It is wild to say one worships the creator then deny or oppresses all the beautiful creations we are. Humans are so much more than the capitalist or otherwise controlling boxes provide. To live authentically is to be free and that scares the “powerful.”
Your god did not create me. Speak for yourself and yourself only
@@alphacharmnobody truely knows who made us, where we come from or why we’re here. You have your “beliefs” and they have thier “beliefs” but you dont know. What you think could be wrong, or you could be right, or we could all be way off
@@andy1181-l3m my ancestors made me! That can be proven. There’s no god. I said what I said.
@@alphacharmwow look everyone! They’re an atheist! Wow they’re so cool.. /s
Like I’m not religious either but this comment was respectful, supporting and loving as belief should be. Leave them be.
I love that he had the option to explore for himself and not be forced into anything.
“If I could marry myself, I would but I can’t. If that becomes legal though, I’m doing it” 😂😂 I LOVE IT!
3 things
1) his parents are great parents
2) He is brilliant and very greatful for him sharing his story
3)His girlfriend is extremely lucky to have
What a cool bloke. He’s the kinda person who I’d happily hang out with in a pub 👍
I thought bloke was an insult lol
He's not gonna let you hit bro
he makes a great point how he’s so attractive to people bc he embodies just loving yourself and your vibe
I went to elementary school and had a female friend who was truly a boy. My Mom was a nurse and explained to me that she was a “hermaphadite” and what that meant. I didn’t care and we played games and had kid fun. But looking back many of the other kids didn’t play with her. Like they knew she was different. When I went to college and met someone, they were then being called intersex, she said that her parents choose what she would be and removed her penis. She told me my childhood friends parents probably did the same thing.
He was blessed his parents let him figure it out for himself. Now with all the advances in DNA and catscans, etc. they should be able to see what’s more developed organ wise and still let the person choose for themselves. I remember watching something online yrs ago where a doctor told adoptive parents to remove their child’s penis and they said no. The child needed surgery and the doctor also took the penis claiming there was cancer. It was a lie and they were sueing. As he grew it was obvious he was a boy and that, that doctor had destroyed his life. Now that’s truly scary.
Intersex is a spectrum. Not every intersex is 50-50. Some are 40-60, etc.
He's like 99-1 and the 1 comes from delusions of being brainwashed into thinking he's feminine when he's not at all.
Wym
@@lebronshairline4768 like, the male reproductive organs might only be partially developed, while the female organs are 100% done (or vice versa)
There’s also many many chromosomal and hormonal intersex variations as well
@@cheese-in-spaceyup
This guy's confidence and self-acceptance is something to inspire to.
I think it is a way to cover up the shame. Just the words he uses and the way he delivers them isn’t really showing confidence to me.
Your parents did an amazing job raising an intersexed child. 👍🏾👍🏾
They certainly did, but it’s intersex, not intersexed, it’s an adjective like tall, black etc :)
@@freyjasvansdottir9904 🫣
The way they raised him and he carried on doing a great job!
This is so powerful the way he takes ownership of a life he was thrown into from jump, which doesn’t sound easy. Some humans will break over this stuff.
Natural charisma. I’ll bet he does pull people in.
He is super cool! All the best! Thank you for sharing your story 😊
Such a good spokesperson for intersex awareness, just radiates confidence, intelligence, and personal acceptance!!
When he talks about his daughter... so wholesome.
I never knew an intersex person could produce children; especially both ways. This was very medically insightful.
Its very rare and isnt possible in both ways
Many intersex are sterile but some can have kids. Noone can impregnate themselves at all. Noone produces both eggs and sperm.
If she has a uterus and ovaries she is female 🙏🏽
Yes! And those that have both fully functioning genitalia can get themselves pregnant. 🤯
It's not possible both ways. The testes and ovaries differentiate during developing, so usually each person only has either ovaries or testes.
This is really interesting. Love his confidence.
Thanks for the comment!
I love his vibe - taking ownership of feminine and masculine energy.
Love that he loves himself and is so comfortable in his own skin. His parents clearly did a great job!
I am in AWE of his authenticity and love his self-awareness and self-confidence! Thank you for helping me gain greater understanding ❤
We ALL must simply be ourselves. We should not be required to make changes in order to fit in. This person is amazing, and fascinating just as he is today. This fact has been true from the day of his birth. Period.
I stopped when this man said " their parents would ask me if i sat or stand to go to toilette"... who in their right mind would ask someone this?
We are humans.. and it is only natural for humans to be curious. How do you think we advanced so far as a species?
@@baeclaus388adults asking a child this? Super weird
@@baeclaus388 because these types of questions are truly advancing our species 😑
@@alinachrist8416 that's a grown man!
@@spook6394 U know what the hell I'm saying!
He had great parents in his corner 👍🏿
He has such a healthy mindset and confidence (especially considering that intersex representation was probably very minimal at his time, so he paved his own pathway), I really hope he finishes that book!
Roshaante Anderson...He is what rolemodels sound like!!!!
I remember him from a few years ago in another interview. Still seems like the same person a beautiful soul.
I knew I had seen him a couple years ago in another interview every time intersex comes to kind I remember him
great interview! I wish more people know these about intersex people
Thanks for taking the time to watch!
How does this not have more views 😨
Hopefully in time!
If children are taught to be afraid of something they'll be afraid of it if they're taught to be Fearless they'll be Fearless❤
I made a friend who is an intersex advocate in Uganda in the 1990s and 2000s. He did so much education work in my society.
He had gone to my all girls boarding school as a teenager because he had been assigned femal at birth.
When he became adult, he reassigned to male, wrote a book called _Juliette to Julius_ .
When he got married, my church, which had been supportive up till then suddenly stopped being openly supportive. That broke my heart.
I'll always applaud Julius' amazing work in a country where people have recently become rather closed minded.
Very brave of him to speak out, will help others in the same position🙏
What a winner. Props to you for being so honest in a world that celebrates fake.
Such confidence and self-assurance. I definitely get that enticing, captivating energy. Thanks for sharing your story with us Roshaante. x
Kudos to the parents for being so loving and supportive. They raised a very intelligent and confident person ❤
What an amazing individual! I enjoyed every bit of this. I’m all for people being authentic unapologetically! He is very confident and handsome. I love it.
I have been looking for information like this for a long time …. Good for you and thank you for the education
That part when he said that no one was going to be there when would've been lonely without kids... that part hit different.
If I had a child that was intersex I’d show them this video and hope they’d feel this way about themselves. Everyone deserves to love who they are and feel confident and comfortable in their own skin, good for him.
His parents did a great job! I'm very happy for him. I hope he has a great life of much success and happiness ❤
Wow, he carried his own child, amazing!
So dope❤️
What!😮
Yesterday I was having a conversation about Intersex with a friend who wasn't being hateful or anything, they just didn't know much and had questions. I guess since I am a gay man , I was the go to person for information. I wish that I had seen Roshaante's loving and open discussion beforehand. And YES I am going to have my friend watch this as soon as I have a chance.
You’re the boss! If I had 10% of your confidence, I could fly to the moon. You’re beautiful inside and out. The people who think of sexuality in binary terms should listen to you. If only. I know, dream on. Keep on being you, man. You’re an inspiration to us all.
I am the opposite version of him i was raised as a boy that most people perceived as androgynous or feminine but id been corrected as a baby among lther things
Im working on getting my story out there i know there are people that may benefit from it
Props to you!
Same for me but I've always been called pretty .I've even been called beautiful .I'm a very tiny person .But a long time ago I made choice to give myself to God and live a life of celibacy .I don't regret my choice .I have a name and it's not a pronoun my name is Stacy and I am a child of GOD !!!
High five to you I agree you just never know until your story is told. Perhaps a book a vlog any way you feel comfortable get your story out ✋🏾
I am intersex. We are all so different and am psyched that there is no more visibility. Embracing our intersexuality is a high. I love myself! Thank you Roshaante for sharing your story. I remember being dressed in skirts and dresses and being like cool though I always imagined aging as an old man. I was a kid that enjoyed fashion and dressing up until I wanted to dress in the fashion that I was more into. In my family we don't talk about it because I have always felt like people have enough on their plate and my family loves and respects me. Being intersex feels like a superpower. Sexuality wise, I am omnisexual. Cool space to share, glad we crossed paths. Later
I really enjoyed this episode! Roshaante is amazing, and I can feel that Delial energy through the screen too. Had my knees buckling, for a few seconds. Lol.
I’ve always enjoyed hearing him talk and hearing more of his story over and over again
I will always say that this dude is foine af honestly, and his vulnerability is truly refreshing
I'm glad you shared your story. Too many people are unknowledgeable and ignorant of people being born Intersex or with DSDs as if you all don't exist or if you all are too small in number to respectfully say that there are more than two sexes which opens up the conversation of the social construct/stipulations of gender [fluidity]. Roshaante, you matter, you deserve to be represented, you deserve to be loved and you deserve to be understood. Wishing you well!
Dude is so open and confident and proud, I have so much respect for him 👑
This was a very educational video. Thanks for sharing
WOW! That was so informative and enlightening. Informative because I simply didn't know what intersex was. Enlightening because your confidence is infectious!! I'm a cis gendered gay man. After watching you here, I'm impressed by your confidence and somewhat questioning my own confidence. You decided to live YOUR life on YOUR terms and I salute you for that. Thank you for sharing this and putting this information out there. Some people think this shit is new, lol! As you said, it's been around for ages. But with technology/social media now days, it's a lot easier to put your own experiences out there with the benefit of other's going through similar circumstances the knowledge of knowing there are others experiencing the same thing!
His rizz is insane. ✊🏽👌🏾✨️
I don't think I've ever seen such a confident person before.
Powerful! Thank you for living your authentic life and standing by yourself. Much love ❤️ ❤️
Honestly, his energy is giving something beyond human...in the best ways...
Confidence on deck❤, bravo to his parents as well.
This was such a great interview!
Very inspirational and powerful! Roshaate is such a great educator to those who are unfamiliar to intersex people. I learned so much! And yes, his confidence is captivating.
This was so educational to me. His parents and family are exceptional.
Has anyone actually seen what Roshonte is like on social media? Man has a bad drug problem and it constantly live streaming himself struggling, in trouble with the police etc etc, its absolutely wild - not everything is as it seems
What platform buttttt do you blame him
I think I just fell in love . That confidence is beyond attractive,
Yes ma’am! I have been seen him a long time ago & i thought he was a fione man! Beautiful inside & out. Positive energy from him. Mad cool & much respect for him. Great voice to.
So glad we're talking about intersex people more. to rid of some of these myths we were told around gender.
I love the expression "he took a shine to me". And dude your eyes are mesmerizing! 20 dollars, lol, I love it!
all genders loving him is a flex
The Ciara rumor hit the UK? Embarrassing.
Love this video. What a beautiful soul.❤
Yes it did we really believed it here and it’s amazing coz this is the days before the internet 😮
What’s the rumor?
Hit even in Kenya. Absolutely bonkers
Very educational and informative. Thanks great job
I want to love myself like this - I love how simple he makes it. And he doesn't hold back. I'm also very confused with my orientation now.
Orientation is a spectrum and tends to be fluid not meant to be a regimented one or the other so just do what feels natural to you! Hugs and love your way❤
They’re blessed to at least have the option to pick which path they want to take
I love how authentically himself that he is. So charming, open and chill. I want to hear more about his philosophies and views. Dream blunt rotation lol
He birthed his own kid. Yessss. This is lit
Seriously??? So he has a uterus too??😮
@@geriannroth449Yes he was born with every reproductive organ from both male and female. I am not sure if he had the ability to produce sperm, or semen, but he did have the ability to produce ovums.
@QuiAnteS.Anderson WOW. Talkabout being FULLY LOADED!!!!!🙃🙃🙃
Is this possible? When he says trolls took down his book could it be people didn't beleive the story. I had to rewind because I don't believe such a condition exist
@@elliee5675 I've never heard of it either, intersex is more accurately described as differences in sex development, as in most are genetically either male or female but differences can cause the way the body and reproductive organs develop to be different than what the genetic sex normally prescribes.
The genetic sex usually grants one set of functioning reproductive organs, even though both or a combo might be there visually only one set actually works.
I have not seen any official documentation saying that humans can be both and able to impregnate themselves or impregnate others and also become pregnant themselves.
That would indeed be "diety" level stuff, not just difference in development. If it's true, it should be it's own category.
Roshaante, you are awesome! Thank you!
Oh wow! It’s almost like gender is just a social construct and has absolutely nothing to do with what genitalia someone is born with. Support trans and intersex people 💗
nah it still does, it’s just not as black and white / binary as most people make it out to be
bro actual intersex and just mutilating yourself are very different polar opposite things. intersex is an actual part of your body that ur born with lol
He is absolutely beautiful and that voice 😍😍
I can see why people love him!! ❤
Great message! Very real and informative. Forward thinking!
He’s handsome
VERY!!
Yes, indeed 🥰
He really is. I love his lips
Being handsome is power.
@@princefavioeyes❤❤❤❤😂😂
Great interview
Omg. I wondered what happened to Reshonte over the years. Love me some of him. If yall dont know Reshante has been speading the message on intersex for over 10 years. I became fascinated with what intersex was. I wish there would be a huge conversation with intersex and trans people. I have to see what happened to Reshantes youtube because i was subscribed for a long time and was subscribed well before the penis surgery (that explicit version was worth the sight). Glad to see you are alive and well. Continue to do your work and inform the world
You came up in my timeline, this is my first time ever seeing and watching your videos. I am definitely going to watch and learn more about intersex.
Thanks for watching!