I went to high school with this guy and when I tell you he is so kind and sweet. The most beautiful smile. I remember his laugh in the hallway. I’m praying for his peace.
Me too. I identify with so much of his story. I wish we were friends. I rarely meet people that inspire me. Ya I have issues. His explanation and perspective has deeply helped me. I felt like he was reading my mind. I also respect his decision to not have children. I agree.
Would love to hear more about your experience of being in recovery and the role spirituality has played and continues to play - and what it is that made you finally open up to it. Hopefully soon on your podcast :-) Something that came up for me and I don’t know if this resonates at all… you would love to be in a relationship. However, I wonder if subconsciously you are afraid of truly falling in love and then losing them - like you had to experience the unexpected loss of your father? The fact that you are drawn towards the guidance and care of older males also hints towards some unresolved emotions & trauma. Maybe, before you can attract the love of your life you will have to go inward and continue your healing journey - which you’re already mastering. Congrats! The right person will understand how HIV works and will want to be with you either way. Much love to you!
This guy is Introspective and able to articulate it without holding back. He’s blunt and straightforward. No BS or romanticizing his hardships if that makes sense. I respect that.
These are modern day Babylon dastardly, insidious, degenerates that Mark is grifting off of and providing a platform to, mark is tacitly endorsing HIV just like he told the plastic surgery addict in yesterday‘s video that she wasn’t hurting anybody not even herself, Liata will vociferously reverberate those same abjectly abhorrent sentiments regarding this guy above, who is spreading a black plague throughout West Hollywood, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Portland, Seattle, etc.
he's a clown - get a clue - there are people out there who try all day to make real difference - doctors, scientists and teachers - our military, researchers, volunteers, police officers, firefighters, EMT's - You give your respect to a crackhead??? Get a MFing clue - He got HIV cuz he smoked a ton of rocks and had sex with a bunch of weird people and he's earned your respect? Wow - lowest bar I've ever heard of - what's next? You wanna nominate someone for class president cuz they whipped it out and pissed on the sidewalk? I heard a dude down the block wiped his butt with a Bible while high on meth - class president? Treasurer? Go ALL the way away - put your energy where it belongs - and it ain't here - grow up
Drew is an example of a person with a genuinely good heart whose soul has been broken by circumstances & wrong choices made. But I’m glad that he acknowledged all that, bounced back & try to become an inspiration to others.
Nah. He said: "I might as well go do that again". Thrill seeking, pleasure and good times only please, behavior. Regardless of consequence or any boredom or discomfort. He just rinses and repeats. Circumstances are always there to break us and distract us. Some of us lack the mental capacity or the fortitude or the faculties to eject one's self from potentially harmful Circumstances. Provided the evidence is out there highlighting consequences to many activities, yet one still participates knowing full well. Good heart or not, at the end of the day we are all on a lone journey. An inspirational person is one whose actions speak louder than their words.
Former porn addict here. Some things I noticed: -He had childhood trauma, losing a father, and a mother that moved on quickly from his perspective . -He grew up in an emotional* vacuum. He didn’t have connection in his family system. -He felt like he couldn’t talk about his problems without judgement, which is describing a lack of actual support and connection, trust or ability to have vulnerability. -He didn’t believe in a higher power, and felt like he lacked purpose. -He numbed his life with habitual drug use. -He tried to fill his EMOTIONAL pain with PHYSICAL sex and drug use. -only AFTER hitting HIS rock bottom did he CHOOSE to change his actions and life. -He took responsibility for himself. -He loved himself. If anyone wants more info on sexual addiction and behaviors, check out the book “Unwanted” by Jay Stringer. It is fantastic and helped me understand my own story. -17 years addicted to porn. 4 years of freedom. 🤙🏻
I've known Drew for almost 20 years now, we grew up together and we're best friends in highschool. I'm so happy to see him on this channel! He has been through a lot and continues to push through everyday! You go drew! Love you man
This video is just amazing. Drew happens to be my first cousin, and we talk a lot about things like this and I am SO happy to see him sharing his story. I am honored to be your cousin, Drew. This is incredibly inspiring. Love you cuz
no but like fr? I love soft white underbelly, but I've seen multiple interviews where the people being interviewed get titled as something they don't feel like or want to be titled. It's weird.
When I saw the title of the video I had no idea what I was in for. Drew may be my favorite underbelly video. I was blown away by his unabashed honesty, his intelligence and his attitude. The fact that he refused to play the victim and accepted responsibility for his decisions was quite refreshing in an era where many folks point the finger of blame at everyone but themselves. And the man is so articulate and self aware. There is no question he can help a lot of people with his message and his wisdom.
@Syber Digital Art I suppose that's one way to look at it. I believe in God although I can't even define what God is. I will grant u that takes a leap of faith. I do not believe in any organized religion on planet Earth. But I will add that I believe God endows every human being with free will. Any religion that blames a devil or demons for the bad decisions of human beings is full of it in my opinion.
Despite the issues Drew is dealing with, he comes across level-headed, intelligent and self-aware. Many people hide their self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy with things like their profession, possessions and family relationships. The true Drew is out there for everyone to see. Many years ahead of him, I wish him the best in life’s journey.
Everybody is addicted to something. I personally laugh at people who get addicted to drinking/ drugs like weed meth or any other stuff cause iv tried them many times but to this day I don't feel a need to get that high* So I internally feel NARCISSISTIC Superior quality in myself. "Hey' I am better then most people. So my addiction actually is EXTREMEITY. & my addiction is KNOWLEDGE I am ready to burn myself to get the knowledge that nobody has ever had. No human ever born or died with consciousness ever experienced. I want to find that. It is really difficult to find something new on a planet with 8 Billion of my kind.
@@words007you will never find that sugar! You are asking for too much! Don't be a dope head or alcoholic or sex mania idiot! Stop trying to please anyone! This guy is sick. No excuse for this shat! Bahaaaa
@@words007 that's the ego my friend, the 'hungry ghost', it precisely operates the way you described. Addicted to knowledge, gratification, accumulation, amassing, experiences, being better, being 'higher', being 'holier-than-thou', being lesser, being small, whatever its kink XDDD it's not the whole you however. In fact, it is often called the 'false self'. However, one cannot just 'know' this mentally, an experiential awakening needs to happen, which comes just one day, according to the stars, as it happens to most. Not by reading billions of books, not by taking billions of psychedelics, not by consuming billions of videos. It happens when it happens and boy, you'll just be blindsided
“Symptoms for the spiritual malady.” This young man has such profound wisdom and such an admirable sense of personal accountability. I hope he finds peace in his soul.
Yes, when he said that line...i keep repeating it to myself cos it makes me realise our conversation with a friend that different substances have different spirituality. I even said heroin injection is very setanic cos we play with blood and sometime wipe the extra blood on our cigerrates and smoke it. How dark it is.
This interview blew me away. From my mid-40s to my mid-50s, my use of drugs and sex was exactly the same as yours. I was never physically addicted but I was emotionally dependent on the adventures and thrills. That's how I dealt with losing my youth and accepting the inevitability of death. During those years, I became unable to have sexual relationships without chemical enhancement sand I preferred "intimacy" with strangers. I put myself in highly dangerous situations, even while I managed to maintain what appeared to be a "normal" life on the surface. I worked, went to the gym, attended community events, and had sober social interactions with friends. Advancing age put an end to that phase of my life. I was very fortunate not to die, acquire HIV or any other major physical or mental maladies.. But that way of life devoured my ambition and eroded my confidence and talent. It left me empty. I'm now in my early 70s and it's been more than a decade since I indulged. I. don't even think about it anymore. Congratulations on your efforts and success at pointing your life in another direction. You have many years left to develop your true self. I'm retired now and in a sexless, passionless marriage. Just kind of sitting around playing with my cat, learning about vegan cooking, starting projects that never get off the ground, and waiting to die. I hope you find real happiness, not just for yourself but for all of us who never gave ourselves the chance.
everyday is a new beginning. you are alive right now be thankful. the only place you’re ever truly always in is your own head so make it a good place to be.
This guy is a stunningly good looking, articulate, conscious guy. I’m sorry it took him such a roundabout journey to find his worth. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you great health and a long happy life. You have so much to offer and share. Bravo for you! 👏🏼. You are very special, your life is precious and you deserve to love and be loved.
This is definitely one of my favorite interviews! It’s so refreshing to see someone actually hold accountability for their actions instead of trying to blame everyone and everything under the sun for their problems. But what’s even better than holding himself accountable he was able to pinpoint where his trauma stems from and how it’s negatively affected him. And the absolute best thing of all is how he was able to crawl his way out of addiction and come out the other side to tell his story and hopefully try to help others who are suffering and struggle with what he overcame.
You mark Liata acolytes and sycophants in the comment section are canonizing and lionizing this HIV laden abject abomination of a human. How is Mark Grifting Liata or this eggplant 🍆 guzzling vacuous, effeminate, emasculated and cognitively impaired Sodomite he’s interviewing auspicious for society? Mark even showers this guy with adulation a little more than halfway through the video when he tells him his being diligent about keeping his HIV in check like he’s running a business, and Mark does not castigate or lambaste or deride him as he should, he instead reinforces the beneficial elements of this degenerates deleterious behavior. Mark is an intelligence agency asset. He has yet to provide incontrovertible evidence controverting his purported claim, which is an outright, unequivocal lie that he’s yet to make any profit off of his TH-cam channel soft white underbelly, and you obtuse naïve. Mark fanboy sycophants, providing him with views are so delusional or just patently evil that you actually buy his grift. How did Mark Liata accrue all of his disposable income that he’s ostensibly losing interviewing these ignominious humans out there on Skid Row?
Drew is truly an example of someone that transmutes his suffering through serving others. This is worth waking up everyday for and your story will help others. Keep up the great work
To share the most intimate details of your life as catharsis while helping others is so admirable. I’m just blown away at your acceptance and accountability. I’m in recovery from a 3 yr addiction to crack and the best thing I’ve learned is being open minded, compassion and gratitude. Sending ❤ and support your way, I needed to hear this bc that “negative self talk” is what destroyed me. You have given us a gift by your message, thank you so much
This was a great interview. The way he shared his story was refreshing, not blaming anyone, but understanding the loss of his father and how that has played out in his life. Thank you Drew for sharing your story. I will remember this interview.
These are modern day, Babylon dastardly insidious, the generates that Mark is providing a platform to mark is tacitly endorsing HIV just like he told the plastic surgery addict in yesterday‘s video that she wasn’t hurting anybody not even herself, you’ll reverberate those same sentiments regarding this guy above, who is spreading a black plague throughout West Hollywood, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Portland, Seattle, etc.
I can really relate to this man, fatherless problems, drug addiction, sex addiction. I have been clean and sober 4 years but the sex addiction still lingers on. I patched things up with my Dad this year and I’m feeling things change now. Never underestimate the impact a father has on a sons view of himself and the world around him.
He’s gonna go far in this world. The amount of depth of character he has gained from the negative aspects of his journey is really admirable. I hope he knows how happy we are that he’s here and that we are all out here rooting for him
This is my favorite interview. This guy is so smart and I am so proud of him. All of the awful things he went through in his life, many people would turn to drugs, sex etc. He pulled himself out of it. He is really rare. I would watch his TED talk!
Man, this guy is good. As an addict myself with 15 years sobriety I can tell he has listened to the wisdom others offered him and humbled himself. Great speaking skills, a lot if self reflection. This was such a good listen. Damn, you got a lot to offer man. Keep doing the next right thing, you got this. ❤
What and incredible and inspiring interview. Thank you, Mark and Drew, for the the encouragement to return to a 12-step program. I kicked heroin, but started drinking again after my mom passed 10 yrs later. I hope Drew has an idea of how many lives he has touched by telling his story. ❤
What a selfless, humble, truly beautiful human being. Man if this is you at 30, I can only imagine the huge strides you are going to take and the sheer number of people you are going to touch and genuinely help by sharing your story. Just when I start to think there are no decent, caring people left in the world, this guy comes along! Amazing, really.
Thank you Mark and Drew for sharing this story! I work in HIV research in Canada. If Drew is wanting more ideas in how to create impact, I would highly recommend seeking out patient oriented research opportunities. These can be peer work where you work with newly diagnosed and/or newly sober persons. These can be patient partner opportunities where you leverage your expertise living with HIV to help guide research and care delivery for people living with HIV. Particularly crucial is/will be expertise on how to reach people who are high risk, (drug use and sex), how to keep them engaged in care and get their viral loads suppressed. There is such a need for input from patients on how to make care more accessible and relevant to stabilize their condition, so the more people we have sharing their experience, the better we can help them and others like them.🙏
@@mommae295excellent suggestions. His assertion that the HIV drugs are “perfect” is a long term mistake in thinking. Yes, they are quite effective. Yet as you suggest much is yet unknown. May his journey towards wholeness prevail…
I need you need to s t fu. You go out with your slogan "HIV doesn't discriminate". Yes it does. It affects overwhelmingly the people who society neglects to the point where they end up not caring enough about the consequences out of pure despair. And then you go around telling them it takes only a pill and they're saved. Those pills are toxic af and many if most of the people who end up with HIV come from a very hectic and chaotic lifestyle which is really hard to change overnight just because they got a sudden diagnosis and are now asked to "simmer down" and get cured of their despair so they can have the healthiest lifestyle being HIV positive so they can basiaclly live. An almost impossible task. Many can't change because their mental illness is greater than their fear of dying of AIDS. So the adherence to the pills is just a fcked up, messy, conniving myth of yours. Stop spreading it.
You really should check out a rare book from Robert Welner called the deadly deception... the book is very expensive and rare,but you can download the pdf.. there is a reason this book dissapeared... it was published in 1991 and went into great detail about the aids virus not killing ppl,it was the medication/the cure.. kinda sound familiar? Well guess who was in charge of everything, the keebler elf himself,ANTHONY FAUCI..
I have complete respect for Drew. This is one of the best interviews I've ever seen of yours. Amazing young man who holds himself accountable and admits to his flaws. I wish more people could be this honest with themselves. Wishing Drew the best.
This gentleman is the first person to make a solid point that going back to your childhood if you had a chance would be pointless. Stay where you are, work on yourself, and love yourself. Change is ALWAYS possible. Never give up!
Relationships come and go! Trust me you will find another girl. It’s so painful I’ve been there but the right one will come please please trust me. I’m happily with the love of my life now and originally I was where you may be now
I literally listened to Drew without any judgment! Life throws a lot of unseen obstacles through mental health struggles. I am proud of him for not giving up on himself. He was with himself all through . He is a strong unique man. Thank you for sharing your story it is one of the most eloquent and pure real life stories I have ever listen to!
This guy has such a tender heart. Not many of these people being interviewed make me feel emotional, but Drew telling his story had me chopping onions.
This man’s existence and courage is everything for society. He brings up a great point: what’s someone who’s atheist supposed to do in an overly christian recovery program? Thanks for sharing Drew you’re the man.
Find God, it will bring you more joy than being a nihilistic atheist. The reason they bring up God in 12 step and recovery is to help people find a higher power stronger than them to try and help guide them in a better direction. Religion is great when used right, not in a cult way, the vatican sucks, but the joy religion and belief in God brings to billions worldwide isn't a coincidence.
@@jakez1930 the Belief in a "God" is just that... a Belief. there are Many things and Many ways to Believe in something that can bring more Joy into your Life. Religion/God is just something Traditionally prevalent in Culture and is why people seek it. but Life can be just a satisfying or even more satisfying Without any type of God/Religious too so ...
@@jakez1930 I think pushing the Christian belief on people in their times of need may do more for the rescuers than the rescued. A lot of people I know who are into drugs would never fit into a patriarchal religion where white Jesus solves every question for them. Me included. Jesus a great example of someone to try and emulate (I think Mr. Laita is doing a great job of this). But our existence is an anomaly that can’t be downplayed by simple creation stories. We are made of the stuff of stars: pure energy, manifesting itself in all of the glorious forms, channels, and paths the cosmos creates for itself throughout time and space. It’s a lot more comforting for some people to believe that when they die they die and their bodies break down and are recycled back into the earth for the next life form. And that life ends with some finality and there is no eternal life other than the whole sum of what is left behind. It may not sound appealing or extravagant but it is a simple explanation that is more convincing for a lot of folks.
@@jakez1930 Problem with your view is that once your eyes are open the the fraud that the Bible is and how people delude themselves about God, you can''t un-see them and be an intellectually honest and courageous person. Besides, you don't have to choose nihilism. Many atheists choose humanism.
The lesson about empathy is really great. Thanks for sharing your story dude. Thanks Mark for doing this. I am gaining so much perspective from these videos.
This is honestly the best interview I have seen from this channel. Drew is so in tune with his emotions and aware of life in general as well as the complexities of it
Amazed at his willingness to take accountability for his actions and moving forward. Rooting for you Drew. Wish you the best and also hope you find real love as well.
I had a friend in college who found his mother hanging in her bedroom. It def. messed him up psychologically. Glad that Drew shined a light on the trauma of losing a parent as a child & his path to finding his inner purpose.
One of the best interviews I’ve seen. He was so able to look inward and piece everything together in such a mature knowledgeable way. I love that he mentioned empathy at the end and how important it is.
This interview must have really helped him get this all off his chest. Seems like a great dude, that just needs some good people around him to show him friendship and companionship. I give him so much credit to get on this platform and share his story and let it all out there. Keep your head up man.
This interview with Drew is the best one you have ever done. He is so articulate. His story touched my soul. I hope he finds love. And I hope he makes it.
He said something about having nothing going on for the weekend and for a second I got jealous. I thought to myself “man, I would love to have a weekend with nothing going on.” Then I remembered those weekends where I actually DID have nothing going on and how much I would drink. I’m over 9 months completely off of alcohol now, and at the beginning of that process, I very intentionally filled my weekends with things to do in order to have structure. I got more involved in my church, started spending more time with my family and friends, started playing more live music, etc. My weekends are the way they are because it’s BETTER to be busy than have nothing to. When we’re bored, we want to indulge. When we indulge, we go down rabbit holes. When we go down rabbit holes, we get lost.
@@bryanfrombuffalo7685 I think you need meaning and good relationships in life I don't think structure and routine are as important as people say they are, a lot of people that are successful and disciplined have no meaning in their life and are completely depressed
when we go down rabbit holes we get lost ??? I finished a level 1 spiritual initiation took me over 15 years under altered states ,prayer absolutely no drugs or alcohol ,had k and c of the HGA ,knowledge and conversation of my Holy Guardian Angel ,found my True will have been on a current ever since and yes it's everything they say it is after all the pain struggle and suffering it really is
Drew is someone who can help people beyond those who relate to his experience. He’s truly a beautiful soul and his willingness to share his message and want to help others is so inspirational. Drew your spark will continue to grow with you
He seems like a genuine good guy, him taking full responsibility, accountability & ownership of his actions realizing that & accepting his faults is amazing and a beautiful thing many cannot do. Awesome interview
Hands down this is THE BEST episode I’ve seen. His honesty and clarity of explaining his life journey drew me in. I’m proud of this guy for taking accountability for his actions and acknowledging why he is where he is. He reminds me of my brother in many ways. I’ll be sharing this with him in hopes that he will wake up and take life seriously before something drastic happens. Thank you and Blessings.
Your desire and ability to help others who are going through what you've been through is a lifelong purpose. You have empathy, understanding and self accountability and self awareness to know and teach the seriousness of lifestyle consequences. Best of luck in all your positive future accomplishments.
The wisdom and profound statements in this interview are just astounding… I wish I could be half as accountable as this human in my daily life I’m sorry for the things that have happened to them but without them they wouldn’t be the human they are today and even though it’s just a video it’s given me the want to be accountable in my life and be responsible instead of dismissing everything like I have thus far…. Thank you for what you do and thank you for interviewing these amazing humans. It helps.
This was an INCREDIBLE interview!!!! So many layers and to come out positive is refreshing. Thank you Mark for putting in the footwork and giving people this platform.
As a fellow 12-stepper (ACA here, adult child of an addict), I love hearing recovery stories...it's very very hard to be on the path of recovery. You have to have guts. Nobody chooses to become addicted. It happens. It happens because of childhood trauma. I wonder whether Drew knowing about his dad's cheating sort of looped somewhere in his mind and soul, and kind of brought about the sex addiction... as a way to be closer to him maybe...just thinking out loud... addictions always make sense, why this one and not that one, and it's sometimes useful to uncover that to then get to the root cause...the loneliness, unfelt grief, unresolved trauma... Big shout out to Drew, and fingers crossed the promises become true for him. ✨
Drew, your honesty speaks volumes in this video. It’s amazing how you can share this story and not blame a single person, but instead take the accountability on to yourself. Because after all, that is who makes our decisions, us. No one else. So powerful, you should be so proud of yourself. You really have come out the other side better than you were.
This was my favorite interview by far. The minute he started talking I could tell he had been to therapy or something he is just so honest. I also love how he said just give people the space to talk. I wish him all the best.
Drew, as a previous Dale Carnegie Course Instructor I can say that you definitely have what is needed to go in those High Schools and inspire the students. You are beautiful, articulate and have lived a life that has given you tons of examples to share with all of us to help navigate through life!
Maybe I'm more empathetic than I thought because I'm sitting here listening to this kid feeling heart broken for him. I know what it's like when you're trying to fill that void and nothing seems to satisfy. Keep pushing on my brotha. Your story does and will continue to have impact
God is the only thing that ever filled that void for me. I’ve tried everything to fill it. Worldly stuff just doesn’t satisfy. Good luck in life, Andrew!
@@ashleyclay4644 Cut the crap. I have a friend that has similar music taste as me and we talked about it for hours. Now, she stopped listening to ALL music cause of God, and deleted her webs connected to music she listened to. Cause God is now filling the void. That's some sick shit man. To me it's the same as if she's taking drugs. She threw away thing she like the most. It's not normal(and no, she is not becoming a nun).
An overall happy childhood can be mistranslated. What I heard is a young boy who needed (possibly more than others) his fathers love, encouragement and strong presence in his life. I also needed and was deprived of that and it led to 25 years of darkness and isolation. I pray Drew finds peace.
Never in my life had I found a TH-cam channel full of stories I could relate to, I'm not proud of what I have done but it is beyond our understanding why us addicts need to experience the worst and make bad decisions to actually learn how to thrive, most die trying to stop. To all the people that is still in the journey of getting familiar with empathy, sometimes feeling understood and listened is everything a person needs to take the first step. I am infatuated by your work, thank you so much. This is the true meaning of keeping it real.
This is such an act of bravery, love and vulnerability for Drew to share his heart and soul with us. I’m sorry you were looking so hard for the simple and deserving need to be loved and held. Sending a lot of love. Taking inspiration to be more loving and vulnerable form this. Thank you.
I’m so proud of you, Drew. You are one of the most authentic people I’ve ever seen. Thank you for sharing your story. I know that life has beautiful things in store for you.
Please make sure to always be kind to strangers. Drew is one of the very few people who had the courage and bravery to open up about his story, which I applaud and wish the best out the best for him! But we don’t need people to open up about their most expensive secrets for us to be kind to them. We don’t know what anyone deals with behind close doors, the best we can do is being kind ❤
Man, Drew ! You are a white light, a beacon. So sincere, articulate- no sugar coating or blame towards others. Your interview was motivational- not just for addicts, but for everyday vanilla peeps who are lost, or unhappy. I sincerely hope that you find a platform so that you can share your story, and truly help many others. Listening to you today has lightened my spirit! As are you, I’m an atheist (although not a fan of that word). One doesn’t need to believe in any man-made god to demonstrate to people what true loving kindness is. You humanity and love of fellow man (and woman!) and your desire to share and help lift up others is not just lip service. You exude a genuine sincerity. I wish you a good, fulfilled, long life Drew.
i clicked on this video closed minded but when i actually sat and listened to Drew i realized how much people go through when we just sit there and judge. I can tell how much of a good person Drew is, hes very smart, and understandable. I wish him only the best in recovery and in life! Much love
A great interview...a very eloquent speaker & a very intelligent being. Wishing you all the best Drew. Thank you for sharing this video with us Mark. 👍🇨🇦😊
Crazy how this video was only 23 mins & left a huge impact on me! I hope he never loses that spark to want to share his story & inspire others. Best of wishes to him ❤
Thank you for sharing your testimony with the world. I am also from Rochester and its always a breathe of fresh air to witness one of my fellow Rochestarian neighbor's that was struggling and down at one point in time to come out strong!! You're intelligence and humbleness are off the charts. I'm sure you've already inspired so many. Your brave opening up about your journey and expressing your growth and emotions on an everyday basis. Your a great speaker and your words speak volumes. In tune with your emotions and you being so self-aware is a plus too. You're on the right path to success, so don't stop now!! Thank you. ❤
this is the SWU interview I relate to most. not my exact life path, but totally connect with his perspective, and getting over the hate even when you feel you're right about something, like for example the Atheist part. I used to be so hateful of religious people. and now as i'm in my 40's, i have so much respect for people that are spiritual even though i'd still probably consider myself a nihilist or atheist. this is the most ARTICULATE guest you've ever had. As someone who works in communication related job and appreciates the skill it takes to convey complex ideas simply by a creative use of language. this guy just gets it!
Religion and spirit are not the same. The spiritual person cannot be religious. Atheists argue with the religious persons idea of god. That it doesn't exist. But whatever. I got over atheism as a teenager when I found psychedelics at 20. It took a while for me to articulate the change in perception. we are all a fractal of a larger overarching pattern above and below ourselves in dimensions. All one being experiencing different timelines. This is the spiritual reality. Gnosis. Subjective objectivism Self. Knowledge. Living the mystery and seeing it. Atheism leads to materialism and nihilism. Just endlessly breaking things apart and dividing them. The great work is simply union. It's not a special thing. Perception supercedes the mundane reality whilst looking from the outside like nothing is happening. No attachment to rituals.
So good to hear a recovery story from an atheist/nihilist perspective. It's really hard to find a "higher power" when you don't believe in that. Drew is brutally honest and tells the gritty truth about his life and recovery. I'm sure his story will help others, and it damn sure inspired me. No god needed. Thank you for telling your story.
You remind me so much of me. I'm dodged the bullet, didn't get sick, but the rest of you experience, from isolation to not being present to anxiety and fatherlessness, is so much like mine. Bro, you're great!
Drew! Thank you for your story man. Our stories are so similar! I became HIV+ in 2018 from meet ups off Craigslist with trans women. I’ve also been through severe drug addition, sobriety, and now battling a kratom habit. As for HIV, dating can be hard. I am fortunate to have found a wonderful woman that I could be honest with and did not judge nor has it affected our relationship in the slightest! You will find the right person for you! And thankyou for your story
i always figured if you get HIV now you just look for HIV people to date... also please tell me the allure of kratom? to me it seemed like bullshit the minute i heard of it
Thank you Drew for being transparent. My 2 boys father took his life when they were 5 and 3. One is a heroine addicted and my other son drinks and is on the streets. They didn't know their father killed himself until they were in high school they thought it was an accident but they both never handled it well. If your a father out there thinking of ending your life and you have children please get help..... the choice to end your life is a HUGE game changer for your children.
Its so heartbreaking that he did all the sex just to feel love. You’re going to find a wonderful partner someday who loves you so much Drew. Big hugs from Chicago.
I love how he has reflected on his actions and has taken accountability for them! Now he’s sharing his story with millions, and I am sure it will help people in similar situations. Thank you for your service! You are a bright kid and have an amazing future ahead of you if you stay on this path.
I can identify with him in so many ways. I haven't reached where he's at, but this has motivated me to fight the good fight and not give up. I'm proud of this young man for turning his life around after all he went through. If he can daily conquer his inner demons then we can too wherever we're at and help each other along the way.
I appreciate how he went into his addiction-based sex habit devolving into being with men, grindr, bathhouses, etc. He did so without extolling homophobia or showing any disrespect. That's quite an evolved man, one who can talk about his difficult trials and tribulations with tact and good manners. He might have addiction, but he's got a good head on his shoulders!
Having sex with men is not devolving into anything..and a huge part of this man's problem is his refusal to admit he is at least bisexual and probalby gay.
@@Sotzume Whether he was gay or not, I don’t know. I didn’t mean it as a negative as I am gay anyhow! Men do have sex with other men in specific situations and it doesn’t make them gay necessarily.
@@SotzumeThat’s exactly what I was thinking. He was so open and honest but he likes men, women and trans. He admitted to finding dating really hard. He obviously was exploring every part of his sexuality. Also love and sex are two very different things. Wish him all the best.
Probably one of the most genuine people youve had in a while. Drew if you lived closer youd be in my circle of friends my dude. Hoping for lots of healing and that you get to that point in life where something healthy matters!
Healing from a parent's suicide is a difficult task. I wonder if this guy - adorable - has considered some therapy. He clearly did not grief over his loss. Drugs, sex, over working are all means by which he is keeping the pain at bay. I really hope he manages and heals himself.
exactly. but his mother should have sent him to therapy and maybe talked more openly. but still, she has the right to have a new partner, it is egoistic for the child to be against it! except the new man is abusive, or the mother doesn'T take care of her son any more. Most boys should be taught to be more open and talk about their feelings and why they feel a new partner a menace! that is TOXIC . I guess they learn it from relatives or friends. I would have been happy if my mum had found another man. My fahter was toxic so I would have preferred a nice stepdad and less controlling from my mum. In this case, his father has died but he was not in therapy to accept the death. Life goes on and if he loves his mother he can accept that she wants a new partner!!
Drew, you are more self aware and introspective than like 70% of men out there. The right gal is waiting for you somewhere, I have no doubt! Someone who knows about HIV awareness, who respects your history and sees you for the strong and hugely human you are - don't give up! Big love
It’s extremely remarkable that he can remember every “chapter” of his journey detail by detail. This was a great interview, Mark, and undoubtedly a good one for you, too, since you barely had to prompt this guest! I know that’s your favorite 😉 He spoke eloquently and fluidly. I wish the best for him and his future endeavors.
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I went to high school with this guy and when I tell you he is so kind and sweet. The most beautiful smile. I remember his laugh in the hallway. I’m praying for his peace.
His face is as beautiful as his soul
damn nigga u pretty
What made him so kind and sweet? Did he bring everyone flowers and candy or something
@@erock9594 Yes
@@erock9594 giving gifts isntr just being kind and sweet
When he said “it didn’t matter who, I just wanted to love and be loved” I teared up. I feel like that too 🥺
Me too. I identify with so much of his story. I wish we were friends. I rarely meet people that inspire me. Ya I have issues. His explanation and perspective has deeply helped me. I felt like he was reading my mind. I also respect his decision to not have children. I agree.
How do you get the medicine... that keeps you alive..?
How about you love yourself? How about you choose YOU?
@@zamaafrika4605but I hate myself
Orgy? 😮
Thank you all for your love and support (as well as constructive criticism). I appreciate every one of you. Much love! - Drew
You got this brother!
Amazing story from a very intelligent individual
Would love to hear more about your experience of being in recovery and the role spirituality has played and continues to play - and what it is that made you finally open up to it. Hopefully soon on your podcast :-)
Something that came up for me and I don’t know if this resonates at all… you would love to be in a relationship. However, I wonder if subconsciously you are afraid of truly falling in love and then losing them - like you had to experience the unexpected loss of your father? The fact that you are drawn towards the guidance and care of older males also hints towards some unresolved emotions & trauma. Maybe, before you can attract the love of your life you will have to go inward and continue your healing journey - which you’re already mastering. Congrats! The right person will understand how HIV works and will want to be with you either way. Much love to you!
You are loved. How do I know? Idk 🤷🏾♀️ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I would be your lady
He sounds like an intelligent, humble and very self aware man. He is so together for having gone through so much hell.
This guy is Introspective and able to articulate it without holding back. He’s blunt and straightforward. No BS or romanticizing his hardships if that makes sense. I respect that.
And yet he got hiv
Very well said!
These are modern day Babylon dastardly, insidious, degenerates that Mark is grifting off of and providing a platform to, mark is tacitly endorsing HIV just like he told the plastic surgery addict in yesterday‘s video that she wasn’t hurting anybody not even herself, Liata will vociferously reverberate those same abjectly abhorrent sentiments regarding this guy above, who is spreading a black plague throughout West Hollywood, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Portland, Seattle, etc.
Exactly, I also really respect his self awareness and responsibility.
he's a clown - get a clue - there are people out there who try all day to make real difference - doctors, scientists and teachers - our military, researchers, volunteers, police officers, firefighters, EMT's - You give your respect to a crackhead??? Get a MFing clue - He got HIV cuz he smoked a ton of rocks and had sex with a bunch of weird people and he's earned your respect? Wow - lowest bar I've ever heard of - what's next? You wanna nominate someone for class president cuz they whipped it out and pissed on the sidewalk? I heard a dude down the block wiped his butt with a Bible while high on meth - class president? Treasurer? Go ALL the way away - put your energy where it belongs - and it ain't here - grow up
Drew is an example of a person with a genuinely good heart whose soul has been broken by circumstances & wrong choices made. But I’m glad that he acknowledged all that, bounced back & try to become an inspiration to others.
Well said!
Nah. He said: "I might as well go do that again". Thrill seeking, pleasure and good times only please, behavior. Regardless of consequence or any boredom or discomfort. He just rinses and repeats. Circumstances are always there to break us and distract us. Some of us lack the mental capacity or the fortitude or the faculties to eject one's self from potentially harmful Circumstances. Provided the evidence is out there highlighting consequences to many activities, yet one still participates knowing full well. Good heart or not, at the end of the day we are all on a lone journey. An inspirational person is one whose actions speak louder than their words.
He’s very soft-spoken and intellectual. His life began when his life ended, if that makes sense
Good heart? No. He's a self hating homosexual who has fucked up other people's lives also.
@@xhorxheetxeberria-td1hu ew, you need to go. This channel is not for you.
Former porn addict here. Some things I noticed:
-He had childhood trauma, losing a father, and a mother that moved on quickly from his perspective .
-He grew up in an emotional* vacuum. He didn’t have connection in his family system.
-He felt like he couldn’t talk about his problems without judgement, which is describing a lack of actual support and connection, trust or ability to have vulnerability.
-He didn’t believe in a higher power, and felt like he lacked purpose.
-He numbed his life with habitual drug use.
-He tried to fill his EMOTIONAL pain with PHYSICAL sex and drug use.
-only AFTER hitting HIS rock bottom did he CHOOSE to change his actions and life.
-He took responsibility for himself.
-He loved himself.
If anyone wants more info on sexual addiction and behaviors, check out the book “Unwanted” by Jay Stringer. It is fantastic and helped me understand my own story.
-17 years addicted to porn. 4 years of freedom. 🤙🏻
I totally agree with your comment. A lot of men deal with this, and just suppress for years because they’re afraid of judgement and rejection.
@@Smb8185 you 100% nailed it. It’s a tough thing to do to talk about this and be vulnerable
nice comment. I recommend semen retention subreddit for those curious enough to read about it.
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I've known Drew for almost 20 years now, we grew up together and we're best friends in highschool. I'm so happy to see him on this channel! He has been through a lot and continues to push through everyday! You go drew! Love you man
boy no you didnt😆
@@MackBrusznicki😆
bro did NOT know drew
🧢🧢 no you didn’t lil bro
Everyone of these videos has a comment like this 🤦🏻
This video is just amazing. Drew happens to be my first cousin, and we talk a lot about things like this and I am SO happy to see him sharing his story. I am honored to be your cousin, Drew. This is incredibly inspiring. Love you cuz
Can we have his IG ?!
He’s amazing !
@@bitchibeauty702 newdrewmood
what you doing step bro
Wonderful! Yeah your cousin sounds like a thoughtful, lovely guy.
I hope you are there for each other
“Would you call yourself a sex addict”
“I don’t really like that word..”
>’Sex Addict Interview’
no but like fr? I love soft white underbelly, but I've seen multiple interviews where the people being interviewed get titled as something they don't feel like or want to be titled. It's weird.
@@anne._.0717everything for the clicks 😅
😂
@@anne._.0717it’s quite disrespectful.. he’s helping them but also using them for views at the end of the day. Maybe that’s the tradeoff… kinda unfair
@@ccnma using them for views or is he giving those who r disregarded an oppurtunity to speak for themselves, depends alot on what u want to see it for
When I saw the title of the video I had no idea what I was in for. Drew may be my favorite underbelly video. I was blown away by his unabashed honesty, his intelligence and his attitude. The fact that he refused to play the victim and accepted responsibility for his decisions was quite refreshing in an era where many folks point the finger of blame at everyone but themselves. And the man is so articulate and self aware. There is no question he can help a lot of people with his message and his wisdom.
I concur
@@WenchInTheTinfoilHat I concur
Well said.
Atheism keeps most ppl responsible for their own bs. No ground troll to blame it on.
@Syber Digital Art I suppose that's one way to look at it. I believe in God although I can't even define what God is. I will grant u that takes a leap of faith. I do not believe in any organized religion on planet Earth. But I will add that I believe God endows every human being with free will. Any religion that blames a devil or demons for the bad decisions of human beings is full of it in my opinion.
Drew is more than qualified to do a TED talk. Glad I watched this. We’re all rooting for you Drew. Thank you for sharing such a powerful story.
He would be awesome on TED 👏👍
Despite the issues Drew is dealing with, he comes across level-headed, intelligent and self-aware. Many people hide their self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy with things like their profession, possessions and family relationships. The true Drew is out there for everyone to see. Many years ahead of him, I wish him the best in life’s journey.
Everybody is addicted to something. I personally laugh at people who get addicted to drinking/ drugs like weed meth or any other stuff cause iv tried them many times but to this day I don't feel a need to get that high*
So I internally feel NARCISSISTIC Superior quality in myself. "Hey' I am better then most people.
So my addiction actually is EXTREMEITY. & my addiction is KNOWLEDGE I am ready to burn myself to get the knowledge that nobody has ever had. No human ever born or died with consciousness ever experienced. I want to find that. It is really difficult to find something new on a planet with 8 Billion of my kind.
@@words007you will never find that sugar! You are asking for too much! Don't be a dope head or alcoholic or sex mania idiot! Stop trying to please anyone! This guy is sick. No excuse for this shat! Bahaaaa
@@words007 Go to college
@@words007 that's the ego my friend, the 'hungry ghost', it precisely operates the way you described. Addicted to knowledge, gratification, accumulation, amassing, experiences, being better, being 'higher', being 'holier-than-thou', being lesser, being small, whatever its kink XDDD it's not the whole you however. In fact, it is often called the 'false self'. However, one cannot just 'know' this mentally, an experiential awakening needs to happen, which comes just one day, according to the stars, as it happens to most. Not by reading billions of books, not by taking billions of psychedelics, not by consuming billions of videos. It happens when it happens and boy, you'll just be blindsided
"Know thyself" is the pilgrim's path towards progress.
“Symptoms for the spiritual malady.” This young man has such profound wisdom and such an admirable sense of personal accountability. I hope he finds peace in his soul.
He's dope but that particular line/phrase is something they repeat often at narcotics anonymous. It did sound smart though.
I've also heard it called a "moral injury".
Yes, when he said that line...i keep repeating it to myself cos it makes me realise our conversation with a friend that different substances have different spirituality. I even said heroin injection is very setanic cos we play with blood and sometime wipe the extra blood on our cigerrates and smoke it. How dark it is.
@@Decipherization yeah it's def a line from the program in general. AA/NA/SA any 12 step group.
Yes it’s what the Big Book AA refers to our disease as. A spiritual Malady.
This interview blew me away. From my mid-40s to my mid-50s, my use of drugs and sex was exactly the same as yours. I was never physically addicted but I was emotionally dependent on the adventures and thrills. That's how I dealt with losing my youth and accepting the inevitability of death. During those years, I became unable to have sexual relationships without chemical enhancement sand I preferred "intimacy" with strangers. I put myself in highly dangerous situations, even while I managed to maintain what appeared to be a "normal" life on the surface. I worked, went to the gym, attended community events, and had sober social interactions with friends. Advancing age put an end to that phase of my life. I was very fortunate not to die, acquire HIV or any other major physical or mental maladies.. But that way of life devoured my ambition and eroded my confidence and talent. It left me empty. I'm now in my early 70s and it's been more than a decade since I indulged. I. don't even think about it anymore. Congratulations on your efforts and success at pointing your life in another direction. You have many years left to develop your true self. I'm retired now and in a sexless, passionless marriage. Just kind of sitting around playing with my cat, learning about vegan cooking, starting projects that never get off the ground, and waiting to die. I hope you find real happiness, not just for yourself but for all of us who never gave ourselves the chance.
Your comment made me sad. You sound like you are a very adventurous person and have a lot offer. There is only so much you can do with a cat 🐱
just allow yourself to enjoy every moment with the beautiful surroundings around you not only with the cat,
Wow. You have quite a story yourself, Sir. PLEASE live your best life NOW-after all , you have a very powerful testimony. ♥️
everyday is a new beginning. you are alive right now be thankful. the only place you’re ever truly always in is your own head so make it a good place to be.
Take a trip to Jamaica
This guy is a stunningly good looking, articulate, conscious guy. I’m sorry it took him such a roundabout journey to find his worth. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you great health and a long happy life. You have so much to offer and share. Bravo for you! 👏🏼. You are very special, your life is precious and you deserve to love and be loved.
This is definitely one of my favorite interviews! It’s so refreshing to see someone actually hold accountability for their actions instead of trying to blame everyone and everything under the sun for their problems. But what’s even better than holding himself accountable he was able to pinpoint where his trauma stems from and how it’s negatively affected him. And the absolute best thing of all is how he was able to crawl his way out of addiction and come out the other side to tell his story and hopefully try to help others who are suffering and struggle with what he overcame.
Yes I agree
You mark Liata acolytes and sycophants in the comment section are canonizing and lionizing this HIV laden abject abomination of a human. How is Mark Grifting Liata or this eggplant 🍆 guzzling vacuous, effeminate, emasculated and cognitively impaired Sodomite he’s interviewing auspicious for society? Mark even showers this guy with adulation a little more than halfway through the video when he tells him his being diligent about keeping his HIV in check like he’s running a business, and Mark does not castigate or lambaste or deride him as he should, he instead reinforces the beneficial elements of this degenerates deleterious behavior. Mark is an intelligence agency asset. He has yet to provide incontrovertible evidence controverting his purported claim, which is an outright, unequivocal lie that he’s yet to make any profit off of his TH-cam channel soft white underbelly, and you obtuse naïve. Mark fanboy sycophants, providing him with views are so delusional or just patently evil that you actually buy his grift. How did Mark Liata accrue all of his disposable income that he’s ostensibly losing interviewing these ignominious humans out there on Skid Row?
Very inspiring, I really liked that he's trying to take accountability and chance his life and so far seems to be doing well, good luck to him.
How is that all you got from people who lived through hell
think you're real clever don't you
Drew is truly an example of someone that transmutes his suffering through serving others. This is worth waking up everyday for and your story will help others. Keep up the great work
you have a very beautiful smile 😍👌
Wel put. I admire people who turn their suffering into something positive. Incredibly powerful thing to do.
So glad he's doing better.Being a trans woman whos been thru some things herself,i get it.Handsome guy,I would date him for sure....
She said keep the game up drew!🤣😮💨
Huh????
To share the most intimate details of your life as catharsis while helping others is so admirable. I’m just blown away at your acceptance and accountability. I’m in recovery from a 3 yr addiction to crack and the best thing I’ve learned is being open minded, compassion and gratitude. Sending ❤ and support your way, I needed to hear this bc that “negative self talk” is what destroyed me. You have given us a gift by your message, thank you so much
Really brave for someone to come out and say all of this on camera. Huge respect.
This was a great interview. The way he shared his story was refreshing, not blaming anyone, but understanding the loss of his father and how that has played out in his life. Thank you Drew for sharing your story. I will remember this interview.
These are modern day, Babylon dastardly insidious, the generates that Mark is providing a platform to mark is tacitly endorsing HIV just like he told the plastic surgery addict in yesterday‘s video that she wasn’t hurting anybody not even herself, you’ll reverberate those same sentiments regarding this guy above, who is spreading a black plague throughout West Hollywood, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Portland, Seattle, etc.
He needs Jesus
@@lisalarouge6309 I've known of some Christians who've smoked crack. It is what it is.
@@lisalarouge6309 yes!
I can really relate to this man, fatherless problems, drug addiction, sex addiction. I have been clean and sober 4 years but the sex addiction still lingers on. I patched things up with my Dad this year and I’m feeling things change now. Never underestimate the impact a father has on a sons view of himself and the world around him.
Cheer up cheese. You problems will Melt away like cheesy goodness
The judge will be in our head FOREVER.
Aw, it's okay Big Cheese. Tell me, do you use Fondue as lube? 🧀
I wonder why he focused on transgender women mostly.
can we meet? im gay tho
He’s gonna go far in this world. The amount of depth of character he has gained from the negative aspects of his journey is really admirable. I hope he knows how happy we are that he’s here and that we are all out here rooting for him
and for all of us.
he's already gone far
inside @@john-ic5pz
Umm. No. Lmao. You admire a crackhead. 🤣
It’s funny you admire a crackhead. You must smoke crack also. 🤣
This is my favorite interview. This guy is so smart and I am so proud of him. All of the awful things he went through in his life, many people would turn to drugs, sex etc. He pulled himself out of it. He is really rare. I would watch his TED talk!
Man, this guy is good. As an addict myself with 15 years sobriety I can tell he has listened to the wisdom others offered him and humbled himself. Great speaking skills, a lot if self reflection. This was such a good listen. Damn, you got a lot to offer man. Keep doing the next right thing, you got this. ❤
Congratulations on your sobriety. 😊 I’m back with my boyfriend and he’s approaching his 1yr if sobriety.
#ODATlife✊💙✌️
Why does he say "it got to the point where it would be guys", like that's so terrible?
Exactly I’m sober since 7/27/10 (alc&coke) I get him and been very active in AA He def did the work to get to where he is today
I’m proud of you!! ❤
What and incredible and inspiring interview. Thank you, Mark and Drew, for the the encouragement to return to a 12-step program. I kicked heroin, but started drinking again after my mom passed 10 yrs later. I hope Drew has an idea of how many lives he has touched by telling his story. ❤
It works...it really works.
If you work it! 😊❤
Come Patricia, with everything, I hug you tight at a distance
This is the kinda content I was looking for just a few minutes into his interview. Picking up on certain terms. If you know you know!!! 🔺️
He touched me as well and I had od’d a month ago he makes me feel hopeful and positive ❤
What a selfless, humble, truly beautiful human being. Man if this is you at 30, I can only imagine the huge strides you are going to take and the sheer number of people you are going to touch and genuinely help by sharing your story. Just when I start to think there are no decent, caring people left in the world, this guy comes along! Amazing, really.
Thank you Mark and Drew for sharing this story! I work in HIV research in Canada. If Drew is wanting more ideas in how to create impact, I would highly recommend seeking out patient oriented research opportunities. These can be peer work where you work with newly diagnosed and/or newly sober persons. These can be patient partner opportunities where you leverage your expertise living with HIV to help guide research and care delivery for people living with HIV. Particularly crucial is/will be expertise on how to reach people who are high risk, (drug use and sex), how to keep them engaged in care and get their viral loads suppressed. There is such a need for input from patients on how to make care more accessible and relevant to stabilize their condition, so the more people we have sharing their experience, the better we can help them and others like them.🙏
That's a great idea for him to go with tu help out !! How he sees this or Mark show him
@@mommae295excellent suggestions. His assertion that the HIV drugs are “perfect” is a long term mistake in thinking. Yes, they are quite effective. Yet as you suggest much is yet unknown. May his journey towards wholeness prevail…
Great information ❤
I need you need to s t fu.
You go out with your slogan "HIV doesn't discriminate". Yes it does. It affects overwhelmingly the people who society neglects to the point where they end up not caring enough about the consequences out of pure despair.
And then you go around telling them it takes only a pill and they're saved. Those pills are toxic af and many if most of the people who end up with HIV come from a very hectic and chaotic lifestyle which is really hard to change overnight just because they got a sudden diagnosis and are now asked to "simmer down" and get cured of their despair so they can have the healthiest lifestyle being HIV positive so they can basiaclly live. An almost impossible task. Many can't change because their mental illness is greater than their fear of dying of AIDS. So the adherence to the pills is just a fcked up, messy, conniving myth of yours. Stop spreading it.
You really should check out a rare book from Robert Welner called the deadly deception... the book is very expensive and rare,but you can download the pdf.. there is a reason this book dissapeared... it was published in 1991 and went into great detail about the aids virus not killing ppl,it was the medication/the cure.. kinda sound familiar? Well guess who was in charge of everything, the keebler elf himself,ANTHONY FAUCI..
I have complete respect for Drew. This is one of the best interviews I've ever seen of yours. Amazing young man who holds himself accountable and admits to his flaws. I wish more people could be this honest with themselves. Wishing Drew the best.
Drew’s levels of self-awareness and articulation of his thought process and emotion process is impressive ❤
This gentleman is the first person to make a solid point that going back to your childhood if you had a chance would be pointless. Stay where you are, work on yourself, and love yourself. Change is ALWAYS possible. Never give up!
My girlfriend left me 10 days ago, not only am I in recovery but Im finding myself falling into weird patterns. I needed this interview. Thanks Mark.
Take care of yourself. Peace and Love
Relationships come and go! Trust me you will find another girl. It’s so painful I’ve been there but the right one will come please please trust me. I’m happily with the love of my life now and originally I was where you may be now
This pain and uncertainty is temporary Francis, people and better times are coming for you, be strong and love yourself, I hug you tight
Love yourself first. Heal yourself first. It’s scary to be alone but you get to meet a new person and that new person is you.
@@julezxz none of your business. You should be more interested in him getting better.
This is what’s missing in this world. Accountability, this young man has more integrity in his pinky finger than most people will ever have
Love this guy’s soul! He speaks so honestly and candidly about who is he and his life experiences. You can see the wisdom he’s gained over the years.
Yes, he has a beautiful soul AND face!!!!
I agree..self aware,handsome,& a genuine soul
Yes, this has been a very valuable life for him.
I literally listened to Drew without any judgment! Life throws a lot of unseen obstacles through mental health struggles. I am proud of him for not giving up on himself. He was with himself all through . He is a strong unique man. Thank you for sharing your story it is one of the most eloquent and pure real life stories I have ever listen to!
He just wants love. That's the void he was trying to fill. The void of authentic connection and companionship ♥️
This guy has such a tender heart. Not many of these people being interviewed make me feel emotional, but Drew telling his story had me chopping onions.
@@AdamGoldswain yes
This man’s existence and courage is everything for society. He brings up a great point: what’s someone who’s atheist supposed to do in an overly christian recovery program? Thanks for sharing Drew you’re the man.
Find God, it will bring you more joy than being a nihilistic atheist. The reason they bring up God in 12 step and recovery is to help people find a higher power stronger than them to try and help guide them in a better direction.
Religion is great when used right, not in a cult way, the vatican sucks, but the joy religion and belief in God brings to billions worldwide isn't a coincidence.
@@jakez1930
the Belief in a "God" is just that... a Belief. there are Many things and Many ways to Believe in something that can bring more Joy into your Life. Religion/God is just something Traditionally prevalent in Culture and is why people seek it. but Life can be just a satisfying or even more satisfying Without any type of God/Religious too so ...
@@jakez1930 I think pushing the Christian belief on people in their times of need may do more for the rescuers than the rescued. A lot of people I know who are into drugs would never fit into a patriarchal religion where white Jesus solves every question for them. Me included. Jesus a great example of someone to try and emulate (I think Mr. Laita is doing a great job of this). But our existence is an anomaly that can’t be downplayed by simple creation stories. We are made of the stuff of stars: pure energy, manifesting itself in all of the glorious forms, channels, and paths the cosmos creates for itself throughout time and space.
It’s a lot more comforting for some people to believe that when they die they die and their bodies break down and are recycled back into the earth for the next life form. And that life ends with some finality and there is no eternal life other than the whole sum of what is left behind. It may not sound appealing or extravagant but it is a simple explanation that is more convincing for a lot of folks.
@@jakez1930 Problem with your view is that once your eyes are open the the fraud that the Bible is and how people delude themselves about God, you can''t un-see them and be an intellectually honest and courageous person. Besides, you don't have to choose nihilism. Many atheists choose humanism.
He is 30. Spark still remains.
The lesson about empathy is really great. Thanks for sharing your story dude. Thanks Mark for doing this. I am gaining so much perspective from these videos.
This is honestly the best interview I have seen from this channel. Drew is so in tune with his emotions and aware of life in general as well as the complexities of it
ABSOLUTELY 💯!!!! Just watched it myself. What a pure , intelligent, true heart & head he has 🇦🇺👍🥰
@yoomoee u look so familiar
@gotti2.0 really ? From where ?
Amazed at his willingness to take accountability for his actions and moving forward. Rooting for you Drew. Wish you the best and also hope you find real love as well.
I think he realized that love isnt to be found, it is to be acknowledged as an inherant part of yourself.
could tell in the first few minutes this guy is smart and has a good perspective on his own complex psychology. that puts him ahead of 99% of people.
I had a friend in college who found his mother hanging in her bedroom. It def. messed him up psychologically. Glad that Drew shined a light on the trauma of losing a parent as a child & his path to finding his inner purpose.
His issue is more so not being able to get a relationship = incel
AYANA incels don’t have sex though
I hope your friend is ok today. How very sad.
@@ayana188 you don’t know what that term means goofy
@@dondotta365 goofy you one too
One of the best interviews I’ve seen. He was so able to look inward and piece everything together in such a mature knowledgeable way. I love that he mentioned empathy at the end and how important it is.
What a kind, intelligent, perceptive, and articulate young man. His is absolutely my favorite interview. I hope all good things for him.
I was completely caught off gaurd how close to home drews story has hit. Very relatable, and thank you for taking the time to share your story.
This interview must have really helped him get this all off his chest. Seems like a great dude, that just needs some good people around him to show him friendship and companionship. I give him so much credit to get on this platform and share his story and let it all out there. Keep your head up man.
@Aaron MacQuesten you’re a beautiful human being ❤
This interview with Drew is the best one you have ever done. He is so articulate. His story touched my soul. I hope he finds love. And I hope he makes it.
He said something about having nothing going on for the weekend and for a second I got jealous. I thought to myself “man, I would love to have a weekend with nothing going on.” Then I remembered those weekends where I actually DID have nothing going on and how much I would drink. I’m over 9 months completely off of alcohol now, and at the beginning of that process, I very intentionally filled my weekends with things to do in order to have structure. I got more involved in my church, started spending more time with my family and friends, started playing more live music, etc. My weekends are the way they are because it’s BETTER to be busy than have nothing to. When we’re bored, we want to indulge. When we indulge, we go down rabbit holes. When we go down rabbit holes, we get lost.
So true. Idle hands are the devils tools.
I am one of those people with nothing to do. But I don’t do drugs or alcohol
Structure n routines are crucial
@@bryanfrombuffalo7685 I think you need meaning and good relationships in life I don't think structure and routine are as important as people say they are, a lot of people that are successful and disciplined have no meaning in their life and are completely depressed
when we go down rabbit holes we get lost ???
I finished a level 1 spiritual initiation took me over 15 years under altered states ,prayer absolutely no drugs or alcohol ,had k and c of the HGA ,knowledge and conversation of my Holy Guardian Angel ,found my True will have been on a current ever since
and yes it's everything they say it is after all the pain struggle and suffering it really is
Drew is someone who can help people beyond those who relate to his experience. He’s truly a beautiful soul and his willingness to share his message and want to help others is so inspirational. Drew your spark will continue to grow with you
He seems like a genuine good guy, him taking full responsibility, accountability & ownership of his actions realizing that & accepting his faults is amazing and a beautiful thing many cannot do. Awesome interview
Hands down this is THE BEST episode I’ve seen. His honesty and clarity of explaining his life journey drew me in. I’m proud of this guy for taking accountability for his actions and acknowledging why he is where he is. He reminds me of my brother in many ways. I’ll be sharing this with him in hopes that he will wake up and take life seriously before something drastic happens. Thank you and Blessings.
Your desire and ability to help others who are going through what you've been through is a lifelong purpose. You have empathy, understanding and self accountability and self awareness to know and teach the seriousness of lifestyle consequences. Best of luck in all your positive future accomplishments.
Seriously a lot of these interviews are rough this was tough and rough but whoa this human is INTELLIGENT AND INTERESTING
The wisdom and profound statements in this interview are just astounding… I wish I could be half as accountable as this human in my daily life I’m sorry for the things that have happened to them but without them they wouldn’t be the human they are today and even though it’s just a video it’s given me the want to be accountable in my life and be responsible instead of dismissing everything like I have thus far…. Thank you for what you do and thank you for interviewing these amazing humans. It helps.
This was an INCREDIBLE interview!!!! So many layers and to come out positive is refreshing. Thank you Mark for putting in the footwork and giving people this platform.
"come out positive" wow how insensitive dude
@@MarkoMagic stupid pun time?
@@celestek.2395 they said it not me
@pouya108 schizo
this mongrel you can relate to 😅
If “turn lemons into lemonade” were a person.. I respect his passion, purpose, & insights…. “Empathy towards others” Drew, you’re awesome!
As a fellow 12-stepper (ACA here, adult child of an addict), I love hearing recovery stories...it's very very hard to be on the path of recovery. You have to have guts. Nobody chooses to become addicted. It happens. It happens because of childhood trauma. I wonder whether Drew knowing about his dad's cheating sort of looped somewhere in his mind and soul, and kind of brought about the sex addiction... as a way to be closer to him maybe...just thinking out loud... addictions always make sense, why this one and not that one, and it's sometimes useful to uncover that to then get to the root cause...the loneliness, unfelt grief, unresolved trauma... Big shout out to Drew, and fingers crossed the promises become true for him. ✨
Drew, your honesty speaks volumes in this video. It’s amazing how you can share this story and not blame a single person, but instead take the accountability on to yourself. Because after all, that is who makes our decisions, us. No one else. So powerful, you should be so proud of yourself. You really have come out the other side better than you were.
I love how full circle Drew has come. Beautiful story and beautifully told.
This was my favorite interview by far. The minute he started talking I could tell he had been to therapy or something he is just so honest. I also love how he said just give people the space to talk. I wish him all the best.
Congratulations for the sobriety! Keep the focus on your goal. I’m 300% behind you Drew.
this is NOT what i expected. this was amazing and i am so proud of him, inspired by him, and grateful that he shared his story!
Drew, as a previous Dale Carnegie Course Instructor I can say that you definitely have what is needed to go in those High Schools and inspire the students. You are beautiful, articulate and have lived a life that has given you tons of examples to share with all of us to help navigate through life!
Maybe I'm more empathetic than I thought because I'm sitting here listening to this kid feeling heart broken for him. I know what it's like when you're trying to fill that void and nothing seems to satisfy. Keep pushing on my brotha. Your story does and will continue to have impact
God is the only thing that ever filled that void for me. I’ve tried everything to fill it. Worldly stuff just doesn’t satisfy. Good luck in life, Andrew!
Well, having sex with literally anything that walks will do that, especially when you pay for it. But good luck to him
@@ashleyclay4644 Cut the crap. I have a friend that has similar music taste as me and we talked about it for hours. Now, she stopped listening to ALL music cause of God, and deleted her webs connected to music she listened to. Cause God is now filling the void. That's some sick shit man. To me it's the same as if she's taking drugs. She threw away thing she like the most. It's not normal(and no, she is not becoming a nun).
@@zrinkamatezovic1535 She found something greater and more important than music.
I hope you will find jesus as well
@@IramCoercere 😂 there's no help for you guys. I will never give up on music. It makes me want to live! 🎧🎶💜
Drew. You have most certainly saved lives. You've probably even saved my life as a fellow sex addict. Thank you.
An overall happy childhood can be mistranslated. What I heard is a young boy who needed (possibly more than others) his fathers love, encouragement and strong presence in his life. I also needed and was deprived of that and it led to 25 years of darkness and isolation. I pray Drew finds peace.
Never in my life had I found a TH-cam channel full of stories I could relate to, I'm not proud of what I have done but it is beyond our understanding why us addicts need to experience the worst and make bad decisions to actually learn how to thrive, most die trying to stop. To all the people that is still in the journey of getting familiar with empathy, sometimes feeling understood and listened is everything a person needs to take the first step. I am infatuated by your work, thank you so much. This is the true meaning of keeping it real.
This is such an act of bravery, love and vulnerability for Drew to share his heart and soul with us. I’m sorry you were looking so hard for the simple and deserving need to be loved and held. Sending a lot of love. Taking inspiration to be more loving and vulnerable form this. Thank you.
I’m so proud of you, Drew. You are one of the most authentic people I’ve ever seen. Thank you for sharing your story. I know that life has beautiful things in store for you.
Please make sure to always be kind to strangers. Drew is one of the very few people who had the courage and bravery to open up about his story, which I applaud and wish the best out the best for him! But we don’t need people to open up about their most expensive secrets for us to be kind to them. We don’t know what anyone deals with behind close doors, the best we can do is being kind ❤
Man, Drew ! You are a white light, a beacon. So sincere, articulate- no sugar coating or blame towards others. Your interview was motivational- not just for addicts, but for everyday vanilla peeps who are lost, or unhappy.
I sincerely hope that you find a platform so that you can share your story, and truly help many others.
Listening to you today has lightened my spirit! As are you, I’m an atheist (although not a fan of that word). One doesn’t need to believe in any man-made god to demonstrate to people what true loving kindness is. You humanity and love of fellow man (and woman!) and your desire to share and help lift up others is not just lip service. You exude a genuine sincerity.
I wish you a good, fulfilled, long life Drew.
i clicked on this video closed minded but when i actually sat and listened to Drew i realized how much people go through when we just sit there and judge. I can tell how much of a good person Drew is, hes very smart, and understandable. I wish him only the best in recovery and in life! Much love
Really incredible how he keeps saying he had a “good childhood” given what he’s experienced. You can tell he puts a lot of effort into being positive.
A great interview...a very eloquent speaker & a very intelligent being. Wishing you all the best Drew. Thank you for sharing this video with us Mark. 👍🇨🇦😊
This is by far my favourite interview. Drew is so articulate and confrontingly self aware. I was captivated by his story.
Crazy how this video was only 23 mins & left a huge impact on me! I hope he never loses that spark to want to share his story & inspire others. Best of wishes to him ❤
Thank you for sharing your testimony with the world. I am also from Rochester and its always a breathe of fresh air to witness one of my fellow Rochestarian neighbor's that was struggling and down at one point in time to come out strong!! You're intelligence and humbleness are off the charts. I'm sure you've already inspired so many. Your brave opening up about your journey and expressing your growth and emotions on an everyday basis. Your a great speaker and your words speak volumes. In tune with your emotions and you being so self-aware is a plus too. You're on the right path to success, so don't stop now!! Thank you. ❤
this is the SWU interview I relate to most. not my exact life path, but totally connect with his perspective, and getting over the hate even when you feel you're right about something, like for example the Atheist part. I used to be so hateful of religious people. and now as i'm in my 40's, i have so much respect for people that are spiritual even though i'd still probably consider myself a nihilist or atheist. this is the most ARTICULATE guest you've ever had. As someone who works in communication related job and appreciates the skill it takes to convey complex ideas simply by a creative use of language. this guy just gets it!
Religion and spirit are not the same.
The spiritual person cannot be religious.
Atheists argue with the religious persons idea of god. That it doesn't exist. But whatever. I got over atheism as a teenager when I found psychedelics at 20.
It took a while for me to articulate the change in perception.
we are all a fractal of a larger overarching pattern above and below ourselves in dimensions.
All one being experiencing different timelines.
This is the spiritual reality. Gnosis.
Subjective objectivism
Self. Knowledge.
Living the mystery and seeing it.
Atheism leads to materialism and nihilism. Just endlessly breaking things apart and dividing them.
The great work is simply union. It's not a special thing. Perception supercedes the mundane reality whilst looking from the outside like nothing is happening.
No attachment to rituals.
Drew made me smile. I truly believe he will make it. Such an intelligent and good-hearted human being, and so unique. He is inspiring to the end.
So good to hear a recovery story from an atheist/nihilist perspective. It's really hard to find a "higher power" when you don't believe in that. Drew is brutally honest and tells the gritty truth about his life and recovery. I'm sure his story will help others, and it damn sure inspired me. No god needed. Thank you for telling your story.
You remind me so much of me. I'm dodged the bullet, didn't get sick, but the rest of you experience, from isolation to not being present to anxiety and fatherlessness, is so much like mine.
Bro, you're great!
So much respect to this man. I hope he finds the love he deserves on his recovery journey
Drew! Thank you for your story man.
Our stories are so similar! I became HIV+ in 2018 from meet ups off Craigslist with trans women.
I’ve also been through severe drug addition, sobriety, and now battling a kratom habit.
As for HIV, dating can be hard. I am fortunate to have found a wonderful woman that I could be honest with and did not judge nor has it affected our relationship in the slightest!
You will find the right person for you! And thankyou for your story
i always figured if you get HIV now you just look for HIV people to date...
also please tell me the allure of kratom? to me it seemed like bullshit the minute i heard of it
Ur gay
If your fucking doing gay sex chances are you gone get hives bro common sense
But won't she get HIV then?
This dude is unique. He has such a good spirit. I hope the best
Thank you Drew for being transparent. My 2 boys father took his life when they were 5 and 3. One is a heroine addicted and my other son drinks and is on the streets. They didn't know their father killed himself until they were in high school they thought it was an accident but they both never handled it well. If your a father out there thinking of ending your life and you have children please get help..... the choice to end your life is a HUGE game changer for your children.
Its so heartbreaking that he did all the sex just to feel love. You’re going to find a wonderful partner someday who loves you so much Drew. Big hugs from Chicago.
I've only watched 2 minutes of this... and when he said "father hunger"....wow...just fuvking wow...I felt that shit in my bones.
There’s a lot of people feeling empty and looking for love. I think this was a very important and much needed message! Thank you
I don’t think I can express the amount of reverence/respect I have for Drew. My goodness, he really already has made a difference in this world. ♥️
I love how the one thing he said he didn't align with is being called a 'sex addict' and you went and named the episode that...
I thought that too! 😆
Denial is a river in Egypt
@@JG-sy8in
Same
What an incredibly wise, self-aware young man. I thoroughly enjoyed this video and wish all the best for you , Drew. You deserve it.
I love how he has reflected on his actions and has taken accountability for them! Now he’s sharing his story with millions, and I am sure it will help people in similar situations. Thank you for your service! You are a bright kid and have an amazing future ahead of you if you stay on this path.
I can identify with him in so many ways. I haven't reached where he's at, but this has motivated me to fight the good fight and not give up. I'm proud of this young man for turning his life around after all he went through. If he can daily conquer his inner demons then we can too wherever we're at and help each other along the way.
The amount of work he put into having the self-awareness that he now has is so refreshing and impressive. I wish him well.
I appreciate how he went into his addiction-based sex habit devolving into being with men, grindr, bathhouses, etc. He did so without extolling homophobia or showing any disrespect. That's quite an evolved man, one who can talk about his difficult trials and tribulations with tact and good manners. He might have addiction, but he's got a good head on his shoulders!
Having sex with men is not devolving into anything..and a huge part of this man's problem is his refusal to admit he is at least bisexual and probalby gay.
@@Sotzume Whether he was gay or not, I don’t know. I didn’t mean it as a negative as I am gay anyhow! Men do have sex with other men in specific situations and it doesn’t make them gay necessarily.
@@SotzumeThat’s exactly what I was thinking. He was so open and honest but he likes men, women and trans. He admitted to finding dating really hard. He obviously was exploring every part of his sexuality. Also love and sex are two very different things. Wish him all the best.
@@Sotzume at one point in the video he did say he was bisexual, no? 17:38
@@Sotzume He did say in the video that he is bisexual. This is a man who is honest with himself about himself.
Probably one of the most genuine people youve had in a while. Drew if you lived closer youd be in my circle of friends my dude. Hoping for lots of healing and that you get to that point in life where something healthy matters!
Drew would having sex with you..
Healing from a parent's suicide is a difficult task. I wonder if this guy - adorable - has considered some therapy. He clearly did not grief over his loss. Drugs, sex, over working are all means by which he is keeping the pain at bay. I really hope he manages and heals himself.
exactly. but his mother should have sent him to therapy and maybe talked more openly. but still, she has the right to have a new partner, it is egoistic for the child to be against it! except the new man is abusive, or the mother doesn'T take care of her son any more. Most boys should be taught to be more open and talk about their feelings and why they feel a new partner a menace! that is TOXIC . I guess they learn it from relatives or friends. I would have been happy if my mum had found another man. My fahter was toxic so I would have preferred a nice stepdad and less controlling from my mum. In this case, his father has died but he was not in therapy to accept the death. Life goes on and if he loves his mother he can accept that she wants a new partner!!
Drew is an amazing person. He’s charismatic, intelligent, eloquent, honest & inspirational. I hope he sees this. I’d be proud to be his friend.
The amount of accountability and reflection that Drew has done is amazing. May you continue to thrive during your recovery journey❤
Drew, you are more self aware and introspective than like 70% of men out there. The right gal is waiting for you somewhere, I have no doubt! Someone who knows about HIV awareness, who respects your history and sees you for the strong and hugely human you are - don't give up! Big love
It’s extremely remarkable that he can remember every “chapter” of his journey detail by detail. This was a great interview, Mark, and undoubtedly a good one for you, too, since you barely had to prompt this guest! I know that’s your favorite 😉 He spoke eloquently and fluidly. I wish the best for him and his future endeavors.