As a woman, I find it unbelievable that women behave like this 😢 I’m so sad that some women are so depraved. It is so hideous and long jail sentences should be mandatory for anyone who dares to abuse a child.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Me too by my father. My mother was also complicit in this. She knew and did nothing. It was myself my 3 sisters and 2 of my nieces. It happened over a 30 year period. You are brave. We were too, but he committed suicide before court. No one knows the impact except those who have experienced it. The detective on our case said it was one of the worst cases he had ever seen. He was brought to tears at times. Keep being brave but also be kind to yourself ❤️
I hope you got the therapy you needed, to know that none of it was your fault and that you are not damaged. These people are sick predators who destroy lives. Don't let him do that to you. He may have been your dad, but he was never your father. You have the good parts of your dad, not his bad parts.
@@chellerowe9390 Very sad Chelle your father was a sick disturbed individual and I’ve always been of the belief that a mother knows if her children are being interfered with, it almost makes her worse. I hope you’ve found peace 🫶🏻❤️
Never less of a man Harry… never! You are creating pathways for other men as other men have done too… you are so strong for speaking up! All SA survivors deserve peace, love and healing ❤
I'm a step mom to a 12 year old boy and my brain can't wrap around this. His safety privacy and happiness are top priority, I don't take it lightly that I'm raising a child birthed by someone else who trusts me to raise him. This whole thing is insane.
Harrison you are so brave im male and it started at age 5 for me i still can't talk about it and im in my mid 40s and the old i get the more it affects me well done for speaking out and I wish you and your daughter every happiness and peace
I'm so sorry. SA is horrible when it happens regardless. My heart breaks for anyone who has gone through it. It breaks even more for males. I feel boys go through it in a different way. Almost like it can't happen to them, and they should deal or get over it because they are males. I wish there were more resources and understanding for them. I truly hope that someday you will heal and find the happiness you deserve.
@@GanGster_Gato So it's worse if males get abused? It's just to be expected for girls and women? As though there's more understanding for us and we're not shamed, victim blamed and guilted into silence?
I hope you find the strength to talk about it one day so you can take all the shame you have bottled up inside and put it back where it belongs, on the perpetrator. I’m so sorry that happened to you❤
Harrison, you are so intelligent, so articulate, so brave. Thank you for sharing your story with us and I hope talking about it helps with your healing journey. Warm hugs to you xo
I was also sa at 13. Different circumstances but totally manipulated. Has affected me all my life (62) and passed these ill conceived survival skills to my husband and children. Now slowly unpicking. Thx for telling your story- very brave.
This is why my mom said “I would sacrifice my happiness to be with an other man for your safety”. They say that a step parent increase the likely hood of the probability of something that can happen to your child. The risk is to high and not worth the risk. A parent has an obligation to their child before their happiness or being in a relationship.
Then why not pick a better man in the first place to be a father of ur child. If the husband just lazy but other wise a decent guy why divorce him so u can do it all alone with no male protection at home.
@@nikitaw1982Because life happens. Not everything is cut and dry and as a woman one would think that you know this or atleast have an idea that not many people would have chosen the life of a single parent but life happens and staying with the partner is not always a choice.
@@grace2.026 if less loonie women got custody over stable dads society would function a lot better. Whats a desperate lady going to teach a teen boy? Not how to be a man
She is deplorable. I can’t begin to imagine what I would do if a woman did that to my son. I’d spend every penny on attorneys to keep her punished. Especially since there was teenager AND a baby involved. Powerful interview you two‼️
There are so many crimes against children. These rock spiders need to be stopped. It's changes who you were meant to be. Super proud Harrison you're a super star ✨👏👏👏✨
Thank you for speaking out, educating the world and fight for men’s rights. You have my full support for what it’s worth, I’ll be aware of red flags! You save lives.
I know a bloke who's 66 now, & who LIVED with his parole officer from the age of 13. He STILL thinks it was cool & that he was lucky! That's sad. It shocked the heck out of me; a naive old duck from the sticks.
Devastating. One person can destroy his life, the babies life, his bio parents life , his grandparents life. She’s a filthy abuser. I have been sa so many times in my life. keep pushing fwd Harrison you’re doing a fantastic job of survival Bravo to you 🙌🌟🙏
As a mother of 2 teen boys and a 5 yr old girl my mom heart weeps for the children who are abused by the people they should feel safe with. I'm so sorry this happened and I'm so proud of you for speaking out and the amazing man you became. ❤️
My youngest son has just turned 14, he’s still a baby, his biggest love in life is Lego. He loves me to ‘voice’ our dog, he still needs me so much. It’s mind blowing to me that anyone could look at a boy younger than him and want to take that beautiful innocence away.
I grew up in Sydney and went to high school in the 90's and during that time 2 female teachers tried to engage in inappropriate behavior with me i was around 15 at the time....I think that adult female predators are far me common than we think....i feel like society plays a huge role in down playing the impact of this type of crime
It's so good to hear a story like this because it doesn't get near enough publicity of how women abuse young kids just like the amazing amount domestic violence where the woman abuses the man,i have personally been abused by a half sized wife, worst thing friends family nobody ever believed
@@froandcaraI agree that she might have been victim turned abuser, especially since she already had a tactic ie. blackmail. “You’ll get in trouble too”. She knew what to say and what to do.
My heart really goes out to this guy. As a little girl that was groomed by an older girl.. 30 years later it's still affects and will always affect every relationship and you never forget it. Pray he has peace 😢❤
My older sister and I were raised by a step- mother when my mother passed away when I was 6. My experience was quite the opposite. She was a fantastic mother even when my half- brother arrived. I was close to her until she passed away and one of the last things I could do for her on her deathbed was to let her know how much I admired and loved her. We reminisced about those early years and I know it would have meant a lot to her. I wish this opportunity for children of great mothers.
What a blessing she was in your life. I bet your mother would have been so happy to know that such a wonderful person stepped in to fill her shoes when she was so tragically unable to fill them herself.
Omgoodness....What on earth made you write this message???? It is completely irrelevant. And not just irrelevant but absolutely boring and rather mean as well.
This is so tragic. So many abused kids. No child will lie about a abuse. I fully believe you. I've got so much respect for you. I wish you just the best. It is a very lonely road to walk
Deffinetly brave hes speaking out about this. Its also wildly uncomfortable to me how much p*rn has in cest themes these days. I stopped entirely years ago because eveything just kept trying to get more depraved or violent this stuff needs to be called out for how messed up it is.
So relatable. I was 12 when i was SA by a legal guardian. My life was never the same. His wife knew it was happening and did nothing about it to for years. It went on until i was 19. I resonated with your description of school and friends. I too was focused on my perpetrator for fear of him going to jail
I was taken aback when he mentioned the Philippines - which is where I'm from. I'm sorry Harrison that you had to go through this truly sickening experience.
Your so right Harrison It is about a trophy You were her trophy She was your trophy And Garys friend was his teachers trophy Two contrasting stories One of psychological manipulation where it was pleasing The other where there was physical pain that most people think is pleasure X thank you for sharing these stories 💗🤗
Harrison, thank you so much for your bravery, for speaking out for those of us who aren't that brave. My abuser was my brother...for years. When I was younger..I would stand in the mirror and look at my belly..terrified of being pregnant. I'm 60 now.. never had a baby. This abuse still affects me to this day.
I am a mom of 13 & 16 they are still children i can not comprehend them being able to navigate this kind of manipulation and abuse. What an amazing young man and thank you for speaking out so many men stay silent ...
This is one reason why I told my son growing up no one should be touching you especially your private parts. I also said I would be his safe space if he needed to share anything and that anyone saying to keep secrets is wrong between adults and children. I also said most will test you with small things like touching your leg the trying more or pictures. I was very upfront with my kids saying it can be an anyone even family. I feel by talking to him it made him more alert to the predators hiding in plain sight. Thank you for sharing your experience and I feel it’s a true strength in a person to speak up.
This sounds like my mothers 3rd husband with me. He wanted me to himself. After 8 yrs of SA I said no more I couldn’t take it anymore shortly after I was 17 and met the love of my life. 33 years of marriage and years of ptsd and living behind dark curtains and locked door his love never wavered. It’s amazing of the similarities in these cases.
parents protect your kids thats sad. csa need to spoken about more especially male survivors.( especially rare mention female predators) hes very brave for telling his story.
I am the female version of Harrison, from 13, with an uncle by marriage. I too was promised a future with my abuser. I told. I was not supported by my.parents, in fact, I was told I would ruin my aunts life if it 'came out". I'm 58 now, and still it hurts.
I’m so sorry that it happened to you and that the response you got when seeking help merely victimised you all over again. You deserved none of it and I hope you have had a chance to try and heal from what was done to you ❤
Thank you for sharing and sending deepest emphathy for what you have been through ❤ You are very courageous. Thanks to Gary for graciously sharing this sad yet true story.
It's wild that Harrison may never see his daughter again and that his abuser wasn't even charged. If I search Harrison James online I can find out what he looks like, the victim, but his abuser's identity is protected (as she was never charged) and she will be able to offend in her home country. No awareness of this story will stop her ability offend, sadly. And they never stop offending. Powerful story, thank you for sharing Harrison. But it's so incredibly sad hearing what CSA victims go through, especially boys.
I “ had an affair “ with my uncle when I was 14. I still have trouble calling it abuse because I consented. I loved him madly. I’m 65 now and we don’t have contact.
A 14 year old has no ability to consent and is very easy to manipulate in to thinking they’re in a mutually loving relationship. Your uncle was a sick man and you are not to blame for being young and vulnerable to his manipulations.
I know this is a personal question that you of course don’t have to answer but how long did this abuse go on? Did he lose interest once you reached a certain age? Did he abuse other children to your knowledge?
@@pallexa thankyou for your reply. I imagine that must have been devastating for you at the time and I can’t imagine the complicated feelings you have about it now. Thanks for sharing ❤️
To read all these stories just breaks my heart. Im so sorry to all of you having to go through such atrocious situations. Ughh society is so messed up . I hope everyone can heal from your stories. ❤
they hold you with fear and control it is despicable and disgraceful, abuse causes trauma well into adulthood it also causes change of character due to the confusion and coercion, for males it must be harder to confide in anyone due to the masculinity image they have to upkeep society has to change on this dilemma, as our minds carry the same burdens regardless of gender roles wishing the best of healing for survivors of such abuse God bless us all with goodness and peace
The typical insidious manipulation indeed! It‘s so vile! Yes it‘s a long process, I can confirm that and the victim is not aware of what it all is about especially when no obvious violence is included. It’s totally confusing when you start to realize what it was and how huge the impact is on your life. How much more difficult it must be for a male victim… I‘m proud of you that you‘re speaking out, it‘s so important that society is becoming aware of female se*ual abusers of children. I think it‘s less rare than we all imagine, sadly!!
Liking a video does not mean you like what happened, it means you like that this channel is speaking about this.. when you like a video, youtube pushes it out.
It’s sad that more men can’t open up about this - I know of two guys abused by female babysitters at 13 and one whose mother used to sleep with his teenage friends. But the “how lucky you got lucky” attitude keeps them from speaking up because people joke about it. It’s hard enough for males to speak about when it’s abuse people are more understanding of eg pries, teacher, father , uncle etc But abuse by females is not taken seriously enough. It steals these young guys childhoods and can stunt their development immensely. The opposite of what the people who joke about it think.
What this young man went through is horrific - but I have a genuine question that has left me very confused. Harrison shared that his dad didn’t have any idea the child was Hari’s, and despite a vasectomy, presumed he was the father. However, in another recent t podcast Hari said that his father knew about the abuse because he “caught them” one day. His response was to tell his son that it better not happen again. If that’s the case, he would have had suspicions when his wife became pregnant. I don’t understand why Hari wouldn’t bring up this very significant piece of info in this interview - and it doesn’t make sense with what he’s shared here.
People shut out what their brains can’t comprehend - like his dad catching his wife abusing his son. It’s like it never happened. I was sexually abused a couple of times by my grandfather when I was 11, I told my dad & he spoke to my grandmother who in turn had words with my grandfather. My father has no memory of this, even though I remember everything and so does my sister who is a year younger than me. My dad doesn’t deny it ever happened, but he has no memory of it. He dealt with it and then it’s like his brain erased it from his mind. The way the mind reacts to trauma is fascinating. This young man’s dad was also a victim in a sense.
Statistically, the abuse (if one will) hierarchy in terms of severity and prevalence goes: 1) men against women and girls 2) men against men and boys 3) women against women and girls 4) women against men and boys Harrison unfortunately is in the fourth group of victims (men and boys whom have been abused as women) as well as the second group (as his father could have done everything to stop the abuse and failed to stop the abuse).
Thank you so much for just considering my pain,I could have tried to stop this physically but I was brought up to never touch a female, again your thoughts mean alot
Thank you Harrison for speaking out to help young children to understand sexually abused is not acceptable
You keep going back must have liked it.
@@janheffernan4792 What do you wish to achieve by saying that?
@@janheffernan4792 What do you wish to achieve by saying that?
You sure must be an abuser.@@janheffernan4792
yes thank you for shining a light on this. I feel sick this happened to you.
As a woman, I find it unbelievable that women behave like this 😢
I’m so sad that some women are so depraved.
It is so hideous and long jail sentences should be mandatory for anyone who dares to abuse a child.
Sadly these kind of sickos are in both sexes
Especially A.Mother.
Sadly, there are many more women who do these things than we are aware of 😢.
I just can't wrap my mind around abuse, especially your child. How can a parent even think of something like this?
@@KathyStrickland-nh9vx 100%
Congrats to both men for talking about this so well….no victim blaming etc
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Me too by my father. My mother was also complicit in this. She knew and did nothing. It was myself my 3 sisters and 2 of my nieces. It happened over a 30 year period. You are brave. We were too, but he committed suicide before court. No one knows the impact except those who have experienced it. The detective on our case said it was one of the worst cases he had ever seen. He was brought to tears at times. Keep being brave but also be kind to yourself ❤️
I hope you got the therapy you needed, to know that none of it was your fault and that you are not damaged. These people are sick predators who destroy lives. Don't let him do that to you. He may have been your dad, but he was never your father. You have the good parts of your dad, not his bad parts.
:( x
@@chellerowe9390
Very sad Chelle your father was a sick disturbed individual and I’ve always been of the belief that a mother knows if her children are being interfered with, it almost makes her worse. I hope you’ve found peace 🫶🏻❤️
You are brave. I am sorry
I'm sorry. Hugs❤
This crime undermines the most precious capability we have as human beings, the ability to trust others and life itself.
Never less of a man Harry… never! You are creating pathways for other men as other men have done too… you are so strong for speaking up! All SA survivors deserve peace, love and healing ❤
I'm a step mom to a 12 year old boy and my brain can't wrap around this. His safety privacy and happiness are top priority, I don't take it lightly that I'm raising a child birthed by someone else who trusts me to raise him. This whole thing is insane.
So evil
Right! I look at my nephews and i can’t imagine that type of disgusting act.. that age alone is horrible to go through but he said right… poor morals.
What a twisted woman.
Its sickening. She should be jailed forevee
Harrison you are so brave im male and it started at age 5 for me i still can't talk about it and im in my mid 40s and the old i get the more it affects me well done for speaking out and I wish you and your daughter every happiness and peace
I'm so sorry. SA is horrible when it happens regardless. My heart breaks for anyone who has gone through it. It breaks even more for males. I feel boys go through it in a different way. Almost like it can't happen to them, and they should deal or get over it because they are males. I wish there were more resources and understanding for them.
I truly hope that someday you will heal and find the happiness you deserve.
I'm so sorry for your horrific experiences.😢
I pray you can find healing. ❤
I'm so sorry that happened to you. God bless you. I pray you are able to heal and find peace.
@@GanGster_Gato So it's worse if males get abused? It's just to be expected for girls and women? As though there's more understanding for us and we're not shamed, victim blamed and guilted into silence?
I hope you find the strength to talk about it one day so you can take all the shame you have bottled up inside and put it back where it belongs, on the perpetrator. I’m so sorry that happened to you❤
Harrison, you are so intelligent, so articulate, so brave. Thank you for sharing your story with us and I hope talking about it helps with your healing journey. Warm hugs to you xo
My heart goes out to you😢yr a very strong young man for Talking about your abuse
I was also sa at 13. Different circumstances but totally manipulated. Has affected me all my life (62) and passed these ill conceived survival skills to my husband and children. Now slowly unpicking.
Thx for telling your story- very brave.
So sorry you had to go through that. Hope you heal
This is why my mom said “I would sacrifice my happiness to be with an other man for your safety”. They say that a step parent increase the likely hood of the probability of something that can happen to your child. The risk is to high and not worth the risk. A parent has an obligation to their child before their happiness or being in a relationship.
I have 2 daughters and I have stayed single for the last 12 years to keep them from this type of situation, I don't trust anyone.
Although the first offenders statistically are fathers, then grandparents and third uncles. Stepdads are even with uncles.
Then why not pick a better man in the first place to be a father of ur child. If the husband just lazy but other wise a decent guy why divorce him so u can do it all alone with no male protection at home.
@@nikitaw1982Because life happens. Not everything is cut and dry and as a woman one would think that you know this or atleast have an idea that not many people would have chosen the life of a single parent but life happens and staying with the partner is not always a choice.
@@grace2.026 if less loonie women got custody over stable dads society would function a lot better. Whats a desperate lady going to teach a teen boy? Not how to be a man
She is deplorable. I can’t begin to imagine what I would do if a woman did that to my son. I’d spend every penny on attorneys to keep her punished. Especially since there was teenager AND a baby involved. Powerful interview you two‼️
There are so many crimes against children. These rock spiders need to be stopped. It's changes who you were meant to be. Super proud Harrison you're a super star ✨👏👏👏✨
Thank you for speaking out, educating the world and fight for men’s rights. You have my full support for what it’s worth, I’ll be aware of red flags! You save lives.
Shocking beyond words. Very brave of you to go public. Hope life treats you well.
I know a bloke who's 66 now, & who LIVED with his parole officer from the age of 13. He STILL thinks it was cool & that he was lucky! That's sad. It shocked the heck out of me; a naive old duck from the sticks.
what
Harrison you are a wonderfully brave man…..SA is never never ok……Other men will look to you for counsel, great work…..
What a sick mental case that woman is.
Devastating. One person can destroy his life, the babies life, his bio parents life , his grandparents life.
She’s a filthy abuser.
I have been sa so many times in my life.
keep pushing fwd Harrison you’re doing a fantastic job of survival Bravo to you 🙌🌟🙏
Oh Harrison 😢 you are unbelievably wise and mature for your age. Sending you love, Peace & healing ❤️
As a mother of 2 teen boys and a 5 yr old girl my mom heart weeps for the children who are abused by the people they should feel safe with. I'm so sorry this happened and I'm so proud of you for speaking out and the amazing man you became. ❤️
Harrison is so brave and strong and a hero for sharing his story for other children who may be in the same situation
My youngest son has just turned 14, he’s still a baby, his biggest love in life is Lego. He loves me to ‘voice’ our dog, he still needs me so much. It’s mind blowing to me that anyone could look at a boy younger than him and want to take that beautiful innocence away.
“You are the man in this relationship”. Utterly disgusting! Sending love and prayers
Thank you for everything you do
Thanks mate. You are speaking for a lot of us that couldn't.
Thank you Harrison for speaking up and spreading awareness. May Father God be with you
Is there a part two to this?? Did the step mum go to jail. And does his daughter now know that he is actually her father?
yes there is a part 2
Where?
@@jtm1129 Harrison James EP2
This shows that you never know what goes on behind closed doors. Harrison, you are so brave. Thank you for your story. Be well.
Amen 🙏 Being vulnerable and sharing your story is KEY to healing!!!!!
A heroic young man. God bless you for speaking up against an evil abuse on children. Norway ❤️🤗
She forced him to believe he was a man years b4 his time😢 he wasn't to realise how evil she was until he grew up 😢😢
Hopefully stepmom is in jail now.
I grew up in Sydney and went to high school in the 90's and during that time 2 female teachers tried to engage in inappropriate behavior with me i was around 15 at the time....I think that adult female predators are far me common than we think....i feel like society plays a huge role in down playing the impact of this type of crime
As you can see in the comment section, not all think that Harrison is a real victim. Indeed, society somehow enabling this kind of abuse.
It's so good to hear a story like this because it doesn't get near enough publicity of how women abuse young kids just like the amazing amount domestic violence where the woman abuses the man,i have personally been abused by a half sized wife, worst thing friends family nobody ever believed
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I am soooooooo sorry you went through that, and that you weren't believed. Horrific.
How could a woman do this we are as a species suppose to protect babies and all children I cease to understand this😢😢
I know, I just can’t comprehend this as a woman, as a mum.
Was done to her
@@froandcarayeah, that’s very likely
Probably very disturbed individual. No normal human being will comitt a crime like this. Looks like a sad narcissist.
@@froandcaraI agree that she might have been victim turned abuser, especially since she already had a tactic ie. blackmail. “You’ll get in trouble too”.
She knew what to say and what to do.
I'm so sorry. My heart aches for kids in these situations. I just can't comprehend this but what a beautiful young man. ❤ from Florida, USA
My heart really goes out to this guy. As a little girl that was groomed by an older girl.. 30 years later it's still affects and will always affect every relationship and you never forget it. Pray he has peace 😢❤
My older sister and I were raised by a step- mother when my mother passed away when I was 6. My experience was quite the opposite. She was a fantastic mother even when my half- brother arrived. I was close to her until she passed away and one of the last things I could do for her on her deathbed was to let her know how much I admired and loved her. We reminisced about those early years and I know it would have meant a lot to her. I wish this opportunity for children of great mothers.
What a blessing she was in your life. I bet your mother would have been so happy to know that such a wonderful person stepped in to fill her shoes when she was so tragically unable to fill them herself.
lucky you ,not all of us have been privy to these great people and experiences
Omgoodness....What on earth made you write this message???? It is completely irrelevant.
And not just irrelevant but absolutely boring and rather mean as well.
Thank you for speaking up. I am so sorry that this happened to you.
This is so tragic. So many abused kids. No child will lie about a abuse. I fully believe you. I've got so much respect for you. I wish you just the best. It is a very lonely road to walk
They certainly can lie but but you have to investigate until disproven and keep them safe in the meantime
His dad never thought this could be his sons daughter? He caught them so right there is enough to plant a seed.
Deffinetly brave hes speaking out about this.
Its also wildly uncomfortable to me how much p*rn has in cest themes these days. I stopped entirely years ago because eveything just kept trying to get more depraved or violent this stuff needs to be called out for how messed up it is.
So relatable. I was 12 when i was SA by a legal guardian. My life was never the same. His wife knew it was happening and did nothing about it to for years. It went on until i was 19. I resonated with your description of school and friends. I too was focused on my perpetrator for fear of him going to jail
The title of this video blows my mind.
Thank you for sharing your story.
I was taken aback when he mentioned the Philippines - which is where I'm from. I'm sorry Harrison that you had to go through this truly sickening experience.
It’s very easy to hide when you’re full of fear too 😢.
Your so right Harrison
It is about a trophy
You were her trophy
She was your trophy
And Garys friend was his teachers trophy
Two contrasting stories
One of psychological manipulation where it was pleasing
The other where there was physical pain that most people think is pleasure
X thank you for sharing these stories 💗🤗
Harrison, thank you so much for your bravery, for speaking out for those of us who aren't that brave. My abuser was my brother...for years. When I was younger..I would stand in the mirror and look at my belly..terrified of being pregnant. I'm 60 now.. never had a baby. This abuse still affects me to this day.
I just can't believe the father didn't realize at all...
Groomers are manipulative
Maybe it was when he was home from school, before the Father got home from work ? 😕😔
I am a mom of 13 & 16
they are still
children i can not comprehend them being able to navigate this kind of manipulation and abuse. What an amazing young man and thank you for speaking out
so many men stay silent ...
This is one reason why I told my son growing up no one should be touching you especially your private parts. I also said I would be his safe space if he needed to share anything and that anyone saying to keep secrets is wrong between adults and children. I also said most will test you with small things like touching your leg the trying more or pictures. I was very upfront with my kids saying it can be an anyone even family. I feel by talking to him it made him more alert to the predators hiding in plain sight. Thank you for sharing your experience and I feel it’s a true strength in a person to speak up.
You should have a DNA test, just to be sure, you can never trust a woman like your stepmother, there could be more victims, even more secret partners.
True.
You are so brave ti speak out load! I am so sorry you went through it. I hope this person is in jail
This sounds like my mothers 3rd husband with me. He wanted me to himself. After 8 yrs of SA I said no more I couldn’t take it anymore shortly after I was 17 and met the love of my life. 33 years of marriage and years of ptsd and living behind dark curtains and locked door his love never wavered. It’s amazing of the similarities in these cases.
Harrison every man or woman feels disgust for that person who did this to you, You are incredibly strong.
Heart breaking for him 😢
parents protect your kids thats sad. csa need to spoken about more especially male survivors.( especially rare mention female predators)
hes very brave for telling his story.
Well done for speaking out- I am sure this will encourage other victims to come forward
I remember the backpack of bricks! Thanks for speaking about your experience so openly. Its such a cruel and emotionally violent crime
Such a sad story 😢😢! shame on that woman😡 Harrison thank you for sharing so brave❤️✝️🙏
This is gross.
It just shows how gullable children and teenagers are,yet we expect them to know right from wrong, like with wisdom of late adulthood.
They’re gullible bc breeyders don’t teach children about predators.
No. They do know right from wrong, but they have been groomed
No the point of being Groomed is making something you know is wrong feel like it’s not a big deal. They still no it’s socially unacceptable
I was sexually assaulted by my mother, before my teens.
❤️🙏🏻
Worse betrayal no one should experience. You deserve deserved so much better! Virtual hug ❤
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😢 may every day here on be one of healing and strength. ♥️
Hugs
A lot of women get away with these disgusting behavior 😢
A lot of people, men and women, get away with it all the time.
Men have been getting away with it for centuries.
Theres no evidence for that, its overwhelmingly a male issue.
And people will say only men abuse children just imagine the double standard in our world
The ratio is so far apart! It happens but it’s not close enough to know men a more perpetrators than women.
Women usually are helping cover it up. Wives, aunts, etc. looking the other way or even dismissing the allegations against the male abuser
HUGE double standard
Victims of abuse tend to become perpetrators themselves.
Besides no one is punished, so people feel free to di the same.
Did they lock her up? The stepmother?
Oh my gosh, this poor guy
Fully understand the meaning of the weight of the past and all the betrayals of the little me flashbacks never go!
I am the female version of Harrison, from 13, with an uncle by marriage. I too was promised a future with my abuser. I told. I was not supported by my.parents, in fact, I was told I would ruin my aunts life if it 'came out". I'm 58 now, and still it hurts.
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I’m so sorry that it happened to you and that the response you got when seeking help merely victimised you all over again. You deserved none of it and I hope you have had a chance to try and heal from what was done to you ❤
Nice to see Gary Jubelin!
What a sad story that you have been through
Thank you for sharing and sending deepest emphathy for what you have been through ❤ You are very courageous. Thanks to Gary for graciously sharing this sad yet true story.
I have so much love and respect for this man ❤️🤲🏼 I hope he gets happy in live in the way he wants
My mum an Dad S.A. Me as a child of 5. It's broken me. Poor guy.
I’m so sorry💔
The most dangerous person in a minors/youngsters family is the step parent.
Infants, toddlers, children, teenagers are at possible risk. Facts!
Especially if the step parent is male.
Very true 😔
@@Mel-wn9gbpedophiles are not common in males but you would hope the mothers would be a good judge of character
I fully believe him! It happened to me many times even in church
It's wild that Harrison may never see his daughter again and that his abuser wasn't even charged. If I search Harrison James online I can find out what he looks like, the victim, but his abuser's identity is protected (as she was never charged) and she will be able to offend in her home country. No awareness of this story will stop her ability offend, sadly. And they never stop offending.
Powerful story, thank you for sharing Harrison. But it's so incredibly sad hearing what CSA victims go through, especially boys.
He wasn't laughing. He doesn't condone this behaviour at all.
I “ had an affair “ with my uncle when I was 14. I still have trouble calling it abuse because I consented. I loved him madly. I’m 65 now and we don’t have contact.
He manipulated you
A 14 year old has no ability to consent and is very easy to manipulate in to thinking they’re in a mutually loving relationship. Your uncle was a sick man and you are not to blame for being young and vulnerable to his manipulations.
I know this is a personal question that you of course don’t have to answer but how long did this abuse go on? Did he lose interest once you reached a certain age? Did he abuse other children to your knowledge?
@ it lasted about a year and no he wasn’t involved with any other teenagers as far as I know. He was found out and it ended. He avoided me after that.
@@pallexa thankyou for your reply. I imagine that must have been devastating for you at the time and I can’t imagine the complicated feelings you have about it now. Thanks for sharing ❤️
To read all these stories just breaks my heart. Im so sorry to all of you having to go through such atrocious situations. Ughh society is so messed up . I hope everyone can heal from your stories. ❤
they hold you with fear and control it is despicable and disgraceful, abuse causes trauma well into adulthood it also causes change of character due to the confusion and coercion, for males it must be harder to confide in anyone due to the masculinity image they have to upkeep society has to change on this dilemma, as our minds carry the same burdens regardless of gender roles wishing the best of healing for survivors of such abuse God bless us all with goodness and peace
O my gosh I am so sorry for you
The typical insidious manipulation indeed! It‘s so vile! Yes it‘s a long process, I can confirm that and the victim is not aware of what it all is about especially when no obvious violence is included. It’s totally confusing when you start to realize what it was and how huge the impact is on your life. How much more difficult it must be for a male victim… I‘m proud of you that you‘re speaking out, it‘s so important that society is becoming aware of female se*ual abusers of children. I think it‘s less rare than we all imagine, sadly!!
it is exactly that we victims have moments of joy 😓
Reminds me of the south Park episode when the cops say the only crime here is she isn't doing it to me
How demented, glad we never watched the program and exposed our child to such a sick take on that subject.
It seems inappropriate to give a like, how about a, "you've been heard".
Liking a video does not mean you like what happened, it means you like that this channel is speaking about this.. when you like a video, youtube pushes it out.
It’s sad that more men can’t open up about this - I know of two guys abused by female babysitters at 13 and one whose mother used to sleep with his teenage friends.
But the “how lucky you got lucky” attitude keeps them from speaking up because people joke about it.
It’s hard enough for males to speak about when it’s abuse people are more understanding of eg pries, teacher, father , uncle etc
But abuse by females is not taken seriously enough. It steals these young guys childhoods and can stunt their development immensely.
The opposite of what the people who joke about it think.
What this young man went through is horrific - but I have a genuine question that has left me very confused. Harrison shared that his dad didn’t have any idea the child was Hari’s, and despite a vasectomy, presumed he was the father. However, in another recent t podcast Hari said that his father knew about the abuse because he “caught them” one day. His response was to tell his son that it better not happen again.
If that’s the case, he would have had suspicions when his wife became pregnant.
I don’t understand why Hari wouldn’t bring up this very significant piece of info in this interview - and it doesn’t make sense with what he’s shared here.
People shut out what their brains can’t comprehend - like his dad catching his wife abusing his son. It’s like it never happened.
I was sexually abused a couple of times by my grandfather when I was 11, I told my dad & he spoke to my grandmother who in turn had words with my grandfather. My father has no memory of this, even though I remember everything and so does my sister who is a year younger than me. My dad doesn’t deny it ever happened, but he has no memory of it. He dealt with it and then it’s like his brain erased it from his mind.
The way the mind reacts to trauma is fascinating. This young man’s dad was also a victim in a sense.
@@AotearoaAngethank you for your response to this.
@@AotearoaAngeif he shut it out he couldnt have said it in interview, thats not how repression works.
@@AotearoaAngeits you who could have repressed memories not your father since you were the victim not him.
Not sure many teenage girls being abused would describe it as lucky, is that the difference?
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You brave man!
Talking about this…
May all predators continue to be exposed. Secrets save them from the shame, society sees in their spiteful souls.
Statistically, the abuse (if one will) hierarchy in terms of severity and prevalence goes:
1) men against women and girls
2) men against men and boys
3) women against women and girls
4) women against men and boys
Harrison unfortunately is in the fourth group of victims (men and boys whom have been abused as women) as well as the second group (as his father could have done everything to stop the abuse and failed to stop the abuse).
I assume you meant "men and boys who have been abused by women," not as women.
Which is RARE. It isn’t often when a women abuses and has a by product of the abuse. While #1. Is common and they often leave children.
Source
Statistics are only of people who have been reported. Many go unheard. So these above of course can't be held as solid facts.
Thank you so much for just considering my pain,I could have tried to stop this physically but I was brought up to never touch a female, again your thoughts mean alot
Wao
I've heard another story like this, only he was adopted and the mother had his baby, and she never had accountablity for this abuse 🤷♀️
Wow everyday, before and after school for 3 years! 😮
How awful.
What a brave brave young man.
Godspeed
I also stayed single so no one would get the chance to abuse my son....hes now 36 .