Your actions are the result of both your conscious & unconscious motivations, and you self-sabotage whenever they’re in conflict with each other✨ It’s not your fault, you’re not bad, but if you want to change you have to first realize why you act the way you do, and shadow work can be a great help with this! I hope you like this video, let me know your thoughts & if you have any questions!😊
so this is why people who had very critical suppressive of our true nature parents tend to grow up feeling unhappy and often chaotic or self punishing etc.. but people who had supportive parents tend to be happy and deal with life difficulties more easily as they are comfortable with doing what they feel ..(and also in life they don't understand why others struggle to be happy etc, because they were encouraged to feel what they feel but can't understand that others feel a deep need to suppress how they feel etc)???
Man, this is tough... I'm totally ready to change, and grow, and all that other stuff. I'm just having a hard time making sense of this shadow vs persona vs ego vs etc thing. On another note, I finally understand that I am, and why I am a people pleaser. All my life I've been discouraged from feeling anger, indignation, aggression, and as a result, I let people walk all over me because I feel that's the only way I'll be accepted by anyone - by not having or enforcing any boundaries. I'm afraid that if I speak up, that it will be met with backlash.
I don’t know how to describe it, but she feels real. Unlike these gurus who claim to know it all. She seems like a person who has struggled before and worked hard to overcome it. Like a real person, relatable, human. Like I relate as the watcher to what she’s explaining and relate to the story she’s sharing, eventho we have different struggles. She’s real, you can feel the passion in her voice and the way she explains it. Thank you Zoë, I really appreciate your efforts!❤
This is the second vid I've watched from you. I got a lot of unresolved anger issues that I postponed for a long time, and shadow work is one of the tools that I started to assist me in this journey. Thank you for your effort. 🙂
I have only watched half of this video and I actually had to pause it because I wanted to write a comment. I am so glad that already almost 2,500 people have watched. You so clearly explain things and in such a beneficial way, non-triggering way. I hope that so many more people see this video. I am already feeling the benefits from this message... and this is from someone that has done very large amount of shadow work already. I was on a walk with a friend yesterday and I said to her, "Sometimes you have to say it when you're pissed to know how you feel... otherwise, you're not gonna know how you feel." I could feel her energetic response. She is not someone at utilizes anger in that way, and I could feel how much she was holding her tongue because she was disagreeing with my statement. Though, she is someone that could really benefit from expressing anger in a healthy way because it is this thing that exists and you can't act like it doesn't exist.
Firstly, thank you so so much for writing out this comment, it really means a lot to me to hear this🤍 I’m happy to hear the message resonates and I’d be curious to hear about your own shadow work practices! Your friend is lucky to have someone like you to encourage her, I believe that relationships are the best tool for shadow integration as other people often see you more clearly than yourself, just as your example shows! I know I often fall into the trap of just “thinking” my feelings and then dismissing them instead of actually expressing them and it makes a big difference as you say🙂↕️ Thank you for the kind words and support, I really appreciate it!
Your voice is so sweet, very easy to listen to which is good because this is the first I've ever heard of this shadow concept and I found it very interesting
I’m happy to hear that and I appreciate the kind words☺️ Admittedly, my voice is a bit of an insecurity for me so this compliment means a lot, thank you!
As someone who is trying to understand authenticity using acceptance as way to uncover my self expression, I think this shadow work is a true next step for me. Thank you so much for this, I really needed to listen to it! I think I need to accept my shadows and uncover it so that is not unconscious anymore and I able to see and understand them and taking steps to change.
I'm really happy to hear that, thank you! Authenticity was a big part of my own shadow work when starting, it's something I really struggled with and living entirely as my persona, I really felt the consequences of it internally haha.. it was scary learning to express more of myself, and very uncomfortable, but I found embracing this and almost pulling these "parts of me", my shadow, into my identity helped develop them more, and then through a lot of practice and experience, it starts to feel natural.. I now feel so much more myself, and have less resistance inside, and so much of my life has changed to reflect this☺️ I'm wishing you all the best!! Shadow work can be uncomfortable, but it's worth it✨
wow so that explains why i feel deep shame after doing, or self sabotage myself and stop doing the development of, things that i want to do but was scolded for wanting or being in my childhood.. even though those things are NEEDED in my life (like wanting to earn money, being truly me) thankyou so much do you have any tips on healing the intense shame, and the self ssbotage? as i often stop myself from being truly me and doing the things i need to do to survive (and to be me) etc
I’m happy to hear it resonates haha☺️ My favorite thing about making these videos on TH-cam is realizing just how many people share the same struggles/experiences/dreams, and it makes me so happy to hear these things🤍
Thank you soooo much for this video, ur helping us understand the shadow better. Plz keep giving us more examples and videos on this subject. I my self am dealing with expressing my anger. So this resonates so much with me. This is why i thought i was weak as a man, now it makes sense. Love ur accent by the way. I am self conscious of my own accent so this makes me appreciate other individuals accents. Thank you very much, im grateful i discovered ur channel.
Thank you so much, hearing this means a lot to me!! I love talking about this stuff so it makes me happy to see there are others who feel the same☺️ And yes, this is something I’d want to stress in every video- suppressing your shadow doesn’t make you good, it only makes you weak. True morality comes from realizing your worst and disciplining it so you can use it in controlled & intentional ways! I’m really happy this resonates with you😊 The shadow holds our personal power, and by integrating it we can start to use it.. something I’m really trying to work on too! Haha thank you, I’m also very self-conscious of my voice so I appreciate the compliment! And I hope it can encourage you as well! Thank you so much for the support🤍
@@itszoewinter Man I really appreciate this kind of information. thank you once more. this is Lifesaving info❤🩹. so, never stop creating content! I cannot wait for your first book either, I also aspire to sharing my message to the world through a book. I even bought The Book You Were Born To Write by Kelly Notaras. I don't know if you have heard of it. I began to do the exercises but didn't continue😶🌫, my friend self-sabotage. i really appreciate your encouragement thanks. Can you also do more videos about your journaling process please.
Fantastic work! The ENTJ in me took a lot about his shadow. Wrote down a lot of notes I'm going to plan doing and improving my personality (especially writing down stuff I do I don't like and what it triggers to do these). Thank you for bringing me to thoughts like this🙏 (INFPs are so fantastically philosophical, I really like them for this). Keep up the good work! Great stuff!👏☺️
Thank you! It’s interesting when you start to think of all inferiorities in this way, what part of your personality is being suppressed? I find it makes everything much lighter☺️
Yes, that would be really interesting! It’s not an area I know much about, but as your shadow also contains pieces of yourself that have never surfaced or had the chance to properly develop, I imagine inner child work would help with going back and allowing these parts to be expressed ~ If you have any reading or channels you like on inner child work, please share them with me as I’d be very curious to learn about it!☺️🫶🏻
Appreciate the approachable explanation to these ideas, and the suggestions for actionable techniques. I've always found the concepts interesting, but too abstract to relate to and put into practice. Thanks
This a fantastic message you’re giving to a lot of people, like me, who really appreciate your kind words and can relate to your struggle. Always be kind to yourself, and thank you!
You understand if you bulldose you feeling if you are not in the mood to do something then you are the same as you parents and you create more resistance in the future to overcome because people don´t want to rest. So you need to more control in the outside world and that always backfires in the long run.
Tricky, you say. Reminds me of one of the archetypes. Can we expect some future content about daimons and archetypes. Maybe how they affect ego, persona, and shadow. Could be a knotty topic but I'd love to see how you pull on that thread.
Thanks for this ... not many people can take Jung's abstruse writings and lay them out cogently. I found useful Marie Louise Von Franz' book "Shadow and Evil in Fairy Tales." Having read her books I got most all of Jung's concepts explained clearly through the lens of fairy tales.. Finally, I think Jung divided the shadow? ... the golden shadow and the dark shadow ... the golden one being those hidden and underdeveloped positive talents and attitudes waiting to bloom and see the light of day.
I really like the idea of the gradient of emotions in excess, deficiency, and balance. I.e. Jealousy on the deficiency, inspiration in balanced, and lets say.. over achieving (from the place of insecurity, never enough, I have to go overboard to make up for what i think i lack at the core bc I myself am not enough) for excess. Would be great for a video on most common negative emotions and their grandient list with examples of how it shows in our life. Pride, Anger, Despondency, Anxious, Embarrassment, etc.
Yes! I love how you’ve put this and that would be really interesting to talk more about☺️ I also like how you’ve described it as a spectrum with deficient, balanced, and excess- I used to talk about this as two sides of a coin but the way you describe it fits so much better, may I use this in the video? Thank you!😊
This is very interesting, I have not heard of "the shadow" before, at least not in such a way. This is gonna be one very long list I have to make regarding discrepancies between the ideal self and the actual self :D. By the way, the ring light reflecting in your eyes looks like it's part of your eyes. Its placement might not be like that on purpose, but it's amazing :). Also, may I ask where your accent is from? I can't really place it :).
I know this is a psychology video and talking about self work. But as a person that likes to look into the deeper meaning of life, I will mention that these shadow parts of yourself may be triggered by people you know (friends, family, lovers, etc). It takes a certain amount of maturity to recoginize you are getting triggered. The deeper part is WHAT to do when you are triggered. And I think this video helps. The triggers are your warning sign that you had some unconscious things to work on. The feeling of the triggers suck and you may be tempted to bury them. But if you stick with it, it will get better. I'm nowhere close to "fixing" all my problems but awareness is step 1. Good luck to all!
This sounds just like my father’s advice! He says that when you’re young, you feel as though the whole world is looking at you and judging you, and then you get older and realize that nobody cares, that you’re free✨
Go to the person you envy, sincerely complement or congratulate them on the thing you are jealous about. Don't confess your envy, just be sincerely positive. It'll take that weight right off of you.
So if you make a statement about something that you never knew about and several people in the adult group immediately tell you that it had been a reality forever and you immediately feel like everyone just said you were stupid and ganged up on you. Do you call them out on that or do you supress the emotion and realize that you are ignorant?
This could be an opportunity to write new stories🤍 I can somewhat relate to this; a shadow work exercise that I find really helpful to get to know myself was recognizing who I am through own my projections.. here’s a prompt you can use: What do you criticize in others? -> this reveals where you know you can do better in yourself, what you need to change or let go in your own life What do you admire in others? -> this reveals your hidden/undeveloped talents and potentials, if you didn’t have it in you, it wouldn’t resonate so pursue it! I hope this might help! I wish you all the best in your own shadows work journey😊
You resolve this conflict & inner tension by integrating these suppressed parts of yourself! You can read about shadow assimilation from Jung, I also have a similar video on how to get started with shadow work on my channel☺️ But the idea is recognizing these “shadow” parts of yourself, and learning to express & control them- if you notice you’re holding your tongue and feeling resentment, practice speaking up. Or if you have a lot of guilt, shame, self-doubt, you want to lean right into this (ideally figuring out why) and “fix it” intentionally by practicing ways to forgive yourself, improve yourself, trust yourself etc.. this is something I’ve shared my step-by-step process for in the other video! But bit for bit, instead of trying to reach for a goal and unconsciously always holding yourself back, you want to focus on developing your own unconscious weak spots because these are the very things, if developed, will help you realize your unique potential✨ I hope this helps, please let me know if you have any questions or how I might explain things better! Thank you😊🫶🏻
not sure if this will get answered but here I go. at min 25.50 you said that someone might think they can fly and suffer because of that. How can I tell delusion from shadow?
I love this question, and I'm sure there are many ways to answer it, but I'll approach this through cognitive functions☺️ this is something I've mentioned in a few of my other videos (and am editing one specifically on this right now!) but Jung describes individuals having a set of 4 cognitive functions that make up their psychological type. You may recognize this as the thinking, feeling, judging, perceiving from mbti which was based on cognitive functions, but the idea is that each of us has a unique stack of 4 functions that contain both a judging (thinking/feeling) & perceiving (sensation/intuition) function with each an inward (introverted) & outward (extraverted) orientation... Most people only ever develop their first dominant function which is often your ego and identity, and the opposite of it (your 4th inferior function) reveals the nature of your shadow. Delusion comes from not being able to perceive all of reality when making decisions, eg if you only have conscious access to your first function, eg Ti introverted thinking, then your view of the world may become so narrow and one-sided that problems start to grow in its opposites because these will be your blindspots, in this example, in your extraverted and also perceiving functions.. or as you mentioned, for someone to believe they can fly, perhaps this could come from someone with underdeveloped thinking (logic) functions and perhaps overusing Fi (= what I feel & believe) or Ne (=anything is possible)? Just a guess🤷🏻♀️ But ideally, the goal of individuation (i.e. integrating your shadow) and all self-development is realizing all 4 of your functions, this way you won't suffer from delusion or self-sabotage which comes when the development of your functions is too one-sided... also if you only develop your first function, the other 3 will remain unconscious and act as a backdoor to your shadow I hope this makes sense and sry for the long reply!
I dont get why one should go run in rain and possibly injure yourself by slipping. Being intelligent is being adaptable, wich sometimes means changing ones plans such as having a home work out.
Better than what I imagined. I thought this would be another beautiful girl using tender sound and beutiful face to get more subscription, but there is actually content there, I think it is worth if you buy an ipad or make a better presention video using graphics etc. you'll get there, step by step
Hot take but.. self help stuff is totally unnecessary for a young girl. You just have to try to look cute, not eat like a pig and smile a lot. easy win !
@@stifton1 more like emotionally charged children but as long as they keep up their physical condition the mind will allign. There is no need for fixing their psychie
Your actions are the result of both your conscious & unconscious motivations, and you self-sabotage whenever they’re in conflict with each other✨
It’s not your fault, you’re not bad, but if you want to change you have to first realize why you act the way you do, and shadow work can be a great help with this!
I hope you like this video, let me know your thoughts & if you have any questions!😊
so this is why people who had very critical suppressive of our true nature parents tend to grow up feeling unhappy and often chaotic or self punishing etc.. but people who had supportive parents tend to be happy and deal with life difficulties more easily as they are comfortable with doing what they feel ..(and also in life they don't understand why others struggle to be happy etc, because they were encouraged to feel what they feel but can't understand that others feel a deep need to suppress how they feel etc)???
You broke shadow work down to an elementary level, and I dont know of anyone who has done so. Thank you!!!
I love to hear this, thank you!!☺️🤍
Man, this is tough... I'm totally ready to change, and grow, and all that other stuff. I'm just having a hard time making sense of this shadow vs persona vs ego vs etc thing.
On another note, I finally understand that I am, and why I am a people pleaser. All my life I've been discouraged from feeling anger, indignation, aggression, and as a result, I let people walk all over me because I feel that's the only way I'll be accepted by anyone - by not having or enforcing any boundaries. I'm afraid that if I speak up, that it will be met with backlash.
I don’t know how to describe it, but she feels real. Unlike these gurus who claim to know it all.
She seems like a person who has struggled before and worked hard to overcome it.
Like a real person, relatable, human. Like I relate as the watcher to what she’s explaining and relate to the story she’s sharing, eventho we have different struggles. She’s real, you can feel the passion in her voice and the way she explains it.
Thank you Zoë, I really appreciate your efforts!❤
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This is the second vid I've watched from you. I got a lot of unresolved anger issues that I postponed for a long time, and shadow work is one of the tools that I started to assist me in this journey. Thank you for your effort. 🙂
Thank you so much, that means a lot😊
I have only watched half of this video and I actually had to pause it because I wanted to write a comment. I am so glad that already almost 2,500 people have watched. You so clearly explain things and in such a beneficial way, non-triggering way. I hope that so many more people see this video. I am already feeling the benefits from this message... and this is from someone that has done very large amount of shadow work already. I was on a walk with a friend yesterday and I said to her, "Sometimes you have to say it when you're pissed to know how you feel... otherwise, you're not gonna know how you feel." I could feel her energetic response. She is not someone at utilizes anger in that way, and I could feel how much she was holding her tongue because she was disagreeing with my statement. Though, she is someone that could really benefit from expressing anger in a healthy way because it is this thing that exists and you can't act like it doesn't exist.
Firstly, thank you so so much for writing out this comment, it really means a lot to me to hear this🤍 I’m happy to hear the message resonates and I’d be curious to hear about your own shadow work practices!
Your friend is lucky to have someone like you to encourage her, I believe that relationships are the best tool for shadow integration as other people often see you more clearly than yourself, just as your example shows! I know I often fall into the trap of just “thinking” my feelings and then dismissing them instead of actually expressing them and it makes a big difference as you say🙂↕️
Thank you for the kind words and support, I really appreciate it!
Your voice is so sweet, very easy to listen to which is good because this is the first I've ever heard of this shadow concept and I found it very interesting
I’m happy to hear that and I appreciate the kind words☺️ Admittedly, my voice is a bit of an insecurity for me so this compliment means a lot, thank you!
As someone who is trying to understand authenticity using acceptance as way to uncover my self expression, I think this shadow work is a true next step for me. Thank you so much for this, I really needed to listen to it! I think I need to accept my shadows and uncover it so that is not unconscious anymore and I able to see and understand them and taking steps to change.
I'm really happy to hear that, thank you! Authenticity was a big part of my own shadow work when starting, it's something I really struggled with and living entirely as my persona, I really felt the consequences of it internally haha.. it was scary learning to express more of myself, and very uncomfortable, but I found embracing this and almost pulling these "parts of me", my shadow, into my identity helped develop them more, and then through a lot of practice and experience, it starts to feel natural.. I now feel so much more myself, and have less resistance inside, and so much of my life has changed to reflect this☺️ I'm wishing you all the best!! Shadow work can be uncomfortable, but it's worth it✨
That's great, these ideas are incredibly powerful
I am a psychotherapist and i can confirm this knowledge is pretty authentic and i found the way of explaining very interesting too! Thanks
Thank you, this means a lot to hear from an expert in the field! I really appreciate it☺️
wow so that explains why i feel deep shame after doing, or self sabotage myself and stop doing the development of, things that i want to do but was scolded for wanting or being in my childhood.. even though those things are NEEDED in my life (like wanting to earn money, being truly me)
thankyou so much
do you have any tips on healing the intense shame, and the self ssbotage? as i often stop myself from being truly me and doing the things i need to do to survive (and to be me) etc
Confidence is a mindset.
In order to develop it, you must learn to trust yourself.
First 29 seconds it's basically me talking to myself through a TH-cam video 😅 so relatable...
Thanks a lot for this new gem 💎
I’m happy to hear it resonates haha☺️ My favorite thing about making these videos on TH-cam is realizing just how many people share the same struggles/experiences/dreams, and it makes me so happy to hear these things🤍
Thank you soooo much for this video, ur helping us understand the shadow better.
Plz keep giving us more examples and videos on this subject.
I my self am dealing with expressing my anger. So this resonates so much with me. This is why i thought i was weak as a man, now it makes sense.
Love ur accent by the way.
I am self conscious of my own accent so this makes me appreciate other individuals accents.
Thank you very much, im grateful i discovered ur channel.
Thank you so much, hearing this means a lot to me!! I love talking about this stuff so it makes me happy to see there are others who feel the same☺️
And yes, this is something I’d want to stress in every video- suppressing your shadow doesn’t make you good, it only makes you weak. True morality comes from realizing your worst and disciplining it so you can use it in controlled & intentional ways! I’m really happy this resonates with you😊 The shadow holds our personal power, and by integrating it we can start to use it.. something I’m really trying to work on too!
Haha thank you, I’m also very self-conscious of my voice so I appreciate the compliment! And I hope it can encourage you as well!
Thank you so much for the support🤍
@@itszoewinter Man I really appreciate this kind of information. thank you once more. this is Lifesaving info❤🩹. so, never stop creating content! I cannot wait for your first book either, I also aspire to sharing my message to the world through a book. I even bought The Book You Were Born To Write by Kelly Notaras. I don't know if you have heard of it. I began to do the exercises but didn't continue😶🌫, my friend self-sabotage. i really appreciate your encouragement thanks.
Can you also do more videos about your journaling process please.
Omg! You are an angel! And those beautiful eyes!
Thank you☺️
I learned quite a lot. Very well done, young lady.
Thank you☺️
great video! blessings!
Thanks Zac, I appreciate it!😊✨
Tysm Baba 🙇♀️ ❤🙏 for this gold guidance. Bless , heal all ❤🎉
Such a good message 🖤👏
I’m glad it resonates, thank you!!🤍
Wonderful video. Thank you for the clear and concise explanation. You are truly gifted ✨
thank you 😊 now I understand more
I’m happy to hear it! Thank you for the support☺️✨
Thank you so much dear. This is bery helpful. Definitely a answer from Source ❤🙏 Bless u beautiful soul 🙌
Thank you for such kind words! It means a lot to me☺️🤍
Fantastic work! The ENTJ in me took a lot about his shadow. Wrote down a lot of notes I'm going to plan doing and improving my personality (especially writing down stuff I do I don't like and what it triggers to do these). Thank you for bringing me to thoughts like this🙏 (INFPs are so fantastically philosophical, I really like them for this).
Keep up the good work! Great stuff!👏☺️
"cover stories" i like it. So true.
Haha I’m glad it resonates!☺️
I've never heard about the suppression of anger and its effects on the rest of one's life. It really resonated with me. Nice video!
Thank you! It’s interesting when you start to think of all inferiorities in this way, what part of your personality is being suppressed? I find it makes everything much lighter☺️
A lot of wisdom here 🙌 I'm curious about how inner child work fits in? I've seen it mentioned with shadow work.
Yes, that would be really interesting!
It’s not an area I know much about, but as your shadow also contains pieces of yourself that have never surfaced or had the chance to properly develop, I imagine inner child work would help with going back and allowing these parts to be expressed ~
If you have any reading or channels you like on inner child work, please share them with me as I’d be very curious to learn about it!☺️🫶🏻
@@itszoewinterif you aren’t familiar with Heidi Priebe on TH-cam, I would recommend her channel highly. She is a psychologist and very enlightening. 🙂
Appreciate the approachable explanation to these ideas, and the suggestions for actionable techniques. I've always found the concepts interesting, but too abstract to relate to and put into practice. Thanks
I like this type of psychology and magical wizard video!
This a fantastic message you’re giving to a lot of people, like me, who really appreciate your kind words and can relate to your struggle. Always be kind to yourself, and thank you!
Thank you so much! It makes me very happy to hear this and that my videos might resonate with you☺️ I appreciate the kind words and support 🤍
Thanks so much beautiful! Working on my shadow! ❤
Thank you, I’m really happy to hear it☺️💗
thank you for explaining! you're really pretty btw 🥰
That’s so kind, thank you☺️🫶🏻
ur the greatest thank you
Thank you🫶🏻
You understand if you bulldose you feeling if you are not in the mood to do something then you are the same as you parents and you create more resistance in the future to overcome because people don´t want to rest. So you need to more control in the outside world and that always backfires in the long run.
very informative and calming video, amazing to listen to
Thank you, I’m very happy to hear it☺️✨
Thank you Zoe, for the profound message you have gone all the way to share with us. Godspeed
Thank you for the kind words! I’m really happy to hear it resonates 💗
Thank you very much for the lecture because of your cues
Thank you for this amazing video. It explains the shadow clearly. Keep posting!
Thank you so much☺️✨
So brilliant thankyou
Thank you for the kind words!☺️
Good work. Eloquent, and you get the feeling you live and use these techniques for insight and living better.
Thank you, I appreciate the kind words!☺️
Thank u this is a really good introduction and I hope to get more into this. =D You are a breeze of fresh air in this world!
Thank you, that’s so kind! I wish you the best & will also be making more videos like this as it’s what I most love talking about😊🫶🏻
Tricky, you say. Reminds me of one of the archetypes. Can we expect some future content about daimons and archetypes. Maybe how they affect ego, persona, and shadow. Could be a knotty topic but I'd love to see how you pull on that thread.
Really interesting stuff, I love your vibes. Wish you the best!
Thanks for this ... not many people can take Jung's abstruse writings and lay them out cogently. I found useful Marie Louise Von Franz' book "Shadow and Evil in Fairy Tales." Having read her books I got most all of Jung's concepts explained clearly through the lens of fairy tales.. Finally, I think Jung divided the shadow? ... the golden shadow and the dark shadow ... the golden one being those hidden and underdeveloped positive talents and attitudes waiting to bloom and see the light of day.
Thank you for the knowledge
Thank you, I hope you may find value in it!😊
@@itszoewinter Yes, absolutely
Thank you so much for This great method
I’m happy to hear you find value in it! Thank you for the support 😊
beauty and brains. beautiful soul
I really like the idea of the gradient of emotions in excess, deficiency, and balance. I.e. Jealousy on the deficiency, inspiration in balanced, and lets say.. over achieving (from the place of insecurity, never enough, I have to go overboard to make up for what i think i lack at the core bc I myself am not enough) for excess.
Would be great for a video on most common negative emotions and their grandient list with examples of how it shows in our life. Pride, Anger, Despondency, Anxious, Embarrassment, etc.
Yes! I love how you’ve put this and that would be really interesting to talk more about☺️
I also like how you’ve described it as a spectrum with deficient, balanced, and excess- I used to talk about this as two sides of a coin but the way you describe it fits so much better, may I use this in the video? Thank you!😊
@@itszoewinter Yes please do use it!
Thankyou ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤!!!
Thank you for the support!☺️🫶🏻
This is very interesting, I have not heard of "the shadow" before, at least not in such a way. This is gonna be one very long list I have to make regarding discrepancies between the ideal self and the actual self :D.
By the way, the ring light reflecting in your eyes looks like it's part of your eyes. Its placement might not be like that on purpose, but it's amazing :).
Also, may I ask where your accent is from? I can't really place it :).
Hi. You're pretty, your voice is cute, and your eyes are nice. Have a good day.
Well, did you go for your run 🏃🏼♀️? I like the way you explain these concepts, very clear and helpful
I did! At least that time haha😄 Thank you for the kind words, I appreciate it!
I know this is a psychology video and talking about self work. But as a person that likes to look into the deeper meaning of life, I will mention that these shadow parts of yourself may be triggered by people you know (friends, family, lovers, etc). It takes a certain amount of maturity to recoginize you are getting triggered. The deeper part is WHAT to do when you are triggered. And I think this video helps. The triggers are your warning sign that you had some unconscious things to work on. The feeling of the triggers suck and you may be tempted to bury them. But if you stick with it, it will get better. I'm nowhere close to "fixing" all my problems but awareness is step 1. Good luck to all!
Great vid
Thank you!☺️
You are super cool!
Thank you, that’s super kind😊
I wonder if this is why some people drink, to shush some inner voices coming from their shadows.
Falling in love with you girl ❤❤❤
Haha thank you! I hope you may find value in it☺️🫶🏻
Sounds like me at a earlier age The cure for it Age Once you get older you don't worry as much anymore
This sounds just like my father’s advice!
He says that when you’re young, you feel as though the whole world is looking at you and judging you, and then you get older and realize that nobody cares, that you’re free✨
Can you speak about envy and how to overcome it
Go to the person you envy, sincerely complement or congratulate them on the thing you are jealous about. Don't confess your envy, just be sincerely positive. It'll take that weight right off of you.
What about fear? What good could possibly come out of it?
Once trained it can give you the urgency to move mountains
So if you make a statement about something that you never knew about and several people in the adult group immediately tell you that it had been a reality forever and you immediately feel like everyone just said you were stupid and ganged up on you. Do you call them out on that or do you supress the emotion and realize that you are ignorant?
I've lost my persona and i don't know who i am. Hoping to find some answers in the shadow.
This could be an opportunity to write new stories🤍
I can somewhat relate to this; a shadow work exercise that I find really helpful to get to know myself was recognizing who I am through own my projections.. here’s a prompt you can use:
What do you criticize in others?
-> this reveals where you know you can do better in yourself, what you need to change or let go in your own life
What do you admire in others?
-> this reveals your hidden/undeveloped talents and potentials, if you didn’t have it in you, it wouldn’t resonate so pursue it!
I hope this might help! I wish you all the best in your own shadows work journey😊
You are so coherent. Did you practice that? Did you study Psychology? Cute video 😊.
Thank you, that’s the greatest compliment! I love to write as I learn new things, and some of that I’ll turn into videos😊
How do you resolve the conflict?
You resolve this conflict & inner tension by integrating these suppressed parts of yourself! You can read about shadow assimilation from Jung, I also have a similar video on how to get started with shadow work on my channel☺️
But the idea is recognizing these “shadow” parts of yourself, and learning to express & control them- if you notice you’re holding your tongue and feeling resentment, practice speaking up. Or if you have a lot of guilt, shame, self-doubt, you want to lean right into this (ideally figuring out why) and “fix it” intentionally by practicing ways to forgive yourself, improve yourself, trust yourself etc.. this is something I’ve shared my step-by-step process for in the other video!
But bit for bit, instead of trying to reach for a goal and unconsciously always holding yourself back, you want to focus on developing your own unconscious weak spots because these are the very things, if developed, will help you realize your unique potential✨
I hope this helps, please let me know if you have any questions or how I might explain things better! Thank you😊🫶🏻
@@itszoewinter thanks!
not sure if this will get answered but here I go. at min 25.50 you said that someone might think they can fly and suffer because of that. How can I tell delusion from shadow?
I love this question, and I'm sure there are many ways to answer it, but I'll approach this through cognitive functions☺️
this is something I've mentioned in a few of my other videos (and am editing one specifically on this right now!) but Jung describes individuals having a set of 4 cognitive functions that make up their psychological type. You may recognize this as the thinking, feeling, judging, perceiving from mbti which was based on cognitive functions, but the idea is that each of us has a unique stack of 4 functions that contain both a judging (thinking/feeling) & perceiving (sensation/intuition) function with each an inward (introverted) & outward (extraverted) orientation...
Most people only ever develop their first dominant function which is often your ego and identity, and the opposite of it (your 4th inferior function) reveals the nature of your shadow. Delusion comes from not being able to perceive all of reality when making decisions, eg if you only have conscious access to your first function, eg Ti introverted thinking, then your view of the world may become so narrow and one-sided that problems start to grow in its opposites because these will be your blindspots, in this example, in your extraverted and also perceiving functions.. or as you mentioned, for someone to believe they can fly, perhaps this could come from someone with underdeveloped thinking (logic) functions and perhaps overusing Fi (= what I feel & believe) or Ne (=anything is possible)? Just a guess🤷🏻♀️
But ideally, the goal of individuation (i.e. integrating your shadow) and all self-development is realizing all 4 of your functions, this way you won't suffer from delusion or self-sabotage which comes when the development of your functions is too one-sided... also if you only develop your first function, the other 3 will remain unconscious and act as a backdoor to your shadow
I hope this makes sense and sry for the long reply!
@@itszoewinter ☺ It makes some sense. thank you-
I dont get why one should go run in rain and possibly injure yourself by slipping. Being intelligent is being adaptable, wich sometimes means changing ones plans such as having a home work out.
Very true!🤍
well damned I am!
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can u be my therapist i feel like i can tell u anything
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What do you mean? :)
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Better than what I imagined. I thought this would be another beautiful girl using tender sound and beutiful face to get more subscription, but there is actually content there,
I think it is worth if you buy an ipad or make a better presention video using graphics etc. you'll get there, step by step
Haha, thank you! I also appreciate the feedback, technology isn’t my strong suit but I’ll find a better way to present this for next time😊
Hot take but..
self help stuff is totally unnecessary for a young girl. You just have to try to look cute, not eat like a pig and smile a lot.
easy win !
This comment is beyond brain dead lol
@@F.udemin you are 🧠 dead
It's almost like young girls are human beings that go through emotions like everybody else does
@@stifton1 more like emotionally charged children but as long as they keep up their physical condition the mind will allign. There is no need for fixing their psychie
stop dragging your voice woman