“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.” - Carl Jung I hope you like this video, it's a bit longer than usual but I wanted to give a good overview of shadow work & how to do it ~ Let me know if you have any questions or feedback, I'd really appreciate it! 😊
Hi Zoe, you explained it very clearly and articulately. Thank you so much. I am starting to do my shadow work. Thanks so much for sharing. Sending you light and love.❤❤
It's the exact opposite of your personality type so it's definitely easy to do. #1. Learn your personality type #2. Find out what your opposite type. #3. Watch 50 to 60 hours of TH-cam videos on the behaviors and Traits of the opposite type. Now that is lessons learned in pure Positivity so it's definitely a great learning experience. INFJ-T to ENFP-T. it's definitely not going to be a negative life experience again.
No thanks I don't need the retardedness that American Women's Shit Circus of American Dating. Ostracized, Invisible and Abandoned for 25 years therefore I will not allow anyone else in my life again because I have nothing to offer anyone so I don't have any Needs or Wants that anyone else can satisfy. What do other Men have that I don't. Social skills and wealthy families. It's a great thing that I have spent 33 out of 44 years old or 77% of my life experience so far lived in Isolation Solitude and Celibate. And that's exactly how I will patiently wait for my final moment alive. Finally I will be able to return home where I belong. Magus Gatekeeper of the 5th gate. I don't think being a Genetic Primary Psychopath INFJ-T is the best possible outcome for law of attraction. Because I have Zero Patience for people who have Zero understanding of Do onto others is and why it is extremely important. Otherwise not guilty by way of Temporary Insanity with a great mess for others to clean up. Therefore I will not allow anyone else in my life again yet you can do whatever you wish and be constrained by your executive functions while I have 6 learned behaviors to supplement my decision making ability. You survive a 98.56 mortality rate from a Frontal lobe collapse get Ostracized from Society in the 3 rd grade tormented and tortured since day one from birth by an older brother. a mom that emotionally abandoned me and a dad I referred to as the big dumb drunk animal. From 4 to 19 every other week getting beat even if I was sleeping because I had to rewire my brain. The first time I heard him yell life or death I was 11 so I have more than a few issues that I acknowledge and I don't care what anyone else has to say. If I'm left alone in isolation living in Solitude and Celibate then everyone else is going to fine so it's definitely ok to believe anything you wish that I would be capable of and the common issues that are fixed within minutes for others. I would love to hear the solution to create something that has never existed before such as future consequences, appropriate punishment for the damage received, along with the other 24 executive functions and how to implement them to automation when they are triggered. Otherwise you enjoy your Journey and I will exist until my final moment alive then be forgotten as soon as possible. I have never belonged here in life yet here I exist. Love doesn't exist external for me so I will not attempt to find it or allow anyone else in my life to destroy me. I'm sick of the retarded Cumdumpsters, whores, and Prostitutes who pretend that they are good girls or I got the wrong idea she is not that type of gal. I insta replied keep telling yourself that and maybe one day you will believe it. What the fuck did you do last night to earn money. When I tried to give her a gift for buying products from me at $250 daily for 5 months. So what the fuck is wrong with women that even prostitutes pretend that they are good woman with High Character Values Morals Standards and Principles? Fuck that stupid shit. I have learned that I have nothing to offer anyone so I will not allow anyone else in my life again because I have a nice collection of hammers and I don't give a shit what happens or who watches me make an amazing mess out of shitty ass people who are not pillars of the community...
"Unless you learn to face your own shadows, you will continue to see them in others, because the world outside of you is only a reflection of the world inside of you" - Carl Jung
Yes, this is true. I think basic high school education should include basic psychology so that people have no excuse for not knowing this important truth. I notice that many people in society are completely oblivious to this truth and (wrongly) place blame for their own shadow upon others.
These types of videos are rare. You explain it exceptionally, and give good examples. You make sure to give tasks, and explain the rationale behind it all. It’s not just your own experience, but based on credible people.
this is so weird, i felt so angry and scared watching this, it even made me tear up by the idea that i am not ready to accept myself, i avoid my emotions sooo much that even bringing the idea of observing my reactions or emotions made me mad. Right now in my head i hear just no you cant do it. When you said to aks myself why 100 times. THAT PART. My thoughts were how dare you, what do you think i am going to find out?what do you see and i dont? it made me very scared, but not because YOU see something, because i am not ready to accept the answer, something in me that is fundamentally unacceptable. But i am glad i felt this, this actually shows me i need to work on my shadow even if its uncomfortable. For a bit of context in my childhood i was deeply criticized, mostly for negative emotions like sadness, anger, fear.
When I was younger the most repeated thing I heard from adults about your future was the ability to set goals and foresee them. I am now realizing at 26 as I get closer to a goal I set back 4 to 6 years ago just how true and important that is. Goals can seem challenging, and depending on how difficult, just downright impossible. Sure know your limits but humans in nature are problem solvers and task doers. If a goal you truly want seems impossible, divide it. Make smaller more realistically achievable goals with the structure that eventually you will reach the main goal. If you are wise, which you are, and your will is strong, which it is, there is nothing you can not do (realistically). Never underestimate the power of setting goals.
Yes doing anything towards a goal is great, and little steps are required. Just remember that if you make time for things you like to do or know more about it the goals will set themselves. Too often we just don't pursue the things we always wanted to do, because we think we have to earn the freedom to pursue them. Make the pursuit of them how you attain them. Stick to what you know, and learn as many things as you can as often as you can even if its just so you don't have to wait on someone else to do something.
The shadow is something that we are imbued with at birth. It only grows from there, to whatever degree we are traumatized in life. Its origins is the unresolved traumas within our parents before they had us, passed down energetically to us. They got it from their parents, and their parents before them and so on and so forth. I've heard people say you can go back as far as 14 generations, however I do not actually know how accurate that number is. Our shadow is comprised of a lot of generational trauma and wounding that has gone unresolved through our lineages...and some of us are lucky or unlucky enough (depending on how you look at it) to wake up to this (sometimes very rudely) and begin the arduous task of doing the inner work that all of our forefathers and foremothers did not do. When you have a child before you've healed all of your inner wounding and traumas... That energy will invariably be passed to your children, which means they're gonna have to deal with it. Both father and mother and then the two of them combine their energies to create us. If neither one of them ever did the work before they created children, It gets passed onto their offspring. That is how it works. Somebody could have an amazing childhood and still have a very dark shadow because of generational trauma energetically passed down. When you add our lived and experienced traumas that get suppressed to the mix, the Shadow gets even darker and borders evil.
This is incredibly interesting & insightful, I really appreciate you taking the time to share all this! While I’ve heard of generational trauma, I know nothing about it and would love to learn more~ I’m curious, if you can’t refer to your lived experiences, how do you go about generational shadow work? Is this still a part of the personal unconscious?
@@itszoewinter Shadow work is shadow work. Your shadow is your shadow even though a lot of what comprises your shadow.Isn't your own baggage per se. I don't know that there's actually a distinction made for what you referred to as generational shadow work... I think it's all just shadow work. I'm wise in some of these things but i'm not necessarily what anyone would call an expert, so you might want to do a bit of your own research on that to flesh it out yourself...that way you'll know, and it won't just be some theory.
@@itszoewinter hereditary traits reveal themselves through your life experiences. Some can be recessive, and have nothing to do with anyone still alive. Sometimes you will experience projection from a parent, or someone older in a family, by them saying things like "you are just like your grandma", and it is someone you have never met. Then you know what to target, and why. Most of which may not even be true. It's all part of the program.
I kind of wonder if this is why I've had a difficult life.... both my parents grew up in troubled times... my dad in the war, he grew up in famine riddled Ukraine in the 30s, ended up in the war.. my mum in 40s Poland... my grandfather's both 1st World wars. My dad had me very late in life, so I'm 50, most of my friends parents hadn't had such a direct connection. Both had their faults and my socialisation was pretty weak, but gave me love and never treated me unfairly. But my life absolutely collapsed a few times inspite of this. I beleive even though they tried to give me the best upbringing they could, I picked up their war trauma. Maybe people less sensitive wouldn't have, who knows... interesting you should mention this, as I've often wondered.
I'm just starting out with shadow work on myself, have watched several YT 'how to' videos but found yours the most concise and well explained. Thank you so much for this. I believe this is going to help me a great deal.
A huge thank you for helping us novices to shadow integration with such an informative and pleasant video. I have some massively repressed parts of me to work on (anger, assertiveness: classic), and the process of allowing that door to be open without prejudice has been made so much easier and less scary by people like you who share the resources you have. Bless you 🙏
Dear Zoë Winters, Your ability to explain complex ideas is truly exceptional; your presentations are clear and easy to understand. I am very grateful for your videos. Honestly, I didn’t have high expectations at first, but within minutes, I was completely drawn in. Jung is a psychologist I deeply admire, and his work holds a significant place in my heart. I’ve spent a lot of time studying his theories, and your video does an excellent job of succinctly explaining the core concepts. The journal prompts you included at the end offer a great way to practically apply and reflect on these ideas. I’ve already saved them and plan to use them regularly to further explore and integrate my shadow. Thank you once again for your wonderful work!
Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m really happy to hear that this resonates with you and you've found the journal prompts helpful for your own shadow work😊 Best of luck on your journey with Jung’s work!
Zoe you will be a great author if you aren’t already. As a man recently broken, on the path to self esteem and genuine self love. I have to say this was groundbreaking for me. Thank you
10:26 damn. Thats so eye opening. I get angry for being not understood. For being triggered. For being insulted etc. These things cause a reaction out of me wich stems from the fact that it had an effect on me. Devolping my anger could look like self love, walking away from the situation, journaling to heal MYSELF bc it stirred a trigger in me, so now i can work on that trigger.
Yes!! I’m so happy to hear this! Anger I’ve come to look at as one the most valuable & protective emotions- it serves only you and your values and will show up to protect what’s important to you even when others try to make you feel like it’s not.. but just like you said, it often shows up alongside with other (important!) things and really becomes beneficial once developed because then it’s like a friend looking out for you, you can always trust it🤍
@@itszoewinter yes! Im so happy to have come across this realisation. Emotions in generall are just here to lead us and to protect us especially the "bad" ones. Its like they are the abandoned children who are so angry and bitter at the world. Loving them and accepting them, shines light and the desired attention on them. Emotions and feelings are so intressting. They affect so much. Our beliefs,our life, etc. Is dependent on them. They make or break a person.
@@animeluv2008 they often are the abandoned child pissed that you cut off the good parts along with the bad. its like crying out to have you look at it and sort it out and put it back on a path, but until then its like, fine i'm gonna be the only me I know how to be, crooked and a mix of all my greatest strengths, overshadowed by all my greatest weaknesses. Its just wierd to understand how evil is what we allow, not what we're capable of.
I've read and heard time and time again different in depth analysis of 'what is shadow work'..but this time around finding someone like you, someone of our generation, being so informative and reassuring as a guide, is truly a breath of fresh air
I cried a bit once you broke down how shadow work is done. The examples you gave made so much sense because I’ve heard and said those things to myself so many times. I have studied Jungian psychology and spiritual methods for years but how you articulated it makes so much sense that it helped me make a breakthrough on an aspect of my shadow I haven’t been able to articulate until now. Thank you so much for making this video. You’ve helped me integrate this knowledge more thoroughly. To all the people who know this stuff by book knowledge, please give this a go. Once you get beyond theory, that’s when the breakthroughs really come in. If you’ve known this for a long time but it’s only now it’s clicked for you, know that it’s not your fault. You finally have the knowledge, the openness, and the wisdom for it to click in the first place ❤
Thanks for sharing. I could feel your energy beaming across my living room as your hammered each point regarding shadow work, ego, persona and the entire self. I loved the aggression part (positive aggression) even though you touched on it lightly. I've been taken advantage a lot as I couldn't speak up for myself. As my third eye opened and I started shadow work, I got really transformed and as I go through the journey, I'm gradually integrating my shadows, some negative and some positive to achieve my full potential.
"You are going to fail even when you are giving it your best, because your best isn't one set level, it's something that you grow and you develop, and that's ok, that's natural".
As someone who has just started her shadow work journey I wanted to say thank you for making this video. I found the video to be an easily digestible formula for change and your ability to firstly explain the shadow, ego and persona, then to provide information on how the parts of ourselves that are hidden, once slowly integrated, can have a positive affect on our lives; motivational. I also found the stages and examples of how to work with the shadow parts of ourselves with compassion; particularly inspiring to do the work. I have subscribed to your channel because I wouldn’t want to miss such amazing work which will help me have the life that I visualise for myself in the not too distant future. 👍👏👏👏👏🙏❤️.
I did it btw I successfully got a lot of my shadow stuff recognized I think integration is a lifetime process though. because the moment you start shadow work you realize how much you’ve been relying on your non shadow worked brain for building your relationships and it is not easy to mend those without burning bridges. It is important to integrate properly but at the same time I have truly realized one thing is that my happiness depends on myself and no one else. This is true regardless of the world around me. I think human beings are very special animals in that we can truly generate our own happiness albeit in a limited way.
Thank you, I appreciate it☺️ Good point, I find projection such an interesting topic! It would definitely help with recognizing your shadow, I’ll keep this in mind for my next video✨
@@itszoewinter I’m not sure if you have done this already but adding the collective layer would be a great add on - the anima and animus with the archetypal influences. 🤷🏻♀️
@@theravenmagickexactly, when I saw her drawing to describe self, shadow, ego and persona, I was thinking how the anima and Animus fits into this model! (I have no expertise in psychology, just curious to read, watch and listen here and there to learn something)
@@HootanHM so the Anima and Animus are two collective archetypes that’s SOLE purpose is to bridge the unconscious and conscious. The Anima was originally thought to be the inner woman of a man and Animus the inner man of a woman. His model has been further developed since then. The Anima/Animus are unique to the individual and contain the archetypal patterning of how one views the genders. They also have psychological stages of development. I mean this is a deep dive, I’m also not a psychologist. I am certified in numerous disciplines of shadow work and I’m more of an occultist and ritual witch. You’ll be able to find info on them easily but @thediamondnet has the best vid on them
took notes on this and you led me to find much interest in Jung. started reading man & his symbols today, so I can practice dream work work more, as I dream frequently, and its such a great ready and Im just starting, bless you for real
i appreciate this video popping up on my feed. you did a great job in explaining these not commonly known /understood parts of our subconscious self. thank you. i understand this video may be primarily about the 'self' but i've always believed that this conversation (with one's self) cannot be wholly comprehended and/or well developed without taking external forces (beyond our 'self') into account. it is one reason religion is such a popular phenomenon among us humans. we are not in this world alone, and others affect how we grow up and how we develop our 'self' throughout our lifespan, before we became enlightened to this level of thinking.
Thank you for your kind words and sharing your insightful perspective! It's fascinating how external influences shape our Selves, and your mention of religion highlights the complexity of this relationship. I'm curious, to what extent can others affect the Self and can these external influences help us towards our unique potential? I'm aware that Jung was an essentialist, but don't know much about his views on this-- although when reading about our Inner Law it reminded me very much of God and religion!
@@itszoewinter Hi! i'm happy to hear that you understand my perspective here. the pervasiveness of external influences can sometimes be fascinating at best and annoying at worst. the presence of religion is unavoidable, it's our best answer yet to our universal questions about life on earth. in my own personal experiences, and from observation of others (whether on the www or in the real world), or actively listening with interest to the experiences shared by others, i find that the "extent" of helpfulness from external influences is subjective to the individual. what is more significant is how much it contributes to further development of the better self of that individual. that development should be identifiable if not visible. i appreciate the study of the philosophers, and those who follow them. to me, even when they dont mention "god" the influence of whatever mysterious universal creator from whose 'behest' we are all gathered here, is evident in their academic thought process and search to understand our inner selves first. i hope you're feeling well today despite whatever is happening in and around your environment. thank you for enlightening others and i hope the radiant love of our universal creator continues to shine from within you and that you can continue to share it with the rest of us in the world (wide web:) be well.
Very insightful video, I had heard/read of shadow work before but never more than surface level. I really liked how you first set up the concepts and then translated them into actionable steps. You also have a very soothing voice, which helped ease in all the information.
Thank you for this video! After taking a vacation after so much high intensity work, I’ve felt so completely overwhelmed and I think it’s due to how much I’ve repressed my shadow. Going on this journey is absolutely necessary for where I am
This reminds me of moments of sudden self-knowledge. Where you go to that deep place inside you you didn't know was there and suddenly you are changed. This is a good breakdown of the topic -- I hope to learn more about discovering and integrating the shadow, and refusing to hate anything that is human.
What I'm learning through doing a lot of various creative work (one of my favorites is doing strange voices) is that there are a lot of positive traits hidden behind the darker parts of ourselves. So what may come up out of the pipes first is going to be the more dark characters, and then beneath that are the more vulnerable and soft characters that live inside of us that we guard very closely.
Oh I love this! I know Jung wrote a lot about active imagination as a channel for unconscious elements.. The strange voices is such a great idea, and something I might just try out haha😄 I've recently started a journal to draw without intention, one page every day, and it's been quite interesting to see what comes up (both the drawings & the emotions with it!) Also, I'd be curious to know, when doing the voices do you notice any archetypal figures show up in them?
@@itszoewinter Definitely, so far I've found my self doing this sage archetype that talks in a very manly stoic type of voice, then there is the very deranged dark almost demonic type of character. For fun I was talking to a friend of mine in that voice at Walmart, and a lady was about to come around the corner and she immediately went back in the direction she came from, it made me laugh. Behind those two I've found this new voice, it is this Latin ultimate romantic archetype, very fun to see what comes out his mouth. There are many more than this too, if you want to see some of my characters I've been making youtube videos, acting them out. I'm also reading my active imagination stories on there too.
I’ve decided to start journaling today and am using your process. When challenging things that I wrote I kept writing ‘Why?’ A next to every response. That was a powerful process for me. I only stopped when I finally wrote something that made me stop on my tracks. I don’t understand the implications but realise that I have to allow things to happen and not be in a rush to fix things or solve things. Thank you for the effort to share.
I’m happy to hear it! I also find it such a helpful way of journaling to dig underneath all of those thoughts/insecurities, and oftentimes it will take days or weeks for me to get to the next “why” realization and continue on that trail, but as you said, once it hits you, you know you’ve found your starting point🤍
The most lighting video about shadow work. Reasons, results and solutions in a one video. İf you are beginner at shadow work, this video is definitely for you. Thank you so much for your effort Zoe! You are my new digital angel now. 💞
I love tarot and shadow work. And I would give you 50 tarot decks just to have coffee or tea with you and just talk to you. You are a beautiful person.
I'm glad I found your channel, everything is laid out with clarity. I had been thinking recently about how vilified 'negative' traits become and it doesn't make sense because they likely drove all the people we idolise and gave us things we didn't know we needed. Without them I think we'd lose nearly all of the people who contributed the most to various fields. For myself, it has been hard to acknowledge a confusing mixture of beliefs. This nagging feeling that there is something possibly exceptional about me (I shudder even saying it), flanked by the knowledge that I am average and in many ways deficient. So most of my adult life I have been suppressing this strange and unearned confidence, because narcissism is verboten. I went the opposite way in adulthood, shy, fearful, paranoid which was basically a personality transplant. It feels like the complicated relationship between rationality and mysticism / spirituality. I remember the comfort that came with believing in some form of being above us in a hierarchy, before we walked by a series of reasonable steps into a sterile space of materialism. It's a strange back and forth but like this shadow stuff, I'm getting the sense that a lot has been left on the table.
Wow. Just happened to come across this video... thank you. Much appreciated. I actually managed to follow through the entirety of this 20min+ video. which means you are excellent in what you do! I never lose focus or get lost in some other thought at all! Usually 20min. Is almost too long to follow anyone and keep focused cause they tend to get boring along the way or end up complicating simple info. And when I realize that they are not consistently making sense they then become back ground noise and when i snap back into reality- I GET REALLY ANNOYED AND NEVER AGAIN DO I CLICK ON THAT CHANNEL! They just prove that they too lack complete understanding and knowledge in what they are trying to teach here... lol that is just insane to me. I cannot give my attention to foolish, unprofessional teachings ! Quality is obviously most imp. And you nailed it 💯! Well done. Will be looking out for your content ...its great stuff. Once again- thank you.
I saw this in passing and had to stop to say bless you for actually explaining not only what that term means but what to do. You hear so often with people saying others should do shadow work and thinking that means something to the average person. If you don't tell them what to actually do, how can you expect them to do it at all? So thank you for actually explaining what you mean and how to approach the task, and not just giving hollow advice to people.
Thank you for this! I totally agree-just saying “do shadow work” isn’t very helpful without explaining the how... Shadow work can be so powerful, but only if we know where to start✨
One of the best videos I’ve ever watched! My therapist briefly mentioned this at the end of a session, so I decided to watch a video. You explained things so well, and every time I thought I need an example you gave an absolute banger that resonated with me. Well done, and thank you!
I know all ins and outs of everything you explained here, yet I listened to you with great attention and pleasure. Seldom have I heard this topic being explained with such clarity and compassion. Nice reminder. Keep up the good works.
Thank you for posting this video in a way that's easy to understand! I've reached a stage of acceptance by letting my shadow consume me but being aware of it :) I am starting to integrate it and it's people like you who have helped keep my chin up during my phase of inner work! You're doing God's work! Keep doing you!
Right. Small victories. But first you have to figure out where the battles even are. Thank you. I think one of the problems is, we tend to look at the mountain. Our friends and relatives are like " why aren't you on this mountain? Jeez, you're not even climbing" but we don't see the road that leads up it. So we look away.
Genuinely thank you for sharing, this has been a big game changer for today, it feels like exactly what I need to hear, thank you. This is the first video Ive seen of yours and I’m subscribing!
So in a way, Shadow work is a way to dissolve trauma? Inside every trauma that left us with an emotional trigger/scar, is a part of self that is being repressed so that we are protected from this ever happening again? Trauma can be as little as someone telling us off for being fearful/angry/sensitive when we are children. Or as big as failing your degree and thinking you cannot ever take any responsibility for anything as you will inevitably fail. Both end up with us locking a part of ourselves away and steering away from scenarios that require that part of us to surface.
Its realizing how Tyler Durden is just your shadow self taking over in a way that you don't realize he is taking over. You think its you. You think you are thinking those thoughts, You think thats air you're breathing? Its the shadow self making sure it has a place in this world, but it is trapped inside like the hulk in puny banner. So if you don't organize its thinking with the true dominant side of your self, it starts to become the dominant side. Using anger as a weapon, not a call to action. Using that weapon against you trying to get you to fight back. Knowing that you will be purifying yourself in that process unless the shadow isn't overpowered and submitted through strength of reason and force. Its why if you solve parts of the puzzle the war rages on. You have to drop that final piece in and suddenly the other guy knows you can always see him in the reflection, and that his way of making sense of things was mired by bad teaching, bad faith, and bad information, and that everything you were afraid of was something that would've been almost impossible for someone to tell you.
It was a video rich in information. You clarified the parts about 'Shadow Work' that didn't make sense to me before. It was very helpful for me. You're doing a great job, keep it up. :)
Love this!!! It really helps me tie everything together my personal thoughts about these intricatetopics! Personally, genuineness, emotional availability, etc!!!
I’m really glad to hear that😊 I’d say one of the biggest benefits learning about shadow work has had for me is simply having the words/understanding for what’s going on within myself ~ Have you practiced shadow work before? Or been familiar with the topics I talk about in the video?
@@itszoewinter I feel like we’re all intrinsically aware of shadow work to a certain extent however I’ve never head it explicitly explained like it is in this video! I was sort of already practicing shadow work without consciously doing so, but now I have a better understanding of my own intentions!!!
The outlet for anger being not doing something is such a course for burnout. I didn't understand the shadow was taking over my every waking moment. I just thought I was actually starting to buy into that negative world view. Instead of making myself happy and breaking the spell I became a person who would have a reason to embody that dark mindset even beyond what was put upon me, I decided to take all the troubles of everyone and wrestle with them. I got aggressive at other people attacking the good side of me because they knew the other guy was just letting me out of my cage. I wanted to be loved and accepted and correct course, but it seemed like everyone didn't care and had forgotten I was the person who wanted to do better not the awful face I was showing to the world because I thought it was a mirror it needed to see.
I just subscribed. I’m 70 years old and have been doing shadow work. Journaling. Dianetics. EFT Tapping. Identics. And it works. While doing any work concentrate on your emotions. Cry, stomp your feet. I write in my journal, what unwanted emotion comes up and all times in my life the trauma happened. So if the first trauma happened at 5 years old. I’d pay attention to all of the traumas but I’d pay more attention to the first 5 year old trauma
Thank you! I am grateful to have found this video today. ☺ I am quite new to the concept of shadow work, and I really appreciate that you took the time to both explain what shadow work is, and provide a solid starting point for us to try.
My shadow is plagued with things I developed during a very traumatic time period from my childhood and adolescence. The moment you said “you have to go back” I immediately started tearing up, and realized how afraid I am to even go back and dig these things up. I know I need to do this to work on them, but damn, just hearing that made me feel scared. I was basically in survival mode for many years, and didn’t fully realize how much so until recently. I’m in my 30’s now.
I kept going down rabbit holes my entire life before I realized everyone is struggling with this and a lot of them think they figured it out and just kept living. Those of us who take longer should take some solace in knowing we worked the hardest on wanting to understand before we tried to pretend we did. Knowing that is half the battle. The rest is learning how to be on the opposite side of your shadow with everything it taught you and still not panic or think like the person who didn't know anything. Both have to be accessible while neither should be jockeying for control until needed. Life is so reactionary if we don't fall into the trap of keeping track of too many things instead of focusing on the reality.
Thank you for this video. I knew shadow work prior to this video, and now I understand it deeper. The way you explained it resonated with me. Keel up the good work!
It's not the first time I've found a video about Jung's shadow. I'm not particularly draw to Jung's theories but this time I've felt this method is something that I can strongly relate to, specially considering how journaling is the most efficient thing I've ever known to help me sort my thoughts and feelings out. Thank you very much for the best explanation on the subject I've ever seen. I'll try it out when I have the guts to do so.
This was exceptional. I know this are not your ideas , but you explained it beautifully clear and very convincing. This video was more important for me than you could realize, it had the effect like a flash that gave my an idea of my whole self for the first time after a whole year of therapy. I supressed so much because with my parents Love was very conditional. They never loved me for what I was but for their own idea what I should be and I internalized that much more than I realized.
I'm wishing you the best🤍 A similar situation had led me down the Jung rabbit hole, as everything we experience in life is through the lens of the self, all change has to start there and shadow work has helped me tremendously with this. Remember to take it slow & treat yourself gently like a child-- acceptance, love, forgiveness.
Thank you so much for such a genuine sharing. I love how you structure and breaking down to specific steps, and most importantly I love the honesty and your courage to face your true thoughts and to share them with us, which is so inspiring, empowering and hopefully will be really helpful to me and a lot of others. Thank you!
Another great starting point for shadow work is dreams. I dreamed about a rowdy teenage boy who was playing loud music and putting dirty shoes on my couch. In the dream, I called the police. My therapist said, That’s a Shadow figure. Let’s get to know him. He was a source of rich material and great insight.
thank you . i like people becoming more and more aware on these issues.. When i noticed i lived my life being totally unaware of my shadows and even under the complete influence of misbeliefs and judgements about myself, it was a unique moment. i was also glad to break the cycle of generational trauma in my family, that alone helped me get rid of lots of shadow- dictated behaviors at once..wish the same for every human being
Absolutely fantastic explanation & such a powerful lesson. Thank you I wish someone explained this to me 25 years ago like this…perhaps they did, but I didn’t “hear” it Regardless thank you for this - looking forward to checking out your other videos & will definitely be listening to this once several more times to make sure I get as much of the knowledge/wisdom/brilliance from your great explanation
Very important video and well explained! The only thing I wish was explained more is Why asking Why over and over can be dangerous, Why it should be taken step by step and Why control should always be the priority Uncovering the depths of your Shadow is uncomfortable for a reason, and if the Shadow becomes too big to handle everything can shatter altogether, reality collapses and it becomes very hard to put back the pieces where they belong
Thank you for your thoughtful feedback! You’re absolutely right-asking “why” too much, too quickly can be overwhelming in bringing up contents of the unconscious, which is why it’s important to go carefully and step by step, like you mentioned. I’ll definitely keep this in mind for future videos to explain it more thoroughly😊
@@itszoewinter Hey, by re-reading what I wrote, I think it sounds a bit too harsh. While what I wrote is right as I had personal experience about it happening, I think I could have used a better tone to put it out, so I'm glad it was helpful for future videos, but excuse me for my words!
Honestly a great video with a clear explanation, examples, and methods to overcome things that hold us back! I never really knew what the shadow self meant before and assumed it was something about some dark "evil" parts to us. Thanks for making this!
this video helps me tremendously. You dissect every part of it , so its understand becomes very natural. I have to say is one of the best representations on how to manage situations that may not be helpful . I really want to thank you for your work and efforts!
Hi Zoë. Just wanted to let you know that your video on shadow work really resonated with me. It completely makes sense, and I will use your suggestions. Thank you.
Very well explained.. thankyou so much.. i think though that the shadow stuff is not things that are necessarily "bad" like "laziness" etc.. because what to others might seem "bad" (in "laziness" for example) might actually be a deep true need in US.. it is things we have been MADE TO FEEL ARE BAD by others in our lives as we develop, but those things are actually things that are truly part of our true nature but we get made to feel guilty or ashamed of those aspects of us, so we suppress them in our ways of being.. but to heal this we are best to let those aspects of us BE in us and not suppress themz we are best to just be truly usz so we can live our lives truly as us, even if others try to shame us or scold us (but that is really difficult to do, due to the need to feel loved and accepted in society etc) .. am i beginning to figure out the true needs/difficulties? (the capital letters were for emphasis not shouting by the way! :) ..i hope life will be Really good for you
bro,you are the first person that explained this matter and i was able to understand everything,the fact that you aways gives an example makes it SO MUCH easier to understand,thank you so much!
Hey hey girl That was so informative and simple to understand, thats the art of sharing your knowledge to a other right there , NICE WORK ZOEEEEEE 👏 U GOT YOURSELF A NEW SUB ❤
Incredible video, I took notes while listening and really absorbed what you were teaching thank you for helping us all see our true beautiful selves :))
“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.” - Carl Jung
I hope you like this video, it's a bit longer than usual but I wanted to give a good overview of shadow work & how to do it ~
Let me know if you have any questions or feedback, I'd really appreciate it! 😊
Hi Zoe, you explained it very clearly and articulately. Thank you so much. I am starting to do my shadow work. Thanks so much for sharing. Sending you light and love.❤❤
It's the exact opposite of your personality type so it's definitely easy to do.
#1. Learn your personality type
#2. Find out what your opposite type.
#3. Watch 50 to 60 hours of TH-cam videos on the behaviors and Traits of the opposite type. Now that is lessons learned in pure Positivity so it's definitely a great learning experience. INFJ-T to ENFP-T. it's definitely not going to be a negative life experience again.
No thanks I don't need the retardedness that American Women's Shit Circus of American Dating. Ostracized, Invisible and Abandoned for 25 years therefore I will not allow anyone else in my life again because I have nothing to offer anyone so I don't have any Needs or Wants that anyone else can satisfy. What do other Men have that I don't. Social skills and wealthy families. It's a great thing that I have spent 33 out of 44 years old or 77% of my life experience so far lived in Isolation Solitude and Celibate. And that's exactly how I will patiently wait for my final moment alive. Finally I will be able to return home where I belong. Magus Gatekeeper of the 5th gate. I don't think being a Genetic Primary Psychopath INFJ-T is the best possible outcome for law of attraction. Because I have Zero Patience for people who have Zero understanding of Do onto others is and why it is extremely important. Otherwise not guilty by way of Temporary Insanity with a great mess for others to clean up. Therefore I will not allow anyone else in my life again yet you can do whatever you wish and be constrained by your executive functions while I have 6 learned behaviors to supplement my decision making ability. You survive a 98.56 mortality rate from a Frontal lobe collapse get Ostracized from Society in the 3 rd grade tormented and tortured since day one from birth by an older brother. a mom that emotionally abandoned me and a dad I referred to as the big dumb drunk animal. From 4 to 19 every other week getting beat even if I was sleeping because I had to rewire my brain. The first time I heard him yell life or death I was 11 so I have more than a few issues that I acknowledge and I don't care what anyone else has to say. If I'm left alone in isolation living in Solitude and Celibate then everyone else is going to fine so it's definitely ok to believe anything you wish that I would be capable of and the common issues that are fixed within minutes for others. I would love to hear the solution to create something that has never existed before such as future consequences, appropriate punishment for the damage received, along with the other 24 executive functions and how to implement them to automation when they are triggered. Otherwise you enjoy your Journey and I will exist until my final moment alive then be forgotten as soon as possible. I have never belonged here in life yet here I exist. Love doesn't exist external for me so I will not attempt to find it or allow anyone else in my life to destroy me. I'm sick of the retarded Cumdumpsters, whores, and Prostitutes who pretend that they are good girls or I got the wrong idea she is not that type of gal. I insta replied keep telling yourself that and maybe one day you will believe it. What the fuck did you do last night to earn money. When I tried to give her a gift for buying products from me at $250 daily for 5 months. So what the fuck is wrong with women that even prostitutes pretend that they are good woman with High Character Values Morals Standards and Principles? Fuck that stupid shit. I have learned that I have nothing to offer anyone so I will not allow anyone else in my life again because I have a nice collection of hammers and I don't give a shit what happens or who watches me make an amazing mess out of shitty ass people who are not pillars of the community...
The concept that you explained is from the book of "The psychology of unconscious"?
Your videos have been really helpful to me. Please make more!
"Unless you learn to face your own shadows, you will continue to see them in others, because the world outside of you is only a reflection of the world inside of you" - Carl Jung
Yes, this is true. I think basic high school education should include basic psychology so that people have no excuse for not knowing this important truth. I notice that many people in society are completely oblivious to this truth and (wrongly) place blame for their own shadow upon others.
As above so below
I got this on my recommended front page! You are doing something right, good job!
I’m so happy to hear that! Thank you, I appreciate the support☺️✨
So did I today, listened while walking my dog😊
These types of videos are rare. You explain it exceptionally, and give good examples. You make sure to give tasks, and explain the rationale behind it all. It’s not just your own experience, but based on credible people.
Thank you, I appreciate it!☺
If a flower was a human being 🌼
This is so sweet, thank you☺️🌼
My thought exactly.
if a flower WERE a human being, - use the conditional, not the preterite
Exactly. So true. Such a beautiful compliment. She's truly beautiful
@@AlejandroMS67 Still, a thought so beautifully expressed!
this is so weird, i felt so angry and scared watching this, it even made me tear up by the idea that i am not ready to accept myself, i avoid my emotions sooo much that even bringing the idea of observing my reactions or emotions made me mad. Right now in my head i hear just no you cant do it. When you said to aks myself why 100 times. THAT PART. My thoughts were how dare you, what do you think i am going to find out?what do you see and i dont? it made me very scared, but not because YOU see something, because i am not ready to accept the answer, something in me that is fundamentally unacceptable. But i am glad i felt this, this actually shows me i need to work on my shadow even if its uncomfortable. For a bit of context in my childhood i was deeply criticized, mostly for negative emotions like sadness, anger, fear.
Shadow isn't the place for all things bad. We not only repress what is deemed bad, but also our qualities.
The only time I actually understood everything about shadow work. Nicely explained.
Thank you so much for posting this. ❤
Your calm delivery and feminine nature help this message flow right into my shadow
I’m happy to hear that! Thank you for your kind words☺️✨
When I was younger the most repeated thing I heard from adults about your future was the ability to set goals and foresee them. I am now realizing at 26 as I get closer to a goal I set back 4 to 6 years ago just how true and important that is. Goals can seem challenging, and depending on how difficult, just downright impossible. Sure know your limits but humans in nature are problem solvers and task doers. If a goal you truly want seems impossible, divide it. Make smaller more realistically achievable goals with the structure that eventually you will reach the main goal. If you are wise, which you are, and your will is strong, which it is, there is nothing you can not do (realistically). Never underestimate the power of setting goals.
Yes doing anything towards a goal is great, and little steps are required. Just remember that if you make time for things you like to do or know more about it the goals will set themselves. Too often we just don't pursue the things we always wanted to do, because we think we have to earn the freedom to pursue them. Make the pursuit of them how you attain them. Stick to what you know, and learn as many things as you can as often as you can even if its just so you don't have to wait on someone else to do something.
Well written.
The shadow is something that we are imbued with at birth. It only grows from there, to whatever degree we are traumatized in life. Its origins is the unresolved traumas within our parents before they had us, passed down energetically to us. They got it from their parents, and their parents before them and so on and so forth. I've heard people say you can go back as far as 14 generations, however I do not actually know how accurate that number is. Our shadow is comprised of a lot of generational trauma and wounding that has gone unresolved through our lineages...and some of us are lucky or unlucky enough (depending on how you look at it) to wake up to this (sometimes very rudely) and begin the arduous task of doing the inner work that all of our forefathers and foremothers did not do. When you have a child before you've healed all of your inner wounding and traumas... That energy will invariably be passed to your children, which means they're gonna have to deal with it. Both father and mother and then the two of them combine their energies to create us. If neither one of them ever did the work before they created children, It gets passed onto their offspring. That is how it works. Somebody could have an amazing childhood and still have a very dark shadow because of generational trauma energetically passed down. When you add our lived and experienced traumas that get suppressed to the mix, the Shadow gets even darker and borders evil.
This is incredibly interesting & insightful, I really appreciate you taking the time to share all this! While I’ve heard of generational trauma, I know nothing about it and would love to learn more~
I’m curious, if you can’t refer to your lived experiences, how do you go about generational shadow work? Is this still a part of the personal unconscious?
@@itszoewinter Shadow work is shadow work. Your shadow is your shadow even though a lot of what comprises your shadow.Isn't your own baggage per se. I don't know that there's actually a distinction made for what you referred to as generational shadow work... I think it's all just shadow work. I'm wise in some of these things but i'm not necessarily what anyone would call an expert, so you might want to do a bit of your own research on that to flesh it out yourself...that way you'll know, and it won't just be some theory.
@@itszoewinter hereditary traits reveal themselves through your life experiences. Some can be recessive, and have nothing to do with anyone still alive. Sometimes you will experience projection from a parent, or someone older in a family, by them saying things like "you are just like your grandma", and it is someone you have never met. Then you know what to target, and why. Most of which may not even be true. It's all part of the program.
This is why I probably won’t get children. Me and my sister are both seriously inflicted and I still haven’t found a way to deal with it normally.
I kind of wonder if this is why I've had a difficult life.... both my parents grew up in troubled times... my dad in the war, he grew up in famine riddled Ukraine in the 30s, ended up in the war.. my mum in 40s Poland... my grandfather's both 1st World wars. My dad had me very late in life, so I'm 50, most of my friends parents hadn't had such a direct connection. Both had their faults and my socialisation was pretty weak, but gave me love and never treated me unfairly. But my life absolutely collapsed a few times inspite of this. I beleive even though they tried to give me the best upbringing they could, I picked up their war trauma. Maybe people less sensitive wouldn't have, who knows... interesting you should mention this, as I've often wondered.
that was well explained and easy to understand + made sense, nice video :)
Thank you, I’m really happy to hear that☺️✨
You're like a real life Aerith Gainsborough.
I feel healed watching this video.
Tysm for this video
Haha I had to look this up but thank you, I take it as a compliment☺️✨
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I'm just starting out with shadow work on myself, have watched several YT 'how to' videos but found yours the most concise and well explained.
Thank you so much for this. I believe this is going to help me a great deal.
I’m glad you’ve found this helpful! And thank you for the kind words, I really appreciate it☺️✨
What’s the name of the mini microphone?
Really great presentation. What areZoës’ credentials? She’s new to me.
This is honestly some of the best self help advice I've ever heard. You are so good at simplifying such a complex subject
A huge thank you for helping us novices to shadow integration with such an informative and pleasant video.
I have some massively repressed parts of me to work on (anger, assertiveness: classic), and the process of allowing that door to be open without prejudice has been made so much easier and less scary by people like you who share the resources you have.
Bless you 🙏
After 6 months I came back to this video.. thank you so much for this, God bless you
Dear Zoë Winters,
Your ability to explain complex ideas is truly exceptional; your presentations are clear and easy to understand. I am very grateful for your videos. Honestly, I didn’t have high expectations at first, but within minutes, I was completely drawn in. Jung is a psychologist I deeply admire, and his work holds a significant place in my heart. I’ve spent a lot of time studying his theories, and your video does an excellent job of succinctly explaining the core concepts. The journal prompts you included at the end offer a great way to practically apply and reflect on these ideas. I’ve already saved them and plan to use them regularly to further explore and integrate my shadow.
Thank you once again for your wonderful work!
Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m really happy to hear that this resonates with you and you've found the journal prompts helpful for your own shadow work😊 Best of luck on your journey with Jung’s work!
"You're not good, you're just weak" That hit hard 😞
Zoe you will be a great author if you aren’t already. As a man recently broken, on the path to self esteem and genuine self love. I have to say this was groundbreaking for me. Thank you
10:26 damn. Thats so eye opening. I get angry for being not understood. For being triggered. For being insulted etc. These things cause a reaction out of me wich stems from the fact that it had an effect on me. Devolping my anger could look like self love, walking away from the situation, journaling to heal MYSELF bc it stirred a trigger in me, so now i can work on that trigger.
Yes!! I’m so happy to hear this! Anger I’ve come to look at as one the most valuable & protective emotions- it serves only you and your values and will show up to protect what’s important to you even when others try to make you feel like it’s not.. but just like you said, it often shows up alongside with other (important!) things and really becomes beneficial once developed because then it’s like a friend looking out for you, you can always trust it🤍
@@itszoewinter yes! Im so happy to have come across this realisation. Emotions in generall are just here to lead us and to protect us especially the "bad" ones. Its like they are the abandoned children who are so angry and bitter at the world. Loving them and accepting them, shines light and the desired attention on them. Emotions and feelings are so intressting. They affect so much. Our beliefs,our life, etc. Is dependent on them. They make or break a person.
@@animeluv2008 they often are the abandoned child pissed that you cut off the good parts along with the bad. its like crying out to have you look at it and sort it out and put it back on a path, but until then its like, fine i'm gonna be the only me I know how to be, crooked and a mix of all my greatest strengths, overshadowed by all my greatest weaknesses. Its just wierd to understand how evil is what we allow, not what we're capable of.
@@nak3dxsnake could you elaborate more?
I've read and heard time and time again different in depth analysis of 'what is shadow work'..but this time around finding someone like you, someone of our generation, being so informative and reassuring as a guide, is truly a breath of fresh air
Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate it☺️✨
music is my primary tool for exploring my psyche and emotional regulation
Me too! U have great taste yo, new Magdalena Bay is sooooo great I lauv it
I cried a bit once you broke down how shadow work is done. The examples you gave made so much sense because I’ve heard and said those things to myself so many times. I have studied Jungian psychology and spiritual methods for years but how you articulated it makes so much sense that it helped me make a breakthrough on an aspect of my shadow I haven’t been able to articulate until now. Thank you so much for making this video. You’ve helped me integrate this knowledge more thoroughly.
To all the people who know this stuff by book knowledge, please give this a go. Once you get beyond theory, that’s when the breakthroughs really come in. If you’ve known this for a long time but it’s only now it’s clicked for you, know that it’s not your fault. You finally have the knowledge, the openness, and the wisdom for it to click in the first place ❤
Thanks for sharing. I could feel your energy beaming across my living room as your hammered each point regarding shadow work, ego, persona and the entire self. I loved the aggression part (positive aggression) even though you touched on it lightly.
I've been taken advantage a lot as I couldn't speak up for myself. As my third eye opened and I started shadow work, I got really transformed and as I go through the journey, I'm gradually integrating my shadows, some negative and some positive to achieve my full potential.
How you're opened your third eye?
@@ЮсупДибиров-и1я I opened during meditation.
@@sa-te-ro9fs thank you
This was the most simple and clear video that I have seen on shadow work. Thank you for the explanation. I just subscribed.
"You are going to fail even when you are giving it your best, because your best isn't one set level, it's something that you grow and you develop, and that's ok, that's natural".
As someone who has just started her shadow work journey I wanted to say thank you for making this video. I found the video to be an easily digestible formula for change and your ability to firstly explain the shadow, ego and persona, then to provide information on how the parts of ourselves that are hidden, once slowly integrated, can have a positive affect on our lives; motivational. I also found the stages and examples of how to work with the shadow parts of ourselves with compassion; particularly inspiring to do the work. I have subscribed to your channel because I wouldn’t want to miss such amazing work which will help me have the life that I visualise for myself in the not too distant future. 👍👏👏👏👏🙏❤️.
Thank you for the kind words, it really means a lot😊💗
This is a phenomenal explanation of the parts that make up the Self. You are a talented, clear and relatable host.
You're very kind, thank you! I really appreciate it and hope you've found some value in it😊✨
I did it btw I successfully got a lot of my shadow stuff recognized I think integration is a lifetime process though. because the moment you start shadow work you realize how much you’ve been relying on your non shadow worked brain for building your relationships and it is not easy to mend those without burning bridges. It is important to integrate properly but at the same time I have truly realized one thing is that my happiness depends on myself and no one else. This is true regardless of the world around me. I think human beings are very special animals in that we can truly generate our own happiness albeit in a limited way.
Thank you very much! I understood a lot about myself after journaling using your questions!
I’m glad, I find journaling so helpful for self-reflection! Thank you for the kind words☺️
Great video and channel! Projection is one of the key ways we can identify our shadows or other people's shadows.
Thank you, I appreciate it☺️
Good point, I find projection such an interesting topic! It would definitely help with recognizing your shadow, I’ll keep this in mind for my next video✨
It's you, it's always been you. Offer it unconditional compassion, not judgement and recrimination.
As a shadow specialist this is a very well articulated video for an overview.
Thank you, that means a lot to hear😊
@@itszoewinter I’m not sure if you have done this already but adding the collective layer would be a great add on - the anima and animus with the archetypal influences. 🤷🏻♀️
@@theravenmagickexactly, when I saw her drawing to describe self, shadow, ego and persona, I was thinking how the anima and Animus fits into this model!
(I have no expertise in psychology, just curious to read, watch and listen here and there to learn something)
@@HootanHM so the Anima and Animus are two collective archetypes that’s SOLE purpose is to bridge the unconscious and conscious. The Anima was originally thought to be the inner woman of a man and Animus the inner man of a woman. His model has been further developed since then. The Anima/Animus are unique to the individual and contain the archetypal patterning of how one views the genders. They also have psychological stages of development. I mean this is a deep dive, I’m also not a psychologist. I am certified in numerous disciplines of shadow work and I’m more of an occultist and ritual witch. You’ll be able to find info on them easily but @thediamondnet has the best vid on them
hi, any books you can recommend to a beginner? thanks.
took notes on this and you led me to find much interest in Jung. started reading man & his symbols today, so I can practice dream work work more, as I dream frequently, and its such a great ready and Im just starting, bless you for real
i appreciate this video popping up on my feed. you did a great job in explaining these not commonly known /understood parts of our subconscious self. thank you. i understand this video may be primarily about the 'self' but i've always believed that this conversation (with one's self) cannot be wholly comprehended and/or well developed without taking external forces (beyond our 'self') into account. it is one reason religion is such a popular phenomenon among us humans. we are not in this world alone, and others affect how we grow up and how we develop our 'self' throughout our lifespan, before we became enlightened to this level of thinking.
Thank you for your kind words and sharing your insightful perspective! It's fascinating how external influences shape our Selves, and your mention of religion highlights the complexity of this relationship.
I'm curious, to what extent can others affect the Self and can these external influences help us towards our unique potential? I'm aware that Jung was an essentialist, but don't know much about his views on this-- although when reading about our Inner Law it reminded me very much of God and religion!
@@itszoewinter Hi! i'm happy to hear that you understand my perspective here. the pervasiveness of external influences can sometimes be fascinating at best and annoying at worst.
the presence of religion is unavoidable, it's our best answer yet to our universal questions about life on earth.
in my own personal experiences, and from observation of others (whether on the www or in the real world), or actively listening with interest to the experiences shared by others, i find that the "extent" of helpfulness from external influences is subjective to the individual.
what is more significant is how much it contributes to further development of the better self of that individual. that development should be identifiable if not visible.
i appreciate the study of the philosophers, and those who follow them. to me, even when they dont mention "god" the influence of whatever mysterious universal creator from whose 'behest' we are all gathered here, is evident in their academic thought process and search to understand our inner selves first.
i hope you're feeling well today despite whatever is happening in and around your environment.
thank you for enlightening others and i hope the radiant love of our universal creator continues to shine from within you and that you can continue to share it with the rest of us in the world (wide web:) be well.
Very insightful video, I had heard/read of shadow work before but never more than surface level. I really liked how you first set up the concepts and then translated them into actionable steps. You also have a very soothing voice, which helped ease in all the information.
Thank you, I'm really happy to hear that☺️
Thank you for this video! After taking a vacation after so much high intensity work, I’ve felt so completely overwhelmed and I think it’s due to how much I’ve repressed my shadow. Going on this journey is absolutely necessary for where I am
This reminds me of moments of sudden self-knowledge. Where you go to that deep place inside you you didn't know was there and suddenly you are changed. This is a good breakdown of the topic -- I hope to learn more about discovering and integrating the shadow, and refusing to hate anything that is human.
What I'm learning through doing a lot of various creative work (one of my favorites is doing strange voices) is that there are a lot of positive traits hidden behind the darker parts of ourselves. So what may come up out of the pipes first is going to be the more dark characters, and then beneath that are the more vulnerable and soft characters that live inside of us that we guard very closely.
Oh I love this! I know Jung wrote a lot about active imagination as a channel for unconscious elements.. The strange voices is such a great idea, and something I might just try out haha😄 I've recently started a journal to draw without intention, one page every day, and it's been quite interesting to see what comes up (both the drawings & the emotions with it!) Also, I'd be curious to know, when doing the voices do you notice any archetypal figures show up in them?
@@itszoewinter Definitely, so far I've found my self doing this sage archetype that talks in a very manly stoic type of voice, then there is the very deranged dark almost demonic type of character. For fun I was talking to a friend of mine in that voice at Walmart, and a lady was about to come around the corner and she immediately went back in the direction she came from, it made me laugh. Behind those two I've found this new voice, it is this Latin ultimate romantic archetype, very fun to see what comes out his mouth. There are many more than this too, if you want to see some of my characters I've been making youtube videos, acting them out. I'm also reading my active imagination stories on there too.
I’ve decided to start journaling today and am using your process. When challenging things that I wrote I kept writing ‘Why?’ A next to every response. That was a powerful process for me. I only stopped when I finally wrote something that made me stop on my tracks. I don’t understand the implications but realise that I have to allow things to happen and not be in a rush to fix things or solve things.
Thank you for the effort to share.
I’m happy to hear it! I also find it such a helpful way of journaling to dig underneath all of those thoughts/insecurities, and oftentimes it will take days or weeks for me to get to the next “why” realization and continue on that trail, but as you said, once it hits you, you know you’ve found your starting point🤍
The most lighting video about shadow work. Reasons, results and solutions in a one video. İf you are beginner at shadow work, this video is definitely for you. Thank you so much for your effort Zoe! You are my new digital angel now. 💞
Oh my goodness, you're actually enchanting. I love the video!
Tysm☺️💗
I love tarot and shadow work. And I would give you 50 tarot decks just to have coffee or tea with you and just talk to you. You are a beautiful person.
Such intelligence [dare I say wisdom] in such a young adult … impressive … "a little ray of ‘sunshine’ came into my night" … 🌻💜
Thats just so much better than 99% of other self help content on youtube. Thanks!🎉
Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate it😊
This is an incredible video!! So helpful. I find so many videos gloss over the how-to process and you dove in. So thank you
Best video on shadow work i've ever seen! Making total sense now! Thank you!!
ive been slacking off on this practice. youre an angel. i needed this so much.
I'm glad I found your channel, everything is laid out with clarity.
I had been thinking recently about how vilified 'negative' traits become and it doesn't make sense because they likely drove all the people we idolise and gave us things we didn't know we needed. Without them I think we'd lose nearly all of the people who contributed the most to various fields.
For myself, it has been hard to acknowledge a confusing mixture of beliefs. This nagging feeling that there is something possibly exceptional about me (I shudder even saying it), flanked by the knowledge that I am average and in many ways deficient. So most of my adult life I have been suppressing this strange and unearned confidence, because narcissism is verboten. I went the opposite way in adulthood, shy, fearful, paranoid which was basically a personality transplant.
It feels like the complicated relationship between rationality and mysticism / spirituality. I remember the comfort that came with believing in some form of being above us in a hierarchy, before we walked by a series of reasonable steps into a sterile space of materialism. It's a strange back and forth but like this shadow stuff, I'm getting the sense that a lot has been left on the table.
Wow. Just happened to come across this video... thank you. Much appreciated. I actually managed to follow through the entirety of this 20min+ video. which means you are excellent in what you do! I never lose focus or get lost in some other thought at all! Usually 20min. Is almost too long to follow anyone and keep focused cause they tend to get boring along the way or end up complicating simple info. And when I realize that they are not consistently making sense they then become back ground noise and when i snap back into reality- I GET REALLY ANNOYED AND NEVER AGAIN DO I CLICK ON THAT CHANNEL! They just prove that they too lack complete understanding and knowledge in what they are trying to teach here... lol that is just insane to me. I cannot give my attention to foolish, unprofessional teachings ! Quality is obviously most imp. And you nailed it 💯! Well done. Will be looking out for your content ...its great stuff. Once again- thank you.
I saw this in passing and had to stop to say bless you for actually explaining not only what that term means but what to do. You hear so often with people saying others should do shadow work and thinking that means something to the average person. If you don't tell them what to actually do, how can you expect them to do it at all?
So thank you for actually explaining what you mean and how to approach the task, and not just giving hollow advice to people.
Thank you for this! I totally agree-just saying “do shadow work” isn’t very helpful without explaining the how... Shadow work can be so powerful, but only if we know where to start✨
The unconscious is something greater that we all seem to share.
funny enough I did mostly of it by trial and error, but there was something missing on the whole picture and this helped, thanks.
One of the best videos I’ve ever watched! My therapist briefly mentioned this at the end of a session, so I decided to watch a video. You explained things so well, and every time I thought I need an example you gave an absolute banger that resonated with me. Well done, and thank you!
I know all ins and outs of everything you explained here, yet I listened to you with great attention and pleasure. Seldom have I heard this topic being explained with such clarity and compassion. Nice reminder. Keep up the good works.
Thank you, I really appreciate it☺️
Thank you for posting this video in a way that's easy to understand! I've reached a stage of acceptance by letting my shadow consume me but being aware of it :) I am starting to integrate it and it's people like you who have helped keep my chin up during my phase of inner work! You're doing God's work! Keep doing you!
Carl Jung’s teachings played a huge part in my early 20’s . Just started revisiting these ideas again.
super job Zoe! I'm just getting into shadow work and your explanation lays out a clear framework for me to follow. Thank you sister.
Right. Small victories. But first you have to figure out where the battles even are. Thank you. I think one of the problems is, we tend to look at the mountain. Our friends and relatives are like " why aren't you on this mountain? Jeez, you're not even climbing" but we don't see the road that leads up it. So we look away.
Genuinely thank you for sharing, this has been a big game changer for today, it feels like exactly what I need to hear, thank you. This is the first video Ive seen of yours and I’m subscribing!
So in a way, Shadow work is a way to dissolve trauma? Inside every trauma that left us with an emotional trigger/scar, is a part of self that is being repressed so that we are protected from this ever happening again? Trauma can be as little as someone telling us off for being fearful/angry/sensitive when we are children. Or as big as failing your degree and thinking you cannot ever take any responsibility for anything as you will inevitably fail. Both end up with us locking a part of ourselves away and steering away from scenarios that require that part of us to surface.
Its realizing how Tyler Durden is just your shadow self taking over in a way that you don't realize he is taking over. You think its you. You think you are thinking those thoughts, You think thats air you're breathing? Its the shadow self making sure it has a place in this world, but it is trapped inside like the hulk in puny banner. So if you don't organize its thinking with the true dominant side of your self, it starts to become the dominant side. Using anger as a weapon, not a call to action. Using that weapon against you trying to get you to fight back. Knowing that you will be purifying yourself in that process unless the shadow isn't overpowered and submitted through strength of reason and force. Its why if you solve parts of the puzzle the war rages on. You have to drop that final piece in and suddenly the other guy knows you can always see him in the reflection, and that his way of making sense of things was mired by bad teaching, bad faith, and bad information, and that everything you were afraid of was something that would've been almost impossible for someone to tell you.
It was a video rich in information. You clarified the parts about 'Shadow Work' that didn't make sense to me before. It was very helpful for me. You're doing a great job, keep it up. :)
Love this!!! It really helps me tie everything together my personal thoughts about these intricatetopics! Personally, genuineness, emotional availability, etc!!!
I’m really glad to hear that😊 I’d say one of the biggest benefits learning about shadow work has had for me is simply having the words/understanding for what’s going on within myself ~
Have you practiced shadow work before? Or been familiar with the topics I talk about in the video?
@@itszoewinter I feel like we’re all intrinsically aware of shadow work to a certain extent however I’ve never head it explicitly explained like it is in this video! I was sort of already practicing shadow work without consciously doing so, but now I have a better understanding of my own intentions!!!
The outlet for anger being not doing something is such a course for burnout. I didn't understand the shadow was taking over my every waking moment. I just thought I was actually starting to buy into that negative world view. Instead of making myself happy and breaking the spell I became a person who would have a reason to embody that dark mindset even beyond what was put upon me, I decided to take all the troubles of everyone and wrestle with them. I got aggressive at other people attacking the good side of me because they knew the other guy was just letting me out of my cage. I wanted to be loved and accepted and correct course, but it seemed like everyone didn't care and had forgotten I was the person who wanted to do better not the awful face I was showing to the world because I thought it was a mirror it needed to see.
I just subscribed. I’m 70 years old and have been doing shadow work. Journaling. Dianetics. EFT Tapping. Identics. And it works. While doing any work concentrate on your emotions. Cry, stomp your feet. I write in my journal, what unwanted emotion comes up and all times in my life the trauma happened. So if the first trauma happened at 5 years old. I’d pay attention to all of the traumas but I’d pay more attention to the first 5 year old trauma
So... Scientology?
One of these doesn't fit with the others ... Dianetics
Thank you! I am grateful to have found this video today. ☺
I am quite new to the concept of shadow work, and I really appreciate that you took the time to both explain what shadow work is, and provide a solid starting point for us to try.
Thank you for the kind words, I’m glad you found it interesting☺️
I want to thank you so much for doing such a good job at explaining these concepts in a way that is not esoteric or too high minded.
Thank you so much😊
My shadow is plagued with things I developed during a very traumatic time period from my childhood and adolescence. The moment you said “you have to go back” I immediately started tearing up, and realized how afraid I am to even go back and dig these things up. I know I need to do this to work on them, but damn, just hearing that made me feel scared. I was basically in survival mode for many years, and didn’t fully realize how much so until recently. I’m in my 30’s now.
I kept going down rabbit holes my entire life before I realized everyone is struggling with this and a lot of them think they figured it out and just kept living. Those of us who take longer should take some solace in knowing we worked the hardest on wanting to understand before we tried to pretend we did. Knowing that is half the battle. The rest is learning how to be on the opposite side of your shadow with everything it taught you and still not panic or think like the person who didn't know anything. Both have to be accessible while neither should be jockeying for control until needed. Life is so reactionary if we don't fall into the trap of keeping track of too many things instead of focusing on the reality.
Thank you for this video. I knew shadow work prior to this video, and now I understand it deeper. The way you explained it resonated with me. Keel up the good work!
Thank you so much for this video....I now know that I do indeed have a huge shadow that needs tending and incorporating into my real world.
It's not the first time I've found a video about Jung's shadow. I'm not particularly draw to Jung's theories but this time I've felt this method is something that I can strongly relate to, specially considering how journaling is the most efficient thing I've ever known to help me sort my thoughts and feelings out. Thank you very much for the best explanation on the subject I've ever seen. I'll try it out when I have the guts to do so.
Thank you for the kind words, good luck on the journey!!☺️
This was exceptional. I know this are not your ideas , but you explained it beautifully clear and very convincing. This video was more important for me than you could realize, it had the effect like a flash that gave my an idea of my whole self for the first time after a whole year of therapy. I supressed so much because with my parents Love was very conditional. They never loved me for what I was but for their own idea what I should be and I internalized that much more than I realized.
Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate it😊
second time watching this and I hope my long depression will be cured by this work. thanks
I'm wishing you the best🤍 A similar situation had led me down the Jung rabbit hole, as everything we experience in life is through the lens of the self, all change has to start there and shadow work has helped me tremendously with this. Remember to take it slow & treat yourself gently like a child-- acceptance, love, forgiveness.
Thank you so much for such a genuine sharing. I love how you structure and breaking down to specific steps, and most importantly I love the honesty and your courage to face your true thoughts and to share them with us, which is so inspiring, empowering and hopefully will be really helpful to me and a lot of others. Thank you!
Thank you so much, that means a lot😊🤍
Another great starting point for shadow work is dreams. I dreamed about a rowdy teenage boy who was playing loud music and putting dirty shoes on my couch. In the dream, I called the police. My therapist said, That’s a Shadow figure. Let’s get to know him. He was a source of rich material and great insight.
I think dream interpretation can be such a great tool for shadow work! Thank you for sharing😊
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thank you . i like people becoming more and more aware on these issues.. When i noticed i lived my life being totally unaware of my shadows and even under the complete influence of misbeliefs and judgements about myself, it was a unique moment. i was also glad to break the cycle of generational trauma in my family, that alone helped me get rid of lots of shadow- dictated behaviors at once..wish the same for every human being
Absolutely fantastic explanation & such a powerful lesson.
Thank you
I wish someone explained this to me 25 years ago like this…perhaps they did, but I didn’t “hear” it
Regardless thank you for this - looking forward to checking out your other videos & will definitely be listening to this once several more times to make sure I get as much of the knowledge/wisdom/brilliance from your great explanation
Brilliant Zoe, you are literally changing lives by sharing these ideas!!
I am so glad to have happened upon your channel. Thank you:)
Very important video and well explained!
The only thing I wish was explained more is Why asking Why over and over can be dangerous, Why it should be taken step by step and Why control should always be the priority
Uncovering the depths of your Shadow is uncomfortable for a reason, and if the Shadow becomes too big to handle everything can shatter altogether, reality collapses and it becomes very hard to put back the pieces where they belong
Thank you for your thoughtful feedback! You’re absolutely right-asking “why” too much, too quickly can be overwhelming in bringing up contents of the unconscious, which is why it’s important to go carefully and step by step, like you mentioned. I’ll definitely keep this in mind for future videos to explain it more thoroughly😊
@@itszoewinter Hey, by re-reading what I wrote, I think it sounds a bit too harsh.
While what I wrote is right as I had personal experience about it happening, I think I could have used a better tone to put it out, so I'm glad it was helpful for future videos, but excuse me for my words!
Great video and descriptions, loved it. No comment about whether or not I cried on the floor, like a baby, with a smile.
Thank you, you showed how it works clearly. Really appreciate it!
Honestly a great video with a clear explanation, examples, and methods to overcome things that hold us back! I never really knew what the shadow self meant before and assumed it was something about some dark "evil" parts to us. Thanks for making this!
Thank you, I’m really happy to hear it☺️🫶🏻
Sincerest thanks for this Zoë. You're gifted!
this video helps me tremendously. You dissect every part of it , so its understand becomes very natural. I have to say is one of the best representations on how to manage situations that may not be helpful . I really want to thank you for your work and efforts!
You are a beautyful Person. Outside and Inside. Thank you.
Great video and clear explanations, thank you so much. I was diligently taking notes. You have a gift to explain things this well!
Hi Zoë. Just wanted to let you know that your video on shadow work really resonated with me. It completely makes sense, and I will use your suggestions. Thank you.
I'm really happy to hear this, thank you😊 Best of luck on the journey!
34:30 In most situations you are less afraid of failing, than you are of not being ok if you do.
Wow!
Very well explained.. thankyou so much.. i think though that the shadow stuff is not things that are necessarily "bad" like "laziness" etc.. because what to others might seem "bad" (in "laziness" for example) might actually be a deep true need in US.. it is things we have been MADE TO FEEL ARE BAD by others in our lives as we develop, but those things are actually things that are truly part of our true nature but we get made to feel guilty or ashamed of those aspects of us, so we suppress them in our ways of being.. but to heal this we are best to let those aspects of us BE in us and not suppress themz we are best to just be truly usz so we can live our lives truly as us, even if others try to shame us or scold us (but that is really difficult to do, due to the need to feel loved and accepted in society etc) .. am i beginning to figure out the true needs/difficulties?
(the capital letters were for emphasis not shouting by the way! :)
..i hope life will be Really good for you
Came for a drawing session and stayed to understand about my inner shadow
Haha I love this! I'm glad you've found it interesting😄
You deserve way more subscribers. Super helpful.
bro,you are the first person that explained this matter and i was able to understand everything,the fact that you aways gives an example makes it SO MUCH easier to understand,thank you so much!
This was the most helpfull video I have seen on shadow work. Thank you so much for sharing. This gave me so much more insight on this topic.🙏🏻😇🍀
Thanks for the video Zoe. It was well done and thoroughly prepared. I learn a lot new things. Thanks for sharing this with us ~ 😊👍🏻
Hey hey girl
That was so informative and simple to understand, thats the art of sharing your knowledge to a other right there , NICE WORK ZOEEEEEE 👏 U GOT YOURSELF A NEW SUB ❤
I was looking for a video like this for so long, thank you.
Really surprised you don't have more subs. This was really well thought out and delivered.
Thank you, that means a lot😊
Incredible video, I took notes while listening and really absorbed what you were teaching thank you for helping us all see our true beautiful selves :))
This makes me so happy to hear, thank you☺️