Marriage is a blessing for us, and we were intentional about going to pre marital counseling and going through FPU beforehand! We cannot tell you how much those both immensely helped us! Thank you for who you are and all you do, Dave! You have inspired us to make a channel with videos on finances too! God Bless!
Prenups don't work, 50% of people get divorced, and women initiate between 70% and 90% of divorces. Great tips from Dave. Physical intimacy can cause people to ignore the important questions before marriage. However, if you have money, you need to consider establishing a trust.
The 50% rate takes into account all marriages. That’s an important distinction because it accounts for “repeat offenders” so to speak. That skews the numbers pretty significantly. For example imagine there were 100 marriages in one year. Obviously 200 people. If one person marries and divorces 3 times in that year. Yes it’s 3% of marriages failed, but only 4 people got divorced in this scenario making it 2% of people got divorced. Obviously this is a cherry picked example but it goes to show how the numbers can be skewed by counting repeat offenders. If you extrapolate that kind of scenario while following the Pareto Distribution you can see that 80% of marriages are ended by a small sub-sect (20%) of the population. Suffice to say statistics while presumably true, do not paint a realistic picture.
It's sad people think marriage counseling is for when they're in trouble. A little counseling beforehand is so helpful. And agreeing on values is the key to a successful marriage.
Why are people so against marriage in the comments? 😑 If you truly love someone and you want to spend the rest of your life with them, why are you worried about money, divorce and losing assets? Just love the person and try to live happily. Geesh. People focus of the wrong things, if it's that serious get a prenup.
Lord have mercy. Based on your comments, I'm guessing you are female? I am not attempting to attack you, but listen carefully: It's really convenient for a female in today's society to be dismissive of the system that is designed to place men at a severe disadvantage if the marriage fails. Your mentality reminds of the old school southern 85 year old bigot that dismisses claims of racism. Tell you what, they should place a law on the books that states: ' No alimony. No child support unless you were married for 5 years'. If you do divorce, you'll leave with what you brought...unless you ACTUALLY contributed to building the business. I bet if those laws were in place, women would tread more carefully, not be as irrational, and take the institution of marriage more seriously.
philly 1971 clearly by my name im a female. Second, like i stated, why get married if you are already PLANNING divorce? All of what you wrote proved nothing. People should marry for love and not even worry about losing money. Your supposed to be married forever. How about pick the right time to get married with the right person and we won't have to have this discussion. You're dismissed.
3rd thing Dave mentioned about in laws, are so true, few of my friends filed for divorce because of it. So better be prepared because you’re not marrying them, you most likely marry their extended family too depending how close he and she is to them.
A successful marriage is when you both come into a agreement with Gods word ! Believe three things that hold a marriage together is this love , respect, forgiveness and both born again of the Holy Spirit when both encounter and walk in this nothing will tear them apart , God is the bond to the marriage, when God is first in the marriage the rest will be solved sensible with wisdom WOW WE GOT LONGS WAYS TO GO THOUGHT THIS GROWING AS CHRISTIAN had limits 😀
For 13 years, I've been planning to walk down the aisle with my lover. My big day has yet to happen. It's now or never, I want this. The Mr and Mrs days will arrive someday. When i make more money, have a better job, know what love is, then I'll go from there! So I'm staying with that choice!
50% of marriages end in divorce, 70% of them initiated by women. They get most of everything following the divorce, including the kids. Women get sole custody of the kids around 80% of the time, and the father loses almost all his rights to those children, except for the financial connection. Yet you blame men for refusing to play this rigged game?
If you are a man with no money or ambitions marriage is for you..but if you have goals and ambitions, don't do it. You will be ruined. I've heard so many stories of guys losing everything in a divorce. One guy I know of lost his house, kids, and all of his money, and afterwards his ex wife had another guy living in the same house she took from him..pfft no thank you.
You should be well adjusted to the marriage before even considering having kids. As mentioned, children are one of the leading causes of divorce. Get used to each other before having any kids-if you have any kids. Lots of couples prefer not to have kids.
I guess we know how your marriage will turn out if you get married. Just like how you work well at making money why not put in the same time and effort into marriage. There are marriages that are working out well.
Seriously dude, escape while you can. Enjoy that young lady. Have a great relationship; however, DO NOT BECOME LEGALLY OBLIGATED TO HER! The way this system is designed, you cannot 'prepare' for it. A wedding is a funeral with cake and champagne.
Lol you guys are on every marriage video. Just because someone hurt you doesn't mean other people can't be happily married. Get some therapy and move on.
@@125loopy Statistically you are more likely to get divorced then remain married. So even if no one has been hurt, it wouldn't make sense to get married. The divorce rate would need to be under 15% for me to get married.
@@chartuck those stats are there because people jump into marriage with partners who are obviously wrong for them. If you have the same values and took Dave's advice from the video, we'd have a lot less divorces.
First thing to do is go get snipped without her, and pretend like you’re unsure why you can’t have kids. Then when you walk in on her getting a BBC when you’re supposed to be at work and you get divorced (i wouldn’t divorce her but you may not be into sharing her) you won’t have to pay thousands in child support.
I wouldn’t get get married these days because the divorce rate is way to high, it’s way to risky. No legally binding contracts with the government for me when it pertains to marriage .
Statistically you are more likely to get divorced then remain married. So it makes no sense to get married. It makes even less sense to get married and then have kids. The divorce rate would need to be under 15% for me to get married.
Have all the fun but don't marry. There's all kinds of cuisines in the world so you decide to limit yourself to just one FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?....WILLINGLY?
@@yesnomaybeso5755 I acknowledge your opinion and I am happy that it is working for you. In my opinion, marriage is an antiquated institution in this day and age. Men disproportionately take on more risk and get their rear ends handed to them in family courts. As for me, I'm happily poly and practice ethical non-monogamy, enjoying the full buffet spread, while taking on zero financial liabilities. I planned my life this way so I'm not surprised that I like it. And I am happy that you found what you were looking for. Cheers!
Marriage is a blessing for us, and we were intentional about going to pre marital counseling and going through FPU beforehand! We cannot tell you how much those both immensely helped us! Thank you for who you are and all you do, Dave! You have inspired us to make a channel with videos on finances too! God Bless!
Jake & Mandy marriage is a curse not a blessing
Have a financial plan. Set strong boundaries and have the same financial values.
This is the best marriage advice video I’ve listen to so far. I’ve already heard three that were not helpful. Thank you for getting to the point
Prenups don't work, 50% of people get divorced, and women initiate between 70% and 90% of divorces.
Great tips from Dave. Physical intimacy can cause people to ignore the important questions before marriage.
However, if you have money, you need to consider establishing a trust.
Good response
The 50% rate takes into account all marriages. That’s an important distinction because it accounts for “repeat offenders” so to speak. That skews the numbers pretty significantly. For example imagine there were 100 marriages in one year. Obviously 200 people. If one person marries and divorces 3 times in that year. Yes it’s 3% of marriages failed, but only 4 people got divorced in this scenario making it 2% of people got divorced. Obviously this is a cherry picked example but it goes to show how the numbers can be skewed by counting repeat offenders. If you extrapolate that kind of scenario while following the Pareto Distribution you can see that 80% of marriages are ended by a small sub-sect (20%) of the population. Suffice to say statistics while presumably true, do not paint a realistic picture.
Marriage Counseling is a plus. Get a ton of money and don't spend it unless you have too. You will live a long happy life.
That's if he doesn't get married. Don't lie to the young man on Christmas...shame on you☺
It's sad people think marriage counseling is for when they're in trouble. A little counseling beforehand is so helpful. And agreeing on values is the key to a successful marriage.
MeShannan woman only pretend to agree until they r married
Why are people so against marriage in the comments? 😑 If you truly love someone and you want to spend the rest of your life with them, why are you worried about money, divorce and losing assets? Just love the person and try to live happily. Geesh. People focus of the wrong things, if it's that serious get a prenup.
because we are married and know the facts! Sorry to say.
NeoAndersonReloaded okay so explain ehy you got married then? For love right? To be eoth thst person through thick and thin? Or for finances?
NeoAndersonReloaded okay so explain why you got married then? For love right? To be with thst person through thick and thin? Or for finances?
Lord have mercy. Based on your comments, I'm guessing you are female? I am not attempting to attack you, but listen carefully: It's really convenient for a female in today's society to be dismissive of the system that is designed to place men at a severe disadvantage if the marriage fails. Your mentality reminds of the old school southern 85 year old bigot that dismisses claims of racism. Tell you what, they should place a law on the books that states: ' No alimony. No child support unless you were married for 5 years'. If you do divorce, you'll leave with what you brought...unless you ACTUALLY contributed to building the business. I bet if those laws were in place, women would tread more carefully, not be as irrational, and take the institution of marriage more seriously.
philly 1971 clearly by my name im a female. Second, like i stated, why get married if you are already PLANNING divorce? All of what you wrote proved nothing. People should marry for love and not even worry about losing money. Your supposed to be married forever. How about pick the right time to get married with the right person and we won't have to have this discussion. You're dismissed.
3rd thing Dave mentioned about in laws, are so true, few of my friends filed for divorce because of it. So better be prepared because you’re not marrying them, you most likely marry their extended family too depending how close he and she is to them.
If I get married my husband will not have in-laws. So he will luck out there. 😊
A successful marriage is when you both come into a agreement with Gods word ! Believe three things that hold a marriage together is this love , respect, forgiveness and both born again of the Holy Spirit when both encounter and walk in this nothing will tear them apart , God is the bond to the marriage, when God is first in the marriage the rest will be solved sensible with wisdom WOW WE GOT LONGS WAYS TO GO THOUGHT THIS GROWING AS CHRISTIAN had limits 😀
It's very sad to read some of these comments. 😔😥
Putting a marriage video on Christmas Day. You know what’s going down today haha
Daniel Bustos Yep. Unleash the woman haters. Merry Christmas! 🎅
As always great advice. Covering the fundamentals of marriage
As a fellow person from Shreveport, good luck! Also Dave forgot to mention be in agreement to move to Bossier! Lol
Merry Christmas! I know this has nothing to do with your comment, but I am saying this on 12/25/18. Have a splendid day
Roderick Todd thank you sir, you do the same.
We combined everything and don’t regret it. Married 5yrs
Amen such good information.
For 13 years, I've been planning to walk down the aisle with my lover. My big day has yet to happen. It's now or never, I want this. The Mr and Mrs days will arrive someday. When i make more money, have a better job, know what love is, then I'll go from there! So I'm staying with that choice!
I needed this because im bgetting married in september
Merry Christmas! I know this has nothing to do with your comment, but I am saying this on 12/25/18. Have a splendid day
Thank you
Best way to prepare for a marriage is to break off the engagement!!!
That's right!
@@fpridgeway LOL!!!
50% of marriages end in divorce, 70% of them initiated by women. They get most of everything following the divorce, including the kids. Women get sole custody of the kids around 80% of the time, and the father loses almost all his rights to those children, except for the financial connection. Yet you blame men for refusing to play this rigged game?
If you are a man with no money or ambitions marriage is for you..but if you have goals and ambitions, don't do it. You will be ruined. I've heard so many stories of guys losing everything in a divorce. One guy I know of lost his house, kids, and all of his money, and afterwards his ex wife had another guy living in the same house she took from him..pfft no thank you.
Always marry wayyyyy up. Oprah or no one.
Prenup. That’s the only step that matters.
Holla, 'We want Prenup!'...jk you'll still get taken to the cleaners by the Divorce court!
Don’t have kids for many years. Wait
You should be well adjusted to the marriage before even considering having kids. As mentioned, children are one of the leading causes of divorce. Get used to each other before having any kids-if you have any kids. Lots of couples prefer not to have kids.
Money, how kids, in laws, religion
Best way to prepare for a marriage is to have the divorce papers ready ! Lol jks
Investing Hustler also invest in cannibas :)
Marriage is always the #1 cause of divorce
I guess we know how your marriage will turn out if you get married. Just like how you work well at making money why not put in the same time and effort into marriage. There are marriages that are working out well.
...don't get married.
the order is wrong Faith should absolutely be first and everything after that Dave not money and faith last
Seriously dude, escape while you can. Enjoy that young lady. Have a great relationship; however, DO NOT BECOME LEGALLY OBLIGATED TO HER! The way this system is designed, you cannot 'prepare' for it. A wedding is a funeral with cake and champagne.
Lol you guys are on every marriage video. Just because someone hurt you doesn't mean other people can't be happily married. Get some therapy and move on.
PREACH!!!
@@125loopy Statistically you are more likely to get divorced then remain married. So even if no one has been hurt, it wouldn't make sense to get married. The divorce rate would need to be under 15% for me to get married.
@@chartuck those stats are there because people jump into marriage with partners who are obviously wrong for them. If you have the same values and took Dave's advice from the video, we'd have a lot less divorces.
First thing to do is go get snipped without her, and pretend like you’re unsure why you can’t have kids. Then when you walk in on her getting a BBC when you’re supposed to be at work and you get divorced (i wouldn’t divorce her but you may not be into sharing her) you won’t have to pay thousands in child support.
I wouldn’t get get married these days because the divorce rate is way to high, it’s way to risky. No legally binding contracts with the government for me when it pertains to marriage .
Don't do it.....
I suggest he get an enema and a few lubricants.
Sex??
Statistically you are more likely to get divorced then remain married. So it makes no sense to get married. It makes even less sense to get married and then have kids. The divorce rate would need to be under 15% for me to get married.
Have all the fun but don't marry. There's all kinds of cuisines in the world so you decide to limit yourself to just one FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?....WILLINGLY?
I hope you have changed your perspective on the matter. Marriage is a beautiful thing when done correctly.
@@yesnomaybeso5755 I acknowledge your opinion and I am happy that it is working for you. In my opinion, marriage is an antiquated institution in this day and age. Men disproportionately take on more risk and get their rear ends handed to them in family courts. As for me, I'm happily poly and practice ethical non-monogamy, enjoying the full buffet spread, while taking on zero financial liabilities. I planned my life this way so I'm not surprised that I like it. And I am happy that you found what you were looking for. Cheers!
PRENUP
Unicorn Soul the court throws them out 70% of the time