Very beautifully explained phenomenon. Not many people experience this in their lifetime. I am one of the few who have had such a person in my life. Inspite of all the red flags, inspite of his unworthiness, i knew he was bringing me out of zombee-ism and the catalyst to push me towards a better future. Yes hes still around and boy its a rollercoaster of a ride. Inspite of the craziness I know from my heart that hes part of the bigger puzzle, which will unfold itself very soon. The universe has its ways of driving us nuts on the way to our destiny. ❤
I'm pleased to read your commentary. Life is far wiser than we are. YOU're highly evolved and realize this man is not only a catalyst but a piece of your grand puzzle. The taunting part is that we fall for the catalyst. After all, they brought us the ah-ha realizations. It's so very tempting. And they come is an unbelievable package. The trick to this ride is to be able to be present, absorb, learn and release. Thank you for your fantastic share. Happy to have you in my YT family, piakool.
Oooo yes, me too! Mine helped me out of my worst bout of depression and helped me care about living again. He also (most likely inadvertently) put a mirror up to my bad habits and helped me to overcome some deep set insecurities. But he also has his set of insecurities and "flaws," as he says. So glad you met a catalyst and are on your way to greater things!
What you just said is exactly what I have been going through. I saw red flags but he brought me out of "zombie-sim". I totally get what you are saying there. I too am on a roller coaster ride and it is crazy at times. But he is the one who has helped me see things in a different light . No matter what becomes of he and I I shall always be thankful that he was in my life. And it was and is magic and shall always be because with him I became stronger and loved deeper. I wish you all the very best in life's journey.
I think this is what is known as Twin Flames in other circles. I have been involved in something like this but the problem is he got spooked so I dont know what will happen. It is something that is becoming more common as the frequency of the earth increases.
I just have to tell you that in India there is beautiful saying about love - love is like an ocean of fire and the only way to cross it by drowning . the love is a thing that happens , we can not make it happen , coz its like unpredictive . People think its chemicals in the brain, but its much higher than that
This experience is so bittersweet. I was ecstatic to find I could still feel love and a deep connection with someone after many heartaches. But, yet I knew it was a fleeting moment in my life and she would be gone. So in those moments together I gave all and appreciated every minute. I think we both knew it could not last, but everything in the universe conspired to bring us together. As long as you don’t risk more than you can afford to lose, you can deal with the void of separation from them. They are always in your heart though and you learned something about life and love that money can’t buy and nobody can teach you.
Everything you said... all of it, is exactly what I'm experiencing. I've asked myself what the hell is wrong with me? I'm logical, grounded, and intelligent, and yet here I am being sucked in by the most irrational situation I've found myself in... and that's saying a lot considering some of the whoppers I went through in my younger years. I'm aggravated with myself, but I just can't shake him off. There's absolutely no foreseeable future or possibility that a relationship could ever happen and I don't visualize myself in one with him either, but I'm so drawn in to this situation that makes no sense. We haven't even communicated in over a month because I purposely chose to avoid any further temptation and he needed space to deal with his issues, yet the feelings are still intense. I want to forget about him and treat him as if he'd just been some meaningless fling, but I'd be lying to myself. What kind of sorcery is this??
@@1957346 Well, I decided to let it go and focus on something else. Several months later, he reached out to me again. The spark is still there, but I was able to control my emotions. I had fun talking to him for a day or two and then just dropped it. He's in the background, but I've moved on.
@@karinar.8259 Yeah i feel you, same here, its like that attraction you have for that person will never go away lol, maybe you stop seen them and forget about them but once you see them again is like damnn i still feel attracted to that person still!
I feel like what you're doing is exactly what my the other person is doing towards me. I just want her,I do but I dont know why,it doesn't even make sense we haven't even talked about in 3 years since she blocked me. There's no logical, physical or emotional background to go to her or her to me,it's completely illogical,and yet I just want her,to be with her. Loving her especially.
This was me 6 months ago, never understood my "pull" for her knowing she was dysfunctional but "something" kept pulling me in. I knew we didn't have any future and now she is gone, but the kind of "awareness" (about myself) she gave me is unprecedented. In a way, I am thankful to her. Thanks Susan for yet another cool video :) Much appreciated.
i am drawn to narcissists. i wish i could make it stop. so i stopped dating. covid helped. esp covert narcs. they draw you in for sure. i dont recommended it.
SPOT ON with me right now!! I’m drawn to her, and somehow even if I don’t contact or check on her for a week, I know how she feels, even what she does. Walked by her job the other day (cause it’s next to a laundromat I go to) and I just knew and felt that she took the day off, and she DID. One day, I knew she was down about something and I was spot on. I had a dream one day that something bad happened at her work place and so I prayed on it. Next day she tells me that there was an incident at her job where the police had to be called on someone. Even currently she’s going through something cause I felt it and currently feel it and it was confirmed yesterday. Even when we’re together we’re just so perfect... and despite our possible flaws, I want to explore and be with her
OMG! This is exactly me right now!!! Thank you so much for the validation Susan to know that I'm not crazy, needy, or love-sick. I'm on an amazing but difficult journey of Ascension and self-discovery. This makes the road a little easier to travel. 💖
Susan Winter Thanks so much. That makes alot of sense. I have been working on detachment throughout all of my relationships. I will definitely keep your words in mind when I'm thinking about this particular person as I try to find more balance to my life.
This needed to be said because it is so true! I worked with this guy that played guitar...he's a music therapist. I was WOWED the moment I heard him play..the more I got to learn about him the more I was inspired. I am so happy I met him and felt drawn to him from the very first time. Knew he crossed my path for a reason! Now, I've been playing guitar for over a year now and it has been such a GREAT journey. Learning guitar has helped me grow and has helped my soul. Not stopping there. Sometimes you meet people and they help change your life for the better!!
I am in this situation right now. I was quite content with my life, am sensible and down to earth and wasn't looking for any male involvement in it when all of a sudden this man crossed my path. He had been around but I hadn't actually noticed him, then one day I just casually spoke to him and from that moment on I was utterly captivated. I just do not know or understand what happened or why, but the situation is miserable as I estimate I am at least 20 years older than he is. I know he is not married but understand he has a girlfriend. There could never be a happy ending so I have done the best I can to ensure our paths do not cross again but something magical has gone from my life.
I had this feeling only once, I looked in the eyes 👀 of the person and felt connected. It was a magical moment. For some reason I thought he was my soulmate. I should have trusted my self and not my fear!
@@DiamondsRexpensive I am an overthinker, I guess that is my worst enemy. My fear was for what I thought to be just something in my imagination, I don’t trust people easily and I keep testing them this is what I did with this person, but enough is enough and after a while he literally told me that I am not putting any effort and that he saw that our connection was one sided. Not true because I liked him and probably still do.
I am moving on from a relationship that I believe was the type you described. It revealed insecurities that I thought I was hiding, and catapulted me back into therapy. I feel very excited about my self development and transformation and I feel this relationship sparked that. Thank you for putting this idea into words.
This happened to me and to this day, I still love this man like crazy and we have been back and forth and through hell together and because of each other, but in my gut and in his as well, we are always drawn to each other and always come back to each other no matter how much time has passed with no contact. I know what I had to learn and how I needed to grow because of him and why the connection and yet, I still feel that pull towards him and I cannot explain why.
@@addagirl3487 we aren't meant to be together. He was my lesson, the hardest lesson of my life. I allowed him to destroy me so that I could change. He disrespected me, treated me like shit and I stayed, allowed and even fought for more. We teach people how to treat us, by the way we treat ourselves. If we do not respect ourselves, how can anyone else respect us. If we do not love ourselves, how can anyone else love us. I had to get brutally honest and look at ME and if I wanted more from others, then I needed to give it to myself first. I had to learn where it all came from, why I treated myself like shit....in doing so, I learned new belief systems and thought processes that are actually truth, instead of the crap I was hiding behind and protecting myself from. Once I did that, my true love came into my life. I finally did it right and it took me 4 years to shed that old me and fix it. Now I have the me I'm proud of, my kids are proud of me and their lives are changing because now I broke the family history of this pattern.
@@danamiller5574 what you are describing is exactly how he treats me and I still feel drawn to him. I just want to stop feeling like this. How did you manage to recover? He destroyed me that now I am on medication because of him.
@@DiamondsRexpensive I am trying to remind myself how bad he treated me because my logical mind knows he's bad for me but I'm fighting with myself. I don't deserve this and he doesn't deserve me.
I did it for 9 month.... We separated 1 and a half month ago. As you said: is magical! It burns you so you can rebirth. It awakens you... Is painful, is EXTREMELY PAINFUL but is a worthy pain. Wish you all the best and just ENJOY the relationship! Every breath next to that person ENJOY it! Is your TWIN FLAME! But you don't know that yet...
This was seriously one of the most illuminating videos of yours I've ever seen. I could cry. Thank you Susan. I've never felt the same pull towards a person that I couldn't explain until recently and I have no idea where it will lead and i see the red flags. But I think that I no matter what happens, pursuing it will provide me with a piece of the puzzle for the future. Thanks again
Thank you so much for this. I am experiencing this right now with a guy I dated off and on for 2 years and some how we became serious with each other for the past year. I can't explain it, I can't explain why I'm so drawn to this man. The whole reason I found your channel is because I was looking for something to explain to me why I am going through what I am going through with him and why I stay. I am normally a track star when it comes to Red flags in a relationship, but not with him. Thank you so much, I have spent most of my day watching your videos and I came across this.
It’s happened twice, just recently and a few years ago. Both lasted two months. I felt an extreme connection to both men. The first time I was just so relieved that I felt something for someone, as it had been such a long time. It was heartbreaking but I was happy. This time was similar. Like a reawakening of my ability to feel. There were red flags everywhere and he was honest about his shortcomings, but I stuck with it until the threat of damage was too much for me.
I literally tried for months to ignore this woman but I eventually cracked and started hanging out with her once I learned she quit working where I work. There was just something about her that I can't really explain. Yeah she's cute, unique, blah blah, but so were the other girls I rejected(even though I was attracted). I simply enjoy being single, but this woman was able to drag me to her with such ease. I think we're in the "maybe box", but it just fascinates me how I was drawn into her.
@@ScorpioGirl-ws8yh Yeah I was and still am drawn to her, and it's definitely physical but she has this weird aura as well. While we are friends now, we don't treat each other as typical friends. Walking miles in the heat, spending many hours together, I pay for things then she pays for things. Or maybe my guy friends suck. LOL
How does one get rid of this? I know he’s not right for me. I don’t want him in my life, I keep staying busy, keep pushing him away, keep going forward but I just always feel his presence in the background. It’s exhausting. I don’t want this.
Hey it's been 3 years for this comment you haven't got answer here,but u could had figured it out until now can you tell me what can I do I'm in same situation
This was the most awful experience of my life. I felt something so strong for this person I can’t explain it. I couldn’t tell them, they left me in the end and I have anxiety issues now from the amount of pain I endured. Be careful, but I know you can’t stop it once you feel it and you can’t stop yourself from wanting them.
I was drawn to someone years back and it turned out to become unhealthy for me. Now I'm drawn to the same person. I domt want it to become unhealthy again. So the more I focus on me and the more I let go of the person the more stable tht I feel. Thank you for helping me feel okay about having these feelings.
A very amazing video of a "magical experience" that may defy logic, probably does defy logic but eyes wide open. The magic part is the key. Something inside you is touched and comes alive. You kind of play with matches knowing you may get burned and yet, you take the risk. Very astute explanation by Susan.
I met this guy in october and decided to make the first move and ended up embarrassing myself. I dont know anything about him till this day, but i feel such a connection with him like this energy between us and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO🧎♂️
You Articulated this very Unique Relationship Beautifully. I have Never heard Anyone ever give Credence to that Experience. It can be about the Evolutionary Journey of One or Both People. Trusting your Intuition as a Guide is Vital. Great Insight.
Omg! Spot on with my current situation. Have been drawn to this guy for years, not my "type" & there's no explanation. We finally decided to explore things about a month ago. We're having lots of fun together & we're having great sex but I have no idea if things will progress further. I find our time together extremely relaxing & comfortable. Most chill I've been in years. For once in my life I'm surprisingly able to focus on the here & now & not worry about the past or future. 😉👍
This happened to me. She was my classmate. A few days before I talked to her for the first time, I already started to notice her. Then suddenly I met her accidentally on the way to our class. We exchanged a few words and then she sat near me. After the class ended I felt the irresistible impulse to invite her for a talk. So then I spent almost an hour just talking to her with a total exposure of myself. I was indeed drawn to her by magic. But it was also not long before I realised that she did not have the same feeling towards me at all. So I distanced from her and suffered from upset for months. However, what was amazing was she also motivated me to find where my once hidden dream lies on. So even though I know she has been a lost cause and only recently started to recover from this unfulfilled obsession, she had left so many precious things to me. Even for those tortures, they are worthwhile for they have trained me to be more self-reliant than ever.
Experiencing it right now.. we bump ways during the time i was in my depression.. we have same interest.. we have click.. just going with the flow since then.. enjoy every moment with him.. we chat.. we meet.. and he is bringing me much joy...
I really appreciate the way you make things so easily understood. I have watched this 5 times.It's very enlightening, especially for someone that's trying to get their life back together. Thanks again for another excellent video. Wishing you only the best Ms. Winters.
Its like a sign for me to find this video. Been searching for answers as to why Im completely drawn to this person when i was just transitioning myself into a new person and literally chose to not be in a relatioship for a long time after breaking up with one. Just like you said...the only way is to trust myself. Thank you for this.
I’m currently trying to recover from a relationship just like this. Red flags everywhere,, long distance, but we both agree we were absolutely destined to meet. I have learned, and am still learning, so many necessary lessons from this situation...lots of unresolved issues with my father, boundaries, how to communicate, etc. We lasted a year and I just don’t feel like we’re done even though we aren’t in contact. I’m suffering now but I’m convinced this was all meant to be.
He is 10 years younger and has a completely different culture and background to me and I cannot stop thinking about him. He is the purest colour of my thoughts.
It's happened to me with a married man. It wasn't even love. No I didn't feel any butterflies in my bellies, no my heart didn't skip a beat, no I didn't feel any sparks flying in the air. It was just pure bliss being around this person. And theres even no room for resentment or jealousy that he is married. I know we have no future in this relationship and it doesnt even bother me. I have my own path to go through and I wish him nothing but the best in his married life.
Ooh... I love that and totally agree. I'm right at (what feels like) the end of one of those... just over 2 years in... red flags, betrayals, dishonesty, push pull, deflection, non-priority - I've experienced the lot! In fact coming across you last month and watching a huge percentage of your videos has been amazing for me in terms of 'slapping' me awake, wising me up and helping me remember my freakin' amazing self! I think that that crazy, inexplicable compulsion to stay has finally had its day and I've learned and grown in accordance with the deeper purpose of the experience - pain and joy both. I find myself in Gratitude for all of it (tho that's mixed with the human yucky stuff too of course) I feel the timing of finding you was as Divine as the timing of first feeling that 'what the hell are you doing... oh no, you're gonna do it' thing with her. All part of the bigger plan I guess. One of the main things for me has been the degree to which I now trust, and am willing to act on, my instincts - and that's a gift indeed. Thank you Susan for sharing your wisdom, clarity and amazing presence with the world xx
Hi Susan, thank you, finding your videos so very helpful. I've had this experience more than once, and more recently with a person whom I still think and obsess about and am wondering what that is about. I would say we had a lot in common and genuine affection, but also there were huge trust issues (on both sides). I wasn't playing games, but the intensity of the attraction made my behaviour erratic, I feel I did my best to communicate my sincere attraction and affection without freaking the person out, but in the end I felt they were too distracted or fearful to take initiative in the way I would want in a partner, and I withdrew out of self respect even though I was yearning to be with them ( and I believe they had similar feelings for me , but were shit scared- to be fair I was too, but tried to take more initiative). I met this person shortly after I started doing my codependency work and realise fairly swiftly that this person had a lot of codependent traits too and was like a mirror to me, so there were red flags but it didn't stop me falling in love. I miss just spending time with them and all the good things we shared but I feel I removed myself from an unworkable situation. Now to move on with my life... ^^ I posted this 5 months ago and am still not over it nor have resolved it. I am not taking the initiative of speaking to her as I believe it is down to her, since I laid my cards on the table, but I know she is shy. I miss her terribly but I give it to the universe.
Right in the middle of this. I've blocked this person for months at a time, I've gone on dates with other women, all types of stuff...then at the end of the day, I still think of her. We always somehow rekindle, & come back to each other. Then when we're together none of that other stuff matters, it feels like I'm right where I'm supposed to be. It feels like nothing ever happened, even tho It's the most annoying this ever because my MIND tells me we're not compatible. But everything else loves when things are good. I wake up wondering what the lesson is, and how can I learn from it. I've felt this way since we first met, but she is not spiritually awaken like that, so I always feel crazy if I speak about it.
PS. I have been very happily alone for many years. Have had opportunities many times to date, relationships, etc. so I know it's not loneliness, neediness or that type of thing. All I know is I felt compelled to open my heart like never before, with this man. I couldn't NOT go for it!!! It still blows my mind!! Thx!! 💕
I feel this amazing connection to a person that’s passed away couple years ago... never met him, but I have been feeling this urge to explore who he was. I can feel it in my bones that I must have met him in a different plane of existence or whatever, its so overwhelming but it feels right as I as see him as part of me. I can’t explain why but I’m going to find out.
This brought tears to my eyes. It just felt so good to be acknowledged like this. I want to give you the biggest hug and acknowledge you as a truly empowered woman. I have experienced so much judgment. Thank you for being you! I've embraced this because I recognized the red flags from the start, but also recognized the purification happening within. It is magical :) and I love that's the 'label' you chose
I am experiencing this myself. I cant explain it better ms susan. I am drawn to someone which i dont even know why. In the process i discover alot about myself and unlock alot of achievements. I dont know when i will stop drawing to this person tho. I feel there is something that i needed to do with this person. Maybe help or maybe something else. However. I will be frank. It is tiring and frustrating at times not knowing why you are so drawn to this person. (Pls advise)
Thank you. It was driving me absolutely nuts as to why since it didn’t make sense and I’m now left with a hole in my heart. I thought I had more common sense and that I had been thru enuf where I was wise and wouldn’t be going down that road again. However, this connection hit me so hard that it helped me to start breaking some chains of behavior and maybe that was the whole reason for it. I guess down the road it will make more sense when time has passed and I can look back.
He’s no longer in my life but I will look for him in every person I meet. I wish it weren’t like that because I know it’s not fair to the next or myself. But when I was with him, nothing else existed. When I look at pictures and videos and watch his eyes, there’s just so much depth and soul. He’s so beautiful and I carry his presence with me permanently. I wish I could let it go so bad but I’m so lucky have been able to experience a connection like that at least once in my life.
Experiencing this EXACT feeling right now with a guy - and we haven't actually met yet! - that makes it even more crazy for me to comprehend! I cannot explain why I am so drawn to him, I feel like we have an invisible cord between us. But I'm really hoping that he will be a blessing in my life and not just a lesson. So while I LOVED the insight you provided in your video, I really hope it's not true for this guy and that he'll be in my life for a long time...
Thank you so much for your reply :-) He has already done so much for me and he doesn't even know it. He has awoken a part of me that I felt had been sleeping for years. Because of him I have a different view on my life, I'm eating healthy again, exercising, no longer depressed or exhausted and I have a renewed focus on my goals and business. I hope that I will also be able to positively impact his life somehow :-)
Oh my. Word for word, I am going through this exact same situation. I don’t even know the guy but I felt a connection I cannot explain. I’m so drawn to him and something even feels familiar about him. I know we have never met before. He has positively impacted my life. He’s inspired me to be more goal orientated again, to be healthy and happy. I just can’t explain it. I wish he could know how much he helped me x
I had this for 10 years for my first love. Nothing ever came from it. A piece of my heart will always feel something for them. They even felt a pull, but avoided me like crazy because they liked someone else
Ahhhhh. This is me. I needed to hear this. I’ve been listening to a lot of your videos and it’s because you highlight the importance of trusting yourself. I’ll be fine.
@SusanWinter I want to only thank you. Your videos and unique insight into things have helped me to make sense of my last experience, give myself the closure that I needed and begin to heal. This video in particular and your video about "the gift" that we receive from a relationship after is over, came at the perfect time for me. I've been single for some years now, but happy and content (not in a bitter way), and at the beginning of the summer I met this man. On our first date he told me straight away that he just recently separated from his wife (2 months) and that they had been married for 10 years. I understood, without him saying it, that he was the partner that got rejected. I could feel his pain and need for affection and I could perfectly see that it was a very recent separation. But there was something about him that made me feel like we had something very unique to give to one another. At the beginning I thought that it was me who would be the person giving him that gift, I thought that I was the one who was put on his path to help him (I thought that his experience with me would either make his wife wake up and they would get back together, or that his relationship with me would be the first step to him to start his new life without her). But I was surprised. Our relationship was the first that I ever had in which I felt truly cherished, treasured and taken care of. It was sweet and very intimate. I felt for him, he introduced me to his friends and made public his separation and we were making plans for trips and stuff to do... and shortly his wife woke up and asked him to come back. Thanks to your videos now I understand that is irrelevant whether those moments or feelings "were true" for him or not, the relevant thing is that they were true to me. The very fact that I discovered that form of love, that I could feel it, means that I have that capacity inside of me, that that love comes from within me, and furthermore I discovered that that is the type of relationship that I want to have. When he told me he would give his wife another chance he was crying, and I told him I wished him well and thank him. It's been almost two months from that, and I have no idea how they are doing or what the future is gonna bring to them, but I know that, as for me, he made me a great favour, and I am really thankful for that.
I feel like this video was aimed at me Susan. I’m currently going through the same thing with my close friend. Everyone (my family and other friends) say I’m crazy for still talking and hanging out with her. But something inside of me just doesn’t want to let her go. There is an unbelievable attraction between us both that I have struggled to find since with another person. When I’m with her I’m in love. Something is compelling me to not give up with her and stick it out. She is a very troubled person (suffers with mental illness) however and I see so many red flags but I continue to want to know her and be involved in her life. I’m unsure what will come of my relationship with her...but I hope it blossoms into love and that she can see I have been by her side the entire time xx
This is simply amazing. I loved how you explained this. Definitely magic occurs when you are almost outside of yourself. For instance with a person... there seems to be a cosmic connection that you have to explore. Amazing video. Really needed to hear this right now. Thank you so much. Will trust the jorney and growth of things more.
Hi Sarah. It's a strong urge for whcih there's no rational explanation. I really believe it's the pice of our puzzle that's missing. It's not about the person. It's what the person catalyses in our life.
I need to hear this podcast twice!! can’t believe your explanation of this crazy encounter, it feels right yet it’s felt wrong! I completely ignore my morals believes to date this person, it’s felt like I know him all my life and the connection and chemistry was insane! Can’t explain it, I am trying to freeze myself from it but he’s constantly on my mind obsessively, it’s mad! I have just immense myself in meditation and self healing to draw myself out of it! God help me. Good luck all. ❤️😉 Thank you Susan for you enlighten. 🙏🏽❤️
Susan, you always find right topic exactly when I was asking myself why I'm I feeling this way about a very special person to me (she was my professor of english at college and I know for a fact she isn't married and she is single). I know in my mind that there will be probably million obstacles on a way and yet I'm willing to admit my feelings toward her in near future. Maybe in the end I'll end up heartbroken and it won't work out but I'll know that I've given my best to her, plus I'll have to take all my will to get over my shyness. Thank you again Susan for this inspiring video.
You are correctly named, "Lionheart." It takes courage to walk into an unknown fate. But it's the mark of brave adventurers who seek a grand prize. If you feel a true urging, there may be far more than romance that will occur. Perhaps your feelings will lead you to a creative outlet that finds your true voice, a career, attitude, philosophy... or even meeting someone special in this lady's sphere. Best wishes on your journey. Thank you for the wonderful note.
Thank you Susan. I was thinking if you ever planned to do a video about misfits (as I feel like being one). Back at college and high school I had some friends but I've broke contacts with them as I found their ways of treating others and especially the way they talked about women disrespectful. I thought that at workplace I would find friends maybe as they're older and more evolved but boy was I wrong; maybe I can say they were even more vulgar toward women than younger people were. I seriously can't stand being in any way involved with groups of people that don't respect women or have close minded opinion about freedom of humans. I seriously feel more happy being one of a kind and not belonging to any group even if that means I'm alone than to change my opinions and "downgrade" my ways of thinking. Anyhow thank you for making this videos Susan, they're inspiring.
Lionheart07, I have a quote for you to consider. It's something I found myself saying many times to people and I believe it will resonate with you: "I won't be less, just because you can't be more." This concept resonates with those of us who values our principles. Here's a video on this topic: th-cam.com/video/2nvCJ2jhY6I/w-d-xo.html
Wow, that is a great quote Susan, I'll watch the video also. I find that a lot of times I felt left out because I was on higher level spiritually and mentally (not that I'm a snob). Yes you're right about values and principles I have high standards. I consider myself having hsp personality (highly sensitive personality) having greater empathy toward fellow human beings and being more aware about environment around me. I'm sure you understand a lot of this characteristics, as you stated once you were a shy person also.
Wow incredible that we somehow find ourselves in similar situations we can’t explain. Thanks for this as to know I’m not alone is great relieve, I too am in a situation where I met this woman 9 moths ago and don’t understand why I am so drawn to her. She is struggling with emotional and physical issues but despite all that I feel compelled to help. She is deep down inside an amazing woman. Take care everyone and thank you Susan
You are completely right but with such a magical experience it's extremely devastating when it ends. Although there were some powerful takeaways and things that I've learned and will carry with me....but it is the worst heartbreak when it's over.
It happend to me a year a go and anytime i think I'll never see him again he somehow vomes back into my life. And there's not rational reason for it and after all the drama and red flags. I still don't understand the connection and why is it so strong.
Thank you for helping me to understand that I wasn't going crazy by experiencing this wonderful yet perplexing phenomenon you nailed it 🤯. I've chosen to exit with grace. Thank you again, I loved it. (also loving everything is part of my pathology).
I had this recently. I couldn't put my finger on it but there was just something about this woman that I was so drawn to. Deep down I knew that she wasn't right for me, I just knew it, but I pursued it anyway. The real fascinating part was that she said the same thing. There was just something about me she was so drawn to. We gave it a shot. It was often amazing and I had some of the best times in my life with her but it was super inconsistent, confusing and my anxiety was peaking multiple times a week. Of course it didn't work out at all. Yet I still feel drawn to her. I never found the answer to what it was I was drawn to. Even though it ended quite badly, both of us did and said a lot of immature things and we will never speak again, I still feel drawn to her. I think about her often. Maybe the part of me that just needs to know why. Why am I so drawn to her. And why was she so drawn to me. Sadly I will probably never know but I suspect I will wonder from time to time as my life goes on, what was it about her, what was that something she had.
I know this comment is old. Maybe you two were soulmates or at least connected by the soul maybe from the past. If you both grew , learn the lessons maybe it could have worked out.
Oh so true for me, for two yrs! And i know with every cell of my being that this a extremely magical, meant to be, written in the stars. I knew from the first moment and till now this "meeting", is so not the usual, is very intriguing, is soooo beautiful and so not possible and yet is happening. I believe there definitely is more to this that is beyond deep. Thanku Susan for clarity
Yes, yes, yes, totally resonates. There is a big age gap between me and my person of interest but I just cannot move on. It's driving me crazy and taking over much of my thoughts and feelings. You've clarified that it's not just obsession, desperation, craziness or midlife crisis etc. It's a genuine attraction which feels spiritual. I need to talk to my person about this, as there is little communication at present. Your video is so useful for me now. I feel less alone now. Thank you.
Wonderful video, thank you Susan! It really speaks to me now because I'm currently going through this, and it has only happened this one time in my life. Nothing can come of it, so I'm trying to figure out the lesson I need to learn from the experience.
Thank you Susan, experiencing right now. The justifying to myself. I am self aware, logical, rational, independent. But I'm so compelled to make contact. And care about him. Thank you again. I will trust myself.
This is happening to me as we speak. It is crazy awesome. This person had a dream of us (not sexual) recently and, where before she barely spoke, she now is totally different. It's been six years until the awakening. You didn't use the term "soulmate". Thanks.
OMG!!!!!! YOU HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE FREAKING COFFEN. Can’t freaking get this girl off my mind but there are a million red flags but I still want her........but she doesn’t want me.
So how do I let go of this feeling. It’s been three years. He’s moved to a new city this month, starting a new life and I still can’t let go. It’s Slowly killing my peace and my soul . I’m tired. I just want this feeling to be gone.
So sorry. It's painful and not everyone understands some of these feelings. Pray for them to have a good life. I know I have tears in my eyes for you as I write this. Take care
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Finally someone understands . . . Feel like I’m losing my mind. Omg
😂😂😂😂😂
Me too. I can't get him off my damn mind!!
I can’t take it either. 😂
Me too omg🥲🥲
Omg I'm literally going through this now. I've been questioning my own sanity.
He's always on my mind even in my dreams
same here, it started right the very first day i meet him
But his not the one. :)
I forgot to mention that all the things i have dream of him is unpleasant.
And you always need bath after those dreams 😜
Lol
Sometimes that magical feeling is anxiety telling you to run.
Lol Truth ! 😂😝
🤣😩😩 very true
Sorry but maybe you are talking about another feeling? because anxiety is a parasite feeling that one should not listen sorry
Sometimes it's not
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Very beautifully explained phenomenon. Not many people experience this in their lifetime. I am one of the few who have had such a person in my life. Inspite of all the red flags, inspite of his unworthiness, i knew he was bringing me out of zombee-ism and the catalyst to push me towards a better future. Yes hes still around and boy its a rollercoaster of a ride. Inspite of the craziness I know from my heart that hes part of the bigger puzzle, which will unfold itself very soon. The universe has its ways of driving us nuts on the way to our destiny. ❤
I'm pleased to read your commentary. Life is far wiser than we are. YOU're highly evolved and realize this man is not only a catalyst but a piece of your grand puzzle. The taunting part is that we fall for the catalyst. After all, they brought us the ah-ha realizations. It's so very tempting. And they come is an unbelievable package. The trick to this ride is to be able to be present, absorb, learn and release. Thank you for your fantastic share. Happy to have you in my YT family, piakool.
Oooo yes, me too! Mine helped me out of my worst bout of depression and helped me care about living again. He also (most likely inadvertently) put a mirror up to my bad habits and helped me to overcome some deep set insecurities. But he also has his set of insecurities and "flaws," as he says.
So glad you met a catalyst and are on your way to greater things!
What you just said is exactly what I have been going through. I saw red flags but he brought me out of "zombie-sim". I totally get what you are saying there. I too am on a roller coaster ride and it is crazy at times. But he is the one who has helped me see things in a different light . No matter what becomes of he and I I shall always be thankful that he was in my life. And it was and is magic and shall always be because with him I became stronger and loved deeper. I wish you all the very best in life's journey.
I think this is what is known as Twin Flames in other circles. I have been involved in something like this but the problem is he got spooked so I dont know what will happen. It is something that is becoming more common as the frequency of the earth increases.
That is the healthier approach.
I just have to tell you that in India there is beautiful saying about love - love is like an ocean of fire and the only way to cross it by drowning . the love is a thing that happens , we can not make it happen , coz its like unpredictive . People think its chemicals in the brain, but its much higher than that
That's a beautiful saying, Valor. Thank you for sharing this. Very powerful.
True. It is uncontrollable. Thank god for that.
Ye ishq nahi asaan ye samajh lijye,
Ik aag ka dariya hai aur doob ke jaana hai :)
Ever shed a tear because of a relationship like this? That's when you've realized an essential Truth. Thank You!
Yyuuppp
whats the truth
I think the truth may be that we still have ability to love, care for someone on a certain level because often the effects are not so obvious?
This experience is so bittersweet. I was ecstatic to find I could still feel love and a deep connection with someone after many heartaches. But, yet I knew it was a fleeting moment in my life and she would be gone. So in those moments together I gave all and appreciated every minute. I think we both knew it could not last, but everything in the universe conspired to bring us together. As long as you don’t risk more than you can afford to lose, you can deal with the void of separation from them. They are always in your heart though and you learned something about life and love that money can’t buy and nobody can teach you.
Second simpest comment of my night 🥱
Everything you said... all of it, is exactly what I'm experiencing. I've asked myself what the hell is wrong with me? I'm logical, grounded, and intelligent, and yet here I am being sucked in by the most irrational situation I've found myself in... and that's saying a lot considering some of the whoppers I went through in my younger years. I'm aggravated with myself, but I just can't shake him off. There's absolutely no foreseeable future or possibility that a relationship could ever happen and I don't visualize myself in one with him either, but I'm so drawn in to this situation that makes no sense. We haven't even communicated in over a month because I purposely chose to avoid any further temptation and he needed space to deal with his issues, yet the feelings are still intense. I want to forget about him and treat him as if he'd just been some meaningless fling, but I'd be lying to myself. What kind of sorcery is this??
How has it been so far?
@@1957346 Well, I decided to let it go and focus on something else. Several months later, he reached out to me again. The spark is still there, but I was able to control my emotions. I had fun talking to him for a day or two and then just dropped it. He's in the background, but I've moved on.
@@karinar.8259 Yeah i feel you, same here, its like that attraction you have for that person will never go away lol, maybe you stop seen them and forget about them but once you see them again is like damnn i still feel attracted to that person still!
I feel like what you're doing is exactly what my the other person is doing towards me. I just want her,I do but I dont know why,it doesn't even make sense we haven't even talked about in 3 years since she blocked me. There's no logical, physical or emotional background to go to her or her to me,it's completely illogical,and yet I just want her,to be with her. Loving her especially.
Me exactly
This was me 6 months ago, never understood my "pull" for her knowing she was dysfunctional but "something" kept pulling me in. I knew we didn't have any future and now she is gone, but the kind of "awareness" (about myself) she gave me is unprecedented. In a way, I am thankful to her. Thanks Susan for yet another cool video :) Much appreciated.
Well said sir.. Exactly similar incident has happened with me
@@harveydentcanwetrusthim8103 same omg
What she is gone
i am drawn to narcissists. i wish i could make it stop. so i stopped dating. covid helped. esp covert narcs. they draw you in for sure. i dont recommended it.
omg .... that made me cry
SPOT ON with me right now!! I’m drawn to her, and somehow even if I don’t contact or check on her for a week, I know how she feels, even what she does. Walked by her job the other day (cause it’s next to a laundromat I go to) and I just knew and felt that she took the day off, and she DID. One day, I knew she was down about something and I was spot on. I had a dream one day that something bad happened at her work place and so I prayed on it. Next day she tells me that there was an incident at her job where the police had to be called on someone. Even currently she’s going through something cause I felt it and currently feel it and it was confirmed yesterday. Even when we’re together we’re just so perfect... and despite our possible flaws, I want to explore and be with her
OMG! This is exactly me right now!!! Thank you so much for the validation Susan to know that I'm not crazy, needy, or love-sick. I'm on an amazing but difficult journey of Ascension and self-discovery. This makes the road a little easier to travel. 💖
You're not crazy. Trust yourself. Just release who they "have to be" for you and focus on the lessons learned and gifts revealed.
Susan Winter Thanks so much. That makes alot of sense. I have been working on detachment throughout all of my relationships. I will definitely keep your words in mind when I'm thinking about this particular person as I try to find more balance to my life.
I need help explaining this a lot more
I need to figured out why I like her for no reason
This needed to be said because it is so true! I worked with this guy that played guitar...he's a music therapist. I was WOWED the moment I heard him play..the more I got to learn about him the more I was inspired. I am so happy I met him and felt drawn to him from the very first time. Knew he crossed my path for a reason! Now, I've been playing guitar for over a year now and it has been such a GREAT journey. Learning guitar has helped me grow and has helped my soul. Not stopping there. Sometimes you meet people and they help change your life for the better!!
I am in this situation right now. I was quite content with my life, am sensible and down to earth and wasn't looking for any male involvement in it when all of a sudden this man crossed my path. He had been around but I hadn't actually noticed him, then one day I just casually spoke to him and from that moment on I was utterly captivated. I just do not know or understand what happened or why, but the situation is miserable as I estimate I am at least 20 years older than he is. I know he is not married but understand he has a girlfriend. There could never be a happy ending so I have done the best I can to ensure our paths do not cross again but something magical has gone from my life.
What happened to your story?
I had this feeling only once, I looked in the eyes 👀 of the person and felt connected. It was a magical moment. For some reason I thought he was my soulmate. I should have trusted my self and not my fear!
Why? What happened when you trusted your fear? And what was your fear?
@@DiamondsRexpensive I am an overthinker, I guess that is my worst enemy. My fear was for what I thought to be just something in my imagination, I don’t trust people easily and I keep testing them this is what I did with this person, but enough is enough and after a while he literally told me that I am not putting any effort and that he saw that our connection was one sided. Not true because I liked him and probably still do.
Been in one of these relationships and the one after it was my soulmate. I needed to go through it to grow and be ready for the real thing.
Captain Ford did you and your soulmate have a similar connection ?
@@devyn5174 I wonder ?
How is it going?
I am moving on from a relationship that I believe was the type you described. It revealed insecurities that I thought I was hiding, and catapulted me back into therapy. I feel very excited about my self development and transformation and I feel this relationship sparked that.
Thank you for putting this idea into words.
This happened to me and to this day, I still love this man like crazy and we have been back and forth and through hell together and because of each other, but in my gut and in his as well, we are always drawn to each other and always come back to each other no matter how much time has passed with no contact. I know what I had to learn and how I needed to grow because of him and why the connection and yet, I still feel that pull towards him and I cannot explain why.
how come you guys aren't together then?
@@addagirl3487 we aren't meant to be together. He was my lesson, the hardest lesson of my life. I allowed him to destroy me so that I could change. He disrespected me, treated me like shit and I stayed, allowed and even fought for more. We teach people how to treat us, by the way we treat ourselves. If we do not respect ourselves, how can anyone else respect us. If we do not love ourselves, how can anyone else love us. I had to get brutally honest and look at ME and if I wanted more from others, then I needed to give it to myself first. I had to learn where it all came from, why I treated myself like shit....in doing so, I learned new belief systems and thought processes that are actually truth, instead of the crap I was hiding behind and protecting myself from. Once I did that, my true love came into my life. I finally did it right and it took me 4 years to shed that old me and fix it. Now I have the me I'm proud of, my kids are proud of me and their lives are changing because now I broke the family history of this pattern.
@@danamiller5574 what you are describing is exactly how he treats me and I still feel drawn to him. I just want to stop feeling like this. How did you manage to recover? He destroyed me that now I am on medication because of him.
@@callista172 ask yourself this: "is he worth it? And why did I let another human destroy me? Why do I hate myself? Why do I not protect myself?"
@@DiamondsRexpensive I am trying to remind myself how bad he treated me because my logical mind knows he's bad for me but I'm fighting with myself. I don't deserve this and he doesn't deserve me.
I did it for 9 month....
We separated 1 and a half month ago.
As you said: is magical!
It burns you so you can rebirth.
It awakens you...
Is painful, is EXTREMELY PAINFUL but is a worthy pain.
Wish you all the best and just ENJOY the relationship! Every breath next to that person ENJOY it!
Is your TWIN FLAME! But you don't know that yet...
Thank you for sharing, Laura!
This was seriously one of the most illuminating videos of yours I've ever seen. I could cry. Thank you Susan. I've never felt the same pull towards a person that I couldn't explain until recently and I have no idea where it will lead and i see the red flags. But I think that I no matter what happens, pursuing it will provide me with a piece of the puzzle for the future.
Thanks again
How did this turn out?
I felt like she was talking about me. Just not sure how this journey is so magical. However it was nice to hear.
You are so right, but these lessons are always so painful! 💕🙏🙌
How so?
People come into my life for s reason. And sometimes they stay, and sometimes they go. But there is always a reason. And No loss 🙏❤️
This happened to me . I feel this young person’s energy . It is all around me and even dream about this person . I just can’t explain it.
Thank you so much for this. I am experiencing this right now with a guy I dated off and on for 2 years and some how we became serious with each other for the past year. I can't explain it, I can't explain why I'm so drawn to this man. The whole reason I found your channel is because I was looking for something to explain to me why I am going through what I am going through with him and why I stay. I am normally a track star when it comes to Red flags in a relationship, but not with him. Thank you so much, I have spent most of my day watching your videos and I came across this.
I am going through the same
It’s happened twice, just recently and a few years ago. Both lasted two months. I felt an extreme connection to both men. The first time I was just so relieved that I felt something for someone, as it had been such a long time. It was heartbreaking but I was happy. This time was similar. Like a reawakening of my ability to feel. There were red flags everywhere and he was honest about his shortcomings, but I stuck with it until the threat of damage was too much for me.
I literally tried for months to ignore this woman but I eventually cracked and started hanging out with her once I learned she quit working where I work. There was just something about her that I can't really explain. Yeah she's cute, unique, blah blah, but so were the other girls I rejected(even though I was attracted). I simply enjoy being single, but this woman was able to drag me to her with such ease. I think we're in the "maybe box", but it just fascinates me how I was drawn into her.
@@ScorpioGirl-ws8yh I don't know.
@@ScorpioGirl-ws8yh Yeah I was and still am drawn to her, and it's definitely physical but she has this weird aura as well. While we are friends now, we don't treat each other as typical friends. Walking miles in the heat, spending many hours together, I pay for things then she pays for things. Or maybe my guy friends suck. LOL
How does one get rid of this? I know he’s not right for me. I don’t want him in my life, I keep staying busy, keep pushing him away, keep going forward but I just always feel his presence in the background. It’s exhausting. I don’t want this.
Hey it's been 3 years for this comment you haven't got answer here,but u could had figured it out until now can you tell me what can I do I'm in same situation
This was the most awful experience of my life. I felt something so strong for this person I can’t explain it. I couldn’t tell them, they left me in the end and I have anxiety issues now from the amount of pain I endured. Be careful, but I know you can’t stop it once you feel it and you can’t stop yourself from wanting them.
I was drawn to someone years back and it turned out to become unhealthy for me. Now I'm drawn to the same person. I domt want it to become unhealthy again. So the more I focus on me and the more I let go of the person the more stable tht I feel. Thank you for helping me feel okay about having these feelings.
A very amazing video of a "magical experience" that may defy logic, probably does defy logic but eyes wide open. The magic part is the key. Something inside you is touched and comes alive. You kind of play with matches knowing you may get burned and yet, you take the risk. Very astute explanation by Susan.
I met this guy in october and decided to make the first move and ended up embarrassing myself. I dont know anything about him till this day, but i feel such a connection with him like this energy between us and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO🧎♂️
Girl i have been there, never interacted , felt huge connection, i was in doubt the whole time.
@@aayeshaumair5098 I doubt it a lot, yet i still get tarot readings that hes gonna come in unexpectedly BUT its just unexplainable the feeling
@@iminthemoon Tarot won't do you any good. Just my experience/opinion.
You Articulated this very Unique Relationship Beautifully.
I have Never heard Anyone ever give Credence to that Experience.
It can be about the Evolutionary
Journey of One or Both People.
Trusting your Intuition as a Guide
is Vital.
Great Insight.
Omg! Spot on with my current situation. Have been drawn to this guy for years, not my "type" & there's no explanation. We finally decided to explore things about a month ago. We're having lots of fun together & we're having great sex but I have no idea if things will progress further. I find our time together extremely relaxing & comfortable. Most chill I've been in years. For once in my life I'm surprisingly able to focus on the here & now & not worry about the past or future. 😉👍
Mtntrio wish I could get to that point with mine.
Girlie I adore you!!! You are not playing to the ego when intuition is genuine. ❤️
This happened to me. She was my classmate. A few days before I talked to her for the first time, I already started to notice her. Then suddenly I met her accidentally on the way to our class. We exchanged a few words and then she sat near me. After the class ended I felt the irresistible impulse to invite her for a talk. So then I spent almost an hour just talking to her with a total exposure of myself. I was indeed drawn to her by magic. But it was also not long before I realised that she did not have the same feeling towards me at all. So I distanced from her and suffered from upset for months. However, what was amazing was she also motivated me to find where my once hidden dream lies on. So even though I know she has been a lost cause and only recently started to recover from this unfulfilled obsession, she had left so many precious things to me. Even for those tortures, they are worthwhile for they have trained me to be more self-reliant than ever.
I need this one. Hopefully he doesn't feel the same way. It will helpe to move on faster and rid him of this tug on my heart
Experiencing it right now.. we bump ways during the time i was in my depression.. we have same interest.. we have click.. just going with the flow since then.. enjoy every moment with him.. we chat.. we meet.. and he is bringing me much joy...
I’m glad I’m not alone! Thank you.
You are the best Susan. Your calm voice and wisdom is the best on youtube!
I really appreciate the way you make things so easily understood. I have watched this 5 times.It's very enlightening, especially for someone that's trying to get their life back together. Thanks again for another excellent video. Wishing you only the best Ms. Winters.
Love reading this, Cash!! Thank you. What a great comment to see on this page. I appreciate it.
Very intelligent take on it, Susan.
Its like a sign for me to find this video. Been searching for answers as to why Im completely drawn to this person when i was just transitioning myself into a new person and literally chose to not be in a relatioship for a long time after breaking up with one. Just like you said...the only way is to trust myself. Thank you for this.
I’m currently trying to recover from a relationship just like this. Red flags everywhere,, long distance, but we both agree we were absolutely destined to meet. I have learned, and am still learning, so many necessary lessons from this situation...lots of unresolved issues with my father, boundaries, how to communicate, etc. We lasted a year and I just don’t feel like we’re done even though we aren’t in contact. I’m suffering now but I’m convinced this was all meant to be.
My story too
Same here ❤️ Are you both together now?
He is 10 years younger and has a completely different culture and background to me and I cannot stop thinking about him. He is the purest colour of my thoughts.
It's happened to me with a married man. It wasn't even love. No I didn't feel any butterflies in my bellies, no my heart didn't skip a beat, no I didn't feel any sparks flying in the air. It was just pure bliss being around this person. And theres even no room for resentment or jealousy that he is married. I know we have no future in this relationship and it doesnt even bother me. I have my own path to go through and I wish him nothing but the best in his married life.
I get what she is saying. It's the mysterious ones who leave you wanting more even when you know you shouldn't pursue it you still want more.
I believe this is my situation right now
Ooh... I love that and totally agree.
I'm right at (what feels like) the end of one of those... just over 2 years in... red flags, betrayals, dishonesty, push pull, deflection, non-priority - I've experienced the lot!
In fact coming across you last month and watching a huge percentage of your videos has been amazing for me in terms of 'slapping' me awake, wising me up and helping me remember my freakin' amazing self!
I think that that crazy, inexplicable compulsion to stay has finally had its day and I've learned and grown in accordance with the deeper purpose of the experience - pain and joy both. I find myself in Gratitude for all of it (tho that's mixed with the human yucky stuff too of course)
I feel the timing of finding you was as Divine as the timing of first feeling that 'what the hell are you doing... oh no, you're gonna do it' thing with her. All part of the bigger plan I guess.
One of the main things for me has been the degree to which I now trust, and am willing to act on, my instincts - and that's a gift indeed.
Thank you Susan for sharing your wisdom, clarity and amazing presence with the world xx
Joel, thank you for your lovely message. Know that it is greatly appreciated!
Susan Winter You're welcome 😊❤
Wow You Brought Tears to My Eyes That Someone Understands God Bless you Susan
There is a gift greater than the relationship itself. That's what we need to keep in mind, even if we dont see a future with this person.
Hi Susan, thank you, finding your videos so very helpful. I've had this experience more than once, and more recently with a person whom I still think and obsess about and am wondering what that is about. I would say we had a lot in common and genuine affection, but also there were huge trust issues (on both sides). I wasn't playing games, but the intensity of the attraction made my behaviour erratic, I feel I did my best to communicate my sincere attraction and affection without freaking the person out, but in the end I felt they were too distracted or fearful to take initiative in the way I would want in a partner, and I withdrew out of self respect even though I was yearning to be with them ( and I believe they had similar feelings for me , but were shit scared- to be fair I was too, but tried to take more initiative). I met this person shortly after I started doing my codependency work and realise fairly swiftly that this person had a lot of codependent traits too and was like a mirror to me, so there were red flags but it didn't stop me falling in love. I miss just spending time with them and all the good things we shared but I feel I removed myself from an unworkable situation. Now to move on with my life...
^^ I posted this 5 months ago and am still not over it nor have resolved it. I am not taking the initiative of speaking to her as I believe it is down to her, since I laid my cards on the table, but I know she is shy. I miss her terribly but I give it to the universe.
Right in the middle of this. I've blocked this person for months at a time, I've gone on dates with other women, all types of stuff...then at the end of the day, I still think of her. We always somehow rekindle, & come back to each other. Then when we're together none of that other stuff matters, it feels like I'm right where I'm supposed to be. It feels like nothing ever happened, even tho It's the most annoying this ever because my MIND tells me we're not compatible. But everything else loves when things are good. I wake up wondering what the lesson is, and how can I learn from it. I've felt this way since we first met, but she is not spiritually awaken like that, so I always feel crazy if I speak about it.
PS. I have been very happily alone for many years. Have had opportunities many times to date, relationships, etc. so I know it's not loneliness, neediness or that type of thing. All I know is I felt compelled to open my heart like never before, with this man. I couldn't NOT go for it!!! It still blows my mind!! Thx!! 💕
I feel this amazing connection to a person that’s passed away couple years ago... never met him, but I have been feeling this urge to explore who he was. I can feel it in my bones that I must have met him in a different plane of existence or whatever, its so overwhelming but it feels right as I as see him as part of me. I can’t explain why but I’m going to find out.
I understand this completely. Thanks for being so honest.
Susan thank you for articulating this situation and giving validation to those experiencing. You called it perfectly.
This brought tears to my eyes. It just felt so good to be acknowledged like this. I want to give you the biggest hug and acknowledge you as a truly empowered woman. I have experienced so much judgment. Thank you for being you! I've embraced this because I recognized the red flags from the start, but also recognized the purification happening within. It is magical :) and I love that's the 'label' you chose
I am experiencing this myself. I cant explain it better ms susan. I am drawn to someone which i dont even know why. In the process i discover alot about myself and unlock alot of achievements. I dont know when i will stop drawing to this person tho. I feel there is something that i needed to do with this person. Maybe help or maybe something else.
However. I will be frank. It is tiring and frustrating at times not knowing why you are so drawn to this person. (Pls advise)
OMG！ exactly
You get it!!!!!!! There can be meaning in connections that don't fit within the construct of a perceivable future with someone.
Can you elaborate on your sentence please?
Thank you. It was driving me absolutely nuts as to why since it didn’t make sense and I’m now left with a hole in my heart. I thought I had more common sense and that I had been thru enuf where I was wise and wouldn’t be going down that road again. However, this connection hit me so hard that it helped me to start breaking some chains of behavior and maybe that was the whole reason for it. I guess down the road it will make more sense when time has passed and I can look back.
He’s no longer in my life but I will look for him in every person I meet. I wish it weren’t like that because I know it’s not fair to the next or myself. But when I was with him, nothing else existed. When I look at pictures and videos and watch his eyes, there’s just so much depth and soul. He’s so beautiful and I carry his presence with me permanently. I wish I could let it go so bad but I’m so lucky have been able to experience a connection like that at least once in my life.
Experiencing this EXACT feeling right now with a guy - and we haven't actually met yet! - that makes it even more crazy for me to comprehend! I cannot explain why I am so drawn to him, I feel like we have an invisible cord between us. But I'm really hoping that he will be a blessing in my life and not just a lesson. So while I LOVED the insight you provided in your video, I really hope it's not true for this guy and that he'll be in my life for a long time...
You will find out. And remember- it's not about him. It's about what gets uncovered, reveals or made clear within yourself.
Thank you so much for your reply :-) He has already done so much for me and he doesn't even know it. He has awoken a part of me that I felt had been sleeping for years. Because of him I have a different view on my life, I'm eating healthy again, exercising, no longer depressed or exhausted and I have a renewed focus on my goals and business. I hope that I will also be able to positively impact his life somehow :-)
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Susan Winter, is it possible that could be a twin flame?
Oh my. Word for word, I am going through this exact same situation. I don’t even know the guy but I felt a connection I cannot explain. I’m so drawn to him and something even feels familiar about him. I know we have never met before. He has positively impacted my life. He’s inspired me to be more goal orientated again, to be healthy and happy. I just can’t explain it. I wish he could know how much he helped me x
I had this for 10 years for my first love.
Nothing ever came from it. A piece of my heart will always feel something for them. They even felt a pull, but avoided me like crazy because they liked someone else
Ahhhhh. This is me. I needed to hear this. I’ve been listening to a lot of your videos and it’s because you highlight the importance of trusting yourself. I’ll be fine.
@SusanWinter I want to only thank you. Your videos and unique insight into things have helped me to make sense of my last experience, give myself the closure that I needed and begin to heal. This video in particular and your video about "the gift" that we receive from a relationship after is over, came at the perfect time for me. I've been single for some years now, but happy and content (not in a bitter way), and at the beginning of the summer I met this man. On our first date he told me straight away that he just recently separated from his wife (2 months) and that they had been married for 10 years. I understood, without him saying it, that he was the partner that got rejected. I could feel his pain and need for affection and I could perfectly see that it was a very recent separation. But there was something about him that made me feel like we had something very unique to give to one another. At the beginning I thought that it was me who would be the person giving him that gift, I thought that I was the one who was put on his path to help him (I thought that his experience with me would either make his wife wake up and they would get back together, or that his relationship with me would be the first step to him to start his new life without her). But I was surprised. Our relationship was the first that I ever had in which I felt truly cherished, treasured and taken care of. It was sweet and very intimate. I felt for him, he introduced me to his friends and made public his separation and we were making plans for trips and stuff to do... and shortly his wife woke up and asked him to come back. Thanks to your videos now I understand that is irrelevant whether those moments or feelings "were true" for him or not, the relevant thing is that they were true to me. The very fact that I discovered that form of love, that I could feel it, means that I have that capacity inside of me, that that love comes from within me, and furthermore I discovered that that is the type of relationship that I want to have. When he told me he would give his wife another chance he was crying, and I told him I wished him well and thank him. It's been almost two months from that, and I have no idea how they are doing or what the future is gonna bring to them, but I know that, as for me, he made me a great favour, and I am really thankful for that.
I am so glad I saw this video! It resonates with me and what great timing indeed.
Excellent, Renuka. Glad to hear this.
It was a lesson... had to be teached... glad it was done.. now moved on with the wisdom❤️
Literally described my situation and thoughts verbatim, I am BLOWN away.
Love how you get straight to the point
How amazing!! This is exactly where I am!! It makes no real sense. But. I know it'll be o.k. Thank you, so much!!
I need to understand more about this. All of your videos show up at just the right time, but this is the one is really grabbing my attention.
I love this lady.....she knows her stuff!!
THANK YOU Rhonda!
Oh my god, yes!! Your best video yet, spot on! Reading the comments; so I'm not the only one experiencing this!!?? Thank you!
THIS IS LITERALLY MY CIRCUMSTANCE! Its a little scary tbh how this is relating to my life right now. I needed this.
I feel like this video was aimed at me Susan. I’m currently going through the same thing with my close friend. Everyone (my family and other friends) say I’m crazy for still talking and hanging out with her. But something inside of me just doesn’t want to let her go. There is an unbelievable attraction between us both that I have struggled to find since with another person. When I’m with her I’m in love. Something is compelling me to not give up with her and stick it out. She is a very troubled person (suffers with mental illness) however and I see so many red flags but I continue to want to know her and be involved in her life. I’m unsure what will come of my relationship with her...but I hope it blossoms into love and that she can see I have been by her side the entire time xx
This is simply amazing. I loved how you explained this. Definitely magic occurs when you are almost outside of yourself. For instance with a person... there seems to be a cosmic connection that you have to explore. Amazing video. Really needed to hear this right now. Thank you so much. Will trust the jorney and growth of things more.
Hi Sarah. It's a strong urge for whcih there's no rational explanation. I really believe it's the pice of our puzzle that's missing. It's not about the person. It's what the person catalyses in our life.
I need to hear this podcast twice!! can’t believe your explanation of this crazy encounter, it feels right yet it’s felt wrong! I completely ignore my morals believes to date this person, it’s felt like I know him all my life and the connection and chemistry was insane! Can’t explain it, I am trying to freeze myself from it but he’s constantly on my mind obsessively, it’s mad! I have just immense myself in meditation and self healing to draw myself out of it! God help me. Good luck all. ❤️😉 Thank you Susan for you enlighten. 🙏🏽❤️
Susan, you always find right topic exactly when I was asking myself why I'm I feeling this way about a very special person to me (she was my professor of english at college and I know for a fact she isn't married and she is single). I know in my mind that there will be probably million obstacles on a way and yet I'm willing to admit my feelings toward her in near future. Maybe in the end I'll end up heartbroken and it won't work out but I'll know that I've given my best to her, plus I'll have to take all my will to get over my shyness. Thank you again Susan for this inspiring video.
You are correctly named, "Lionheart." It takes courage to walk into an unknown fate. But it's the mark of brave adventurers who seek a grand prize. If you feel a true urging, there may be far more than romance that will occur. Perhaps your feelings will lead you to a creative outlet that finds your true voice, a career, attitude, philosophy... or even meeting someone special in this lady's sphere. Best wishes on your journey. Thank you for the wonderful note.
Thank you Susan. I was thinking if you ever planned to do a video about misfits (as I feel like being one). Back at college and high school I had some friends but I've broke contacts with them as I found their ways of treating others and especially the way they talked about women disrespectful. I thought that at workplace I would find friends maybe as they're older and more evolved but boy was I wrong; maybe I can say they were even more vulgar toward women than younger people were. I seriously can't stand being in any way involved with groups of people that don't respect women or have close minded opinion about freedom of humans. I seriously feel more happy being one of a kind and not belonging to any group even if that means I'm alone than to change my opinions and "downgrade" my ways of thinking. Anyhow thank you for making this videos Susan, they're inspiring.
Lionheart07, I have a quote for you to consider. It's something I found myself saying many times to people and I believe it will resonate with you: "I won't be less, just because you can't be more." This concept resonates with those of us who values our principles. Here's a video on this topic: th-cam.com/video/2nvCJ2jhY6I/w-d-xo.html
Wow, that is a great quote Susan, I'll watch the video also. I find that a lot of times I felt left out because I was on higher level spiritually and mentally (not that I'm a snob). Yes you're right about values and principles I have high standards. I consider myself having hsp personality (highly sensitive personality) having greater empathy toward fellow human beings and being more aware about environment around me. I'm sure you understand a lot of this characteristics, as you stated once you were a shy person also.
Best of happiness and Good luck to you
I've never had this energy with anyone that it freaked us both out so we are staying away from each other 🙈
One love wow that's what I'm experiencing so powerful and amazing I have to stop, take a breath and go wow is this real 🌹🌹🌹🌹
So how did it go did u stay away
Wow incredible that we somehow find ourselves in similar situations we can’t explain. Thanks for this as to know I’m not alone is great relieve, I too am in a situation where I met this woman 9 moths ago and don’t understand why I am so drawn to her. She is struggling with emotional and physical issues but despite all that I feel compelled to help. She is deep down inside an amazing woman. Take care everyone and thank you Susan
You are completely right but with such a magical experience it's extremely devastating when it ends. Although there were some powerful takeaways and things that I've learned and will carry with me....but it is the worst heartbreak when it's over.
Wow, this recently just happened to me. Crazy
I love the synchronicity. Thanks for your note Chris
It happend to me a year a go and anytime i think I'll never see him again he somehow vomes back into my life. And there's not rational reason for it and after all the drama and red flags. I still don't understand the connection and why is it so strong.
chris chambers it has just happen to me
Lila Alejandra you’re just inlove
I always go back to Susan Winter. The language she chooses to use is always on point. Thank you for the gentle reminders. ❤️
Thank you for helping me to understand that I wasn't going crazy by experiencing this wonderful yet perplexing phenomenon you nailed it 🤯. I've chosen to exit with grace. Thank you again, I loved it. (also loving everything is part of my pathology).
I had this recently. I couldn't put my finger on it but there was just something about this woman that I was so drawn to. Deep down I knew that she wasn't right for me, I just knew it, but I pursued it anyway. The real fascinating part was that she said the same thing. There was just something about me she was so drawn to. We gave it a shot. It was often amazing and I had some of the best times in my life with her but it was super inconsistent, confusing and my anxiety was peaking multiple times a week. Of course it didn't work out at all. Yet I still feel drawn to her. I never found the answer to what it was I was drawn to. Even though it ended quite badly, both of us did and said a lot of immature things and we will never speak again, I still feel drawn to her. I think about her often. Maybe the part of me that just needs to know why. Why am I so drawn to her. And why was she so drawn to me. Sadly I will probably never know but I suspect I will wonder from time to time as my life goes on, what was it about her, what was that something she had.
That woman is also me. I’m drawn to this man. No logic at all. Take my word for it. If you haven’t already, you will hear from her again
I know this comment is old. Maybe you two were soulmates or at least connected by the soul maybe from the past. If you both grew , learn the lessons maybe it could have worked out.
Thank you for explaining what I've been trying to figure out for months.
Oh so true for me, for two yrs! And i know with every cell of my being that this a extremely magical, meant to be, written in the stars.
I knew from the first moment and till now this "meeting", is so not the usual, is very intriguing, is soooo beautiful and so not possible and yet is happening. I believe there definitely is more to this that is beyond deep. Thanku Susan for clarity
Yes, yes, yes, totally resonates. There is a big age gap between me and my person of interest but I just cannot move on. It's driving me crazy and taking over much of my thoughts and feelings. You've clarified that it's not just obsession, desperation, craziness or midlife crisis etc. It's a genuine attraction which feels spiritual. I need to talk to my person about this, as there is little communication at present. Your video is so useful for me now. I feel less alone now. Thank you.
Wonderful video, thank you Susan! It really speaks to me now because I'm currently going through this, and it has only happened this one time in my life. Nothing can come of it, so I'm trying to figure out the lesson I need to learn from the experience.
Can you love best man to engoy you
Never knew how much I needed to hear this until now ... this has been my exact situation.
Thank you for video 🙌🏻❤️
Yes we continue to interact over 47 years both drawn to each other with an intensity that’s beyond belief.
This is the only thing that’s made me feel better about this in months.
OGM, this is exactly what I need to hear NOW. Thank you so much! I am in love with you and your channel now! Keep up the good work! :)
I have listen to this atleast for more than 10x...... She is speaking to my current situation
OMG THIS is so on point I am speechless..................
WOW!!!
Thank you Susan, experiencing right now. The justifying to myself. I am self aware, logical, rational, independent. But I'm so compelled to make contact. And care about him. Thank you again. I will trust myself.
This is happening to me as we speak. It is crazy awesome. This person had a dream of us (not sexual) recently and, where before she barely spoke, she now is totally different. It's been six years until the awakening. You didn't use the term "soulmate". Thanks.
Susan your mind and spirit is absolutely mesmerizing! This is exactly what I am going thru !
OMG!!!!!! YOU HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE FREAKING COFFEN. Can’t freaking get this girl off my mind but there are a million red flags but I still want her........but she doesn’t want me.
Absolutely amazed by you you are a true angel.
Thanks Jennifer
So how do I let go of this feeling. It’s been three years. He’s moved to a new city this month, starting a new life and I still can’t let go. It’s Slowly killing my peace and my soul . I’m tired. I just want this feeling to be gone.
So sorry. It's painful and not everyone understands some of these feelings. Pray for them to have a good life. I know I have tears in my eyes for you as I write this. Take care
So sorry. I'm there myself - been there close to 5 years now.
Same doesn't seem right to me to be honest, left with no answers or no ending to it...
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@@paulacrowder7701 then you should write the end, the answer. For your own sake.
It was Susan !!!! I did exactly what you said ...don't look the messenger look for the message !!!
You mean let go and be with the feeling however much it breaks you?
Thank you!! I couldn't understand why I allowed that happen. I even tried to fight it. I have never done that in my life!!