COUSIN MARRIAGE in South India. Why?
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0:00 Introduction
01:39 Consanguineous marriages in the world
03:29 Wealth consolidation
05:41 Better spousal relationship
06:19 Dravidian culture
07:21 Restricted movement
08:05 Difference with Muslim community
08:34 Why aren't there cousin marriages in North India?
09:24 Impact of consanguineous marriages
10:44 Current Status of cousin marriage in South India
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Thinking about marrying cousins in our Assamese culture (Assam) is a sin.. It's a nightmare.. We treat cousins as our real brothers and sisters..
Absolutely right I'm also from assam
Same ...in North India also
Same here in Manipur
That's why 0.9 % in Assam. 0:10
Galat kar rhae aap bhi start kijiye cousin marriage prosperity ayegi
I am from West Bengal and here in Hindu family a brother or uncle is regarded as a' second father' and girls respect them as well and men also take care of them 😊 to think about marrying them is nothing but a nightmare and it's also ruined the beautiful relationship among cousins. We celebrate Bhai duj , Rakhsabandhan with love and respect with all cousins.
Haa vai thik...amio WB thekei
What about Satyajit Ray, he also married his first cousin.
@@Subhadwip-gq6vo If you have read about Ray's life , you would also learnt that his whole family members were against this marriage and Mrs Ray was also afraid of this awkward relationship but they were in love and were successful to convenience their families.....after all we could found exception in everywhere but that doesn't mean we support or accept the culture just because a famous personalities accept it ( I am a big fan of his film and literature but when I came to know about his marriage it was really weird feelings for me )
@@juinghosh1106 absolutely true. I am also against cousin marriage.
@Juin Ghosh U r absolutely right ..Very well said👍
I'm a kerala Christian. We consider cousins as our siblings. While studying in Chennai i had a classmate whose parents were uncle and niece. Though their marriage was happy, my classmate said she will never marry her relative. I think in current generation nobody wants to marry relatives.
who told you . Current generation also have this practice
@@Bacteria123 now a days it’s very rare
@@EvergreenMotivationalQuotes now a days it's very common ❤️😀
@@Bacteria123 is it?..but in kerala it’s decreasing….. because the new generation is not ready for that.
Before my marriage My husband and his first cousin entered into a Nikah due to parental pressure. However, the marriage did not take place. They ended their relationship six months after the Nikah, as they realized they couldn't see each other as life partners.
@@EvergreenMotivationalQuotes is it? It's not in entire Kerala , it is in your family only not in Kerala . My whole village is still continue to take relative cousin in another village
A fun fact : Arjun and Subhadra were cousins. Arjuna's mom and Subhadra's dad were siblings.
In South India the cousin you can marry has to be between bua and mama 's kids.
However, the numbers have greatly reduced due to biological defects such marriages can cause.
And in maharashtra it's common to marry bua's son 🍂
Arjuna's mom Kunti was the adopted daughter of King Kuntibhoj. So Kunti never shared a blood relation with vasudev.
@@utsavjha7673 Kunti was the daughter of Shurasena who was the cousin of Kuntibhoj (her adopted father) , so there is blood relation.
This is also common in gujrat in ahir community yadav of gujrat can marry to bua or mama son or daughter . But not with cousins like father brother son or daughter or mother sister son or daughter. They have been called brother and sister but mama and bua son or daughter not called brother or sister the marriage can be done if family and girl and boy are ok
South people also only marry in father's sister son or mother brother son not marry mom sister son or daughter and father brother son or daughter and it's most common 80s and 90s people but now a days people not interested to marry in close relative like mom's brother son or daughter like that because one is genetic issue and another thing now a days children's are mold to dislike relative marriage .
Mohak chooses less controversial issues and chooses more issues which we really need to know deeply that's why I like Mohak's channel. Thank you very much for bringing such videos continuously.
@Grease Pencil seems to me so
Muslims majorly marry their cousins..
Sahi bola bhai main bhi
💯
Idk Incest seems pretty controversial
My own father and mother are cousins from the mother side and got married just because my mother had a government job :) and from my childhood I've seen a hell of fights between them that my and my siblings' mental well being is far from okay. I am highly prone to diseases and frequently on meds. I've found this cousins and uncle-niece marriage concept utterly disgusting from what I've experienced. People need to be educated about this and just stop being married for these sick reasons!! Or just stop being married!! There's a lot more in life than marriage, trust me.
True. Only marry when feel right. And have kid when you have no baggage of mental issues. It affect kids.
Not surprised hearing this
@@rupeshbhangare1822 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
Marrying cousin is ok.If the offsprings are weak than we should marry strangers .
@@Coronavirus-dk7mq It's not a big issue unless their is a history of genetic defects.
In Telugu states your father's brother's daughter is SISTER to you..but you can marry your father's sister's daughter...same for mother. Your mother's sister's daughter is SISTER to you but you can marry your mother's brother's daughter
In short, you can marry your parent's opposite gender sibling's daughter/son
Same here in Tamilnadu
Same here in Karnataka
same concept is followed in Maharashtra.
you share blood connection with your cousins and if gotra got changed after marriage it does not mean whole blood got changed
@purpleyou4056 you share blood connection with your cousins and if gotra got changed after marriage it does not mean whole blood got changed
I belong to a tribe in Assam. In my tribe, there are lots of restrictions regarding marriage. You cannot marry if both the bride and spouse have same title( even though they are not related in any sort), and many more complicated rules, cousins are treated as brothers and sisters. It's incredible that our ancestors have adopted those rules to prevent biological disorders of the offerings from the ancient times when there were no education system at all. Because of this practice we hardly see any physical abnormalties in our tribe.
Same in Rajputs
Moja brother
Title se kya mtlb haii ,bekar hai ye sbb
You Know The Oraon Tribe(OBC)😂..
We are also Dravidian Tribe 😂..
We also can't marry to our Relatives 😊🤣
I'm a child born from a Consanguine marriage. My family in Kerala actually don't appreciate such a marriage, but in my case, parents fell in love with each other. I never knew much about the negative aspects of Consanguine marriages, so few years back I had fallen in love with my cousin as well, and we were in a relationship for almost a year. That is when I learnt about this and shared the information with her as well. I realised how lucky I was to be born without any abnormalities, and we mutually got out of the relationship.
We were in love when we broke up. But we did it, only to avoid the risk of spoiling a child's life and also for a happier future.
More people in South India should be educated about the problems of Consanguine marriages.
There is always a option of adopting a child... That way one can spend the rest of the life with their loved ones. There is a saying, "Love knows no bounds.".
How many fingers do you have?
@@feelgoodspace I have 10 fingers and 10 toes 😅
Just Lucky to have No issues with anything
Risk of birth defects in consanguineous marriages is overrated. Risk is even lesser in communities that have practiced consanguinity for thousands of years and have inherited stronger genes over the years, not weaker genes. Don't take my word for it. Look up research. Not the one done on people from typically non consanguineous society, but are born out of consanguineous relationship. Look for research done on rate of birth defects in consanguineous society and you will know
@@vaishaksuresh8555 😱😱😨Normal humans have only 8 fingers and rest two are thumbs 😁bro send me photo of your hands
I am from Karnataka and I can speak for almost all people who live in northern part of Karnataka. This practice used to be common till my parents' time but has reduced significantly these days. Main cause to stop the practice was that we as a society saw some health problems in children born out of such marriages. Not in all children but in few cases.
To clarify more on what's cross cousin is. They could may their Mama's or Atte/Buwa's kids. Marrying Kaka/Chikkappa/Chacha's or Chikkamma/chikki/mausi's kids was strictly prohibited, no one even thought about it. I have not seen a single such case in my entire life.
As of marrying ones niece: back in days people used to have lots of kids. So imagine a case where the eldest offspring was a girl and youngest offspring say 7th or 8th child was a boy. Now obviously there's a huge age difference between these 2 Sister and Brother. Now, it was very common that the girls used to get married in early ages. You can imagine this bride's youngest brother running around in her marriage in shorts with runny nose 😀 This sister used give birth to children very early. So now this Eldest sister's daughters and her youngest brothers were of same age and compatible for marriage from the age perspective.
As you married off your elder sister to a different man outside your family, her lineage became totally different. (her kids Gotra would be different than yours). Hence marriages were allowed. Nowadays these practices exists close to none.
So, why they can marry bua's kids but not masi's?
@@ankitadutta1217 checking...
So now own grandmother becomes mother-in-law?
nowhere such practice in karnataka blindly informed in message, you delivered as father of karnataka.
no one married in karnataka a such practice. Here i see some muslim family has been following.
Maga neenu heliddu almost correct agide North matte Middle Karnataka dalli ashte edu common Matte south karnataka dalli jaasthi illa edu
Main reasons for cousin marriage
1. When parents were not able to get their daughter married by giving dowry.
2. They used to feel it is safe for their daughter to be in relatives house .
But they are decreasing now.
And one more thing these marriages are not with maternal aunt's or paternal uncle's offsprings as they are also called as brothers but with maternal uncle's or paternal aunt's offsprings as they are called with some other relation (in English everyone is called as cousin like chachi,bua,maami ,maama,chacha here everyone is aunt and uncle)
Though its very common in Muslim culture, my grandfather was dead against cousin marriage mainly because of possibility of biological disorder also it was weird for him that the kids who grew up considering each other as brothers and sisters should see each other as potential spouses.
@@JackStrewnever heard about it. And it is not common among hindus to marry their cousins.
@@praroc143 haha he's misleading you bro.. theirs no such story about Shri Krishna. And it's not so common in hindu caulture.
@@JackStrewbut actually Krishnaji didn't marry any cousin, i am a Hindu person myself. Infact, Radhaji married one of the cousins of Krishnaji.
@@JackStrew bruh where did you do heard it? (・・;)
@@JackStrew : Seriously?
Lord Krishna married Rukmini, a princess on another kingdom. Get your facts right first.
South indian movies kinda glorify cousin marriage, awareness is indeed important. Thank you for emphasizing.
@Manoj i am aware of that. I just find it so interesting to know differences in people of same religion but different places. India is indeed a cosmic cuious. And i am proud of that.
@Manoj Its bcoz Pakistan is a Muslim country
@@jyou6202
Your benchmark is western p o r n ?
@@jyou6202 they dont promote incest... it's produced because it's a taboo. What logic bro
@@jyou6202 koi award do is bande ko.....kya comment hei wa wa
As a north Indian hindu : we avoid three surnames or gotra ,i.e, Own surname, mother surname and grandmother surname...we also avoid maternal grandmother surname but now a days we just consider 3 surnames mostly....even villages who share boundaries also get avoided to marriage
Note: please avoid my English 😅
South indian hindus also avoid who have same gotras and same surnames.......
Families having same gotras cannot be cousins .........
Mere relatives ke relatives mai same gotra&surname same tha marriage mai usi marriage ke vajah se ek bandhe ka jaan chala gaya & bahut logo serious the because car road divider ko tok dhiya
Same rules apply in Assam too.
@@UpasanaGayan are you assamese
As a Nepali we consider everyone as our family members as our brothers & sisters...we can't even think about marring our cousin or relatives ...even same gotra me vi sadi nai hota ..7 pusta dekhna parta he sadi k Liye ...❤️🕉️🇳🇵
What about magar community?
Rana families and King families do but common people don't
Proud punda
Nepali nikki
@@kalaignankalai1815 hmm means ✌️❤️
Same gotra bhai bahen mana jata hai
That’s what I thought too that genetics being mixed will lead to genetic disorders. Thanks for covering that. It felt weird when I first started watching South Indians movies and saw that marriage between cousins and I thought i misunderstood something in the movie
We see a lot of this in our culture. And I've yet to see more number of disabled children but I've seen some though. Today's generation is drifting towards love marriages because of better education.
Mee too
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
You people are so uneducated.
Marrying cousin will not result in birth of disabled babies.
It happens when we repeat the same process multiple times.
@@crazyshorts4278 i think u need some education
When recessive genes are mixed, the concentration of it increases therefore the chances of a recessive diseases also increases
12 th me genetics padhi thi kya ?
Neet
thats why most royals look ugly af
True that's why many people stopped now
@@theHollowGabimaru lgta hai tune skip kiya tha 😂😂😂😂
0:52 In Maharashtra also ( Not in all regions of Maharashtra) Marrying your mama ki ladki is normal. And some people don't appreciate this including me.. relative starts teasing boy with his mama chi mulgi from childhood . This is very normalise in my region. But things are changing now
In the South, people consider atthai(mami)/mama's daughter/son consider for marriage.. not chitthi/chittappa(maasi/kaka) 's daughter/son, they are brothers n sisters
you share blood connection with your cousins and if gotra got changed after marriage it does not mean whole blood got changed
bro it may be anything father sister daughter or fathers brother daughter or mothers brother daughter or mothers sister daughter are our brother and sister because we share blood connection them and even with grand father cousins and their grand childrens and grand mother cousins and their grand childrens also we share blood connection and these type marriages should be stopped for god sake
@@RajathHathwar definitely bro.. my family don't do it. All should see the scientific reasons but still some are doing it.
I'm from Andhra Pradesh and I've personally experienced this issue. My paternal aunt considered me as a 'perfect bride' for her son and even my cousin was perfectly fine with the idea of marrying me (I'm seven years younger than him). They even proposed the match to my father. I was horrified because I always called my cousin 'elder brother' and to learn that he did have a romantic interest in me, when all while I considered him a sibling, sickened me to the core. My father rejected it without second thoughts as he was against cousin marriages having learnt in his late twenties about 'incest' and the resulting genetic problems in the later generations. Yay to father!
My aunt was upset when my father rejected her and she even had the gall to say to my father "If you marry her into our household we'll take care of her. Since I'm her aunt, you can rest the fear that she might suffer under her in-laws. Also, the dowry will remain in our family without going to nameless outsiders." My father simply said "Bold of you to assume that I'll be offering any form of dowry," and the argument quickly escalated and the relations naturally strained after that. Even today my father and aunt barely spare a polite greeting at family gatherings. And me being awkward, I just turn opposite whenever I spot my aunt or cousin.
I was the lucky case but my classmate from University was married to her cousin right after graduation. Cousin marriages are a common occurance in South India and regarded as normal and 'part of the tradition.' I'm glad that this issue is being spoken of.
Edit: Incest is a common issue across religions and the people who practice this 'tradition' aren't even aware that cousin marriages come under incest. You see not all cousins can marry. I'm a Hindu and I can marry my paternal aunt's son and also marry my maternal uncle's son--these fellas are not technically adressed as brothers, they have a separate form of address so as to prevent any awkwardness later on if I marry them ( though my dad instructed me to call them as brothers from early age)but I cannot marry my maternal aunt's son or my paternal uncles's son(they are considered as brothers). I don't know if it's true but my mother said that the opposite applies for muslims. So, it's like everyone have their own rules for acceptable incest.
My girlfriend is telegu and when she first told me about this I was like "yuck". I won't lie but it took me some time to accept this as normal. Later she explained to me why this is practiced and finally i have normalized this to some extent. Even this video was suggested by her.
There was an uncle in my colony who was from Hyderabad he told me about this, at first I couldn’t believe him coz I thought this only happens in Muslim community. Glad that your father rejected the proposal. I think there should be some sort of campaign against such practices.
Your father seems like a smart dude
That is awfully awkward 🤣🤣
The thaught it self make me want to puke😖😵
Hi Mohak, I am a Tamizhan. I want you to know that unlike what is said in this video , Gotra system exists in south India too. It is the gotra system that prevents parallel cousin marriages. If you see parallel cosuins will always have same gotra & cross cousins will belong to different gotras. The same gotra system also prevents a male from marrying his bhathiji wheareas one can marry his bhanji as she would be obviously from a different gotra. Hope i could make it clear to you !!
This concept of marrying Bhanji makes me feel uneasy. I mean, it's marriage between two generations.
Actually there are some extention to this gotra system
We cannot marry a person who has same gotra as my father + gotra which my mother had before marriage.
I hope this makes the confusion clear....
@@oyedeepak bilkul sahi.
That means you can marry your bua ki beti?
Yess.These so called Liberal people dnt knw abt gotras system!Dnt explain this to 99% people over here..
I'm from andhra and yes it happens with limitations, the daughters and sons of same sexes are seen as sisters and brothers while opposite sexes are seen as potential marriage partners, I never understood the logic behind it and left it thinking it's just part of the culture.
Em bro ,andullo em artham kale
Asal em cheppal anukuntunavo sakkaga chepu
Bro annakodu kani islam and south indian marriages ni kalpesi he made people confused
Well cross cousin will obviously have different gotras and he created a pov as we don't follow hindu tradition
Because as ramdev baba said same gotra people shouldn't marry but obviously cross cousins have different gotras and the genetic thing is actually true so that is the only reason we should give less preference
@HR323 why ?
@@aryanb9233 bro anakudadhu gani English bhasha telugu bhasha kalipesi comment pettav Naku nuvvu cheppindhi em artham kale , complete hindi kaani complete Telugu lo kani cheppu bro complete hindi lo aanna cheppu
Mohak, what a explanation about this serious issues in Indian society, every side you explain very well. Before, I don't know much more about consanguineous marriage now I totally understand what is. I appreciate your work what you doing for Indian society.
I'm Sindhi and we treat our cousin brothers and sisters as our own siblings. Our uncle and aunt are like our second parents. We can't even think about having romantic feelings lol. The minute we see our cousin even the ones that lived abroad and visited after many years, we feel no attraction lol. Its weird, its like we get a smell from the cousin that automatically turns us off sexually. Can't imagine having sex with someone we don't feel any attraction for.
In my village all people are from same Gotra . People of same generation consider each other as Brothers and sister 😂. Romantic feeling is unthinkable.
@@Robin-il4ev acha hua pure india ya world ko Bhai bahen nahi bola lol
@@sabbirahmed3685 Lol Fonyou even what Gotra is , Bas Mock kar ke cool ban jaana hai 😂
I'm from bihar. studied at one of south college.
although I was shocked to hear that they can marry their cousins, but no more shocked. I talked my friends, and the case is like -
if you're a boy - you can marry your father's sister's daughter OR mother's brother's daughter. Similarly for Girls.
Fun fact is: in bihar, one of village, my brahmin friend is there, and he said they cant marry any girls of that community from that village for they all are like sisters.
Yeah same here in Rajasthan
True 😄
Yeah it's called diyad among maithil Brahmins of bihar
Sweet Home Alabama
Even in Delhi at some places this practice is followed😂
I am from Kolkata, when I was in class 7-8 my tuition teacher told my mother that her father and her late mother were cousin. We couldn't care less because we knew that in muslim community it is allowed to marry first cousin. However her younger sister whose age was around 17-18 years was deformed and had a brain of 2-3 year old child, she couldn't even walk instead she would slither, she couldn't alarm her sister whenever she wanted to defecate or urinate and she couldn't even speak. I felt sorry for her and always questioned why would god make her like this. But recently few years ago i realised that her condition could have been due to her parents' cousin marriage. I haven't communicated with my teacher since I cleared class 8 and its been more than 10 years. I hope her sister is surviving.
I feel sorry for her even reading this... Hope she is okay
Since most of these congenital diseases are attributed to recessive genes, its been estimated that chance of these disease manifesting in the offsprings rise up by at least 30% when marriages are done within family.
Never marry your cousin's , that's what our culture also says
This happens when you marry cousins successively for two generations or more I wouldn't be surprised even if your teachers grandparents were cousins.
Being from Maharashtra, cousin marriages are very much prevalent here....with even tv serials promoting them ...and like in southern india, even we cant marry same gender sibling's son/daughter but can marry opposite gender's son/daughter...Moreover, even we follow the GOTRA system....
Yes, that's why Maharashtra in many angles of view is considered as a Southern Indian State (mostly). Dravidian kinship is something among the similarities between the "Dravidian" States and Maharahstra.
In southindia agree except gothra of gothra is same we don’t marry
Yes Maharashtra has so many similar cultures like South Indian states.
Am a Tamilian.
I have always felt Maharashtrians are closer to South than North except the language.
I watched a documentary on this topic years ago... People don't usually talk about this, and most are unaware of the biological side of the story... I'm glad you are bringing light to this topic and educating people about this... Kudos to you !
Which documentary plzz tell
Is it available on TH-cam
Is it the british one?
Yes plzz send a link
Documentary yeh united kingdom ki hai.. Yt p check kro mil jayegi genetic disease se related
*SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
Care to share the details of the document please
Being a Jain in our culture we have something called "Saka" which means we are restricted to not marrying the ones who share the surname of both my mother's side and father's side family. Its believed that this practice avoids pre-mature baby deaths, diseases, genetic problems, and various health issues to an extent.
Like gotra system in N. Indian hindus
Yeah in my people(Haryanvi) .we leave gotra one from mother side then father side then grandmother (dadi) side and last one from grandmother (nani) side .so you can't marry if girl has gotra maching anyone of them. Then the village exogamy is practiced . 😀😀
@@Amitraghaata gotra is present among south indians also.
But mostly jains have " jain" surname, isnt it?
@@kunalraturi8260 ya 🤣
Every Muslim community is not the same...Thinking about marrying cousins in our Local Assamese muslim culture (Assam) is a sin.. It's a nightmare.. We treat cousins as our real brothers and sisters...
In Bangladesh only 3% people do that.
It's against Qoran. There's no dowry involved in first cousins' marriages.
Almost 3-4 years ago I was watching with my sister a South movie (dubbed in hindi).In which I realised that marrying with cousin in South is common.While watching movies suddenly my sister asked me didi if it is possible then how can a girl feeling safe in her home. I mean in our house my father's sister's son,or father's brother's son is like my own brother . Even whole villages children are brother and sister.
For us father's brother's daughter is sister we can't marry, because she is like own my sister.
But my father's sister's daughter we can marry.
The uncle- niece union/marriage makes me sick in the gut !! For that matter even marrying a cousin is beyond my comprehension.
Well it doesn't make me feel anything. If it didn't lead to birth defects then i wouldn't bat an eye if someone were to marry their own sister even. I could never do it but why do I care what anybody else does in their life? But since it's a major health risk I'll definitely be against it no matter what.
This gives a hint how worst kind of patriarchal that family would be to allow uncle - niece marriage 🤮
If two cousins agreed to marry as an Adult...then they can. Why not?? The Love between them would be Awesome 😍😍
I know exceptions exists but mostly it would be Super awesome
@@rajeevjuneja5584 Good it doesn't make you feel anything. I think both of us can exist under the same sky 😇 and many more individuals, with vary many opinions. All are welcome to express, to not express, to feel, to not feel. To each his own.
Its a Noble thought...:)
I am from Kerala Brahmin community and we consider our paternal and maternal cousins as brothers and sisters. We don't marry our cousins. However, I have seen people who are second cousins getting married in rare occurrences. Or even third cousins. Also, cousin marriages are rare in Kerala nowadays in all the communities due to the more number of educated people.
Bro, South india is being used as a scapegoat for justifying Cousin marraiges of Islam.
While in reality since the spread of Christianity was more in south India hence people redefined the Gotra system so as to suit their purpose.
From kashmir to kanyakumari, India runs on Gotra system.
What Some of the southerners are doing is a result of the misinterpretation of Gotra system.
Edit 1:- Gotra system is so deeprooted in the Indian society that most of the Tribes have Gotra system too.
This is enough to prove the importance of Gotra system while finding the right match in Indian subcontinent.
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
In Reality God Kirshna Married his first Cousin and In Mahabharata Arjun Married his First Cousin And Mahatma buddh married his first Cousin in south India Hindus married his first cousin there is difference between cousin and sister
Actually the marriages in South India are between sister's offspring and her brother's (maternal uncle) offspring. NOT between two brother's children or two sister's children. This guy has put both cases in the same category. Among Muslims marriage is common between two brother's children or two sister's children.
@@surajm4547 yes
You have given examples and history of this topic based on Kerala and it's premises. But as per the statistics, Kerala has the less no of such marriages compared to other states. In Kerala It used to happen in the past. But it's very very rare nowadays in Kerala.
True Kerala has 3% as per shown in the map... while north states have much higher percentage (Mostly above 10%)
But it was and still is considered as normal here
@@safwa8449 It is not at all considered normal anymore.
@@Sreerags5959 depends on communities
@@safwa8449 Of course. But that doesn't mean that it's a normal thing.
Mohak Mangal Ji...Namaste Ji... Two questions 1. Are these marriages as per scriptures (Veda or Shastra etc) or Just for Economic Balance or fucking Dowry system 2. Is this the influence of Islam as it entered in India from the South (7th Century)...Thank You..regards
Just a small correction sir🙏🏻
title should be "INDIA's southern region..." NOT "south india...." bcuz india haven't bifurcated like north korea.. south korea.
Or southern states of India would be be fine
south India is correct
there is no problem in bifurcation if needed.....
after all cessation is happening around the world...lol
@@orphan9334 don't spread your communist ideology here , we are seeing that how communism destroying democracy in many countries , for ex :- China
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One day I asked my father that why we have to tell the priest in the temple about our GOTRA everytime we visit? He said GOTRA is said to be a common relation from a common ancestor and two same GOTRAS should not marry amongst each other as there can be problems among their child. I half heartedly believed that becoz on one side I understood that same blood can cause some problems but was not sure what was the probability of that. Good !
Bro 'Consanguineous' word is pretty fancy......In context of animal husbandry closely related animals are not mated because it might lead to inbreeding depression.....
Many Hindu practices have science hidden behind it....
Also the system of saptapadhi, where they check if there is any common ancestor between bride and grooms 7 generations
@@shivangmishra9325 true. Sadly the scientific part is getting lost rapidly and just the terms are getting behind, which makes ppl think it's just an old tradition
they started the system of gotras becoz they wont allow inter caste marriage OMEGALUL
@@profezagaming9158 lol gotra can never stop u from inter caste marriage cause two different caste have different gotra and u can marry in different gotra but not itn ur own gotra.
I'm from Kerala. Cousin marriages are almost non existent to the point I've never even heard of one happening. The first time i heard about this being in practise in the South was when some guy on the internet called me a cousin lover in an attempt to ridicule me.😂
😂😂..
😂🤣
I saw this type of marriages in many More south Indian movies
I am from south India, and I have so many relatives who have done cousin marriage..
Bro don't do it
It's not good for your genetic health
I am from South India too and I have no relative who has married his/her cousin.
God forbid but do any of their children have genetic disorders?
Good for them.Dont listen to these people
@@manavsingh5501 Almost all my relatives have married their first or second cousins.And none of them have any kind of disorder.
As a biologist and someone who learned genetics and cells, I want to say that it's not good for health and is the main reason behind many genetic diseases almost 10%.
@@jjthomson7911 *a* zoologist ..😂😂 focus on studies beta 🙏
its applicable to humans only. lol
@@Shail99999just a simple google search about inbreeding will help Lmaoo.
@@manjifera there are inbreeding diseases in animals too lol not just humans. (anyways humans are animals too)
@@varunnikam yes but nature kept things like that may be for some unknown reason. its we humans do interfere in natures thing.
Being a tamilian, I wanna tell some information. What is so called "cousin" is the name given generally by british to some relationship but in south indian culture we have many subdivision. Ex: your mother's elder or younger sister is consider as chinnamma/ periamma (small mother / big mother) but your mother's brother is consider as mana (thai mama), who is the most power relative next to your parents and his son or daughter can be married with you but here is one clause if you are a male you should be elder than your mama's daughter or you will be consider as brothers to her. If your are a female you should be younger than your mama's son or you will be consider as sister onto to him. Same to your father's side. Your father's brother , elder or younger is called periyappa/ chithappa (big father or small father) whose son and daughter are consider as brother and sister but your father's sister is called aththai and her son or daughter can be married to you and the clause said above is applicable to here too.
Why this type of exist in south india?
1. Because those days they search bride or groom within few kilometers so that they can visit relatives home easily.
2. Unlike north india south indian bride enjoy more privilege, first year diwali, aadi month (whole 30 days), while she is carrying she will be taken to her mothers home to make her happy. First delivary will be at her mothers home. If it is her uncle or aunty's home she will enjoy double benefits.
3. Already the family is familiar with the bride or grooms family.
4. Both families customs, tradition and nature of job will be same , so adaptability to new place will be easier.
5. Most important thing is bride can have quarrel with her in-laws or to her husband hence in-laws are brother or sister to your mother or father and that can be easily gotten.
In South we follow gothra system in which people of a particular gothra don't marry within themselves.
My grandparents and maternal uncle had cousin marriages they are absolutely fine.
Cousinsister and counsin brother are grammatically wrong... It is only cousin - he-cousin Or she cousin.
irrespective of type marriages ,unfortunately there are many genetic abnormalities due to various factors.
Cousin marriages and uncle and niece marriages have happened for generations but not always within close circle.
Abhimanyu the great warrior was product of cousin marriage.
Western research will always find fault in our culture and provide statistics ( authenticity?) Rather they can show case s where this has affected that would be profound
Who said north Indian brides don't enjoy this privilege. The thing you are saying are privilege in south India are common things in North India. We enjoy the same privileges
Mainly its done so riches don't be shared... and kept n family ... its in history from England to India..
@@pariramachandran7633 its their point of view, but in our(TN) point of view such marriages are done to keep them close to their relatives is the main agenda or else relation may be faded in the upcoming generations because priority are always given to once own family hence they make them one among themselves.
@@jananims6745 nature dosent work up to our wishes... its always better to marry some one non related in blood.... im not saying this.. its facts...
I love your videos. HIGHLY INFORMATIVE.
Finally someone is talking about this issue. As a south Indian who grew up in middle east, I find it very weird to see my family chart. Btw, you are putting effort in your videos. May you reach 1M soon and grow beyond that.♥♥
So you mean that your mom and dad are bro and sis 🙄
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq 😂
This isn't a issue.
@@RanjitKumar-pr2eq didn't you watch the video?
My cousin wanted to marry her cousin from her mother's side and a friend of mine married her cousin. Believe me, there were talks. Thankfully, my maternal grandfather was against cousin marriages. Everybody forgets about complications while discussing marriages between cousins even educated folks🤷🏽♀️
marriage is ok. It's just that having kids is risky.
What if they can get married, have a good, meaningful life together, have intercourse, but don't reproduce.... Adopt a child instead.
@@rosieroti4063 my friend has a kid.. thankfully he's alright.. They just forget about complications.. when I told my cousin about it.. she was pointing out the cases where it didn't result in bad situation..
@@rosieroti4063 Actually it's risky when your family is carrying a defective gene pool, If your family is healthy without any genetic diseases then it's fine. The risk of adding defective genes to your family pool is also more when you get marry outside of your gene pool with someone's new gene pool. It's simple...mathematics not some sort of sorcery...
@@navedhashmi3090 muslims defending cousins marriage no shocker...bnchod gaali tumlog k liye nikala gaya h
Be educated and stop cousins marriage all over world.
Oh you bring us cool stuff i didn't know about this like this type of things even exist 💯
Krishna married his cousin 😂😂😂😂
MADRASA CHAP
Behencod pata hai kuch tujhe
Mythology
*Once again - Mohak is the Aayushmann Khurrana of TH-cam* ! His topics are just on the next level👏
Dude you are comparing mohak to ayushman 😖
It's like comparing nehru to Manoj Tiwari.
No need to compare. Mohak is Mohak ❤️
@@berlin5403 He's comparing "their approach" of picking up odd things, not them, heck not even comparing, it was just praise and i'm pretty sure it won't affect the popularity of Ayushman.🙌🏻
@@berlin5403 I consider Ayushman as a good actor tho
@@biosavat9475 I think the dude was defending Mohak. Anyway it's just an opinion
This concept of 'cousin marriages' have always irked me growing up. And it also made talking with cousins a wierd/stereotypical one as against talking with siblings from father's brothers/mother's sisters. You always have a sense that you can't mingle with your cousins freely. Because if you do, society will think that you are interested with them. Even parents think so. Being from South India, I like the North Indian perspective of these marriages and I want to consider my cousin as a sibling and want to mingle with them freely during family unions.
yeah you definitely have a point, if you are too free then you are at risk ;)
Never really bothered me or my cousins tho (mothers brothers daughter)
Depends bro if the relationship is mutual then its fine even temples allow it
I always enjoyed interacting with my paternal aunts' daughters and did end up marrying one of them. Now happily married with a healthy baby, ofcourse ❤️
*IMPORTANT QUESTION*
What is written about cousin marriages in manuscripts and inscriptions
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I am from Tamilnadu. Yes marrying cousins and close relatives is common in South India. In olden days the idea was to keep the property within the family. That is why such marriages were conducted and accepted. Even though it was and is a disaster genetically. As of now it has come down to a great extent in urban areas but in the rural belt it still persists. The biological implications of it for the children born out of such marriages is grave. Education and repeated reinforcement is the only way the society will give up such a practise. Any social change takes years. There will be a lot of resistance too from the conservative elements.
In our West Bengal marrying cousin is not acceptable.
Uma, I don’t endorse these marriages but if this disease thing was correct then most of the South Indians would have some disease or the other as it has been happening for 2000 years.
Hi
Common in my community (caste)from odisha
In our Kolhan follow the same system..
Being a Himachali..I never knew about cousin marriages but when I came to know ,I was really shocked cuz my cousins are like real brother's and sisters to me and their parents are like my parents.
Your comment made me laugh that My Himachali friend is marrying her uncle’s son.
Exceptions are always there
@@FoodRecipes108 Yes there are exceptions as the cultures are different. I just shared my culture shock..not a big deal! Also, happy for ur Himachali friend getting married bcoz of my random comment 🤗🙏
There is a difference between parallel cousins and cross cousins. They are not the same and the gotra is different.
@Superman's doberman it's not about not knowing what the difference in cousins are, I'm myself Himachali and even if my cousins are so distant that we don't have similar ancestry for two generations, we still consider them as if they are our real brother/sister. It's just a difference in upbringing and mentality
my grandmothers cousin sister's grandsons are very close to me.. and that's such a distant relation
@Superman's doberman I'm not saying anything about marrying cousins. All I mean is for me marrying cousin would be same a marrying my own sibling because from childhood we are raised as if w all are from one family. I'm not calling it a sin, stop getting worked up. Just telling you why some people feel weird from this because of how they are brought up. That's all
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7:10 i have been said that parallel cousins are more genetically similar and cross cousins are different, i don't know weather it's true or not
See it is about probability, probability of sharing weaker genes in same blood line is far higher than different blood lines, but that doesn’t mean different blood lines can’t get weaker genes.
It is not only gotra system, it is more than that, Remember in current gotra system only father’s gotra gets carry forward, so basically gotra gets remembered only in Father son type of line. Gotra of first mother is no where captured, so there is chance of weaker genes flowing but lower if following system is followed which generally is common in many northern communities.
So what happens in many communities in north is, let us say X (boy) is getting married to Y( woman).
X s father’s gotra
X’s maternal grandfather’s gotra
X’s maternal grandmother’s father’s gotra
X’s paternal grandmother’s father’s gotra.
Plus add same 4 from Y side
Y’s father’s gotra
Y’s maternal grandfather’s gotra
Y’s maternal grandmother’s father’s gotra
Y’s paternal grandmother’s father’s gotra.
All these gotra’s are taken out and no one marries within them,
There is still some risk of mother’s line from great grandmother etc being ignored
Plus
No one marries first,second,third cousins ( that is parents, grandparents, great grandparents siblings families) on both mother and father side irrespective of whether cousin is born to cross gender or same gender sibling.
This way lot of genetic intermingling is restricted in arranged marriages.
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I tried explaining some "WOKE" and "EDUCATED" people from a specific religion against cousin marriage. Their only defense was Krishna did cousin marriage. I tried explaining with facts, researches and the science behind it. But i was undone by their ignorance.
Most logical peacefull WOKE
The hilarious part is that every peaceful is taught that Krishna married his cousins.:)
How can that be ‘woke’? Woke means something that’s too liberal. I would call them orthodox
When did Krishna married his cousins ??
@@ayushimishra8273 I’m a Hindu from Andhra.
Arjun married his maternal Cousin Subhadra.
Well not to get offensive but if we se there was only one mamel which evolved to present human and only 1 cell which became multicellular so texhnically or not we all are brother and sisters even our mom and dad are and i dont find anything disgusting in it if there is love there is love what if one of your sibling is long lost and you find them but dont know about them being your sinling and fall in love would the feeling change when you get to know no they wont but only you would resist for some stupid reason consent is other thing and akwardness to i am just talking about ethics
I am a Bengali Hindu and in our Bengali Hindu society no one can think of marriage between such brothers and sisters, I have been thinking for so long that it is only among Muslims. Cousins are like your sister, so treat them like your own sister
Not even near as common in North. No way in my culture we don't even marry with same surname, and gotra and checking if we are also from same village if we are, then no
Being e bengali hume ghar se hi nikal dega 🤣🤣
@@debmalyamondal1234 hme toh kaat denge
Cousin marriage is not common in Bangladesh also.
So dont think it is has some thing to do with religion.
Bruh consanguiness marriages are widespread accross the world. And sisterhood is given to the immediate one. Rest are just relatives.
In North,(Jharkhand)
Marrying any of the relative, even a far relative is considered as a sin or even crime especially in hindus. Relatives will treat you in a very disrespectful way. This is the culture here from 1000 years.
Even muslims are following this culture partially. 👍🏼
I can confirm this because I am also from Jharkhand.
Same in jammu
sahi baat
@@anand-zs1co in rajasthan villages gaon me aapas e shaadi nhi ho skti
Bihar also
*It’s a foolish idea.most of muslim families prefers cousin marriage but can you difference between hindu and muslim community in disable child percentage.Pakistani child is more healthy than Indian*
In Maharashtra, marriage with mama's daughter is very comman since old times. In fact, one of the son in law of Bal gangadhar tilak (freedom fighter) was his own nephew. Also the third chhatrapati Rajaram raje bhonsle were married to Maharani Tarabai, who was the daughter of his mama Hambirrao Mohite. The same way Pradyumna- son of bhagwan krishna married to the daughter of his mama rukmi, as per the bhagwatam. There are so many examples like arjuna- subhadra, krishna-mitravinda, etc.
I remember watching a Marathi TV show called 'Home Minister' as a kid. In the show, the host travels across Maharashtra and talks to married couples about their love story and all. Many times the the couple were first cousins, as in the husband was the wife's atte bhau (Bua ka beta in marathi). They also talked about how they liked each other since their teenage, basically they romanticized cousin marriages a lot. I found it really weird.
Also, in Marathi serials I've seen some married women calling their mother-in-law as aatya (bua). Maybe I'm watching too much of Zee Marathi with my aaji.
Most of those backstories are fake and are spiced up for TRP.
Marathi housewives will kill for Paithani.
It’s common beyond western ghats, in Konkan that’s considered disgusting
Now days every one is doctor??🧐
Culture is main important thing to practice such a thing..if i stay in latur Maharashtra..will i understand culture, rituals of Western Maharashtra.. even language ,tone also not same..yes there are many happy married couple ..but yeah it could be change
@@_prash families promote karti hai ye sab, meri kuch friends hai, un mein se 2-3 hai jinke ghar mein aisi shaadi ho chuki hai. Humare yaha toh cross ke crisis cross cousin se koi bhaag ke shaadi kare toh bhi badnaam hote hai log 😂
@@maheshpatil-he8ny lol, there are detailed studies about the dreadful consequences of cousin marriage, especially based in Pakistan. Having read those, it’s absolutely true that genetic deformities are more likely in such cases. It’s a fact, not an opinion. One needs to be sociologist to understand this, not doctor. We all are from same culture, it’s better to improve one generation at a time.
I am a Gujarati married to a Kannadiga. My husband's brother married some sort of cousin (not aware of the exact relation) and when I first realized this, I was shocked. For me, all cousins are brothers, so I didnt understand how this could happen.
Slowly I learnt that this is common in South India. My husband's brother has a son now who is 11 years old and my daughter is 6 years old. I can see so many health and a bit of mental issues in my bro in law's (BIL) son. It's sad to see the physical suffering of the child. And there are quite some mentally challenged children in my husband's family. More than the amount you would see otherwise in families. And I have come to realize its due to these cousin marriages. I once spoke to my husband about it, but he just brushed it aside. He was either embarrassed or didnt like what he was hearing.
With science so advanced and evidence available that such marriages can and will lead to genetic issues in the progeny, I dont understand why people still follow this tradition?
My heart breaks for my nephew who will always suffer health issues due to a mistake made for traditions' sake.
And the cherry on top is, while nephew celebrates rakhi with my daughter, he does not with his bua's daughter cause she is a potential bride for him. My mind is just f u c k e d!!!!
Your upcoming generations would be madrasis 🤮🤮
@@extreme4642 You do realize that there are many different south Indians? Calling everyone madrasis is just so ignorant and stupid
thank u for sharing this real instance... its high time leave this tradition... our society hv to understand that all tradition which hv built those were suitable at those times we hv keep updating n removing those bcoz these r not at all relevant to current situation... n also we hv scientific proof on this to demolish... its responsibilty of current generation to understand this n act accordingly...
Well I'm not on side of this ritual or against but the truth is...our mind only think and decide on a way, the way we learnt or upto we're aware....bcz the fact is there are many rituals like such of which we're unaware...but we're deciding only by our own mental thoughts but maybe this is satisfied for them... So we should learn something new rather than judging their own adopted concerns...or rituals
I am from Tamil Nadu. I have seen two videos of yours. It's really good and it's not biased. It's a healthy way. Appreciate you
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Living in USA and growing up with mostly Telugu family friends, I did finally get to know about this. Kudos to you sir for bringing this topic up!
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@@teja8086 Sarigga Cheppavu Mowa 🤟🏻✨
Bhai why telegu ppl in abroad always stay and communicate with their own community and not talk outside of it? You can correct me if I'm wrong with this notion
@@teja8086 *SALUTE TO YOU MAN BUT* You can reduce Cousin Marriages with awareness, but for your information, let me tell you that GENETIC DEFECTS of those who do Cousin Marriages CANNOT be UNDONE.
Unfortunately, THIS IS SUCH A DISORDER that remains with the dynasty forever. Even AYURVEDA CANNOT cure it.
This was the sole reason that the Varna, Jati and Gotra was considered so fanatically and people who converted from Hindu to Muslim were not converted back to Hindu. Neither during the time of Maharana Pratap nor during the time of Chhatrapati Shivaji.
@@sheilakijawani2526 that’s a false stereotype. In my college we have all Indians mixed
As a South Indian marrying cousin is disgusting
Nice research and presentation.. all the best
So is marriage in same gotra but different caste also consanguineous??
I am a bihari rajput of kshatriya varna and my boyfriend is a odiya brahmin. We have the same gotra Bharadvaj. We belong to different states as well. Is it considered consanguineous if we get married. @Soch by Mohak Mangal @sochbymm @santosh1303
No, definitely not
Kerala has come out of this old custom to a large extend. Compared to other 4 four THE percentage of cousin marraiges are very low, though every other film of 70 and 80s where following the trend
But this was restricted to very few hindu communities in North Kerala....
Karnataka has less cousin marriage than Kerala
@@whyhaveaname5963 but according to this video karnadakas rate is 23.4% were kerala only 3.7%😂
Term "inbreeding depression" is often used for the reduced biological and reproductive health of a person who is born of cousin marriage. It is very important to marry out of family as it's necessary for gene variation(evolution).
Yes I studied about in class 12th biology!
Yes thats what most people don't understand. I've seen fools telling me how a person was born out of cousin marriage and doesn't have any disease. Well duh! That's because he's probably a 1st generation child. There won't be any inbreeding problems in the 1st to 3rd generations but inbreeding depression will keep accumulating until it actually shows up as a genetic disease in the 4th or 5th generation. That's why we Bengalis compared atleast 3 generations of gotra and at max 5. Some Hindi belt people compare upto 8 generations but that is a little too excessive in my opinion. Upto 4-5 generations is the optimum amount. Neither too much nor too less. For example my own parents compared their gotras of upto 4 generations only. Not beyond that. I'm of the same opinion as them and if I ever were to get married I would compare 4 generations of gotra too. I myself am of Shandilya gotra
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Almost all culture follows cousin Marriages not just South india!!
Here in Maharashtra the most common cousin marriage is with Mama ki beti/ Bua ka beta.
I have seen some cases in my relatives and family friends where the child born from such marriage is mentally weak.
It is very very rare for me to find any defective child born in a non-cousin marriage
Which region in Maharashtra?
@@aarushimahajan205 overall Maharashtra
@@aarushimahajan205 hindu
Yes bro all over Maharashtra atleast I know that is true about the whole kokan region
Even in Telugu states, cross cousin marriages do happen, but not compulsory.
But the compulsory thing is that we shouldn't marry within same gotra. Gotra system is strictly followed here. Cross cousins will anyhow not share same gotra unlike Parallel cousins.
Here, Mami/Buaa/Saas is called Atta.
And Mama/Phupha/Sasur is called Mama.
But, Mausi/Badimaa/Chachi is equivalent to Mother and Mausa/Badepapa/Chacha is equivalent to Father.
You only call your cousins as Brother and sister in Indo-Aryan languages (North Indian), Dravidian languages follow a whole different kinship system where parallel cousins are referred to as brother and sister but cross cousins have special words. Also the our words of Cross-Aunt/Uncle are the same as the words for In-Laws, for example both your mother's brother and your husband's/wife's father is called mama in Telugu. Same for words for your wife's/husband's siblings and your Cross-Cousins.
Coming to the weird feeling thing, it is weird to you cause you grew up calling your cousins the same word and your siblings and considered them your siblings, in the same way we are always reminded (from childhood) that our cross cousins can be our potential spouses and also our media also shows a lot of romantic stuff between Cross-Cousins so it's kinda normal for us. If you go ask a Telugu or a Tamil person what they think on marrying their parallel cousins, they'd act the same way you are acting, disgusted even by the thought of it, as we grew up with a feeling that they are our siblings and using the same words we use for our own siblings with them, infact even parallel aunt and uncles are referred with the same word as our parents but with a prefix like big and small, for example parallel uncle who is elder than your father is called pedda-nanna/bapu (big-father) and parallel uncle who is younger than your father is called chinna-nanna/bapu,Babai (small-father)
Yeah exactly. This pattern is same in all the 4 major Dravidian languages and also extends to the urdu speaking Muslims of South India
@@khabibnurmagomedov8581 not only in dravidian states but here in maharahtra it is similar
Also in muslims you can't keep on marrying cousins successively, for eg. If your parents are cousins then you can't marry your cousin as this will lead to diseases in your children.
Ummm indo-aryans are not only north Indians tho .Assamese people are also indo aryan. Everyone forgets that northeast exists. Sad ☠
chala baga chepparu 🙌
Hi Mohak, i love my cousin and she also does but we can't get married we are from north india we've been good friends since childhood and we both wanna marry each other what should we do
so informative!!!
Actually In Our Religion we consider our Siblings or "Rishtedar's children" as our Brothers and Sisters..
Yes,North Indians have done right practice to not to marrie their brothers and sis
@@Klassyedit1 You North fellows are Aryans. We are South Dravidians. You keep your practice to yourself. You don't decide what is correct and what is wrong.
@@rajars4239 I can see the hate in your comment for North Indians... No worries keep hating..!
@@rajars4239 sure north Indian may not but science can right? Marring cousins is just wrong.
Buddha was Aryan. Even he married from his father's side
My parents are first cousins. Because of this, my brother was born with poor eyesight and asthma. It’s wrong to marry your cousin. It leads to many disorders.
I think its only a problem when father's brother's children get married.
Hey a quick question, purely out of curiosity.
Does ur brother brother have any trait that is unusually good? Like a trait that u might share with him, but his version of it is way better?
Again, and seriously, purely out of curiosity.
@@tanfeexulhaqq4616 No. He is a normal person but he has asthma and health issues.
@@kaiser1295 well i can't draw conclusions from a single case. Can I?
@@tanfeexulhaqq4616 there are literally millions of cases like this
Thank God
This is changing !!!
Arjuna married first cousin Subhadra. Arjuna's son Abhimanyu married to Sashirehka, his first cousin. Is Mahabharata mythology or history?
true. I live in Ap and I have seen such marriages and friends who have shown interest in their cousins too! I was shocked. But growing up here I don't find it uncommon, though I never liked it personally.
Despite the moral issues, marrying your cousin isn't fun at all since you're missing the chance to connect with an entirely different family line which is kinda adventurous and diverse and morally correct obviously.
I'm scared of Marriage
I'll not marry
@@ElonMusk-tb2yi u already have 9 kids🤣
@@prajjwal1010
Lol. My one son is Robot
@Rey such a shitty argument
If blood important to survive so how south india life expectancy higher than north india..I know so many factors effect it but research on those couples also.
I being muslim have seen so many cousin marriages, actually it's true. Jb bht zyada cousins marriages hoti hai toh it affects child's health
I'm from the South and my parents are cousins. it's wrong and should be banned. I will never marry my cousin or any relative.
@@kaiser1295 Its optional...not Compulsory. And good thing is it reducing now a days
@@IronMan-nu3rb Indians (Pakistani, Bangladeshi, Nepali & Srilankan) don't have any choice due to Arrange Marriage culture because their parents & relative bear the responsibility of their marriage!!! 😒😒😒
Being aware of errors in our own religion is a sign of wisdom 👌 a true secular
@@randomhuman1754 So what are errors in your religion?? Tell us....
You may call anything but marrying or having physical relations within family with cousins is most disgusting 🤢🤮 thing for me
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oh my that's disgusting. i am from south india and i hear people joking about marrying me off to my cousin. it's the most disgusting thing i know. it's so awkward and uncomfortable. for me and for the world, they are supposed to be our siblings, but for some cultures, nah.
@@suja605 krishna and arjun married thier own cousins
Great video thanks for information
In Maharashtra there's a tradition of marrying mothers side cousin or father side aunt cousin same happened with my father he married with my mother who was her cousin in general, some birth defects i noticed in myself is my height which stopped growing at very young age and i have flat feet from birth , eyesight is very weak did cataract and bones structure are abnormal also my mother had 2 babies before me but after 2 to 3 months they died by some medical conditions after birth .
I am from AP, we do have & follow gotra system as well. Marriage between parllel cousins or first cousins is NO here mostly. Don't know about rest of South India. Marriage between uncle and niece used to happen few years ago, but it has gone down a lot, i mean so much down ( some exception cases if age gap between bride & groom is low ,5 - 7 yrs max ). Marriages between second cousins & cross cousins is still happening. People now a days are exposed & having a lot of awareness, hopefully it dies down.
Correct...people are more matured and aware now
I agree. Mohak's topic is good but there are some mistaken conclusions due to poor or insufficient research. Mohak needs to study the more in depth statistics to understand this intricate topic. I wish to give some points:
(1) Consanguine marriages are not modern in India, it has dwapara yug examples also. Most recently evidence was found that all India is one gene, north/south or aryan/dravidian divide is politically motivated from British era to divide and rule.
(2) Gotras concept is very much there in southern states also; hence to conclude anything through the difference of numbers between northern states and southern states (I doubt whether those numbers are correct!) is superficial. You could of course say that 50% is sa-gotra in first cousin marriage and it reduces to the second and tertiary levels. However, to prove that people of northern states have been conscious to avoid sa-gotra marriage, there is a need to delve into the statistics of second cousin and second uncle/niece marriages.
Its a tradition but not followed. It is still a tradition
Marrying cousin is common in Kerala. Marrying uncle is a sin. We can't even think that. In our old culture uncle take care of us like a father.
No I don't know from which region you are all it's still this type of marriages are continuing in andhra
Yes it's true cousin marriages exist a lot in south India..in my state Kerala it's decreasing but Tamil Nadu and Karnataka has a lot of such marriages..the surprising thing is my family doesn't consider it wierd at all .. my parents were telling stories how their first prospective bride and groom choices were their maternal cousins ... however eventually they didn't go with cousin marriage
I got tp know about it when I met a lot of South Indians. It felt so wierd that out customs could be similar but sometimes soo opposite. In Rajasthan, you can't even think about it, it is basically considered as incest. A lot of measure is taken so both are not from same Gotra, in fact it could be a hurdle in love marriage, that both have same gotra or common ancestry. I am an only child, so my cousins who live closeby are literally the siblings I never had!!😅
@@geisha-12bro We also follow gotra system nd this thing was done by Bhagwan Shri Krishna married Adjacent cousin Also Evn Arjun Subadhra Gotras are Different
In Maharashtra,boy marries maternal uncle's daughter and that is common also shown in most of the Marathi film
Arjun married his aunt Kanthi daughter Subhadra ,that’s Indian culture not just South Indian,even Gotra system exists in south india cross cousin gotra always will be different only
I'm from South India, more specifically Karnataka Mangalore and i find marrying cousins really weird because in my family i have most male cousins and second cousins , most of them are Christian because they're from my mom's side and i consider them my brother and they consider me their sister .
And in some kannada movies and tv serials they show main leads to be first cousins.
P.S: if anyone is confused, my mother is Christian and father is Hindu and we pray both the religious God in our Home.
I haven't seen Christians do this...
Same. I'm a Christian i find cousin marriage kinda wierd
@@crisdl2509 bro, Christianity doesn't want culture to change.
@@Klassyedit1 Teri mayya bathi hai rice bag 😂😂
@@Klassyedit1 Bruh I'm hindu
But you shouldn't make fun of someone's religion like this
Finnally someone took initiative to talk on such topic . Basically i m from Rajasthan but my school staff was from Kerala and my principle and his wife are actually cousins from maternal side and it was so shocking for us .But unexpectedly they were so cool about it since it's happening from ages .
@rupesh v it is bro but it's slowly changing but in dark zone areas still continue in remote villages
People are so damn closed in mind . Kerala practices matrilineal lineage , so child from other mother( not in the birth line or family of mother ) is another family altogether for them . North India practices Gotra system , that does not mean every one should practice the same . Get over your superiority complex for moral high grounds 😂
In kerala, prominent families married from amongst their extended family to prevent wealth from flowing out of their family
Cousin merriage me koi bhi problem nahi hoti ,,,me to chahta hun ki north india me bhi cousin merriage ho ,,,kyoki sabko pata hai ki ,,almost sare ladke ladko ka apne cousin par crush hota hai kahi n kahi ,,uper se to bahan bol dete hai lekin dik chahta hai ki wo uski lover ho ya husband wife ho ,,,,sacchayi to yahi hai ,,lekin 3 gotr taalne ki vajah se ye sambhav nahi hai ,,to Dil ki baat dil me rah jaati hai ,,isiliye wo hamesa Muslim or SI ko nicha dikhane ki kosis karte rahte hai ।
I'm from Kerala. It's common. Our cousins are our friends. Then y don't
Thank you for describing.
Very informative video, however i am not sure why the author used Kerala as a test case for cousin marriages considering that Kerala has one of the lowest rates of cousin marriages in India since the early 50's. This pratice is not very common among keralites as a whole.
I am from Karnataka and yet now I see people marrying their cousins but mostly their maternal uncles. It's disgusting but it's not those girls choice. They're forced into it. And their life is ruined.
Ya disgusting like you seen rotten food or something.
Many of them says their far relatives cousins can't they marry ???then they can mostly it's done in far far relatives cousins
Are you Muslim?
I live in lahore , Pakistan
I had been Victim of cousin marriage once
My Parents wanted to marry me with my Maternal aunt's son
And My aunt also wanted that
But thankfully my cousin don't want to marry me , Becouse he is educated ,
I grown up calling Him brother , How can I marry him . And I ended up marrying with my Childhood classmate.
My mother thinks that we have Royal blood and we can't Intermix aur blood with other low level blood , and sadly many pakistani believe in this stupid logic.
Marry who you want to.... Don't get bullied by your family for having an opinion.
Ur surname
A Rajput should follow Hindu gotra not Arabic stupidity.
@@uchihamadra2722 only it's easy in writing comments
But difficult in practice
@@firozabutt8306 I know try to become financially independent, try getting a job.
You then will have a strong footing.