TEN Reasons Why People Disrespect Us
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- People are going to be disrespectful in life no matter how much we try to be respectable, but there are times when we do play apart in the disrespect we get. In this video, I want to address 10 things that lead to us being disrespected by those around us. #disrespect #selfdefense #respectfulbehavior
Some disrespect you because they have a need to feel superior and to control you.
This ! 💯
I've had people goad me into giving up personal information; I go ahead and divulge. Then they can't stand me for it
That’s a fact
Yep!
The less people know of your personal life, the better. Always present yourself decently.
Keep yo biz yo biz. Be the mystery not the brochure.
The only things I share are designed to put them off my trail, so to say, people know everything I want them to know, and think what I have designed for them to think. Nothing more.
Don’t talk to strangers.
So true, don’t give people ammunition to use against you.
I love the quote by Brene Brown something like people have to earn the right to hear your story maybe it doesn't fit in here but it always reminds me to keep things close to the vest❤ I love your Channel❤
There is never any reason for anyone to disrespect us except if we are disrespectful. All this amounts to bullying. Bullies pick on the vulnerable.
*Summary of the video*
1. We allow to be disrespected
2. We talk too much
3. We are too kind and therefore taken to be weak
4. We are disrespectful
5. Poor physical condition
6. Our financial situation
7. We do not respect ourselves either
8. We are cynic
9. Our reputation
10. Hypocrisy
You could add age to the list.
While even people in their early fifties are held in low esteem by young people.
The elderly get no respect whatsoever.
@res2788
FYI
I summarized the video!
None of that matters. If they were anyway decent, they wouldn't use it as an excuse to try to abuse. The Internet is full of people saying to be kind to to weak old disabled etc amd showing how good they are raising for charities. So, no excuse!
@@res2788definitely.
A lot of times people will disrespect you because they are insecure and they are intimidated by you and that's their way of trying to feel better about themselves. I find the more u ignore disrespectful idiots the more intimidated they get and then they just back off. People like that are people who I relinquished from my life and my presence, life is too short to worry about idiots who are disrespectful, just ignore and avoid them and the more it burns them up inside.
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Envy is a demon. 🚫👿
I agree!!!!
Thanks again, Daniel, for another good video.
A couple of things I've thought of:
1. Jealousy: What I mean is, when other people are jealous of you, that can lead to them disrespecting you.
2. Feeling Insecure: When others feel insecure within themselves, they may disrespect you in order to feel better about themselves.
Envy is a demon. 🚫👿
I saw quite a bit of this, especially in my K-12 years. Parents need to teach their kids how to handle this.
Familiarity breeds contempt. I allowed my daughter and her sperm donor and grandchild to move in. Biggest mistake I have EVER made. It came to a point the sperm donor attacked me verbally because he wanted his way regarding where I parked MY TRUCK ON MY PROPERTY. Prior to that I WAS the most giving person on the planet. NOW, I am selling my house and moving away, and they have to make a whole lot of life choices - QUICK!
Ha!
🤦🏻♀️I need parents to reevaluate these children they aren't raising properly
Thank goodness. That would've escalated to more extreme abuse. Good for you!
As someone partially dealing with the aftermath of growing up without a real father figure, I appreciate the wise words and the measured, non-overbearing approach. Wouldn't mind more videos of this nature
Totally agree ❤
same here
Number 1. In my 20s I had to learn a hard lesson. I always wanted to be a nice guy, turn the other cheek type. I had to learn to get up off the floor and set boundaries. It was very difficult, due to my nature, but since then I never get pushed around and I never have had to throw hands again either. But I have had many situations that came to it, and for whatever reason, they backed down. I am still a nice guy, just don't test me, I don't move. Being a floor mat is not being nice, it's just being a willing victim.
Being nice and kind are not the same thing as being weak and soft.
Correct is right.
@@whiteyfisk9769 👍
@@aubreyleonae4108 My advice on handling disrespect: Start out courteously, go to firmly, advance to if you continue to…then I’ll…, end by finding a way to leave.
@@yvonnejackson1696 perfect !
Respect yourself. Don’t drink or do drugs. Don’t smoke. Pay attention to your surroundings. Anticipate where trouble may come and avoid it.
I spent my childhood in a woods behind my house and learned to watch everything around me. I notice things like a difference in texture that does not belong and I watch everyone around me so it takes alot to surprise me and to me that is just normal. I am amazed at people that don't pay attention to what is going on around them.
If you don't respect me,,simply ignoring you is a Relief..........
I’m going to be 74, I keep my ego in check. My business requires me to listen 90% of the time- but it took me a lifetime to learn this. Ty brother.
amen
I've been disrespected for HAVING alot of money too. People get jealous. You should have mentioned that having alot of money can get you disrespected.
Good add. It surely can
In what way have you been disrespected in this regard?
@@MMMC-z8y I've had it with 'I don't like your watch/house/car' from people who I used to think were friends and I'd say they got jealous when I did ok.
@@sloooog What hurt me most in life was not what people said to my face, but what they said behind my back.
@ Yeah, I can see that happening. Sad really!
Be real careful who you tell your problems to. The devil can only be in one place, at one time, but he has minions and demons everywhere listening. If he finds out your weakness, watch out.
The devil?...the criminally minded, virtue signaling twits and just rude people are just regular humans.
Man that one about being overly sarcastic hit me hard. I did lost my job recently over some comments I made that were out of place. I could've handled the situation better and just bite my tongue, but hey, lesson learned. Sometimes is necessary to hear stuff like this and try to better ourselves. Have a blessed day everyone!
Watched a bunch of your videos, and to be honest, i feel like all these things you talk about is what a dad tells his son. I have one, but he's absent, so here I am. Thank you, man!
So awesome to hear! Really makes me value what I do so thank you for sharing that
I completely agree
Humbling to hear this teaching. I've done a lot of these. Never to old to makes changes i hope!
we keep learning till the end. 🙂
I agree with most of what you are saying. As I get older, it gets harder for me to portray a picture of being a strong individual. You can't be let yourself be intimidated though.
I feel you, I often feel like I'm playing poker but always bluffing to some degree. Still have strong legs to run thankfully.
If you succeed, some people will resent you. If you fail, some people will ridicule you. Illegitimi non carborundum. Don't let the bastards (or bitches) grind you down.
So the lesson is, its about them NOT you
That was on Handmaid's tale! Good one!
You know my Dad.
Thank you.... You talk a lot of sense...
Good video and right on every point. It can be tough keeping your guard up or trying to figure out if someone's playing you, but sometimes it's necessary.
Thank you. Also, being overly flirtatious leads to disrespect.
Yes, and being known as a "womanizer" for lack of a better word.
I'm honest, but I also keep very many things private. My co- workers knows only a tiny fraction of me. And that's great! 😄
The idea of the fight, flight or freeze response is flawed. People also fawn. I think it's on the rise. Fawning behavior will be instantly identified by a predator and they will capitalized upon it. Fawning looks like being talkative but the predator can spot the subtle difference. Keeping talk to a "normal" level is important around most others BUT especially for an individual that is aware of this fawning response in themselves in a tricky "situation." If a predator spots a fawn they have already locked on their target. It's done, baby! I think it's just so messed up that I had to learn everything one could know about the criminal mind from my own experience of just trying to live a normal decent life, but this is our world, my world. So use it for good ! OUTSTANDING video THANKS so much.
::: not an easy subject ::: - fascinating how you tackle this.
As always, your content is spot-on Daniel! But regarding your question as to other reasons why others may be disrespectful, sometimes it's merely because the concept of respect wasn't ingrained in their culture/upbringing.
In my work I am constantly meeting, training, and observing new employees in our modern high turn over retail environment. I can usually accurately peg everything (I mean most everything) about them in the first week. I am rarely wrong. I developed this skill as I was always looking for dependable individuals from the herd, so to say, to work on my team. Those whom I pegged as the brightest went on to further their business careers in the company. My boss has the skill too. Self awareness is a rare thing these days. I believe a person really needs to see themselves as others do. Failing to do so, in my situation as a manager, meant to severely inhibit promotions, assignments, and perceived ability.
Machiavelli said “it’s better to be feared than loved”.
Good,stuff!
Military: Rank is what you wear. Respect is what you earn.
NCO's try to put their Troops foremost ahead of themselves, spending a lot of extra time assisting someone to excel.
Respect: I'm rolling with Mark 12:31
The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.
Older you are the more respect one should be able to obtain. Life is never all wins anyways so minimizing the bad moments is a big win 🥇
"You're talking a lot / But you're not saying anything / When I have nothing to say / My lips are sealed" - Talking Heads song
Oh YES !
Thank you for having put it in condensed manner.
Being a good friend, taken for granted
I need to hear these things and be reminded from time to time. Great wisdom.
I don't USUALLY allow people to disrespect me. But sometimes I allow it because it's just not worth it!
When they get me mad, I make intense eye contact letting them know. Sometimes I just ignore them because it's just not worth it.
When it happens all the time, it can wear you down and you end up retreating to your cave in order to nurse your wounds.
Why do so many immigrants disrespect Americans? Well, you name it and the list goes on and on.
Great food for thought. Self reflection is always a good thing, and I'm going to take inventory of my own behavior to see if I might be guilty of any of those things. I particularly like the theory that people disrespect us because we let them. Something Dr. Phil said years ago is very similar and resonated with me the same way. He said we teach people how to treat us, and I couldn't agree more.
Man, I’m so tired of this wretched world. That one philosopher was right, “hell is other people.”
Excellent video now give me ten reasons why I should care if people like me or not
There are none haha . If I’m at peace with the way, I’m living that’s all I’m responsible for.
I appreciate these thoughts. It's also possible to do all these things right and there are still some people who will want to provoke you. I'm never looking for trouble but I do carry brass knucks and or a good lock blade in the event that my efforts to either ignore the provocation doesn't work or my efforts to deescalate doesn't work.
Yep, as I said in the end. Some people are just going to be disrespectful
some folks need a tiny bit o' persuasion.
Three reasons why I am disrespected include being male, competent and informed.
It can definitely happen haha
Another area that breeds disrespect is when a person constantly minimizes another's point of view. Demeaning and criticizing alternate points of view gets noticed by others. It breeds disrespect.
Respect is given, but can be repealed.
Trust is earned, and can be broken.
Great video.
I'm a bit of a cynic, so this gives me something to think about.
A little bit of it is OK lol
I really enjoyed this video. Lots of good advice. Thank you.
Thanks for your suggestions. I think you came up with a lot of really eye-opening facets of personality that can be offputting to others. At the end of the day we’re all responsible for our side of the street and how we react to what is coming into us. If we are self-aware, we can fend off or avert all together a lot of the negativity that seems to be so natural in the world today. As you stated so much of this negativity is faceless, on the Internet, where people don’t have to show their true selves and can be critical without any consequences. I thought your suggestions were really good and appreciate you taking the time to present them in a logical, friendly and easy to understand way.
Well said, my friend. I’m laughing at the kindness part. People tend to underestimate me because of it… until they step on my toes. 😼 Keep well, God bless you and the fam! 🙏🏽
Such a good video.Thanks.
This is really good. 'Confronting our humanity' together. Thanks mate 🎉 Australia here
You’re like my new guru go-to guy😂. Seriously excellent takes on important topics we all can benefit from. I’ve watched this several times and saved it so I can come back and write them down. It helps me to have visual reminders so I can work on these points, daily. Thanks again!
Great to hear!
working on all 10 ❤
To suffer is a sign we are alive. When something happens we can get angry, depressed, fearful, or develop other neuroses instead of dealing with the source of suffering. Asking why am I suffering may result in identifying practices that we are doing to cause the suffering or it may identify that our suffering is not something we caused. Once identified, we can begin the process of healing. Once healthy we can begin to see ourselves more clearly and be empathetic toward others and treat them as we would want them to treat us.
I don’t believe I ever had acted like any of these things you describe. All I know is I stay on my own Homestead and mind my own business. I enjoy your mental strength videos.
Not setting firm boundaries -
I can't thank you enough, you bring so much wisdom to my life!
Along with insecurities, people can be disrespectful simply because they're unhappy with their own lives, so they lash out. When someone says something that's out of line, I respond to their behavior (calling it out), not them. One time, I said to the person, "Are you okay?" in a very sincere, concerned tone, and it startled her so much, she changed the subject!
I've seen drop-dead gorgeous women schlep along as they walk without any grace, and I've seen "not so handsome" men walk and hold themselves with great dignity--which do you think is actually more attractive and respectable?
I think the first rule is to respect yourself. Stand tall, step into a room like you're the CEO (and fake it til you make it). Take up space. There's only going to be one of you in the world for all history--make it count.
hello from germany you touched my heart.great comment
Thank you, enjoy watching ur videos , a lot of good advice.
Glad you like them!
In the past few years and into the present, if people become rude/cold, I basically either walk away or they get into my face:
I BECOME A WARRIOR OF SUCH THEY HAVE NOT SEEN BEFORE!
I'M A SENIOR CITIZEN/PATRIOT AND REFUSE TO LET ANYONE
ATTACK ME IN ANY WAY, IM NOT AFRAID, BUT!! I DO HAVE A
FEAR/REVERENCE OF GOD!✊🇺🇸👍
Thank you! Great life lessons!
Some of us protect other (abusive) people's reputation because it's a taboo (bad parenting) or just dangerous for us to expose them for their crimes.
Funny, how each reason you presented can be simplified into a form of weakness ... financial weakness, physical weakness, spiritual weakness, even just looking down-trodden indicates some sort of weakness. I find it amazing (but not in a good way) how people seem predisposed to disrespect weakness either intentionally or subconsciously. That tells me something about human nature.
Great advice. We should always look inward and do self evaluation …honestly!👍🏻🇺🇸
People don't respect me, ever since I was a child I was aware of this. I can count ONE workplace where people respected me.
Excellent. The people you hangout with. Negative for me.
Thanks again,
Great points. I’m listening.
Be careful with self-deprecating humour, this can be seen as weakness, lack of self-esteem/confidence and therefore they can get disrespect. Its amazing this can happen. But if someone sees that you doubt yourself and don't value yourself as much as they value themselves - real or false - then they see that as a target to attack. Be mindful of the messages you put out to people.
Great advice. Clear cut common sense. Thank You!😀
Sir, sound psychological insights. I follow the Golden Rule: Treat people the way you want to be treated. Well done
hello from germany yes the golden rule.i am trying my best,but still people treating me like dirt.god sees the the good heart inside us sorry for my grammatics
Respect is defending yourself and speaking up with that rude person and telling them what they did wrong. Some people never grow up and act childish and try to get on your nerves. They want a reaction so don't give in. Learning how to deal with shame.
top notch brother. great perspective&food for thought.
I love these video. I can tell the Big Hitters when I have listened several times and it gets me thinking for an hour.
few videos stop all my my other viewing for an hour or more.
Few words, big stick.
best they wonder what you got, never tell them anything true.
Good word 💯🇺🇸
Thank you for a wonderful video. Sometimes I was disrespected because of my mental health, so maybe you could tell us about that.
I live with that, it makes everything in life more complicated. ❤
@aubreyleonae4108 yes it does
Very well said Daniel 👏
You have not become our enemy or telling us the truth.
Thx For caring
Why do children be blamed for adults who abuse them? I see this all the time. It also doesn't matter if they're to young to understand.
God tells us to esteem others better than ourselves. We are to look not just to our own concerns. Problem is as people we don't know what others go through. God said we are to use righteous judgement not be condemning, but help others come to the faith in Christ and restore those who need restoration.
Overall I think this was a well thought out video! 🙏🏻
Thank you for this I really needed to hear this!
It doesnt matter. Dont focus on them. Direct your ebergy to what YOU think elsewhere. Dont give them importance.
A very important key is to nip it in the bud early on. Regardless of who it is. It may start off subtly, and they're testing the waters, but you need to stop it early on. You can't control their behavior, but you can control yours.
I'll add to your #5. It's not just poor physical condition, but rather, your stature. Bullies usually pick on people that are smaller than them. If you're a small guy, people disrespect you because they think they can physically take you. They're not intimidated by your size. Just like men are not typically intimidated by the size or physical prowess of women.
You're always okay with me. 🙂 Even when I do want to get to the point on your videos, I just skip forward. 😜
words of wisdom! listen
Thank you for this very good advice 🌹
Excellent video!!
I would add as first : Be Respectful to Others. Treat them how you would want to be treated. It can get you far in life.
At my age I have been all through the respect and disrespect stuff and I've got to the point where I just don't care I can do that because I'm old 😁😆🐝
amen to age 👍 I mean really, what can they do to us now?
I'm young & I already don't care 😂🤷🏻♀️I just keep avoiding these kind and enjoy being alone
@@thedivinefeminine1821 👍wish I learned that when I was younger, oh how different life would be....that's what I taught my son too, he's way ahead of me, I'm so glad.
Great advice here.
It's the same as why bullies bully, because they don't feel good about themselves. They don't have any self respect, so they need to take it from others. Some also let people disrespect them out of fear of reprimands, figure "Well, if I stand up to my boss for mistreating me, I might get fired".
Good points and good information that we should all look at and use to better ourselves, make ourselves stronger mentally and physically; I believe we can all look at this list and find something there that we might need to work on to better ourselves. Good insight for sure.
Good stuff. Thank you!
Very well said.
Very powerful video. Wish I saw this when I was 18. Thank you 🇺🇸 🇳🇿
Great Video 💯
Total Agreement With People Don’t Need To Know About Your FINANCES ! Rich Or Poor-Keep It To Yourself-My Biggest UGH Is Having To Listen To People Always Complaining About Not Having Enough Money etc, While Others Flash Almost Everything They Have On Some Type Of Social Media-Enough ! In My Opinion, That’ll Earn You Disrespect Immediately-Always Insightful Watching Your Vids-Thank You 🪶✌🏽
I was playing cards for money and chatting and grooving around friends told me to shut the f up. So I did, then they showed how now I I was quiet the other players had become afraid of me and a more stabilised card game endsued.
You are an amazingly intelligent guy!
Thanks so much 🙂
Great advice , i do my best to be respectful and kind to everyone as i don't know them nor what they are going through, but at the same time i refuse to be taken advantage of, if you cannot respect and stand up for and by yourself why would you expect anyone else to? walk tall and carry conceal a lethal legal load that God willing you will never need to use.
Thank you! This was good.
Great channel content, thank you! 🙏🏾⚡️
I appreciate you Daniel. Really love your channel. Much luv & respect, sincerely from another Daniel #VABoys
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I get 'disrespected' on occasion... but only by people who lack self-respect.
U can't respect anyone else until u learn to respect yourself first