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Studies shows the western believe of "the west treat women well and the none west treat women like crap" is nothing more then white supremacy bullshit and statistic show, the western world actually got the highest rate of abuse towards women, then in any other part of the world. In addition western women is possible amount most likely to put up with an abusive relationship. Having live in the western world for so many years, this does not surprise me anymore. Back when I was in school, in Asia, every white girl in our school say they won't date western men, unless they Easternized. We all use to think it is odd, why they act this way, until I move to the west, now, this does not surprise me anymore. The main reason, the west got the highest rate of domestic abuse, is firstly, in association with Christian value and traditional western value is build upon Christian value, which according to it, the wife is a slave of the husband, to do as he please and the bible endorse slavery, even encouraging beating of rebellious slaves, those ideals shape our traditional western value. Despite modern western value, does not endorse any of these ideas and believe the wife to be equal partner to the husband and you should not abuse your woman, not everybody is modernized, some people are more conservative and in favor of traditional western value and Christian values and despite some churches are more reformed, they are not all reformed. Just take a look at the issues associate with homosexuality in the western world right now, despite the main stream western value endorse tolerance towards the gays, how many Christian fanatics, are there out there going on angry protests that says, "god hate fags" right now? So, would it be such a surprise the rate of abuse towards women in the western world would be the highest, considering, what the bible teach about marriage? (the bible teach Wife must in all way submit to her husband [repeat at least in 8 different passages, from different books of the bible] + is the property of her husband + cannot divorce her husband = she is a slave) Despite in western TV ads it shows images of men loosing his temper and hit his wife, because she didn't make his dinner right and then the ad say "you should not do that, because that is abuse to women" you have no idea how many western men, I have seen is offended by those ads, due to the believe that wife is husband's slave and the slave didn't make his master's dinner correctly, thus he should have the right to hit her. (In fact, prior to 20th century, in the west, a wife is suppose to call her husband "master" or "sir") In fact this can still be a problem in the early 20th century US, lots of people ask why Hilary Clinton put up with Bill Clinton, it is because Bill Clinton despite been a cheater, is one of a few western men of his generation, who actually consider a wife to be his partner, rather then his property and that is enough to make Bill Clinton a great catch for her generation in the west, despite the cheating, consider Hilary Clinton is only 70 years old, these issues ain't that long ago Consider the idea "the west treat women well and the none west treat women like crap" is nothing more then white supremacy bullshit, it shouldn't be a surprise, many western images of the sort of ill treatments towards women, in the none west, could also be bullshit, constructed base on this bullshit theory of "the west treat women well and none west treat women like crap", I won't go as far as saying "they must all be bullshit", but we need to keep in mind "in relationship to some culture, it might be real, in relationship to other culture partly real, in relationship to some other cultures completely none sense and in relationship to certain other cultures, maybe it is taken out of context to support this stereotype." For example, the "Asia is a society where the husband is like a King and wife is like a servant" stereotype, I grew up in Asia my entire life and I've never seen this none sense, in fact u go try say a woman should serve her husband like a King in China, you probably get bashed up. Further example, there are female centralism society, tradition society fall into 2 category female centralism or male centralism, in early tribal society, due to necessity, society need to be organized into men doing external tasks that require more heavy labor and women doing internal task requiring less heavy labor (its same as why today, in war, men are first to be drafted into the army and when facing danger, elephant create a 3 rings circle male at the outer ring, female in middle ring and wounded, elderly and children in the inner ring), usually the external work of male contribute more to tribe, thus elevate man's status, to become male centralism society, but in some society, internal work contribute more or in some society, internal work require more heavy labor, thus men do internal work, while women conduct external work, thus elevate a woman's status, to become female centralism society. To say the west a male centralism society treat women well and none west treat women like crap, in relationship to none western female centralism society, is a complete joke. But there are lots of western people obsessed about the idea of "the west treat women well and the none west treat women like crap" and would be offended by anything that suggest otherwise, especially amount middle age male who have no sense of real achievements, this is the result of something psychologist refer to as fix believe, sometime when a person can gain some form of conscious or unconscious pay off, by believe in something that look for example and construct opinions in favor of it and ignore all else. Its influence meant, much of our focus on abuse to women, is focus on the none west and lot of time, it is things taken out of context or blown out of proportion, to help white people feel good about them self, because for commercial media, it is all about ratings. For example I have come across at least 3 Arabic women offended by the west portraying them to be a symbol of child marriage and abuse towards women, saying "yes, there are some Arabs like that, but not everybody is like that" There is a saying "Nobody can help u, until u are willing to admit u got a problem" and obsessed with the idea of "the west treat women well and the none west treat women like crap" doesn't help. As a result, actual study about issue of domestic abuse in the west, is frequently been over looked by people other then the small handful of academics that specialist in it, while the majority of people just look at the sensation of "how the evil arabs allows child marriage in Yanmen" Academic who actually study why issue of domestic abuse towards women, in the west is so high, frequently get no funding and very rarely, do they get appointed to become ministers, As a result, all policy makers do is, "OMG, the rate of domestic abuse is so high, let's make more law to protect women." but none of those policy even work, for example, western women are most likely to under report domestic abuse, because so many, are so obsess to have a man, they rather stay in unhealthy relationship, then to be single and because most decent guys, won't steal another guy's girl friend, unless he know her boy friend is a jerk, it mean the girl's obsession lead her to stay in bad relationship and missed out on good ones, frequently, only leave when issue is getting too serious, thus, the best policy is educate girls when they are in high school, so they have a healthy attitude towards love and on the other hand, ban churches from teaching passages favor of the "wife is husband's slave" theory, to impressionable children. Those would all help to decrease domestic abuse rate, but due to a lack of actual understanding of why abuse towards women is going insane, all we get is a whole bunch of concept that is political correctness going insane, for example the statement "u should never hit a woman." whenever I heard it I always say "no, the correct phrase is, u should never assault a person, including a woman.", if a woman try to rob me with a knife, I don't care of she is a chick, I am going to punch her and as for those Christian that believe a wife is a slave, they are still smacking their women around 24/7, if they wanted to, because they believe it is their god's given right and their women, because they are Christian also or are one of those western girls obsessed with having a man, would just put up with the shit, until it got so bad, she fear for her life, only then, would she seek help.
the more chances you give to someone the less respect they'll start to have for you. They'll begin to ignore the standards that you've set because they know another chance will always be given. they are not afraid to lose you because they know no matter what you won't walk away. They get comfortable with depending on your forgiveness. NEVER LET A PERSON GET COMFORTABLE DISRESPECTING YOU
no one should ever be abused or be in a abusive relationship it literally sucks the life out of u and i hate the fact that you went through that mama biscuit you deserve to be happy and when it is your time to be happy it will be the best feeling in the world but for now just do what you got to do to make your self happy alone
Abuse is never easy to deal with. The physical abuse leaves marks that may heal, but mental abuse scars don't ever heal. I am starting to heal from my abusive relationship. Thank you for speaking the truth. Thank you for empowering people.
not only physically abusive but being mentally abused is the WORST!!! I'm in that situation & it's so hard. especially when we have a daughter together & I lost my confidence on myself, I have low self-esteem..... words can actually scar people FOREVER!!!
This brought back SOOO many memories for me 😔I'm happy to say it's in the past for me but for A LOT of people it's their daily lives. Thank you for being so strong and putting yourself out there to be judged to help others. You are amazing ❤️
mental abuse video please! thank you! you've saved my life. right when I was about to back to him I saw this and saw things a different way. love you ❤
I started crying during this because my mom could relate to this soooo much and ive watch her get beat by her boyfriend coming to me crying saying why why do I stay with him but shes been with him for 8 years going through so much pain and I wish she would break up with him so bad but I cant make her and her sitting on the floor in the corner of her room crying while he hits her and it just makes me so mad and because of him she has went through sooo much pain and she is still with him to this day and in the past soooooo many things happened to her but they got their life together well my mom did but her boyfriend sits at home and does things while she out working three jobs and has a house now a house that is actually her house not staying with a friend or cousin or asking family for help because when she asked family they were never there for her thankyou
saw my mom go through it with my dad and it was the worst thing to witness especially as a young child and she eventually got out of it and took us, but it taught me what love wasn't and that I would never allow myself to be in something like that. If anyone is going through something like this please get out, you are worth more than this.
I been here!! Always know it's NOT WORTH IT!! I wish I left SOONER!!! I stayed quiet....but NEVER BE SILENT.....AND UR NOT ALONE!! SELF CARE FIRST!!! Be safe y'all!
I always feel like that I always ask myslef all the time but I left a couple months ago knowing I'm better for myself I bettered myself because of you thank you so much salice I hope you see this
you described my life three years ago. He is also an alcoholic. It's so hard to see reality when you're stuck so deep into abuse. It took nearly three years after I got away to love myself and untangle him from me. Thanks for this video. There desperately needs to be more education from a young age.
Yessss! Thank you. Love to hear this. Ive been there and done that. Abusers dont change. God is love. Not an abuser. Abusers arent loving ppl but narcissistic wounded and damaged ppl. Thanks girl once again💖
Thank you for your videos mama biscuit they help so much😢 I've known someone that was in abusing relationship but that person can't do nothing no more because there in heaven 😢😢😢
Make another motivational video about people not believing in you but believing in yourself and make it long. I love to hear your thoughts and opinions no matter how long it is
Seriously! For someone who lived an abusive relationship physically and mentally. Just want to say thank you for making this video. You are 100% right!
100% relatable. My mom and dad are going through it. I don't pick sides. It just made me more aware. I realized I literally have no idea what love is in a man to woman relationship. I'm afraid to love like that now. I love my friends and many other people but every time I think about dating or marriage I'm just like SIKE or NOPE! I feel so bad that I have to learn that there is good out there and that I just can't see it bc of what is imprinted in my head. Thank you so much Salice. I will take this with me on my journey of love.
Abusers deny everything and believe they do no wrong. And they will cut off anyone or anything to keep control, even an inspiration on social media might be a threat to their control.
The things you read off that journal were so vivid. I can not relate, but I've seen people I love go through this. People who can and are able to get out of an abusive relationship whether it's physically or mentally are one of the strongest human beings to me. ❤
thank you so much for tjis video i have been physically and mentally abused by my father a father who says one thing to some one but when he is alone angry with me or anyone/thing he would take it out on me or my little brother but since i am older i would protect my brother then get it worse on me...i am out of that now i can finally be me without worrying what would happen to me! Ive been out of this for about 10 to 11 months now my own dad does not want any thing to do with me now but i have hope and faith for each and every day because i know that i am loved by the people who have stayed in my life when every one eles left and by god❤...im just a 15 year old girl trying to get through life one step at a time but the travel is a lot harder than i thought...thank you again😊✌
my mom was in 2 abusive relationships one is my dad my birthday dad and they were married and I witness everything I was like 4 and I'm now 13 turning 14 on January 12 I was 11 when she got abuse again I heard most of it saw some of it and I blame myself for not stop it the second time 4 years old I didn't think of it I didn't know what abuse is I didn't know right from wrong I didn't know the difference between love and lust I didn't know until I turn 12 and 13 I now know love can be the most beautiful and spectacular thing ever, but it can be the most horrible most hell feeling ever that isn't love though people think it is and I'm just like why you such a kind hearted person why did you get this over what you deserve it just shocks me how people think that is love at the same time it isn't their fault its sad it is on how people treat people like that for no reason I can go on and on about this its going to be too long though so I'm just going to leave it here. btw just because I'm 14 it doesn't mean I'm stupid with this whole abusive relationship okay so older views please don't attack me just because of my age please thank you ❤
This one touches me more than anything because I've been in this relationship. You have no clue the amount of pain he put me through. I hate myself everyday for allowing myself for this happening to me. Salice Rose thank you for this video. I'd love to get to meet you because you have inspired me to be a stronger woman.
I dealt with it for 20 years with a narcissistic douche until in the end I was shot. There was so many other psychological torture incidents too. Thank you for addressing you. You have been such a light
I was in an abusive relationship for a minute and it took me so long to leave.. my dad had to find bruises on my cheat and arms in order for me to realize that whay he was doing was wrong and that he didn't love me... hearing you talk about this really triggered some emotions pero it did make me never ever wanna put myself back in that situation again and I now know how to recognize it and what to do when it happens. I love you so much momma biscuit 💜💜💜✨
this hit me in my heart and made me go back and think of the pain ive been through. and if i never got out of those abusive 5 years of pain i wouldnt be here right now. now ive been happily married with a beautiful baby boy and with the love of my life. thank you for your words Salice I LOVE YOU!!!
Thankyou for the video, I loved it. However, I wish you had talked more about emotional and mental abuse, rather than just physical. Because sometimes, when hitting is not involved, people tend to doubt whether or not it is abuse because there is no violence. Maybe you could touch on that in the future? Anyway, thanks for the great video! x
Thank you! I've been through it and that shit literally broke me to the point where I didn't want to be here anymore. You keep going back just be hurt again.. don't do that to yourself. You deserve the best for yourself, nobody deserve to be played with or be wasting their time with anybody.
Thank you for making this. So many people need to hear this! "abusive" can be physical, mental, emotional and verbal. It comes in so many different ways but this video relates to all. Love yourself first. Thank you Salice!
I wish I had of heard this year's ago..I spent 5 1/2 years in that lifestyle..took everything in me to leave..BUT I finally did..I gained independence I was never allowed to have and Gained my name back which was taken away by vulgar substitutes.. ive been bruise/abuse free for almost 2 1/2 years its an amazing feeling how the world looks when you see it from a different angle...even found the love of my life! You are so inspirational I hope one day you write a book...you need to! Lol Keep smiling and doing what you do best ♡♡♡
I'm a guy that just got out of a toxic relationship, and damn have you made everything easier for me, I had lost myself trying to love someone that didn't care about me let alone feel the same, ur freaking amazing and my hero 😊
I have to thank you yet again. When I am in my darkest place I always find light from your videos. I just left an emotionally abusive relationship and I'm desperately trying to be ok in the aftermath of it. I know its not compatible to a physically abusive relationship but I am a fractured person right now. I'm still worried about him, still hoping he's ok, still wanting to love and protect him. I don't know how to keep that from happening. But I took the first step and left, of cpurse he blamed me for everything that was wrong with us, but that is so far from the truth. Just. Thank you for the validation that I'm not a horrible person and this isn't my fault.
ive never been physically abuse bt ive been mentally abuse n emotionally abuse it sux either bt ive finally learn Diss year to let qo n be on ma own w/out hym I love u Salice ur A1 qurl.!!!❤
Girl you have speak your mind, I recommend you to anyone that she going through this. I know this because of my mom and one of your ex boyfriend. But me and her are more than just blessed that she left him for good!
if a man abuses a woman who he claims to be his girlfriend/wife, he is a evil piece of shit who you should leave immediately! go to a hospital, police station, any public place to report him and get support in order to remove yourself from the situation
the feeling i have with malice rose it is the best thing ever the way she says her words can be the best feeling in the world and then thing that she gore through i feel bad and thats something really hard and if u care what happens to u give this maybe 10 thumbs up and support salice rose she is an AMAZING PEARSON TO HAVE IN YOUR LIFE !!!!!
I love you for making me feel not insane you make me feel that I'm not alone, I just got out of a 2 year relationship with my boyfriend and he left me with a green eye and many times before he has hit me and chocked me and pulled a knife of me and yet blamed me for his mistakes. I've never watched your videos but I will be from now on because you have made me cry for connection with you. It's horrible to be stuck in that relationship with some like that and I'm so happy that I'm out of it now and yeah I found out the hard way and was confused and kept calling the fucker for no reason but to get more abuse from someone who I had lust for. I only wanted to be loved and now I've started to know what butterflies feel again and I'm so happy :) Thank you so much for making this video your amazing
thank you for posting this. it's hard to let someone go when you've been married for over 10yrs and you have kids. it's hard to let go of the good times. it's hard to give up when things are better than they once were but it's not what it should be and will probably never be. it's hard when they don't love you the way you deserve and u don't want to give up on the them because they are "loving you" the only way they know how. a day passes a week a month a year and before you know it your life and if you don't remove yourself from the situation you will have spent your life not having the love you deserve and you miss out on so many good things because you are so dragged down by the pain you lose yourself and never feel good enough for anything. when you have been treated like you aren't enough for so long you start to believe it, whether u realize it or not, and then u feel like u cant do anything on your own because u feel like u will fail. you feel like evrery person you come in contact with sees those "failures or shortcomings" and that's not true. because you do matter you do have alot to offer you are worth something and you are totally enough and more. sometime there's a point when u have to let it go and love yourself and you will see you can manage on your own and remove that negativity from your life and things WILL be better for you. but you have to let them go.
This is so true.. really need to showy mom this because she's been living this kind of relationship for years and doesn't listen to me.. love you home girl appreciate ya
Bri Smith preciosa💘 are you okay? I hope you keep striving to be who you are. Latinas are strong individuals and we faught to be at peace. Please don't listen to others. they're just bored and don't knoe the true meaning of the Spanish community. I'm Latina myself, I've learned that us, as Hispanics, have to stay true to who we are. we can not settle or they grow taller. I'll pray for you💗
Bri Smith as a non Latina just because you can't or are unable to speak your language doesn't make you any less of what or who you are. That's just like if I was German but I couldn't speak the language involved in it, it doesn't make me any less German.
Girl i get that. I'm adopted and don't speak Spanish. And people always try to speak Spanish to me and I get looks from people like there is something wrong with me
Wow when I posted my first comment I had put it on pause and once o finished watching the whole video tears started running down my face... your words really touch my heart.
This is so damn true.. this spoke to me so much, I'm currently having to deal with this .. so just by watching, I cried my eyes out, everything was so true. and it feels good knowing I'm not alone and that its never too late to get out of pain. Thank you so much Salice!!! you helped open my eyes.
I wear this is the 3 third time I've watched this video to put it in my head that i need to do the right thing for the better of me. I know whats right from wrong , and i know I shouldn't be in this kind of relationship. But like you said its hard you feel at home , the time been with him since i was 16 now im 19. I was in love with a totally different person , now he's so different , i stay because it only happens when he gets mad. I keep saying in my head things will one day change!! But at the end of the day ... i know deep down its never going to change... thank you for the video. Im going to use it as a help to move on to better things and persons in life❤️
oh ma god mama buscuit is so strong and so right and shes giving love and help to so many people when she could just stay broken and silent i loooooove you so much thanks for everythibg
Saliceeee! I absolutely love you! You should do a video on manipulative or toxic people - the signs and how walking away from them can positively help you. I know a lot of people who need to hear it. I needed it when I left my toxic relationship.
is very nice to hear this I've been going through my situation she says she loves me but I can't count how many times over the course of almost 3 years I am constantly being hurt mentally physically and I always keep my composure. it's very hard to let go but I can't see a life with this person. thank you again for pouring yourself and your thoughts totally appreciate it
I need friends like you to be around. You're so honest about everything you said in this video, no beating around the bush. I am in the same situation and I'm looking for a way to leave this almost 4 year toxic and abusive relationship.. a restraining order might be necessary.
Salice, you should have your own talk show, that would be AMAZING
Yesssssss🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️
Manie Blewett Agree 😍🙌
Manie Blewett tureeeeee
Yes
omg yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
everything she said is so true because i have been in one😢💯
Cassy Lovesu I've been in two relationships😭
Studies shows the western believe of "the west treat women well and the none west treat women like crap" is nothing more then white supremacy bullshit and statistic show, the western world actually got the highest rate of abuse towards women, then in any other part of the world. In addition western women is possible amount most likely to put up with an abusive relationship.
Having live in the western world for so many years, this does not surprise me anymore. Back when I was in school, in Asia, every white girl in our school say they won't date western men, unless they Easternized. We all use to think it is odd, why they act this way, until I move to the west, now, this does not surprise me anymore.
The main reason, the west got the highest rate of domestic abuse, is firstly, in association with Christian value and traditional western value is build upon Christian value, which according to it, the wife is a slave of the husband, to do as he please and the bible endorse slavery, even encouraging beating of rebellious slaves, those ideals shape our traditional western value. Despite modern western value, does not endorse any of these ideas and believe the wife to be equal partner to the husband and you should not abuse your woman, not everybody is modernized, some people are more conservative and in favor of traditional western value and Christian values and despite some churches are more reformed, they are not all reformed. Just take a look at the issues associate with homosexuality in the western world right now, despite the main stream western value endorse tolerance towards the gays, how many Christian fanatics, are there out there going on angry protests that says, "god hate fags" right now? So, would it be such a surprise the rate of abuse towards women in the western world would be the highest, considering, what the bible teach about marriage? (the bible teach Wife must in all way submit to her husband [repeat at least in 8 different passages, from different books of the bible] + is the property of her husband + cannot divorce her husband = she is a slave) Despite in western TV ads it shows images of men loosing his temper and hit his wife, because she didn't make his dinner right and then the ad say "you should not do that, because that is abuse to women" you have no idea how many western men, I have seen is offended by those ads, due to the believe that wife is husband's slave and the slave didn't make his master's dinner correctly, thus he should have the right to hit her. (In fact, prior to 20th century, in the west, a wife is suppose to call her husband "master" or "sir") In fact this can still be a problem in the early 20th century US, lots of people ask why Hilary Clinton put up with Bill Clinton, it is because Bill Clinton despite been a cheater, is one of a few western men of his generation, who actually consider a wife to be his partner, rather then his property and that is enough to make Bill Clinton a great catch for her generation in the west, despite the cheating, consider Hilary Clinton is only 70 years old, these issues ain't that long ago
Consider the idea "the west treat women well and the none west treat women like crap" is nothing more then white supremacy bullshit, it shouldn't be a surprise, many western images of the sort of ill treatments towards women, in the none west, could also be bullshit, constructed base on this bullshit theory of "the west treat women well and none west treat women like crap", I won't go as far as saying "they must all be bullshit", but we need to keep in mind "in relationship to some culture, it might be real, in relationship to other culture partly real, in relationship to some other cultures completely none sense and in relationship to certain other cultures, maybe it is taken out of context to support this stereotype." For example, the "Asia is a society where the husband is like a King and wife is like a servant" stereotype, I grew up in Asia my entire life and I've never seen this none sense, in fact u go try say a woman should serve her husband like a King in China, you probably get bashed up. Further example, there are female centralism society, tradition society fall into 2 category female centralism or male centralism, in early tribal society, due to necessity, society need to be organized into men doing external tasks that require more heavy labor and women doing internal task requiring less heavy labor (its same as why today, in war, men are first to be drafted into the army and when facing danger, elephant create a 3 rings circle male at the outer ring, female in middle ring and wounded, elderly and children in the inner ring), usually the external work of male contribute more to tribe, thus elevate man's status, to become male centralism society, but in some society, internal work contribute more or in some society, internal work require more heavy labor, thus men do internal work, while women conduct external work, thus elevate a woman's status, to become female centralism society. To say the west a male centralism society treat women well and none west treat women like crap, in relationship to none western female centralism society, is a complete joke.
But there are lots of western people obsessed about the idea of "the west treat women well and the none west treat women like crap" and would be offended by anything that suggest otherwise, especially amount middle age male who have no sense of real achievements, this is the result of something psychologist refer to as fix believe, sometime when a person can gain some form of conscious or unconscious pay off, by believe in something that look for example and construct opinions in favor of it and ignore all else. Its influence meant, much of our focus on abuse to women, is focus on the none west and lot of time, it is things taken out of context or blown out of proportion, to help white people feel good about them self, because for commercial media, it is all about ratings. For example I have come across at least 3 Arabic women offended by the west portraying them to be a symbol of child marriage and abuse towards women, saying "yes, there are some Arabs like that, but not everybody is like that" There is a saying "Nobody can help u, until u are willing to admit u got a problem" and obsessed with the idea of "the west treat women well and the none west treat women like crap" doesn't help. As a result, actual study about issue of domestic abuse in the west, is frequently been over looked by people other then the small handful of academics that specialist in it, while the majority of people just look at the sensation of "how the evil arabs allows child marriage in Yanmen" Academic who actually study why issue of domestic abuse towards women, in the west is so high, frequently get no funding and very rarely, do they get appointed to become ministers, As a result, all policy makers do is, "OMG, the rate of domestic abuse is so high, let's make more law to protect women." but none of those policy even work, for example, western women are most likely to under report domestic abuse, because so many, are so obsess to have a man, they rather stay in unhealthy relationship, then to be single and because most decent guys, won't steal another guy's girl friend, unless he know her boy friend is a jerk, it mean the girl's obsession lead her to stay in bad relationship and missed out on good ones, frequently, only leave when issue is getting too serious, thus, the best policy is educate girls when they are in high school, so they have a healthy attitude towards love and on the other hand, ban churches from teaching passages favor of the "wife is husband's slave" theory, to impressionable children. Those would all help to decrease domestic abuse rate, but due to a lack of actual understanding of why abuse towards women is going insane, all we get is a whole bunch of concept that is political correctness going insane, for example the statement "u should never hit a woman." whenever I heard it I always say "no, the correct phrase is, u should never assault a person, including a woman.", if a woman try to rob me with a knife, I don't care of she is a chick, I am going to punch her and as for those Christian that believe a wife is a slave, they are still smacking their women around 24/7, if they wanted to, because they believe it is their god's given right and their women, because they are Christian also or are one of those western girls obsessed with having a man, would just put up with the shit, until it got so bad, she fear for her life, only then, would she seek help.
I've been in two, sadly enough
Cassy Lovesu what is it like
the more chances you give to someone the less respect they'll start to have for you. They'll begin to ignore the standards that you've set because they know another chance will always be given. they are not afraid to lose you because they know no matter what you won't walk away. They get comfortable with depending on your forgiveness. NEVER LET A PERSON GET COMFORTABLE DISRESPECTING YOU
I've cried because it's so true and been in one😔
everything you talked about is so true! I was in an abusive relationship for 5 years.
no one should ever be abused or be in a abusive relationship it literally sucks the life out of u and i hate the fact that you went through that mama biscuit you deserve to be happy and when it is your time to be happy it will be the best feeling in the world but for now just do what you got to do to make your self happy alone
I love how you don't care what people say about you I want to be like you so pretty and beautiful and thank for making my day
hey guys it lily frimzy in your profile pic😍
Mama biscuit your such an inspiration ily so much 💘💘💘🔐🔐
salice can you please make a video talking about emotional and mental abuse in relationships
alexa rae yess please
Abuse is never easy to deal with. The physical abuse leaves marks that may heal, but mental abuse scars don't ever heal. I am starting to heal from my abusive relationship. Thank you for speaking the truth. Thank you for empowering people.
not only physically abusive but being mentally abused is the WORST!!! I'm in that situation & it's so hard. especially when we have a daughter together & I lost my confidence on myself, I have low self-esteem..... words can actually scar people FOREVER!!!
Can you do a video on self esteem and self confidence?! Love you!!
Cierra Martinez , Salice you should
This brought back SOOO many memories for me 😔I'm happy to say it's in the past for me but for A LOT of people it's their daily lives. Thank you for being so strong and putting yourself out there to be judged to help others. You are amazing ❤️
Jennifer Contreras Amen,
mental abuse video please!
thank you! you've saved my life. right when I was about to back to him I saw this and saw things a different way. love you ❤
Jessy please don't go back to him... you deserve so much more. Take care and stay strong!
I've learned the hard way sadly.. but I'm glad I opened my eyes & now I'm happily taken 9 years strong💘
You made me feel so independent❤thank you saliceeee☺️☺️☺️
I started crying during this because my mom could relate to this soooo much and ive watch her get beat by her boyfriend coming to me crying saying why why do I stay with him but shes been with him for 8 years going through so much pain and I wish she would break up with him so bad but I cant make her and her sitting on the floor in the corner of her room crying while he hits her and it just makes me so mad and because of him she has went through sooo much pain and she is still with him to this day and in the past soooooo many things happened to her but they got their life together well my mom did but her boyfriend sits at home and does things while she out working three jobs and has a house now a house that is actually her house not staying with a friend or cousin or asking family for help because when she asked family they were never there for her thankyou
Thanks MaMa you're helping me get through a rough patch right now. You will forever be my MaMa Biscuit! 💖💛💙💜💚❤💗💓💕💞💘
saw my mom go through it with my dad and it was the worst thing to witness especially as a young child and she eventually got out of it and took us, but it taught me what love wasn't and that I would never allow myself to be in something like that. If anyone is going through something like this please get out, you are worth more than this.
Thank you Salice your words are powerful. 💓💓💓💓
YOUR SO ON POINT!!
Left abusive marriage a year ago and it still makes me sad but God has given me such a Beautiful PEACE.
Salice has been thru a lot 😔
I been here!! Always know it's NOT WORTH IT!! I wish I left SOONER!!! I stayed quiet....but NEVER BE SILENT.....AND UR NOT ALONE!! SELF CARE FIRST!!! Be safe y'all!
Ugh your words always hit me! 😭😭😭 sometimes I sit and wonder did I marry the wrong guy? idk what to do or how to feel sometimes. I just want to cry!!
I always feel like that I always ask myslef all the time but I left a couple months ago knowing I'm better for myself I bettered myself because of you thank you so much salice I hope you see this
You inspire me Salice love you so much 💕
you described my life three years ago. He is also an alcoholic. It's so hard to see reality when you're stuck so deep into abuse. It took nearly three years after I got away to love myself and untangle him from me. Thanks for this video. There desperately needs to be more education from a young age.
I love all your advice your words are so powerful thank you❤❤
Yessss! Thank you. Love to hear this. Ive been there and done that. Abusers dont change. God is love. Not an abuser. Abusers arent loving ppl but narcissistic wounded and damaged ppl. Thanks girl once again💖
you should do a story time about your abusive relationship
Veronica Olvera-Gallardo She told it on her Snapchat a little while ago.
Dionna Martin today??
No, it was a while ago. It was really sad.
Dionna Martin o ok i never heard it
Do you have her on snap ?
Thank you for your videos mama biscuit they help so much😢 I've known someone that was in abusing relationship but that person can't do nothing no more because there in heaven 😢😢😢
Make another motivational video about people not believing in you but believing in yourself and make it long. I love to hear your thoughts and opinions no matter how long it is
Seriously! For someone who lived an abusive relationship physically and mentally. Just want to say thank you for making this video. You are 100% right!
your words really touch me I know you mean them
I Love your taking videos
**can you do on one what if your parents don't accept your boyfriend**
100% relatable. My mom and dad are going through it. I don't pick sides. It just made me more aware. I realized I literally have no idea what love is in a man to woman relationship. I'm afraid to love like that now. I love my friends and many other people but every time I think about dating or marriage I'm just like SIKE or NOPE! I feel so bad that I have to learn that there is good out there and that I just can't see it bc of what is imprinted in my head. Thank you so much Salice. I will take this with me on my journey of love.
I just love her !!! @salice rose ❤❤❤❤
I cried when you read your poem about pain. An abusive relationship hurts and causes you to deceive a lot of things. I've dealt with it for 2 years.
Why the dislikes? I would like to know why
Virginia Martinez they are the abusive ones
Abusers deny everything and believe they do no wrong. And they will cut off anyone or anything to keep control, even an inspiration on social media might be a threat to their control.
Virginia Martinez its the people that abusing ppl
Omg u have no idea how many times I’ve hit the dislike button on mistake went back to it and was so confused
The things you read off that journal were so vivid. I can not relate, but I've seen people I love go through this. People who can and are able to get out of an abusive relationship whether it's physically or mentally are one of the strongest human beings to me. ❤
Tbh I can listen,watch you talk all day. ❤❤
thank you so much for tjis video i have been physically and mentally abused by my father a father who says one thing to some one but when he is alone angry with me or anyone/thing he would take it out on me or my little brother but since i am older i would protect my brother then get it worse on me...i am out of that now i can finally be me without worrying what would happen to me! Ive been out of this for about 10 to 11 months now my own dad does not want any thing to do with me now but i have hope and faith for each and every day because i know that i am loved by the people who have stayed in my life when every one eles left and by god❤...im just a 15 year old girl trying to get through life one step at a time but the travel is a lot harder than i thought...thank you again😊✌
can u make a video about how u know if it's love or lust and whether u should stay or not
Thats a good one!!
I was in an abusive relationship for 6 years....mentally & physically.... thank you for this video Salice I LOVE YOU!!!
my mom was in 2 abusive relationships one is my dad my birthday dad and they were married and I witness everything I was like 4 and I'm now 13 turning 14 on January 12 I was 11 when she got abuse again I heard most of it saw some of it and I blame myself for not stop it the second time 4 years old I didn't think of it I didn't know what abuse is I didn't know right from wrong I didn't know the difference between love and lust I didn't know until I turn 12 and 13 I now know love can be the most beautiful and spectacular thing ever, but it can be the most horrible most hell feeling ever that isn't love though people think it is and I'm just like why you such a kind hearted person why did you get this over what you deserve it just shocks me how people think that is love at the same time it isn't their fault its sad it is on how people treat people like that for no reason I can go on and on about this its going to be too long though so I'm just going to leave it here. btw just because I'm 14 it doesn't mean I'm stupid with this whole abusive relationship okay so older views please don't attack me just because of my age please thank you ❤
elsie zuniga damn just tell yourself or your mom to be strong and to know that you or your mom are an independent woman and a strong woman !!!!
This one touches me more than anything because I've been in this relationship. You have no clue the amount of pain he put me through. I hate myself everyday for allowing myself for this happening to me. Salice Rose thank you for this video. I'd love to get to meet you because you have inspired me to be a stronger woman.
Mama biscuit!!💓💓💞💕❤️❤️I love you so much you inspire me and make me realize things I have been blinded for , what happened to your lip ?
Her spirit is so pure and harmonious😌.She has a way of making people feel special in who they are and making me like I can put my mind at ease😊
I love how you give advise 💖💖💖💖💖
I dealt with it for 20 years with a narcissistic douche until in the end I was shot. There was so many other psychological torture incidents too. Thank you for addressing you. You have been such a light
I was in an abusive relationship for a minute and it took me so long to leave.. my dad had to find bruises on my cheat and arms in order for me to realize that whay he was doing was wrong and that he didn't love me... hearing you talk about this really triggered some emotions pero it did make me never ever wanna put myself back in that situation again and I now know how to recognize it and what to do when it happens. I love you so much momma biscuit 💜💜💜✨
Hello love, early squad ! I love your insights
Juliana Sosa it's not early it's just being on time
this hit me in my heart and made me go back and think of the pain ive been through. and if i never got out of those abusive 5 years of pain i wouldnt be here right now. now ive been happily married with a beautiful baby boy and with the love of my life. thank you for your words Salice I LOVE YOU!!!
Thankyou for the video, I loved it. However, I wish you had talked more about emotional and mental abuse, rather than just physical. Because sometimes, when hitting is not involved, people tend to doubt whether or not it is abuse because there is no violence.
Maybe you could touch on that in the future?
Anyway, thanks for the great video! x
Im not even in an abusive relationship and this touched my heart. Salice you are so beautiful and kind-hearted. I love you.
Thank you! I've been through it and that shit literally broke me to the point where I didn't want to be here anymore. You keep going back just be hurt again.. don't do that to yourself. You deserve the best for yourself, nobody deserve to be played with or be wasting their time with anybody.
I wonder if the people that didn't like the video are abusive people....
Itzel Alvarez Or the ones still in denial about their abusive relationship...
Selinah Richards that is true too
Yeah
Itzel Alvarez i wonder that 2
The thing that I love the most about you is how you talk to us. You talk to us with 100% truth. It makes me feel atleast like you're really my friend.
Omg 😔😔 this brought so many bad memories
Thank you for making this. So many people need to hear this! "abusive" can be physical, mental, emotional and verbal. It comes in so many different ways but this video relates to all. Love yourself first. Thank you Salice!
can you do a video about depression , anxiety and sucide . ???
yoo girll late night thoughts
I wish I had of heard this year's ago..I spent 5 1/2 years in that lifestyle..took everything in me to leave..BUT I finally did..I gained independence I was never allowed to have and Gained my name back which was taken away by vulgar substitutes.. ive been bruise/abuse free for almost 2 1/2 years its an amazing feeling how the world looks when you see it from a different angle...even found the love of my life! You are so inspirational I hope one day you write a book...you need to! Lol
Keep smiling and doing what you do best ♡♡♡
Can you talk about depression and anxiety and all that type of stuff
Haley Stewart she talked about that in late night thoughts
I'm a guy that just got out of a toxic relationship, and damn have you made everything easier for me, I had lost myself trying to love someone that didn't care about me let alone feel the same, ur freaking amazing and my hero 😊
you help me so much❣
I have to thank you yet again. When I am in my darkest place I always find light from your videos. I just left an emotionally abusive relationship and I'm desperately trying to be ok in the aftermath of it. I know its not compatible to a physically abusive relationship but I am a fractured person right now. I'm still worried about him, still hoping he's ok, still wanting to love and protect him. I don't know how to keep that from happening. But I took the first step and left, of cpurse he blamed me for everything that was wrong with us, but that is so far from the truth. Just. Thank you for the validation that I'm not a horrible person and this isn't my fault.
Ur the realist Salice all u say is true I love u 💘
Thank. You.
Can you do a fake friends video
Yes please
yes plz
Lit Fam pleasee
Pleaseeeeee
AMEN SALICE.....WE NEED TO RESPECT OURSELFS AND SEE THE TRUE VALUE WE AND MYSELF are WORTH!!!
Can you please make a video talking about when you actually know you're in love and when you actually know he or she loves you
Jennifer Castillo you don't
ive never been physically abuse
bt ive been mentally abuse n
emotionally abuse it sux either
bt ive finally learn Diss year to
let qo n be on ma own w/out hym
I love u Salice ur A1 qurl.!!!❤
Girl you have speak your mind, I recommend you to anyone that she going through this. I know this because of my mom and one of your ex boyfriend. But me and her are more than just blessed that she left him for good!
if a man abuses a woman who he claims to be his girlfriend/wife, he is a evil piece of shit who you should leave immediately!
go to a hospital, police station, any public place to report him and get support in order to remove yourself from the situation
the feeling i have with malice rose it is the best thing ever the way she says her words can be the best feeling in the world and then thing that she gore through i feel bad and thats something really hard and if u care what happens to u give this maybe 10 thumbs up and support salice rose she is an AMAZING PEARSON TO HAVE IN YOUR LIFE !!!!!
can i get a definition of verbal abuse? please... i really actually need it💔
rosio gonzalez Google it. Your partner insults and degrades you so much that they can basically become controlling and it leads to emotional abuse.
rosio gonzalez im sorry
rosio gonzalez if they're putting you down constantly about everything you do/wear, that's abuse
I love you for making me feel not insane you make me feel that I'm not alone, I just got out of a 2 year relationship with my boyfriend and he left me with a green eye and many times before he has hit me and chocked me and pulled a knife of me and yet blamed me for his mistakes. I've never watched your videos but I will be from now on because you have made me cry for connection with you. It's horrible to be stuck in that relationship with some like that and I'm so happy that I'm out of it now and yeah I found out the hard way and was confused and kept calling the fucker for no reason but to get more abuse from someone who I had lust for. I only wanted to be loved and now I've started to know what butterflies feel again and I'm so happy :)
Thank you so much for making this video your amazing
Can you make one about having repeating arguments with your someone you love?
thank you for posting this. it's hard to let someone go when you've been married for over 10yrs and you have kids. it's hard to let go of the good times. it's hard to give up when things are better than they once were but it's not what it should be and will probably never be. it's hard when they don't love you the way you deserve and u don't want to give up on the them because they are "loving you" the only way they know how. a day passes a week a month a year and before you know it your life and if you don't remove yourself from the situation you will have spent your life not having the love you deserve and you miss out on so many good things because you are so dragged down by the pain you lose yourself and never feel good enough for anything. when you have been treated like you aren't enough for so long you start to believe it, whether u realize it or not, and then u feel like u cant do anything on your own because u feel like u will fail. you feel like evrery person you come in contact with sees those "failures or shortcomings" and that's not true. because you do matter you do have alot to offer you are worth something and you are totally enough and more. sometime there's a point when u have to let it go and love yourself and you will see you can manage on your own and remove that negativity from your life and things WILL be better for you. but you have to let them go.
Talk about Long Distance Relationships?? But I love you so much momma biscuit, ❤️😢
This is so true.. really need to showy mom this because she's been living this kind of relationship for years and doesn't listen to me.. love you home girl appreciate ya
it's a good video I want you to make a advice relationship momma biscuit
this made me cry been threw it 😔for almost 5 years & i thank God I left it before it was to late , everything you said was on point .
I love you so much ❤ Can you please do a video on not being Latina enough
Bri Smith preciosa💘 are you okay? I hope you keep striving to be who you are. Latinas are strong individuals and we faught to be at peace. Please don't listen to others. they're just bored and don't knoe the true meaning of the Spanish community. I'm Latina myself, I've learned that us, as Hispanics, have to stay true to who we are. we can not settle or they grow taller. I'll pray for you💗
Thank you. That means so much to me. I'm mixed with black and Mexican and I feel like because I don't speak Spanish I'm not as Latina.
Bri Smith same but im mixed with several other races and i am really white and have blue eyes
Bri Smith as a non Latina just because you can't or are unable to speak your language doesn't make you any less of what or who you are. That's just like if I was German but I couldn't speak the language involved in it, it doesn't make me any less German.
Girl i get that.
I'm adopted and don't speak Spanish.
And people always try to speak Spanish to me and I get looks from people like there is something wrong with me
Preach it baby girl!! All should listen to this!! Your a youngster and your very wise!!
do one about fake friends
Heylyn Aguilar yesss
I could not even express how much I appreciate you doing this video. I have never been able to relate to anyone about all of this.
do you have broken home experience???
Irania Fuentes yeah ik, but I was asking if she had any advice for a child in a broken home.
Irania Fuentes it's fine.
Natalee Dean I have been threw a broken home my dad use to torture my mother an blamed her
sandra aguila wow. I'm so sorry.
I do have that experience
Wow when I posted my first comment I had put it on pause and once o finished watching the whole video tears started running down my face... your words really touch my heart.
I love u sooooo muchhh😫😫😫💘💘💘💘💘💘
This is so damn true.. this spoke to me so much, I'm currently having to deal with this .. so just by watching, I cried my eyes out, everything was so true. and it feels good knowing I'm not alone and that its never too late to get out of pain. Thank you so much Salice!!! you helped open my eyes.
Books. Publish books ❤😢
I wear this is the 3 third time I've watched this video to put it in my head that i need to do the right thing for the better of me. I know whats right from wrong , and i know I shouldn't be in this kind of relationship. But like you said its hard you feel at home , the time been with him since i was 16 now im 19. I was in love with a totally different person , now he's so different , i stay because it only happens when he gets mad. I keep saying in my head things will one day change!! But at the end of the day ... i know deep down its never going to change... thank you for the video. Im going to use it as a help to move on to better things and persons in life❤️
Amen baby
oh ma god mama buscuit is so strong and so right and shes giving love and help to so many people when she could just stay broken and silent
i loooooove you so much thanks for everythibg
I love you ❤️
Saliceeee! I absolutely love you! You should do a video on manipulative or toxic people - the signs and how walking away from them can positively help you. I know a lot of people who need to hear it. I needed it when I left my toxic relationship.
Omg my 12 yr old love u
Then i follow u on snapchat and i just fell in love with u
God bless u
jayme suarez. wats her sc name
Anel lopez davila salice_roseee
is very nice to hear this I've been going through my situation she says she loves me but I can't count how many times over the course of almost 3 years I am constantly being hurt mentally physically and I always keep my composure. it's very hard to let go but I can't see a life with this person. thank you again for pouring yourself and your thoughts totally appreciate it
I love you momma biscuit😍
I need friends like you to be around. You're so honest about everything you said in this video, no beating around the bush. I am in the same situation and I'm looking for a way to leave this almost 4 year toxic and abusive relationship.. a restraining order might be necessary.