Exactly. It wasn't wrong for Isaiah to put his hands on his girlfriend Zora but Jacob is wrong for throwing the holy ghost hands on Isaiah? The double standards kill me 😭
Judging by how Jacob saw how his daughter and her boyfriend danced or moved, it already seemed that he knew that there was something that was not right.
She did the right thing by telling the adults even though it probably made for a rocky friendship after that. That’s the cost of doing the right thing sometimes.
@@SpyrodeltaI hate when that happens. Especially if the victims tries to tell the person not to say anything, so they don't "to not lose their best friend." Or "it's not my business"
@@meagan.phillip not to mention, sometimes the girl defends the abusive boyfriend, and says that he didn’t mean to do it, and won’t do it again, when in reality, he WILL do it again
When you protect them, is when they get the upper hand to do it again and again. Stand up for your self and fight back. Let them know you're not afraid to stand up for yourself.
With an abuser, the only way to truly fight back is to LEAVE. Covertly, quietly, being wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove. Without even so much as a word or glance, the abused should never announce their plans to leave.🤫 Escape ... don't look back. Don't ever return.
@@AlmondJoie I know a lot of people that get abused and stay for the 'sake' of marriage and love. That's bullshit. Love, Relationship, History is not an excuse to be Disrespected on ANY level. It works both ways for men and women. Most people let their emotions control them to a point where they feel like they can't live without that person so they stay no matter how badly they get treated.
@@katherinejoseph7060 For each of us, we only have one life -- THIS LIFE to live. Stay or Leave, no one else can make the choice for one who is being abused. Regardless of the reasons why one may choose to stay, or choose to leave, it is their choice to make, even if they only have the Lord on their side to bring an end to the demonic madness. For me, it was either leave and live, or stay and die. I chose life, and when God opened the door for me to leave, I ran through it. May God bless all those who are being abused to find the strength to dream of a better life free of abuse, and the determination to safely bring it to fruition.🙏🏼🛐🕊️
The reason why an abuse victim usually defends the abuser is this: abusers don't usually start with physical abuse because they know you'd obviously leave immediately. They start with emotionally and mentally abusing you through series of gaslighting and manipulation, etc to emotionally capture you. Then by the time they start physically abusing you, they know they already have you under their control mentally and emotionally so you're less likely to leave. It starts in the mind.
My best friend hid her abuse for a long time because she knew what her family's reaction would be.. she was terrified not only of him, but of losing those who really loved her due to their reaction. When someone is being abused and comes to you, keeping calm and reassuring and NOT reacting psychically can make a major difference. They've suffered violence, they don't want or need anymore.. it was heartbreaking, but she did the legal route and it benefited her more than her dad handling the situation. Her dad is still with her and that monster has been gone for over 8 years, he's abusing someone else now sadly..It's a double edged sword.
@@mylesidNo you should still try to save them, but just be smarter about it. You should never leave people to drown even if they can’t see they’re drowning or are too afraid to catch a lifeboat or hail a lifeguard.
The “I won’t do it again” is classic and it reminded me of a book I read recently, “It Ends With Us” by Colleen Hoover. There’s this one thing I earnestly hope those in an abusive relationship understand and remember. Your partner does not necessarily have to be a bad person to be abusive towards you or anyone else. It might be a way of dealing with traumatic experiences or there could be other explanations to their behavior, BUT that doesn’t mean their abusive behaviors are acceptable, it’s NOT. It’s NOT ok for you to suffer, to be abused to bear the brunt of it all.
Nah if you are abusive whether it's due to trauma or whatever and you don't become aware of it and work on it then you are a bad person. Trauma doesn't excuse only explain.
@@nevaehhamilton3493abusers often carry on what they know. it's not punishment fitting the crime. not all of them are bad people, some just really don't get help before they become the abuser.
At that stage in a relationship with an abuser, you are no longer in your right mind. They wore you down, your value and your ability to think for yourself has eroded to basically nothing. Makes sense that a person would be in denial to protect whatever small amount of connection is shared in that kind of relationship. Just sad.
I like and respect Sophia's dancing partner. While still being curious about her worries, he still allowed her to go to where she wanted to go, knowing that she would still be safe and that he would still get the answer from her anyway, even after he didn't have to do anything too far and she tried to make everything work for her and everyone she cared about.
@ktb6415 Are you mad because you thought that my comment didn't make any sense to you? At the least Sophia's dancing partner was not as cruel and/or abusive as Sophia's cousin's boyfriend. What I was trying to say that he was more tolerant, decent, and well-mannered than the cousin's boyfriend. Sorry. I did write the 'boyfriend' wrong as a 'girlfriend' word.
@@ktb6415 Revision: Are you mad because you thought that my comment didn't make any sense to you? I knew that Sophia doesn't belong to her dancing partner or anyone, but at the least her dancing partner was not as cruel, self-centered, crude, and/or abusive as Sophia's cousin's boyfriend. What I was trying to say that he was more tolerant, decent, and well-mannered than the cousin's boyfriend. Sorry. I did write the 'boyfriend' wrong as a 'girlfriend' word.
@@ktb6415 Another Revision: Are you upset because my comment seemed unclear? I understand that Sophia didn't belong to her dancing partner or anyone else. However, I believe her dancing partner was not as cruel, self-absorbed, or abusive as her cousin's boyfriend. No matter who he was to Sophia, he was more tolerant, decent, and well-mannered than the cousin's boyfriend. Also, I apologise for the writing's errors.
Not all the time, I actually did hit my sister with a door by accident when we were at her bfs house, I flung it open and she was right by it for some reason so when we went home our mum saw the little bruise and thought her bf battered her and that we were just protecting him bc we were both in love with him😂😂even tho both of us told her several times that I did it, she didn’t believe us for a while
As a girl dad, this makes my blood boil. I take a lot of pride in showing my baby girl what real love is supposed to look like through my relationship with my wife. As she gets older, I’ll make sure she knows the difference between love and abuse. I’ll also make sure she knows how to defend herself so I don’t have to get involved and go to prison
Poor Alison and family even with her smiling you can see how absolutely broken she is. I hope she has a great support system to help her manage this devastating loss.
Yeah, yep. Most African-American churches do not practice what they preach and are corrupted, hypocrites. There is absolutely no difference between them and a drug dealer
If my father had witnessed this. Oh my goodness. Better be happy I didn't kill you ha. He would have killed him. I don't condone violence. But as a social worker when a man hits you once and you let him he can do it again. I worked with women in shelters who were hit from when they were 12. Some of them died. So the father protecting his daughter is an instinct.
How could she be so ungrateful? She had a great cousin, Sophia who had to warn her father about the domestic violence. He was here to protect her. And she's lying to protect the abuser? And yelling at her dad for protecting her?
I’d rather have someone mad at me even cut me off for a moment but at least Ik I cared enough to speak up. If good changes come from it it was worth the repercussions then. This definitely happens a lot but I could never sit back and watch someone be hurt, destroy themselves, or be an enabler for toxic behaviors. The cousin did the right thing
I remember that episode. Isaiah got what he deserved. Sophia saw something and said something, that's what she's supposed to do. Zora was so messed up over that guy that it was good to see someone take action. Good job Jacob for protecting your daughter, even if she didn't appreciate it.
I hate women and men protecting abusers instead of protecting themselves and family even though she's a child in this scene Jacob did the right thing punching him flat out on the ground
Part of it is the abuser has twisted the victim’s mind into believing that they deserve what was done to them, that his/her bad behavior isn’t the “norm” and if they acted better they have hurt them. That being said, it’s still super frustrating, especially when kids are involved.
She's not ungrateful... she is in a domestic violence relationship... First off, It's common for domestic abuse victims to respond like that... and let's not overlook the fact that she is also just a child... Since when do you know teenagers to be "grateful" about anything.
@@Sunlight1897 she’s not ungrateful purely because of this incident.I don’t remember her on the show, really being grateful for anything, granted the family dynamic on the show is rough. But even when she’s had opportunities, it’s not been enough. I definitely know teenagers who are grateful. It just depends.
To those who do know abuse victims, you will always make excuses for them, you believe they will change, you invested so much that ending it is terrifying because they make you feel without them you are nothing, you are afraid you will never find someone to love you and your scared to be lonely. You blame everyone for getting in your business, they isolate you from everyone you care about and care about you and soon you become almost like them. Bitter, cold, abusive and rude. Never ask an abuse victim why they don’t leave. Just be there for them whenever they need it and when they make the decision to leave because they need you more than ever
I like to believe I could never get caught in an abusive relationship because they’re suffocating. I’ve gotten really, REALLY good at recognizing toxic behavior and although it is SO addictive to stay with the abusive person because when they’re not abusive, you love who and what they are…those moments that they break you down and make you cry are enough for me to Chuck up the deuces. NO ONE should ever hurt you and make you question your self-worth!! No one should make you ALWAYS feel at fault. No one should make you dread waking up in the morning. Get really good at learning to live without certain people. It’s hard at first, it’s like withdrawal but if you can, get you some distance between y’all and the longer you spend outside of their influence, the sooner you realize DAMN! I’m happier away from this person! I can survive without this person! Being around them is like being in a black hole where everything is warped in a way that benefits THEM. Get outside the black hole and readjust to reality. They are not everything and you are not the monster they make you out to be. You can find love outside of them, even if it’s just love for yourself. This goes for men and women. Stay safe out there bros.
It's so sad that she protects him and doesn't see that his behaviour is not right. It also makes me mad that now when you actually are hurt by accident nobody believes! I remember my aunt walknig into the walk when she just moved into her new house and decided to go have a glass of water at night without turning the lights on. Everyone thought it was her husband who hit her, it made the both super uncomfortable
The most difficult part to break a trauma bond is the victim loves the abuser somehow the brain gets confused between the cycles of happiness & pain .After the pain he /she will realise and love me again but that doesn't happen and the victim waits until his /her last breakpoint .
I seen that in real life when my older sister got hit in the head and face by her husband and when my niece and nephew starting crying,he hit them too and I stood up for them,I kept slamming him to a closet door till it broke off its hinges.
it's part of being in an abusive relationship. She's been manipulated to the point of still loving the person she met and not the guy he turned out to be. She didn't want to cause a scene and she was still very much afraid. This stuff can get messy. I defended my stalker even when he nearly got my family in big legal trouble, and it took my mom-an abuse survivor, mind you-blocking his number to get me to finally learn to stand up for myself. When we're kind and trust people, people can take advantage of you. Zora was a kind soul that got taken advantage of.
My first boyfriend was like this when i was a teenager. I thought he was a man to keep his words and do what's best, but sometimes he would yell at me for having fun and make me feel stupid over little words that i can bring up to sound interesting. I cam still hear him say "you don't stop telling your friends our business i will leave you". Here i am now at 23 working hard and made new friends. But emotional abuse is hard to come by.
@@foodieyumiko5593 ik it's hard that's what humans must face if we're down to face the most difficult challenges in life. And our expectations are never meant to be fruitful nor wise. Frankly, loving yourself and being single is the best to come by and having great people around you. The point I'm trying to make is; do not give up on love. Some people want it, some people run from it, and some people want to feel bonded. Like a family relative or best friend who could be there by your side till old age. Be careful when love comes running after you instead of waiting for the main obstacle course. Some very ugly, rude, nasty and plain insensitive people who have to much uncorrupted sins about themselves when the word "love" is used in their presence. Some would abuse and take advantage of those who don't have enough backbone. Just be patient and don't try too hard when someone asks you out. That doesn't mean love is spread it's a start of a nice beautiful friendship.❤️🙏💪
I can't believe people like you. Most murderers in prison fought their powerful urges to kill others for years and did everything in their power not to lose control, and here you are advocating for seriously injuring someone for merely slapping someone? Some people are in prison right now for defending themselves from harm. I got interrogated by police for being shot near (i.e. maybe you're a potential school shooter and want to get revenge; it's not normal to send an email asking people to leave you alone) while the shooters never were questioned.
the dad is stronger than abusive boyfriend because one slap to a girl it was nothing when the dad punch he fell. abusive boyfriend is weak i think the girl can defend him.
I had to step away from this and think about it. There are several things wrong here. These parents raised good kids, they taught them see something, say something. One, if that had been my friend or relative getting hit, there is no way i am going for back up, i would have hauled off and hit him. Two, going back to the adults to tell them what happened was enough time for the other girl to get her story together and cover for what happened. Three, whatever the conversation was about between the girl and guy was making the guy feel less than a man, feeling inferior to his girlfriend and that is not what men do as society dictates. Four, it's a matter of self esteem with the girl who was hit. He hits me because he lives me. Admitting to the abuse means there is something wrong with the relationship and it will end and she will be alone. Five, i am all four a man standing up for the girl whether it's a father, uncle, brother. Again society dictates a girl or lady does not raise her fists in anger, it's the man's job. A girl or woman should be able to defend themselves.
Speaking as a Domestic Violence Survivor, abusers go for your weaknesses and your insecurities, even some that you never knew that you had, and they play on them. Then they start to slowly isolate you from your friends, family, etc..., anyone who can build you up, and show you the abuser's true colors. They'll fix it to where you're totally dependent on them for everything, and some will even tell lies on you, and make you look like the monster. I was lucky to blessed with a strong survivor instinct, and the first time my abuser laid his hands on me, I started making a plan to leave him, and when the time came, I grabbed my daughter, and ran with her. It was like Mission Impossible getting back to Germany to my parents, but we did it. They say that they won't do it again, but they always do. There's a honeymoon phase, and then they're right back to their same old tricks. You never know who's going to come through the door Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde. You remember how you use to be before you met them, and you grieve for your old self, and you're mad, because you didn't see through your abusers lies. Just know that it's not your fault ever, because abusers are very convincing, and they're also great actors. When they do hit you, and you have children, or want children, think about what you'd do if someone abused your daughter or son, and had them scared all the time to make a mistake, and you'll know that you'd want to beat that person to a bloody pulp, so be an example for your children, and when you see a chance to leave, take it.
No she’s not okay. She’s being brainwashed into believing it’s ok for her to be abused. I have seen this happen unfortunately I tried to save my friend but she lashed out at me.
It's sad victims condition themselves to believe this type of behavior is okay. I'm glad Sophia spoke up and said something because with the way she was covering for him, and so easily too... you don't know how many of these situations end tragically.
I don’t think people who are going through abuse really know how outlandish the excuses sound.. “ I got hit by a door “ I am so glad her cousin spoke up and her father did something about it
For those browsing the comments and wanting to reply, keep in mind that it takes an average of 7 attempts for a victim to leave their abuser, and the most dangerous time of an abusive relationship is when the victim tries to leave.
Bruhhhh, this brings back so many memories😣 as much as I wanna judge and say she is stupid, I have no right, cuz I been there. And only SHE can get herself out of that situation and mindset in the end before it's too late
Sophia wasn’t wrong for speaking up & protecting her cousin & her daddy wasn’t wrong for punching him
Exactly. It wasn't wrong for Isaiah to put his hands on his girlfriend Zora but Jacob is wrong for throwing the holy ghost hands on Isaiah? The double standards kill me 😭
Right!!!
I would've done the same thing! Like,no sir! Not today or ever!
Facts!
Isaiah is a loser because he hits Zora
It's always baffled me how a person being abused can be so tough and so strong to everyone except the person knocking them upside the head.
100% baffling
Fr
Amen
It's because the abuser convinces them that they are in danger if the outside world knows the truth. It's a biochemical bond called the trauma bond.
This!!!
Seeing the dad hit the abusive boyfriend was so satisfying to watch. ☺️
I would have done the same if I was him.
Should have hit him harder
If someone asked Jacob why he hit Isaiah, then Jacob can say “yo I didn’t do nothing bruh.” 😂
Judging by how Jacob saw how his daughter and her boyfriend danced or moved, it already seemed that he knew that there was something that was not right.
Much good that did. She ran off with him and finished getting abused.
She did the right thing by telling the adults even though it probably made for a rocky friendship after that. That’s the cost of doing the right thing sometimes.
Amen to that
She definitely is a real friend because a real friend wouldn't let you just get beaten up by you so called boyfriend
@@SpyrodeltaI hate when that happens. Especially if the victims tries to tell the person not to say anything, so they don't "to not lose their best friend." Or "it's not my business"
@@OReily08080as they should. She didn’t help her at all. She invaded her privacy and outed something that she didn’t want her to out
@@jameliakingstom1190Honestly, I would probably stop being friends with a punching bag if they get mad at me for trying to help.
I love the fact she went straight to family ! Without hesitation!
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I absolutely love it whenever an abusive guy gets laid out by the father of the girl he is abusing. We need to see more of that.
Except when that happens in real life the dad gets arrested smh
@@meagan.phillip not to mention, sometimes the girl defends the abusive boyfriend, and says that he didn’t mean to do it, and won’t do it again, when in reality, he WILL do it again
Ignorant
@@meagan.philliphe should
in real life the victims are those without parents or those with extremely toxic ones who treat them the same way their abusive partners do
When you protect them, is when they get the upper hand to do it again and again. Stand up for your self and fight back. Let them know you're not afraid to stand up for yourself.
If a girl is brainwashed she can't do that, but if she was taught to think for herself from a young age, she has more possibilities of escaping.
With an abuser, the only way to truly fight back is to LEAVE. Covertly, quietly, being wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove. Without even so much as a word or glance, the abused should never announce their plans to leave.🤫 Escape ... don't look back. Don't ever return.
@@AlmondJoie I know a lot of people that get abused and stay for the 'sake' of marriage and love. That's bullshit. Love, Relationship, History is not an excuse to be Disrespected on ANY level. It works both ways for men and women. Most people let their emotions control them to a point where they feel like they can't live without that person so they stay no matter how badly they get treated.
@@katherinejoseph7060 For each of us, we only have one life -- THIS LIFE to live. Stay or Leave, no one else can make the choice for one who is being abused. Regardless of the reasons why one may choose to stay, or choose to leave, it is their choice to make, even if they only have the Lord on their side to bring an end to the demonic madness. For me, it was either leave and live, or stay and die. I chose life, and when God opened the door for me to leave, I ran through it. May God bless all those who are being abused to find the strength to dream of a better life free of abuse, and the determination to safely bring it to fruition.🙏🏼🛐🕊️
Amen to all you beautiful people! You’re right! GET OUT IF YOUR PARTNER PUTS HANDS THE FIRST TIME.
When the father punches him 😌
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He deserve that I'm sorry for saying it but he did
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Very satisfying I might say 😏
The reason why an abuse victim usually defends the abuser is this: abusers don't usually start with physical abuse because they know you'd obviously leave immediately. They start with emotionally and mentally abusing you through series of gaslighting and manipulation, etc to emotionally capture you. Then by the time they start physically abusing you, they know they already have you under their control mentally and emotionally so you're less likely to leave. It starts in the mind.
I'm going through this. But it's the biological father. So far he hasn't got physical. Now he wants to act all nice like he never did anything
@@nychelleholliday9652 Please find the strength to leave him as soon as possible, BEFORE it gets physical!
@@nychelleholliday9652 if you aware of the abuse. leave and run asap. Once it's gets physical it's 10 times harder to leave.
@@petrinaharris6974 thank you for your concerns💖
@@nychelleholliday9652 girl Please get Out As soon AS POSSIBLE sending you love and prayers baby
Better be happy I didn't kill you boy. My favorite line in this
How is it right to kill someone for slapping your daughter? Even murderers in prison don't usually murder for minor reasons like that.
@@joshtroop5352you clearly don’t have kids
@@joshtroop5352how would feel if that happened to your kids or even something worse happen to them.
@@Solar_eclipse_crescent I would be upset and protective, but you can't kill someone over a slap and verbal abuse.
@@joshtroop5352 that’s why I said at the end, what is something worse were to happen to them. Obviously over a slap there is no need for murder.
Exactly how a father should handle this situation.
Wrong
How is she mad at her dad protecting her smh ladies IT IS NOT OK FOR A MAN TO OUT OUT HIS HANDS ON YOU
that's how they are, when in a abusive relationship they then to make excuses & take up for the men that hit them a lot it's crazy
My best friend hid her abuse for a long time because she knew what her family's reaction would be.. she was terrified not only of him, but of losing those who really loved her due to their reaction. When someone is being abused and comes to you, keeping calm and reassuring and NOT reacting psychically can make a major difference. They've suffered violence, they don't want or need anymore.. it was heartbreaking, but she did the legal route and it benefited her more than her dad handling the situation. Her dad is still with her and that monster has been gone for over 8 years, he's abusing someone else now sadly..It's a double edged sword.
She’s manipulated by him. She’s gonna blame her dad, that’s how abusers work.
Easy! She is drowning and is not to be saved yet! As a lifeguard, you save those whom are not gonna pull you down ! She isn’t ready to be saved yet!
@@mylesidNo you should still try to save them, but just be smarter about it. You should never leave people to drown even if they can’t see they’re drowning or are too afraid to catch a lifeboat or hail a lifeguard.
“You blaming me?” He really channeled Terrence Howard cause that’s all I saw when he said those lines. 😭
Huh
facts i wish roshon fegan was in more serious tv. he's on a lot of kids shows but sometimes i feel like he has the chops to do good stuff
I agree!
The “I won’t do it again” is classic and it reminded me of a book I read recently, “It Ends With Us” by Colleen Hoover. There’s this one thing I earnestly hope those in an abusive relationship understand and remember. Your partner does not necessarily have to be a bad person to be abusive towards you or anyone else. It might be a way of dealing with traumatic experiences or there could be other explanations to their behavior, BUT that doesn’t mean their abusive behaviors are acceptable, it’s NOT. It’s NOT ok for you to suffer, to be abused to bear the brunt of it all.
Nah if you are abusive whether it's due to trauma or whatever and you don't become aware of it and work on it then you are a bad person. Trauma doesn't excuse only explain.
I hated that book. Especially the ending, it absolutely enraged me.
@@ihaveanaceupmysleeveandits1611 i agree with what u saying but that is what they said.
I thought of that book too
@@nevaehhamilton3493abusers often carry on what they know. it's not punishment fitting the crime. not all of them are bad people, some just really don't get help before they become the abuser.
At that stage in a relationship with an abuser, you are no longer in your right mind. They wore you down, your value and your ability to think for yourself has eroded to basically nothing. Makes sense that a person would be in denial to protect whatever small amount of connection is shared in that kind of relationship. Just sad.
I like and respect Sophia's dancing partner. While still being curious about her worries, he still allowed her to go to where she wanted to go, knowing that she would still be safe and that he would still get the answer from her anyway, even after he didn't have to do anything too far and she tried to make everything work for her and everyone she cared about.
What do you mean "allow" she doesn't belong to him or anyone! STFU! Yes I said it now what? That's what I thought...😮😮
@ktb6415 Are you mad because you thought that my comment didn't make any sense to you? At the least Sophia's dancing partner was not as cruel and/or abusive as Sophia's cousin's boyfriend. What I was trying to say that he was more tolerant, decent, and well-mannered than the cousin's boyfriend. Sorry. I did write the 'boyfriend' wrong as a 'girlfriend' word.
@@ktb6415 Revision: Are you mad because you thought that my comment didn't make any sense to you? I knew that Sophia doesn't belong to her dancing partner or anyone, but at the least her dancing partner was not as cruel, self-centered, crude, and/or abusive as Sophia's cousin's boyfriend. What I was trying to say that he was more tolerant, decent, and well-mannered than the cousin's boyfriend. Sorry. I did write the 'boyfriend' wrong as a 'girlfriend' word.
@@ktb6415 Another Revision: Are you upset because my comment seemed unclear? I understand that Sophia didn't belong to her dancing partner or anyone else. However, I believe her dancing partner was not as cruel, self-absorbed, or abusive as her cousin's boyfriend. No matter who he was to Sophia, he was more tolerant, decent, and well-mannered than the cousin's boyfriend. Also, I apologise for the writing's errors.
2:30 “Hey! Little boy, did you put your hands on my daughter?” 2:40 Answer: Punch! Hit the floor!
THE WAY IT SHOULD BE!!!!!
LIL BOY CALLED THE FATHER BRO,,,SHOULDVE BEEN PUNCHED IN FACE AGAIN!!!!
AS A BLACK MAN I DESPISE THOSE COWARDS!!!
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A ha ha… that part.. read him his rights with a punch to the face “lil boy “
Better be happy I didn't kill you boy Jacob was on one
Those who abuse others will only end up abusing themselves.
Saying “I got hit by a door” isn’t that a code for abusive boyfriend 🤔
Yes it is
yup. also, "I fell down the stairs"
“I’m such a klutz.”
Be careful about false accusations, though.
Not all the time, I actually did hit my sister with a door by accident when we were at her bfs house, I flung it open and she was right by it for some reason so when we went home our mum saw the little bruise and thought her bf battered her and that we were just protecting him bc we were both in love with him😂😂even tho both of us told her several times that I did it, she didn’t believe us for a while
Sophia you go girl. I’m glad you told your Uncle. Jacob you’re the king.
Me and my cousin would’ve jumped him 😂😂😂
Facts 😂 🤣
Okayy
Absolutely 😂
Girl I was looking for this. Me or my cousin would've been looking for an adult to help us drag his unconscious body out lol
Literally
I laughed so hard at him trying to get up after being clocked lmao
Omg he played Ty on Shake it up!
😂😂😂😂 yep.
He was shaking things up and getting shook up.
@@jasminepearls1047 🤣😂
@@jasminepearls1047ayoo 🤣🤣🤣
How does this guy not scare yall?
As a girl dad, this makes my blood boil. I take a lot of pride in showing my baby girl what real love is supposed to look like through my relationship with my wife.
As she gets older, I’ll make sure she knows the difference between love and abuse. I’ll also make sure she knows how to defend herself so I don’t have to get involved and go to prison
Poor Alison and family even with her smiling you can see how absolutely broken she is. I hope she has a great support system to help her manage this devastating loss.
I feel it now going thru this. Everything never satisfies him...I'm done
Please leave before he sucks you dry
Hello 👋 how are you
Hope you chose yourself and doing well now.
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Yeah, yep. Most African-American churches do not practice what they preach and are corrupted, hypocrites. There is absolutely no difference between them and a drug dealer
I still wanna shake, rattle and roll Zora after all these years! Like Girl, you’re a Greenleaf!! Stand up, pls!!!
“I din do nothing brah” is a double negative. Hence he admitted he hit her 🤣🤣
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does anyone else notice how the WOMEN are in total shock as the MEN look on with SCOWLS...except for the one that gets a hold of Jacob?!!!
For real; they all gave expressions as if to say"PUT the screws to the f yella lowlife"
yes... all cordial... not one shoe, no vaseline... no cops... no sending her to Switzerland... jus... 👀
Never excuse the first time. No excuses. LEAVE. IT WILL GET WORSE. Don't stay for the kids, don't stay for any reason. LEAVE!!!!
Exactly
If my father had witnessed this. Oh my goodness. Better be happy I didn't kill you ha. He would have killed him. I don't condone violence. But as a social worker when a man hits you once and you let him he can do it again. I worked with women in shelters who were hit from when they were 12. Some of them died. So the father protecting his daughter is an instinct.
That’s a manly punch.
Normally i don't support violence, but that punch was so satisfying to watch.
How could she be so ungrateful? She had a great cousin, Sophia who had to warn her father about the domestic violence. He was here to protect her. And she's lying to protect the abuser? And yelling at her dad for protecting her?
It's just a movie and she'll eventually get tired of the abuse
@@shanika8 that doesn't matter if it's just a series or movie.
Yeah, this series started frustrating me because of her attitudes and plot changes that I stopped watching it altogether.
This happens in real life. I used to work with domestic violence survivors.
I’d rather have someone mad at me even cut me off for a moment but at least Ik I cared enough to speak up. If good changes come from it it was worth the repercussions then. This definitely happens a lot but I could never sit back and watch someone be hurt, destroy themselves, or be an enabler for toxic behaviors. The cousin did the right thing
This is now my all time favorite show..best show ever
I binged watched it maybe two years ago and mad there was never a bother season. It was so good
@@ieshaweaver4013 yeah so good..I have watched it twice now..we need more like this right..🖤
Toward the end of the show white people started to take over the show. That’s why I stopped watching it.
2:59 I SWEAR I SAW DIDDY IN THE BACK
Bro you ain’t lying tf 😂
i swear i see him too😭😭😭😭
I just saw him YOO THATS CRAZY 😂
That fool be lurking
Wtf where 😂
I remember that episode. Isaiah got what he deserved. Sophia saw something and said something, that's what she's supposed to do. Zora was so messed up over that guy that it was good to see someone take action. Good job Jacob for protecting your daughter, even if she didn't appreciate it.
I keep rewinding this scene. I just love it when jacob punch him.❤
He did what any Father would do
I'd do the same thing if any man/woman lays their hands on my child. I'm not that parent to mess with.
💯
I hate women and men protecting abusers instead of protecting themselves and family even though she's a child in this scene Jacob did the right thing punching him flat out on the ground
Part of it is the abuser has twisted the victim’s mind into believing that they deserve what was done to them, that his/her bad behavior isn’t the “norm” and if they acted better they have hurt them.
That being said, it’s still super frustrating, especially when kids are involved.
That’s how every father should be to there daughters abusive boyfriend😌
lol and every mother to her son’s abusive girlfriends 😂
@@aaronbell89 😭😭😭‼️
Wrong
Zora is so ungrateful smh. She wanna be grown so bad. I’m so glad Sophia told.
She's not ungrateful... she is in a domestic violence relationship... First off, It's common for domestic abuse victims to respond like that... and let's not overlook the fact that she is also just a child... Since when do you know teenagers to be "grateful" about anything.
@@Sunlight1897 she’s not ungrateful purely because of this incident.I don’t remember her on the show, really being grateful for anything, granted the family dynamic on the show is rough. But even when she’s had opportunities, it’s not been enough. I definitely know teenagers who are grateful. It just depends.
@Mikalia Bradberry Oh, I see. You were referring to her personality in general. Well, in that case, I get what you mean.
Agreed! I never cared for her character in Greenleaf.
@@Deucethedawnshe’s her mama’s daughter for sure
Zora this whole season was irking my nerves
Same
Loved this scene when the family gets involved!
To those who do know abuse victims, you will always make excuses for them, you believe they will change, you invested so much that ending it is terrifying because they make you feel without them you are nothing, you are afraid you will never find someone to love you and your scared to be lonely.
You blame everyone for getting in your business, they isolate you from everyone you care about and care about you and soon you become almost like them. Bitter, cold, abusive and rude.
Never ask an abuse victim why they don’t leave. Just be there for them whenever they need it and when they make the decision to leave because they need you more than ever
That is Bird's son from the five heartbeats. I can't believe that he is 32 years old. He looks so young. ❤❤❤
I like to believe I could never get caught in an abusive relationship because they’re suffocating. I’ve gotten really, REALLY good at recognizing toxic behavior and although it is SO addictive to stay with the abusive person because when they’re not abusive, you love who and what they are…those moments that they break you down and make you cry are enough for me to Chuck up the deuces. NO ONE should ever hurt you and make you question your self-worth!! No one should make you ALWAYS feel at fault. No one should make you dread waking up in the morning. Get really good at learning to live without certain people. It’s hard at first, it’s like withdrawal but if you can, get you some distance between y’all and the longer you spend outside of their influence, the sooner you realize DAMN! I’m happier away from this person! I can survive without this person! Being around them is like being in a black hole where everything is warped in a way that benefits THEM. Get outside the black hole and readjust to reality. They are not everything and you are not the monster they make you out to be. You can find love outside of them, even if it’s just love for yourself. This goes for men and women. Stay safe out there bros.
You never know it could happen to anyone!
There other types of abuse besides physical too, it happens to the strongest women.
when he punched him, it brought me so much happiness 🤍😄
Ohhhh "you're fine?"....keep that same energy when you're laying in the hospital on life support.
That's not all he should have gotten...
If only ever girls had a father to actually protect them 🥺
They would have a father to protect them if the mothers didn't run them off...
It's so sad that she protects him and doesn't see that his behaviour is not right. It also makes me mad that now when you actually are hurt by accident nobody believes! I remember my aunt walknig into the walk when she just moved into her new house and decided to go have a glass of water at night without turning the lights on. Everyone thought it was her husband who hit her, it made the both super uncomfortable
That scene was both sad and satisfying
This series was sooo good, I miss it!! Wish they would bring it back
1:46 that guy did not want to dance with her lol!
I had to go back and look 😂😂😂
“I won’t do it again I promise” they always do! after the first time leave ladies, from experience
It’s Ty from shake it up 🤣
Aye!!! I recognized his voice INSTANTLY
@ 0:38 What was up with this look 👀 😂
Lol, the mom just told him their daughter is sexually active. Face always made me laugh! Lol
That's the ice cube look from 22 jump street😂😂😂
The most difficult part to break a trauma bond is the victim loves the abuser somehow the brain gets confused between the cycles of happiness & pain .After the pain he /she will realise and love me again but that doesn't happen and the victim waits until his /her last breakpoint .
1:30 was well acted! The look she gave, she knew he was going to hit her
I don't blame Sophia or Jacob. A man should NEVER put his hands on a woman no matter what.
I'm glad he still hit him 🙏🏾
HE LUCKY A PUNCH WAS ALL HE GOT 😂
2:39 the part we were all waiting for
I seen that in real life when my older sister got hit in the head and face by her husband and when my niece and nephew starting crying,he hit them too and I stood up for them,I kept slamming him to a closet door till it broke off its hinges.
diva80 you're a hero!!! I hope your sister got away and the husband is in jail.
Well done to you for protecting your family from an abuser.
She shouldn't be protecting that abusive bf of hers. The father & her friend had every right to be concerned & protective.
Please understand that no man or woman has the right to physically or emotionally abuse you! Make your plan and find your peace!
Dad did the right thing
She is a child and this was handled properly .
She’s young. She’ll hopefully learn.
It wasn't handled well .
I don't understand the concept of protecting an abuser who is NOT protecting u. 🤔
it's part of being in an abusive relationship. She's been manipulated to the point of still loving the person she met and not the guy he turned out to be. She didn't want to cause a scene and she was still very much afraid. This stuff can get messy. I defended my stalker even when he nearly got my family in big legal trouble, and it took my mom-an abuse survivor, mind you-blocking his number to get me to finally learn to stand up for myself. When we're kind and trust people, people can take advantage of you. Zora was a kind soul that got taken advantage of.
Then you missing something in your head
It is called MANIPULATION
Learn it!
That punch was SATISFYING!!
2:45 that's a perfect response, well deserved.
This is now my all time favorite show..best ever
I loved this show soo much it kept me sane when I was soo sad , I loved every minute I wish they’d make more seasons .
That’s bro from shake it up 😂 I’ve never heard of this show. But now I wanna watch
It's on netflix
My first boyfriend was like this when i was a teenager. I thought he was a man to keep his words and do what's best, but sometimes he would yell at me for having fun and make me feel stupid over little words that i can bring up to sound interesting. I cam still hear him say "you don't stop telling your friends our business i will leave you". Here i am now at 23 working hard and made new friends. But emotional abuse is hard to come by.
...I'm so scared of dating. Seems like everyone has stories of terrible people they got stuck with😭
@@foodieyumiko5593 ik it's hard that's what humans must face if we're down to face the most difficult challenges in life. And our expectations are never meant to be fruitful nor wise. Frankly, loving yourself and being single is the best to come by and having great people around you. The point I'm trying to make is; do not give up on love. Some people want it, some people run from it, and some people want to feel bonded. Like a family relative or best friend who could be there by your side till old age.
Be careful when love comes running after you instead of waiting for the main obstacle course. Some very ugly, rude, nasty and plain insensitive people who have to much uncorrupted sins about themselves when the word "love" is used in their presence. Some would abuse and take advantage of those who don't have enough backbone. Just be patient and don't try too hard when someone asks you out. That doesn't mean love is spread it's a start of a nice beautiful friendship.❤️🙏💪
@@aliezahjuarez1212 Thank you, that's reassuring☺ I wish you the best!😇😌
At the end she finally left him these men not worth it.
Love that the music keeps playing
I've seen this clip a million times by now and it still gets to me. You hit me like that I just let my Dad tear you up. You're not worth defending.😂
He's lucky that he only got one punch. I know some fathers that would have put him in the hospital or worse!
I can't believe people like you. Most murderers in prison fought their powerful urges to kill others for years and did everything in their power not to lose control, and here you are advocating for seriously injuring someone for merely slapping someone? Some people are in prison right now for defending themselves from harm. I got interrogated by police for being shot near (i.e. maybe you're a potential school shooter and want to get revenge; it's not normal to send an email asking people to leave you alone) while the shooters never were questioned.
W fathers
the dad is stronger than abusive boyfriend because one slap to a girl it was nothing when the dad punch he fell. abusive boyfriend is weak i think the girl can defend him.
If anything happens like this to any of my kids. Their abuser would never be seen again or heard from again
Dad should've said, "Why are you on the floor? I didn't hit you!"
Respect,she’s staying n why i don’t know n self love is the key/there’s no way im putting up with boy laying hands on me period,glock on repeat
I had to step away from this and think about it. There are several things wrong here. These parents raised good kids, they taught them see something, say something. One, if that had been my friend or relative getting hit, there is no way i am going for back up, i would have hauled off and hit him. Two, going back to the adults to tell them what happened was enough time for the other girl to get her story together and cover for what happened. Three, whatever the conversation was about between the girl and guy was making the guy feel less than a man, feeling inferior to his girlfriend and that is not what men do as society dictates. Four, it's a matter of self esteem with the girl who was hit. He hits me because he lives me. Admitting to the abuse means there is something wrong with the relationship and it will end and she will be alone. Five, i am all four a man standing up for the girl whether it's a father, uncle, brother. Again society dictates a girl or lady does not raise her fists in anger, it's the man's job. A girl or woman should be able to defend themselves.
Omg, the acting is phenomenal in this. I’ve not watched or heard of this show but my godh
Speaking as a Domestic Violence Survivor, abusers go for your weaknesses and your insecurities, even some that you never knew that you had, and they play on them. Then they start to slowly isolate you from your friends, family, etc..., anyone who can build you up, and show you the abuser's true colors. They'll fix it to where you're totally dependent on them for everything, and some will even tell lies on you, and make you look like the monster. I was lucky to blessed with a strong survivor instinct, and the first time my abuser laid his hands on me, I started making a plan to leave him, and when the time came, I grabbed my daughter, and ran with her. It was like Mission Impossible getting back to Germany to my parents, but we did it. They say that they won't do it again, but they always do. There's a honeymoon phase, and then they're right back to their same old tricks. You never know who's going to come through the door Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde. You remember how you use to be before you met them, and you grieve for your old self, and you're mad, because you didn't see through your abusers lies. Just know that it's not your fault ever, because abusers are very convincing, and they're also great actors. When they do hit you, and you have children, or want children, think about what you'd do if someone abused your daughter or son, and had them scared all the time to make a mistake, and you'll know that you'd want to beat that person to a bloody pulp, so be an example for your children, and when you see a chance to leave, take it.
As soon as he called her dad "bro" .... is was all requirements combined to go overdrive mode!
This punch was like a meteor haha
No she’s not okay. She’s being brainwashed into believing it’s ok for her to be abused. I have seen this happen unfortunately I tried to save my friend but she lashed out at me.
if your friend lashed out on you then its on her for being an idiot, you did all you could, but now whatever happens isn't your fault ok?
It's sad victims condition themselves to believe this type of behavior is okay. I'm glad Sophia spoke up and said something because with the way she was covering for him, and so easily too... you don't know how many of these situations end tragically.
Because they are weak minded
Don't mess with Daddy!
Anyone else wanted to see the dad just turn that suit red?
0:19 dat boy def was abused by his dad or somthin
Frl because he thinks it's ok to do that
wish I had my father when I was going threw this similar situation .
That punch!... very good! Very very good!!
I don’t think people who are going through abuse really know how outlandish the excuses sound.. “ I got hit by a door “ I am so glad her cousin spoke up and her father did something about it
For those browsing the comments and wanting to reply, keep in mind that it takes an average of 7 attempts for a victim to leave their abuser, and the most dangerous time of an abusive relationship is when the victim tries to leave.
We dnc
@@barbiedream101 I'm sorry you don't have compassion. Get well soon.
Bruhhhh, this brings back so many memories😣 as much as I wanna judge and say she is stupid, I have no right, cuz I been there. And only SHE can get herself out of that situation and mindset in the end before it's too late
Well done to that father for giving that domestic abuser a knuckle sandwich.
0:31 whats the music thats playing called?