@@cchisolm92ccserious question - why does resemblance matter? I see comments like this a lot. ppl praise choosing an actor who looks like someone as if that means they can sell the role. I'd think with casting, the energy or vibe is what makes it sucessful. that and making sure they dont do something silly like make up no-nos or prosthetics disasters
It would have to be an unauthorized biopic because, based on how they handled the upcoming documentary, his family still doesn't want to admit that he was gay.
Unfortunately, this video and some of the comments display why it's so difficult for people to seek professional help with mental health issues. He lost his father during his formative years, lost several close friends and family members, and, at the very least, had an unhealthy relationship with food. Think about this, he wrote “Dance With My Father” at least 40 years after his father passed. Trauma is a real thing, folks.
At 50, I still talk heavily about my experience as a foster child, however, I don't now, nor ever, considered my thoughts concerning it, a mental health problem, nor did I need therapy. My foster mom was the crazy one who needed therapy. People just express their thoughts and feelings.
@@clarenceoverstreet882 ❤️ Beautifully said. From someone who, too, lost their father young - your words are meaningful and this song still hits deep! 😇
@@lql1094 That's fair, and I’m no mental health professional. However, I do think it's short-sighted to minimize his struggles to just loneliness or sexuality.
If you notice it was always the black entertainers and it wasn’t because of other groups smh our own people would have shamed Luther had he come out especially in the 80s/90s🤷🏽♂️
Reminds me of Phyllis Hyman. She died alone but took her life. Her last song was about not wanting to live alone. Lonely in a crowded room….so many of us are 😔
I remember when Phyllis Hyman died. She was supposed to be at the Apollo on Sunday. I live in NYC and woke up to them talking about it on the radio. So sad
yeah I remember the night she committed suicide and Frankie Crocker said she had passed. I remember Luther being at the hospital in NJ...I went to that same hospital when I heard. I am so sorry that he had to live his life like that. A beautiful soul was he. people are hateful.
If you ever watch it again and close your eyes when you hear it 1. It's the most feel good song on the movie and 2. The voice is undeniable. My favorite movie of all time
I woke up on 2 July 2005 and saw a memorial on BET that Luther had passed. Later that night my big sister also passed. I comforted myself w Luther's music, all of it. His voice was a warm blanket that truly carried me thru grief and to this day any time I hear his voice, I immediately feel safe and warm all over again ❤
I don’t care what he was. He left some beautiful music, and he was a gifted singer. I still say he didn’t get the recognition he deserved. It’s sad to hear how lonely he really was.
He didn't get the recognition because he was a drama queen a lot of people did not want to work with him I agree he had a wonderful voice however when you don't work well with people there's no way for you to make it as far as you should
@scottinamcqueen6895 I did hear he was possibly difficult to work with anyway very talented hope he fount the Lord .At the end of the day no one should have "idols"
Luther Vandross was a vivid example of "a clown's life" and "the show most go on". In "A Clown's Life", it is said that the clown shows up to do his performance, the clown makes everyone laugh and even get involved in some funny games. When the performance is over, the clown leaves a group of happy and satisfied people to go deal with his personal problems, skeletons in the closet and some personal demons and in many cases the clown won't even give a sincere, happy smile when is out of the costume and makeup. In "The Show Must Go On", no matter what the performer is going through, no matter what bad news the performer receives, before or during the show ... the performer will go on stage and give the fans the best performance, without the fans noticing any change of character. Luther Vandross would give his best in every presentation, but no one knew his feelings and struggles.
@@p.nicolelawrence1978 well I pray the universe sends you a gripping, life changing, soul-stirring HEALTHY love as soon as possible! (Just don't stay in the house - GET OUT!)
The problem with being famous for a talent is that people will become obsessed with who you are dating and if you don't want to share that (which you don't have to) folks will call you "secretive" and "very private". The culture of needing to know everything about celebrities personal life is almost psychopathic in my opinion. I'm glad Luther kept his love life private.
You're not wrong, but humans are curious creatures. We seek knowledge to superficially gain understanding and help fill a narrative or perception of who we think that person is. I agree it's psychotic, especially with social media, the big brother of all brothers.
But, it's pretty obvious that if Luther was in a relationship that the general public could understand or approve of - (ie. with a woman) then he probably would have shared that. There are still gay and lesbian singers and actors today, particularly black artists, that hide their partners for fear of damaging their careers. The culture hasn't changed as much as we like to assume.
@lamoneal Maybe that was the reason, but even heterosexual relationships are heavily scrutinized and under a microscope. My point is that famous people deserve privacy just like everyone else. Their talents should be the focus, not who they're sleeping with.
I wish he knew just how much the world needed his voice, his heart, his kindness, his dedication…him!!!! The black community especially owes Luther Vandross, Aretha Franklin, and Frankie Beverly & Maze a tribute at all of our special occasions. Rest in Peace, Songbird! You don’t have to “Wait for Love” anymore.🙏🏾🤴🏿👑🏆🌟🖤✍🏽🎤🎶🎬
He didn't seem kind at all. He was downright nasty to En Vogue with those bogus ass stipulations. He was the typical gay guy who was jealous he wasn't born female.
Honey this man was an unofficial member of the family. Not a celebration or holiday was he not in attendance. I can recall many periods of my life with his music. He will always be remembered and appreciated. ❤❤❤❤
True. Always at every first date, first love, engagement, weddings. My dad was the oldest of 7 siblings, all 6 younger siblings were girls. I watched them fall in love with boyfriends listening to Luther. And during each engagement party and eventual wedding, Luther was always there. When he passed away, I remember saying “ we’ll miss you uncle Luther “❤
I hope you all stop fooling yourself Luther did not come out because he didn't want to bring Shane to his mama he was not thinking about what people said and he didn't go as far as he could have because of his attitude he was a real drama queen😮😢
Homophobia in the black community is destroying lives and needs to stop. Nothing means anything if you don't have someone to love and love you in return. We must all work together to stop this hatred. It starts with you and me. Luther deserved better for everything he gave us. Rest in love brother. 😞
And why do you think the label told him not to come out because its primary audience wouldn't have been okay with it at the time which was primarily black listeners of R&B and soul so stop dancing around the topic if you don't have anything meaningful to to add @@macaronitony1991
You can't be mad at anyone for not embracing any vice/sin. Whether this, drugs, being a prostitute/porn star, drunkeness etc anything. Heck people even hide smoking cigarettes, if they are moral. It's proper to be ashamed of anything that we aren't supposed to be doing.
“I don’t care about his personal life, I love his music” isn’t the loving compliment you think it is. You SHOULD care, maybe if someone cared he would have been able to express his feelings and be heard by someone. We should care and we shouldn’t shame people for being who they are!!!
Thank you for saying this I’m so tired of seeing this passive aggressive comment. His personal life was a part of his life, and because of it he was deeply lonely and dejected. It’s a shame for anyone to ever feel that way and it deserves to be acknowledged.
Who cares who he slept with , that man gave us some of the best RnB songs ever , that voice is one in a lifetime , I will always play Luther , he is a legend
It's sad how many of you miss the point. How selfish that train of thought is. Not feeling comfortable enough with who you are might be great for those you who "don't need to know" but it is depressing, lonely & leads to many mental, addictive, disorders.
Luther was born 20 years too early. It’s a shame he never found romantic love due to homophobia both internalised and societal. The greatest male vocalist! He should have won 20 Grammy awards..
He actually did and it was a long term relationship. He had to keep it under wraps in order to become wealthy. His lover would go to the hospital to visit with Luther everyday. I just wish he could have been open about it because I'm sure that would have made him happy.
@@scottinamcqueen6895 that’s what I had always heard and read. That’s why people who knew him waited until his mother had passed away to speak on his sexuality.
Gays are gonna gay if they choose to live that way. He tried it but was rejected cause he wasn't wanted, not because being gay was even more taboo back then.
I’m a millennial whose father constantly played his music, so I grew up listening to Luther by proxy. Now is 2024 I can still recall my favorite songs - some romantic they bring tears to my eyes. It’s so funny how wide our musical taste can be, and what moves us. RIP ❤
I was on my way to Detroit for a family reunion and we listened to Luther CDs all the way there from Rochester NY. When we hit Detroit my sister said turn on the radio we in Motown. We turned on the radio and they said Luther had passed away. I still remember the look that passed between me and my sister. It was a look of incredulous disbelief and profound sadness. I still go back to that moment whenever I hear a Luther song. I miss him still.
He died of a broken heart. He couldn't be with who he wanted to be with. Things were harsher back then, they would have massacred him had they found out his secret.
@@eyesthatsmile-heartthatlov8050Little Richard had an outrageous personality which made things a little easier for him because thar shifted the attention from his sexuality so we can't really compare him to Luther, he would have certainly had it much harder especially because of the type of music he does (romantic ballads)
You sound ridiculous. Luther was gay and unable to live his truth because of people like you who focus on external appearances over inner turmoil, generational trauma and forms of bigotry like homophobia that kept Luther from being able to live his truth.
I have a few friends who aren’t able to live their lives openly similar to Luther. Mainly because of religion, family or society. They always vent to me about what they want and how they want to live but for whatever reason it’s a struggle for them. Once I turned 18 and came out to my mom who accepted me I stopped caring about other peoples opinions. You get one life on this earth, as long as you’re happy and you’re not harming yourself or anyone else be you and live your life unapologetically.
This broke my heart, Luther was one of my childhood idols, and to see and hear that a man who gave us so much love didn't have one of his own is so sad, Rest in Power Luther we miss you and will always love you ❤
Man. I feel so sorry that he made everyone else happy, but he wasn't happy. Life really sucks sometimes. The only other solution is to have a personal relationship with God. Rip to luther.
@@TimAl-ro5cw obey the slave masters even the cruel ones? Kill everyone even the children and babies but keep the girls for yourself? The Bible says a lot of crap
He deserves a biopic. His voice was butter. I fell in love, got engaged twice, and git married. Dance with my always makes me cry it remind of my dad. I cried when Luther passed. No ove songs like Luther
That he does but I doubt his estate lets that happen afraid of his authentic self will be drug through the mud even in death but he was amazing plus they don’t need the money ❤
5 minutes in and all of his inspirations were females like many of us gay men. Wish it would have been a time where he could’ve loved and accepted himself for who he was. The world would have still loved you and your heavenly voice 💜
🤔 *I disagree.* The world would NOT have loved him, because it was a totally different world back then. All of this public fluidity, pronouns, sexual preferences, gender choosing, and alphabet categories did not exist in those days, especially in the Black community. There were plenty of gay people in the industry, but they were all closeted on purpose. Did you see what happened to Ellen D. when she forced her way out? It wasn’t pretty. Luther knew what he was doing. His main audience are Black women, but they hate to find out about Black men being gay. They never would’ve supported songs that they knew were towards men. 🤷🏾♂️
@MrKellyELA All of the things you described existed back then it just wasn't in the mainstream. Everyone has pronouns he/she etc are pronouns. So I'm not being obtuse yes trans people exist too and they were told to be quiet about it even if they got hormones and surgery. The LGBT isn't a new acronym and nor are any of the letters. My grandfather himself told who is strate talked to me about how gay people would be on Christopher street and in the castro. The issue is people had to hide it even if people knew (famous or not) Hence gay clubs, gatherings and neighborhoods. It was about making strate people feel comfortable, presenting strate and not getting yo ass beat. I don't disagree he would of been shunned but it was an unspoken about things not a new thing by any stretch of the imagination.
@MrKellyELA please stop with the "all this gay stuff is new" narrative. It's NOT. We were FORCED INTO HIDING or faced with literal death and beatings. None of this is new, we're sick of catering to our murderers
@@MrKellyELAI wonder about that. Elton John was openly gay and his career didn't suffer. Little Richard was openly hump everything so maybe we could've handled it
Lighten up! They're simply trying to explain why we loved his music so much. Many people use the pain in their lives to express themselves artistically.
Right love his music still resonates a peaceful ness when played LOVE TO LISTEN TO SOME LUTHER !!! I Play in the shop almost daily don’t give af about his personal life! Not my business!!!
He made huge sacrifices. His emotional battles created issues which led to an early death. .....To barely make it to 50. The older I get, I see it more. Suffering will cause physical self damage. His music heals the soul, but now knowing some of his story, he's sent another important message- love thy authentic self too. Luther was a precious gem, that the world will never see again. May He Rest In Peace🌿🌼
@denisejackson776 that's your prerogative. We are all entitled to privacy and to refuse to have conversations we deem intrusive, upsetting ,embarrassing or disrespectful. You have your boundaries, other people have theirs
Mr Luther Vandross,he was an iconic musician his vocals are outstanding,he composed songs for other various artists.He was on Sesame Street,he did interviews. I was not aware that he was in a vehicular accident.He was such a private person.My deceased mother's favourite song by him "A house is not a home".The music industry has lost a talented singer he will be missed but his music still lives on.
I also suffer from extreme loneliness. This was a bit of an eye opener. If no one chooses to love you back, there’s really nothing you can do, can you? You can try to self love all day, but nothing will ever beat love from someone else reminding you that you’re valid as a human being
Jennifer Holliday and Luther Vandross became good friends, and they had fun together with FOOD. Jenny said they would literally fly out to other countries just to try out restaurants. Jennifer said Luther kind of got mad when she lost weight and of course she didn't understand at first why would he get mad, then she realized Luther thought he also lost a friend. Eventually they made up. I wish they recorded something on the studio.
A lot of internal struggles, that unfortunately pushed the people around him away, and a tragic ending, I feel sympathy. It's a shame he had to hide away and couldn't live freely but his voice, legacy and story lives on.
Shame to people and other celebrities that treated him so poorly. He was a talent with an amazing voice. He was a rare type of person. Props to Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey for being so loving and true friends of Luther Vandross.
LVD was my consolation when my father passed away. I still can't hear that song without crying profusely. RIP, Luther, I and all your fans loved you. I am sure there as someone out there for you, whom you unfortunately never met.
He was a good man and a phenomenal artist who cares about his personal life he will forever be loved and missed. Thank you Luther for all your great music 💙🤍
There's only one Luther Vandross and will never be another. It's heartbreaking the despite the beautiful voice and love songs, a love was the one thing that's missing. Aren't we all lucky we had him? Love you Luther!
I grew up listening to Luther from my Mom and Dad and I know almost all the lyrics to many of his music. I still love him today and play and sing along to his songs when I feel nervous or anxious. I know through me that he will be known by my kids as their Mom’s music and forever more shall he live as he keeps being played by new generations. We all relate to love as humanity so he will always have relevance. I love him so much and he symbolises many warm memories in my family and lifetime. One day I’ll thank him for the gift he blessed us with ❤🇿🇦💯🏆🥇
I ❤ Luther and all his contributions to music. I also admire the fact he kept his private life off limits. I miss the days when we didn't know stars every move.
I will never forget the way he treated Boy George when they sang together, someone who had the courage to be their authentic self, instead of appreciating and respecting he did the opposite. Self loathing is a terrible thing.
My wife loved this man so much. She still plays his songs, sings his songs. We will both always love him. He is forever beloved. He was a gift to us from God, and he is terribly missed. ❤ 🙏
Rest in love ❤Mr. Luther Vandross you left your mark on the World with your silky smooth voice. From the moment I first heard your music I fell in love with your style. You were definitely top tier. Often imitated never duplicated. 🙏🏽🥰⭐️💫
Thanks to David Bowie for accelerating his career. David always stood up for black musicians. Young Americans album is in my top 10 albums of all time.
I grew up listening to Luther on repeat. I always say his music is the soundtrack to my childhood. My dad loves his and Anita Baker's music. My sisters and I now lovingly joke about how if we came home and the stereo was blasting Luther or Anita or Sade....Daddy was soaking in the tub!😊❤
I loved Luther at every size and still do. As an 80's baby he's an indelible part of my childhood his voice always made me feel safe and loved. I'm sorry he never got to feel the way he made others feel throughout his life. ❤️
I was lucky enough to have seen Luther 4 times. He was a consummate performer. What a stage presence. And that voice...it was like butter. N9 one and I mean no one sang a love sing like Luther. RIP Luther..you are truly missed.
Legend. Still on my regular playlist. I doubt the world would have forgiven him if he had come out. A harsh and cruel truth about that time. RIP sir ❤❤❤
I believe he was lonely. He was a virtuoso singer. Any high-performing person is inherently lonely. Heck, even being a little above average will make you feel it. Life is not cake!
Luther was so handsome and such an icon. I was born in 1982 but I listen to Luther’s music almost every morning on my drive into work. He is deserving of a biopic.❤ My 7 & 11 year old love his music as well.
He is still my mother's favorite singer. I won't say I know his entire catalog, but the bops, i have, I absolutely love. Never too much, Superstar, A house is not a home, Creep, Bad boy, Don't you know, top tier. The more I listen, the more I realize he does amazing covers.
I grew up listening to him it was sad day when this man passed away....Luther was a hell of a artist and it'll never be another like him ...this story makes me sad how lonely this man felt he was loved by so many
For me Luther was a GOAT. The things he could do with his voice were amazingly unique. When I listen to his "Dance with my Father again", I still cry for my own father. We will all miss your soulful voice.
Luther was a staple throughout the 90’s and his voice was smooth as butter!! His sexuality never meant a thing to me or his true listeners. He deserved love just like any human does. He’s a shining star in our night sky now. 😊😔
The number of Grammys won is no measure of a musician’s greatness. That’s why Luther Vandross was a greater musician than the likes of Rihanna, for all their collection of Grammys, will ever be🤷🏽♂️
Luther deserves a biopic. He’s a legend.
He can play him, though?? No one really resembles him, and who can really match that golden voice??
@@yourlittlebrotherGabrielReview he def does. His relationships alone with Patti, Dionne, and Aretha would be enough for me to watch.
@@cchisolm92ccserious question - why does resemblance matter? I see comments like this a lot. ppl praise choosing an actor who looks like someone as if that means they can sell the role. I'd think with casting, the energy or vibe is what makes it sucessful. that and making sure they dont do something silly like make up no-nos or prosthetics disasters
It would have to be an unauthorized biopic because, based on how they handled the upcoming documentary, his family still doesn't want to admit that he was gay.
@@cchisolm92cc Vocally Johnny Gill comes the closest to Luther, but Johnny is too old. He's 58.
His mother outlived the whole family.. unimaginable grief 💔
Oh how I still love this man...RIP Luther🕊
I have outlived my only child, too… the grief is terrible
Oh God! That’s beyond Heartbreaking!💔💔💔💔💔💔
@@lmb4876I am so sorry for your loss!
I hope Luther is at peace now . Peace and love
he couldn't find here, H🎉❤ope he has found in Jesus Christ and heaven.
Unfortunately, this video and some of the comments display why it's so difficult for people to seek professional help with mental health issues. He lost his father during his formative years, lost several close friends and family members, and, at the very least, had an unhealthy relationship with food. Think about this, he wrote “Dance With My Father” at least 40 years after his father passed. Trauma is a real thing, folks.
You're so so right ! So much judgement and false empathy; it's hard to trust anyone who you can open yourself to completely.
I was just thinking about that song 😢😢😢 Such a great and brilliant talent. R.I.P Luther May peace be upon you forever 🙏🏽 🙏🏽🙏🏽
At 50, I still talk heavily about my experience as a foster child, however, I don't now, nor ever, considered my thoughts concerning it, a mental health problem, nor did I need therapy. My foster mom was the crazy one who needed therapy.
People just express their thoughts and feelings.
@@clarenceoverstreet882 ❤️ Beautifully said. From someone who, too, lost their father young - your words are meaningful and this song still hits deep! 😇
@@lql1094 That's fair, and I’m no mental health professional. However, I do think it's short-sighted to minimize his struggles to just loneliness or sexuality.
I hate that Luther felt he couldn't be his authentic self. His silky smooth voice was like no other.
It mother wasn't going for that😂 Not her boy coming out!!😮
It was the black community. Luther saw how they shunned Sylvester.
Cuz his lifestyle was disgusting thats why
I miss him so much!!!😢❤❤
@@sharksport01you hit the nail on the head
It's so sad to think people had to conceal themselves just to rise to the top, in some cases still are. That was a beautiful voice.
Sometimes it is better do that.
@@jasonfoley6502Professionally, yes but emotionally I highly doubt it.
@@beevonerd this!!!
@@jasonfoley6502 If the $ matters the most, sure.
If you notice it was always the black entertainers and it wasn’t because of other groups smh our own people would have shamed Luther had he come out especially in the 80s/90s🤷🏽♂️
Reminds me of Phyllis Hyman. She died alone but took her life. Her last song was about not wanting to live alone. Lonely in a crowded room….so many of us are 😔
I just looked her up and it said she had bipolar disorder and her note said that she was just so tired 😖
@@Lostinmyhead23 yes the note was short but to look at her you couldn’t tell she was struggling.
I remember when Phyllis Hyman died. She was supposed to be at the Apollo on Sunday. I live in NYC and woke up to them talking about it on the radio. So sad
@@rosasbaby247 very 😔
yeah I remember the night she committed suicide and Frankie Crocker said she had passed. I remember Luther being at the hospital in NJ...I went to that same hospital when I heard. I am so sorry that he had to live his life like that. A beautiful soul was he. people are hateful.
I was today years old when I found out Luther wrote a song for The Wiz 👀😩, and jingles too amazing! Man had a whole life on Broadway 🥹
Me too
Yuup, he started out writing jingles
@@HushTarot1111 today years old lol I’m using that
Yeah. I like that scene when they strip themselves of the witches bondage.
If you ever watch it again and close your eyes when you hear it 1. It's the most feel good song on the movie and 2. The voice is undeniable. My favorite movie of all time
We will NEVER EVER EVER get another voice like Luther.
Never
I woke up on 2 July 2005 and saw a memorial on BET that Luther had passed. Later that night my big sister also passed. I comforted myself w Luther's music, all of it. His voice was a warm blanket that truly carried me thru grief and to this day any time I hear his voice, I immediately feel safe and warm all over again ❤
Sorry for your loss❤
Deepest sympathy😢
Sending my prayers
❤❤❤❤❤ hope you are doing alright
Luther songs are my go to songs for comfort
Luther Vandross should be talked about way more than he is !!! Mans a real legend
Exactly. It sad that some folks don't even know Luther vandross.
@@lesant7659but they have to know his music
I don’t care what he was. He left some beautiful music, and he was a gifted singer. I still say he didn’t get the recognition he deserved. It’s sad to hear how lonely he really was.
He didn't get the recognition because he was a drama queen a lot of people did not want to work with him I agree he had a wonderful voice however when you don't work well with people there's no way for you to make it as far as you should
@scottinamcqueen6895
I did hear he was possibly difficult to work with anyway very talented hope he fount the Lord .At the end of the day no one should have "idols"
Just like prince, f*** crazy
@@scottinamcqueen6895Every talented person is a "drama queen"
@@scottinamcqueen6895love is love
I cried when he passed. We'll never get another voice like his. 😊😊
I did too, his voice was my comfort
Me too.. him and Whitney ❤💔
Yes you are correct, I cried also.
The world knew Luther Vandross was a gay man and we still loved him! R.I.P. to an Amazing talent and LEGEND 🕊🕊🕊
❤❤🎉
Facts
The black community pretended he wasn’t and didn’t allow him to be himself.
This is insincere. We all know had he come out in the 1980s during his career he would have been tarred and feathered
@pryncecharming2133 maybe, I guess we'll never know. But a lot of his fans, his true fans, did know about his preference.
I was born in 1987 and was introduced to him by my father. I absolutely loved Luther Vandross and play his music to this day. RIP Luther!
Me too, Aldo born in 87, introduced to by my father and love me some Luther
@crisscrossapplesauce2506 me too
'87 here, too.
Luther, was the greatest! His talent his voice was totally awesome!!!!!
Wow! It is nice to hear younger generation appreciating Luther.
Luther Vandross was a vivid example of "a clown's life" and "the show most go on".
In "A Clown's Life", it is said that the clown shows up to do his performance, the clown makes everyone laugh and even get involved in some funny games. When the performance is over, the clown leaves a group of happy and satisfied people to go deal with his personal problems, skeletons in the closet and some personal demons and in many cases the clown won't even give a sincere, happy smile when is out of the costume and makeup.
In "The Show Must Go On", no matter what the performer is going through, no matter what bad news the performer receives, before or during the show ... the performer will go on stage and give the fans the best performance, without the fans noticing any change of character.
Luther Vandross would give his best in every presentation, but no one knew his feelings and struggles.
Bullseye. Very true.
So sad.
So true. 👍
The Joker is similar to that also
That was Sad! Rest in peace, to the Great Luther Vandross!🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️
Luther Vandross and Phyllis Hyman shared the same loneliness in life
true 😢
And me, but I keep trying and turning to God. I use my music to help me cope with rejection, loss, grief, and life in general.
@@p.nicolelawrence1978 well I pray the universe sends you a gripping, life changing, soul-stirring HEALTHY love as soon as possible! (Just don't stay in the house - GET OUT!)
So True and both of there voices were second to none
They both hid the same secret 😮as to why they were lonely 🙁
The problem with being famous for a talent is that people will become obsessed with who you are dating and if you don't want to share that (which you don't have to) folks will call you "secretive" and "very private". The culture of needing to know everything about celebrities personal life is almost psychopathic in my opinion. I'm glad Luther kept his love life private.
You're not wrong, but humans are curious creatures. We seek knowledge to superficially gain understanding and help fill a narrative or perception of who we think that person is. I agree it's psychotic, especially with social media, the big brother of all brothers.
*I agree. Whatever I don't know about any famous person is **_for them to share, otherwise, it ain't my business!_*
But, it's pretty obvious that if Luther was in a relationship that the general public could understand or approve of - (ie. with a woman) then he probably would have shared that. There are still gay and lesbian singers and actors today, particularly black artists, that hide their partners for fear of damaging their careers. The culture hasn't changed as much as we like to assume.
Sadly true
@lamoneal Maybe that was the reason, but even heterosexual relationships are heavily scrutinized and under a microscope. My point is that famous people deserve privacy just like everyone else. Their talents should be the focus, not who they're sleeping with.
I wish he knew just how much the world needed his voice, his heart, his kindness, his dedication…him!!!! The black community especially owes Luther Vandross, Aretha Franklin, and Frankie Beverly & Maze a tribute at all of our special occasions. Rest in Peace, Songbird! You don’t have to “Wait for Love” anymore.🙏🏾🤴🏿👑🏆🌟🖤✍🏽🎤🎶🎬
That was a beautiful comment. So true 🙂🙂 👍 👍
He was so handsome and seemed very kind. And his golden voice. Once of the best male vocalist of all time
He didn't seem kind at all. He was downright nasty to En Vogue with those bogus ass stipulations. He was the typical gay guy who was jealous he wasn't born female.
He was definitely handsome 😍
True. He was.
Honey this man was an unofficial member of the family. Not a celebration or holiday was he not in attendance. I can recall many periods of my life with his music. He will always be remembered and appreciated. ❤❤❤❤
True. Always at every first date, first love, engagement, weddings. My dad was the oldest of 7 siblings, all 6 younger siblings were girls. I watched them fall in love with boyfriends listening to Luther. And during each engagement party and eventual wedding, Luther was always there. When he passed away, I remember saying “ we’ll miss you uncle Luther “❤
Amen.
Yes so true. 👍
I loved Luther Vandross, I love the fact that he used his real name and not a stage name. I'm sorry he hid his life , just to give us music. 😢
Most singers use there real name though
@kirbykipling9515or he would have lost his whole career because people were closed minded
I hope you all stop fooling yourself Luther did not come out because he didn't want to bring Shane to his mama he was not thinking about what people said and he didn't go as far as he could have because of his attitude he was a real drama queen😮😢
@@scottinamcqueen6895 256 people agree with me .
@@scottinamcqueen6895there is no shame in being gay. And it is thinking like that that kept him from living his truth.
Homophobia in the black community is destroying lives and needs to stop. Nothing means anything if you don't have someone to love and love you in return. We must all work together to stop this hatred. It starts with you and me. Luther deserved better for everything he gave us. Rest in love brother. 😞
It was the black community it was probably the record label
It’s not hatred. Homosexuality is a sin.
And why do you think the label told him not to come out because its primary audience wouldn't have been okay with it at the time which was primarily black listeners of R&B and soul so stop dancing around the topic if you don't have anything meaningful to to add @@macaronitony1991
Naw, keep that shit out of the community and we'll prosper far more.
You can't be mad at anyone for not embracing any vice/sin. Whether this, drugs, being a prostitute/porn star, drunkeness etc anything. Heck people even hide smoking cigarettes, if they are moral. It's proper to be ashamed of anything that we aren't supposed to be doing.
“I don’t care about his personal life, I love his music” isn’t the loving compliment you think it is. You SHOULD care, maybe if someone cared he would have been able to express his feelings and be heard by someone. We should care and we shouldn’t shame people for being who they are!!!
Thank you for saying this I’m so tired of seeing this passive aggressive comment. His personal life was a part of his life, and because of it he was deeply lonely and dejected. It’s a shame for anyone to ever feel that way and it deserves to be acknowledged.
Who cares who he slept with , that man gave us some of the best RnB songs ever , that voice is one in a lifetime , I will always play Luther , he is a legend
I love how little he said about the rumors he mentioned and glide right pass it but spoke about his voice who inspired him great job
TMH cares who he slept with 🙄
@@YAH-1exactly, i was just gonna say this. NOBODY cared who he slept with 😂🤣🤣
@@mysticlegion8088 😵💫
It's sad how many of you miss the point. How selfish that train of thought is. Not feeling comfortable enough with who you are might be great for those you who "don't need to know" but it is depressing, lonely & leads to many mental, addictive, disorders.
Luther was and is the best balladeer singer ever and I will always love him 💔
Luther was born 20 years too early. It’s a shame he never found romantic love due to homophobia both internalised and societal. The greatest male vocalist! He should have won 20 Grammy awards..
He actually did and it was a long term relationship. He had to keep it under wraps in order to become wealthy. His lover would go to the hospital to visit with Luther everyday. I just wish he could have been open about it because I'm sure that would have made him happy.
He didn't want to make his mother unhappy.😢😮 He did not care about what people thought😂😂😂
@@scottinamcqueen6895 that’s what I had always heard and read. That’s why people who knew him waited until his mother had passed away to speak on his sexuality.
Gays are gonna gay if they choose to live that way. He tried it but was rejected cause he wasn't wanted, not because being gay was even more taboo back then.
He should have been with a woman like GOD made it.He probably would have kids.
I didn’t realize that Luther had such an extensive songwriting résumé! 🤯
Same!
Saaaaame!!!
Yes. I think he wrote Get It Right for Aretha.
He did but many of his songs were originally written by Burt bacarach
He was so handsome. And so so talented, may he rest in peace 🕊️💔🥺
600,000 in the 70's Sheeeeesh!
took my breath away. He was straight ballin lol
💯😮💨🔥 Facts!! My exact thoughts. That was 2.5 million dollars back in the day. Just from singing back up, writing songs & jingles. 🎶
It's a shame because he doesn't have an estate for his inheritance to go to. 😔
Loneliness is such a sad thing.
That's why he sounded like that. He was singing for something he longed for.
I’m a millennial whose father constantly played his music, so I grew up listening to Luther by proxy. Now is 2024 I can still recall my favorite songs - some romantic they bring tears to my eyes.
It’s so funny how wide our musical taste can be, and what moves us.
RIP ❤
I was on my way to Detroit for a family reunion and we listened to Luther CDs all the way there from Rochester NY. When we hit Detroit my sister said turn on the radio we in Motown. We turned on the radio and they said Luther had passed away. I still remember the look that passed between me and my sister. It was a look of incredulous disbelief and profound sadness. I still go back to that moment whenever I hear a Luther song. I miss him still.
Hudson Ave baby lol
One of THE greatest vocalists of all time… period
Everything he sings is a Classic. Masterpiece.
He died of a broken heart. He couldn't be with who he wanted to be with. Things were harsher back then, they would have massacred him had they found out his secret.
Little Richard was before him and he was gay out loud and successful.
@@eyesthatsmile-heartthatlov8050Little Richard had an outrageous personality which made things a little easier for him because thar shifted the attention from his sexuality so we can't really compare him to Luther, he would have certainly had it much harder especially because of the type of music he does (romantic ballads)
It was no secret that Luther was gay.
@@janjr165 He never came clean about it, so it was a secret, I guess only those closest to him knew about it.
Luther was an emotional eater which would explain his weight struggle. I wish he would have gotten professional health.
Yes, I know. He's also the man who invented the Luther Burger 🍔 😋
You sound ridiculous. Luther was gay and unable to live his truth because of people like you who focus on external appearances over inner turmoil, generational trauma and forms of bigotry like homophobia that kept Luther from being able to live his truth.
Professional HELP.
@@avawest3833 Therapy.
@@Keasha274lmao so you just going to spread that rumor as if you know what you talking about ? 😂
I have a few friends who aren’t able to live their lives openly similar to Luther. Mainly because of religion, family or society. They always vent to me about what they want and how they want to live but for whatever reason it’s a struggle for them. Once I turned 18 and came out to my mom who accepted me I stopped caring about other peoples opinions. You get one life on this earth, as long as you’re happy and you’re not harming yourself or anyone else be you and live your life unapologetically.
Well said…. We let religion, personal opinions and persecution, culture, and race ruin humanity….Live your own life and your truth! ❤️
Religion vs relationship with Jesus Christ...that's where people get confused... and eternally lost...Jesus hates religion...and so do I!
@@roseterry2744not everyone is christian
This broke my heart, Luther was one of my childhood idols, and to see and hear that a man who gave us so much love didn't have one of his own is so sad, Rest in Power Luther we miss you and will always love you ❤
Being a musician is a life of loneliness
Ain't that the truth!
Of course all what they're into ❗
Whitney said her mom told her that
Entertainment in general. Not just music.
He was a handsome man R.I.P
Man. I feel so sorry that he made everyone else happy, but he wasn't happy. Life really sucks sometimes. The only other solution is to have a personal relationship with God. Rip to luther.
@@TimAl-ro5cw THIS IS BY FAR THE BEST SOLUTION 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Jesus and the anti gay crap is why his life was messed up
@@Thah_Brant leave Jesus out of this. You know what the Bible says
@@TimAl-ro5cw obey the slave masters even the cruel ones? Kill everyone even the children and babies but keep the girls for yourself? The Bible says a lot of crap
one of the best singers on earth
He deserves a biopic. His voice was butter.
I fell in love, got engaged twice, and git married.
Dance with my always makes me cry it remind of my dad.
I cried when Luther passed. No ove songs like Luther
That he does but I doubt his estate lets that happen afraid of his authentic self will be drug through the mud even in death but he was amazing plus they don’t need the money ❤
5 minutes in and all of his inspirations were females like many of us gay men. Wish it would have been a time where he could’ve loved and accepted himself for who he was. The world would have still loved you and your heavenly voice 💜
🤔 *I disagree.* The world would NOT have loved him, because it was a totally different world back then. All of this public fluidity, pronouns, sexual preferences, gender choosing, and alphabet categories did not exist in those days, especially in the Black community. There were plenty of gay people in the industry, but they were all closeted on purpose. Did you see what happened to Ellen D. when she forced her way out? It wasn’t pretty. Luther knew what he was doing. His main audience are Black women, but they hate to find out about Black men being gay. They never would’ve supported songs that they knew were towards men. 🤷🏾♂️
@MrKellyELA All of the things you described existed back then it just wasn't in the mainstream. Everyone has pronouns he/she etc are pronouns. So I'm not being obtuse yes trans people exist too and they were told to be quiet about it even if they got hormones and surgery. The LGBT isn't a new acronym and nor are any of the letters. My grandfather himself told who is strate talked to me about how gay people would be on Christopher street and in the castro.
The issue is people had to hide it even if people knew (famous or not) Hence gay clubs, gatherings and neighborhoods. It was about making strate people feel comfortable, presenting strate and not getting yo ass beat.
I don't disagree he would of been shunned but it was an unspoken about things not a new thing by any stretch of the imagination.
@MrKellyELA please stop with the "all this gay stuff is new" narrative. It's NOT. We were FORCED INTO HIDING or faced with literal death and beatings. None of this is new, we're sick of catering to our murderers
How are you going to assume his sexuality because his inspirations was females??? Even if he is gay.. why does that part matter?
@@MrKellyELAI wonder about that. Elton John was openly gay and his career didn't suffer. Little Richard was openly hump everything so maybe we could've handled it
RIP to the GOAT! Forever one of my favorite R&B singer. Despite his challenges his voice was 1 of 1❤❤
The Velvet Voice🫶
I don’t give a fuck about his personal life. I will always love his voice and he was gone too soon 😢
Absolutely!
Welcome to the club! 🙌🏾
Whitney Houston also
Lighten up! They're simply trying to explain why we loved his music so much. Many people use the pain in their lives to express themselves artistically.
Right love his music still resonates a peaceful ness when played LOVE TO LISTEN TO SOME LUTHER !!! I Play in the shop almost daily don’t give af about his personal life! Not my business!!!
He made huge sacrifices. His emotional battles created issues which led to an early death. .....To barely make it to 50. The older I get, I see it more. Suffering will cause physical self damage. His music heals the soul, but now knowing some of his story, he's sent another important message- love thy authentic self too. Luther was a precious gem, that the world will never see again. May He Rest In Peace🌿🌼
I've never known a whole lot about Luther Vandross. He was a very private man. I didn't even know he was from New York.
You must have been living under a rock because Luther have stated many times, he was born and raised in New York City.
I didn’t either. His gay New York accent threw me off. I wish he was able to be his true self. Rest in Paradise
Can we normalize NOT asking people (celebrities or other) about their weight. 🤷🏽♀️
Seriously or telling people they gain or lost weight.
I'm small and grown women(I'm grown) think it's ok to ask me how much I weigh
@denisejackson776 that's your prerogative. We are all entitled to privacy and to refuse to have conversations we deem intrusive, upsetting ,embarrassing or disrespectful. You have your boundaries, other people have theirs
@@MegaDiva1999 I think you misunderstood my point,I don't like it when strangers ask me how much I weigh,It's rude.
or sexuality .. I really don’t care just want to enjoy the art
Mr Luther Vandross,he was an iconic musician his vocals are outstanding,he composed songs for other various artists.He was on Sesame Street,he did interviews. I was not aware that he was in a vehicular accident.He was such a private person.My deceased mother's favourite song by him "A house is not a home".The music industry has lost a talented singer he will be missed but his music still lives on.
I miss him
Gone but not for gotten
I miss him sooo much 😢
I also suffer from extreme loneliness. This was a bit of an eye opener. If no one chooses to love you back, there’s really nothing you can do, can you? You can try to self love all day, but nothing will ever beat love from someone else reminding you that you’re valid as a human being
Jennifer Holliday and Luther Vandross became good friends, and they had fun together with FOOD. Jenny said they would literally fly out to other countries just to try out restaurants. Jennifer said Luther kind of got mad when she lost weight and of course she didn't understand at first why would he get mad, then she realized Luther thought he also lost a friend. Eventually they made up. I wish they recorded something on the studio.
That sounds amazing lol
I hate to think of him being lonely and sad - his voice touched so many. HE was so amazing - makes my heart break 💔
I'm brokenhearted as well 💔
Some people were very cruel to Luther, he was an excellent song writer and singer. He is sorely missed.
@@daddams100 he was also a diva and an asshole
A lot of internal struggles, that unfortunately pushed the people around him away, and a tragic ending, I feel sympathy. It's a shame he had to hide away and couldn't live freely but his voice, legacy and story lives on.
I'm 13 and love 50s60s 70s 80s and other decades. Luther vandross and many other artists had a voice with pure emotion just amazing.
Shame to people and other celebrities that treated him so poorly. He was a talent with an amazing voice. He was a rare type of person. Props to Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey for being so loving and true friends of Luther Vandross.
LVD was my consolation when my father passed away. I still can't hear that song without crying profusely. RIP, Luther, I and all your fans loved you. I am sure there as someone out there for you, whom you unfortunately never met.
He remains my all-time favourite male vocalist
This breaks my heart. He is an icon and it is sad that he couldn't find someone to share his success with. Very sad!
I love Luther Vandross. What a voice and a dominating force of the 80's.
Wow the pacing of this video is incredible
He was a good man and a phenomenal artist who cares about his personal life he will forever be loved and missed. Thank you Luther for all your great music 💙🤍
His songs always made me think of loneliness
There's only one Luther Vandross and will never be another. It's heartbreaking the despite the beautiful voice and love songs, a love was the one thing that's missing. Aren't we all lucky we had him? Love you Luther!
A very handsome black singer with a smooth silky voice ..... love this legend singer.
I grew up listening to Luther from my Mom and Dad and I know almost all the lyrics to many of his music. I still love him today and play and sing along to his songs when I feel nervous or anxious.
I know through me that he will be known by my kids as their Mom’s music and forever more shall he live as he keeps being played by new generations. We all relate to love as humanity so he will always have relevance.
I love him so much and he symbolises many warm memories in my family and lifetime. One day I’ll thank him for the gift he blessed us with ❤🇿🇦💯🏆🥇
One of the first CDs 💿 I bought was the album LUTHER VANDROSS - SONGS.
@@SibusisoHlophe-dp5lq I love Songs! The whole CD, no skipping 😅❤️
We knew that Luther was gay yet we love Luther regardless, in life and in death, his voice lives on❤❤
❤❤❤
@@gulledahmed2954Amen
He will never be forgotten ,beautiful man. Amazing voice ❤❤
Still listening to this legend 20years after his demised. Thanks for the video
I ❤ Luther and all his contributions to music. I also admire the fact he kept his private life off limits. I miss the days when we didn't know stars every move.
I will never forget the way he treated Boy George when they sang together, someone who had the courage to be their authentic self, instead of appreciating and respecting he did the opposite. Self loathing is a terrible thing.
A beautiful man. A beautiful voice. We will always remember him
He was so humble and well spoken. He is missed
My wife loved this man so much. She still plays his songs, sings his songs. We will both always love him. He is forever beloved. He was a gift to us from God, and he is terribly missed. ❤ 🙏
Hard to believe that LUTHER would lose Once, not to mention Three Times, at the Apollo. Wonder what happened to those who won against him?🤔
I was thinking that too!! Who in their right minds!!
Yeah, the Apollo was Tough especially for African Americans then 😢😢😢
It’s not hard to believe, there were many great singers back then appearing at Apollo.
@@RascalbeansRight!!
Rest in love ❤Mr. Luther Vandross you left your mark on the World with your silky smooth voice. From the moment I first heard your music I fell in love with your style. You were definitely top tier. Often imitated never duplicated. 🙏🏽🥰⭐️💫
We just loved him, regardless of his love life. The man was a blessing to us, with that beautiful voice. ❤
Thanks to David Bowie for accelerating his career. David always stood up for black musicians. Young Americans album is in my top 10 albums of all time.
I grew up listening to Luther on repeat. I always say his music is the soundtrack to my childhood. My dad loves his and Anita Baker's music. My sisters and I now lovingly joke about how if we came home and the stereo was blasting Luther or Anita or Sade....Daddy was soaking in the tub!😊❤
I loved Luther at every size and still do. As an 80's baby he's an indelible part of my childhood his voice always made me feel safe and loved.
I'm sorry he never got to feel the way he made others feel throughout his life. ❤️
RIP, Luther. Thanks for the music. You were an excellent singer 🙏🏽
I was lucky enough to have seen Luther 4 times. He was a consummate performer. What a stage presence. And that voice...it was like butter. N9 one and I mean no one sang a love sing like Luther. RIP Luther..you are truly missed.
Luther deserves his own movie in theaters.. his story is crazy
I had the privilege to see Luther back in early 90’s.. MEN Arena Manchester.. a memory I’ll treasure forever RIP Luther 🙏🏼
Legend. Still on my regular playlist. I doubt the world would have forgiven him if he had come out. A harsh and cruel truth about that time. RIP sir ❤❤❤
"It's so amazing to be loved. I'd follow you to the moon and the stars above" RIP Luther.
I believe he was lonely. He was a virtuoso singer. Any high-performing person is inherently lonely. Heck, even being a little above average will make you feel it. Life is not cake!
Still missing him. Luther was one of a kind. A singer with tremendous talent. His music will never die as long as we remember him.
Artist back then knew how to keep it private and classy. The motto then was the show goes on. I really respect that about them.
Luther was so handsome and such an icon. I was born in 1982 but I listen to Luther’s music almost every morning on my drive into work. He is deserving of a biopic.❤ My 7 & 11 year old love his music as well.
He is still my mother's favorite singer. I won't say I know his entire catalog, but the bops, i have, I absolutely love. Never too much, Superstar, A house is not a home, Creep, Bad boy, Don't you know, top tier. The more I listen, the more I realize he does amazing covers.
I grew up listening to him it was sad day when this man passed away....Luther was a hell of a artist and it'll never be another like him ...this story makes me sad how lonely this man felt he was loved by so many
Excellent story about Luther the voice was so powerful and loving. I grew up listening to him and still do now today. Just a wonderful singer period.
For me Luther was a GOAT. The things he could do with his voice were amazingly unique. When I listen to his "Dance with my Father again", I still cry for my own father. We will all miss your soulful voice.
Luther was a staple throughout the 90’s and his voice was smooth as butter!! His sexuality never meant a thing to me or his true listeners. He deserved love just like any human does. He’s a shining star in our night sky now. 😊😔
So true
The number of Grammys won is no measure of a musician’s greatness. That’s why Luther Vandross was a greater musician than the likes of Rihanna, for all their collection of Grammys, will ever be🤷🏽♂️
Rihanna??😂... how did you come up with this comparison??? 🤣🤣 Sounds like you don't like HER!! 😂😂
Rihanna is an amazing vocalist in her own right, not to mention totally different eras in music no need to compare the two.
@@Jessica_Costantini Agree!!!!
I too agree
Luther is an iconic voice who’s music lives on and is indeed timeless, but it sounds like he led a lonely personal life.
Truly EPIC the man was. An IMMORTAL GOAT... He left us with joy in the voice and songs that we have not heard the likes since his passing.
Exactly