I believed this LIE about Cleaning for YEARS
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My husband's grandmother once told me that cleaning and maintaining their home was her job (she was a stay at home mom, like me) and she decided early in her marriage that she would complete her job during the work week, just like her husband did. Weekends were for family time and visiting friends. For all the cleaning routines and schedules she had implemented, she promised herself that if her husband came home and said lets go to XYZ, she would lay down her cleaning tools and walk out the door. Cleaning and maintaining her home would never get in the way of spending time with those she loved. The sticky floors would still be there tomorrow.
My dad loved going fishing, and very early on mum decided that if she wanted to be with dad, she would have to go with him. They had a lovely hobby together for decades. This was possible, because grandma was in the same household and was babysitting. This was in the distant past! Good old days!
That’s just how my mom did. ❤
It took me a long time to understand that as a grown up, the weekend was not my cleaning time. It was sonetines my time to teach cleaning, but even as a working outside the home parent I I needed to clean up during the week if I wanted to have a weekend.
One of my fellow workers said she always did the housework (with husband and children) on Thursday nights as she said that meant for them their weekend started Friday night after work so they could start relaxing.
Smart lady!
I decided a long time ago that we were not allowed to clean on Saturday and Sunday. So Friday was called Fast and Furious Friday because we got everything done that we needed to get done. The only chores we had to do on Saturday was to take out the dogs. We have done this for almost 20 years.
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Love this idea!
Love it! Saturdays in my youth were eaten up by all-day housecleaning. I remember it was never clean enough and we were all exhausted by the end of the day. Because of that, I leaned to HATE housecleaning and as an adult, I struggle with cleaning house. I also want to teach my kids how to clean without hating it so we do a weekly "power hour". When the timer stops, so do we and "good enough" is great 👍
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I never clean my shower and it's always clean. The trick is before I rinse the conditioner out of my hair I wash the the shower. I rinse my hair then the shower. I hang a a hand towel next to my bath tower. After I dry off I take 2 seconds to dry the glass doors. Voila it always looks great
Daily cleaning and decluttering makes such a difference.
my parents cleaned the whole house on Saturdays and we had to help. it took usually 7-9 hours though (they are perfectionists) and we all hated it. it was a big revelation for me when i discovered that there are easier ways to keep everything clean and not losing your mind while having a full time job.
My mom (4 kids) worked about 50 hours per week outside the home and was super involved in church. Our home “magically” stayed clean!! I realize NOW… she MUST have stayed up late and gotten up early… for everything to function. She occasionally had someone to come in and do deep cleaning, but our home was always tidy. I felt like SUCH a failure as an adult, wife, and mother FOR YEARS…
I’m now in my fifties and have learned to do about 30 minutes of daily tasks and have DRASTICALLY reduced my inventory!! Be glad you discovered the “secret” while you’re still young. Love your videos!!
My motto is “keep up so you won’t have to catch up”.
Me too. So at least there are two of us.😀
This is great! Daily keep-ups. I can sweep the floor, wipe down the stove, or chuck old food from the fridge in the four minutes it takes the coffee to brew. This means I can re-start my old caffeine addiction that took me two grueling months to quit. And not only that, but I can have not just one cup a day, but three, AND have the cleanest kitchen in the world!
@@user-ry1vi1jc7o why did you quit coffee? It’s not bad for you. I drink coffee every morning. And I don’t need caffeine to get the energy to clean either. I just like it. That’s a bit over dramatic but whatever. To each his or her own.
@@user-ov6bv9cn1o It depends on the person. I get heart palpitation whenever I drink caffeine. My friend got IBS & cannot handle caffeine anymore. Some people get addicted to coffee too. So for some people, it's good to quit.
Yep, maintenance is a whole lot better than the big overhauls.
My mother was like a drill Sargeant on the weekends. She would yell and scream at us to clean. I dreaded the weekends and it made horrible memories. Then after we left home she became the biggest slob.
Did she struggle with executive dysfunction and having kids home helped her stay on task
I hate these facts so much! 😂
It's WAY easier if you have good mental health and focus. See, for a long time I was so distracted and exhausted I couldn't make myself even wipe down a counter. Then I'd have all kinds of people coming along and offering obvious and helpful advice and then I'd be so heartbroken that I couldn't implement it properly. If you know, you know, I guess.
If you're like me, don't feel bad, just keep going and know perfection isn't the standard. If all else fails, lower your expectations. 😅 I'm not saying to give up. I'm saying, "Feel free to implement only the advice that works for you and ignore the rest." ❤
For me it helped to just say: Better done poorly, than not done at all.
So I got a wireless vacuum, that isn't very good, but will take the worst very fast. And on days I fell good I'll take out the good old wired one, that really gets into all the cracks. I even vacuum shelves and lamps in order not to have to dust. (My wired vacuum has a headpiece with brushes for this)
I got wipes in every room, so I can easily wipe dovn stuff, to keep up with dust.
and I have baskets to dump stuff in, so I can put them in their right place later and have my surfaces cleared fast.
I loved the footage of your early years with Jordan. 🥰 Girl, you don't age!! You look exactly the same! ❤️🌹
After my husband goes to work and my daughter goes to school, I listen to my fav sermon on our local Christian radio station and I play it loud while I do all the tiding/start or fold laundry/clean up surfaces while i listen! When the half hr sermon is done, I'm done and take a break with coffee and a video game!
Growing up my mom would have us frantically clean our whole house before company came because she was embarrassed that it was cluttered. Consequently I now will clean for company, but I try really hard not to agonize about peripheral clutter or waste my good energy on frantic housework. Problem is, now I agonize because I almost feel like it's a requirement to either be obsessed with having a clean house or anxiety ridden because of having a dirty one. I also have issues with inconsistent energy levels
So I work steadily when I feel good and take it slow and easy when I don't. I don't have a great system. I just plug away. A great man once said, "I don't keep up. I just keep going."
I clean daily. 5 minutes here, 5 minutes there. I maybe spend 20 minutes a day. I dust and vacuum the whole house one day a week, but fill in as needed. Dishes and kitchen get throughly cleaned after each meal. It makes my life so much easier and more pleasant.
OMG you accurately described my childhood! It felt more like all day Saturday even though it was probably only 3-4 hours. My SAHM sort of kept up during the week but I'm sure she did the best she could with 5 kids. I think my mom believed the lie that EVERYONE'S house is "company clean" ALL the time. That fueled her feelings of inadequacy that put a lot of pressure on all of us because the house was never clean enough. She was constantly trying to come up with new routines--chore charts, rewards systems, checklists, chores written on popsicle sticks in a jar, etc because she felt like other moms "had it together" and were more organized. And this was all in the days before social media and Pinterest. Because of all that, I grew up hating to clean. Sure, I liked a clean room and as an adult, I love a clean house, but I hate cleaning. I don't want my kids to grow up hating cleaning so our family does a 1-hour cleaning power hour once a week. Everyone has their assigned areas of the house to clean and we set the timer for 60 minutes. When the timer stops, it doesn't matter what you didn't get done, we'll get it next week. The only thing I clean everyday is the kitchen. Throughout the week, the only other things we do are a 10 minute tidy before bed, empty/load the dishwasher, and folding laundry. The big thing that helps with the kitchen chores is that I run the dishwasher everyday whether it's full or not--half full is good enough.
This is gold! My aunt, a single mom with four kids, somehow kept her house clean. When my mom asked her how she did it, her reply was that it doesn't take much time to clean a toilet if you just turn around when you're done using it. Words to live by!
I hate waiting, so I learned a long time ago to wipe the stove or counters or sweep the floors after putting something in the microwave. I never wait. If I’m cooking, I put things away, chop the rest of the onion and add it to the bag of chopped onions in my freezer, set the table, wash the cutting board and knife, etc. I also cut up carrots and celery to freeze for the days I’m in a time crunch to get dinner made. It also keeps them from getting old or rotten and allows me to make space to buy fresh ones for salads. So it saves money too, because my fresh food doesn’t rot. Wrinkly apples become applesauce (super easy) or pies or fried. If you don’t have the time to cook then, prepare them for cooking and freeze them. To freeze things so you can easily use only what you want, fill a large bag only 1/4 to1/3 full, spread out in a thin layer and freeze flat. After it’s frozen transfer to a smaller bag and use the larger bag to freeze again. Also, always label.
It’s kind of a game, isn’t it? Can I unload the dishwasher before the Keurig finishes brewing?
When I was working, Saturdays were consumed with cleaning, grocery shopping and errands. Sunday was laundry day. No wonder I felt like all I did was work and household jobs because I wasn’t using my weekends for fun. If you can free up your weekends by spreading out house cleaning and errand running throughout the work week , do it!
I'm a 40-year-old mom of 3 school-aged kids and these are FANTASTIC tips! If you work the small tasks into related or nearby tasks throughout the day it's amazing how much that helps. Plus putting in 1-5 mins here are there doesn't feel burdensome. I like to challenge myself to see if I can get the dishes done in the time it takes to microwave Easy Mac or see if I can get the dishwasher loaded in the time it takes to air fry some fries or chicken nuggets. I've been amazed how quickly I can get stuff done!
I have adhd, so maintaining a cleaning schedule is not something my brain will really do... I'm more of a binge-cleaner, but I have learned to lean into it. With a good audiobook or podcast, I can clean for quite a while without knowing how much time is passing. My kids know that if mom is cleaning, don't interrupt her, cuz it might be a while till the next cleaning binge... Haha!!
I do this sometimes, but it could work daily... We have a visual timer on the side of the fridge we can see from the living room. So I'll set a timer for 10 or 15 mins and we'll do a family pickup... Put things away, dishes in sink, put clean laundry away, dirty laundry in hamper... Whatever you see for those 10/15 mins and when it dings, we're done even if not everything is put away/picked up yet. Sometimes I'll sneak a couple more mins on the timer... 😇 But it's amazing what you can get done if everyone works together for just a few minutes. And my kids don't feel like 10 mins is very long... It's the length of 1 TH-cam video!
I can sooooo relate to you! I have ADHD as well (even though my doctor thinks I don't), so I tend to binge clean also. With my headphones on listening to music or a good podcast, as you said, I can really get some cleaning done!
My kids have chores 5 days a week. Whatever they don't get done has to be finished on the weekend. We check and make sure it's done properly, but we give grace occasionally. Weekends are for fun, rest, catchup, and events.
I suffered a severe injury at work. Neck and shoulder. It’s completely changed my life permanently. Housekeeping tasks became very difficult, but I found tools that have been game changing. A cordless vacuum, a mop that I just have to hold and it pulls itself around electrically and has sensors. My tile & tub cleaner too has helped me keep the tub clean , as the tub was always the most difficult for my shoulder. They were investments and I still struggle. So up keep is key for me also. Letting it get out of hand is too overwhelming. I do, do a weekly clean but it isn’t intimidating when you use some of the great tips and tricks you suggested. ❤👌🏻
Thanks for the fun. It's hard to maintain a home in today's world when both parents are working, usually full-time, the children have after-school activities, and mom is (gasp!) pooped. It is hard to add in cleaning up after everyone else. BUT.WE.DO. Okay, we do it most of the -- we do our best. I remember my oldest daughter calling and asking me, not long after the birth of her first son, "Mom, how tired can you be before you die?" I held my tongue and just sympathized and offered encouragement (which was hard! LOL). Your suggestions in this video are very good. Thank you for helping the newbies figure it out because not everyone has the advantage of having an organized, energetic, loving mom to teach them!
I absolutely agree! It’s better to do small, easy, and quick tasks throughout the day than procrastinating and having to do long clean for hours.
I’ve also realized that the key to easier stuff management is to have LESS stuff to begin with. And the smart and convenient organizational system does the trick: if you want to be able to accomplish a certain task regularly, it needs to be convenient to do because, if it’s too complicated, and there’s a lot of obstacles on the way, you just won’t do it.
Oh, and finding ways to do less work is also helpful: for example, I put 10 garbage bags into the trash can at once, so every time I take the trash out, the new bag is already there, and I don’t need to add a new one - it’s a simple thing and seems like it wouldn’t make a difference, but it sure does!! The less actions, the better!!
And last but not least, don’t wait until something becomes so dirty, that you have to scrub for hours to get it off!! The longer you put off the task, the more work will have to be done!
When does it become automatic? Because I try to do things this way but it does consume a lot of mental energy to try to think about everything all the time. And even when I get used to something, if anything special happens in my life (e.g. a relative needs some help, the pets are ill, or a part of the house needs to get fixed), there's a good chance I'll totally forget about all these good habits until my house is a huge mess. I even forget I have a checklist on the fridge. It just takes too many spoons...
I definitely relate to what you're saying
Sounds like you have ADHD. Best wishes from someone with adhd ❤
I relate too. I have ADHD which makes staying on track for anything “boring” hard. Housework is very boring and I would rather read! I have to fight with myself to get anything done around the house.
I have ADHD and use it to my advantage for cleaning. If I'm making tea or coffee, I will get bored waiting so I'll wait some dishes, or wipe down a couple cupboards. I work from home so during long meetings when I don't need to turn on video I'll clean. But the biggest 'hack' for me is listening to audio books or podcasts. I don't have the patience to just listen to an audio book. Now I clean and listen and half the time I'm not even aware I'm cleaning.
Hi Ariel - Great video. I am old and can only work for a few minutes before I forget what I'm doing (tee hee), so I have to organize, clean fast or else. I am having to put things into drawers, bins, etc, and label so I can remember. I now know that slow and steady wins the race. Thanks for the reminder. Keep the videos coming. Love PegEgg
Oh my gosh you and Jordan were such happy kids - your faces were beaming!! And still happy now - congratulations!!
I use to have cleaning routines for every room in the house. Now I focus on cleaning as I go, it has made a big difference. My house is clean but I don't spend hours every day doing it. If there is something I need to do but don't have time it goes on my to do list to remind me.
I love the habit stacking! 🥳 It’s such a great tool for adhd too. It’s a level of maintaining awareness and avoiding “waiting” to do things. ❤️ Great video
Ariel, in short, you are brilliant! You are way too creative, intelligent, entertaining, humorous just simply a joy to spend time with on You Tube. Seriously, consider a television/cable show of your own. You would leave Oprah in the dust. Signed, only one of your million dedicated and faithful subscribers. Thanks for your channel.❤😊❤
You are so sweet, thank you for making me smile today 🥰
My relationship with cleaning is complicated. The short-short version is this:
1) I've suspected for a while that I'm neurodivergent in at least a couple of ways.
2) Dealing with a lazy narcissistic father made it worse when I realized his lazy housekeeping was driving **me** bonkers.
3) Moving into my own place via Section 8 housing assistance taught me my intolerance for unwanted intrusion wasn't just about my father being how he was. It was about other people trying to impose their seemingly impossible neurotypical standards on how my brain actually works.
4) I also realized that neurodivergence + narc abuse can sometimes equal constant clutter, and I had to get at the root of things and change s*** up for my sake.
Then....
5) **favorite boss ever (and one who I wish was my dad) enters the chat and teaches me, however subtly, that being tidy need not be a mentally exhausting thing.**
It is because of that favorite boss ever that I have been able to really sort things out the way I need/want to. **happy tears**
(Like I said, this was the short-short version. 😅)
What do you think your biggest cleaning success is so far?
@@wendyduncan9084 Wow, good question. 😅 I think it would have to be the following:
1) Identify the pain points: which are the most challenging/annoying areas of my apartment to keep tidy, and why they are challenging.
2) Identify ways to keep those areas tidy that suit how my brain works but also satisfies cleanliness codes for the Powers That Be. For example, training myself to pick up my dirty dishes and trash as I go, and put dishes and trash where they go immediately after I eat. I haven't always been successful at this. Sometimes I backslide due to fatigue, but I'm getting better at it just because I like how it feels.
3) Training myself to put my clean dishes away in the cabinets after running the dishwasher (that idea came from Mr Favorite Boss. 😅). A visual reminder such as one of those "clean/dirty" magnets on my dishwasher door helps a ton! They may seem like a "no-brainer," but coming away from a household full of toxic vibes, trauma, etc, such a simple thing can mean a big difference to someone like me.
There's more to the list, but those were the biggest ones I could think of off the top of my head. 😅
The way you talk about your Mom is so wholesome! 🥰 So happy to hear from you.
Most things go better doing it little by little. Exercise is an obvious one. A little everyday vs once a week will get you signicantly different results!
I love this. I need direct, clear examples like the ones you started listing for it to click. Thank you!!!
In my experience, 2-adult household can be mantained by weekly cleaning. During week days we used to just cook dinner/breakfast, upload the dishwasher, empty the trash and wipe the counters and the table. It used to take 2,5 hours to deep clean our apartment which was fine with us. Cleaning constantly became a habit and necessity only after having our baby.
Kids do make a huge difference. With 3 tween/teen boys and our dishwasher breaking down (it took almost 2 months to have it replaced), I felt like I had just become a dishwasher. I would wash till it was time to cook again, then cook, eat and wash. It was a temporary thing, so I just did all the dishes myself, but the skin on my hands was so tight and dry and cracked at the knuckles in spite of putting on lotion and salve multiple times a day (probably doesn't help that I have eczema and a latex allergy, so I washed bare handed). I spent every last minute just trying to keep up with the mess. It's also close to the end of the school year so the kids have been swamped with homework. Had this been in the summer, they would have definitely been helping out more!
This is very true. On a daily basis, I only need to load the dishwasher (unload next morning), wipe down the kitchen counters, clear stuff off the dining and coffee table at the end of the day. That's it. Weekly chores include laundry, vaccuming, bath/kitchen cleaning, and dusting (takes about 2 hours coz we split the chores). Rest everything is done when needed like washing windows at the start of the summer, appliances when they become too grimy (happens about twice a year).
The 3 things that will help keep things going so they don't pile up:
1. Daily routines - we pick up after ourselves, plates and cutlery go in the sink until after dinner when we load the dishwasher. Clothes go in the laundry basket in the bedroom, shoes go in the rack near the front door etc. Neither of us are slobs so it's farily easy. It helps if you have a place for everything like coats, shoes, keys, mail, etc.
2. No excess clutter - I'm very mindful of what I buy or bring into my home. That way I only have what's needed, nothing extra. The only 'decor' items I have are my books and board games lol. No multiples of stuff like towels and such coz why? With online shopping, even if there was something I needed urgently, I can order it ASAP. My home is for living, not a Costco warehouse!
3. Small home - No matter how big your house is, it will eventually get filled up with stuff. I keep at least 20% free space in any room/closet/shelf. Not only does this reduce visual clutter but it also mean if I have to bring anything temporarily into my house there's room for it (like toilet paper before the last few rolls are used up).
Trust me, no. 2 and 3 are more important to a clean home than 1 will ever be. Or rather, it's almost impossible to maintain a clean home with just daily habits if you have a large home with too much stuff.
@@sugarcandy243 I agree with your idea of keeping at least 20% free space in a shelf or closet but how do you keep people like husbands from filling that space with his stuff?
I love watching you because you are so real and transparent. Your facials are very funny 😂😂😂😂
Instead of standing watching my coffee heat up I found it takes me 99 seconds to put the dishes away (minus the silverware), or sweep the floor or wipe a counter off or stack the dishes.
Days when I am sooo exhausted I can barely stand I will put a timer on for 2 minutes and see what I can get done.
Yes or get a housekeeper 🙃 ... I'm a housekeeper 🥂
I was a housekeeper, now a custodian but I loved how happy my customers were when they came home
Yeah
.....tooo poor for that. 😂
🥂 ... Look I get it... Me personally, I say; I want to Help be the extra arm we all need!! 🧚🏽♀️ So I'll work with you but yes, that's me 🙈... yes, it's a lil bit extra but some times it takes this massive load off. Too take a step back. Have that reset, to tackle it again yourself 🙌🏽 But Good luck too Yoooo All 🥂 && yes the key is don't STRESS 💐 Live Life & Do what You Need to Be the Happiest You 🥰
So TRUE In our home it's a running joke to always hold onto your cup. If missing Mom washed it. I still do it unconsciously. Someone uses the bathroom, poof cups gone😂
Oops hahaha this is so me 😂
This is my house schedule…takes an hour per morning. House stays acceptable all week.
Mon: kitchen.
Tues: living room/dining room.
Wed: master bedroom , porches.
Thursday: guest bedroom, stairs, mudroom, laundry.
Fri: bathrooms.
Is that tidying or wiping and vacuuming?
And how does doing your kitchen function with one hour a week?
@@Plethorality yes, wiping and vacuuming. About the kitchen…it’s just my husband and me. I clean up any mess I’m making as I cook.
Happy Saturday! Thank you for another great video! 🥰
I’ve just found your channel and will be sharing it with my niece. She is getting ready to go to college. Excellent advice and Thank you!
Thanks for always sharing what you’ve learned and are learning to improve your home. 😊
Absolutely🎉🎉
Mom of 6, Grama to 5, married 40 years. This system has worked well for me through every season of life.😊
These videos where you give these little tiny tips of how you can sneak in tidying your home, as well as the tidy, tango video, all your most helpful. Bar none. They honestly helped me so much more than learning about the fly lady or the clean mama or any of those other people, which are still very helpful to me.
Flylady has helped me keep up with my home
Otherwise felt same way on my days off
Cleaning for a few hours but not any more
I just had an a-ha or 💡 moment with your video. We grew up doing cleaning on Saturdays too and until this video it never occurred to me that my mom was doing the daily and now I understand why I don’t like Saturday mornings and put off cleaning. Thanks so much for this perspective!
❤Love love love this video, brilliant. The best video on home keeping I've ever seen.
Bless. When you had this revelation about how important the cleaning your mom did throughout the week actually was, I hope you thanked her for doing it for you for all those years. Xxxx
Mom...is that you?
@@user-ry1vi1jc7o hah! Nope. I'm nobody's mom.
I adore your channel & your vibe. ✌️💜✌️
I always enjoy your videos! The "brain dump" video helped me so much. I had so many extraneous tasks to do at work and I was overwhelmed. I did a brain dump and chose 2 or 3 to complete. I couldn't believe how much i was able to get done. Thank you!
We did that Saturday thing as kids, but my mom didn't work and cleaned all week also. Great video!
It was the same in our family, but we knew our Mother was cleaning all week long, she complained enough!😂😂😂 Thanks Mom!
Every single Saturday of my childhood - through high school! - was ruined. I couldn’t sleep over with friends on Fridays (or Saturdays either because of church, so everyone did Friday nights). I couldn’t go to the mall with my friends. Etc.
Maybe that was their way of family time and keeping you out of trouble😊
@@PamsouthdakotaHardly. We ate breakfast and dinner together every day, watch tv together in the evenings, went to church on Sundays together and we weren’t trouble makers at all. My parents were over-controlling, period.
i have a habit: when i turn on my tea kettle, i clean. when the water is ready, i stop.
works like a charm. It regularly shocks me how much i can get done in the time it takes for the kettle to heat up (and then i have a lovely hot drink afterward)
i watched this yesterday and tried the concept out today, and came back to say how gratifying it is! my house is tidy! i cleaned the bath! i vacuumed a room imperfectly rather than not at all! it didn't even feel like work because it was such small spurts, but i probably was cleaning for an hour or two if i added it all up.
hope this works more than hoping to clean one zone a day but instead cleaning one zone a week!
Loved this talk! Take care
I try to remember some of these but but still lazy sometimes. Like the tips and reminders! You’re always fun!
The saying "old habits die hard" is the truest of the true. I never had a DW while raising a family and now still have issues putting dirty dishes in the sink instead of directly into the DW. It also took me forever to realize I no longer needed a space hogging counter top dish drainer for hand washables and can just put them in the top rack to drip dry for a bit. Jeesh!
Before there was fly-lay - There were two sisters- they wrote Side Tracked Home Executives! They were hopeless ADHD girls the overcome!!! I did not know about ADHD - which I have!!!! I do believe that children and grandchildren will benefit from learning to care for yourself and others. Homemaking is every ones business!!! Certainly not just Moms! I was a real rebel in the 1970s because I did not buy into the kids and house are just my problems!!!
Thanks for the memories! In the ‘70, the ladies group at my church did a Side-tracked Home Executive (SHE) book chat. Pam and Peggy were hilarious! It was then that I realized my hated job of unloading the dishwasher took only 5 minutes. I stopped putting it off. So many housekeeping chores take under 10 minutes. I still have my job cards, although I don’t need reminders of jobs that need to be done.
Todd and I curled up tonight for our bimonthly date with Ariel. We laughed so hard when you said you called your mom. You are intelligently funny. We love it! Hitting a lick at a snake helps me every time. The less country version of that is do what you can in the bits of time you have. Always a winner. Great video💚🩵💙
Thanks Wendy ❤️
I remember my mom saying, hitting a lick, but not the snake part. But she absolutely hates snakes. I think it was the only thing that came close to scaring her.
I always love watching your videos!❤
My momma said to it back the way you found it. It made cleaning much easier, easier to find the floor clean enough to sweep and mop, the counters clean enough to wipe.
I agree with your realisation of doing it a little now and then - I do the same.
However, I fully realise now that in the past, all the time I was cleaning, it wasn’t primarily a cleaning or routine problem. It was always a problem of things and projects. I don’t and didn’t have an excess of things but I still have too many things - and as a result of that and my creativity I also had too many projects.
The solution: Downsizing the amount of objects and the amount of projects/diy/building/painting etc. Now I am happier in my home, that is on its way to a minimalistic place. I will still keep the things that make my home cozy but the excess is almost gone. I will also still do projects but only the actually necessary.
I never thought a minimalistic environment was ever on the agenda, never ever! But the feeling is actually amazing. It took time but it was all worth it.
And as a bonus, cleaning takes less than half the time it used to. A truly huge win!
After doing Flylady for 3 years, my bathroom keeps itself fairly clean. Swish n Swipe is genius, because I always do one extra small task while I am at it.
My biggest struggle is our livingroom. We live in a very small space. The livingroom is also an office, a playroom and a mudroom. Everything that comes into the house is left there for days. It is very overwhelming!
Bedrooms are also fairly maintained. I have young children who nap during the day, so bedrooms are cleaned not quite as often as I like, but they are cozy.
There is a nice woman living in sweden (she has a YT channel too but I do not recall her name :() who was giving a very good advice for keeping up with the dishes: "always clean some dishes when you need to get your hand washed." This is such an good advice that I want to share that: since then I always do some dishes when I need to get my hand wet. It does not very much matter to do all the dishes in one step but chances are that you do some more of it thn you wanted ;-) And this advice really works!
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Making my bed daily has helped me so much❤. I do a " modified Fly Lady" as those extra blessing steps rarely happen. I also do yard work and fix appliances. I have to make myself step away sometimes. ❤
Great tips! During lockdown i got i to the habit to get up suring cometcials to dust quickly or do a few dishes, 5 mins @ a time & by the time the show was over q.5 rooms would be cleaned. especially if it was a longer show... plus u get to get up & move a bit which is also good
Very true. Just starting to get to that stage of learning to leave things better then you left them. 😊😊😊 small tasks consistently every day is the only way lol 😊
You are an inspiration. Thank you.
My mom was a single mom and she worked in a factory. She paid one of her friends mom to come to the house once a week. Patsy didn't clean our rooms though. Mom said she was the one who worked so Patsy was there for her. Patsy would collect our things and put them in front of our bedroom doors 😂 but she did teach us to do laundry. I remember thinking I was going to fall into the washing machine. In the end we never learned how to clean. Mom would come over to our houses and apologize for the way our homes looked because she never taught us how to clean. She was really bothered by this. We would say it's ok. But I'm 39 , my 3 kids are 21- just had the first grandbaby, 19 & 17 and no one knows how to clean! I've been binge watching you for a while and a cpl months ago I finally realized that it's maintenance that keeps a home tidy. The little things throughout the day make a big difference. I always have a donation box, I deal with the dishes while my coffee is brewing and Swiffer away the dog hair several times a day. I've learned so much from you. My home is finally in an acceptable state. Not perfect but perfect enough.💚🤓
I can relate to Jordan asking you about his fork. I do that to my husband all the time 🤣 Good tips Ariel!
Yup, Saturday has always been cleaning day. Except, I don't spend hours anymore like when I first married. I would put off going to activities if I hadn't finish. Years later, I clean a little bit each day. My weekends are more enjoyable. 😀
Love your videos Ariel 💝
Love this! 🤩 Thank you so much! 🙏❤️💪🎉👏
You are funny. I enjoy your humor. And your how to's. Good job!
And I'm glad you said to teach your kids to do the same, because clearly your mom not teaching her kids to do the same didn't turn out for the best in the long run.
You’re too cute… Thank you for sharing this info, I’m going to share it with my kiddos. I’m actually going to watch it with them so we can talk about it after 😊
My oldest daughter is 24 and gives off the vibe that she thinks I'm a fruit cake, but when she went to college, I noticed all the little chore charts she made for herself and her roommates. It was so cute. My mom didn't really teach me to clean, but it was because I wasn't ready to learn. I think we all have to learn the hard way, on our own, in our own time.
My daughter is 22 and made all those charts for her and her roommates too. It is cute!
I grew up in an extremely disorganized and dirty home. Dishes and laundry were a nightmare. We would spend a week cleaning if we had any guests over. Every single surface was cluttered. Our house always smelled. The shame and lack of basic cleaning skills I had was embarrassing.
My husband (he was raised in a more organized, tidy home) and I moved in to an apartment together for the first time and struggled. Things were a little easier, but I still would go a week before washing dishes and would run out of clean laundry.
We bought our first home in March, and I was determined to love my new home and make a functional space. We both work full time and struggle with ADHD. Thanks to your videos, I created my own schedule and I've stuck to it since we moved in.
Everyday, no matter what.
*Make my bed
*Make sure my floors are safe for my rooma
*Wash dishes, wipe counters and sweep kitchen floors.
Tuesdays I vacuum and mop.
Wednesdays my husband cleans the bathroom
Thursday is a celebratory movie night
Fridays I scoop dog poop, mow and tend our garden.
Mondays and Weekends are for whatever we feel like.
I own the kitchen. My husband owns the laundry. We don't have the cleanest home, but this is the most comfortable I've ever felt in any home. Ever. I'm so proud of my new home. Thank you for your videos. Your personality and communication style makes cleaning more approachable. They literally changed my life.
Bless, sounds like you two have a good team going!
im beyond blessed that my mother instilled these things in me
Great points! I’d much rather have family time and fun on the weekends than to be cleaning for hours! Thanks 😊
This, combined with decluttering, is truly the secret. Today is my 50th wedding anniversary, no joke. I have learned to get rid of things, and clean as I go. It is amazing how much easier it is to keep my house neat and clean. Things don't ever get filthy, so a quick wipe does the trick.
Congratulations on yer Golden 50th Wedding Anniversary 🎊 what an amazing achievement. Hope ye have a wonderful day. Mary, Joes wife 👏💐🙏🎊
@@josephdaly2015 Thank you so much!
Loved seeing your son getting the dirty laundry downstairs lol.
How we do it is after every meal rinse dishes off and put in dishwasher right away. If you wait the food gets stuck to the plate, but if you do it right away it sprays right off. Cleaning for me is every once in a while you find the odd places that get missed during regular upkeep. So every now an then you get window sills, trim, swap out furnace filter, stuff like that. I dont have to spend a bunch of time cleaning because everything is just kept clean as we go. Its the same way my parents did things when I was a kid and its way better than letting things get dirty then cleaning. If youre walking by and notice something dirty, just take a second to clean it right away.
So true. The same happened to me when I got married. Only I didn't realise this for decades!!
Hello, I love your Channel. I'm wondering have you ever finished flylady binder. I started to understand flylady thanks to you and started also the binder as you described in one of your first videos. If you are using it, it would be very nice to see it. O tell us how to set it up with your easy way. Thanks a lot. BtW I'm Melissa from Spain. 😊
I do both, during the week I do 30-40 minutes in the morning before work as a quick reset(dishes, sweep, cat litter, put away clutter). Over the weekend is laundry, dusting, and cleaning the bathroom.
My spouse and child don’t do this clean as you go. Hubby grew up with his Mom doing everything, so I’m one person trying to clean up after three. (Yes, only three of us.). Hubby is doing laundry most of the time now (while he plays computer games), taking a break for 10 minutes to switch loads every few hours. (Some days. Other days he skips and there’s a mountain of it.). He makes breakfast and lunch for himself and the kid on school days. I work a split shift and eat when I get home mid-morning. When I get home, the kitchen and dining room are a mess. If I get most of it cleaned up (and about half the dishes washed because I run out of room in the drying rack and clean stove and counter space, I come home to the same mess that was left and now I have to figure out how to make dinner (if hubby isn’t home). Often if he’s home, he will make something-a meal once a week or frozen pizza, chicken strips and fries other days-anything quick. Then I come home with the kid and we eat dinner. Now the kitchen is a complete mess again. Kid grudgingly helps put away the dishes I washed earlier in the day, and I have to wash the sink (because now dirty dishes are in both sides) before I can do more dishes. If I then sit down to do emails, paperwork, phone calls, etc, then it’s time to clean more of the kitchen. I sometimes get it done before bed, sometimes not, ecause I’m exhausted by that point. I go to bed half an hour after my kid and am up super early to start again. I feel like I am working at work or at home, 18 hours a day, less a couple of hours-long breaks in the day. If I don’t have appointments or errands I’m trying to squeeze in between shifts. If I ask for help, it becomes an argument over “my job is more physical than yours, so I’m more tired than you”. It’s nearly impossible to break out of this cycle.
Thanks for talking about the very basics, tidy/clean as you go! And the secret is: it is so much easier! And quicker!! Oh, and keep your cleaning tools out of sight - it is no good looking at that vacuum/broom all day and never using it!!! It becomes more like an accusation than a tool, can't think of anyone inspired to clean by having these things staring at them all day!!
It all sounds like what they taught us working at McDonald's - time to lean? Time to clean!
And make sure you take a break regularly too 😉
I read a great book called the Messie's Manual that said these kinds of habits are the difference between the seemingly "naturally tidy" people, and messy people - people aren't naturally tidy they just learnt different habits
I’ll have to check it out!
Love this! ❤
Great video! Mini tidy ups are key to sanity! 😂
So funny! Actually, it's great that you figured it out in such young age ))
I am honestly confused that you say the bathtub gets dirty so quickly. Usually we take showers and taking a bath is rather an exception when we want to relax or when we have a cold. We do it once a week which is more than enough, it gets slightly dusty the last two days on the edges, but other than that it’s fine. But generally I agree, my grandma taught me to clean parts of the dishes while the rest is still cooking, we of course learned to put away laundry right away etc, but vacuuming etc are still on Saturday and that works well for me as I am doing a PhD and sometimes it’s too late after work to vacuum without disturbing the downstairs neighbours
Great tips! I do a number of them
Saturday is harpsichord day.
My husband always jokes that if there is a few minutes to spare before we go out somewhere, I will load the dishwasher or fold clothes. Sometimes I want to finish and it makes us a bit late. Maybe I need to know when to stop. 😊
Thanks for the tips.
😂 I accidentally make my husband mad ALL THE TIME pouring out a glass of drink with an inch or so of liquid left in it and putting the cup in the sink.......not realizing he just poured it.
I always try to start those little routines and then fall back to lazy me ... 😅 Having a timeblock to clean every week works sometimes better for me.
How about the best of both worlds: Daily maintenance (obviously), but one quick cleaning session, because just doing things here and there will not be sufficient. In a home there are some cleaning tasks that you wouldn't do each week on the go, but they can be done in the cleaning session and not only do you have a clean home reset once a week, your kids will know that despite daily maintenance (which, tbh not even teens do perfectly reliable) the house won't clean itself and its easier to put stuff away directly instead of having to do it all on one day. (And they get the results of their lazyness directly return on that day.)
So the cleaning/reset session can be as quickly as 60 minutes or as gruelsome as 5 hrs, just depending on how insane the state of the house is.
I remember being genuinely confused when I got married why things weren’t just clean 😅
Now I clean during the week and maintain everything, prep food for the weekend then on weekend enjoy free time my husbands and family.