1 you'd rather be rationale than go with the crowd 2 the validation of others isn't important 3 you have strong moral codes 4 you don't mind being alone 5 you can have difficult conversations 6 you stand out in group settings 7 your words carry weight 8 you are decisive and direct
Your personality isn't intimidating because you want it to be. Your personality is intimidating because that's who you are. You don't think or contemplate how to act in order to be you. You naturally act the way that feels natural to you.
I actually hate that about myself, although admittedly I have used it to my advantage at the same time in life. But I know for a fact it's kept people from trying to get to know me, even when I have tried to show that's not necessary and I'm open to it.
@@vincev4630 Lol yeah I hear people always talkin about how intimidating nerds are saying fuck man is he smart best leave it with him or he’ll slap you with some knowledge 😂
@@vincev4630lol 99% sure your American . You do know words have actual meaning. Not what you feel they are. 🤡 Best look in a dictionary if you know what one is.
Dont worry, people are different as You are magnet with different power charge pull or push after all it is in life. Bring alone is ok too, talk when you are able to do like in grocery store. You are all fine.
Had friends and family tell me im intimidating. I was like how? I try my best to be kind and friendly. Now i understand why people feel that way towards me. My honest nature and ability to unwaiver in my values reveals peoples own struggles. Glad to know being honest and upfront and fearless of ridicule helps others refelct on themselves
Some of it can be you physical appearance as unfair as that may be. Especially if you’re very tall and large. That combined with ether awkwardness in talking or no nonsense attitude can come across as intimidating.
I am 6.66 feet tall, and my voice resonates like a deep, loud bass, vibrating through objects like an earthquake. I resemble Clint Eastwood and have an athletic build. I remember when my brother and I went to the doctor, and the doctor told me I would be a very tall man. When we got home, my brother took me to a mirror and said, "I will always be bigger than you." I recall the day we reunited after almost three years apart. He was so scared that he wrote me six letters confessing all the bullying he had done to me. It was so cute and funny. But it feels good to be intimidating-nobody wants to mess with you.
I have been pushed away by many people since I was little, and as an adult. I didn't feel lonely, or depressed, because I never got happiness from the external environement. I just did many things with my time instead. I completed my educational goals. Graduated from High School. Graduated from College. I got more involved into visual Arts. Creating Art, Photography. I also compose music for movies, television, and videos. I'm also an author. I spent my time wisely, and don't spend time on things that don't benefit me. I have a lot to do, and I'm never bored.
You know, I find this contradictory though. If you have pursuits or a career that relies on collaboration with others like much of that has to for success, how much can you truly be solitary?
no no no no, you're definitely lonely and depressed because you're not surrounded by people and doing all the things you're told to do by others. clearly. never have faith in yourself or confidence, that's not healthy.
Yeah, never really got the thought provoking conversations i sought from others. I always thought we were supposed to form our ideals through pressure tests
I love people with strong personalities! From my experience, they tend to get a LOT done and cut out a lot of BS from their daily lives. It's actually a breath of fresh air because not only are they effective and hard-working people, they also can be some of your biggest advocates (if you're on their good side)
I’m with Zach! I typically forewarn people at work when asked certain questions that if they want a pretty answer go ask someone else. My well known motto at work is “if you don’t want the truth then don’t ask me”. I have a co-worker that operates the same way and when I have projects or problems to work out I ALWAYS drag him in. Hardest working straight shooter I know and a joy to work with.
Same here. It HONESTLY CHANGED MY LIFE! Went from beta sometimes getting ripped off by shops to a fairly feared and respected person. There's always some girl in my life practically scared of me. Sometimes more than 1.
There is a finer art to calling out the BS people believe while respecting their intelligence without calling them out, per se, but opening the door for them to see the BS for themselves. That is the next level.
I have always been a big reader and self determined person. Very low tolerance for self-labeled "alpha" personalities, low tolerance for passive-aggressive people and group thinkers. One of the most useful things I have learned about most people is that when people ask your opinion about something, they want your support, not your critical thought or honest informed position. I have found that if asked for an opinion, I first respond with.. "You are not going to like everything I have to say"...most people find a way to move on to friendlier climes
My clients have always loved me but my coworkers generally did not like me. Clients say he's so smart. Coworkers say he thinks he's so smart. I regret wasting years trying to make it work in a corporate environment. I'm self-employed and much happier. I do admit that there's more money to be made if you can work well with others.
When you are a cut above all it does is make people jealous and perceive you as a threat. No point in being the smartest person in the room without a higher position. People will tear you and try to lower your confidence. Harshness of life but we learn to maneuver it. Better shun your ego as to not give your 'enemies' any weapons against you.
So you're more of a solo when it comes to work. If you really want to improve and work with others, you might want to start learning how to become a leader instead of a boss.
I train in martial arts and I was told that I had a strong personality and drive I was told that I was intimidating not because I'm a bully or a mean person because my self esteem and self respect is on another level 💯
The only people who are intimidated by your strong personality are those who lack self-confidence. You can have a strong personality, and still speak your mind and be a considerate person. You are who you are and if people don't like it that's too bad. You shouldn't make it your problem. I would rather be known as intimidating, than somebody who lacks bounderies and is easy to manipulate.
I (female) have a cousin (male) two years older than me. He has always excelled academically, as well as in his chosen profession. We are 100% never been in any way competitors. But he has always disliked me for absolutely no reason. My father (a military collaborative, yet alpha-male - and the brother to my cousin’s mother) has always told me “he doesn’t like you because he’s insecure”. I could never understand that. I’m 45 and just starting to be able to understand. My cousin, with all of his success, left his tiny hometown once: to go away to a state school 2.5 hours away, when he was 18 years old. He flunked out in his first semester and had to move back home to attend the local community college. Whereas I was raised all over because of my military father, I graduated high school and lived all over the US and even abroad for a time. I am perfectly content (and prefer) to be a small, anonymous, fish in a big pond. My cousin cannot adapt outside of feeling like a big fish in a tiny pond. I just feel sorry for him.
@@katiejon17 I'm 18 male and done with college and high school but my older siblings act all intimated and jealous of me when I'm around and I'm the baby but they don't help or encourage me. They just try and drag me down to their level and my father says I have to be the first one to leave home (the baby) to save my mental health. I can't hold myself back anymore to make my siblings feel better. That's why we all can't relate. People always call me the smartest of the 5 and I hate it
Being unintentionally intimidating has been a blessing for me. People who are out to get what they can from you avoid you. People who judge a book by a cover stay out of your way. Those aiming to manipulate you skip out early. People who are easily triggered avoid you. Bullies clear a path when you step forth. People with ill intentions avoid you. People out to play you think twice. Weak minded people steer clear. It's like having a lawn that cuts itself and trims it's own hedges for you to save time. What's there not to love about that? :)
As I said in a previous reply, I totally agree. When you are pushing 70 and start to have health problems, it tends to worry you that there is no-one to call.
well constructed video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Take it or leave it what I'm about to say brother...18 years relationship with my kids mum we were together from highschool won't go into to much detail but if I can part you with some wisdom it's this don't change yourself don't chase her cut all contact and do one whole month of you improve you hit the gym day and night steaks everyday improve your mind and soul and body ignore any outside influencers get in your own life control that and the rest will come to you trust me on this I've done it best decision I've made ever
This is pretty good. I know I have a strong personality. I’ve spent most of my life alternating between masking it (playing small) in order not to step on toes and just letting it all hang out lol. It’s exhausting. It’s kind of pointless to have a strong personality unless you’re going to be a CEO or an entrepreneur. The rest of us just have to deal with the fact that we have a target on our foreheads. My bosses always feel intimidated by me. But newsflash: I don’t want your job!! I just want to be left alone, and then I want to go home and be with my family.
My entire life I was pushing myself to be stronger in my character because growing up was hard in my house. As an adult people have told me more and more that they either love me or can't stand me. This video has explained SO much!
Intimidation can be as simple as one carries themselves. I've been a student, teacher, and observer of violence for most of my life, and I find body language extremely transparent. People are afraid of me. Not a guess, many have told me up front I look Intimidating/dangerous. Part of that is cultivated consciously, and the other part is knowing I can physically handle myself in most situations. Every criminal thinks I'm a cop, Every cop thinks I'm a criminal. That DOES get frustrating.
I am short, underweight and I have a soft voice. Ihave all these qualities. People take advantage of me but thats because I am naturally kind and giving. I was being generous and loving to others while others were actually manipulating me. Took me more than three decades to realize completely but when I did I completely turn 180 degree. I speak my truth in group of nasty people even my voice shakes. I challenge my bullies to a fight even if they are extremely violent lol my own family spread bad things about me and it used to make me fearful and anxious but not anymore I already overcome the fear of people bullying me and ganging up on me. I now know how to defend and protect myself.
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
My daughter said her classmates find me intimidating. I told her that’s a good thing. They won’t mess with her. Was surprised. She couldn’t exactly tell me why. I do speak my mind and tend to do my thing and hate hype. I have no problem with being alone and often prefer it. Strong moral code. Do recognize things in this video. Had managers nearly getting a heartattack over my directness. I wasn’t afraid of clients like they were.
So, I notice that I have direct relation to all eight traits. I very much do everything said daily, however, the ones I regularly hang around don't necessarily find me "intimidating", but, rather value me as a friend and someone to lean on versus simply have an "intimidating personality". On the contrary, I have definitely seen signs that certain individuals do find me "intimidating", even just in general conversations or interactions. Cool video! I certainly enjoy psychology, so this was a neat thing to pick up and watch before bed. Obviously, "being intimidating" isn't the goal at all, it's just to be myself and try to uplift other folk when I can! I can't imagine being intimidating to everyone, would be hard to interact or make friends! Cheers.
I can check every single box you describe, I have traveled alone throughout the US, and often wondered why people stop in their tracks, stop and watch, girls, ladies smile, men stare, they have no clue who I am, always wondered why. Is it jealousy,, intimidation. It INTIMIDATION, this natural trate has kept me alive, and I embrace it naturally. Life is a interesting venture, go for the gusto or stay on the porch. Thank you, you have answered a major question for me. LONG LIVE THE COWBOY
Interesting video content. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Once I stopped caring about others' opinions of me and became vocal of the logical points I would bring up, especially whenever others would let their emotions take over, THAT'S when I really noticed the general respect I would receive from most others. Keeping a level head can confuse even the biggest (ego, physically, whatever) of ppl
I accidentally inspired somebody to take a chance at something they wouldn't have done had we not met. I told the truth, shared my experiences, knowledge, and helped fill in some blanks.
Didnt see this coming but after the video I can really say kudos to myself. All of this resembles my personality & development I did in recent years. Feels good 😊
I'm here for the opposite reason. sometimes, I feel like people aren't fully comfortable around me... So sometimes i wonder "am i scary/intimidating to them?". in terms of physical presence i'm a pretty big guy and i'm brutally honest sometimes, so maybe that's why(my close friends tell me i don't have enough of a filter). When i was in highschool I sarcastically pretended to be angry as a joke but some of the people in the area genuinely thought i was angry, got scared, and reported it to a teacher. I literally clicked on this video to figure out how to be LESS intimidating and more inviting. People are interesting and i'd like for people to feel comfortable around me once in a while, not on edge 24/7
I can't stand people anymore, lying, deceitful, manipulative, users & abusers. It's all competition, they will destroy you with a smile on their face same with family the gaslighting is unreal. No real Respect so I go it alone
@@danielingyuyoon2952no you're not. When people say you're intimidating.. its not you, but them. Many people grow up without a spine, never been in tough situations and always protected by lovely mom and dad. Those people find anything that isnt soft boiled, intimidating.
Whoa, I completely didn't realize that I was so intimidating. That actually explains a few things. I so don't care about other's approval, or being part of a group, but I do care about doing the right thing. I didn't realize that that was intimidating. I easily identify with all 8 criteria.
Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
I keep having friends coming up to me saying their scared of me, I asked why, what do I do? I jus walk around and smile all day😂 but this makes sense, more intimidation than fear, good to know.
@@BelieveNothingAllLies Think of how the subject of NPD is trending so heavily today, and how most everyone says to just "go no contact" with them? Now, think of how there are all kinds of videos up about that you are a "Chosen One" if you do this/that, right? So NPDs believe that they are "special, privileged... chosen". Therefore folks that go by I'm a "Chosen One!" will likely often be referred to as a NPD. Know what I mean?
I was at a bar alone once, every girl would just walk past me and not even smile, then one of them came up to me and said "3 of my friends think you're really hot but very intimidating" I was shook lol whole time I was thinking I was just really unattractive 😂
I used to think I was very unattractive too but learned its that STRONG intimidation vibe.. especially when I use my eyes to communicate, maybe you do the same too. Honestly it was the biggest wake up when people finally starting admitting to me that initially I seemed/seem intimidating
yep im intimidating bc i call the bullcrap out in people one thing im realky good at is reading people and some things you can only learn on the streets what people fail to realize i been therr done that at age 12
@@TheMedicineMan_29this person is trying to make this about something that it's not. That right there is a red flag always. People in bars always find me intimidating. You either have to not care or you have to employ tactics consciously to not come off that way.
This comes across more as arrogance maybe, but I follow this code for my day to day: “Don’t worry about what others think of you, since you don’t really care about what’s going on in their heads and they likely don’t care about you. If they’re friends or family, don’t hide a thought if you think it may upset them - they need to know if you think it’s important. Call out bullsh*t when you see it, cause seeing people pucker is really satisfying.”
Except for the last schadenfreude part ( 😂) perhaps, I can't find anything wrong with any of this. You can be emphatic and still be no-nonsense. If you can recognize someone struggling and give them some respite, and recognize who are full of themselves and needs to be grounded, all the better.
for the past 20 years of my life I have gone against who i was to try to fit in, I am not a bad person. I am very caring and kind hearted. But on the other hand i have very strong moral values and ethics. I find that many people don't share the same values as me and I have bent over backwards to try to fit in and not rustle up any feathers. This has lead me to a life of depression, good news is now i am me 100 % me and don't give too shits how that makes anyone feels. Thank you for this great video, it affirms who i was all along.
I am hated and suspect. I tell them if you’re not feeding me, fing me, or paying my mortgage, why would I be concerned with what you think……fyi started out life as a people pleaser.
What a lot of people don't understand about this topic is that while you may be intimidating to some people, you still may be intimidated by others, yourself. There's levels to it. In fact, you can track your progress in life by counting the various demographics that either you intimidate, or that intimidate you. I'm at the level right now where the average, somewhat unsuccessful person is clearly intimidated by me, but entrepreneurs and up are not, and they may even intimidate me instead.
Yes, thank you, and a lot of the comments are just self-confirmation biases and comments seeking validation, which is highly ironic given some of them claim to hit all these "checkmarks" in the first place. This video can explain some situations which perhaps did not make as much sense before. This video is good for _self reflection,_ it's not supposed to reinforce people's dissonance. A lot of the comments I find stupid. This is one of the better ones. Edit: Also this is not just about work, but daily interactions. I don't find any men intimidating. However, I find some women "intimidating". Because I know they can ruin lives, and some even (unsuccessfully) tried or "tried". A gang in hoodies in a tunnel after midnight in a shady area with no other people around is intimidating. Being in a foreign country alone as a tourist is intimidating, if you're not prepared for it. An interviewer for a job who sounds like he/she's more interested in loading off a bad day at you than hiring you, can be intimidating (and counter-productive and stupid, to be honest, and genuinely a self-dodging bullet, if they're trying to be "bossy" just for the sake of it; not a place you want to work). I worked with an ex-torpedo chef, frying pans flying and whatnot. He was not intimidating. Because I had no reason to piss him off, and also some of hte things that ticked him off ticked me off as well. If I was with someone I knew was a psychopath, I'd be intimidated. Not by stature or outward behaviour, but knowing they are not rational. Gay people intimidate me a little bit, because I think they "want" me just for being a man, which is irrational, and I'm cognizant about this and still polite. Some lesbians are out to "get" men. Out of jealousy or psychopathy, I don't know. People with weapons behaving irrationaly - for example an angry woodcutter with a chainsaw - intimidate me. I don't see any reason to be intimidated by other people in general who I don't know. It makes no sense. I never thought about if I intimidate others, as I'm always trying to be my best and generally people like me or think I am very kind and tolerant. But I certainly is an "unmovable object" in public, not much faze me, I seldom look down at my phone, I look at people or the life or are deep in thoughts looking out a window on public transport. I generally keep a distance to others (after all, I like my personal space myself) although I don't mind people sitting next to me on the bus or something. If I need to interact with someone, I don't think about it I just do it. But generally, there's no reason to. I like to sit with my own thoughts. I help or have small talks with beggars some times (not the ones that chase you with a cup). Last time I bought a coffee (he didn't want anything else). Welp, long digression. It's all free flow. I have OCPD hence the long comment. I like to write a lot sometimes so it's mostly for me, but perhaps it also can give some insight for other people. Not everyone is like me, but generally, a lot of people who are "intimidating" can be really nice people.
I think it's dangerous to think it's about levels that are on top of each other. That's highly misleading. It can just as well be circular. Some exec can be intimidated by some normal person, while he is not intimidated by you. There are millions of reasons why someone might be intimidated. It might be something a person says or how this person acts or some resemblance to someone familiar...
@@scruf153 If you're wrong you *SHOULD* apologize or admit it. Dissonance, decadence, ignorance and gluttony are the absolute worst traits. Also your mind will never grow/you will never develop as a person if you can't admit faults. People who expect others to think _for_ them, and people who don't care about others (emphatically) are straight garbage for humanity, pardon me.
I 100 percent have this. When I met my wife, I was told that her Daddy, brother, and cousins would try me. To which I replied "so", and they never once tried. And I am not a big man, they're all way bigger than me but I won't back down, I'm set in my ways, and I'm comfortable being me. Good breakdown of this, enjoyed watching
Ha I feel this. I’m thin for my size (but fairly cut), but compared to a lot of guys you would say small. That being said, I LOOK FOR the challenge with the bigger guys, and 90% of the time they do not want it. They know and I know it won’t end well for them. 5% is mutual respect and the other 5%, I tend to stay away from because I know there will be trouble if I want it.
About a week ago my brother told me I scare people. About 10 years ago a cycling buddy who was much older than me told me other people were intimidated by me. He then told me I was one of the nicest guys he had ever met. Back to my brother... All I could say was it's not on me that they're intimidated easily. I don't posture I'm not rude, friendly and outgoing.
I was in prison for 12 years😂 my mom thinks I'm mean.. no.. just no games..real man overcommer.. im 39 my gfs all say I act better.... I can't be acting I tell them I just am
These discussions are meaningless unless you include the info as to why you scare them or intimidate them. That's missing here from what your brother had to say.
@@BigBadJerryRogers my brother never said why people are scared but I can only imagine It's because I usually see through people's bullshit. In other words I don't give shit and I don't take shit...
@@BigBadJerryRogers and I would disagree with this... People are simply trying their best to relate to this video and share some of their experiences..
@@stellarcreations7378 well actually since you put it that way you just sound like you're very into yourself. So why would anyone want to bother with you? That's also missing here.
OK, you did fulfill the promise of your video description. 👏🏽👏🏽 But here's the deal. I am 64 now. 13 years ago, two weeks before my father died of a stroke, my mother told me that she had found me intimidating my Entire LIFE! Ever since I was a baby, when I would stare at her with my big dark eyes. ... It's appropriate here to inform you that I was adopted at birth so we were not blood kin amd I did not look related. But I certainly possessed none of the listed qualities before I could speak!! I think it boils down to the confidence, the innate confidence a person has. And people find it troubling when they lack confidence. 🙏🏽
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Life is a game master the hacks to win on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
That's truly inspiring, Norma! It’s amazing how you’ve turned challenges into opportunities for growth and creativity. Keep thriving and sharing your talents with the world!
I noticed that when things start going wrong around me, it’s because more people than just me have access to what I’m doing. Why I avoid people at all cost.
was born loving been alone.. and a thinker.. my parents saw it as a weakness, a defect or a flaw and beat the shit out of me.. well thats in the past.. i do love them as an adult now.. they left a scar on me emotionally and in my esteem.. but as an adult i ve learnt and still learning to love myself.
I'm most of these. I wasn't always like this but as I grew older, life taught me not to give a damn. People will criticize you regardless. So just be you unapologetically.
I love Schopenhauer's Law of Dilution, which sums up people's focus on the negative: Add a teaspoon of water to a gallon of sewage, and you get sewage. Add a teaspoon of sewage to a gallon of wine and you get sewage.
depends. They will either see it is submissive or pathologically rude. the smile can be misinterpreted as baring teeth.. people think you're mocking them sometimes.
This is spot on. I do make it a point to be polite, nice none judgemental and as accepting as possible of others but none of that matters to ppl. All anyone can see is that I have a strong personality. Therefore I don't have any friends and I haven't had a good relationship. I come into contact with ppl who want to out do me/compete with me. I'm not a competitive person so I don't find pleasure or happiness in competing in any way. Men like to try and make me be submissive. Even the mentally week.
I definitely qualify for the personality type being described here. I had a friend for decades: we always just talked about ideas (especially philosophical ideas). I experience him as having picked up a lot of intellectual bad habits, among them, not looking into sympathetic exponents of both sides of an issue before forming an opinion about that issue. So I told him, "You know, I don't have firm opinions about things about which I haven't listened to a sympathetic exponent, then listened to the best critics of that point of view. But you, by contrast, want to have an opinion for emotional reasons, so you adopt a stance when you haven't listened to both sides of an issue. I respect your basic intelligence very much--you have a very high IQ--but not how you use it." He more or less immediately ended the friendship and blocked me. I mean, he was really enraged. I really have a hard time understanding why intelligent people resent being called out for logical fallacies...seems to me that, when you enter an intellectual discussion, you are at least implicitly agreeing to being call-out-able about such things. I'd be very open if he had said, "But wait, I'm actually not guilty of that because such and such," because that would be honorable, while ending the friendship and blocking me is not honorable. I often want to say in such situations--and I want to say to him in this situation--"does it matter if what I'm saying is true??" Would it be the same if I were accusing him of that fallacy and it weren't true, versus if it were true? I just experience people as not honoring facts, "what-is-so-ness," and I really don't understand it. It's really not--or shouldn't be--an emotional issue. If someone called me out for an error of fact or logic, how could I take offense at that? How could my response be other than, "Hey thanks for pointing that out; it's a little embarrassing, but of course I'll abide by the truth of what is, and abandon my fallacy. That's only fair." This makes me realize that I worship rationality for its own sake...doesn't everyone? Apparently not. Facticity IS, and I deeply respect what IS. I would love to hear from anyone who has something constructive to say here. (Gee, do you think I might be on the spectrum??) 🤣
Like when I brought to the attention of a neighbor -a retired professor of biology, that several Nobel Prize winners in physics and chemistry, had major problems with the current global warming/climate change models...he called them a "...bunch of a**holes...". Rather like your friend.
@@antispindr8613that’s not what he’s saying. I’m not a bully, nor do I try to intimidate people, but because of my traits, people feel intimidated. Thus, they are easy to intimidate.
6:15 i have always been a goofy ass person. joking about everything, but when I start to talk about shit that matters I notice that people really listen to everything I say, and I have the power to influence. I always speak truly and people recognize that
Love these self aggrandizing videos. "People don't dislike you because you're unpleasant, self-centered, narcissistic, and rude. They are jealous and intimidated because you're so awesome." It's such a great line that allows you to never consider that you may in fact have a problem.
Great point but the video remains legitimate. There’s definitely people, narcissists, who would see this and think it fits them. But I go to extreme lengths to not upset others and to be considerate. To do for others and ask for nothing in return. I have intimacy problems from never being able to rely on anyone so I don’t want to even try. But if I can help others I am glad to. Still though the self aggrandizement isn’t good. Just because you have a strong or intimidating personality doesn’t mean you can’t have good interpersonal skills. It just makes it harder to *get along* with people because you refuse to be dishonest. So you don’t have to always disagree, or prove them wrong, but you can’t give the validation that a lot of people seek if you don’t actually find it legitimate.
@@whoever79 So, you have intimacy and trust issues, want to be seen as helpful but never allow yourself to rely on others, and see those who have differing viewpoints or a willingness to entertain new ideas as dishonest. None of that sounds particularly healthy. Sounds more like a recipe for bitterness fueled by a hollow sense of superiority. There is no life so alone as one without trust. I truly hope that is not your fate and wish you well
@@1217BC you misunderstand me. It is not that I feel superior to anyone. It is like expecting a woman who was sexually abused as a child to not be fond of sex. Given the manipulation I’ve experienced from others, as a giver who attracted takers, with parents who never liked me and to this day constantly gaslight me, I am conditioned by these experiences to view other people as generally not worth the trouble. That being said most of the people I’ve known have been good people. But when there is so much damage and betrayal from a handful, especially your parents, you are traumatized and you can’t just undo that. Maybe you haven’t experienced a narcissist or been taken advantage of by one. They leave you feeling totally worthless. Pretend to care about the things you say in conversation but never demonstrate that. They will apologize for violating your boundaries 100 times. Eventually you learn to cut them out by any means necessary but because they’ve conditioned you with fear, obligation and guilt it is difficult to leave, especially if they’ve made you dependent on them. It is very unhealthy and very tragic but my narcissistic parents don’t like me because I’ve asked questions about their manipulation and deceit from as young as 6 or 7. They can’t stand that.
I am always underestimated when I show empathy but empathy is not a weakness it’s a strength and for my team I will go beyond the extra mile at any length
My sweet sweeeeeet STEPMOM passed away from Cancer, bacterial meningitis, lungs infection, kidney failure, fits,strokes internal bleeding and finally heart failure. She was only 48 year old ,but I know she’s in Heaven!!! She wasn’t just my mom, but my best friend. Please pray for her.
Bro, I just said goodbye to my mom for the last time yesterday and she’s been going through all of the same issues. I’m so sorry, my mom and I are very close and I’m expecting a call anytime now that she is finally at peace after a lifetime of pain. I wish your mom and you Godspeed.
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I work in an environment where these traits are highly important, and I’m known for pretty much all of them. A lot of people have praised me for the individual traits, but others have labeled me as “intimidating” for their own reaction to the totality. I will say that they tend to be weaker personalities, lacking both judgment and self-confidence. Their weaknesses mean they find those traits alien and “threatening” in others. The contrast magnifies their own short-comings and makes them defensive, trying to build themselves up by injuring me. (Anyone labeling someone as “intimidating” is always trying to assign a negative connotation.) But I’ve never had anyone who was competent and effective and confident in their own right ever think of me as “intimidating.” They would all probably laugh themselves silly. 🤣
Well, you've completely described me. I never really understood why people found me intimidating until some people told me the same. Most of the time, I just mind my own business. Someone also said I have "presence" which left me floored. When i probed, they said when i walk into a room, people notice. I also think it's an energy thing. Oh, and i so get the constant envy and jealousy from others😢
I have all of the 8 signs. I am a SIGMA male. I'm basically alone because of it. I LIKE it. The following sums it up; "Some people don't understand that sitting in your own house alone in peace, eating snacks and minding your business is P. Hucking priceless"
I'm 42, how do these younger generations define "Intimidating" when the majority have no social skills to begin with? What do they consider "Sociable" & "Approachable"? 🤔
It says "Intimidating Personality". Some people can influence others just by looking at them. F.e. Thugs are not intimidating, they are dangerous and stupid. Trump is intimidating, even when somebody likes him.
Confidence is great but when you lack confidence and people notice this some people see this as a opportunity to bring you down just for their own entertainment. I keep myself to myself after this keep my circle small with people that I trust
My personality used to much stronger in my early to mid twenties than now when i am 37. I used to literally not give a F what people think of me, now i am dependent on validation and I am much more insecure and sensitive. I think it’s because earlier, I was still starting my adult life with bold approach, but now, after i concluded that my approach failed, i lost most of my strong independent personality.
I’m 63 and I’ve always been this guy, although until I was middle aged I didn’t realize I was intimidating to people. Back then I was baffled by the powerful fear and intimidation people felt by me. I’m tall, quick-witted and funny. I’ve read thousands of books and knew since I was 12 that I have a very high IQ. So I didn’t get it before, but now I completely get it. Most people are incredibly insecure and I’m not at all. I’ve learned to be non threatening to put people at ease. Again the humor and wit helps a LOT.
100% on this, and all my life I've had people tell me that I am intimidating, which I find amusing as I really just want everyone around me to be autonomous. The last thing I want is forced obedience of everyone around me.
You can have a personality that intimidates people but it doesn't mean people are jealous. People that are perceived by others as intimidating, believe it or not, can actually be unpleasant people to be around. Simple as that. A lot of these people weaponize the gift of intimidation. A trait that is valued in our western society.
I got this at work years ago when we were doing a 360° test for managers (ask people around how they see you), and it surprised me a lot, because I always tried to be as kind and considerate as possible. Turns out the intimidating factor was mostly people knew they couldn't fool me, and it wasn't specially negative, more just because I'm a fact-checker and truth-teller. At the same time, it brings trust and respect, because people also know you'll have their back if needed. Just, I think, never pair intimidating and condescendant, being intimidating is not something to 'use', more a natural consequence of who you are, and doesn't mean people don't like you.
Well this makes more sense now. People have thought shit was sweet since I was in third grade but the thing is I’ve been training in all martial arts my entire life. Many people have found that out the hard way. New people that I meet usually say something like I look like the meanest person they’ve ever seen, but once we get to know each other it’s a different story. I just don’t like bullies and have always stood up for those that can’t stand up for themselves.
The problem with this video is everyone who watches this may take a couple of things from it they see in themselves and so then think yes it's me. That can be very ego inflating in an ignorant and self absorbed way. Being completely disagreeable and having a belief that you are right can often be a disadvantage as you close up to the idea your way is the correct one. It prevents growth and learning and can make a person become stale and set in their ways
I've noticed a pattern with a lot of these videos and a lot of these behaviors are also prominent in personality disorders. It's not healthy to be a selfish egomaniac or a narcissist, and there's a fair bit of crossover here.
It is only a disorder when you are alive, in the end all join together, this is why you should embrace evil, distort here and there makes no difference in the end, you can judge but will be warped and become the same, evil is good
1 you'd rather be rationale than go with the crowd
2 the validation of others isn't important
3 you have strong moral codes
4 you don't mind being alone
5 you can have difficult conversations
6 you stand out in group settings
7 your words carry weight
8 you are decisive and direct
Your personality isn't intimidating because you want it to be. Your personality is intimidating because that's who you are. You don't think or contemplate how to act in order to be you. You naturally act the way that feels natural to you.
I actually hate that about myself, although admittedly I have used it to my advantage at the same time in life. But I know for a fact it's kept people from trying to get to know me, even when I have tried to show that's not necessary and I'm open to it.
Intelligence is intimidating. Intelligence is always growing because you want it to therefore, you can be intimidating because you want to be.
@@vincev4630 Lol yeah I hear people always talkin about how intimidating nerds are saying fuck man is he smart best leave it with him or he’ll slap you with some knowledge 😂
@@neolion8150 - The intimidating ones are not loud. You've probably got played by a dozen nerds already and don't even know it 😂
@@vincev4630lol 99% sure your American . You do know words have actual meaning. Not what you feel they are. 🤡
Best look in a dictionary if you know what one is.
I don't mind being alone, but it does get lonely sometimes.
Very much agreed. Finding the mid point is a challenge too.
Yes..
Yeah it gets kinda boring carrying the whole conversation and making jokes internally.
Agreed!!
Dont worry, people are different as You are magnet with different power charge pull or push after all it is in life.
Bring alone is ok too, talk when you are able to do like in grocery store. You are all fine.
Had friends and family tell me im intimidating. I was like how? I try my best to be kind and friendly.
Now i understand why people feel that way towards me. My honest nature and ability to unwaiver in my values reveals peoples own struggles. Glad to know being honest and upfront and fearless of ridicule helps others refelct on themselves
I guess I am intimidating too!
Some of it can be you physical appearance as unfair as that may be. Especially if you’re very tall and large. That combined with ether awkwardness in talking or no nonsense attitude can come across as intimidating.
Maybe you are just a wanker 😳🤷🏼♂️
I am 6.66 feet tall, and my voice resonates like a deep, loud bass, vibrating through objects like an earthquake. I resemble Clint Eastwood and have an athletic build. I remember when my brother and I went to the doctor, and the doctor told me I would be a very tall man. When we got home, my brother took me to a mirror and said, "I will always be bigger than you."
I recall the day we reunited after almost three years apart. He was so scared that he wrote me six letters confessing all the bullying he had done to me. It was so cute and funny. But it feels good to be intimidating-nobody wants to mess with you.
@@3DVizzion it’s better than being the opposite
Be stoic, don't beg, don't be impulsive, stay cool.
Fuck yes. Very well put.
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100%
Pretending your Not bothered… is Dysfunctional
Describes me to a T.
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I have been pushed away by many people since I was little, and as an adult. I didn't feel lonely, or depressed, because I never got happiness from the external environement. I just did many things with my time instead. I completed my educational goals. Graduated from High School. Graduated from College. I got more involved into visual Arts. Creating Art, Photography. I also compose music for movies, television, and videos. I'm also an author. I spent my time wisely, and don't spend time on things that don't benefit me. I have a lot to do, and I'm never bored.
This is literally me, I have done each and each and every thing you have written in this comment except being depressed
You are a HUGE inspiration. Any advice for someone who wants to pursue similar endeavors?
That's called having a stoic life. Not a moment in life wasted or unused.
You know, I find this contradictory though. If you have pursuits or a career that relies on collaboration with others like much of that has to for success, how much can you truly be solitary?
no no no no, you're definitely lonely and depressed because you're not surrounded by people and doing all the things you're told to do by others. clearly. never have faith in yourself or confidence, that's not healthy.
If you stand up for unpleasant truth (over comforting lies) you will be seen as intimidating.
I face this a lot
I think that sounds about right except maybe excluding dealing with a person who have a narcissistic personality
Logic died suddenly
As a white Russian Ukrainian Jewish male, that's a default in America today.
@@spfein You're not White, but you wish you were.
Love the quote about a person's spirit irritating other people's demons.
Man, this is so true.
ive finally arrived at my true destination , zero friends zero acquaintances zero circus and monkeys of others and .....loving it mate
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Same here, celt
Howdy from Texas brother!
I couldn't have said it better myself. I'm right there with you.
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Rosney from PuertoRico, im 100% the same champ🎉
Yeah, never really got the thought provoking conversations i sought from others. I always thought we were supposed to form our ideals through pressure tests
I love people with strong personalities! From my experience, they tend to get a LOT done and cut out a lot of BS from their daily lives. It's actually a breath of fresh air because not only are they effective and hard-working people, they also can be some of your biggest advocates (if you're on their good side)
😇🌎✨ This.
Truth
I retired at 17 (1997-just before everything peaked then went downhill) and been poor/happy ever since 😂😂😂
I’m with Zach! I typically forewarn people at work when asked certain questions that if they want a pretty answer go ask someone else. My well known motto at work is “if you don’t want the truth then don’t ask me”. I have a co-worker that operates the same way and when I have projects or problems to work out I ALWAYS drag him in. Hardest working straight shooter I know and a joy to work with.
They also speak the truth and shoot from the hip ❤
Some people are intimitated if you are a calm person. They just can't handle it.
Working on my assertiveness was one of the best things I have done in my life. Highly recommend it to everyone.
I fully feel you.
Becoming assertive was a life changer for me as well. It took a long time, but I'm happier than ever.✌💓🎵
Same here. It HONESTLY CHANGED MY LIFE! Went from beta sometimes getting ripped off by shops to a fairly feared and respected person. There's always some girl in my life practically scared of me. Sometimes more than 1.
There is a finer art to calling out the BS people believe while respecting their intelligence without calling them out, per se, but opening the door for them to see the BS for themselves. That is the next level.
I need all the understanding skills I can get.
Thank you!
I am learning this right now. Socratic method is awesome...
Thanks Hawk. 😊🌎✨
So True! The art of communications!
Trying to avoid the type of Self censorship that makes your relationships feel fake and propped up by you holding back, is difficult.
I have always been a big reader and self determined person. Very low tolerance for self-labeled "alpha" personalities, low tolerance for passive-aggressive people and group thinkers. One of the most useful things I have learned about most people is that when people ask your opinion about something, they want your support, not your critical thought or honest informed position. I have found that if asked for an opinion, I first respond with.. "You are not going to like everything I have to say"...most people find a way to move on to friendlier climes
I know just what you mean.
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When people ask me what I think I simply say "do not ask me a question if you want to hear my honest answer".
My clients have always loved me but my coworkers generally did not like me. Clients say he's so smart. Coworkers say he thinks he's so smart. I regret wasting years trying to make it work in a corporate environment. I'm self-employed and much happier. I do admit that there's more money to be made if you can work well with others.
When you are a cut above all it does is make people jealous and perceive you as a threat. No point in being the smartest person in the room without a higher position. People will tear you and try to lower your confidence. Harshness of life but we learn to maneuver it. Better shun your ego as to not give your 'enemies' any weapons against you.
@@taitohandy People move into "higher" positions because they're not the smartest person in the room. People are promoted beyond their competency...
So you're more of a solo when it comes to work. If you really want to improve and work with others, you might want to start learning how to become a leader instead of a boss.
@@newera478 "I do admit that there's more money to be made if you can work well with others."
All money is not good money. Working for yourself is better options. Remember there lost your GAIN .
I train in martial arts and I was told that I had a strong personality and drive I was told that I was intimidating not because I'm a bully or a mean person because my self esteem and self respect is on another level 💯
BINGO 🎯 “SELF ESTEEM + SELF RESPECT”
Ain't nothing wrong with that!
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Ok Fatty...🙄
Yup. That's what ma makes you. Same here.
I’ve been thinking about martial arts a lot this year. I need to stop thinking and just sign up for some classes..
The only people who are intimidated by your strong personality are those who lack self-confidence. You can have a strong personality, and still speak your mind and be a considerate person. You are who you are and if people don't like it that's too bad. You shouldn't make it your problem. I would rather be known as intimidating, than somebody who lacks bounderies and is easy to manipulate.
Well said, this generation is weak minded
Yes!!
I (female) have a cousin (male) two years older than me. He has always excelled academically, as well as in his chosen profession. We are 100% never been in any way competitors. But he has always disliked me for absolutely no reason. My father (a military collaborative, yet alpha-male - and the brother to my cousin’s mother) has always told me “he doesn’t like you because he’s insecure”. I could never understand that. I’m 45 and just starting to be able to understand. My cousin, with all of his success, left his tiny hometown once: to go away to a state school 2.5 hours away, when he was 18 years old. He flunked out in his first semester and had to move back home to attend the local community college. Whereas I was raised all over because of my military father, I graduated high school and lived all over the US and even abroad for a time. I am perfectly content (and prefer) to be a small, anonymous, fish in a big pond. My cousin cannot adapt outside of feeling like a big fish in a tiny pond. I just feel sorry for him.
@@katiejon17 I'm 18 male and done with college and high school but my older siblings act all intimated and jealous of me when I'm around and I'm the baby but they don't help or encourage me. They just try and drag me down to their level and my father says I have to be the first one to leave home (the baby) to save my mental health. I can't hold myself back anymore to make my siblings feel better. That's why we all can't relate. People always call me the smartest of the 5 and I hate it
I totally agree and I am the same. Take me as iam.
Not embarrassing people publicly was a difficult lesson to learn.
Being unintentionally intimidating has been a blessing for me.
People who are out to get what they can from you avoid you.
People who judge a book by a cover stay out of your way.
Those aiming to manipulate you skip out early.
People who are easily triggered avoid you.
Bullies clear a path when you step forth.
People with ill intentions avoid you.
People out to play you think twice.
Weak minded people steer clear.
It's like having a lawn that cuts itself and trims it's own hedges
for you to save time. What's there not to love about that? :)
This was a perfect explanation.
As I said in a previous reply, I totally agree. When you are pushing 70 and start to have health problems, it tends to worry you that there is no-one to call.
well constructed video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her..
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Take it or leave it what I'm about to say brother...18 years relationship with my kids mum we were together from highschool won't go into to much detail but if I can part you with some wisdom it's this don't change yourself don't chase her cut all contact and do one whole month of you improve you hit the gym day and night steaks everyday improve your mind and soul and body ignore any outside influencers get in your own life control that and the rest will come to you trust me on this I've done it best decision I've made ever
This is pretty good. I know I have a strong personality. I’ve spent most of my life alternating between masking it (playing small) in order not to step on toes and just letting it all hang out lol. It’s exhausting. It’s kind of pointless to have a strong personality unless you’re going to be a CEO or an entrepreneur. The rest of us just have to deal with the fact that we have a target on our foreheads. My bosses always feel intimidated by me. But newsflash: I don’t want your job!! I just want to be left alone, and then I want to go home and be with my family.
So true.
Agree completely
Well said👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Bosses aren't worried that you will take their job, they're worried that you won't take their $#!+
Your boss is worried that you will expose her incompetence.
I'm actually glad I gave this video a chance.
My entire life I was pushing myself to be stronger in my character because growing up was hard in my house. As an adult people have told me more and more that they either love me or can't stand me. This video has explained SO much!
Intimidation can be as simple as one carries themselves. I've been a student, teacher, and observer of violence for most of my life, and I find body language extremely transparent.
People are afraid of me. Not a guess, many have told me up front I look Intimidating/dangerous. Part of that is cultivated consciously, and the other part is knowing I can physically handle myself in most situations.
Every criminal thinks I'm a cop,
Every cop thinks I'm a criminal.
That DOES get frustrating.
People find me intimidating without even saying a word. They feel comfortable with individuals they can easily dominate and laught at.
I get told flat out, usually by women, "men" just avoid me unless they are humble or cerebral.
Ur softer than baby !@#%. Nobody cares
Thats weird
My comment keeps getting reported.... really intimidating.
@@yourHandleShouldBeAtLeast3... 😅 AI is a tyrant bro
I am short, underweight and I have a soft voice. Ihave all these qualities. People take advantage of me but thats because I am naturally kind and giving. I was being generous and loving to others while others were actually manipulating me. Took me more than three decades to realize completely but when I did I completely turn 180 degree. I speak my truth in group of nasty people even my voice shakes. I challenge my bullies to a fight even if they are extremely violent lol my own family spread bad things about me and it used to make me fearful and anxious but not anymore I already overcome the fear of people bullying me and ganging up on me. I now know how to defend and protect myself.
Good for you amigo. I just had a show about not allowing people to control your life. Well done 👍🏼
Strong personality that people are afraid of and who are intimidated, they're against it
there's a book called whispers of manifestation on borlest , and it talks about how using some secret tehniques you can attract almost everything in life it's not some bullshit law of attraction, it's the real deal
Sounds like the law of attraction. What's the basic difference??
SPAM
My daughter said her classmates find me intimidating. I told her that’s a good thing. They won’t mess with her. Was surprised. She couldn’t exactly tell me why.
I do speak my mind and tend to do my thing and hate hype.
I have no problem with being alone and often prefer it. Strong moral code.
Do recognize things in this video.
Had managers nearly getting a heartattack over my directness.
I wasn’t afraid of clients like they were.
If the world wasn’t so morally bankrupted people wouldn’t need to be “ intimidated “… I call it just being authentic.
Excellent point! 💯
best comment
got straight to the heart of the matter with that insightful comment.
Good call, it IS a judgemental term!
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So, I notice that I have direct relation to all eight traits. I very much do everything said daily, however, the ones I regularly hang around don't necessarily find me "intimidating", but, rather value me as a friend and someone to lean on versus simply have an "intimidating personality". On the contrary, I have definitely seen signs that certain individuals do find me "intimidating", even just in general conversations or interactions. Cool video! I certainly enjoy psychology, so this was a neat thing to pick up and watch before bed. Obviously, "being intimidating" isn't the goal at all, it's just to be myself and try to uplift other folk when I can! I can't imagine being intimidating to everyone, would be hard to interact or make friends! Cheers.
I NEVER even KNEW some of these things applied to myself… it all makes sense NOW! lol.
I'm having an 'ah ha' moment myself! 😁
Wow, what an eye-opening video! There is a lot of good information to unpack here.
Practice the art of not giving a toss with certain reservations.
It's not about not giving a F*, its about saying and doing the right thing, which is very rare now 'a days.
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It's just the art of not giving a fk🤔
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I see. 😇🌎✨
I can check every single box you describe, I have traveled alone throughout the US, and often wondered why people stop in their tracks, stop and watch, girls, ladies smile, men stare, they have no clue who I am, always wondered why. Is it jealousy,, intimidation. It INTIMIDATION, this natural trate has kept me alive, and I embrace it naturally. Life is a interesting venture, go for the gusto or stay on the porch. Thank you, you have answered a major question for me. LONG LIVE THE COWBOY
Interesting video content. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
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Lol, wow, now there’s spam for Ms. Cleo. 😂
Once I stopped caring about others' opinions of me and became vocal of the logical points I would bring up, especially whenever others would let their emotions take over, THAT'S when I really noticed the general respect I would receive from most others. Keeping a level head can confuse even the biggest (ego, physically, whatever) of ppl
I accidentally inspired somebody to take a chance at something they wouldn't have done had we not met. I told the truth, shared my experiences, knowledge, and helped fill in some blanks.
Didnt see this coming but after the video I can really say kudos to myself. All of this resembles my personality & development I did in recent years. Feels good 😊
Intimidating people don’t need this video, we know and some of us have come to accept it and wish it wasn’t the case. But people are weak.
People suck, no moral compass or they are just plain worthless.
I'm here for the opposite reason. sometimes, I feel like people aren't fully comfortable around me... So sometimes i wonder "am i scary/intimidating to them?". in terms of physical presence i'm a pretty big guy and i'm brutally honest sometimes, so maybe that's why(my close friends tell me i don't have enough of a filter). When i was in highschool I sarcastically pretended to be angry as a joke but some of the people in the area genuinely thought i was angry, got scared, and reported it to a teacher. I literally clicked on this video to figure out how to be LESS intimidating and more inviting. People are interesting and i'd like for people to feel comfortable around me once in a while, not on edge 24/7
I can't stand people anymore, lying, deceitful, manipulative, users & abusers. It's all competition, they will destroy you with a smile on their face same with family the gaslighting is unreal. No real Respect so I go it alone
@@danielingyuyoon2952no you're not.
When people say you're intimidating.. its not you, but them.
Many people grow up without a spine, never been in tough situations and always protected by lovely mom and dad.
Those people find anything that isnt soft boiled, intimidating.
It doesn't mean anyone is weak. That kind of thinking is primitive.
Whoa, I completely didn't realize that I was so intimidating. That actually explains a few things. I so don't care about other's approval, or being part of a group, but I do care about doing the right thing. I didn't realize that that was intimidating. I easily identify with all 8 criteria.
Excellent video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her/him?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@edwardclarkson-ph1kl LOL what a BLATANTLY OBVIOUS shill for some USELESS "spiritual counseling." 🤣🤣🤣
Read up on MGTOW. You will be much happier. I tried marriage twice. It's not worth the hassle. 'women' bring NOTHING to the table except Fa Gina.
Gym. Hiking. Wisper sweet nothings to yourself. Self love. In time it will hurt less.
I keep having friends coming up to me saying their scared of me, I asked why, what do I do? I jus walk around and smile all day😂 but this makes sense, more intimidation than fear, good to know.
Usually these videos are toxic. This one is good
How can videos be toxic i think your over sensitive
Dummy
People with low intelligence think most ideas are toxic.
@@BelieveNothingAllLies Oh, in many different ways.
@@BelieveNothingAllLies Think of how the subject of NPD is trending so heavily today, and how most everyone says to just "go no contact" with them?
Now, think of how there are all kinds of videos up about that you are a "Chosen One" if you do this/that, right?
So NPDs believe that they are "special, privileged... chosen".
Therefore folks that go by I'm a "Chosen One!" will likely often be referred to as a NPD.
Know what I mean?
I was at a bar alone once, every girl would just walk past me and not even smile, then one of them came up to me and said "3 of my friends think you're really hot but very intimidating" I was shook lol whole time I was thinking I was just really unattractive 😂
I used to think I was very unattractive too but learned its that STRONG intimidation vibe.. especially when I use my eyes to communicate, maybe you do the same too. Honestly it was the biggest wake up when people finally starting admitting to me that initially I seemed/seem intimidating
yep im intimidating bc i call the bullcrap out in people one thing im realky good at is reading people and some things you can only learn on the streets what people fail to realize i been therr done that at age 12
atleast now i can go through the proper channels and get all the perverts exposed
@@TomRados what you mean? I'm not connecting this what you expressed above.
@@TheMedicineMan_29this person is trying to make this about something that it's not. That right there is a red flag always. People in bars always find me intimidating. You either have to not care or you have to employ tactics consciously to not come off that way.
This comes across more as arrogance maybe, but I follow this code for my day to day:
“Don’t worry about what others think of you, since you don’t really care about what’s going on in their heads and they likely don’t care about you.
If they’re friends or family, don’t hide a thought if you think it may upset them - they need to know if you think it’s important.
Call out bullsh*t when you see it, cause seeing people pucker is really satisfying.”
Except for the last schadenfreude part ( 😂) perhaps, I can't find anything wrong with any of this.
You can be emphatic and still be no-nonsense.
If you can recognize someone struggling and give them some respite, and recognize who are full of themselves and needs to be grounded, all the better.
for the past 20 years of my life I have gone against who i was to try to fit in, I am not a bad person. I am very caring and kind hearted. But on the other hand i have very strong moral values and ethics. I find that many people don't share the same values as me and I have bent over backwards to try to fit in and not rustle up any feathers. This has lead me to a life of depression, good news is now i am me 100 % me and don't give too shits how that makes anyone feels. Thank you for this great video, it affirms who i was all along.
I am hated and suspect. I tell them if you’re not feeding me, fing me, or paying my mortgage, why would I be concerned with what you think……fyi started out life as a people pleaser.
I say the same. 😂
We all started out life as dependent, people pleasing children...and punished for doing otherwise...
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Lots of us started that way and got burned one too many times.
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🔥🎯🏆💯⚓️ EXCEPTIONAL VIDEO!! I'm intrigued by the in depth seemingly accurate information that accompanies. Thank you. 💐🥂
What a lot of people don't understand about this topic is that while you may be intimidating to some people, you still may be intimidated by others, yourself. There's levels to it. In fact, you can track your progress in life by counting the various demographics that either you intimidate, or that intimidate you. I'm at the level right now where the average, somewhat unsuccessful person is clearly intimidated by me, but entrepreneurs and up are not, and they may even intimidate me instead.
I agree with you
Agreed.
Yes, thank you, and a lot of the comments are just self-confirmation biases and comments seeking validation, which is highly ironic given some of them claim to hit all these "checkmarks" in the first place.
This video can explain some situations which perhaps did not make as much sense before. This video is good for _self reflection,_ it's not supposed to reinforce people's dissonance.
A lot of the comments I find stupid.
This is one of the better ones.
Edit: Also this is not just about work, but daily interactions. I don't find any men intimidating. However, I find some women "intimidating". Because I know they can ruin lives, and some even (unsuccessfully) tried or "tried". A gang in hoodies in a tunnel after midnight in a shady area with no other people around is intimidating. Being in a foreign country alone as a tourist is intimidating, if you're not prepared for it. An interviewer for a job who sounds like he/she's more interested in loading off a bad day at you than hiring you, can be intimidating (and counter-productive and stupid, to be honest, and genuinely a self-dodging bullet, if they're trying to be "bossy" just for the sake of it; not a place you want to work).
I worked with an ex-torpedo chef, frying pans flying and whatnot. He was not intimidating. Because I had no reason to piss him off, and also some of hte things that ticked him off ticked me off as well.
If I was with someone I knew was a psychopath, I'd be intimidated. Not by stature or outward behaviour, but knowing they are not rational.
Gay people intimidate me a little bit, because I think they "want" me just for being a man, which is irrational, and I'm cognizant about this and still polite. Some lesbians are out to "get" men. Out of jealousy or psychopathy, I don't know.
People with weapons behaving irrationaly - for example an angry woodcutter with a chainsaw - intimidate me.
I don't see any reason to be intimidated by other people in general who I don't know. It makes no sense.
I never thought about if I intimidate others, as I'm always trying to be my best and generally people like me or think I am very kind and tolerant.
But I certainly is an "unmovable object" in public, not much faze me, I seldom look down at my phone, I look at people or the life or are deep in thoughts looking out a window on public transport. I generally keep a distance to others (after all, I like my personal space myself) although I don't mind people sitting next to me on the bus or something. If I need to interact with someone, I don't think about it I just do it. But generally, there's no reason to. I like to sit with my own thoughts. I help or have small talks with beggars some times (not the ones that chase you with a cup). Last time I bought a coffee (he didn't want anything else).
Welp, long digression. It's all free flow. I have OCPD hence the long comment. I like to write a lot sometimes so it's mostly for me, but perhaps it also can give some insight for other people. Not everyone is like me, but generally, a lot of people who are "intimidating" can be really nice people.
I think it's dangerous to think it's about levels that are on top of each other. That's highly misleading. It can just as well be circular. Some exec can be intimidated by some normal person, while he is not intimidated by you.
There are millions of reasons why someone might be intimidated. It might be something a person says or how this person acts or some resemblance to someone familiar...
@@MaviLeb if we're gonna try and be specific about how it can overlap, I'd say it's like a tangled ball of yarn.
I'd never seen a description that fits so right to who I am.
After 59 years, I’ve never had this pointed out to me. So I’ll continue being unapologetic.
Wow!
the only time I ever aplogise is when I am wrong witch is very rare all I will say is oops my mistake
I thought validation was for parking.
Being unapologetic isn't a weakness, it's simple politeness. The world doesn't revolve around _you._
@@scruf153 If you're wrong you *SHOULD* apologize or admit it. Dissonance, decadence, ignorance and gluttony are the absolute worst traits.
Also your mind will never grow/you will never develop as a person if you can't admit faults.
People who expect others to think _for_ them, and people who don't care about others (emphatically) are straight garbage for humanity, pardon me.
I 100 percent have this. When I met my wife, I was told that her Daddy, brother, and cousins would try me. To which I replied "so", and they never once tried. And I am not a big man, they're all way bigger than me but I won't back down, I'm set in my ways, and I'm comfortable being me. Good breakdown of this, enjoyed watching
Ha I feel this. I’m thin for my size (but fairly cut), but compared to a lot of guys you would say small.
That being said, I LOOK FOR the challenge with the bigger guys, and 90% of the time they do not want it. They know and I know it won’t end well for them. 5% is mutual respect and the other 5%, I tend to stay away from because I know there will be trouble if I want it.
About a week ago my brother told me I scare people.
About 10 years ago a cycling buddy who was much older than me told me other people were intimidated by me. He then told me I was one of the nicest guys he had ever met.
Back to my brother...
All I could say was it's not on me that they're intimidated easily. I don't posture I'm not rude, friendly and outgoing.
I was in prison for 12 years😂 my mom thinks I'm mean.. no.. just no games..real man overcommer.. im 39 my gfs all say I act better.... I can't be acting I tell them I just am
These discussions are meaningless unless you include the info as to why you scare them or intimidate them. That's missing here from what your brother had to say.
@@BigBadJerryRogers my brother never said why people are scared but I can only imagine It's because I usually see through people's bullshit.
In other words I don't give shit and I don't take shit...
@@BigBadJerryRogers and I would disagree with this... People are simply trying their best to relate to this video and share some of their experiences..
@@stellarcreations7378 well actually since you put it that way you just sound like you're very into yourself. So why would anyone want to bother with you? That's also missing here.
This video is 100% drafted after my personality. It literally went down a checklist of my strongest personality traits. I'm sending this to my wife!
My personality is so strong that people look at me and literally run away from me before I say anything. 😂
😂😂😂
Is it the face tattoos 😅
@@TavistockLiesBrainwashinglike Mike Tyson? Mike is an intimidating man to most yeah
@@TavistockLiesBrainwashing Gave me a good laugh that one ! Like a Maori...?
OK, you did fulfill the promise of your video description. 👏🏽👏🏽 But here's the deal. I am 64 now. 13 years ago, two weeks before my father died of a stroke, my mother told me that she had found me intimidating my Entire LIFE! Ever since I was a baby, when I would stare at her with my big dark eyes. ... It's appropriate here to inform you that I was adopted at birth so we were not blood kin amd I did not look related. But I certainly possessed none of the listed qualities before I could speak!! I think it boils down to the confidence, the innate confidence a person has. And people find it troubling when they lack confidence. 🙏🏽
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Life is a game master the hacks to win on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
What
what are you on ?
That's truly inspiring, Norma! It’s amazing how you’ve turned challenges into opportunities for growth and creativity. Keep thriving and sharing your talents with the world!
Mine too! But it went mouldy and fell off.
I noticed that when things start going wrong around me, it’s because more people than just me have access to what I’m doing. Why I avoid people at all cost.
was born loving been alone.. and a thinker.. my parents saw it as a weakness, a defect or a flaw and beat the shit out of me.. well thats in the past.. i do love them as an adult now.. they left a scar on me emotionally and in my esteem.. but as an adult i ve learnt and still learning to love myself.
SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOUR PARENTS GAVE YOU A HARD TIME... JUST KNOW THAT GOD LOVES YOU MORE THAN ANYONE EVER COULD & HE CAN HEAL THE SCARS & PAIN
I'm most of these. I wasn't always like this but as I grew older, life taught me not to give a damn. People will criticize you regardless. So just be you unapologetically.
I like how you mentioned Schopenhauer quotes. 🎉
I love Schopenhauer's Law of Dilution, which sums up people's focus on the negative: Add a teaspoon of water to a gallon of sewage, and you get sewage. Add a teaspoon of sewage to a gallon of wine and you get sewage.
I was so anxious that people don't like me but you helped me realise I just have a strong personality 😂
Even if you smile all the time people see your strength inside and get afraid.
It is impossible to hide a truly great individual. You will subconsciously display traits of strength.
Just made from a different cloth!!!
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depends. They will either see it is submissive or pathologically rude. the smile can be misinterpreted as baring teeth.. people think you're mocking them sometimes.
@@srj6963 That's so affirming that it is kind of ironic because this video is maligning people that are pushing friendly b.s.
This is spot on.
I do make it a point to be polite, nice none judgemental and as accepting as possible of others but none of that matters to ppl. All anyone can see is that I have a strong personality. Therefore I don't have any friends and I haven't had a good relationship. I come into contact with ppl who want to out do me/compete with me. I'm not a competitive person so I don't find pleasure or happiness in competing in any way. Men like to try and make me be submissive. Even the mentally week.
I definitely qualify for the personality type being described here. I had a friend for decades: we always just talked about ideas (especially philosophical ideas). I experience him as having picked up a lot of intellectual bad habits, among them, not looking into sympathetic exponents of both sides of an issue before forming an opinion about that issue. So I told him, "You know, I don't have firm opinions about things about which I haven't listened to a sympathetic exponent, then listened to the best critics of that point of view. But you, by contrast, want to have an opinion for emotional reasons, so you adopt a stance when you haven't listened to both sides of an issue. I respect your basic intelligence very much--you have a very high IQ--but not how you use it." He more or less immediately ended the friendship and blocked me. I mean, he was really enraged. I really have a hard time understanding why intelligent people resent being called out for logical fallacies...seems to me that, when you enter an intellectual discussion, you are at least implicitly agreeing to being call-out-able about such things. I'd be very open if he had said, "But wait, I'm actually not guilty of that because such and such," because that would be honorable, while ending the friendship and blocking me is not honorable. I often want to say in such situations--and I want to say to him in this situation--"does it matter if what I'm saying is true??" Would it be the same if I were accusing him of that fallacy and it weren't true, versus if it were true? I just experience people as not honoring facts, "what-is-so-ness," and I really don't understand it. It's really not--or shouldn't be--an emotional issue. If someone called me out for an error of fact or logic, how could I take offense at that? How could my response be other than, "Hey thanks for pointing that out; it's a little embarrassing, but of course I'll abide by the truth of what is, and abandon my fallacy. That's only fair." This makes me realize that I worship rationality for its own sake...doesn't everyone? Apparently not. Facticity IS, and I deeply respect what IS. I would love to hear from anyone who has something constructive to say here. (Gee, do you think I might be on the spectrum??) 🤣
Like when I brought to the attention of a neighbor -a retired professor of biology, that several Nobel Prize winners in physics and chemistry, had major problems with the current global warming/climate change models...he called them a "...bunch of a**holes...". Rather like your friend.
Wow, this is amazing. Especially number 6.
I resonate with all 8. Good to know, thanks!
Yep, I feel dumb right now too!
3:40 one of the wisest things I've ever heard...
Nothing speaks louder than silence.
I'm not intimidating, you're just easy to intimidate.
But because you find to easy to intimidate or bully someone, does that mean you should?
@@antispindr8613that’s not what he’s saying. I’m not a bully, nor do I try to intimidate people, but because of my traits, people feel intimidated. Thus, they are easy to intimidate.
6:15 i have always been a goofy ass person. joking about everything, but when I start to talk about shit that matters I notice that people really listen to everything I say, and I have the power to influence. I always speak truly and people recognize that
Love these self aggrandizing videos. "People don't dislike you because you're unpleasant, self-centered, narcissistic, and rude. They are jealous and intimidated because you're so awesome." It's such a great line that allows you to never consider that you may in fact have a problem.
Great point but the video remains legitimate. There’s definitely people, narcissists, who would see this and think it fits them. But I go to extreme lengths to not upset others and to be considerate. To do for others and ask for nothing in return. I have intimacy problems from never being able to rely on anyone so I don’t want to even try. But if I can help others I am glad to. Still though the self aggrandizement isn’t good. Just because you have a strong or intimidating personality doesn’t mean you can’t have good interpersonal skills. It just makes it harder to *get along* with people because you refuse to be dishonest. So you don’t have to always disagree, or prove them wrong, but you can’t give the validation that a lot of people seek if you don’t actually find it legitimate.
@@whoever79 So, you have intimacy and trust issues, want to be seen as helpful but never allow yourself to rely on others, and see those who have differing viewpoints or a willingness to entertain new ideas as dishonest. None of that sounds particularly healthy. Sounds more like a recipe for bitterness fueled by a hollow sense of superiority. There is no life so alone as one without trust. I truly hope that is not your fate and wish you well
@@1217BC you misunderstand me. It is not that I feel superior to anyone. It is like expecting a woman who was sexually abused as a child to not be fond of sex. Given the manipulation I’ve experienced from others, as a giver who attracted takers, with parents who never liked me and to this day constantly gaslight me, I am conditioned by these experiences to view other people as generally not worth the trouble. That being said most of the people I’ve known have been good people. But when there is so much damage and betrayal from a handful, especially your parents, you are traumatized and you can’t just undo that.
Maybe you haven’t experienced a narcissist or been taken advantage of by one. They leave you feeling totally worthless. Pretend to care about the things you say in conversation but never demonstrate that. They will apologize for violating your boundaries 100 times. Eventually you learn to cut them out by any means necessary but because they’ve conditioned you with fear, obligation and guilt it is difficult to leave, especially if they’ve made you dependent on them.
It is very unhealthy and very tragic but my narcissistic parents don’t like me because I’ve asked questions about their manipulation and deceit from as young as 6 or 7. They can’t stand that.
I am always underestimated when I show empathy but empathy is not a weakness it’s a strength and for my team I will go beyond the extra mile at any length
My sweet sweeeeeet STEPMOM passed away from Cancer, bacterial meningitis, lungs infection, kidney failure, fits,strokes internal bleeding and finally heart failure. She was only 48 year old ,but I know she’s in Heaven!!! She wasn’t just my mom, but my best friend. Please pray for her.
Bro, I just said goodbye to my mom for the last time yesterday and she’s been going through all of the same issues. I’m so sorry, my mom and I are very close and I’m expecting a call anytime now that she is finally at peace after a lifetime of pain. I wish your mom and you Godspeed.
Wow sorry bout that I mite be next she's not alone 🙏 for her
@@rickybobby5950sorry to hear that
@@booturnedoff3454 i dope so, thank you so much
John 3:3-Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
John 3:7-Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.
John 3:16-For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
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This video is me to the core!!. Thanks for this video 💯
'Ancient German philosopher, Schopenhauer', okay that's a new definition for ancient 😅😂
This is most validating video on TH-cam I have watched ever. Thanks.
I dont care what others think of me, ill do my thing and they can cower in fear for all i care.
The issue is when you’re very knowledgeable, you often found you doubting yourself. While the ignorants are generally very decisive and direct.
I work in an environment where these traits are highly important, and I’m known for pretty much all of them. A lot of people have praised me for the individual traits, but others have labeled me as “intimidating” for their own reaction to the totality. I will say that they tend to be weaker personalities, lacking both judgment and self-confidence. Their weaknesses mean they find those traits alien and “threatening” in others. The contrast magnifies their own short-comings and makes them defensive, trying to build themselves up by injuring me. (Anyone labeling someone as “intimidating” is always trying to assign a negative connotation.) But I’ve never had anyone who was competent and effective and confident in their own right ever think of me as “intimidating.” They would all probably laugh themselves silly. 🤣
Well, you've completely described me. I never really understood why people found me intimidating until some people told me the same. Most of the time, I just mind my own business. Someone also said I have "presence" which left me floored. When i probed, they said when i walk into a room, people notice. I also think it's an energy thing. Oh, and i so get the constant envy and jealousy from others😢
I have all of the 8 signs. I am a SIGMA male. I'm basically alone because of it. I LIKE it. The following sums it up; "Some people don't understand that sitting in your own house alone in peace, eating snacks and minding your business is P. Hucking priceless"
Me too.. I couldn’t be happier 😊
Yep I don't even like my friends..
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And I don't have a phone
Anyone sigma here that can trump that id be impressed
You are not Tom hardy
@@abcdefg3214 Did I imply that I was, SFB??
This content really helped me grasp the concept!
I'm 42, how do these younger generations define "Intimidating" when the majority have no social skills to begin with? What do they consider "Sociable" & "Approachable"? 🤔
Don't know.
I'm 36. What do you mean "no social skills"?
@@SebHaarfagre The fact they find someonw with social skills, "Intimidating."
Who knows they're all a bunch of fools
They think sociable means talking on a discord server.
It says "Intimidating Personality". Some people can influence others just by looking at them.
F.e. Thugs are not intimidating, they are dangerous and stupid. Trump is intimidating, even when somebody likes him.
Confidence is great but when you lack confidence and people notice this some people see this as a opportunity to bring you down just for their own entertainment. I keep myself to myself after this keep my circle small with people that I trust
Life as an INTP. I’m good in me. Others are noted, but are secondary to priorities.
me too and im infp i am me and theres no one else id rather be
ENTJ and this is gospel for us NTs! We do what we want and need. I am exactly who I am and make no apologies for what I do.
INTJ
SLE (estp) second quadra (the most dominant and influential quadra and with the highest percentage of the global population)
Don't use 16 personalities, it's pseudoscience, the big 5 is a much better way to go.
My personality used to much stronger in my early to mid twenties than now when i am 37. I used to literally not give a F what people think of me, now i am dependent on validation and I am much more insecure and sensitive. I think it’s because earlier, I was still starting my adult life with bold approach, but now, after i concluded that my approach failed, i lost most of my strong independent personality.
I’m 63 and I’ve always been this guy, although until I was middle aged I didn’t realize I was intimidating to people. Back then I was baffled by the powerful fear and intimidation people felt by me. I’m tall, quick-witted and funny. I’ve read thousands of books and knew since I was 12 that I have a very high IQ. So I didn’t get it before, but now I completely get it. Most people are incredibly insecure and I’m not at all. I’ve learned to be non threatening to put people at ease. Again the humor and wit helps a LOT.
Yes!
100% on this, and all my life I've had people tell me that I am intimidating, which I find amusing as I really just want everyone around me to be autonomous. The last thing I want is forced obedience of everyone around me.
The woman who requires no validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.
yeye make this thing also about strong women
No such thing.
It must be fantasy time.
Absolutely true.
Also doesn't exist if such woman is also doing what's right
Very nice video. Clear, concise logic. Well done
You can have a personality that intimidates people but it doesn't mean people are jealous. People that are perceived by others as intimidating, believe it or not, can actually be unpleasant people to be around. Simple as that. A lot of these people weaponize the gift of intimidation. A trait that is valued in our western society.
The "gift of intimidation" and bullying? What dodgy traits are valued by our society. For whatever happened to compassion and caring attitudes?
I don’t want people to be jealous, I want them to recognize real, and I want to engage with someone else who is real.
I got this at work years ago when we were doing a 360° test for managers (ask people around how they see you), and it surprised me a lot, because I always tried to be as kind and considerate as possible. Turns out the intimidating factor was mostly people knew they couldn't fool me, and it wasn't specially negative, more just because I'm a fact-checker and truth-teller. At the same time, it brings trust and respect, because people also know you'll have their back if needed. Just, I think, never pair intimidating and condescendant, being intimidating is not something to 'use', more a natural consequence of who you are, and doesn't mean people don't like you.
Scary how many things hit home.. I swear this phone spits stuff it knows at me .
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Always wondered why people were so intimidated by me. Now I know. Thankyou.
Ignorance is bliss or knowledge is power?
You choose.
Well this makes more sense now. People have thought shit was sweet since I was in third grade but the thing is I’ve been training in all martial arts my entire life. Many people have found that out the hard way. New people that I meet usually say something like I look like the meanest person they’ve ever seen, but once we get to know each other it’s a different story. I just don’t like bullies and have always stood up for those that can’t stand up for themselves.
I go with the crowd but I am relaxed unfazed yet quick to correct authority figures as I see them as equal to me which causes conflict.
I have never gone with the crowed what the crowed does is childish and dumb to me
Pretty good video. Alot of points hit home for me. I never really cared what people think. At work I know I intimidate people.
The problem with this video is everyone who watches this may take a couple of things from it they see in themselves and so then think yes it's me. That can be very ego inflating in an ignorant and self absorbed way. Being completely disagreeable and having a belief that you are right can often be a disadvantage as you close up to the idea your way is the correct one. It prevents growth and learning and can make a person become stale and set in their ways
I've noticed a pattern with a lot of these videos and a lot of these behaviors are also prominent in personality disorders. It's not healthy to be a selfish egomaniac or a narcissist, and there's a fair bit of crossover here.
It is only a disorder when you are alive, in the end all join together, this is why you should embrace evil, distort here and there makes no difference in the end, you can judge but will be warped and become the same, evil is good
@@mayrokratt6195 Tricky eh? Being non-judgmental Vs. discerning. You can be both . P. S. evil is not good