Forever Trapped in the First 30 Seconds | Worst Amnesia Case in History | Clive Wearing Analysis
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- This video answers the question: Can I analyze the case of Clive Wearing?
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His brain forgets, but not his heart. The love for his wife and playing the piano.
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His being able to play the piano still is amazing.
great now all our wives will want us to get amnesia......
I would rather die than go through this, but I wonder if it's even possible for him to consider suicide. There's not enough time to think deeply enough about his situation to decide he would rather just die than feel like he's dead, and there's not enough time to commit the act of killing himself before he forgets. This is such a baffling condition.
This analysis is tactful and moving. Thank you for handling Clive’s situation with such grace, allowing him the dignity he deserves in describing his life.
Although clive has a very very short memory his ability to still have the skill to play the piano as beautifully as he does is absolutely astounding to me. I wonder if scientists have ever studied his brain waves whilst he plays the piano vs not playing the piano, it'd be incredibly interesting to see what parts of his brain light up/are stimulated
Love this channel mate
@@johnfkennedy9611 you were assassinated Man! And you wanted to allow illegal immigrants in. Do you think history repeats itself?
Music usually also has an effect on dementia patients. It must be something about where and how it's stored in the memory, and how it affects the brain yes. Music is such an important part of most humans' lives, it does something very special to us.
I feel like it's mostly muscle memory, I played piano on and off for many years and when coming back to it, your fingers just start moving by themselves without thinking
@@EvilCookieElf Exactly that, like the not just proverbial ability to ride a bike.
It is so striking when one sees footage of him or his diary, so I didn’t expect you to be able to convey him so well, but you did a good job. His wife deserves more of a mention for standing by him. At first she was obviously traumatized and overwhelmed, but after thinking that there was no purpose in staying married to him, she came back to wanting to be there for him no matter what.
His wife is amazing person. I wish one day I will find someone like her. Unfortunately being born in 1987, it’s impossible to find ladies like her, because human beings don’t produce it anymore (with the exception of Afghanistan and Yemen, but I am not a Muslim so I will never get to marry an Afghan or Yemenite lady) .
@@itamar.j.rachailovich Irrelevant.
@@itamar.j.rachailovich there's something deeply wrong with you.
@@steven95N
Can you please expand on how exactly you came with that conclusion?
I don’t think we know each other.
1) I said that Clive’s wife is amazing, can we infer from it that there is something wrong with me?
2) I said that the ladies of my generation are not like the ladies of 2 generations ago, and yes, if you infer that I prefer the ladies of 2 generations ago, you are correct.
Does preferring the ladies, morality, values and culture of 2 generations ago indicate that there is something wrong with me?
3) In contrast to our current modern values, morality, culture and ladies , I mentioned that Afghan ladies and Yemenite ladies are different and are from the type of women that I prefer. Can we conclude from it that there must be something wrong with me?
I will be grateful if you can expand on your diagnosis.
Thank you and have a wonderful day and weekend.
Shana Tova
@@itamar.j.rachailovich people like her are not produced. What you miss is a relationship. Your relationships reflect your own ability to bond with another person. If you've been talking like that to women, no wonder you couldn't find love. Everyone is taylor of their own happiness
I watched a documentary about Clive, and it was one of the saddest things I've ever seen. However, when his wife came back to him, after leaving him for awhile, I could see the happiness she brought him. A brave and loving woman, who deserves - but does not want - accolades. As you said, a testament to love, romantic relationships and their importance in our lives.
Do you know what the documentary is called or where I can watch it ?
Her commitment is nothing short of astonishing.
@@moonstruck562 the documentary is on TH-cam- channel is Real Stories & title is “The man with the seven second memory.” Hope you can find it 🌞
@@christybradford157 thank you so much. I'm gonna look for it right now and hope to find it so I can watch it 🙏
@@moonstruck562 hope it works out!
*_Herpes Simplex Encephalitis_*
→ kinda scary that something so common, as a cold sore, can turn into a brain injury. There is a guy in my brain injury group [i am tbi survivor] who this very thing happened to. He was a soccer player and coach, young, in his twenties, when a soccer ball hit his nose in jUSt the 𝚁𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝 way [or _wrong_ way] that the herpes got lodged into his brain. He is lucky to have a devoted wife, like Clive here…. But this soccer player’s brain injury makes him unable to communicate nor even move very easily. He definitely cannot play soccer anymore. His wife seems so sad, too.
Brains are so complex. 🙏💖✨
My Mother has dementia and doesn't remember anything that just happened. Case in point, she can arrive back from a shopping trip with her husband and I will ask her how the trip was and she will not remember what or where she had been. She can be just getting out of the car and not remember.
She recognizes me (I think) though she is social by nature. She can get upset then, snap out of it in a split second not realizing she had been distraught. It is her state of being now. It just is. I am forever grateful her husband is so loving and tender with her. Thank you Doctor Grande for shedding light on memory loss.
His wife said she never loved anyone like him . She would rather be with him this way than any other man in the world.
Especially since after the illness he was happy every time he saw her, and was never mad or upset with her for more than a few seconds.
That's the most heartbreaking heart-warming thing I've ever heard.
of course , every woman dreams of a man loving them like the first day forever.
Mind boggling and unusual situation. Such a tremendous loss. The one happy part of this story is that he repeatedly experiences that first blush of attraction every time he sees his wife. I'm also glad he can still enjoy his music.
kinda sad tho. considering how selfish she is
@@johnhawthorn5393 I was speaking only about him and his perceptions and feelings. He doesn't know if she is selfish. He can't remember. Thanks for your comment!
@@johnhawthorn5393 Not really. I initially didn't understand why she would leave him. But when you see how emotional he becomes when she enters the room, see how broken he appears in her eyes, you understand the crushing emotional toll it takes on her. I find his torment to be similar to Sisyphus', an endless repetition of being 'reborn' that also impacts his wife and kids.
@@johnhawthorn5393 she stays with him despite how unbelievably difficult it must be. She is obviously not a selfish person
@@johnhawthorn5393 err.. what? Selfish? What makes you say that? Is this your ex-wife or something? Haha, it would be very strange to attribute random negative attributes to strangers with very little info about them, so I am curious what made you come to this conclusion, or perhaps you always make snap judgements about people, creating fictional versions of everyone to get upset about inside your head.
There just ain't room in here for humor. Only infinite mercy
I've seen a documentary about him. His love for his wife and music is amazing . He plays the piano beautifully. His wife and music are the only things that bring him joy and calmness.
Do you know what the documentary is called or where I can watch it ?
@@shelleydunkle7867 thanks. I had found it & watched it.
Such a rare and heartbreaking situation for Clive and his family. I found the quote you read of him speaking about being as void and empty as death to be quite poignant. I am really glad he has his wife. Very touching video today, thank you Dr. Grande ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hearing Clive's story, all I can think is "oh, what kind of fresh hell is this?" Poor man. 😔
What an incomprehensible case!
Your choice of words to describe some of the heartbreaking features in his case were very powerful and touching: All he has is the introduction- the 1st few notes of the song, the 1st few lines of a poem.
And when you said "He did not lose the feeling that he was in love. That was the one thing that could pierce through the fog, of his tremendous loss." 💔
this is one of the most tragic cases I have ever heard about. My grand father at his 101 years was in a similar state, he had to be explained again and again his wife died.
That's so sad.
Unfortunately that is very common. So distressing for the family and a daily torture for the loved one left behind who can’t retain the information. Ironic that it doesn’t affect someone who no longer respected or loved their ex partner…
My grandmother was in better health at 89 than most younger people until she had a reaction to medication that lead to a serious surgery. After that she got she couldn't remember much. She kept asking about her son, my dad, who died 9 years earlier. We got tired of telling her he was gone because of how horribly she would react and just starting saying he was out of town and called when she slept. We always promised to wake her up next time he called.
I feel bad for everyone who has to explain that kind of thing over and over. Their heartbreak brings about ours...every single time.
Movies make it look so romantic. This is a fascinating and tragic case. I can't imagine living within that space. Thank you for covering this, Dr. Grande.
What a heartbreaking story. I guess "living in the moment" isn't a wonderful goal for which to strive after all. When my mother was dying of Alzheimer's disease, she lost her short-term memory and much of her past memories as well. Our ability to recall past experiences make us who we are; in that sense, we are our memories. Thank you, Dr. Grande. Your analyses are always so compassionate.
Im sorry about your mother. My grandmother had Alzheimer's too. She unfortunately also had breast cancer, but maybe that was fortunate because it took her when she otherwise would have suffered more.
Strangely, she remembered my mother. No one else. Her parents were forgotten, her son, her grand/great grandchildren...just remembered my mother. She thought the rest of us were nurses but she was so sweet to us. Which was opposite of before lol.
I saw a documentary about him years ago. His wife would leave the room and every time she'd return he would be baffled as to who she was but sometimes seemed to be overjoyed to see her as though he hadn't seen her in years.
I watched that too. It still breaks my heart. I don't think I'd wish that on anyone.
I remember that too. So sad 😞 🇬🇧
The most disturbing part is his notes where he writes endlessly "oh I am awake" then "no now I’m awake"
It could be worse if his wife had constant flatulence/ fart problems
Every time he was newly aware he would also be smelling a bad fart
And always say
Was that you ... it smells so bad
I don’t remember him ever being baffled by seeing her, only overjoyed.
"He can even play the piano". Somehow the memory of how to play stayed with him from his earlier career as a musician. Amazing. The power of music.
Because playing music is mostly muscle memory.
Many people with Alzheimer's (another memory disturbance ailment) can still make and enjoy music. Music is processed in a different part of the brain than speech and other abilities.
@@kelseymathias3881 this is why classical music is so so important
@@Goawaypleasenow Yes!
@@nodiggity9472 Certainly is amazing to see someone play an entire Rachmaninoff concerto at the piano flawlessly for 40 minutes!
I watched Jonathan Miller's documentary on BBC about Clive Wearing years ago. I just couldn't imagine an existence on that level - no yesterday, no tomorrow, just now. I don't truly think anyone can comprehend that kind of diminished capacity Doc. That was a sobering critique.
I really liked your ending monologue about the impossible fate Clive must have lived through.
In the documentary they mention that the wife was a great support, even when she left to the US (I think) she would call every day for the time she was there, but she could not find another partner because she was always looking for him in other men, I think in a way she was trapped in the loop too, of course not in the same devastating way, but still difficult and sad. Thanks for your analysis Dr. Grande.
I’ve been following a modern story about a girl named Caitlin Little, who has anterograde amnesia. She is finally seeing improvement, but for a whole, had only 1 minute long memory.
Hits home. My Mum has dementia😪, still remembers me luckily, doing worse than him. HORRIBLE disease, know our love will never die💔💜. Sensitive analysis, thanks Dr G😊💛💛
Oh bless your heart Zena. Dementia is one of those incurable diseases unfortunately. My precious momma passed away last year from Covid pneumonia however she did have dementia. It can be so frustrating at times so be as patient as you can. Dementia patients are like innocent animals(in my opinion)-their innocence is so profound and special if that makes sense. Before my beautiful momma got Covid I would bathe her-although she wasn’t all there we had the best laughs about the most ridiculous things! My momma would sing oldies(music from the 50’s which is her favorite-she was 73 years old) and knew every word!! We would dance and have so much fun even when what she said didn’t make sense we found a way to make laughter out of it! I would give my arm to be able to have those times again with her. Everyday I find myself either smiling or crying(depending on the thoughts I’m having about my wonderful momma) and that is what I cherish the most. I know one day I will see her again however for now those beautiful, special and heartfelt memories are what I have. Love your momma to the fullest and enjoy every second even when it’s tough. Sorry for the long post-you made my day in a way-while we can’t control certain things that are heartbreaking we sure can do our best and try to be kind. Love from my home to yours, Katie
@@neworleans1979 Hello Katie. No worries about the long post. I enjoyed every word 😊💖. I am so sorry about your Mom. I am glad you had so many fun times, can recall those and not just the sadness. I agree they are like innocent animals and I'm very protective of her🐺💞I moved to AZ 2 yrs ago from CO to be near her. Time with her is precious, never get it back, never wasted. We blow bubbles every wk & like you said, the smiles, hugs, time spent is worth it. She's 85 & failing but I won't turn away. She knows I'm here, will love her no matter what. The small things mean so much. Much love also to you, from my house to yours. Thank you for sharing and wishing you peace. Yes I also believe we'll see them again someday 💌💙💛🤍🕊🦋🌷🌻🌏⭐👩👧
It's like "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" to the extreme.....but without forgetting his love 🤔
Or 50 First Dates.
I had severe brain trauma many years ago. Short-term memory issues are extremely common in cases of brain trauma, ranging from very mild to very severe. The only cognitive issue I'm conscious of at this point is mild short-term memory stuff, which fortunately for me, is easy to manage and unnoticeable to anyone else.
I have also had two brain injuries. One I fell backwards and wasn't able to bend my knees, so my head hit extremely hard. I did have my hair in a bun that day, so the impact could have been worse. The other was a garage door at a storage unit fell back down on my head, knocking me the pavement. The ER took an MRI? Or something like that and showed me that almost half of my brain had bruising on it. I can remember many things from years and years ago. I have a very hard time remembering current things. I actually got lost going home in my own subdivision once. I also suffer from severe migraines almost weekly now. They have gotten worse as I get older. I am sorry about what happened to you.
This is fascinating. I want to learn more about him and his memory loss. The fact that he still has affection for his wife is the sweetest thing ever.
Also how it’s always like the first time he’s seen her in months/years in his mind, he’s just thrilled and full of true joy in seeing her even though he just saw her a day or two ago. It’s one of the few things he has that makes him feel alive for a little while and you can see the absolute untainted pure love he has for her, it’s beautiful and precious to see. Reminds me never to take my life for granted no matter how hard it might seem sometimes because there’s always something else much worse that we could be facing.
@@robbiebutler1473 Thank you so much for everything you said. It's so fascinating to me that he chooses the same person over and over despite the memory loss. I think there is so much that can be learned from him. wow.
@@robbiebutler1473 that's probably why it doesn't bother him that she left him. Must be some financial gain or notoriety/both for her.
@@GirlJay67 Yeah I thought about that and did some research on her too. I know because of his memory her leaving for awhile didn’t bother him because it was no different in his mind if it was two days or two years but I hope and understand that at first it was a huge shock to her. Remember she was in the prime of her older age when he was diagnosed and I’m sure they had plans to travel plus so many other plans. I think she finally come to understand the complete situation facing her and I know it’s not about money because she (according to the research I’ve done comes from money herself) but I’m sure she also had to come to terms with the fact she didn’t stay at first. I completely understand her position and I can’t imagine what all she was dealing with, she probably was afraid their close friends would judge her but they were very compassionate regarding this situation (let’s face it as a very rare situation not many face “thank goodness”) but with opened arm’s they were thrilled to have her back more over just seeing how he reacted like she had just been gone for a few days made them so happy for him. Now he can live out his golden years not really remembering anything but both have the love’s of their life’s by each other’s side.
P.S. Please forgive all my many (I’m sure) grammatical errors because I have MS which has many side effects ie: blurry/double vision among so many other’s but I know my comments may not be legible or even understandable, I also find I have run on sentences plus so many other problems with trying to concentrate regarding writing. NO PITY! I’m blessed to be here with my amazing tremendous husband, children, grandchildren, family and friends. The hardworking and time consuming scientific research the scientists has put into MS has been remarkable and the many different out-patient treatments plus the medications are truly a god sent, so I can’t complain I just feel bad for anyone trying to make sense out of my comments that I can’t really check over and I know good human being’s that practice critical thinking will understand and be accepting.
I have never heard of this man before. A long time ago I read the book by neurologist Oliver Sacks: The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat and Other Clinical Tales, and have since often thought of his patients and their loved ones with the greatest sympathy as I now do with this man. Thank you for this video.
Sounds like an interesting book.
@@White-Michael935 It really truly is. But once you read it, you won´t be able to forget it.
Yes, it’s as extreme as any case in that book. Watch the documentary - it’s on TH-cam.
A fascinating book
The movie "Memento" closely depicts this condition. although the main character retained more long-term memory. It's a movie worth viewing
Good to see you release some more clinical-leaning content, Dr. Grande!
What a strange sliver of tragedy Clive has been forced to accept. I’m at an age when I’m starting to make sense of my life’s arch. It provides peace because of the narrative I project upon my story informed by a life of memories. I cannot imagine floating through time with no context. His wife is generous to have returned to him. She must miss the companionship and intimacy which are the results of shared experiences.
Insightful and poignant comment that illuminates the man’s tragedy by comparison to your normal life life like most of us experience
By the way your normal passage through this phase of life is called integrity versus despair if one cannot order and make sense of one’s life experiences people are prone to falling to despair. My heart breaks for that man
Beautiful comment ❤
Thank you for your kind feedback.
Sadly, my older brother struggles with exactly that type of despair. His narrative is full of shame and self loathing which he does not deserve. I find your response very insightful.
I watched the segment that 60 minutes Australia did about Clive. It's heartwrenching to see how Clive and Debra still obviously love one another, yet cannot have a normal marriage, so to speak. I can't imagine how confusing it must be sometimes for Clive.
I watched a documentary about Clive & Debra a few years ago. One part he states he doesn't remember how to play piano & that he's never played a signal musical note in his life. Then he sits at the piano & his fingers just glide over the keys automatically. but then a second or two later & he's completely forgotten that he just played a beautiful piece of music. But watching his reaction every time Debra visits is so heartwarming & yet so tragically sad at the same time. I'm glad she changed her mind & moved back to England to renew her marriage vows but it must be very lonely at times for her. I'm sure she had other ideas of how her life with Clive would have turned out. He can't remember beyond a minute and so she has to remember for both of them. It's a very touching love story...
Thank you Dr Grande for your deeply profound, compassionate anyalysis of this terribly sad case.
This story is so heartwrenching. My grandma had dementia in her twilight years.
A mind is such a delicate and precious thing, what torture when it goes wrong like this 😭
I feel compassion for Clive..it seems he is a warrior..a kind man ..a man now apparently a being without aggression ..striving against all odds to survive in a harmonious manner despite the edits in his time line and above all a musician at source and a loving man. He is also a example of realizing or reflecting on what is valuable in our life ..aspects of which shine through in his existence .
This presentation reminds me of the movie entitled Shine ..an inspiring real life narrative about someone, challenged , who played the piano…this story , for me was a life lesson , whether you are disabled mentally or a human being connected with someone who is impaired .🙏🙏🏿🙏🦄
I remember one of my teachers talking about this. She described it as 'bittersweet' which I think is extremely accurate.
That’s GOT to be a living hell
Just a reminder I'm not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating what could be happening in a situation like this...if only I could remember what it was?
I watched one of his interviews online, some times back. That in itself, was a thought provoking experience. Thank you, Dr Grande, for your poignant observations about this bizzare illness & it's aftermath. Highly appreciated.
Clive's story was one of my case studies back in secondary (high) school for my Psychology A-level. Super interesting to see your take, Doc. Thanks as always!
i wonder if he was faking it in any way?
Even trying to imagine what this must be like is enough to drive you insane.
Considering the unfortunate subject of the analysis, it was a nice touch not to end the video with a joke.
What an incredible case! How sad for Clive and his wife. I think it's amazing he remembers that he loves her. Excellent analysis, Dr. Grande! ❤️
Thanks Dr. Grande for a thoughtful analysis. Heartbreaking to say the least.
The part about him still remembering and loving his wife almost made me cry lol..
Thank you for covering this! I’ve seen a couple of documentaries about Clive. It really is a heartbreaking case. I’ve also recently read Deborah’s book about it which is fascinating and well written. I really feel for her and for the rest of Clive’s family. They’ve all experienced a great loss too. ☹️
My mom is in the hospital, and step-dad in hospice care while she's getting patched up. I'm certain they have not been apart more than 2 days in the past 20 years. Rare stuff. I'm doing my best to ping pong visits -staying positive. I have a feeling it's easier when you know your parents genuinely like each other. A whole bunch. Children seeing the romantic love of parents extends that bond.
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Dr, Grande, what a thoughtful analysis. This is such a sad case. Thank goodness he has his love for his wife and music. from Jean
What a touching analysis, Dr. Grande!🥺❤
This is indeed a very unusual situation. In my experience with dementia patients, where in the first stages they lose their short term memory but are able to retain long term memory for same time, I am always so amazed when I hear them singing old songs perfectly without any lapse in memory. That’s the time when we can get a glimpse of who they once were. Furthermore, even if they don’t know your name or don’t remember talking to you every single day, they usually feel the love in the interactions and approach you daily as if they somehow “know” they are safe in your company.
This is an incredible sad story but you recounted and analyzed it in a such a compassionate manner. Your final thoughts when talking about his love for his wife just brought tears to my eyes.😢😭
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this fascinating case.❤
The beauty and tragedy of Wearing's existence has always fascinated me. I'd love to meet him!
incredibly sad and an actual horror story. One positive was he could at least articulate and hadn't forgotten language/expression otherwise he'd just constantly be trapped in his mind without the ability to communicate what he was experiencing. Is there any record of his sleep being disturbed?
Thank you for covering this. I'm studying GCSE Psychology and Clive was mentioned in one of the units. I was so fascinated by his case.
Such a sad case it is too. The mind is so boggling!
"Love was the one thing that could pierce through the fog."....made this my favorite dr.Grande video 🌠❤️
I saw a news report about this man; he had notebooks filled with notes to himself desperately trying to remember. I also saw how sweet and how angry and frustrated he got just trying hard to live. He could still play music, I believe.
In a documentary ages ago, I saw him playing a beautiful piece on the piano. When he came to the repeat sign he went back and played the part that was to be repeated. Again, and again, and again. A never ending loop.
The love he showed for his wife each time she entered was heart warming.
Heartbreaking and frightening! It is so interesting though, how the brain adapts, even away from explicit memory.
Amazing, I just watched the documentary about him “7 seconds man” 1 hour ago. I can’t explain this coincidence 😮
Sure it wasn't 7 seconds ago?
It’s amazing when that happens. But you just have to think in terms of how many viewers this video has and the fact that most of them will watch documentaries like that at some stage. This video will have more views than I have had days in my life, and I’ve watched that documentary a couple of times. So most if not all days one or more viewers of this channel will watch it. So it feels notable to you that it was you today, but it is not notable that it was someone.
This was horrifying and tragic in the most frightening sense
Was just thinking of this man as i was waking up this morning. So strange. The thought of being in a perpetual state of waking up constantly must be a hell none of us can really know.
Dr grande bout to have me crying with that final statement
@@charlesgerety1403 what's that got to do what what Dr grande said. I still like it despite what what's happening with Clive.
A guy with no past, no future, and he can't ever grasp how tragic a story it is...perhaps it's better that way, in a sense...
Such a tragic story. I can’t imagine what it would be like to be like this poor man. It must be a nightmare. To explain his situation as “being dead”.😢
The only grace he has is remembering love, love is a remarkable emotion proved here.
Such is life. We all forget things. I am glad he found workarounds. Such an informative and prolific source. I really like your calm voice and sense of humor.
I watched the documentary they made about him , his wife and there life and I found it heartbreaking. His innocence I guess you'd call it towards everything was almost contagious for me. Thank you for doing this , I haven't seen anyone discuss his situation before.
This is so heartbreaking but I’m glad you ended your analysis on a positive note about his enduring love for his wife. Thank you for the video.
Oh my god dude this is the most horrific story out of ANY on this channel
I agree
You did this one beautifully, Dr. G
This honestly sounds like some kind of hell.
This made me cry. I am happy that he has her, it gives his life meaning. It may be a terrible state, yet he feels intense love and happiness every single time he sees his wife. At least this gift gives him some comfort from his amnesia. Thank you for the video, Dr. Grande! It is one of a kind, I have never heard of someone having both forms of amnesia.
The sad thing for him is that while he doesn't remember his old life and he cant make new memories, he is aware that something is wrong. If he just kept waking up and didn't realize he couldn't remember it, then it would be hard for everyone else but not for him, but the only thing he seems to remember is that he cant remember. He says it isn't hard, but I've seen him and he often seems quite tormented. The one positive is that he somehow remembers his wife and he 's still in love with her, although he can never recall the last time they were together, so whenever she comes to see him, he responds with the joy of someone who has been reunited with a loved one they havent seen in many years.
Sad and tragic and reminds me of the movie Memento - the man could only remember the last few minutes and had to write all the existing memories down (even on his body). Wonder if that was based on Clive
Love this movie
I read somewhere that it was one of the inspirations behind it.
I have short term memory problems because of a severe back injury. It's been explained to me that my short term memory sometimes 'short circuits' itself so that I'm not constantly aware of the moderate to severe pain I'm in all the time. It's frustrating but I can't imagine how it was for Clive
Alot of this is a good description of narcissism.
"He was often agitated, but he would quickly come back to being calm because he would forget why he became upset in the first place." I feel guilty for laughing at this.
dammit! wait uhhh...how are you?
I was laughing too but then I forgot why I was even laughing.
You monster!
He'd also laugh with you after forgetting you were laughing at him.
I'm not sure he's not faking. I mean it's a hell of a grift.
That's probably the saddest and scariest video you've ever made, Dr G. The poor man😥
This is a real-life eternal sunshine of the spotless mind. ❤
Thank goodness he still has Deborah. 💝🤗
Oh god how heartbreaking. It’s amazing how he can have some sense of different things like his wife, his neighborhood and basic life skills. I think this might be most people’s worst nightmare.
I watched a documentary about Clive and his wife. A most loving, touching, heartfelt, but tragic relationship. Thanks for sharing the very unique story.
This is so incredibly sad, the human brain is truly a wonder
What a heart breaking case analysis. Thank Dr. Grande, I always enjoy your videos.
As my late mother used to say: "When you think you have it bad...look around you. There are always those worse off than you".
So sad. But, as I have recently recognized in life how important relationships with others are the most important thing in the world. I am so glad to hear Clive's love for his wife and her love for him lived on to the extent it did. He is a success with such love!
As a musician his process memory would have been already well trained.
I would have not judge his wife to look for someone else.
She chose to stay.
❤❤
Clive's comments on his existence as like being dead is a painful point, to think that he's trapped like this is terrible imo. Yet as you point out, he still has love which is a saving grace. Thanks for this analysis Dr. Grande.
I struggle with memory loss . His story evoked tears .
Clive's condition is heartbreaking. I cannot imagine how challenging every moment must be. I suffered a brain injury in 2014 which affects my memory. I cannot say that I've fully accepted it. I still break down when I realize that I have forgotten something important but in general I feel it is what it is. I often joke about forgetting things such as, I can't remember if I am getting dressed or undressed, but that is real for him. I suspect he inspired the movie "The First 50 Dates". The theme is much deeper than I imagined. His wife must be a saint. She has to live from moment to moment as well but remembering them all. I am sure even his love for her is both a blessing and a curse. I think everybody wants to be loved that deeply but when he becomes overwhelmed with seeing her as though a long period of time had passed but she cannot reach that same level of excitement he does. Thank you for telling us about him. His challenges make me grateful for mine.
Best wishes to you!
There is a Movie with Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. I forgot the Name of it. I think it's "50 First Dates" or something like that. She has a similar condition in the movie.
Dr. Grande , that was a beautiful explanation of the suffering of a very talented human being.
I am surprised that Clive Wearing was not enrolled in an advanced brain stimulation study like the dopamine studies done on coma patients.
The brain remembers in many layers.
The outer layers concern the basic recognition of our daily environment and how it changes by the second.
The secondary layers concern new experiences.
The deeper layers concern memories of names and events and the deepest layers concern events or people who are most important to us.
Those memories of our loved ones live here.
Environmental stable memories live here ,in this deepest part as well , as the body needs to know the environment to get food ,shelter and allies to survive.
This is why terribly brain damaged homeless people still know how to beg to get money to get food to survive.
The brain is such a fragile organ.
and we make folly of that with all the substances we pump and dump at it.
Here is a man who simply got sick and it essentially gave him a life sentence of no life at all.
Thankfully , the power of love still exists in Clive's life to comfort him in this living death.
Please be careful and take care of your brain.
It can be messed up in an instant ........forever.
well said.
Hi Dr. Grande...good to know that love stays with us. It’s the one thing we can hope to take with us in the end.
What a fantastic point. Thank you for sharing that loving detail.
Please do a video on the 8th grade murderer Michael Hernandez. I just watched his interrogation and it was absolutely chilling
How unfortunately sweet. I bet his wife went back to him because of his warm greeting EVERY time he sees her.
"'forever being trapped in the present. A man with no history no context no identity no anchors no foundation..."seems like I spend a lot of time meditating to get to that state but now I'm actually thankful to get lost in it all I guess once in awhile LOL
Thanks for the interesting content.
It’s such a sad case with him, because you know that he is an incredibly smart man but his memory simply doesn’t work anymore. It’s unbearable to even imagine.
The word you used is very powerful… Unbearable.
🪁 I can’t think of such things just now.
Just to be able to pick and choose our thoughts is a wonderful thing… And knowing that it is a chemical response between the gland in my brain into my blood that’s making me think or feel a certain way and itself is amazing.
I would love to think there would be a way to plug him back in somehow.😐.
I’m very optimistic for all and everything…
I’ve always figured, why not be this way, what else have I to do?🪁
just curious, I can understand how his wife divorced him, but how did she re-marry him? Since he's in such a state of memory (or rather, lack there of) how'd he consent to re-marry? Or did they separate but not technically divorce? I watched the documentary and it's heart breaking. I work in the ER and often see dementia patients and it's always so sad how such a disease takes its toll on them, the facilities, and their families.
It made me feel like I couldn't breath. How strange and horrible that was. Poor man.
Dr. Grande this was deep. Your analysis of this topic is very profound. This case shows us how powerful the brain 🧠 is and how complex it is as well. Scary yet extremely fascinating. 🤔🤯
I saw a doc on Clive and his condition. When I first read the subject matter, I was thinking "Wow, this is interesting. I can't wait to see this". But when I watched it I found it very sad and disturbing. Watching Clive is scary. There's a person there, but he's totally lost and it scared the crap out of me. I feel terrible bad for everyone involved.