Straight guys have the surprised pikachu face when they find out that not every gay guy is flirting with them and/or attracted to them. Seriously it can be an ego killer for them.
Yeah the other day I met a Sikh guy at school and when he found out I was gay he was like acting like I wanted to molest him Like no, that dutty beard is not cute, quit overating yourself sweety
@@MichaelSm1298 I later that night kept sending him shots from the bar . He came up to me and asked me if I was trying to get him drunk. I said how else am I going to know if "you gonna feel good on me". We just celebrated 5yrz together
Ash summer Makaio right there’s this guy who jokingly spank his friend who is also a boy in the butt and he tempted to do it to me too but stop halfway lol
I was sooo closeted back in my college days. I remember one time I was hanging out with some friends and these girls decided to go knock on the door of this mutual friend a few apartments over. I went with them. This guy opened his door in his bathrobe and told the girls to go away. I was a light smoker back then and he invited just me in for a cigarette. We went into his bedroom where he took off his robe and went into bed while I just sat there and smoked a cigarette while he laid there in just his underwear reading a book. I sat there mesmerized, making small talk. But I was so closeted I didn’t even think of making a move. Now 30 years later I can kick myself for not making any moves with what was such a blatant advance. But my life would have been way different today and I have a wonderful boyfriend of 9 years who I probably never would have met if I pursued my desires. Still, I can kick myself for not having done so.
At least you have a good perspective on how things would have been had you made that choice. I find one of the most important things to consider is that if I had changed my past I might not have the things I truly love today.
some dude at work was trying to find out thru other coworkers if i was gay because he thought i was being too nice to him and always super friendly and that i would always make eye contact. i’m sure he probably knows by now, i guess i wasn’t aware i was being more attentive towards him and acting more differently towards than i did towards other people. i feel like he felt uncomfortable with the way i acted around him. he would avoid eye contact with me and so i just stopped talking to him. we pass by each other at work and i don’t say anything and i don’t even look at him. i’m just glad we only see each other for about an hour as i’m getting done with my night shift and he’s coming in the morning for his day shift. it would have been cool to have him as a friend but i guess i just made him feel uncomfortable, and i hate knowing that i make people feel that way. the type of guys i’m into never even give me a second look. i have accepted the fact that i may never date a guy, and that i’ll probably be one of those lonely 50 year olds if i even get to that age. i’m 28 and i feel like as time passes by, it gets harder and harder :/ 😔
Dude same here idk what to do, there’s this guy at work, he’s cute but I always thought he was straight so I never thought anything about it, till….. I saw him at a gay nightclub with his roomate, he saw me he smile and bought me like 3 drinks then we went to other nightclub and dance for the rest of the night, we became friends afterwards but I’m Not sure if I want to ask him out since I still Don’t know if he’s gay and he’s a coworker
@@tonytelleztalksfinance1345 Why wouldnt you? I mean that, even if he is straight after all , he is not gonna be mean to you probably , cause he was in a gayclub so he is definitely not homophobic. If you really like him that much , its at least worth it to try.
I feel like flirting with guys is very frustrating. Seriously though, dudes are so aggressive when it comes to flirting. I don’t necessarily think the “picking on each other” thing is attractive but that tends to be the route we end up going down before some sexual things pop off. The aggression is hot for a moment but it seems hyper masculine. I like the dudes are comfortable in their fluidity of masculine and feminine. I absolutely love vulnerability in a dude, when he’s open about the way he feels and he has a low temperament. I live for the emotionally honest man. My friends call me a Pisces bc I’m dis way...That’s juss me thooo...... ILY Andrew, always love hearing your input.
Andrew You are the king of flirting. If you don't think you are flirting with us on every video you are wrong. Your charm is overwhelmingly attractive when you turn it on and we love it. I'm surprised you are not confident about your abilities
When I ”flirt”, I sit really close so that we touch each other, making eye contact, touching their arm, telling really bad jokes and sending LOTS of gay memes to them
I can either never tell if they are into me, OR it's just wishful thinking on my part. It stresses me out too much and so I just try to forget about it.
I poke fun of people I’m flirting with as well. I try to be as playful as I can be with it to not come off as an ass. I might also get a little more touchy feely with the person I’m flirting with.
Flirting is something I used to love to do. Have not needed to flirt in over 30 years now, since I am a well married guy. That uninterrupted gaze was a good clue that someone was interested. Great video. Thanks..
I tried flirting once, back in high school. It ended up with me doing a pretty damn good swan dive in the middle of the road, in front of the school. Cut lip and a shoe half way down the road just doesn't work out the way you'd hoped.
I am the world's worst at picking up on whether a guy is into me or not.....unless he is not subtle at all. Which with me is by far the best strategy. Lol.
Same! I also seem to send mixed messages. I seem to be flirty with people I'm friendly or just friends. However when it comes to a guy I actually like I turn cold and have no idea what to say to them. Most of my experience with men came from an added liquid courage or knowing a hundred percent that a guy is into me.
Unnecessary personal thing because reasons I tend to flirt with my eyes a lot because I can keep my voice steady. I'll tend to look anywhere but the guy when he's looking at me, but when he's not looking I'l stare like he just grew a third head. Then, of course, when he looks back, my eyes will be steadily trained on the ground because god forbid social interaction happens.
Yeah I don’t flirt. I find it that if i don’t talk to my crush then I won’t make a complete fool of myself and be awkward so I’m best never talking to him ever. 🙃
I’m really bad at flirting. I hate when people stare at me, I feel that they’re sexually harassing me mentally. Also, I don’t do it to other because I don’t want them to feel the same way
I totally do the abrasive thing you were mentioning. And when I was younger that was the main way that I could tell I liked someone. Now I'm more self-aware! Yay!
i need help my friend sent me a pic when i said "send nudes" but you see i was joking and he took it literally and now i dont know what to say or do or more importantly, what not to do. i do like him, ive always assumed he's straight and ive thought this ever since we met.
I have a coworker that seems to flirt with me a little-sometimes squeezes my knee, one night he was stroking the back of my head, things like that. I know I send subtle signals to him to, but for some reason we won’t tell each other anything and keep it vague. A couple weeks ago he said that he wanted to “tell me something but he couldn’t.” I’m wondering what he meant by that.
I don’t really try to flirt anymore. I just try to be myself around everyone if I like them or not. If he’s into me I’m guessing he’ll give me a sign........right?
When you mentioned how you act silly or weird around someone you’re interested in it brought back a terrible memory from high school: my class was waiting to go into the library, I was standing with my sister sort of chatting with this boy who I had a massive crush on (which was super exciting for me bc I’d never up til that point really gotten the chance to speak with him, he was new) and he left to go the toilet. When he came back I desperately wanted to continue to conversation with him, and for some reason the best conversation topic my lizard brain could come up with “How was the trip to the toilet? Was it fun?” I still cringe and laugh about it now
I got several guys flirting with me in an indecent manner. Calling me cotton candy, soft serve, jaggery etc etc. Showing me that they want me in a non sincere manner. I can't really tell. Almost just like you....
This has happened to me many times, that even though I totally believe sexuality is fluid and I’m straight, gay men seem to think it’s ok to make inappropriate advances towards me.
Back in the day when there were no apps, no smartphones, and no Internet, they had to do things the old fashioned way. Sure they had the hanky code and other indicators, but the basic level of connection was the eyes. Back in the day, a guy could not only show interest and indicate what he was looking for, but also communicate top/bottom, sub/dom, and other things from across the room, all without saying a word or any of the others in the room noticing (unless they knew what to look for). This was back when everybody had to be discrete, and being detected was a matter of life & death or imprisonment.
I bring that twinkle back to my eyes that we mostly lose as we get into our twenties and jaded; and then smile. If I see them look again - i let the twinkle and smile fill my face as I walk to them and simply say Hi. Then we go from there.
When I flirt with someone I would just smile and talk and if I do that I feel confident and comfortable but at the same time I want to just have a nice conversion with him and yes I will be nervous at first but after awhile I will get to know him just to see if knows I like him
Is there such thing as gay spidey sense cause every time the guy in my friend group at school isn’t there I legit figure out if he is late, sick, or tired every time without even thinking about it
so ive known this guy for the past two weeks and a mutual friend added him to a group chat and we started talking. we've literally spoken every day since. we speak more to each other than in the group chat, and even then he always responds to all my messages in the gc. hes said i am cute and i really think hes cute. because its end of year at uni we havent had time to meet in person, but when we did, i didnt get that nervous first meeting feeling i normally get with people. i dont know whether he is flirting with me or if im flirting with him and im not sure how to move forward. so yeah :)
In order for me to really flirt, I can’t just do it if I don’t know them well enough or just aren’t aware that they are attracted to me, I only feel comfortable and go ahead when I know they find me attractive. Not going to lie I’ll admit that this seems to be the case and is a defense mechanism from being rejected or embarrassed to have flirted with someone who wasn’t feeling it. That’s my whole take on it :)
@@MrCassett You will know as it will just come as a natural feeling. You will pick up that they find you attractive, they will engage with you, they will have many things in common with you, they will be happy that you are taking time to engage with them, they will smile Alot and show interest in what you have to say. You'll know it when you see it kinda thing
@@alexwhite3158 Oh that makes sense! Then maybe I just suck at picking up those signs, or maybe I haven't put myself out there more and come across that person yet, or I'm just too oblivious to those things. Or maybe all three together 😄:,) Anyway, thanks for answering. Greetings!
I love that light. It looks like an old Star Trek episode when there is a close conversation and the situation becomes critical. Old-fashioned but I love it.
So some weeks ago I was at a bakery and the worker getting my stuff was a guy. He complimented my coat I was wearing even though it was just a basic coat. Since then I was wondering if he was trying to flirt with me. If I could go back and fix it I would totally compliment him back.
Omg, “brown & stick-y” has been one of my favorite jokes for over 20 years. There are two others I tend to tell together with it: What’s green, fuzzy, and if it falls out of a tree it’ll kill you? . A pool table. And finally, a haiku: (Clear your throat all faux dramatic like) Haikus are easy But sometimes they don’t make sense Refrigerator
When I flirt, I'll pick a day to wear long sleeves or a flannel over a shirt when I know I'll see him, and when we cross paths and he looks my way (I can tell through by looking through the corners of my eyes), I pull up the sleeves to the elbows and show off my every-day-lotioned arms. Also when talking to him, I slightly tilt my head down like Princess Di, and very very very slightly smile.
Andrew, if a gay guy was flirting you and he'll leave you a message or call you back, so I love this video about this and I'm proud of you for that!!! ☺
#2 has actually happened to me a few summers ago at a summer dance program. It turned out he was actually just being nice. He had a girlfriend back at home.
I suffer from clueless-ness. I have been with people who punch me in the shoulder to tell me “ did you see that guy ? He was desperately flirting with you ! Didn’t you feel his laserbeam eyes staring at you ? “ and my answer is always “ what guy ? What are you talking about ?”. It stems from a heartfelt belief that no way am I goodlooking enough for anyone to be attracted to me. I don’t know why I feel that way, but I do.
I can think of 2 or 3 x's, over the years, when I friend would tell me, "I think that guy is flirting with you". I think that some have "better Gaydar", or their intuition works better than most.
So as a young gay I guess I’m just like super nervous around people I like so I will completely avoid eye contact with them. Also, I can relate to sitting near them. I went to Disney last year with 70 something people from my school for a bunch on activities. Anyway, there we were about to watch this big firework show and my best friend was sitting next to my crush so like I made it super “subtle” to switch seats with me and she didn’t get the hint because she didn’t know I liked him
The looking for sure but there is 3 main ways I flirt, if I’m nervous or unsure of your humour I tend to find something your into and pretend to be really interested in that getting you to talk, guys love to talk about themselves and their interests so this is easy. If I can tell what sense of humour you have I’ll try and make you laugh. Or if your more like a straight guy I will stir you/ tease you a bit and get that banter going
I look at them often but then, when they notice me, I just look away and look back. After a few times, then I might smile but I noticed I rarely smile :C
whenever i like someone i always make a clown out of my self or usually just not talk with them at all, and when they talk i will get nervous asf... or sometimes i try to stand out and play mind games with them ..
I always look people in the eyes when I talk to them, I try to be complementary when possible because I think everyone needs a self esteem boost, and I get them talking about themselves so they feel seen, and then they think I'm flirting with them when in actuality I'm being friendly and nice. Drives me crazy LOL
A guy once scratched my palm with his finger while we were shaking hands. I wasn't expecting it at all and I was shocked. I mean, I had always liked him but he was younger than me, a relative of mine (not close though) and I thought he was straight. I pulled away suddenly. I kept thinking about it and it made me feel bad. I looked him up on facebook, sent him a friend request that same day. Nothing happens afterwards. I was hoping that he would sent message or sth, but none. I didn't give up, a couple of weeks ago, it was his birthday and I wished him HBD on messenger a long with some very special wishes. He replied very short, thanking me for the wish and nothing else. I went on to ask him how he was doing, the told me that he was doing okay. I felt kind of ashamed, he might not be gay, or even if he is he might not be interested in me. It was a long shot, what I did, but I am glad I did it, no regrets.
That is why bullies are secretly in love with their victims - it is the extreme version of being awkward around someone you are attracted. I have the same problem crumpling a butterfly's wings while actually trying to blow sunshine up his ass. You'd think mature men would get that and find it flattering.
Ok, I was so confused why the guy i liked started making dad jokes to me and calling me old sport but like i feel really confident now he likes me back i hope!!!
If people touch you more than they actually need to in whatever relationship you have with them, they are flirting with you. Unless they're hitting you!
Aw man, I’m bi, and my brain usually completely shuts down around my crush. For example, I was walking to class with him recently and he simply asked how my day was so far; I, being completely zoned out in his hazel eyes, responded: “Yes.” To be fair, I only got some teasing giggles in response, but I was deceased after that 😂 I’m honestly not 100% sure if he likes me too-we do talk a lot and he is gay, but like, I guess I’ll have to see how it plays out 😅
I’m gonna be honest. If someone is flirting with me, I honestly don’t pick up on it. My thing is if you wanna say something to me, say it. If not, keep it moving. I don’t play the game.
Can someone answer the following question. My gay son was at a night club. Another guy stared intently at him with wide open eyes. My son thought this guy had some negative issue with him so moved out of his way (they didnt know each other). He thought that if the guy was interested in him, he would shyly look away, but instead just stared intently. My son has a plethora of women after him, booking hotel rooms for him, but isnt quite as confident about how he is perceived in the gay world. Could the intent stare be attraction, or is it perhaps recognition (he thought he recognised him from somewhere?)
I do not flirt or know how to flirt. I just cannot do all of that to get someone to talk to me. I know we all fear rejection. I did like the video because it showed an aspect of you and how you look at things and how you handle yourself with others. Keep doing the real videos sir. Please take care.
Please if someone can answer me please do, i’m straight not until i meet a gay person and being with him and chatting with him makes me very comfortable to the point i said to myself that i think like him as in i like him, i want to take care of him? He is a quiet gay very normal looking person, is there something wrong with me??! Please answer thanks
I get giddy af around someone I like. I'm super smiley and make a lot of effort to talk to the guy and will be giggly. Also my tone of voice will be higher pitched and like I'm cooing
Eye contact (when not engaged in conversation) is really the best sign. BTW if Andrew flirted with me I would probably be oblivious to it -- but eventually I'd be flattered and flirt back, likely after he had moved on. lol
Is that guy flirting with me?
NO, but I like thinking that he is.
Yessss
@RuralGayBoy exactly!!!
Victor, that was my life in High School lol!
@@caseyflorida gurl THAT'S HOW MY WHOLE LIFE HAS BEEN
I'm a Leo btw ♌
Andrew you are such a gorgeous man & I think ur funny & smart too!! ❤😘❤
*Andrew stares into your eyes.
You: “Are you flirting with me?”
Him: “For the last time, this is an eye exam.”
Does ophthalmoscopy count? I know tonometry does.
LOLOL
Straight guys have the surprised pikachu face when they find out that not every gay guy is flirting with them and/or attracted to them. Seriously it can be an ego killer for them.
Yeah the other day I met a Sikh guy at school and when he found out I was gay he was like acting like I wanted to molest him
Like no, that dutty beard is not cute, quit overating yourself sweety
@@randomsheep1165 hey big man whats up yo
@@101sanford yO
@@randomsheep1165 lets date baby
@@101sanford sounds yummy
My boyfriend upon our first meeting told me "You'd look good on me"
I'm gonna use that 😂😂😂
@@MichaelSm1298 I later that night kept sending him shots from the bar . He came up to me and asked me if I was trying to get him drunk. I said how else am I going to know if "you gonna feel good on me".
We just celebrated 5yrz together
@@MichaelSm1298 hey baby i got my shirt off for u my love
@@stagehandjay4683 Aww congrats!!
That’s the kind of energy i’m looking for in 2020
It is so cute when closeted guys flirt because they want to convey their interest, but don't want anyone else to know.
When it happens I pretend I didn’t see this. Is so funny seeing their “cringey” face 😂
@SwifterThanRevenge hey baby
One of my friends is like really homophobic but he literally told me that he want to have sex with me but idk if he's kidding or not btw he have a GF
My ex-crush is still this type of person
Ash summer Makaio right there’s this guy who jokingly spank his friend who is also a boy in the butt and he tempted to do it to me too but stop halfway lol
I always acidentally stare at people i like. Thats the only sign i give someone, im really good at hiding my feelings.
SAME
Same
Oh! Flirting. Yes. I'm familiar. That's when you say hi to a cute guy and they jump out the nearest window.
Right? Just me? Cool.
They jump out? for me they throw me out.
@Nicholas Baker hey big man
Relate
I was sooo closeted back in my college days. I remember one time I was hanging out with some friends and these girls decided to go knock on the door of this mutual friend a few apartments over. I went with them. This guy opened his door in his bathrobe and told the girls to go away. I was a light smoker back then and he invited just me in for a cigarette. We went into his bedroom where he took off his robe
and went into bed while I just sat there and smoked a cigarette while he laid there in just his underwear reading a book. I sat there mesmerized, making small talk. But I was so closeted I didn’t even think of making a move. Now 30 years later I can kick myself for not making any moves with what was such a blatant advance. But my life would have been way different today and I have a wonderful boyfriend of 9 years who I probably never would have met if I pursued my desires. Still, I can kick myself for not having done so.
At least you have a good perspective on how things would have been had you made that choice. I find one of the most important things to consider is that if I had changed my past I might not have the things I truly love today.
Similar. I was crazy 4 him and he made an obvious comment I didn't get.
When I like a guy, I watch all of his TH-cam videos.
lmaooo so truee hahhaah
OMG Same I know right.👍✌️👌😁.
Wish I could say this is wrong 💀
@Dave Richmond just watched all your videos 🙂
@@Anthony-iw6fn awww jeez… lol
some dude at work was trying to find out thru other coworkers if i was gay because he thought i was being too nice to him and always super friendly and that i would always make eye contact. i’m sure he probably knows by now, i guess i wasn’t aware i was being more attentive towards him and acting more differently towards than i did towards other people. i feel like he felt uncomfortable with the way i acted around him. he would avoid eye contact with me and so i just stopped talking to him. we pass by each other at work and i don’t say anything and i don’t even look at him. i’m just glad we only see each other for about an hour as i’m getting done with my night shift and he’s coming in the morning for his day shift. it would have been cool to have him as a friend but i guess i just made him feel uncomfortable, and i hate knowing that i make people feel that way. the type of guys i’m into never even give me a second look. i have accepted the fact that i may never date a guy, and that i’ll probably be one of those lonely 50 year olds if i even get to that age. i’m 28 and i feel like as time passes by, it gets harder and harder :/ 😔
That's sad 😭
Dude same here idk what to do, there’s this guy at work, he’s cute but I always thought he was straight so I never thought anything about it, till….. I saw him at a gay nightclub with his roomate, he saw me he smile and bought me like 3 drinks then we went to other nightclub and dance for the rest of the night, we became friends afterwards but I’m
Not sure if I want to ask him out since I still
Don’t know if he’s gay and he’s a coworker
@@tonytelleztalksfinance1345 Why wouldnt you? I mean that, even if he is straight after all , he is not gonna be mean to you probably , cause he was in a gayclub so he is definitely not homophobic. If you really like him that much , its at least worth it to try.
Little by little, I'm coming to terms with the fact this is gonna be my future as well...
This was 2 years ago… oh please oh please tell me you’ve found someone and you’re living happily ever after 😭
actually I have no clue why I'm watching this vid coz nobody is even talking to me lmao
Just be positive! Put yourself out there and I know you'll get plenty of people who want to talk to you!
Hmmm whatt
dude, same here
my freaking attitude though
Flirting? Don’t know her 😂
Every guy I’ve ever come in contact with is straight so I don’t even attempt it lool
same......
Fucking story of my life
Same
Based.
Kills me inside. If I ever find that one gay guy, I will NEVER let go off him.
I feel like flirting with guys is very frustrating. Seriously though, dudes are so aggressive when it comes to flirting. I don’t necessarily think the “picking on each other” thing is attractive but that tends to be the route we end up going down before some sexual things pop off. The aggression is hot for a moment but it seems hyper masculine. I like the dudes are comfortable in their fluidity of masculine and feminine. I absolutely love vulnerability in a dude, when he’s open about the way he feels and he has a low temperament. I live for the emotionally honest man. My friends call me a Pisces bc I’m dis way...That’s juss me thooo...... ILY Andrew, always love hearing your input.
Thank you! Vulnerability is the hottest thing especially on straight men. I wish more men were vulnerable 🤦
Omg same! Not really into the hypermasculinity either. Sexy dgmw but vulnerability, deep conversations, ugh mwah 10/10
When I flirt with a guy, it usually means our story is gonna end quickly, in a tragic one-way love story 😅
Rip
Aww... that’s so sad, and so me 😂
Relatable.exe
Yup, same. Seems like I'm better off not flirting or just being myself (that one works better if I'm not aware the guy is into me)
( guy flirting with me)
* The whole world: "Dude...that guy is interested in you" *
* Me: "HUH?? WHAT???WHEN???HOW???WHY???WHERE???WHO???" *
Andrew You are the king of flirting. If you don't think you are flirting with us on every video you are wrong. Your charm is overwhelmingly attractive when you turn it on and we love it. I'm surprised you are not confident about your abilities
Yes Yes YES!!!!
Huh, that's one of the more sensible narratives on this topic I've heard. I like that.
When I ”flirt”, I sit really close so that we touch each other, making eye contact, touching their arm, telling really bad jokes and sending LOTS of gay memes to them
Me asf
I will creepily take every opportunity to look at you. So, I guess I fall in the stare category. I can get touchy too if the situation arises
No lie every time I watch one of his videos he gets hotter
I can either never tell if they are into me, OR it's just wishful thinking on my part. It stresses me out too much and so I just try to forget about it.
I literally evaporate when an attractive guy flirts with me
I poke fun of people I’m flirting with as well. I try to be as playful as I can be with it to not come off as an ass. I might also get a little more touchy feely with the person I’m flirting with.
Zach R lmao!!! Oh you know ;)
@Zach R hey baby i got my shirt off for u my love
20 seconds in and Andrew is saying "I don't really know anything about straight people..." oh this is going to be good!!
Flirting is something I used to love to do. Have not needed to flirt in over 30 years now, since I am a well married guy. That uninterrupted gaze was a good clue that someone was interested. Great video. Thanks..
Any more tips besides the gaze? Just wondering 🙂
I tried flirting once, back in high school. It ended up with me doing a pretty damn good swan dive in the middle of the road, in front of the school. Cut lip and a shoe half way down the road just doesn't work out the way you'd hoped.
Lmaooo 😂
I am the world's worst at picking up on whether a guy is into me or not.....unless he is not subtle at all. Which with me is by far the best strategy. Lol.
Same! I also seem to send mixed messages. I seem to be flirty with people I'm friendly or just friends. However when it comes to a guy I actually like I turn cold and have no idea what to say to them. Most of my experience with men came from an added liquid courage or knowing a hundred percent that a guy is into me.
I need an eye doctor like you 😥
Do you think he flirts with all his patients?
@@b4804514 no of course not..... that was not related to this video but to him in general
@@b4804514 I hope he flirts with none of them, it's unprofessional
My way of flirting is finding a corner to panic in
Your a rare person that just feels good to spend time watching and listening to. Thank you for that uplifting smile and great energy.
I asked a guy to Hoco, thought I was getting the signs, turns out he is just a super nice straight guy
Unnecessary personal thing because reasons
I tend to flirt with my eyes a lot because I can keep my voice steady. I'll tend to look anywhere but the guy when he's looking at me, but when he's not looking I'l stare like he just grew a third head. Then, of course, when he looks back, my eyes will be steadily trained on the ground because god forbid social interaction happens.
SAME.
Btw, how have you been doing?
Yeah I don’t flirt. I find it that if i don’t talk to my crush then I won’t make a complete fool of myself and be awkward so I’m best never talking to him ever. 🙃
I’m really bad at flirting. I hate when people stare at me, I feel that they’re sexually harassing me mentally. Also, I don’t do it to other because I don’t want them to feel the same way
I totally do the abrasive thing you were mentioning. And when I was younger that was the main way that I could tell I liked someone. Now I'm more self-aware! Yay!
i need help my friend sent me a pic when i said "send nudes" but you see i was joking and he took it literally and now i dont know what to say or do or more importantly, what not to do. i do like him, ive always assumed he's straight and ive thought this ever since we met.
Ok he did NOT have to expose me like that I’m always laughing at my crush’s bad jokes 💀💀💀
I have a coworker that seems to flirt with me a little-sometimes squeezes my knee, one night he was stroking the back of my head, things like that. I know I send subtle signals to him to, but for some reason we won’t tell each other anything and keep it vague. A couple weeks ago he said that he wanted to “tell me something but he couldn’t.” I’m wondering what he meant by that.
I hope you went and talked it over. He is defo into you! It would be sad if you too didn't try anything together
@@crazybabuskaman3923 It’s too late -he moved to another city and we never did discuss it honestly. 😞
@@ricodet1675 OK I'm fucking sad now. 😔 I hope ur feeling OK.
@@crazybabuskaman3923 I’m doing ok. Things don’t always work out the way we want unfortunately.
I usually do all of these. I don't get it from other guys but what you just said is what I do when I flirt or I like someone
Sighs
“She lets everyone pet her.”
Not necessarily nice, but I tend to be more affectionate with my crush, like I'd do something for him that I don't normally do for other people.
I don’t really try to flirt anymore. I just try to be myself around everyone if I like them or not. If he’s into me I’m guessing he’ll give me a sign........right?
I blush and and probably sit close to that person the closest I can or try to touch the other person hand accidentally
When you mentioned how you act silly or weird around someone you’re interested in it brought back a terrible memory from high school: my class was waiting to go into the library, I was standing with my sister sort of chatting with this boy who I had a massive crush on (which was super exciting for me bc I’d never up til that point really gotten the chance to speak with him, he was new) and he left to go the toilet. When he came back I desperately wanted to continue to conversation with him, and for some reason the best conversation topic my lizard brain could come up with “How was the trip to the toilet? Was it fun?”
I still cringe and laugh about it now
lol, i guess it depends on how he responded
HA! Wow...THAT's embarrassing.
“I don’t know anything about straight people” 😭😭😭
0:27 okay but who is that hottie? :33
I got several guys flirting with me in an indecent manner.
Calling me cotton candy, soft serve, jaggery etc etc.
Showing me that they want me in a non sincere manner.
I can't really tell.
Almost just like you....
This has happened to me many times, that even though I totally believe sexuality is fluid and I’m straight, gay men seem to think it’s ok to make inappropriate advances towards me.
The lamp shade seam is flirting with me...🤓
Compliment him, ask him questions about himself, ask for social media
I thought I was the only person who antagonizes people I like. You're not alone, Andrew.
Back in the day when there were no apps, no smartphones, and no Internet, they had to do things the old fashioned way. Sure they had the hanky code and other indicators, but the basic level of connection was the eyes. Back in the day, a guy could not only show interest and indicate what he was looking for, but also communicate top/bottom, sub/dom, and other things from across the room, all without saying a word or any of the others in the room noticing (unless they knew what to look for). This was back when everybody had to be discrete, and being detected was a matter of life & death or imprisonment.
came here to find out that nobody's flirting with me
I bring that twinkle back to my eyes that we mostly lose as we get into our twenties and jaded; and then smile. If I see them look again - i let the twinkle and smile fill my face as I walk to them and simply say Hi. Then we go from there.
When I flirt with someone I would just smile and talk and if I do that I feel confident and comfortable but at the same time I want to just have a nice conversion with him and yes I will be nervous at first but after awhile I will get to know him just to see if knows I like him
Is there such thing as gay spidey sense cause every time the guy in my friend group at school isn’t there I legit figure out if he is late, sick, or tired every time without even thinking about it
Been waiting for you to do a video like this!!!
I learned one very critical thing from this video. If I want to flirt, I should never, ever repeat your jokes. 😆
It’s freakish how on point these videos have been lately. Get out of my mind! Lol
so ive known this guy for the past two weeks and a mutual friend added him to a group chat and we started talking. we've literally spoken every day since. we speak more to each other than in the group chat, and even then he always responds to all my messages in the gc. hes said i am cute and i really think hes cute. because its end of year at uni we havent had time to meet in person, but when we did, i didnt get that nervous first meeting feeling i normally get with people. i dont know whether he is flirting with me or if im flirting with him and im not sure how to move forward. so yeah :)
In order for me to really flirt, I can’t just do it if I don’t know them well enough or just aren’t aware that they are attracted to me, I only feel comfortable and go ahead when I know they find me attractive. Not going to lie I’ll admit that this seems to be the case and is a defense mechanism from being rejected or embarrassed to have flirted with someone who wasn’t feeling it. That’s my whole take on it :)
But how do you know if someone finds you attractive or not?
@@MrCassett You will know as it will just come as a natural feeling. You will pick up that they find you attractive, they will engage with you, they will have many things in common with you, they will be happy that you are taking time to engage with them, they will smile Alot and show interest in what you have to say. You'll know it when you see it kinda thing
@@alexwhite3158 Oh that makes sense! Then maybe I just suck at picking up those signs, or maybe I haven't put myself out there more and come across that person yet, or I'm just too oblivious to those things. Or maybe all three together 😄:,)
Anyway, thanks for answering. Greetings!
I love that light. It looks like an old Star Trek episode when there is a close conversation and the situation becomes critical. Old-fashioned but I love it.
Saying random things out of the blue, works all the time.
Thanks a lot! I was drinking coffee right when you told your “what’s brown and sticky” joke and spit my coffee out because I was laughing so hard.
So some weeks ago I was at a bakery and the worker getting my stuff was a guy. He complimented my coat I was wearing even though it was just a basic coat. Since then I was wondering if he was trying to flirt with me. If I could go back and fix it I would totally compliment him back.
Omg, “brown & stick-y” has been one of my favorite jokes for over 20 years. There are two others I tend to tell together with it:
What’s green, fuzzy, and if it falls out of a tree it’ll kill you?
.
A pool table.
And finally, a haiku:
(Clear your throat all faux dramatic like)
Haikus are easy
But sometimes they don’t make sense
Refrigerator
When I flirt, I'll pick a day to wear long sleeves or a flannel over a shirt when I know I'll see him, and when we cross paths and he looks my way (I can tell through by looking through the corners of my eyes), I pull up the sleeves to the elbows and show off my every-day-lotioned arms. Also when talking to him, I slightly tilt my head down like Princess Di, and very very very slightly smile.
Andrew, if a gay guy was flirting you and he'll leave you a message or call you back, so I love this video about this and I'm proud of you for that!!! ☺
#2 has actually happened to me a few summers ago at a summer dance program. It turned out he was actually just being nice. He had a girlfriend back at home.
I suffer from clueless-ness. I have been with people who punch me in the shoulder to tell me “ did you see that guy ? He was desperately flirting with you ! Didn’t you feel his laserbeam eyes staring at you ? “ and my answer is always “ what guy ? What are you talking about ?”. It stems from a heartfelt belief that no way am I goodlooking enough for anyone to be attracted to me. I don’t know why I feel that way, but I do.
I can think of 2 or 3 x's, over the years,
when I friend would tell me, "I think that
guy is flirting with you". I think that some
have "better Gaydar", or their intuition works
better than most.
So as a young gay I guess I’m just like super nervous around people I like so I will completely avoid eye contact with them. Also, I can relate to sitting near them. I went to Disney last year with 70 something people from my school for a bunch on activities. Anyway, there we were about to watch this big firework show and my best friend was sitting next to my crush so like I made it super “subtle” to switch seats with me and she didn’t get the hint because she didn’t know I liked him
The looking for sure but there is 3 main ways I flirt, if I’m nervous or unsure of your humour I tend to find something your into and pretend to be really interested in that getting you to talk, guys love to talk about themselves and their interests so this is easy. If I can tell what sense of humour you have I’ll try and make you laugh. Or if your more like a straight guy I will stir you/ tease you a bit and get that banter going
I look at them often but then, when they notice me, I just look away and look back. After a few times, then I might smile but I noticed I rarely smile :C
whenever i like someone i always make a clown out of my self or usually just not talk with them at all, and when they talk i will get nervous asf... or sometimes i try to stand out and play mind games with them ..
I always look people in the eyes when I talk to them, I try to be complementary when possible because I think everyone needs a self esteem boost, and I get them talking about themselves so they feel seen, and then they think I'm flirting with them when in actuality I'm being friendly and nice. Drives me crazy LOL
A guy once scratched my palm with his finger while we were shaking hands. I wasn't expecting it at all and I was shocked. I mean, I had always liked him but he was younger than me, a relative of mine (not close though) and I thought he was straight. I pulled away suddenly. I kept thinking about it and it made me feel bad. I looked him up on facebook, sent him a friend request that same day. Nothing happens afterwards. I was hoping that he would sent message or sth, but none. I didn't give up, a couple of weeks ago, it was his birthday and I wished him HBD on messenger a long with some very special wishes. He replied very short, thanking me for the wish and nothing else. I went on to ask him how he was doing, the told me that he was doing okay. I felt kind of ashamed, he might not be gay, or even if he is he might not be interested in me. It was a long shot, what I did, but I am glad I did it, no regrets.
Lynn P A coworker of mine has done that to me too, more than once.
You’re so cute! Wanna fool around? Now, that’s a flirt… lol well, do you or don’t you??? Lol. Seriously, you’re so sweet!
That is why bullies are secretly in love with their victims - it is the extreme version of being awkward around someone you are attracted. I have the same problem crumpling a butterfly's wings while actually trying to blow sunshine up his ass. You'd think mature men would get that and find it flattering.
Great light! The green in your eyes and that bottom lip,amazing!
Flirting means I'm alive and you're alive.
Ok, I was so confused why the guy i liked started making dad jokes to me and calling me old sport but like i feel really confident now he likes me back i hope!!!
Can you post a new video, I need cheering up 🥺
If people touch you more than they actually need to in whatever relationship you have with them, they are flirting with you. Unless they're hitting you!
Aw man, I’m bi, and my brain usually completely shuts down around my crush. For example, I was walking to class with him recently and he simply asked how my day was so far; I, being completely zoned out in his hazel eyes, responded: “Yes.”
To be fair, I only got some teasing giggles in response, but I was deceased after that 😂
I’m honestly not 100% sure if he likes me too-we do talk a lot and he is gay, but like, I guess I’ll have to see how it plays out 😅
Just loving you these days. Such a great guy.
I’m gonna be honest. If someone is flirting with me, I honestly don’t pick up on it. My thing is if you wanna say something to me, say it. If not, keep it moving. I don’t play the game.
I always love your videos. Thanks for the advice. I do like you Andrew. I wish I were better at flirting.
Can someone answer the following question. My gay son was at a night club. Another guy stared intently at him with wide open eyes. My son thought this guy had some negative issue with him so moved out of his way (they didnt know each other). He thought that if the guy was interested in him, he would shyly look away, but instead just stared intently. My son has a plethora of women after him, booking hotel rooms for him, but isnt quite as confident about how he is perceived in the gay world. Could the intent stare be attraction, or is it perhaps recognition (he thought he recognised him from somewhere?)
Attraction
I am one of those people who everyone thinks I am flirting with them... hehe
I do not flirt or know how to flirt. I just cannot do all of that to get someone to talk to me. I know we all fear rejection. I did like the video because it showed an aspect of you and how you look at things and how you handle yourself with others. Keep doing the real videos sir. Please take care.
"A stick" that actually made me crackle up 😂
his voice is soo soothing omgg
Spot on!
Good to see Andrew enjoys himself more in recent videos
Please if someone can answer me please do, i’m straight not until i meet a gay person and being with him and chatting with him makes me very comfortable to the point i said to myself that i think like him as in i like him, i want to take care of him? He is a quiet gay very normal looking person, is there something wrong with me??! Please answer thanks
I get giddy af around someone I like. I'm super smiley and make a lot of effort to talk to the guy and will be giggly. Also my tone of voice will be higher pitched and like I'm cooing
Awww, that's cute...and you're handsome!
@@chs75 thank you!
@@isaiahacevedo541 You're welcome, its true!
I get extremely shy if either I flirt or a guy is trying to flirt with me. Not the best thing to do.
Awesome video Andrew! I finally realize this guy likes me! Thanks for such a great channel!
What happened?
Eye contact (when not engaged in conversation) is really the best sign. BTW if Andrew flirted with me I would probably be oblivious to it -- but eventually I'd be flattered and flirt back, likely after he had moved on. lol