The best way to heal the void is to feel the void! That's what I have learnt in my young life till now. Feel the feeling instead of running away from it, eating a lot, shopping a lot or changing a lot of partners to forcefully stuff that void with food, materials, people etc! Feel the void because the only way is THROUGH! 😌
My whole life collapsed. Lots of pain, loss and grief. For me, feels like coming up for air from a scary place. It is like catching my breath after drowning. I was breathing under water. Now, I am an island. It's new, peace is here..i get scared. But I'm alive, breathing. Thank you so much;-)
I went through that for over 3years I have been seeing life meaningless and pointless .. 10 months ago I decided not to think about the purpose of life and to focus my attention to live a better one . It was enough for me that the creator of life knows the purpose and I will relax and stop watching life from the outside .. and began to rearrange my thoughts and deleted thoughts that never worth..that was the beginning of solving this endless question of life meaning . Now I am much more better and I am so happy to reach your channel .. you have different opproach in coatching and I wish you all the best .
That's an excellent way of looking at it. Thank you for taking the time to share this, as I'm sure it'll help others. Welcome to my channel. Glad you found it!
I think I had my first one at 9/10.. my narcissist mother who abused me my whole childhood left me back in my country with my alcoholic grandparents and uncles. I cried for 3 months nonstop every night for hours. I became strong but struggling with cptsd and healing little by little, I’m 32. My childhood was all about abuse , abandonment, shame.. I escaped my mother…lost everyone and was adopted. If you meet me you would never tell. My soul witnessed the darkest humans.. and since then I still can not find the innocent joy.. people tell me I give them peace.. but my heart aches since im a kid. Im starting to grieve now, and I think im back into this void.. thanks for the video
Thank you Henri. I have been in the dark night of the soul for some weeks now. I've been watching videos about it but I always feel like "there's something wrong that I'm doing". But your video feels so humble and truthful that really made me feel validated. Thank you.
I feel like crying, listening to you. It has been the lowest time in my life, darkest and worse than my other life crisis. I just wanted to die and relieve myself of this emptiness and darkness. It’s been months, and i just look at the world completely differently. I am living, doing every regular stuff but I cannot get over the fact that it’s all for nothing and I am not able to find my true purpose because I just don’t have the motivation to achieve or do anything more than surviving. I will believe it was worth all the pain I went through, the day i find my true purpose. Until then I just feel I have been robbed of my motivation to live life at the age of 30years. I have let go of most of the things and attachments. I don’t feel love or happiness in or around me. I don’t know why I have to go through the rest of my life.
I am 25, working as a teacher in a well paid school but that's a temporary job.... But still feeling the same meaninglessness of life..., I am mostly scared of losing my job and that's what keeps me going through the everyday life cause I have mom and dad who are depending on me.... I don't want to fail them. But it's getting difficult day by day.
It can be an interesting meaningless, or unpleasant meaningless. In the former, you realize that the world is your canvas. In the latter, you get stuck in a way of looking at the world. Hope you dance through it! :)
Thank you Henri for coming out and caring for the rest of us. Thank you for being a reminder that there's a way out. Strength to all who are going through this.
I'm going through this now and practice Vipassana meditation for a few years now. Thank you for sharing this, it gives me courage that this is just another part of the journey. Much love and gratitude!
Thank you, Henri. Like yourself, anxiety has been a big part in my life. I also meditate every day for years. "To relax into the anxiety": it may seem paradoxical, but it's worth a try.
Dear Henri, I am indebted to your wisdom... There is no way i would have figured this out on my own... in all this depression and loneliness, i am constantly trying to run away from this feeling... but you know something? i am not scared anymore... if i end up alone, then so be it...but i won't cry anymore.. Thank you!! You are the best!
The more concious I become the less meaning things seems to have. Pleasure and Joy seems to have lost it's appeal. I feel indifferent to pain and sorrow. I know the feeling will eventually subside my only worry is that sometime in the future I'll end up acting up on it. And the funny part is that I'm not even worried about myself but about the people it would affect. It's just all so confusing. It just feels like we're where all brought here and we just started moving forward without knowing why nor where were going. We're all just moving by inertia.
Yes, that seems to be one of the stages. I talk more about this in my newest videos (and upcoming series) on the dark night. Thanks for watching and commenting. All the best!
I am in the dark night of the soul for about 5months since I lost my job the second time from co vid. I want to create an outdoor nature school or a play based gym class. I am a mom of a pre-k child. Most of my meaning is from being a mom and I thank God, I have meaning and connection with him. But man when he goes to see his dad, I can only have a few hours of motivation and cleaning working out a little to feel accomplished. Than I am so overwhelmed, bc I have nobody to talk to. And I have no idea what to look for in my career. I have things I want to peruse and share with the world but it has been so many years of not doing it, then I just have no energy.
Holy shit your describing every detail i am exactly going through. Been about 20 years in the darkness. I’m 33 now. The last five years have been a nightmare here in America. I just want to die constantly. And so do my friends. Especially now. The way things have become. Now I may have lymphoma on top of everything. And I keep losing my teeth (we can’t get real dental care in America unless we’re rich) and I just want to die. Everyday. And I am angry. Every moment. And I’m in physical pain every moment. And for what?
You are not alone. Life is hard. I keep re-reading a book that I've found very helpful. You can order it very cheap used (amazon or thrift books, or the library) is called Feeling Good by David D. Burns, M.D. Wishing anyone reading this all the best. Life is worth living. You are enough. You are awesome.
Dear Henri, so much thanks for the vid, understand it completely, been in the dark night of the soul since Jan 2017 now, you also been in it for years..... it will end right Henri 😫😥? , I am also meditating, going for walks, praying to God, ego is dying... surrendering... letting go...that pressure in my hartchakra almost every day... the pain ... How was it for you to get out of it ? how did you feel ? ...what did you experience....hope you can answer...! 💖🙏. Blessings Erik
Yes, it will end. It's a good time to enjoy the quiet, to learn to relax and surrender whatever you're holding onto. That includes even wanting to get out of it. Keep rocking, Erik. You can always email me through my website if you have more questions.
@@HenriJunttila Thnks Henri, there is no other choice...my soul chose this path...but how did you experience the ending Henri, how did you know ?? ...How did it feel...? Could you please answer Henri, thanks! 💫🛐Blessings Erik
Hey Henri me again 😊 i have a question...the last couple of days I was hit with another influx, cleansing, but these emotions were and are so intense, never expected these again.... grief, anxious, mourning, depressed, not being myself....I know these emotions , but it's hard now in a way , been in the dark night for over more than 2 years already... have you experienced this also ? ..these recurring influxes.... hope they will become less.....blessings love Erik 🙏💫🛐
Of course. I have another video on dark times (link below). Seems to be a part of life. We go up and down. We're taught to avoid certain feelings, but when you let them be, welcome them, things get easier. And, obviously, if this keeps going on, perhaps talk to someone, maybe they can help. th-cam.com/video/qmwl4Up1tBs/w-d-xo.html
Hi Henry, Lately I have been thinking if it would just be better for us to become emotionless (if we are able to). I have also experienced the dark night every now and then, so sometimes I just think maybe I should just accept that life just is (meaningless, pointless). I know that may sound really bad, but maybe we would just struggle less if we believe everything has no meaning. Can you tell me your thoughts about this? Thanks.
My personal experience has been to fully experience my emotions, because they are what give flavor to life. The problems aren't my emotions, but my reactions to them. The more I've stopped being afraid of certain emotions, the more I am simply able to feel them, even if they are emotions like sadness, fear, anxiety, and so on. I might wake up one day and feel irritated or sad or worried, but so what? I let the emotion be there. I feel it. I do my best, and life goes on. So my solution is not to try to eliminate emotions, but to feel them even more, because that's when I realize that they aren't dangerous. Imagine if you lived a life without the ability to feel. After a while, you'd get bored of it, and then what would you want? You'd want to feel :)
Thank you very much for taking your time to reply my comment :) I totally agree with your idea and that verifies what you said in the video (we have to face our emotions no matter what it is). Everything has two sides, even emotions; they make us laugh and cry (remind me of the animation movie Inside Out) And I really like that you said we have to fail a lot in order to succeed. Every time I fail, I always tell myself that the real failure in life is not trying at all. .
The best way to heal the void is to feel the void! That's what I have learnt in my young life till now. Feel the feeling instead of running away from it, eating a lot, shopping a lot or changing a lot of partners to forcefully stuff that void with food, materials, people etc! Feel the void because the only way is THROUGH! 😌
"Getting through the dark night of the soul is true success"
-Trevor Ilesley
Trevor has some fantastic videos on this. Getting through the dark night can be brutal, but the other side is quite splendid.
My whole life collapsed. Lots of pain, loss and grief. For me, feels like coming up for air from a scary place. It is like catching my breath after drowning. I was breathing under water. Now, I am an island. It's new, peace is here..i get scared. But I'm alive, breathing. Thank you so much;-)
I went through that for over 3years
I have been seeing life meaningless and pointless ..
10 months ago I decided not to think about the purpose of life and to focus my attention to live a better one . It was enough for me that the creator of life knows the purpose and I will relax and stop watching life from the outside .. and began to rearrange my thoughts and deleted thoughts that never worth..that was the beginning of solving this endless question of life meaning . Now I am much more better and I am so happy to reach your channel .. you have different opproach in coatching and I wish you all the best .
That's an excellent way of looking at it. Thank you for taking the time to share this, as I'm sure it'll help others. Welcome to my channel. Glad you found it!
9:37 Henri - Thanks so much for your videos. They have been enormously helpful in a very difficult time! Blessings to you!!!
I think I had my first one at 9/10.. my narcissist mother who abused me my whole childhood left me back in my country with my alcoholic grandparents and uncles. I cried for 3 months nonstop every night for hours. I became strong but struggling with cptsd and healing little by little, I’m 32. My childhood was all about abuse , abandonment, shame.. I escaped my mother…lost everyone and was adopted. If you meet me you would never tell. My soul witnessed the darkest humans.. and since then I still can not find the innocent joy.. people tell me I give them peace.. but my heart aches since im a kid. Im starting to grieve now, and I think im back into this void.. thanks for the video
Thank you Henri. I'm going through this too right now. I'm so grateful that I found you channel. Your gentle guidance is much appreciated. 🙏😊
Thank you Henri. I have been in the dark night of the soul for some weeks now. I've been watching videos about it but I always feel like "there's something wrong that I'm doing". But your video feels so humble and truthful that really made me feel validated. Thank you.
I discovered this channels 3 years ago. This is gold now that I rediscovered
Very deep. And it was exactly the essence I needed to hear in my time and place. Thank you.
I feel like crying, listening to you. It has been the lowest time in my life, darkest and worse than my other life crisis. I just wanted to die and relieve myself of this emptiness and darkness. It’s been months, and i just look at the world completely differently. I am living, doing every regular stuff but I cannot get over the fact that it’s all for nothing and I am not able to find my true purpose because I just don’t have the motivation to achieve or do anything more than surviving. I will believe it was worth all the pain I went through, the day i find my true purpose. Until then I just feel I have been robbed of my motivation to live life at the age of 30years. I have let go of most of the things and attachments. I don’t feel love or happiness in or around me. I don’t know why I have to go through the rest of my life.
It is an extremely tough thing to go through. I have been there Ma'am. Hope you get through it and find the motivation to continue battling.
How are you now? It's Exactly I'm currently feeling. I don’t see the point of living my life.
I am 25, working as a teacher in a well paid school but that's a temporary job.... But still feeling the same meaninglessness of life..., I am mostly scared of losing my job and that's what keeps me going through the everyday life cause I have mom and dad who are depending on me.... I don't want to fail them. But it's getting difficult day by day.
I have been gone thru this and still going in some ways,
And yeah 'LIFE IS MEANINGLESS'
It can be an interesting meaningless, or unpleasant meaningless. In the former, you realize that the world is your canvas. In the latter, you get stuck in a way of looking at the world. Hope you dance through it! :)
Thank you Henri for coming out and caring for the rest of us. Thank you for being a reminder that there's a way out. Strength to all who are going through this.
I'm going through this now and practice Vipassana meditation for a few years now. Thank you for sharing this, it gives me courage that this is just another part of the journey. Much love and gratitude!
Thank you, Henri. Like yourself, anxiety has been a big part in my life. I also meditate every day for years. "To relax into the anxiety": it may seem paradoxical, but it's worth a try.
Dear Henri,
I am indebted to your wisdom...
There is no way i would have figured this out on my own...
in all this depression and loneliness, i am constantly trying to run away from this feeling...
but you know something? i am not scared anymore...
if i end up alone, then so be it...but i won't cry anymore..
Thank you!! You are the best!
That's awesome! Thank you for sharing, and I'm glad I could help :)
Youre really good at describing this. Thank you for this video.
Thank you for the advice really appreciate it
Exactly same situation... Love your video.. i hope you upload more videos
Thank you for your teachings, so much appreciated.
Thank you so much for sharing this... I have had many dark nights... and you expressed it so well.
This is how I’m currently feeling and every time it just feels even worse.
Thank you
thank you so much for sharing this intimate insight!! it helps me so much, it comforts me!! GOD BLESS YOU Henri Junttila
Glad to hear it! Thank you for taking the time to comment 💪 👍
The more concious I become the less meaning things seems to have. Pleasure and Joy seems to have lost it's appeal. I feel indifferent to pain and sorrow. I know the feeling will eventually subside my only worry is that sometime in the future I'll end up acting up on it. And the funny part is that I'm not even worried about myself but about the people it would affect. It's just all so confusing. It just feels like we're where all brought here and we just started moving forward without knowing why nor where were going. We're all just moving by inertia.
Yes, that seems to be one of the stages. I talk more about this in my newest videos (and upcoming series) on the dark night. Thanks for watching and commenting. All the best!
Exactly... verbatim... this!
Thank you for doing these videos, Henri. You are appreciated.
Thanks! I appreciate the kind words :)
I am in the dark night of the soul for about 5months since I lost my job the second time from co vid.
I want to create an outdoor nature school or a play based gym class.
I am a mom of a pre-k child. Most of my meaning is from being a mom and I thank God, I have meaning and connection with him. But man when he goes to see his dad, I can only have a few hours of motivation and cleaning working out a little to feel accomplished. Than I am so overwhelmed, bc I have nobody to talk to. And I have no idea what to look for in my career. I have things I want to peruse and share with the world but it has been so many years of not doing it, then I just have no energy.
Thank you for this
Thank you for this 🌈🌺
Great Video.
Hey man. Thank you.
Thank you 💚✌️
thank you.
thank you! you helped me so much, you cannot imagine.!! Sadhu anumodana!
Hi Henri, Thank you so much for video, it has helped me a lot. Love your honesty.
great videos! Kiitos!
Holy shit your describing every detail i am exactly going through. Been about 20 years in the darkness. I’m 33 now. The last five years have been a nightmare here in America. I just want to die constantly. And so do my friends. Especially now. The way things have become. Now I may have lymphoma on top of everything. And I keep losing my teeth (we can’t get real dental care in America unless we’re rich) and I just want to die. Everyday. And I am angry. Every moment. And I’m in physical pain every moment. And for what?
You are not alone. Life is hard. I keep re-reading a book that I've found very helpful. You can order it very cheap used (amazon or thrift books, or the library) is called Feeling Good by David D. Burns, M.D. Wishing anyone reading this all the best. Life is worth living. You are enough. You are awesome.
Nice video I go through the same shit..... thanks to u feels like m not alone
I had this! Trying to find the true value !
It's all spiritual. Even bipolar or depression. It's a result, not the cause. Just a physical/external manifestation of the spiritual/internal.
Dear Henri, so much thanks for the vid, understand it completely, been in the dark night of the soul since Jan 2017 now, you also been in it for years..... it will end right Henri 😫😥? , I am also meditating, going for walks, praying to God, ego is dying... surrendering... letting go...that pressure in my hartchakra almost every day... the pain ... How was it for you to get out of it ? how did you feel ? ...what did you experience....hope you can answer...! 💖🙏. Blessings Erik
Yes, it will end. It's a good time to enjoy the quiet, to learn to relax and surrender whatever you're holding onto. That includes even wanting to get out of it. Keep rocking, Erik. You can always email me through my website if you have more questions.
@@HenriJunttila Thnks Henri, there is no other choice...my soul chose this path...but how did you experience the ending Henri, how did you know ?? ...How did it feel...? Could you please answer Henri, thanks! 💫🛐Blessings Erik
Hey Henri me again 😊 i have a question...the last couple of days I was hit with another influx, cleansing, but these emotions were and are so intense, never expected these again.... grief, anxious, mourning, depressed, not being myself....I know these emotions , but it's hard now in a way , been in the dark night for over more than 2 years already... have you experienced this also ? ..these recurring influxes.... hope they will become less.....blessings love Erik 🙏💫🛐
Of course. I have another video on dark times (link below). Seems to be a part of life. We go up and down. We're taught to avoid certain feelings, but when you let them be, welcome them, things get easier. And, obviously, if this keeps going on, perhaps talk to someone, maybe they can help.
th-cam.com/video/qmwl4Up1tBs/w-d-xo.html
I’m slowly realizing this and I feel like crying pms
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Hi Henry,
Lately I have been thinking if it would just be better for us to become emotionless (if we are able to).
I have also experienced the dark night every now and then, so sometimes I just think maybe I should just accept that life just is (meaningless, pointless). I know that may sound really bad, but maybe we would just struggle less if we believe everything has no meaning.
Can you tell me your thoughts about this? Thanks.
My personal experience has been to fully experience my emotions, because they are what give flavor to life. The problems aren't my emotions, but my reactions to them. The more I've stopped being afraid of certain emotions, the more I am simply able to feel them, even if they are emotions like sadness, fear, anxiety, and so on.
I might wake up one day and feel irritated or sad or worried, but so what? I let the emotion be there. I feel it. I do my best, and life goes on.
So my solution is not to try to eliminate emotions, but to feel them even more, because that's when I realize that they aren't dangerous.
Imagine if you lived a life without the ability to feel. After a while, you'd get bored of it, and then what would you want? You'd want to feel :)
Thank you very much for taking your time to reply my comment :)
I totally agree with your idea and that verifies what you said in the video (we have to face our emotions no matter what it is). Everything has two sides, even emotions; they make us laugh and cry (remind me of the animation movie Inside Out)
And I really like that you said we have to fail a lot in order to succeed. Every time I fail, I always tell myself that the real failure in life is not trying at all.
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Absolutely. Well put :)
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Very well articulated, Stella!