Follow the money...nurseries are private businesses who pay minimum wage ie the lowest legal amount... Nurseries are lucrative but where does the money go? If not Shareholders, owners of the nurseries, then where ? Investigate properly please
She asked 'What am I doing wrong?' Nothing. The UK is a very mis-managed country. No thought goes into planning, things are left 'to the market'. Hence we get fleeced. Both the Conservatives and the Labour party are socialists so things may not get better with a change of government. Taxation and high costs for services are at the heart of both of their offerings. The most we can hope for is that Labour are more competent. When push comes to shove they will increase taxes, especially council tax. There is an urgent need to understand, that despite talk of the UK being the sixth richest country, presumably the inflated cost of housing is the deciding factor, many of us are poor.
Food alone has gone up by 300% in the last couple of years, its absolutely ridiculous the amount of profits these big corporations make. And on top of this the government has the cheek to take 1/3 of our wages! 😂😂😂😭
Actually I've noticed that food prices are starting to come down. I just did my monthly food shopping and it was cheaper than what it was last month for exactly the same things.
I'm a Brit living in Eastern Europe, it is no problem at all for the average earner here to afford food and heating. The Tories have inflicted such harm on the British people that former communist Eastern Europe is a more comfortable and easier place to live. Let that sink in.
I've heard of some places of work , they have provided day care right there for their kids of their employees. What ever happened with this ? I haven't heard anymore after 5 years ago.
There is already a decline in birth rates in UK. But it seems a lot of peoples solutions are "don't have them" rather than finding and debating a possible reasonable solution. Even people who are working are finding it difficult to pay excessive bills these days. So lets just factor in some of your comments "dont have children" lets say couples followed your advice plus the already decline in birth rate. Who in the future is going to pay taxes, pay for your state pensions, infrastructure, economy if we have a huge gap and enormous decline in a generation to come.
Yea thats really shocking!! So many people would love to have a child & some people don’t even think about costs beforehand. Shameful!! Contraception is free
Honestly.. its almost like if you dont have a high paying career you cant by default afford this many kids and both work, it would be cheaper for you to have one parent at home for this full time role. Assuming everyone can have everything is the wrong way to look at it. You only need childcare BECAUSE you chose to work. If your relying on the government your already doing it wrong. As this literally proves.
@@bbuzz1687 With a successful and well planned out career. Our default standard of living is not as easily achievable as we seem to think it's a given right of passage. Let's look back even just a generation or at developing countries and see we are the 1% and it's crazy to think we ever had enough resources to provide this as a given. You need to aim for it and work hard, for years. Not a job, and actual career you can't just walk into. And many, simply don't have the drive to strive that far.
@@TobyCostaDunkin Well yes but is this the future we want where only the highly successful will be able to have children. And before you develop your career you will be way into your thirties and probably too old and tired to have more than one. At this rate we won't be able sustain western society as we know it today. We will be forced to rely more and more on immigrant labour until we die out ourselves.
You are doing nothing wrong ❤I’m a single mother of two working 40+ hours a week and just getting by ….keep your head up and prey you will be ok I promise ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊
This is all we can do atm unfortunately. I'm a single parent myself and just keep my head above water doing 60+ hours a week. Its a rubbish situation and its not going to get better any time soon, so you have to soldier on 💪
2 teachers, one child, will need to pay £500+ per month for 2 days wrap around child care, even if there was a place locally; there is not. Not an option 🤷🏼♀️
Wow, this is really sad. In The Philippines, childcare is literally for free. Filipinos have transitioned into a society similar to that of developed Asian countries, both parents work and the grandparents take care of the kids.
@@AtheistEveI’m British, my grandparents took care of me when I was little. Now they need full time medical care and we’re all grown up adults, my parents and us spread the costs and paid her fees which is £2000 a month.
This is very shameful and throwing money at a problem is even worse. There should be a flat payment that should be introduced or a payment based system based on yearly income.
I would like to know why childcare has become so expensive? It never used to be! So, what happened? Why must mothers pay for their child’s place during the holidays when clearly the child will not be attending, ie summer?
Because it's all part of the plan. To get back every penny they give you while making you feel that you are 'strong and independent and free from a man's control'. That means you are working for free. A slave. It's a domino effect from the 2nd wave feminism. The 2k she spends on childcare a month could be saved and her husband could work and she takes care of her own children like it's meant to be but feminism tells her that's being a slave to a man. She has to work to be considered 'useful'. Ironically, that turns her into a slave for the government and her children suffer mental health issues as well for being away from their nurturers for the majority of their childhood.
Capitalist owners of nurseries and recruitment agencies cream off MOST of ehat the parents pay...maybe? Follow the money to whose personal bank account it lands in...
It's governments who want these women in work and these kids in child care. GDP Is god to these people. If that's part of their plan then they should be paying for it or making sure wages cover it. This is poorly thought out social planning.
Because maybe you f off the father???? Don't you think it would be easier with his help???? But nooooo feminism has told you that you can do it by yourself and you don't need a man. But yet go to the government for support & everyone wonders why our society is the way it is.
@@s3cret77 This is her situation. You, and her, can say I'm racist and stay perpetually poor, or wake up and accept the terrible mistake she made. All of us need to ask the fundamental question: if I think I am righteous and I made the right decisions, why am I in the predicament that I am in? It must mean what I thought was right is actually wrong.
How about you stay home with children for longer if you can? Cut on you expenses where you can? And spend more time with your young, growing children! The government encouranges parents to go to work as if its sooo wrong to want to stay longer home with your kids, rather than sending them in a care institution...No one is talking about the parents who dont want thier children in care settings, afterschool clubs and so on....more part time, flexible jobs for the parents
Based on the picture on the wall and the fact she stated, "its not the life we would have for our girls", "we work really really hard", "I dont feel that we should be in this position"". i would surmise its an average nuclear family... But that wouldn't fit the narrative though, would it?
If we could afford it, we would have a 3rd. Many of my friends say the same. We recently asked the nursery that our previous child visited for a place for our second child and they told us the terms had changed and now minimum time was 2 full 10 hour days per week and that would cost us approximately £200. And to the woman at the beginning, I’m asking the same question. A person in my position with the wage that I’m on should not be in this position. What on earth is happening. I’ve worked hard to get where I am so I can be ripped off by energy companies and being extorted by nurseries and having a whole wage taken away. It simply doesn’t make sense!
Mum with 3 kids and no husband in sight would be smart if she set up day care from her home. As a Teacher she already has all the skill-set necessary. Lots of funding/support available too. She could charge whatever is the going rate - that's what I did as a lone-parent until my kids were in secondary, then re-trained in a different career. Never paid a penny in childcare, ever. I wish her good luck, raising kids is a hard job!
How do you know there’s no husband in sight? At 1.17 seconds there is literally a family picture on the wall behind her with her husband. Also she may not want to turn her house into a childminding facility, she teaches secondary school age kids for a start so she clearly prefers teaching older age groups.
@@andromeda_25 it's just what some people want out of life, to create more. Obviously society just isn't made for big families anymore unless you're well off, and by big, I mean more than 1 child per 2 incomes.
Childcare costs us 272euro per month here in Ireland for one child, thats for 40hrs of care per week! It's due to decrease further in Ireland but we'd consider that pretty affordable.
Seriously if they were white you would not be asking such a stupid question. At what point in the interview does the conversation point to her being a single parent? On the contrary, everything she said points to the opposite...
She constantly says “we” and “our” when talking about providing for her family, and at 0:58 there is a family portrait with a man who looks very much like he could be the girls’ father. She could be recently divorced, or he could just have not wanted to be on TV. If she IS a single mother, it is obviously a recent development (given the ages of the girls in the family portrait) and not something she planned to do.
@@harpsailorharp6716ggmany are not having kids but don't worry we have plenty of illegal immigrants to come in to make up for it, say goodbye to your identity, your traditions and our respect for our ancestors.
@@melissacowan9463 you must be extremely dim then love, long gone were the days when the monthly household cashflow could remain in the green on a single income. Take a guess what happens when you remove the second working parent or are faced with the situation that childcare costs are equal to a pay packet
That's what has been happening. So we have 5m economically inactive people, a declining birthrate and we are importing workers from halfway across the globe.
@@PamelaGreen354 Couldn’t agree more. Unnecessary. 10 years ago people weren’t faced with massive energy bills, mortgages, food bills etc, etc. Child care has always been expensive. Our birth rate is falling for heavens sake. We are soon going to be in trouble: “The conditions of growth - why our declining birth rate is the most pressing issue our nation faces” If anything we should be investing and facilitating childcare, helping families with children as part of longterm growth and stabilisation of our economy. The numpties who spout you shouldn’t have children if you can’t afford them demonstrate they have no foresight for the bigger picture and how that impacts us all - pensions, social care… - further down the line.
@@CBEEBLE exactly, Families have struggled for years , a family of twins and the mother went back to work after maternity leave , the parents were paying just under a thousand pounds a month for child care . Government has destroyed . A Right to a Family life ,
A lot of families can adapt by having one parent stay at home to raise their children. It would be much better for the wellbeing and development of the children too. Other lifestyle choices can be adjusted too in many cases.
I lived in Sweden for a couple of years. Child care is excellent with most larger organisations having their own kindys with qualified staff. Not so sure what it’s like though, very high tax , migrant crisis crime rate hitting the roof. But I guess nowhere's perfect.
Thank you! I mean how do other countries do it? No one is paying for other people's kids. If you can't afford to run or maintain a car or house, don't buy one. Why is this hard for people to understand or apply to children? If I bought a house I couldn't afford to mortgage, why should I except the gvt to help pay that.
If you watch the video, she says things like "childcare is costing us, we've worked really hard, what are we doing wrong etc" and the programme commentator says parents like these.
Yeah modern slavery. It shouldn't be expensive to have children, they are our future, the countries future oh hang on wait we have illegal immigrants to replace that, say goodbye to your identity, traditions, values and our respect for our ancestors.
I work I do mots for a living so I make sure our vehicles are safe for the road and prevent deaths, I can say your right it's not worth it and you are better off getting help from the local council instead.
😂😂😂 Why not show as well how much money in the billions of pounds is given to Taxpayers citizens and to non tax paying foreign countries as foreign aid . No wonder many people avoid having children . Very sad 😞
No one believes you actually care about 'helping our own' outside of crying about refugees and foreign aid. As soon as 'our own' do get slightest bit of help you suddenly start complaining about 'scroungers'. Stop lying and just admit you don't think anyone who needs help deserves it. No one is actually dumb enough to think there's any connection between the amount of poverty here and foreign aid elsewhere, so stop pretending to believe it.
Foreign aid is given as a bribe to get what we want you do know that. US gives over 3 billion per year for isreal to maintain its apartheid isreal is one of the richest countries in the world it does not need the money but its US was of getting side advantages which it does same for us.
Men avoid having children because of feminism and the mindset of these women. Nothing you said is part of the issue. The issue is women having children with no father. And in most cases, they push them away and go to the government & portray to other women that they can do it by themselves.
Excuse me, what??? It mentions that HALF of mothers who had an abortion the primary reason was because of childcare costs?? Thats outrages ! How about thinking about these cost before getting pregnant!! Unbelievable😢 abortion is not a contraception!! Wth
Some people may not like this i am a stay home mom and I live on child support and child care allowance. I don't plan on working until my children start school. My inhertance paid for my house. It woukd be a lot more expensive if i had to pay daycare right now. To me i am making the right choice.
The inflationary effects of the war in Ukraine are creating far more financial problems for both the working and middle classes - but that inconvenient truth continues to fall under your journalistic radar
What is the point of children if you are not going to care for them yourself? That is what mothers are for. Careers and motherhood don't mix together properly at the same time. You cannot do both properly.. being a sahm is not just about being a mother it is caring for the ailing and frail members of the extended family . There is mothers instinct and intuition which childcare has not got. Mother and fathers are not interchangeable except in emergencies. They have different roles and that is why men are more suited to be breadwinners and mothers to be breadmakers. I taught my children as much as I could before school and socialized with like minded families. I also taught them how I cared for each subsequent child so they would learn about childcare and put into fruition when they become parents in the future. Mothers and child should bond and childcare makes that difficult.iif you work maternity, leave is a joke because it's not long enough even to feed a baby as nature intended for as long as nature intended. If you feed otherwise you have still got the nighfeedsto be met for a child and they should nt be cheated out of them. So why put children in expensive childcare when you can do it yourself? It is only going to pay taxes to bullying governments who do not care about family life.
I disagree. Not all women bond with their children. Often, men can be better at providing care. It would make sense to have our economy set up so that every person can afford basic needs and savings on one wage, with all jobs based on part-time hours, so that both parents get the same opportunities to care as well as earn.
@@mingmingyip19 The reality is that our care burden as a whole is too much for individuals to bear alone. Not just in costs but also in time, energy and ability. If we want a working society, we have to work as a team. Eventually, we will have to share the right to work for pay as well as the responsibility for care. There are a lot of people who are in unpaid work who need respite.
@AtheistEve we don't want a working society!! Every man women and child slaving their guts off, no thanks. If, as a women you want to work then fine, take a job that pays enough for child care. I'm not paying for other people to look after your children because you prefer it..don't have children then. Simples.
Where did you see that in the video? Haven’t seen a single iPhone or the latest “fashion accessories“ 😂 Besides if you want a new phone and to pay £25-£30 a month versus having the money to buy handset out right, as presumably none of these families do, sometimes it’s more cost-effective especially if it’s used for work. Regardless it’s completely incomparable to two grand a month for childcare.
We get it. You won’t be happy until British living standards have decreased so much that working class Brits have the same living standards as their counterparts in developing nations. You don’t need to advertise your snobby, anti-working class elitism.
@@MrFrog_ I dont have kids your idiot lol Just empathy for parents which are willing to work and children who suffer at the end of the day. You have no scoopy as to how the average person lives
a parents keep saying to childfree people, having kids are a blessing, and selfish not to have them and god will provide....I love being childfree and freeeeeeeee
'Adults' are irresponsible these days. You won't see a single one of them without a pricey phone, peroxide hair, oversized car and eating/drinking out. It's not the childcare causing the financial problems.
Disadvantage children will not be able to go to nursery . This will have a negative impact on there early years . Children will have so many issues. Shame on you Tories government 😢😢
I waited to have children until I made 100k+. Best decision ever and had my baby at 36 yrs old. I definitely see young parents giving me the look but I worked so hard to be where I am and I know my value and worth.
What is being asked here? Absolutely no ownership of your situation. Factoring abortion over money? don't......get......pregnant then! This is your responsibility.
Too few people are having children and we are looking at a future where working aged adults are outnumbered by retirees. You need to see the bigger picture
a friend said is best that "England IS a 3rd world country catfishing like its a first world." unfortunately having children is luxury . bless this mum's heart
Mother in the video with 3 girls could take 2 children in her home and teach and care for them at home, hers also. She could make money while at home with her kids as well.
This is just one situation the government have 0 answer to... 6.5K is nothing when the annual bill is 24K, still leaves you with about 1,450pm in costs. I've done without many things in life as times get harder and harder, one by one cutting back and knocking off any sense of enjoyment in life off the list. Those applying the shrinkflation mentality on this aspect of life need to get theyre head screwed as simply saying don't have kids is not a suitable compromise.
If you actually watched the clip you would have known that they interview mothers in stable relationships who have ABORTIONS because they know their family can’t afford another child. Not good for birth rates, now is it?
@@Andy-qe6kkthen people shouldn't be having children to compete with immigrant population. I wouldn't buy a car or house just because an immigrant family had one or more than one. This is self inflicted and no other country gives people money for free. If you can't feed them, don't agree them
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And yet they wonder why the birthrate is falling.
It's what they want
Not falling 😮
Many people are having babies especially where I live 😅 central London
@@Saddam-london Yes but none of those people are British
Babies with no father & then they go to the government for support. All because they don't won't to co-operate. @@Saddam-london
Depopulation agenda
God be with the days a mans wage alone could support a family...
She should’ve took it up the ar*e instead of having a baby 😂
We don't have any industry. We buy cheap Chinese trash. Nothing for men to do.
2k a month on nursery school per month is fucking insane
Now add on to that £1000 a week for full-time adult residential care. For elderly or disabled family members.
I know right. But just think, it costs less to look after your own kids 🤔
Follow the money...nurseries are private businesses who pay minimum wage ie the lowest legal amount...
Nurseries are lucrative but where does the money go? If not Shareholders, owners of the nurseries, then where ?
Investigate properly please
@@aaroninglexcept we need those workers and they will re-enter the job market at a lower status.
@@aaroningl and what resources/money will you use to take care of the kids if you don't work?
When you pay to go to work… something is very wrong!!
That's right you need an emergency IQ test.
Stay home with your kids then!
@@myday2704 It does seem strange to have so many children but pay strangers to look after them.
She asked 'What am I doing wrong?' Nothing.
The UK is a very mis-managed country. No thought goes into planning, things are left 'to the market'.
Hence we get fleeced.
Both the Conservatives and the Labour party are socialists so things may not get better with a change of government. Taxation and high costs for services are at the heart of both of their offerings.
The most we can hope for is that Labour are more competent.
When push comes to shove they will increase taxes, especially council tax.
There is an urgent need to understand, that despite talk of the UK being the sixth richest country, presumably the inflated cost of housing is the deciding factor, many of us are poor.
All systems will eventually have to collapse. This cannot go on indefinitely.
Rich will just get richer.
Food alone has gone up by 300% in the last couple of years, its absolutely ridiculous the amount of profits these big corporations make. And on top of this the government has the cheek to take 1/3 of our wages! 😂😂😂😭
Then more than a third in indirect taxes.
We never had this degree of inflation in 2019. Lockdowns kicked off the current inflation problem.
Actually I've noticed that food prices are starting to come down. I just did my monthly food shopping and it was cheaper than what it was last month for exactly the same things.
@@B-A-L still going up in south east
It's not only childcare but also rent and groceries
Immigration is ruinous
I'm a Brit living in Eastern Europe, it is no problem at all for the average earner here to afford food and heating. The Tories have inflicted such harm on the British people that former communist Eastern Europe is a more comfortable and easier place to live. Let that sink in.
I’m from Eastern Europe. Childcare is almost free in my country. School is absolutely free, you only may have to buy books. University is affordable.
I've heard of some places of work , they have provided day care right there for their kids of their employees.
What ever happened with this ?
I haven't heard anymore after 5 years ago.
This was looong time ago… which now sounds like a fairytale
Where's the father?
There is already a decline in birth rates in UK.
But it seems a lot of peoples solutions are "don't have them" rather than finding and debating a possible reasonable solution.
Even people who are working are finding it difficult to pay excessive bills these days.
So lets just factor in some of your comments "dont have children" lets say couples followed your advice plus the already decline in birth rate. Who in the future is going to pay taxes, pay for your state pensions, infrastructure, economy if we have a huge gap and enormous decline in a generation to come.
Muslims still have them. Government will pay if you moan loud enough.
Terminating a pregnancy because of childcare? Wouldn’t you consider this before pregnancy?
Considering contraception is free in this country. Accountability is not strong here
Yea thats really shocking!! So many people would love to have a child & some people don’t even think about costs beforehand. Shameful!! Contraception is free
Not to mention there is long acting contraception that can stop you from falling pregnant for about 5 years and it's free. There is just no excuse
Terminated because they know the father is not going to be around and do not want to struggle & rely on the government.
This shook me to the core. Much more than the cost of childcare.
Honestly.. its almost like if you dont have a high paying career you cant by default afford this many kids and both work, it would be cheaper for you to have one parent at home for this full time role. Assuming everyone can have everything is the wrong way to look at it. You only need childcare BECAUSE you chose to work. If your relying on the government your already doing it wrong. As this literally proves.
How do you live, get a mortgage pay into a pension on 1 average income?
@@bbuzz1687 With a successful and well planned out career. Our default standard of living is not as easily achievable as we seem to think it's a given right of passage. Let's look back even just a generation or at developing countries and see we are the 1% and it's crazy to think we ever had enough resources to provide this as a given. You need to aim for it and work hard, for years. Not a job, and actual career you can't just walk into. And many, simply don't have the drive to strive that far.
@@TobyCostaDunkin Well yes but is this the future we want where only the highly successful will be able to have children. And before you develop your career you will be way into your thirties and probably too old and tired to have more than one. At this rate we won't be able sustain western society as we know it today. We will be forced to rely more and more on immigrant labour until we die out ourselves.
@@bbuzz1687 If they are paying the extra income to nurseries then it could be cheaper to have a parent at home.
@@denisescally7090 then one person sacrifices pension contributions and career.
I am a full time registered nurse with NHS salary of £1600 per month can't pay my child care.
so why choose to bring kids?
You are doing nothing wrong ❤I’m a single mother of two working 40+ hours a week and just getting by ….keep your head up and prey you will be ok I promise ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊
This is all we can do atm unfortunately. I'm a single parent myself and just keep my head above water doing 60+ hours a week. Its a rubbish situation and its not going to get better any time soon, so you have to soldier on 💪
did you also get impregnated by the third world
Perhaps you are struggling so much because you can't even tell the difference between prey and pray.
@@gtjust8188 your right…I’m considering getting a weekend job as the children are with their dad . Are you in the U.K by any chance ?
@@gtjust8188 clearly you are mad /upset not with making a simple mistake ,but something happening in your own life I will prey for you . ❤️❤️❤️❤️
2 teachers, one child, will need to pay £500+ per month for 2 days wrap around child care, even if there was a place locally; there is not. Not an option 🤷🏼♀️
At least teachers are off for the holidays.
@@denisescally7090I once worked as a teacher for 4 months. You do not want that holiday.
Working for the rat race, you know you're wasting your time!
Britain doesn’t pay
true,The British tax payers pay,Then where the money comes from,No such thing as magic money trees,Wish there was,Not where money comes from
Tax payers are left out -unlike people on benefits they are entitled to free things everything is free
Rent free
Healthcare
Child care
And so on ……
You mean working in Britain doesn't pay. Stay home with your kids at the tax payer's expense. Problem solved🤗
Wow, this is really sad. In The Philippines, childcare is literally for free.
Filipinos have transitioned into a society similar to that of developed Asian countries, both parents work and the grandparents take care of the kids.
Nothing is "free" someone pays for everything!
A lot of grandparents work too here, the retirement age is 67.
Lie
Who looks after the grandparents when they need full-time 24hr care?
@@AtheistEveI’m British, my grandparents took care of me when I was little. Now they need full time medical care and we’re all grown up adults, my parents and us spread the costs and paid her fees which is £2000 a month.
This is very shameful and throwing money at a problem is even worse. There should be a flat payment that should be introduced or a payment based system based on yearly income.
How about where's the father?
your yearly income should have nothing to do with it. If you cant see that then your also part of the problem
I would like to know why childcare has become so expensive? It never used to be! So, what happened?
Why must mothers pay for their child’s place during the holidays when clearly the child will not be attending, ie summer?
Government started contributing , cost escalated. Government paid parents salary businesses stopped paying living wage.
@@cashkitty3472 Britain seems to be running the country like a business, just like the US does!
Because it's all part of the plan. To get back every penny they give you while making you feel that you are 'strong and independent and free from a man's control'. That means you are working for free. A slave.
It's a domino effect from the 2nd wave feminism.
The 2k she spends on childcare a month could be saved and her husband could work and she takes care of her own children like it's meant to be but feminism tells her that's being a slave to a man. She has to work to be considered 'useful'. Ironically, that turns her into a slave for the government and her children suffer mental health issues as well for being away from their nurturers for the majority of their childhood.
Capitalist owners of nurseries and recruitment agencies cream off MOST of ehat the parents pay...maybe?
Follow the money to whose personal bank account it lands in...
The Tories
why is childcare not free for those that are working?
@molkakaminski. Because it will be at the cost of the taxpayer and I as a taxpayer am sick and tired of paying the price for other people's actions.
why should it be?
@ 😂
It's governments who want these women in work and these kids in child care. GDP Is god to these people.
If that's part of their plan then they should be paying for it or making sure wages cover it.
This is poorly thought out social planning.
It is the same dilemma here in the US :(
The childcare system is a big business.
Why cant we mums look after our own kids
Does gov want to be in control of their 'curriculum'? maybe?
By contrast, live-in
Nannies are controlled by the parents....
Women today can't even put together a sandwich. Looking after children would be too much of a difficult task
yer trash and pretty much useless now
Because maybe you f off the father???? Don't you think it would be easier with his help???? But nooooo feminism has told you that you can do it by yourself and you don't need a man. But yet go to the government for support & everyone wonders why our society is the way it is.
because you want expensive cars and holidays
Where's black daddy?🤣🤣
It's not our fault she chose a migrant for a husband.
Hello racist
@@s3cret77 This is her situation. You, and her, can say I'm racist and stay perpetually poor, or wake up and accept the terrible mistake she made. All of us need to ask the fundamental question: if I think I am righteous and I made the right decisions, why am I in the predicament that I am in? It must mean what I thought was right is actually wrong.
How about you stay home with children for longer if you can? Cut on you expenses where you can? And spend more time with your young, growing children! The government encouranges parents to go to work as if its sooo wrong to want to stay longer home with your kids, rather than sending them in a care institution...No one is talking about the parents who dont want thier children in care settings, afterschool clubs and so on....more part time, flexible jobs for the parents
where is the father
Nobody wants to deal with British women but foreigners...wonder why
Where is whose father?
On child maintenance
pfff I thought this was a skit, but apparently not?
Based on the picture on the wall and the fact she stated, "its not the life we would have for our girls", "we work really really hard", "I dont feel that we should be in this position"". i would surmise its an average nuclear family... But that wouldn't fit the narrative though, would it?
If we could afford it, we would have a 3rd. Many of my friends say the same.
We recently asked the nursery that our previous child visited for a place for our second child and they told us the terms had changed and now minimum time was 2 full 10 hour days per week and that would cost us approximately £200.
And to the woman at the beginning, I’m asking the same question. A person in my position with the wage that I’m on should not be in this position. What on earth is happening. I’ve worked hard to get where I am so I can be ripped off by energy companies and being extorted by nurseries and having a whole wage taken away. It simply doesn’t make sense!
Where I live nursery is 2k per month per child. The nursery attached to the state school costs 1.7k per month!
having kids is worth the massive expensive of them
Mum with 3 kids and no husband in sight would be smart if she set up day care from her home. As a Teacher she already has all the skill-set necessary. Lots of funding/support available too. She could charge whatever is the going rate - that's what I did as a lone-parent until my kids were in secondary, then re-trained in a different career. Never paid a penny in childcare, ever. I wish her good luck, raising kids is a hard job!
No husband in sight, I wonder why?
Clue, she's white. The kids aren't.
But you're a go -getter , not a whingy, blame everyone else moaner .
Good idea
How do you know there’s no husband in sight? At 1.17 seconds there is literally a family picture on the wall behind her with her husband. Also she may not want to turn her house into a childminding facility, she teaches secondary school age kids for a start so she clearly prefers teaching older age groups.
I have no sympathy for any woman who has children but still chooses to be a teacher.
Career mums are the worst.
Been there done that. Kids are expensive.
Sweet lady 💕 ❤️
So issue is we have low birth rates and should have more kids but cannot afford to have a kid.
@@andromeda_25 it's just what some people want out of life, to create more. Obviously society just isn't made for big families anymore unless you're well off, and by big, I mean more than 1 child per 2 incomes.
childfree by choice at 48 and debt free 😂
Kids don't get cheaper by reducing their size...
Vasectomy !
Meanwhile billions a year spent on illigal
In Morocco the child care full time is round £70max
Her own children bare no resemblance to her
Lol
Childcare costs us 272euro per month here in Ireland for one child, thats for 40hrs of care per week!
It's due to decrease further in Ireland but we'd consider that pretty affordable.
Where's the father of her three children?
Erm.... I'm gonna take a wild guess that hes in a council flat somewhere having a great time smoking weed and listening to reggae.
Seriously if they were white you would not be asking such a stupid question. At what point in the interview does the conversation point to her being a single parent? On the contrary, everything she said points to the opposite...
pattern recognition is a dangerous thing, isn't it?
@@CheeseToastie-f1x 😂😂😂😂
She constantly says “we” and “our” when talking about providing for her family, and at 0:58 there is a family portrait with a man who looks very much like he could be the girls’ father. She could be recently divorced, or he could just have not wanted to be on TV. If she IS a single mother, it is obviously a recent development (given the ages of the girls in the family portrait) and not something she planned to do.
Old saying, If you can't feed them don't breed them. Self inflicted injury
She should’ve took it up the ar*e instead of having a baby 😂
It's free and good quality in other countries.
Kids cost a fortune
ye but the british gov are happy to let in couples with 4/5 children from middle east
Only if they're spoiled😂
well don't have kids then
Maybe you’re parents thought the same
@@harpsailorharp6716ggmany are not having kids but don't worry we have plenty of illegal immigrants to come in to make up for it, say goodbye to your identity, your traditions and our respect for our ancestors.
What planet are we on!? End a pregnancy because we cant offered to pay someone to look after our own kids?! Is it just me 😶🌫️
I don’t understand why they don’t stay home to raise their children? No one seems to recommend that. I’m extremely puzzled.
Contraception is 99% effective. Not sure why people are ending pregnancies
@@melissacowan9463 you must be extremely dim then love, long gone were the days when the monthly household cashflow could remain in the green on a single income. Take a guess what happens when you remove the second working parent or are faced with the situation that childcare costs are equal to a pay packet
UK is close to a third world country
So don't have kids, spend your money on yourself, leave the people on benefits to have kids at your expense.
That's what has been happening. So we have 5m economically inactive people, a declining birthrate and we are importing workers from halfway across the globe.
@@bbuzz1687well look at your intellectual level mate. No wonder we have to import workers from abroad. Is your sister actually your mom?
@@etiennedelaunois1737 no idea what you are trying to say. Perhaps troll elsewhere. And it's 'mum'!
Christ how did my Mum manage with 3 kids in the 1950’s ??
Family and community was different back then. It has been over 70 years.
People could get away with leaving their kids home alone with the neighbours listening out for them back in those day.
It starts with having a father who does not leave and provides for his family.
@@blitzkreig4887really at 2k a month it's unaffordable for 1 parent. Duh. You think women shouldn't work or just do unskilled work?
@@justdoit.86yearsagospot on
Don't get knocked up x3 then if you can't afford a kid.
dont be such a dickhead^
where is her husband? he's to blame too...
Nasty remark
@@PamelaGreen354 Couldn’t agree more. Unnecessary.
10 years ago people weren’t faced with massive energy bills, mortgages, food bills etc, etc. Child care has always been expensive. Our birth rate is falling for heavens sake. We are soon going to be in trouble:
“The conditions of growth - why our declining birth rate is the most pressing issue our nation faces”
If anything we should be investing and facilitating childcare, helping families with children as part of longterm growth and stabilisation of our economy. The numpties who spout you shouldn’t have children if you can’t afford them demonstrate they have no foresight for the bigger picture and how that impacts us all - pensions, social care… - further down the line.
@@CBEEBLE exactly, Families have struggled for years , a family of twins and the mother went back to work after maternity leave , the parents were paying just under a thousand pounds a month for child care . Government has destroyed . A Right to a Family life ,
A lot of families can adapt by having one parent stay at home to raise their children. It would be much better for the wellbeing and development of the children too.
Other lifestyle choices can be adjusted too in many cases.
Opportunity cost is far to high long term. Better to not have kids honestly.
Where are all the fathers??
If you watch the video, they says things like "childcare is costing us, we've worked really hard, what are we doing wrong etc"
One of my friends left the UK for Sweden when she had kids… I’m starting to understand why.
I lived in Sweden for a couple of years. Child care is excellent with most larger organisations having their own kindys with qualified staff. Not so sure what it’s like though, very high tax , migrant crisis crime rate hitting the roof. But I guess nowhere's perfect.
@@christinefiedor3518yeah because crime rate in the UK is paradise.
If you cannot afford kids just don’t have them
She should’ve took it up the ar*e instead of having a baby 😂
No one can, hence a declining birth rate
Thank you! I mean how do other countries do it? No one is paying for other people's kids. If you can't afford to run or maintain a car or house, don't buy one. Why is this hard for people to understand or apply to children? If I bought a house I couldn't afford to mortgage, why should I except the gvt to help pay that.
@@bbuzz1687 and because we don't want them for other reasons too
Same story up and down the country. This is far worse living standards than when the Tories came to power. Get them out.
Don't be giving my taxes to people who decide to have children but choose not to raise them.
Far better standard's before the country became A migrant camp
How will Labour help? With yet more immigration and empty promises? 😂
My childcare costs were 600 a month 25yrs ago. That was more than half what i was earning back then. So i just had 1 child.
That is unacceptable. Crazy.
3 kids with no father , makes sense
He's on the wall pictures in the middle 0:59
If you watch the video, she says things like "childcare is costing us, we've worked really hard, what are we doing wrong etc" and the programme commentator says parents like these.
So sorry you have nt got any support around you xxx
you have kids you pay for them -stop smoking, drinking, expensive phones , cars etc
Yeah modern slavery. It shouldn't be expensive to have children, they are our future, the countries future oh hang on wait we have illegal immigrants to replace that, say goodbye to your identity, traditions, values and our respect for our ancestors.
Absolutely spot on 👏.
Younger millennials and older Gen Z are pathetic.
This has never change in years you want to work but your not better off if you do why is it still like that?.
I work I do mots for a living so I make sure our vehicles are safe for the road and prevent deaths, I can say your right it's not worth it and you are better off getting help from the local council instead.
Why do nurseries choose how the 30 hrs free hours dictated that’s what is unfair!
😂😂😂 Why not show as well how much money in the billions of pounds is given to Taxpayers citizens and to non tax paying foreign countries as foreign aid .
No wonder many people avoid having children . Very sad 😞
No one believes you actually care about 'helping our own' outside of crying about refugees and foreign aid. As soon as 'our own' do get slightest bit of help you suddenly start complaining about 'scroungers'. Stop lying and just admit you don't think anyone who needs help deserves it. No one is actually dumb enough to think there's any connection between the amount of poverty here and foreign aid elsewhere, so stop pretending to believe it.
Foreign aid is given as a bribe to get what we want you do know that. US gives over 3 billion per year for isreal to maintain its apartheid isreal is one of the richest countries in the world it does not need the money but its US was of getting side advantages which it does same for us.
Foreign 'aid' to further our goals abroad? How much did bombing Iraq cost?
Men avoid having children because of feminism and the mindset of these women. Nothing you said is part of the issue. The issue is women having children with no father. And in most cases, they push them away and go to the government & portray to other women that they can do it by themselves.
This is so sad to see
In Australia we pay $750 per week net. Not discounts or subsidies. The system is a wrought, we pay hightaxes and get nothing out of it.
Procreation is the privilege of the wealthy.
all being done by design. Agen da 2030, own nothing and be happy apparently. Rely on the state to control you.
Excuse me, what??? It mentions that HALF of mothers who had an abortion the primary reason was because of childcare costs?? Thats outrages ! How about thinking about these cost before getting pregnant!! Unbelievable😢 abortion is not a contraception!! Wth
But Elon Musk demands more kids while laying off thousands. Makes perfect sense.
Some people may not like this i am a stay home mom and I live on child support and child care allowance. I don't plan on working until my children start school. My inhertance paid for my house. It woukd be a lot more expensive if i had to pay daycare right now. To me i am making the right choice.
how do you pay for your old age pension not working
Toll paid
Why have so many kids if you cant afford them? If you can only afford one, only have one.
Full-time working Children's carers have to go to foodbanks...
Their workplace should provide childcare onsite?
The inflationary effects of the war in Ukraine are creating far more financial problems for both the working and middle classes - but that inconvenient truth continues to fall under your journalistic radar
Go away kremlin troll.
This has been a problem for years and has nothing to do with "UkRaInE"
By some chance, haven’t Brexit and covid contributed to the situation?
What is the point of children if you are not going to care for them yourself? That is what mothers are for. Careers and motherhood don't mix together properly at the same time. You cannot do both properly.. being a sahm is not just about being a mother it is caring for the ailing and frail members of the extended family . There is mothers instinct and intuition which childcare has not got. Mother and fathers are not interchangeable except in emergencies. They have different roles and that is why men are more suited to be breadwinners and mothers to be breadmakers. I taught my children as much as I could before school and socialized with like minded families. I also taught them how I cared for each subsequent child so they would learn about childcare and put into fruition when they become parents in the future. Mothers and child should bond and childcare makes that difficult.iif you work maternity, leave is a joke because it's not long enough even to feed a baby as nature intended for as long as nature intended. If you feed otherwise you have still got the nighfeedsto be met for a child and they should nt be cheated out of them. So why put children in expensive childcare when you can do it yourself? It is only going to pay taxes to bullying governments who do not care about family life.
I disagree. Not all women bond with their children. Often, men can be better at providing care. It would make sense to have our economy set up so that every person can afford basic needs and savings on one wage, with all jobs based on part-time hours, so that both parents get the same opportunities to care as well as earn.
@AtheistEve how about a reality check
Both parents need to work to pay their bills
@@mingmingyip19 The reality is that our care burden as a whole is too much for individuals to bear alone. Not just in costs but also in time, energy and ability. If we want a working society, we have to work as a team. Eventually, we will have to share the right to work for pay as well as the responsibility for care. There are a lot of people who are in unpaid work who need respite.
@AtheistEve we don't want a working society!! Every man women and child slaving their guts off, no thanks. If, as a women you want to work then fine, take a job that pays enough for child care. I'm not paying for other people to look after your children because you prefer it..don't have children then. Simples.
Tough.
Did these people think about costs before having kids? How about having a break from work and raising them yourself for a few years no childcare?
Because housing costs have rocketed whilst wages have not kept pace within the same timeframe, which is decades.
Please apply critical thinking.
This is why the birthrate is dropping around the world.
Yeah, they're broke, but they all have the latest iPhone and fashion accessories🤫
Iphone and accessories are so much more cheaper then childcare costs
@@tayibahussain You are one of them! 😆
Where did you see that in the video? Haven’t seen a single iPhone or the latest “fashion accessories“ 😂
Besides if you want a new phone and to pay £25-£30 a month versus having the money to buy handset out right, as presumably none of these families do, sometimes it’s more cost-effective especially if it’s used for work. Regardless it’s completely incomparable to two grand a month for childcare.
We get it. You won’t be happy until British living standards have decreased so much that working class Brits have the same living standards as their counterparts in developing nations. You don’t need to advertise your snobby, anti-working class elitism.
@@MrFrog_ I dont have kids your idiot lol Just empathy for parents which are willing to work and children who suffer at the end of the day. You have no scoopy as to how the average person lives
a parents keep saying to childfree people, having kids are a blessing, and selfish not to have them and god will provide....I love being childfree and freeeeeeeee
'Adults' are irresponsible these days. You won't see a single one of them without a pricey phone, peroxide hair, oversized car and eating/drinking out.
It's not the childcare causing the financial problems.
Thanks to rishi sunak 😢 and government taxs unfortunately we can’t do anything about it.
Surley people must Know how much a child care costs Before they have kids. 🤦♀️
Disadvantage children will not be able to go to nursery . This will have a negative impact on there early years . Children will have so many issues. Shame on you Tories government 😢😢
Try looking up the average IQ of the demographic that impregnated her lol education has no effect on them they simply are not capable of it
And Labour: they opened the floodgates in their first place.
I waited to have children until I made 100k+. Best decision ever and had my baby at 36 yrs old. I definitely see young parents giving me the look but I worked so hard to be where I am and I know my value and worth.
So glad I don't have kids and don't live in the UK anymore
Having kids is amazing
I'm glad you don't have kids and don't live here too. Bye bye.
She should’ve took it up the ar*e instead of having a baby 😂
And good we don’t want you
Not for me, each to their own
i have just bought a Ferrari but am struggling with repayments can anyone help?
What is being asked here? Absolutely no ownership of your situation. Factoring abortion over money? don't......get......pregnant then! This is your responsibility.
Something people don't take nowadays, responsibility. It's blame everyone else for your own downfall.
can't get pregnant alone...
Too few people are having children and we are looking at a future where working aged adults are outnumbered by retirees. You need to see the bigger picture
@@justdoit.86yearsago I'm going to be the next generation of pensioners and guess what? , I've taken some responsibility and saved for it .
Contraception can fail. If you had *ex you'd understand
The father is absent you see, the family needs a full time breadwinner.
a friend said is best that "England IS a 3rd world country catfishing like its a first world." unfortunately having children is luxury . bless this mum's heart
Well dont over mortgage, dont get into huge debt and look after your own bairns Simple
She can have three kids, but not stand by the man or men who she made them with. No pity for single mothers.
Removing body parts ? Child care ?? Ask for forgiveness. ..
Is staying home with your children an option?
Not everyone can afford that option?
Childcare cannot subsidise 'professionals'...
Mother in the video with 3 girls could take 2 children in her home and teach and care for them at home, hers also. She could make money while at home with her kids as well.
This is just one situation the government have 0 answer to... 6.5K is nothing when the annual bill is 24K, still leaves you with about 1,450pm in costs. I've done without many things in life as times get harder and harder, one by one cutting back and knocking off any sense of enjoyment in life off the list. Those applying the shrinkflation mentality on this aspect of life need to get theyre head screwed as simply saying don't have kids is not a suitable compromise.
So I am from the US and I’m confused why I keep getting UK news
but is child care only a policy in the uk???
Where is her husband? Ran away
Like a typical Black father!
WHERE IS THE FATHER???? WHY DOESN'T ANY ASK THESE QUESTIONS!!! IT'S LIKE NO ONE CARES ABOUT FATHERS. This society makes me sick!!
Be careful with contraception then
You probably one of those people who complaint about rising immigrantion when there is no financial incentive to have children.
If you actually watched the clip you would have known that they interview mothers in stable relationships who have ABORTIONS because they know their family can’t afford another child. Not good for birth rates, now is it?
She should’ve took it up the ar*e instead of having a baby 😂
@@Andy-qe6kkthen people shouldn't be having children to compete with immigrant population. I wouldn't buy a car or house just because an immigrant family had one or more than one. This is self inflicted and no other country gives people money for free. If you can't feed them, don't agree them
People need to stop having kids if they can't afford them.... its really not rocket science !!
Font put your kids in child I refuse it don't trust in first place. With fact cost way to much let other people look after ya kids. Not happening