I can’t believe this channel doesn’t have millions of subscribers. This guy has helped me more than any other professional who tried to help me in the past…
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I'm glad you have found the videos helpful. The channel is growing and you can help by sharing the videos with people you know who might find them helpful.
Reminds me of my old warehouse job when I would have to move a TON of heavy boxes, I had to change my mentality, instead of being intimidated by the 100s of boxes I had to move, I focused on one box at a time, "I just have to move this one box."
Very helpful, thank you. Trying to tackle too much at once can be so overwhelming. And then beating yourself up mentally when you fail... Setting small manageable goals is a more realistic approach.
I've just written down my problem list, and it turns out that having infinite problems was just an illusion. They are indeed finite! Thank you, Dr. Nader.
The feeling of overwhelm is a huge part of ADHD. Failing to do things due to this overwhelm leads to depression. This combination of ADHD + depression results in every task becoming a gigantic obstacle. Doing the laundry is delayed for days and days. Taking a shower, buying groceries, getting gas.......all of these things that are second nature to normal people become huge sources of overwhelm and ultimately failure to depressives. Add anhedonia and avolition, and the person can't and won't do anything to help themselves. It's hopeless, and it's never going to get better.
Thank you Dr. Nader it seems it’s going to take effort and time to get unstuck from depression. Glad you gave guidance and steps that would help get unstuck.
Hi Becca - it can take a little bit of time to get unstuck, but once a person starts getting some positive momentum, things do get easier and the pace of improvement increases. The first key step is just getting unstuck.
Hello Dr. Nader... I've been dealing with depression since November last year, my girlfriend got pregnant and it really shocked us for a while, had to change country to move in with her and start new work and i find it really hard to the point where i have some very dark thoughts about myself. The truth is I never opened up about this to anyone because i always thought its a phase and it all going to be fine and I'm so happy that because today i finally found strength in me to go to my doctor and share her all of my feelings and fears and i got diagnosed with depression, idk why it sounds crazy but im happy that i know where all of my problems are coming from, because no matter what i tried didn't work. I've watched so many videos of you in the last couple of hours and I find it really inspiring to be a better person for me and my family. Thank you for doing what you're doing!
Just to let you know, that although I have not come out of my depression...yet..., you are giving me real hope that I can and I will get there. I feel you put it out there speaking to a camera, and although you know that what you are saying is helpful, you deserve to hear from the people who are actually watching and learning...and hopefully implementing. I look forward to getting back and reporting successes. At first perhaps minor, but eventually major.
Wow. You the only person on the internet that breaks it down this way. Not even my phycologist makes it simple as you do. Thank you for these detailed videos. Your channel is so underrated.
thank you for sharing the tips, Dr Nader. the hopelessnes of depression sometimes seems so unbearable, it is wonderful to hear that getting 'unstuck' can begin so gently. I decided to start with a 15-30min yoga every day to boost my productivity levels and stay in shape, it is hard to believe in myself that I can do it, but having a goal helps me a lot!
Just found out your channel and I love it. Thank you so much! You're explaining everything very calm and logical. It's awesome to have practical tips. Depression can feel so overwheming. Feeling like a failure and stuck in doing nothing. You seem like you fully understand the stuggle. What I find most difficult in my 'lower' days is feeling alone in my emotions. Like when my partner says: " why are you so down? There's nothing wrong, you've a good life." Sometimes I just don't feel joy anymore. Without a logical reason or trigger. It's hard to feel connection with anyone in those moments. Do you have tips for that?
Hi Sabine - glad you found the channel and glad you have found some of the videos helpful. I am going to be posting more videos covering the points that you raise in future videos. In the meantime, if you haven't already, you may want to take a look at some of the other videos I've posted about managing depression: Understanding and Overcoming Depression: th-cam.com/play/PLG_XiSJeP3s1xOWOVHDMBPWjZImyu8M8d.html. Hope that helps.
My advice for those moment would be to notice the thoughts that come up when you are not feeling connection with others. I'd then work on acceptance and learning that it's okay to have those moments. There's nothing wrong with having down days, days where you don't feel as much connection but the problem is n fact what you tell yourself when this happens. So might be worth working on your self talk when this does happen
Validation is important when sharing feelings. It is not agreeing with the feeling or statement but acknowledging it, not discounting it. Creates a connection, through being heard and understanding with empathy.
These videos are life saving when it comes to dealing with depression. I still get more from these.than any counseling I've done in 15 plus yrs. I was losing hope that counseling made any difference in people's lives. Thks Dr. Nader. I wish you were here in Tennessee
Thank you Dr. I have only one problem and trying to live with it. I have to. I dont feel i have a choice. As i was told make peace with the hand that life dealt you. 😢
Great content as always. In addition, it's really nice that you engage with the comments of your viewers (as you did with my comments on the videos about worrying last year :)).
Thank you for your kind words. My view is that if people are going to take the time to comment, I should take the time to answer whatever questions I can. As the channel continues to grow, there may come a point that I can't respond to every comment, but until then, I will respond as much as I can. Thanks for supporting the channel.
Thank you so much. I have been battling depression and find it hard to do anything. This has helped so much. I say I will exercise for only 15 minutes but many times it will be an hour, sometimes it will be 15 minutes but at least I’m doing it
my number 1 tip is to set alarm early, get up, stay up, maybe go outside early too, then that night, go to bed very early, like 8 pm, then get up at 6:30am everyday, this just transfers night dwellers time better. basically, you need more sleep, earlier.
Hi, than you so much for these very helpful videos ! How do you do step 3 that when your problems are all connected / entertwined and all contribute to one another ? Thank you !
Thank you Dr. Rami Nader. My only problem is loss of libido due to depression, and this makes me spiraling towards depression again. How can i overcome this?
First up: thanks so much for all the amazing videos, for giving people hope and tools to move past whatever might be interfering with their lives :) How would you do this process for more complex and abstract problems than the example of gaining weight (e.g. negative thought patterns as part of social anxiety or depression)? I'm kind of struggling applying the concept to these types of problems and finding solutions meeting the four criteria. Hoping for some insight - all the best to you! :)
For the negative thought patterns, it would be better to focus on cognitive therapy techniques, such as thought awareness and thought challenging. I have a number of videos about those topics on my TH-cam channel, so just let me know if you have trouble finding them.
Been watching videos today on depression, and I liked yours the best. I just wrote down my problems I’m struggling with, think most are connected with each other, and are probably similar with other people. I’m beginning with my lack of energy. Which is connected to 1) lack of sleep connected to 2)drinking caffeine all day connected to 3)boredom and stress at work connected to 4) eating junk food connected to 5) being overweight connected to 6) pains and stiffness in my body connected to 7) lack of interest in most things I used to have fun doing connected to 8) lack of interest presently and the future So I’m in the parking lot of the gym trying to get enough energy to go inside. Gonna drink a Mountain Dew to get me there, see what I said? 😂😂
What if I don't have the energy or the desire to follow these steps... I feel like I gave in to the negative thoughts and I can't help going down into my depression spiral
I’ll tell you what the problems are; Divorce at 43 after 9 years of happiness Huge savings burnt on the settlement Self isolation and all its effects Mental stress = brain chaos Social anxiety / physical stress/ it’s a bitch. But sometimes we don’t have the foresight to see that everything happens for a reason.
I have to say that I find it problematic that modern therapy always looks at depression as an individual problem that the depressed individual then has to fix (as if that would be possible). I'm not saying that depressed people are without power but most reasons I am depressed are because of the current state of the world around me.
Hi Hingle - you are absolutely right that external forces can have a huge impact on an individual's depression. However, in psychological therapy, we can't change the world; we can only change how a person responds and adapts to it. I hope that makes sense.
@@DrRamiNader Fair enough, I am currently in therapy and its helping a bit, but I think therapists need to aknowledge that sometimes (actually a lot of the time) there are greater forces at play that one can not change. Of course I can go running everyday, meditate and eat healthy but that will not help change climatechange or a pending war in ukraine for example. And I think therapists often (without bad intent) put all the pressure on the patient by making it a personal problem rather than a philosophical one. I think the world today is just not a good place for people that are very sensible. Too much capitalism. Too much pressure to always perform. Thank you for your reply btw, I still enjoy your videos very much :)
@@hinglemccringleberry5431 I agree with you that external factors can play a huge role in a person's psychological and emotional difficulties. And I often explain this to my clients, pointing out their their emotional reactions are not always pathological, but reasonable reactions to a pathological situation. Then the focus becomes more on coping and reducing the suffering the person is experiencing in the situation, rather than pathologizing the emotions.
@@hinglemccringleberry5431 you are normal to be depressed and people who aren’t depressed at all are the weird ones I think. I used to run into the same problems in therapy. I wish therapists were required to study existentialism or philosophy in general. I think the CBT model puts therapists in a mode of convincing the client that their thinking is wrong, even when it’s not. I think therapy can still be helpful though. And I’ve been finding this guy’s TH-cam channel to be really helpful. Please let me know if you find strategies that help you because I have a similar reaction to the world. Thanks.
I can’t believe this channel doesn’t have millions of subscribers. This guy has helped me more than any other professional who tried to help me in the past…
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I'm glad you have found the videos helpful. The channel is growing and you can help by sharing the videos with people you know who might find them helpful.
I def agree
No kidding
I completely agree
Thank you so much! I have had many depressive episodes during my life and now I am depressed again. This will help me get ahead, even a little.
I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better.
Reminds me of my old warehouse job when I would have to move a TON of heavy boxes, I had to change my mentality, instead of being intimidated by the 100s of boxes I had to move, I focused on one box at a time, "I just have to move this one box."
Exactly! Great analogy.
Very helpful, thank you. Trying to tackle too much at once can be so overwhelming. And then beating yourself up mentally when you fail... Setting small manageable goals is a
more realistic approach.
Hi Chrissy - you're welcome! I'm glad you found the video helpful :)
"your problems dont go on forever"... very comforting, theres light at the end of the tunnel, thank you dr
Glad you found it helpful. I wish you all the best.
I've just written down my problem list, and it turns out that having infinite problems was just an illusion. They are indeed finite! Thank you, Dr. Nader.
You're very welcome. Glad it was helpful!
The feeling of overwhelm is a huge part of ADHD. Failing to do things due to this overwhelm leads to depression. This combination of ADHD + depression results in every task becoming a gigantic obstacle. Doing the laundry is delayed for days and days. Taking a shower, buying groceries, getting gas.......all of these things that are second nature to normal people become huge sources of overwhelm and ultimately failure to depressives. Add anhedonia and avolition, and the person can't and won't do anything to help themselves. It's hopeless, and it's never going to get better.
All this is definitely true.
Thank you Dr. Nader it seems it’s going to take effort and time to get unstuck from depression. Glad you gave guidance and steps that would help get unstuck.
Hi Becca - it can take a little bit of time to get unstuck, but once a person starts getting some positive momentum, things do get easier and the pace of improvement increases. The first key step is just getting unstuck.
Hello Dr. Nader... I've been dealing with depression since November last year, my girlfriend got pregnant and it really shocked us for a while, had to change country to move in with her and start new work and i find it really hard to the point where i have some very dark thoughts about myself. The truth is I never opened up about this to anyone because i always thought its a phase and it all going to be fine and I'm so happy that because today i finally found strength in me to go to my doctor and share her all of my feelings and fears and i got diagnosed with depression, idk why it sounds crazy but im happy that i know where all of my problems are coming from, because no matter what i tried didn't work. I've watched so many videos of you in the last couple of hours and I find it really inspiring to be a better person for me and my family. Thank you for doing what you're doing!
Thank you for sharing your experiences and your kind and encouraging words. I wish you the best in your efforts to feel better.
Just to let you know, that although I have not come out of my depression...yet..., you are giving me real hope that I can and I will get there. I feel you put it out there speaking to a camera, and although you know that what you are saying is helpful, you deserve to hear from the people who are actually watching and learning...and hopefully implementing. I look forward to getting back and reporting successes. At first perhaps minor, but eventually major.
I'm glad you have found the videos a source of hope. I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better and hope to hear how things are going!
I so glad that you decided to give away you valuable time to help people get their act together
Thank you for your kind words. No one owns this information, so it should be readily available to everyone.
Wow. You the only person on the internet that breaks it down this way. Not even my phycologist makes it simple as you do. Thank you for these detailed videos. Your channel is so underrated.
Thank you for your kind words. Glad you found the video helpful!
I made a mind map as I listened and I'm going to think of some achievable goals that I can set and start this process for myself. Thank you!
thank you for sharing the tips, Dr Nader. the hopelessnes of depression sometimes seems so unbearable, it is wonderful to hear that getting 'unstuck' can begin so gently. I decided to start with a 15-30min yoga every day to boost my productivity levels and stay in shape, it is hard to believe in myself that I can do it, but having a goal helps me a lot!
Hi Jess, best of luck in your efforts to feel better!
Thank you for your advice and your calm way of speaking.
You're welcome. Thanks for supporting the channel!
Just found out your channel and I love it. Thank you so much! You're explaining everything very calm and logical. It's awesome to have practical tips. Depression can feel so overwheming. Feeling like a failure and stuck in doing nothing. You seem like you fully understand the stuggle.
What I find most difficult in my 'lower' days is feeling alone in my emotions. Like when my partner says: " why are you so down? There's nothing wrong, you've a good life."
Sometimes I just don't feel joy anymore. Without a logical reason or trigger. It's hard to feel connection with anyone in those moments. Do you have tips for that?
Hi Sabine - glad you found the channel and glad you have found some of the videos helpful. I am going to be posting more videos covering the points that you raise in future videos. In the meantime, if you haven't already, you may want to take a look at some of the other videos I've posted about managing depression: Understanding and Overcoming Depression: th-cam.com/play/PLG_XiSJeP3s1xOWOVHDMBPWjZImyu8M8d.html. Hope that helps.
My advice for those moment would be to notice the thoughts that come up when you are not feeling connection with others. I'd then work on acceptance and learning that it's okay to have those moments. There's nothing wrong with having down days, days where you don't feel as much connection but the problem is n fact what you tell yourself when this happens. So might be worth working on your self talk when this does happen
Validation is important when sharing feelings. It is not agreeing with the feeling or statement but acknowledging it, not discounting it. Creates a connection, through being heard and understanding with empathy.
excellent video. thank you.
You're very welcome. Glad it was helpful.
These videos are life saving when it comes to dealing with depression. I still get more from these.than any counseling I've done in 15 plus yrs. I was losing hope that counseling made any difference in people's lives. Thks Dr. Nader. I wish you were here in Tennessee
Thank you for your kind words and your support of the channel. I'm glad you are finding the videos so helpful.
Thank you Dr.
I have only one problem and trying to live with it. I have to. I dont feel i have a choice. As i was told make peace with the hand that life dealt you. 😢
I loved this so much. Being stuck is such an intelligent way to describe the problem.
Glad you found it helpful!
Great content as always. In addition, it's really nice that you engage with the comments of your viewers (as you did with my comments on the videos about worrying last year :)).
Thank you for your kind words. My view is that if people are going to take the time to comment, I should take the time to answer whatever questions I can. As the channel continues to grow, there may come a point that I can't respond to every comment, but until then, I will respond as much as I can. Thanks for supporting the channel.
Thank You, Dr Nader. for sharing the ideas and inspirations.
You're welcome. Glad you found the video helpful.
Great video, very much helpful, already watched it twice
Hi Negan - glad you found the video helpful. Thanks for supporting the channel!
I think I’ll be referring back to this one a lot.
Very helpful information. Action precedes motivation. 😊
It's counterintuitive, but it's true. Glad you found the video helpful!
Thank you so much. I have been battling depression and find it hard to do anything. This has helped so much. I say I will exercise for only 15 minutes but many times it will be an hour, sometimes it will be 15 minutes but at least I’m doing it
So glad to hear that. I wish you all the best in your efforts to feel better!
Appreciate your insight!
You're welcome! Thanks for supporting the channel :)
Very useful content and nicely explained. Thanks a lot and keep going 👍👍👍
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words.
my number 1 tip is to set alarm early, get up, stay up, maybe go outside early too, then that night, go to bed very early, like 8 pm, then get up at 6:30am everyday, this just transfers night dwellers time better. basically, you need more sleep, earlier.
6:30am is early for you? 😂
@@stevenp25100 im actually working a job now, alarm goes off at 6am, but im always awake at like 4am, its hell
Thanks a lot, very helpful
Thank you for your guidance.👍
You're very welcome!
Good helpful advice Thank you
Hi, than you so much for these very helpful videos ! How do you do step 3 that when your problems are all connected / entertwined and all contribute to one another ? Thank you !
The key is to break down problems into bits and pieces that can be done, even if the larger problems are interconnected.
Thank you Dr. Rami Nader. My only problem is loss of libido due to depression, and this makes me spiraling towards depression again.
How can i overcome this?
Typically, libido improves as depression starts to get better and a person feels more active and motivated.
Thank you
Really helpful
You're welcome! Glad it helped.
This is very helpful
Glad you found it useful.
I wish Dr Nader read audiobooks, I'd listen to them all 😂
Thank you for your kind words.
I agree
So what do you do when your anxiety and worry are about things outside your control?
Hi Lloyd - you should check out these videos:
th-cam.com/video/n2u3jpGl81Q/w-d-xo.html
th-cam.com/video/mkYxVWlwuk0/w-d-xo.html
That's me too!
First up: thanks so much for all the amazing videos, for giving people hope and tools to move past whatever might be interfering with their lives :)
How would you do this process for more complex and abstract problems than the example of gaining weight (e.g. negative thought patterns as part of social anxiety or depression)? I'm kind of struggling applying the concept to these types of problems and finding solutions meeting the four criteria. Hoping for some insight - all the best to you! :)
For the negative thought patterns, it would be better to focus on cognitive therapy techniques, such as thought awareness and thought challenging. I have a number of videos about those topics on my TH-cam channel, so just let me know if you have trouble finding them.
So helpful
👍
Been watching videos today on depression, and I liked yours the best. I just wrote down my problems I’m struggling with, think most are connected with each other, and are probably similar with other people. I’m beginning with my lack of energy. Which is connected to 1) lack of sleep connected to 2)drinking caffeine all day connected to 3)boredom and stress at work connected to 4) eating junk food connected to 5) being overweight connected to 6) pains and stiffness in my body connected to 7) lack of interest in most things I used to have fun doing connected to 8) lack of interest presently and the future So I’m in the parking lot of the gym trying to get enough energy to go inside. Gonna drink a Mountain Dew to get me there, see what I said? 😂😂
Hi Mike - best of luck! I hope you're able to make it into the gym today. Little steps to get unstuck. That's the key.
Hopefully you'll swap that mountain dew for something better like a yogurt drink or smoothie mix that will give you some real food energy.
What if I don't have the energy or the desire to follow these steps... I feel like I gave in to the negative thoughts and I can't help going down into my depression spiral
The idea is to set even smaller goals until a person is able to complete the goals they set.
Finally i left antidepressant and doing fine just because of you Dr❤
That is so great to hear that you are doing better! I wish you all the best in your continued efforts to maintain your improvement.
That all makes no difference when Anhedonia...
I’ll tell you what the problems are;
Divorce at 43 after 9 years of happiness
Huge savings burnt on the settlement
Self isolation and all its effects
Mental stress = brain chaos
Social anxiety / physical stress/ it’s a bitch. But sometimes we don’t have the foresight to see that everything happens for a reason.
Thank you so much for this, Doc! I am not struggling with depression but I have felt pretty stuck in my life lately. You’ve helped 🫶🏻
I have to say that I find it problematic that modern therapy always looks at depression as an individual problem that the depressed individual then has to fix (as if that would be possible). I'm not saying that depressed people are without power but most reasons I am depressed are because of the current state of the world around me.
Hi Hingle - you are absolutely right that external forces can have a huge impact on an individual's depression. However, in psychological therapy, we can't change the world; we can only change how a person responds and adapts to it. I hope that makes sense.
@@DrRamiNader Fair enough, I am currently in therapy and its helping a bit, but I think therapists need to aknowledge that sometimes (actually a lot of the time) there are greater forces at play that one can not change. Of course I can go running everyday, meditate and eat healthy but that will not help change climatechange or a pending war in ukraine for example. And I think therapists often (without bad intent) put all the pressure on the patient by making it a personal problem rather than a philosophical one. I think the world today is just not a good place for people that are very sensible. Too much capitalism. Too much pressure to always perform. Thank you for your reply btw, I still enjoy your videos very much :)
@@hinglemccringleberry5431 I agree with you that external factors can play a huge role in a person's psychological and emotional difficulties. And I often explain this to my clients, pointing out their their emotional reactions are not always pathological, but reasonable reactions to a pathological situation. Then the focus becomes more on coping and reducing the suffering the person is experiencing in the situation, rather than pathologizing the emotions.
@@hinglemccringleberry5431 100% This is where radical acceptance comes into play, the only way.
@@hinglemccringleberry5431 you are normal to be depressed and people who aren’t depressed at all are the weird ones I think. I used to run into the same problems in therapy. I wish therapists were required to study existentialism or philosophy in general. I think the CBT model puts therapists in a mode of convincing the client that their thinking is wrong, even when it’s not. I think therapy can still be helpful though. And I’ve been finding this guy’s TH-cam channel to be really helpful. Please let me know if you find strategies that help you because I have a similar reaction to the world. Thanks.
If you have a child with mental health problems your problems will never go away. I can’t see the end it certainly causes depression.
Great regards from dr Heera Lal dayma MBBS dausa raj 👍🙏👍🙏👍🙏👍🙏👍❤
Lol .. when I get a little less depressed I will do this ..
Best of luck in your efforts to feel better.
Gut health and inflammation can cause depression.
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I’m so glad I found you 🥲❤️
That's a very nice thing for you to say. I'm glad you are finding the videos helpful.
Very helpful to overcome the difficulties.
Thanks 🙏
I need to talk to you for advice
Thanks.