Glad you found it helpful. I'm going to be posting a number of videos on challenging and changing these types of thoughts, so please keep an eye out for those.
Sometimes its clear that a person is pitying you and its not easy not to think about it esp when you meet a lot of selfish people and you are an empath and have anxiety and panic disorder. Its exactly how it makes me feel that no one likes me that i.ll be forever alone etc as you said
I usually assume that people don’t like me. Well, used to…I’m working on this. If a boss, colleague or professor didn’t email me back-I would assume that they didn’t like me and would spiral down. It’s silly looking back- but the feeling of sadness is strong. Doing things that make you happy, taking care of oneself- getting to know oneself helps to block the negative self-talk. Just have to love yourself ❤. Great video 👍 just found this channel 🙏
This makes sense although I sometimes have a hard time even getting out of bed. I’m grateful that I woke up it’s just I feel like 1,000lb weights are tied on me.
Yes, these patterns of thinking become habituated! They become almost a safe space, oddly enough. It takes some work to break that reflexive pattern. My wife and I were discussing the state of our business' supply situation one night and in short order I had a nuclear war scenario as the end result. To which she wisely said something like "I'll take a meteor strike thank you". Integrating actions with thought patterns helps me make changes in those thoughts. Doing a good thing for someone or doing an enjoyable activity can bring the thoughts along and vice versa. Simply having a phone call with a friend this morning lifted the mood.
You're absolutely right that these thinking patterns become habitual and, often, we are not even aware that we are doing them. That's why cognitive awareness is such an important first step.
Thank you, for your very eye-opening commentary. Negative thinking definitely plays a part in maintaining depression. I know their are exceptions, but overthinking is usually the main cause. I'm really looking forward to more of these empowering videos.😊
Yes, my thinking takes my mood ee n lower. Thinking about the future always in fear and negative terms. I wish I was overly positive and always believing things were going to turn out great
Dr. Nadar I love how you explained this! I love your videos and how you use examples. Negative thinking is a big big problem with my depression. Thank you.
Hi Becca - glad you found the video helpful. Have you had a chance to watch the other videos on thought awareness and thought challenging in depression that I have uploaded? If not, you might want to take a look at them as well.
@@DrRamiNader Yes I have thank you! I have been struggling with depression for quite some time and yesterday was the day that part of me said I need guidance and techniques on how to handle this because my antidepressants aren’t going to make it all go away. Finding your videos was a life saver. I’m going to look at all your videos in order and write down notes and I will definitely reach out to you for any questions. By the way will you ever host a live Zoom therapy session? If you do please let me know that would be awesome! I love how use examples on your videos to better understand what your trying explain. Thank you once again.
@@beccadelaney6375 I find that the examples really help people understand and remember the concepts and tools that I'm talking about. I don't do any Zoom therapy sessions, as I am only licensed to practice in BC, Canada, so I can't provide psychological treatment to anyone not currently living in BC.
This video is a lightbulb 💡💡 moment for me, it makes so much sense, allowing my negative thoughts to spiral out of control leads to sadness/depression, I’m going to try and nip the negative thoughts immediately and replace it with practical positive thoughts even though I mightn’t be feeling positive and hopefully in time rewire my brain. Thank you 😍
Hi Rose - I'm glad you found the video useful. If you are interested in learning more about cognitive therapy and changing thinking patterns, I'd encourage you to check out some of my other videos on this topic, which can be found here: Rewire Your Brain: Cognitive Therapy Techniques: th-cam.com/play/PLG_XiSJeP3s1NZR-doEUg3f2HqfVHmmFA.html
Another stellar video - this should be in school curriculum for all the other Jimmy-related stories 👏 sooo true! Cuz it's not about him...love the way you make stuff like this sound almost laughable, it makes so much sense
If you want some videos on tools to manage depression, you should check out some of my other videos in this playlist: Understanding and Overcoming Depression: th-cam.com/play/PLG_XiSJeP3s1xOWOVHDMBPWjZImyu8M8d.html Depression can contribute to people being more emotionally sensitive, but it could also be the case that people who are more emotionally sensitive are more prone to experiencing depression.
I'm watching lots of videos on YT everyday and I'm surprised to find a youtuber who actually explains this "spiral down depression" so well... great job! However, I have this question for you: Don't you think that if you make a shorter version of this video you'd probably get more views? I repeat, I really liked how peacefully you explained it but as a TH-cam consumer, I think most audience is not as patient as me. What do you think?
Hi Agustin - thank you for your feedback and I'm glad you found the video helpful. I'm not sure that if I made the videos shorter they would get more views. In reality, I make the videos as long as they need to be to explain the psychological concepts. I find that for too many videos on TH-cam, they fall into the "5 simple steps trap" and psychological phenomenon are more complex than that. I want the videos to be how I explain and describe these phenomena to my clients in session and if that means fewer views, that's ok, because I'm not doing this just to get views. I think there's a thirst for more nuanced and detailed content and for people who are looking for that, they (hopefully) will find my videos helpful. The interesting thing is that my most viewed video with over 719 thousand views is over 55 minutes long! So it just may take longer for people to find my videos, but I hope it will be worth it for them when they do :)
@@DrRamiNader thank you for your response! It's true there're lots of "tips videos" on the internet and I truly encourage you to keep doing it your way. In fact, your speach got me to the end because I felt it was more natural or something like that, than other youtubers :) I just wanted to ask you what did you think to try to help if I could somehow. By the way, it was interesting to see your point and if someday I create any content, I'll take it into account for sure! Hope to watch more of your videos, bye!
What if Jimmy doesn't like you and got a better offer ? Which is possible because you are not the best person to hang out with since you are depressed. That could be true. People need to be around positivity and people that make them feel good. What would stop the negative thought and the sad feeling which would be a normal human reaction ?
In that case, it would probably make sense to be upset because Jimmy doesn't like me. However, just because Jimmy doesn't like me, that doesn't mean that everyone doesn't like me or that I am unlovable. So a person can have feelings of sadness, but they don't need to spiral downwards.
@@DrRamiNader Thank you for the response. I appreciate your willingness to help people with your videos. I have chronic depression and I realized that people tend to slowly get away from me since I don't shine with happiness and joy. I do my best to be positive but I understand I'm not the most fun person to be around. All these make me or someone who has depression feel unlovable. Also you get to see that we live in a world where people like you only when you make a good company. This realization made me understand that most people don't really care or love their fellow human beings. They only like how you make them feel. This is a very sad realization for someone to live with. It gives you a sense that there is really nothing positive to expect from people and life in general. That people are selfish. How can someone change this belief so he sees life in a different perspective and therefore start to feel eager to get out of bed and love life. Find meaning in life in general. Maby you could do a video about the stigma of society has on people who suffer from depression and how a depressed person can handle society's rejection and question these negative beliefs. Which is true in many ways out of my experience. As soon as depression goes away with treatment and "success" comes back in your life in some way then suddenly everyone wants to be part of your life again.
I think that's because reality only just exacerbates our thoughts and beliefs. When we are detached from ourselves in flight mode and so anhedonic that nothing in this materialistic world gives us pleasure or any feeling of connection to life, everyone else will be equally as detached to us because we provide no value. So, only when we're connected to ourselves and the universe that people can connect to us. Im not sure if it's a sad reality or just reality. Like neutral.
Kallmanns syndrome ,no sex drive,it's not how I think it's just the reality of my health and how I can't do anything about it....everyday sucks,work is the only thing that occupies my mind long enough throughout the day so I can just go back to sleep,faking how i actually feel to make others think I'm normal is tiresome ,I can not escape,well until I die and that is something I welcome
This is too funny. As I'm watching this video, a text message pops up from a dear friend that I'm supposed to have lunch with today. She's cancelling because she's got Sciatica. We go back 50 years and we've been through a lot together, and enjoy each other's company immensely. But through the skewed lens of depression, I begin to analyze the situation. Sciatica? Really? We can't sit for coffee in your house? And the downward spiral begins. To make matters worse she invites me to her brother's birthday party tomorrow. What? So miraculously the Sciatica will be better in a day? Hmmm! Just like your video portrays, I begin thinking that she made other plans, or finds our banter dull and boring now, But then I think of the concrete things like the 50 years of friendship, and all the times we've spent together, and my anxiety abates. I actually feel good inside now. Dr. you've no idea how much your videos have helped me, and it's only been three days. You've got a warm way of conveying how this all works that's simplified and digestable. You should write a book with all these powerful lessons. It would stand head and shoulders above the psycho babble, bloated garbage pandered by the snake oil gurus. You could help so many others and probably becoame a millionaire too boot. 😄
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this is so me, sometimes all the negatives thoughts keep coming till it gets out of control and making me feel so low. tq for this great insight
Glad you found it helpful. I'm going to be posting a number of videos on challenging and changing these types of thoughts, so please keep an eye out for those.
This channel is going to grow quickly
Thanks. Hope so - would be great if the videos could be available to more people.
Sometimes its clear that a person is pitying you and its not easy not to think about it esp when you meet a lot of selfish people and you are an empath and have anxiety and panic disorder. Its exactly how it makes me feel that no one likes me that i.ll be forever alone etc as you said
I usually assume that people don’t like me. Well, used to…I’m working on this. If a boss, colleague or professor didn’t email me back-I would assume that they didn’t like me and would spiral down. It’s silly looking back- but the feeling of sadness is strong.
Doing things that make you happy, taking care of oneself- getting to know oneself helps to block the negative self-talk. Just have to love yourself ❤.
Great video 👍 just found this channel 🙏
This makes sense although I sometimes have a hard time even getting out of bed. I’m grateful that I woke up it’s just I feel like 1,000lb weights are tied on me.
Small and slow, setting goals that can be achieved, no matter how small.
Yes, these patterns of thinking become habituated! They become almost a safe space, oddly enough. It takes some work to break that reflexive pattern. My wife and I were discussing the state of our business' supply situation one night and in short order I had a nuclear war scenario as the end result. To which she wisely said something like "I'll take a meteor strike thank you". Integrating actions with thought patterns helps me make changes in those thoughts. Doing a good thing for someone or doing an enjoyable activity can bring the thoughts along and vice versa. Simply having a phone call with a friend this morning lifted the mood.
You're absolutely right that these thinking patterns become habitual and, often, we are not even aware that we are doing them. That's why cognitive awareness is such an important first step.
Thank you, for your very eye-opening commentary. Negative thinking definitely
plays a part in maintaining depression. I know their are exceptions, but overthinking is usually the main cause. I'm really looking forward to more of these empowering videos.😊
Thanks for the kind words Jayde. I'm glad you found the video helpful and hope you get some benefit from upcoming videos on this.
Yes, my thinking takes my mood ee n lower. Thinking about the future always in fear and negative terms. I wish I was overly positive and always believing things were going to turn out great
You are the best Doctor Nader. I greatly appreciate your vlogs. Thank you!
Thank you for your very kind words.
Dr. Nadar I love how you explained this! I love your videos and how you use examples. Negative thinking is a big big problem with my depression. Thank you.
Hi Becca - glad you found the video helpful. Have you had a chance to watch the other videos on thought awareness and thought challenging in depression that I have uploaded? If not, you might want to take a look at them as well.
@@DrRamiNader Yes I have thank you! I have been struggling with depression for quite some time and yesterday was the day that part of me said I need guidance and techniques on how to handle this because my antidepressants aren’t going to make it all go away. Finding your videos was a life saver. I’m going to look at all your videos in order and write down notes and I will definitely reach out to you for any questions. By the way will you ever host a live Zoom therapy session? If you do please let me know that would be awesome! I love how use examples on your videos to better understand what your trying explain. Thank you once again.
@@beccadelaney6375 I find that the examples really help people understand and remember the concepts and tools that I'm talking about. I don't do any Zoom therapy sessions, as I am only licensed to practice in BC, Canada, so I can't provide psychological treatment to anyone not currently living in BC.
This video is a lightbulb 💡💡 moment for me, it makes so much sense, allowing my negative thoughts to spiral out of control leads to sadness/depression, I’m going to try and nip the negative thoughts immediately and replace it with practical positive thoughts even though I mightn’t be feeling positive and hopefully in time rewire my brain. Thank you 😍
Hi Rose - I'm glad you found the video useful. If you are interested in learning more about cognitive therapy and changing thinking patterns, I'd encourage you to check out some of my other videos on this topic, which can be found here: Rewire Your Brain: Cognitive Therapy Techniques: th-cam.com/play/PLG_XiSJeP3s1NZR-doEUg3f2HqfVHmmFA.html
Thank you Dr. Nader. Very skillfully delivered message with the sticky note example.
You're very welcome. Glad you found it helpful.
Great video! I wonder how this spiral of negative thinking started in the first place? I suppose, in many cases this was probably taught in childhood.
Sometimes it can start in childhood, other times it's in response to events that happen in a person's life.
Another stellar video - this should be in school curriculum for all the other Jimmy-related stories 👏 sooo true! Cuz it's not about him...love the way you make stuff like this sound almost laughable, it makes so much sense
Great video. Thank you!
You are welcome!
Great video, would love to hear more about it
You are spot on..
Disclaimer: If my Doctor or Mental health professional were of any use then I wouldn't be watching this video.
Know what you mean😢
Oh god yes I’m always left with a feeling they just provide you with the bare minimum :(
God bless you Dr. Nader
Thank you for your kind words.
It’s right thank you 🙏🏽
You're very welcome!
it makes so much sense!!! but can we really change our thoughts?
Yes, but like any skill, it takes effort and practice. I'll be posting more videos going into more detail for how a person can change thoughts.
@@DrRamiNader would you make a video on how?
@@neginpedersen1506 That's coming up this week I think.
Thank you for your videos!!! Your wise way of putting things have helped me so much💙
Hi Megan - thank you for your kind words. I'm glad you found the videos helpful.
Thanks. Really well done.
You're very welcome!
Thank you for your videos. Just found your channel. Waiting for the tools/skills. Also, does depression make one a highly sensitive person?
If you want some videos on tools to manage depression, you should check out some of my other videos in this playlist: Understanding and Overcoming Depression: th-cam.com/play/PLG_XiSJeP3s1xOWOVHDMBPWjZImyu8M8d.html
Depression can contribute to people being more emotionally sensitive, but it could also be the case that people who are more emotionally sensitive are more prone to experiencing depression.
Thank You Sir You helped me a lot
I'm glad to hear that. You're very welcome!
I'm watching lots of videos on YT everyday and I'm surprised to find a youtuber who actually explains this "spiral down depression" so well... great job!
However, I have this question for you:
Don't you think that if you make a shorter version of this video you'd probably get more views?
I repeat, I really liked how peacefully you explained it but as a TH-cam consumer, I think most audience is not as patient as me. What do you think?
Hi Agustin - thank you for your feedback and I'm glad you found the video helpful. I'm not sure that if I made the videos shorter they would get more views. In reality, I make the videos as long as they need to be to explain the psychological concepts. I find that for too many videos on TH-cam, they fall into the "5 simple steps trap" and psychological phenomenon are more complex than that. I want the videos to be how I explain and describe these phenomena to my clients in session and if that means fewer views, that's ok, because I'm not doing this just to get views. I think there's a thirst for more nuanced and detailed content and for people who are looking for that, they (hopefully) will find my videos helpful. The interesting thing is that my most viewed video with over 719 thousand views is over 55 minutes long! So it just may take longer for people to find my videos, but I hope it will be worth it for them when they do :)
@@DrRamiNader thank you for your response! It's true there're lots of "tips videos" on the internet and I truly encourage you to keep doing it your way. In fact, your speach got me to the end because I felt it was more natural or something like that, than other youtubers :)
I just wanted to ask you what did you think to try to help if I could somehow.
By the way, it was interesting to see your point and if someday I create any content, I'll take it into account for sure!
Hope to watch more of your videos, bye!
Thanks
You're welcome.
Great Video!!!!
Glad you found it helpful
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Thank you so much. Your videos are really helpful for me and I'm sure for others as well. (:
Hi Michael - glad you are finding the videos helpful. Thanks for supporting the channel!
Hard to think positive when so much bad happens to you
What if Jimmy doesn't like you and got a better offer ? Which is possible because you are not the best person to hang out with since you are depressed. That could be true. People need to be around positivity and people that make them feel good. What would stop the negative thought and the sad feeling which would be a normal human reaction ?
In that case, it would probably make sense to be upset because Jimmy doesn't like me. However, just because Jimmy doesn't like me, that doesn't mean that everyone doesn't like me or that I am unlovable. So a person can have feelings of sadness, but they don't need to spiral downwards.
@@DrRamiNader Thank you for the response. I appreciate your willingness to help people with your videos.
I have chronic depression and I realized that people tend to slowly get away from me since I don't shine with happiness and joy. I do my best to be positive but I understand I'm not the most fun person to be around. All these make me or someone who has depression feel unlovable. Also you get to see that we live in a world where people like you only when you make a good company. This realization made me understand that most people don't really care or love their fellow human beings. They only like how you make them feel. This is a very sad realization for someone to live with. It gives you a sense that there is really nothing positive to expect from people and life in general. That people are selfish. How can someone change this belief so he sees life in a different perspective and therefore start to feel eager to get out of bed and love life. Find meaning in life in general. Maby you could do a video about the stigma of society has on people who suffer from depression and how a depressed person can handle society's rejection and question these negative beliefs. Which is true in many ways out of my experience. As soon as depression goes away with treatment and "success" comes back in your life in some way then suddenly everyone wants to be part of your life again.
I think that's because reality only just exacerbates our thoughts and beliefs. When we are detached from ourselves in flight mode and so anhedonic that nothing in this materialistic world gives us pleasure or any feeling of connection to life, everyone else will be equally as detached to us because we provide no value. So, only when we're connected to ourselves and the universe that people can connect to us. Im not sure if it's a sad reality or just reality. Like neutral.
Kallmanns syndrome ,no sex drive,it's not how I think it's just the reality of my health and how I can't do anything about it....everyday sucks,work is the only thing that occupies my mind long enough throughout the day so I can just go back to sleep,faking how i actually feel to make others think I'm normal is tiresome ,I can not escape,well until I die and that is something I welcome
Really struggling what the hell has happened to me never used to be like this 😢
Sorry to hear that you are struggling.
This is too funny. As I'm watching this video, a text message pops up from a dear friend that I'm supposed to have lunch with today. She's cancelling because she's got Sciatica. We go back 50 years and we've been through a lot together, and enjoy each other's company immensely. But through the skewed lens of depression, I begin to analyze the situation. Sciatica? Really? We can't sit for coffee in your house? And the downward spiral begins. To make matters worse she invites me to her brother's birthday party tomorrow. What? So miraculously the Sciatica will be better in a day? Hmmm! Just like your video portrays, I begin thinking that she made other plans, or finds our banter dull and boring now, But then I think of the concrete things like the 50 years of friendship, and all the times we've spent together, and my anxiety abates. I actually feel good inside now. Dr. you've no idea how much your videos have helped me, and it's only been three days. You've got a warm way of conveying how this all works that's simplified and digestable. You should write a book with all these powerful lessons. It would stand head and shoulders above the psycho babble, bloated garbage pandered by the snake oil gurus. You could help so many others and probably becoame a millionaire too boot. 😄
Hi Jack - thank you for sharing your experiences. I'm glad you found the video helpful!
Are you wise?
Are you Egyptian?
I get that question a lot, but no, I am not Egyptian.
100% Lebanese😉
STOP❤✝️IT’S NOT TOO LATE TO TURN TO GOD BUT SOON IT WILL BE✝️REPENT AND PRAY BECAUSE GOD LOVES YOU😁 (not forcing, spreading gospel)
You are wasting your time. It is not relevant here and cause the opposite effect. Do it when people are ready to hear
@@dtgiabao9915 I agree.