5 Signs An Avoidant Loves You (it might surprise you)
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🔴 "5 Signs An Avoidant Loves You (it might surprise you)"
Curious about the signs that reveal an avoidant man's genuine love? In this insightful video, as your French relationship expert, I delve into the complexities of understanding and expressing emotions in relationships with avoidant partners.
Discover the 5 crucial signs that indicate an avoidant man's true feelings. Learn how to navigate the challenges of an avoidant relationship and build a connection that lasts.
💑 Sign 1: Explore how an avoidant man expresses love through meticulous attention to small details, showcasing genuine care and affection.
🏡 Sign 2: Uncover the secrets of an avoidant's behavior during dates, especially at his place. Learn how his careful and attentive actions reveal his deep concern for you.
🤔 Sign 3: Understand the importance of effort in an avoidant relationship. Learn how his willingness to meet your needs and desires signifies a genuine love connection.
💖 Sign 4: Dive into the world of small attentions, where compliments, thoughtful gifts, and a desire to spend time together become powerful indicators of an avoidant's love.
🧠 Sign 5: Explore the significance of an avoidant man's ability to remember important details about you and your relationship, showcasing dedication and focused commitment.
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I only have one advice for women, learn how to love yourself first. Then everything will unfold in the best way for you. Mirror a man's behaviour, if he is avoidant, avoid him, especially if you have an anxious attachment style
That's hard to do but yes. Your desire is to be with them every second, but when they need space you have to give it to them. Don't smother them and they will come back around when they're ready.
What are ways to learn to love yourself...I struggle with that due to a bad childhood
@@ekmackenzie dear, I suggest to do inner child work, connect back to your heart, your emotional needs and learn how to take care of them. There are many practices such as self love affirmations that you can do ❤
Great advice!! 111
But should men not learn to love themselves first? The sad thing about this is that everything should be done to please the avoidant? Why should anxiously attached learn to leave avoidants alone yet still be ready for the avoidant who will never ever say yes unless they are in full control?
Avoidant people can be so loving but also so scared of intimacy 🙄
So then it's your job to make them feel safe.
You got the point 🌹
💯💯😂
For more than 5 Years I was in a "relationship" with an avoidant. I ended it two months ago and i am so happy now! Everyone notices ! My advice...run don't walk! Seriously. The constant pushing and pulling..awfull, we deserve better ladies ! Take care of your happiness! ❤
I'm delighted to hear that you feel happy and fulfilled after making the decision to end a relationship that wasn't right for you. Thank you for sharing that with us :)
I sooooo agree. Been therw too.
Was you guys living together what was the most complicated thing about him in the realtionship I am studying Advodiant men was he a fearful or dismissive avoidant Great step
Yes, go no contact if the avoidant is low effort and treating you casually. If the love is real, then time and distance will make them feel the loss and fear losing you.
on radio sillence
So true , it worked with mine
I'm going no contact thank you for your comment it has helped me. As I have the no effort type who dosnt see my worth
I have been no contact many times because of low efforts and no investment. He always came back after little time ( one time after 3 months) but the relationship structure never changed.
I am tired of all this struggle but I love him.
Dealing whith avoidants..I became avoidant! Peace to us all!
😂😂
Yes, I avoid avoidants since I became more "secure" (after being anxious and attached). Beginning of anxiety became an ally for me, I'm like "ok, so that's my sign to back off and observe from far the whole situation". If it's just a crisis or a new situation, I act better and calmly. If it's afterall an "avoidance" situation, I take my ass away from their sight.
Dang! 😂
Lol 😂 good luck 😂!
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Let's be distant. You don't have to prove yourself. Take your time! Give him all the space in the world.
I can relate... though the time apart is hard, but in the end it's worth it.
Maybe he won’t get bored and want others or is that just him using the talk about it only to create a safe or distanced space so He won’t get hurt
Why not just stay away? To my experience a relationship with an avoidant goes nowhere. At loooong trip of setting yourself aside and pleasing. And the day you stop you are DUMPED.
So why not just run in as soon as you know you are dealing with an avoidant?
Why should the world adjust to avoidants? Why are avoidants not supposed to work on themselves to be in a relationship?
Anxiously attached are always yelled at. Should work on themselves. Learn to hold back. Then why not avoidants?
@@Hesteforstanddkif it’s avoidant behavior, i run. I avoid them like the plague, Yuck
@@Hesteforstanddkditto. Hate putting these avoidants on a pedestal
5 signs an avoidant loves you... from my own experience:
1. All of a sudden he/she will ignore you, all communication will cease and you will wonder if he/she is alive or dead.
2. When you are with them you can tell their mind is somewhere else. They are always moving on to the next thing even when you are right in front of them.
3. You can't bring up any emotional topics, ever.
4. They will make you feel alone... and eventually you will be all alone.
5. They always come back. Usually acting like nothing is wrong... it may be a few days, a few months or a few years yet they always come back.
Remember: They love you 🙄
This is crazy 😂😢
1. If he's taking care of details (remembering small details).
2. Take Care of You and Be VERY Careful especially when at his place/with him.
3. Makes efforts on what you ask of him. Otherwise, no effort equals no love
4. Small attentions ( compliments you, etc)
5. Remembers what you SAY! When dedicated to you he will REMEMBER!
He did all of that and I still didn't think he really loves me. We just broke up on Christmas eve and that's when I started seeking help on this channel. I see so many mistakes I did, and I'm so sorry that I didn't give him space he needed. I'm anxious attachment style, of course I didn't know that when we were dating (almost 2 years). I started no contact almost immediately, but I have no hops that he will reach out to me.
Check✅ on everything, I know he cares about me but it’s difficult because there is a family involved.
@@carlel121, same here🥺
Don't believe these are all the things a women suppose to do watch old 1930s movies men never chase a women but I will say I've done all those things and guess what?? She left awesome aye 😂
@@mellyzagarrember you didn’t fail him, he failed to tell you what he needed.
If you are not misdiagnosing or over diagnosing, One day you will realize you should have walked away as soon as you found out they were avoidant. The sooner the less pain.
Men's love is mostly expressed through his actions ❤
I'm so happy I've realized relationships beyond business are a complete lack of time people refuse to be happy and satisfied within themselves and thus cannot be satisfied with others.
As someone who tends to be avoidant I can say without malice that avoidants tend to be self-centered assholes. I was with an avoidant for 18 months and it was all about him. I chalk it up to a painful and expensive lesson. I’ll never date another one!
I do agree with you. It's very difficult to be with an avoidant...
Hi I am studying Advodiant men they are very interesting and challenging men I must say could you tell me if he ever said he love you or wanted to marry you what a strong walk on your behalf ❤
yeah... always talking in the "I" and "me" form, never talking about "we" or "us". He lives his life and you just need to keep up. His terms, his goals, his wishes, all about what he wants. Obsessive (financial) mindset. They're so scared of people hurting them they push them away, only for the other party to end up exhausted and leaving. In the end the avoidant can say, see how they hurt me, see how they ended up leaving, see how people cant be trusted. Dear avoidants, do the work, you cant expect others to fully take on the burden of not triggering you into full flight mode.
I had no idea that the guy I was becoming close with - as friends - that he was an avoidant. He would do exactly all the 5 things you mentioned Alex. But we never talked about being more than friends. We were friends not friends with benefits or anything.
I felt that it was going well and I was just enjoying his company. But then a little situation and misunderstanding took place between us and all of a sudden he went super silent. And when I approached him about it, he just told me he "got busy" (sure he did.....) So I stopped talking to him and 3 weeks later, he showed up at my house, (after a few drinks) and told me that he was afraid that I was getting feelings for him....after our chat, I just asked him how he felt about me and he told me that he was developing romantic feelings for me. Ahhh, so there's the truth.
But then he kept telling me that he doesn't want to be in a relationship and that he's bad at them (he's had really bad relationships in the past). I honestly didn't think so at all with all the time I spent with him.... And then he told me that he doesn't think men and women can be friends, so I told him 'ok, we don't have to be friends', but after I told him we can go separate ways, he said 'no no....' Well as time went on, I noticed that he put up walls with me and then he just drifted away and I haven't heard from him since.
I'm honestly sad that I lost a closeness with him - but I'm not going to chase after a man who self proclaims himself to be 'bad at relationships'.
Thank you for your advice in this video, it explains his behaviour and how he is a lot.
Thank you so much or watching! I'm happy this video was able to provide you some insight on this topic!
It's very sad that this kind of akways men never seek help or specialized psychological support. Once a person understands why he/she does certain things it gets easier to correct behavior if one wants too.my ex was an avoidant too. He ghosted me, now he came back 10 months later kinda saying he is sorry. As a rather anxious person, I cannot go back to the same uncertainty and lack of communication again 😢
@@mrs.h9621 you’re so right. He’s been through counselling but I don’t think he went long enough or actually dealt with whatever he needed to deal with enough so to heal. Too bad tho, he’s a good man. A broken one - but still good
I think avoidants are like that. Mine did all the five things Alex said. After expressing the beginning of deep feelings, he began the slow fade. He was more comfortable being just friends. He would do anything for me, but his fears got the best of him. Eventually, he found a new relationship that I think was safer. Kind of sad.
Exactly! Almost On the same page with you girl So confusing but right now he just got back talking to me, I said we're just friends.
So, just keep looking for crumbs? No thank you. Stop trying to read between the lines. Walk away, you deserve better. I feel bad about avoidants, but if they're not making the effort to change their attachment style, especially after late 20s max 30, it's on them and you guys deserve better. Life is too short to spend with the wrong person. You'd rather be happy alone than be sad in a half assed relationship. Love yourself first.
Wasted few years of my life with avoidant, and all Ive got from that is depression. Never I will do same mistake again. Avoidant has no clue about respect, other partner's feelings and responsibility. They only care about their comfort zone and they will never let you in it. Or they will let you in just for so long you start to feel OK, just to break your heart over and over again.
That's cave man behavior. A 5 year can show you that they love you better than this.
#1 yes, he remembers many small details of what I like--diet Coke with plenty of ice, anything with caramel but not chocolate, etc., and brings me those especially when I'm having a stressful day. #2 when visiting him, he kennels the dogs (one is very anti-social). when riding in his truck, he automatically turns on the seat-warmer for me, plays my kind of music if we are done talking, or turns off the music if we start talking again, adjusts the cab temperature for me and not necessarily for him. #3 has fixed my cars in many ways, installed a bidet for me, fixed other plumbing problems. #4 compliments me and brags about me to others within my hearing. and has told me he appreciates my talents. #5 definitely remembers what I say, very personal stuff, and will repeat back to me if he thinks I need to hear it again, all in a very comforting way. I do give him space to re-energize because his job demands a lot of emotional energy. I used to feel left out and needed reassurance. Now, I understand him much better and I have trust in his friendship and love. He has said that he feels he can trust me, too. awwww, so sweet!
He is not an avoidant obviously 😂
If someone isnt ready for you then its as simple as that.
Someone can not be ready but still a good person and with time you can create more...
Seriously no one has time for this kind of behaviour. Relationships should be easygoing or if not then stay single till u find a mature guy
If I listen to you, the world is beautiful and there is peace everywhere...
Sometimes, people get lucky and find their journeyman... I agree it's wise to be prudent 🍀
What if this guy was seriously hurt several times throughout his life and it wasn't his choice to be this way? Is he not deserving of the effort if he is a good man that loves you? You are the problem for men in this situation. It's your choice where to spend your time, but don't you dare think that a man in pain isn't worth the time and effort for someone else....
You cant say no one has time for this. You are only speaking in regards to you dont have the time for this. Most people do not take the time for a lot of things.
@@Forever_broken1they have to change your mindset. If you go around thinking everyone will hurt you and that's what you will get.
As an avoidant person, it doesnt mean we dont really like you. We like you but we just avoid you necause we dont want to get in deeper cause we always thought of the negative things (from past relationships) and we dont want to get hurt again. So i distant myself from him
Go to therapy !
So you begin dating someone, and the guy becomes attached and falls in love with you. Only for you to turn around, oh I was hurt in past relationships I am breaking up. Avoid the Avoidant.
Time to heal yourself before you continue dating other people or you put toxic behaviour on people who don't deserve it.
Yes this is past pains also childhood trauma
It takes time when you hit the nostalgia phase, just take things slow and rebuild the trust.
Dude, you know your shit for sure!
The dopamine-in-the-brain breakdown you did in another video also nailed it:
Challenge generates dopamine, the love hormone. A guy who wants you “will have this flow of hormones that he can’t control”.
He only becomes distant “because there’s a lack of challenge, and a lack of dopamine”. That explains the centuries of advice to women, use the power of the void (I Ching), otherwise known as playing hard to get.
No challenge, no dopamine, no love.
And it’s even worse with the avoidant.
Unfortunately, girlfriends, we’ve got to become experts at playing the game.
thank you for the support!
This is so true! When I was hard to get, mr. avoidant was after me!! But once I let my guard down, he was gone.
That's only going to work if you love playing mind games and it will last a lifetime, and attract a toxic person. I will never and never have played hard to get. I have too much faith in my ability to not need to do so. Plus, it's gotta be exhausting if you're naturally not into games.
Alex I absolutely love your challenge. I worked with pick up artists for a couple years and I absolutely hate the pick up psychology and field. You are a refreshing and intelligent change for me to gain knowledge from ❤
I appreciate your comment. I try my best :-)
He loved me! He did all of these things. Damn it! He loved me and I thought he didn’t. I broke up with him and didn’t know until I saw the look on his face when I told him I was leaving the relationship. I gave us both some space afterwards and then tried to talk to him but he only responded twice then ghosted. It's been 6 months since we last spoke. I'm crushed. I love him. This sucks 😭
I'm so sorry to hear this! you will get through this but take this time to focus on yourself and surround yourself with people who love and support you ❤️
Look at u blaming urself for not being a mindreader. His behaviors were inconsistent and narcissistic. Sweetie love urself more. Love is healthy and consistent. Anyone who doesn’t want to lose u will make sure u have no doubt and learn your love language. It has to work both ways. I relate to u.
He would have left eventually. Move on, sis.
An avoidend is giving me too much anxiety and therefore it's the opposite to love for me. Especially if he's not making any effort to change it.
I'm sorry to hear this!
Thank you so much for this video. The guy I’ve been seeing shows all of the signs you mentioned. The only thing is, two months ago he blocked me for no apparent reason. But one thing I’ve learned from you is to keep my distance as well. Thank you, again,Alex. You are the best!
Thank you so much for watching! I'm always happy to help!
Girl move on. When someone is blocking you they are showing you what you need to see. Don’t allow yourself to be strung out for years waiting on someone to be what you want them to be.
My law of attraction always works with you guys! 😂😂 Because whenever i need some console or advice, then you and love advice tv come up with a video. 😂😂 Thank you! It heals me! 😌😌❤️❤️All your videos are amazing! 👏👏 You all are doing a great job! 👍👍
Thank you so much for the support! I really appreciate this!
Thank you for this video Alex! ~Blessings.
Thank you so much for watching!
Avoidants can send a message if one asks but he won't do it consistently. He does it when we ask because he wants us to leave them alone.
Whats the use of asking for the basic?
then they call you crazy or impatient😑 feels like a game
Thank you Alex for all your support!🙏
Thank you so much for watching!
Thank you for sharing this information. I needed to hear all this because I was about to give up on my roommate/best friend. Knowing all this helps me to know there's hope. ✌️💛🦋
Thank you so much for watching! I appreciate this support!
This is so true.
Thank you for the tips.😊
Thank you so much for watching!
This is the video that helped me the most with feeling secure. My partner is very busy, but for reasons to do with how he responds in emotional situations, I believe his busy is self manufactured partially from avoidant triggers.
He does everything on this list and I suspected these were signs, but you're one of the only coaches I've found at youtube who was able to validate this for me.
I'm glad you found a video that helps you feel more secure in your relationship. If you recognize yourself in your partner's avoidant behavior and it seems to contribute to his busy schedule, it's an important first step toward understanding and potentially improving your relationship.
@FrenchRelationshipExpert he's always been a workaholic even when we were friends. I came to suspect he was avoidant because of the way his vulnerability shifted once we agreed to date. I don't specifically think I trigger him, more like he just works a lot to have somewhere to escape when he's overwhelmed with anyone in general. I don't want to write a long response, but we've been working towards the middle ground. 👍
Gracias from Bogotá!⭐️
Thankyou so much sir for this video, for sure its great . I needed to hear this coz is my current situation
I am happy to assist you. Let me know if you need anything else?
Thank you from the depth of my heart!!!!!!!
Thank you so much for watching! I truly appreciate this!
This is very true advice. Thank you
Thank you for your comment, i'm glad you found the advice helpful!
thanks for offering insight - great shirt.
Thank you so much for watching!
i cant tell you how much this video has helped me. spot on, on every 5 thhings
Thank you so much for your support. It means the world to me!
Yes he is, that's why I don't want to ruin ...
Stop loving him and he will love you … period
It's not that simple but it can help :-)
He ignored my message for 2 weeks. What should I do? Give him space?
Disagree if it’s not in your nature… they are unbalanced in oxytocin and serotonin… so they will only reach you for dopamine…. Once it’s done…. The cycle restarts. It’s in there nature but not in yours.
@@sitizauyahahmad8631 he will not change but you need to be very clear of your boundaries. Talk to him and ask him to verbalized when he needs is space and explain that you need to have him communicate his needs instead of running away…. Long process…. But if you don’t feel good you have to be careful and get out of this situation. I’m telling you…anxiety, depression can get you.
@@sitizauyahahmad8631 Yes....What's funny is the silent treatment, which DA love dishing out, drives them crazy when you do it to them.
Wow... thanks for the second signs of avoidant. I was confused about him.
I am here for you. Let me know if you have any other question?
I can definitely detect my patience waning in life...
I am filled with, and consumed with, rage and grief.
I desperately want to die, I can no longer bear the darkness...
I AM SO FUCKING exhausted and depressed.
44 years of hell and trauma, that's been my entire life, so far...
I've been through this and I realized that what I wanted to die, is all those things leading me to the darkness, not me. There's always light after darkness, hold on, accept what caused rage and grief , accept that you couldn't do anything better, have mercy on yourself, you will be fine, nothing lasts, not happiness and good nes, not darkness either. Live to see new light. God bless you.
And for me 22 years...
I'm a male dealing with a female who tends to ne avoidant while i tend towards anxious, but that is not the only reason i know just how you feel, it simply happens to be the most pressingly current thing i feel that way about
Alex Cormont your voice is so calming... 😌
Thank you so much for watching!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert you're welcome! I will try to watch all your videos and learn!
The worst you can do is to please an avoidant according to what they say they want. They often use their fear to create more effort from you but then they push you away.
Don't chase them, they are grown-ups and need to work their stuff out. You are not their mommy.
I am love it
I love ur accent!!
Thank you so much!
I pretty much knew my relationship with my DA was over when I had to beg her for something simple as loving and respecting me the way I love and respect her.
I'm in Day 43 of NC after going four months before that. I have no intentions of returning this time.
I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through! We're here for you❤️
Thank you so much sir it's my current situation 😢
Let me know if there is any topic for the next video you want me to do?
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert how to have patience during distance from the partner
Not the cocktail, lawddddd
I strive to not put my happiness and fulfillment all on them. It's so unfair. I'm happy and fulfilled with or without him. But I am happier when he is close to me physical. I appreciate quality time above all else.
I have the impression I became a psychologist… so I can understand him.
Thank you because I don't understand his behavior... so thank you so much
You're always welcome!
This was extremely helpful. My person does all of these things, yay me! We're in a semi long distance relationship because of his work. Years ago I never would have thought that I could be okay with the time apart. It actually enhances our relationship and gives us the space we both need to be independent yet partnered.
When he has to work out of state, it's usually for a few weeks to a month. If he has to be gone for a longer period of time, we'll break up the time and I'll fly out to visit for a couple of weeks.
This is probably the healthiest relationship I've ever been in. 😂
Thank you so much for watching! I hope this video was able to help you!
I was married to an avoidant for almost 20 years, divorced in 2018. I'm sure that he loved me in his own way, but he did not display most of these signs.
My BF is not as "restrained" as my ex but I've always felt like his actions are more caring than my ex's. What's interesting are the expectations... I've been with BF for 5 years - one of my friends gets upset: How come he hasn't said "I love you” and why are you not living together? I explained that his actions speak the loudest: although he's not a cuddly, mushy guy, he is attentive about the little things. I think that's more important than grand gestures. Sometimes it's not always easy, but we're both pretty satisfied with what we have.
Wow! I now realize my boyfriend is an avoidant, but he does all of these things and more. So I do know that he loves me and that’s very encouraging. He also talks about our future and says we instead of I but just not hearing the words and the compliments is hard but I feel a lot better now, so thank you so much Alex.❤
Yeah I can relate...mine too is an avoidant... Never compliments me, never says he missed me, never says i love u even by mistake 🙄 but shows it in his actions..now I understand why
Thank you for this video!
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Thank you so much for watching! I deeply appreciate this!
The thing is we're both avoidants 😅, and he shows these signs but I don't think I've been expressing my feelings or thoughts to him enough. Slowly but surely figuring things out.
It doesn't matter, because they always leave in the end anyway.
Thanks you we fonte talk anymore but when i Saw this video i can rmtell you when je was with me i have all the 5 signs..its feel good to know that..even we fonte see each other
Very Interesting.. Thank you Alex ❤
Thank you so much for watching! I appreciate this!
I had an avoidant once. We dated 3 yrs. He never told me that he loved me, but he surprised me by taking me to a jeweler to pick out a wedding ring. He didn't tell me that he loved me and he didn't propose. I told him I couldn't find a ring that I liked because I didn't want to marry him and felt like we weren't right for each other. I never saw him again and had no regrets.
It sounds like you made a difficult but ultimately healthy decision for yourself. It's important to prioritize your own feelings and needs in a relationship. Trust your instincts and continue to prioritize your own happiness and well-being.
Good share
1/careful with details 2/effort on what you are asking 3/careful with you 4/small attention 5/remember what you say
Thank you so much for watching!
They will leave for any reason at any time. Then call u insecure who needs reassurance too offen as a result of his neglect in the relationship. Do u want that?
Yessss
Thank you for your support!
It’s a tough relationships. They need to heal those parts and understand why they do what they do.
Need awareness and healing otherwise it’s painful. Takes work on both parts
Absolutely, relationships can be challenging, especially when there are underlying issues that need to be addressed. It's crucial for both partners to have self-awareness and be willing to work on themselves and the relationship :)
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My guy did all those things and more but he ended things out of the blue. Literally, we had the best time one day and the next day he went silent. Day after that he ended things. "I'm not ready for a relationship. I can't ask you to wait...." Seriously, WTH?
He showed all those signs when we were together but had a stressful event in his life recently and decided to leave because “it was getting too much for him” i was so hurt i blocked him but if idk if he’ll try to reach out someday
I'm so sorry to hear about this! I hope this video was able to help you through this.
Hi! Great content. I am not sure, but how can I differentiate between a narcissist and an avoidant? This is confusing. Please help me understand this. Thank you.
Hi there avoidant individuals tend to avoid social situations due to a deep-seated fear of rejection and criticism. They may feel inadequate or inferior to others and prefer to minimize social interactions to protect themselves from potential emotional pain or embarrassment. In contrast, narcissistic individuals have an inflated sense of self-importance and a strong need for admiration and validation from others. They lack empathy and may exploit or manipulate people to fulfill their own desires, believing they are superior and deserving of special treatment. While both avoidant and narcissistic personalities involve difficulty in relating to others, the underlying motivations and behaviors differ, with avoidance stemming from fear and narcissism from a grandiose self-view
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert perfect analysis and explanation of the differences between an avoidant vs a narcissist. Wish I could like your reply 1,000x because it's spot on.
Awwww he loved me 👀🥺❤
It's good sign!
Ive done the questionnaires seems I'm disorganized type aka mix of anxious and avoidant types. What would you say are the biggest signs to differentiate if your guy is an avoidant vs a disorganized type?
Thank you! I will do a new video for your situation!
@@FrenchRelationshipExpert merci beaucoup! J'apprecie ca tellement beaucoup!! 🙏❤🫂😁
I just went through this with this grown Gemini ♊️ man over the last 7yrs. But there’s another ex I found out he’s doing the same things with. I’m good in this… it’s traumatizing to the other person connecting to them.
I'm so sorry to hear about this!
Geminis are the bosses of avoidant behavior
@@lisaolivia5652actually not at all mine was clingy
I'm an avoidant
I gave her a spare wolly jumper to keep warm .
I drop her dinners off full of vitamins and minerals
Take her ro appointments,
I enjoy spending time with her
.
However
When i visit her crib i stop for an hour,
I don't message back for days.
I avoid emotional actions. Cuddles etc
She tried a cuddle once , I pulled back. I felt guilty..
I knew I was wrong.
Smh, an avoidant is ghosting me as we speak lol. Had the nerve to stop by my house when I was at work , cut my grass all neat and professionally and then completely ghosted me lol. He was so kind to me though, took me on great dates even expressed his feelings but, I'm 6 months out of an 8 year relationship so I'm not trying to be in a relationship. I think me shooting him down pushed him away. He got ghost twice and this last time was the longest. He cut off all intimacy and all. I just assumed he had another relationship but according to our mutual friend that introduced us, it's nothing like that. I'm tired of the back and forth. He better snap out of it soon because I do like him but I'm ready to move on.
I'm sorry to hear this.I know Coach Alex would love to help you through this. I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him so he can know a little more about your situation:
www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
-FRE Team
Coach, please take a minute to answer me, what does it mean if my DA ex liked a story I posted (It was a picture of myself) during NO CONTACT? Will he try to reach out in your opinion? We've been in NC for more than 3 weeks.
Hi there! If he like'd your story post during no contact then technically he broke No Contact by liking your story post. The chances of him reaching out is high.
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My pleasure. Let me know a topic you would like me to do?
He treats me different when w are out. He cling to me. I feel love from him.when he goes home hes a diffrnt person
I'm sorry to hear this!
Alex i always seen your vedio. I have some question i really need your advice. I met my bf from fb we exchange number we keep of chat calling but some tim i avoid him but atlast i fall in love with him but thus days our connectivity be came lass but he but i really love him i never meet so far it long distance relationship what should i do
Hi there!
I'm so sorry to hear this. I know Coach Alex would love to help you with this issue. but he would need to learn a little more about what you're going through in order to guide you through this. I would highly suggest you book a coaching call with him using this link:
www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
-FRE Team
Honestly if you are emotionally avoidant stay alone donot inflict the void you have inside onto someone that could fall in love with you .
I knew Im going to hurt people at early age so I didnt get involved into any relationships until 32. Then I said few therapists that I avoid relationships to not hurt other people because probably at some point I will want to withdraw. Therapists says that I should not be scared of breaking up as its normal for relationships to start and end at some point and ending relationships is not hurting people. So I started to get involved now and as I expected I want to break up after 1,5 year, but at the same I am afraid to break my partner heart. I wish I can get courage and follow the therapists advice thats its not really hurting others and is normal.
At the same time I see so many comments that people got hurt by brrak ups. So who I should trust then? 🥺
What if he's pulled away but you know he's the one and you've only known him for a very short time we had the best time together but something was clearly bothering him!
I'm so sorry to hear about this!
I am so scared of telling him how I feel for fear he will want to bolt. I know he loves me and he knows how I feel about him. Just wish he could just say something ❤ he does text me when he gets home safely after our dates 😊
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Hey Alex! I have an avoidant ex who Im trying to fix me relationship with, and she told ne recently that maybe we should stop talking for my own good because she has nothing to offer me! And all this happened when I asked if she wanted to hang out! Every time I ask to hang out, there’s always an excuse and Im finding out that she didn’t know how to say no! Im heartbroken and don’t know what to do!
Hi there,
I know Coach Alex would love to help you with this but he would need to learn a little more about what you're going through in order to help you through this. I would highly advice you book a coaching session with him by using this link:
www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
-FRE Team
Coach Alex, thank you for being so helpful for women. My boyfriend and I are long distance. Currently, he's travelled to a vacation spot with his family and I wasn't able to go. I found that he's active on Tinder... which tells me he's planning to have sex while he's on the trip. This rips my soul apart. Is there ANYTHING you can suggest for situations like this? Where you are secretly aware your boyfriend is seeking for a sexual encounter abroad? My heart is broken. Is this normal??? :(
I'm so sorry to hear about this! It't not ok for your boyfriend to have a tinder profile abroad, this is very disrespectful to you and your relationship with him. You can confront him about this tinder profile and see if you guys can work through this.
Never get involved with an avoidant. They break your heart - they don't love you - I made that mistake twice with the same person. Don't just walk away - run away from it as fast as you can. You will never get the intimacy you want with them. Don't walk around eggshells around them to feel like you'll trigger them. Mine remembered what I said etc whatever - it's not a sign of love - they dismiss you and discard you. That's what this person did to me.
I'm so sorry to hear about this! Thank you for sharing this with us.
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Thank you for the support!
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Stop taking them seriously…
What do you mean?
@@FrenchRelationshipExpertthey probably mean don’t take them so personally
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This is great for women, but how do men engage with an avoidant woman? Is it the same 5 signs or is it more complex for the female side? I have been separated from my avoidant wife for going on 7 years now...I haven't moved on because that was my typical response in the past, but now I am in uncharted waters and need guidance as to what I should do next...how can I figure out if she still loves me or not? If she doesn't my heart is healed and I can take that but I also don't want to discount her side and what she may be feeling...I can't tell if she does or not...anyhow, thanks for considering my question.
I would recommend checking out Apollonia Ponti on youtube! She has videos about how to handle an avoidant woman on her youtube channel 😊
Are all the rules the same for long distance relationships??
Yes! Give me details or a question and I can help!
lol I literally just pressed send on a message to a man I met a month ago on a trip. We exchanged emails and I haven't heard from him in a month.. the precedent was set as keeping in contact as friends though...I was worried waiting that long meant that he was not interested or maybe I was being impatient.... I feel guys struggle more than females in long distance because they dont get an instant reward for all the hard work communicating! lol I suppose will see if he responds or how he responds lol Thanks so much for being available for support!!! stand by! 😅@@FrenchRelationshipExpert
He won't tell me he loves me. But he tries to please me. And tried to give me what I want and makes me happy. He remember things I like. I feel love from him. But he won't say it.
Maybe it's not in his nature. If everything else is perfect then you will have to deal with it :-)
He can only say it when he feel it be patient use slots if emotional communication they will learn from you
Do the same signs apply to female avoidants as well?
Yes this can apply to women too 😊
I told him I loved him but he doesn't respond the same, he say he wants his freedom but yet all the things you said he has done very good things, he has had 2.broken marriages, but Eve runtime we together we laugh we talk for hours, what should I do let him go, move forward, what ?
Hi there, I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. I hope you can book a coaching session with Coach Alex so he can hear a little more about your situation so he can give you proper advice on this.
www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
-FRE Team
Thanks Alex (Primah Uganda)
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Alex i am 41 year old woman,we lived together 7 years ,we have a daughter,i got anxiety and depression and i left(but like 2 or 3 years in a row telling him im gonna leave). Becoz he wasn't working ,and didnt really care if he have what to eat or no)He was like ok go...i left,and after 4 month he has met somebody else, now after almost 8 month we go out with our daughter and i still love him...he says he does too but that he moved on😢am i the avoidant that run away and left him in pain?
Hi there,
I'm so sorry to hear this. I know Coach Alex would love to help you with this but he would need to learn a little more about what you're going through in order to give you the proper advice on this.
I would highly suggest you book a coaching session with him using this link:
www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
- FRE Team
suddenly he was behaving a lil distant for being busy I guess but I don't know what hit my mind ND I texted him like I wanna walk away from his life ....but I didn't really want to...he didn't say much but told me take time and if you wanna stay then stay not bcz I want you to stay .....and I love him so much I definitely stayed but he changed behaving more distant then next day told me we're not in a same note and now things are getting worse between us so he doesn't wanna move further as I was crying like a hell then he told me calm down I didn't mean it that way just wanted to stay don't be to dependent on me emotionally that's it and I can't do this gd mrng gd night anymore it sucks ....but I used to wish him gd mrng gd night cz we didn't talk so this was a way to keep in touch for me but he even made me stop that I didn't text him after that it's been a two days now...and he needs space I understand but what if he doesn't text me by his own!??and yesterday i put abstory about inorder to find peace I became the strom but I'm working on it nd he post he'll cut off anyone from his life who are interupting within his Peace and a status where he got hurt in his legs so i showed care he behaved normal but i told him keep a sorry from me nth else he said ok ...how casual doesn't he love me anymore!?
Hi there! I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I know Coach Alex would love to help you with this but he would need to know a little more about what you're going through in order to help you. I would highly recommend you book a coaching session with him using this link:
www.frenchrelationshipexpert.com/coaching/
-FRE Team
Don't fall in love with him. 😢💔 He will only break your heart. Everything you just described reminds me of my ex from 27 yrs ago who I'm still friends with.
I warned him 27 yrs ago that "You don't know what you got til' it's gone" & I even played the song by Cinderella for him. Now he says that that is "our song" Trust me... before you fall in love... run 🏃♀️ away from him. If you read my posts above, in the comment section, you'll see my experience and what happened after we were no longer together. Keep in mind, we NEVER broke up. He still says, "Well... you're technically still mine then; unless you say the words" when he knows full well I will never say, "I am breaking up with you."
My heart was so broken 💔😢 and it took me 2 years to heal in order to date a guy again. 2 YEARS!!! Keep in mind we were only 1 year, 2 months. After that I was asked out by numerous guys and I turned them all down because I needed time to heal. I also MOVED the hell out of that city... 5 hrs away so I couldn't be found. I avoided my avoidant UNTIL my heart had finally healed. I still live far away.
Now I can now be his friend from afar (I'm sure he loves this). I will always love him but I'm not in love with him. He tells me often, "You're the one who got away" ... yea I sure did. I don't know what caused him to have this attachment style; it is hell being in love with someone who is an avoidant. Especially when he saved me from a dangerous situation and he was a hero to me. Literally a hero. I still love him for that. ❤ I just wish I could've "fixed" him because our chemistry was electric and magnifying. 😢 He knows this; I know this. We both admit this. We were like 2 raging fires that came together and then were extinguished. I'm an anxious attachment style - an avoidant is the absolute WORST type for me to be with. Never again have I been with an avoidant. I'm with a secure man; have been for 18 years. Its's been the best blessing of my life; I thank God for him everyday. He is always here for me, home with me every night, an involved loving dad, he shows his feelings... he cries often, he is a real man. I got lucky.
Run girl... RUN! 🏃♀️ Good luck to you! ❤
An avoidant and 100% dedicated to you dont go hand in hand. They litrrrally cant handle dedication.
Thank you for your insight on this!
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Is this the same for a woman avoidant?
Yes this could be.
The best advice is: Avoid avoidant!
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We need to stop normailsing teaching people how to love an avoidant, how to make the avoidant safe in their avoidance, how to diminish yourself to keep a person in your life who wants to run from intimacy, problems, issues, difficulties, emotions, love. We need to start making this behaviour not ok and showing the avoudant persin that they need to get help or leave people alone. We enable this behaviour and now it's just normal for someone to be avoidant and for everyone else to make them comfortable. We beed to start as a society making these people know that this behaviour wont be tolerated and they either need to heal or really be alone.
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