@lanibaileylifestyle6167 protein is what builds muscles in the body. Helps sustain and build strength especially under alot of stress we probably burn protein and calories more
Honorable mentions; Getting enough high quality water, quality nutrition across the board, rest and recovery, time away from screens, safe social interactions, self-love, -compassion and -care, nature (if possible) and sleep ❤
The body really does track and store every hurt and/ or trauma. I agree! Hope everyone that can read this comment has done all they can to protect themselves as much as they can!!
This makes so much sense when it comes to depression. No one believed me or seemed to be able to understand I had significant body aches and muscle weakness that made it so hard to move around or even take a shower. It had nothing to do with my mood or will, I was in so much physical pain, way more than mental. I experienced more anxiety than sadness really. But since that pain didn't show up on a X-ray, or Ct, it was dismissed.
I'm a chosen miracle that got sober 7 years ago off of cocaine and I'm raising my deceased daughter's children facing unlawful and unfair eviction and am so desperate for this message... I haven't watched it fully but I wanted to thank you. There's people out here like me that are going through so much. We can't possibly take a minute out to go to a counselor at the moment cuz we're too busy trying to meet basic survival
My heart and prayers go out to you. I truly wish you many great blessings and hope that you navigate through this difficult time. 🙏 please, please don't give up and continue to press forward.
Dr. Aimee basically described my entire life. I’m turning 60 this year. The times I had improvement with pain and quality of life were the times I was able to focus on nutrition and did tai chi and mild yoga. Movement is key. There are days I forget to eat or drink and sleep sometimes becomes a luxury. I have found myself in bed for months bc my body just gave out. I really appreciate this video and it gives me hope that my body can heal.
Great information, so much truth in this info on trauma as it relates to our bodies. My prayer is that God will give us strength and wisdom to put the work in needed to be a part of our healing process. We have relied on medical workers to know and tell us what to do or what's going on in our bodies instead of partnering with them and becoming an integral part of our healing process. Thank God for info. like this because it's freeing. TO ALL WHO NEED HEALING, LIKE MYSELF MAY GOD heal us physically, mentally and spiritually and may he use medical workers, counselors and those in the caregiving profession to treat the whole person not just the symptoms. God is the healer and has given us tools within ourselves to help ourselves. The human body is a miracle itself. Thanks again for the info. 🙏
There comes a time when you understand enough, and analyzing it more is not going to help you. Yep...that's why the gym, massage, and stretching are way more helpful for me than focusing on my feelings. It astounds me how much grief can wreak havoc on our bodies. I remember just getting on a treadmill once and started sprinting and crying, as if I was trying to outrun everything. But after that, the heaviness and shaking stopped, and I felt relieved. Bizarre...
Ah I also had big benefits from a run on the treadmill though not so visceral as you . When the kids were small and a was a solo mum it was ALOT thst were switched on all day until they hit bed time . I would choke on a trivial oh no where in the gym creche and I would have music on and not be so so tired but I thought I’ll just give myself five minutes at least.. I would run and I would actually visualise running joyfully and riding far far away from all my stress and out running it and running into love .. now I realised it was even more beneficial than the feel good moments afterwards.. it was I guess and what you refer to as activation energy and completion .., there was lots of adrenaline in my system from the day today mothering AND from my ex husband . Explains why as I said I was so so exhausted I don’t just knew that I needed to move and I did feel better for it. Gee if I didn’t I would not be in a good way. What is the difference with the other version of body work you talk about you seem to mention more than somatic pay attention to your sensations in your body… i’m not too keen on that, seems hard . But being in your body via activity makes sense ( walking in nature or yoga or tai chi or massage )
This is a great video! I lived with a Covert Narcissist fir 45 yrs. After his death, my body went into shut doen physically. Muscke and join pain so severe, it srnt me to thr ER My medical Dr and my therapist ageed that it was Trama Response stored in my body. Needing to let go of thr anger and the grief to trlievr the bofy pain. Its been 21 months now and I am a 100 percent better...abd getting better evety day. Thank you for the validation and the info on Trama Response Toxicity. Growing healther in North Carolina!! Thanl God for ypu two!!!
OMG no one has ever made sense to me than watching and hearing this lady speak 😭😭😭😭 I'm everything she's mentioned about storing trauma in my body. The sicknesses I still experience. The chronic fatigue and chronic insomnia 😭😭 gut health.. I'm a wreck and I'm barely trying to survive each day.
So let me get this straight When trauma happens to us it can be like a attack on our body that causes it to tense up & react over & over again causing a cycle of health problems. This makes so much sense because I've had a lot of trauma followed by ptsd ,chronic fatigue ,fibromyalgia, & chronic imflimation ,Wow, so PTSD, trauma, fibromyalgia, & chronic fatigue are all connected & possibly caused by attachment trauma. Finally some progress in what is triggering all the pain inflamation & suffering ! Thank you ladies !!! this is a major breakthrough in the subject of trauma 🎯👍🏼
@@emma-my8bnsomatoform disorder might be how it's described in the DSM, and most psychiatrists don't take somatoform disorders seriously at all, but my takeaway from this is that for far too long our medical professions in the western world have made the grave mistake of separating the body from the mind, rather than treating the whole - holistically
Thank you Emma for sharing the message and for having me in this video! Brilliant video! Super happy that it gets shared across and hopefully help a lot of people in their healing journey.
This was the best explanation about how trauma gets trapped in the body that I have come across. I have been trying to understand this for the past couple of years after going through a major depressive episode in 2021... I've definitely experienced this, having grown up in a traumatic household. I've suffered with anxiety and depression, sleep issues, eating issues, digestive problems and dysregulation my entire life thinking that this is just how I am and continually struggling. It is so good to get some clarity and understanding. I am finally on the healing journey. Thank you for this episode with Dr. Aimee. It was a blessing to me. I am so grateful. 🙏
Thank you from the bottom of my soul for this post. Knowledge is power and I live with PIL, primary intestinalLymphangiectasia, which is chronic malnourishment from birth. Along with a list of mental health challenges, I had no idea I was holding pain in my body that was constantly surviving abuse as a child and continues to this day anytime I am in an unsafe relationship or re-living memories of past unsafe relationships. This may take time to begin healing my gut, my lungs, my nervous system, etc. but now I can be certain that I am not sick on purpose. I'm not making myself sick, I just didn't put these pieces together. Brilliant.
I'm thoroughly gobsmacked at how relatable this is. I pushed that dang boulder today. It felt so good. I wasn't even having a specific trauma response, anxiety, or anything, but I did the thing and oh my goodness! I mean, really, the boulder was the perfect metaphor. I have nudged, shoved, dodged, ignored, been run over by, and let that dang boulder fall back on me time after time after time all my life. Today I pushed it as far as I could, slowly, with all my stored might, and it moved and it stayed where I moved it. This was amazing. Thank you thank you!
Well that explains so much why I don't watch TV, including the news. Even sitting in the room with my husband when he has some crime show on is unnerving to me that I leave the room soon after, yet he feels like I avoid him but he's the workaholic and fills his free time teaching karate and going to church. I deconstructed the faith I once held for 40+ years of my life 12 years ago, unknowing to me at the time was a huge part of deconstructing much of my own cognitive dissonance. That freed my mind of psychological prison. Now in my second phase of my trauma healing the past 9 months in therapy and watching videos like these and recently, my youngest daughter and I doing yoga together.
Once while working as a child welfare caseworker I believe I had a pretty profound vagus nerve attack. I walked into a home and came across a horrific child neglect situation involving a 2 year old so emancipated he was bones in a diaper. He could barely stand up and also had a belt looped around his neck. Long story short, by the time I got back to my office I fell to the floor doubled over in severe cramps, the room was spinning, nauseous and couldn’t lift my head off the floor for about two hours. I’m very holistic and healthy so this came out of the blue. I knew very little about trauma biology at the time but inherently knew my sudden attack had everything to do with what I had encountered earlier that day. This video was immensely fascinating!
Wow. I started crying when she said you can make space for yourself after pushing the boulder. I don’t know what it touched but it was deep. Thank you for sharing this information.
The boulder exercise broke me down.. and with breakdowns comes break-throughs! I have been trying and trying to release my internal trauma and I finally have found the first step to completing the cycles. That was intense and so incredibly needed. Worlds of thanks to the both of you ladies for redirecting my journey right when I need it the most. Huge love to you both ❤
Thank you, Emma and Dr Aimie, how thorough both of you are in the works you do is truly a gift from God. You're both like real live angels on earth Every family should be mothered by women like you
So nice to see doctors catching up to what ancient modalities have known for thousands of years and what alternative health practitioners have been teaching for hundreds of years
Put in work 💪🏽 and went through emdr and somatic therapy for trauma I had no knowledge of. All I knew was that I felt DONE , mind body spirit depleted. 7 months into the journey and we are working on installations. I’m so grateful for amazing providers and educators. Thank you!
I have done everything..hypnosis, feldencraise, yoga, frequency treatment, meditation, somatics, emotional freedom tecnique…tapping, affirmations, quigong, ..unless anyone has experienced trauma they don’t know…
As some one trained in massage therapy with a degree in psychology and who has done lots of yoga, I have long held basically the same view from my own experience. My explanation to others is like this: If you experience a traumatic experience, like almost being run over by a car, your physical response in the body is for your muscles to tense up as part of the fight or flight response. When the event is over and you can relax, maybe 99% of the muscles actually release their tension. However, deep within the muscle, perhaps at the deepest part, there are some muscle cells that simply do not let go. I don't know the precise "how" of it. One theory I've had is that the lack of blood flow from the layers of constricted muscles interfere with the functioning of a small number of neurons deepest within that constriction. However, more recently, I've begun to think that it is a function of repression / suppression. We regularly repress and suppress our emotions to avoid appearing weak to others, to ourselves. So after that near-death example of almost getting run over, your "complete" emotional response might be to collapse weeping on the ground thinking of how you almost lost everyone and everything, how your life was almost over, the family who would mourn, the undone dreams, the pain you almost went through. However, who wants to lay weeping on the ground in public, in front of others? So instead, we bear down to get control of our emotions. Bear down? Right, that is a muscular phrase, and involves squeezing muscles which helps in some manner to help us hold back emotions. We bear down and, in essence, lock those emotions away behind that wall of tension. It then stays tense the rest of our lives absent some kind of intervention later in life. Thus, over our lives, our body's musculature becomes a roadmap of our life's traumas. In massage, if we do deep tissue on a person, we can find such tension and we can release it. When it releases, it is not uncommon for the client to experience an emotional flashback to that traumatic event and/or an emotional release and catharsis. Because you do need to still process the emotions you refused to process at the time of the traumatic incident or since. I've had client's sobbing on the table during massage due to such catharsis. Afterwards, not only do they feel much better emotionally, but the muscles tensed to hold back those emotions are now relaxed giving the person a sense of greater physical lightness, mobility, flexibility and freedom. On the other hand, in my personal therapeutic journey, I have sometimes found myself realizing I had never processed grief from a past experience, I let it wash over me, have a major cathartic response (e.g., sobbing) which I do not suppress, but let it run its course and even probing it as you would a sore tooth till every last drop of emotion is wrung out of that experience. It cannot always be done in one session of catharsis, sometimes need to go back a few times to meditate on the experience, find new aspects of emotion I've not yet released from it, and get a bit more catharsis. Once done, I feel physically lighter, not just emotionally, and certain muscles move more freely without that tension. I have witnessed the same thing happen to others. Thus, it seems possible to attack this problem from either end, from the muscular tension or from the emotional suppression, leading to the same result. Note, if you are thinking of going out for a very deep tissue massage to get rid of all your emotional trauma, it is not quite so simple. A lot of massage therapists (most?) do deep tissue by plowing through tense muscles in a way that tears and hurts. I do not believe that will create any release of trauma, and may even add more onto it. My own philosophy of deep tissue, which I was taught, is that you go as deep as the muscles will let you and not one bit further; move through the muscle fibers, and if you find a tension / knot, you then wait patiently at the doorstep of the tension that is refusing to let you further/deeper. You wait patiently, sort of knocking on the door, and you wait as long as it takes for the edges of the muscle you are pressed up against to slowly relax and allow you deeper. You may have to go through multiple layers like this. Eventually, you can get as deep as with the "plow and tear" method, but with no tearing, no pain, no trauma. This type of deep tissue is a silent conversation / communion between the muscle of the therapist and the muscles of the client at the spot where they touch, and the client's muscles slowly gain a level of trust in the therapist to let them in deeper. It is rather analogous to the way a patient is able to go deeper emotionally as they gain trust in their psychotherapist. The point is, this kind of massage therapy for release takes a long time and it can be very hard to find a massage therapist who truly understands and practices this kind of deep tissue. Also, I expect it requires a certain level of embodiment for a client to surrender fully to this kind of muscular communion and release, so it may work best on people who have practices meditation, yoga, etc., and it may not work at all or as well if some one is a "typical" American couch potato who scoffs at meditation and is very cut off from their body. I actually believe psychedelic medicines can greatly aid this type of thing, in particular I think ketamine can be very effective if used properly. I have witnessed a combined use of ketamine on a person receiving deep massage like I describe while simultaneously discussing past traumatic events with a therapist, and the results were beyond expectation, at least from my lay perspective (I have bachelors in psychology, but am not a psych professional, so I do not claim to truly understand how effective this was long-term for the patient/client, but it does seem very promising to me). The bottom line is Western medicine and science in general has a flaw of compartmentalization. We talk about healing emotions through psychotherapy or perhaps massage therapy to release trauma-related tensions or perhaps using psychedelic medicines to allow the person to delve more deeply into their own psyche to find their old wounds and release them from within. So if these are three good modalities for healing trauma, why not combined all three? Seems like a no-brainer to me. Oh, well. following added 11/14/23 after review of above, to explain theory on how knot gets released in this kind of deep tissue: One benefit often overlooked of massage, and deep tissue massage, is bringing conscious focus to areas of the body holding suppressed traumas/tensions. We don't really feel them, notice them, or think of them normally. But laying on the table with the therapist pressing into muscles you probably use but don't think about much. your mental focus almost always shifts to the point of contact the therapist is making. Now, your consciousness is there and is moving along with the point of contact. So when the therapist gets to a deep, repressed tension, and then waits, the client's awareness is now there, too (I usually suggest/invite clients to imagine they are breathing healing/relaxation into the point of contact and breathing out tension/stress, which I think helps them keep awareness like this.) So when the therapist reaches a deep knot of tension in a client, the client on some level (subconscious?) notices it like a person putting on a pair of shoes they had not worn for years, finding the fit is not quite right, unexpected lump. "What's this?" the awareness says, does an audit, finds out this area was zones for temporary suppressed memory storage, but never released. Seeks approval from admin to un-suppress it to get the muscle untensed since it is causing pain/issues. Once admin approves it, the tension released and the suppressed feelings/images are processed to the brain in a cathartic experience and the knot vanishes. This may take a few seconds or 10 minutes. At some point, the therapist has to just give up, but I cannot say for sure if every knot would be released if the therapist just kept waiting -- hours or days if need be. But it could be some repressed stuff the person is not ready to deal with yet, so approval is denied. Since the release generally happens in a few minutes, I think it is reasonable to proceed on assumption that it takes a few minutes for this process, and if the muscle has not released in in a few minutes more, the request to release it was denied.
@@charusharma9650 I agree 100%, have done YTT myself. I do think, from my own experience, the highest value has been from Iyengar yoga, where you strive to perfect the pose (an impossible task, but somewhat meditative), getting everything in best alignment, best directional straining through fingertips or toes or whatever, so you are as activated as possible or appropriate for the pose, and then you can unwind things to an incredible degree, and meditate while you are at it, and release long-held tensions. I am skeptical of Vinyassa / flow yoga / power yoga / other westernized yogas that are more aerobic and movement-based to accomplish this as I find they generally move you through the pose before you ever get into it properly. As BKS Iyengar said (I think), "when you start to feel uncomfortable in the pose, that's when the yoga begins."
I love your perspective on this and I'd love to have a deep tissue massage like you describe! I have trauma stored in the deep muscles of my diaphragm and pelvis that I can't fully stretch or massage myself. I understand exactly what you describe as "waiting on the doorstep of tension" while the client does deep breathing and meditation until the muscles let go and let the masseuse go further into the root of the contraction.
@Kate-cr5jr Well, if you are in California area, i might be able to squeeze you in... really, though, best to vet your local massage / holistic community because u want some one who "gets" it, knows the program. i have found those therapists to be few & far between, alas. some really great therapists into all sorts of holistic modalities still are too impatient with deep tissue, plow through. Treat the muscle like a French baker treats his dough, you knead the body to life and connectivity, you do not plow the body into furrows for seeding/planting. Or that's what I think, ymmv. While I'm on the topic, I think most massage therapists get into the "plow" mentality because time is money, but also because client's are masochists feeling better if they feel pain because of some deep self-loathing that needs addressing, whether through talk therapy or massage or combination. We all make mistakes, realize we did something crappy, feel bad, carry that weight around, knit it into our musculature, and for some, pain to atone is a way to find peace. That gets into another psychology topic, of how sexual kinks like bdsm are psychological ways of seeking resolution to past traumas. My parents divorced when I was three and my mother remarried almost immediately, so I had a strange man replace my father, discipline me, etc., which I despised at the time. I think subconsciously I was unable to accept my mother giving herself to this man I despised, so I reframed it as her taking him, not her giving herself to him. Which is a small thing, but may have opened up the door to a femdom kink that I had for some time. When I realized all this in therapy, realized I loved my stepfather, even if the small child I was felt he had to hate him out of loyalty to my real father, and embrace my love for my stepfather, that kink faded and I began enjoying being more dominant sexually. The point is that our kinks are trauma flags. We literally call them "kinks" because we are kinked up, knotted up, etc. As we finally process the repressed emotions we have buried from past traumas, these kinks lose their addictive / compulsive quality, but I think they are always going to be colors on the palette of our lives, but we can choose them at our whim, not feel compelled to dive into them to try to resolve or at least salve past traumas. I should note that I did study sexology at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco decades ago, so "to the man with a hammer, everything looks like a nail," and I probably have a sex hammer. Wait, that did not come out right... ;) I guess if a person were to seek maximum efficacy of therapy, by combining as many modalities as possible into the gestalt of therapy, that could include massage, psychotherapy, psychedelic medicines, and tantra (which is itself basically sex/sensuality + yoga + meditation + breathwork). I did combine all four modalities myself in the past, in the course of a loving and committed relationship, and I thought it was quite effective, but that level of intimacy is maybe once in a lifetime. I may write a book about it at some point. I should note that adding the fourth tantric/sexual/kink element to therapy is rather taboo in a professional setting. First, it has super high risk of problematic issues arising, like transference. Optimally, you would find a partner, you would both learn about all four modalities and then be each other's taffy puller, wrestling out each other's issues and helping each other address them using all four modalities and anything else you can think of. Why settle for anything less?
OMG 😮. Thank you! This is the puzzle piece that was missing. I had childhood and adulthood traumas. I proactively tried to help myself over the years. Trained in hypnotherapy NLP and energy healing. Still today, it's like I am only just functioning. Infections, pain and fatigue. Now I understand why. It's a huge step forward. Even a decade ago this was not really promoted. I got that trauma goes into the body but didn't understand the process. ❤
So true. It’s only been going out to the public the last 7 years and only last 3 years that the massage is really being pushed publicly. It’s a game changer and the Body Keeps the Score is an incredible book.
This was THE best explanation about trauma response I have ever heard. As a coach, I deal with people with extreme amounts of trauma and I feel this explanation and examples were fantastic. Thank you.
I just came upon you. I wish I had this information 30 years ago!!! Spent the last 2 hours glued to these videos!! They are awesome!! You are very engaging, helpful, and sincere. I may be older, but you have the tools. Thank you 💛
This is so helpful! Many years ago, when my panic attacks started coming back because I was in a stressful job, I was advised to run or walk quickly on the spot, to deal with the adrenaline coursing around my body. I couldn't always do this while I was experiencing the panic attack but I'd try to do it afterwards. It also helped me to get out of my head quicker.
woohoo!! I am so excited for you! I've been doing therapy myself for a while, but it's focusing more on the mind stuff. Because of this video, I'm now on the lookout for somatic therapy
This has been an amazing experience for me. I have been on my healing journey for many years and I am at a point where I've been searching for something else. Everything you describe and the exercise you shared is amazing. I have been living out of my body most of my life. I had memories of severe child abuse 3 yrs ago at the age of 64. It was totally blocked from my consciousness til then and it really started a flood that turned my whole sense of self upside down and inside out. I have come so very far in my healing and I feel like I found a valuable new healing tool today., I'm very grateful. I love Therapy in a Nutshell, thanks for being a guest
Just 13 minutes into the video, and wow! Dr. Aimie is explaining this in a phenomenal way...so understandable and makes so much sense. Thank you, Emma, for this. 💕
I have almost recovered from once severe Fibromyalgia and CFS and what is said here is 100% true. I do have to say that for me, doing the needed emotional work was a huge journey and took lots of time and concentrated work to be at a place now aware of emotions in the body (anger, grief, shame, fear,) and ability to feel those emotions in my body and feel the emotions stuck in my body from the past (my childhood, ex husband etc.). I also did lots of work on 'not good enough" and that was huge also.
@@Jillloveszumba Start by reading the book The Divided Mind by the late Dr. John Sarno and follow all the people who have continued his work on what he termed TMS (mind body disorders that have no underlying structural cause). Also read the book the book "The Way Out" by Alan Gordon (and listen to his podcast) and the book "Unlearn Your Pain" by Dr. Howard Shubiner. Start by reading the comments under Dr. Sarno's books and all the people who healed with his methods. I had to lots of emotional work as I was so repressed but it was so worth it!!!
A low carb diet will help fibro and fatigue. It's linked to insulin resistance. Also D ribose, Acetyl l carnitine, fish oils and coenzyme q10. Plus magnesium x
This was eye opening about how important it is to complete actions. For example, I never realized how social media bombards me with things that I can not complete or help fix. Like it leaves you "hanging". I am stuck in a trauma response. Thank you so much for this talk.
My God this perfectly articulates lupus that someone very close to me ultimately died of as they developed renal failure secondary to lupus then breast cancer which metastasized to bone cancer despite having all women in family on both sides living well into 90's-- I am grateful for this information, western medicine needs to catch up to this ever growing pandemic. Thank you from the bottom of my heart I needed to hear and understand this which I have intuitively tries to articulate myself but never could,now it's too late and I think I've developed a secondary trauma myself out of deep everyday frustration that I couldn't "fix" this person,now I'm just alone and very grief stricken and want to embrace the mechanisms to not suffer the same fate. Massive gratitude for this xx
Im so glad I found you.. ive lost 2 family members a brother and sister within 11 months of each other. I've lost 7 to cancer. Now I see it's a carryover of trauma. I always wondered what being physically emotionally and mentally abusive would do to the body that Ive been thru. Thank you for helping us learn another way.. i have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia and squamous cell cancer.. my beautiful sister who died was diagnosed with lupus .. she also was traumatized in her life . ... I want to live.
I got burnout at 51…I have fibro ..had it for 15 yrs…I have had lots of trauma..I understand how the vegus nerve works..it help so many functions in our body…when that doesn’t work properly it effects body functions…I now have muskular skeletal problems ..thank you…
Emma I've been listening to you since quite some time now. And your knowledge has been so relieving to me who has been confused all my life about what's happening to me. Next, Dr. Apigian, you blew my mind. I was doing chores and did not plan on watching this video (coz escapism is easy and learning is hard). I randomly fast forwarded it to avoid the introduction. And God led me to that exact moment from where I needed to listen. And man.. You said SO much in such few crisp sentences. Thank you to both of you from the depth of my battered heart.
I'm so glad to hear of your work that really addresses the body and how trauma gets embedded. I need this kind of work, definitely, and will pursue it at my age of 86 where I am not ready to give up.
I’m on my 10th year of healing from chronic pain, ptsd, cancer and a back injury. Everything went wrong at once for me. Loosing my career and being homeless. I did pain management and 5 yrs of therapy. 2023 was the first year I haven’t had weekly panic attacks and I’m just starting to feel like it’s manageable. I stopped drinking 10 yrs ago and stopped pot a year ago. The pot was doing more damage than good. I still struggle with movement and pain but I now sleep and breathe properly again. I am healing every day
Thank you both for this. It explains so much how when I was traumatized as a child and how I've experienced so many medical problems.....triglycerides, high blood pressure, diabetes and numerous precancers affecting all my organs...fibroids, tumors, polyps and cysts. I caught them in time treated with numerous surgeries. My gallbladder exploded when I was 33. They kept calling it stress and never treated it. My immunity was always compromised. My Mother was mentally ill and she took everything out on me, yelling at me and telling me she hated me. She even tied me to my bedpost and rocking chair. It just makes sense now.. cervical precancer known as Cin 111 was past the surgical margin, Vulvar precancer Vin 111 twice, Cysts on horseshoe kidneys and ovary, stomach and colon polyps and tumors on bladder. It wasnt caused by HPV. I've been through so much. Thanks for explaining. I couldn't have kids only had miscarriages 5 times. No wonder I can't sleep and have panic attacks.
You aren’t alone. I’ve had 17 surgeries since I was 27. Not going through all the illnesses. That’s 50 years of what surgeries and recoveries taking so much from me. Five miscarriages and a stillbirth. Two bad marriages. Chaotic childhood full of mentally ill parents, economic hardships, my illnesses age 10 and 12 with osteomyelitis. Left alone during the day during that time. Anyway, I’m 76 and everyday I’m taking care of ME and have some peace in my last years. I was a people pleaser and that is OVER.
@MarylandMermaid My first marriage ended after he hit me. I'm sorry for all you've been thru too. I don't feel so alone now. And we are both stronger because of it all.
@@marynelson9485 I’m sorry for what you went through as well. It’s made us stronger because we had to be ! I know we developed lots of empathy for the suffering.
This is so good! Healing is work. Feeling is work when you are used to analyzing to understand. We can know something and still react from painful triggers. Definitely worth is to work on healing from trauma to really 'feel safe'
You don't know how inspired this was Emma. THANK YOU!! I have Function Neurological Disorder and have been trying to find other therapies to treat it. This is GROUNDBREAKING! I am in awe and beyond happy right now. The validation I feel from this video is the one of the greatest things I could have ever received! So much horrible treatment I've had from medical "professionals" re traumatized me beyond description. Emma thank you again!!!! I thank God as well and hope this will help millions like me. ♥️🙏
My teenage son's therapist has been pointing this out to us (him, mostly, but his parents as well so we can help) for more than a year now. When my son employs an awareness of this, it has really helped his physiological conditions. It is a process that takes time, though, but the differences we've been seeing are already really remarkable!
@@lynnac6336 unfortunately, no. He's part of a community clinic that only takes patients from a specifically defined geographic area with income restrictions.
That’s excellent! It can be hard to find a good therapist for our kids . Are you suggesting to Therapist is raising the awareness of how the trauma is affecting his body and are you additionally saying there is some physical strategy that’s recommended or involved in the therapy
i love that idea..to not just inform the public about something happening but give them some action they can do instead of being left in a trauma state..oh we sooooo need that..and i try to share stories i find that are people seeing something happening and do something..it is so important to know and see that and not just the bad things that are happening.
Im stuck in a Trauma Response since having a horror trip from smoking weed and now I suffer from Depersonalization/Derealization and general anxiety disorder 24/7 since 2009. And I know it's not in my "mind", because I have no bad/anxiety thoughts. But my body is still stuck in this trauma response and I can`t get out. I have not really relaxed since 2009. Not once. It is exhausting. But thank you for this video!
I am in awe. I suffer from pelvic floor dysfunction for two years now, secondary to two cancers and intense chemo & stem cell Transplant and also Fibromyalgia for 30 yrs. Yes this is a long list but I have wondered if trauma was responsible? WOW. Thank you for sharing with us !! ❤
Really appreciate this information I will share this with my son. His children are dealing with a lot with their mom. This simple exercise will help. I too have trauma from a physical marriage year's ago I know I have internal traum it shows up in my nerves in my stomach. Thank you both 😊
I can identify with this. Up to fourteen I was a normal pretty child but at fourteen I received a serious emotional shock. Within a week my chest literally caved in, my lower legs swelled and bcame discoloured and painful and violent migraines started. These troubles stayed with me most of my life - I'm now 80 - though curiously enough i had perfect legs and no headaches throughout 2 pregnancies. Doctors had no idea how to help but I can say it affected so.many aspects of my life. Who knows!
Wow! !This makes so much sense! Since age 12 I have suffered with anorexia and am now 50 and I have chronic widespread pain, daily panic attacks and I am so exhausted. The panic attacks literally cause me to freeze and I can't move for hours. I have been in the fight and flight response for over 35 years. And my digestion is a wreck.
I’ve been stuck in fight or flight for 2 years. Panic attacks, ER visits, therapies, chronic illness, depression, anxiety, this doctor to this doctor to this doctor.
Thank you so much for this video! I've been wondering for long if a trauma could be stored in the body, as I noticed that working on my body, on my posture, getting connected to it, was helping me getting through my traumas. Now you confirmed that what I've been feeling wasn't just made up by my mind, by my willing to heal, but is a real psycho-somatic pathway. Thank you so much for all the videos you post, Emma, they are inspiring and do help improving mental health
As I’m listening to this end portion about creating space, I’m thinking watching the news I can’t do anything to change it or or even for myself, but I can pray if I if I believe prayer is an action and someone’s listening that has the power to change things and complete things And that is an action I can always take that all times it’s a spiritual intervention action yes? I’m driving so forgive my mistakes. This whole episode or interview has been extremely helpful to me. Thank you.
The throwing balls too fast was a breakthrough for me. I recently ended a friendship with a neighbor that smothered me with overgiving/overfuntioning. I don't like feeling indebted, so i tried to reciprocate making dinners, etc. I became overwhelmed and exhausted. She became resentful. I now feel relief! Space to breathe!
Wow when you said about how different it is now, hearing about problems we can’t see come to completion I felt the tears well up, and it makes such sense, watching people complete mowing the lawn or whatever wow so deep and true and real. I think you are right we need to know what we can do. Also thank you to your guest I am intrigued and hope to learn more on this topic 😍
You nailed it when you said we seek stimulants (caffeine for me) more than usual and the chronic fatigue that is it’s partner. And losing weight is impossible. Yes, I’ve gained 7 pounds months ago when my husband started having problems at work. I cannot, in any way, lose it. And I already lift weights and do cardio. My body feels it needs to hold onto fat. He just got hired by a competitor today and it’s what he reluctantly wanted (wanted to retire at his current job as he only has 7 years to go) but when his paycheck bounces every week isn’t that’s sign to move on??? Our finances are a mess (of which I am in charge) so I’m hoping it will ease off in the next few weeks. He needs a vacation and a really good body massage…(me too!) 😌 Thank you for explaining it all-I feel quite relieved!!! ♥️♥️
Wishing your family success in the new job change, may the other issues begin to right themselves. I found I would get migraines every time I did our budget spreadsheet. Now I go into it with a different mindset and the migraines haven’t shown up after doing the budget.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
I am 43 and have scoliosis. I have traced this beginning when I was 5 years of age(then my scoliosis started) when my parents were fighting, my father was saying he will leave us,and I was terrified, I felt intense fear. And yes, I remember I was frozen. I am apsolutly certain this is connected.
I also have scoliosis. I grew up with a ton of yelling and DV. Absolutely this stunted my nervous system and then manifested physically...chronic pain, fatigue, GI issues, anxiety, depression....
Your right, most cases of idiopathic scoliosis have been brought on by traumatic experiences. The fear a child feels when the adults in their life are undependable, violent and outright rejecting leads to the tightening of the fascia which in turn causes the spine to twist. After my mother died at 11, I had to deal with a violent, abusive father along with sexual abuse and neglect soon after I developed scoliosis. Wish the medical community will look at scoliosis as a mind-body condition rather than just a physical anomaly.😕😕
This is a great video! Thank you ladies! I have felt called for a long time to combine mental health and physical health in a natural path, this is inspiring!
Thank you so much. This clarifies where I'm at so well. I have been struggling with the healthcare (mental and physical) systems for a long time about my fatigue and anxiety and to know where to go or what to do. Definitely know the why, which really was not helping. I'm almost afraid to believe that I may be turning a corner. I've been in a state of mind that there was no help for. Thank God I don't give up. I would be more than willing to help in any way to get this information out and into the mainstream healthcare system and to others. There are so many people out there who need this. Thank you so much again
What a wonderful program! FINALLY, the big picture.... And what we can do about it. 😊😅😅 I'm in my 'third act', with lots of 'former' trauma in my life... Lots of therapies, meds, and programs later I finally feel as if I have landed in the right spot to help me make the rest of my life both viable AND enjoyable! Thank you so much. All blessings for the great work you two! ❤️
Wow At 17:25 min in I had to relisten several times….. grief and gut health. Just, wow. I’ve been on my therepy journey and healing journey for a lifetime now but this Dr is beyond what has penetrated my puny traumatized brain (that really can’t absorb very much because I LIVE and BREATHE in Hypoarousal))…. Thank you for this talk!!! I’ve been following many many docs and therepy channels but I love how this gal explains everything!
Holy crap I have been diagnosed with chronic fatigue this year and have been suppressing my emotions for years. So glad to finally understand why I got it in the first place
@@tnt01 there's no universal cure. Some get better with time and rest. For others there's a psycho-somatic cause to their fatigue which can be from negative thought patterns and chronic stress. Usually there is a trigger for the fatigue e.g change in health, life change, medication or medical event. Most people agree that chronic fatigue is a dysregulation of the nervous system and that it can be helped by cognitive behavioural therapy, meditation, visualisation and lots of rest. The degree to which treatment helps depends on the person but it's my belief that all of them help in a small way. You must calm your body down and be very active by using those remedies. Don't push yourself physically. There may also be a psychological component that can be addressed by a psychologist. PTSD is commonly associated with chronic fatigue. My theory for this is that chronic stress and PTSD both can alter the amygdala in the brain, which is a key part of the nervous system.
I'm healing from two traumas, I lost my job in covid in Sicily, got fired and had to flee home at the beginning , my mum refused to have me home which reignited my hidden trauma of her leaving at 13. I'm crying so much but it is very healing indeed that it highlighted what wasn't healed yet. I think for me I buried it as it was too much to endure and I wouldn't have survived it in childhood or got my education.
@@jillwklausen If you mean the course, then sadly yes - it's not free. It was worth it for me to gain the foundation to regulate, gain safety in my body (first time in 36 years...), process my emotions and feeling like I know where to move onward to heal. Before this, I went from doctor to doctor trying to heal my gut... for 12 years. Every time my gut got better, I'd have emotions come up which were so difficult I couldn't sit with them. I'd do ANYTHING To escape it and went into a trance like state. It could take up to a month before I came out, and I'd crash again. Back to freeze for months. Gut slowly getting worse and the cycle repeats. Now I know how to manage it all and give the body what it needs to not spiral out of control. This is finally my path towards healing. It's only one step in the process, but it is fundamental to be able to do any trauma work.
I have also done the 21 Day Journey with Dr Aimie and my life is SO different now. Have lost the constant brain fog, insomnia and no longer feeling overwhelmed every day.
The timing of this video😂🤯🤣 PTSD diagnosis around 12 or 13...almost 40 and STILL so much anxiety, uncertainty and triggers! It feels like muscle memory just like tieing my shoes. This video was very insightful! Thank you!
Yep, you need to do the somatic work to heal from the trauma. I do medical ketamine which also helps the brain make new connections and understand the healing process better. The main idea it has help[ped me with is Move My Body!
This video is amazing. You are empowering us with knowledge that are not easy to come by. I was stuck in the belief that talk therapy was the best one for me, but now I am wanting to get into somatic experience since medications and talk therapy didn’t work for me. This video is underrated. This needs to be seen by everyone. Thank you both for sharing your expertise 🙏🏼
Wow! What a talk and conversation. The articulation by Dr Apigian was out of this world. In particular the clarity and vividness of the explained process whereby trauma becomes trapped in our body's constituent parts and systems, and the trapped trauma's ensuing institution of pathologies. Which literally brought lucid images to my mind of courses I have experienced. This interview is invaluable as a direct resource, as well as a launchpad to truly helping myself and others very close to me. My biggest thanks.
very informative. I've been doing therapy but the majority of the work is mind-based approached and I've been wanting to look through my trauma stuff - and this is very good to hear that this program exist!!
Wow, this was fascinating. I learned so much! When she talks about “just knowing something doesn’t change how you react to a situation”, I related it to the phrase “practice makes perfect”. Just from my experience in life, it takes repetitive action to create new habits over time. One small example I can think of is knowing I need to drink more water regularly, but knowing that doesn’t help me unless I actually drink the water. It also reminds me that it’s important to give yourself grace when learning to “walk”, so to speak. I’m excited to put what I’ve learned here into practice. Thank you for sharing ❤
Brilliantly executed... I’m saving to rewatch- thank you for this very valuable information. Also, as an early childhood teacher, I’m always interested in a child’s birth story as trauma from childbirth, or early emotional trauma often shows in the child’s early developmental and learning stages 🙏🏻
My goodness, I didn't see your comment and I just posted a comment along this same line. I have wondered about breech births and trauma stored. I was a breech-many years ago- for over 10 hours and have suffered from depression, hyper-vigilance, etc. all of my life. Of course falling out of a car,(no seat belts in those days), as a toddler didn't help, and other physical and emotional traumas within the first 5 years. I think that teachers have neglected, hesitated, or even attempted to inquire as to the first few years of a child's possible traumas, big or small. The cumulative folder for a student doesn't seem to address these issues and, therefore, the development of the child is handicapped. I wish someone would do a study on the issue of breech and trauma.
This is awesome. I am a HSP and I came to the conclusion that my negative feelings and experiences seemed to be trapped inside my cells. It feel wonderful to hear what you are saying and to know that I am not mad. Xx
This was so profound for me. Everything she talked about resonated with me and it's exactly why I am dealing with chronic health conditions and have lost my life :(
I consider my chronic pain a redirection. Life is telling me I need to slow down, learn some lessons, rewire my nervous system and learn how to live a new.
I have no degree's. I do have a lot of healing time and in a support role of people guide by mental health pro's. I agree with your comment. I like trauma informed care. My perspective and training I have had as an non-pro. Trauma informed care says meet the person where they are at. Different people need different types of help from my experience. I could be wrong because I am not a therapist in any way. Just someone who supports people through every kind of imaginable trauma.
Yes! As an HSP, I had to find my almost nonexistent window of tolerance. I couldn't do grounding exercises or EFT tapping because they were triggering, meditation and breathing exercises were all I could do at first.
I was bullied growing up and I now struggle with PTSD from it. This was VERY helpful, THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! I'm a Christian too, by the way!!!!!!!!!! Just referring to the description.
A couple things that have helped me: ditch social media altogether (no IG, FB, Twitter, Snap), going for walks for 30 minutes, increase in protein
I do the same. And some other things also.
What does increasing protein do for the body? Maybe I need to increase my protein.
@lanibaileylifestyle6167 protein is what builds muscles in the body. Helps sustain and build strength especially under alot of stress we probably burn protein and calories more
@@lanibaileylifestyle6167 stabilizes blood sugar and this more regulating to the nervous system
Honorable mentions; Getting enough high quality water, quality nutrition across the board, rest and recovery, time away from screens, safe social interactions, self-love, -compassion and -care, nature (if possible) and sleep ❤
"The Body Keeps the Score" is an excellent book on this subject. Great video. I love this information.
The body really does track and store every hurt and/ or trauma. I agree! Hope everyone that can read this comment has done all they can to protect themselves as much as they can!!
I’m reading this book right now. 😍
I just got this book Friday ❣️🥰
I need this book, thank you many many times.....
Who is the author of the body keeps the score book?
This makes so much sense when it comes to depression. No one believed me or seemed to be able to understand I had significant body aches and muscle weakness that made it so hard to move around or even take a shower. It had nothing to do with my mood or will, I was in so much physical pain, way more than mental. I experienced more anxiety than sadness really. But since that pain didn't show up on a X-ray, or Ct, it was dismissed.
31:00 “Give me something to study but don’t give me anything to feel” - this resonated with me- always been more of a thinker than a feeler.
I'm a chosen miracle that got sober 7 years ago off of cocaine and I'm raising my deceased daughter's children facing unlawful and unfair eviction and am so desperate for this message... I haven't watched it fully but I wanted to thank you. There's people out here like me that are going through so much. We can't possibly take a minute out to go to a counselor at the moment cuz we're too busy trying to meet basic survival
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So sorry hun. Thanking God for this video to bring AMAZING changes /transformation for both you and myself. Love n Hugs❤
My heart and prayers go out to you. I truly wish you many great blessings and hope that you navigate through this difficult time. 🙏 please, please don't give up and continue to press forward.
You don't call yourself boss lady for nothing. Turn to a creator first then turn your trauma energy into a beautiful life.🎉 youcandoit Grammy
Dr. Aimee basically described my entire life. I’m turning 60 this year. The times I had improvement with pain and quality of life were the times I was able to focus on nutrition and did tai chi and mild yoga. Movement is key. There are days I forget to eat or drink and sleep sometimes becomes a luxury. I have found myself in bed for months bc my body just gave out. I really appreciate this video and it gives me hope that my body can heal.
Great information, so much truth in this info on trauma as it relates to our bodies. My prayer is that God will give us strength and wisdom to put the work in needed to be a part of our healing process. We have relied on medical workers to know and tell us what to do or what's going on in our bodies instead of partnering with them and becoming an integral part of our healing process. Thank God for info. like this because it's freeing. TO ALL WHO NEED HEALING, LIKE MYSELF MAY GOD heal us physically, mentally and spiritually and may he use medical workers, counselors and those in the caregiving profession to treat the whole person not just the symptoms. God is the healer and has given us tools within ourselves to help ourselves. The human body is a miracle itself. Thanks again for the info. 🙏
We All can grow and heal, no matter our age. Support to you.😊
67 here. Yes she does
Mine too deb7844 - I'm almost 64 I follow a keto diet, yoga and my psychologist - Good luck with your journey
I'm 60.5 and I just now figured this out with TH-cam. Thank you so much Emma and Aimie!
There comes a time when you understand enough, and analyzing it more is not going to help you. Yep...that's why the gym, massage, and stretching are way more helpful for me than focusing on my feelings. It astounds me how much grief can wreak havoc on our bodies. I remember just getting on a treadmill once and started sprinting and crying, as if I was trying to outrun everything. But after that, the heaviness and shaking stopped, and I felt relieved. Bizarre...
Ah I also had big benefits from a run on the treadmill though not so visceral as you . When the kids were small and a was a solo mum it was ALOT thst were switched on all day until they hit bed time . I would choke on a trivial oh no where in the gym creche and I would have music on and not be so so tired but I thought I’ll just give myself five minutes at least.. I would run and I would actually visualise running joyfully and riding far far away from all my stress and out running it and running into love .. now I realised it was even more beneficial than the feel good moments afterwards.. it was I guess and what you refer to as activation energy and completion .., there was lots of adrenaline in my system from the day today mothering AND from my ex husband . Explains why as I said I was so so exhausted I don’t just knew that I needed to move and I did feel better for it. Gee if I didn’t I would not be in a good way. What is the difference with the other version of body work you talk about you seem to mention more than somatic pay attention to your sensations in your body… i’m not too keen on that, seems hard . But being in your body via activity makes sense ( walking in nature or yoga or tai chi or massage )
Not bizarre at all
This is a great video! I lived with a Covert Narcissist fir 45 yrs. After his death, my body went into shut doen physically. Muscke and join pain so severe, it srnt me to thr ER
My medical Dr and my therapist ageed that it was Trama Response stored in my body. Needing to let go of thr anger and the grief to trlievr the bofy pain. Its been 21 months now and I am a 100 percent better...abd getting better evety day. Thank you for the validation and the info on Trama Response Toxicity.
Growing healther in North Carolina!!
Thanl God for ypu two!!!
OMG no one has ever made sense to me than watching and hearing this lady speak 😭😭😭😭 I'm everything she's mentioned about storing trauma in my body. The sicknesses I still experience. The chronic fatigue and chronic insomnia 😭😭 gut health.. I'm a wreck and I'm barely trying to survive each day.
😢 I'm so sorry. Me too! Sending payers for you.
I hear you. I am in the same boat. Since I was 5. Chaotic childhood, missed all the memos and yes, chronic issues. It sucks.
So sorry. I've had gut issues since adulthood. It's rough. So much unaddressed trauma through the years. We can get through this!
Same...you are not alone. 🤗
Pick up your Bible there's answers in it for everything.
So let me get this straight
When trauma happens to us it can be like a attack on our body that causes it to tense up & react over & over again causing a cycle of health problems. This makes so much sense because I've had a lot of trauma followed by ptsd ,chronic fatigue ,fibromyalgia, & chronic imflimation ,Wow, so PTSD, trauma, fibromyalgia, & chronic fatigue are all connected & possibly caused by attachment trauma. Finally some progress in what is triggering all the pain inflamation & suffering !
Thank you ladies !!! this is a major breakthrough in the subject of trauma 🎯👍🏼
Yes, it's called somotoform disorder. It's where emotional distress becomes physical pain.
@@emma-my8bndoctors chasing symptoms and giving us pills but the root cause of diseases is our thinking and emotions is sick.
@@emma-my8bnsomatoform disorder might be how it's described in the DSM, and most psychiatrists don't take somatoform disorders seriously at all, but my takeaway from this is that for far too long our medical professions in the western world have made the grave mistake of separating the body from the mind, rather than treating the whole - holistically
I am therapist and Dr Aimee has explained this perfectly she has helped me to join up the dots - inspiring 👏👏👌👌❤️
Thank you Emma for sharing the message and for having me in this video! Brilliant video! Super happy that it gets shared across and hopefully help a lot of people in their healing journey.
This was the best explanation about how trauma gets trapped in the body that I have come across. I have been trying to understand this for the past couple of years after going through a major depressive episode in 2021... I've definitely experienced this, having grown up in a traumatic household. I've suffered with anxiety and depression, sleep issues, eating issues, digestive problems and dysregulation my entire life thinking that this is just how I am and continually struggling. It is so good to get some clarity and understanding. I am finally on the healing journey. Thank you for this episode with Dr. Aimee. It was a blessing to me. I am so grateful. 🙏
"The Body Keeps Count' is incredible too!
Yes thank you. I bought that book when I was in massage school. I need to read it.@@LunaLaLove33
🙂I may be wrong, do you mean The body keeps the score by Bessel van der Kolk MD. @@LunaLaLove33
I am also so grateful for this video that I just happened upon.
This makes sense, along with regular body function.
Thank you from the bottom of my soul for this post. Knowledge is power and I live with PIL, primary intestinalLymphangiectasia, which is chronic malnourishment from birth. Along with a list of mental health challenges, I had no idea I was holding pain in my body that was constantly surviving abuse as a child and continues to this day anytime I am in an unsafe relationship or re-living memories of past unsafe relationships. This may take time to begin healing my gut, my lungs, my nervous system, etc. but now I can be certain that I am not sick on purpose. I'm not making myself sick, I just didn't put these pieces together. Brilliant.
I'm thoroughly gobsmacked at how relatable this is. I pushed that dang boulder today. It felt so good. I wasn't even having a specific trauma response, anxiety, or anything, but I did the thing and oh my goodness! I mean, really, the boulder was the perfect metaphor. I have nudged, shoved, dodged, ignored, been run over by, and let that dang boulder fall back on me time after time after time all my life. Today I pushed it as far as I could, slowly, with all my stored might, and it moved and it stayed where I moved it. This was amazing. Thank you thank you!
Well that explains so much why I don't watch TV, including the news. Even sitting in the room with my husband when he has some crime show on is unnerving to me that I leave the room soon after, yet he feels like I avoid him but he's the workaholic and fills his free time teaching karate and going to church. I deconstructed the faith I once held for 40+ years of my life 12 years ago, unknowing to me at the time was a huge part of deconstructing much of my own cognitive dissonance. That freed my mind of psychological prison. Now in my second phase of my trauma healing the past 9 months in therapy and watching videos like these and recently, my youngest daughter and I doing yoga together.
I have finally - after over a decade - clarity why I'm suffering every day. Thank you so much!
Once while working as a child welfare caseworker I believe I had a pretty profound vagus nerve attack. I walked into a home and came across a horrific child neglect situation involving a 2 year old so emancipated he was bones in a diaper. He could barely stand up and also had a belt looped around his neck. Long story short, by the time I got back to my office I fell to the floor doubled over in severe cramps, the room was spinning, nauseous and couldn’t lift my head off the floor for about two hours. I’m very holistic and healthy so this came out of the blue. I knew very little about trauma biology at the time but inherently knew my sudden attack had everything to do with what I had encountered earlier that day. This video was immensely fascinating!
Iam sorry you witnessed that
Wow. I started crying when she said you can make space for yourself after pushing the boulder. I don’t know what it touched but it was deep. Thank you for sharing this information.
I needed this like you wouldn’t believe. Thank you
The boulder exercise broke me down.. and with breakdowns comes break-throughs! I have been trying and trying to release my internal trauma and I finally have found the first step to completing the cycles. That was intense and so incredibly needed.
Worlds of thanks to the both of you ladies for redirecting my journey right when I need it the most. Huge love to you both ❤
Same!
One of the best interviews on trauma work I've listened to. Thank you!
Thanks! She was great, wasn't she!
Agreed!!
Thank you, Emma and Dr Aimie, how thorough both of you are in the works you do is truly a gift from God.
You're both like real live angels on earth
Every family should be mothered by women like you
So nice to see doctors catching up to what ancient modalities have known for thousands of years and what alternative health practitioners have been teaching for hundreds of years
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Put in work 💪🏽 and went through emdr and somatic therapy for trauma I had no knowledge of. All I knew was that I felt DONE , mind body spirit depleted. 7 months into the journey and we are working on installations. I’m so grateful for amazing providers and educators. Thank you!
I have done everything..hypnosis, feldencraise, yoga, frequency treatment, meditation, somatics, emotional freedom tecnique…tapping, affirmations, quigong, ..unless anyone has experienced trauma they don’t know…
As some one trained in massage therapy with a degree in psychology and who has done lots of yoga, I have long held basically the same view from my own experience. My explanation to others is like this: If you experience a traumatic experience, like almost being run over by a car, your physical response in the body is for your muscles to tense up as part of the fight or flight response. When the event is over and you can relax, maybe 99% of the muscles actually release their tension. However, deep within the muscle, perhaps at the deepest part, there are some muscle cells that simply do not let go. I don't know the precise "how" of it.
One theory I've had is that the lack of blood flow from the layers of constricted muscles interfere with the functioning of a small number of neurons deepest within that constriction. However, more recently, I've begun to think that it is a function of repression / suppression. We regularly repress and suppress our emotions to avoid appearing weak to others, to ourselves. So after that near-death example of almost getting run over, your "complete" emotional response might be to collapse weeping on the ground thinking of how you almost lost everyone and everything, how your life was almost over, the family who would mourn, the undone dreams, the pain you almost went through. However, who wants to lay weeping on the ground in public, in front of others? So instead, we bear down to get control of our emotions. Bear down? Right, that is a muscular phrase, and involves squeezing muscles which helps in some manner to help us hold back emotions. We bear down and, in essence, lock those emotions away behind that wall of tension. It then stays tense the rest of our lives absent some kind of intervention later in life.
Thus, over our lives, our body's musculature becomes a roadmap of our life's traumas. In massage, if we do deep tissue on a person, we can find such tension and we can release it. When it releases, it is not uncommon for the client to experience an emotional flashback to that traumatic event and/or an emotional release and catharsis. Because you do need to still process the emotions you refused to process at the time of the traumatic incident or since. I've had client's sobbing on the table during massage due to such catharsis. Afterwards, not only do they feel much better emotionally, but the muscles tensed to hold back those emotions are now relaxed giving the person a sense of greater physical lightness, mobility, flexibility and freedom.
On the other hand, in my personal therapeutic journey, I have sometimes found myself realizing I had never processed grief from a past experience, I let it wash over me, have a major cathartic response (e.g., sobbing) which I do not suppress, but let it run its course and even probing it as you would a sore tooth till every last drop of emotion is wrung out of that experience. It cannot always be done in one session of catharsis, sometimes need to go back a few times to meditate on the experience, find new aspects of emotion I've not yet released from it, and get a bit more catharsis. Once done, I feel physically lighter, not just emotionally, and certain muscles move more freely without that tension. I have witnessed the same thing happen to others. Thus, it seems possible to attack this problem from either end, from the muscular tension or from the emotional suppression, leading to the same result.
Note, if you are thinking of going out for a very deep tissue massage to get rid of all your emotional trauma, it is not quite so simple. A lot of massage therapists (most?) do deep tissue by plowing through tense muscles in a way that tears and hurts. I do not believe that will create any release of trauma, and may even add more onto it. My own philosophy of deep tissue, which I was taught, is that you go as deep as the muscles will let you and not one bit further; move through the muscle fibers, and if you find a tension / knot, you then wait patiently at the doorstep of the tension that is refusing to let you further/deeper. You wait patiently, sort of knocking on the door, and you wait as long as it takes for the edges of the muscle you are pressed up against to slowly relax and allow you deeper. You may have to go through multiple layers like this. Eventually, you can get as deep as with the "plow and tear" method, but with no tearing, no pain, no trauma. This type of deep tissue is a silent conversation / communion between the muscle of the therapist and the muscles of the client at the spot where they touch, and the client's muscles slowly gain a level of trust in the therapist to let them in deeper.
It is rather analogous to the way a patient is able to go deeper emotionally as they gain trust in their psychotherapist. The point is, this kind of massage therapy for release takes a long time and it can be very hard to find a massage therapist who truly understands and practices this kind of deep tissue. Also, I expect it requires a certain level of embodiment for a client to surrender fully to this kind of muscular communion and release, so it may work best on people who have practices meditation, yoga, etc., and it may not work at all or as well if some one is a "typical" American couch potato who scoffs at meditation and is very cut off from their body.
I actually believe psychedelic medicines can greatly aid this type of thing, in particular I think ketamine can be very effective if used properly. I have witnessed a combined use of ketamine on a person receiving deep massage like I describe while simultaneously discussing past traumatic events with a therapist, and the results were beyond expectation, at least from my lay perspective (I have bachelors in psychology, but am not a psych professional, so I do not claim to truly understand how effective this was long-term for the patient/client, but it does seem very promising to me).
The bottom line is Western medicine and science in general has a flaw of compartmentalization. We talk about healing emotions through psychotherapy or perhaps massage therapy to release trauma-related tensions or perhaps using psychedelic medicines to allow the person to delve more deeply into their own psyche to find their old wounds and release them from within. So if these are three good modalities for healing trauma, why not combined all three? Seems like a no-brainer to me. Oh, well.
following added 11/14/23 after review of above, to explain theory on how knot gets released in this kind of deep tissue:
One benefit often overlooked of massage, and deep tissue massage, is bringing conscious focus to areas of the body holding suppressed traumas/tensions. We don't really feel them, notice them, or think of them normally. But laying on the table with the therapist pressing into muscles you probably use but don't think about much. your mental focus almost always shifts to the point of contact the therapist is making. Now, your consciousness is there and is moving along with the point of contact. So when the therapist gets to a deep, repressed tension, and then waits, the client's awareness is now there, too (I usually suggest/invite clients to imagine they are breathing healing/relaxation into the point of contact and breathing out tension/stress, which I think helps them keep awareness like this.) So when the therapist reaches a deep knot of tension in a client, the client on some level (subconscious?) notices it like a person putting on a pair of shoes they had not worn for years, finding the fit is not quite right, unexpected lump. "What's this?" the awareness says, does an audit, finds out this area was zones for temporary suppressed memory storage, but never released. Seeks approval from admin to un-suppress it to get the muscle untensed since it is causing pain/issues. Once admin approves it, the tension released and the suppressed feelings/images are processed to the brain in a cathartic experience and the knot vanishes. This may take a few seconds or 10 minutes. At some point, the therapist has to just give up, but I cannot say for sure if every knot would be released if the therapist just kept waiting -- hours or days if need be. But it could be some repressed stuff the person is not ready to deal with yet, so approval is denied. Since the release generally happens in a few minutes, I think it is reasonable to proceed on assumption that it takes a few minutes for this process, and if the muscle has not released in in a few minutes more, the request to release it was denied.
Very beautifully explained. The same concept can be applied while releasing tension from the muscles while stretching them through yoga.
@@charusharma9650 I agree 100%, have done YTT myself. I do think, from my own experience, the highest value has been from Iyengar yoga, where you strive to perfect the pose (an impossible task, but somewhat meditative), getting everything in best alignment, best directional straining through fingertips or toes or whatever, so you are as activated as possible or appropriate for the pose, and then you can unwind things to an incredible degree, and meditate while you are at it, and release long-held tensions. I am skeptical of Vinyassa / flow yoga / power yoga / other westernized yogas that are more aerobic and movement-based to accomplish this as I find they generally move you through the pose before you ever get into it properly. As BKS Iyengar said (I think), "when you start to feel uncomfortable in the pose, that's when the yoga begins."
I love your perspective on this and I'd love to have a deep tissue massage like you describe! I have trauma stored in the deep muscles of my diaphragm and pelvis that I can't fully stretch or massage myself. I understand exactly what you describe as "waiting on the doorstep of tension" while the client does deep breathing and meditation until the muscles let go and let the masseuse go further into the root of the contraction.
@Kate-cr5jr Well, if you are in California area, i might be able to squeeze you in... really, though, best to vet your local massage / holistic community because u want some one who "gets" it, knows the program. i have found those therapists to be few & far between, alas. some really great therapists into all sorts of holistic modalities still are too impatient with deep tissue, plow through. Treat the muscle like a French baker treats his dough, you knead the body to life and connectivity, you do not plow the body into furrows for seeding/planting. Or that's what I think, ymmv.
While I'm on the topic, I think most massage therapists get into the "plow" mentality because time is money, but also because client's are masochists feeling better if they feel pain because of some deep self-loathing that needs addressing, whether through talk therapy or massage or combination. We all make mistakes, realize we did something crappy, feel bad, carry that weight around, knit it into our musculature, and for some, pain to atone is a way to find peace. That gets into another psychology topic, of how sexual kinks like bdsm are psychological ways of seeking resolution to past traumas. My parents divorced when I was three and my mother remarried almost immediately, so I had a strange man replace my father, discipline me, etc., which I despised at the time. I think subconsciously I was unable to accept my mother giving herself to this man I despised, so I reframed it as her taking him, not her giving herself to him. Which is a small thing, but may have opened up the door to a femdom kink that I had for some time. When I realized all this in therapy, realized I loved my stepfather, even if the small child I was felt he had to hate him out of loyalty to my real father, and embrace my love for my stepfather, that kink faded and I began enjoying being more dominant sexually. The point is that our kinks are trauma flags. We literally call them "kinks" because we are kinked up, knotted up, etc. As we finally process the repressed emotions we have buried from past traumas, these kinks lose their addictive / compulsive quality, but I think they are always going to be colors on the palette of our lives, but we can choose them at our whim, not feel compelled to dive into them to try to resolve or at least salve past traumas. I should note that I did study sexology at the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco decades ago, so "to the man with a hammer, everything looks like a nail," and I probably have a sex hammer. Wait, that did not come out right... ;)
I guess if a person were to seek maximum efficacy of therapy, by combining as many modalities as possible into the gestalt of therapy, that could include massage, psychotherapy, psychedelic medicines, and tantra (which is itself basically sex/sensuality + yoga + meditation + breathwork). I did combine all four modalities myself in the past, in the course of a loving and committed relationship, and I thought it was quite effective, but that level of intimacy is maybe once in a lifetime. I may write a book about it at some point. I should note that adding the fourth tantric/sexual/kink element to therapy is rather taboo in a professional setting. First, it has super high risk of problematic issues arising, like transference. Optimally, you would find a partner, you would both learn about all four modalities and then be each other's taffy puller, wrestling out each other's issues and helping each other address them using all four modalities and anything else you can think of. Why settle for anything less?
Wow thank you. I read and re read this, you’re so insightful and helpful. Thank you!
OMG 😮. Thank you! This is the puzzle piece that was missing. I had childhood and adulthood traumas. I proactively tried to help myself over the years. Trained in hypnotherapy NLP and energy healing. Still today, it's like I am only just functioning. Infections, pain and fatigue. Now I understand why. It's a huge step forward. Even a decade ago this was not really promoted. I got that trauma goes into the body but didn't understand the process. ❤
So true. It’s only been going out to the public the last 7 years and only last 3 years that the massage is really being pushed publicly. It’s a game changer and the Body Keeps the Score is an incredible book.
This was THE best explanation about trauma response I have ever heard. As a coach, I deal with people with extreme amounts of trauma and I feel this explanation and examples were fantastic. Thank you.
I just came upon you. I wish I had this information 30 years ago!!! Spent the last 2 hours glued to these videos!! They are awesome!! You are very engaging, helpful, and sincere. I may be older, but you have the tools. Thank you 💛
I’ve been having severe pain in my thumbs(thinking it is arthritis). I’m 59. After doing this exercise the severity of the pain released. Seriously!
This is so helpful! Many years ago, when my panic attacks started coming back because I was in a stressful job, I was advised to run or walk quickly on the spot, to deal with the adrenaline coursing around my body. I couldn't always do this while I was experiencing the panic attack but I'd try to do it afterwards. It also helped me to get out of my head quicker.
I just started therapy yesterday with a counselor who specializes in this sort of stuff. This video is meant to be. Thank you ❤
I'm can't find a therapist that is familiar with this. Looking for one for my teen son.
What key words would i put into a search?
@@avanellehansen4525 CPTSD therapist, parts work
woohoo!! I am so excited for you! I've been doing therapy myself for a while, but it's focusing more on the mind stuff. Because of this video, I'm now on the lookout for somatic therapy
@@avanellehansen4525 try somatic experiencing or somatic therapy or trauma theraphy/work?
This has been an amazing experience for me. I have been on my healing journey for many years and I am at a point where I've been searching for something else. Everything you describe and the exercise you shared is amazing. I have been living out of my body most of my life. I had memories of severe child abuse 3 yrs ago at the age of 64. It was totally blocked from my consciousness til then and it really started a flood that turned my whole sense of self upside down and inside out. I have come so very far in my healing and I feel like I found a valuable new healing tool today., I'm very grateful. I love Therapy in a Nutshell, thanks for being a guest
I'm disappointed to see that this only has about 3% likes instead of at least 10%.
This a masterpiece!
I'm from the Philippines. . I always watching your videos and it can help me a lot because i have an anxiety and depression. . Thank you so much. .😊
Just 13 minutes into the video, and wow! Dr. Aimie is explaining this in a phenomenal way...so understandable and makes so much sense. Thank you, Emma, for this. 💕
I have almost recovered from once severe Fibromyalgia and CFS and what is said here is 100% true. I do have to say that for me, doing the needed emotional work was a huge journey and took lots of time and concentrated work to be at a place now aware of emotions in the body (anger, grief, shame, fear,) and ability to feel those emotions in my body and feel the emotions stuck in my body from the past (my childhood, ex husband etc.). I also did lots of work on 'not good enough" and that was huge also.
Kudos 😊 Any particular specialty of doctor you worked with for this?
I have fibromyalgia and CFS, plus recently added RSD/ CRPS. I'd love to know more if you can share how to achieve this. Thank you
@@Jillloveszumba Start by reading the book The Divided Mind by the late Dr. John Sarno and follow all the people who have continued his work on what he termed TMS (mind body disorders that have no underlying structural cause). Also read the book the book "The Way Out" by Alan Gordon (and listen to his podcast) and the book "Unlearn Your Pain" by Dr. Howard Shubiner. Start by reading the comments under Dr. Sarno's books and all the people who healed with his methods. I had to lots of emotional work as I was so repressed but it was so worth it!!!
A low carb diet will help fibro and fatigue. It's linked to insulin resistance.
Also D ribose, Acetyl l carnitine, fish oils and coenzyme q10. Plus magnesium x
This was eye opening about how important it is to complete actions. For example, I never realized how social media bombards me with things that I can not complete or help fix. Like it leaves you "hanging". I am stuck in a trauma response. Thank you so much for this talk.
My God this perfectly articulates lupus that someone very close to me ultimately died of as they developed renal failure secondary to lupus then breast cancer which metastasized to bone cancer despite having all women in family on both sides living well into 90's-- I am grateful for this information, western medicine needs to catch up to this ever growing pandemic. Thank you from the bottom of my heart I needed to hear and understand this which I have intuitively tries to articulate myself but never could,now it's too late and I think I've developed a secondary trauma myself out of deep everyday frustration that I couldn't "fix" this person,now I'm just alone and very grief stricken and want to embrace the mechanisms to not suffer the same fate. Massive gratitude for this xx
Im so glad I found you.. ive lost 2 family members a brother and sister within 11 months of each other. I've lost 7 to cancer. Now I see it's a carryover of trauma. I always wondered what being physically emotionally and mentally abusive would do to the body that Ive been thru. Thank you for helping us learn another way.. i have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia and squamous cell cancer.. my beautiful sister who died was diagnosed with lupus .. she also was traumatized in her life
. ... I want to live.
Holy moly! Her explanation was so thorough yet succinct, and understandable and almost visceral. Mille grazie for this discussion.
Thank you so much for sharing this important light that most of us need to hear in a given moment. Thanks for being angels.
She hit on everything that got me in the past 30 years, grief and anger😞
I got burnout at 51…I have fibro ..had it for 15 yrs…I have had lots of trauma..I understand how the vegus nerve works..it help so many functions in our body…when that doesn’t work properly it effects body functions…I now have muskular skeletal problems ..thank you…
Emma I've been listening to you since quite some time now. And your knowledge has been so relieving to me who has been confused all my life about what's happening to me.
Next, Dr. Apigian, you blew my mind. I was doing chores and did not plan on watching this video (coz escapism is easy and learning is hard). I randomly fast forwarded it to avoid the introduction. And God led me to that exact moment from where I needed to listen. And man.. You said SO much in such few crisp sentences.
Thank you to both of you from the depth of my battered heart.
I'm so glad to hear of your work that really addresses the body and how trauma gets embedded. I need this kind of work, definitely, and will pursue it at my age of 86 where I am not ready to give up.
I’m on my 10th year of healing from chronic pain, ptsd, cancer and a back injury. Everything went wrong at once for me. Loosing my career and being homeless. I did pain management and 5 yrs of therapy. 2023 was the first year I haven’t had weekly panic attacks and I’m just starting to feel like it’s manageable. I stopped drinking 10 yrs ago and stopped pot a year ago. The pot was doing more damage than good. I still struggle with movement and pain but I now sleep and breathe properly again. I am healing every day
If you want support for marijuana addiction I highly recommend Marijuana Anonymous, getting a sponsor and working the steps.
Thank you both for this. It explains so much how when I was traumatized as a child and how I've experienced so many medical problems.....triglycerides, high blood pressure, diabetes and numerous precancers affecting all my organs...fibroids, tumors, polyps and cysts. I caught them in time treated with numerous surgeries. My gallbladder exploded when I was 33. They kept calling it stress and never treated it. My immunity was always compromised. My Mother was mentally ill and she took everything out on me, yelling at me and telling me she hated me. She even tied me to my bedpost and rocking chair. It just makes sense now.. cervical precancer known as Cin 111 was past the surgical margin, Vulvar precancer Vin 111 twice, Cysts on horseshoe kidneys and ovary, stomach and colon polyps and tumors on bladder. It wasnt caused by HPV. I've been through so much. Thanks for explaining. I couldn't have kids only had miscarriages 5 times. No wonder I can't sleep and have panic attacks.
You may want to listen to Dr Gabor Mate.. he talks about trauma originating from childhood. And how that manifests into other chronic illnesses.
You aren’t alone. I’ve had 17 surgeries since I was 27. Not going through all the illnesses. That’s 50 years of what surgeries and recoveries taking so much from me. Five miscarriages and a stillbirth. Two bad marriages. Chaotic childhood full of mentally ill parents, economic hardships, my illnesses age 10 and 12 with osteomyelitis. Left alone during the day during that time. Anyway, I’m 76 and everyday I’m taking care of ME and have some peace in my last years. I was a people pleaser and that is OVER.
@@brybryBillions thank you
@MarylandMermaid My first marriage ended after he hit me. I'm sorry for all you've been thru too. I don't feel so alone now. And we are both stronger because of it all.
@@marynelson9485 I’m sorry for what you went through as well. It’s made us stronger because we had to be ! I know we developed lots of empathy for the suffering.
This is so good! Healing is work. Feeling is work when you are used to analyzing to understand. We can know something and still react from painful triggers. Definitely worth is to work on healing from trauma to really 'feel safe'
You don't know how inspired this was Emma. THANK YOU!! I have Function Neurological Disorder and have been trying to find other therapies to treat it. This is GROUNDBREAKING! I am in awe and beyond happy right now. The validation I feel from this video is the one of the greatest things I could have ever received! So much horrible treatment I've had from medical "professionals" re traumatized me beyond description. Emma thank you again!!!! I thank God as well and hope this will help millions like me. ♥️🙏
My teenage son's therapist has been pointing this out to us (him, mostly, but his parents as well so we can help) for more than a year now. When my son employs an awareness of this, it has really helped his physiological conditions. It is a process that takes time, though, but the differences we've been seeing are already really remarkable!
Hi! Does your therapist take online patients?
@@lynnac6336 unfortunately, no. He's part of a community clinic that only takes patients from a specifically defined geographic area with income restrictions.
That’s excellent! It can be hard to find a good therapist for our kids . Are you suggesting to Therapist is raising the awareness of how the trauma is affecting his body and are you additionally saying there is some physical strategy that’s recommended or involved in the therapy
Oh my goodness this tells exactly how my body is reacting to a current trauma with my husband's injury. Wow just wow!
What an amazing and illuminating conversation! Dr. Apigian speaks so very clearly and concisely, it was very easy to understand what she was saying.
“Give me something to study, so I don’t have to feel” I so relate!
Ditching Facebook & all TV was so good for my mental health. TH-cam is my only source of media and I get to select what I can tolerate.
Me too. Social media is toxic cancer.
i love that idea..to not just inform the public about something happening but give them some action they can do instead of being left in a trauma state..oh we sooooo need that..and i try to share stories i find that are people seeing something happening and do something..it is so important to know and see that and not just the bad things that are happening.
Im stuck in a Trauma Response since having a horror trip from smoking weed and now I suffer from Depersonalization/Derealization and general anxiety disorder 24/7 since 2009.
And I know it's not in my "mind", because I have no bad/anxiety thoughts. But my body is still stuck in this trauma response and I can`t get out.
I have not really relaxed since 2009. Not once. It is exhausting.
But thank you for this video!
I am in awe. I suffer from pelvic floor dysfunction for two years now, secondary to two cancers and intense chemo & stem cell Transplant and also Fibromyalgia for 30 yrs. Yes this is a long list but I have wondered if trauma was responsible? WOW. Thank you for sharing with us !! ❤
Really appreciate this information I will share this with my son. His children are dealing with a lot with their mom. This simple exercise will help. I too have trauma from a physical marriage year's ago I know I have internal traum it shows up in my nerves in my stomach. Thank you both 😊
Such a great video 👍 I am at the time ⏲️ for taking actions 😀 but it is still scary 😨 baby steps and lots of self care 😳 thank you ❤
I can identify with this. Up to fourteen I was a normal pretty child but at fourteen I received a serious emotional shock. Within a week my chest literally caved in, my lower legs swelled and bcame discoloured and painful and violent migraines started. These troubles stayed with me most of my life - I'm now 80 - though curiously enough i had perfect legs and no headaches throughout 2 pregnancies. Doctors had no idea how to help but I can say it affected so.many aspects of my life. Who knows!
Wow! !This makes so much sense! Since age 12 I have suffered with anorexia and am now 50 and I have chronic widespread pain, daily panic attacks and I am so exhausted. The panic attacks literally cause me to freeze and I can't move for hours. I have been in the fight and flight response for over 35 years. And my digestion is a wreck.
This is insightful especially the trauma, gut and grief connection. Thank you continue to listen to your knowledge.
I’ve been stuck in fight or flight for 2 years. Panic attacks, ER visits, therapies, chronic illness, depression, anxiety, this doctor to this doctor to this doctor.
Same
I’ve been stuck in fight or flight since 2018. You’re not alone
Thank you so much for this video! I've been wondering for long if a trauma could be stored in the body, as I noticed that working on my body, on my posture, getting connected to it, was helping me getting through my traumas. Now you confirmed that what I've been feeling wasn't just made up by my mind, by my willing to heal, but is a real psycho-somatic pathway.
Thank you so much for all the videos you post, Emma, they are inspiring and do help improving mental health
As I’m listening to this end portion about creating space, I’m thinking watching the news I can’t do anything to change it or or even for myself, but I can pray if I if I believe prayer is an action and someone’s listening that has the power to change things and complete things And that is an action I can always take that all times it’s a spiritual intervention action yes? I’m driving so forgive my mistakes. This whole episode or interview has been extremely helpful to me. Thank you.
The throwing balls too fast was a breakthrough for me. I recently ended a friendship with a neighbor that smothered me with overgiving/overfuntioning. I don't like feeling indebted, so i tried to reciprocate making dinners, etc. I became overwhelmed and exhausted. She became resentful. I now feel relief! Space to breathe!
great advices thank you. ive been having autoimmue disorder symptoms since teen due to a traumatic experience, confirmed many of my theories!
This was sooooo insightful, the too little for too long was too relatable to my year last year when things just hit the fan!
Wow when you said about how different it is now, hearing about problems we can’t see come to completion I felt the tears well up, and it makes such sense, watching people complete mowing the lawn or whatever wow so deep and true and real. I think you are right we need to know what we can do. Also thank you to your guest I am intrigued and hope to learn more on this topic 😍
You nailed it when you said we seek stimulants (caffeine for me) more than usual and the chronic fatigue that is it’s partner. And losing weight is impossible. Yes, I’ve gained 7 pounds months ago when my husband started having problems at work. I cannot, in any way, lose it. And I already lift weights and do cardio. My body feels it needs to hold onto fat. He just got hired by a competitor today and it’s what he reluctantly wanted (wanted to retire at his current job as he only has 7 years to go) but when his paycheck bounces every week isn’t that’s sign to move on??? Our finances are a mess (of which I am in charge) so I’m hoping it will ease off in the next few weeks. He needs a vacation and a really good body massage…(me too!) 😌 Thank you for explaining it all-I feel quite relieved!!! ♥️♥️
Wishing your family success in the new job change, may the other issues begin to right themselves. I found I would get migraines every time I did our budget spreadsheet. Now I go into it with a different mindset and the migraines haven’t shown up after doing the budget.
I call it trauma weight.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
I am 43 and have scoliosis. I have traced this beginning when I was 5 years of age(then my scoliosis started) when my parents were fighting, my father was saying he will leave us,and I was terrified, I felt intense fear. And yes, I remember I was frozen. I am apsolutly certain this is connected.
I also have scoliosis. I grew up with a ton of yelling and DV. Absolutely this stunted my nervous system and then manifested physically...chronic pain, fatigue, GI issues, anxiety, depression....
Your right, most cases of idiopathic scoliosis have been brought on by traumatic experiences. The fear a child feels when the adults in their life are undependable, violent and outright rejecting leads to the tightening of the fascia which in turn causes the spine to twist. After my mother died at 11, I had to deal with a violent, abusive father along with sexual abuse and neglect soon after I developed scoliosis. Wish the medical community will look at scoliosis as a mind-body condition rather than just a physical anomaly.😕😕
Ive been holding that rock 😢 with chronic pain fibromyalgia, nerve problems. And so much u r discussing. Thank you
This is a great video! Thank you ladies! I have felt called for a long time to combine mental health and physical health in a natural path, this is inspiring!
Thank you so much. This clarifies where I'm at so well. I have been struggling with the healthcare (mental and physical) systems for a long time about my fatigue and anxiety and to know where to go or what to do. Definitely know the why, which really was not helping. I'm almost afraid to believe that I may be turning a corner. I've been in a state of mind that there was no help for. Thank God I don't give up.
I would be more than willing to help in any way to get this information out and into the mainstream healthcare system and to others.
There are so many people out there who need this.
Thank you so much again
What a wonderful program! FINALLY, the big picture.... And what we can do about it. 😊😅😅
I'm in my 'third act', with lots of 'former' trauma in my life... Lots of therapies, meds, and programs later I finally feel as if I have landed in the right spot to help me make the rest of my life both viable AND enjoyable! Thank you so much. All blessings for the great work you two! ❤️
Wow
At 17:25 min in I had to relisten several times….. grief and gut health. Just, wow. I’ve been on my therepy journey and healing journey for a lifetime now but this Dr is beyond what has penetrated my puny traumatized brain (that really can’t absorb very much because I LIVE and BREATHE in
Hypoarousal))….
Thank you for this talk!!! I’ve been following many many docs and therepy channels but I love how this gal explains everything!
Holy crap I have been diagnosed with chronic fatigue this year and have been suppressing my emotions for years. So glad to finally understand why I got it in the first place
How do you get rid of chronic fatigue?
@@tnt01 there's no universal cure. Some get better with time and rest.
For others there's a psycho-somatic cause to their fatigue which can be from negative thought patterns and chronic stress. Usually there is a trigger for the fatigue e.g change in health, life change, medication or medical event.
Most people agree that chronic fatigue is a dysregulation of the nervous system and that it can be helped by cognitive behavioural therapy, meditation, visualisation and lots of rest. The degree to which treatment helps depends on the person but it's my belief that all of them help in a small way. You must calm your body down and be very active by using those remedies. Don't push yourself physically. There may also be a psychological component that can be addressed by a psychologist. PTSD is commonly associated with chronic fatigue. My theory for this is that chronic stress and PTSD both can alter the amygdala in the brain, which is a key part of the nervous system.
@@getthecats thanks for the information.
I'm healing from two traumas, I lost my job in covid in Sicily, got fired and had to flee home at the beginning , my mum refused to have me home which reignited my hidden trauma of her leaving at 13. I'm crying so much but it is very healing indeed that it highlighted what wasn't healed yet. I think for me I buried it as it was too much to endure and I wouldn't have survived it in childhood or got my education.
Thank you both for the interview! 21 Day Journey has been a life saver for me. I can't thank Dr. Aimie enough for everything she's doing.
I'm so glad to hear it's working for you. Is there a cost to it?
@@jillwklausen If you mean the course, then sadly yes - it's not free. It was worth it for me to gain the foundation to regulate, gain safety in my body (first time in 36 years...), process my emotions and feeling like I know where to move onward to heal.
Before this, I went from doctor to doctor trying to heal my gut... for 12 years. Every time my gut got better, I'd have emotions come up which were so difficult I couldn't sit with them. I'd do ANYTHING To escape it and went into a trance like state. It could take up to a month before I came out, and I'd crash again. Back to freeze for months. Gut slowly getting worse and the cycle repeats. Now I know how to manage it all and give the body what it needs to not spiral out of control. This is finally my path towards healing. It's only one step in the process, but it is fundamental to be able to do any trauma work.
Thank you for your reply, @@JamieR.
I have also done the 21 Day Journey with Dr Aimie and my life is SO different now. Have lost the constant brain fog, insomnia and no longer feeling overwhelmed every day.
Thank you, @@karenb5616
I literally just shared this video with 10 people and extolled this channel while I was at it 😂 have a great day y’all!
Thanks for sharing!!
The timing of this video😂🤯🤣 PTSD diagnosis around 12 or 13...almost 40 and STILL so much anxiety, uncertainty and triggers! It feels like muscle memory just like tieing my shoes. This video was very insightful! Thank you!
You're not alone, Luna. 🙏
it explains so much into how we react and behave, don't you think? I feel liberated to finally came across this!
@@PEYPLACE 🤗💜🙌🏽
@@AnnieSimsie Amazing what acknowledgement can do! 🤗💜🙌🏽
Yep, you need to do the somatic work to heal from the trauma. I do medical ketamine which also helps the brain make new connections and understand the healing process better. The main idea it has help[ped me with is Move My Body!
Dr. Aimie - grateful for your “boulder” exercise! 🙌🏾💪🏽💪🏽
This video is amazing. You are empowering us with knowledge that are not easy to come by. I was stuck in the belief that talk therapy was the best one for me, but now I am wanting to get into somatic experience since medications and talk therapy didn’t work for me. This video is underrated. This needs to be seen by everyone. Thank you both for sharing your expertise 🙏🏼
Wow! What a talk and conversation. The articulation by Dr Apigian was out of this world. In particular the clarity and vividness of the explained process whereby trauma becomes trapped in our body's constituent parts and systems, and the trapped trauma's ensuing institution of pathologies. Which literally brought lucid images to my mind of courses I have experienced.
This interview is invaluable as a direct resource, as well as a launchpad to truly helping myself and others very close to me.
My biggest thanks.
very informative. I've been doing therapy but the majority of the work is mind-based approached and I've been wanting to look through my trauma stuff - and this is very good to hear that this program exist!!
one of the best explanations I've ever seen. Thank you for this interview
Wow! This is awesome! I really needed this! Thank you for what you do Emma and for shining light on this!💖🙏
Wow, this was fascinating. I learned so much! When she talks about “just knowing something doesn’t change how you react to a situation”, I related it to the phrase “practice makes perfect”. Just from my experience in life, it takes repetitive action to create new habits over time. One small example I can think of is knowing I need to drink more water regularly, but knowing that doesn’t help me unless I actually drink the water. It also reminds me that it’s important to give yourself grace when learning to “walk”, so to speak. I’m excited to put what I’ve learned here into practice. Thank you for sharing ❤
Brilliantly executed... I’m saving to rewatch- thank you for this very valuable information. Also, as an early childhood teacher, I’m always interested in a child’s birth story as trauma from childbirth, or early emotional trauma often shows in the child’s early developmental and learning stages
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My goodness, I didn't see your comment and I just posted a comment along this same line. I have wondered about breech births and trauma stored. I was a breech-many years ago- for over 10 hours and have suffered from depression, hyper-vigilance, etc. all of my life. Of course falling out of a car,(no seat belts in those days), as a toddler didn't help, and other physical and emotional traumas within the first 5 years. I think that teachers have neglected, hesitated, or even attempted to inquire as to the first few years of a child's possible traumas, big or small. The cumulative folder for a student doesn't seem to address these issues and, therefore, the development of the child is handicapped. I wish someone would do a study on the issue of breech and trauma.
This video is so timely. Thank you
Yep they are called chakras. Glad to see “science” is catching up.
This is awesome. I am a HSP and I came to the conclusion that my negative feelings and experiences seemed to be trapped inside my cells. It feel wonderful to hear what you are saying and to know that I am not mad. Xx
This was so profound for me. Everything she talked about resonated with me and it's exactly why I am dealing with chronic health conditions and have lost my life :(
My heart goes out to you. I am in the same boat. Feel like I'm fighting for my life everyday. Hugs to you❤️
@@chelleb5 girlllll...I feel you :( I know we weren't created to live this way! I feel like I need a miracle.
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@@terra_cotta6319 yes! I say that all the time! It shouldn't be this hard to just live! 😘
I consider my chronic pain a redirection. Life is telling me I need to slow down, learn some lessons, rewire my nervous system and learn how to live a new.
good introduction to opening up to emotions
HSP or sensitive people respond differently Than the typical population. Temperament as well as sensitivity does play a factor in all of this.
yes it does!
I have no degree's. I do have a lot of healing time and in a support role of people guide by mental health pro's. I agree with your comment. I like trauma informed care. My perspective and training I have had as an non-pro. Trauma informed care says meet the person where they are at. Different people need different types of help from my experience. I could be wrong because I am not a therapist in any way. Just someone who supports people through every kind of imaginable trauma.
Yes! As an HSP, I had to find my almost nonexistent window of tolerance. I couldn't do grounding exercises or EFT tapping because they were triggering, meditation and breathing exercises were all I could do at first.
Thank you that is not only me that feel this .feel so alone in this pain .
It so much with the Hsp and feel Energis and others emotions also .try to clean and get Panic
I was bullied growing up and I now struggle with PTSD from it. This was VERY helpful, THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! I'm a Christian too, by the way!!!!!!!!!! Just referring to the description.
Thank you for posting this. I love hearing about somatic therapy