Strong men choose strong women because her strength is not perceived as a threat, rather a blessing for the relationship. A weak man becomes insecure and tends to belittle a strong woman in order to bring her down to his level instead of doing the inner work of raising himself to her level.
Truth. I left when he started picking on me for getting promoted. I worked so hard to get a new office away from the old toxic team. After 2 years, I made it. It was a miracle. His mocking increased so it was time to go. He had stayed in the same miserable place for 15 years.
I was in an abusive relationship for almost 10 years with a narcissistic man. In the beginning of the relationship, I was strong, independent, self-confident and by the end I was a shell of what I once was and didn’t even recognize myself anymore. He isolated me from my friends and family, manipulated my feelings, emotions. Abusive in every way- verbal, emotional, mental, physical, and yes sometimes sexually. He also cheated and I knew and still forgave him because I was so depressed and felt so ashamed of myself I felt I deserved all the terrible things that happened to me and he made me believe that as well. He wouldn’t leave me, because he wanted someone who he could control and do whatever he wanted on the side. So yes, he was with the person he “broke” and thought was weaker because he destroyed my mind. But thank goodness my mind healed and I left him.
I'm so happy you got yourself back it's hard I had very TY same experience for 7 years and I was literally shell shocked for 2 yes and beyond when I finally broke free
@Free soul hey! Sorry just seeing this now. To be honest, the memories are always with me. I go to therapy because I knew that I had to deal with the trauma of what happened to me and for me the best way to do that was to speak to someone and to change the way I began to see myself because of the abuse I went through. I highly recommend it.
@Free soul it varies but definitely give yourself the time you need to deal with things you need. Don’t listen to others to tell you to move on if you’re not ready to unless it’s a really long time (years) and they are just trying to help. But if it’s like a couple weeks tell them to chill. But definitely it’s good to focus on yourself for a bit (self love)
@@amadorcortinas2749 PLEASE do not stop believing in true love! If it can happen to this plump, 63 yr old recovering liver transplant recipient who was 3 times married and divorced, it can happen to you! I promise you the last thing in the world I expected was finding my 70 yr young Father Time looking true love😻Steve, who I met 20 yrs ago while I was with my dud boyfriend, Mike. It happens! It happens! Blessings-bendiciones to u 😘
Ok, as an old person, I offer this tip. Confidence is walking into a room and watching all the people and interactions in it and learning, learning learning!
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after being separated for 4months . All thanks to Mr Ali whom help me to get back my ex again, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it works within 4days
To everyone reading this, I sincerely pray for that whatever is causing you pain or stress will pass. May your negative thoughts, excessive worries and doubts disappear, replaced by clarity and understanding. May your life be filled with peace, tranquility and love
Nope , the key isn't to walk into a room and assume everyone likes you it's walking in w/your head held up high and not giving a crap what anyone thinks period
I completely agree. Way more empowering, but that comes with age and experience. I don't believe there is a teenager or young adult who can let go of the need to be liked. I do believe the one, and probably only, true advantage to age is letting go of all the BS we all put up with to fit in and be liked. For my part, I don't give a crap, but that has been a long time coming
Simple. Like yourself enough that you don’t need a partner. Love yourself enough that you can enjoy being by yourself. Then you will attract the right person who will be your icing on your cake and if it doesn’t work out you will not be crushed into bits because you still have yourself who you enjoy.
@@princessc3039 very good keep trying! You will get there ❤ I have kinde like the same experience and left with serious trust issues and thinking i'm not good enough 😢 but i believe that i will become stronger and smarter then before!!! But you have to give your mind a break to recover and you will become happier then ever! ❤
After being married for over 30 years my husband took off with another woman with no explanation. I grieved and blamed myself for awhile, it knocked my confidence and I was convinced it must have been my fault. He played mind games with me and maybe with her too but then I realised the best form of revenge on them both was for her to keep him 🤭
I'm sorry that happened to you. Some people get midlife crisis and go nuts. Men having these crises always blame their wives for everything under the sun. Its really his fault but he's doing projection. Men do projection much more often than women, by the way. So your ex is living a lie and believing you did everything wrong when it is obviously all his fault. Men sometimes come to their senses after a midlife crisis and realize it was their fault not their wife's, but most of them just stay with the (younger) woman they ran off with and act like teenagers. It's sad for them. I'm glad you are happy now and recovered from his idiocy. You deserved better.
Susan you are a strong woman, not to be blamed for your ex weaknesses. Everything happens for a reason and yours being you could do so much better without him.🙂
People need to stop trusting people 100% and realize that people can change. Feelings and circumstances can change. Stop loving people more than yourself, and stop putting people up on pedestals. If people would start loving themselves more, than they wouldn't end up being used and hurt.
Yes being lonely does hurt but when you find peace and sincerity and knowing that God will never leave you nor forsake you. You will never be lonely again
@@lindaholly4918 True. I think it's of Persian origin. I don't know who wrote it. But the story that seems to accompany its origin is: A king asked his advisors to come up with a phrase that can be said in any situation, something that's always applicable and always true.
I lost my job but found a better one that I was at for almost 20 years before I retired. I was better paid and respected at that job. Please continue looking for a better job and believe it will be better. Never give up.
A wife was dumped for a younger model. She'd to find work to survive with her 3 children. She loved her job. Excelled. Within a few years she was quite wealthy. Her 'hasbeen' was dumped for a younger model. He returned. Said: leaving you was the biggest mistake of my life. She replied: I know but thanks anyway. 😂😂😂❤
My ex said pretty much the same thing before I moved. changed jobs and phone numbers. I wish I had thanked him for leaving with his 3rd affair partner.
@@oftin_wong Well, maybe not, finally. She was abandoned by her husband and the father of her children. I'd say she had the strength to overcome his unfaithfullness to them and made a good life for her and her children without him.
From personal experience, just before you walk into a room, square your shoulders, lift your head high and walk in like you own the place. Project confidence especially when you don't feel it and everyone who sees you will believe it and respond accordingly! Feeding your confidence giving you the strength you didn't feel before you walked in! It's wonderful!!
Because you don't have true love and true friends. People know what they experience with others. Different people have different experiences, that's why they also have different opinions.
Well - he left because he was afraid of me. Afraid of showing emotion. Afraid of confrontation. Afraid of trying new things. Afraid of himself. I am definitely a strong woman but I love strong too!
yes that's true. same as me. men who flee away from me were all cowards of their emotions. mostly players and non-committal, they disappear when u give them constant warmth and love, especially if they have great issues in themselves, they were so afraid of facing their fear of falling in love because they feel that it's a weakness to surrender in love.
I felt alone so long in marriage bc I thought we would do more things together. The only things we did together was what he liked to do. No reciprocation. No interest in me, or just hanging out having fun. Nope. I feel like he acquired a wife, (with a good wage), with the aim of having a family. Checking off the boxes… Education, career, wife (also w $ career) House, family, yep, and then go play. But only occasionally with wife and kids. I’ve learned to live as if I am not married. I have no expectations of him. The person I married was my fantasy. It has disappeared like the puffy cloud that it was. I was a silly ninny thinking he loved me. There was false comfort and a feeling of safety in that. I wish I didn’t know now what I didn’t know then.
My parents were so well intentioned and I knew that they loved me deeply. Alas they werr Edith and Archie Bunker. I was not a Gloria - I was more of a Meathead but I refused to be baited by and argue with my (Republicsn) father. Mom was very book smart but desperately needed attention and loyal friends when we left NYC. I knew as an only child where I had to draw the family mental intimacy line. At a certain point I knew that I really did have an understanding that was insightful but which I had to hold close to my chest. Doing so has often been lonely and painful, but I watch my personal energy flow and realize that many women relinquish their/our self esteem. Remember that our earth is at a critical point. I feel that it is not critical that all women bear children. The earth itself is starving for our feminine energy. The animals AND’plants need us. Children are our future but war, destruction and too much male confusion drags everyone down. Loving and strong intelligent men are desperately needed. In many ways the world is having a grand run of it. With hope and humility we will make wondrous things happen.
This is the correct attitude to take. If someone doesn't like you it's their business not yours.You can make yourself sick thinking about what others think.
I don't buy the one about the man with two women. Men will usually stay with the one he was with first, and that woman is usually his wife. Sometimes a man (or a woman) will find a new partner before leaving the spouse so they won't have to be alone when they leave. This is common when a person wants a divorce. But if a man just wants to run around and have fun on the side, he will never leave his wife for the other woman. He will lie to the other woman and string her along for years but he will never leave. That's most married men who are having an affair. It has nothing to do with who has a weak or strong mind. He's just a weak-minded man who wants to play around on his wife. If a man is having a midlife crisis, however, he will blame every single thing that ever happened to him on his wife and leave her for a younger woman. When this happens he is not choosing a "strong minded" woman. He's just crazy and looking for a younger woman to make him feel younger and to feel good about himself. So no, a man doesn't care about weak or strong mind. If he's cheating, he is the one with the weak mind.
I think you are over simplifying. Each situation is different. Also regarding men stepping outside of marriage, too many religious judgments that don’t have anything to do with the issues at play.
I have known many couples split because of cheating. The women rarely return to the husband even if if the new man does not work out. Men nearly always have their fling, the wife divorces him then within 18 months or so he's back, begging the wife for a second chance. Real men never "deal" with two women at once. They finish a relationship then move on.
@@mygirldarby exactly the one who isn't strong enough to WALK AWAY!!! and puts up with him treating her like a motel he can check in and out of whenever he feels like it. No strong self respecting woman's gonna put up with that B.S
And I would add he didn’t have to choose the woman whose mind is weak, she was the default as the woman whose mind is strong preferred a like-minded man.
I walk into a room with my head held high and could care less of what others think!! Like me or not don’t give a shit!! I know my worth! And I treat everyone the same with RESPECT!
He goes back to the woman he "knows". It's easier to predict shit you're used to. It's not because she has a weak mind. Furthermore, Susan, I wholeheartedly believe that if he is choosing between two women, he never felt truly loved by either. Whether it's physically, emotionally- which is difficult for most women to accomplish- intellectually or otherwise. All men WANT to feel like a hero. Most women NEED to be the queen. No queen needs a hero. Heroes get princesses because they are more likely to find themselves in dire straits. So, in all reality, he goes back to his queen. Tyrannical or not. Both women eventually understand their role In the man's life. Moral of the story: DON'T FUCK AROUND WITH SOMEONE ELSE'S PARTNER. DON'T FUCK AROUND ON YOUR PARTNER.
Woah... Feels like I heard myself actually I really checked on the name who commented it. Really thought IT WAS ME.. THANKS FOR REMINDING ME 🥰🥰helps me a lot
That's not the worst feeling. The worst feeling in the world is loving someone for your whole entire life and then they die, which is natural and you get left behind in this cruel world without the one person you shared unconditional love with.
So True! I could have wrote this comment. That's exactly how I feel, my husband passed away 7yrs. ago, and it still feels like 7min. I have been no more good for much of anything since. Love him still...RIP EWPjr.😥😘
@@deborahpurvis5354 Sorry for your loss. I believe that it is incredibly sad to search your entire life to find that one person that gets you and shares unconditional love to have it snatched away at anytime. But, we are left with the bittersweet taste of appreciation that they had live for the amount of time they were here and that we got to experience it. May your husband rest in peace. May you find a new found glory in life and healing. To my grandmother, my rock... I miss you. ❤️R. I. P. Nan.
My husband died when I was 35 yrs old. I am 50 now. I have my entire life to be alone without him. It's been 14 years. I would have liked many more years with him, but he was sick. It's hard knowing you will be alone for the rest of your life at such a young age. I still mourn him every February (the month he died). So the crueler thing is to lose your true love young, not when you spent your whole life together. Decades alone without them is heartbreaking. At least I have our son. He was seven when he died, and was the reason I had to get up in the morning and not roll over and give up and die, too.
God gives me everything I need. when I got to know Him, I got to know me. My life has NEVER been BETTER. Thank you Jesus for remaining the most trustworthy Man in my life even when I didnt know you.
This is very true, I operate knowing I'm a soul. It can be quite exhausting when reality can take such a strong hold on you, but when I center myself and remind myself of this , I feel better to face realities challenges.
When a man strays out into the deep water to be with what fascinates him, it is just the curious mind of a man searching for what he's missing in the other that he desires. When he feels overwhelmed by the new woman and feels he is uncertain, he will go back to the familiar. The familiar is his safety net whether he is happy with her or not. This is what I experience. I know this each time a curious George comes into my life. ❤️🇺🇸
A person strays because they are trying to find a different version of themselves. Until they can sit with themselves and be honest, they will be a serial cheater.
THAT IS SPOT ON!!!! YOU STARTED HIGH, CONFIDENT, SOLID, KNOWING EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT AND STRIVING/ STRIDING and little by little , he chipped away at your resolve until you are a shell/ whimp,weak, depressed and wondering who the hell am I.
Btw be w someone who wants you not needs you! I found it once true men tend to pick the ones that need them. Its not weak minded necessarily than it is our choice to choose our equal. We are taught as women you must be married w a family by a certain age which pushes us to sometimes settle unhappily. If you get to know you and what u want and be positive u will attract that same energy. All in all dont worry or fight for love cause God has a plan and a partner in mind for u. Everyones just in a worldly rush.
Interesting point, I told my husband this one day. I said this to him, "the difference between you and me is, I wanted you and you needed me".... we are still together for 18yrs later... I'm no weak women, yet I do understand my role in our relationship; likewise so does he.. We're good... Iron sharpens iron
It's very hard as a young woman, tho, nowadays. You can wait and pray and hope you find or happen across the right man, but if it doesn't happen by a certain age, no family then. Adoption is great for some, but not everyone wants that
@@fraublucher85 it's hard, but what is worse is, to have children together, then you realize your partner cheated on you/is an alcoholic/ narcissist/toxic person, with drains you of energy, who wanted children but who doesn't want to spend time with those children, who always makes you feel miserable, alone, not understood... And after having children, you realize how much more difficult it is to find a job and live alone independently while providing for your children. Because you want to spend more time with your children, but you have so many other responsibilities.... And you realize your partner doesn't even want to help you with them. Cooking, cleaning, all the care of children, is your responsibility, but you are supposed to work a full-time job as well. And take care of yourself, else people would blame you: he cheated on you because you are fat. Well, no. These men cheat because they are weak and a slave to their passions. Women have to become very strong beside such men. They basically have to do everything, and also endure their partner. Then it's better to be alone from the start and adopt a child knowing that you are alone. It's better than thinking that you are in this together, only to realize that your husband only participated in making the child. Study, have a good job, make as much money so you can have your own little apartment, be as independent and strong as you can, so when you have children, you won't have to learn this the hard way.
@@fraublucher85 sorry my words were not so kind the other day. I have depression and right now I am feeling awful. Sorry if I caused pain to you. You are doing everything you can.
Actually, there is truth to all of these reasons for the man staying with the woman. While I would initially be disappointed that he did not pick me, his needs may have wanted a mor subservient woman that increased his own sense of security and with whom he could freely express his emotions without feeling push-back from a stronger woman! Also, his psychological need for control enabled him to be in control wile exploring his sensitive nature more with a softer personality woman. His need to stand out in the relationship over his wife, while could be considered selfish and bullying by some, may have allowed this woman to feed his ego and be just what he needed! Also, depending on stage of pregnancy of his baby-mama and her dependency psychologically on him, he did the honorable thing , in my opinion; and, if he was the father or thought to be the father, he did have a responsibility to the woman for her well-being and that of the unborn child, physically and emotionally. And, from this standpoint, I would admire him for staying…irregardless to my feelings of disappointment…and, still love him that he cared. There are different ways to view this scenario. I would respect that he had an obligation; and, chose to honor it. If our relationship was meant to be, it would happen sooner or later! God’s plan will be done in any case. As for my disappointment, I would back off and give it some time and focus on myself and my activities, and pray about it. Perhaps, God has a better plan for me, and in due time, He will show me!
I am quite impressed with your words and how you wrote this situation up so well. I like how you made some sense into why the other woman was chosen by that guy, and how you would remain strong and ask God for guidance and pray That is so good. Thanks for sharing! Alicia Williams 🙏
Men are just human just like us women..you might be in love with someone but know things will not work out eventually..could be temperament compatibility different beliefs etc but I believe acceptance for who you are from a partner counts. It’s difficult to stay w someone who always want you to change or turn into what you’re not.
LOL SOMEONE WITH A BRAIN BEEN THERE DONE THAT SINGLE FOR THE LAST 20 YEARS. WORKING ON SOME STUFF AND MAY GET BACK INTO THE GAME ONCE I GET SOME THINGS DONE. I HAVE ALSO LEARNT THAT YOU NEED TO ROLL WITH THE PUNCHES AND ACCEPT THINGS AND ADAPT OR MOVE ON
I don’t think it’s true for everyone not all men are the same. Some will prefer a strong women it depends. These are not all true. We are all individual people not everyone falls in a cookie cut pattern.
I am sleeping early and getting up early following my sleeping pattern coz growing up I suffered from severe insomnia! It doesn’t mean I am less smart than those staying up late!
For about two years I completely changed my sleep pattern. Rising at 5am to workout, work then to bed around 9/10. BEST shape of my life all around. I changed my schedule for work and went back to working out later. Yea nope. Just not the same. I love love staying up late but I absolutely notice a difference with working out in the AM all around. So much better creatively and in mindset.
I agree with earlier than later to bed and earlier than later to rise. It makes a big difference in my energy level, cognition, and overall mood for the day. I don’t go to bed at 7 but I don’t stay up till midnight either. There is a fine balance somewhere between.
Kay Hollings • Interesting way to turn it around. I have never done that, but I am sure it must be terrible. Unfortunately, people who use and betray others usually DON'T CARE about what they did, or how it hurt the other person. if they did, they wouldn't have done it in the first place.
I disagree,confidence is walking into a room and knowing you like yourself.Never in any room will everyone like you.They may lie and act like they do.But at least one hates you.Oh well,that's their issue not yours.
I believe confidence is walking in a room, knowing your self-worth, but also seeing the inherent worth & value of every other person. A gracious woman will come into a room wearing a smile. Pettiness & gossip are beneath her. She will touch hands & shoulders, her eyes warm & smiling; her mouth speaks gentle truths. She loves making others feel special & included. She is the opposite of haughty & pouty. As a result, all are drawn to her warmth & light. If she hears someone attempting to start petty drama, she steers it away by quickly changing the subject. If someone is stuck being negative, she will smile, but also excuse herself. Before she is finished, she will have blessed the gathering with positivity. Every person she has spoken with will feel better about himself or herself. She will leave the room, & after she does, every other person will feel better about themselves, but wish to be nearer to her. When she leaves the gathering, a bit of her light leaves too.
I totally disagree. How can you say that every room you walk into at least one person hates you?! Either your personality is 💩, or you have horribly negative energy/perhaps neg attitude as well. I am 41 soon to be 42 and I know I have less than five people that hate me. No doubt about that. I can’t think of a single one. And I make sure if there is any friction, that it gets sorted out amicably so that the other party and I can separate either having hashed out and dissolved whatever issue (not hatred- that’s a strong strong word) was causing conflict-OR we will move along in different directions but I’ve never ended a relationship with anyone (SO, friend, acquaintance, coworker, or otherwise on begrudged terms or feelings of animosity or ill will. To further enhance my point, my senior year at prom, I was voted Miss Personality by all of my class. And I was brand new that year and in the work program so I only had to go to school from 8:30-11:00 or something like that. It’s about your personality and the way you treat others, friendliness, courtesy, non-judgement, and having a sunny disposition. That’s a lot -a ton- of enemies if every room you ever walk into has 1+ haters on you. Only people like politicians and murderers and violent criminals etc have a bad rep like that!!!
Exactly he will stay with the woman he know will be by his side that will stick with him when shit get tough the one who love respect and honor him.. He can try to leave but the other woman may be kacking in the area the so called weak minded woman isnt lacking and that is the live he have for her the respect he has for her and much more so weak minded dont have ish to do with it..
The woman who sticks around the man even after knowing she been cheated on can’t be a strong woman. The man knows she will take all his shit. Who wants a cheater anyways lol
There are no weak minds, just alternate ways of thinking. When a person can manipulate your way of thinking and make you believe your way is wrong, then they can control you. No one’s mind is weak
The worst feeling in the world is knowing you have been lied To by someone you trusted👌not sure it's the worst feeling in the world....it hurts like he'll without a doubt.Also very sad&disappointing 💔
A lie hurts so bad especially when you didn't catch on lies are made for you to be seen as a fool and that's what you feel like along with the hurt when you find out there's more than one
@@ChristineKnoxGaines learn from it heal from it&move on.Its the person who is lying that's a fool.Don't beat yourself for trusting.Have faith that everything happens for a reason.Know you know this person cannot be trusted There are many people in life who can be.Keep smiling&stay blessed🕉💜🤚
Well from what I've seen..it all depends on the man n where he is in life at the time. If he is still a player or insecure with a woman other men desire, then he'll pick the weak minded one who will stay put or most other men don't desire. If he's settled or secure, he'll pick the strong one who can be strong where he's weak or who other men desire but he's confident she only wants him.
That's a good theory and all but here's the reality.... Settled and secure men do not cheat or otherwise put themselves into situations where they would ever need to make such a choice.
Half of these are quotes. Not actual psychology facts. Your video's title itself is misleading. Also, a lot of these alleged facts have been disproved concretely.
And every few million years the earth even recycles itself. With the mess humanity has put it into it may be thinking of recycling soon. And it doesn't separate by bins.
Not really weak mind, but someone he felt and loved more, as he regretted his shortcomings. If they were husband and wife, turning wicked ways to right one must be the best action. There is no wrong time in doing right and no right time in doing wrong.
After 44 years of marriage and countless infidelities of my now ex, I manipulated him and his weaknesses to divorce me and marry one of his intellectually challenged mistresses. It almost killed me to do this but he was trying to kill me. I had decades of therapy under my belt and had been trying to leave him for most of the marriage. Going no contact was a blessing even though he had other rabid flying monkeys to attack me for him. They were clueless even as their vile words fell from their lips what he had done to them. I’ve lived alone for several years and it is like heaven to be rid of that baggage. No idea if he’s even alive now. Praying he’s locked up somewhere
@@MS-lq2oq You ll always be loved and wanted if you look around you and see what you can help people or animals with. Too many people think about themselves rather than what they can do to help others
Well, i don't think a guy neccesarily stays with a girl who has a weak mind... I feel like when dealing with two women, he'd pick the woman that he feels would be most likely to prevent him from developing a weak mind. The one who is more likely to ,'catch' him when he feels like he is falling. (Based on his intuitive feelings.)
I agree with you Luna. It had nothing to do with you bring heartbroken either. Men tend to stay with the woman who makes them feel safe and are most genuine. Seems like side chicks are trying to use this as them being strong. Not knowing a woman who knows the man she is dealing with already has a woman is a sign of total weakness. Why wouldnt a man use this type of woman because she is weak? Just something to think about.
They stay with a strong mind someone they want to mirror and know they will have more benefits with and chase after the weaker mindset that’s fact bc anyone willing to be the side chick mistress is the lesser and doesn’t value her worth which sucks but that’s FACT
God loves you. I know your mad at him, but things happen for a reason. My son recently died. I'm incredibly incredibly incredibly sad! Broken. But I'm not mad at God. I trust my Heavenly Daddy. God is 100% 💕 love. 🙂
Wow that's awesome....I'm going feel better now...... . I'm a strong minded .. and soft hearted. My children reflect me alot and we are going on a journey for love and lite. .on point Thank you. My whys ? is answered..
A strong man a strong woman a perfect match they build each other foundation solid as a rock a weak man a weak woman they break each other foundation down
When a person has left - why would you be preoccupied trying to weigh your mind against others. When one has left you for others with weaker minds. He or she will still meet with more others with weakest minds than those ones. In a nutshell that is a weak hunt - so when one has left it doesn’t matter if she or he sees a mosquito. You’ll miss your fortunes weighing strangers minds...
Walking in the room being totally you! It is not so important if anyone likes or everybody dislikes you. It is far more important to be coherent with yourself, to align your feelings with your mind and that spokes about you! People can like you or dislike you from so many wrong reasons that it doesn't even matter to consider them. It is important to be yourself and this is the right attitude! In my opinion!
Oh so very painful. I was in an affair with this girl for over 7 months and I didn't know the truth about her. Her excuse was, she didn't want to lose me. Is it worth staying in that kind of relationship?
In any love triangle, there are many factors why one partner is chosen over the other. Not because the chosen pertner is weak willed. Compatibility, emotional support etc are also factored in.
Since my husband died, I never got over my depression. I became very ill. My health problems continue. When we got married, I didn't continue any friendship. I lived for my husband only. Is that normal, or is something wrong with me. Sure wished someone would comment on that. Would prefer a Psychologist respond. I was always the life at a party. Knew many jokes. People wanted to be around me. Always made them laugh. My husband stayed more in the background. When other men gave me a compliment my husband was so proud of me and said, just remember that she is mine. I was indeed only his. He always put his arms around me, or we held hands. Gosh, I loved him so much and he me. We also had our ups and down, but always made up. I'm quite strong willed and always speak my mind. Some people didn't care for that, but that's the way I have always been. Never meant to offend people, but some were offended by my openness.
My mother raised me to be a perfectionist, a martyr, I have been a doormat for people due to my upbringing while trying my best to show my best side to people, this became so overwhelming to the point that I attempted strangling myself when I was 15 and a couple years later took an overdose of pills. Unfortunately, I am still here today, just trying to cope with anxiety and feeling like an overall failure in life. The best, most selfless thing that I'm ever going to do, is not have children, for someone in my position ...thanks mom.
CONFIDENCE is walking into a room knowing you GOT CONFIDENCE, SMILE at your HATERS because you looking good and you GOT the IT factor. SHE DID THAT 😀😘❤️
In order to be happy and with no regrets a man will choose a woman who loves him unconditionally accepting his flaws and imperfections but not accepting unfaithfulness mental and physical abuse. Therefore know each other if you are compatible that’s why love is patient love is kind. We are all attracted to the beautiful and sexy handsome and good looking. If that person has a heart of gold you hit the jackpot .choose a person who has been a friend for a long time the one who will never give up on you when you are in your bottom down. The one who will stick with you thru thick and thin. The one who will encourage you to be your best version Will be there for you no matter where you are .do not give up on true love and true friends.the one who will pray for you . And in true love love a person for what you truly feel about the person not on the opinion of others.do not love a person to fill the void of your loneliness. Love the person because you know the inner core of the person . Do not love a person because of what you can gain from them love is not self seeking .do not love them because they are rich and good looking . Love the one who has heart of gold.
if you are in a bad relationship, have the courage to get out. People can treat you bad only if you allow it. Don’t blame the other person because you didn’t take action. These are difficult lessons, but all true.
Yes and in the end he lost the strong one. He gets the one he chooses. The strong one moved on with someone else. I hope the weak one someday gets strong enough to leave the weak one. God bless him and her. The strong one moved on with her new one.
Used n lied worst feeling for years God give them love n light n me greatness in this situation n my child toooooooo remove all Post traumatic stress disorder jai maa Sheetla Ashtmi blessssss me my mind heart.
Every year the old saying " Never make a pretty women your wife"? They made a song about it. Same concept. Most men aren't confident enough to LOVE a confident women. It's not anyone's fault, it's just a fact. Men are raised to be the Knight on a White horse, ya can't be if the princess isn't in destress. I don't need to be saved, go save someone that does. I want an equal that has my back, next to my side. Hence been married for almost 40 years. We still in LOVEY DOVEY.
I can believe psychological studies support walking into a room “assuming everyone likes you” as communicating differently than walking into a room “with head held high, not caring if anyone likes you or not”. The former likely translates as confidence significantly more than the latter, which likely resonates as arrogance and indifference. Assuming everyone likes you doesn’t mean that once its made clear the opposite is closer to the truth, that the confident person would therefore begin to doubt self efficacy and self worth.
Lesa, this is a very keen perception. Yeah, if you ooze out of you that you don't care what others think, that may come across as arrogant and haughty.
Strong men choose strong women because her strength is not perceived as a threat, rather a blessing for the relationship. A weak man becomes insecure and tends to belittle a strong woman in order to bring her down to his level instead of doing the inner work of raising himself to her level.
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Truth. I left when he started picking on me for getting promoted. I worked so hard to get a new office away from the old toxic team. After 2 years, I made it. It was a miracle. His mocking increased so it was time to go.
He had stayed in the same miserable place for 15 years.
that is so true
This applies to all humans weak little v strong people. It's not a man woman thing at all
This!
Einstein Quote that is painfully true. “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” It’s very true
I was in an abusive relationship for almost 10 years with a narcissistic man. In the beginning of the relationship, I was strong, independent, self-confident and by the end I was a shell of what I once was and didn’t even recognize myself anymore. He isolated me from my friends and family, manipulated my feelings, emotions. Abusive in every way- verbal, emotional, mental, physical, and yes sometimes sexually. He also cheated and I knew and still forgave him because I was so depressed and felt so ashamed of myself I felt I deserved all the terrible things that happened to me and he made me believe that as well. He wouldn’t leave me, because he wanted someone who he could control and do whatever he wanted on the side. So yes, he was with the person he “broke” and thought was weaker because he destroyed my mind. But thank goodness my mind healed and I left him.
@bustlingsangeeta. It can vary from person to person, but healing took me many years, and still, I sometimes have nightmares about it.
I'm so happy you got yourself back it's hard I had very TY same experience for 7 years and I was literally shell shocked for 2 yes and beyond when I finally broke free
@freesoul1234 are you from heathrow
@Free soul hey! Sorry just seeing this now. To be honest, the memories are always with me. I go to therapy because I knew that I had to deal with the trauma of what happened to me and for me the best way to do that was to speak to someone and to change the way I began to see myself because of the abuse I went through. I highly recommend it.
@Free soul it varies but definitely give yourself the time you need to deal with things you need. Don’t listen to others to tell you to move on if you’re not ready to unless it’s a really long time (years) and they are just trying to help. But if it’s like a couple weeks tell them to chill. But definitely it’s good to focus on yourself for a bit (self love)
Two things you'll never have to chase, true love and true friends.
That is so true 💯
Chase God..he's jealous
Try him..
A true friend knows all of your faults and liked you anyway!
good thing i stop chasing anyone😂
It's true for friends but true love doesn't exist!
@@amadorcortinas2749 PLEASE do not stop believing in true love! If it can happen to this plump, 63 yr old recovering liver transplant recipient who was 3 times married and divorced, it can happen to you! I promise you the last thing in the world I expected was finding my 70 yr young Father Time looking true love😻Steve, who I met 20 yrs ago while I was with my dud boyfriend, Mike.
It happens! It happens!
Blessings-bendiciones to u 😘
Ok, as an old person, I offer this tip. Confidence is walking into a room and watching all the people and interactions in it and learning, learning learning!
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after being separated for 4months . All thanks to Mr Ali whom help me to get back my ex again, I will suggest y'all get help from him and it works within 4days
🔥💯🔥💯 wise info
Yup and that is what I have been doing.
Interesting, thanks for sharing!
Agreed!
To everyone reading this, I sincerely pray for that whatever is causing you pain or stress will pass. May your negative thoughts, excessive worries and doubts disappear, replaced by clarity and understanding. May your life be filled with peace, tranquility and love
Godly Wisdom
Thank you❤
Same to you 👍🤟
Awesome thanks ❤
Thank you for the beautiful thought.
Nope , the key isn't to walk into a room and assume everyone likes you it's walking in w/your head held up high and not giving a crap what anyone thinks period
Exactly🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
And saying, there opinion of me is not my buisness 😉
@@elainebines6803 exactly 💯
@@elainebines6803 please..little will they know I’m the with most shade...now test it🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I completely agree. Way more empowering, but that comes with age and experience. I don't believe there is a teenager or young adult who can let go of the need to be liked. I do believe the one, and probably only, true advantage to age is letting go of all the BS we all put up with to fit in and be liked. For my part, I don't give a crap, but that has been a long time coming
Simple. Like yourself enough that you don’t need a partner. Love yourself enough that you can enjoy being by yourself. Then you will attract the right person who will be your icing on your cake and if it doesn’t work out you will not be crushed into bits because you still have yourself who you enjoy.
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So.. so.. trying to learn this. But with major abandonment issues it's so devastatingly hard!
@@princessc3039 very good keep trying! You will get there ❤
I have kinde like the same experience and left with serious trust issues and thinking i'm not good enough 😢 but i believe that i will become stronger and smarter then before!!! But you have to give your mind a break to recover and you will become happier then ever! ❤
OMG! I’ve preached this to my nieces for years!💯🥰
My Motto still Love yourself and everyone. Wish no bad God Will Take Care Of You🦋🙌🏽
Consider yourself lucky if you have one true friend
word
Guess I’m not
@@countesslorinz2306 I thought I did @bradleyb1963
After being married for over 30 years my husband took off with another woman with no explanation. I grieved and blamed myself for awhile, it knocked my confidence and I was convinced it must have been my fault. He played mind games with me and maybe with her too but then I realised the best form of revenge on them both was for her to keep him 🤭
Atta girl.... she won the boobie prize
I'm sorry that happened to you. Some people get midlife crisis and go nuts. Men having these crises always blame their wives for everything under the sun. Its really his fault but he's doing projection. Men do projection much more often than women, by the way. So your ex is living a lie and believing you did everything wrong when it is obviously all his fault. Men sometimes come to their senses after a midlife crisis and realize it was their fault not their wife's, but most of them just stay with the (younger) woman they ran off with and act like teenagers. It's sad for them. I'm glad you are happy now and recovered from his idiocy. You deserved better.
@@mygirldarby thank you 😊
Susan you are a strong woman, not to be blamed for your ex weaknesses. Everything happens for a reason and yours being you could do so much better without him.🙂
same. 37 years.
The worst feeling in the world is to know you were used and lied to by someone you trusted 100% AKA being stabbed in the back by someone you love !
I agreed.priyankit acknowledgement.very good advice.
I truly did trust until he lied @bradleyb1963
Yes however no need to relive it or repeat cuz it’s a sad story 🥲🧐😌
People need to stop trusting people 100% and realize that people can change. Feelings and circumstances can change. Stop loving people more than yourself, and stop putting people up on pedestals. If people would start loving themselves more, than they wouldn't end up being used and hurt.
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The worst feeling isn't being lonely, it's being forgotten of someone you will never forget.
However in truth; being lonely hurts as well.
In truth you're never alone. Your higher self/God is always with you. Find him-her.
Agreed
Yeah
Yes being lonely does hurt but when you find peace and sincerity and knowing that God will never leave you nor forsake you. You will never be lonely again
@@dharmapriyasinha3017 yes I agree
"Everything is temporary...don't sress" reminds me of the Bible quote my mother use to say to me..."This too shall pass".👍
4rs
Hello,
I would like to tell you, that “this to shall pass” is not a Bible verse. People think it is, but it’s not in The Bible.
This is honestly my favorite quote I have this tattooed
@@sarahrichholt5907 Actually, that would be an EXCELLENT TATTOO!!!
@@lindaholly4918 True. I think it's of Persian origin. I don't know who wrote it. But the story that seems to accompany its origin is:
A king asked his advisors to come up with a phrase that can be said in any situation, something that's always applicable and always true.
I just lost my job that I loved. This video is the first thing that has made me feel better.
I lost my job but found a better one that I was at for almost 20 years before I retired. I was better paid and respected at that job. Please continue looking for a better job and believe it will be better. Never give up.
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A wife was dumped for a younger model. She'd to find work to survive with her 3 children. She loved her job. Excelled. Within a few years she was quite wealthy. Her 'hasbeen' was dumped for a younger model. He returned. Said: leaving you was the biggest mistake of my life. She replied: I know but thanks anyway. 😂😂😂❤
My ex said pretty much the same thing before I moved. changed jobs and phone numbers.
I wish I had thanked him for leaving with his 3rd affair partner.
They always return to the treasure they trashed. But too late because someone saw the treasure for what it was along and treasured it.
Good thing he left her because she therefore learnt how to stand on her own two feet finally
@@dornellyoung-jones7472 That is beautiful, Dornell. Thank you for your thoughtfulness in sharing it.
@@oftin_wong Well, maybe not, finally. She was abandoned by her husband and the father of her children. I'd say she had the strength to overcome his unfaithfullness to them and made a good life for her and her children without him.
Not weak mind. He will stay with the one he can control.
Bullseye... It's all about control.
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You can only control someone with a weak mind
@@helloelites292 👈🏽 what she said
So true
From personal experience, just before you walk into a room, square your shoulders, lift your head high and walk in like you own the place. Project confidence especially when you don't feel it and everyone who sees you will believe it and respond accordingly! Feeding your confidence giving you the strength you didn't feel before you walked in! It's wonderful!!
There are greater man out there...if a man wants to leave let that man go...and start enjoying youre life💃🤸♂️..fact...❤❤
I feel like true friends don't really exist these days....and true love is very short lived. Faith is the best hope these days 💞🙏
Well said
Because you don't have true love and true friends. People know what they experience with others. Different people have different experiences, that's why they also have different opinions.
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯. This is truth!
Because everything is mainly about self care and indulgence people no longer know how to care genuinely for others.
And that's where God comes in. Even the Bible says people will always let you down. God won't.
Always do what you think is right..and have no regrets..you are human and be confident in that
Well - he left because he was afraid of me. Afraid of showing emotion. Afraid of confrontation. Afraid of trying new things. Afraid of himself. I am definitely a strong woman but I love strong too!
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Stay Strong sis💪and don't change yourself for any freaking man🙌the right one will love the way we are❤️
Yes !!!!! 🙋🏻♀️💯🙋🏻♀️
yes that's true. same as me. men who flee away from me were all cowards of their emotions. mostly players and non-committal, they disappear when u give them constant warmth and love, especially if they have great issues in themselves, they were so afraid of facing their fear of falling in love because they feel that it's a weakness to surrender in love.
I think you just described my ex-wife.
The only thing worse than being alone is wishing you were.
Totally agree!
I felt alone so long in marriage bc I thought we would do more things together. The only things we did together was what he liked to do. No reciprocation. No interest in me, or just hanging out having fun. Nope. I feel like he acquired a wife, (with a good wage), with the aim of having a family. Checking off the boxes…
Education, career,
wife (also w $ career)
House, family, yep, and then go play. But only occasionally with wife and kids.
I’ve learned to live as if I am not married. I have no expectations of him. The person I married was my fantasy. It has disappeared like the puffy cloud that it was. I was a silly ninny thinking he loved me. There was false comfort and a feeling of safety in that. I wish I didn’t know now what I didn’t know then.
So agree
I say something similar to this lol
That part!
This really hits me
" The top wish among all teen girls is for their parents to communicate better with them"
My parents were so well intentioned and I knew that they loved me deeply. Alas they werr Edith and Archie Bunker. I was not a Gloria - I was more of a Meathead but I refused to be baited by and argue with my (Republicsn) father. Mom was very book smart but desperately needed attention and loyal friends when we left NYC. I knew as an only child where I had to draw the family mental intimacy line. At a certain point I knew that I really did have an understanding that was insightful but which I had to hold close to my chest. Doing so has often been lonely and painful, but I watch my personal energy flow and realize that many women relinquish their/our self esteem. Remember that our earth is at a critical point. I feel that it is not critical that all women bear children. The earth itself is starving for our feminine energy. The animals AND’plants need us. Children are our future but war, destruction and too much male confusion drags everyone down. Loving and strong intelligent men are desperately needed. In many ways the world is having a grand run of it. With hope and humility we will make wondrous things happen.
I thought it was for me to take their virginity. That's what they all say, anyways. Are young girls also liars?
The key to confidence is walking into a room and if somebody doesen't like you - that's ok, it's not your buisness 😉
This is the correct attitude to take. If someone doesn't like you it's their business not yours.You can make yourself sick thinking about what others think.
If someone doesn’t like me I don’t care any way. I probably don’t like them either 🤷🏻♀️
Is walking into a room and not caring whether people like you or not, without having a defensive attitude!
There it is!!
You don't compare yourself with anybody in the room, that is the right attitude
I don't buy the one about the man with two women. Men will usually stay with the one he was with first, and that woman is usually his wife. Sometimes a man (or a woman) will find a new partner before leaving the spouse so they won't have to be alone when they leave. This is common when a person wants a divorce. But if a man just wants to run around and have fun on the side, he will never leave his wife for the other woman. He will lie to the other woman and string her along for years but he will never leave. That's most married men who are having an affair. It has nothing to do with who has a weak or strong mind. He's just a weak-minded man who wants to play around on his wife.
If a man is having a midlife crisis, however, he will blame every single thing that ever happened to him on his wife and leave her for a younger woman. When this happens he is not choosing a "strong minded" woman. He's just crazy and looking for a younger woman to make him feel younger and to feel good about himself.
So no, a man doesn't care about weak or strong mind. If he's cheating, he is the one with the weak mind.
I would rather be alone. I am very comfortable in my own skin. Just need God.
I think you are over simplifying. Each situation is different. Also regarding men stepping outside of marriage, too many religious judgments that don’t have anything to do with the issues at play.
I have known many couples split because of cheating. The women rarely return to the husband even if if the new man does not work out. Men nearly always have their fling, the wife divorces him then within 18 months or so he's back, begging the wife for a second chance. Real men never "deal" with two women at once. They finish a relationship then move on.
@@mygirldarby exactly the one who isn't strong enough to WALK AWAY!!! and puts up with him treating her like a motel he can check in and out of whenever he feels like it. No strong self respecting woman's gonna put up with that B.S
4:11 CORRECTION:The man who deals with the two women,can't deal with the strong woman.
And I would add he didn’t have to choose the woman whose mind is weak, she was the default as the woman whose mind is strong preferred a like-minded man.
No weapons formed against me shall prosper O'Lord 🙏🏽 Amen I can do all things through Christ who Strengthens me Hallelujah
Preach !!!
Amen! 🙏
Amen.🙏🏾
AMEN
Amen
I walk into a room with my head held high and could care less of what others think!! Like me or not don’t give a shit!! I know my worth! And I treat everyone the same with RESPECT!
Anger management taught me not to stress out over what I can't control. That tiny bit of advice changed my life.
Thank you for this
He goes back to the woman he "knows". It's easier to predict shit you're used to.
It's not because she has a weak mind.
Furthermore, Susan, I wholeheartedly believe that if he is choosing between two women, he never felt truly loved by either. Whether it's physically, emotionally- which is difficult for most women to accomplish- intellectually or otherwise. All men WANT to feel like a hero. Most women NEED to be the queen. No queen needs a hero.
Heroes get princesses because they are more likely to find themselves in dire straits. So, in all reality, he goes back to his queen. Tyrannical or not. Both women eventually understand their role In the man's life.
Moral of the story:
DON'T FUCK AROUND WITH SOMEONE ELSE'S PARTNER.
DON'T FUCK AROUND ON YOUR PARTNER.
exactly and looks go for nothing either.
I absolutely agree with the first sentence of your comment!!
That is so true. Don’t fuck around on your partner
Lllk km qmmmummmmmummemmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm mom
Greater truth, he loves no one, neither woman has his love, he has no love. He is a user. He stays with the one he knows will and has tolerated him.
HELLO GUYS, IN EVERY RULE, THERE IS AN EXCEPTION. JUST DO WHATEVER YOU THINK IS RIGHT AND APPROPRIATE! STAY HAPPY AND HEALTHY! 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️
Thanks Donna!
Y all capital letters?
Great advice! 🌟🧡🌟
Donna, This is exactly what my Dad always told me! ❤️
Woah... Feels like I heard myself actually I really checked on the name who commented it. Really thought IT WAS ME.. THANKS FOR REMINDING ME 🥰🥰helps me a lot
That's not the worst feeling. The worst feeling in the world is loving someone for your whole entire life and then they die, which is natural and you get left behind in this cruel world without the one person you shared unconditional love with.
So True! I could have wrote this comment. That's exactly how I feel, my husband passed away 7yrs. ago, and it still feels like 7min. I have been no more good for much of anything since. Love him still...RIP EWPjr.😥😘
@@deborahpurvis5354 Sorry for your loss. I believe that it is incredibly sad to search your entire life to find that one person that gets you and shares unconditional love to have it snatched away at anytime. But, we are left with the bittersweet taste of appreciation that they had live for the amount of time they were here and that we got to experience it. May your husband rest in peace. May you find a new found glory in life and healing.
To my grandmother, my rock... I miss you. ❤️R. I. P. Nan.
It’s not a cruel world. You’ve got to carry on regardless, these things happen millions of times a day.
My husband died when I was 35 yrs old. I am 50 now. I have my entire life to be alone without him. It's been 14 years. I would have liked many more years with him, but he was sick. It's hard knowing you will be alone for the rest of your life at such a young age. I still mourn him every February (the month he died). So the crueler thing is to lose your true love young, not when you spent your whole life together. Decades alone without them is heartbreaking. At least I have our son. He was seven when he died, and was the reason I had to get up in the morning and not roll over and give up and die, too.
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The key to confidence is walking into a room and not caring if everyone likes you.
Stop ppl pleasing be ur self...
I totally agree.love yourselve and be proud of who you are.
Yes amen absolutely 💖
God gives me everything I need. when I got to know Him, I got to know me. My life has NEVER been BETTER. Thank you Jesus for remaining the most trustworthy Man in my life even when I didnt know you.
Amen! 🙌🏻
Amen
So great. Really beautiful. We're so blessed.
Amen.. HALLELUJAH
SAY DAT 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
I'm a night owl and people always put me down for staying up late and i thought something was wrong with me, now I know it's cause I'm smart
Everything is temporary don't stress.
Yaah..sure👍
Every stress is temporary
Not true at all. Many horrible things are not temporary...
Until they murder someone you love with a vaccine.
@@ayesigar2252 right on
It's this one for me: The desire to know your own soul will end all other desires 💚
B,b,b,b,boring.
“In everyone I meet, I may find my dearest friend.” That’s the attitude to have when you walk into a room.
"The desire to know your own soul will end all other desires." That's the reality of the world.
Amen 🙏🏼
This is very true, I operate knowing I'm a soul. It can be quite exhausting when reality can take such a strong hold on you, but when I center myself and remind myself of this , I feel better to face realities challenges.
This is what i seek i know i will find peace from within understanding & then able to forgive my prior self
When a man strays out into the deep water to be with what fascinates him, it is just the curious mind of a man searching for what he's missing in the other that he desires. When he feels overwhelmed by the new woman and feels he is uncertain, he will go back to the familiar. The familiar is his safety net whether he is happy with her or not. This is what I experience. I know this each time a curious George comes into my life. ❤️🇺🇸
I think think this is true because that's what my ex boyfriend does.🇳🇦
Ha! A Curious George lmao that's Brilliant lol
I know right? Lol it's the truth though. 😂😂
I needed this today 💐💕
A person strays because they are trying to find a different version of themselves. Until they can sit with themselves and be honest, they will be a serial cheater.
THAT IS SPOT ON!!!! YOU STARTED HIGH, CONFIDENT, SOLID, KNOWING EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT AND STRIVING/ STRIDING and little by little , he chipped away at your resolve until you are a shell/ whimp,weak, depressed and wondering who the hell am I.
Btw be w someone who wants you not needs you! I found it once true men tend to pick the ones that need them. Its not weak minded necessarily than it is our choice to choose our equal. We are taught as women you must be married w a family by a certain age which pushes us to sometimes settle unhappily. If you get to know you and what u want and be positive u will attract that same energy. All in all dont worry or fight for love cause God has a plan and a partner in mind for u. Everyones just in a worldly rush.
Interesting point, I told my husband this one day. I said this to him, "the difference between you and me is, I wanted you and you needed me".... we are still together for 18yrs later... I'm no weak women, yet I do understand my role in our relationship; likewise so does he.. We're good... Iron sharpens iron
It's very hard as a young woman, tho, nowadays. You can wait and pray and hope you find or happen across the right man, but if it doesn't happen by a certain age, no family then. Adoption is great for some, but not everyone wants that
@@fraublucher85 it's hard, but what is worse is, to have children together, then you realize your partner cheated on you/is an alcoholic/ narcissist/toxic person, with drains you of energy, who wanted children but who doesn't want to spend time with those children, who always makes you feel miserable, alone, not understood... And after having children, you realize how much more difficult it is to find a job and live alone independently while providing for your children. Because you want to spend more time with your children, but you have so many other responsibilities.... And you realize your partner doesn't even want to help you with them. Cooking, cleaning, all the care of children, is your responsibility, but you are supposed to work a full-time job as well. And take care of yourself, else people would blame you: he cheated on you because you are fat. Well, no. These men cheat because they are weak and a slave to their passions. Women have to become very strong beside such men. They basically have to do everything, and also endure their partner. Then it's better to be alone from the start and adopt a child knowing that you are alone. It's better than thinking that you are in this together, only to realize that your husband only participated in making the child.
Study, have a good job, make as much money so you can have your own little apartment, be as independent and strong as you can, so when you have children, you won't have to learn this the hard way.
@@june.w.1288 Yes, I will just go live in a tiny apt. With no kids, can't afford to adopt
@@fraublucher85 sorry my words were not so kind the other day. I have depression and right now I am feeling awful. Sorry if I caused pain to you. You are doing everything you can.
Actually, there is truth to all of these reasons for the man staying with the woman. While I would initially be disappointed that he did not pick me, his needs may have wanted a mor subservient woman that increased his own sense of security and with whom he could freely express his emotions without feeling push-back from a stronger woman! Also, his psychological need for control enabled him to be in control wile exploring his sensitive nature more with a softer personality woman. His need to stand out in the relationship over his wife, while could be considered selfish and bullying by some, may have allowed this woman to feed his ego and be just what he needed! Also, depending on stage of pregnancy of his baby-mama and her dependency psychologically on him, he did the honorable thing , in my opinion; and, if he was the father or thought to be the father, he did have a responsibility to the woman for her well-being and that of the unborn child, physically and emotionally. And, from this standpoint, I would admire him for staying…irregardless to my feelings of disappointment…and, still love him that he cared.
There are different ways to view this scenario. I would respect that he had an obligation; and, chose to honor it. If our relationship was meant to be, it would happen sooner or later! God’s plan will be done in any case. As for my disappointment, I would back off and give it some time and focus on myself and my activities, and pray about it. Perhaps, God has a better plan for me, and in due time, He will show me!
I am quite impressed with your words and how you wrote this situation up so well.
I like how you made some sense into why the other woman was chosen by that guy, and how you would remain strong and ask God for guidance and pray
That is so good. Thanks for sharing!
Alicia Williams 🙏
Beautifully put and a healthy different perspective
Your words showed empathy that is what the world is lacking wth out empathy theirs no hope .
Yours is the only opinion with a positive outlook. You are a very good human being and selfless too. Keep it up.
The honrable thing in this scenario would be for him not dealing with another woman - at all, if he is already involved with someone else - somehow.
I already knew that about staying up late but the confirmation is nice too. 😀
Men are just human just like us women..you might be in love with someone but know things will not work out eventually..could be temperament compatibility different beliefs etc but I believe acceptance for who you are from a partner counts. It’s difficult to stay w someone who always want you to change or turn into what you’re not.
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Maria , if you were mine and things between us became complicated by other men interfering I'd rather loan you out than lose you
LOL SOMEONE WITH A BRAIN BEEN THERE DONE THAT SINGLE FOR THE LAST 20 YEARS. WORKING ON SOME STUFF AND MAY GET BACK INTO THE GAME ONCE I GET SOME THINGS DONE. I HAVE ALSO LEARNT THAT YOU NEED TO ROLL WITH THE PUNCHES AND ACCEPT THINGS AND ADAPT OR MOVE ON
I don’t think it’s true for everyone not all men are the same. Some will prefer a strong women it depends. These are not all true. We are all individual people not everyone falls in a cookie cut pattern.
Yes right ,I also feel the same…
Man like the woman who are strong happy and independent
I hope that's not why he stayed with me.
@@keketennessee9116 Don't just accept everything you hear. Everybody is different.
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. ...
Confidence is walking into a room with ABSOLUTELY NO EXPECTATIONS. ✨️ 💕 😊
Happy Night 🌙 Everyone. God Bless 🙌 🙏
I am sleeping early and getting up early following my sleeping pattern coz growing up I suffered from severe insomnia! It doesn’t mean I am less smart than those staying up late!
And that's healthy! Sleeping late can be a cause of so many sickness
For about two years I completely changed my sleep pattern. Rising at 5am to workout, work then to bed around 9/10. BEST shape of my life all around. I changed my schedule for work and went back to working out later. Yea nope. Just not the same. I love love staying up late but I absolutely notice a difference with working out in the AM all around. So much better creatively and in mindset.
I agree with earlier than later to bed and earlier than later to rise. It makes a big difference in my energy level, cognition, and overall mood for the day. I don’t go to bed at 7 but I don’t stay up till midnight either. There is a fine balance somewhere between.
Actually yes..i feel that early bed and early rise people are much more efficient than late sleepers like me
@@kizumekojilee2255 where did they even get that sleeping psychology from?
The worst feeling in the world is actually the guilt of knowing YOU used and abused someone who trusted you.
And look with who
I would not even look at u other options.
But I think his real woman can't read and write ,u not his real woman g u just there.
@@gerardsimon651 Gerard Simon, you look at me now!!! NOW DAMMIT!!!
Kay Hollings • Interesting way to turn it around. I have never done that, but I am sure it must be terrible. Unfortunately, people who use and betray others usually DON'T CARE about what they did, or how it hurt the other person. if they did, they wouldn't have done it in the first place.
I disagree,confidence is walking into a room and knowing you like yourself.Never in any room will everyone like you.They may lie and act like they do.But at least one hates you.Oh well,that's their issue not yours.
This is so true.
I believe confidence is walking in a room, knowing your self-worth, but also seeing the inherent worth & value of every other person.
A gracious woman will come into a room wearing a smile. Pettiness & gossip are beneath her. She will touch hands & shoulders, her eyes warm & smiling; her mouth speaks gentle truths. She loves making others feel special & included. She is the opposite of haughty & pouty. As a result, all are drawn to her warmth & light.
If she hears someone attempting to start petty drama, she steers it away by quickly changing the subject. If someone is stuck being negative, she will smile, but also excuse herself. Before she is finished, she will have blessed the gathering with positivity. Every person she has spoken with will feel better about himself or herself. She will leave the room, & after she does, every other person will feel better about themselves, but wish to be nearer to her. When she leaves the gathering, a bit of her light leaves too.
Cynthia Crawford, I agree.
@@tamarascherette4946 hmmm.
I totally disagree. How can you say that every room you walk into at least one person hates you?! Either your personality is 💩, or you have horribly negative energy/perhaps neg attitude as well. I am 41 soon to be 42 and I know I have less than five people that hate me. No doubt about that. I can’t think of a single one. And I make sure if there is any friction, that it gets sorted out amicably so that the other party and I can separate either having hashed out and dissolved whatever issue (not hatred- that’s a strong strong word) was causing conflict-OR we will move along in different directions but I’ve never ended a relationship with anyone (SO, friend, acquaintance, coworker, or otherwise on begrudged terms or feelings of animosity or ill will. To further enhance my point, my senior year at prom, I was voted Miss Personality by all of my class. And I was brand new that year and in the work program so I only had to go to school from 8:30-11:00 or something like that. It’s about your personality and the way you treat others, friendliness, courtesy, non-judgement, and having a sunny disposition. That’s a lot -a ton- of enemies if every room you ever walk into has 1+ haters on you. Only people like politicians and murderers and violent criminals etc have a bad rep like that!!!
Nope. It does not matter if a woman is weak or strong minded. A man will ALWAYS stay with a woman who makes him feel good about himself. That's it!
Exactly he will stay with the woman he know will be by his side that will stick with him when shit get tough the one who love respect and honor him..
He can try to leave but the other woman may be kacking in the area the so called weak minded woman isnt lacking and that is the live he have for her the respect he has for her and much more so weak minded dont have ish to do with it..
Lmao give me a break
The woman who sticks around the man even after knowing she been cheated on can’t be a strong woman. The man knows she will take all his shit. Who wants a cheater anyways lol
@@aimee5739 Right! My thoughts exactly
@@lovergirl8360 who fed you that line of bs? If one loves and respects whom ever they're with, there wouldn't be another🤦
There are no weak minds, just alternate ways of thinking. When a person can manipulate your way of thinking and make you believe your way is wrong, then they can control you. No one’s mind is weak
If a man is dealing with two women ….. first he’s not a man !
😅🤣u can take it like that...or u can take it in a way that he isn't a strong man.
Wow. So black and white. Just like Fox News. As biased and morally judgmental as self righteous can be.
F-ck me it's hard enough dealing with one woman...who in their right mind would want another of the f-ckers doing your head in...sheesh 😂
I disagree. You have no idea how miserable a woman can make a man, and how happy another can restore sanity
Having your cake and eating it too, what's wrong with that???
The worst feeling in the world is knowing you have been lied
To by someone you trusted👌not sure it's the worst feeling in the world....it hurts like he'll without a doubt.Also very sad&disappointing 💔
That is what happens to me now,i can't explain how it pain me💔😭😭
@@emmymassawe4696 sending love&good vibes.This too shall pass.Stay blessed 🙌 💜
A lie hurts so bad especially when you didn't catch on lies are made for you to be seen as a fool and that's what you feel like along with the hurt when you find out there's more than one
@@ChristineKnoxGaines learn from it heal from it&move on.Its the person who is lying that's a fool.Don't beat yourself for trusting.Have faith that everything happens for a reason.Know you know this person cannot be trusted There are many people in life who can be.Keep smiling&stay blessed🕉💜🤚
Especially when they lie and then deny that they lied 🤣🙅🏼♀️🚫
"Dont stress, everything is temporary" Not when it comes to the internet
In relationships as in the internet, never say anything you’re not willing to own up to and never say anything you will regret down the road.
Well from what I've seen..it all depends on the man n where he is in life at the time. If he is still a player or insecure with a woman other men desire, then he'll pick the weak minded one who will stay put or most other men don't desire. If he's settled or secure, he'll pick the strong one who can be strong where he's weak or who other men desire but he's confident she only wants him.
That's a good theory and all but here's the reality.... Settled and secure men do not cheat or otherwise put themselves into situations where they would ever need to make such a choice.
Right.
😯😯😯
@@martydavis3094 Sometimes you develop feelings for other people as well🤷🏼♀️ Its human nature
Most men are needy far more than women.
Half of these are quotes. Not actual psychology facts. Your video's title itself is misleading. Also, a lot of these alleged facts have been disproved concretely.
Yup
Yep! Just posted the same then saw your comment!!
exactly
Agreed , this is a misleading information
That's where I'm at on this. This video contains not only a lot of nonsense, but is grammatically horrible, too. 😂
Everything is temporary Don’t stress. Lorrrrd knows I’m Grateful to have come across this message💯✨💚🤲🏼
And every few million years the earth even recycles itself. With the mess humanity has put it into it may be thinking of recycling soon. And it doesn't separate by bins.
Not really weak mind, but someone he felt and loved more, as he regretted his shortcomings. If they were husband and wife, turning wicked ways to right one must be the best action.
There is no wrong time in doing right and no right time in doing wrong.
I THANK GOD that I'm a Strong woman. Without him I don't know where would I be🙏🏼🙏🏼
Amen!
It's probably possible to only think positive and let the negative fade away, but that's one true thing that always resurfaces.
After 44 years of marriage and countless infidelities of my now ex, I manipulated him and his weaknesses to divorce me and marry one of his intellectually challenged mistresses. It almost killed me to do this but he was trying to kill me. I had decades of therapy under my belt and had been trying to leave him for most of the marriage. Going no contact was a blessing even though he had other rabid flying monkeys to attack me for him. They were clueless even as their vile words fell from their lips what he had done to them. I’ve lived alone for several years and it is like heaven to be rid of that baggage. No idea if he’s even alive now. Praying he’s locked up somewhere
If you stop thinking and talking about him you will be more free. Don't give him space even to hate him . Bless your heart .
Everything is TEMPORARY... even a loved one... So don't stress about love and relationships... Go with the flow... No need to love deeply 👍👍👍
I do hope you will love very deeply and be loved deeply too for a LoOoOOng time if not forever
I hope and pray that my relationship will be honest and stronger because it takes two to make love grow and bloom 💖🌹💖
Wait until you're unloved and unwanted
What a perfect way to live👍🏻 that's how we came into the world and that's how we'll go out of it
@@MS-lq2oq You ll always be loved and wanted if you look around you and see what you can help people or animals with. Too many people think about themselves rather than what they can do to help others
Everything is temporary, don't stress... Everything being temporary is stressful
Nice analogy
Well, i don't think a guy neccesarily stays with a girl who has a weak mind... I feel like when dealing with two women, he'd pick the woman that he feels would be most likely to prevent him from developing a weak mind. The one who is more likely to ,'catch' him when he feels like he is falling. (Based on his intuitive feelings.)
Not sure about that…
My heart is 💔,
I agree with you Luna. It had nothing to do with you bring heartbroken either. Men tend to stay with the woman who makes them feel safe and are most genuine. Seems like side chicks are trying to use this as them being strong. Not knowing a woman who knows the man she is dealing with already has a woman is a sign of total weakness. Why wouldnt a man use this type of woman because she is weak? Just something to think about.
I totally agree with you!
They stay with a strong mind someone they want to mirror and know they will have more benefits with and chase after the weaker mindset that’s fact bc anyone willing to be the side chick mistress is the lesser and doesn’t value her worth which sucks but that’s FACT
Perhaps he choose the one he really loves...love isn't weakness..god is ❤️
God loves you. I know your mad at him, but things happen for a reason. My son recently died. I'm incredibly incredibly incredibly sad! Broken. But I'm not mad at God. I trust my Heavenly Daddy. God is 100% 💕 love. 🙂
GOD IS LOVE
Wow that's awesome....I'm going feel better now...... . I'm a strong minded .. and soft hearted. My children reflect me alot and we are going on a journey for love and lite. .on point Thank you. My whys ? is answered..
A strong man a strong woman a perfect match they build each other foundation solid as a rock a weak man a weak woman they break each other foundation down
When a person has left - why would you be preoccupied trying to weigh your mind against others. When one has left you for others with weaker minds. He or she will still meet with more others with weakest minds than those ones. In a nutshell that is a weak hunt - so when one has left it doesn’t matter if she or he sees a mosquito. You’ll miss your fortunes weighing strangers minds...
Some of these comments are great! I especially liked the one that said when I walk into a room I don’t give a crap if they like me or not! Golden!👍🏽
Walking in the room being totally you! It is not so important if anyone likes or everybody dislikes you. It is far more important to be coherent with yourself, to align your feelings with your mind and that spokes about you! People can like you or dislike you from so many wrong reasons that it doesn't even matter to consider them. It is important to be yourself and this is the right attitude! In my opinion!
“Everything is temporary. Don’t stress.”
*feels approaching anxiety after being reminded that everything is temporary*
And so it goes... I can relate!
This is a bunch of life advice with a sprinkle of psychological facts thrown in
The most painful thing on the earth is some one u love and trust u find out that he has been using u just
Oh so very painful. I was in an affair with this girl for over 7 months and I didn't know the truth about her. Her excuse was, she didn't want to lose me. Is it worth staying in that kind of relationship?
In any love triangle, there are many factors why one partner is chosen over the other. Not because the chosen pertner is weak willed. Compatibility, emotional support etc are also factored in.
Well said
I believe that 100% and have experienced it first hand
Since my husband died, I never got over my depression. I became very ill. My health problems continue. When we got married, I didn't continue any friendship. I lived for my husband only. Is that normal, or is something wrong with me. Sure wished someone would comment on that. Would prefer a Psychologist respond. I was always the life at a party. Knew many jokes. People wanted to be around me. Always made them laugh. My husband stayed more in the background. When other men gave me a compliment my husband was so proud of me and said, just remember that she is mine. I was indeed only his. He always put his arms around me, or we held hands. Gosh, I loved him so much and he me. We also had our ups and down, but always made up. I'm quite strong willed and always speak my mind. Some people didn't care for that, but that's the way I have always been. Never meant to offend people, but some were offended by my openness.
I have suffered loss & I believe you will meet again after life on earth.
My mother raised me to be a perfectionist, a martyr, I have been a doormat for people due to my upbringing while trying my best to show my best side to people, this became so overwhelming to the point that I attempted strangling myself when I was 15 and a couple years later took an overdose of pills. Unfortunately, I am still here today, just trying to cope with anxiety and feeling like an overall failure in life. The best, most selfless thing that I'm ever going to do, is not have children, for someone in my position ...thanks mom.
Believe me, you are not alone in your experiences and feelings. I HEAR you. ❤🩹
Everything is temporary. Be kind and love yourself and others . I love my kissos no regrets just lessons!
"everything is temporary" is a line in the movie "moonstruck"....a great movie about people and relationships.
"Moonstruck": THE queen mother of chick flicks, and one of my faves.
Cher, Cage and Oscar?
Lord Thank You For Health and Strength🙏🏽 I Do Ask For Peace In This Bereaving Time🕊️🕊️🕊️🦋🦋🦋
What a random mix of „truths”. Soothing music👍
CONFIDENCE is walking into a room knowing you GOT CONFIDENCE, SMILE at your HATERS because you looking good and you GOT the IT factor. SHE DID THAT 😀😘❤️
In order to be happy and with no regrets a man will choose a woman who loves him unconditionally accepting his flaws and imperfections but not accepting unfaithfulness mental and physical abuse. Therefore know each other if you are compatible that’s why love is patient love is kind. We are all attracted to the beautiful and sexy handsome and good looking. If that person has a heart of gold you hit the jackpot .choose a person who has been a friend for a long time the one who will never give up on you when you are in your bottom down. The one who will stick with you thru thick and thin. The one who will encourage you to be your best version
Will be there for you no matter where you are .do not give up on true love and true friends.the one who will pray for you . And in true love love a person for what you truly feel about the person not on the opinion of others.do not love a person to fill the void of your loneliness. Love the person because you know the inner core of the person . Do not love a person because of what you can gain from them love is not self seeking .do not love them because they are rich and good looking . Love the one who has heart of gold.
Thank you sister. You nailed it
Amen to the perfectionist thing.
Two things You'll never have to chase true love and true friends.
I am definitely sleeping face down with my hands above my head from now on. Scarlett Johansson here I come!!!
🤣dont forget to breath
I am activating being grateful for all of my blessings
It's an amazing lesson, I found it very useful. May God bless you.
Every man has one.....as does every woman...
if you are in a bad relationship, have the courage to get out. People can treat you bad only if you allow it. Don’t blame the other person because you didn’t take action. These are difficult lessons, but all true.
How very Hallmark of you. Does not apply across the board. But it makes a good pamphlet .
Thank you ! The piano music made the words soothing.
Yes and in the end he lost the strong one. He gets the one he chooses. The strong one moved on with someone else. I hope the weak one someday gets strong enough to leave the weak one. God bless him and her. The strong one moved on with her new one.
❤❤❤❤❤GREAT JOB 👍👏👏 ON VIDEO 📸
Used n lied worst feeling for years God give them love n light n me greatness in this situation n my child toooooooo remove all Post traumatic stress disorder jai maa Sheetla Ashtmi blessssss me my mind heart.
Every year the old saying " Never make a pretty women your wife"? They made a song about it. Same concept. Most men aren't confident enough to LOVE a confident women. It's not anyone's fault, it's just a fact. Men are raised to be the Knight on a White horse, ya can't be if the princess isn't in destress. I don't need to be saved, go save someone that does. I want an equal that has my back, next to my side. Hence been married for almost 40 years. We still in LOVEY DOVEY.
I love videos like this that make sweeping generalization to be self-serving so the viewer can feel better about their corks!
I can believe psychological studies support walking into a room “assuming everyone likes you” as communicating differently than walking into a room “with head held high, not caring if anyone likes you or not”. The former likely translates as confidence significantly more than the latter, which likely resonates as arrogance and indifference. Assuming everyone likes you doesn’t mean that once its made clear the opposite is closer to the truth, that the confident person would therefore begin to doubt self efficacy and self worth.
Lesa, this is a very keen perception. Yeah, if you ooze out of you that you don't care what others think, that may come across as arrogant and haughty.
@@june.w.1288 I'm pretty laid back in a group situation. I don't care what anybody thinks because I doubt they think of me at all. 😃