Very well said Mufti.Good explanation.Marry a man/woman who you see everyday.Solve a lot of problems.People get married to be together not seperated.Just an opinion.😊☺😉
Nothing is a secret for Allah knows all and at some point the truth all ways come's out in to the light for all to see,all so remember the conceived child position of the secret,May Allah guide us all and keep us all on the straight path and forgive us for any wrongs we have done and grant us ease,Ameen.
Todays polygamy: So many Muslim brothers are married and have girlfriends and call it Islamic polygamy marriages from Quran SubhanAllaah. A wife and girlfriends aren't polygamy from Quran. Muslim brothers dont want responsibility for wives so they have one wife and girlfriends so they dont have responsibility for the girlfriends SubhanAllaah. Some brothers have 2 girlfriends and say its halal because Allah said polygamy in the Quran. Ya Allah Wife and children are a responsibility but brothers dont want responsibility, they only using women for lust/sexual desires nowadays and dont want responsibility. Some brothers think I'll have one wife and girlfriends so I dont get punished by Allah for the second girlfriend because the girlfriend isnt a responsibility so he dont have to Answer to Allah swt because she not a second wife! Fear Allah swt when you have mothers, sisters and daughters because what goes around comes around and what goes around comes is from Allah swt. Never, never and never ever break someones heart! Never
But there is a very IMPORTANT point!!! For men who are already married and living abroad the secret or open nikah is not allowed and valid!!! As they will be with the one they marry at the time that he doesnt see his first wife for a quite long time and this is of course injustice towards first wife.
That's why the Shari'ah Prohibits a husband, to stay away from her for long time. A husband is ordered either to take his wife with her or change his job and settle down in his own town. So that, the husband wife will be with eachother
What about situations were parents give approval but want to "wait" 2 years to make it official - problem with this is cultural marriage and weddings - this is differnt to Nikkah.. from what i found on Al-Islam and other sources, if the wali's excuse does not meet reasonable Islamic criteria then the wali can be an imam at mosque - 2 witnesses can be family members who are supportive and protective Muslims. Im in the possibly small circle that i think socially, only tell those who you can rely on and trust in terms of witnesses.. lots of idiots love drama and gossiping etc, avoid such fake people from knowing. Allah knows best, ameen.
@@maheerghaffar3897 u need to have a wakeel and witnesses (2 males or 1 male and 2 females) whom you can trust! You are an adult, if you can convince your parents that’ll be great if not then it’s ok you can do nikah!
The women whom such men marry are not the one abused. The wives which they have in their home countries are the ones who are abused by them and their families, whom they visited for a month after one or two years and they were treated as slaves by their families and also gave birth to their children. If they do not need them, why do they marry them. These are the brides living like widows
Mashallah tabarak Allah jazaka Allahu khayran brother mufti menk..May Allah grant you Good health and Goodness and highest place in Jannatul firdaous Ameen...
A woman has to have walk even if you aren’t from this county then the Imaam shall find a walk for you there’s no excuse. GO INTO MARRIAGE WITH THE FULL BLESSINGS OF ALLAAH
Jazakallahu khair ...even I got a proposal like this .....m a divorcee nd dat guy offered me for nikaah but he was not ready to let me inform my parents .....it was weired for me ....and I refused that proposal ..Alhamdulillah
Todays polygamy: So many Muslim brothers are married and have girlfriends and call it Islamic polygamy marriages from Quran SubhanAllaah. A wife and girlfriends aren't polygamy from Quran. Muslim brothers dont want responsibility for wives so they have one wife and girlfriends so they dont have responsibility for the girlfriends SubhanAllaah. Some brothers have 2 girlfriends and say its halal because Allah said polygamy in the Quran. Ya Allah Wife and children are a responsibility but brothers dont want responsibility, they only using women for lust/sexual desires nowadays and dont want responsibility. Some brothers think I'll have one wife and girlfriends so I dont get punished by Allah for the second girlfriend because the girlfriend isnt a responsibility so he dont have to Answer to Allah swt because she not a second wife! Fear Allah swt when you have mothers, sisters and daughters because what goes around comes around and what goes around comes is from Allah swt. Never, never and never ever break someones heart! Never
Alot of Muslim brothers use polygamy to cheating on the wife, when the wife says "why are you cheating on me?" The husband replys "it's part of Islam" SubhanAllaah
Masha Allah .... Very nice... Explanation ... Not be used or abused.... trying keep it open ... be brave enough to say let the world know so what... Be with reality... .
My humble opinion, he is a black man and want to marry a non black, but her parents may have a bad view on it, because they wouldn't want a black men as son in law.
Secret marriages are forbidden in Islam In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful It is a condition of a sound marriage that it be announced and attested to publicly. A secret marriage, which is only witnessed by a few people in private, is disapproved (makruh) at best and unlawful (haram) according to some scholars. It is potentially harmful to those affected by it, as it almost always involves deception or at least gross omission, especially if a man marries an additional wife in secret and without her consent. Allah said: فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ Marry them with the permission of their families and give them their due as is good, chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. Surat al-Nisa 4:25 Scholars have said that this verse prohibits secret marriages without witnesses, by drawing an analogy between a ‘secret mistress’ and a secret marriage. Ibn Taymiyyah writes: وَمَالِكٌ يُوجِبُ إعْلَانَ النِّكَاحِ وَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ هُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ نِكَاحِ الْبَغَايَا وَقَدْ قَالَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ فَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ مِنْ جِنْسِ ذَوَاتِ الْأَخْدَانِ Malik obligated announcing the marriage in public. A secret marriage is a type of prostitution. Allah Almighty said: Chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. (4:25) Thus, a secret marriage is a type of secret mistress. Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 32/102 Scholars also refer to the statements of the Prophet (s) commanding the announcement of marriages in public. Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: أَعْلِنُوا هَذَا النِّكَاحَ وَاجْعَلُوهُ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ وَاضْرِبُوا عَلَيْهِ بِالدُّفُوفِ Announce this marriage publicly, conduct it in the mosque, and strike the drums for it. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1089, Grade: Hasan Muhammad ibn Hatib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: فَصْلُ مَا بَيْنَ الْحَرَامِ وَالْحَلَالِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ The difference between an unlawful and lawful marriage is the beating of drums and the raising of voices. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1088, Grade: Hasan Abdullah ibn al-Zubayr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: أَعْلِنُوا النِّكَاحَ Announce the marriage. Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4066, Grade: Hasan Based upon this evidence, it is said that a marriage conducted in secret is invalid and annulled, even if it has two credible witnesses and permission from a guardian. Abu Bakr Abdul Aziz said: نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ بَاطِلٌ؛ لِأَنَّ أَحْمَدَ قَالَ إذَا تَزَوَّجَ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْنِ لَا حَتَّى يُعْلِنَهُ A secret marriage is invalid, as Ahmad said: If he is married with a guardian’s permission and two witnesses, it is not so until it is announced publicly. Source: al-Mughnī 7/83 This was also the opinion of Imam Malik. However, most scholars said that a secret marriage is valid if it meets the condition of two credible witnesses and a guardian. It is in legal effect and will not be annulled, although it is disapproved to do so. Ibn Qudamah writes: فَإِنْ عَقَدَهُ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْن فَأَسَرُّوه أَوْ تَوَاصَوْا بِكِتْمَانِه كُرِهَ ذَلِك وَصَحَّ النِّكَاحُ If the marriage is contracted with a guardian and two witnesses, but he keeps it secret or conceals its attestation, that is disapproved but the marriage is valid. Source: al-Mughnī 7/83 And Ibn al-Qayyim writes: أَنَّ الشَّارِعَ اشْتَرَطَ لِلنِّكَاحِ شُرُوطًا زَائِدَةً عَلَى الْعَقْدِ تَقْطَعُ عَنْهُ شُبَهَ السِّفَاحِ كَالْإِعْلَامِ وَالْوَلِيِّ وَمَنْعِ امْرَأَةٍ أَنْ تَلِيَهُ بِنَفْسِهَا وَنَدَبَ إلَى إظْهَارِهِ حَتَّى اُسْتُحِبَّ فِيهِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ وَالْوَلِيمَةُ The Lawgiver has set conditions for marriage, in addition to the contract, in order to cut off any suspicion of promiscuity, such as announcing it, the guardian, and preventing a woman from conducting it by herself. It is encouraged to publicize it, even recommended to beat the drums, raise voices, and hold a banquet. Source: I’lām al-Muwaqqi’īn 3/113 This disapproval should not be taken lightly. The important point here is that the legal ‘validity’ of an act does not mean it is ethical or morally sound. If some scholars accept the validity of a secret marriage, that in no way implies they are endorsing or encouraging the act. Nevertheless, many scholars said that such a secret marriage resembles adultery despite being legally valid. Umar ibn al-Khattab was particularly strict about this matter. Abu al-Zubayr reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, was presented with a marriage which no one had witnessed except one man and one woman. Umar said: هَذَا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ وَلَا أُجِيزُهُ وَلَوْ كُنْتُ تَقَدَّمْتُ فِيهِ لَرَجَمْتُ This is a secret marriage and I do not permit it. If I had known of it beforehand, I would have stoned them. Source: al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1136 This was a rhetorical threat to indicate the seriousness with which the matter should be taken. If there were no witnesses at all, the consensus of the scholars is that it is an act of adultery. Ibn Taymiyyah writes: وَأَمَّا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ الَّذِي يَتَوَاصَوْنَ بِكِتْمَانِهِ وَلَا يُشْهِدُونَ عَلَيْهِ أَحَدًا فَهُوَ بَاطِلٌ عِنْدَ عَامَّةِ الْعُلَمَاءِ وَهُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ السِّفَاحِ As for a secret marriage, the attestation of which is concealed and witnessed by no one, it is invalid according to the prevalent opinion of scholars. It is a type of illicit intercourse. Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 33/158 In sum, secret marriages without witnesses are unconditionally forbidden in Islam as they resemble adultery. If a secret marriage meets the minimum legal requirements of two credible witnesses and permission of a guardian, then at the very least it is morally disapproved if not unlawful. Believing men who fear Allah would be wise to avoid contracting a secret marriage, especially if they are marrying a second wife behind the back of their first wife, her family, and her children.
I have lost my beloved girlfriend while trying to pursue our dayyous parents to agree for our nikah before 18 years. It gave me alots of pain and completely vanished the relations with my mother. She is a child abuser. Now I got another women, we dont want to take a risk. So according to your teachings, ZINA is the best way to save our relation. and we will do it now. keep your advises with you.
As-Salaam Wa Alaikum, my brothers and sisters in Islam! *I need some honest advice* I'm a recent convert (Revert) to Islam. My ex (wife) is a Christian, and I have been separated since May 2021 (she left and denied me access to our two children). Within that separation, I embraced Islam. I met a Muslimah, and we plan on having our Nikah around April 2023. I'm still legally married to my ex, but she's refused to relinquish the marriage certificate in order for me to obtain a divorce. What does Islam say about being legally married (pending on the divorce as I have no intention in having 2 wives) to a Christian and marrying a Muslim?
What do you do if your wali doesn’t give you consent to marry a man even if they’re a man that has good faith & heart and there’s nothing wrong with him? But your father is just saying no without good reason for e.g cos of his ethnicity?
Dear, I feel for you as you find yourself in a very difficult situation. You're forced to make a decision, to choose between your father's approval and the love a future husband. Pray intensely, pray for wisdom and God's guidance. Fast and offer sacrifice so that God opens the way. I assure you, if it is HIS will.. Your marriage will take place, for NOTHING is impossible to our Lord. Have faith and don't give into temptation so that evil doesn't take hold of the situation. In the end, if you must marry without your father's approval, at least you will have God's blessings.
Tas ' You speak to a Shaikh and get him involved as quickly as possible for advice. Like Our Holy Prophet(pbuh) said the Ulema should get the respect always that they are due. Plus they are our the resources of knowledge for us. The Qur'an says " We have created you from different colours, languages, backgrounds so that you may know one another. In the Prophet(pbuh's) last sermon he said there is No place for Racism in Islam. Tell your parents during the Prophet's time all people of different descent were treated equally as they were supposed to be according to Allah(SWT's) command. You can't follow one way of Islam, Sunnah and Hadith and not follow the Rest. Listen to Mufti Menks lecture on let your Children marry who they want. He talks about various things in it and how Parents will be asked by Allah(SWT) if they stop their Adult Kids from marrying Muslim potential spouses that they want. May Allah(SWT) make the situation your in easy for you, Ameen. Pray Rabbi-ini-Lima-Anzalta-ILaya-Min-Khayrin-Fakir.
Ask your imam but as far as I know your father's right of being waali will be taken and be given to your men relatives that are in your father's side if your father said no without having a valid reason.Ask your imam for details
Oh I also got secrets nikah bt there is to witness men one maulana n denmahar of 21 thousands n me n mah husband told about marriage most of frndz some relative of mah husband too, bt i didn't tell to mah papa n sis mah mom is no more m younger sister mah elder sister is not married so I m waiting for her marriage den I to Tell mah Papa n also my husband didn't say anything about our marriage to his mother n brother his father is also no more but his mother literally wants that we get marry very soon his family know about me very well I wish I get marry very soon INSHALLAH plzz dua for me
Cirkaa Noojira Cabaar Hmm shahid ku wa muhim, dad Anan waliyi ammar lahayn aya jira diinteenu meela badan aya Allah ka yasiray, Lkin Suaal sha hada la weydiyey w mid Anan wali maqlin,,,, lkin Imam iyo Shahid ayey u bahanyihin markaysan ehel haysan
"From a social perspective" Forget all that foolishness, people's opinions mean nothing. If it's halal in the eyes of Allah, what human being can tell you anything?
@M Benyi society should mind their business and worry about themselves not burning rather than talking shit about other people and what they may or may not be doing, some people like discrete lives and not to be bothered at all and not to talk to other people about anything let alone personal things that can be evil eyed
@M Benyi I'm not gonna read that waffle. My Islamic proof is: To seek the face of Allah and only him. Anything else is irrelevant. If 'people and society' have anything to say that's between them and Allah. If you want to tell everyone you're married and happy, by all means, welcome in all of that eiyn (evil eye)..glad tidings to that 🤷🏾♂️
Secret marriages are forbidden in Islam In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful It is a condition of a sound marriage that it be announced and attested to publicly. A secret marriage, which is only witnessed by a few people in private, is disapproved (makruh) at best and unlawful (haram) according to some scholars. It is potentially harmful to those affected by it, as it almost always involves deception or at least gross omission, especially if a man marries an additional wife in secret and without her consent. Allah said: فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ Marry them with the permission of their families and give them their due as is good, chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. Surat al-Nisa 4:25 Scholars have said that this verse prohibits secret marriages without witnesses, by drawing an analogy between a ‘secret mistress’ and a secret marriage. Ibn Taymiyyah writes: وَمَالِكٌ يُوجِبُ إعْلَانَ النِّكَاحِ وَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ هُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ نِكَاحِ الْبَغَايَا وَقَدْ قَالَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ فَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ مِنْ جِنْسِ ذَوَاتِ الْأَخْدَانِ Malik obligated announcing the marriage in public. A secret marriage is a type of prostitution. Allah Almighty said: Chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. (4:25) Thus, a secret marriage is a type of secret mistress. Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 32/102 Scholars also refer to the statements of the Prophet (s) commanding the announcement of marriages in public. Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: أَعْلِنُوا هَذَا النِّكَاحَ وَاجْعَلُوهُ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ وَاضْرِبُوا عَلَيْهِ بِالدُّفُوفِ Announce this marriage publicly, conduct it in the mosque, and strike the drums for it. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1089, Grade: Hasan Muhammad ibn Hatib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: فَصْلُ مَا بَيْنَ الْحَرَامِ وَالْحَلَالِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ The difference between an unlawful and lawful marriage is the beating of drums and the raising of voices. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1088, Grade: Hasan Abdullah ibn al-Zubayr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: أَعْلِنُوا النِّكَاحَ Announce the marriage. Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4066, Grade: Hasan Based upon this evidence, it is said that a marriage conducted in secret is invalid and annulled, even if it has two credible witnesses and permission from a guardian. Abu Bakr Abdul Aziz said: نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ بَاطِلٌ؛ لِأَنَّ أَحْمَدَ قَالَ إذَا تَزَوَّجَ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْنِ لَا حَتَّى يُعْلِنَهُ A secret marriage is invalid, as Ahmad said: If he is married with a guardian’s permission and two witnesses, it is not so until it is announced publicly. Source: al-Mughnī 7/83 This was also the opinion of Imam Malik. However, most scholars said that a secret marriage is valid if it meets the condition of two credible witnesses and a guardian. It is in legal effect and will not be annulled, although it is disapproved to do so. Ibn Qudamah writes: فَإِنْ عَقَدَهُ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْن فَأَسَرُّوه أَوْ تَوَاصَوْا بِكِتْمَانِه كُرِهَ ذَلِك وَصَحَّ النِّكَاحُ If the marriage is contracted with a guardian and two witnesses, but he keeps it secret or conceals its attestation, that is disapproved but the marriage is valid. Source: al-Mughnī 7/83 And Ibn al-Qayyim writes: أَنَّ الشَّارِعَ اشْتَرَطَ لِلنِّكَاحِ شُرُوطًا زَائِدَةً عَلَى الْعَقْدِ تَقْطَعُ عَنْهُ شُبَهَ السِّفَاحِ كَالْإِعْلَامِ وَالْوَلِيِّ وَمَنْعِ امْرَأَةٍ أَنْ تَلِيَهُ بِنَفْسِهَا وَنَدَبَ إلَى إظْهَارِهِ حَتَّى اُسْتُحِبَّ فِيهِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ وَالْوَلِيمَةُ The Lawgiver has set conditions for marriage, in addition to the contract, in order to cut off any suspicion of promiscuity, such as announcing it, the guardian, and preventing a woman from conducting it by herself. It is encouraged to publicize it, even recommended to beat the drums, raise voices, and hold a banquet. Source: I’lām al-Muwaqqi’īn 3/113 This disapproval should not be taken lightly. The important point here is that the legal ‘validity’ of an act does not mean it is ethical or morally sound. If some scholars accept the validity of a secret marriage, that in no way implies they are endorsing or encouraging the act. Nevertheless, many scholars said that such a secret marriage resembles adultery despite being legally valid. Umar ibn al-Khattab was particularly strict about this matter. Abu al-Zubayr reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, was presented with a marriage which no one had witnessed except one man and one woman. Umar said: هَذَا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ وَلَا أُجِيزُهُ وَلَوْ كُنْتُ تَقَدَّمْتُ فِيهِ لَرَجَمْتُ This is a secret marriage and I do not permit it. If I had known of it beforehand, I would have stoned them. Source: al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1136 This was a rhetorical threat to indicate the seriousness with which the matter should be taken. If there were no witnesses at all, the consensus of the scholars is that it is an act of adultery. Ibn Taymiyyah writes: وَأَمَّا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ الَّذِي يَتَوَاصَوْنَ بِكِتْمَانِهِ وَلَا يُشْهِدُونَ عَلَيْهِ أَحَدًا فَهُوَ بَاطِلٌ عِنْدَ عَامَّةِ الْعُلَمَاءِ وَهُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ السِّفَاحِ As for a secret marriage, the attestation of which is concealed and witnessed by no one, it is invalid according to the prevalent opinion of scholars. It is a type of illicit intercourse. Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 33/158 In sum, secret marriages without witnesses are unconditionally forbidden in Islam as they resemble adultery. If a secret marriage meets the minimum legal requirements of two credible witnesses and permission of a guardian, then at the very least it is morally disapproved if not unlawful. Believing men who fear Allah would be wise to avoid contracting a secret marriage, especially if they are marrying a second wife behind the back of their first wife, her family, and her children.
Secret nikah/marriages are dangerous because you don't know who your marrying and this is happening alot! In secret nikah/marriages to man or woman most probably have other multiple partners and Allah k ow what else? SubhanAllaah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah
my cousin's parents do not approve her nikkah because the guy has a lower cast and they don't want humiliation. the guy and his whole family is muslim and approve the nikkah but my cousin's parents don't agree. what should she do? she's trying to convince them from 2018 and has faced a lot of humiliation. they even humiliated the guy and his family just because of cast. Can she do her nikkah if the wali is her cousin?
Reasons people get secret marriage 1. Cheating on wife...mistress putting pressure to make halal 2. Person is a different race and family dont approve 3. Women is a convert, doesnt know her rights and the guy is just using her for sex. Reasons why secret marriages fail 1. women doesnt want to be kept a secret...her reputation is ruined. 2. the women does not get her rights - guy doesnt financially provide for her, she hardly ever sees the guy. 3. children from secret marriage are abandoned by father because he only wanted the women for sex anyways. Father will deny his kids.
we are both 16 and want to get our nikkah done as soon as we can in'shaa'allah but we both know her parents will not accept so we feel we have to do it secretly for the sake of Allah to avoid falling into sin. We are of course willing to have witnesses to our nikkah but is It permissible without parents if we are doing it to avoid falling into sin for the sake of Allah?
I did nikkah without my parents permission. Mulha was on phone we were at home With 2 male witnesses . Now I told my parents they laughed at me and said it's not valid nikah. Is my nikkah valid?
What about situations were parents give approval but want to "wait" 2 years to make it official due to social/career status - problem with this is cultural legal marriage and weddings - this is differnt to Nikkah. from what i found on Al-Islam and other sources, if the wali's excuse does not meet reasonable Islamic criteria then the wali can be an imam at mosque - 2 witnesses can be family members who are supportive and protective Muslims. Im in the possibly small circle that i think socially, only tell those who you can rely on and trust in terms of witnesses.. lots of idiots love drama and gossiping etc, avoid such fake people from knowing. Allah knows best, ameen.
And if we do nikkah again in front of our family then what is this bcz our nikah is already registered in the court.. then the papers we sign in front of our family what does its means..plzzz guide me sir..?
Once the Nikah ceremony is done by the Imam in a Mosque IN ICELAND and TWO MALE STRANGERS sign as a witness and disappear WITHOUT MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE FROM THE PROPER AUTHORITY in the city or state....where is the proof that they are a married couple in the eye of the society when they return home 😨.
my friends husband got married second time bk in his country only problem his looking after second 1 better than the first 1 ....his first wife works runs the house yet her husband is ungrateful he don't work yet he lives off her earnings and sends his savings bk to his second wife and kids plz can you explain...is this allowed
First wife needs to leave the husband. Islamically, of course, a woman's earning is her own and the husband's duty is to take care of the family expenses. If possible, she should be contacting the mosque to drive some sense into the guy or leave him if all else fails.
So if i do a secret nikkah with just two of male friends as witness without telling my wife tomorrow what if the sons and daughter of both my wife decide to marry and i along with my two friends die in a car accident what solution allah has for this kind of situations
Assalamu Aleikum my brothers and sisters of Islam. I have a question, can someone pray "Tahajjud" after praying "Witr" ( the 3 Sunnah Rakkahs after Isha) ?
Omar Sillah Assalamualaikum to pray tahajjud one must go to sleep and then get up the third quarter of the night to pray tahajjud.if I'm wrong go and search in you tube when to do tahajjud by sheik Assim al Hakeem.he abides by the rules of the Quran and the sunnah and also by Muhamad Salah (not the footballer)
Is nikah valid if Wali recites khutbah nikah over the phone for husband and wife without physically being present and two witnesses or also not physically present?? Is it sunnah ?
Thats happend to me. And. He said. I’m good. And now he married. Another one. And when they said some he said he divorce them. He said it’s aloud he is kind and nice. But I’m start thinking it’s not right. And Allah knows best
I had a problem my brother is married 12 years and has done a secret nikkah but told the new wife. He doesn't get on with his wife which at the time he didn't so his new wife thinks he doesn't get on with the old wife and the old wife doesn't even know his married and he has 3 kids
If your witness are your friends or any human being Muslim and you did get nikkah and you didn't inform your parents is that nikka accepted ye or no? Please answer me?
i married with two witnesses i told my family we performed nikah but wen problems come i dont feel like i can approach the imaam of our town cos we didint include the imaam now my husband has left me what do i do he blocked me on social media and textx and phone calls. do not marry like this
did you do it in secret from your parents? my spouse and I are both 16 and want to get our nikkah done within a weeks to avoid sin but we both know her parents won't accept but for the sake of Allah we have to do it in secret
No business trips or sitting 10 days ihtiqaf in the mosque then ! 😀 .....your talking nonsense is what I'm saying ! ( men shouldn't be away for longer then 3 months )
I know muslim person who married a women secretly ,got two children and married another women, here also two children. Is this halal? How many times can a Muslim man register his marriage without breaking any relationship?
Assalaam may I ask can a man give a text saying talak without any witnesses and can and can he say the word talak even if he says it only once no witnesses is it valid please I need answer for my knowledge and understanding jazakAllah
Very good explanation from Random responses.It is stipulated in the Quran that a man can marry more than one and it is the sunnah of the Prophet Muhmmad pbuh.So a Muslim woman must know and accept this law in Islam.So a Muslim woman must think carefully if they want to commit themselves into a married life with a Muslim man.Bearing in mind always that this is the law in the Islamic community. As for ME to avoid this complication,I just don't get married.As long as I take good care of myself and don't do anything against my belief , I feel I'm ok.😊
Aoa am a divorced n having a son of 3 years i wnated to get marry with some one he also want us to get marry asap coz i dn waa contnue hram relatin but due to case of my son custody we are delaying that wot if my x husbnd get to know he will snatch my son ..am waiting for my son custody ...n wante to do nikah secretly later on we will do nikah infront of our parents again will it b valid ..coz am just doing it for the sake of Allah cansome one tell me is it r8?
My dad wasn’t present for some reason at my nikah but he gave me permission to get married.. and he told his close friend to be my wali and there was one of my distant uncle from my father's side was present...was it valid? few people says It's not.. I'm paranoid now..there were total 9/10people in my marriage..
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته يا شيخ كنت اضنك عالم حتى سمعت هاذا الكلام الذي لا يمد للإسلام و لا للشريعة بصلة و للأسف الشديد ! الزواج سراً و خاصة للمرأه لا يجوز الا بموافقت ولي أمرها و كما قال الرسول صلى الله عليه و سلم لا نكاح بغير ولي ! او كما قال صلى الله عليه و سلم عليك توضيح هاذي تلمسألة بجدية اكبر جزاك الله خير
I want to marry with a girl but my family is not ready just because of she is my choice without them, same her family is not ready because I'm not their choice. Should we leave each other? Are we doing something wrong in Allah eyes?
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Very well said Mufti.Good explanation.Marry a man/woman who you see everyday.Solve a lot of problems.People get married to be together not seperated.Just an opinion.😊☺😉
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I haven't seen a more beautiful explanation than this!!❤️
O Allah bless my dear brother mufti Mufti .
ملاحت پوپلزایی Aameen thumma Aameen!
Ameen Ya rabb al alameen..
Aaaqaa111a
Ameen
Ameen
Mufti always always answers things so well
Alhamdullilha this really helped me.May Allah grant Paradise to mufti menk.
This is 100 percent true Mufti.
miss David are you Muslim?
And then how do orphaned kids get married then
@@lubnaalam6483 other relatives /neighbours must be present as a witness.. May allah swt accept!
I was so sad before to see this videos .. may Allah bless you❤
Nothing is a secret for Allah knows all and at some point the truth all ways come's out in to the light for all to see,all so remember the conceived child position of the secret,May Allah guide us all and keep us all on the straight path and forgive us for any wrongs we have done and grant us ease,Ameen.
Ts amazing nowadays people are hiding their marriage and do t in secret but they're exposing boyfriend/girlfriend (haram relationships) Subhana'Allah
Todays polygamy: So many Muslim brothers are married and have girlfriends and call it Islamic polygamy marriages from Quran SubhanAllaah. A wife and girlfriends aren't polygamy from Quran.
Muslim brothers dont want responsibility for wives so they have one wife and girlfriends so they dont have responsibility for the girlfriends SubhanAllaah.
Some brothers have 2 girlfriends and say its halal because Allah said polygamy in the Quran. Ya Allah
Wife and children are a responsibility but brothers dont want responsibility, they only using women for lust/sexual desires nowadays and dont want responsibility.
Some brothers think I'll have one wife and girlfriends so I dont get punished by Allah for the second girlfriend because the girlfriend isnt a responsibility so he dont have to Answer to Allah swt because she not a second wife!
Fear Allah swt when you have mothers, sisters and daughters because what goes around comes around and what goes around comes is from Allah swt.
Never, never and never ever break someones heart! Never
Never, never, never do a secret nakiah (marriage) make sure you tell you're family and friends...
It hurts .
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Is it valid without them?
Mufti menk's point of woman agreeing to the secrete to only get taken advantage of is 100 percent correct I've lived it
This video gives me the answers of my all questions thank you so much
Same
But there is a very IMPORTANT point!!! For men who are already married and living abroad the secret or open nikah is not allowed and valid!!! As they will be with the one they marry at the time that he doesnt see his first wife for a quite long time and this is of course injustice towards first wife.
That's why the Shari'ah Prohibits a husband, to stay away from her for long time. A husband is ordered either to take his wife with her or change his job and settle down in his own town. So that, the husband wife will be with eachother
My brother I am a victim. Can you guide me what to do? I will appreciate your response
Tokhirdzhon Rasulov how about if the man married secretly, without the first wife's knowledge? And yet he's not even working abroad?
Never, never and never do secret nikah/marriages!!!
@@rochellecataan1942 the man is only using the women in secret nikah/marriages!!! Later he will leave her!
May Allah grant razan alnajjar with a paradise Ameen
Kishwar Ali अल्लाह का दिदार हो सकता है, जिसने हमको अपने स्वरुप जैसा बनाया है, उसका नाम कबीर है जी।
not only being a broad what if the parents are also putting difficulties...can it be halal
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What about situations were parents give approval but want to "wait" 2 years to make it official - problem with this is cultural marriage and weddings - this is differnt to Nikkah.. from what i found on Al-Islam and other sources, if the wali's excuse does not meet reasonable Islamic criteria then the wali can be an imam at mosque - 2 witnesses can be family members who are supportive and protective Muslims. Im in the possibly small circle that i think socially, only tell those who you can rely on and trust in terms of witnesses.. lots of idiots love drama and gossiping etc, avoid such fake people from knowing. Allah knows best, ameen.
@@maheerghaffar3897 where do you live? Which country?
I may know someone who can help
@@maheerghaffar3897 u need to have a wakeel and witnesses (2 males or 1 male and 2 females) whom you can trust! You are an adult, if you can convince your parents that’ll be great if not then it’s ok you can do nikah!
What is the guy side of the family don’t know because of the culture issue they wount accept
The women whom such men marry are not the one abused. The wives which they have in their home countries are the ones who are abused by them and their families, whom they visited for a month after one or two years and they were treated as slaves by their families and also gave birth to their children. If they do not need them, why do they marry them. These are the brides living like widows
Mashallah tabarak Allah jazaka Allahu khayran brother mufti menk..May Allah grant you Good health and Goodness and highest place in Jannatul firdaous Ameen...
marriage should announce in public..
A woman has to have walk even if you aren’t from this county then the Imaam shall find a walk for you there’s no excuse. GO INTO MARRIAGE WITH THE FULL BLESSINGS OF ALLAAH
walk? what do u mean
Zakiyah Walk or Wali?
People click like on any comment now. What is a walk? Are you feeling okay?
Salahudeen Bin Sulaimaan I think he meant Wali ammar
Allah bless every muslim female with a wise husband and all muslim males with wise wives.
Muslim male with wise "wife" pray this so that no women will go through to sharing her husband of she do not want to
Ameen
Jazakallahu khair ...even I got a proposal like this .....m a divorcee nd dat guy offered me for nikaah but he was not ready to let me inform my parents .....it was weired for me ....and I refused that proposal ..Alhamdulillah
LOL I already had one of those nikkahs but it didn’t last very long. May Allah forgive us all . Aameen
Todays polygamy: So many Muslim brothers are married and have girlfriends and call it Islamic polygamy marriages from Quran SubhanAllaah. A wife and girlfriends aren't polygamy from Quran.
Muslim brothers dont want responsibility for wives so they have one wife and girlfriends so they dont have responsibility for the girlfriends SubhanAllaah.
Some brothers have 2 girlfriends and say its halal because Allah said polygamy in the Quran. Ya Allah
Wife and children are a responsibility but brothers dont want responsibility, they only using women for lust/sexual desires nowadays and dont want responsibility.
Some brothers think I'll have one wife and girlfriends so I dont get punished by Allah for the second girlfriend because the girlfriend isnt a responsibility so he dont have to Answer to Allah swt because she not a second wife!
Fear Allah swt when you have mothers, sisters and daughters because what goes around comes around and what goes around comes is from Allah swt.
Never, never and never ever break someones heart! Never
Alot of Muslim brothers use polygamy to cheating on the wife, when the wife says "why are you cheating on me?" The husband replys "it's part of Islam" SubhanAllaah
Never, never and never do secret nikah/marriages!!! Never
Masha Allah .... Very nice... Explanation ... Not be used or abused.... trying keep it open ... be brave enough to say let the world know so what... Be with reality... .
What if the parents of the girl wont let her get married to someone, just because of their race or because he is a convert? What should she do?
Masha Allah ....very informative
I like arbsss so mch " Allah bless you jazkAllah
It sure is a valid nikkah
If the wali is fine then what else and who else matters, common shaykh..
Wise man once said... Love is blind
And now we know love is deaf too.
Racist comment spotted
@@Kiran-ll9nw thats not racism, its a famous quote
I never really agree with that. But some ppl do
SUBHANALLAH ❤️
I didn't understand the connection between being alone in a country and needing to marry in secret. Can someone please explain?
My humble opinion, he is a black man and want to marry a non black, but her parents may have a bad view on it, because they wouldn't want a black men as son in law.
Or hw has a wife back home. And he doesnt want her finding out at all costs . It could be many reasons 🤔
Thank you for this video. Sir you helped me alot to take this decision.
Secret marriages are forbidden in Islam
In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful
It is a condition of a sound marriage that it be announced and attested to publicly. A secret marriage, which is only witnessed by a few people in private, is disapproved (makruh) at best and unlawful (haram) according to some scholars. It is potentially harmful to those affected by it, as it almost always involves deception or at least gross omission, especially if a man marries an additional wife in secret and without her consent.
Allah said:
فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ
Marry them with the permission of their families and give them their due as is good, chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses.
Surat al-Nisa 4:25
Scholars have said that this verse prohibits secret marriages without witnesses, by drawing an analogy between a ‘secret mistress’ and a secret marriage.
Ibn Taymiyyah writes:
وَمَالِكٌ يُوجِبُ إعْلَانَ النِّكَاحِ وَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ هُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ نِكَاحِ الْبَغَايَا وَقَدْ قَالَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ فَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ مِنْ جِنْسِ ذَوَاتِ الْأَخْدَانِ
Malik obligated announcing the marriage in public. A secret marriage is a type of prostitution. Allah Almighty said: Chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. (4:25) Thus, a secret marriage is a type of secret mistress.
Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 32/102
Scholars also refer to the statements of the Prophet (s) commanding the announcement of marriages in public.
Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
أَعْلِنُوا هَذَا النِّكَاحَ وَاجْعَلُوهُ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ وَاضْرِبُوا عَلَيْهِ بِالدُّفُوفِ
Announce this marriage publicly, conduct it in the mosque, and strike the drums for it.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1089, Grade: Hasan
Muhammad ibn Hatib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
فَصْلُ مَا بَيْنَ الْحَرَامِ وَالْحَلَالِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ
The difference between an unlawful and lawful marriage is the beating of drums and the raising of voices.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1088, Grade: Hasan
Abdullah ibn al-Zubayr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
أَعْلِنُوا النِّكَاحَ
Announce the marriage.
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4066, Grade: Hasan
Based upon this evidence, it is said that a marriage conducted in secret is invalid and annulled, even if it has two credible witnesses and permission from a guardian.
Abu Bakr Abdul Aziz said:
نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ بَاطِلٌ؛ لِأَنَّ أَحْمَدَ قَالَ إذَا تَزَوَّجَ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْنِ لَا حَتَّى يُعْلِنَهُ
A secret marriage is invalid, as Ahmad said: If he is married with a guardian’s permission and two witnesses, it is not so until it is announced publicly.
Source: al-Mughnī 7/83
This was also the opinion of Imam Malik. However, most scholars said that a secret marriage is valid if it meets the condition of two credible witnesses and a guardian. It is in legal effect and will not be annulled, although it is disapproved to do so.
Ibn Qudamah writes:
فَإِنْ عَقَدَهُ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْن فَأَسَرُّوه أَوْ تَوَاصَوْا بِكِتْمَانِه كُرِهَ ذَلِك وَصَحَّ النِّكَاحُ
If the marriage is contracted with a guardian and two witnesses, but he keeps it secret or conceals its attestation, that is disapproved but the marriage is valid.
Source: al-Mughnī 7/83
And Ibn al-Qayyim writes:
أَنَّ الشَّارِعَ اشْتَرَطَ لِلنِّكَاحِ شُرُوطًا زَائِدَةً عَلَى الْعَقْدِ تَقْطَعُ عَنْهُ شُبَهَ السِّفَاحِ كَالْإِعْلَامِ وَالْوَلِيِّ وَمَنْعِ امْرَأَةٍ أَنْ تَلِيَهُ بِنَفْسِهَا وَنَدَبَ إلَى إظْهَارِهِ حَتَّى اُسْتُحِبَّ فِيهِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ وَالْوَلِيمَةُ
The Lawgiver has set conditions for marriage, in addition to the contract, in order to cut off any suspicion of promiscuity, such as announcing it, the guardian, and preventing a woman from conducting it by herself. It is encouraged to publicize it, even recommended to beat the drums, raise voices, and hold a banquet.
Source: I’lām al-Muwaqqi’īn 3/113
This disapproval should not be taken lightly. The important point here is that the legal ‘validity’ of an act does not mean it is ethical or morally sound. If some scholars accept the validity of a secret marriage, that in no way implies they are endorsing or encouraging the act.
Nevertheless, many scholars said that such a secret marriage resembles adultery despite being legally valid. Umar ibn al-Khattab was particularly strict about this matter.
Abu al-Zubayr reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, was presented with a marriage which no one had witnessed except one man and one woman. Umar said:
هَذَا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ وَلَا أُجِيزُهُ وَلَوْ كُنْتُ تَقَدَّمْتُ فِيهِ لَرَجَمْتُ
This is a secret marriage and I do not permit it. If I had known of it beforehand, I would have stoned them.
Source: al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1136
This was a rhetorical threat to indicate the seriousness with which the matter should be taken. If there were no witnesses at all, the consensus of the scholars is that it is an act of adultery.
Ibn Taymiyyah writes:
وَأَمَّا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ الَّذِي يَتَوَاصَوْنَ بِكِتْمَانِهِ وَلَا يُشْهِدُونَ عَلَيْهِ أَحَدًا فَهُوَ بَاطِلٌ عِنْدَ عَامَّةِ الْعُلَمَاءِ وَهُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ السِّفَاحِ
As for a secret marriage, the attestation of which is concealed and witnessed by no one, it is invalid according to the prevalent opinion of scholars. It is a type of illicit intercourse.
Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 33/158
In sum, secret marriages without witnesses are unconditionally forbidden in Islam as they resemble adultery. If a secret marriage meets the minimum legal requirements of two credible witnesses and permission of a guardian, then at the very least it is morally disapproved if not unlawful. Believing men who fear Allah would be wise to avoid contracting a secret marriage, especially if they are marrying a second wife behind the back of their first wife, her family, and her children.
He said hook them up 😂😂😂
Masha Allah very very helpful ..
I have lost my beloved girlfriend while trying to pursue our dayyous parents to agree for our nikah before 18 years. It gave me alots of pain and completely vanished the relations with my mother. She is a child abuser. Now I got another women, we dont want to take a risk. So according to your teachings, ZINA is the best way to save our relation. and we will do it now. keep your advises with you.
Ameen ya Rabbul alamin🤲🤲🤲
Great Bayan
Very very true ... by mufti Sahab
As-Salaam Wa Alaikum, my brothers and sisters in Islam!
*I need some honest advice*
I'm a recent convert (Revert) to Islam.
My ex (wife) is a Christian, and I have been separated since May 2021 (she left and denied me access to our two children). Within that separation, I embraced Islam.
I met a Muslimah, and we plan on having our Nikah around April 2023.
I'm still legally married to my ex, but she's refused to relinquish the marriage certificate in order for me to obtain a divorce.
What does Islam say about being legally married (pending on the divorce as I have no intention in having 2 wives) to a Christian and marrying a Muslim?
You should go ask an Imam that has credibility or education in Islamic law, not ask random people on TH-cam.
This is a legal issue not an islamic one
What do you do if your wali doesn’t give you consent to marry a man even if they’re a man that has good faith & heart and there’s nothing wrong with him? But your father is just saying no without good reason for e.g cos of his ethnicity?
Tas ' Marry your own
Dear, I feel for you as you find yourself in a very difficult situation. You're forced to make a decision, to choose between your father's approval and the love a future husband. Pray intensely, pray for wisdom and God's guidance. Fast and offer sacrifice so that God opens the way. I assure you, if it is HIS will.. Your marriage will take place, for NOTHING is impossible to our Lord. Have faith and don't give into temptation so that evil doesn't take hold of the situation.
In the end, if you must marry without your father's approval, at least you will have God's blessings.
If your Wali don't approve than get the local imam or some religious figure involved. Never do it in secret!!!
Tas '
You speak to a Shaikh and get him involved as quickly as possible for advice. Like Our Holy Prophet(pbuh) said the Ulema should get the respect always that they are due. Plus they are our the resources of knowledge for us. The Qur'an says " We have created you from different colours, languages, backgrounds so that you may know one another. In the Prophet(pbuh's) last sermon he said there is No place for Racism in Islam. Tell your parents during the Prophet's time all people of different descent were treated equally as they were supposed to be according to Allah(SWT's) command. You can't follow one way of Islam, Sunnah and Hadith and not follow the Rest. Listen to Mufti Menks lecture on let your Children marry who they want. He talks about various things in it and how Parents will be asked by Allah(SWT) if they stop their Adult Kids from marrying Muslim potential spouses that they want. May Allah(SWT) make the situation your in easy for you, Ameen. Pray Rabbi-ini-Lima-Anzalta-ILaya-Min-Khayrin-Fakir.
Ask your imam but as far as I know your father's right of being waali will be taken and be given to your men relatives that are in your father's side if your father said no without having a valid reason.Ask your imam for details
Very good information.Thankyou Shaikh
Thank you so much shaik ❤
Oh I also got secrets nikah bt there is to witness men one maulana n denmahar of 21 thousands n me n mah husband told about marriage most of frndz some relative of mah husband too, bt i didn't tell to mah papa n sis mah mom is no more m younger sister mah elder sister is not married so I m waiting for her marriage den I to
Tell mah Papa n also my husband didn't say anything about our marriage to his mother n brother his father is also no more but his mother literally wants that we get marry very soon his family know about me very well I wish I get marry very soon INSHALLAH plzz dua for me
Sister did u got married or informed to your family now??
@@blessedsoul857 sister did her (Samer shreen)marriage is valid after telling her family...pls do reply me🙄
Laa Nikaaxa Bilaa Waliyi this is an Authentic Hadeeth From Rasuul SCW you can't Marry A Lady with out the acceptance of Her Father or Waliyi
Cirkaa Noojira Cabaar Hmm shahid ku wa muhim, dad Anan waliyi ammar lahayn aya jira diinteenu meela badan aya Allah ka yasiray, Lkin Suaal sha hada la weydiyey w mid Anan wali maqlin,,,, lkin Imam iyo Shahid ayey u bahanyihin markaysan ehel haysan
Ilasoco show this hadees is daheef
jazzak allah kahyer... what a answer allah is the witness...
"From a social perspective"
Forget all that foolishness, people's opinions mean nothing. If it's halal in the eyes of Allah, what human being can tell you anything?
@M Benyi society should mind their business and worry about themselves not burning rather than talking shit about other people and what they may or may not be doing, some people like discrete lives and not to be bothered at all and not to talk to other people about anything let alone personal things that can be evil eyed
@M Benyi I'm not gonna read that waffle.
My Islamic proof is:
To seek the face of Allah and only him. Anything else is irrelevant.
If 'people and society' have anything to say that's between them and Allah.
If you want to tell everyone you're married and happy, by all means, welcome in all of that eiyn (evil eye)..glad tidings to that 🤷🏾♂️
Secret marriages are forbidden in Islam
In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful
It is a condition of a sound marriage that it be announced and attested to publicly. A secret marriage, which is only witnessed by a few people in private, is disapproved (makruh) at best and unlawful (haram) according to some scholars. It is potentially harmful to those affected by it, as it almost always involves deception or at least gross omission, especially if a man marries an additional wife in secret and without her consent.
Allah said:
فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ
Marry them with the permission of their families and give them their due as is good, chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses.
Surat al-Nisa 4:25
Scholars have said that this verse prohibits secret marriages without witnesses, by drawing an analogy between a ‘secret mistress’ and a secret marriage.
Ibn Taymiyyah writes:
وَمَالِكٌ يُوجِبُ إعْلَانَ النِّكَاحِ وَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ هُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ نِكَاحِ الْبَغَايَا وَقَدْ قَالَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ فَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ مِنْ جِنْسِ ذَوَاتِ الْأَخْدَانِ
Malik obligated announcing the marriage in public. A secret marriage is a type of prostitution. Allah Almighty said: Chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. (4:25) Thus, a secret marriage is a type of secret mistress.
Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 32/102
Scholars also refer to the statements of the Prophet (s) commanding the announcement of marriages in public.
Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
أَعْلِنُوا هَذَا النِّكَاحَ وَاجْعَلُوهُ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ وَاضْرِبُوا عَلَيْهِ بِالدُّفُوفِ
Announce this marriage publicly, conduct it in the mosque, and strike the drums for it.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1089, Grade: Hasan
Muhammad ibn Hatib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
فَصْلُ مَا بَيْنَ الْحَرَامِ وَالْحَلَالِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ
The difference between an unlawful and lawful marriage is the beating of drums and the raising of voices.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1088, Grade: Hasan
Abdullah ibn al-Zubayr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
أَعْلِنُوا النِّكَاحَ
Announce the marriage.
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4066, Grade: Hasan
Based upon this evidence, it is said that a marriage conducted in secret is invalid and annulled, even if it has two credible witnesses and permission from a guardian.
Abu Bakr Abdul Aziz said:
نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ بَاطِلٌ؛ لِأَنَّ أَحْمَدَ قَالَ إذَا تَزَوَّجَ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْنِ لَا حَتَّى يُعْلِنَهُ
A secret marriage is invalid, as Ahmad said: If he is married with a guardian’s permission and two witnesses, it is not so until it is announced publicly.
Source: al-Mughnī 7/83
This was also the opinion of Imam Malik. However, most scholars said that a secret marriage is valid if it meets the condition of two credible witnesses and a guardian. It is in legal effect and will not be annulled, although it is disapproved to do so.
Ibn Qudamah writes:
فَإِنْ عَقَدَهُ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْن فَأَسَرُّوه أَوْ تَوَاصَوْا بِكِتْمَانِه كُرِهَ ذَلِك وَصَحَّ النِّكَاحُ
If the marriage is contracted with a guardian and two witnesses, but he keeps it secret or conceals its attestation, that is disapproved but the marriage is valid.
Source: al-Mughnī 7/83
And Ibn al-Qayyim writes:
أَنَّ الشَّارِعَ اشْتَرَطَ لِلنِّكَاحِ شُرُوطًا زَائِدَةً عَلَى الْعَقْدِ تَقْطَعُ عَنْهُ شُبَهَ السِّفَاحِ كَالْإِعْلَامِ وَالْوَلِيِّ وَمَنْعِ امْرَأَةٍ أَنْ تَلِيَهُ بِنَفْسِهَا وَنَدَبَ إلَى إظْهَارِهِ حَتَّى اُسْتُحِبَّ فِيهِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ وَالْوَلِيمَةُ
The Lawgiver has set conditions for marriage, in addition to the contract, in order to cut off any suspicion of promiscuity, such as announcing it, the guardian, and preventing a woman from conducting it by herself. It is encouraged to publicize it, even recommended to beat the drums, raise voices, and hold a banquet.
Source: I’lām al-Muwaqqi’īn 3/113
This disapproval should not be taken lightly. The important point here is that the legal ‘validity’ of an act does not mean it is ethical or morally sound. If some scholars accept the validity of a secret marriage, that in no way implies they are endorsing or encouraging the act.
Nevertheless, many scholars said that such a secret marriage resembles adultery despite being legally valid. Umar ibn al-Khattab was particularly strict about this matter.
Abu al-Zubayr reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, was presented with a marriage which no one had witnessed except one man and one woman. Umar said:
هَذَا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ وَلَا أُجِيزُهُ وَلَوْ كُنْتُ تَقَدَّمْتُ فِيهِ لَرَجَمْتُ
This is a secret marriage and I do not permit it. If I had known of it beforehand, I would have stoned them.
Source: al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1136
This was a rhetorical threat to indicate the seriousness with which the matter should be taken. If there were no witnesses at all, the consensus of the scholars is that it is an act of adultery.
Ibn Taymiyyah writes:
وَأَمَّا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ الَّذِي يَتَوَاصَوْنَ بِكِتْمَانِهِ وَلَا يُشْهِدُونَ عَلَيْهِ أَحَدًا فَهُوَ بَاطِلٌ عِنْدَ عَامَّةِ الْعُلَمَاءِ وَهُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ السِّفَاحِ
As for a secret marriage, the attestation of which is concealed and witnessed by no one, it is invalid according to the prevalent opinion of scholars. It is a type of illicit intercourse.
Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 33/158
In sum, secret marriages without witnesses are unconditionally forbidden in Islam as they resemble adultery. If a secret marriage meets the minimum legal requirements of two credible witnesses and permission of a guardian, then at the very least it is morally disapproved if not unlawful. Believing men who fear Allah would be wise to avoid contracting a secret marriage, especially if they are marrying a second wife behind the back of their first wife, her family, and her children.
Secret nikah/marriages are dangerous because you don't know who your marrying and this is happening alot! In secret nikah/marriages to man or woman most probably have other multiple partners and Allah k ow what else? SubhanAllaah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah
even my own family dont know about my marriage it is still valid?
As long as there’s a valid person of status to read the nikkah and witnesses. Then it’s ok.
That's a really good question
What if a marriage was done in secret but the couple misled and lied to the imam in order for him to agree to be a wali?
I have the same question. I think to quit is the best way to avoid Allah 's anger. If you any other idea pls response
my cousin's parents do not approve her nikkah because the guy has a lower cast and they don't want humiliation. the guy and his whole family is muslim and approve the nikkah but my cousin's parents don't agree. what should she do? she's trying to convince them from 2018 and has faced a lot of humiliation. they even humiliated the guy and his family just because of cast. Can she do her nikkah if the wali is her cousin?
There is no reapect in society for such nikah. Nabi salal laho alaihi wasalam said. Anounce Nikah.
may Allah put u in jannah
Reasons people get secret marriage
1. Cheating on wife...mistress putting pressure to make halal
2. Person is a different race and family dont approve
3. Women is a convert, doesnt know her rights and the guy is just using her for sex.
Reasons why secret marriages fail
1. women doesnt want to be kept a secret...her reputation is ruined.
2. the women does not get her rights - guy doesnt financially provide for her, she hardly ever sees the guy.
3. children from secret marriage are abandoned by father because he only wanted the women for sex anyways. Father will deny his kids.
But i am revert and it has been over 10 years waiting. The parents simply keep saying no to reverts. Then what to do?
we are both 16 and want to get our nikkah done as soon as we can in'shaa'allah but we both know her parents will not accept so we feel we have to do it secretly for the sake of Allah to avoid falling into sin. We are of course willing to have witnesses to our nikkah but is It permissible without parents if we are doing it to avoid falling into sin for the sake of Allah?
Marriage will only be valid when the parents permission is being granted
I did nikkah without my parents permission. Mulha was on phone we were at home With 2 male witnesses . Now I told my parents they laughed at me and said it's not valid nikah. Is my nikkah valid?
Were you a virgin ?
Then it’s not valid sis seriously 🤦♀️
If there was a verbal proposal to you and you verbally accepted and there were two witnesses then YES its a nikah
Jazakallahu khairan sheikh thanks for the explanation
अल्लाह कबीर जी ने छे दिन में सृष्टी की रचना की और सातवे दिन विश्राम किया।
so informative, jzk
Would u pls ans that what the qualification for witnesses if one of the witness is non Muslim so would it be considered as a witness.? Thnku
If such type of marriage is invalid then is there any need to give divorce to each other.
Salam, how about marrying without a Wali from the girls side or the Wali's consents. Is that marriage valid?
Let the world know!
Need to be extra careful when giving daughters to foreigners. How do you know that they are not up to misyar?
What about situations were parents give approval but want to "wait" 2 years to make it official due to social/career status - problem with this is cultural legal marriage and weddings - this is differnt to Nikkah. from what i found on Al-Islam and other sources, if the wali's excuse does not meet reasonable Islamic criteria then the wali can be an imam at mosque - 2 witnesses can be family members who are supportive and protective Muslims. Im in the possibly small circle that i think socially, only tell those who you can rely on and trust in terms of witnesses.. lots of idiots love drama and gossiping etc, avoid such fake people from knowing. Allah knows best, ameen.
And if we do nikkah again in front of our family then what is this bcz our nikah is already registered in the court.. then the papers we sign in front of our family what does its means..plzzz guide me sir..?
Once the Nikah ceremony is done by the Imam in a Mosque IN ICELAND and TWO MALE STRANGERS sign as a witness and disappear WITHOUT MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE FROM THE PROPER AUTHORITY in the city or state....where is the proof that they are a married couple in the eye of the society when they return home 😨.
You folks are my brothers. Y? I get recommendations about Islamic pages/videos like this all the time as if i am Muslim. I am above Religion
Mashallah...❤️❤️❤️
my friends husband got married second time bk in his country only problem his looking after second 1 better than the first 1 ....his first wife works runs the house yet her husband is ungrateful he don't work yet he lives off her earnings and sends his savings bk to his second wife and kids plz can you explain...is this allowed
First wife needs to leave the husband. Islamically, of course, a woman's earning is her own and the husband's duty is to take care of the family expenses. If possible, she should be contacting the mosque to drive some sense into the guy or leave him if all else fails.
Allah know what to do and what not to Do
Shaykh The nikah is valid
So if i do a secret nikkah with just two of male friends as witness without telling my wife tomorrow what if the sons and daughter of both my wife decide to marry and i along with my two friends die in a car accident what solution allah has for this kind of situations
Nikah is right halal if man doesn’t understand the question shaikh asked him because he is deaf but he only say yes without understand ?
Assalamu Aleikum my brothers and sisters of Islam. I have a question, can someone pray "Tahajjud" after praying "Witr" ( the 3 Sunnah Rakkahs after Isha) ?
Omar Sillah yes they can. Allah knows the best
Firdaus Anjum Khan Jazakallah Kair. Thank you very much.
Omar Sillah Assalamualaikum to pray tahajjud one must go to sleep and then get up the third quarter of the night to pray tahajjud.if I'm wrong go and search in you tube when to do tahajjud by sheik Assim al Hakeem.he abides by the rules of the Quran and the sunnah and also by Muhamad Salah (not the footballer)
Shehnaz Boodoo must sleep is not a condition to tahajjud. Sleep or no sleep, tahajjud can be made as you said.
Omar Sillah Assalamualaikum warahmatulahi wabarakatuhu brother if u pray the witr of tarawih then u can't pray the witr of tahajud.
Is nikah valid if Wali recites khutbah nikah over the phone for husband and wife without physically being present and two witnesses or also not physically present?? Is it sunnah ?
Bride father (if he is not there her relatives) is important to nikkah
Thats happend to me. And. He said. I’m good. And now he married. Another one. And when they said some he said he divorce them. He said it’s aloud he is kind and nice. But I’m start thinking it’s not right. And Allah knows best
Does the two or more witnesses have to be Muslim and if they have to be Muslim, would they have to be very religious?
Is that Adnan’s son from speakers corner?
I had a problem my brother is married 12 years and has done a secret nikkah but told the new wife. He doesn't get on with his wife which at the time he didn't so his new wife thinks he doesn't get on with the old wife and the old wife doesn't even know his married and he has 3 kids
If your witness are your friends or any human being Muslim and you did get nikkah and you didn't inform your parents is that nikka accepted ye or no? Please answer me?
Yes, as long as a proposal was made and it was accepted verbally and a mahr was agree
i married with two witnesses i told my family we performed nikah but wen problems come i dont feel like i can approach the imaam of our town cos we didint include the imaam now my husband has left me what do i do he blocked me on social media and textx and phone calls. do not marry like this
did you do it in secret from your parents? my spouse and I are both 16 and want to get our nikkah done within a weeks to avoid sin but we both know her parents won't accept but for the sake of Allah we have to do it in secret
There was a clear hadith from our beloved prophet with out wali(father,grandfather, big brother) for a girl&women is marry invalid
The Maulana can also be the Wali
Bro a sheikh can also become wali
Make sure in polygamy your husband has to see your wife everyday still...you cannot leave her alone every second day.
He has to spend equal night only. The day is to work.
No business trips or sitting 10 days ihtiqaf in the mosque then ! 😀 .....your talking nonsense is what I'm saying ! ( men shouldn't be away for longer then 3 months )
I know muslim person who married a women secretly ,got two children and married another women, here also two children. Is this halal? How many times can a Muslim man register his marriage without breaking any relationship?
Assalaam may I ask can a man give a text saying talak without any witnesses and can and can he say the word talak even if he says it only once no witnesses is it valid please I need answer for my knowledge and understanding jazakAllah
Very good explanation from Random responses.It is stipulated in the Quran that a man can marry more than one and it is the sunnah of the Prophet Muhmmad pbuh.So a Muslim woman must know and accept this law in Islam.So a Muslim woman must think carefully if they want to commit themselves into a married life with a Muslim man.Bearing in mind always that this is the law in the Islamic community. As for ME to avoid this complication,I just don't get married.As long as I take good care of myself and don't do anything against my belief , I feel I'm ok.😊
Aoa am a divorced n having a son of 3 years i wnated to get marry with some one he also want us to get marry asap coz i dn waa contnue hram relatin but due to case of my son custody we are delaying that wot if my x husbnd get to know he will snatch my son ..am waiting for my son custody ...n wante to do nikah secretly later on we will do nikah infront of our parents again will it b valid ..coz am just doing it for the sake of Allah cansome one tell me is it r8?
My dad wasn’t present for some reason at my nikah but he gave me permission to get married.. and he told his close friend to be my wali and there was one of my distant uncle from my father's side was present...was it valid? few people says It's not.. I'm paranoid now..there were total 9/10people in my marriage..
Its valid
What If parents did not allow to marry someone due to some unreasonable explanation. Can she marry in the presence of friends as a witness.?
this mufti cant people invite in masjid but in hall they dont go other muslims home to call for iman.
Where is the references from Quran and Hadees for witnesses ?
JazakAllah
Jazakallah
i have a question is ut possible or allowed in islam if a girl don't want to get marry to anyone ?
In Islam can the husband & wife remarry one another on the day of their marriage anniversary 2'4'7yrs.
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
يا شيخ كنت اضنك عالم حتى سمعت هاذا الكلام الذي لا يمد للإسلام و لا للشريعة بصلة و للأسف الشديد !
الزواج سراً و خاصة للمرأه لا يجوز الا بموافقت ولي أمرها و كما قال الرسول صلى الله عليه و سلم
لا نكاح بغير ولي !
او كما قال صلى الله عليه و سلم
عليك توضيح هاذي تلمسألة بجدية اكبر
جزاك الله خير
Wow really ur answer waz great as all ways...
I want to marry with a girl but my family is not ready just because of she is my choice without them, same her family is not ready because I'm not their choice. Should we leave each other? Are we doing something wrong in Allah eyes?