i was just gonna say that... But yeah like why not just bring your kids. You already walked "12" minutes to the store and back, just do that again... 😂
First off, 250 abductions by car with our current population equals to an absurdly low chance of it happening to you. You have a higher chance of being mauled by a bear than your kids being abducted. Second, a 12 minute walk is like 3/4 mile. Ain't no way that there would be like one coral on the lot and it's over a half mile away. And having been to LA often, I cannot even picture a store with a lot that large except for like a mall. I don't know, back in my day it was the kids job to run the cart over to the cage while mom finished loading groceries. And shockingly, we also helped bring the groceries in the house. But if you have become so paranoid of lots in this day and age, maybe switch to no contact grocery delivery.
This is what I immediately thought. 264 kids in a year is actually shockingly low compared to the population. That's like less than .5% of all kids in america
@@Gomezdude7 Actually thats about 1 child in about 300.000 that gets abducted. Nowhere near half a percent 😅 No wonder people fell for the flu fear when that's how they look at numbers ? edit: I was trying to do the math in my head but it's a lot of zeros 😅 but I believe it's around 0.00003% of the population of kids in America And to add , I can imagine by far most are abducted by one of the parents of the child
Something my parents would do was sit us in the car, one of then start it if the weather was bad (too hot so you need the ac) then make sure we locked our doors until they got back. Another lovely "hack": Park as close as you can to the shopping cart rack or the front of the store.
@User1800daddy I don't believe you at all. As someone who's worked retail a good chunk of my life, and in great length as a cart pusher, there's 5000 other tasks the companies will make you do that isn't pushing carts. There's always trash, there's always carry outs, hell there's cross training in the store. Not to mention, they send you home early? Then what? Call you back in when one more cart shows up? Really? Carts are gonna keep showing up until the store closes. So I call 100% BS on this.
iirc this woman is a psychologist who works on some really horrific child ab*use and PDF-ilia cases, she’s interviewed victims, parents of victims, and even perpetrators. It sounds to me like what she’s witnessed on the job has really affected her (how could it not), and from her Instagram it really seems like she lives her life in a semi-constant state of vigilance and anxiety over the safety of her kids. Sometimes she gives some really good safety tips, but other times (like in this video) it just comes off as overkill/paranoia.
Especially since like others have said, she can just return the cart with her kids. She doesn't need to leave them in the car. It's just an excuse to be lazy, imho. I don't think this one is a "children's safety" one. Though I don't doubt that she's like you described, I just think this particular situation isn't that.
Disclaimer that I'm not saying this necessarily about you, but you similar comments that explicitly go on to say this. Also not commenting on the lady in the video, she seems unpleasant: Always return the cart when you can but I'm going to be honest, shopping cart discussions online always weird me out because a lot of people who comment things like "I'm disabled and always return the cart" do so in a way that feels. At the very least inconsiderate of other disabilities where that's just not possible. Main thing that comes to mind are if your bad days have significant vertigo or mobility issues and put you at risk of a fall. Like, I've worked retail, I've had to gather the carts up, I do understand. But also I don't think someone should feel pressured to return a cart if it's going to cause or add to them feeling significant pain or put them as risk of harming themself and don't think they should feel like a bad person about that.
As someone who was a cart guy at Walmart for almost 3 years, I've heard it all. The most common excuse is that it "creates more work and that's a good thing". Trust me, we had plenty of work to do. We weren't twiddling our thumbs waiting on carts. We had to clean the lot, do bottle returns, do maintenance, help customers, etc, on top of retrieving carts left in the corrals. Tbh, 50% of the job wound up being re-organizing all the carts that lazy people left in parking spaces. Or a mile away. Or with dirty diapers, etc. I saw dozens of cars get damaged. Simply put, if you don't put your cart back, you are self-centered and lazy. Search for the video on the Shopping Cart Test. That video sums these people up perfectly.
My towns Walmart cart guys are lazy than, because they don't do half the things you mentioned. Trash is always in the parking lot some times for months. I'm talking rotting McDonald's, dirty diapers, soda cans and bottles, and sometimes random clothes like socks shorts and t shirts. And if someone does leave the carts they normally leave them and just get the ones out of the coral. The most they will do is bring in the motorized carts into the store. And they never help customers. Not even the elderly ones. They either get a stocker to do it or a janitor or the person does it by themselves. They will organize the carts, but only the ones in the store. I have only seen one guy do most of what you said and there are like four that I know of.
@@vanapirarayne738 Do you sit around and watch them all day? I highly doubt it. Its obvious you are just making up a shit ton of uneducated assumptions.
@@bakenbeans420 I go there a lot. I am not making anything up. You don't know my location so how would you know? See this is the issue with people online, you talk about your experience or anything and people think that you are making shit up or you are uneducated. But again you don't know my location. Not every Walmart is the same and has the same standards.
I had an idea. What if everybody leaves the cart in a spot, then when the next person comes to take the spot, they also take the cart. The carts have breaks on them so it shouldn’t be an issue.
female single mom here, never was scared to return a cart. would even pick up extras if i see them. this woman boils my blood. working retail , carts notoriously roll away especially on a windy day and do cause cars damage. happened to be before, seen it happen to other cars before. it’s just ignorant and lazy. don’t take the cart out then if you’re not going to return it it’s so simple and she just screams lazy and entitled. that’s a disgusting trait.
I’ve never in my life to use my kids as an excuse to not put my cart away. She’s such an entitled b****. You don’t have to walk 12 minutes to put a cart away 🙄
If she feels safe, that’s the right decision made. The rest of none of y’all’s business and you ought to be ashamed of yourself talking like that about another single woman. You clearly have not been victimized in public before. Some of the rest of us have.
@@Ithinkyousuckrealbad She could park next to where you out away a shopping cart. It isn’t hard. They are all around the parking lot and parking next to one is like two steps. Also, her not doing that is risking other things. For example, if it’s a windy day, the cart could go into other cars and damage them. She didn’t need to make this video but she did. It’s on a public platform, people have the right to criticize
As a retail person, you are a criminal if you do not at least put the cart in the corral. Plus if you do this, you are most likely the same person that takes an item off a shelf, and put it on the floor farther down the same. aisle. Or worse, just a shelf lower or higher than its spot. Yes we do notice, and we judge you for being that lazy. And trust me, there is normal “fixing” and organizing the store, but we are not paid enough to be your baby sitters and for you to let your kids and yourself trash the place. If you want to be lazy and trash a place, trash your home. Saying you can’t pick it up, and creating fake statistics is such a new level of lazy I don’t think I’ve encountered before. She probably the person that gets a cart filled with refrigerated groceries and decides “nah I don’t want all of this” and leaves it in a hidden space to rot. Truly worried about child abduction? Have your kid with you. Amazing how everyone else shopping at that store have kids, yet they can still do simple acts of picking up after themselves. It’s also comical how she claims to gauge how safe the place is, when in her first video she just complained it’s too long of a walk for her. Wasn’t this learned in pre-school? Also beyound this, for shopping carts, it’s dangerous to not put them in a corral or back. It poses a risk for others, as they can hit people, can hit cars, and makes a more dangerous task for employees especially in a more busy day. But I guess that minor walk is just too big of an inconvenience for her to even consider others.I wonder how she would feel if her car got scratched and dinged up by someone else’s loose shopping cart. And that’s all folks, sorry for how long this is, but people like these deserve no mercy.
As another retail associate, you covered it perfectly. However, I'd also like to mention that it's also very disrespectful towards people that use mobility aids, such as wheelchairs, electric carts/scooters, to leave carts out in parking spaces as it makes it very difficult for them to navigate the parking lot which is NOT fair to them. And on our end, we have to be outside pushing heavy groups of carts under direct sunlight in 100 degree weather so the least people can do is put them in the cart corral.
Similar experience working in a grocery store butcher shop. Too often we have customers or employees coming up with meat they found abandoned on random shelves. Unless it's still cold to the touch, we have to throw it out since we have no idea how long it's been sitting out. You'd think customers would have the decency to at least return refrigerated goods when they don't want them, but nope. Absolute monsters, some of these people.
Bruh. I met ppl like that. This one particular spoiled brat would throw trash on the ground at school because “it someone’s job to clean it up.” One time she left her 1/2 empty frapuchinno cup on the ground and walked away. So I grabbed it and dumped it in her backpack. Two of my friends parents were on the custodial staff. Like hell I was going to just let that slide
So I'm a mom, and this cart situation is something I eyeball before getting my kids in the car. If it's a short distance and it almost always is. A less than a 12 second walk to and from, the kids are good to get seated and if it's further they go with me. Easy. Her statistics are weird because she gives a statistic about kids being abducted in parking lots but then goes on to say she's the prime example of a target to be snatched in the parking lot. So which is it? Are the bad guys after you or your kids? They can't snatch all of you before someone notices.
Her argument boils down to "I'm going to justify my laziness by looking at some article online to show that I'm doing it out of concern for my child, but at the same time pull useless statistics out of my ass because I'm far too important of a person to do this menial little task." As someone who used to work in retail, I've seen way to many people do this same exact damn thing, and it irks me to no end. The worst part is, who's at fault if one of these unattended carts happens to run into a parked car...? SMH
Actually, she's saying ten percent of "crimes" occur in parking lots in the context of very specific and unusual hypothetical crimes that justify her behavior. This is a common way to lie with statistics and rationalize bad personal behavior. It was August that brought up auto theft and burglary.
As someone who has worked at a Publix for three and a half years, PLEASE return the carts. I like in Georgia, where it is very hot and humid, and I have to grab all these carts people leave out. It's a massive parking lot, but if you park it the opposite corner, it's like a three minute walk. If I can spend hours outside cleaning up litter and picking up carts, you can spend three minutes doing it.
Right? The supermarket near where I live has a pretty big parking lot, but I can walk from the 2 farthest corners and it would take me, at most, around 7 minutes, plus, the areas to return your carts are spaced out every 10 parking spaces
FUN FACT! When I when I was a cashier, someone left their cart in the parking lot. The wind caught a cart and pushed it into a car. The store was responsible for the damages because it was our cart and our responsibility to keep the parking lot clear.
Was this my mom's Corolla? We watched this happen while eating lunch at a Taco Bell. The wind sent it flying over 100 feet right into the side of my mom's car.
Seriously. She has the energy to get a doctorate but not to return a shopping cart? As a doctoral student, returning EVERYONE'S shopping cart is still less work, unless she's lying about that too, like her statistical analysis
@@Jeana-xolike chef pie, the pink sauce lady, she isn’t a chef but call herself one, I wouldn’t be surprised if she is a health guru who call herself a ‘doctor’.
Assuming you are serious ( I hope not lol). People would be angry because 1. It makes more work for the employees. It's already hard enough to gather the carts from a stall to make sure the inside of the store has enough carts to meet consumer demand, but having to take time to gather each individual cart not only is more work but then may make the customer have to wait that much longer for the carts to be sent back inside. More importantly 2. It creates a safety hazard. Having carts fly around the parking lot not only increase a potential for an accident ( parking lots are already the most dangerous place to drive as is) but also increase potential ( as August also stated in his anecdote) for damage to vehicles ( especially on windy days). The lady claims she has been apart of lawsuits for parking lots. I would assume she probably was involved in a lawsuit for damage to her vehicle by rouge shopping carts which if that is the case would be irony. I also would assume she thinks she won the case because the store decided to just settle rather then actually waste the money to fight.
normally my parents just straight up tell me: "hey jayden, go push this cart back." i do as I'm told (obvi) and put it in the cart return, or i sometimes went up to an employee and ask if they wanted the cart or just put it in the cart return. its not that hard honestly, plus it doesn't hurt to walk a few extra steps man, or simply PARK NEXT TO ONE FOR CHRIST SAKE.
"It doesn't hurt to walk a few extra steps" Please say it louder for the people in the back. People really are afraid just to walk a few extra steps a day.
As kid I loved pushing the cart and returning it so I was always happy to do so. This woman also doesn't need to leave her kids behind in the car at all.. Unload the groceries and take the kids with you, put them in the cart on the way to the corral if you want (most kids love being pushed around in one). There is really no excuse for being an entitled lazy b*tch.
9:39 Something to add to this video. This woman is clearly affluent and has money. If this is such an extreme concern for her why does she not either: A. Find a baby sitter of some kind? B. Just get her food delivered from instacart or any other grocery delivery service? C. Depending on how old the children are just leave them at home and go and get the groceries and come back? I mean if you have a list and only need to hit up one store unless you are driving hella far away you can get your groceries and be back in an hour, I say this as someone who spent a full summer doing grocery deliveries and had to shop for 3 or 4 people all at the same time and it only took me 1.5 hours to shop, bag and be back in my car. D. JUST PARK NEXT TO THE DAMN CART RETURN
I agree with all your points except D, a crowded parking lot could force someone to have to park quite a bit away from a cart return area depending on if other cars are all around that area, but if a lot isn't that crowded then your point stands
Off topic but I literally just got an ad from instacart. On topic, babysitter, or do shopping when they're off somewhere. Or let them ride in it when you put it away.
I always return my shopping cart! I don't care if it is raining or any other inclement weather. It irritates me to no end when I see people under 60 yrs old just leave their carts wherever. When I'm walking thru the parking lot to go onto the store, I'll grab a few carts and bring in with me. My husband does the same. I've worked retail for years and have had to go bring carts in when the store had no carts inside! I won't approach anyone who leaves their cart, but shoot a dirty look when I can. I love your content! ❤
I teach my son that we have to return the shopping cart so we usually make a game out of it. I will also look around and see if there are other unreturned shopping carts around us and return those as well. Mind you right now I’m eight months pregnant and I’m still doing this. If a shopping area looks sketchy I just don’t shop there. If someone is really that worried they could always try to park close to a return cart where you wouldn’t be that far away from your kids and they will always be in your view. If you don’t want to simply take them with you.
Are you my daughter? I can't get out of a supermarket without the grandson putting the kiddy trollies together, organising the baskets, and lining up the wheeled baskets tidy. Then we have to arrange the corrals so they are straight too.
I don't understand what her hangup is. Presumably she was walking around the grocery store with her kid and the cart the entire time. She can put the groceries in the car, lock it, and bring her kid with her to return the cart. Then just come back to the car with your kid like you did with the cart when you came out of the store. Wtf
Her privilege is off the charts. I can tell just by looking at her that she married well, lives in a very safe neighborhood and her grocery store or Target is in a very safe location. No one is waiting to steal her precious children.
Mmmm yeah I’d think twice about nobody wanting to steal her children. You should actually look at how many influencers have people stalking their children and with full knowledge of where they live. Asking to “meet them” as fans. It’s way more common than probably she would even admit. And august doesn’t know that bc he’s not a parent that posts his kid everywhere. She’s wrong for this for sure, but it’s actually funny that you think YOU are privileged enough to speak on knowing everything about her based on how she looks 😂 sounds like you’re right there on her level. Both annoying.
@@scienceisreal779she is not on their radar for being a bad parent. She is an affluent white woman, she has all the means to have her husband to watch the kids or go along with HIS WIFE to care for their children.
@chleorrrrnorrrrr2915 you shouldn't defend her. Even if there is an abnormal amount of risk involved with influencer moms, its still HER fault. She chose to subject her children to the internet
I return my cart, but I'm a single male but violent crime in California has gotten so bad I fully understand her not taking the extra second to return her cart. It's not that big of a deal. Police can't do anything about it anyways, I don't even like my mom going grocery shopping alone. It does not matter if most people end up okay, but the fact it has gotten so dangerous is enough for most women to not be willing to go out alone. Abduction or not, I've quite literally had people try to kill me multiple times in my life. I can defend myself from grown men, I was protecting 2 women. They can't defend themselves
So happy with the way you took apart her argument. My jaw dropped at the amount of BS she was spewing. I do return my cart. Had four kids to take shopping. Still managed to return my cart and not lose a single child. Maybe they just weren’t kidnappable?! 😂
12 minutes to return a shopping cart is the most obvious lie ever told lmao. she just doesnt wanna he accountable for being lazy, while also using children as a shield to excuse the laziness again
I have a clue that the Cart Narc's may have crossed her path. Twelve minutes? Her stingy condescending facial expressions along with that tone of voice made me sick to my stomach.
The only situations I can think of where I wouldn't return my cart would be if there's a medical emergency or if I feel threatened by someone approaching me and need to gtfo as quickly as possible.
There has only ever been one circumstance I didnt return my shopping cart. And that was because for some odd reason this walmart had NO PLACES TO RETURN THEM TO other than walking all the way back inside but the parking lot was so full I was all the way at the furthest places from the building. When I said they had none I mean NOT ONE not a single return trolly anywhere in that parking lot at all. It was somewhere out in Boston MA it was so freaking weird I'd never seen that before. I didnt even see any signs or anything that stated u were expected to walk all the way back in to return the cart so IDK what exactly they wanted from the customer.
If you won't return your cart because you don't want your children to be adoucted, WHY would you leave them ALONE in the car? Just because their in the car dosen't mean their safe. Keep them with you when you put the cart away.
Exactly what I was thinking! You're gonna leave them in there, with the air con on, so the keys are in there too... Which means one kid could accidentally kick the gear stick and the car could roll. Not to mention anyone wanting to steal it would have a pretty good head start
Had a friend who saw me in the passanger seat of another friend's car. He ran over, smacked the roof and car door, opened the door to smack me on the head while i was turning to see what happened. That showed me how fast a car jacking or parking lot mvrder could happen. I lock the doors and pay attention now.
As a kid, I thought shopping carts would just randomly spawn back to where you get them like it was a video game. As an adult, I never returned them ‘cause the employees always get them, then I worked at Hobby Lobby for seasonal help and now it’s an annoyance when people leave shopping carts.
I used to work at a grocery store in a wealthy part of Atlanta and I would say 65% of Karen’s and older folks wouldn’t return their carts. Some of the associates on lot duty would call them out and all they would do was complain to the management about getting harassed by the associates. It’s ironic they rather take their time to complain about their wrong doing instead of doing the right thing….
@@austinparmer3259Dont know about where you live, but in Mississippi where it's 101 on my porch today parking lots are huge and rarely have more than 2 return spots. That's walking 10-15 extra minutes on asphalt in 100°+ weather.... yea not me lol
My mom would normally leave me and my sibling(s) in the car to get something or to return the shopping carts, and if we need her we can get out of the car or call her. Come on! Even I return the shopping cart sometimes, the only thing I have to do is avoid cars so I don't get hit and look at my surroundings. THEN, I would run back to the car so we could go home or to our next destination. Atleast have a good excuse "Dr. I fOrGoT hEr NaMe"
4:30 I have a friend who disappeared for a week, the came back saying he was kidnapped by his mom and grandma and had to jump out of a moving car on his way to Idaho (We live in Ohio). He has a restraining order on his mom’s side of the family, but still, I had never thought about family members kidnapping other family members.
@@shadw4701 The original shopping cart theory is obvious hyperbole, as, presumably, is the comment to which you are replying. You would know that if you actually studied language. "A person who is unable to do this is no better than an animal, an absolute savage who can only be made to do what is right by threatening them with a law and the force that stands behind it." The original shopping cart theory parodied the trolley problem, which is more a question of ethics than of psychology anyway.
actually canadians have a better test and it costs money it is a coin slot on the handle of the cart that conects to the next cart when they are pout together. so it costs you a coin if you decide not to return it to get your money back. you americans can use this idea and see how many more of you would return your cart just to get your money back.
I used to work for Costco where I pushed carts for a living. I have seen many horrendous things and since I worked in retail, I always return my cart, no matter what even on days that I don’t feel good if somebody’s walking by, I will ask them to return the cart for me, I have a son and if I bring my son make sure to park near the closest corral I can find to ensure that if I put him in the car and go to return my cart, I can see see him these kinds of people make me realize how entitled our country is And let’s not even talk about the things that I have found in cart that I was pushing trash, baby diapers and so many more just disgusting things
Speaking as a disabled man, I can allow it if you're disabled, like, if you legit CAN'T return it, that's different, and can honestly be helpful if in the diagonal lines next to the handicap parking so people like me can immediately lean on it. But on that note, It often becomes inconvenient TO disabled people to leave them all over the parking lot.
@@rachelt7589 then don't have so many kids you can't physically care for them. if you're unable to deal with the multiple kids, you chose to have, why does that entitle you to leave a cart and end up damaging other peoples property? why do others have to suffer because your life choices?
I'm a 15 year old boy with a disability and here's what my mom does. We go to food lion, she Goes in to get the cart for ppl who has disability and has Me lock the door till she gets back. After we done we go out. She put the food In the car and then me. She has me locked the door then she returned it. If someone Tries To break in then I press the horn
The only way I will ever not return a shopping cart is if it is just, like, PISS-POURING down rain. Like, hammering. This has happened on a few very rare occasions, and the one day, me and another guy were on the same page, and he goes, "I hate doing this because I feel like a jerk, but I am not taking this back today.", cause the amount of rain coming down was just disgusting. I think that's the only pretty valid reason to ever not return it. As far as this lady is concerned, where in the hell is she shopping where it's taking her 12 minutes to get from her vehicle to the store??? 😂
I get that, but then I think about how much that rain reduces visibility, making it more likely someone hits the cart, or winds that come with storms pushing it into a car or causing an accident by someone trying to avoid it, and more often than not figure I'm not going to get any wetter so I might as well.
A 12 minute walk to the nearest cart return? Bro come on. Let's run the numbers. The average human walks 3 mph. A 12 minute walk would be a distance of 0.6 miles, for a 1.2 mile round trip. In my entire life I don't think it's ever taken me more than 30-45 seconds to return a cart. Who is walking a fucking actual mile to the NEAREST cart return? What retail location even has that much property in LA?
I've never been to California, so I cant say for 100% certainty but, everywhere else I've lived, every single grocery store, or large department store chain has corrals for your shopping carts between about every 10 parking spaces. 12 minute walk my ass, all you have to do is return your shopping cart to the corral so it's not a safety hazard for everyone else. Sure, it sounds like I'm overexaggerating, but carts have wheels, they roll. They can hit cars, they can block off parking spaces. It takes like 30 seconds to push a fucking cart to the corral.
i do live in california, near LA of all places and it's the same here. never been in a situation where i can't see a shopping cart corral nearby. also as a woman, i've never questioned my safety when returning a fucking cart lmao.
The only case I can imagine this applying is grocery stores that have parking garages with many floors, even then most have elevators and are a pretty quick walk from the store to your car. I would say 10 minutes at most.
@etchasketch_ I used to be a cart pusher at a target that had a 4 story parking garage across the street and from personal experience, they also had cart corrals between every 10 or so parking spaces
Those who do not return their shopping cart are selfish and lazy. If you don't return it, someone else has to. That's usually the cart person who is making minimum wage. You show your character by not returning your cart.
@SleepinInsomniac what do you think happens to the carts after they're at the cart return...? They need to be brought back into the store by somebody. You're just making that person's day worse by making them hunt down shopping carts all over the parking lot. They would still have a job without that nuisance
Why do Karen's and selfish people look exactly how they act? I just assume anyone who doesn't return their cart has never actually had to work or earn anything in life.
She has no excuse, she'a just lazy. She can just turn off her car and take her kids with her when returning it. She's definitely not thinking about safety.
As a ex cart Graber we hate this makes our job way harder when you leave your cart out. Not to mention that carts have mind's of there own and if left unattended bash peoples cars
As someone that used to work in retail and had to push the shopping carts around i can say: everybody is at least decent enough to put them back but once u start pushing 10-20 by hand to the other points where they are at people just dont care and will drive infront of u like idiots. I had so much close calls pushing them as its hard to control where they go and even if u stop they will continue going another few meters because of the chaina connecting them. We were grateful that people return them. Even i have felt lazy before about returning them yet i still do it cuz it can hit a car and you are liable if it does and because why give the poor underpayed retail workers more work😭
This isn't always possible, depending on where other people have parked. I live in a pretty small town (population of about 65k) with three major grocery stores. Most of the time, the parking lots are incredibly full at each one.
She clearly knows she's in the wrong, or she wouldn't have felt the overwhelming need to make a video telling everyone how she's totally doing the right thing.
when i was still driving, I returned my shopping cart or my riding shopping cart even though worsening chronic illnesses made this an extreme hardship for me. I have no sympathy for people who just don’t want to a then try to make excuses as to why they don’t. Nothing about Leslie’s behavior leads anyone to believe that fear influences her decision not to return shopping carts. She wanted to seem edgy and like she wouldn’t be shamed by societal norms; now she’s on the defensive to try herself look good and to make everyone else look bad for criticizing her.
My mom always taught us that returning a shopping cart is important. I still remember when (I was a teen) I insisted on returning the cart after shopping with a friend and his mom. I was told that I didn't need to return it and once in the car I explained how I was raised to return carts and that only lazy ppl don't return them... seconds later my friend leans over to whisper "my mom never returns the carts". I felt bad for basically calling her lazy without knowing it, but it was too late to worry about it. 😅
This is why shopping carts in the UK have a £1 coin slot on the shopping carts. The US said we were insane for doing it, but if you want your money back, you have to return the cart. Before my local ASDA installed £1 slots for their trolley, the amount of drivers who left them across pedestrian walkways to the bus stop drove me insane. It was like these drivers were mocking people like me who used public transport. It was quite a nice bonus when drivers were in such a rush that they left shopping still in their carts. I saw it as compensation for blocking my way.
If she isn't doing anything wrong, she wouldn't feel the need to defend herself. You can also park close where the carts are if there's space. OR you can shop with more than 1 adult instead of totally by yourself. Or do curbside. Or do delivery. There are many, many options to get groceries now that are safe and convenient if your kids are too young to be left alone for 20 seconds. If you are shopping in a place where you feel too unsafe to put the cart away, shop somewhere else. Of course crimes can happen anywhere, anytime. But she can be responsible to take care of herself and precautions instead of making it everyone else's problem.
12 minute walk? A mile to return it? Bullshit. 265 kids in cars that get carjacked out of 350 million residents in the country is a miniscule chance of occurrance.
The statistics in California don't mean anything, most of the crime is going unreported. THE POLICE CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. Crime has been decriminalized, it's not being reported, charges aren't being filed, and the only way you can live here is to be prepared. People don't get it, it's the worst place in the US, and it's so expensive we can barely afford food so moving is not an option.
I used to work for a grocery store bringing the carts that other people left behind. There is absolutely no reason to at least not bring to a designated spot to store them. Number of times I’ve seen people leave them inside other parking spots is disgusting.
I’m a tiny female with a disability and I return my cart. I only mention my size because she makes this sound like a safety issue. I have never felt unsafe returning a cart. Even at night. I do have the advantage of having worked in Asset Protection so I know where stores put the cameras. But still. This debate is just stupid. She seems to want attention.
4:45 It's shocking how many people don't know this. I've heard it over and over again throughout my life. If you feel uncomfortable around a family member, say something. Never go with a person unless your trusted adult says it's okay, even if they're family. Just because you "know" someone, that doesn't mean you can always trust them, and if a child is telling you something bad about a family member, at least try looking into it.
Why is this even a debate? Some people just won't do it, and some people will judge them, but most won't care. Even IF you're one of the people getting judged for it in some tangible form (like someone says something to you); what will it really do to you? What's more suspicious is coming up with reasons that you are judged wrongly when it wasn't even that big a deal in the first place. TikTok numbers be damned!
100%. it feels like she made that video to vent about a specific person giving her a dirty look because she didn't return her cart... as if she's saying to all of tiktok what she would want to say to that person... very strange. she went from one person judging her to millions lol
I strongly agree that it’s a clear sign of someone’s underlying morality (or lack thereof) whether or not they return their shopping carts (outside of situations such as maybe the elderly having to walk a crazy distance or in dangerous flood conditions or some crazy sh*t like that) There are obviously exceptional situations where it would warrant just leaving it against the side of a median or something, but 99% of the time, people are just too lazy and simply don’t give af about the minimum-wage workers who troll parking lots collecting shopping carts for grocery stores. I find it to be highly disgusting behavior, worse than mild littering and maybe even worse than scooting around the side of the road to skip in line during a traffic jam (although that one will never not piss me off-such low-IQ behavior because 99% of the time it doesn’t meaningfully speed up your arrival time to skip a few spots in line and highly antisocial because the morons who partake worsen and prolong traffic jams significantly by further clogging the merging lanes and forcing everyone to slow down and yield) because the latter could be done in ignorance not realizing its negative impact on others or in a moment of frustration or youthful stupidity, but to just leave your shopping cart haphazardly askew taking up some parking spot(s) because you’re too lazy to walk about 10-20 seconds round-trip shows such a wild disregard for the rest of society and lack of respect for low-wage workers.
I am European and not even at a giant IKEA have I experienced having to do a twelve minute walk to returning the shopping cards. Genuenly, even at unsafe neighborhoods my parents would have let us in the car or just take us with to take back the shopping cart.(also you are loosing at least 50 cents because we have these put in 50 cents to release and be able to actually use shopping carts and I live where you are happy to find 25cents on the street in the form of a plastic bottle (Germany) so a lil money is something to loose, as it is something to win when some stupid people left a bottle somewhere.)
The ONLY thing I can agree with her on is that, as a woman, you should absolutely be making sure the parking lot is safe. But if you automatically assume every parking lot puts you in immediate danger, you need to see a therapist
Well yeah. But to be fair I think woman woman are a lot more in danger at other spots. Since it is a parking lot. And lots of people will be there. I guess you can park at night but I don't think she was talking about that. Also, like August said, spending 30 seconds or more in your car IN A PARKING LOT filming a tiktok just shows that the lady isn't actually worried. She's just making up excuses for her laziness.
So does she just never get gas or run back into the house for something she forgot when her kids are in the car? I also was a cart attendant for a while. It was in a small town at a Walmart but 95 percent of people returned their carts.
I was a shopping cart repairman that did at store repairs and I can't tell you how many customers were lazy, rude, and entitled when it came to leaving carts everywhere and parking their cars in your work area or getting into your personal space when your using powered cutting tools.
I used to push carts in 90-100 degree weather and it didn’t bother me so much when people didn’t return their carts but when they would leave garbage in the cart. Items such as a used diaper, melted ice cream, and entire half eaten bucket of chick fillet chicken. It does suck for other customers who have shopping carts blocking parking spots and the rare case in which we ran out of shopping carts. Idk I put mine away even if it’s 100 degrees out but I don’t really care if other people do or don’t lol.
If she's so worried about her children's safety, why doesn't she just return the cart with her kids?? Seems like she's just excusing her laziness.
If she can shop with the kids, she can return the cart with her kids, too. No need to leave them in the car.
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I mean she doesn’t want her kids pushing each other down the stairs
Exactly what I asked aloud when he played the clip... Like, have them walk with you then??
i was just gonna say that... But yeah like why not just bring your kids. You already walked "12" minutes to the store and back, just do that again... 😂
I can't believe she takes her kids to the store in a car. Doesn't she know over 50% of automobile accidents are cause by cars?
Yes, but 100% of car accidents happen IN cars... THR STATISTICS DONT LIE PEOPLE! WAKE UP
This statistic is 80% accurate 100% of the time.
HOLY SHIT PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW THIS
no way.... really? i dont know if i believe it
@@captaincairoPTthe Anchor Man reference 😂
First off, 250 abductions by car with our current population equals to an absurdly low chance of it happening to you. You have a higher chance of being mauled by a bear than your kids being abducted.
Second, a 12 minute walk is like 3/4 mile. Ain't no way that there would be like one coral on the lot and it's over a half mile away. And having been to LA often, I cannot even picture a store with a lot that large except for like a mall.
I don't know, back in my day it was the kids job to run the cart over to the cage while mom finished loading groceries. And shockingly, we also helped bring the groceries in the house. But if you have become so paranoid of lots in this day and age, maybe switch to no contact grocery delivery.
This is what I immediately thought. 264 kids in a year is actually shockingly low compared to the population. That's like less than .5% of all kids in america
@@Gomezdude7 I thought she said thousand
@@QuikVidGuy 2:36 just checked lol. She said hundred
@@Gomezdude7 Actually thats about 1 child in about 300.000 that gets abducted. Nowhere near half a percent 😅
No wonder people fell for the flu fear when that's how they look at numbers ? edit: I was trying to do the math in my head but it's a lot of zeros 😅 but I believe it's around 0.00003% of the population of kids in America
And to add , I can imagine by far most are abducted by one of the parents of the child
most pathetic argument ever carried out by full gown adults I've seen, let's not make life easier, people are going crazy of boredom
Don’t tell her that 100% of home burglaries happen at homes
WHAT?????? 😱😱😱
Well I'll be damned
Too be fair what is it’s your friends house you stayed at?
That's why I leave all my belongings out on the boulevard.
Oh crap, you're right!
Parent of 22 years here! Put the groceries in the car and return the cart WITH THE KIDS. WTH are we coming to people?!? This is not a problem. 😂😂😂😂😂
I misread that as "parent of 22" and I was like......I don't wanna know. But ya years makes much more sense lol!
Oh but there are so many crimes! Did you not hear about the crimes?! Run for your life! 🙄🤣🤣🤣
Something my parents would do was sit us in the car, one of then start it if the weather was bad (too hot so you need the ac) then make sure we locked our doors until they got back. Another lovely "hack": Park as close as you can to the shopping cart rack or the front of the store.
I said that to
@User1800daddy I don't believe you at all. As someone who's worked retail a good chunk of my life, and in great length as a cart pusher, there's 5000 other tasks the companies will make you do that isn't pushing carts. There's always trash, there's always carry outs, hell there's cross training in the store. Not to mention, they send you home early? Then what? Call you back in when one more cart shows up? Really? Carts are gonna keep showing up until the store closes. So I call 100% BS on this.
iirc this woman is a psychologist who works on some really horrific child ab*use and PDF-ilia cases, she’s interviewed victims, parents of victims, and even perpetrators. It sounds to me like what she’s witnessed on the job has really affected her (how could it not), and from her Instagram it really seems like she lives her life in a semi-constant state of vigilance and anxiety over the safety of her kids. Sometimes she gives some really good safety tips, but other times (like in this video) it just comes off as overkill/paranoia.
This makes sense
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@@just9911 youre not wrong lol, I just think its interesting context into why she’s like that
Especially since like others have said, she can just return the cart with her kids. She doesn't need to leave them in the car. It's just an excuse to be lazy, imho. I don't think this one is a "children's safety" one. Though I don't doubt that she's like you described, I just think this particular situation isn't that.
Even on the hottest days, Ill return my cart. If you say you have an 12 min walk to return the shopping cart, no you dont. Dont lie.
A 12 minute walk is literally a mile lol
It takes me 15 minutes to walk like 3/4 of a mile including crosswalks and traffic lights.
@@TheCutiePatrol what ?no
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@@tfordham13 Dude's power-walking. 🤣
I'm disabled and even on my worst pain days, I return the damn shopping cart.
You are a good human. I wish you a very joyful life my friend
THIS. I had a herniated disc giving me nerve pain and I’d always put my cart back, even when I was in agony. She’s fucking lazy.
I usually send my partner or whoever else I'm with to do so on bad days, or I return it and carry the shopping from the cart return to my destination.
Disclaimer that I'm not saying this necessarily about you, but you similar comments that explicitly go on to say this. Also not commenting on the lady in the video, she seems unpleasant:
Always return the cart when you can but I'm going to be honest, shopping cart discussions online always weird me out because a lot of people who comment things like "I'm disabled and always return the cart" do so in a way that feels. At the very least inconsiderate of other disabilities where that's just not possible. Main thing that comes to mind are if your bad days have significant vertigo or mobility issues and put you at risk of a fall.
Like, I've worked retail, I've had to gather the carts up, I do understand. But also I don't think someone should feel pressured to return a cart if it's going to cause or add to them feeling significant pain or put them as risk of harming themself and don't think they should feel like a bad person about that.
Same! If I am able to shop I am able to walk those last steps to do that.
As someone who was a cart guy at Walmart for almost 3 years, I've heard it all. The most common excuse is that it "creates more work and that's a good thing".
Trust me, we had plenty of work to do. We weren't twiddling our thumbs waiting on carts.
We had to clean the lot, do bottle returns, do maintenance, help customers, etc, on top of retrieving carts left in the corrals.
Tbh, 50% of the job wound up being re-organizing all the carts that lazy people left in parking spaces. Or a mile away. Or with dirty diapers, etc.
I saw dozens of cars get damaged. Simply put, if you don't put your cart back, you are self-centered and lazy.
Search for the video on the Shopping Cart Test. That video sums these people up perfectly.
My towns Walmart cart guys are lazy than, because they don't do half the things you mentioned. Trash is always in the parking lot some times for months. I'm talking rotting McDonald's, dirty diapers, soda cans and bottles, and sometimes random clothes like socks shorts and t shirts. And if someone does leave the carts they normally leave them and just get the ones out of the coral. The most they will do is bring in the motorized carts into the store. And they never help customers. Not even the elderly ones. They either get a stocker to do it or a janitor or the person does it by themselves. They will organize the carts, but only the ones in the store. I have only seen one guy do most of what you said and there are like four that I know of.
@@vanapirarayne738 Do you sit around and watch them all day? I highly doubt it. Its obvious you are just making up a shit ton of uneducated assumptions.
@@bakenbeans420 I go there a lot. I am not making anything up. You don't know my location so how would you know? See this is the issue with people online, you talk about your experience or anything and people think that you are making shit up or you are uneducated. But again you don't know my location. Not every Walmart is the same and has the same standards.
I had an idea. What if everybody leaves the cart in a spot, then when the next person comes to take the spot, they also take the cart. The carts have breaks on them so it shouldn’t be an issue.
@@GregoryChew0921 the cart don't have breaks and you would just piss people off when they need to park. Do not do that ever!
female single mom here, never was scared to return a cart. would even pick up extras if i see them. this woman boils my blood. working retail , carts notoriously roll away especially on a windy day and do cause cars damage. happened to be before, seen it happen to other cars before. it’s just ignorant and lazy. don’t take the cart out then if you’re not going to return it it’s so simple and she just screams lazy and entitled. that’s a disgusting trait.
I’ve never in my life to use my kids as an excuse to not put my cart away. She’s such an entitled b****. You don’t have to walk 12 minutes to put a cart away 🙄
What’s disgusting is shaming a single woman for doing what she feels safest. That’s so fucking weird.
If she feels safe, that’s the right decision made. The rest of none of y’all’s business and you ought to be ashamed of yourself talking like that about another single woman. You clearly have not been victimized in public before. Some of the rest of us have.
@@Ithinkyousuckrealbad She could park next to where you out away a shopping cart. It isn’t hard. They are all around the parking lot and parking next to one is like two steps. Also, her not doing that is risking other things. For example, if it’s a windy day, the cart could go into other cars and damage them. She didn’t need to make this video but she did. It’s on a public platform, people have the right to criticize
I don't like having to back track so I usually will just carry the groceries if I can and leave the cart at the store. It's not that hard.
Unload the groceries, return the cart with your child in tow, and return to your car with your child. There! Solved your dilemma.
BuT wHaT iF tHe ChIlD gEtS kIdNaPpEd WhIlE tAkInG iT bAcK. That's probably why she doesn't.
"but that's extra work for meeeee 😭" would probably say 😂
So what, she is supposed to leave the groceries unattended in the car???
Sounds like you are begging for her to get her food to be grocerynapped.
According to other commenters her kids are teenagers, if your kids are school age and you're so worried just shop during school hours lol
This will teach your kids to return it so they aren’t as lazy as you are!
As a retail person, you are a criminal if you do not at least put the cart in the corral. Plus if you do this, you are most likely the same person that takes an item off a shelf, and put it on the floor farther down the same. aisle. Or worse, just a shelf lower or higher than its spot.
Yes we do notice, and we judge you for being that lazy. And trust me, there is normal “fixing” and organizing the store, but we are not paid enough to be your baby sitters and for you to let your kids and yourself trash the place.
If you want to be lazy and trash a place, trash your home. Saying you can’t pick it up, and creating fake statistics is such a new level of lazy I don’t think I’ve encountered before.
She probably the person that gets a cart filled with refrigerated groceries and decides “nah I don’t want all of this” and leaves it in a hidden space to rot.
Truly worried about child abduction? Have your kid with you. Amazing how everyone else shopping at that store have kids, yet they can still do simple acts of picking up after themselves. It’s also comical how she claims to gauge how safe the place is, when in her first video she just complained it’s too long of a walk for her.
Wasn’t this learned in pre-school?
Also beyound this, for shopping carts, it’s dangerous to not put them in a corral or back. It poses a risk for others, as they can hit people, can hit cars, and makes a more dangerous task for employees especially in a more busy day.
But I guess that minor walk is just too big of an inconvenience for her to even consider others.I wonder how she would feel if her car got scratched and dinged up by someone else’s loose shopping cart.
And that’s all folks, sorry for how long this is, but people like these deserve no mercy.
As another retail associate, you covered it perfectly. However, I'd also like to mention that it's also very disrespectful towards people that use mobility aids, such as wheelchairs, electric carts/scooters, to leave carts out in parking spaces as it makes it very difficult for them to navigate the parking lot which is NOT fair to them. And on our end, we have to be outside pushing heavy groups of carts under direct sunlight in 100 degree weather so the least people can do is put them in the cart corral.
@@Chey1214_ that too, it is just a hazard for everyone!
Couldn't read your whole post. When I saw "take item off shelf and put it down on a lower shelf," my PTSD hit, and I couldn't do it.
Similar experience working in a grocery store butcher shop. Too often we have customers or employees coming up with meat they found abandoned on random shelves. Unless it's still cold to the touch, we have to throw it out since we have no idea how long it's been sitting out. You'd think customers would have the decency to at least return refrigerated goods when they don't want them, but nope. Absolute monsters, some of these people.
Same kind of person leaves their trash out because “it’s someone’s job to pick it up”.
My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
Amen
Bruh. I met ppl like that. This one particular spoiled brat would throw trash on the ground at school because “it someone’s job to clean it up.” One time she left her 1/2 empty frapuchinno cup on the ground and walked away. So I grabbed it and dumped it in her backpack. Two of my friends parents were on the custodial staff. Like hell I was going to just let that slide
this woman looks like a disney villain so of course she doesn’t return her shopping cart
Thing is I think most disney villains might even do that.
MUAHAHAAA!! Now, parking lots all over the world will be plagued by shopping carts rolling all over, and no one can stop meeee!!!!
For real
Grimhilde would definitely put her shopping cart back ( or have a minion do it )
crazy eyes people. you can mute her and still understand that she is horribly wrong about something
So I'm a mom, and this cart situation is something I eyeball before getting my kids in the car. If it's a short distance and it almost always is. A less than a 12 second walk to and from, the kids are good to get seated and if it's further they go with me. Easy. Her statistics are weird because she gives a statistic about kids being abducted in parking lots but then goes on to say she's the prime example of a target to be snatched in the parking lot. So which is it? Are the bad guys after you or your kids? They can't snatch all of you before someone notices.
Her argument boils down to "I'm going to justify my laziness by looking at some article online to show that I'm doing it out of concern for my child, but at the same time pull useless statistics out of my ass because I'm far too important of a person to do this menial little task." As someone who used to work in retail, I've seen way to many people do this same exact damn thing, and it irks me to no end. The worst part is, who's at fault if one of these unattended carts happens to run into a parked car...? SMH
Where is the CartNarc when we need him...
its more hard than that,
she cant even bear the most basic social behaviour neccessary for living in a society,
shes antisocial per definition.
My farts are better than AugustTheDuck’s farts
Kids can be kidnapped from the streets to...so she just lazy
Her pointing out car thefts are more likely to happen in parking lots is like saying shark attacks are more likely to happen in the ocean…
Lol idk why this didn't occur to me but YUP 🎯
Omg THIS 💀💀💀
Actually, she's saying ten percent of "crimes" occur in parking lots in the context of very specific and unusual hypothetical crimes that justify her behavior. This is a common way to lie with statistics and rationalize bad personal behavior.
It was August that brought up auto theft and burglary.
was waiting for her to say, but also statically 9 out of 10 people really enjoy gang R
She is definitely giving off wine mom vibes who watches way too much true crime shows and thinks she’s going to be abducted in her own home
As someone who has worked at a Publix for three and a half years, PLEASE return the carts. I like in Georgia, where it is very hot and humid, and I have to grab all these carts people leave out. It's a massive parking lot, but if you park it the opposite corner, it's like a three minute walk. If I can spend hours outside cleaning up litter and picking up carts, you can spend three minutes doing it.
Pro tip: Park near a cart return
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Sometimes there's no spot open near one.
That's what I do
@@p-__sorry but i just ordered one of his and i have to say its pretty great
@DecoraGarf wow aren't you a genius! Somebody give this guy an award!
12 minutes to put a cart away is crazy. How do you walk that slow?
Right? The supermarket near where I live has a pretty big parking lot, but I can walk from the 2 farthest corners and it would take me, at most, around 7 minutes, plus, the areas to return your carts are spaced out every 10 parking spaces
My mom uses a walker and she moves faster than that. Get ahold of yourself woman.
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She gotta have affairs sometime right?
@@p-__ impossible 😮
FUN FACT! When I when I was a cashier, someone left their cart in the parking lot. The wind caught a cart and pushed it into a car. The store was responsible for the damages because it was our cart and our responsibility to keep the parking lot clear.
Was this my mom's Corolla? We watched this happen while eating lunch at a Taco Bell. The wind sent it flying over 100 feet right into the side of my mom's car.
Dr. Leslie ❌
Dr. Lazy ✅
My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
@@p-__ let’s fact or cap then
Seriously. She has the energy to get a doctorate but not to return a shopping cart? As a doctoral student, returning EVERYONE'S shopping cart is still less work, unless she's lying about that too, like her statistical analysis
Should zip tie a shopping cart to her car door
@@Jeana-xolike chef pie, the pink sauce lady, she isn’t a chef but call herself one, I wouldn’t be surprised if she is a health guru who call herself a ‘doctor’.
"I refused to return my shopping cart because I'm a lazy hack, why is everyone mad at me??"
Being a little lazy bones 😂
@KAIYFGA32no
My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
@@gdplayer8768 shut up your only giving it attention
Assuming you are serious ( I hope not lol). People would be angry because
1. It makes more work for the employees. It's already hard enough to gather the carts from a stall to make sure the inside of the store has enough carts to meet consumer demand, but having to take time to gather each individual cart not only is more work but then may make the customer have to wait that much longer for the carts to be sent back inside. More importantly
2. It creates a safety hazard. Having carts fly around the parking lot not only increase a potential for an accident ( parking lots are already the most dangerous place to drive as is) but also increase potential ( as August also stated in his anecdote) for damage to vehicles ( especially on windy days). The lady claims she has been apart of lawsuits for parking lots. I would assume she probably was involved in a lawsuit for damage to her vehicle by rouge shopping carts which if that is the case would be irony. I also would assume she thinks she won the case because the store decided to just settle rather then actually waste the money to fight.
I always forget a cart, and end up juggling 80lbs of groceries to my car.
This is extremely relatable.
normally my parents just straight up tell me: "hey jayden, go push this cart back." i do as I'm told (obvi) and put it in the cart return, or i sometimes went up to an employee and ask if they wanted the cart or just put it in the cart return. its not that hard honestly, plus it doesn't hurt to walk a few extra steps man, or simply PARK NEXT TO ONE FOR CHRIST SAKE.
"It doesn't hurt to walk a few extra steps" Please say it louder for the people in the back. People really are afraid just to walk a few extra steps a day.
As kid I loved pushing the cart and returning it so I was always happy to do so. This woman also doesn't need to leave her kids behind in the car at all.. Unload the groceries and take the kids with you, put them in the cart on the way to the corral if you want (most kids love being pushed around in one). There is really no excuse for being an entitled lazy b*tch.
@@nbucwa6621 normalize walking lmao
Haha 69 likes
(I'm childish)
@@CharacteristicLizard hahhahaaa, 69 hahahaa funny number (dw i am too)
9:39 Something to add to this video. This woman is clearly affluent and has money. If this is such an extreme concern for her why does she not either:
A. Find a baby sitter of some kind?
B. Just get her food delivered from instacart or any other grocery delivery service?
C. Depending on how old the children are just leave them at home and go and get the groceries and come back? I mean if you have a list and only need to hit up one store unless you are driving hella far away you can get your groceries and be back in an hour, I say this as someone who spent a full summer doing grocery deliveries and had to shop for 3 or 4 people all at the same time and it only took me 1.5 hours to shop, bag and be back in my car.
D. JUST PARK NEXT TO THE DAMN CART RETURN
If she can take the kids in the store to shop with her, she can take them with her to return the cart.
I agree with all your points except D, a crowded parking lot could force someone to have to park quite a bit away from a cart return area depending on if other cars are all around that area, but if a lot isn't that crowded then your point stands
Off topic but I literally just got an ad from instacart. On topic, babysitter, or do shopping when they're off somewhere. Or let them ride in it when you put it away.
or E. Put her groceries in the car, take kids with her to return the cart, and then go back to her car.
I always return my shopping cart! I don't care if it is raining or any other inclement weather. It irritates me to no end when I see people under 60 yrs old just leave their carts wherever. When I'm walking thru the parking lot to go onto the store, I'll grab a few carts and bring in with me. My husband does the same. I've worked retail for years and have had to go bring carts in when the store had no carts inside! I won't approach anyone who leaves their cart, but shoot a dirty look when I can. I love your content! ❤
I teach my son that we have to return the shopping cart so we usually make a game out of it. I will also look around and see if there are other unreturned shopping carts around us and return those as well. Mind you right now I’m eight months pregnant and I’m still doing this. If a shopping area looks sketchy I just don’t shop there. If someone is really that worried they could always try to park close to a return cart where you wouldn’t be that far away from your kids and they will always be in your view. If you don’t want to simply take them with you.
Are you my daughter? I can't get out of a supermarket without the grandson putting the kiddy trollies together, organising the baskets, and lining up the wheeled baskets tidy. Then we have to arrange the corrals so they are straight too.
I don't understand what her hangup is. Presumably she was walking around the grocery store with her kid and the cart the entire time. She can put the groceries in the car, lock it, and bring her kid with her to return the cart. Then just come back to the car with your kid like you did with the cart when you came out of the store. Wtf
God forbid we teach children to walk short distances in america i guess
Her hangup is she has Dr. in her name so she probably thinks shes better than everyone else. So she doesn't need to do the things us peons do.
My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
Exactly!! She got herr kids to the store to get the cart, so she can get them from the cart coral to the car the same way!
@@Monkycrasure-gk4fzmean girl to working in medical is so real
all this yapping is the energy equivalent to returning 1000 shopping carts
All that time talking could have been spent walking
All that time talking could have been spent walking
Her privilege is off the charts. I can tell just by looking at her that she married well, lives in a very safe neighborhood and her grocery store or Target is in a very safe location. No one is waiting to steal her precious children.
The only people she should be afraid of taking her kids is CPS, because she is a terrible parent!!
Mmmm yeah I’d think twice about nobody wanting to steal her children. You should actually look at how many influencers have people stalking their children and with full knowledge of where they live. Asking to “meet them” as fans. It’s way more common than probably she would even admit. And august doesn’t know that bc he’s not a parent that posts his kid everywhere. She’s wrong for this for sure, but it’s actually funny that you think YOU are privileged enough to speak on knowing everything about her based on how she looks 😂 sounds like you’re right there on her level. Both annoying.
@@scienceisreal779she is not on their radar for being a bad parent. She is an affluent white woman, she has all the means to have her husband to watch the kids or go along with HIS WIFE to care for their children.
She said she’s a single mom tho
@chleorrrrnorrrrr2915 you shouldn't defend her. Even if there is an abnormal amount of risk involved with influencer moms, its still HER fault. She chose to subject her children to the internet
She’d be the same Karen, like many others, to cry, complain, and moan, if there weren’t any available shopping carts.
They're not available cuz they're all in the parking lot.
Or complain theres a cart in a iarking spot
I return my cart, but I'm a single male but violent crime in California has gotten so bad I fully understand her not taking the extra second to return her cart. It's not that big of a deal.
Police can't do anything about it anyways, I don't even like my mom going grocery shopping alone. It does not matter if most people end up okay, but the fact it has gotten so dangerous is enough for most women to not be willing to go out alone. Abduction or not, I've quite literally had people try to kill me multiple times in my life. I can defend myself from grown men, I was protecting 2 women. They can't defend themselves
So happy with the way you took apart her argument. My jaw dropped at the amount of BS she was spewing.
I do return my cart. Had four kids to take shopping. Still managed to return my cart and not lose a single child. Maybe they just weren’t kidnappable?! 😂
to say, I don't want to return my shopping cart at risk of my child being raped.. is the most extreme leap LOL
If you don't return your shopping cart, then an employee has to walk ALL the way to retrieve ONE cart
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oh no, how will they go on?
Oh no an employee has to do their job that receive compensation for?!? Oh no what a fucking shame
Oh no an employee has to do their job that receive compensation for?!? Oh no what a fucking shame
@@DemocracyOfficer2485so...do Americans just not put back the shopping cart? It's literally the bare minimum and shows common decency
12 minutes to return a shopping cart is the most obvious lie ever told lmao. she just doesnt wanna he accountable for being lazy, while also using children as a shield to excuse the laziness again
"it's time to empower yourself" buddy it's a shopping cart😭😭
😂😂😂😂
Amen. So ridiculous.
Right 😂
Californian.
I have a clue that the Cart Narc's may have crossed her path. Twelve minutes? Her stingy condescending facial expressions along with that tone of voice made me sick to my stomach.
Aha! The CART NARC! lol exactly
YES! THAT TONE IS SO FREAKING ANNOYING!!!
Dr. Lazybones
The only situations I can think of where I wouldn't return my cart would be if there's a medical emergency or if I feel threatened by someone approaching me and need to gtfo as quickly as possible.
There has only ever been one circumstance I didnt return my shopping cart. And that was because for some odd reason this walmart had NO PLACES TO RETURN THEM TO other than walking all the way back inside but the parking lot was so full I was all the way at the furthest places from the building.
When I said they had none I mean NOT ONE not a single return trolly anywhere in that parking lot at all. It was somewhere out in Boston MA it was so freaking weird I'd never seen that before. I didnt even see any signs or anything that stated u were expected to walk all the way back in to return the cart so IDK what exactly they wanted from the customer.
Well, you still should return it, it's probably a 3 minute walk at most. But I can at least understand why you didn't.
If you won't return your cart because you don't want your children to be adoucted, WHY would you leave them ALONE in the car? Just because their in the car dosen't mean their safe. Keep them with you when you put the cart away.
Exactly what I was thinking! You're gonna leave them in there, with the air con on, so the keys are in there too... Which means one kid could accidentally kick the gear stick and the car could roll. Not to mention anyone wanting to steal it would have a pretty good head start
Yes! It makes no sense, admit your lazy, it's harder to come up with these reasons then it is to tell the truth
Had a friend who saw me in the passanger seat of another friend's car. He ran over, smacked the roof and car door, opened the door to smack me on the head while i was turning to see what happened. That showed me how fast a car jacking or parking lot mvrder could happen. I lock the doors and pay attention now.
As a kid, I thought shopping carts would just randomly spawn back to where you get them like it was a video game. As an adult, I never returned them ‘cause the employees always get them, then I worked at Hobby Lobby for seasonal help and now it’s an annoyance when people leave shopping carts.
the cold dead eyes paired with the stock photo smile after she says the most horrendous thing i've ever heard is crazy
A wise tumblerite once said "the wheels spinning, but the hampsters dead"
Don’t forget the Botox lips
I used to work at a grocery store in a wealthy part of Atlanta and I would say 65% of Karen’s and older folks wouldn’t return their carts. Some of the associates on lot duty would call them out and all they would do was complain to the management about getting harassed by the associates. It’s ironic they rather take their time to complain about their wrong doing instead of doing the right thing….
It literally takes a minute to put them back so yea just goes to show that Karen's like doing things the hard way lol
@@austinparmer3259Dont know about where you live, but in Mississippi where it's 101 on my porch today parking lots are huge and rarely have more than 2 return spots. That's walking 10-15 extra minutes on asphalt in 100°+ weather.... yea not me lol
My mom would normally leave me and my sibling(s) in the car to get something or to return the shopping carts, and if we need her we can get out of the car or call her. Come on! Even I return the shopping cart sometimes, the only thing I have to do is avoid cars so I don't get hit and look at my surroundings. THEN, I would run back to the car so we could go home or to our next destination. Atleast have a good excuse "Dr. I fOrGoT hEr NaMe"
Where's that guy that throws magnets on lazy peoples cars? Cover this lady's car in 1,000 magnets.
You mean the cart narcs?
@@ErinChappel yeah them, people would try to fight him but he'd run backwards and throw magnets when they try and drive off.
I love watching the cart narcs videos.
She has lazybonesitis
"My kids are unsafe alone" TAKE THEM WITH YOU???
Or lock the car. Theres at least 5 other solutions here she just doesn't consider
4:30 I have a friend who disappeared for a week, the came back saying he was kidnapped by his mom and grandma and had to jump out of a moving car on his way to Idaho (We live in Ohio). He has a restraining order on his mom’s side of the family, but still, I had never thought about family members kidnapping other family members.
The shopping cart return is the perfect litmus test for whether or not any one person is capable of self-governing.
My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
Only if you don't study actual psychology. The shopping cart theory as with most theories that originate online really don't hold up in real life
@@shadw4701 The original shopping cart theory is obvious hyperbole, as, presumably, is the comment to which you are replying. You would know that if you actually studied language.
"A person who is unable to do this is no better than an animal, an absolute savage who can only be made to do what is right by threatening them with a law and the force that stands behind it."
The original shopping cart theory parodied the trolley problem, which is more a question of ethics than of psychology anyway.
actually canadians have a better test and it costs money it is a coin slot on the handle of the cart that conects to the next cart when they are pout together. so it costs you a coin if you decide not to return it to get your money back. you americans can use this idea and see how many more of you would return your cart just to get your money back.
@@Lickymaballs even better, the test also shows that there are people who give coins to those next in line or ill prepared.
As a single mom of 3, yes this was a worry when taking my carts back, which is why I kept the keys and locked the doors while I did it 🤦🏻♀️
My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
Thank god for key fobs now a days too, can start the car just using the fob to turn the AC or heater on and lock the doors once your kids are in.
I used to work for Costco where I pushed carts for a living. I have seen many horrendous things and since I worked in retail, I always return my cart, no matter what even on days that I don’t feel good if somebody’s walking by, I will ask them to return the cart for me, I have a son and if I bring my son make sure to park near the closest corral I can find to ensure that if I put him in the car and go to return my cart, I can see see him these kinds of people make me realize how entitled our country is And let’s not even talk about the things that I have found in cart that I was pushing trash, baby diapers and so many more just disgusting things
Speaking as a disabled man, I can allow it if you're disabled, like, if you legit CAN'T return it, that's different, and can honestly be helpful if in the diagonal lines next to the handicap parking so people like me can immediately lean on it. But on that note, It often becomes inconvenient TO disabled people to leave them all over the parking lot.
Also the cart returns is closer to the handy cap parking spots
You can allow it?
I just dont care. I'll return or not return as I please. You're not allowing anything lmao
@@TheDsRequiem Don't be stupid enough to not know what "i can allow it " means in this context lol
@@TheDsRequiem
You are either blissfully ignorant or just straight up fishing for hate and attention
@@TheDsRequiemI’ll allow you to have this opinion. Be thankful
Why not just take your kids with you to return the cart? They have legs, not sure if you noticed.
Exactly what I was thinking. I don't understand why she can't think that far.
What if they dont have legs???? 🤨
My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
If she has multiple small children, then this would be difficult.
@@rachelt7589 then don't have so many kids you can't physically care for them. if you're unable to deal with the multiple kids, you chose to have, why does that entitle you to leave a cart and end up damaging other peoples property? why do others have to suffer because your life choices?
3:30 - Reminds of me of the meme that a carjacker took a car, discovered a child and went on to scold the mother for leaving the child in the car
I'm a 15 year old boy with a disability and here's what my mom does. We go to food lion, she Goes in to get the cart for ppl who has disability and has Me lock the door till she gets back. After we done we go out. She put the food In the car and then me. She has me locked the door then she returned it. If someone Tries To break in then I press the horn
Perfect strategy 👍👍
You and your mum sound like a great team!! ❤😇
You guys are great, Much love ❤😊
The only way I will ever not return a shopping cart is if it is just, like, PISS-POURING down rain. Like, hammering. This has happened on a few very rare occasions, and the one day, me and another guy were on the same page, and he goes, "I hate doing this because I feel like a jerk, but I am not taking this back today.", cause the amount of rain coming down was just disgusting. I think that's the only pretty valid reason to ever not return it. As far as this lady is concerned, where in the hell is she shopping where it's taking her 12 minutes to get from her vehicle to the store??? 😂
My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
That's valid. I do the same thing.
Ya that is the only reason I can think of that would cause me to nope out of returning the cart.
Bist du aus Zucker oder was? Weichei
I get that, but then I think about how much that rain reduces visibility, making it more likely someone hits the cart, or winds that come with storms pushing it into a car or causing an accident by someone trying to avoid it, and more often than not figure I'm not going to get any wetter so I might as well.
A 12 minute walk to the nearest cart return? Bro come on. Let's run the numbers. The average human walks 3 mph. A 12 minute walk would be a distance of 0.6 miles, for a 1.2 mile round trip.
In my entire life I don't think it's ever taken me more than 30-45 seconds to return a cart. Who is walking a fucking actual mile to the NEAREST cart return? What retail location even has that much property in LA?
I've never been to California, so I cant say for 100% certainty but, everywhere else I've lived, every single grocery store, or large department store chain has corrals for your shopping carts between about every 10 parking spaces.
12 minute walk my ass, all you have to do is return your shopping cart to the corral so it's not a safety hazard for everyone else. Sure, it sounds like I'm overexaggerating, but carts have wheels, they roll. They can hit cars, they can block off parking spaces. It takes like 30 seconds to push a fucking cart to the corral.
Thank you! I was looking for a comment about this.
i do live in california, near LA of all places and it's the same here. never been in a situation where i can't see a shopping cart corral nearby. also as a woman, i've never questioned my safety when returning a fucking cart lmao.
The only case I can imagine this applying is grocery stores that have parking garages with many floors, even then most have elevators and are a pretty quick walk from the store to your car. I would say 10 minutes at most.
@etchasketch_ I used to be a cart pusher at a target that had a 4 story parking garage across the street and from personal experience, they also had cart corrals between every 10 or so parking spaces
@@ericwollam5532 Oh interesting
Those who do not return their shopping cart are selfish and lazy. If you don't return it, someone else has to. That's usually the cart person who is making minimum wage. You show your character by not returning your cart.
lmao if there are no carts to return that person has no job, how does this not sink in to peoples heads?
@SleepinInsomniac what do you think happens to the carts after they're at the cart return...? They need to be brought back into the store by somebody. You're just making that person's day worse by making them hunt down shopping carts all over the parking lot. They would still have a job without that nuisance
@msjkramey Yes. Obviously some people don't think before they respond. Probably the same person who leaves their cart.
I wouldnt be suprised if this person deliberately parks crooked
Why do Karen's and selfish people look exactly how they act? I just assume anyone who doesn't return their cart has never actually had to work or earn anything in life.
She has no excuse, she'a just lazy.
She can just turn off her car and take her kids with her when returning it.
She's definitely not thinking about safety.
I was thinking that. like even if that was a crime, she could leave the windows down for the children, shut off the car and return the cart LOL
As a ex cart Graber we hate this makes our job way harder when you leave your cart out. Not to mention that carts have mind's of there own and if left unattended bash peoples cars
As someone that used to work in retail and had to push the shopping carts around i can say: everybody is at least decent enough to put them back but once u start pushing 10-20 by hand to the other points where they are at people just dont care and will drive infront of u like idiots. I had so much close calls pushing them as its hard to control where they go and even if u stop they will continue going another few meters because of the chaina connecting them. We were grateful that people return them. Even i have felt lazy before about returning them yet i still do it cuz it can hit a car and you are liable if it does and because why give the poor underpayed retail workers more work😭
I have 4 kids and the super easy solution to this is... wait for it.... PARK NEXT TO THE CART RETURN. WOOOWWW.
Or curbside grocery pick up. Who wants to take their kids to the store!!!!? Not me! They be asking for stupid crap lol.
I don’t even have kids and I’m smarter than this mf
Fax’s
This isn't always possible, depending on where other people have parked. I live in a pretty small town (population of about 65k) with three major grocery stores. Most of the time, the parking lots are incredibly full at each one.
She's still wrong, but this isn't necessarily why.
She clearly knows she's in the wrong, or she wouldn't have felt the overwhelming need to make a video telling everyone how she's totally doing the right thing.
“If you don’t return your shopping cart, you’re a lazy piece of shit” completely agree 🤷♀️
Lazybones* Time to get the Cart Narcs going
"a 12 minute walk"
woman are you parking 500 metres away from the store 💀
She’s scared of the cart return 😭😭😭
@@rabbid_rat7623 Well, to be fair, it might try to knock her over the head and steal her car and her kids.
My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
The average walking speed is 3 mph so an average 12 min walk is more like a kilometer!
when i was still driving, I returned my shopping cart or my riding shopping cart even though worsening chronic illnesses made this an extreme hardship for me. I have no sympathy for people who just don’t want to a then try to make excuses as to why they don’t. Nothing about Leslie’s behavior leads anyone to believe that fear influences her decision not to return shopping carts. She wanted to seem edgy and like she wouldn’t be shamed by societal norms; now she’s on the defensive to try herself look good and to make everyone else look bad for criticizing her.
Why are we even having a shopping cart debate 😭
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Super true, I mean, there's some bigger fishes to fry😭😭😭
Because people are that lazy
because people wanna say their hot take no matter what
Ikr, children are dying in wars
My mom always taught us that returning a shopping cart is important.
I still remember when (I was a teen) I insisted on returning the cart after shopping with a friend and his mom. I was told that I didn't need to return it and once in the car I explained how I was raised to return carts and that only lazy ppl don't return them... seconds later my friend leans over to whisper "my mom never returns the carts". I felt bad for basically calling her lazy without knowing it, but it was too late to worry about it. 😅
This is why shopping carts in the UK have a £1 coin slot on the shopping carts. The US said we were insane for doing it, but if you want your money back, you have to return the cart.
Before my local ASDA installed £1 slots for their trolley, the amount of drivers who left them across pedestrian walkways to the bus stop drove me insane. It was like these drivers were mocking people like me who used public transport.
It was quite a nice bonus when drivers were in such a rush that they left shopping still in their carts. I saw it as compensation for blocking my way.
If she isn't doing anything wrong, she wouldn't feel the need to defend herself.
You can also park close where the carts are if there's space.
OR you can shop with more than 1 adult instead of totally by yourself. Or do curbside. Or do delivery. There are many, many options to get groceries now that are safe and convenient if your kids are too young to be left alone for 20 seconds.
If you are shopping in a place where you feel too unsafe to put the cart away, shop somewhere else.
Of course crimes can happen anywhere, anytime. But she can be responsible to take care of herself and precautions instead of making it everyone else's problem.
Yeah or if the parking is so far away, leave your groceries/cart at customer service or something and drive back to the store to load them.
Not only defend herself, nobody asked her in the first place, but she felt the need to preemptively give excuses on Tiktok.
12 minute walk? A mile to return it? Bullshit.
265 kids in cars that get carjacked out of 350 million residents in the country is a miniscule chance of occurrance.
The statistics in California don't mean anything, most of the crime is going unreported. THE POLICE CANT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT.
Crime has been decriminalized, it's not being reported, charges aren't being filed, and the only way you can live here is to be prepared. People don't get it, it's the worst place in the US, and it's so expensive we can barely afford food so moving is not an option.
I used to work for a grocery store bringing the carts that other people left behind. There is absolutely no reason to at least not bring to a designated spot to store them. Number of times I’ve seen people leave them inside other parking spots is disgusting.
They could park next to a cart return but they dgaf about anyone but themselves.
Used to do lot duty for Target. The sheer laziness of people is really sad.
I’m a tiny female with a disability and I return my cart. I only mention my size because she makes this sound like a safety issue. I have never felt unsafe returning a cart. Even at night. I do have the advantage of having worked in Asset Protection so I know where stores put the cameras. But still. This debate is just stupid. She seems to want attention.
True
I get mad at people for not returning their shopping carts, so annoying.
4:45 It's shocking how many people don't know this. I've heard it over and over again throughout my life. If you feel uncomfortable around a family member, say something. Never go with a person unless your trusted adult says it's okay, even if they're family. Just because you "know" someone, that doesn't mean you can always trust them, and if a child is telling you something bad about a family member, at least try looking into it.
Or a family "friend"
Only the worst of the worst don't return their carts. Going straight to hell!
Bro all you got to do is park as close as you can to the shopping cart return i mean thats what my family is doing
Such a lazy wazy person like my GOD!
She's the type that would put the cart on an incline and let it roll into parked cars
You don't?
That’s what I thought too!! And she stand and watch with an evil smile! 😂
Why is this even a debate? Some people just won't do it, and some people will judge them, but most won't care.
Even IF you're one of the people getting judged for it in some tangible form (like someone says something to you); what will it really do to you?
What's more suspicious is coming up with reasons that you are judged wrongly when it wasn't even that big a deal in the first place. TikTok numbers be damned!
100%. it feels like she made that video to vent about a specific person giving her a dirty look because she didn't return her cart... as if she's saying to all of tiktok what she would want to say to that person... very strange. she went from one person judging her to millions lol
I strongly agree that it’s a clear sign of someone’s underlying morality (or lack thereof) whether or not they return their shopping carts (outside of situations such as maybe the elderly having to walk a crazy distance or in dangerous flood conditions or some crazy sh*t like that)
There are obviously exceptional situations where it would warrant just leaving it against the side of a median or something, but 99% of the time, people are just too lazy and simply don’t give af about the minimum-wage workers who troll parking lots collecting shopping carts for grocery stores. I find it to be highly disgusting behavior, worse than mild littering and maybe even worse than scooting around the side of the road to skip in line during a traffic jam (although that one will never not piss me off-such low-IQ behavior because 99% of the time it doesn’t meaningfully speed up your arrival time to skip a few spots in line and highly antisocial because the morons who partake worsen and prolong traffic jams significantly by further clogging the merging lanes and forcing everyone to slow down and yield) because the latter could be done in ignorance not realizing its negative impact on others or in a moment of frustration or youthful stupidity, but to just leave your shopping cart haphazardly askew taking up some parking spot(s) because you’re too lazy to walk about 10-20 seconds round-trip shows such a wild disregard for the rest of society and lack of respect for low-wage workers.
Narcissism is a helluva drug
I am European and not even at a giant IKEA have I experienced having to do a twelve minute walk to returning the shopping cards.
Genuenly, even at unsafe neighborhoods my parents would have let us in the car or just take us with to take back the shopping cart.(also you are loosing at least 50 cents because we have these put in 50 cents to release and be able to actually use shopping carts and I live where you are happy to find 25cents on the street in the form of a plastic bottle (Germany) so a lil money is something to loose, as it is something to win when some stupid people left a bottle somewhere.)
Oh my god I mentioned IKEA without doing a SCP-3008 reference, who even am I?!
I don't return shopping carts cuz a few years ago I was cursed by a wizard, so now every time I return a cart I get jumped by Elves.
if shes so worried about her kids, she can take them with her to put the damn cart away
wtf is happening this time.. i don’t really have tiktok on my cellular device so idk tf is happening
You're better without Tik Tok, trust me. I have seen what happens to some that get it
@@bobbyslapin8099 being tiktok free is one of the best things you can do on the internet
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My farts are better than August’s farts 💨
@@bobbyslapin8099 exactly
If anywhere in the US is as unsafe as this lady is saying, I'm never visiting the US.
The ONLY thing I can agree with her on is that, as a woman, you should absolutely be making sure the parking lot is safe. But if you automatically assume every parking lot puts you in immediate danger, you need to see a therapist
Move to Europe and never worry about parking lot crime again.
Well yeah. But to be fair I think woman woman are a lot more in danger at other spots. Since it is a parking lot. And lots of people will be there. I guess you can park at night but I don't think she was talking about that. Also, like August said, spending 30 seconds or more in your car IN A PARKING LOT filming a tiktok just shows that the lady isn't actually worried. She's just making up excuses for her laziness.
If you can’t return the shopping cart then don’t take one it’s that simple.
What parking lot is so massive it takes 12 minutes to walk to a cart coral?
This woman is just proudly proclaiming her own selfish inconsideration.
none. no lot whatsoever. not even the largest Walmarts are that massive
If you want to use it, put it back when your done....
Shopping carts? This is a weird thing to argue about 💀
Yea
Right??
It is silly, but it boils down to: are you a thoughtful person or self centered one. 🧐🤨
So does she just never get gas or run back into the house for something she forgot when her kids are in the car?
I also was a cart attendant for a while. It was in a small town at a Walmart but 95 percent of people returned their carts.
You having kids was your own choice, not anyone else’s.
I don't think anyone was debating that lol
I was a shopping cart repairman that did at store repairs and I can't tell you how many customers were lazy, rude, and entitled when it came to leaving carts everywhere and parking their cars in your work area or getting into your personal space when your using powered cutting tools.
I used to push carts in 90-100 degree weather and it didn’t bother me so much when people didn’t return their carts but when they would leave garbage in the cart. Items such as a used diaper, melted ice cream, and entire half eaten bucket of chick fillet chicken. It does suck for other customers who have shopping carts blocking parking spots and the rare case in which we ran out of shopping carts. Idk I put mine away even if it’s 100 degrees out but I don’t really care if other people do or don’t lol.
I guess I don’t understand why you can’t bring your kids with you? I personally just park next to the cart corral. Solves a lot of problems.