How Do I Lead Someone Who Thinks They Are a Victim?

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  • @rossmanngroup
    @rossmanngroup 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    I had to sell insurance a long time ago via these types of often cold leads. It was horrible.
    I actually used to think I was a horrible salesman until I started my own business and recognized that when I am selling people something they want, I'm an amazing salesperson.

    • @ghjong001
      @ghjong001 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Whoah. Hi Louis - I actually wrote to the Ramsey show a couple months ago to try and get you on. Didn't expect anything, but thought it was worth trying.

    • @NeyJ
      @NeyJ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Awesome to know you're a DR watcher too, Louis!

    • @JP-xq7fo
      @JP-xq7fo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      As a former call center insurance sales agent I'm with you there.

    • @rnt45t1
      @rnt45t1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh, hello there! The man, the myth, the legend Louis Rossman showing up in Dave Ramsey's comments!

    • @RealGalaxyGamers
      @RealGalaxyGamers ปีที่แล้ว +1

      In Dave’s book, “EntreLeadership” he lists people actually wanting to buy a product a huge part of the selling steps.

  • @hidaaa0937
    @hidaaa0937 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I really like how Dave treated John this episode. I am happy to see he is finally respecting John

  • @GC-bk1mv
    @GC-bk1mv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    I can't work with people who hold that victim mentality...nope. I always say "it's okay not to be okay, but it's NOT okay to stay there." pick yourself up (ask for help if you need it) and move forward.

    • @cabayern9416
      @cabayern9416 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      They don't want to... They want attention and are rightfighters.

  • @wiseowl2020
    @wiseowl2020 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I work with a "victim" colleague. Her constant need to proclaim her victimhood is a drain on the whole team. We all wish she'd find another job.

  • @brysonmcguire4021
    @brysonmcguire4021 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Appreciated hearing John and Dave share their friendship. Sometimes, they don’t always seem like they like each other

  • @Evil-Rod-Farva
    @Evil-Rod-Farva 3 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    You replace them. People with victim mentalities cannot be led because that involves taking personal accountability. Victims don’t understand that concept.
    You aren’t failing them as a boss. Their parents failed them long before you met them.

    • @krhervey441
      @krhervey441 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Some are not failed by parents but are not willing to put in the hard work but you can't be kind everyoone. Moving forward be firm and clear on what needs to be done. Make sure they understand the company core values and the process.

    • @WolverineIncognito
      @WolverineIncognito 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Not necessarily failed by their parents. I know people who had great parents who have the victim mentality.

    • @krhervey441
      @krhervey441 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@WolverineIncognito The world don't owe nobody nothing you owe yourself. You have to create the life you deserve. Some people hate to see you progress in life cause they think you have a little more than they have and that's sad....point blank

    • @jessitabonita
      @jessitabonita 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      🔥🎯💯
      Spot on!

    • @briancroneberger9243
      @briancroneberger9243 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@WolverineIncognito impossible to know until you've had them as parents

  • @SerErryk
    @SerErryk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    Victims who are catered to will always remain victims.
    The problem with victims is that their lives are too EASY, not too difficult.

    • @fcallum
      @fcallum 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Ransey show_ Highlights- ahahahahaha. Nice try😂

    • @danielsjohnson
      @danielsjohnson 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You're over-generalizing, I think. The victim mindset could come from life being too easy or too hard.

    • @dmz489
      @dmz489 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@danielsjohnson and they both can be self inflicted.

  • @lowermichigan4437
    @lowermichigan4437 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    To be unclear is to be unkind. I need to remember that.

  • @davidmason777
    @davidmason777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    I remember the old heads telling me I can only take the allotted 15 min break but the get a hour every time. We have the same job title. I came back a hour later their face was priceless. I said if you gotta problem go snitch on yourself.

    • @MP-nj1qy
      @MP-nj1qy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      LOMA😂🤣😂😂😂

    • @jacqueline8566
      @jacqueline8566 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      👀👀😂😂

  • @mew9345
    @mew9345 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    As someone who also works in Seattle, this seems accurate 😅

  • @Tammohawk1
    @Tammohawk1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I have adult kids, 29 and 34. They are not whiners or victims. And they also don't think they know everything. They are hard working intelligent individuals who don't fall for anyone's nonsense.

  • @k-mart7475
    @k-mart7475 3 ปีที่แล้ว +106

    I think we all need “Abso--Dag-Gum-Lutely” shirts made.

  • @thatduderal7021
    @thatduderal7021 3 ปีที่แล้ว +132

    “27 year olds know everything”
    Me (a 27 year old): “Duh”

    • @Will-oj3un
      @Will-oj3un 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Same. I knew that already

    • @mitshua
      @mitshua 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I'm 26. Can't wait till I'm smart next year

    • @thatduderal7021
      @thatduderal7021 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@mitshua you’re almost there fam!

    • @adls04
      @adls04 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I got 10 years left until I become smart

    • @nicholeknight1893
      @nicholeknight1893 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lol 😆🤣

  • @rwilbher89
    @rwilbher89 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I met Dave before learning about systemic ra... I was only making $13 an hour, now I’m making $2000-$2500 a week 👀. I put zero excuses and work hard as if I was going broke tomorrow 😂

  • @1967davethewave
    @1967davethewave 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Everyone has had a bad break at some point or another. I know I had a couple when I was 19 and 20. I'm 53 now, financially successful, have a good family and marriage and just a generally great and happy life. If I had lived in the past and lamented about it my entire life then I never would have gone from a little unhappy person to the great life I have today. The victim mentality is either someone living in the past or someone living with a horrible desire to blame everyone but themselves for anything that happens.

  • @tonysoprano6265
    @tonysoprano6265 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    As much as you love someone you should talk to them. If still not getting results cut them loose for their own good

  • @codingiscreativity
    @codingiscreativity 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    People think when they get fire , it's very easy decision for the company, I was struggling to fire one person for weeks.

    • @insideoutsideupsidedown2218
      @insideoutsideupsidedown2218 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Some places, yes. Most could not give a rats behind. If you are looking at working for a company that considers you replaceable, look somewhere else.

    • @perotal
      @perotal 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@insideoutsideupsidedown2218 every one is replaceable though. Even Apple is doing just fine without Steve Jobs

    • @kCI251
      @kCI251 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@insideoutsideupsidedown2218 wrong, everyone is replaceable. Some easier than others. As a worker, I learned that to be valued, I needed to deal expensive and difficult to replace. High productivity, skills that nobody else was willing to learn and being early to work is the key to being irreplaceable.

    • @AdamWatt00
      @AdamWatt00 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why’d they get fired

  • @kslucki
    @kslucki 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "Everything moves in the speed of trust" LOVE this quote 👍🏻

  • @mikeshaw4610
    @mikeshaw4610 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Totally agree, you can different opinions, discuss and still get along. As long as you are not a strong person that does not get upset easy.

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      depends on the issues and everyone's personal stake in the issues.

  • @donwayne1357
    @donwayne1357 3 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    There's no such thing as a happy victim.

    • @kaelaleedaley
      @kaelaleedaley 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Absolutely x

    • @theydontknowmeson007
      @theydontknowmeson007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You've never met anyone that's brainwashed then.

    • @donwayne1357
      @donwayne1357 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@theydontknowmeson007 If they're brainwashed then they can't have a dirty mind. There, I've run rings round you logically.

    • @kaelaleedaley
      @kaelaleedaley 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      There's no true happiness in forced-living. Surely that's obvious x

  • @clarifyingquestions
    @clarifyingquestions 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Not surprised - from Seattle! Knowing the difference between enabling and helping.

  • @flamingodahlia3703
    @flamingodahlia3703 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Fire them and get someone else

  • @EricDaMAJ
    @EricDaMAJ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Never hire a perma victim. There is nobody in the world more entitled and unprincipled than one of them.

    • @cabayern9416
      @cabayern9416 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yes! I work with several victims and these people bring down morale, work less diligently, and complain continually. Makes fr a toxic work environment.

    • @marthacalkins8054
      @marthacalkins8054 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Unfortunately, NOT hiring a “perma victim” (GREAT term!) just convinces them further that the world is out to get them. Still, don’t hire them anyway.

  • @minvesting4410
    @minvesting4410 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Why do you care about what the guy is thinking as long as it does not interfere with the business side of things. If he wont produce because he does not want to do the job then fire him

    • @TheQuaBaylaGrace
      @TheQuaBaylaGrace 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah I’m not sure what’s going on here 😂 if he or she is getting the job done what is issue?

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      methinks it is the caller who is the problem. he doesn't like the leftist on his staff and is gunning for a reason to terminate him based on his political beliefs.

  • @pwade8080
    @pwade8080 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    At work we used to say “Leave the drama for your Mama”.

  • @insideoutsideupsidedown2218
    @insideoutsideupsidedown2218 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    It is somewhat simple. If they steal, threaten someone, are insubordinate or get caught sleeping, the need to go be successful somewhere else. You need to hire a behavior, and you can mostly train a skill.

    • @ominous450
      @ominous450 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Getting fired for sleeping on the job is harsh. Just tell them to go home and get some rest. If it becomes a pattern then you can escalate to HR. I'd be homeless if I was fired ever time I dozed off in a meeting. I once rested my eyes for a good minute on a Zoom call. Had to turn off my cam

    • @jones2277
      @jones2277 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ominous450 expecting to keep a job that you are not performing (because you are sleeping on your employer's dime) is pretty entitled.

  • @Trish.O-q3h
    @Trish.O-q3h 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Fire the person. Period.

  • @clair233
    @clair233 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    " you hired a cat and you're trying to train them to be a dog " 🤣🤣🤣

  • @aprilflowers1993
    @aprilflowers1993 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Selling insurance is BS. Cold calling people and stuff. No one I know wants to buy insurance from a random person.

  • @Hammid
    @Hammid 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    John Delony is the Echo Charles to Dave Ramsey's Jocko Willink.

  • @Love-like-Lucy
    @Love-like-Lucy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Lead them to Dave Ramsey.

  • @karinhansen4281
    @karinhansen4281 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Everything moves at the speed of trust....love that

  • @akiiparks
    @akiiparks 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    He didn't say what the issue was

  • @BlueStreak706
    @BlueStreak706 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Fire them! That’s what I wanted to do at my old job, but this system now protects and encourage bad behavior. So I ended up quitting instead.

  • @TheRamseyShow
    @TheRamseyShow  3 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @j.m0ney133
    @j.m0ney133 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If the person can’t accept ownership of their actions then it will become difficult counsel them.

  • @annjames1837
    @annjames1837 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    "To be unclear is to be unkind"...I am going to borrow that pharse Dave!

  • @domwood481
    @domwood481 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Dave has way different relationship with AO and Dr.D than with the other hosts. The others have to walk on egg shells around Dave.

    • @justinbratton1235
      @justinbratton1235 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      and you can tell that Dr. D does to an extent as well.

    • @Pandorash8
      @Pandorash8 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I honestly think that the only personality who doesn’t have to walk on eggshells, and for this reason I love it when she’s on the show, is Rachel.

    • @domwood481
      @domwood481 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Pandorash8 Well, she doesn’t really count since she’s his daughter. But yes her aswell

  • @erincosta565
    @erincosta565 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Everyone needs to hear this!

  • @WLpeasant
    @WLpeasant 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    7:30 John was not kidding btw

    • @shawneemainservice
      @shawneemainservice 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm surprised more people didn't pickup on that!

  • @matthewjohnson1317
    @matthewjohnson1317 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I don’t do drama.

  • @davidmilhouscarter8198
    @davidmilhouscarter8198 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Vox needs to watch these videos.

  • @jthomps733
    @jthomps733 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Loving the “cat, dog” references 🤣

  • @kenaddoh4693
    @kenaddoh4693 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great discussion!

  • @dominiquealexandria5343
    @dominiquealexandria5343 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was a really good discussion! Thanks

  • @MoonlightXYZ
    @MoonlightXYZ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Of course this is taking place in Seattle.

  • @robertrudisill5777
    @robertrudisill5777 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    If you Even have to ask the question, you know the answer to the problem.

  • @AdamWatt00
    @AdamWatt00 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sounds like politics. I wouldn’t let go of someone cause they don’t agree w me

  • @leereyno
    @leereyno 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Scratch a victim, find a failure.

  • @relaxed69electr
    @relaxed69electr 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I agree with Dave and not with the other gentleman what so ever he's giving a doctors point of view and the guy who called needs help coming from a leadership point of view like Dave has built a huge company

  • @rollingacresfarmstead206
    @rollingacresfarmstead206 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    "it use to be cool to flip the bird to the system,
    now its trendy to be offended and claim your a victim" HOG

  • @TheeRomantic
    @TheeRomantic 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    If someone isn't bring in the money.. it's time to GO 🥾 I'd sit them down talk about the issues and tell him/her they have a month to correct it or they need to start looking for a new career.

  • @jazzyj6640
    @jazzyj6640 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Not sure if he’s talking about systemic racism in this conversation but I just want to say that it is a thing, that’s true but just because you believe it doesn’t make you a victim. It’s just good to be aware of this and actively make a difference. Not ignore it because it’s “not your problem”.
    Now maybe I’ve misunderstood the content of this conversation and if so, please share your thoughts in a respectful way.
    Thank you. 😊

    • @TheQuaBaylaGrace
      @TheQuaBaylaGrace 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I really wish they had asked questions about how the person is performing in the job and what the work environment is like. If they’re disagreeing politically I’m not sure why that’s a reason to contemplate firing someone

    • @malyikaj
      @malyikaj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah I had the same hunch when I was listening to the conversation. I figured it must be bad if the person is contemplating firing this person. The worker must've let that be known continuously for months. It probably wasn't just one conversation. Which means they're probably having political conversations, which isn't a good idea...ever.

  • @BasedRichardNixon
    @BasedRichardNixon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Fire that guy and hire me, I’ll move to Seattle!! Hahahahahaha

  • @NeccoWecco
    @NeccoWecco 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Systemic issues are very real. However, this person shouldn't let it destroy an opportunity that is given to them. I don't feel like we were given any details, so it's hard to judge.

  • @Lilbit2215
    @Lilbit2215 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dave's laugh is so contagious lol

  • @mitshua
    @mitshua 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    'have you sat down and said here are the things that need to change'
    "I have not"
    Start with that maybe. Y'all trying to get someone fired without giving them a chance

  • @evalina98000
    @evalina98000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "playing the victim fiddle"🎻 Yessiree, Uncle Dave, call it like it is 👍🏽

  • @GodnMe
    @GodnMe 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I totally agree!

  • @aaronmccreless110
    @aaronmccreless110 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So....what are the definitions of beliefs verses values?

  • @huckleberryfinn8795
    @huckleberryfinn8795 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im 34 and Im definitely one of the awesome millennials.

  • @hollyb6885
    @hollyb6885 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What’s this got to do with finances?

    • @aglez9266
      @aglez9266 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That person is messing up with the work environment and that affects bussines

    • @lauvasquez7198
      @lauvasquez7198 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Because he is paying this “victim” with money. Personally why did he even bother to call. Just fire the dude.

    • @hollyb6885
      @hollyb6885 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lauvasquez7198 Yeah. Seems like he needs a course in Management rather than calling Dave.

  • @BrezzyBoi33
    @BrezzyBoi33 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Caller sounds more like a victim than the other guy

  • @cammy60467
    @cammy60467 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    It’s so funny as a 22year old listening to y’all say 27 years old is young 😂

  • @sharp52092
    @sharp52092 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That's what some people and political groups are preaching, it's sadly not surprising.

  • @Primitive_Code
    @Primitive_Code 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    how hard was it to say "they play the victim card." Why did you have to compare your viewpoint at 48 years old to a 27 year old? Are you saying 27 year olds are immature deviants? sounds like you are using some of the "isms" that Dave was talking about.

  • @travispierre-louis9359
    @travispierre-louis9359 ปีที่แล้ว

    This sounds like a retaliation lawsuit lol.

  • @brenolad
    @brenolad 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Of course Dave loves capitalism; the whole business model of the Ramsay Show is based off crippling debt.

    • @michaelvan6675
      @michaelvan6675 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What debt have to do with capitalism?

    • @DeBrandit
      @DeBrandit 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@michaelvan6675 I recently learned that some people believe capitalism is the sole reason that college is so expensive. It could be related in some way to that. The idea being there is no choice but to take massive loans to go college to get a decent job.

  • @andread9899
    @andread9899 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Big philosophy here

  • @jjf1058
    @jjf1058 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Some people was born to be a head, others was born to be a neck. Sometimes I think Davis get call from kindergarten to solve kids problems.

  • @rebeccaoprea9917
    @rebeccaoprea9917 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You’re either a victim or a victor .

  • @azteca6695
    @azteca6695 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Didn't Dave pull out a gun during a staff meeting?

    • @Tim-57
      @Tim-57 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      😯 Really!?

  • @alexgg7499
    @alexgg7499 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    To me is called snowflakes

  • @hustlasstory7611
    @hustlasstory7611 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Best mutual funds to invest 100k???

  • @johnmirbach2338
    @johnmirbach2338 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    😎👌👍🖖✌😁

  • @connorpolrens6501
    @connorpolrens6501 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Black.

    • @Joseph-ub5wh
      @Joseph-ub5wh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      False many Karen's also have a victim mentality

    • @TheQuaBaylaGrace
      @TheQuaBaylaGrace 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Why did you think this was relevant and necessary to say? Does it really matter?