Aww 21 can be a vulnerable age if you grew up feeling undermined by your parents. I’m 30 and trust me when I say that real confidence and feeling comfortable in your skin comes more from cultivating peace, your passions and really being involved in your personal goals. Still know people my age or older who have the money, the partner, babies and everything on the ‘list’ but are somehow still dissatisfied and poor at self-regulating. I’d rather just be me with my modest achievements but feeling so rooted and centred most of the time as a result of spending enough time alone, being self reflective and genuinely taking care of myself.
Hey, this just popped up on my recommended and I wanted to share my thoughts. I’m 22 and although I’m a guy, I can totally relate to your experience. Growing up, I was bullied relentlessly throughout elementary, middle and high school about my looks and how ugly I was and also had to deal with their racism because I’m Indian. I also had to deal with my parents putting a lot of pressure on me to perform well academically. They constantly compared me to other Indian kids and told me that Indians were expected to do well in school and that me getting a B in a subject was shameful. I graduated and focused on improving my looks by going to the gym, and even though people all around me tell me that I’m very handsome now, I just don’t believe them. What helps me is to do things that you love to do. Reward yourself with whatever you want. I also found that physically distancing yourself from your old life also helped me a lot as well. When I went to college, I went as far away from my hometown as I could, so I could start new, and it actually made a huge difference in terms of boosting my self esteem. Now, I take one road trip every month to different places so I can put physical distance between all of the problems I face at home and I can just enjoy the trip and self reflect on life without the problems from my life back home lingering. When I come back, I feel refreshed and more confident to tackle the problems. And lastly, I would never ever recommend to date anyone that constantly criticises you and cannot appreciate you for who you are. At the end of the day, you are your own best friend! Keep going to therapy, and I’m very proud of you for sharing your story with us. P.S. I think you’re really cute just the way you are (:
Hey thanks for sharing this. There are alot of people out there going through the same kind of shit. Non-postive parents does cause the insecurity. If you are sharing on a video like this, that shows the drive you have to become stronger no matter what it takes. The past is theirs, the future is yours.
No, it doesnt. Im 30 with three kids and am on youtube to distract myself from having a mental fucking breakdown right now. Work second shift, including most weekends. And i used to be fat, so my body has some loose skin and I'll never look good naked. Dont fucking lie to her. Life gets worse. Much worse. Especially for a woman.
Ive been like diving into the concept of female Insecurity. (Because to me I had no Idea where it could even come from) and your video is super helping me understand a few things. 1. Being pretty doesnt translate to confidence 2. That Everyone has a different bar. For instance some women think "Oh im ugly because They dont have men approaching them" where your bar is "Ive never been flown to a yacht" Both bars are Arbitrary. I think it might be like a relfection of how w feel about ourselves . So like subconciouisly you set your bar so high BECAUSE you want to not be able to reach it BECAUSE you feel like youre not good enough, BECAUSE your dad said you cant go to stanford. And then you use comments like "youre no livy dunn" to reinforce those ideas subconciously of course. Like Im sure that guy said a lot of bout how pretty you are too but the livy dunn comment stuck out to you because it fits so perfectly with the theme of "if you were just a little bit better" And 3 I think Im learning or rather reinforcing the idea in my head that women dont have it all, and are not these perfect beings with no problems to cast judgement on us as men. (Which is an idea that is so pervasive in male circles that its almost an unspoken given) Its not just you being vulnerable but how youre being honestly vulnerable that I appreciate . I think Im going to go be nicer to people after seeing this video
I find your honesty so refreshing. All of us are insecure at one point or another. Even the girls that you think are perfect. (Fuck men) Thoughts: 1. I’m so glad you’re in therapy and keep showing up for yourself 2. Remember you are the prize. I still can’t believe guys have the audacity to comment on our bodies. I am glad you ended those relationships. It doesn’t have to be that way. Period. 3. Being pretty doesn’t have to be in contrast with another person. You’re gorgeous. Period. 4. Keep doing the work and in the years to come I am wishing you unshakable confidence in yourself and how you show up in the world. Xoxo
Thank you so much for posting this! I feel the exact same way and it's so exhausting and dissapointing. Also very hard to admit to people so, well done!
I felt compelled to share a few thoughts on this raw and honest video. What makes you beautiful imo is that your facial features are really well-balanced and your eyes light up when you smile. You radiate good energy and sensitivity, but unfortunately it seems as if you internalized the excessive criticism from your father during the formative years. I think you should hold out on dating for a little bit to improve your relationship yourself first because the guys that your encounter can sense low self-esteem from a mile away and some psychologically damaged individuals will purposefully engage in toxic dynamics that will reinforce all the negative beliefs about yourself that have been instilled since childhood. I applaud you for going to therapy and having the insights that you’ve accumulated at this stage of your life is impressive and I believe it will improve your quality of life for the remainder of your journey. In terms of improving the relationship with oneself I have a few tips that have helped me: Find a form of exercise that focuses on improving your mind to body connection, like Pilates or calisthenics. It has helped me better understand how my body functions, improves coordination & mobility, stability, muscle strength and facilitates better brain focus. Losing weight should not be the objective, instead building and maintaining a strong and resilient temple to live in comfortably should be paramount. Implementing selfcare routines like gua sha or lymphatic massages, facial cupping and acupressure mats are a nice way to practice self love and can help regulate the nervous system as well as remove toxins and tension from the tissue. Your time on this planet is your most valuable currency, don’t spend it on people and situations that are not conducive to your overall mental & physical wellbeing.
Good on you for giving her some tangible, actionable advice instead of just blaming a potential biological imbalance on her not giving herself to "Jesus" and his blood.
It’s difficult for us at this age. What helped me was stop comparing myself to other women, especially on the internet. You are beautiful and one day you will realize it. You’re just telling yourself you’re not enough. Work on your mental health and start telling yourself more positive things. It feels weird at first because you don’t believe in but over time it really does get better.
Hi Juliette, I don't know why this video popped up for me, but I have very similar thoughts as an almost-44-year-old woman. Like you, I grew up with an overly critical parent (to say the least) and suffered severe emotional abuse. So I've always tended to have that "lower-than-average" self-esteem, and very long, persistent bouts of depression. I have the same thought that "I thought I'd accept myself by the time I was this age!" With my life experience, I can tell you that self-esteem actually comes and goes. It raises and lowers depending on many factors, both internal and external. Everybody says you should be a person with high self-esteem and then you feel even worse for having low self-esteem. Actually self-esteem is just a variable that goes up and down that shouldn't define who you are. It's not some static personality trait that just goes along with you, even though it seems like it sometimes. In my life I've had some confident and happy years, and sometimes it just goes back the other way. The effects of aging on my appearance have freaked me out so much more than I ever expected. I just have to get used to myself all over again, the way an adolescent does. Hang in there and remember that in some other season of life, your bad thoughts about yourself can recede into the background while confidence comes to the fore. The most important thing you can do is to stay away from toxic people. When looking for friends or romantic partners, be sure to consciously be on the lookout for people who NEVER put you down, either openly or in a subtle way. If you feel it, it counts. Get rid of someone the FIRST TIME they put you down, even if you're afraid it's just in your head. Don't even wait for a second time. That includes your parents!
you accept the love you deserve, thats why you dont agree when others compliment you. i feel like you've been living up until now only to satisfy others not yourself, and everyone knows you cant satisfy everyone on this planet at once because everyone has different preferences, thats why you should start looking towards how you want yourself to be. of course its normal and okay to want others validation but like you said youre not gonna believe whatever theyre saying before loving yourself, so become what you aspire to be if it were just you on this world
I won't go into how you're SO NOT unnattractive 'cause you wouldn't believe me anyway. However, I do think that dating should be way down on the priority list for the time being. You won't be able to properly love another until you love yourself. The only turn-off I detect is the self-deprication. Guys like confidence just as girls do. As for your Mom & dad, I'd never tell someone to disrespect their parents, but they're wrong. The good news is that you can transform your dad's hurtful words into motivation and tap into a passionate determination you didn't know you had. Everything you do should be 1st and foremost FOR YOU. When you're finally ready to try dating again, take it very slow. Assess the guy's character so that you know if you're dating someone who is looking for a life partner who he RESPECTS as well as loves, or a guy who's just trolling for arm candy. I truly hope everything works out for you. Just remember that only YOU can write your life story, and things aren't always as bad as they seem.
It’s your life, your body, your mind. We all work with what we got. And sometimes we get people putting poor ideas in our head. Or ridiculous standards that we feel forced to meet as women. But we don’t have to meet those standards, that doesn’t have to be our source of happiness. I’ve felt for a long time that if I wasn’t pretty then I wasn’t going to make it in society, and to some degree that is the hierarchy we are forced to climb as women. The real solution is finding people that value higher things. This means having curiosity. What do you love in life that has nothing to do with looks? What topics bring passion forth? I really do feel life is about exploration. Finding people that support what’s real and honest about life is so important. And as long as we have that, looks become secondary. You are not ugly or underwhelming in any aspect. You are blessed with good looks and seem extremely bright. But that isn’t everything. You don’t have to be a model or a genius to carve your place out in this world. There is much more to experience then being perceived in the way you want. I say this as someone who has been told I could be a model and don’t feel that way at all. But letting go of trying to be someone else really helps. I’m happy you deleted insta, I think I should as well.
as a guy i was told i look good only recently when i put in effort on myself, but i know i look good but i always feel inferior its so bad that my inner self said that im at most a 5
I was watching a video of someone witnessing and I stumbled across this video..this may not be what you want to hear but it is what you need. I struggled with some of the same things you listed.low self esteem,putting myself down,changing for other people but I promise you Juliette when you find and follow Jesus you don’t need to be someone your not. God made you the way you are for a reason. That doesn’t mean wanting to improve yourself by going to the gym is wrong. But with God my depression went away, I felt better about my self, and I felt like I am who I am supposed to be! And if you are not saved by the blood of Jesus Christ I encourage you to change that it is never too late until you take your last breath on this planet but do you know where you will take your next breath?
aw honeyyy. Most women dont see their own beauty until 30 or 40. Having critical parents is truly a recipe for disaster. I'm sorry you are in a toxic environment. People like that feel like a failure so they want you to feel as bad as they do. The prettier you are, the worse people treat you. The secret sauce is confidence so keep doing stuff youre proud of to build self respect and it will build self esteem. You can hustle a wealthy old man any moment you want. xoxo sending you confidence vibesssss
I can assure you, as an adult, particularly around looks, insecurities dont go away. Being an adult is akin to playing a character, you pretend to yourself and others that you're just fine and ok. But behind the masks and facades that adult themselves and others with is still the same insecure teen.
@@lovvejuliette that's like waging war for peace, or thinking you'll finally be "pretty" after one more surgery. You have to accept yourself first, then make changes if you feel like it, not because you feel you _need_ to.
Parents belittling you for no reason: they want your praises and approval. I have never actually figure it out until I was adult. My dad wanted praises from me. I didn't give him, because he never gave me any. I was actually straight-A's kid. He always looked disappointed, when he couldn't scold me for a bad grade. So he always had to find something else. And he also never told me, what he actually wants from me. I don't think he knew. Eventually, I learned how to get minimum criticism and punishment. But I was very nice to everybody else, so other people would disagree with him, when he would criticize me in front of them. To be fair, I don't consider my childhood bad in any measure. It simply taught me, how to deal with such people
I had a couple more thoughts to share. A few years ago I read Rose McGowan's autobiography and I remember a story she told of attending a high school where all the kids in the whole school thought she was the ugliest girl. It was unanimous. Then she transferred to a different high school and all of the kids at the new school thought she was the most gorgeous girl in school, and it was also unanimous. She says she learned right then and there, and for all time, that people's opinions of her were *absolutely* worthless. Some people can't accept that looks are subjective and will insist that there are objective criteria and will even point to things like the number of people who agree on this or that. It's just untrue. That's how goddamn ridiculously unreliable and arbitrary human perceptions, opinions, and behavior are. I also wanted to point out that it's not at all uncommon for women whom the world holds up as objectively THE most beautiful, the supermodels and A-list actresses, to have some skanky boyfriend in their life who calls them fat and ugly. It happens all the time. I also wanted to say that ending up in a relationship with someone whose behavior is trashy and abusive doesn't make you stupid or bad. That person is helpfully providing you with the information that they are a bad person and that it would therefore be unwise to invest in them with time, emotions, or trust. They are not "drawn" to you because you're damaged goods, they are "drawn" to anyone at all who will put up with their unpleasantness.
Why you want to be like them ? ( on their imposed beauty standards) be better than the sheep (society), i had those feelings too but i dont care anymore.
I hope you learn to not listen to what your dad says, internally, anymore But also if you bank your self worth off how pretty you look, then your happiness is literally outside your control. Soooo why would you want to live like that lmao
Aww 21 can be a vulnerable age if you grew up feeling undermined by your parents. I’m 30 and trust me when I say that real confidence and feeling comfortable in your skin comes more from cultivating peace, your passions and really being involved in your personal goals. Still know people my age or older who have the money, the partner, babies and everything on the ‘list’ but are somehow still dissatisfied and poor at self-regulating. I’d rather just be me with my modest achievements but feeling so rooted and centred most of the time as a result of spending enough time alone, being self reflective and genuinely taking care of myself.
Hey, this just popped up on my recommended and I wanted to share my thoughts.
I’m 22 and although I’m a guy, I can totally relate to your experience. Growing up, I was bullied relentlessly throughout elementary, middle and high school about my looks and how ugly I was and also had to deal with their racism because I’m Indian. I also had to deal with my parents putting a lot of pressure on me to perform well academically.
They constantly compared me to other Indian kids and told me that Indians were expected to do well in school and that me getting a B in a subject was shameful.
I graduated and focused on improving my looks by going to the gym, and even though people all around me tell me that I’m very handsome now, I just don’t believe them.
What helps me is to do things that you love to do. Reward yourself with whatever you want. I also found that physically distancing yourself from your old life also helped me a lot as well.
When I went to college, I went as far away from my hometown as I could, so I could start new, and it actually made a huge difference in terms of boosting my self esteem.
Now, I take one road trip every month to different places so I can put physical distance between all of the problems I face at home and I can just enjoy the trip and self reflect on life without the problems from my life back home lingering. When I come back, I feel refreshed and more confident to tackle the problems.
And lastly, I would never ever recommend to date anyone that constantly criticises you and cannot appreciate you for who you are.
At the end of the day, you are your own best friend! Keep going to therapy, and I’m very proud of you for sharing your story with us.
P.S. I think you’re really cute just the way you are (:
This is a really helpful comment thank you for sharing !!
@@doggoau3195 🫶🫶🫶
Hey thanks for sharing this. There are alot of people out there going through the same kind of shit. Non-postive parents does cause the insecurity. If you are sharing on a video like this, that shows the drive you have to become stronger no matter what it takes. The past is theirs, the future is yours.
Yes ! Love this attitude
Don’t be so hard on yourself. 20’s is a tough age. Life really gets better.
No, it doesnt. Im 30 with three kids and am on youtube to distract myself from having a mental fucking breakdown right now. Work second shift, including most weekends. And i used to be fat, so my body has some loose skin and I'll never look good naked.
Dont fucking lie to her. Life gets worse. Much worse. Especially for a woman.
Ive been like diving into the concept of female Insecurity. (Because to me I had no Idea where it could even come from) and your video is super helping me understand a few things. 1. Being pretty doesnt translate to confidence 2. That Everyone has a different bar. For instance some women think "Oh im ugly because They dont have men approaching them" where your bar is "Ive never been flown to a yacht" Both bars are Arbitrary. I think it might be like a relfection of how w feel about ourselves . So like subconciouisly you set your bar so high BECAUSE you want to not be able to reach it BECAUSE you feel like youre not good enough, BECAUSE your dad said you cant go to stanford. And then you use comments like "youre no livy dunn" to reinforce those ideas subconciously of course. Like Im sure that guy said a lot of bout how pretty you are too but the livy dunn comment stuck out to you because it fits so perfectly with the theme of "if you were just a little bit better"
And 3 I think Im learning or rather reinforcing the idea in my head that women dont have it all, and are not these perfect beings with no problems to cast judgement on us as men. (Which is an idea that is so pervasive in male circles that its almost an unspoken given) Its not just you being vulnerable but how youre being honestly vulnerable that I appreciate . I think Im going to go be nicer to people after seeing this video
Wow what a good way to put it. Good on you
I find your honesty so refreshing. All of us are insecure at one point or another. Even the girls that you think are perfect. (Fuck men)
Thoughts:
1. I’m so glad you’re in therapy and keep showing up for yourself
2. Remember you are the prize. I still can’t believe guys have the audacity to comment on our bodies. I am glad you ended those relationships. It doesn’t have to be that way. Period.
3. Being pretty doesn’t have to be in contrast with another person. You’re gorgeous. Period.
4. Keep doing the work and in the years to come I am wishing you unshakable confidence in yourself and how you show up in the world. Xoxo
@@skyebryant7001❤❤❤
Yes 🙌
Thank you so much for posting this! I feel the exact same way and it's so exhausting and dissapointing. Also very hard to admit to people so, well done!
I'm glad I'm not alone :)
I felt compelled to share a few thoughts on this raw and honest video.
What makes you beautiful imo is that your facial features are really well-balanced and your eyes light up when you smile. You radiate good energy and sensitivity, but unfortunately it seems as if you internalized the excessive criticism from your father during the formative years.
I think you should hold out on dating for a little bit to improve your relationship yourself first because the guys that your encounter can sense low self-esteem from a mile away and some psychologically damaged individuals will purposefully engage in toxic dynamics that will reinforce all the negative beliefs about yourself that have been instilled since childhood.
I applaud you for going to therapy and having the insights that you’ve accumulated at this stage of your life is impressive and I believe it will improve your quality of life for the remainder of your journey.
In terms of improving the relationship with oneself I have a few tips that have helped me:
Find a form of exercise that focuses on improving your mind to body connection, like Pilates or calisthenics. It has helped me better understand how my body functions, improves coordination & mobility, stability, muscle strength and facilitates better brain focus. Losing weight should not be the objective, instead building and maintaining a strong and resilient temple to live in comfortably should be paramount.
Implementing selfcare routines like gua sha or lymphatic massages, facial cupping and acupressure mats are a nice way to practice self love and can help regulate the nervous system as well as remove toxins and tension from the tissue.
Your time on this planet is your most valuable currency, don’t spend it on people and situations that are not conducive to your overall mental & physical wellbeing.
Good on you for giving her some tangible, actionable advice instead of just blaming a potential biological imbalance on her not giving herself to "Jesus" and his blood.
@@beeepbooop777HAHA
It’s difficult for us at this age. What helped me was stop comparing myself to other women, especially on the internet. You are beautiful and one day you will realize it. You’re just telling yourself you’re not enough. Work on your mental health and start telling yourself more positive things. It feels weird at first because you don’t believe in but over time it really does get better.
@@sierrabarrett6348 🩷🩷🩷
Hi Juliette, I don't know why this video popped up for me, but I have very similar thoughts as an almost-44-year-old woman. Like you, I grew up with an overly critical parent (to say the least) and suffered severe emotional abuse. So I've always tended to have that "lower-than-average" self-esteem, and very long, persistent bouts of depression. I have the same thought that "I thought I'd accept myself by the time I was this age!"
With my life experience, I can tell you that self-esteem actually comes and goes. It raises and lowers depending on many factors, both internal and external. Everybody says you should be a person with high self-esteem and then you feel even worse for having low self-esteem. Actually self-esteem is just a variable that goes up and down that shouldn't define who you are. It's not some static personality trait that just goes along with you, even though it seems like it sometimes. In my life I've had some confident and happy years, and sometimes it just goes back the other way. The effects of aging on my appearance have freaked me out so much more than I ever expected. I just have to get used to myself all over again, the way an adolescent does.
Hang in there and remember that in some other season of life, your bad thoughts about yourself can recede into the background while confidence comes to the fore. The most important thing you can do is to stay away from toxic people. When looking for friends or romantic partners, be sure to consciously be on the lookout for people who NEVER put you down, either openly or in a subtle way. If you feel it, it counts. Get rid of someone the FIRST TIME they put you down, even if you're afraid it's just in your head. Don't even wait for a second time. That includes your parents!
@@freedombug11 thank you for this !
@@lovvejuliette You are very welcome! I wish you all the best.
you accept the love you deserve, thats why you dont agree when others compliment you. i feel like you've been living up until now only to satisfy others not yourself, and everyone knows you cant satisfy everyone on this planet at once because everyone has different preferences, thats why you should start looking towards how you want yourself to be. of course its normal and okay to want others validation but like you said youre not gonna believe whatever theyre saying before loving yourself, so become what you aspire to be if it were just you on this world
I won't go into how you're SO NOT unnattractive 'cause you wouldn't believe me anyway. However, I do think that dating should be way down on the priority list for the time being. You won't be able to properly love another until you love yourself. The only turn-off I detect is the self-deprication. Guys like confidence just as girls do. As for your Mom & dad, I'd never tell someone to disrespect their parents, but they're wrong. The good news is that you can transform your dad's hurtful words into motivation and tap into a passionate determination you didn't know you had. Everything you do should be 1st and foremost FOR YOU. When you're finally ready to try dating again, take it very slow. Assess the guy's character so that you know if you're dating someone who is looking for a life partner who he RESPECTS as well as loves, or a guy who's just trolling for arm candy. I truly hope everything works out for you. Just remember that only YOU can write your life story, and things aren't always as bad as they seem.
100%
This is exactly my video 📹♡I had this too. This exact problems 😮😅
It’s your life, your body, your mind. We all work with what we got. And sometimes we get people putting poor ideas in our head. Or ridiculous standards that we feel forced to meet as women. But we don’t have to meet those standards, that doesn’t have to be our source of happiness. I’ve felt for a long time that if I wasn’t pretty then I wasn’t going to make it in society, and to some degree that is the hierarchy we are forced to climb as women. The real solution is finding people that value higher things. This means having curiosity. What do you love in life that has nothing to do with looks? What topics bring passion forth? I really do feel life is about exploration. Finding people that support what’s real and honest about life is so important. And as long as we have that, looks become secondary. You are not ugly or underwhelming in any aspect. You are blessed with good looks and seem extremely bright. But that isn’t everything. You don’t have to be a model or a genius to carve your place out in this world. There is much more to experience then being perceived in the way you want. I say this as someone who has been told I could be a model and don’t feel that way at all. But letting go of trying to be someone else really helps. I’m happy you deleted insta, I think I should as well.
@@madisonworley931 🫶🫶🫶
as a guy i was told i look good only recently when i put in effort on myself, but i know i look good but i always feel inferior its so bad that my inner self said that im at most a 5
You’re not alone
😂 this title is epic
I was watching a video of someone witnessing and I stumbled across this video..this may not be what you want to hear but it is what you need. I struggled with some of the same things you listed.low self esteem,putting myself down,changing for other people but I promise you Juliette when you find and follow Jesus you don’t need to be someone your not. God made you the way you are for a reason. That doesn’t mean wanting to improve yourself by going to the gym is wrong. But with God my depression went away, I felt better about my self, and I felt like I am who I am supposed to be! And if you are not saved by the blood of Jesus Christ I encourage you to change that it is never too late until you take your last breath on this planet but do you know where you will take your next breath?
For fucks sake, preying on a vulnerable young girl. It really is a cult.
aw honeyyy. Most women dont see their own beauty until 30 or 40. Having critical parents is truly a recipe for disaster. I'm sorry you are in a toxic environment. People like that feel like a failure so they want you to feel as bad as they do. The prettier you are, the worse people treat you. The secret sauce is confidence so keep doing stuff youre proud of to build self respect and it will build self esteem. You can hustle a wealthy old man any moment you want. xoxo sending you confidence vibesssss
I can assure you, as an adult, particularly around looks, insecurities dont go away. Being an adult is akin to playing a character, you pretend to yourself and others that you're just fine and ok. But behind the masks and facades that adult themselves and others with is still the same insecure teen.
Me too :(
“change things about myself to better accept myself” that’s the literal opposite of accepting yourself
@@user-ee1fn4vt8b right , I’m saying that maybe I can accept a better and different version of myself
@@lovvejuliette that's like waging war for peace, or thinking you'll finally be "pretty" after one more surgery. You have to accept yourself first, then make changes if you feel like it, not because you feel you _need_ to.
@@user-ee1fn4vt8b true
I'm with you
@@monkeymaster6489 🫶🫶🫶
I think you are a cool person Juliette!
thank you :)
Parents belittling you for no reason: they want your praises and approval. I have never actually figure it out until I was adult. My dad wanted praises from me. I didn't give him, because he never gave me any. I was actually straight-A's kid. He always looked disappointed, when he couldn't scold me for a bad grade. So he always had to find something else. And he also never told me, what he actually wants from me. I don't think he knew. Eventually, I learned how to get minimum criticism and punishment. But I was very nice to everybody else, so other people would disagree with him, when he would criticize me in front of them. To be fair, I don't consider my childhood bad in any measure. It simply taught me, how to deal with such people
I've never thought of that before
I had a couple more thoughts to share. A few years ago I read Rose McGowan's autobiography and I remember a story she told of attending a high school where all the kids in the whole school thought she was the ugliest girl. It was unanimous. Then she transferred to a different high school and all of the kids at the new school thought she was the most gorgeous girl in school, and it was also unanimous. She says she learned right then and there, and for all time, that people's opinions of her were *absolutely* worthless. Some people can't accept that looks are subjective and will insist that there are objective criteria and will even point to things like the number of people who agree on this or that. It's just untrue. That's how goddamn ridiculously unreliable and arbitrary human perceptions, opinions, and behavior are.
I also wanted to point out that it's not at all uncommon for women whom the world holds up as objectively THE most beautiful, the supermodels and A-list actresses, to have some skanky boyfriend in their life who calls them fat and ugly. It happens all the time.
I also wanted to say that ending up in a relationship with someone whose behavior is trashy and abusive doesn't make you stupid or bad. That person is helpfully providing you with the information that they are a bad person and that it would therefore be unwise to invest in them with time, emotions, or trust. They are not "drawn" to you because you're damaged goods, they are "drawn" to anyone at all who will put up with their unpleasantness.
I've never heard of her before might have to check her out !
You remind me of Riley Keough!
@@amiwhite5514 she’s gorgeous so thank you !
Why you want to be like them ? ( on their imposed beauty standards) be better than the sheep (society), i had those feelings too but i dont care anymore.
Isn't that not what other 90% of girls your age think? I heard the same from my two exes. They were pretty but lacking confidence
Maybe , but even so we don’t all experience it in the same way
First world problems.
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@@gellertcsont-kelemen825 sziaaa mizu
@@lovvejuliette Gondoltam köszönök. Sok sikert a videózásban!
@@gellertcsont-kelemen825 nagyon szépen köszönöm !
I hope you learn to not listen to what your dad says, internally, anymore
But also if you bank your self worth off how pretty you look, then your happiness is literally outside your control. Soooo why would you want to live like that lmao
@@lemonke8132 I’m trying not to , hence why I wanted to communicate these thoughts, step one of growth is self awareness and identifying the issue
uP a head re cross why.
I see why you’d say that.
they lied to you