I checked out this site and found a book that really resonated with me. It's been such a great read so far thank you for the recommendation! I'm hoping it helps me gain more confidence around women.
"get yourself a girl that actually wants to hang out with you, because if a girl wants to hang out with you, she will hang out with you" -- Courtney Ryan, 2021
I've heard this called the Brad Pitt rule. If she makes up an excuse to not do something, ask yourself if she would use this excuse with Brad Pitt. Would she ditch her friends for Brad Pitt, yes, and she doesn't like you. Would she ditch Brad to go to grandma's funeral, yes, and she may still be into you.
5 things : 1) she texts or calls you first 2) making plans and follows through with you. She really enjoys your company. 3) she asks you questions 4) she really likes your outfit and gives you a compliment 5) she remembers things you said (aka excellent memory).
The most important thing I have learned over the years: The dating/texting stage is not supposed to be complicated (if you're pursuing a relationship). If you have to think about playing games, or not texting back immediately... it's probably not going to work out anyways.
Spot-on Courtney. The biggest thing for me is this: If I ask a girl to hang out, and I get a response that's "Uh, well, I dunno, I'm not sure, I'm really busy, etc"... then I don't pursue it because she isn't interested. If she is, I'll get a response along the lines of "Yes, that would fun! It would be great to hang out!", then I know there's something there. Also... it's been my experience that if a girl is interested in a guy, then it doesn't matter how busy she is, or how busy she SAYS she is... if she likes him, she WILL find the time to be around him.
i know right. God forbid the guy be genuine and nervous because he likes her that much. Then again what do i know. Im just the nice guy who finishes last.
Videos like this are actually very helpful because as guys, we often decide not to flirt with girls that we like so that we don't come off as creepy or presumptuous. It helps so much when girls put aside the games and just flirt back.
What a clear, sincere, helpful summary. Thanks Courtney. Your earnestness comes through which is really appreciated because there are just too many people trying to lure 'suckers' in with unrealistic promises and insincere advice! In addition, you are attractive in an earthy way without all the razzle-dazzle which makes your podcast all the more appealing. Thanks again.
The 5 signs: She lets you take out the Garbage She allows you to pay here phone bill She tolerates you paying for ALL her gas She provides you the opportunity to pay the FULL rent She gives the opportunity that when here male friends want to do sleepovers for you to sleep in a tent in the backyard She does this all for you, and only when she truely likes you.
5 signs that Cortney is a GOOD TH-camr: 1. She constantly replies to your comments 2. She keeps making plans to constantly upload quality content 3. She asks you questions like what do you like to see, what type of content you want etc 4. She gives you compliments in the comment section 5. She remembers everything we say :)
Great comment and spot on. I haven’t commented much but have seen everything you pointed out. Courtney is definitely good at this. Teddy’s got a good woman.
As an older man, I know most of the things that you share. Your emotional intelligence is inspiring, and I find your voice very soothing. Thanks for posting.
This is true, it’s way too much work and seems counterintuitive. It almost seems like men have to put in all the work just to go on a date, and your not even guaranteed a lay.
I had all of these 5 signs appear in a girl I was talking to. We were best friends and talked every day for over a year on top of having obvious chemistry. She said she wasn't ready for a relationship but it felt like we were basically in one and it would happen eventually. Then i went back home for summer break and was gone for a month before I got the "life update" text. Within that one month she met some guy who "gave me the strength to take the leap of faith." I'm sure most of the time you're right, but boy did I fall hard on my face when she yanked the rug out from under my feet.
Basically you've been her emotional/attention provider for nothing in return and as soon as chad walked in you got left behind. That's how it works with women🤷 there's no such thing as being girl and boy best friends. There always will be sexual tension from one part or both. But if the relation doesn't or can't evolve quickly in something more, just the girl benefits from it. She gets the company, the fun, the help. And you, what you get in return? Just thinking about her naked everyday and get dumped when she needs to start thinking about her life. Friendships for women are just a benefit, they don't have the problem like us to find someone else to entertain with. They can get free attention everyday with zero effort. You are repleaceable, when she decides so. You should never commit all this time to a woman without nothing in return. Hope you got to learn the lesson.
That's why you can't have opposite sex friends most of the time. Girls and guys can't be friends. Coworkers, colleagues - maybe. But ultimately what happens in a friendship is 1 party develops interest and the other doesn't. And then you are left feeling exactly like how you describe. Better make your intentions obvious from the start, and if there is no immediate mutual attraction then just move on. Don't waste your time
Great video and I love your content. If I must add one thing, talking about herself is a different situation if she's sharing intimate/deep/personal things with you. That means she trusts you and she's opening up to you so that you can understand where she's coming from which will help you two connect on a much deeper level. In that case, it means that she either really likes you or at least she sees you as someone special.
Courtney you made it PLAIN even to those"slow-on-the-uptake"with:"I'm only hanging-out WITH you,if I LIKE you and ENJOY your company." Simple, logical,direct and TRUE. The opposite is true as well:"I'm only making excuses for not sharing lunch,together and AVOIDING you,because I DON'T like you and I DESPISE your vapid,vacuous conversation and overall company."
I was lucky enough in my life to have that experience of falling in love so deep it was like being in a fairy tale. It lasted 17 yrs. I hope everyone in their life here experiences it. There is nothing else in life that will compare to it.
The last time I had a girlfriend, there wasn't any such thing as "texting" yet. We had "pagers", and my ex-girlfriend would never respond to my pages. And that's why she's an "ex".
We boys overanalyse things. I was in love with a girl in my class. After I’ve finished school I wrote to her at Snapchat but she friend zoned me brutally. So don’t believe the signs I don’t wanna be negative. My one tip for you is make your move and if it’s a no you can always move on. If you never ask you will never find out and that feeling is way worse than the feeling of being rejected trust me. Good luck everyone I believe in you!
i rather live with my parents and develop good work skills and avoid the noise of society today, doing without a woman does put lonliness on me at times but my strength is when my family got my back in my own personal growth, it does not matter if you remain single or not, what matters is you made the choices you support and your family supports, this is how a good family sustains challenges
@@sharkbait4616 well im not dating thots or fwb. Anybody I date is looking for a relationship too I make it quite clear from the jump. Also been dating the same girl currently for 2 weeks no more than kissing we are not rushing anything.
@@bricklayerlzdp9825 well you do understand women get attention very easily from men and that they get a little less interested they move on to the next guy, why do you think marriage is in decline, cause men are in this cycle of where she "chooses" and you "loses" cause she wins in court she wins in getting your resources she wins whatever you gave her, have fun with your 2 week gf, she will loses interest when she "choses" another guy will be interesting to her, it will happen nowdays, guarantee it
@@sharkbait4616 its funny, i read about people like you and I've hung around some pretty shitty, toxic assholes, but i didn't really believe it. Actually i looked up the manosphere yesterday for the first time and found out about women hate from dudes like you. The extremists doing the hate killing and regular guys just mad at women in general and i don't really get it. I mean, i'm a pretty hateful dude and dont tolerate much bullshit, ive been cheated on, done my own cheating, raised kids that weren't mine and been the financial leader while the dads did nothing. I've never seen a cute girl smile at me in a store and immediately thought how even if i do fall in love, she'll crush me, cheat on me, and take my money. If you pre screen women better using these courtney techniques, change the issues you dont like about yourself or that fuck up your confidence, and start living a good life for YOU, then you will find women that are good. They will flock to you, homie....get healthy, feel good, be kind and strong, be trustworthy, and (maybe get a motorcycle? 😁) you will be getting the glances, smiles, and signs from new women and women who work at stores you have frequent for months. Drink water, flush your body of toxins and negativity, try yoga or meditation, pursue health and happiness for YOU and it will blow your mind how many girls change their behavior towards you if you pay attention. Good luck, i hope you try it.
I think when we are into someone, we often find ourselves trying to transform "any random sign" into one of these 5 signs. This video makes the signs very clear... but yet I know men who can't see that the girl is not really into him, she is just bored and you are there only for the sole purpose of entertainment. Great video, thanks for the great content you make.
6. If you catch a woman staring at you and paying attention to the conversation you're having with someone else she might be into you. I've been really paying attention to people's body language after watching a lot of these types of videos and I've picked up on this a few times while talking to other people.
I dated a girl a few times that would cancel at the last minute and stuff... It's really screwed up. She even canceled going to a music festival -- that SHE invited me to go with her -- while I was driving to pick her up. Next day she paid me both tickets, since I had bought them, and we never talked again. Good riddance!
She definitely went to hang out with some other guy. Women have an abundance of options. If the right guy text's them they will cancel their wedding day and hang out with him. Atleast she paid for both tickets.
@@mikewhite8848 oh yea, she was most assuredly high as a kite and hanging out with a certain co-worker that always stuffed her naive brain with stupefiers for probably obvious reasons. I never had full certainties, but I'd say it was pretty much like 2+X=4.
I've been there dude, it sucks. Girl canceled a date on me, when her dad was in town for Father's day. Especially when you find out, that she was at a pool party the whole time drinking instead of being with family for Father's day. Definitely a sign to move on, she wasn't responsible, or knew who she really was.
*It's incredible how much a simple smile or lingering glance can say. I think sometimes people overlook the small gestures that reveal interest. Has anyone experienced a moment where they realized someone liked them only after looking back?*
Had to laugh at number 5. ALL women remember what you say. When the time comes, they use what you said against you. If you have ever been married or in a long term relationship, you will have experienced this.
Pretty much, but it goes for humans in general. Whenever you open up to someone, you have to do it believing that it one day come to bite you in the ass. Very few people are genuinely trust worthy. Hence the saying: “Never let them see you bleed”.
Thank you Courtney, I love this one girl who has adorned my life simply with the beauty of who she is (inner beauty.) You nailed it in one point. She does text me first. One thing she does is apologize for taking so long to return my text. It really melts my heart that someone is so caring and thoughtful. Your video has really made my day thank you for sharing it. I'm thankful I found you. I gave you a like, and subscribed. Have a great day 😁👍
I love listening to her tips. She's not confusion and very accurate. I actually experienced all of these so I now know that I am actually datable. Thanks Courtney!
Years ago I was part of a conversation with some girls that I truly had just a platonic relationship with. They were on the subject of a girl showing interest in a guy and one stated this : “If a girl is interested in a guy she will beat his door down”. For some reason, this always stuck with me. I agree that if a girl really likes you, you will have no doubt !
I had 5/5 of these with a girl I met at the gym in late November. I went out of my comfort zone to talk to her because she had a PlayStation T-shirt on. As soon as I started speaking to her, she couldn’t stop smiling & looking into my eyes. Her smile was incredible & the spark of attraction that I felt was so legit. I even walked her home a block away & she told me to text her when I got home. “Long story short”, two days later, she distanced herself from me & that was pretty much it. 💔 Everything ended so prematurely. Still not over her. 😔
That's the worst when you are not even given a reason why. Even a phony one would be better than nothing. I remember years back I went out with the most beautiful young woman twice (she was easily a 9 without makeup). She blew me off after 2 dates. Never knew why. I saw her 7 years later and she had become a 5. Pear shaped and wrinkled. Could not believe how much she went downhill in only 7 years. I can only imagine what she looks like now, roughly 17 years later. I thought, man I dodged a bullet there! Regards, NS.
@@RuddsReels This is what happened. Here are the details. I’m just copying & pasting a post I made on another one of Courtney’s videos. Here it is: For pretty much the first time in my life, I stepped out of my comfort zone to talk to a random girl. It happened at the gym some months ago. She happened to have a PlayStation T-shirt on which really caught my attention (she told me she’s actually not a gamer). Her eyes lit up when I spoke to her & we couldn’t stop smiling. The eye contact was very strong & her smile was absolutely perfect. I sensed a major spark of attraction & it felt like I had known her for a while. So there was mutual attraction & I had that working in my favor. I got her number on the spot. We did a little bit of grocery shopping after we got done at the gym & she was down for me to walk her home just a block away. Gave her a hug & she told me to text her when I got home. Sweet! Everything started off perfectly that night but I was cautiously optimistic. The next day, we texted for a bit (I learned her mom passed away in the Summer) & at one point, she enthusiastically scheduled plans for us the next day. So we ended up hanging out for about 3 hours. She was so sweet & wonderful, i.e. didn’t want me to be cold, held a door open for me, paid for my drink. Now at one point, after I had told her a bit about myself & after she commented on how nice the night sky looked, I put my arm around her & she asked if we could be friends. To say I was confused & bummed out is an understatement. I thought she liked me!! This soured my mood & I barely remember most of what she told me, most of which was about her issues. She really opened up to me. After I walked her home, again she told me to text her when I got back to my place. The following day I received this: “Hey Luis I think you are a really cool person. But I’m really scared I’m gonna fall for you and I just can’t handle a close relationship right now. Please know it’s not about anything about you or something like that. You didn’t do or say anything wrong. You are pretty perfect. I just am really fragile and I need to take care of myself and I am afraid to get close to anyone. I’m going to distance myself. Please try to understand where I am coming from and don’t take it personally 💕” In another text, she said: “Hey Luis I felt like you were perfect on the day we went out. You didn’t do or say anything wrong or anything I didn’t like. You were great. I’m distancing myself not cause of you, but because I am not in a good place right now in my life. And I know that this is not the right season for me to be dating anyone. I can’t gamble with how I am doing emotionally, if I date someone and it falls apart that could be really dangerous for me mentally and emotionally since I am already struggling and going through a lot. That’s where I am coming from. It’s not about how I felt about you. I hope you believe me because it’s true.” Now about a month later, I asked her if she’d be willing to meet up or at the very least talk over the phone to discuss a few things & that I’d respect her decision either way. To that, she said this: “Hey Luis I am only replying late cause I’ve been thinking about what you said. I’m messed up and I wanna keep my distance. There’s nothing wrong with you and this is not about you I promise 💗 I didn’t want to just say nothing at all and make you feel weird for no reason.” This was her final text to me. Over a month later, we happened to be crossing the same street at the same time. I said hi to her & she ignored me. It felt very cold & weird. I had to know why, so I texted her to find out but I never got a response. I’ve seen her several times since but I’ve left her alone. Some people think she has a fear of intimacy/avoidant attachment style. I’ve also only seen her at the gym just a few times since all this happened some months ago. It’s as if she’s trying her best to avoid me. On one hand, I feel she may have been telling me the truth. On the other, I feel she came up with those very elaborate lies to avoid hurting my feelings but at the same time, everything she said seemed too genuine to be a lie. Whatever the case may be, this has been the most confusing experience I’ve ever had with another person & unfortunately I have not been able to get over her. I’ve been really depressed about it. The girl left such a lasting impression on my soul to say the least & I wish I wasn’t so attracted to her (she’s 5’9”, has a very feminine walk, perfect smile & stands out). This entire ordeal has really deflated me & makes me not even want to go out of my comfort zone again to talk to any other girls. Everything started off really well. It was so organic & unexpected but of course it was all just too good to be true. We would’ve made a ridiculously attractive couple. 😔
@@Form44208 Haha wow. The girl actually gave me a reason but I just kept it short in the original post. I just went into detail though with a new comment. But yeah…I don’t know if she was telling me the truth or told me elaborate lies to avoid hurting my feelings. I kinda hope to see her let herself go just like the chic you went out with did haha
@@Lordran__ Hey thanks for the post! I nearly spit out my tea looking at how long it was! lol! Good job you copied it! Yeah, it all seems a bit weird doesn't it. Is she just open to being friends? I know you and her want something more, but if you both see how you are with regular friendly interaction, something could organically develop and it may make her feel more at ease over time, into being in a romantic relationship? It may be worth asking. Not being funny, but I get the feeling something more is happening here. Like her ex showed up to try again, a couple of days after you both met. Of course I am totally guessing and are most probably wrong, but I'm using this as an example, because I get the feeling from her responses that there is something she is not telling you. Her mother passing would mean she would look for company in some form, rather than pushing it away. So I don't think it's that. Get back to me if anything happens in the future. I hope you get to resolve this.
Just keep your focus, as a guy, on pursuing friendship with her from the get go. If you do that, and she opens up to you then the relationship can grow and blossom. God gave us two ears and one mouth and that should be a guide of how much of each we need to do!
From my experience all the advice in this video generally rings true and is a great guide, however you must always remind yourself that people express themselves differently. The one scenario that is difficult are the truly shy women, they can come off as totally disinterested but they actually have a mad crush on you! I have had a women say she was intimidated by me becuase of how attractive I was to her. I was like what? Never even thought I guy like me could intimidate women like that. In the end this video is a great guide and just go with the flow when dating, and keep your mind open to differences between how inviduals express themselves and dont get discouraged, especially when you just strat seeing someone.
@@Brucelee89896 Sure!! There was a girl that was really into me at work. I worked at a law firm as an intern. So, I graduated from university back in December and she gave me a gift! When it was Christmas, she gave me a 007 themed dry martini coated chocolates! We got to flirt, chat and go out on dates and suddenly, she just gave me the cold shoulder. She actively tried to avoid me and refused to talk to me anymore. Very weird for her to act that way so suddenly. Dodged a huge bullet for sure!!
She literally did everything you mention here and even said to me that I was handsome, but when I wanted to get more serious she denied that she ever liked me and said we were just friends. I know I was a plan B for her, so I get why she didn't wanted to go further at that moment, but what upsets me is that she denied everything that happened, just say ''I like you, but I like the other guy more'' is that so difficult?
I like the positivity of your videos Courtney. You put a finger on problematic spots but retain a romantic and positive outlook on relationships. Keep up the great work! 😁👍🏻
@cv97035 - When a girl makes it clear that you are a "good friend" to her, then make it clear that she's the same, and in fact you can tell her, "I'm glad we're able to just be friends because too often someone puts pressure to become more than friends and thankfully you're not like that!"......
Sometimes if a person doesn't text you back right away then it means that they're probably busy and they would get back to you whenever they can, if they don't text you back after 2 days then that person doesn't want to chat anymore. Thank you very much for these videos Courtney.
Wow, for more than six months I’ve been watching you! Amazing! You have only gotten better and better with your talks, and advice. Love it! I tell my friends about a wonderful woman counsel I seek all the time! Why? Because of the incredible valued content you have helps make me a better man! As now I near constantly review myself for improvements like never before. Unfortunately too is the fact that a ‘marriage’ drove me to seek out ideas, and counsel as yours. YOU ARE A GAME CHANGER! Thanks times infinity for being a trusted source for life and relationships. Thank you!
A woman talking about herself a lot can be a red flag, but it could be a sign of nervousness or youth. I find that most younger women are better at talking about themselves than being inquisitive about others... I think it's a lot easier to ask questions when you are more cultured. When you aren't it can be difficult and make a conversation feel less natural.
Well, no idea if the woman I like is really into me or just faking it but I think I am beginning to like you! So nice to hear from someone who is genuine & down to earth
Came across your channel recently Courtney and I just want to say I really appreciate the work you're putting in. Nothing is over the top or click-baitey, just practical and well-explained content. Keep it up! :)
THAT’S IT! I’VE HAD IT! I speak for every person on planet Earth when I say I'll never get a girlfriend, I don't wanna step outside, cringe when I hug my OWN mother, and never hugged any other woman in years. I'll be moving my interest to my Xbox series s were there's REAL love. Time to play some good exclusives!
This one girl told me she didn’t like my buzz cut. Then a couple days later she and my sister came to watch my soccer game and she told me that I looked very good w my buzz cut. I pressed her bc she made it pretty obvious she hated it at first. I swear girls are so confusing and tbh it’s so hard to tell if they like you depending on the girl.
Dude by her saying she hates your buzzcut A: She is commenting on something about you(teasing possibly) B: A buzzcutt grows out pretty quick so its clearly not a deal breaker for her. C: Makes sure you get word that she likes the cut..blah blah But yah they as confusing as all f
Courtney is so cute, calm,very professional and always be giving me some good positive vibes everytime when im watching her on youtube channel...thanks for the heads up sweetie ❤❤❤
I think I can add something here after having years of experience myself ... if she calls the police on you after you found out where she works and innocently offer her dinner while you were waiting by her car .. then she has "daddy issues". Its very common, don't get discouraged.
This girl I like always touched me and always seemed happy in my company and for a while we always messaged each other and we would always compliment each other but I recently found out she was never really into me romantically so I don’t even know what to trust anymore.
Nothing wrong with this. Some women are just simply well-mannered and kind enough while keeping boundaries. If you care that much, you make a push. If you simply fade away after you realize she is not into you romantically, your loss.
This is very important to see if communication between the both parts is being matched. Is like the foundation for the future. Let’s say you texted 3 lines she answers 1 and you keep building up; you will just set yourself in a position that is stablished in the future, imbalanced and won’t work True love is balanced.
If you're autistic, be best to steer well clear of women at all costs. They defy logic and scramble your mind. I'm recently diagnosed after years of abuse at the hands of a woman, I thought it was love but it wasn't normal it turns out. I couldn't see it due to my condition as it happens.
These signs are correct, but based on my own experiences literally all of these can be experienced when you are deeply in the friendzone. Which means she treats you no more than just a friend, and she is just being kind.
I like your videos very much. They are sensible and not exaggerated. And what I really like is how decent, kind and positive you always are. The best traits in any human. Thank you
No matter how much I tried to follow all the tips and refined all my texting habits, it just never happens. No one has ever liked me back. The same signs keep coming back again and again in everyone I meet, no matter what I tried to in the self improvement department. COVID just put the final nail in the coffin as everything just switched online and dating apps are a total unlucky shithole for me personally. Mind you I tried all tips to make a good profile there as well. Oh well, back to DCS I guess. At least the yoke of a good ol' Mikoyan jet won't be unpredictable and actually responds back to you.
.. thank you Courtney.. ive remembered this video when an employee from a restaurant had came to me offering me candy.. had mentioned to her i dont eat candy and she remembered from our previous small talk that im on a no-carb, no-sugar diet and choose not to have that stuff.. she mentioned she remembered i told her before knowing also offered me if i ever would want anything from her work to feel free to ask.. i thanked her and mentioned i cook all of my meals and showed her pics of my dishes.. she mentioned shed like to get in to meal prepping possibly hinting something to me saying she lives alone?.. i dont bother with it and am not interested in her.. i have another one that had actually complimented me on my sunglasses i wore out of the blue that she noticed.. and most recently after losing so much weight she said I an looking good.. shes older and understood why she gave the compliment.. brave of her.. i thanked her and did not give her validation in return as much as i would have liked to since she goes to the gym or spa at my work.. i wanted to let her she too always looking fabulous whethere its the gym or spa.. not being able to tell the difference from a workout or spa skin glowing.. ive come across some videos where its said to not give my power as a man and giving her validation too soon or depending on the type of validation.. i see as a guy we want her (women) to earn it.. shes expecting one from ive learned is theyre always getting them being hit on..
These are great tips. I honestly couldn’t agree more as some of these have happened in conversations that I’ve been in and it shows. Thanks for the great video! You are doing amazing
Saw these 5 traits.. always calling or texting me 1st, compliment on things no one else does, remembers my childhood stories.. then out of the blue.. "i really like you as a friend"
There’s this one girl that I’ve had my eye on. I wanted to get to know her a little better so I’ve been following her around for the past month or so. Now when I talk to her, she’s telling me that she’s going to call the police. Is she just playing hard to get?
Hi Courtney. This is going to be slightly long winded so please bear with me. My wife is a sports coach, she's from another country. We met in my country when she was here for an assignment, things got a little bad on her side and she was about to be sent back, but we got married so she got to stay. Fast forward 5 years and she found herself another assignment and a motivated student. Her name is A. A was a popular girl among some of my wife's male students. I was their technical guy and I thought nothing of helping her out. We sometimes went on holidays in a group. A went off to study in the UK and returned a few years later and we established contact once again. By the time she was back here, My wife and I had separated, but not many people know about it. A was kinda close to me in a sense that we cooked meals for each other and we talked about private matters that we don't usually casually tell others. These are not sexual issues (well, save for one, but I'll let that pass) and one day she asked me, what's going on with me, and her coach. I've never told her about our separation. Turns out she'd notice some small details. A tells me about her boyfriend, one of my wife's students. This has always bothered me but I didn;t want to ruin their relationship. She's mentioned that she's been going out with him for less than a year and she doesn't know if they will be together for long. A likes my cooking, and she's occasionally taken pictures of the lunches I make for her and posted them on Instagram. She's come over to my place of dinners without her boyfriend, and she's gone out with my group as well without him. I've given her a puzzle (a trinket) that I got while on an overseas assignment and the first thing she did was to bring it to a christmas party where she let all her firends and her boyfriend have a go. Apparently it raised some suspicions but she kinda brushed them off. SHe told me that she had wanted to see their reactions when they knew it was from me (these people didn;t like me, some old vendetta). I was, kinda shocked. About a year ago, I confessed my feeling to her in a letter. She replied in a message that she'd always considered me as husband to her much respected coach, and that she won't see me ever again. About 4 hours ago while I was having dinner with my wife and some family friends, A turned up with her bf at our table to say hi. A turned to me and said hello. Courtney, what's really going on?
I know this is an old comment but.... she considered you like extended family in some capacity and trusted you as a male confidant, but for you the relationship was extending beyond that into something romantic. Because you're her coaches husband she pairs you with that same role. She probably did want to keep her distance but she also didn't want to be mean because of your long term relationship. She was still trying to be respectful.
You hit it right on the head of the nail, Courtney. What I've also found is that women can be subtle about things too, but a woman who likes to communicate with you and listens to you is definitely giving the signal that she is attracted to you. Probably the biggest sign that a woman liked me was when she invited me over to her place for dinner, and she COOKED dinner for me from scratch. Probably the best celebrity story on this topic is when Nicole Kidman was single and she had interest in Jimmy Fallon. Jimmy interviews her on his show about it years later, and he makes it sound funny and they laugh about it, but he never knew it! Look for the subtle things, women aren't always obvious about their interest in you. Here's the interview, a good, fun study: th-cam.com/video/qtsNbxgPngA/w-d-xo.html.
She "remembers things you said" is not always a good thing, especially when she brings up something you said 5 or 10 years ago and throws it in your face to argue a point.
Aight breakin this down for me. 1. I dont have her socials but i see her at the gym and sport and i might wave but she cones to start a convo with me. 2. Havent really spoken abt plans/not there yet. Maybe next week i'll ask abt goin to the gym together. 3. Hit the question stage she started asking questions abt my music interest and if i played instruments (a thing we have in common i now know). 4. Compliments - not really like 'i like these things' but compliments like i believe in you or defending me in situations. 5. She remembers things like if we see each other at the gym she will say to me later she doesnt know what to say and gets nwrvous to say hi. - I think theres a fair chance my feelings are mutual here
When it comes to dating and relationships, I feel like I'm constantly tap dancing for the woman's approval and trying to not blow it. I feel like it's never enough when it comes to women. Am I crazy? I'd love to hear your thoughts Courtney and anyone else's for that matter. Keep up the good work.
Hey brother. I would very much encourage you to spend time on yourself. What you described indicates a lack of confidence. Invest in yourself those things that improve you and grow you as a man, a brother and a friend. Mind, body and spirit if you will. By doing so you will improve how you see yourself and your intrinsic value you bring to any table as well as any woman’s table. Remember, of all the characteristics that attracts a woman, self confidence is chief among them. And for good reason. Please understand that I’m not talking about some false bravado where you’re just trying to self talk yourself into the veneer of being confident. I am talking about a real investment of time, energy and sacrifice that grows you in tangible ways. When you do that good work you will create value in yourself that you will see and appreciate. And you will cultivate a deep and quiet strength that a woman of real quality is hoping to find. And trust me, she will find you. The other side of this will be that you will no longer feel what you described. A lesser minded woman who cannot or does not see your value inside and out will indeed keep you at arms length and feeling as though you’re not enough. Because she will only be looking for the superficial. And you don’t want that type of woman anyway. But inside you will be relatively unaffected because of the value you have placed on the work you have done on yourself, hopefully a man of genuine qualities. Anyway, probably more than you were asking for. I remember feeling what you described as a younger man and I wanted to share my perspective. I hope that it helps. Rock on
I agree with you on all these points. I can tell this girl likes me because of your last point- memes, texts, little funny pictures etc. The trouble is I am not interested in her other than a friend way. Yes, if a girl is interested she will make an effort to contact with you.
So I stopped being friends with a girl I liked, I basically told her straight out after a year of being coworker friends. We messaged everyday but she didn’t like me. Anyways we haven’t talked in over 2or3 yrs and she added be back on Facebook. I messaged her to see how she was doing and etc… I ended up asking her why she added me back? She told me that I was fun to talk to🤷♂️ what does that me? I was positive she hated me because when I told her I couldn’t be her friend anymore she told me that I was like her best friend…. Yeah i liked her too much to just be friends and it was messing with my mental health.
There is this girl that was doing all these things, she would always text me, hang out with me, we would talk a lot, she would make plans for the 2 of us all the time and we'd go out every single week multiple times a week. At first I didn't make a move because I wasn't sure, but then I started liking her and after some time I finally decided to tell her how I felt and she didn't reciprocate. Due to certain circumstances we still face each other frequently, but everything is ruined now. And because we still see each other it makes it even tougher to get over her.
1) she texts or calls you first 2) making plans and follows through with you. She really enjoys your company. 3) she asks you questions 4) she really likes your outfit and gives you a compliment 5) she remembers things you said (aka excellent memory).
I noticed that my crush always initiates the conversation and she also compliments me often , asks me questions and she tells me things like " One day this room will be ours or , i cant wait to hold you in my arms soon . Is this an indication that she has feelings for me ?
The girl I like follows my sister on Instagram despite never meeting her in person. My mom is also friends with her mom and apparently "I'm mentioned a lot in their house." Could this mean anything?
@@AY-vi2ld Bruh... nothing ever happened with that 😔 We talked for a little bit but we both graduated and she left for college. It's a loss but whatever, I'm working on myself
Yes, these points should be obvious. But, yes, we men need to hear them! Because when we're highly attracted to a woman and filled with the hope that she goes for us, it's so easy to ignore the fact that we're getting ZERO of these signs from her--except perhaps in our dreams or imagination.
I once told a girl to text me when she got home...
She must be homeless.
Lmfao Lmfao
OOF
@@champ1159 what? SMHSMH a nephew u actually wrote that wow SMHSMH folks /these times
@@p.scrilla OOF as in the sound you make when you see something painful
@@champ1159 cool cool peace
Saw these traits in a co-worker and i make a move, my court case coming up soon
🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Gary Smith he freestyled
All the traits she said... i you play it wrong... you can be labelled a creep
Yikes!
That is funny Fredy. But never sh!t where you eat or work ☺️
It's really crazy that nobody talks about forbidden books on Revandles
I checked out this site and found a book that really resonated with me. It's been such a great read so far thank you for the recommendation! I'm hoping it helps me gain more confidence around women.
@@OscarNew.1 Where to find it ???
"get yourself a girl that actually wants to hang out with you, because if a girl wants to hang out with you, she will hang out with you" -- Courtney Ryan, 2021
Lol
Michael Owen is the exception
She's not wrong too. I don't have any female friends. Well 1 but we're just friends and she just got married. And not my type
"Water is wet because water is a liquid"
I've heard this called the Brad Pitt rule. If she makes up an excuse to not do something, ask yourself if she would use this excuse with Brad Pitt. Would she ditch her friends for Brad Pitt, yes, and she doesn't like you. Would she ditch Brad to go to grandma's funeral, yes, and she may still be into you.
5 things :
1) she texts or calls you first
2) making plans and follows through with you. She really enjoys your company.
3) she asks you questions
4) she really likes your outfit and gives you a compliment
5) she remembers things you said (aka excellent memory).
What if they have a medical problem aligned with memory ._. What then?? ANSWER ME
All such common sense......
@@NellielGrimmjow If they make the effort to try to remember stuff while having a bad memory, then they like you. EZ
I've never experienced those things from women, what does this mean?
@I. S preach
The most important thing I have learned over the years: The dating/texting stage is not supposed to be complicated (if you're pursuing a relationship). If you have to think about playing games, or not texting back immediately... it's probably not going to work out anyways.
Dude just get good
It's a competition
@@TheNjenlyn71 fuck that thought!
@@Cortesevasive?are you married or in any relationship?
Basically, if you can't tell if she likes you, she probably doesn't.
exactly, follow your instincts
I'm a pretty hateable, to both man and woman.
I'm just happy when I don't see torches and pitchforks.
Hahahaha!
Yeah pretty much but I don't care lol
Lol true
The question is...do I like her? 😎
exactly, you dropped this 👑
King stuff right there 👑
G shit
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‘Comment of The Year 👍🏻
Spot-on Courtney. The biggest thing for me is this: If I ask a girl to hang out, and I get a response that's "Uh, well, I dunno, I'm not sure, I'm really busy, etc"... then I don't pursue it because she isn't interested. If she is, I'll get a response along the lines of "Yes, that would fun! It would be great to hang out!", then I know there's something there. Also... it's been my experience that if a girl is interested in a guy, then it doesn't matter how busy she is, or how busy she SAYS she is... if she likes him, she WILL find the time to be around him.
Exactly.
I like how Courtney gets straight to the point without taking 30 mins to make a 7 min video
i know right. God forbid the guy be genuine and nervous because he likes her that much. Then again what do i know. Im just the nice guy who finishes last.
yo
Luckily there are also some women that are straight to the point, it is rare, but they are there
It's incredible how effortless it is to see a girl when she's into you. All you have to do from there is not screw it up. All great advice.
That's the hardest part.
@@duckgod7370 walking on eggshells is no way to live.
@GoatHead "Not screw it up...", well, that's the easy part (isn't it?) read it with a sarcastic voice :)
True story !!!!!
@@Filthy_Larry for some its the only way
Videos like this are actually very helpful because as guys, we often decide not to flirt with girls that we like so that we don't come off as creepy or presumptuous. It helps so much when girls put aside the games and just flirt back.
When Courtney talks, it feels like ASMR. Very relaxing.
Haha I get this all the time. Should I start an ASMR channel? 😂 thank you so much!
@@CourtneyRyan definitely i would watch it
I totally agree
@@CourtneyRyan you already have an ASMR channel. No need to make it official.😉
I will say this woman's voice is such a turn on.
Be yourself , mind, body, and soul.
Don’t ever settle!
What a clear, sincere, helpful summary. Thanks Courtney. Your earnestness comes through which is really appreciated because there are just too many people trying to lure 'suckers' in with unrealistic promises and insincere advice! In addition, you are attractive in an earthy way without all the razzle-dazzle which makes your podcast all the more appealing. Thanks again.
The 5 signs:
She lets you take out the Garbage
She allows you to pay here phone bill
She tolerates you paying for ALL her gas
She provides you the opportunity to pay the FULL rent
She gives the opportunity that when here male friends want to do sleepovers for you to sleep in a tent in the backyard
She does this all for you, and only when she truely likes you.
Thanks broo looks like she’s in Love with me
LOL! Very Funny!
LMAO
Bullseye!!!!!
S he Calls You At 2 a.m. She Won't Be Able To Arrive Home until Morning She'll Stay ar Her Female Friend after Going dancing.
5 signs that Cortney is a GOOD TH-camr:
1. She constantly replies to your comments
2. She keeps making plans to constantly upload quality content
3. She asks you questions like what do you like to see, what type of content you want etc
4. She gives you compliments in the comment section
5. She remembers everything we say :)
Awww I appreciate you! Comments like this make me smile. Thank you so much for your sweet words 🥰
Five star comment!
Great comment and spot on. I haven’t commented much but have seen everything you pointed out. Courtney is definitely good at this. Teddy’s got a good woman.
Dammit man I thought it was the summary guy😂😂
Is she paying you or are you trying to get a date with her? LOL go find your own girl,she is Teddys
As an older man, I know most of the things that you share. Your emotional intelligence is inspiring, and I find your voice very soothing. Thanks for posting.
Dating feels like a chore i swear i rather do other stuff with my time
Dating involves time, money work, which is why I live a stress-free life with a happy bank account.
This is true, it’s way too much work and seems counterintuitive. It almost seems like men have to put in all the work just to go on a date, and your not even guaranteed a lay.
@@gerardomartinez9992 Exactly. That is the problem with secular life.
and other women wants to date guys to get free food lol
I'd rather pay by the hour with my time.
I had all of these 5 signs appear in a girl I was talking to. We were best friends and talked every day for over a year on top of having obvious chemistry. She said she wasn't ready for a relationship but it felt like we were basically in one and it would happen eventually. Then i went back home for summer break and was gone for a month before I got the "life update" text. Within that one month she met some guy who "gave me the strength to take the leap of faith." I'm sure most of the time you're right, but boy did I fall hard on my face when she yanked the rug out from under my feet.
What? Basically she met a guy she really likes?
Basically you've been her emotional/attention provider for nothing in return and as soon as chad walked in you got left behind. That's how it works with women🤷 there's no such thing as being girl and boy best friends. There always will be sexual tension from one part or both. But if the relation doesn't or can't evolve quickly in something more, just the girl benefits from it. She gets the company, the fun, the help. And you, what you get in return? Just thinking about her naked everyday and get dumped when she needs to start thinking about her life. Friendships for women are just a benefit, they don't have the problem like us to find someone else to entertain with. They can get free attention everyday with zero effort. You are repleaceable, when she decides so. You should never commit all this time to a woman without nothing in return. Hope you got to learn the lesson.
That's why you can't have opposite sex friends most of the time. Girls and guys can't be friends. Coworkers, colleagues - maybe. But ultimately what happens in a friendship is 1 party develops interest and the other doesn't. And then you are left feeling exactly like how you describe. Better make your intentions obvious from the start, and if there is no immediate mutual attraction then just move on. Don't waste your time
I feel you brother. I've had something similar.
Point 6 actually is: if she says she's not ready for a relationship, she's not into you.
Great video and I love your content. If I must add one thing, talking about herself is a different situation if she's sharing intimate/deep/personal things with you. That means she trusts you and she's opening up to you so that you can understand where she's coming from which will help you two connect on a much deeper level. In that case, it means that she either really likes you or at least she sees you as someone special.
😲 She's like that with me , thank you!
Courtney you made it PLAIN even to those"slow-on-the-uptake"with:"I'm only hanging-out WITH you,if I LIKE you and ENJOY your company." Simple, logical,direct and TRUE. The opposite is true as well:"I'm only making excuses for not sharing lunch,together and AVOIDING you,because I DON'T like you and I DESPISE your vapid,vacuous conversation and overall company."
I was lucky enough in my life to have that experience of falling in love so deep it was like being in a fairy tale. It lasted 17 yrs. I hope everyone in their life here experiences it. There is nothing else in life that will compare to it.
What happened if I may ask?
C*caine was better than falling in love lol
Courtney is calm, collected and thoughtful. Awesome content always. Thanks Courtney
Whenever I start talking to a girl I'll keep these tips in mind. Thanks Courtney!
Love to hear that! 👏🏼 no problem!!
And man maybe
The last time I had a girlfriend, there wasn't any such thing as "texting" yet. We had "pagers", and my ex-girlfriend would never respond to my pages. And that's why she's an "ex".
We boys overanalyse things. I was in love with a girl in my class. After I’ve finished school I wrote to her at Snapchat but she friend zoned me brutally. So don’t believe the signs I don’t wanna be negative. My one tip for you is make your move and if it’s a no you can always move on. If you never ask you will never find out and that feeling is way worse than the feeling of being rejected trust me. Good luck everyone I believe in you!
i rather live with my parents and develop good work skills and avoid the noise of society today, doing without a woman does put lonliness on me at times but my strength is when my family got my back in my own personal growth, it does not matter if you remain single or not, what matters is you made the choices you support and your family supports, this is how a good family sustains challenges
I used to think the same then I moved by myself and the loneliness doubled so I began my dating 😂
@@bricklayerlzdp9825 sucks to be you, dating fwb and thots is not really good for your health (stds)
@@sharkbait4616 well im not dating thots or fwb. Anybody I date is looking for a relationship too I make it quite clear from the jump. Also been dating the same girl currently for 2 weeks no more than kissing we are not rushing anything.
@@bricklayerlzdp9825 well you do understand women get attention very easily from men and that they get a little less interested they move on to the next guy, why do you think marriage is in decline, cause men are in this cycle of where she "chooses" and you "loses" cause she wins in court she wins in getting your resources she wins whatever you gave her, have fun with your 2 week gf, she will loses interest when she "choses" another guy will be interesting to her, it will happen nowdays, guarantee it
@@sharkbait4616 its funny, i read about people like you and I've hung around some pretty shitty, toxic assholes, but i didn't really believe it. Actually i looked up the manosphere yesterday for the first time and found out about women hate from dudes like you. The extremists doing the hate killing and regular guys just mad at women in general and i don't really get it. I mean, i'm a pretty hateful dude and dont tolerate much bullshit, ive been cheated on, done my own cheating, raised kids that weren't mine and been the financial leader while the dads did nothing. I've never seen a cute girl smile at me in a store and immediately thought how even if i do fall in love, she'll crush me, cheat on me, and take my money. If you pre screen women better using these courtney techniques, change the issues you dont like about yourself or that fuck up your confidence, and start living a good life for YOU, then you will find women that are good. They will flock to you, homie....get healthy, feel good, be kind and strong, be trustworthy, and (maybe get a motorcycle? 😁) you will be getting the glances, smiles, and signs from new women and women who work at stores you have frequent for months. Drink water, flush your body of toxins and negativity, try yoga or meditation, pursue health and happiness for YOU and it will blow your mind how many girls change their behavior towards you if you pay attention. Good luck, i hope you try it.
I think when we are into someone, we often find ourselves trying to transform "any random sign" into one of these 5 signs. This video makes the signs very clear... but yet I know men who can't see that the girl is not really into him, she is just bored and you are there only for the sole purpose of entertainment. Great video, thanks for the great content you make.
6. If you catch a woman staring at you and paying attention to the conversation you're having with someone else she might be into you. I've been really paying attention to people's body language after watching a lot of these types of videos and I've picked up on this a few times while talking to other people.
Depends if its jealously creating her desire and she only wants what it appears someone else may get.
Thats a fun life lesson to learn the hard way 🙈
@@jamie.miller.inspiring that's possible. I've had female friends like that.
Your voice is almost hypnotic Courtney. And I love how your sweater matches your eyes!
I dated a girl a few times that would cancel at the last minute and stuff... It's really screwed up. She even canceled going to a music festival -- that SHE invited me to go with her -- while I was driving to pick her up. Next day she paid me both tickets, since I had bought them, and we never talked again. Good riddance!
She definitely went to hang out with some other guy. Women have an abundance of options. If the right guy text's them they will cancel their wedding day and hang out with him. Atleast she paid for both tickets.
@@mikewhite8848 oh yea, she was most assuredly high as a kite and hanging out with a certain co-worker that always stuffed her naive brain with stupefiers for probably obvious reasons. I never had full certainties, but I'd say it was pretty much like 2+X=4.
It was a Green Day presentation? You know, "good riddance"? Ok, terrible joke
If she cancels at the last minute without a valid excuse or offering to reschedule, move on. She just likes your attention.
I've been there dude, it sucks. Girl canceled a date on me, when her dad was in town for Father's day. Especially when you find out, that she was at a pool party the whole time drinking instead of being with family for Father's day. Definitely a sign to move on, she wasn't responsible, or knew who she really was.
*It's incredible how much a simple smile or lingering glance can say. I think sometimes people overlook the small gestures that reveal interest. Has anyone experienced a moment where they realized someone liked them only after looking back?*
Had to laugh at number 5. ALL women remember what you say. When the time comes, they use what you said against you. If you have ever been married or in a long term relationship, you will have experienced this.
Anything you say "can" AND "will" be used against you in a court of law, so always be nice.😁
Pretty much, but it goes for humans in general. Whenever you open up to someone, you have to do it believing that it one day come to bite you in the ass. Very few people are genuinely trust worthy. Hence the saying: “Never let them see you bleed”.
100%. Married over 20 years. Near the end I heard about stuff I did on our 3rd date. Jeez, give it a rest.
@@dave47663 As long as she's still taking the mushroom tip
Thank you Courtney, I love this one girl who has adorned my life simply with the beauty of who she is (inner beauty.) You nailed it in one point. She does text me first. One thing she does is apologize for taking so long to return my text. It really melts my heart that someone is so caring and thoughtful. Your video has really made my day thank you for sharing it. I'm thankful I found you. I gave you a like, and subscribed. Have a great day 😁👍
I love listening to her tips. She's not confusion and very accurate. I actually experienced all of these so I now know that I am actually datable. Thanks Courtney!
Years ago I was part of a conversation with some girls that I truly had just a platonic relationship with. They were on the subject of a girl showing interest in a guy and one stated this :
“If a girl is interested in a guy she will beat his door down”. For some reason, this always stuck with me. I agree that if a girl really likes you, you will have no doubt !
I saw that happen around 1980. The woman chased this dude for decades!
Oh well…that never happened to me. (Except crazies.)
I remember when this channel had less that 10 thousand subscribers. I knew this channel would take off super fast. Congrats and thank you, Courtney!
Thank you so much! 🥺
I had 5/5 of these with a girl I met at the gym in late November. I went out of my comfort zone to talk to her because she had a PlayStation T-shirt on. As soon as I started speaking to her, she couldn’t stop smiling & looking into my eyes. Her smile was incredible & the spark of attraction that I felt was so legit. I even walked her home a block away & she told me to text her when I got home. “Long story short”, two days later, she distanced herself from me & that was pretty much it. 💔 Everything ended so prematurely. Still not over her. 😔
That's the worst when you are not even given a reason why. Even a phony one would be better than nothing. I remember years back I went out with the most beautiful young woman twice (she was easily a 9 without makeup). She blew me off after 2 dates. Never knew why. I saw her 7 years later and she had become a 5. Pear shaped and wrinkled. Could not believe how much she went downhill in only 7 years. I can only imagine what she looks like now, roughly 17 years later. I thought, man I dodged a bullet there! Regards, NS.
+Lordran
Don't tell me you forgot to text her? Did you ask why?
@@RuddsReels This is what happened. Here are the details. I’m just copying & pasting a post I made on another one of Courtney’s videos. Here it is:
For pretty much the first time in my life, I stepped out of my comfort zone to talk to a random girl. It happened at the gym some months ago. She happened to have a PlayStation T-shirt on which really caught my attention (she told me she’s actually not a gamer). Her eyes lit up when I spoke to her & we couldn’t stop smiling. The eye contact was very strong & her smile was absolutely perfect. I sensed a major spark of attraction & it felt like I had known her for a while. So there was mutual attraction & I had that working in my favor. I got her number on the spot. We did a little bit of grocery shopping after we got done at the gym & she was down for me to walk her home just a block away. Gave her a hug & she told me to text her when I got home. Sweet! Everything started off perfectly that night but I was cautiously optimistic.
The next day, we texted for a bit (I learned her mom passed away in the Summer) & at one point, she enthusiastically scheduled plans for us the next day. So we ended up hanging out for about 3 hours. She was so sweet & wonderful, i.e. didn’t want me to be cold, held a door open for me, paid for my drink. Now at one point, after I had told her a bit about myself & after she commented on how nice the night sky looked, I put my arm around her & she asked if we could be friends. To say I was confused & bummed out is an understatement. I thought she liked me!! This soured my mood & I barely remember most of what she told me, most of which was about her issues. She really opened up to me. After I walked her home, again she told me to text her when I got back to my place.
The following day I received this: “Hey Luis I think you are a really cool person. But I’m really scared I’m gonna fall for you and I just can’t handle a close relationship right now. Please know it’s not about anything about you or something like that. You didn’t do or say anything wrong. You are pretty perfect. I just am really fragile and I need to take care of myself and I am afraid to get close to anyone. I’m going to distance myself. Please try to understand where I am coming from and don’t take it personally 💕”
In another text, she said:
“Hey Luis I felt like you were perfect on the day we went out. You didn’t do or say anything wrong or anything I didn’t like. You were great. I’m distancing myself not cause of you, but because I am not in a good place right now in my life. And I know that this is not the right season for me to be dating anyone. I can’t gamble with how I am doing emotionally, if I date someone and it falls apart that could be really dangerous for me mentally and emotionally since I am already struggling and going through a lot. That’s where I am coming from. It’s not about how I felt about you. I hope you believe me because it’s true.”
Now about a month later, I asked her if she’d be willing to meet up or at the very least talk over the phone to discuss a few things & that I’d respect her decision either way. To that, she said this:
“Hey Luis I am only replying late cause I’ve been thinking about what you said. I’m messed up and I wanna keep my distance. There’s nothing wrong with you and this is not about you I promise 💗 I didn’t want to just say nothing at all and make you feel weird for no reason.”
This was her final text to me. Over a month later, we happened to be crossing the same street at the same time. I said hi to her & she ignored me. It felt very cold & weird. I had to know why, so I texted her to find out but I never got a response.
I’ve seen her several times since but I’ve left her alone. Some people think she has a fear of intimacy/avoidant attachment style. I’ve also only seen her at the gym just a few times since all this happened some months ago. It’s as if she’s trying her best to avoid me. On one hand, I feel she may have been telling me the truth. On the other, I feel she came up with those very elaborate lies to avoid hurting my feelings but at the same time, everything she said seemed too genuine to be a lie. Whatever the case may be, this has been the most confusing experience I’ve ever had with another person & unfortunately I have not been able to get over her. I’ve been really depressed about it. The girl left such a lasting impression on my soul to say the least & I wish I wasn’t so attracted to her (she’s 5’9”, has a very feminine walk, perfect smile & stands out). This entire ordeal has really deflated me & makes me not even want to go out of my comfort zone again to talk to any other girls. Everything started off really well. It was so organic & unexpected but of course it was all just too good to be true. We would’ve made a ridiculously attractive couple. 😔
@@Form44208 Haha wow. The girl actually gave me a reason but I just kept it short in the original post. I just went into detail though with a new comment. But yeah…I don’t know if she was telling me the truth or told me elaborate lies to avoid hurting my feelings. I kinda hope to see her let herself go just like the chic you went out with did haha
@@Lordran__ Hey thanks for the post! I nearly spit out my tea looking at how long it was! lol! Good job you copied it!
Yeah, it all seems a bit weird doesn't it.
Is she just open to being friends? I know you and her want something more, but if you both see how you are with regular friendly interaction, something could organically develop and it may make her feel more at ease over time, into being in a romantic relationship?
It may be worth asking.
Not being funny, but I get the feeling something more is happening here. Like her ex showed up to try again, a couple of days after you both met. Of course I am totally guessing and are most probably wrong, but I'm using this as an example, because I get the feeling from her responses that there is something she is not telling you. Her mother passing would mean she would look for company in some form, rather than pushing it away. So I don't think it's that.
Get back to me if anything happens in the future. I hope you get to resolve this.
Holy smokes,the smoothest voice i have ever heard!
The texting thing is tricky, it's easy to lie when you can't hear their voice; it can be frustrating.
Just keep your focus, as a guy, on pursuing friendship with her from the get go. If you do that, and she opens up to you then the relationship can grow and blossom. God gave us two ears and one mouth and that should be a guide of how much of each we need to do!
Well guys, I'm five for five.
I was pretty sure my last two wives liked me too, at least up until the divorces!
nah she could just be canadian
Not all wives do that eh.....
Women can be great actresses.
Courtney, this is a great list. What it all comes down to is are your interests being reciprocated. If they’re not move on to better pastures 👍
I really like the way you give clear black and white advice. No ambiguity!
Courtney’s voice is so soothing and reassuring 🥰
Thank you 😊
I agree ☝️
Holy damn she’s playing you like a fiddle.
"stop wasting your time" that's the best advise I've heard
From my experience all the advice in this video generally rings true and is a great guide, however you must always remind yourself that people express themselves differently. The one scenario that is difficult are the truly shy women, they can come off as totally disinterested but they actually have a mad crush on you! I have had a women say she was intimidated by me becuase of how attractive I was to her. I was like what? Never even thought I guy like me could intimidate women like that. In the end this video is a great guide and just go with the flow when dating, and keep your mind open to differences between how inviduals express themselves and dont get discouraged, especially when you just strat seeing someone.
Ironic that this came out today after I got rejected by my crush. Anyways, good tips as always Courtney!!!
Ahhhh, keep your head up! I’m rooting for you 👏🏼
Rip I coulda used this last year lmao
NEXT.
may i ask the story bro?
@@Brucelee89896 Sure!! There was a girl that was really into me at work. I worked at a law firm as an intern. So, I graduated from university back in December and she gave me a gift! When it was Christmas, she gave me a 007 themed dry martini coated chocolates! We got to flirt, chat and go out on dates and suddenly, she just gave me the cold shoulder. She actively tried to avoid me and refused to talk to me anymore. Very weird for her to act that way so suddenly. Dodged a huge bullet for sure!!
She literally did everything you mention here and even said to me that I was handsome, but when I wanted to get more serious she denied that she ever liked me and said we were just friends. I know I was a plan B for her, so I get why she didn't wanted to go further at that moment, but what upsets me is that she denied everything that happened, just say ''I like you, but I like the other guy more'' is that so difficult?
But if she were honest, you wouldn't give her a chance... Instead she can hide that and keep you around if she's out of options.
Just leave it there and forget about her. Life is too short to run after such dumb ignorant people.
I like the positivity of your videos Courtney. You put a finger on problematic spots but retain a romantic and positive outlook on relationships. Keep up the great work! 😁👍🏻
"I'm a girl, I'm on your side." Bwahahahaha! Good one.
I know right this shit is hilarious
Jessica J is the only female dating coach I will believe. She keeps it real
“Very close guy friend”: hurts more than a knife on a man’s back! :)
i hope you never receive a knife on your back to find that out.
@cv97035 - When a girl makes it clear that you are a "good friend" to her, then make it clear that she's the same, and in fact you can tell her, "I'm glad we're able to just be friends because too often someone puts pressure to become more than friends and thankfully you're not like that!"......
A knife on my back wouldn't hurt 1 bit, but a Knife IN my back would be bothersome.
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I'd settle for it!
Sometimes if a person doesn't text you back right away then it means that they're probably busy and they would get back to you whenever they can, if they don't text you back after 2 days then that person doesn't want to chat anymore. Thank you very much for these videos Courtney.
Happy New Year Courtney, thank you for the video. I will keep these signs in mind when I'm around the girl I like
You have such a calming voice. Its like you never get mad😄. Very attractive! Thanks for the heads up!
😊 thank you so much! It’s my pleasure!
It's a video. You are getting her best side.
@@Old-Dog00 mkay
@@kingdavid2785 Beta male alert.
Wow, for more than six months I’ve been watching you! Amazing! You have only gotten better and better with your talks, and advice. Love it! I tell my friends about a wonderful woman counsel I seek all the time! Why? Because of the incredible valued content you have helps make me a better man! As now I near constantly review myself for improvements like never before. Unfortunately too is the fact that a ‘marriage’ drove me to seek out ideas, and counsel as yours. YOU ARE A GAME CHANGER! Thanks times infinity for being a trusted source for life and relationships. Thank you!
I just slept my ass for 8 hours listening to this video for only 2 minutes!!! Damn this is relaxing
😂😂😴😴 Courtney Ryan ASMR hahaha
Courtney thinks your funny. She might slide into your DMs.
A woman talking about herself a lot can be a red flag, but it could be a sign of nervousness or youth. I find that most younger women are better at talking about themselves than being inquisitive about others... I think it's a lot easier to ask questions when you are more cultured. When you aren't it can be difficult and make a conversation feel less natural.
Well, no idea if the woman I like is really into me or just faking it but I think I am beginning to like you! So nice to hear from someone who is genuine & down to earth
Came across your channel recently Courtney and I just want to say I really appreciate the work you're putting in. Nothing is over the top or click-baitey, just practical and well-explained content. Keep it up! :)
A beauty to watch, listen and remember.
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THAT’S IT! I’VE HAD IT! I speak for every person on planet Earth when I say I'll never get a girlfriend, I don't wanna step outside, cringe when I hug my OWN mother, and never hugged any other woman in years. I'll be moving my interest to my Xbox series s were there's REAL love. Time to play some good exclusives!
This one girl told me she didn’t like my buzz cut. Then a couple days later she and my sister came to watch my soccer game and she told me that I looked very good w my buzz cut. I pressed her bc she made it pretty obvious she hated it at first. I swear girls are so confusing and tbh it’s so hard to tell if they like you depending on the girl.
Dude by her saying she hates your buzzcut
A: She is commenting on something about you(teasing possibly)
B: A buzzcutt grows out pretty quick so its clearly not a deal breaker for her.
C: Makes sure you get word that she likes the cut..blah blah
But yah they as confusing as all f
Great stuff. I needed this 32 years ago..lol
Haha better late than never I guess 👏🏼😂
@@CourtneyRyan dude is 34. He just wanted to hit the dating scene early at age 2.
Courtney is so cute, calm,very professional and always be giving me some good positive vibes everytime when im watching her on youtube channel...thanks for the heads up sweetie ❤❤❤
I think I can add something here after having years of experience myself ... if she calls the police on you after you found out where she works and innocently offer her dinner while you were waiting by her car .. then she has "daddy issues". Its very common, don't get discouraged.
Oh yikes 🤯
This girl I like always touched me and always seemed happy in my company and for a while we always messaged each other and we would always compliment each other but I recently found out she was never really into me romantically so I don’t even know what to trust anymore.
Nothing wrong with this. Some women are just simply well-mannered and kind enough while keeping boundaries. If you care that much, you make a push. If you simply fade away after you realize she is not into you romantically, your loss.
This is very important to see if communication between the both parts is being matched. Is like the foundation for the future. Let’s say you texted 3 lines she answers 1 and you keep building up; you will just set yourself in a position that is stablished in the future, imbalanced and won’t work
True love is balanced.
I'm autistic and this is some easy to absorb advise. Thank you for uploading! 😉👍🏻
Its good to watch some of these videos. Talk to people and exchange ideas.
Same here, this is great advice
@@ldtv8971 Courtney is very direct and honest
@@keepcalmlovedinosaurs8934 Exactly
If you're autistic, be best to steer well clear of women at all costs. They defy logic and scramble your mind. I'm recently diagnosed after years of abuse at the hands of a woman, I thought it was love but it wasn't normal it turns out. I couldn't see it due to my condition as it happens.
These signs are correct, but based on my own experiences literally all of these can be experienced when you are deeply in the friendzone. Which means she treats you no more than just a friend, and she is just being kind.
I like your videos very much. They are sensible and not exaggerated. And what I really like is how decent, kind and positive you always are. The best traits in any human. Thank you
Five signs she likes you:
1. You're handsome
2. You're tall
3. You're rich
4. You have high status
5. You have good hair.
Q: Can a woman turn a guy into a millionaire in just a few months?
A: Yes, if he was a billionaire before meeting her.
@@tedantares2751 let me guess your single
7914 You forgot #6 the most important thing a great body with the other 5
No matter how much I tried to follow all the tips and refined all my texting habits, it just never happens. No one has ever liked me back. The same signs keep coming back again and again in everyone I meet, no matter what I tried to in the self improvement department.
COVID just put the final nail in the coffin as everything just switched online and dating apps are a total unlucky shithole for me personally. Mind you I tried all tips to make a good profile there as well.
Oh well, back to DCS I guess. At least the yoke of a good ol' Mikoyan jet won't be unpredictable and actually responds back to you.
.. thank you Courtney.. ive remembered this video when an employee from a restaurant had came to me offering me candy.. had mentioned to her i dont eat candy and she remembered from our previous small talk that im on a no-carb, no-sugar diet and choose not to have that stuff.. she mentioned she remembered i told her before knowing also offered me if i ever would want anything from her work to feel free to ask.. i thanked her and mentioned i cook all of my meals and showed her pics of my dishes.. she mentioned shed like to get in to meal prepping possibly hinting something to me saying she lives alone?.. i dont bother with it and am not interested in her.. i have another one that had actually complimented me on my sunglasses i wore out of the blue that she noticed.. and most recently after losing so much weight she said I an looking good.. shes older and understood why she gave the compliment.. brave of her.. i thanked her and did not give her validation in return as much as i would have liked to since she goes to the gym or spa at my work.. i wanted to let her she too always looking fabulous whethere its the gym or spa.. not being able to tell the difference from a workout or spa skin glowing.. ive come across some videos where its said to not give my power as a man and giving her validation too soon or depending on the type of validation.. i see as a guy we want her (women) to earn it.. shes expecting one from ive learned is theyre always getting them being hit on..
These are great tips. I honestly couldn’t agree more as some of these have happened in conversations that I’ve been in and it shows. Thanks for the great video! You are doing amazing
I came just for your calming voice. Amazing! You should be singing babies to sleep :)
😇😇😇 thank you!!
@@CourtneyRyan in your opinion do you feel that girls ask a lot of men today?
Saw these 5 traits.. always calling or texting me 1st, compliment on things no one else does, remembers my childhood stories.. then out of the blue.. "i really like you as a friend"
that's classic. it's either because you behave to her like a nice guy or just you ain't physically attractive enough to her. or maybe both.
There’s this one girl that I’ve had my eye on. I wanted to get to know her a little better so I’ve been following her around for the past month or so. Now when I talk to her, she’s telling me that she’s going to call the police. Is she just playing hard to get?
Good stalking takes practice. Chapter 5 in the book "How To Win Friends and Influence People" goes into depth and has tips for the stalker on the go.
@@craigtheschmeg3253 sounds like a good read 👍🏽
Oh my gosh, this comment and replies!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hi Courtney. This is going to be slightly long winded so please bear with me.
My wife is a sports coach, she's from another country. We met in my country when she was here for an assignment, things got a little bad on her side and she was about to be sent back, but we got married so she got to stay. Fast forward 5 years and she found herself another assignment and a motivated student. Her name is A. A was a popular girl among some of my wife's male students. I was their technical guy and I thought nothing of helping her out. We sometimes went on holidays in a group. A went off to study in the UK and returned a few years later and we established contact once again. By the time she was back here, My wife and I had separated, but not many people know about it. A was kinda close to me in a sense that we cooked meals for each other and we talked about private matters that we don't usually casually tell others. These are not sexual issues (well, save for one, but I'll let that pass) and one day she asked me, what's going on with me, and her coach. I've never told her about our separation. Turns out she'd notice some small details.
A tells me about her boyfriend, one of my wife's students. This has always bothered me but I didn;t want to ruin their relationship. She's mentioned that she's been going out with him for less than a year and she doesn't know if they will be together for long. A likes my cooking, and she's occasionally taken pictures of the lunches I make for her and posted them on Instagram. She's come over to my place of dinners without her boyfriend, and she's gone out with my group as well without him. I've given her a puzzle (a trinket) that I got while on an overseas assignment and the first thing she did was to bring it to a christmas party where she let all her firends and her boyfriend have a go. Apparently it raised some suspicions but she kinda brushed them off. SHe told me that she had wanted to see their reactions when they knew it was from me (these people didn;t like me, some old vendetta). I was, kinda shocked.
About a year ago, I confessed my feeling to her in a letter.
She replied in a message that she'd always considered me as husband to her much respected coach, and that she won't see me ever again.
About 4 hours ago while I was having dinner with my wife and some family friends, A turned up with her bf at our table to say hi. A turned to me and said hello.
Courtney, what's really going on?
I know this is an old comment but.... she considered you like extended family in some capacity and trusted you as a male confidant, but for you the relationship was extending beyond that into something romantic. Because you're her coaches husband she pairs you with that same role. She probably did want to keep her distance but she also didn't want to be mean because of your long term relationship. She was still trying to be respectful.
My first language is Spanish probably I understand 50% what Courtney said, but I love to hear her because her voice relax me very well
You hit it right on the head of the nail, Courtney. What I've also found is that women can be subtle about things too, but a woman who likes to communicate with you and listens to you is definitely giving the signal that she is attracted to you. Probably the biggest sign that a woman liked me was when she invited me over to her place for dinner, and she COOKED dinner for me from scratch. Probably the best celebrity story on this topic is when Nicole Kidman was single and she had interest in Jimmy Fallon. Jimmy interviews her on his show about it years later, and he makes it sound funny and they laugh about it, but he never knew it! Look for the subtle things, women aren't always obvious about their interest in you. Here's the interview, a good, fun study: th-cam.com/video/qtsNbxgPngA/w-d-xo.html.
So right you are....if a girl invites you to her house for dinner... she's tucking you in that night
The easiest way to tell if she's into you if she comes to your house for the first time in nothing but a trench coat and lengerie.
A girl texted me "happy new year", but when I replied back, she disappeared. Wth...
Im sorry, but this made me laugh a lot
Sounds like from reading your comment the girl is testing you. Hopefully, she wasn't bored when she texted you.
Talk to multiple girls because when there’s only one you will start to overthinking everything and become lowkey obsessed. 💯
If she's meant to be with you, she will no matter what. Period.
Courtney is the type of girl many guys want to meet. Like me.
She "remembers things you said" is not always a good thing, especially when she brings up something you said 5 or 10 years ago and throws it in your face to argue a point.
Well it sounds like you guys are already a couple while this video is for those who arent.
@@abcdef_101 or he met a manipulating pycho
@@Bleilock1 a loving caring manipulative psycho.
@@abcdef_101 the worst kind haha, its wretched how humans can so much easily lie huge lies
Scary
@@Bleilock1 well, love made us do things we dont expect to do. I guess. Haha
Aight breakin this down for me.
1. I dont have her socials but i see her at the gym and sport and i might wave but she cones to start a convo with me.
2. Havent really spoken abt plans/not there yet. Maybe next week i'll ask abt goin to the gym together.
3. Hit the question stage she started asking questions abt my music interest and if i played instruments (a thing we have in common i now know).
4. Compliments - not really like 'i like these things' but compliments like i believe in you or defending me in situations.
5. She remembers things like if we see each other at the gym she will say to me later she doesnt know what to say and gets nwrvous to say hi.
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I think theres a fair chance my feelings are mutual here
The best wingwoman always looking out for us 😎👌🏼👌🏼
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Hahahaha.....never take dating advice from women
When it comes to dating and relationships, I feel like I'm constantly tap dancing for the woman's approval and trying to not blow it. I feel like it's never enough when it comes to women. Am I crazy? I'd love to hear your thoughts Courtney and anyone else's for that matter. Keep up the good work.
Hey brother. I would very much encourage you to spend time on yourself. What you described indicates a lack of confidence. Invest in yourself those things that improve you and grow you as a man, a brother and a friend. Mind, body and spirit if you will. By doing so you will improve how you see yourself and your intrinsic value you bring to any table as well as any woman’s table. Remember, of all the characteristics that attracts a woman, self confidence is chief among them. And for good reason. Please understand that I’m not talking about some false bravado where you’re just trying to self talk yourself into the veneer of being confident. I am talking about a real investment of time, energy and sacrifice that grows you in tangible ways. When you do that good work you will create value in yourself that you will see and appreciate. And you will cultivate a deep and quiet strength that a woman of real quality is hoping to find. And trust me, she will find you. The other side of this will be that you will no longer feel what you described. A lesser minded woman who cannot or does not see your value inside and out will indeed keep you at arms length and feeling as though you’re not enough. Because she will only be looking for the superficial. And you don’t want that type of woman anyway. But inside you will be relatively unaffected because of the value you have placed on the work you have done on yourself, hopefully a man of genuine qualities. Anyway, probably more than you were asking for. I remember feeling what you described as a younger man and I wanted to share my perspective. I hope that it helps. Rock on
I agree with you on all these points. I can tell this girl likes me because of your last point- memes, texts, little funny pictures etc. The trouble is I am not interested in her other than a friend way. Yes, if a girl is interested she will make an effort to contact with you.
We need more women like Courtney! :)
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So I stopped being friends with a girl I liked, I basically told her straight out after a year of being coworker friends. We messaged everyday but she didn’t like me. Anyways we haven’t talked in over 2or3 yrs and she added be back on Facebook. I messaged her to see how she was doing and etc… I ended up asking her why she added me back? She told me that I was fun to talk to🤷♂️ what does that me? I was positive she hated me because when I told her I couldn’t be her friend anymore she told me that I was like her best friend…. Yeah i liked her too much to just be friends and it was messing with my mental health.
There is this girl that was doing all these things, she would always text me, hang out with me, we would talk a lot, she would make plans for the 2 of us all the time and we'd go out every single week multiple times a week. At first I didn't make a move because I wasn't sure, but then I started liking her and after some time I finally decided to tell her how I felt and she didn't reciprocate.
Due to certain circumstances we still face each other frequently, but everything is ruined now. And because we still see each other it makes it even tougher to get over her.
How wrong I was before this. Great video! :)
Thank you 😊
1) she texts or calls you first
2) making plans and follows through with you. She really enjoys your company.
3) she asks you questions
4) she really likes your outfit and gives you a compliment
5) she remembers things you said (aka excellent memory).
I noticed that my crush always initiates the conversation and she also compliments me often , asks me questions and she tells me things like " One day this room will be ours or , i cant wait to hold you in my arms soon . Is this an indication that she has feelings for me ?
The girl I like follows my sister on Instagram despite never meeting her in person. My mom is also friends with her mom and apparently "I'm mentioned a lot in their house." Could this mean anything?
Ooooh that is good news!! 👀
"Could this mean anything?"
You're joking, right?
@@quintas66 I mean I just want to be sure before I make a fool out of myself
@@starwarsgaming7918 How did it turn out?
@@AY-vi2ld Bruh... nothing ever happened with that 😔 We talked for a little bit but we both graduated and she left for college. It's a loss but whatever, I'm working on myself
Great advice, Courtney!! This is so true!!
Yes, these points should be obvious. But, yes, we men need to hear them! Because when we're highly attracted to a woman and filled with the hope that she goes for us, it's so easy to ignore the fact that we're getting ZERO of these signs from her--except perhaps in our dreams or imagination.
Courtney is the teacher I never had, thank you :)