Best sign: they just flat out tell you. I'm kind of a slow guy when it comes to women, so unless you grab me by the face and legit tell me, I'll think you're just playing games.
Yeah I think you nailed it. You have to be so cautious nowadays. You're either a creep or you are not being a real man, it's a tough balance. Sometimes it's better just to kick back, enjoy the conversations until it becomes blindingly obvious....lol.
@GuruOfNothing if you are talking about those that are so frustrated they are impatient and they want it now, then yes that means that they really want you
@@sheed321 which is really hard for guys to learn when they spend all day in the classroom with a woman and go home to their single mother and never learn how women actually are because without a guy in the environment you can never see how they actually behave. Single motherhood is definitely an issue when it comes to a lot of the problems out there today regarding men and women. Boys need to learn what kind of man to be and what kind of woman to look for and girls need to learn what kind of woman to be and what kind of man to look for then you can only get that with a healthy marriage where the parents aren't in competition for the child's attention because children learn from observation, Not from attention
So if a girl is interested in me she'll either text me first or wait for me to text first. And she'll either respond to my texts quickly with a lot to say or she'll try not to text too quickly and try not to write too much as she doesn't want to seem too keen. This really clears things up 😂
Yeah, this is absolute facts. They also then decide the guy isnt interested when he doesnt read her specific instruction manual and understand and make the move she wants which is direct. If men attracted women like women attract men, one baby a year would be born globally
@@Mgtowhonesty she can, but will she? Why are you expecting equality in relationships? Women are not men and they don't act like men - and this is a good thing.
@@jleano609 if she womt, shes not worth my time. Using words how theyre defined to get a point across isnt a masculine thing, its an intelligent and adult thing. Men and women are equally important, we arent important in the same areas but communication is a universal standard that needs to be upheld or she will continue to treat basic conversations like bad spy films in other parts of the relationship. Women will be direct with coworkers, friends, family and men they dont like, they save the bad conversation for men they do like and thats backwards and idiotic
Stella, the kind of girl we all wish we would meet. Straight to the point, mature and confident. Actually feels like you are listening to a grown up woman and not a 15year old girl
One way with her is probably a confident Sharp very funny person who knows how to tease her Just right. Eventually she may melt that Ice, but make boundaries with her because she'll most likely have hers.
I love Stella's responses. She is direct, honest, straightforward and to the point. Her actions are congruent with her words. Any man would appreciate this over someone who plays waiting games and wastes people's time. Thank you Courtney!
Listen ladies. Men don’t do subtle and don’t like games. If you like him, tell him. There’s nothing that could go wrong other than he may say ‘no thanks’ politely as the vast vast majority of men don’t want to cause distress and embarrassment. The danger is that you will lose him to a girl that isn’t afraid to say what she thinks and feels. If so, that’s on you and isn’t toxic masculinity or being played- it’s you not understanding what men actually need. It is really simple and so often people over-think this stuff.
Taking ages to text back can be the opposite she's probably really thinking about her text probably reading it over and over again to make sure it's right when she pressing the send button she's probably hovering over send for 10 mins😂😂
@@richardhorne4963 doubtful. Have you seen how a woman in her 20s texts? They usually don't gaf, all the cards are in their hands and they have many options. Even a hot dude is fairly replaceable unless they already have a deep emotional bond somehow
The problem is women never youtube what men want, men only look up what women want. Women have so many endless non-stop options, they're never looking for any strategic adjustments.
You apparently haven't seen the other videos she was in. The one where they ask the women how much money a man should have to be able to date or attain her. She starts talking about a Bugatti to give a hint so you guys praising her might want to check thise videos out on here lol.
yeah that's very true because she was honest without any attitude. which shows her emotional intellect is very good, which is even rare find to any of other women in this interview.
Stella's confidence and analytical take on things are a very attractive quality of her personality. It's a shame there aren't more people like her (regardless of gender), life for everyone in the world would be a lot simpler even outside of a dating context.
In other videos she also reveals herself to be a woman who needs a man who makes $650k annually, wants a big house on 5 acres, needs to a million dollar Pagani supercar and believes a $350k Ferrari is an ordinary everyday beater. Good luck to the guy who gets suckered into that one.
I have come to accept that most women are scammers and I don't trust any of them now. I had a woman who seemed all of the above: confident, good job, and seemed to know what she wanted. But it turns out it isn't me, but rather my wallet. She wants me to pay all her moving expenses despite her claim to be making twice what I make. Dating is ruined, and I no longer want to participate in the whole scam!! I am sure there are a few women who are truly interested in a real, two way relationship, but they are rare, and I have only met a tiny few, all of whom are married.
Alex this is the fact of these days. But in real life the match are "more successfull" Like some of the girls said, online they give a litle like hoping that guy notice and come to talk, hard to talk, and even if this happen, if a lilte thing happen they disengage and ghosting before getting"rejected"... 🤷♂️ Look like less effort possible until a 9 or 10 try to match.
Stella is a dream girl! Shes mature and knows how to act in a relationship, will text first because she knows what she wants and is absolutely beautiful
Don’t believe a word they say man lol…listen to guy’s advice on how to get women instead. If you listen to women you will just end confused as heck, cause they themselves don’t know what they want, or how they react. Their modus operandi is all about what kind of emotions they are feeling at certain times, and they will respond to it in ways they don’t really understand nor control. My advice don’t listen to anything just focus more on their body language, if you see a bit of interest on their part just ask them out fast, if they make excuses or sound ambiguous in their responses move on Asap to the next and don’t waste your time.
From a guy's point of view, I definitely like and respect a woman for being prepared to make the first move. I might not be available or there might be other reasons why I choose not to proceed but a girl displaying the confidence to take a risk is definitely a positive.
Be a man and approach. Women are becoming masculine because too many boys are waiting. Rejection for a girl is damaging. For me it's just motivation. Don't wait u might miss out bro. Be confident. Women are shallow and she will regret rejecting u. Not your problem. Move on. There's better obviously or God would of made it happen.
I found this refreshing. The women seem mentally stable and go with the flow of things - there's no game playing or manipulation going on here. It should be effortless and fun.
Shallow. Young. Immature. Love isn't about sexuality. It's about a connection. Deep conversations to tickle her intelligence and her feelings. Never listen to what a woman says because her words are engineered by how she's feeling. Feelings change. Men are logical. Women are emotional. Emotions from a woman change constantly. Logic for a man is consistent. This is the difference between the two genders. Thank goodness we're different. It makes it exciting and worthwhile if it's the right person. If u can't connect deeply and only connect in the bed...run. it won't last. Honeymoon stage is fun. But it's hurtful in the end. Words mean nothing if the actions don't coincide. I listen to see the cues but I watch vigorously to see if the two line up. Most women don't line up much. A real man and a great woman don't have these struggles. If and buts are obvious to see and hear. Wake up men. Go to sleep boys. Women have extra abilities to read our Ora. Be strong. Be masculine. Set it straight and be ready to lead her out of her winding road. Straight thoughtful and safe leadership is what they cream for. Just my opinion. Take it with a grain of salt. Don't attack me in comments let's have a conversation. Too many keyboard warriors out there. Pure love and loyalty. This is best way. Don't be afraid of the truth. It's amazing. Mean what u say and do what you said. It's not hard. Or simply just shut up. Your words are valuable. Don't waste them.
They may think that but I'd say it's seldom vocalized by most women. I wish we knew more about these ladies' backgrounds. Some of them seem like a real pain to talk to, I'd probably lose interest instantly.
Has anyone noticed how Stella doesn’t overuse “Like” in the way she talks? I don’t know if it’s just me but her wording and style of conversation is appealing.
After watching this vid, I’ve decided to stay single. Dating in 2022 is like reading The Art of War. U have to be so strategic and technical with everything that u do in a certain order and way that with one little mishap, you’re screwed. It also causes tons of overthinking as well that it just becomes stressful rather than fun and natural.
@@robertneilpalmer not even, since most hookers don’t kiss in the mouth , as a guy who gets most aroused by making out , can’t get hard. Plus anxiety performance makes it worst
Courtney this was one of the most informative videos on women I have watched. The diversity of women from looks and personality was tremendous. This kind of insight is so valuable so thank you and keep up the good work.😁
I actually really liked this video because of the numerous topics it touched not just the actual physical signs that woman show when they’re interested. Thank you!
The hardest part for me is always the confidence aspect. I see the signs, I rationalize them in my head as to why they are just being friendly, then later find out they were interested. I think it would be best if everyone could just say how they feel, but that is scary because both parties know there is a chance for rejection. I appreciate these women who are sharing how they show they are attracted but even then, it is clear that there are many different ways which can make the man question if she likes him or is being friendly...especially when some people flirt just to have fun and not to indicate attraction. Like any video showing different opinions/perspectives, I appreciate the lessons that can be applied.
The phone is for making appointments and setting up dates. Messages are ok to actually relay relevant information , short conversations to check up with somebody and find out if everything is ok are ok , but i greatly prefer meeting up in person and having real conversations and deep one on one interactions.
Amen!! Texting for long conversations is impersonal, tedious, a poor indicator of chemistry, and so easily misunderstood. Couldn't agree with you more. So glad I grew up in the 80s, where we actually had to speak to people
More of Stella please! She seems like the only one who doesn't still have their inner teenage girl personality on show. She is clear and direct with her answers. I like this.
We tend to enjoy those whom we feel most comfortable with, no sense of competition or dominance, with whom we can relax with and be ourselves. For me, as a man, eye contact and smiles and tone of voice are indicative of a girl's interest. Too many people work too hard at trying to prove themselves worthy or attractive. Eat healthy, stay active, grow your mind and spirit, and who knows who may come along!
This has been a enlightening video. Hearing their stories sometimes confirms or gives insight to other possibilities that may have been opportunities looking back at past dates. Tell these girls we appreciate their vulnerability for the sake of our education!
Stella saying all the right things makes me think she doesn't really do any of this in real life lol Some of her answers were just too good to be true.
Honestly, I have watched a lot of your videos the past few weeks because I’m talking to this girl and I’m typically good at reading people (it’s my profession after all) but I could not really read her. From all the advice from all your videos, it seemed like she didn’t share mutual feelings and I started to think she was just being nice and accept that’ll we will just be friends. But it turns out she actually did have feelings & she’s just a really shy introverted person. Literally all the signs showed she wasn’t interested, but that’s just how she is and I can appreciate it. Not everyone is the same and some people have a more difficult time showing/sharing emotions. Most women I have talked to, it was much easier to tell that they liked me because you can pick up on things (which were mentioned in this video) but with her I honestly had no clue lol. So don’t give up y’all! There’s still a chance.
The problems are many times a girl is interested and showing signs - but because she is talking to several guys she loses interest in you quickly. Especially, if she is on dating apps. She could be talking to at least 5 other guys. Also, sometimes girls lead guys on - then act like he has done something wrong when he responds showing interest in her.
I put this on with no intention of watching the whole thing but ended up doing so. It was very interesting seeing each girl's differing perspective. I found myself likening some of the girls to different types of girls I've met in the past. I hardly ever comment but this is good work Courtney, thank you. You've become one of my favourite channels.
It’s wild to me how many people - guys and girls - refuse to just tell someone they’re not interested in them. If you’re not interested but you’re not saying it directly and instead you’re not responding frequently or being short, you’re part of the problem. Communication is key in all types of relationship, not just romantic ones. If you want to remain friends, tell them the dynamic you want. If not, tell them you’re not interested, then stop talking to them
I agree. If I am seeing someone and by the 2nd date I am liking this person a lot, i take some time to tactfully say i like this person because i don't want to scare her off by making her think I am in love or something. It's a simple "Hey, we've hung out and i feel a spark, I wanted to know if you wanted to make this official dating."
Correct. It's not "being nice" or "polite" to keep giving one word answers, ignoring messages, etc. Don't be cruel or dismissive about it, but you really should just come out and politely tell the person you're not interested. Having their advances *politely* rejected is something that any guy in that kind of situation should take for granted as part of the process and be okay with.
This is the best video I've seen yet under this subscription because it's women telling how they play with flirting. Some of the other videos where they guess how men are feeling not so good.
This further cements in my mind that every individual is unique in what they desire and how they communicate, and that there is no truly effective one-size-fits-all approach to dating.
There is. Be attractive. The girls in this video explicitly said that if you are one, then they will either approach you or make it extremely easy to approach them.
As someone who’s 21 and never been in a relationship I really don’t understand why people just don’t tell others how they feel or their intentions. Stop with all the mind games and just tell people how you feel. In my mind it would make everything so much easier. 🤷🏻
Yes, you're right. It would make things easier. But understand that men and women are very different creatures. They think, feel, and need differently. Men in most cases are driven more by logic and reason. Women by contrast thrive on emotional chaos; and how they feel can change from day to day. So even if a woman told you how she feels today, she might feel very differently tomorrow.
Truss yeah if I like someone I open up more. If your fake ab it I won't bother. Like late responses and 1 word responses get left on read for long time 😂
This exactly why you’ve never been in a relationship. Betas talk about their feelings. Never talk about them unless the woman brings it up first, that’s her job. Her area of operations
Just for the sake of stating the obvious... Stella is amazing with the advices, straightforward, no nonsense and very mature (other than clearly very beautiful).
*It’s easy to miss those subtle signs when you’re not sure what to look for. Hearing women break it down like this makes it so much easier to understand when she’s interested versus just being friendly.*
Very interesting and eye-opening video. I fully agree with other comments here that Stella has a very mature, no-nonsense aura of confidence without seeming to dominant, but guys, be warned (by someone who is quite a bit older than the women in the video): Women like that are ideal to "share the crown" in a relationship, which is ideal for a couple of months, but it eventually leads to a relationship with *a ton* of upkeep ! Potentially very rewarding, but you eventually essentially have a part-time job in upkeeping the relationship because there is constant friction that needs to be smoothed over by both partners.
Thanks for the time stamp, Courtney. This is very helpful. It's good to hear from different perspective on how a women will let a man know she likes him. They all have a different approach.
If someone truly wants you, they will show it through actions, how effective their communication is, their vibe, body language and how they treat you. If you have to constantly ask yourself if someone is into you or not, they act hot and cold towards you, then most likely, they're not! 💙TH-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
But not saying shes interested is the antithesis of effective communication. She has no reason to drop the other 34 hints, signs and cues waiting for the appropriate countersign when she could have just talked to him and asked him out.
I like that they say they use emojis, it not only displays the tone and attitude or sarcasm in the conversations. It can leave someone really confused if you dont. Ive had many misunderstandings with my wife because emojis were not used by either of us in our convo and it left us both mad at each other until we see each other after work and explain ourselves.
Nothing like putting a video like this on, late at night when trying to sleep. 2 minutes in and I'm out like a light. Nothing more boring than listening to women talk about themselves. Guaranteed insomnia cure.
Texting should be reserved and used to MAKE ACTUAL PLANS, flirting, conversation, and other affections should take place during said plans IN PERSON. MEN with value, do not waste your time with women who prefer to play on the phone.
Even though their answers are different one thing they all seem to have in common is confidence. Stella definitely has a boldness about her and no nonsense which is great 👍🏾. As far as the gym just wait until they are finished working out. They might be more open to talking after the workout.
@@endless8701 right, but my point is you might not notice when she actually finishes her workout after seeing her earlier in the gym. So if you lose sight of her, she might leave, and you'll miss your chance
Thank you(8x) so very much…you’ve summarised what I learn since my first day of school back in Louise Wolff Kahn Elementary, oh the fond memories I’m grateful for being a part as I miss those moments of suchlike joyful experiences.
This further proves my theory that a lot of women don't know how to attract and convey their feelings towards men...unless you're as confident as Stella. She had the best answers among everyone
This is a great video viewpoint, you always seem to find such a varied group. My only take on this would be where you break it down in a living space to make it comfortable and to see you lead. So proud of you and your growth! I have to say I truly enjoy your insights. It's like having a sister who understands.
Women generally give men more subtle signs that she’s interested than men give women, so her sincerity often shows less obvious to some guys. If she asks questions to keep the conversation going and responds promptly, that’s always a good indication that she’s attentive and genuinely interested. Women who aren’t interested easily show their indifference to your very existence, which often leads to ghosting👻
@@Introvertedalpha thank you and I’m just sharing some some insights from my experiences in this crazy dating and mating game we all play at one point or another. It’s not exactly rocket science if you put everything into perspective.😎
I appreciate the candor, and the variety in their responses. It shows there isn't one canned type of interaction or response. I just wish there was less of the "hope he catches the hint," when it comes to a lack of interest, versus coming out and saying it.
I don't think they're realizing what they're unwittingly saying about themselves and about Western women and dating in the 2020s in general though. I'm 20 damn minutes in and ALL they have talked about so far is emojis and shit like that. Emphasis on "shit" because this is like, teenage girl tier. Who even texts? They spent so much time talking about texting, which is weird in general considering the topic of the video (how does he have your phone number if you're not interested??), then mention IG, and it reminds me this time I was talking to a woman at a bar and she wrote her facebook on my arm. This is something I'm just so thoroughly put off by it's making me realize I probably don't even want to interact with native English speakers at all anymore and am continuing my pandemic hermitude indefinitely where it concerns Western people. That is just so damn petty and selfish to me, if you want to get to know someone you're going to have phone conversations. I will point out though, that the one seriously nice thing about Western women is the boldness, bluntness, and directness. I feel like non-European/Western cultures are definitely putting the way more emphasis on the guy doing everything, and men having discussion with male family members and stuff like that, more than the way we are which seems to be "I want that therefore I'm gonna take that." So there is that. It's just the texting thing, I am so put off by this I don't even have words. Mainly because I was starting to notice this more and more in personal life.
Just noticed something. So many videos always say "Looks don't matter", or "Looks aren't the most important thing." etc. "It's all about confidence, having a good sense of humor, etc". Yet you ask these women about approaching a guy at a bar, or club, concert, wherever; and the first thing they say is "If I see a cute guy...."; or you ask "You see a cute guy at a bar how do you approach him?" The common denominator is always "A cute guy." So if a guy isn't "cute", or "hot", most women won't give him a chance to show he has confidence, or a good sense of humor, etc. Just because someone is "cute", or "hot" doesn't automatically mean they're a great catch. Ted Bundy was thought to have been very handsome, charming etc; and well we all know how that turned out. My point is that LOOKS are still the most important initial factor in whether or not someone will give you the time of day beyond just being polite.
Courtney. Excellent content, as usual. It was interesting from beginning to end but I feel it would have been a good call to split it into two parts, rather than such a long video, IMHO
This was funny, at first I was let me see if I've missed out on positive signals from someone, then slowly it turned into, holy shit I haven't experienced any of these. Accept and improve is all we can do boys.
I enjoyed this video format and making it longer definitely suited it. Having a few girls answer the same questions was really helpful. Just being able to compare answers and see what is common across girls and which preferences are more individual.
Hey Courtney! Love your vids! I have a great idea where you could round up all the girls and they can do a sort of "show and tell" segment, showcasing stories of the best dates, best texting conversations, best pick up lines, etc. It's great to hear the tips and guidelines, but it would really resonate with guys to witness specific texts and actions that have actually worked. Hope you see this!
great video overall. And I've been there, done that...mostly , if not always the one who is rejected....but anyways, one of the ladies toward the end of this video was correct. This statement could relate to being anywhere, but basically if a woman is not into you, she' s not into you period. You can be a guy with rock hard abs, beautiful personality, great job, big house, etc....if she's not into you, she's not into you. She'll ignore you period....this is just based upon my experience though...
This was awesome... Such diversity in personalities. This also has contributed to many different outlooks from the opposite sex. Stella, Kailee and Deja's responses were real to me. There is something very attractive about a woman that can show a little aggression about engagement and a woman that goes after what she likes. Of course doing it in tasteful fashion is always a plus lol. Yeah interviewing ladies on topics was a good thing... Great vid Courtney... Keep up the good work.
I really enjoy this format, perspective is a good thing to have a lot of. These good examples are helpful, bad examples are also helpful but really hard to not make demeaning :/ I personally feel no one should feel bad about expressing what they want and feel. The only negative would be in why they feel that way.
Courtney I really I appreciate this content that you shared. It makes realized that everyone is different however, there are principles, signs or facts that we must be able to read them.
I'm very physically attracted to Lexi. I believe she's also an introvert like me. No small talk. The problem with that approach is it makes it difficult to ease into deeper conversations when you've not yet established how you're doing right now at this moment. When I don't get positive responses for those surface questions, such as "you know what my day kind of sux Lol but it's nice to hear from you," I read that as indifference to me and lose interest.
With a deep thinker add more to your surface question. It was really great getting to know you (Point out something that you liked about her or bonded over). I hope your day is going good! Show a bit of interest, complement her, and wish her well. Deep thinkers want to know they are cared for and you are a safe and promising person to open up to.
I absolutely agree. Lexi is by far my favourite as well. Likely too complicated or mysterious for those lacking much depth or emotion, perhaps resulting in the overwhelming response over Stella. Lexi is full of personality, with lots of different expressions and mannerisms. Her gasps on the last video were just so captivating and endearing!
I don’t claim to be an expert on the subject, but I’ve never struggled with the ladies & I find the best way to approach dating is to just treat all girls the same, treat someone you don’t fancy the same way you would someone you do fancy, smile, be fun, banter, flirt & leave them all enjoying your company, trust me you’ll have your pick of the bunch, don’t waste time chasing or playing games you just end up looking weak & desperate.
this was a great video! loved each one of the women’s perspectives and insights. there were commonalities but it was also interesting to see how different personalities approached situations slightly differently. but overall it seems to come down to regular human behavior. if you are interested in someone you engage more and make more of an effort. if you are not interested, you try to be brief and end the convo as soon as you can.
I definitely love the panel format so that it shows how what works for one person doesn't neccessarily work for another person and their individual personality needs to be taken into account. From a guys point of view too many woman either want the guy to talk and not ask questions and always be the first to text and that just causes us to lose interest immediately. I have had great conversations with women where everything was connecting but they didn't participate and gave the impression they were enjoying the conversation but not interested then when I took that as a sign they were not interested and stopped they would later ask why I stopped talking with them as they thought we had great chemistry and everything was going good. If a woman can't put equal effort in then she is not worth pursuing. Play hard to get in this day and age and no real man will want you it is all about equality and that means equal effort from the start. If after two conversations even if they are hours long and flirting but you haven't intiated first contact or are not asking questions or volunteering information and making the guy ask everything or talk about himself then BYE.
47:58 minutes of what my crush isn't doing. Great. Just kidding. She invited me for a coffee but told her I have interest and I do like her so much and thats why I can't be friends with her anymore kindly and walked away. All thanks to Courtney. I may not see her again but I have my soul back to myself. How long it was? Too long to even admit here. You need to accept whatever pain may come to live your self and the reality. Not your imagination. Edit: I just found a great girl who is even more intelligent then her lol. If I didn't do that a month ago, I wouldn't be open to this new girl. So yeah, just realized I wrote this comnment. Pain is temporary. Have courage to face it
The biggest mistake a man can make is to put a woman he likes in that type of situation. She is not rejecting You personally, she is rejecting your proposition. A friend, as a woman view it, is having you in a non romantic way. Does not imply anything else. Is on you to keep her as an acquaintance and treat her as just that. They understand a rejection to an offering of "friendship" in a negative way, meaning a minus in your personality. As a man you always want to project a control over your emotions which project a masculine frame. This is what gain you respect and women are inclined to admire (and f_c_)men who they respect. Next time though.
I think when someone is interested in you, you just know. No need to try to figure it out, your gut instinct just tells you, even if they send out mixed signals. If someone likes you, they will constantly look at you, some will look when you're not looking, but you will always catch them looking eventually.
yeah, thats a huge nope. just listen to any guy's stories of missing signals. men deal in actual communication, not spy language. this is entirely a cope for not wanting to talk like an adult.
I notice when women like you they try to physically and subtly touch you. They are also consistent with their behavior and with what they say. Women only open up to and want to date extremely physically attractive tall guys.
The best thing you can take from this video is that all women are different. All people are different. As a man you have to have options. Not so you can disrespect women, it is so you learn the different ways they act and show attraction towards you. Their are general signals but things are complicated, humans are complicated. Having options allows you to not invest too much into anyone, and to not be hurt by rejection or elusiveness. My current favorite chapter in the bible is Matthew 25:1-12. It speaks on female devotion. 5 were wise and 5 were foolish. The bible naturally tells you to have options because women will reveal themselves to you. From there you choose the best one for you. Great vid Courtney. Always good to see the female perspective. Tell Erica I said Hi for me.
Mine are these, I even have a list from my bible studies: Proverbs 5:6, Proverbs 7:24-26, Proverbs 21:19, Proverbs 27:15-16 , Proverbs 5:3-4, Proverbs 2:16, Romans 1:26, Proverbs 23:27-28.
Great conversation with the lovely ladies. Always enjoy this format although it kind of feels like cheating getting the inside scoop lol. You do a great job having people on with very different styles and personalities which is awesome and interesting to see the differences. From a shy approach to someone who I think would legit go up to a guy they're interested in and ask for their number lol. Wish i knew some ladies like this around my area like this, each has a very unique and great personality :)
The more confident you find someone the more experienced and calculative she can be so do not be a fool and observe everything and be judgmental!!. do not fall easily with the aura of maturity and straightforwardness. Always be vigilant, the key to opening her up and deconstructing her lies in her recent past, in the last relationship so try to get info and be aware of toxic relationships with the facade of love
This depends on each women how to tell if she likes you. With my boyfriend now, I met him through a co-worker. He was a bit shy at first. We got each others number over a lunch date which my co-worker arranged. I think it was like almost two weeks and I didn't hear from him. So I took initiative and texted him and asked him to go out again. We had a great time. I don't like to text emoji when I just meet him. I think it only feels right to use emoji when you're already dating. I reply quicker if I like him. I think texting is quick small talk to schedule a date. If you really want to know the person, talk to this person over the phone or meet up with this person.
I agree entirely about the texting vs. phone thing. I'm talking to a girl and we call every day we can, otherwise I'll text once every few hours. It pays to find a happy medium between replying too often and replying too little as well.
Try also texting with voice messages. it can add a whole other element to the relationship especially as you're getting more comfortable with the other person
All these ladies are wonderful, and we appreciate Courtney for doing another great video with them all. However, everyone is just so blinded by Stellas looks, and her so called confidence. its not surprising, but it should be. It's one of the main points about this channel, and dating, not getting blinded by looks. Let's be honest, her confidence comes from being an extremely beautiful woman!! She is straight forward and no BS because she knows she can be and probably gets whoever she wants when she wants. That's just beauty privilege at its finest. I've known a few woman like her. Not hating at all, but I just had to call out these men that are falling off the wagon! Looks aren't everything!
I'm glad someone said this. Yeah, it's great that she's as direct and open and honest as she is-but of course she is! She's gorgeous, and it's a lot easier to be friendly and open-and have people reciprocate-when you look as good as she does. Halo Effect in full effect in this comment section.
Yeah. I find her gorgeous, but honestly I don't really like her personality at all. I mean, I have seen worse. In fact, I think she might be middle of the pack to even above average in personality compared to the rest of this lineup. But that is not saying much.
Great video, i enjoyed it. I wanna thank all the ladies who took part im the conversation in my opinion they were 95% honest with their responses . Thank you Courtney ❤
Best sign: they just flat out tell you. I'm kind of a slow guy when it comes to women, so unless you grab me by the face and legit tell me, I'll think you're just playing games.
Yeah I think you nailed it. You have to be so cautious nowadays. You're either a creep or you are not being a real man, it's a tough balance. Sometimes it's better just to kick back, enjoy the conversations until it becomes blindingly obvious....lol.
100% haha I like it when I get consistent good morning texts and those flirty emojis
You have to just get it, they'll never tell you straight up. The paradox of open communication solving everything
@GuruOfNothing if you are talking about those that are so frustrated they are impatient and they want it now, then yes that means that they really want you
@@sheed321 which is really hard for guys to learn when they spend all day in the classroom with a woman and go home to their single mother and never learn how women actually are because without a guy in the environment you can never see how they actually behave. Single motherhood is definitely an issue when it comes to a lot of the problems out there today regarding men and women. Boys need to learn what kind of man to be and what kind of woman to look for and girls need to learn what kind of woman to be and what kind of man to look for then you can only get that with a healthy marriage where the parents aren't in competition for the child's attention because children learn from observation, Not from attention
So if a girl is interested in me she'll either text me first or wait for me to text first. And she'll either respond to my texts quickly with a lot to say or she'll try not to text too quickly and try not to write too much as she doesn't want to seem too keen. This really clears things up 😂
Yeah, this is absolute facts. They also then decide the guy isnt interested when he doesnt read her specific instruction manual and understand and make the move she wants which is direct. If men attracted women like women attract men, one baby a year would be born globally
And the lesson to be learned is not to rely on her cues but instead lead the interactions and see if she follows.
@@jleano609 or...just ask a question. If shes interested, she can ask just the same as he can
@@Mgtowhonesty she can, but will she? Why are you expecting equality in relationships? Women are not men and they don't act like men - and this is a good thing.
@@jleano609 if she womt, shes not worth my time. Using words how theyre defined to get a point across isnt a masculine thing, its an intelligent and adult thing. Men and women are equally important, we arent important in the same areas but communication is a universal standard that needs to be upheld or she will continue to treat basic conversations like bad spy films in other parts of the relationship. Women will be direct with coworkers, friends, family and men they dont like, they save the bad conversation for men they do like and thats backwards and idiotic
Stella, the kind of girl we all wish we would meet.
Straight to the point, mature and confident. Actually feels like you are listening to a grown up woman and not a 15year old girl
Agreed, Stella is a mature woman. Its too bad we dont get to meet a abundance of wimen like her.
Stella is definitely the most impressive in all of these interview videos they do.
I think Stella is missing the emotion gene.
Facts! her way she articulated her responses are even attractive
One way with her is probably a confident Sharp very funny person who knows how to tease her Just right. Eventually she may melt that Ice, but make boundaries with her because she'll most likely have hers.
I love Stella's responses. She is direct, honest, straightforward and to the point. Her actions are congruent with her words. Any man would appreciate this over someone who plays waiting games and wastes people's time. Thank you Courtney!
Yes stella just like the drink is pretty nice😊
Listen ladies. Men don’t do subtle and don’t like games. If you like him, tell him. There’s nothing that could go wrong other than he may say ‘no thanks’ politely as the vast vast majority of men don’t want to cause distress and embarrassment. The danger is that you will lose him to a girl that isn’t afraid to say what she thinks and feels. If so, that’s on you and isn’t toxic masculinity or being played- it’s you not understanding what men actually need. It is really simple and so often people over-think this stuff.
Taking ages to text back can be the opposite she's probably really thinking about her text probably reading it over and over again to make sure it's right when she pressing the send button she's probably hovering over send for 10 mins😂😂
Women don't handle being rejected well like men. Men get rejected a lot that we get use to it. A woman gets rejected and watch out
Boy, you don’t understand s**😂
@@richardhorne4963 doubtful. Have you seen how a woman in her 20s texts? They usually don't gaf, all the cards are in their hands and they have many options. Even a hot dude is fairly replaceable unless they already have a deep emotional bond somehow
The problem is women never youtube what men want, men only look up what women want. Women have so many endless non-stop options, they're never looking for any strategic adjustments.
Can you please keep Stella on for more of these videos, because she is so mature, no nonsense!
Agreed, she's one of my faves
She definitely has my favorite vibe.
Yeah, she appears to be the most emotionally and situationally aware. She looks like blonde Evangeline Lilly
I support this notion 💪👍
yeah she is my favorite Power ranger too 😋
Stella has the most straightforward and best advice IMO! I love the fact that she’s not overthinking the whole thing
Or is it just bc she cute lol
@@behzadahmadi8133 That’s just a plus
Lol bro
@@GCP25 Erica is cute to
@@behzadahmadi8133 Probably the "halo effect". 🤣
Stella clearly show what confidence combined to attractiveness look like. Also, direct and honest responses.
exactly, the type of girl most guys like.
@@sosinati3358 how could you acuse someone this easy !???
She comes across as cold, calculating, insincere and unfeminine to me.
@@sosinati3358 if you know you know. The dudes that rate her are simps/victims lol
@@alirezaghazavi To bang, not marry.
Stella is the type of girl I love. Keep it real, keep it honest and open. No mixed signals, just straight to the point.
You apparently haven't seen the other videos she was in. The one where they ask the women how much money a man should have to be able to date or attain her. She starts talking about a Bugatti to give a hint so you guys praising her might want to check thise videos out on here lol.
@@chrislong8559 thanks for the heads up, king
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yeah that's very true because she was honest without any attitude. which shows her emotional intellect is very good, which is even rare find to any of other women in this interview.
Stella's confidence and analytical take on things are a very attractive quality of her personality. It's a shame there aren't more people like her (regardless of gender), life for everyone in the world would be a lot simpler even outside of a dating context.
In other videos she also reveals herself to be a woman who needs a man who makes $650k annually, wants a big house on 5 acres, needs to a million dollar Pagani supercar and believes a $350k Ferrari is an ordinary everyday beater. Good luck to the guy who gets suckered into that one.
I have come to accept that most women are scammers and I don't trust any of them now. I had a woman who seemed all of the above: confident, good job, and seemed to know what she wanted. But it turns out it isn't me, but rather my wallet. She wants me to pay all her moving expenses despite her claim to be making twice what I make. Dating is ruined, and I no longer want to participate in the whole scam!! I am sure there are a few women who are truly interested in a real, two way relationship, but they are rare, and I have only met a tiny few, all of whom are married.
Well, very beautiful, but seems stuck up, projects she thinks the world revolves around her. Erica is the cutest and nicest.🥰
Na Stella is the hottest 😍😍@@juancruz1367
@@juancruz1367definitely not Stella is way prettier than Erica 😂
Flirting in real life is better than flirting over text, in my opinion.
Flirting in real life might cost you your job or land your ass in legal trouble if the target of your flirting doesn't find you equally as attractive.
Alex this is the fact of these days. But in real life the match are "more successfull"
Like some of the girls said, online they give a litle like hoping that guy notice and come to talk, hard to talk, and even if this happen, if a lilte thing happen they disengage and ghosting before getting"rejected"... 🤷♂️
Look like less effort possible until a 9 or 10 try to match.
Nah, same struggle. You still have to read minds and guessing.
Stella is a dream girl! Shes mature and knows how to act in a relationship, will text first because she knows what she wants and is absolutely beautiful
Believe actions, not words bro.
@@EricGraham94 wordified bro
Don’t believe a word they say man lol…listen to guy’s advice on how to get women instead.
If you listen to women you will just end confused as heck, cause they themselves don’t know what they want, or how they react. Their modus operandi is all about what kind of emotions they are feeling at certain times, and they will respond to it in ways they don’t really understand nor control.
My advice don’t listen to anything just focus more on their body language, if you see a bit of interest on their part just ask them out fast, if they make excuses or sound ambiguous in their responses move on Asap to the next and don’t waste your time.
Kensei agree
Stop simping
Stella has this aura of confidence and maturity that's alluring. Lexi has this sweet innocence and down-to-earth vibe. Great video!
Believe actions, not Words
Wierd
lol you have so much to learn about women being "mature, innocent, sweet and down to earth"
I knew a shy chick who was so nice and alluring who I found out was a stripper and a thief 💀💀 this shit ain’t Disney boy
Stella was also the person in the last video who called someone a 1 if they were shorter than her lmao
From a guy's point of view, I definitely like and respect a woman for being prepared to make the first move. I might not be available or there might be other reasons why I choose not to proceed but a girl displaying the confidence to take a risk is definitely a positive.
Be a man and approach. Women are becoming masculine because too many boys are waiting. Rejection for a girl is damaging. For me it's just motivation. Don't wait u might miss out bro. Be confident. Women are shallow and she will regret rejecting u. Not your problem. Move on. There's better obviously or God would of made it happen.
I found this refreshing. The women seem mentally stable and go with the flow of things - there's no game playing or manipulation going on here. It should be effortless and fun.
Actually I wouldn't say that. The one in particular waiting a certain amount of time is playing games.
lol
“I can’t stop thinking about your body”
Boy, that escalated quickly
My reply would be "Well. .I've been told my beer gut has got some extra texture!"
I was thinking that too 😂
Shallow. Young. Immature. Love isn't about sexuality. It's about a connection. Deep conversations to tickle her intelligence and her feelings. Never listen to what a woman says because her words are engineered by how she's feeling. Feelings change. Men are logical. Women are emotional. Emotions from a woman change constantly. Logic for a man is consistent. This is the difference between the two genders. Thank goodness we're different. It makes it exciting and worthwhile if it's the right person. If u can't connect deeply and only connect in the bed...run. it won't last. Honeymoon stage is fun. But it's hurtful in the end. Words mean nothing if the actions don't coincide. I listen to see the cues but I watch vigorously to see if the two line up. Most women don't line up much. A real man and a great woman don't have these struggles. If and buts are obvious to see and hear. Wake up men. Go to sleep boys. Women have extra abilities to read our Ora. Be strong. Be masculine. Set it straight and be ready to lead her out of her winding road. Straight thoughtful and safe leadership is what they cream for. Just my opinion. Take it with a grain of salt. Don't attack me in comments let's have a conversation. Too many keyboard warriors out there. Pure love and loyalty. This is best way. Don't be afraid of the truth. It's amazing. Mean what u say and do what you said. It's not hard. Or simply just shut up. Your words are valuable. Don't waste them.
They may think that but I'd say it's seldom vocalized by most women. I wish we knew more about these ladies' backgrounds. Some of them seem like a real pain to talk to, I'd probably lose interest instantly.
Has anyone noticed how Stella doesn’t overuse “Like” in the way she talks? I don’t know if it’s just me but her wording and style of conversation is appealing.
26:01 like sandwiches 🥪 are so unappealing.
She says "ya know" instead.
After watching this vid, I’ve decided to stay single. Dating in 2022 is like reading The Art of War. U have to be so strategic and technical with everything that u do in a certain order and way that with one little mishap, you’re screwed. It also causes tons of overthinking as well that it just becomes stressful rather than fun and natural.
Don’t loose hope bro. But seriously 21st century dating is all muddled.
I agree, paying for escorts is looking good right now.
@@robertneilpalmer not even, since most hookers don’t kiss in the mouth , as a guy who gets most aroused by making out , can’t get hard. Plus anxiety performance makes it worst
Find a gf or have sex is harder than preparing some tactics for an UCL final
Find a gf or have sex is harder than outbox Usyk
Courtney this was one of the most informative videos on women I have watched. The diversity of women from looks and personality was tremendous. This kind of insight is so valuable so thank you and keep up the good work.😁
I actually really liked this video because of the numerous topics it touched not just the actual physical signs that woman show when they’re interested. Thank you!
The hardest part for me is always the confidence aspect. I see the signs, I rationalize them in my head as to why they are just being friendly, then later find out they were interested. I think it would be best if everyone could just say how they feel, but that is scary because both parties know there is a chance for rejection. I appreciate these women who are sharing how they show they are attracted but even then, it is clear that there are many different ways which can make the man question if she likes him or is being friendly...especially when some people flirt just to have fun and not to indicate attraction. Like any video showing different opinions/perspectives, I appreciate the lessons that can be applied.
I've made this same point on a previous video
If she was interested in you, she would have already made a move on you.
Women reject men like clockwork and we are used to it and then when we reject them, it’s like the world is ending.
Can't do that cause it kills attraction
Yeah same for me, it is all about finding your inner confidence.
Stella definetly stands out the most. Her confidence is through the roof.
The phone is for making appointments and setting up dates. Messages are ok to actually relay relevant information , short conversations to check up with somebody and find out if everything is ok are ok , but i greatly prefer meeting up in person and having real conversations and deep one on one interactions.
Amen!! Texting for long conversations is impersonal, tedious, a poor indicator of chemistry, and so easily misunderstood. Couldn't agree with you more. So glad I grew up in the 80s, where we actually had to speak to people
@@Lonstermash I'm from the same generation , so i understand what you mean.
Texting is usually garbage, don't care if it's friends or someone you are interested in. You don't see the emotion behind it.
Bit of both
More of Stella please! She seems like the only one who doesn't still have their inner teenage girl personality on show. She is clear and direct with her answers. I like this.
We tend to enjoy those whom we feel most comfortable with, no sense of competition or dominance, with whom we can relax with and be ourselves. For me, as a man, eye contact and smiles and tone of voice are indicative of a girl's interest. Too many people work too hard at trying to prove themselves worthy or attractive. Eat healthy, stay active, grow your mind and spirit, and who knows who may come along!
Signs I always notice is they want your attention and will make time for you.
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I think wanting your attention isn’t always an indicator, some women enjoy wasting guys’ time.
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@@brandonhunter3166 lol
Lmao they ALL want attention
This has been a enlightening video. Hearing their stories sometimes confirms or gives insight to other possibilities that may have been opportunities looking back at past dates. Tell these girls we appreciate their vulnerability for the sake of our education!
Absolutely. Superstars
Definitely bro
Stella saying all the right things makes me think she doesn't really do any of this in real life lol Some of her answers were just too good to be true.
Bingo! She is saying all the things which are too good to be true.
Honestly, I have watched a lot of your videos the past few weeks because I’m talking to this girl and I’m typically good at reading people (it’s my profession after all) but I could not really read her. From all the advice from all your videos, it seemed like she didn’t share mutual feelings and I started to think she was just being nice and accept that’ll we will just be friends. But it turns out she actually did have feelings & she’s just a really shy introverted person. Literally all the signs showed she wasn’t interested, but that’s just how she is and I can appreciate it. Not everyone is the same and some people have a more difficult time showing/sharing emotions. Most women I have talked to, it was much easier to tell that they liked me because you can pick up on things (which were mentioned in this video) but with her I honestly had no clue lol. So don’t give up y’all! There’s still a chance.
That's cool but me personally that sort of girl wouldn't be for me
If the woman likes you then she will pursue you. It's a nice feeling when the woman you like decides that she wants to be with You.
The problems are many times a girl is interested and showing signs - but because she is talking to several guys she loses interest in you quickly. Especially, if she is on dating apps. She could be talking to at least 5 other guys.
Also, sometimes girls lead guys on - then act like he has done something wrong when he responds showing interest in her.
I put this on with no intention of watching the whole thing but ended up doing so. It was very interesting seeing each girl's differing perspective. I found myself likening some of the girls to different types of girls I've met in the past.
I hardly ever comment but this is good work Courtney, thank you. You've become one of my favourite channels.
It's crazy how quickly the time goes on such an interesting video!
Idk I'm 50/50 on video they only giving signs and interaction under texting/conversation no actions like offering meetup
It’s wild to me how many people - guys and girls - refuse to just tell someone they’re not interested in them. If you’re not interested but you’re not saying it directly and instead you’re not responding frequently or being short, you’re part of the problem. Communication is key in all types of relationship, not just romantic ones. If you want to remain friends, tell them the dynamic you want. If not, tell them you’re not interested, then stop talking to them
I agree. If I am seeing someone and by the 2nd date I am liking this person a lot, i take some time to tactfully say i like this person because i don't want to scare her off by making her think I am in love or something. It's a simple "Hey, we've hung out and i feel a spark, I wanted to know if you wanted to make this official dating."
Correct. It's not "being nice" or "polite" to keep giving one word answers, ignoring messages, etc. Don't be cruel or dismissive about it, but you really should just come out and politely tell the person you're not interested. Having their advances *politely* rejected is something that any guy in that kind of situation should take for granted as part of the process and be okay with.
This is the best video I've seen yet under this subscription because it's women telling how they play with flirting. Some of the other videos where they guess how men are feeling not so good.
This is one of the most helpful videos I've ever seen on girls and eye contact for flirting and I love the questions you asked in general
I don’t see how eye contact is inherently flirtatious. Eye contact can mean a great many things.
This further cements in my mind that every individual is unique in what they desire and how they communicate, and that there is no truly effective one-size-fits-all approach to dating.
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There is. Be attractive.
The girls in this video explicitly said that if you are one, then they will either approach you or make it extremely easy to approach them.
As someone who’s 21 and never been in a relationship I really don’t understand why people just don’t tell others how they feel or their intentions. Stop with all the mind games and just tell people how you feel. In my mind it would make everything so much easier. 🤷🏻
Yes, you're right. It would make things easier. But understand that men and women are very different creatures. They think, feel, and need differently. Men in most cases are driven more by logic and reason. Women by contrast thrive on emotional chaos; and how they feel can change from day to day. So even if a woman told you how she feels today, she might feel very differently tomorrow.
the more feminine a woman the more indirect/unobvious/subtle/vague they are to men they are interested in
Truss yeah if I like someone I open up more. If your fake ab it I won't bother. Like late responses and 1 word responses get left on read for long time 😂
In that same situation. I keep getting ghosted and it’s annoying.
This exactly why you’ve never been in a relationship. Betas talk about their feelings. Never talk about them unless the woman brings it up first, that’s her job. Her area of operations
Just for the sake of stating the obvious... Stella is amazing with the advices, straightforward, no nonsense and very mature (other than clearly very beautiful).
*It’s easy to miss those subtle signs when you’re not sure what to look for. Hearing women break it down like this makes it so much easier to understand when she’s interested versus just being friendly.*
Very interesting and eye-opening video. I fully agree with other comments here that Stella has a very mature, no-nonsense aura of confidence without seeming to dominant, but guys, be warned (by someone who is quite a bit older than the women in the video): Women like that are ideal to "share the crown" in a relationship, which is ideal for a couple of months, but it eventually leads to a relationship with *a ton* of upkeep ! Potentially very rewarding, but you eventually essentially have a part-time job in upkeeping the relationship because there is constant friction that needs to be smoothed over by both partners.
Thanks for the time stamp, Courtney. This is very helpful. It's good to hear from different perspective on how a women will let a man know she likes him. They all have a different approach.
If someone truly wants you, they will show it through actions, how effective their communication is, their vibe, body language and how they treat you. If you have to constantly ask yourself if someone is into you or not, they act hot and cold towards you, then most likely, they're not!
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But not saying shes interested is the antithesis of effective communication. She has no reason to drop the other 34 hints, signs and cues waiting for the appropriate countersign when she could have just talked to him and asked him out.
Theres a clear pattern in the comments, men like Stella because shes mature and isnt playing games!
I like that they say they use emojis, it not only displays the tone and attitude or sarcasm in the conversations. It can leave someone really confused if you dont. Ive had many misunderstandings with my wife because emojis were not used by either of us in our convo and it left us both mad at each other until we see each other after work and explain ourselves.
Nothing like putting a video like this on, late at night when trying to sleep. 2 minutes in and I'm out like a light. Nothing more boring than listening to women talk about themselves. Guaranteed insomnia cure.
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Kinda gay to be uninterested in women talking about signs they are attracted to you 👀
Kailee seems so fun to hang out with! I like her personality.
Texting should be reserved and used to MAKE ACTUAL PLANS, flirting, conversation, and other affections should take place during said plans IN PERSON. MEN with value, do not waste your time with women who prefer to play on the phone.
Even though their answers are different one thing they all seem to have in common is confidence. Stella definitely has a boldness about her and no nonsense which is great 👍🏾. As far as the gym just wait until they are finished working out. They might be more open to talking after the workout.
But you might easily then miss them if you're not training near each other, and she leaves without you seeing her leave.
@@Lonstermash if she is done working out then I might stop my workout to go talk to her
@@endless8701 right, but my point is you might not notice when she actually finishes her workout after seeing her earlier in the gym. So if you lose sight of her, she might leave, and you'll miss your chance
@@Lonstermash that is true. I guess I’m willing to take that chance.
@@endless8701 and I've seen too many women vanish before I had a chance to chat with them, so I often don't take that chance anymore
Thank you(8x) so very much…you’ve summarised what I learn since my first day of school back in Louise Wolff Kahn Elementary, oh the fond memories I’m grateful for being a part as I miss those moments of suchlike joyful experiences.
This further proves my theory that a lot of women don't know how to attract and convey their feelings towards men...unless you're as confident as Stella. She had the best answers among everyone
Women named "Stella" can't not be confident and competent.
It's in the name.
Same with Gertrude's.
This is a great video viewpoint, you always seem to find such a varied group. My only take on this would be where you break it down in a living space to make it comfortable and to see you lead. So proud of you and your growth! I have to say I truly enjoy your insights. It's like having a sister who understands.
Thank you so much Oscar! 🥹 I appreciate your kind words and feedback!
Women generally give men more subtle signs that she’s interested than men give women, so her sincerity often shows less obvious to some guys. If she asks questions to keep the conversation going and responds promptly, that’s always a good indication that she’s attentive and genuinely interested. Women who aren’t interested easily show their indifference to your very existence, which often leads to ghosting👻
Why would you chat with a woman if she isn't interested in you
@@sdgdrfzhr435 is your question directed at me? I never said I chat with anyone who isn’t interested in me.
Great insights.
@@Introvertedalpha thank you and I’m just sharing some some insights from my experiences in this crazy dating and mating game we all play at one point or another. It’s not exactly rocket science if you put everything into perspective.😎
@@nickchang5293 just a general question
Confession: Stella’s face in a thumbnail is enough to get a watch from me ❤️ Always on point and really easy to look at
Yes they all are here. Easy to look at = more views
@@gardengrower7633 only counts if you watch twice
Simp
@@Entree_Iguodala For Stella, most definitely.
I like this format, please do more of them very informative to hear different perspectives from a variety of women!
I appreciate the candor, and the variety in their responses. It shows there isn't one canned type of interaction or response.
I just wish there was less of the "hope he catches the hint," when it comes to a lack of interest, versus coming out and saying it.
Love these kinds of videos, Courtney! I especially love Stella’s straightforward responses. More of her please!
I don't think they're realizing what they're unwittingly saying about themselves and about Western women and dating in the 2020s in general though. I'm 20 damn minutes in and ALL they have talked about so far is emojis and shit like that. Emphasis on "shit" because this is like, teenage girl tier. Who even texts? They spent so much time talking about texting, which is weird in general considering the topic of the video (how does he have your phone number if you're not interested??), then mention IG, and it reminds me this time I was talking to a woman at a bar and she wrote her facebook on my arm. This is something I'm just so thoroughly put off by it's making me realize I probably don't even want to interact with native English speakers at all anymore and am continuing my pandemic hermitude indefinitely where it concerns Western people. That is just so damn petty and selfish to me, if you want to get to know someone you're going to have phone conversations. I will point out though, that the one seriously nice thing about Western women is the boldness, bluntness, and directness. I feel like non-European/Western cultures are definitely putting the way more emphasis on the guy doing everything, and men having discussion with male family members and stuff like that, more than the way we are which seems to be "I want that therefore I'm gonna take that." So there is that. It's just the texting thing, I am so put off by this I don't even have words. Mainly because I was starting to notice this more and more in personal life.
So do i
Stella's quick wit and confident answers are great. Where can I sign up to take her for a cup of coffee?
Just noticed something. So many videos always say "Looks don't matter", or "Looks aren't the most important thing." etc. "It's all about confidence, having a good sense of humor, etc". Yet you ask these women about approaching a guy at a bar, or club, concert, wherever; and the first thing they say is "If I see a cute guy...."; or you ask "You see a cute guy at a bar how do you approach him?"
The common denominator is always "A cute guy." So if a guy isn't "cute", or "hot", most women won't give him a chance to show he has confidence, or a good sense of humor, etc.
Just because someone is "cute", or "hot" doesn't automatically mean they're a great catch. Ted Bundy was thought to have been very handsome, charming etc; and well we all know how that turned out.
My point is that LOOKS are still the most important initial factor in whether or not someone will give you the time of day beyond just being polite.
Absolutely you're right because if looks didn't matter then they would swipe right on every guy on Tinder 😂😂😂🤣🤣
Few channels are actually helpful for guys who are trying to figure this stuff out. Seriously awesome and thoughtful material. You rock!
Courtney. Excellent content, as usual. It was interesting from beginning to end but I feel it would have been a good call to split it into two parts, rather than such a long video, IMHO
Listened through all 50 minutes like it was a podcast, learned a lot I like this format with a variety of opinions.
I figured that they all and only want to date extremely physically attractive tall men.
I really like how honest and mature Stella is with her answers
You should definitely put Stella in more of your videos she knows what she is talking about. Great video
I like Stella’s Confidence, she’s Straight to the point and mature she’s one that I would ask out
Wow I'm so impressed with your content. I've listened to you for a few days now as I'm working out or cooking. Great material!
This was funny, at first I was let me see if I've missed out on positive signals from someone, then slowly it turned into, holy shit I haven't experienced any of these. Accept and improve is all we can do boys.
That's the right attitude man, keep at it 👍
Courtney, you did a wonderful job with the selection of the girls. It refreshing to see all kinds of personalities in the video.
Great questions Courtney. I think most men want to know what women are thinking especially in texting game.
Stella seems like one giant Red Flag. That whole “as a matter of fact” bravado is a dead give away
That young long haired brunette with white sweater and olive top irks me soooo much
I think we can all agree that Stella is stellar!
I enjoyed this video format and making it longer definitely suited it. Having a few girls answer the same questions was really helpful. Just being able to compare answers and see what is common across girls and which preferences are more individual.
Yes they where
Hey Courtney! Love your vids! I have a great idea where you could round up all the girls and they can do a sort of "show and tell" segment, showcasing stories of the best dates, best texting conversations, best pick up lines, etc. It's great to hear the tips and guidelines, but it would really resonate with guys to witness specific texts and actions that have actually worked. Hope you see this!
great video overall. And I've been there, done that...mostly , if not always the one who is rejected....but anyways, one of the ladies toward the end of this video was correct. This statement could relate to being anywhere, but basically if a woman is not into you, she' s not into you period. You can be a guy with rock hard abs, beautiful personality, great job, big house, etc....if she's not into you, she's not into you. She'll ignore you period....this is just based upon my experience though...
This was awesome... Such diversity in personalities. This also has contributed to many different outlooks from the opposite sex.
Stella, Kailee and Deja's responses were real to me. There is something very attractive about a woman that can show a little aggression about engagement and a woman that goes after what she likes. Of course doing it in tasteful fashion is always a plus lol.
Yeah interviewing ladies on topics was a good thing...
Great vid Courtney... Keep up the good work.
kind of a harder video to make but was very insightful, thanks a lot and yes, would love to see more like this
I really enjoy this format, perspective is a good thing to have a lot of. These good examples are helpful, bad examples are also helpful but really hard to not make demeaning :/ I personally feel no one should feel bad about expressing what they want and feel. The only negative would be in why they feel that way.
Thanks for sharing your insights.
@@Introvertedalpha you're welcome
Courtney I really I appreciate this content that you shared. It makes realized that everyone is different however, there are principles, signs or facts that we must be able to read them.
I'm very physically attracted to Lexi. I believe she's also an introvert like me. No small talk. The problem with that approach is it makes it difficult to ease into deeper conversations when you've not yet established how you're doing right now at this moment. When I don't get positive responses for those surface questions, such as "you know what my day kind of sux Lol but it's nice to hear from you," I read that as indifference to me and lose interest.
With a deep thinker add more to your surface question. It was really great getting to know you (Point out something that you liked about her or bonded over). I hope your day is going good! Show a bit of interest, complement her, and wish her well. Deep thinkers want to know they are cared for and you are a safe and promising person to open up to.
I think Stella is the dream tho
I absolutely agree. Lexi is by far my favourite as well. Likely too complicated or mysterious for those lacking much depth or emotion, perhaps resulting in the overwhelming response over Stella.
Lexi is full of personality, with lots of different expressions and mannerisms. Her gasps on the last video were just so captivating and endearing!
I don’t claim to be an expert on the subject, but I’ve never struggled with the ladies & I find the best way to approach dating is to just treat all girls the same, treat someone you don’t fancy the same way you would someone you do fancy, smile, be fun, banter, flirt & leave them all enjoying your company, trust me you’ll have your pick of the bunch, don’t waste time chasing or playing games you just end up looking weak & desperate.
this was a great video! loved each one of the women’s perspectives and insights. there were commonalities but it was also interesting to see how different personalities approached situations slightly differently. but overall it seems to come down to regular human behavior. if you are interested in someone you engage more and make more of an effort. if you are not interested, you try to be brief and end the convo as soon as you can.
Kailee seems like a lot of fun and Deja is clearly really nice.
I definitely love the panel format so that it shows how what works for one person doesn't neccessarily work for another person and their individual personality needs to be taken into account. From a guys point of view too many woman either want the guy to talk and not ask questions and always be the first to text and that just causes us to lose interest immediately. I have had great conversations with women where everything was connecting but they didn't participate and gave the impression they were enjoying the conversation but not interested then when I took that as a sign they were not interested and stopped they would later ask why I stopped talking with them as they thought we had great chemistry and everything was going good. If a woman can't put equal effort in then she is not worth pursuing. Play hard to get in this day and age and no real man will want you it is all about equality and that means equal effort from the start. If after two conversations even if they are hours long and flirting but you haven't intiated first contact or are not asking questions or volunteering information and making the guy ask everything or talk about himself then BYE.
47:58 minutes of what my crush isn't doing. Great.
Just kidding. She invited me for a coffee but told her I have interest and I do like her so much and thats why I can't be friends with her anymore kindly and walked away. All thanks to Courtney. I may not see her again but I have my soul back to myself. How long it was? Too long to even admit here. You need to accept whatever pain may come to live your self and the reality. Not your imagination.
Edit: I just found a great girl who is even more intelligent then her lol. If I didn't do that a month ago, I wouldn't be open to this new girl. So yeah, just realized I wrote this comnment. Pain is temporary. Have courage to face it
Good job with setting up your boundaries. It’s not easy
Well done!
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The biggest mistake a man can make is to put a woman he likes in that type of situation. She is not rejecting You personally, she is rejecting your proposition. A friend, as a woman view it, is having you in a non romantic way. Does not imply anything else. Is on you to keep her as an acquaintance and treat her as just that. They understand a rejection to an offering of "friendship" in a negative way, meaning a minus in your personality. As a man you always want to project a control over your emotions which project a masculine frame. This is what gain you respect and women are inclined to admire (and f_c_)men who they respect. Next time though.
Thanks! You really make your outfit look incredible Courtney! You are doing great work!! Valuable info!!!!!!!
Let's be honest...most chics got no game
I think when someone is interested in you, you just know. No need to try to figure it out, your gut instinct just tells you, even if they send out mixed signals. If someone likes you, they will constantly look at you, some will look when you're not looking, but you will always catch them looking eventually.
yeah, thats a huge nope. just listen to any guy's stories of missing signals. men deal in actual communication, not spy language. this is entirely a cope for not wanting to talk like an adult.
I notice when women like you they try to physically and subtly touch you. They are also consistent with their behavior and with what they say. Women only open up to and want to date extremely physically attractive tall guys.
Tbh Stella is really confident and knows what she wants. Beautiful woman.
The best thing you can take from this video is that all women are different. All people are different. As a man you have to have options. Not so you can disrespect women, it is so you learn the different ways they act and show attraction towards you. Their are general signals but things are complicated, humans are complicated. Having options allows you to not invest too much into anyone, and to not be hurt by rejection or elusiveness.
My current favorite chapter in the bible is Matthew 25:1-12. It speaks on female devotion. 5 were wise and 5 were foolish. The bible naturally tells you to have options because women will reveal themselves to you. From there you choose the best one for you.
Great vid Courtney. Always good to see the female perspective. Tell Erica I said Hi for me.
Mine are these, I even have a list from my bible studies:
Proverbs 5:6, Proverbs 7:24-26, Proverbs 21:19, Proverbs 27:15-16 , Proverbs 5:3-4, Proverbs 2:16, Romans 1:26, Proverbs 23:27-28.
@@Shikami85 I will check these out. Thanks.
Thank you for the video! Great assesment and points of views from the girls! A lot fo things mistifyed we do wrong out of lack of knowledge!
Always useful and enjoyable. Wanna say ladies be brutally honest. Don’t kick the can down the road. I would honestly pay for constructive criticism.
Stella was most real and truthful. The others you can tell were lying or at saying what they want but their actions prove differently
Stella isn't very realistic as what you're likely to find though.
You worked your butt off on this one Courtney. Well done. Great info and Please don’t forget to enjoy Summer! 🌞 🏖
Great conversation with the lovely ladies. Always enjoy this format although it kind of feels like cheating getting the inside scoop lol. You do a great job having people on with very different styles and personalities which is awesome and interesting to see the differences. From a shy approach to someone who I think would legit go up to a guy they're interested in and ask for their number lol. Wish i knew some ladies like this around my area like this, each has a very unique and great personality :)
The more confident you find someone the more experienced and calculative she can be so do not be a fool and observe everything and be judgmental!!. do not fall easily with the aura of maturity and straightforwardness. Always be vigilant, the key to opening her up and deconstructing her lies in her recent past, in the last relationship so try to get info and be aware of toxic relationships with the facade of love
Stella is the goat. She brought out the Wayne Gretzky quote “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. She’s a legend for that
This depends on each women how to tell if she likes you. With my boyfriend now, I met him through a co-worker. He was a bit shy at first. We got each others number over a lunch date which my co-worker arranged. I think it was like almost two weeks and I didn't hear from him. So I took initiative and texted him and asked him to go out again. We had a great time. I don't like to text emoji when I just meet him. I think it only feels right to use emoji when you're already dating. I reply quicker if I like him. I think texting is quick small talk to schedule a date. If you really want to know the person, talk to this person over the phone or meet up with this person.
I agree entirely about the texting vs. phone thing. I'm talking to a girl and we call every day we can, otherwise I'll text once every few hours. It pays to find a happy medium between replying too often and replying too little as well.
I love seeing the woman actually ask the man out for once. Youre probably braver than every other woman here
@@dillonc7955 Talking? Aww, that's lovely. Have you actually asked this girl out?
Try also texting with voice messages. it can add a whole other element to the relationship especially as you're getting more comfortable with the other person
All these ladies are wonderful, and we appreciate Courtney for doing another great video with them all.
However, everyone is just so blinded by Stellas looks, and her so called confidence. its not surprising, but it should be.
It's one of the main points about this channel, and dating, not getting blinded by looks.
Let's be honest, her confidence comes from being an extremely beautiful woman!!
She is straight forward and no BS because she knows she can be and probably gets whoever she wants when she wants. That's just beauty privilege at its finest. I've known a few woman like her.
Not hating at all, but I just had to call out these men that are falling off the wagon!
Looks aren't everything!
I'm glad someone said this. Yeah, it's great that she's as direct and open and honest as she is-but of course she is! She's gorgeous, and it's a lot easier to be friendly and open-and have people reciprocate-when you look as good as she does. Halo Effect in full effect in this comment section.
Yeah. I find her gorgeous, but honestly I don't really like her personality at all.
I mean, I have seen worse. In fact, I think she might be middle of the pack to even above average in personality compared to the rest of this lineup. But that is not saying much.
She's a 7
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Yeah. Check out her insta. She kinda has a belly. She just looks really good from the chest up with makeup on and good lighting.
@@Dr.HowieFeltersnatch guys are just thirsty.
Great video, i enjoyed it. I wanna thank all the ladies who took part im the conversation in my opinion they were 95% honest with their responses . Thank you Courtney ❤
I really enjoyed that video!! It was extremely insightful and I gained a lot of knowledge from it from it! Thank you for doing that.