When the fog lifts, you realize they really aren’t all that. Like junk food.. soft drinks, alcohol, chips, candies.. there are no nutrients to be found, only a debilitating spike in blood sugar 🚩🚩😅🩷🕊️🌸
Me too. I panic when I see the sun rise because it all hits me that it was all fake. I'm trying to settle into my new apartment butt the videos are keeping me going.
Narcissists do not like you being friendly because they are afraid to see you connect with another person. They know nothing about connection and are envious of your brightness and ability to interact without deceit.
My ex narc tried to take me down but didn't have what it takes to succeed. And i felt like i was protected from up above. From my dad and grand mother. I made it out of the chaos of the discard without a scratch. Have a wonderful afternoon Andrew in your beautiful NC 🤗💜❤️
I choose me,,,I don't have any time or energy for anything remotely Toxic ,or Narcissistic,,,I've re invented myself,,and enjoy the abundant peaceful life,,,t.y. Andrew🌟🌊🕊️❤️❤️🙏
Great video Andrew! A narcissist will take you down to the ultimate low vibrational state where they exist. You have to climb out of the bottomless pit, before you climb the mountain to the pinnacle of indifference. Wishing everyone clarity and peace....
Its kinda crazy how they kind of let us know who they are subtly but we were too blinded by trauma bond to see that they were actually not joking and saying the truth.
My mother was a narcissist who physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, verbally abusive toward my father. The cops were called numerous times. There was violence, even blood and bruises not to trigger anybody. But the narcissistic mother of mine never admitted to any wrongdoing. Not to mention she cheated on my father while they were still legally married with the ex-step”father” who was also a narcissist. Her abuse tactics really showed more as I grew older, past the divorce and into my teen years. Felt like I couldn’t be 100% myself because she was so controlling. If I didn’t have homework that day, she’d chew me out for not having any assignment/s despite the fact that I wasn’t the teacher and our only homework sometimes was to review our notes and study. But she was very controlling of which friends I let in the house, what games I played, what activities I participated, she’d drag me to so-called family functions I did not want to be a part of. She would criticize the girlfriends & dates I had in my twenties who I really loved & cared about, disparaging them behind their backs to my face, but ironically she gave the girl I dated from work who I wasn’t even that into sky-high praise. Completely baffling to me. Maybe she thought these women I dated in the past were a potential wedge/threat to her so she couldn’t have me think as highly of other persons in my life despite not ever having loved them - ever. These girls were my rock, they were not narcissists at all, always telling me they loved me and showing genuine burning desire. Perhaps some women partners, family, friends, neighbors, past loved ones of mine out there, etc. hated that they were not inside my head living rent-free. I knew of a narcissistic neighbor who pretended to hate me because I wasn’t giving the narc my energy. She tried to contact me for some reason through a mutual neighbor but after I called her out on how she behaved around me, so she coughed one night “I actually have a huge crush on you“ blah blah blah, “come over right now” Blah blah blah. Then Why did she act cold around me for so long? Weird how the minds of some of these ppl work. After nearly ten years of NC and blocking and deleting, I still get the holiday Hoover wherein my “mom” attempts to send a bday/Xmas card out of “good intention”, as she worded to my lawyer when he wrote his cease and desist letter to her. I’m gonna start losing the amount of times I’ve dodged her hoovering attempts, attempts to contact me, etc. Just shows me she can’t be trusted. She can’t even respect a simple boundary. What a slap in my face, she’s not entitled to be on my life anymore. Ironic how my mother didn’t contact me at all throughout 2020 during a deadly pandemic but only reached out randomly on my birthday in LATE-2021 as if nothing happened. No doubt in my mind she’s beyond saving and a total fruit loop hence why I distance myself from her toxic self.
I understand as I'm an adult still living in my fathers house. Parents didn't teach me hardly anything. I learned on my own. I'm still being gaslit being told I'm the abuser when I've only ever been guilty of reactive abuse. Which I was and am accountable for. Anytime I've attempted an adult conversation with my father. It turns to DARVO. I'm trapped and thinking my only option is prayer. If Only i had kept all the text conversations where my father sent 50+ texts in less than an hour. Always emotional abuse. 15 years of it. I'm still trapped and I'm having a hard time finding work. Even though Im a skilled worker. Fighting the feeling of hopelessness. I've created a decent Playlist of videos regarding healing from narc abuse. God Bless you and never accept abuse! You're strong!
So true, except they won’t throw you a life raft, they’ll leave you in the cold murky waters to fend for yourself. They won’t even give you a thought discarding you in the freezing ocean.
P.s i pray for all people here ,,each night,,i know and understand,we are on the same page,,,you are beautiful bright shining lights,,keep strong,,💜💜💜💜💜💜💜👉🌟
It's so true. He hates everything & everyone. His kids, mom, dad, brothers no friends or family, all ex's hate him. But he's the victim it's everyone else. He fails to see he is the COMMON DENOMINATOR IN IT ALL
Thank You so much Andrew for your devotion in helping us 🙏💜💐These dark creatures want to mentally beat us into submission. They want to crush our spirits, then keep us around for safety cushions. You are a true intellect, who spoke from the heart. Namaste Andrew🙏
I fell for the "hoover" for 3 yrs. Lie after lie, pleges to change and do better for me and the kids. We ALL KNOW how that turned out.😢 In 2020, I said ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. My health, finances, mental health all were being destroyed. The lies and the liars who tell them...WHAT A TRIP!! 😢 HEALING TO ALL!! 💪💯
You wouldn't belive the shit I'm going thru year 10 now. Your videos hit hom and resonate with me more than ever. I need to watch them over and over to get my head wrapped around all the shit that is going on with me . Keep them coming man. Appreciate you!
They want to keep you under wraps at all cost. You say one thing, they'll say something at the opposite end of the spectrum, and they always know best. It's their way or the highway...always total control. 💯❣️ Be kind to your bumble🐝. 💜🌼✨️
Your comment fits my life so much, I thought I must have written this comment and forgotten about it. They are only able to perceive things as a cartoon, and people as dolls they can play make believe with & move around. That's how I've always felt, like a used doll or toy. Nice doll, rag doll, paper doll, processing/therapy doll, mommy doll, baby doll etc. Depending on their mood & internal fantasy story in the moment. And they love, can't get close enough, but then retaliate bc of such feelings & needs.
@iahelcathartesaura3887 I innerstand totally. My ex narc friend had the nerve to send me 🤡 emojis telling me I'm a clown, when I called them out. Everything they accuse you of, is exactly what they're doing or how they feel about themselves. They're so good at their manipulation tactics, that we begin to question ourselves, and feel less than the longer we're with them. They are great at making the world think they're loving and kind, but these people haven't gotten close enough to see the mask. Ever hear of the old saying, "a wolf in sheep's clothing?" That's them to a tee. All the best to you. This is a great channel to learn and heal with lots of support from all. ❤️🙏✨️
🐝 ❤👣 They think it’s a script because it’s difficult to believe you have the gift of the amazing flow. We know it’s real. Andrew is authentic. Great message🙏
When I asked him why your answer is No whenever I needed something from you, he said thats because I want you to have stomaches, the funny thing or rather the creepy thing is that he described my physical pain when iam hurt emotionally and I never told him about it before. That is when I realized everything was on purpose in the relationship, that he wanted me to be in a dark place and remain in it and that was the beginning of me caring about myself more and detaching from him emotionally and mourning him and the relationship while remaining physically cause of the kids
A narcissist once told me how he tried to hit on a woman and she declined. He said, if I were you I wouldn't deal with me either." And attempts to hit on me. Yes, they do know who they are. Yes, they do need weak and vulnerable souls to devour
Here’s a small slice. Married many many many years and totally unaware of this evil. Early on in the relationship (difficult to call it that) he flirted with other women. Fights turned into him leaving (no cells then). Was going to divorce after ten and then he spread a rumor, I was having an affair!! He told his mom, dad, sister and my mother!! Tough to come back from. I stayed and listened to his wrath for many more. Through all of this he gave me a glimmer into his lunacy. One fight I told him he had all of the control. He looked at me and said no you have the control. This small piece of information (I always say, criminals catch themselves) led me to where I am now. Everyone who has escaped this mental, emotional, physical abuse needs to know that since they left this cult they are in control. Not what I wanted EVER but this I believe is empowering. They are in control because the narcissist is weak and withering as we speak. Never allow yourself to be put in that position ever again!! Thank you for the flowers and sunny hopeful smile. ❤
I am the friend of a guy who has had his life almost destroyed by a narcissist woman. It is now almost 9 months since the discard, I have been able to help him through this by watching your videos, and have learned so much about this toxic personality disorder. The lightbulb moment for him came when he saw the photos of her property that is now for sale 11 months after she purchased and moved in. I pointed out to him the photos of furniture throughout her house were almost identical to what he has in his house, especially the colours of floor rugs and accessories. As this is one of the ways you can tell if the person is a narcissist, he finally started watching your videos and realised just how text book she was. He is on the healing path now but will carry the scars going forward.
Obviously the narcissist has a handbook or a script they follow because if I wasn’t positive he wasn’t married to my narc I would bet money he’s talking about the same woman. My narc once asked me why I waved at everyone, and why I talked to strangers I didn’t know if they’d approach me and ask about my car or anything. Dealing with my narc led me to that “night” Andrew speaks of, but after I emerged as the 3rd version of me I found the beautiful, bright light in Andrew and I listen daily and share daily! Good stuff here!
In your description of the life preserver and the narcissistic you were talking about me in a real life situation. My narcissist husband and I were caught in a sneaker wave. I was thrown under the water and had to claw my way to the surface before I drowned. My husband climbed the rocks to save himself even though he admits to seeing me go under. They absolutely only care about one thing!!!
You can…. if you can visualise where you want to go in your life, use that as a plan and as a roadmap- and believe you can. Step by step, one foot in front of the other. Before you know it, with cumulative actions you will be on your way! 👍🏼💡💭🙏🏼🧭✨👍🏼
So true andrew she tried getting me arrested..she never shared anything i paid everything ...not even a thank you after 7 years ...the only thing she got me was one bottle of water in 7 years ..she was so greedy...so glad she is gone.
I remember my first Xmas with him. He and his daughter sat at the end of the long table of all his family with me wanting to know what bathroom I used in my home to shower in (I have 3 bathrooms and don't want to clean them all so I use one). This was something that apparently disturbed them. I told them it was a weird conversation and that I don't ask them which shower they use as I could care less if they took turns squirting each other with the hose and changed the subject. The relationship was new then, and I didn't know about narcissism. They are very strange people glad I am out of it and I still just use the one bathroom lol.
They were probably envious that you have 3 bathrooms in your house and this was their covert way of weaponizing your good fortune against you - covertly “mocking” you and “toying” with you by implying that you were spoiled to have 3 bathrooms to choose from. They most likely joked about this behind your back. With the narcissistic relationship well in the rear-view mirror (and now having the wisdom and the conceptual vocabulary) I can identify and recognize how much the narc engaged in covert “mocking”, unjustified envious ridicule, and “toying” with me to “yank my chain” and deviously “watch me squirm”. All so immature, bullying, disdainful and disgusting in retrospect. I thank my lucky stars everyday for the boundary of “reactive abuse” that my authentic self finally saw clear to set….. drawing the line-in-the-sand that immediately triggered the short-sighted knee-jerk discard that “cut-off-his-nose-to-spite-his-face”, as this was probably meant to inflict manipulative punishment in order to ultimately get me to “heel” and bring me back under control for standing up to him. Instead, he lost everything - all of the bounty that our relationship provided for him - most valuable of all my love, loyal friendship and partnership. He threw it all away in a moment of rage-fit, and once you see the mask drop, you can’t go back and unsee that cold, callous, heartless malignant narcissistic face and dark vacant demonic eyes. His hard-edged emotionless face and those dark eyes devoid of any empathy (a complete stranger to the “wolf-in-sheep’s-clothing” endearing public persona with the mask that I was “conned” to think I’d known for 27 years) will forever haunt me as a reminder to never go back. Namaste…… 🙏🏼 As I ponder that revealed stranger, I think I was sadly seeing and for the first time directly meeting face-to-face that stunted scared traumatized childlike persona of about 5 - 9 years old that had spent a lifetime putting up and honing a protective deceptive manipulative barrier wall of the false-self to shield the original narcissistic wound of an early boyhood of emotional/physical abuse and alcoholic family dysfunction. So sad…. but I’d have totally gone down with the ship trying to save that wounded child who was locked away far too deep to reach with any reasonable or rational means. The only way that child knows to self-regulate is by serially conning, exploiting, trauma-bonding, devaluing/hurting and ultimately discarding sources of supply before they can catch-on to his “game” of manipulation to get his own selfish needs met.
@@bobbarker1798. I totally agree with your best and only necessary diffusing and revelatory answer/question of “why do you ask??” Wash, rinse, repeat…………………. Turn the tables on them, put them in the “hot seat”, and make them justify their reason and motivation for asking.
🐝 🤣 ... it's good to see you laugh... very encouraging... I needed this... I am going through more life lessons... they never seem to stop, but I will find the strength from God to endure. I can relate to how tired Elijah became after doing battle with the prophets of Ba'-al, slaying them with his sword... and I can understand why he fled into the wilderness because Jez'-e-bel threatened his life. We can do things that are out of character when we are tired, allowing doubts and fears to enter into our thoughts. When Elijah came to the wilderness, he sat down beneath a juniper tree and prayed to die because i think maybe he was feeling like a failure, unworthy? He fell asleep, and an angel from God came and awoke him and told him to eat and drink the food and the water he'd prepared for Elijah. He slept again, and the angel of the Lord woke Elijah a second time and told him to eat because he had a long journey to make...40 days and 40 nights to go to Mt. Ho'-reb where he dwelled in a cave, awaiting to hear from the Lord.... like Elijah, sometimes I push myself hard, and it affects my mood, and I have to stop and pray, sleep, and eat, and of course, wait patiently for the gentle voice of the Lord to speak, through his Holy Word or other means. I had to deal with a toxic individual today and it was draining emotionally and physically. I've eaten, prayed, and am getting ready to seek answers reading scripture. Then I am going to go to bed and try to rest.
I think the big reason they would bring up *willing Xs* whether a lie or not, is once again to TRIANGULATE. Now when I hear that stiff and attempts at triangulation, I still feel the sting but I secretly pray to God and ask him to let that be true. Let the Narcissist slink off to someone else to allow this to finally end in a way I am not the selfish bad guy in the eyes of my children when the door finally closes.
Oh , thank you soo soo much. I finally got the balls to leave and filed for divorce. Never felt better, all u say is true. I am living it. Thank u from living in the basement that I built...
The narcissist is never satiated. Nothing is ever good enough. They fail at any and all relationships whether it be family, friend, romantic interests, co-worker, neighbor, etc. Never does the narcissist have anyone’s best interest at heart- except themselves maybe.. Everything is someone else’s fault, everything is just take take take take TAKE. And you never know what’s true about the narcissist. They’ll call other people narcissists when in fact they ARE the narcissist. They put their PHONES BEFORE PEOPLE, even though I have never ignored her in her lowest. So she could call me and blow up my phone late night with harassing texts but I couldn’t talk to her about my health ailment for 5 minutes? Some person, huh? Real caring. That’s the irony of the narcissist for you. Life is too short for drama, harping on the past, past relationships, etc. I don’t need to be dragged down to where the narcissist lives when I can be living my best life- without her in it to disturb me anymore. Namaste 🙏🏼
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone You’re very welcome and thank you for all you provide for us in the community of narcissistic abuse survivors. 🙏🏼 . I watch your content everyday, and although I’ve reached that mountaintop of indifference by now, I still utilize these videos-to this very day- as vital tools and reminders. Even post-narcissistic relationship I had so many “lightbulb moments” I hadn’t quite given much thought before. So grateful for that… namaste 🙏🏼 😌 ☮️ ☀️ 🌲
I feel liberated, validated and free. My true self has returned it's taken months and listening to you Andrew has been eye opening and self confirming 😁. Be assured you will get there in your own time, never ever give up..... embrace the things in life which truly fill you with happiness and contentment 💜.
Narc turns my stomach so I’m going through stage where I don’t even want to look narcs way and especially say anything! The last Hoover was detrimental for me! No one understands what he did / tried to do to me- that’s the sad part. He led mr to believe and then started playing games again. Slow to answer texts/ with his three phones had a nerve to telI me that “he just got home”. I told him he thinks I’m a fool. I’m done talking to him, looking at me, and I could care less about the supply bc she had a motive for having him around - probably money. I helped him / motivated him to even get as far as he has so far. Sad he’s been in the same job since 1990 and lacks confidence to get a new job supply! Can’t even cook to feed himself-I could go on and on! The surprise “divorce” was a huge shock to the narc, it wasn’t easy but I kept telling myself “I’m not the first and I won’t be the last”! I’m grateful I am still here to say I’m a SURVIVOR! We all are ❤😊!
ThankYou Andrew ❤️ I remember all the toxic behaviour. Behind closed doors, moving cars !!! I did lose myself I know all about “The dark night of the soul” a lot to process 🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🐝🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸🌿🌸 🙏🏼💜
Yes, we need to be free of these narcissistic hoovering, discarding, and repeat cycles just so the narcissist can keep manipulating us. Well played by the narcissist I had known for years. Not anymore. Amen🙏🏼
Hi Andrew! Today in your video, I heard a statement made that my dad used to tell me..."Don't marry beneath your level, you will never bring them up..they will take you down with them." I always wondered what exactly was he saying...thought I knew, but wasn't positive about it. Once I married the narcissist, I found out and knew "exactly" what he was saying to me. I've been free now for 23 years, and it's all crystal clear to me now. Thank God
It's like when my baby sitter told me,her dad,looked at her after she married someone he did not approve of,and said to her ,THE ROAD OF THE TRANGRESSOR IS HARD,, HER DAD BEING A PASTOR,, she lived and learned..really tough,husband cheater,left her,,he died a few years later..she married a pastor...
Thanks for sharing your own experience of waving and saying hello to strangers on the street.. I grew up in a busy city so didn’t do this there.. but when I moved regionally.. people were doing it to me and I remember thinking “how kind and nice”.. I still sometimes do it .. there’s nothing wrong with it.. it shows that you’re a kind person.. perhaps one who was raised in a regional area where this is more prevalent.. but you’re also an educated empath now too🙂🙂.. I’m afraid of all types of bees but I value them at the same time.. I prefer to stay out of their business and let them be with the hope that they do the same for me 😂 other commenters mentioned bumblebees are more safer than the honeybees and I think that’s correct.. and you’re right about narcs controlling behaviour.. the worst part is they do this from the start in a subtle way and you don’t realise it.. and an even worse part is that in the midst of all this.. they are STILL grooming other sources of supply.. the whole time .. its cruel!!.. and a waste of other people’s time and lives.. I really appreciate today’s video.. thank you💜💜🪻🪻
he would always tell me that I was never happy and that I should of been more happy about what we had together. I always felt grateful with what I had, and never thought I was unhappy, that Is why I have a difficult time moving around without him. maybe I am the unhappy one. who knows
I knew it must be a beautiful day there when the bumble bee greeted you. Good morning, Andrew . Your message is true. The narcissts are empty souls because little to no empathy towards others. Like you, negative remarks were directed at me when I did random acts of kindness to strangers. They tried to steal my joy and nearly did, but God opened the door to narcissism, and my world changed. Your channel was one of the major educators in saving my inner soul of peace and joy. Keep doing what you are doing. You are a light in this dark world of narcissism . 🌞❤ 🐝 🙏 🌟
The thing a narcissist fears most is a non-narcissist. The more they love you the more they fear you. They need you as their pedestal. I wonder how near the behaviour is to that of a psychopath.
This is so true. He was always interfereing to the shows i am watching (when he was watching crap), what i am wearing, what i am doing and who i am talking to, how i cook , groceries i buy (i always paid for everything), the house temperature (my house) etc..... Everything i do was a complaining cause for him.
Sometimes you do have to lose yourself to find yourself. We all have blind spots and if you survive any close relationshit with a narcissist, you will very likely be forced to figure out what those are. You will be older and wiser and let that be a good thing. We now know all too well about the dark side and how to live with integrity to avoid it.
I was telling my wife a couple of days ago that i all that i know i learrn it by myself, i didnt have a dad and mom role model or older brother role model, all i had was school and books to learn everything i know, when i started to work thats when i seperated my bond from my narcisist brother and flying monkey mom and brothers, i feel now like i never reached my full potential as a person from all the trauma bond and gaslighting i endured as child and adolescent.
Thank you, Andrew! This video is right on! I, like others, listen to you each day just to keep me grounded. I've made it through the fog after dealing with the wrath of several narcissists. I'm doing great, and for anyone watching, you can make it through the fog and heal, too. Knowledge is power people! ❤
Thank you for your encouragement. It's a Mount Everest you have to climb out, a mountain you have to conquer, as otherwise, you will be detroyed, maybe even to a degree that there is no hope for or a chance of healing again.
from rome italy here it is a victim, i am free from about 2 months...it's hard as hell but videos and expercience like yours are pure treasure...the way he bullyed me and humiliate me was more than cruel...i really do thank you for this channel and for your words, healing it s gonna be less hard
I was dating a covert narcissist for 2 years. I fell for the mask she wore. I even proposed to her and we were gonna get married. But then , the powers that be started to give me signs. Very red flags. So blatant. And I was able to finally see behind the mask. I am so thankful that I was able to see this and end the relationship. I was never valued, appreciated etc. It was all a lie. I am so confused that I was not able to see this before. She was so slick . A magician. But I am free now, liberated. And I have met someone new. A true angel. She was married to a narcissist for 15 years. So she gets it. She is sweet, pure and sincere. I think god showed me the way. I know he has. He led me to this channel he led me to my new wonderful and authentic girlfriend. Life is interesting. It can seem like a rollercoaster , but one must remain optimistic and stay on the righteous path. God is looking out for us good people . This channel is such a blessing. ❤
Thank you Andrew. I know that you have not a script but a flowing conversation with us. It's a Big ability to speak in this way. I Hope I will be able too.
Andrew, Thank you for all your content. Every time I watch one of your videos I am so blown away by how much I can relate to all of it. You are very skilled at articulating what a narcissistic relationship is like. 🙏
A narcissist wants you stuck in life like them they know your a good soul they don't want you to be abundant and see the goodness in life were just a tool to meet their selfish needs. Sad but true. But once their long gone slowly you will build back up with hard work and the abundance starts to kick back in better than ever and you will no longer want to have nothing to do with them they pine on you being stuck wanting them back that's why they create the trauma bond with no closer. That's the best thing they have in their playbook. They may even leave things behind in their wake of destruction to keep you hanging on of fasle hope. Take it from me I've been there nice try game over! Thanks Andrew for the knowledge! 💪🏾🙌🏾
Yes, she was my childhood friend and I was deceived for 32 years before I finally Cut her off 7 yrs ago, So Years and years I have been unraveling her webs of lies and deceit. She is in still in contact with my niece and daughter and they see Her for what she is a little, but they have no idea all the replays and back stabbing I went through. I was heartbroken and was shocked once i realized what a liar she was and I was alone and upset with my self for wasting soo much energy and time on someone who actually hated me…. Still hard to believe! Flying monkeys still and some hovers but I am done! ❤
Good morning Andrew and thank you again for all of your videos! You are inspiring, wise, passionate and so convicted in what you say. I think that's why people think you are reading a script, which you aren't because you are speaking so clearly, articulately and passionately, which is one of your many gifts! Have you written a book yet? You must keep yourself well balanced in positivity because this topic is somewhat negative, but because you are helping people to become enlightened , that is the positive part of coming out of this negative experience. I have been codependent, which is a perfect match for the narcissist. When I have left a relationship at the end of my cycle, which I felt bad for but there was no other way, I call it the 'mic drop.' Which is like the discard. I could write paragraphs. I realize now between by dad, then three significant relationships over 22 years, I was in narcissist or narcissist's traits relationships. I send them love and prayers, but am learning more, and reaching the 'mountain top of indifference' as you so clearly stated. I am learning more I listen to you. Also, when there is a pet in between, can be tricky too. Keep up the fantastic work ! Blessings.
What is the most mind blowing part of listening to this is how clinical this stuff actually is....its like a checklist they all have downloaded into their brain. For a psychologist to explain how this type of person behaves to a T like this is wild
Asking God to send me a rescue team to get the hell out ASAP. I'm in my 40s, lost 27yrs in their narcissistic fog. Lost everything incl. health, career and finances. May the Lord perform a miracle and get me out of this situation not of my creation. I do not consent to this crazy charade stealing any more of my life, heart, mind, body and soul!
Thank you for your videos. They really helped me to stay in a higher Frequency. 🌅🏃💃 keep doing your videos Andrew you have a purpose for getting this out to us your views. Like I said before you helped me understand what I'm dealing with and using the Right Technique to basically keep it at sea level. Narcissist experience my Navy how to stay alive training comes in handy
😂 It's not a funny topic, but I smile.....It's hard to think of her as a narcissist, but checklist of behaviors and my experience. Ive seen the behavior to other people, and her "friends". Or giving direction to her "friends" to manipulate their spouses. Hell, she even joke about her and her "friend" manipulating me into doing stuff, which I just took as a joke at the time. I first found these informative videos 9 months ago self reflecting as "I " was a narcissist....... Ive been fighting the trauma bond ever since, and the final discard once she found I was informing myself of the topic.
My narc dad? used to constantly tell me in a hypnotic tone," YOUR ME..YOUR ME... YOUR ME... LOL. IM NOT A CHILD ABUSING, MASAJONIST, ANGRY, HOMOSEXUALly, CRITICAL, DEVIANT.
The bad news: he ensnared me --- even ONLINE! He's up in years, so he's quite the expert. The good news: he ensnared me online and it went NO FURTHER than that. God protected me from the damage that would've happened in the real world. Thanks Andrew!!!
Well they TRY to take you down with them. They're not always successful. T Some tried with me, and lost. Over a 20 yr period, 4 died of different cancers. Karma will always come, sometimes earlier than later, but I'm still standing.
So many of the things you said I experienced...the life raft part, except there was no life raft, and he was holding onto the boat...forget I was in the water, with rapids all around, and barely had the strength to lift myself into the boat. He was the reason I fell into the water too, if I'm not mistaking.
When the fog lifts, you realize they really aren’t all that. Like junk food.. soft drinks, alcohol, chips, candies.. there are no nutrients to be found, only a debilitating spike in blood sugar 🚩🚩😅🩷🕊️🌸
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Yes! You’re so right. I used to joke: Would you want coffee with your sugar? 🤪🤣
Well said.
I friggin love your comment. If you're not a writer, you should be.
First thing I do when I wake is to listen to ANDREW it keeps me strong in the day ❤❤❤❤
A good way to start the day.
RIGHT ON!
Me too. I panic when I see the sun rise because it all hits me that it was all fake. I'm trying to settle into my new apartment butt the videos are keeping me going.
Me too ❤
Everyone Deserves To Live A Life Free From Abuse And Manipulation!!!!✝️
Yes. We deserve to be treated with respect and dignity always.
Narcissists do not like you being friendly because they are afraid to see you connect with another person. They know nothing about connection and are envious of your brightness and ability to interact without deceit.
My ex narc tried to take me down but didn't have what it takes to succeed. And i felt like i was protected from up above. From my dad and grand mother. I made it out of the chaos of the discard without a scratch. Have a wonderful afternoon Andrew in your beautiful NC 🤗💜❤️
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@@Mike_Cosentino Hi Mike, hope you are well. 🤗🙌🦋
Good❤
I choose me,,,I don't have any time or energy for anything remotely Toxic ,or Narcissistic,,,I've re invented myself,,and enjoy the abundant peaceful life,,,t.y. Andrew🌟🌊🕊️❤️❤️🙏
Very well stated Flower. 🌺 Life is short. It is meant to be lived so it can be full of happiness joy love and peace. 🕊️🦋🌅🦅
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Great video Andrew!
A narcissist will take you down to the ultimate low vibrational state where they exist. You have to climb out of the bottomless pit, before you climb the mountain to the pinnacle of indifference.
Wishing everyone clarity and peace....
Thank you 👍💪
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This experience/ relationship almost killed me. In a way it did. The old me without boundaries & knowledge. But I will be ok
She warned me before the discard that i should get away from her before she brings me down
Its kinda crazy how they kind of let us know who they are subtly but we were too blinded by trauma bond to see that they were actually not joking and saying the truth.
yes!!!! 😮
Wow strait from the horses mouth
I'm still trying to clean up the mess they left me after 5 years. Worst part, it was my parents.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I feel like I've earned a purple heart! Ha
My mother was a narcissist who physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, verbally abusive toward my father. The cops were called numerous times. There was violence, even blood and bruises not to trigger anybody. But the narcissistic mother of mine never admitted to any wrongdoing.
Not to mention she cheated on my father while they were still legally married with the ex-step”father” who was also a narcissist.
Her abuse tactics really showed more as I grew older, past the divorce and into my teen years. Felt like I couldn’t be 100% myself because she was so controlling. If I didn’t have homework that day, she’d chew me out for not having any assignment/s despite the fact that I wasn’t the teacher and our only homework sometimes was to review our notes and study. But she was very controlling of which friends I let in the house, what games I played, what activities I participated, she’d drag me to so-called family functions I did not want to be a part of.
She would criticize the girlfriends & dates I had in my twenties who I really loved & cared about, disparaging them behind their backs to my face, but ironically she gave the girl I dated from work who I wasn’t even that into sky-high praise. Completely baffling to me. Maybe she thought these women I dated in the past were a potential wedge/threat to her so she couldn’t have me think as highly of other persons in my life despite not ever having loved them - ever. These girls were my rock, they were not narcissists at all, always telling me they loved me and showing genuine burning desire.
Perhaps some women partners, family, friends, neighbors, past loved ones of mine out there, etc. hated that they were not inside my head living rent-free. I knew of a narcissistic neighbor who pretended to hate me because I wasn’t giving the narc my energy. She tried to contact me for some reason through a mutual neighbor but after I called her out on how she behaved around me, so she coughed one night “I actually have a huge crush on you“ blah blah blah, “come over right now”
Blah blah blah. Then Why did she act cold around me for so long? Weird how the minds of some of these ppl work.
After nearly ten years of NC and blocking and deleting, I still get the holiday Hoover wherein my “mom” attempts to send a bday/Xmas card out of “good intention”, as she worded to my lawyer when he wrote his cease and desist letter to her. I’m gonna start losing the amount of times I’ve dodged her hoovering attempts, attempts to contact me, etc. Just shows me she can’t be trusted. She can’t even respect a simple boundary. What a slap in my face, she’s not entitled to be on my life anymore.
Ironic how my mother didn’t contact me at all throughout 2020 during a deadly pandemic but only reached out randomly on my birthday in LATE-2021 as if nothing happened. No doubt in my mind she’s beyond saving and a total fruit loop hence why I distance myself from her toxic self.
I understand as I'm an adult still living in my fathers house. Parents didn't teach me hardly anything. I learned on my own. I'm still being gaslit being told I'm the abuser when I've only ever been guilty of reactive abuse. Which I was and am accountable for. Anytime I've attempted an adult conversation with my father. It turns to DARVO. I'm trapped and thinking my only option is prayer. If Only i had kept all the text conversations where my father sent 50+ texts in less than an hour. Always emotional abuse. 15 years of it. I'm still trapped and I'm having a hard time finding work. Even though Im a skilled worker. Fighting the feeling of hopelessness. I've created a decent Playlist of videos regarding healing from narc abuse. God Bless you and never accept abuse! You're strong!
@@STHHCalebBrewster Hang in there.
I feel like I'm getting stronger every day! thank you!
I got rid of a lot of people and keep my circle of trust very very small
Me too! It’s unbelievable how many you can see after you finally know the game.
Narcisists are like sinking ships , if you don’t leave them, they will take you down to the bottom of despair with them.
So true, except they won’t throw you a life raft, they’ll leave you in the cold murky waters to fend for yourself. They won’t even give you a thought discarding you in the freezing ocean.
P.s i pray for all people here ,,each night,,i know and understand,we are on the same page,,,you are beautiful bright shining lights,,keep strong,,💜💜💜💜💜💜💜👉🌟
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Thanks 👍💪
Aww, you too 💓
Amen .Thank you very much for your prayers and GOD bless❤❤
I seriously dont know where I would have been without you Andrew. You warned me nobody would believe me, everything came true.
Or, when you tell someone what you have been dealing with, they look at you like, "Should I believe her, or is she losing it?"
endless to do list. 😮
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They're a boat anchor⚓. Don't expect happy sailing. ⛵
Concur 👍💪
If I cried he'd yell at me.
Freedom rocks, and better late than never. Stay strong tribe.❣️
And they don't discriminate... they take their family members, children, friends, coworkers, employers, cities, groups, whole countries.
Oh, and don't forget their employees too.
It's so true. He hates everything & everyone. His kids, mom, dad, brothers no friends or family, all ex's hate him. But he's the victim it's everyone else. He fails to see he is the COMMON DENOMINATOR IN IT ALL
Thank You so much Andrew for your devotion in helping us 🙏💜💐These dark creatures want to mentally beat us into submission. They want to crush our spirits, then keep us around for safety cushions. You are a true intellect, who spoke from the heart. Namaste Andrew🙏
We may heal but we'll never forget.
I fell for the "hoover" for 3 yrs. Lie after lie, pleges to change and do better for me and the kids. We ALL KNOW how that turned out.😢 In 2020, I said ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. My health, finances, mental health all were being destroyed. The lies and the liars who tell them...WHAT A TRIP!! 😢 HEALING TO ALL!! 💪💯
They play so many games and don’t even care if you live another day
The longer we stay away, the better we feel. Repeating Andrew: Time is something we cannot get back! 💜💐😇
@1fancychik4God thats how I felt when I was finally discarded. I was healing and he hovered to leave me for death. Thats when I knew it was enough.
Good afternoon Andrew and friends! 🙌😁☀️😇❤️💜❤️💜 Hope y’all are having a great day!!!
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Good afternoon Jennifer 💜🕊
Good afternoon Andrew and Maureen 🙌😁☀️✌️😇❤️💜❤️💜❤️💜
😊 Hi Jennifer.
I hope you are having a great day too.
@@chazbickel4518 Hey Chaz! I thought I had responded. Hope you’re having a great day! 🙌😁☀️🌺💫✨💜
I love your videos, they make so much sense and is helpful. I love the nature and beautiful natural environment that you do them in. ❤😊
Thank you..💯🙏💜😌
" Remember the narcissist is a sinking ship." This is very true.
Yes they say that all their ex's would take them back. It's probably a big lie.
You wouldn't belive the shit I'm going thru year 10 now. Your videos hit hom and resonate with me more than ever. I need to watch them over and over to get my head wrapped around all the shit that is going on with me . Keep them coming man. Appreciate you!
DON'T sit in that shit stew,
They want to keep you under wraps at all cost. You say one thing, they'll say something at the opposite end of the spectrum, and they always know best. It's their way or the highway...always total control. 💯❣️
Be kind to your bumble🐝.
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Your comment fits my life so much, I thought I must have written this comment and forgotten about it.
They are only able to perceive things as a cartoon, and people as dolls they can play make believe with & move around.
That's how I've always felt, like a used doll or toy. Nice doll, rag doll, paper doll, processing/therapy doll, mommy doll, baby doll etc. Depending on their mood & internal fantasy story in the moment.
And they love, can't get close enough, but then retaliate bc of such feelings & needs.
@iahelcathartesaura3887 I innerstand totally. My ex narc friend had the nerve to send me 🤡 emojis telling me I'm a clown, when I called them out. Everything they accuse you of, is exactly what they're doing or how they feel about themselves. They're so good at their manipulation tactics, that we begin to question ourselves, and feel less than the longer we're with them. They are great at making the world think they're loving and kind, but these people haven't gotten close enough to see the mask. Ever hear of the old saying, "a wolf in sheep's clothing?" That's them to a tee. All the best to you. This is a great channel to learn and heal with lots of support from all. ❤️🙏✨️
@@iahelcathartesaura3887 eloquently stated, I think I wrote this & forgot lol. Thank you 💖
You're the best Andrew.. Thankyou for this.. Bless you 🙏
Welcome..😌🙏💜
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They think it’s a script because it’s difficult to believe you have the gift of the amazing flow. We know it’s real. Andrew is authentic.
Great message🙏
I speak from 50 years of experience that Andrew is highly educated on this subject 😊
I asked him why he was so mean. He said "because you need to suffer." I will never forget that day or those words.
When I asked him why your answer is No whenever I needed something from you, he said thats because I want you to have stomaches, the funny thing or rather the creepy thing is that he described my physical pain when iam hurt emotionally and I never told him about it before.
That is when I realized everything was on purpose in the relationship, that he wanted me to be in a dark place and remain in it and that was the beginning of me caring about myself more and detaching from him emotionally and mourning him and the relationship while remaining physically cause of the kids
@@Soubhanallah-p6g Exactly. One of the rare times the mask slips!
I'm paying it forward 💌
A narcissist once told me how he tried to hit on a woman and she declined. He said, if I were you I wouldn't deal with me either." And attempts to hit on me. Yes, they do know who they are. Yes, they do need weak and vulnerable souls to devour
Here’s a small slice. Married many many many years and totally unaware of this evil. Early on in the relationship (difficult to call it that) he flirted with other women. Fights turned into him leaving (no cells then). Was going to divorce after ten and then he spread a rumor, I was having an affair!! He told his mom, dad, sister and my mother!! Tough to come back from. I stayed and listened to his wrath for many more. Through all of this he gave me a glimmer into his lunacy. One fight I told him he had all of the control. He looked at me and said no you have the control.
This small piece of information (I always say, criminals catch themselves) led me to where I am now.
Everyone who has escaped this mental, emotional, physical abuse needs to know that since they left this cult they are in control. Not what I wanted EVER but this I believe is empowering. They are in control because the narcissist is weak and withering as we speak. Never allow yourself to be put in that position ever again!!
Thank you for the flowers and sunny hopeful smile.
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Wow, I needed that 👍💪
I APPRECIATE U Andrew!!!
Survivors no more! We are overcomers!❤
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I am the friend of a guy who has had his life almost destroyed by a narcissist woman. It is now almost 9 months since the discard, I have been able to help him through this by watching your videos, and have learned so much about this toxic personality disorder. The lightbulb moment for him came when he saw the photos of her property that is now for sale 11 months after she purchased and moved in. I pointed out to him the photos of furniture throughout her house were almost identical to what he has in his house, especially the colours of floor rugs and accessories. As this is one of the ways you can tell if the person is a narcissist, he finally started watching your videos and realised just how text book she was. He is on the healing path now but will carry the scars going forward.
Thank you for sharing this..💡💡😌💜🙏
Hopefully, he will also carry the knowledge he has about narcissist with him too and not make that mistake again.
Obviously the narcissist has a handbook or a script they follow because if I wasn’t positive he wasn’t married to my narc I would bet money he’s talking about the same woman. My narc once asked me why I waved at everyone, and why I talked to strangers I didn’t know if they’d approach me and ask about my car or anything. Dealing with my narc led me to that “night” Andrew speaks of, but after I emerged as the 3rd version of me I found the beautiful, bright light in Andrew and I listen daily and share daily! Good stuff here!
Thank you for sharing.😌💯💜
In your description of the life preserver and the narcissistic you were talking about me in a real life situation. My narcissist husband and I were caught in a sneaker wave. I was thrown under the water and had to claw my way to the surface before I drowned. My husband climbed the rocks to save himself even though he admits to seeing me go under. They absolutely only care about one thing!!!
I’m in recovery after a 20 year shitshow with a narcissist. I pray I can put myself back together after this total destruction of self.
You can…. if you can visualise where you want to go in your life, use that as a plan and as a roadmap- and believe you can. Step by step, one foot in front of the other.
Before you know it, with cumulative actions you will be on your way! 👍🏼💡💭🙏🏼🧭✨👍🏼
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So true andrew she tried getting me arrested..she never shared anything i paid everything ...not even a thank you after 7 years ...the only thing she got me was one bottle of water in 7 years ..she was so greedy...so glad she is gone.
I remember my first Xmas with him. He and his daughter sat at the end of the long table of all his family with me wanting to know what bathroom I used in my home to shower in (I have 3 bathrooms and don't want to clean them all so I use one). This was something that apparently disturbed them. I told them it was a weird conversation and that I don't ask them which shower they use as I could care less if they took turns squirting each other with the hose and changed the subject. The relationship was new then, and I didn't know about narcissism. They are very strange people glad I am out of it and I still just use the one bathroom lol.
Best answer to all questions is "why do you ask?". That is your answer. Further questions should be answered the same.
They were probably envious that you have 3 bathrooms in your house and this was their covert way of weaponizing your good fortune against you - covertly “mocking” you and “toying” with you by implying that you were spoiled to have 3 bathrooms to choose from. They most likely joked about this behind your back.
With the narcissistic relationship well in the rear-view mirror (and now having the wisdom and the conceptual vocabulary) I can identify and recognize how much the narc engaged in covert “mocking”, unjustified envious ridicule, and “toying” with me to “yank my chain” and deviously “watch me squirm”. All so immature, bullying, disdainful and disgusting in retrospect. I thank my lucky stars everyday for the boundary of “reactive abuse” that my authentic self finally saw clear to set….. drawing the line-in-the-sand that immediately triggered the short-sighted knee-jerk discard that “cut-off-his-nose-to-spite-his-face”, as this was probably meant to inflict manipulative punishment in order to ultimately get me to “heel” and bring me back under control for standing up to him.
Instead, he lost everything - all of the bounty that our relationship provided for him - most valuable of all my love, loyal friendship and partnership. He threw it all away in a moment of rage-fit, and once you see the mask drop, you can’t go back and unsee that cold, callous, heartless malignant narcissistic face and dark vacant demonic eyes. His hard-edged emotionless face and those dark eyes devoid of any empathy (a complete stranger to the “wolf-in-sheep’s-clothing” endearing public persona with the mask that I was “conned” to think I’d known for 27 years) will forever haunt me as a reminder to never go back. Namaste…… 🙏🏼
As I ponder that revealed stranger, I think I was sadly seeing and for the first time directly meeting face-to-face that stunted scared traumatized childlike persona of about 5 - 9 years old that had spent a lifetime putting up and honing a protective deceptive manipulative barrier wall of the false-self to shield the original narcissistic wound of an early boyhood of emotional/physical abuse and alcoholic family dysfunction. So sad…. but I’d have totally gone down with the ship trying to save that wounded child who was locked away far too deep to reach with any reasonable or rational means. The only way that child knows to self-regulate is by serially conning, exploiting, trauma-bonding, devaluing/hurting and ultimately discarding sources of supply before they can catch-on to his “game” of manipulation to get his own selfish needs met.
@@bobbarker1798. I totally agree with your best and only necessary diffusing and revelatory answer/question of “why do you ask??”
Wash, rinse, repeat………………….
Turn the tables on them, put them in the “hot seat”, and make them justify their reason and motivation for asking.
🐝 🤣 ... it's good to see you laugh... very encouraging... I needed this... I am going through more life lessons... they never seem to stop, but I will find the strength from God to endure. I can relate to how tired Elijah became after doing battle with the prophets of Ba'-al, slaying them with his sword... and I can understand why he fled into the wilderness because Jez'-e-bel threatened his life. We can do things that are out of character when we are tired, allowing doubts and fears to enter into our thoughts. When Elijah came to the wilderness, he sat down beneath a juniper tree and prayed to die because i think maybe he was feeling like a failure, unworthy? He fell asleep, and an angel from God came and awoke him and told him to eat and drink the food and the water he'd prepared for Elijah. He slept again, and the angel of the Lord woke Elijah a second time and told him to eat because he had a long journey to make...40 days and 40 nights to go to Mt. Ho'-reb where he dwelled in a cave, awaiting to hear from the Lord.... like Elijah, sometimes I push myself hard, and it affects my mood, and I have to stop and pray, sleep, and eat, and of course, wait patiently for the gentle voice of the Lord to speak, through his Holy Word or other means. I had to deal with a toxic individual today and it was draining emotionally and physically. I've eaten, prayed, and am getting ready to seek answers reading scripture. Then I am going to go to bed and try to rest.
It is so very healing and empowering when we make ourselves hold onto solid ground and not accept any hoovers.
One day my husband looks at me lying on the couch, coming in from his work jaunt,what did you do today? I answered absolutely nothing!!!😅😂
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I think the big reason they would bring up *willing Xs* whether a lie or not, is once again to TRIANGULATE. Now when I hear that stiff and attempts at triangulation, I still feel the sting but I secretly pray to God and ask him to let that be true. Let the Narcissist slink off to someone else to allow this to finally end in a way I am not the selfish bad guy in the eyes of my children when the door finally closes.
Andrew, I really felt like I could not be me. I really felt like I didn't know who to be. I'm so thankful for healing❤
bottomless pits - like human sink holes - nothing can fill them up
narc are nothing more than a black hole 🕳️ of lies
Good comparison 👍
Thank you, Andrew, for your wisdom, diligence, consistency, integrity, big beautiful heart, and paying it forward every day ❤️
Welcome..😌💯💜
Oh , thank you soo soo much. I finally got the balls to leave and filed for divorce. Never felt better, all u say is true. I am living it. Thank u from living in the basement that I built...
The narcissist is never satiated. Nothing is ever good enough. They fail at any and all relationships whether it be family, friend, romantic interests, co-worker, neighbor, etc. Never does the narcissist have anyone’s best interest at heart- except themselves maybe.. Everything is someone else’s fault, everything is just take take take take TAKE.
And you never know what’s true about the narcissist. They’ll call other people narcissists when in fact they ARE the narcissist.
They put their PHONES BEFORE PEOPLE, even though I have never ignored her in her lowest. So she could call me and blow up my phone late night with harassing texts but I couldn’t talk to her about my health ailment for 5 minutes? Some person, huh? Real caring. That’s the irony of the narcissist for you.
Life is too short for drama, harping on the past, past relationships, etc. I don’t need to be dragged down to where the narcissist lives when I can be living my best life- without her in it to disturb me anymore.
Namaste 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing this..💯💯😌🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone You’re very welcome and thank you for all you provide for us in the community of narcissistic abuse survivors. 🙏🏼 .
I watch your content everyday, and although I’ve reached that mountaintop of indifference by now, I still utilize these videos-to this very day- as vital tools and reminders.
Even post-narcissistic relationship I had so many “lightbulb moments” I hadn’t quite given much thought before. So grateful for that… namaste 🙏🏼 😌 ☮️ ☀️ 🌲
Block her my Brother 💪💐💜
Good for you!👍💪
What does "namaste" mean?
I feel liberated, validated and free. My true self has returned it's taken months and listening to you Andrew has been eye opening and self confirming 😁. Be assured you will get there in your own time, never ever give up..... embrace the things in life which truly fill you with happiness and contentment 💜.
💚🌈You do gr8 without a script. Natural.💚 The Narcs know what they do and say . 👿 The beauty comes when you block and delete no more torcher✌😇
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💯ANDREW!!!!!
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Narc turns my stomach so I’m going through stage where I don’t even want to look narcs way and especially say anything! The last Hoover was detrimental for me! No one understands what he did / tried to do to me- that’s the sad part. He led mr to believe and then started playing games again. Slow to answer texts/ with his three phones had a nerve to telI me that “he just got home”. I told him he thinks I’m a fool. I’m done talking to him, looking at me, and I could care less about the supply bc she had a motive for having him around - probably money. I helped him / motivated him to even get as far as he has so far. Sad he’s been in the same job since 1990 and lacks confidence to get a new job supply! Can’t even cook to feed himself-I could go on and on! The surprise “divorce” was a huge shock to the narc, it wasn’t easy but I kept telling myself “I’m not the first and I won’t be the last”! I’m grateful I am still here to say I’m a SURVIVOR! We all are ❤😊!
ThankYou Andrew ❤️ I remember all the toxic behaviour.
Behind closed doors, moving cars !!! I did lose myself
I know all about “The dark night of the soul” a lot to process
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Yes, we need to be free of these narcissistic hoovering, discarding, and repeat cycles just so the narcissist can keep manipulating us. Well played by the narcissist I had known for years. Not anymore. Amen🙏🏼
Hi Andrew! Today in your video, I heard a statement made that my dad used to tell me..."Don't marry beneath your level, you will never bring them up..they will take you down with them." I always wondered what exactly was he saying...thought I knew, but wasn't positive about it. Once I married the narcissist, I found out and knew "exactly" what he was saying to me. I've been free now for 23 years, and it's all crystal clear to me now. Thank God
It's like when my baby sitter told me,her dad,looked at her after she married someone he did not approve of,and said to her ,THE ROAD OF THE TRANGRESSOR IS HARD,, HER DAD BEING A PASTOR,, she lived and learned..really tough,husband cheater,left her,,he died a few years later..she married a pastor...
Thanks for sharing your own experience of waving and saying hello to strangers on the street.. I grew up in a busy city so didn’t do this there.. but when I moved regionally.. people were doing it to me and I remember thinking “how kind and nice”.. I still sometimes do it .. there’s nothing wrong with it.. it shows that you’re a kind person.. perhaps one who was raised in a regional area where this is more prevalent.. but you’re also an educated empath now too🙂🙂.. I’m afraid of all types of bees but I value them at the same time.. I prefer to stay out of their business and let them be with the hope that they do the same for me 😂 other commenters mentioned bumblebees are more safer than the honeybees and I think that’s correct.. and you’re right about narcs controlling behaviour.. the worst part is they do this from the start in a subtle way and you don’t realise it.. and an even worse part is that in the midst of all this.. they are STILL grooming other sources of supply.. the whole time .. its cruel!!.. and a waste of other people’s time and lives.. I really appreciate today’s video.. thank you💜💜🪻🪻
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he would always tell me that I was never happy and that I should of been more happy about what we had together. I always felt grateful with what I had, and never thought I was unhappy, that Is why I have a difficult time moving around without him. maybe I am the unhappy one. who knows
That's him gaslighting you. Running interference.
This is happening now!! Please pray for me!!
I will.
I knew it must be a beautiful day there when the bumble bee greeted you. Good morning, Andrew .
Your message is true. The narcissts are empty souls because little to no empathy towards others.
Like you, negative remarks were directed at me when I did random acts of kindness to strangers. They tried to steal my joy and nearly did, but God opened the door to narcissism, and my world changed. Your channel was one of the major educators in saving my inner soul of peace and joy.
Keep doing what you are doing. You are a light in this dark world of narcissism . 🌞❤ 🐝 🙏 🌟
Yes, and they almost did.
Interesting that you mentioned a sinking ship. 🤔 time to introspect... some more.
The thing a narcissist fears most is a non-narcissist. The more they love you the more they fear you. They need you as their pedestal. I wonder how near the behaviour is to that of a psychopath.
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This is so true. He was always interfereing to the shows i am watching (when he was watching crap), what i am wearing, what i am doing and who i am talking to, how i cook , groceries i buy (i always paid for everything), the house temperature (my house) etc..... Everything i do was a complaining cause for him.
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Sometimes you do have to lose yourself to find yourself. We all have blind spots and if you survive any close relationshit with a narcissist, you will very likely be forced to figure out what those are. You will be older and wiser and let that be a good thing. We now know all too well about the dark side and how to live with integrity to avoid it.
I've been watching you on and off for years. I finally got the message.
Thanks Andrew 🙏🕉️
I've committed to misbehaving IE self care
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I was telling my wife a couple of days ago that i all that i know i learrn it by myself, i didnt have a dad and mom role model or older brother role model, all i had was school and books to learn everything i know, when i started to work thats when i seperated my bond from my narcisist brother and flying monkey mom and brothers, i feel now like i never reached my full potential as a person from all the trauma bond and gaslighting i endured as child and adolescent.
They hold us back because they're jealous.
@@bobbarker1798 iwas a smart kid growing up, i think you aré right
@@bobbarker1798 yes they are, they just cant contain themselves, i was a smart kid growing up and no one cared in my family about that.
Like My Amazing Dad used to say.
"Misery Loves Company"
Your 100% Spot on Andrew, Thank You, you have helped me more than you will Ever Know. 😊😊😊
Thank you, Andrew! This video is right on! I, like others, listen to you each day just to keep me grounded. I've made it through the fog after dealing with the wrath of several narcissists. I'm doing great, and for anyone watching, you can make it through the fog and heal, too. Knowledge is power people! ❤
You are hero❤
Thank you for your encouragement. It's a Mount Everest you have to climb out, a mountain you have to conquer, as otherwise, you will be detroyed, maybe even to a degree that there is no hope for or a chance of healing again.
from rome italy here it is a victim, i am free from about 2 months...it's hard as hell but videos and expercience like yours are pure treasure...the way he bullyed me and humiliate me was more than cruel...i really do thank you for this channel and for your words, healing it s gonna be less hard
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God made his warriors strong.
Amen
I was dating a covert narcissist for 2 years. I fell for the mask she wore. I even proposed to her and we were gonna get married. But then , the powers that be started to give me signs. Very red flags. So blatant. And I was able to finally see behind the mask. I am so thankful that I was able to see this and end the relationship. I was never valued, appreciated etc. It was all a lie. I am so confused that I was not able to see this before. She was so slick . A magician. But I am free now, liberated. And I have met someone new. A true angel. She was married to a narcissist for 15 years. So she gets it. She is sweet, pure and sincere. I think god showed me the way. I know he has. He led me to this channel he led me to my new wonderful and authentic girlfriend. Life is interesting. It can seem like a rollercoaster , but one must remain optimistic and stay on the righteous path. God is looking out for us good people . This channel is such a blessing. ❤
Thank you for sharing this..🙏💯😌
Thank you Andrew. I know that you have not a script but a flowing conversation with us. It's a Big ability to speak in this way. I Hope I will be able too.
Andrew, Thank you for all your content. Every time I watch one of your videos I am so blown away by how much I can relate to all of it. You are very skilled at articulating what a narcissistic relationship is like. 🙏
A narcissist wants you stuck in life like them they know your a good soul they don't want you to be abundant and see the goodness in life were just a tool to meet their selfish needs. Sad but true. But once their long gone slowly you will build back up with hard work and the abundance starts to kick back in better than ever and you will no longer want to have nothing to do with them they pine on you being stuck wanting them back that's why they create the trauma bond with no closer. That's the best thing they have in their playbook. They may even leave things behind in their wake of destruction to keep you hanging on of fasle hope. Take it from me I've been there nice try game over! Thanks Andrew for the knowledge! 💪🏾🙌🏾
I have reached the pinnacle of indifference. Thanks brother.
Andrew, anyone would love to meet you! You have a lot of charisma and people are drawn to you.
Yes, she was my childhood friend and I was deceived for 32 years before I finally Cut her off 7 yrs ago, So Years and years I have been unraveling her webs of lies and deceit. She is in still in contact with my niece and daughter and they see Her for what she is a little, but they have no idea all the replays and back stabbing I went through. I was heartbroken and was shocked once i realized what a liar she was and I was alone and upset with my self for wasting soo much energy and time on someone who actually hated me…. Still hard to believe! Flying monkeys still and some hovers but I am done! ❤
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Omgosh….. truth, truth, TRUTH!
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My light is getting brighter because of these videos. Thank you Andrew x
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So true, inspiring, uplifting and beautiful message, I 100% resonate ❤
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Good morning Andrew and thank you again for all of your videos! You are inspiring, wise, passionate and so convicted in what you say. I think that's why people think you are reading a script, which you aren't because you are speaking so clearly, articulately and passionately, which is one of your many gifts! Have you written a book yet? You must keep yourself well balanced in positivity because this topic is somewhat negative, but because you are helping people to become enlightened , that is the positive part of coming out of this negative experience. I have been codependent, which is a perfect match for the narcissist. When I have left a relationship at the end of my cycle, which I felt bad for but there was no other way, I call it the 'mic drop.' Which is like the discard. I could write paragraphs. I realize now between by dad, then three significant relationships over 22 years, I was in narcissist or narcissist's traits relationships. I send them love and prayers, but am learning more, and reaching the 'mountain top of indifference' as you so clearly stated. I am learning more I listen to you. Also, when there is a pet in between, can be tricky too. Keep up the fantastic work ! Blessings.
What is the most mind blowing part of listening to this is how clinical this stuff actually is....its like a checklist they all have downloaded into their brain. For a psychologist to explain how this type of person behaves to a T like this is wild
Asking God to send me a rescue team to get the hell out ASAP. I'm in my 40s, lost 27yrs in their narcissistic fog. Lost everything incl. health, career and finances. May the Lord perform a miracle and get me out of this situation not of my creation. I do not consent to this crazy charade stealing any more of my life, heart, mind, body and soul!
Find the courage to leave..just leave.
@@MattyNelson-rs3ik I have the courage, just not the health or resources -yet... 🙏✨
Go Grey Rock
Thank you for your videos. They really helped me to stay in a higher Frequency. 🌅🏃💃 keep doing your videos Andrew you have a purpose for getting this out to us your views. Like I said before you helped me understand what I'm dealing with and using the Right Technique to basically keep it at sea level. Narcissist experience my Navy how to stay alive training comes in handy
Oh my goodness you are telling the truth
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Love you and community Andrew ❤️ Thank you so much for your information and encouragement.
😂 It's not a funny topic, but I smile.....It's hard to think of her as a narcissist, but checklist of behaviors and my experience. Ive seen the behavior to other people, and her "friends". Or giving direction to her "friends" to manipulate their spouses.
Hell, she even joke about her and her "friend" manipulating me into doing stuff, which I just took as a joke at the time.
I first found these informative videos 9 months ago self reflecting as "I " was a narcissist....... Ive been fighting the trauma bond ever since, and the final discard once she found I was informing myself of the topic.
Thank you for sharing..🙏💯😌
Your messages be FIRE! ❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥
Yup five years later still dealing with bs from ex narc. What a dysaster.
Det ved jeg Andrew, men ikke her,jeg skal ikke i tågen igen Nej tak. Så God dag Andrew 😉👍
Thank you Andrew for be there 🎉
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My narc dad? used to constantly tell me in a hypnotic tone," YOUR ME..YOUR ME... YOUR ME... LOL. IM NOT A CHILD ABUSING, MASAJONIST, ANGRY, HOMOSEXUALly, CRITICAL, DEVIANT.
The bad news: he ensnared me --- even ONLINE! He's up in years, so he's quite the expert.
The good news: he ensnared me online and it went NO FURTHER than that. God protected me from the damage that would've happened in the real world.
Thanks Andrew!!!
Wow!just wow!
Well they TRY to take you down with them. They're not always successful. T
Some tried with me, and lost. Over a 20 yr period, 4 died of different cancers. Karma will always come, sometimes earlier than later, but I'm still standing.
So many of the things you said I experienced...the life raft part, except there was no life raft, and he was holding onto the boat...forget I was in the water, with rapids all around, and barely had the strength to lift myself into the boat. He was the reason I fell into the water too, if I'm not mistaking.
Thank you! ❤