Best video on narcissism yet!!! So freaking accurate. Holy crap, they suck! No peace at all when you were with them, from lack of sleep to having to go through every day off-kilter. I realized a year ago… what is one thing that they told me the truth about? I earnestly tried to figure out one thing… I can’t think of ONE thing they told me the truth about.
Spot on as usual. Deny the narcissist access to you by going no contact. Start your healing process and when you look in the mirror you will see it. Others will see you blossom like never before. Anyone who lacks authenticity will cringe and eventually they will steer clear of you. We deserve to be happy and to be free of oppression.
Hard to go no contact when the folks in your HOA controlled subdivision (wasn't here when I arrived) has cameras all over, from every neighbor, pointed at your home, apparently have slapped a tracker on your vehicle, use an illegal Stingray cell phone signal interceptor device, and have audio monitoring equipment monitoring every word of audio journaling you speak in the privacy of your own home. Is this how we are going to be living in this country?
Very well put! I now look better, happy, loss weight, and YES the other people see it in you, that special GLOW in your face. Narcissist sucked you and drained you!
IF GOD ALLOWS THE JESUITS TO HAVE THEIR WAY, IT WILL BE! SEND FOR THE FREE BOOK ENTITLED "THE SECRET TERRORISTS" TO: TRUTH TRIUMPHANT, P.O. BOX 1417 EUSTIS, FL. 32727.
Denying you to make a great life for yourself is the specialty of a narc parent. I know because i lived it. My narc mother denied me of everything i wanted to experience when i was a child. Her answer was always NO. That's why when i realised that i needed to only count on myself to do the things i wanted to do, i would not even tell her about it. It takes many years to get out of a narc parent's control. But i did it and now i am free. 💞🦋
It's my daughter. I'm so broken right now. She's so verbally abusive. I've had to go no contact. It's so peaceful yet so much noise in my head from my heart 😢.
I had the same thing happen with my oldest daughter. It has been four years of no contact. Unfortunately, her father was a narc and trained her to be the same never again will I allow this to happen to my other five children. No contact with anyone who is a narc is the best thing you can do. Much ❤
Narcissists love to deny because it’s the beginning of gaslighting. They also deny because they are such liars. I say no thank you to them. I keep things classy. I walk away.
Your videos are like a revelation. I've told friends this must be what a religious revelation feels like. Everything, literally everything, makes sense. A decade of marriage and how my ex-wife treated me. The reactive abuse that she poked and prodded me to inflict upon her which filled me with guilt and shame. Thank you, thank you so much for these. Your concise and helpful words are giving me the tools to combat her during a custody battle we're having.
I was in a cloud of deception, I really didn't know what was happening. After three years, (apparently I'm slow) I figured it out. But couldn't have done it without these videos. I send blessings to all on this forum and thank you Andrew for you valuable information. It saved me.
I love that you use the analogy "the unpaid helper" as one of the ways we get manipulated. It's fascinating how accurately it describes my recent experience. And I find it funny, in a sordid kind of way.
So true “they can just never be” We were on a beautiful beach in Mexico. I was lying down, appreciating all of my senses. Soaking in the experience. Feeling the sun on my skin, appreciating the blue sky watching the clouds float by, the wind in my hair, the sand between my toes, and the sound of the ocean waves. I could not have been more content, I was in the perfect place in the perfect moment. Thanking the Lord for all of these blessings, the nature. He for 20 minutes straight… “I’m bored” I couldn’t believe it. Bored in paradise.. i should have realized then. You’re so right when you say they are always on the gogogo. When all I wanted was to be still and watch the sunsets 🌅
it’s all about them, the Narcissist what they want when they want it….they do anything to get attention, have their own pity parties, ruin our world because they expect the perfect World for them. I understand what you are saying, the same thing happened when we went to the Bahamas years ago, he should of stayed home! He didn’t want to be seen with me, he sat in the hotel room on the outside patio, he was “so bored” it was awful. It was apparent that he missed his other source of supply. After that so called vacation I told myself that would be the last time we would go on a trip like that (that was 2006) and we never did go on another vacation like that nor go on vacation at all. Narcissists are not happy people and never will be.
This was the reality of the situationship that I was in....he was the rebound for me from another relationship......im going to heal and stay single for a very long time!!!
Best to heal you, first and foremost. Carrying other peoples,baggage and their future dreams will break your back..learn the RED flags,be transparent with people up front.."I don't want a relationship now."i remember after my 1st serious relationship of 5 years,never again,cheater 101 Moved clear acrossthe country. .I had dates with other men maybe 2 years after that breakup.I would go out 1,2 times,I knew this is not for me..I stopped,right there.I tried my best not to waste another person's time.. .
Honestly, you were probably the supply in a long line of other supply. I kept being hoovered. It happened three times and I realize that every single time he was done with me he would go back to an ex. Unfortunately, a lot of us are in the same boat. Please stay away from this person and stay no contact. Much ❤
It absolutely does hurt and I’m on my early healing journey to my hubby of 13 years left me with my six children five are still at home, you can do this.!!! It is hard but necessary. Please stay strong. Much ❤
I think this video really makes things click for me, brings up a lot of memories that remind me of why individuals are the way they are and to maintain my protection of myself from them.
My ex is the one who committed domestic violence and injured my shoulder with a hairline fracture, and the cops came. They didn’t arrest her told me that there’s nothing they could do and she still denies it until this day saying it never happened it like I’m in a weird movie
My hubby had four DV incidences with me and each time the DA pretty much brushed it off. There’s one incident where I was still living in the home and they wanted to press charges and I was too scared to do that, in California We have five years to file I’m moving forward and pressing all the charges, please stay strong and try to fight this. Much❤ love
Right on, per usual, Andrew: "They don't even want custody of the kids, they just want to make sure you don't get it." We had joint custody, but I actually often was able to house them (at the time) more than what was on the books- it was convenient for the ex, yet it was my joy! Fast forward a few years later when they are self-sufficient and the narcissistic ex has destroyed your name, reputation, network, security, privacy, financial future, which you co-built (and which greatly affects your kids lives/confidence) and you can't even buy your kids a cup of Joe. Bingo! Holidays? You don't have a house! Contributing to their wedding? You no longer have a career. Helping them with a car repair? You can barely pay for gas for the car you drive, which is not even yours (classically, the narc. has made you dependent on those you were designated by God to support, and for whom you built a future to support) Most humans would be horribly ashamed of burdening others because of their narcissistic abuse, alienation/ruination tactics, but not Narcy.
I get your pain.Kids involved may mean Pain amplified. After all these years, being that you remembered the pain of not being able to help your kids financially, etc. reveals what kind of heart you have. Nothing wrong with you. You're the best kind of human. I'm retiring from a world of competitive, Narcish ( grab all you can eat ) robots.
Thank you. Congrats on retirement from robotic cults.There are hosts of crazy narcissistic-militant types (I'm thinking of a particular nutcase-JT), who protect their cult leader at all cost, no matter if the target is Mother Theresa (which I'm not, but you get the point). I wish you well on your journey.@@jhavajoe3792
You are so right the denial affects so many aspects of the relationship. I espacially liked what you said in the end of the video: Finally we are denying them access to us when we broke up the relationship and I have to admit to me it feels good to see him on the receiving end of denial and withholding even the smallest interest in his life 😊
Today is the ex narc Bday. I couldn’t get myself to text a: H birthday! I don’t see any happiness in that, also don’t want to leave the door a crack for all the Dramas, toxicities, lies and abuses. Thank You so much for all your help Andrew. My best friend/ neighbors moved to N Carolina. Hope to catch your lectures in the future. Namaste 🙏
I really hope that you stayed strong and did not contact this person. Staying No contact is the best way to go. If you leave the door open, even a teeny tiny bit they’re going to make sure that they can come back in and take control over your life much❤
That is fantastic and great to hear please stay no contact the second they think they can come in through a teeny tiny crack like a cockroach. They will invade your whole house and life again sending positive energy that you stay strong. Much ❤
Thank you, Andrew! It's been a month since I blocked the ex narc and I have no plans to unblocking them anytime soon. No denial in that! It was definitely helpful in my healing, and I don't want to lose it!!
We are on the same time frame here, my narc, hubby, and I were together for 13 years have six children five are young and still at home. You’ve got this I am sending positive energy to you and healing. We can get through this together. it is a great community, please stay strong, and stay no contact.Much ❤
My ex’s family member abused my oldest child. I never knew there was a history of abuse in their family until it happened to mine. Then I was told. After so many years together. After trusting his family with my babies. Now I have tried to keep phones away from my 2 younger kids, after finding porn on one phone. He gave the phones back!!! I’m so baffled! He has never protected them and is putting them in danger by not being an active, caring, appropriate, engaged parent. He’s truly an overgrown toddler. I’m so glad to be out but it’s so frustrating that this has been the path I chose. My mother was also a malignant narcissist and I went straight from her to him. Lesson learned. 26 years later.
Please do not be hard on yourself. I know that it is a difficult situation, but please do not blame yourself for the evil that this person put on you. I know I’ve been living with this for the last month and going no contact with my narc hubby of 13 years, we have six children five beautiful young children at home you can do this stay strong. Much ❤
Thought I could overpower this by being more positive., that she would come around an share my joy. No matter what I did it was not good enough. That was so hurtful especially when others were around. When I think of all the times this happened to me I can feel that sting as if it happened yesterday. Years of this abuse takes time to go away. Still on the healing path... glad you all are here!!
It is very interesting. My narc husband before he left, mentioned that I was the narcissist. Gaslighting me and making me think that everything was my fault when, in all reality, he took everything with him financials, emotional, spiritual everything. In the end, I am moving forward and not looking back.
My ex Fiance flirted innapropriatley with another man directly in front of me. I didnt make a scene at the time that occured. I did however bring it up later that evening. To which she completely denied and said she would never do that. She said she is not that kind of person 🤯 My mind was blown. She was such a bold face liar. A narcissist of the highest degree.
These denying games create ongoing cognitive dissonance between what we feel and perceive and what we are told is happening. These distortions lead to degraded trust, alianation from your instincts, self-doubt and disruptions to our identity. In our healing it is necessary to uncover and assign these patterns. Thank you very much Andrew! 🌲🍃💚🍃🌲
My feelings were unimportant and I was told I was causing drama ... Control , manipulation , lesson after lesson ...just honing My skills as a lie detector. Thank you Spirit !❤❤
I feel like you were a fly on the wall watching the last decade of my life. Hit every mark. Wow! Looking back is like reminiscing about being in the mouth of a great white shark and in shock you survived and thinking “ I didn’t realize it was a Great White shark. He swore to me he was a transparent humble little guppy and I swallowed the lie for 8 years. Jeez!!! I think it’s harder to get over my part of pretending not to know. Why did I pretend not to know when everything inside of me was screaming to run, run, run. An actual friend whispered in my ear those very words when she sat in on one of his rants when he let his guard down. The beginning of the end for us. So thankful to her and our marriage therapist. ❤
No matter who I've had to let go, your coverage of narcs is exactly my experience. Today you described 4 family members of mine. Details so unbelievable the only recourse I have is to ask God to have his justice.
The narcissist intentionally denies you everything. A huge tactic in their game of abuse. It keeps you frustrated, stuck, & hopeless. Right where they want you. Great video Andrew 🙌. Excellent and insightful. Truth. I resonate with everything you have said. Great topic. Love your background. Have a good evening 🙂 God bless ☀️ "I just rode 1500 miles..." 🤭🙃 Hang in there everyone . The narcissist is chaos, confusion & unrest. You are peace ☀️
Yes, that's it exactly! They want us frustrated, stuck and hopeless. Like a slave master, beating their slaves down to keep them helpless, hopeless and in line.
I remember one time with my ex narc, i had needed a wrap for weed so i asked my ex could we go 2 the store, my ex wanted 2 take my card( money) to go to the store 4 me but i insisted that we go together, now he knows that the store wasn’t open but I didn’t because he knows the area, so he made us walk all the way 2 the store knowing that it wasn’t open… just because i didnt let him take my money to go by himself (i assumed in my head)
I was lost for years until I discovered Andrews videos. I tried to rationalize everything until I finally realized, that from day one, I was the victim of a hit job by multiple narcissists in my life. Nothing and I mean noting was from the heart, it was all a long manipulative hit job on one side and yet my own wishful projections that got me in trouble.. Today I can see one in a minute an avoid them quickly without saying a word.
You are right, man from all these people who I watched on TH-cam, you are right, man. Thank you very much for your videos. They're amazing. You're right about everything about narcissist completele, and God bless you man
You got the nail on the head !! My SIL woke up all day everyday for a week while i was home sick with bronchitis and a double sinus infection. The week before i did all the yard work on my day off and then had plans to go snowboarding the next day. She hide my keys and then WOKE me up at 630 am to get call a locksmith. I found my keys in her purse at noon. Too late to go to the snow. How horrible to do this to someone that works 40 hours a week and does all the yard work and house work. Just terrible. I'm working on moving 5 states away.
Please do!! Get away. My narc baby dady took my car keys when he was visiting his son and threw them out the window of his car right down the busy street I lived off of. But someone found them and turned them in to the fire department on the same street . They found out they were my keys because of my key chain library card . I got my keys hand delivered to my front door before I even knew they were gone. I wondered how my key got so far when I wasn't driving. I put 2 and 2 together . He was the only one that could have done it. But God was watching for me ❤
Sending positive energy to you, I hope everything works out and continue your healing journey with no contact, I could definitely see this woman trying to move you back in. Please stay strong and stay away. Much ❤love
I aggree with you that triangulation is my least favorite thing with these People. I remember the incredible feeling of being stabbed deep in the heart combined with a feeling of nausea, when I found out of the new supply.😢
They WERE denying us AT THE TIME. So it is in the past. What they are now - - - who cares? It's what they did to us at the time, not who they are now So, "not denying who they were," seems appropriate. .
This is wild...its as if you watched the last 15 years of my life. im literally blown away...EVERY SINGLE POINT you made applied 100% and you didn't miss anything. This is incredible
Thank you andrew...your videos are full of wisdom from having been abused yourself staying in a narcissistic relationship. I am recovering myself now and off the painful hook with all the denial and fake stories going on in the head of a narcissist. My traumas are slowly healing from the red alert wake up call I had to go through ...the big challenge for me now is the narcissist mother denying me to keep the contact with my daughter. Very heartbreaking and more evil hitting me
Thank you Andrew ❤ He tried to hoover me yesterday, but I stayed strong and said NO. He lives nearby, so he tries hard to play nice, but as hard as it is, I say no and remind myself of why I Don't want to be with him again!!
For me it's the complete lack of conscience these people have..when and if you ever have the gumption to take on the issue they deny it! 🤦🙏☮️ And yep, life is not a game... Simple but Soo true Andrew..and the narcs will never care less..🙏
Appreciate your perspective as always - lots of narcissists don't want physical custody because it costs them time, money and aggravation - some want only 'legal' custody in order to control your whereabouts, etc. Some of us would like to hear more on your take as it relates to the empathic parents who have children with the narcissist and those children were exposed to all of the narcissist's wicked tactics - and at some point, decided that was the way to go... the winner is the one "in control"?? How to break the generational curse... TIMSHEL.
1 year on from No Contact when I think back I now can laugh. He sold me a relationship though he can’t relate! He’s in denial that all that he said was to provoke a reaction from me positive or negative. That he is toxic though said he “Doesn’t do drama”…That he is a pervert, abusive and a complete FRAUD! Nothing there to love and nothing there to miss 🤯🤢
Everything you so is so true Andrew. They just don't want you to think you have done anything right. When I shopped for the narcissist nothing was right even when it was what was on the list. 😂😂 I can laugh about the ridiculous of it all now but the games were real and in it you begin to realise it is hopeless and this is how they want you to feel.
I remember I was scared to let the narc see me relax after doing a bunch of work or chores,I left like I just couldn't be me! One thing I can say is I'm greatful that I don't have to live in the mind of a narcissist,these poeple are miserable, they have no peace,and I believe the most precious thing is peace...it's really a sad life.
Honestly, I don’t think we will ever get true clarity, but definitely the peace. I know when my narc hubby left me after 13 years with six children five are still at home, it was like taking a breath of fresh air for the first time in over a decade of abuse and manipulation.
They have resorted to following me to sites in the web, in to chat rooms I enjoyed. It's like the air is sucked out of the group - evil has visited. Excellent video, thanks.
Wow many things you mentioned on are so true! I lost all my friends and all my family to a few narcissists . I love your quote game set match you win ! I’m not there yet but i was on a very good path before the last narcissist. I know i can get back on the right path again if i keep moving forward. Thank you andrew
The narcissist who has been plaguing my life for the last couple of years has denied me access to almost everyone including doctors and dentists and they now have the audacity to call themselves victims 😂 this is Narcisism - evil at its best! Sickening to the core!
Denying you things that belong to you even when court ordered! Denied to sign anything court related and divorce related. So frustrating but he is digging his own hole! I won't deny him jail if it comes to it.
Denied, refused to speak the words of his actions and then told me everything I said he did and said never happened! I reminded him he left a paper trail, texts and phone messages recorded. Game over. Access denied. Done.
Absolutely I had actual physical proof of all the contacts even contacted some of the women and men he was he was sleeping with. All of this to no avail. He still denied everything with proof in his face walk away with a smile. Much ❤
I don't have spare energy for them now. They controlled the narrative & now I don't care. My healing goes on. Thank you
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Good for you - - - many blessings!
Best video on narcissism yet!!! So freaking accurate. Holy crap, they suck! No peace at all when you were with them, from lack of sleep to having to go through every day off-kilter. I realized a year ago… what is one thing that they told me the truth about? I earnestly tried to figure out one thing… I can’t think of ONE thing they told me the truth about.
It was never a real partnership. Being solo can be challenging yet it is so much better than that abuse. Stay strong Andrew and Tribe.❣️
Like the song, "If I'm going to live alone, I want to do it by myself."
Absolutely. Really alone beats abuse including silence.❣️
Spot on as usual. Deny the narcissist access to you by going no contact. Start your healing process and when you look in the mirror you will see it. Others will see you blossom like never before. Anyone who lacks authenticity will cringe and eventually they will steer clear of you. We deserve to be happy and to be free of oppression.
Thank you..😌💜🙏💯
Hard to go no contact when the folks in your HOA controlled subdivision (wasn't here when I arrived) has cameras all over, from every neighbor, pointed at your home, apparently have slapped a tracker on your vehicle, use an illegal Stingray cell phone signal interceptor device, and have audio monitoring equipment monitoring every word of audio journaling you speak in the privacy of your own home.
Is this how we are going to be living in this country?
Very well put! I now look better, happy, loss weight, and YES the other people see it in you, that special GLOW in your face. Narcissist sucked you and drained you!
IF GOD ALLOWS THE JESUITS TO HAVE THEIR WAY, IT WILL BE! SEND FOR THE FREE BOOK ENTITLED "THE SECRET TERRORISTS" TO: TRUTH TRIUMPHANT, P.O. BOX 1417 EUSTIS, FL. 32727.
I love the bird singing in the background 🤗
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Yeahhh… that little birdie knowsss 😉☺️😍❤️❤️❤️
They deny that they're like a bull in a China shop...
everyone they trap in a relationship winds up broken!
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excellent comment, well said.
-cheers, steven
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And to you my friend...
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Great analogy! And nothing ever their faults 🤯
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Denying you to make a great life for yourself is the specialty of a narc parent. I know because i lived it. My narc mother denied me of everything i wanted to experience when i was a child. Her answer was always NO. That's why when i realised that i needed to only count on myself to do the things i wanted to do, i would not even tell her about it. It takes many years to get out of a narc parent's control. But i did it and now i am free. 💞🦋
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I'm sorry you were treated that way by a parent. So wrong.
@@badomaji thank you for your kindness. Sincerely 😊💞
It's my daughter. I'm so broken right now. She's so verbally abusive. I've had to go no contact. It's so peaceful yet so much noise in my head from my heart 😢.
I had the same thing happen with my oldest daughter. It has been four years of no contact. Unfortunately, her father was a narc and trained her to be the same never again will I allow this to happen to my other five children. No contact with anyone who is a narc is the best thing you can do. Much ❤
Narcissists love to deny because it’s the beginning of gaslighting. They also deny because they are such liars.
I say no thank you to them. I keep things classy. I walk away.
Do you think they believe their own lies? I do.
@@carlogambino1979 I do think they believe their lies. The narcissists think they are superior to everyone. They aren’t.
@@carlogambino1979 Me too. They believe the reality they create.
Your videos are like a revelation. I've told friends this must be what a religious revelation feels like. Everything, literally everything, makes sense. A decade of marriage and how my ex-wife treated me. The reactive abuse that she poked and prodded me to inflict upon her which filled me with guilt and shame.
Thank you, thank you so much for these. Your concise and helpful words are giving me the tools to combat her during a custody battle we're having.
Accountability, introspection, remorse are all traits the narcissists lack
So true! How can they relate with human beings in a fair/good way?
They can't!
@@user-yy9be9mi6nit’s a totally one-sided perspective w/ them
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Mike, they also lack the ability to be repentant of their abusive actions.
In a nutshell!!! You nailed it!!!
I was in a cloud of deception, I really didn't know what was happening. After three years, (apparently I'm slow) I figured it out. But couldn't have done it without these videos. I send blessings to all on this forum and thank you Andrew for you valuable information. It saved me.
It's darn you if you do and darn you if you don't...
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Amen . You speak truth to human cruelty.
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I love that you use the analogy "the unpaid helper" as one of the ways we get manipulated. It's fascinating how accurately it describes my recent experience. And I find it funny, in a sordid kind of way.
So true “they can just never be”
We were on a beautiful beach in Mexico. I was lying down, appreciating all of my senses. Soaking in the experience. Feeling the sun on my skin, appreciating the blue sky watching the clouds float by, the wind in my hair, the sand between my toes, and the sound of the ocean waves. I could not have been more content, I was in the perfect place in the perfect moment. Thanking the Lord for all of these blessings, the nature.
He for 20 minutes straight… “I’m bored” I couldn’t believe it. Bored in paradise.. i should have realized then. You’re so right when you say they are always on the gogogo. When all I wanted was to be still and watch the sunsets 🌅
Bored easily. It's a big red flag they are narcissists.
it’s all about them, the Narcissist what they want when they want it….they do anything to get attention, have their own pity parties, ruin our world because they expect the perfect World for them. I understand what you are saying, the same thing happened when we went to the Bahamas years ago, he should of stayed home! He didn’t want to be seen with me, he sat in the hotel room on the outside patio, he was “so bored” it was awful. It was apparent that he missed his other source of supply. After that so called vacation I told myself that would be the last time we would go on a trip like that (that was 2006) and we never did go on another vacation like that nor go on vacation at all. Narcissists are not happy people and never will be.
This was the reality of the situationship that I was in....he was the rebound for me from another relationship......im going to heal and stay single for a very long time!!!
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Best to heal you, first and foremost. Carrying other peoples,baggage and their future dreams will break your back..learn the RED flags,be transparent with people up front.."I don't want a relationship now."i remember after my 1st serious relationship of 5 years,never again,cheater 101 Moved clear acrossthe country. .I had dates with other men maybe 2 years after that breakup.I would go out 1,2 times,I knew this is not for me..I stopped,right there.I tried my best not to waste another person's time..
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Honestly, you were probably the supply in a long line of other supply. I kept being hoovered. It happened three times and I realize that every single time he was done with me he would go back to an ex. Unfortunately, a lot of us are in the same boat. Please stay away from this person and stay no contact. Much ❤
😓sometimes it just hurts.
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Let it hurt. It will pass.
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Yes! It does. But the longer we stay, the worse it gets. I except that was my learning path 🫶🏼💐
It absolutely does hurt and I’m on my early healing journey to my hubby of 13 years left me with my six children five are still at home, you can do this.!!! It is hard but necessary. Please stay strong. Much ❤
Hurts more being with them. Remember the bad things and how it made you feel. You don't have to experience that anymore.
It's crazy that you describe my past relationship better than I can.
Im watching your videos, im getting stronger every day, thank you.
I think this video really makes things click for me, brings up a lot of memories that remind me of why individuals are the way they are and to maintain my protection of myself from them.
My ex is the one who committed domestic violence and injured my shoulder with a hairline fracture, and the cops came. They didn’t arrest her told me that there’s nothing they could do and she still denies it until this day saying it never happened it like I’m in a weird movie
If the roles were reversed you bet they would have done something.
My hubby had four DV incidences with me and each time the DA pretty much brushed it off. There’s one incident where I was still living in the home and they wanted to press charges and I was too scared to do that, in California We have five years to file I’m moving forward and pressing all the charges, please stay strong and try to fight this. Much❤ love
@@NickeyVamp yeah If it happened press charges but if police did nothing I have no case
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they never change, you'll take the fall
Self-denial is the narc's main "defense" mechanism.
Right on, per usual, Andrew: "They don't even want custody of the kids, they just want to make sure you don't get it."
We had joint custody, but I actually often was able to house them (at the time) more than what was on the books- it was convenient for the ex, yet it was my joy! Fast forward a few years later when they are self-sufficient and the narcissistic ex has destroyed your name, reputation, network, security, privacy, financial future, which you co-built (and which greatly affects your kids lives/confidence) and you can't even buy your kids a cup of Joe. Bingo! Holidays? You don't have a house! Contributing to their wedding? You no longer have a career. Helping them with a car repair? You can barely pay for gas for the car you drive, which is not even yours (classically, the narc. has made you dependent on those you were designated by God to support, and for whom you built a future to support) Most humans would be horribly ashamed of burdening others because of their narcissistic abuse, alienation/ruination tactics, but not Narcy.
Thank you for sharing..😌😌🙏
I get your pain.Kids involved may mean Pain amplified.
After all these years, being that you remembered the pain of not being able to help your kids financially, etc. reveals what kind of heart you have. Nothing wrong with you. You're the best kind of human. I'm retiring from a world of competitive, Narcish ( grab all you can eat ) robots.
Thank you. Congrats on retirement from robotic cults.There are hosts of crazy narcissistic-militant types (I'm thinking of a particular nutcase-JT), who protect their cult leader at all cost, no matter if the target is Mother Theresa (which I'm not, but you get the point).
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Being gaslighted sucks…. I am so glad I don’t do that to people cause it has been done to me
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You are so right the denial affects so many aspects of the relationship. I espacially liked what you said in the end of the video: Finally we are denying them access to us when we broke up the relationship and I have to admit to me it feels good to see him on the receiving end of denial and withholding even the smallest interest in his life 😊
So glad I am not with my narcissistic ex Mark anymore Thank you for your videos Andrew!! ❤️ Namaste my friend ❤️🙏
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Peace & quiet doesn't exist for the narcissist. Thx again, Andrew!
Custody: reason 3: using the children for resources
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My Narc had my neices taken away from me.
@@01968yes unfortunately children are a constant ongoing supply and resource, the most vulnerable 😢
@@01968 I am sorry that happened to you that is horrible. Hopefully one day they will see the person for who they are and seek you out. Much ❤
They always "don't remember " is their excuse for denying wrong doing.
Today is the ex narc Bday. I couldn’t get myself to text a: H birthday! I don’t see any happiness in that, also don’t want to leave the door a crack for all the Dramas, toxicities, lies and abuses. Thank You so much for all your help Andrew. My best friend/ neighbors moved to N Carolina. Hope to catch your lectures in the future. Namaste 🙏
I really hope that you stayed strong and did not contact this person. Staying No contact is the best way to go. If you leave the door open, even a teeny tiny bit they’re going to make sure that they can come back in and take control over your life much❤
Thanks Andrew. My ex narc tried to Hoover me today. I ignored it.
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That is fantastic and great to hear please stay no contact the second they think they can come in through a teeny tiny crack like a cockroach. They will invade your whole house and life again sending positive energy that you stay strong. Much ❤
It’s amazing that all these people operate in the same demonic ways, uniformly, and they all become predictable once you figure them out.
Thanks for another great video. You are literally a lifesaver.
Thank you, Andrew! It's been a month since I blocked the ex narc and I have no plans to unblocking them anytime soon. No denial in that! It was definitely helpful in my healing, and I don't want to lose it!!
We are on the same time frame here, my narc, hubby, and I were together for 13 years have six children five are young and still at home. You’ve got this I am sending positive energy to you and healing. We can get through this together. it is a great community, please stay strong, and stay no contact.Much ❤
They effortlessly blame the one or ones that aren't there.
My ex’s family member abused my oldest child. I never knew there was a history of abuse in their family until it happened to mine. Then I was told. After so many years together. After trusting his family with my babies. Now I have tried to keep phones away from my 2 younger kids, after finding porn on one phone. He gave the phones back!!! I’m so baffled! He has never protected them and is putting them in danger by not being an active, caring, appropriate, engaged parent. He’s truly an overgrown toddler. I’m so glad to be out but it’s so frustrating that this has been the path I chose. My mother was also a malignant narcissist and I went straight from her to him. Lesson learned. 26 years later.
Please do not be hard on yourself. I know that it is a difficult situation, but please do not blame yourself for the evil that this person put on you. I know I’ve been living with this for the last month and going no contact with my narc hubby of 13 years, we have six children five beautiful young children at home you can do this stay strong. Much ❤
Yes, their past ex's were the ones to blame. I know now that because of the education you provide! Terrible lies!
Thought I could overpower this by being more positive., that she would come around an share my joy. No matter what I did it was not good enough. That was so hurtful especially when others were around. When I think of all the times this happened to me I can feel that sting as if it happened yesterday. Years of this abuse takes time to go away. Still on the healing path... glad you all are here!!
Help us with the Hoover tactics Andrew 🙏
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It is very interesting. My narc husband before he left, mentioned that I was the narcissist. Gaslighting me and making me think that everything was my fault when, in all reality, he took everything with him financials, emotional, spiritual everything. In the end, I am moving forward and not looking back.
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My ex Fiance flirted innapropriatley with another man directly in front of me. I didnt make a scene at the time that occured. I did however bring it up later that evening. To which she completely denied and said she would never do that. She said she is not that kind of person 🤯 My mind was blown. She was such a bold face liar. A narcissist of the highest degree.
Narcs should never bring a gas lantern to a showdown, without any gas.
These denying games create ongoing cognitive dissonance between what we feel and perceive and what we are told is happening.
These distortions lead to degraded trust, alianation from your instincts, self-doubt and disruptions to our identity.
In our healing it is necessary to uncover and assign these patterns.
Thank you very much Andrew!
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Wow so good Lio - yes! bless you 🙏💖🌸
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Agreed 100%--Very well stated and clear as a bell.
My feelings were unimportant and I was told I was causing drama ... Control , manipulation , lesson after lesson ...just honing My skills as a lie detector. Thank you Spirit !❤❤
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Thank you Andrew for everything you do to help people!❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I feel like you were a fly on the wall watching the last decade of my life. Hit every mark. Wow! Looking back is like reminiscing about being in the mouth of a great white shark and in shock you survived and thinking “ I didn’t realize it was a Great White shark. He swore to me he was a transparent humble little guppy and I swallowed the lie for 8 years. Jeez!!! I think it’s harder to get over my part of pretending not to know. Why did I pretend not to know when everything inside of me was screaming to run, run, run. An actual friend whispered in my ear those very words when she sat in on one of his rants when he let his guard down. The beginning of the end for us. So thankful to her and our marriage therapist. ❤
No matter who I've had to let go, your coverage of narcs is exactly my experience. Today you described 4 family members of mine. Details so unbelievable the only recourse I have is to ask God to have his justice.
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The narcissist intentionally denies you everything. A huge tactic in their game of abuse. It keeps you frustrated, stuck, & hopeless. Right where they want you. Great video Andrew 🙌. Excellent and insightful. Truth. I resonate with everything you have said. Great topic. Love your background. Have a good evening 🙂 God bless ☀️
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Hang in there everyone . The narcissist is chaos, confusion & unrest. You are peace ☀️
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lol he makes me laugh too 😊
Yes, that's it exactly! They want us frustrated, stuck and hopeless. Like a slave master, beating their slaves down to keep them helpless, hopeless and in line.
Thank you, I needed to hear this. This community is absolutely amazing.❤
So many truth arrows in your quiver! Thanks! 🏹🎯😎
I remember one time with my ex narc, i had needed a wrap for weed so i asked my ex could we go 2 the store, my ex wanted 2 take my card( money) to go to the store 4 me but i insisted that we go together, now he knows that the store wasn’t open but I didn’t because he knows the area, so he made us walk all the way 2 the store knowing that it wasn’t open… just because i didnt let him take my money to go by himself (i assumed in my head)
Thank you Andrew!!
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I was lost for years until I discovered Andrews videos. I tried to rationalize everything until I finally realized, that from day one, I was the victim of a hit job by multiple narcissists in my life. Nothing and I mean noting was from the heart, it was all a long manipulative hit job on one side and yet my own wishful projections that got me in trouble.. Today I can see one in a minute an avoid them quickly without saying a word.
You are right, man from all these people who I watched on TH-cam, you are right, man. Thank you very much for your videos. They're amazing. You're right about everything about narcissist completele, and God bless you man
Dont ask, Do.
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Andrew is right his family knew all i did they discarded me im exhausted now ive let go now 😢❤
Exactly how it is.
This has answered all the questions i have bn having. My eyes have been opened. Thanks bro
You are truly the best!!! I survived the trauma bond... you have a gift!❤
You got the nail on the head !! My SIL woke up all day everyday for a week while i was home sick with bronchitis and a double sinus infection. The week before i did all the yard work on my day off and then had plans to go snowboarding the next day. She hide my keys and then WOKE me up at 630 am to get call a locksmith. I found my keys in her purse at noon. Too late to go to the snow. How horrible to do this to someone that works 40 hours a week and does all the yard work and house work. Just terrible. I'm working on moving 5 states away.
Please do!! Get away. My narc baby dady took my car keys when he was visiting his son and threw them out the window of his car right down the busy street I lived off of. But someone found them and turned them in to the fire department on the same street . They found out they were my keys because of my key chain library card . I got my keys hand delivered to my front door before I even knew they were gone. I wondered how my key got so far when I wasn't driving. I put 2 and 2 together . He was the only one that could have done it. But God was watching for me ❤
@ginag1290 that's aweful !! The sick games they play with us is terrible. Thank God you got your keys back also.
Sending positive energy to you, I hope everything works out and continue your healing journey with no contact, I could definitely see this woman trying to move you back in. Please stay strong and stay away. Much ❤love
I aggree with you that triangulation is my least favorite thing with these People.
I remember the incredible feeling of being stabbed deep in the heart combined with a feeling of nausea, when I found out of the new supply.😢
With the utmost respect, Andrew... not denying who they 'were." ...they deny who they 'are.'
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They WERE denying us AT THE TIME. So it is in the past. What they are now - - - who cares? It's what they did to us at the time, not who they are now So, "not denying who they were," seems appropriate. .
If i ever brought the wrong milk back god help me !! So glad im out thankyou Andrew for your selfless wisdom ❤
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True and for many without this education, it will be a continual reoccurring nightmare.
If someone wants to bring you down, it means that you are above them 😊
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High five Ruby! 👍
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Ruby, ☝️☝️😁 THAT statement is AWESOME! 🏆👑🥇 Hope you’re having a GREAT day my friend!!!🙌☀️❤️💜❤️💜
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This is wild...its as if you watched the last 15 years of my life. im literally blown away...EVERY SINGLE POINT you made applied 100% and you didn't miss anything. This is incredible
Thank you andrew...your videos are full of wisdom from having been abused yourself staying in a narcissistic relationship. I am recovering myself now and off the painful hook with all the denial and fake stories going on in the head of a narcissist. My traumas are slowly healing from the red alert wake up call I had to go through ...the big challenge for me now is the narcissist mother denying me to keep the contact with my daughter. Very heartbreaking and more evil hitting me
Thank you again NARCDAILY 🙏
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Thank you Andrew ❤
He tried to hoover me yesterday, but I stayed strong and said NO.
He lives nearby, so he tries hard to play nice, but as hard as it is, I say no and remind myself of why I Don't want to be with him again!!
Rise. Rise above the narc.
💯 percent true, denying is the narcissist expertise. Thank you for your love and support ❤️
yes they run as the game leader. “GAME OVER”
And the biggest lie? That they never once let you know what they are! That’s beyond the pale. Evil? I think so. x
Thank you 🎉 God bless you.
For me it's the complete lack of conscience these people have..when and if you ever have the gumption to take on the issue they deny it! 🤦🙏☮️ And yep, life is not a game... Simple but Soo true Andrew..and the narcs will never care less..🙏
Loss causes grief - they keep us in a perpetual state of grief.
Appreciate your perspective as always - lots of narcissists don't want physical custody because it costs them time, money and aggravation - some want only 'legal' custody in order to control your whereabouts, etc. Some of us would like to hear more on your take as it relates to the empathic parents who have children with the narcissist and those children were exposed to all of the narcissist's wicked tactics - and at some point, decided that was the way to go... the winner is the one "in control"?? How to break the generational curse... TIMSHEL.
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Thanks Andrew going through this now. Not good. I see right through him. It doesn’t get any better.
Hello Andrew 🙂 , I hope that you 🙂 are having a beautiful time in Springtime 🌹🌱🌼🧬 , in The Beautiful Carolinas 🙂🥰 Look After You 🥰
1 year on from No Contact when I think back I now can laugh.
He sold me a relationship though he can’t relate! He’s in denial that all that he said was to provoke a reaction from me positive or negative. That he is toxic though said he “Doesn’t do drama”…That he is a pervert, abusive and a complete FRAUD!
Nothing there to love and nothing there to miss 🤯🤢
Everything you so is so true Andrew. They just don't want you to think you have done anything right. When I shopped for the narcissist nothing was right even when it was what was on the list. 😂😂 I can laugh about the ridiculous of it all now but the games were real and in it you begin to realise it is hopeless and this is how they want you to feel.
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I remember I was scared to let the narc see me relax after doing a bunch of work or chores,I left like I just couldn't be me!
One thing I can say is I'm greatful that I don't have to live in the mind of a narcissist,these poeple are miserable, they have no peace,and I believe the most precious thing is peace...it's really a sad life.
' an emotionally wounded person and a walking apology is all you can be with a narc.
Great video Andrew!
Wishing everyone clarity and peace...
Honestly, I don’t think we will ever get true clarity, but definitely the peace. I know when my narc hubby left me after 13 years with six children five are still at home, it was like taking a breath of fresh air for the first time in over a decade of abuse and manipulation.
God you are just so on point Andrew🙏
Omg. This is so true.
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They have resorted to following me to sites in the web, in to chat rooms I enjoyed. It's like the air is sucked out of the group - evil has visited. Excellent video, thanks.
Wow many things you mentioned on are so true! I lost all my friends and all my family to a few narcissists . I love your quote game set match you win ! I’m not there yet but i was on a very good path before the last narcissist. I know i can get back on the right path again if i keep moving forward. Thank you andrew
You are telling my story!!! 💯on point
The narcissist who has been plaguing my life for the last couple of years has denied me access to almost everyone including doctors and dentists and they now have the audacity to call themselves victims 😂 this is Narcisism - evil at its best! Sickening to the core!
Denying you things that belong to you even when court ordered! Denied to sign anything court related and divorce related. So frustrating but he is digging his own hole! I won't deny him jail if it comes to it.
Denied, refused to speak the words of his actions and then told me everything I said he did and said never happened! I reminded him he left a paper trail, texts and phone messages recorded. Game over. Access denied. Done.
Love it when a lying Narc chose the wrong target. 👍💪
Absolutely I had actual physical proof of all the contacts even contacted some of the women and men he was he was sleeping with. All of this to no avail. He still denied everything with proof in his face walk away with a smile. Much ❤
Luv your vids! I always feel optimistic about my healing journey after watching,thank you 🙏🏻
God bless too Andrew 🙏
Thanks for the information Andrew, and good Day 🙂
1500 miles 😂, oh god I needed a good laugh👍