The night after our wedding he thru a rage fit because I was tired and ready for bed. I was scared but his brother spent the night with us so I felt safe. We never went on a honeymoon...our relationship was never the same after all the love bombing. I thought what a fool I am. What a mistake I have made. Took me 9 years to get out. I'm on the healing path now. Thank you Andrew. God showed me the way but it was hell
My ex was so jealous of my talents and abilities. Instead of supporting me, he worked to tear me down to destroy me. Every major holiday or family celebration was a disaster. Holidays were canceled a couple of hours before guests were to arrive. I’d have to take the kids to a movie to quell their sad little disappointments. What a freaking mess! So glad I finally broke free!
They always ruin the Holidays.. they want to make it about them.. I have cooked full huge dinners two days in advance type dinners just for his family to " cancel" A few hours before.. leaving tons of food I would give to neighbors.. I am a cook so my food is fantastic I cooked for fancy restaurants so it was not bad food by any means.. the neighbors would come back to see if there were seconds.. lol.. he ruined everything.
@@NickeyVampyes...and how his family would let you know if they weren't invited "enough". And of course....you paid all the grocery with your cash. LOL....Good Riddance for Ever!!!
They really do take all of your hobbies and fun away.. if you do have "fun it is with them" also for them. You are completely subservient to them but do not see it, it is hindsight.
I changed careers to make him happy and dropped all my hobbies to make him happy. The abuse didn't stop and I learned you can't make them treat you nicely no matter what. Then I picked up a hobby for me and the abuse escalated: he started raging, doing the silent treatment, threatening to cheat on me and divorce me, and tried to convince me to agree to let him, shall we put it, send my cat to a better place that is not on this planet. Meanwhile, I do all the cooking, cleaning, his laundry, his dishes, and anything responsible or handy around the house. He focuses on charming everyone at work to get attention and praise and treats me horribly at home when no one can see. I have never once been able to have a normal or logical conversation with him and if I try to be authentic or happy in any way he shuts it down until I walk on eggshells around him again.
@user-bt4uy8yg3x same here, he was always seeking outside validation from co workers.. threatening me.. treating me like shit. Also cheating on me and saying he did it because I talk to my ex about a child we had together.. he used that as an excuse to cheat... nope I was done.. recently found out he was borrowing tons of money from his family and none of us myself or the kids saw any of it.. where did it go?? I don't know from what I can surmise it was strip clubs, prostitutes and maybe drugs.. so glad he is gone. Bye.. lol
Great video Andrew! One of the hardest things for me to accept was how she broke and sabotaged everything purposely. Wishing everyone clarity and peace.. 🙏
My ex was a religious freak. I called him "affectionately" a "Catholic Taleban". He was very satisfied by my remare. Poor thing....the ending hit him hard. Good Riddance Forever.
The most painful thing for me, was not the Emotional, physical or mental abuse , it was when he threw out all my daughters amazing art work .Right from primary school, that pain is the most severe . Andrew you are an amazing mentor love from 🇬🇧 ❤
So sorry to hear that it really is heartbreaking. Mine got rid of my phones with pics and all my photo albums. I have practically no pics of my children. It is so sad..
Mine threw away all the kids'plush toys....while keeping his rotten...literally....underwear. because he reckoned that I would notice and buy him new everything....which I did for the first few years! Till I wised up of course. But still, not soon enough. But never mind. I'm on track now😂
@NickeyVamp I'm so sorry to hear that hunny. I really believe they think they are entitled to destroy whatever they want, esp when you say NO. Like they own you. You aren't their true love, like they told you in the beginning, you actually are an extension on them. Or so they believe. Keep being strong, you will get there Narcassism is very bad. Xx
I'm grateful the narc broke the relationship, or broke me more to the point... If she didn't I'd still be in it! Every day gets better now, good, bad, doesn't matter, I'm narc free..🙏
@ladyvirgo, sorry that happened to you...Mine did the same thing..Easy peasy supply when they see them at work every day.. Not my business anymore, I have a trauma bond to fix...Be well...🙏💜✨
@Thedisgardedoptimist she didn't break you, she nearly broke you. not only that, but you allowed her to nearly break you. just as i did. we are still here, nearly broken, but not completely. they are weakness personified. they used our own strengths against us. we gave them that power through the fantasy of love and to be hit with your own power is devastating, cruel and something purely evil. how do you fight against yourself?
He broke it immediately as soon as we left our wedding reception where HE was the center of attention which I tolerated because I knew we would soon be starting our honeymoon and our life together. So I thought. As soon as we entered our beautiful condo on the beach that had given us a bottle of champagne that I, of course, happily asked him to open he refused. He “was tired”. Really. He couldn’t just toast Instead we fought. He had time for that. So it went for decades before I became enlightened and have finally left.
21 years to figure it out. Well, at least I'm out. I'm not sure why it took me so long to get it. These people are professional con artists. Thanks for sharing.
The narcissist poured urine all over my car and slashed all my tires on my car because he was jealous of the car because it was my car. And he no control over the car anymore
I am sorry you went thru that! I dealt with same thing from my Narc Husband…he put holes in the transmission lines and after that he crimped the power steering lines so my SUV couldn’t steer and why because it was mine.
Wow. I had a guy pee on the seat of my Triumph Spitfire sports car and break my windshield because I broke up with him. He was dumb enough to brag about it to our mutual friends and they told me and I sued him to fix it. When we were in court as the Court clerk said “He peed on the seat of her car. the whole court room laughed at him. Talk about Karma.
2 years ago this man saved my life with his videos... I was obsessed with the topic (which was new to me) and to move on I stopped my research. Today someone said to me “think about that for a minute” and I remembered you. Thanks again, my friend.
Someone said to me once that some relationships only last because one side is putting up with the non sense and with disrespect. And that is so true. Maybe we have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved. I really do believe that. Have a great evening Andrew 😘🙌💜
FACTS my ex's true self started to show itself I never saw him the same again. He hated that I figured him out. I stop having sex with him when he started seeing me pull away. I was done.
This is spot on . My ex used to ask me where his work hoodie was when I had washed it, or his keys. I would tell him I had put the washing away in the usual place. He got angry and said quote “I can’t find anything in this house!! . Is it too much to ask you to put my things away where I can find them??”. This was with keys etc . They make you feel like you’re crazy when you know for a fact you put the stuff away . Gaslighting city central 🤷♀️🤷♀️
@michellepurcell8703 yes my one used to say where did you Hide my keys,or slippers etc,,,,it's because he used to hide my things,,so he was really exposing what he Does,👉🕊️🙏💖
Wow... you are right about them breaking things. Even the beautiful things they themselves created. He had sculptured a special figurine of a dog. I put it in a prominant place where I saw it and enjoyed it many times a day. One day, unbeknown to me, he took it and destroyed it by covering it with black paint. I was saddened and furious. I could never understand why he would do something so destructive to something so beautiful that he had himself created and had given me so much pleasure. Then I discovered that the vintage Irish linen table I had purchased because it was a replica of one in my childhood home, he had gouged a deep squiggle carelessly in its surface, totally devaluing it's worth.
Mine pulled down a whole shelf of btrakables that was well anchored and said he just found it that way. The attitude he told me this with told me otherwise. 🙄
You’re standing up today! Thank you for another week of beautiful flowers, words of wisdom and wonderful videos. You’re simply the best! Enjoy the rest of your evening. ❤️🤗
you mentioned a very nice point. The narc believe they are above any law, rules anything. They believe everything is revolving around them. It is their own will whom they will select as victim to elevate the life style and the victim is the luckiest person in the world that the narc has obliged the victim.
Romanticized relationships of any kind are not healthy, and it is unrealistic, but we tend to do this when we are newly separated from our toxic x's. We think and question whether it was really as bad as we thought, second guessing ourselves because we are scared or conditioned to be dependent upon the narcissists for everything. At this point we don't actually know how strong we can be and don't allow for the fact that we just endured some horrible stuff at the hands of the person who was supposed to love us. When we reflect upon the unpleasant events we endured we will eventually come to the conclusion that we are stong,resilient and don't deserve to be mistreated and disrespected.
yes all the Narcs seem to have “gone to the same school” because their tactics and evilness appear to be almost exact. It’s so sad the Narc destroys their Spouses, Children, Employees, etc. and for what? They are fakes, bullies……. Find the strength to get free from the Narcs!
Yes I was strong enough and I ended the relationship. Good riddance. But no hard feelings. Even though it cost me 23 years of my life. Move on. The past cannot be altered. Use it to improve the future. It can only get better! Deep sympathy to all those people who for a reason or another still cannot be "strong"💛
The clearing of the fog gives some mental sanity back, at least access to your own thoughts again (maybe they are like television or gaming), but the healing takes a lot longer than the during of the relationship.
In 2023 after 20 years of hell, she monkey branched to another man, divorced and discarded me. Its been 8 months since I left and complete no contact with her. She Hoovers constantly but I reject all attempts. The peace i have is beautiful, the body pains are decreasing, the anxiety attacks are not as bad. The night before i left her that mask fell and i saw a demon with black eyes and a demonic smirk like the Grinch. You can't unsee what you have seen. Run from these demons and rebuild your life.
Yes its true. It's exactly what happened to me. To understand your best friend is a false person that has been lying to you and about you for all yr friends for years, is a horrible chock. But I have told them all what I think of them. Those people believe they have succeeded with something. But no, they are nothing but tragic failures.
Andrew, could you speak to us about finding a new love that's NOT a narcissist? My worst fear is that I fall for it again! How do I recognize the narcissist when he's so sweet and love bombing me? I don't want to waste another 40 years!
Support towards everyone here on the Healing path,,,strength,💪🏼Love ,Peace, 🙏 and encouragement,,,Love Thyself ,Believe in yourself always,👉❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Again you have hit the nail on the head 🎯. He is as fake as can be but he will answer to a higher power than me. I don’t even care what he does anymore. He’s weaker and I’m stronger day by day. Thank you for the video again. But I need to know what to do when I get angry about what happened. He’s digging in the bottom of the barrel now for new resources. He quit wearing his wedding ring a while before he discarded me. I wish I knew then what I know now.
narcs look at others it's like applying for a loan they sign papers for the best current rate , then, after a bit, go back to the loan officer to ask for a different rate
My ex punched a hole in the door. You are right Andrew he also would tell me to look for things and not tell me he found it most likely he never lost it damn.😢
"The Devil is in the Details." You're excellent in dissecting common scenarios and exposing the Narc's intent. So many I've experienced that you've mentioned, flew by me at the time. I was too emotionally mangled up and exhausted to decide which was the priority problem to deal with. The Narc presented plenty of 'em. -----Many Thanks and a Peaceful Sunday Evening for You.🙏 Namaste
Andrew, This is a very serious topic so we don't get to see your smile super often on this channel, but when we do, it warms and brightens your face. Your sense of humor comes out and you seem more approachable. You're always posting beautiful flower pics for us to brighten our days with a smile. I hope you, each day, find more and more to smile about.
you are right Andrew, the Narc Husband never wanted to take pictures with me. He had one professional picture of us taken (not by his choice, he didn’t want it done) after 40+ yrs of marriage at the direction of Church who was taking pictures of members.
He went from being a lawyer to a bum....after his law license was suspended read reviews how he robbed and abused clients out of their money...i also remember his gambling then he lost his home....he never ever told me why he lost his house....but his Mom bought him a condo in long island.....please lord help me to heal and move forwared im still in love with the ghost 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Words are cheap. Know ppl by their fruit , what they do. Trust is earned. I was too easy on both of those, too quick to forgive and believe love covers everything. No that is all lies. Not any more than.
Yeah sometimes I don't realize when I'm being discarded again after the hoover, lovebomb, abuse , gaslight sabotage, abuse and running away with permanent damage, no one would ever believe or help. It's so important to take that cue and move on, but when they don't let you move on? Or they hold something or someone you care about hostage...what do you do? They won't treat you right, they'll destroy your things or chances at success in school, work or with a family, but they won't let you leave? What do you do? Thanks for helping me realize I needed a reality check in the middle of another heart breaking discard Andrew it hurts but it's hurting less as I wisen up to reality and come out of denial and find restoration of some sanity. Bless you ❤
You're so right Andrew, and you've always been right. For those of us who never really ran into a souless, non-empathetic creature like a full blown narcissist, I can see now how we missed all the red flags during the love bombing/manipulation stage. Having just being gaslit for the final time; I am not only angry/frustrated with him, but with myself for the fool I was taken for. These people don't want to heal. They enjoy the destruction. It somehow satisfies their ego.
Wedding rings!………suddenly my wife doesn’t need a wedding ring to remind her she is married to me………but she insisted on getting one (and an engagement ring) in the first place………comical………..you couldn’t make it up
Well mine insisted on a diamond wedding band, then within a few months of marriage he pawned the ring. I had to finish paying the debt off. What a Loser 😡. Well that was sixteen years ago. I never looked back.
Educational and fills in a lot of blanks, I was stuck in this until last year. Over a decade 😢 The end felt like I was grieving over a death in the family. I am still recovering and re-learning how to live again. I pray everyone out there that has experienced this or is still experiencing it will be restored and healed. ❤
Mine pretended to lose his wallet one morning, to find it where he put it and then go on to tell the female night time caregiver for his mom living with us that he wasnt worried about losing money but losing his electrician license, his refrigerant certificate....and went down a long list of accomplishments making sure this caregiver knew how important he is. Oh then he blamed me, in front of her, for hiding it. Weve been married for 27 years and i have never been accused of anything like this from him or anyone else. I was humiliated that he basically told her he has reason to expect me of such deceit. Then he had to run off to work.
Thank you, your videos are helping me get clarity. I left my home with my kids recently and I had to file a restraining order. I also filed for custody and divorce. It's been 2 weeks it's very hard. I found out he got new supply and after all the mental,verbal and physical abuse I finally just said I give up and my kids deserve better they don't need to see their dad this way. I should have left a long time ago. I started this year with my dad's passing and now a divorce. I'm starting over again I'm staying with family and im trying to take it one day at a time. Your videos are describing my soon to be ex husband 💯 thank you for these videos ❤
We are what we think - - - they tell us. Think of yourself as a wonderful human being, beautiful and intelligent with every opportunity available to you. Think of how great you are and how you overcome obstacles easily and how grateful you are that you have lots of abundance. You don't need anyone, if you do choose to be with someone, it will be on your terms because you deserve to have the best because you are so wonderful!!!
My wife has been having an (emotional, at least) affair with another woman for two years - in plain sight in the guise of a female friend. She has spent multiple holidays (and a conference) with her “friend”, ingratiated her with our children, regularly invites her to family events with my in-laws (and my friends). My in-laws don’t see any problem, despite me raising the issue on multiple occasions……….. argh!
Love to you ALL! I pray healing over us ALL. Don’t let these lessons make you regret anything or make you bitter. Lessons learned! Remember we all reap what we sow. Whether that be good or whether that be evil. ❤
Thats right snapped the top off all my lamps. The electrician said he must be insane . He also stole small things solid silver picture frames. Clothes of mine scarves ,age70 xx
It seems like they bring you bad luck I dont know if its their carelessness or on purpose I was almost electocuted my things have disappeared like my fathers jewelry case and medals from ww11 and silver cross and funny I am handicapped from lyme disease and long covid so I am careful when take a shower but there was something oily on the tub and I coulnt get traction and I almost got killed never ever happened before I gave him half of my house and now he isnt paying anything at all. they are smug god bless all of you
@@renaissance5300 That sounds like my ex.criminals with mental health problems .They disrespect us so much they steal small things that are of personal value to us.your medals and cross my scarves and photos. Keep away they are sick ,Good luck xxxxxxuk
Thank you, I watch every day to get the courage to go no contact with 3 relatives. I tried to go no contact with one today. I got scared and fumbled and didn’t get the words out. I ended up apologizing and back to square one. Any conversation is a mix of invalidation and love bombing…sometimes in the same sentence. I thought I was healing so it always surprises me when I get sucked in and realize afterward that I got fooled again.
You''ll Never be back to square one since you've got this knowledge. Inch by inch, your body, nerves and mind will move forward, calm itself ( missteps or not ) and your inner spirit will pick up the pace eventually. Watch what happens!
@@jhavajoe3792thank you so much! I did it. I told them all I’m done and don’t contact me. I’m in my forties and finally did it thanks to videos like this and reading comments here. I never posted before. I’m free!!!!
The ex narc I had the displeasure of dating would never have broken up with me! He would have just cheated and kept the stability of a long term relationship like he did with his wife before she died. I will pass on being someone's doormat, but nice try, narc.
Thank you Andrew. My ex is a Sociopath not a Narcissist, but their type abuse is abuse nevertheless, and I certainly feel it. I really really appreciate you and your videos as they are a means of support when I know I cant overload friends with too much, so constructive therapuetic alone time is invaluable... God bless you ❤
I can’t get over how on point you are !!! YOU ARE TELLING MY LIFE STORY this entire video. Even down to the picture taking I can look at old pics and remember how resentful he was at me while others forced us to smile. And things getting stolen or broken and he blames me and my kids when he was behind it all. It’s just toxic and evil torture and destruction!!
He's too late, I already did that, he doesn't know what he wants 😮 I don't know why he came here honestly, the way he thinks is wrong. They hint I should get out more but I know if I'm out they'll be breaking in, damaging ,etc. Thanks for being honest and always for your program. 😊 It was not really a relationship anyway.
SO 💯TRUE!! ,,, since I / We have gone NO CONTACT, My Mother ,,, controlled by The Narc sister ,,, has no way to call me now 2 yrs,,, Not even to say Happy Birthday!! ,, I am a big Girl,,, but this shows How UNKIND,,, TWISTED & High on themselves they are!!! NEVER TO BE TRUSTED!! NEVER🤣💯🙏🇫🇷🫶🦋
Ive been afraid my entire life since childhood, my brothers were jealouse of me because i was a beautifull child with dreams and hopes, i am a very inteligente person and this never went well with them.
I think I am at the end of my researching journey, these videos have given me all the knowledge I need to know and have validated all my suspicions I have had for years. Been no contact for months now and no going back I feel like myself again. Been seeing someone else going very slow and she is showing me what real love should feel like.
He broke so many of my things. I can’t believe you even brought that up. I thought I was the only one and maybe a bit crazy at the time. I feel like you knew him as crazy as that sounds. He always was snide with me over petty crap. I figured it all out. I started to like the silent treatment because I didn’t want to be around him either. So glad he’s gone. I don’t even miss him. I’m happy being alone and not ready to meet another person right now.
Wow Andrew! When you said they break things that you own, throughout my marriage he would smash and break things in his rage fits, and it would always be my things. But no more. And also when you said their way or the highway, this happened , I one day told him "so it's got to be your way or the highway?" He replied, "that's the way it should be!".
It seems one thing consistent in these disordered relationships is the predetermined use of those they literally cannot get close to or anyone, as a scapegoat. Whatever reason is convenient. It sure wont make sense but thats just more mind games. A built up modes operandi that must cycle out. I don't think there ever is a desire for commitment of even the minimal kind. We're just unwitting pawns, played with, devalued and then in their mind a painless detachment. If you notice in those end days it is like they barely tolerate your presence. The new supply(s) are in the wings waiting for their turn at a experience they yet have no idea of the treachery but will remember.
My ex Hoovered me multiple times. Each time, I could tell he was “done” with whatever it was he wanted from me in the moment, and he’d do a 180 and become a different person, who no longer “loved” me. It was years of this pain. I finally got the courage to block him for good earlier this year, thanks to these daily pep talks. “Does not have your best interests at heart” finally sunk in to my head and heart and I was able to break through the fog and see clearly.
Art: painting Chess Nature walks Reading Dancing Animal shelters Travelling Learning other cultures Knitting Cooking Making bath bombs Learning new things…… …just a few things that come to mind that I no longer do 😢 living with a psychopath now, it’s hard to get up sometimes and carry on. If you’re new to this channel, trust in what Andrew says, because he really does know what he’s talking about. Once the psychopath or narc works their hatred on others, then you really see how vile these “people” are.
Hi Nickey I'm not being smart, I'd be the chess board, the foundation of the game, often overlooked but without it there's no "little squares" to play on...🙏🐬
Thank you for the video! I love the pictures you put into your words. Today's gem: they disappear like a cockroach in the night when you turn the light on. 😂
asked the narcissit what was up with the divorce decree.... emailed me back well i thought that was up to your attorney to do.... actually you were the petitioner... they drag there feet... dont get scard now... im not... lets go!!
"Elevate them to the next part of their life". Great. I feel it unconsciously. That's why I don't want to make contact with my family because they are in the next parts of their lifes. Habitually I was there to support them, guide them. Now, they will have to cope with all the difficulties without any guide nor support that they would throw after the passage. No. Go ahead. We'll see what your amazing team will do !
I was very disturbed when a person showed me what was under my ex narc friends mask. I was aware that our friendship of 16 years was getting stale but I wasn't aware how bad it really was. She was obsessed with me in a toxic way and tried to normalize her behavior, thinking that just her presence was good enough. She even went as far as bragging on social media about her new supply to get a reaction out of me. Now I'm avoiding her like the plague and surround myself with more normal people
This perfectly describes my ex wife's traits. I give thanks every day i am free and recovered from her gaslighting, passive aggression, manipulation, control and initial love bombing. I am indifferent
I"m one month out of my narcissistic son blowing up his relationship with my granddaughter and myself. I'm beyond relieved he's gone. I was aware of his abuse, but I willingly put myself between he and my granddaughter. For years he's been verbally, emotionally and financially abusing me. I'm going through a detox right now and I'm completely exhausted. I've crashed...hard. My son has trashed my reputation with my church family which I accept, but it's a lot. I accept that I have been irrevocably altered by his abuse and I'm no longer the same person I was. I accept that although it doesn't look like it from the outside I'm stronger than I was and I carry the knowledge that I protected my sweet granddaughter. Right now I'm wondering how long it will take to get this haunted look out of my eyes. I feel like everyone who takes the time to care can see how traumatized I am right now. I am strong enough to keep the door shut now. I'm gray rocking now. My granddaughter is safe. I will be OK now that he's gone.
When the Narc discarded me we had spent the whole day together everything seemed fine , we did not live together , we lived in two different cities about 45 minutes away , we decided to make plans for the next weekend and he was supposed to go rowing with me , he knows I love rowing and we were supposed to do it together , Well once I left him that day we were spending time together we kissed and parted ways . I went bacjk to work the rest of the week and caried on with my daily routine, as it was getting closer to the weekend I thought it had been strange that I had not heard from him that whole week , He kept leaving me on read and then when Friday evening rolls around I kept caling him to see if he was still planning to hang out with me and go rowing, I sure did not hear from him at all , he ghosted me and he did really mean things to me during the realtionship, but I was just too Trauma bonded and Soul tied to realize the dysfunction, a year later he started hoovering and I have not allowed him back .
My narc son put to Facebook a money gathering input in the honor of his birthday this week (such grandiosity) He wants people to put money in the favour of Glowns without boarders. He wrote what amazing work they did in a bombshelters in Ukraina to the children there. How the clowns enertained the children out there. I am so fed up with him, so stupid narc 🤮I struggled for a good childhood and education to him but he threw me away like a dish trash
I remember checking my phone all the time for mesages. And when he would call he would say I will call later. His later would be 3 to 4 days later. Or he would say we will make plans to do something. I have been free for almost 1 year. I now look back and say to myself, why did I continue to allow him to manipulate me.
The moment she broke a priceless personal item and lied about it early in the relationship was the very moment the first big red flag went off and it was time to exit
am an empath oo lord what went i went 23 years damped like adaspin am heling now be strong save ur self from demonic nasist thanks its over no more going back
Evil slices of sweet cake fed to you (unaware) ....by the narcissist' who delights themselves in manipulating & abusing the lives of others. We who have gained the wisdom are fortunate, while others will spend the rest of their lives in mental & perhaps emotional bondage. Be Well & Pass it On! Blessings 🌈🎀😘
They give me brain damage by being so BORING. Then, a lot of people stay away, and suddenly you feel SO ALONE and SO BORED, and SO SICK OF THINKING about DUMB THINGS. Brain damage, probably actual physical brain injuries from having to think of the dumbest things in the WORLD.
Yes, sometime during our marriage my ex husband broke every single crystal water that he knew I cherished. I confronted him about it and he denied denied denied. He then told his mother that I was accusing him of breaking my glasses and she sided with him. I wish she was alive now because I would send her this video. Just the two of us living in the house and Casper the friendly ghost broke them. One day after a fuss, he decided to take off in his car and rammed my daughter’s car. Said he didn’t see it. You could see the car from down the street. Then he called his mom and told her I was accusing him of ramming the car and that he was only trying to get away because I was trying to kill him. She took his side. Wow!!!
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Any break from the narcissist whether through no contact or discard is a blessing..... YOU WIN!!!
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I was Discarded. I thank the Lord that I am Free 💞. On my healing and recovery Path. Thank God that he removed "the worm" from my life!!!
The night after our wedding he thru a rage fit because I was tired and ready for bed. I was scared but his brother spent the night with us so I felt safe. We never went on a honeymoon...our relationship was never the same after all the love bombing. I thought what a fool I am. What a mistake I have made. Took me 9 years to get out. I'm on the healing path now. Thank you Andrew. God showed me the way but it was hell
Welcome..💯💜😌🙏
Glad you're out.
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Tired and ready for bed... right, gotcha 😉. Sorry that's just kind of funny.
My ex was so jealous of my talents and abilities. Instead of supporting me, he worked to tear me down to destroy me. Every major holiday or family celebration was a disaster. Holidays were canceled a couple of hours before guests were to arrive. I’d have to take the kids to a movie to quell their sad little disappointments. What a freaking mess! So glad I finally broke free!
They always ruin the Holidays.. they want to make it about them.. I have cooked full huge dinners two days in advance type dinners just for his family to " cancel" A few hours before.. leaving tons of food I would give to neighbors.. I am a cook so my food is fantastic I cooked for fancy restaurants so it was not bad food by any means.. the neighbors would come back to see if there were seconds.. lol.. he ruined everything.
SAME!!! So freggin envious and jealous.
@@NickeyVampwow,,,truly about them
@@NickeyVampyes...and how his family would let you know if they weren't invited "enough". And of course....you paid all the grocery with your cash. LOL....Good Riddance for Ever!!!
It’s mind blowing how these toxic people behave in similar ways.
I love how they ruin your relationships then tell you to reach out for help from those same people. They live in an alternate reality.
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Yep, they love telling you you’re the problem. It’s disturbing.
They really do take all of your hobbies and fun away.. if you do have "fun it is with them" also for them. You are completely subservient to them but do not see it, it is hindsight.
I changed careers to make him happy and dropped all my hobbies to make him happy. The abuse didn't stop and I learned you can't make them treat you nicely no matter what. Then I picked up a hobby for me and the abuse escalated: he started raging, doing the silent treatment, threatening to cheat on me and divorce me, and tried to convince me to agree to let him, shall we put it, send my cat to a better place that is not on this planet. Meanwhile, I do all the cooking, cleaning, his laundry, his dishes, and anything responsible or handy around the house. He focuses on charming everyone at work to get attention and praise and treats me horribly at home when no one can see. I have never once been able to have a normal or logical conversation with him and if I try to be authentic or happy in any way he shuts it down until I walk on eggshells around him again.
I Couldn't Keep My Favorite Kitten Safe
He Killed Her in a Fit Of RAGE all Because l Didn't Want To Go To The Store ...!!
@Duckfarmer that is horrible I am so sorry that happened to you. They really are sick and disgusting.
@user-bt4uy8yg3x same here, he was always seeking outside validation from co workers.. threatening me.. treating me like shit. Also cheating on me and saying he did it because I talk to my ex about a child we had together.. he used that as an excuse to cheat... nope I was done.. recently found out he was borrowing tons of money from his family and none of us myself or the kids saw any of it.. where did it go?? I don't know from what I can surmise it was strip clubs, prostitutes and maybe drugs.. so glad he is gone. Bye.. lol
Great video Andrew!
One of the hardest things for me to accept was how she broke and sabotaged everything purposely.
Wishing everyone clarity and peace..
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So true. There is a saying “ even the devil can quote scripture “ … people hide behind false piety….
My ex was a religious freak. I called him "affectionately" a "Catholic Taleban". He was very satisfied by my remare. Poor thing....the ending hit him hard. Good Riddance Forever.
Yes.....a Dragon in sheep's clothing.
The most painful thing for me, was not the Emotional, physical or mental abuse , it was when he threw out all my daughters amazing art work .Right from primary school, that pain is the most severe . Andrew you are an amazing mentor love from 🇬🇧 ❤
So sorry to hear that it really is heartbreaking. Mine got rid of my phones with pics and all my photo albums. I have practically no pics of my children. It is so sad..
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They sure know how to go for the jugular... so sorry, my gosh!
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Mine threw away all the kids'plush toys....while keeping his rotten...literally....underwear. because he reckoned that I would notice and buy him new everything....which I did for the first few years! Till I wised up of course. But still, not soon enough. But never mind. I'm on track now😂
@NickeyVamp I'm so sorry to hear that hunny. I really believe they think they are entitled to destroy whatever they want, esp when you say NO. Like they own you. You aren't their true love, like they told you in the beginning, you actually are an extension on them. Or so they believe. Keep being strong, you will get there Narcassism is very bad. Xx
I'm grateful the narc broke the relationship, or broke me more to the point... If she didn't I'd still be in it! Every day gets better now, good, bad, doesn't matter, I'm narc free..🙏
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I feel the same way, my husband left for his coworker almost a year ago
@ladyvirgo, sorry that happened to you...Mine did the same thing..Easy peasy supply when they see them at work every day.. Not my business anymore, I have a trauma bond to fix...Be well...🙏💜✨
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she didn't break you, she nearly broke you. not only that, but you allowed her to nearly break you. just as i did. we are still here, nearly broken, but not completely. they are weakness personified. they used our own strengths against us. we gave them that power through the fantasy of love and to be hit with your own power is devastating, cruel and something purely evil. how do you fight against yourself?
They want to break your relationship with your children.
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They know that hurts the most.
He broke it immediately as soon as we left our wedding reception where HE was the center of attention which I tolerated because I knew we would soon be starting our honeymoon and our life together. So I thought. As soon as we entered our beautiful condo on the beach that had given us a bottle of champagne that I, of course, happily asked him to open he refused. He “was tired”. Really. He couldn’t just toast Instead we fought. He had time for that. So it went for decades before I became enlightened and have finally left.
I understand & can relate. Glad you are now free.
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21 years to figure it out. Well, at least I'm out. I'm not sure why it took me so long to get it. These people are professional con artists. Thanks for sharing.
The narcissist poured urine all over my car and slashed all my tires on my car because he was jealous of the car because it was my car. And he no control over the car anymore
I am sorry you went thru that! I dealt with same thing from my Narc Husband…he put holes in the transmission lines and after that he crimped the power steering lines so my SUV couldn’t steer and why because it was mine.
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Dang, my husband peed All over my clothes and drawers,
Wow. I had a guy pee on the seat of my Triumph Spitfire sports car and break my windshield because I broke up with him. He was dumb enough to brag about it to our mutual friends and they told me and I sued him to fix it. When we were in court as the Court clerk said “He peed on the seat of her car. the whole court room laughed at him. Talk about Karma.
@@psalm91.777What’s with the peeing with these guys.LOLTiny little pea brains.
2 years ago this man saved my life with his videos... I was obsessed with the topic (which was new to me) and to move on I stopped my research. Today someone said to me “think about that for a minute” and I remembered you. Thanks again, my friend.
So glad you are here to help as well. Much❤
I'm going to remember your post. This channel was a life changer.
Someone said to me once that some relationships only last because one side is putting up with the non sense and with disrespect. And that is so true. Maybe we have been assigned this mountain to show others it can be moved. I really do believe that. Have a great evening Andrew 😘🙌💜
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Once the mask falls, it’s game over for THEM!!!
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FACTS my ex's true self started to show itself I never saw him the same again. He hated that I figured him out. I stop having sex with him when he started seeing me pull away. I was done.
I witnessed the mask slip, dark pupils and all
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@@ladyvirgo013 SAME!!
Its my experience with a 25yr.marriage with a vicious narcissist. They know Exactly WHAT they are doing to YOU.
Thank you
Are they disillusioned & or liers?
They are rotten to the core.
Thanks Andrew.
Definitely BOTH!
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It's amazing how much mental gymnastics we have to do in these relationships to calm these narcs down so we can stay safe.
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This is spot on . My ex used to ask me where his work hoodie was when I had washed it, or his keys. I would tell him I had put the washing away in the usual place. He got angry and said quote “I can’t find anything in this house!! . Is it too much to ask you to put my things away where I can find them??”. This was with keys etc . They make you feel like you’re crazy when you know for a fact you put the stuff away . Gaslighting city central 🤷♀️🤷♀️
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Mine would hide things, throw them away, or break them and then act like he had no idea about any of it. 😢
Wow... you are right about them breaking things. Even the beautiful things they themselves created. He had sculptured a special figurine of a dog. I put it in a prominant place where I saw it and enjoyed it many times a day. One day, unbeknown to me, he took it and destroyed it by covering it with black paint. I was saddened and furious. I could never understand why he would do something so destructive to something so beautiful that he had himself created and had given me so much pleasure.
Then I discovered that the vintage Irish linen table I had purchased because it was a replica of one in my childhood home, he had gouged a deep squiggle carelessly in its surface, totally devaluing it's worth.
Mine pulled down a whole shelf of btrakables that was well anchored and said he just found it that way. The attitude he told me this with told me otherwise. 🙄
How disturbing.
You’re standing up today! Thank you for another week of beautiful flowers, words of wisdom and wonderful videos. You’re simply the best! Enjoy the rest of your evening. ❤️🤗
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Thank you I needed this today.. it has been so rough over the last two months.
you mentioned a very nice point. The narc believe they are above any law, rules anything. They believe everything is revolving around them. It is their own will whom they will select as victim to elevate the life style and the victim is the luckiest person in the world that the narc has obliged the victim.
Romanticized relationships of any kind are not healthy, and it is unrealistic, but we tend to do this when we are newly separated from our toxic x's. We think and question whether it was really as bad as we thought, second guessing ourselves because we are scared or conditioned to be dependent upon the narcissists for everything. At this point we don't actually know how strong we can be and don't allow for the fact that we just endured some horrible stuff at the hands of the person who was supposed to love us. When we reflect upon the unpleasant events we endured we will eventually come to the conclusion that we are stong,resilient and don't deserve to be mistreated and disrespected.
Hit your site every day Andrew. Always look forward to the Education.
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Bingo. You described it to a tee. All happened, including the keys. It seems all narc have the same tactics and games to knock you out of control.
yes all the Narcs seem to have “gone to the same school” because their tactics and evilness appear to be almost exact. It’s so sad the Narc destroys their Spouses, Children, Employees, etc. and for what? They are fakes, bullies……. Find the strength to get free from the Narcs!
Yep he kept secrets...So glad it is Finished. Prayers for ALL going through with a narcissist 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. The Best is yet to come. Free yourselves💯💯💯.
Yes I was strong enough and I ended the relationship. Good riddance. But no hard feelings. Even though it cost me 23 years of my life. Move on. The past cannot be altered. Use it to improve the future. It can only get better! Deep sympathy to all those people who for a reason or another still cannot be "strong"💛
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Moving my older daughter in...can't believe I made it this far. Its so amazing!😅
Your older daughter is a narcissist?
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So accurate on so many points will have to rewatch
Lol I assume she's moving her daughter away from a narc.
The clearing of the fog gives some mental sanity back, at least access to your own thoughts again (maybe they are like television or gaming), but the healing takes a lot longer than the during of the relationship.
In 2023 after 20 years of hell, she monkey branched to another man, divorced and discarded me. Its been 8 months since I left and complete no contact with her. She Hoovers constantly but I reject all attempts. The peace i have is beautiful, the body pains are decreasing, the anxiety attacks are not as bad. The night before i left her that mask fell and i saw a demon with black eyes and a demonic smirk like the Grinch. You can't unsee what you have seen. Run from these demons and rebuild your life.
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Yes it is demonic. They are Devils👿👿👿👿.
Yes its true. It's exactly what happened to me. To understand your best friend is a false person that has been lying to you and about you for all yr friends for years, is a horrible chock. But I have told them all what I think of them. Those people believe they have succeeded with something. But no, they are nothing but tragic failures.
My things used to go missing. Solo is a blessing.❣️
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You ' re right, solo IS a blessing
The scales are falling off my eyes…had I known then…there would be no now..I’ve gone through and better days are here!
Andrew, could you speak to us about finding a new love that's NOT a narcissist? My worst fear is that I fall for it again! How do I recognize the narcissist when he's so sweet and love bombing me? I don't want to waste another 40 years!
I wasted so much time looking for his things…and yes… breaking things… but it ended up being my fault… of course… Great video! Thank you!
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Support towards everyone here on the Healing path,,,strength,💪🏼Love ,Peace, 🙏 and encouragement,,,Love Thyself ,Believe in yourself always,👉❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Again you have hit the nail on the head 🎯. He is as fake as can be but he will answer to a higher power than me. I don’t even care what he does anymore. He’s weaker and I’m stronger day by day. Thank you for the video again. But I need to know what to do when I get angry about what happened. He’s digging in the bottom of the barrel now for new resources. He quit wearing his wedding ring a while before he discarded me. I wish I knew then what I know now.
narcs look at others it's like applying for a loan they sign papers for the best current rate , then, after a bit, go back to the loan officer to ask for a different rate
Devil in disguise.
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Are all narcissist possesed? I've looked in his eyes and seen someone staring back, And it wasn't him or Jesus. Hmmmmmmmm
My ex punched a hole in the door. You are right Andrew he also would tell me to look for things and not tell me he found it most likely he never lost it damn.😢
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"The Devil is in the Details." You're excellent in dissecting common scenarios and exposing the Narc's intent. So many I've experienced that
you've mentioned, flew by me at the time. I was too emotionally mangled up and exhausted to decide which was the priority problem to deal with. The Narc presented plenty of 'em. -----Many Thanks and a Peaceful Sunday Evening for You.🙏 Namaste
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He is good at it.
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Andrew,
This is a very serious topic so we don't get to see your smile super often on this channel, but when we do, it warms and brightens your face. Your sense of humor comes out and you seem more approachable.
You're always posting beautiful flower pics for us to brighten our days with a smile.
I hope you, each day, find more and more to smile about.
I love when Andrew gives his adoeable smile, often at the end of the video
you are right Andrew, the Narc Husband never wanted to take pictures with me. He had one professional picture of us taken (not by his choice, he didn’t want it done) after 40+ yrs of marriage at the direction of Church who was taking pictures of members.
It’s so weird. Mine too. He probably took 4 pictures of me over two years. I have hundreds of him.
I feel like we're here to learn, and I'm glad that's over with, hope the next lesson isn't as brutal!! ❤
He went from being a lawyer to a bum....after his law license was suspended read reviews how he robbed and abused clients out of their money...i also remember his gambling then he lost his home....he never ever told me why he lost his house....but his Mom bought him a condo in long island.....please lord help me to heal and move forwared im still in love with the ghost 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Your prayers are heard and will be answered 🙏
Words are cheap. Know ppl by their fruit , what they do. Trust is earned. I was too easy on both of those, too quick to forgive and believe love covers everything. No that is all lies. Not any more than.
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so many mysterious things that happened that got broken, disappeared, some never reappeared that I felt numb!
Yeah sometimes I don't realize when I'm being discarded again after the hoover, lovebomb, abuse , gaslight sabotage, abuse and running away with permanent damage, no one would ever believe or help. It's so important to take that cue and move on, but when they don't let you move on? Or they hold something or someone you care about hostage...what do you do? They won't treat you right, they'll destroy your things or chances at success in school, work or with a family, but they won't let you leave? What do you do? Thanks for helping me realize I needed a reality check in the middle of another heart breaking discard Andrew it hurts but it's hurting less as I wisen up to reality and come out of denial and find restoration of some sanity. Bless you ❤
You're so right Andrew, and you've always been right. For those of us who never really ran into a souless, non-empathetic creature like a full blown narcissist, I can see now how we missed all the red flags during the love bombing/manipulation stage. Having just being gaslit for the final time; I am not only angry/frustrated with him, but with myself for the fool I was taken for. These people don't want to heal. They enjoy the destruction. It somehow satisfies their ego.
Wedding rings!………suddenly my wife doesn’t need a wedding ring to remind her she is married to me………but she insisted on getting one (and an engagement ring) in the first place………comical………..you couldn’t make it up
It's really sick 🚩 Please don't take that lightly
Well mine insisted on a diamond wedding band, then within a few months of marriage he pawned the ring. I had to finish paying the debt off. What a Loser 😡. Well that was sixteen years ago. I never looked back.
Brilliant work Andrew thanks so much.
Educational and fills in a lot of blanks, I was stuck in this until last year. Over a decade 😢 The end felt like I was grieving over a death in the family. I am still recovering and re-learning how to live again. I pray everyone out there that has experienced this or is still experiencing it will be restored and healed. ❤
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I’m there now. I’m so sorry you had to go through it. Praying you are better now. ❤
Mine pretended to lose his wallet one morning, to find it where he put it and then go on to tell the female night time caregiver for his mom living with us that he wasnt worried about losing money but losing his electrician license, his refrigerant certificate....and went down a long list of accomplishments making sure this caregiver knew how important he is. Oh then he blamed me, in front of her, for hiding it. Weve been married for 27 years and i have never been accused of anything like this from him or anyone else. I was humiliated that he basically told her he has reason to expect me of such deceit. Then he had to run off to work.
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Thank you, your videos are helping me get clarity. I left my home with my kids recently and I had to file a restraining order. I also filed for custody and divorce. It's been 2 weeks it's very hard. I found out he got new supply and after all the mental,verbal and physical abuse I finally just said I give up and my kids deserve better they don't need to see their dad this way. I should have left a long time ago. I started this year with my dad's passing and now a divorce. I'm starting over again I'm staying with family and im trying to take it one day at a time. Your videos are describing my soon to be ex husband 💯 thank you for these videos ❤
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We are what we think - - - they tell us. Think of yourself as a wonderful human being, beautiful and intelligent with every opportunity available to you. Think of how great you are and how you overcome obstacles easily and how grateful you are that you have lots of abundance. You don't need anyone, if you do choose to be with someone, it will be on your terms because you deserve to have the best because you are so wonderful!!!
I wish you & your children wellness & peace ❤️🙏
You are lucky to have your children with. Lots of us have not.
@Sylvieanjouben 🩷🙏🏼 they deserve the best version of me.
My wife has been having an (emotional, at least) affair with another woman for two years - in plain sight in the guise of a female friend. She has spent multiple holidays (and a conference) with her “friend”, ingratiated her with our children, regularly invites her to family events with my in-laws (and my friends). My in-laws don’t see any problem, despite me raising the issue on multiple occasions……….. argh!
So sorry pal start working on an exit strategy
Love to you ALL! I pray healing over us ALL. Don’t let these lessons make you regret anything or make you bitter. Lessons learned! Remember we all reap what we sow. Whether that be good or whether that be evil.
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Thats right snapped the top off all my lamps. The electrician said he must be insane . He also stole small things solid silver picture frames. Clothes of mine scarves ,age70 xx
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Jesus, you have been in hell. Don't stay there!!!
@@jacquelinemarie1078 Thank you he is Australian I am from uk 🇬🇧. You take care .they are criminals with a mental disorder.You take care xxxx
It seems like they bring you bad luck I dont know if its their carelessness or on purpose I was almost electocuted my things have disappeared like my fathers jewelry case and medals from ww11 and silver cross and funny I am handicapped from lyme disease and long covid so I am careful when take a shower but there was something oily on the tub and I coulnt get traction and I almost got killed never ever happened before I gave him half of my house and now he isnt paying anything at all. they are smug god bless all of you
@@renaissance5300 That sounds like my ex.criminals with mental health problems .They disrespect us so much they steal small things that are of personal value to us.your medals and cross my scarves and photos. Keep away they are sick ,Good luck xxxxxxuk
Thank you, I watch every day to get the courage to go no contact with 3 relatives. I tried to go no contact with one today. I got scared and fumbled and didn’t get the words out. I ended up apologizing and back to square one. Any conversation is a mix of invalidation and love bombing…sometimes in the same sentence. I thought I was healing so it always surprises me when I get sucked in and realize afterward that I got fooled again.
You''ll Never be back to square one since you've got this knowledge. Inch by inch, your body, nerves and mind will move forward, calm itself ( missteps or not ) and your inner spirit will pick up the pace eventually. Watch what happens!
@@jhavajoe3792thank you so much! I did it. I told them all I’m done and don’t contact me. I’m in my forties and finally did it thanks to videos like this and reading comments here. I never posted before. I’m free!!!!
They want equality when it benefits them. When it doesn't, it's a you need to man up type of situation.
The ex narc I had the displeasure of dating would never have broken up with me! He would have just cheated and kept the stability of a long term relationship like he did with his wife before she died. I will pass on being someone's doormat, but nice try, narc.
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Let go and let karma take over. That is true justice 💞
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One doesn't work without the other..👍 2 for 2! 💜🙏
Yes, discarded just before my birthday, and yes, he had his new supply all lined up......oh my word!
They just destroy ..........
Thank you Andrew. My ex is a Sociopath not a Narcissist, but their type abuse is abuse nevertheless, and I certainly feel it.
I really really appreciate you and your videos as they are a means of support when I know I cant overload friends with too much, so constructive therapuetic alone time is invaluable...
God bless you ❤
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I still cannot tell the difference between a narcissist and a sociopath.
Lot of overlap there. 😕
I can’t get over how on point you are !!! YOU ARE TELLING MY LIFE STORY this entire video. Even down to the picture taking I can look at old pics and remember how resentful he was at me while others forced us to smile. And things getting stolen or broken and he blames me and my kids when he was behind it all. It’s just toxic and evil torture and destruction!!
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He's too late, I already did that, he doesn't know what he wants 😮 I don't know why he came here honestly, the way he thinks is wrong. They hint I should get out more but I know if I'm out they'll be breaking in, damaging ,etc. Thanks for being honest and always for your program. 😊 It was not really a relationship anyway.
Oh good another video.
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SO 💯TRUE!! ,,, since I / We have gone NO CONTACT, My Mother ,,, controlled by The Narc sister ,,, has no way to call me now 2 yrs,,, Not even to say Happy Birthday!! ,, I am a big Girl,,, but this shows How UNKIND,,, TWISTED & High on themselves they are!!! NEVER TO BE TRUSTED!! NEVER🤣💯🙏🇫🇷🫶🦋
Thanks Andrew ❤You continually help me on my healing journey
Ive been afraid my entire life since childhood, my brothers were jealouse of me because i was a beautifull child with dreams and hopes, i am a very inteligente person and this never went well with them.
This was an excellent description of the experience of narcissistic abuse and gaslighting, etc.
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Bingo the arcade lights n soundsjust went off
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Boy Howdy!
So glad by the grace of God, all that is behind me now. 🙏
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I think I am at the end of my researching journey, these videos have given me all the knowledge I need to know and have validated all my suspicions I have had for years. Been no contact for months now and no going back I feel like myself again. Been seeing someone else going very slow and she is showing me what real love should feel like.
The only “joy” they are able to experience is “duping delight” or cruel delight. So sick.
He broke so many of my things. I can’t believe you even brought that up. I thought I was the only one and maybe a bit crazy at the time. I feel like you knew him as crazy as that sounds. He always was snide with me over petty crap. I figured it all out. I started to like the silent treatment because I didn’t want to be around him either. So glad he’s gone. I don’t even miss him. I’m happy being alone and not ready to meet another person right now.
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Wow Andrew! When you said they break things that you own, throughout my marriage he would smash and break things in his rage fits, and it would always be my things. But no more. And also when you said their way or the highway, this happened , I one day told him "so it's got to be your way or the highway?" He replied, "that's the way it should be!".
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It seems one thing consistent in these disordered relationships is the predetermined use of those they literally cannot get close to or anyone, as a scapegoat. Whatever reason is convenient. It sure wont make sense but thats just more mind games. A built up modes operandi that must cycle out. I don't think there ever is a desire for commitment of even the minimal kind. We're just unwitting pawns, played with, devalued and then in their mind a painless detachment. If you notice in those end days it is like they barely tolerate your presence. The new supply(s) are in the wings waiting for their turn at a experience they yet have no idea of the treachery but will remember.
My ex Hoovered me multiple times. Each time, I could tell he was “done” with whatever it was he wanted from me in the moment, and he’d do a 180 and become a different person, who no longer “loved” me. It was years of this pain.
I finally got the courage to block him for good earlier this year, thanks to these daily pep talks. “Does not have your best interests at heart” finally sunk in to my head and heart and I was able to break through the fog and see clearly.
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Art: painting
Chess
Nature walks
Reading
Dancing
Animal shelters
Travelling
Learning other cultures
Knitting
Cooking
Making bath bombs
Learning new things……
…just a few things that come to mind that I no longer do 😢 living with a psychopath now, it’s hard to get up sometimes and carry on.
If you’re new to this channel, trust in what Andrew says, because he really does know what he’s talking about. Once the psychopath or narc works their hatred on others, then you really see how vile these “people” are.
One of the first questions I would ask a date is.." do you like chess.?" And if so what piece are you...
Hi Nickey I'm not being smart, I'd be the chess board, the foundation of the game, often overlooked but without it there's no "little squares" to play on...🙏🐬
That is me as well.. most who are narcissistic would be a king or queen.. some pawns.. but because that is what we want to hear. It is terrible.
The whole situation is so painful but so worth it.
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Thank you for the video! I love the pictures you put into your words. Today's gem: they disappear like a cockroach in the night when you turn the light on.
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Most narcs often are bpd as well, this fact is why things get so confusing
asked the narcissit what was up with the divorce decree.... emailed me back well i thought that was up to your attorney to do.... actually you were the petitioner... they drag there feet... dont get scard now... im not... lets go!!
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"Elevate them to the next part of their life". Great. I feel it unconsciously. That's why I don't want to make contact with my family because they are in the next parts of their lifes. Habitually I was there to support them, guide them. Now, they will have to cope with all the difficulties without any guide nor support that they would throw after the passage. No. Go ahead. We'll see what your amazing team will do !
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I was very disturbed when a person showed me what was under my ex narc friends mask. I was aware that our friendship of 16 years was getting stale but I wasn't aware how bad it really was. She was obsessed with me in a toxic way and tried to normalize her behavior, thinking that just her presence was good enough. She even went as far as bragging on social media about her new supply to get a reaction out of me. Now I'm avoiding her like the plague and surround myself with more normal people
This perfectly describes my ex wife's traits. I give thanks every day i am free and recovered from her gaslighting, passive aggression, manipulation, control and initial love bombing. I am indifferent
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14:20 especially, that hit me hard, spot-on. Thank you, Andrew, really appreciate it.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone your passion is very much appreciated. Most mean well but don't get it unless they've been through it.
I"m one month out of my narcissistic son blowing up his relationship with my granddaughter and myself. I'm beyond relieved he's gone. I was aware of his abuse, but I willingly put myself between he and my granddaughter. For years he's been verbally, emotionally and financially abusing me. I'm going through a detox right now and I'm completely exhausted. I've crashed...hard. My son has trashed my reputation with my church family which I accept, but it's a lot. I accept that I have been irrevocably altered by his abuse and I'm no longer the same person I was. I accept that although it doesn't look like it from the outside I'm stronger than I was and I carry the knowledge that I protected my sweet granddaughter. Right now I'm wondering how long it will take to get this haunted look out of my eyes. I feel like everyone who takes the time to care can see how traumatized I am right now. I am strong enough to keep the door shut now. I'm gray rocking now. My granddaughter is safe. I will be OK now that he's gone.
When the Narc discarded me we had spent the whole day together everything seemed fine , we did not live together , we lived in two different cities about 45 minutes away , we decided to make plans for the next weekend and he was supposed to go rowing with me , he knows I love rowing and we were supposed to do it together , Well once I left him that day we were spending time together we kissed and parted ways . I went bacjk to work the rest of the week and caried on with my daily routine, as it was getting closer to the weekend I thought it had been strange that I had not heard from him that whole week , He kept leaving me on read and then when Friday evening rolls around I kept caling him to see if he was still planning to hang out with me and go rowing, I sure did not hear from him at all , he ghosted me and he did really mean things to me during the realtionship, but I was just too Trauma bonded and Soul tied to realize the dysfunction, a year later he started hoovering and I have not allowed him back .
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Always such truth on this channel 🙏
Thank you again NARCDAILY
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My narc son put to Facebook a money gathering input in the honor of his birthday this week (such grandiosity) He wants people to put money in the favour of Glowns without boarders. He wrote what amazing work they did in a bombshelters in Ukraina to the children there. How the clowns enertained the children out there.
I am so fed up with him, so stupid narc 🤮I struggled for a good childhood and education to him but he threw me away like a dish trash
I remember checking my phone all the time for mesages. And when he would call he would say I will call later. His later would be 3 to 4 days later. Or he would say we will make plans to do something. I have been free for almost 1 year. I now look back and say to myself, why did I continue to allow him to manipulate me.
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YOURE INCREDIBLE!!! TO PUT THIS INTO WORDS AND THOUGHTS!!!!
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The moment she broke a priceless personal item and lied about it early in the relationship was the very moment the first big red flag went off and it was time to exit
am an empath oo lord what went i went 23 years damped like adaspin am heling now be strong save ur self from demonic nasist thanks its over no more going back
Evil slices of sweet cake fed to you (unaware) ....by the narcissist' who delights themselves in manipulating & abusing the lives of others.
We who have gained the wisdom are fortunate, while others will spend the rest of their lives in mental & perhaps emotional bondage.
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That sweet cake did my wisdom tooth a bad number!😬🦷
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Sorry about your tooth...your delivery cracked me up!
They give me brain damage by being so BORING. Then, a lot of people stay away, and suddenly you feel SO ALONE and SO BORED, and SO SICK OF THINKING about DUMB THINGS. Brain damage, probably actual physical brain injuries from having to think of the dumbest things in the WORLD.
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I love love love these videos they are such a wealth of info you have helped me so Much!!!!! Thank you 😊
I have been destroyed and my life ruined by staying nearly 45 years!! Everything you said has been my life...😢I am so down...😢
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Yes, sometime during our marriage my ex husband broke every single crystal water that he knew I cherished.
I confronted him about it and he denied denied denied. He then told his mother that I was accusing him of breaking my glasses and she sided with him. I wish she was alive now because I would send her this video.
Just the two of us living in the house and Casper the friendly ghost broke them.
One day after a fuss, he decided to take off in his car and rammed my daughter’s car. Said he didn’t see it. You could see the car from down the street. Then he called his mom and told her I was accusing him of ramming the car and that he was only trying to get away because I was trying to kill him. She took his side. Wow!!!