Thank you Susan, as a person actively working on healing from CPTSD, I’ve come to realize the only way for me to have a healthy relationship is to take the slow approach so I don’t jump into the toxic patterns of the past falling for unavailable people, users and abusers and instead pace myself and date with structure and really seeing if this is a good fit for me instead of jumping into something and then trying to retro-fit the disfunction into something workable (which never works).
Hope you had a great trip Susan ! Your advice is so logical, I think a lot of us are getting the information we should have got when we were kids but many of our parents didn't know either. I hope slowly slowly we can help each generation get a little bit better at relationships.
Maybe it will be okay… sometimes you have to trust your feelings and your instincts. This bit of advice that I’ve given in the video is about people who leap far too quickly because we know too hot too soon is not a good starting point. If you were able to build the connection and the communication, you may be fine. Rooting for you.!!
The good old process of learning, acquiring info and know-how in communicating, and the precious iteration method which allows people to create common and correct neuropaths in order to reach a healthy synergy with the other person. Like learning mathematics and a new language :) that means a new planet.
Always worked and works for me like that but so far encountered only woman who wanted to move very fast and I had no nice experiences in life but great learning/insights. Now I no there's nothing wrong with be but this is a great quality of me wich stands out and projected me for not going into instable relationships. How good these woman are looking. I think a lot of handsome woman atract(ed) handsome men without these qualitys and I faced a lot of confused woman. As i'm highly intuïtive and stick to that ❤ And no i'm not perfect, I learned and it helped me releasing my mini-trauma's and examples everybody should be IN a relationship constantly and asap🙏 Thanks for another aknowledgement about this matter Susan. It's often the mothers who can and should learn their sons how to not get into fast and fickle relationships and set the healthy example. Be active as a parent in that. Thanks
I made the girl i was seeing wait 4+ months without giving an answer to what i wanted. She kept asking and also wanted me to come off the dating apps. During this time she sprung on me that she was in love with me too. This weekend just gone she ended things and now of course I want her and i feel awful, feels really painful.
So much mental anguish could have been avoided for me if I had a longer exploration period and paced my relationship, not decided to be exclusive so soon, and seen what my dating pool was like. (I was 19 and was yearning for love, any way I could get it)
Can be but lot of scammers and avoidants are taking advantage. ...lets. Slowly go on....people,....taking time not mean ...everything else is important except the relationship I dont agree. .because if it will take years. ..or months. .or lifetime ..sorry....no
A serious man...not sleep with a lady,not commiting and responsible just because...he wants to know her better ...my dad and other valuable men ..once they put interess,phisycal and honnesty ...that means this is my person,I will be next to her and me next to me facing the issues.Slower you take it ....less responsible ....don't try women and men as are socks that might fit or no.....once you decide to have a relationship,sexual,emotional....take responsibility and make a decent family None of us we are perfect but if one person is serious,with faith,good intentions not make a check out list for a ''n''number of possible partners Just saying ❤.❤❤
@H8Magnet If you don't like the content then skip to something else. For the mental health issue in your comment, seems to me you are projecting. This is a respectful community so take your negativity elsewhere
Great advice. Pace is hugely important!
Two sayings:
• Too soon Too Ripe Too Rotten.
• Dating = Data collection.
I am all for slow dating process
❤Thanks Susan! I need this right now. Bravo 👏.
Hi LucyLoo! Thanks for this comment. Happy this is exactly what you needed right now.😊😊
Thank you Susan, as a person actively working on healing from CPTSD, I’ve come to realize the only way for me to have a healthy relationship is to take the slow approach so I don’t jump into the toxic patterns of the past falling for unavailable people, users and abusers and instead pace myself and date with structure and really seeing if this is a good fit for me instead of jumping into something and then trying to retro-fit the disfunction into something workable (which never works).
Hope you had a great trip Susan ! Your advice is so logical, I think a lot of us are getting the information we should have got when we were kids but many of our parents didn't know either. I hope slowly slowly we can help each generation get a little bit better at relationships.
Even when it’s hard to hear you’re right, as usual. Excellent video! Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Love this ❤ unfortunately too late for me. I went full in with the guy I am getting to know. It just feels so natural 😢
Maybe it will be okay… sometimes you have to trust your feelings and your instincts. This bit of advice that I’ve given in the video is about people who leap far too quickly because we know too hot too soon is not a good starting point. If you were able to build the connection and the communication, you may be fine. Rooting for you.!!
@@SusanWinter 💜 definitely communication has been a big part from the beginning. Thanks Susan, you are amazing 😍🤩
It's never too late, we can use this information now or at a later date. Best of luck🎉
I have entered the slowest possible process. I really like this woman but omg, going crazy
Susan when will live shows return? I miss you and need more than one hour of your wisdom
This Thursday!!!! I’m back from Asia
@@SusanWinter awesome!!
Great advice as usual! 🤗 🐾
A very wise instruction Susan.
The good old process of learning, acquiring info and know-how in communicating, and the precious iteration method which allows people to create common and correct neuropaths in order to reach a healthy synergy with the other person.
Like learning mathematics and a new language :) that means a new planet.
So true. Thanks
🙂
You give the best advice. So true!
thank you!
Thanks Susan, I requested this topic a while ago.
yayayaya!!!!!
Slow dating is easier to do long distance
haha, yes of course
“Oh you’ll get to something something.” 😂 so true. Love you Susan!
Thank you, Susan!! ❤
You are so welcome! Keep roaring!!
@@SusanWinter 😽💨💫✨💛✨
Always worked and works for me like that but so far encountered only woman who wanted to move very fast and I had no nice experiences in life but great learning/insights. Now I no there's nothing wrong with be but this is a great quality of me wich stands out and projected me for not going into instable relationships. How good these woman are looking. I think a lot of handsome woman atract(ed) handsome men without these qualitys and I faced a lot of confused woman. As i'm highly intuïtive and stick to that ❤ And no i'm not perfect, I learned and it helped me releasing my mini-trauma's and examples everybody should be IN a relationship constantly and asap🙏
Thanks for another aknowledgement about this matter Susan.
It's often the mothers who can and should learn their sons how to not get into fast and fickle relationships and set the healthy example. Be active as a parent in that.
Thanks
I made the girl i was seeing wait 4+ months without giving an answer to what i wanted. She kept asking and also wanted me to come off the dating apps. During this time she sprung on me that she was in love with me too. This weekend just gone she ended things and now of course I want her and i feel awful, feels really painful.
You’re amazing Susan. Thank you for all your incredible advice
You are great, you explain so well! thank you
It’s so true, and necessary.
Thank you for sharing this helpful reading!
Ive know this for
So much mental anguish could have been avoided for me if I had a longer exploration period and paced my relationship, not decided to be exclusive so soon, and seen what my dating pool was like. (I was 19 and was yearning for love, any way I could get it)
How slow is too slow to expect commitment from someone?
You are so wonderful.
we haven’t exchanged numbers yet we’re just flirting and it’s been a month lol how slow is too slow?
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THANKS LYNDA!
I'm in Love with this Beautiful Woman she wants to take things Slow and I'm Fine with that I want us to be a Great Couple
Just exactly right. So poignant for mr right now 💯
Can be but lot of scammers and avoidants are taking advantage. ...lets. Slowly go on....people,....taking time not mean ...everything else is important except the relationship I dont agree. .because if it will take years. ..or months. .or lifetime ..sorry....no
A serious man...not sleep with a lady,not commiting and responsible just because...he wants to know her better ...my dad and other valuable men ..once they put interess,phisycal and honnesty ...that means this is my person,I will be next to her and me next to me facing the issues.Slower you take it ....less responsible ....don't try women and men as are socks that might fit or no.....once you decide to have a relationship,sexual,emotional....take responsibility and make a decent family None of us we are perfect but if one person is serious,with faith,good intentions not make a check out list for a ''n''number of possible partners Just saying ❤.❤❤
Don't bother.Stay single.
WTF. Are we really taking life advice from people with mental health issues???
What are you talking about? No-one is forced to take advice from her or anyone here. Where do you get these mental health issues? 🙄🙄🙄
@H8Magnet If you don't like the content then skip to something else. For the mental health issue in your comment, seems to me you are projecting. This is a respectful community so take your negativity elsewhere
How dare you! Susan is renowned in her field! You need help. Have the day you deserve!!
Susan you are very beautiful and smart. Thank you for the sound advice.
Thank you!! I really need this right now. 😊