Thank you thank you!! I know how easy it is to rush into things when you finally meet somebody really like… But this is the safest way and the most efficient way to figure out if they’re actually right for you
It’s not a hard and fast rule. It is a general guideline. Sadly, most people make their decision in the first three months before they know the individual.
Ooohhh. That’s much harder. Because you already have a separation which makes it difficult to gauge progress. however, taken as a general idea… In the first three months, that person should be actively engaged in communication and giving you green lights. In the second three months, you should be bonding and feeling closer to each other, and creating online dates, conversations, and concrete plans that are kept in place as you visit each other. And by the ninth month, you should be regularly visiting each other and having solid plans for your future future
A 3 is a "Sub'5" and has no GF. A 6 is a "Normie" who must bend a knee and never be loved. A 9 is a "Chad" who can get real passion based romantic love as shown on the Sternberg's triangle widely accepted by psychologists. Chads don't need money or to bend a knee or to delude themselves that marriage and family is love. Otherwise, good points. Mutual trust, mutual affection and mutual respect; and being on the same page (hard for men who seek a DINK lifestyle even if they are a Chad).
3, 6, and 9th months in your relationship is such important phases.. being honest is such important key
Absolutely. So happy you brought up that point because I believe it is essential to have the “honesty conversation” right at the top.
Thanks for being so grounded in your approach. If it weren't for dating coaches explaining how difficult dating is, I would have quit eons ago.
Oh, I love this message. Thank you !!
5:53 the confetti made this so funny. Love that you are so no-nonsense and straightforward. Wish everyone was like that!!
THANK YOU RETRO!!
As a soon to be therapist, i love your videos professionally and for their benefits in my personal life ❤
Awww… THANK YOU!!🙏🙏
Eveytime I'm super dysregulted so long as i listen to your videos I woosah love your stuff
Great advice Susan thank you as always ❤
I appreciate that warm comment, Eleanor
Amazing advice as I’m in a new relationship ❤
Josh, congratulations, and I'm very happy to hear it. This form of pacing and creating a foundation of honesty will serve you well
Love this, 3/6/9 idea!
Perfect ❤. Thank You, Susan!bravo!!!🎉❤🎉❤
LUCYLOO!! big electronic hug.
@@SusanWinter Hugging you right back!!!
Great great advice, thank you Susan like always!
Thank you thank you!! I know how easy it is to rush into things when you finally meet somebody really like… But this is the safest way and the most efficient way to figure out if they’re actually right for you
Awesome advice, Susan. Hugs to you and Nikka 🤗 🐾
JEAN P!!!!!!!! HI THERE. Nikka is sleeping on the bed (AKA my TV tray) and picked her head up just as I saw your comment.
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Beautiful Susan. Of course these time frames may vary from relationship to relationship.
It’s not a hard and fast rule. It is a general guideline. Sadly, most people make their decision in the first three months before they know the individual.
Thanks Susan ❤🎉
These are good rules ❤
Thanks!
Very true!
Hey there, Alex nice to see you here
@@SusanWintervery cool to watch your videos. You seem pretty popular and helping more people these days. ❤
Does the 3 6 9 rule exist for long distance relationships as well? I know this video is for real life relationships
Ooohhh. That’s much harder. Because you already have a separation which makes it difficult to gauge progress. however, taken as a general idea… In the first three months, that person should be actively engaged in communication and giving you green lights. In the second three months, you should be bonding and feeling closer to each other, and creating online dates, conversations, and concrete plans that are kept in place as you visit each other. And by the ninth month, you should be regularly visiting each other and having solid plans for your future future
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A 3 is a "Sub'5" and has no GF. A 6 is a "Normie" who must bend a knee and never be loved. A 9 is a "Chad" who can get real passion based romantic love as shown on the Sternberg's triangle widely accepted by psychologists. Chads don't need money or to bend a knee or to delude themselves that marriage and family is love. Otherwise, good points. Mutual trust, mutual affection and mutual respect; and being on the same page (hard for men who seek a DINK lifestyle even if they are a Chad).
What are you talking about?
@bobbruce- did you watch this video? It’s about pace and progression.
@@sethtenrecwere you not listening to Susan??
@@lucyloo7457 of course I was. Response is to the OP