My ex girlfriend stared at me while I was pleading/explaining how loving each other really is, compassion, caring, kindness etc..but she just stared..no blinking!! Like a zombie!! When I finished talking she just kept staring .. there were times where I even waved my hand in front of her to see if she was still even present!! Very Spooky!!
This was also my experience for 18 years. No response. Blank stare. It is stonewalling and it’s maddening and really damaging to self worth. Blessings on your healing and your path forward.
I'd kind of disagree about the vagueness with past relationships .. once upon a time I would have agreed. But I've found myself now not sharing this when dating, I'll wait until much later to tell. Because, I've now learned that telling them, they'll use it against you. It isn't a red or yellow flag to me now, it's now healthy to me. What I would say is that the red flag is they talk about their ex. For you, do mention that you had a part to play and that you've had a good look at it and worked on it .. but please don't over-share details yet and please don't probe so much, it's a red flag to me because narcissists probe. Also, the friends, I've now got only a couple and they're not local .. it's only me now .. I cut all the others out, even my family. I'm 56 years old now .. they (narc family and friends) say I'm the crazy aggressive one. I know what I went through and sometimes I still question it .. but I know in my heart and mind that some of the things you've said in this video can actually backfire on us and is not the best advice. I'm sorry, I hope I haven't offended you by saying.. I listen very carefully these days to these types of videos and say when I find something that isn't wise for new listeners / others who have been through this. Thanks for your videos, the work you do, I like them, they're genuine, from the heart, from personal experience, and you have God in your life.
The narc I know was vague about their exes as well. Man you know your shit...so many things are coming back to me now and how I was manipulated
Thats how it started with me, I googled how a person can deny reality
We ALL have narcissistic traits.
Don't confuse narcissistic traits with narcissism as the difference is HUGE.
I ignored all the signs from the beginning. Here now and 5 years later 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
before... we may had deal breakers. Now we have deal killers. Predatory world. No option.
💯Amen 🙏 thank you coach Kat ❤️
My ex girlfriend stared at me while I was pleading/explaining how loving each other really is, compassion, caring, kindness etc..but she just stared..no blinking!! Like a zombie!!
When I finished talking she just kept staring .. there were times where I even waved my hand in front of her to see if she was still even present!! Very Spooky!!
This was also my experience for 18 years. No response. Blank stare. It is stonewalling and it’s maddening and really damaging to self worth.
Blessings on your healing and your path forward.
I'd kind of disagree about the vagueness with past relationships .. once upon a time I would have agreed. But I've found myself now not sharing this when dating, I'll wait until much later to tell. Because, I've now learned that telling them, they'll use it against you. It isn't a red or yellow flag to me now, it's now healthy to me. What I would say is that the red flag is they talk about their ex. For you, do mention that you had a part to play and that you've had a good look at it and worked on it .. but please don't over-share details yet and please don't probe so much, it's a red flag to me because narcissists probe. Also, the friends, I've now got only a couple and they're not local .. it's only me now .. I cut all the others out, even my family. I'm 56 years old now .. they (narc family and friends) say I'm the crazy aggressive one. I know what I went through and sometimes I still question it .. but I know in my heart and mind that some of the things you've said in this video can actually backfire on us and is not the best advice. I'm sorry, I hope I haven't offended you by saying.. I listen very carefully these days to these types of videos and say when I find something that isn't wise for new listeners / others who have been through this. Thanks for your videos, the work you do, I like them, they're genuine, from the heart, from personal experience, and you have God in your life.