@joshtalks I watched this video and read a lot of comments. Many more r suffering like Padmaja. They HV messaged saying they need help. Could you please contact them and connect them to Padmaja ? That's the least U can do before it's too late for those who r suffering.
Still, in our country, we hesitate to talk about toxic parenting.. It's time to open up and call out this cruelty because children r the future of our nation..
My mom was also bad she had a bad end It's our bad luck to get toxic parent maybe our karma she gave importance to my brothers who did not bother about her
If Indians cannot grow out of “marriage and kids is the norm” thought process then this can’t be managed. Because not every individual is fit to be a parent mentally (even if physically they are fit). And Indians have very little knowledge of mental health.
My mom was the same kind, abusive like hell. I couldn’t shed a drop of tear , totally numb when I saw her lifeless body but felt immensely FREE from her forever. Thanks for sharing your story.
@Anamika Rao, I always wonder how i would feel the day that happens. It will be tragic and shocking knowing that I will never get the love i craved for every second of my life. It will be a definte moment where i will know that i cannot crave any more. I have tried every second of my life to stop craving love but the heart wants what the heart wants. I just cannot bring myself to stop. I think i will die of grief that day knowing that this lifetime is done. That what i wanted will never come to be. But i also know that that is the day my heart will realize the truth (that my brain already does). It's my birthday today and the most tragic day of my life. The day I am always reminded of how my parents never wanted me to be born and how they never forgave me for being born.
My mom was an angel , her whole life revolved around us 6 children . We are three daughters ,3 sons. But she never differentiated between boys and girls. She is no more . I thank God for such a kind ,most loving mother
The principal of her school is to be equally blamed as her mother. Teachers are supposed to be your protectors, guides yet most of them are toxic as many parents in India. I am happy for you to survive and come out a victor.
Principal must be blamed but not equally. That person is outsider. The person who should be blamed equally if not more is her father. How could he just ignored or not known what's happening in his own house right under his nose.
I think parents in India are the best parents one can find in the world, i don't know what sickness her mother was suffering from but my mother was a goddess, she use to beat us for very small reasons too but she loved like no body can love n now when she is not with us we miss her badly and just wish to tell her that I love you mom
That is a huge over statement to say parents in India are the best. They can be manipulative, emotional blackmailing, expect too much from kids. In every culture, in every country you will find a mix of good and bad parents.
@@sudeshnamukherjee677 I agree but I can make out you don't understand what it is to be depressed .. Atleas this woman did and still loves her father ..
100% true they are utter psychopath and enjoy hurting children physically and mentally many of the youth are stressed out because of these toxic parents ..
Some individuals have personality disorders irrespective of gender ....family ..race or region ...it is horrible to live with people having certain personality disorders
@@dj-ux1jr There are many many such unlucky kids....they are just ashamed of comig forward because Indian society judges a bit too much and puts motherhood on a pedastal
*I'm not from India. But I was abused mentally, physically and emotionally by my whole family. I'm the last born and was neglected and isolated. When I was 2 years old my siblings abandoned me in the street and my step brother is the one who rescued me and told me the story. When I asked them? They never gave me a straight answer. My story is long. I'm now battling sicknesses just because of my family* 😢
@@artisthusnatalal3099 - So sad about your situation. Please take good care of yourself and seek some real therapy from a genuine professional. Please be careful as not all professional therapists are genuine in helping others. I too went through some difficult situations in the family. But now I am fine. All the best to you. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Seriously, in India, we are tagged as a bad child if we talk about bad and toxic and selfish parenting. This continues and continues and even if we raise voice to others, the society or relatives, the only question asked is why your parents should educate and feed you or keep you under shelter if they don't like you or treat you bad. My mother felt relieved and took sympathy from her friends and relatives showing how bad I am. Finally, when she was on her death bed, this bad son was only there to take care of her. But the irony is during her funeral, my relatives felt I am acting. Who gave them the licence to talk like this? MY PARENTS
Same here. I took care of my parent only to be the bad one in the end according to her. I gave my entire life up for everyone. It left me broken inside unfortunately. How can people who supposed to love you destroy you!? God is our true parent 🙏
The school tried to make me sacrifice my 10 year old daughter because of a note she wrote to a boy. My daughter was so afraid to tell me. The teachers traumatized her by passing the note among themselves at lunch time in front of my daughter and whispering while looking at my daughter. Then they sent a copy of the note home for me to read and acknowledge. I wrote back saying “Thank you very much for sharing this with me. As Sarah’s mother I will put this in our family scrapbook and in ten years from now I’m certain we will all get a great laugh out of this cute note.” Lol. Screw them.
Thank you for doing that, thank you for not treating your own daughter bad. Thanku for not spoiling your daughter childhood days, thanks for not giving truma to you girl. Since my childhood for no reason my mom keep saying to all tat my horoscope is bad, but during my marriage I found my horoscope is very good
I too had a similar time in my childhood, few mom's will always spy on the girls, abuse and scold when started going to college. Even though few girls are really interested to study higher studies, not allowed for that. No extra care, always scolding with bad nasty words and beaten sometimes. When I left home for job, i was free from this hell... Now i too earn, married and living happily with my husband. God blessed my good deeds...
You shall worship your God only 🙏 and him only shall you serve, we are taught to respect them but abusive and toxic mothers 😭😭😭 it's hard my dear I have that experience. Sometimes i compare here like she doesn't exist ! Cz she doesn't believe that she is wrong too😪 till now.but I can't hate her as she hated and abandoned me to die !
It’s human nature for children to want their parents to love them. We turn it inward thinking we can become someone they will love by becoming something that pleases them.
Took me 20 years to come out of it, it's a long way of balancing our freedom and love for parents. Out of all the various types of toxic relations, toxic parents is the most difficult one. You can neither leave nor stay.
More power to you. Lot of toxic parenting is happening at india but no one is allowed to talk about it. In pretext of respect elders, don’t question or call them out. Childhood trauma ruins ppl. I’m a psychologist, reach out for help, lead a fulfilling life. Life is worth living to the fullest
Thanks dear. I am a psychiatrist and that's why I was able to remain normal in my daddy's house. I have taken even 4mg of sleeping tablets because of my mom's ill-treatment.
@@dr.franciscanishatotalheal that’s really sad to hear & I’m glad that you are out the trauma & you are helping others as a psychiatrist. Awesome doctor, where do you practice
@@gargisharma1468 children should be assertive now. When they come to know that the parents are harressing, they should tell the parents that they will move out of the house, do any part time job and complete their studies and just to frighten the parents should say that they will not come back anymore. Even if they are needed. This is the only permenant solution. And really find a safe place to stay and work only for half the day. Atleast after listening to this, the parents will most probably stop harressing the children. If they are doing too much, first find a place to stay, a part time job and move out and while leaving say that you will complain to the police. This will make even the worst parents normal 99'/. Unless they are having some mental health issues. If that is the case, go to the government mental health center and tell everything. They will send a doctor in common clothes to meet your parents.
My mother is completely opposite to this narcissist mother...she always protected me and guided me...she's just a housewife....my mum never just told me that 'lafdebaaz mat ban' told me 'you should find a person who respects you for who you are...for that you need to be financially and spirituality independent".....My heart goes out for the people who have faced abuse from mum...narcissist are the WORST people in world...dw karma will get them bad, stay strong ❤
Amazing mother you have. I had a lot of narcissistic people around me while growing up, including my mother. I felt so out of place in my own family that I thought I was adopted. Years have passed and now I am a mother. The problem is because I have never received motherly love and caring from anybody, I don't know how much of a good mother I am. I do my best but I always doubt myself whether I am good enough for my child, because growing up i did not have any example of how a good mother should be.
This is exactly what happened to me. . my mom projected her character on me but I had shitty friends who made me feel terrible about leaving my house. So I went back again three times and now I have severe mental health issues .
She’s kinda of a person who would think masturbating is the evilest sin. Well it is (a sin) if you are practicing celibacy. That to with your self decision, not by torture and force.
Every kid needs a mother but every mother doesn't deserve a kid. My mom was the same kind, abusive like hell. I'm that child who is abandoned by her own mother. But I am very lucky that my dad loves me unconditionally. Trust me this is also a societal issue and happens in society where mother's don't like their one child. I am still told by my toxic relatives that "ek maa abhi ku-maata nahi ban sakti" but it really wasn't my case. So somehow I lacked Comfort/ Validation for this. Thanks for sharing the story! Now I feel little relieved. I can say to the world that Mothers can Abandon their child / Can be abusers too.
❤️❤️ for you... It was the same case with my mother too. Her mother loved only her eldest sister and younger brother. Totally discriminated my mom. Almost hated her. For what reason... No reason at all
I am sorry sister for undergoing a lot of torture from the woman who actually gave you birth . Happy to know your dad loves you immensely . Did you ever tell your dad how your mom would abuse you ? Atleast now you must tell everything to your father.
@@shishiranair4095 thanks for asing! My dad is happily married to someone else and I live with him. My mother left us 6 years back. And yes, my family members know about the abuse I went through.
its brought tears to my eyes cause i never thought mothers like these existed , also i cant imagine to put myself in yours place . i am really thankful that i got a mother who is very very supportive and caring . (words gonna be less to describe her ) she pampers me but shows tough love wherever required ... more power to you guys 🤞✨
After listening to your experiences I can only thank God for my parents who sacrificed everything to give me the best they could afford. As the only daughter I was treated like a goddess and my father would literally thank God for giving him a daughter. My mother spoiled me rotten and I was not allowed to do anything that except my studies. Sadly I took them for granted and never really appreciated them. Your story is an eye opener.
This is for every one who is going through the same thing as narrated in the story. Alhamdulillah i have never been through anything like this, but then reading the comments really makes me sad 😣 I pray that everyone who finds this, finds peace and happiness ☮️
I am just not able to believe that moms like these exist. The amount of love my mom gave me in the few years we had together has lasted a lifetime. 30 years since she has gone and not a single day goes without me remembering her and missing her. It is important to become aware of life stories like yours because they make me conscious about not taking my family for granted. It makes me realise how lucky I was even after I lost my mom because my family stood together ,supported each other and faced everything together. My conservative dad never let his orthodox beliefs stop me from living my life my way even though we don’t agree on most of the things. And here I was cribbing and complaining to God !!!!
I felt she was telling my story. My mom used to beat me with utensils and slippers in the kitchen when I used to stand there to help her. She too loved my brothers but today she is very old and they had bought a wrong walker for her but because she is my mother and the 'Ten Commandments' say that we should honour our parents, I took a walker on my scooter with front wheels and gave her. Today she can roam around in the house. She only taught me whatever I wanted to learn. I too told my husband to get me out of that house. Only daddy used to like me and he is no more. Now I came to know that many girls are ill treated by the mothers and I am not the only one.
Can feel that and ur candid heart too girls are also being and angle if parents do love care without being biased but what's done can't be undone but i wish ur hubby give u all love and care and u raise up a daughter to break this myth of patriarchy society
Even I too come across this trauma from my mother followed by my brothers in another form Luckily my mother gave me higher education eventhough fighting everyday but I joined in college hostel and completed my studies . God Almighty gave me nice husband now I lead comfortable life Dear ones don't give up your hope
Her story is same as mine ..... My mother never accepted me ... She only loved her son .... She also use to beat me when ever she got chance, now I am 30 and she still hates me more than anything 😭😭
I am so sorry that your own mom was the way she was. Being a parent myself, I cannot imagine how traumatizing it would be to a child who couldn't find comfort and safety in their own parent. Kudos to your courage and will to do amazing in life. More power to you!
Really some mothers don't deserve children. I think there must be a strict law to certify women who want to be mothers. Cruel people must not be allowed . I must say the girl was really level headed,and a strong woman. may she be happy in her life.
I was 12 years old dealing with unusual trauma! A time when everyone makes you feel worthless. You forget your worth! My mother didn't do anything wrong with me she supports me a lot! But at that time when everything seems numb and i was depressed! No one stood up ! Morale of the story :- fight for yourself and enjoy your own company! Literally no one I said literally no one is going to take charge of your happiness when you are at your worst! I am 19 today grew up a very strong girl. Bad times teaches you a lot! If someone who is dealing with the same don't look for happiness in this world. Be a good human being, meditate and think that you are going to die alone only with your good deeds nothing else! Just think that God is always going to stay with you! You are never alone
Mein zindagi ka saath nibhata chala gaya ... har fikr ko duvhan mein udata chala gaya . This was my life funda, when my very own people, unneccessarily gave me trauma.
In India, there is this notion of 'parents do whatever they do for the benefit of their children' which is used to justify all the atrocities and mal practices that the parents commit. Due to this, toxic parenting has had very strong roots and has grown beyond limit in India. I too have suffered tremendously from my sociopath Mother... she even managed to manipulate my father to her will over the years. And almost all our extended family and relatives believe my parents over me due to the reputation they have created over the years... typical! The thing is, just leaving home is not enough... we as their children, somewhere deep in our hearts, believe and want them to be a part of our lives and want them to realize their mistakes and forgive and live happily together...!!! But once we try to take actions for this dream to come true, they hit us where it hurts the most. It is critically important to remove them from our hearts and minds as well to truly heal and be happy. It is painful... true.... But needs be done all the same. I learnt this the hard way... hope no one else does.
That sad thing is they are really not allowed use their brains (not education) but make their own judgements and decisions before marriage so lots of people in south east Asia grow up emotionally stunted. Hence a host of relationship problem with parents, with in-laws with partners and surprise surprise with their children.
This is why we see many people in old age homes , it's not always that only the offspring ditches , the background story is never known .., and with such abusive parent / parents am afraid things will turn bad for them once the children grow up ,leave and never come back.
Exactly, after doing all that favours to sons they r not taking care. Now they expect daughters to show love which most of the daughters cannot do. I can relate
Toxic parenting is true , even our parents has gone through it . Especially moms on their pregnancy, meno pause everything they have gone through hormonal issues alone without any support and care . May it has changed them as "Toxic" . May Allah gave strength to our parents and us to get out from this toxicity .
This is such a sad story and it personally makes me respect my parents for sacrificing everything for my own happiness. There are truly very evil people around us. You are beautiful young woman and may God and life give you nothing but the happiness now and always. You deserve good life❤️
Your story brought tears to my eyes. I hope you will one day find peace and find a way to heal from all the hell you have been through. My heart goes out to you.
Wow! When even the protectors become abusers, you got to seek the shelter of the Supreme Protector and He does help!!!. Kudos to the kids who fight the inner battle of healing from parental abuse.
I thank God for my mum. Yes, I am from a broke family at times was ignored, abandoned but I really understood what she was going through and forgave her. Today we both are the best friends!!
I felt for you so much listening to your story. I had a similar experience and I lived in terror and agony. So I wrote a book call 'Who Can I Turn To?' simply to get the pain out of my system.
Unfortunately, in Indian society people don't believe/ understand that family of origin can be abusive/ toxic too. Other than physical hitting, emotional torture, mishandling money is also abuse. Parents, especially Mothers are considered next to or even better than God. No matter whatever they do, it is never considered a sin. I too am a survivor of dysfunctional family abuse by elder sisters and parents. In the name of blood relations, I was gaslighted not only to endure the treatment but also consider it as an expression of love.
It is bound to happen. Not all people are mentally fit. But the society thinks marriage and kids are the only things that matter in life. That’s how the Indian society is. Never thinks out of the box.
Same in Eastern Europe. Parents can abuse, say whatever, disrespect you and we have to stay silent because they gave birth to us so pretty much in their minds - they own us. Crazy imo and very damaging…
That generation mothers were like that , my mother talked so abusively that tear my soul . Enitre childhood I was so confused of her behavior, became very quite . But as I grown older she couldn't beat me more . I started defending myself . And with the time I erased her from my memory . I hate that mother word so much , that I never wanted any kid .
I suffered a lot as well in my family. Difficult relation with my mother. If you get your kid you will love him and care for him. Child will fill your soul with love. God bless you 🙏🏻❤️
That’s not true. Not every mother is evil, but strict yes. If a person has issues they’ll be like that compared to normal (open minded, tolerant) ones.
Don't punish self. If you want child & have love for it then become a loving,caring mother. Children give purpose, energy to our life if loved properly
Toxic Parenting.....this word I came across in the comment below for the 1st time in my life. I have been searching for this word, could never understand a better word to describe my evil mother. It is sad for any child to have toxic parenting. Its better not to have parents or such parents should never be blessed with children Padmaja was finally freed from her toxic mother at 18 years. I am 51 years and I still continue to be emotionally tortured by my mother (I was not physically tortured but yes emotions have longer effect I guess). I am away from her, settled in my own life, have family of my own. We 4 siblings are away from parents but we still care for our parents but my mums ungratefulness, selfishness, lies, evilness continues and it hurts till this date as I write here. I fail to understand what is her motive, why is she against her own children? She is 83 years old but evil to the core only towards her 4 children. The rest of the world she is the best lady on earth (thats how she projects) Rightly as somebody commented, everybody has a story but only few like Padmaja have the courage to put it behind her and talk about it openly. I am unable to put it behind and ever forgive my mother and i dont intend to see her even in her last days. May God bless children who are struggling and may they find their own wings to fly away faster from such toxic parenting. God bless
No human being deserves to be ill treated like this. Starting 18 years old you had a choice of either stopping this torture and putting a distance between you and your mom or keep being a victim. You can still help your mom from far away by sending money for example. But nothing should force you to endure this torture. You can still change it. Start thinking of yourself as a parent and a grown up person in this relationship, and of your mom as of a poor traumatised child that she is. Keep distance. Cut ties if needed. Take care of yourself
I still suffer in the age of 60 & a grandfather. I am a ideal , obedient elder son who sacrificed a lot for family.whole life I searched answer to the question ' why me ' ? Answer is It is only our destiny !
My dad was like that to all of us including my mom. Me and my brother s were the best children any parent would be proud to have but we were never good enough for him. He was physically and mentally abusive to us. It was a blessing to get away from him. His health is failing and my children keep pressuring me to go visit him but I refuse to. I have no feeling of love towards him.
I went through an evil witch who was pretending sick drama, manipulative, narcissist but i abandoned that witch and that creature died a rotten death, but as you say projecting to be a good person in the family that creature still has sympathizers
God bless you my child. I wish I have a daughter like you. Just opposite to your mom i earned day n night to avoid debt towards my children education n marriage expenses depending on my mom but my daughter didn't understand me n shattered my happiness. I think show off love works than the silent love.
Thanks padmaja, you got opened. Log bahut aise baat karte hain, Ki maa toh maa hoti hai, Devi maa ka roop hoti hai, maa ko galat mat samajho, maa ki takleef ko samjho. Maa ko galat kahne wale upper nahi ate hain, etc. Lekin koi bacchi ki, beti ki takleef nahi samajte, naa paiso se madad karte hain, naa achi salah se, naa koi sacch ke liye fight karte hai, na koi mushkil mein saat dete hain. Har ladki yudh kar rahi hai bachpan se hi. Sabhi log paraya hai, yah taki maa baap bhi. Kuch ladkiyon ke saat bahar wale boora karte hain, aur kuch ladkiyon ke saat toh unke maa, baap, aur siblings hi boora karte hain. Aur woh bahar bhi aakar nahi bata sakti. Mere toh sabhi dushman nikle, bas mere friends bhale the. Lekin meri health kharab kardi meri maa aur bhai ne, aur mere papa ne, abhi tak health problems hai, isiliye, Mera koi naam nahi, mere paas koi naukri nahi, mere bare koi janta nahi aur na main kisi ko kuch motivate, help karpayi. Bhagwan shakti, sehensheeltha ke saat health, buddhi aur chance bhi de taki hum yudha ladane ke saat Jeete bhi.
I am stunned to hear about such horrible things, a mother was doing to her own daughter ( not a step daughter) was there anything grossly wrong with her mental state ? What sins , wrong doings , she was talking about ? What was she punishing her own daughter for ?Everything is so strange, abnormal and eeky.. Thank God, she left the house, before it was too late ! I appreciate daughter 's patience,valour, and strength. All my blessings !
Oh my goodness 😢so sorry for you!! I can’t even think of someone like her mom. Kudos to you girl! Be brave and strong like you are!! May god bless you immensely!!
Your life story is really, really heart wrenching! I'm glad you had the grit and courage to bear with it and come out unscathed. And now, you have the heart and reason to get girls out of their messed life - what a beautiful transformation, bless YOU! -
I'm really grateful to God that i was born to a mother who literally worked hard day n night to give a wonderful future.. hope no kid shud be cursed with such psyc gaurdian.. i don't want mention word mother to these kind of sick people
Hats off to you. Imagine if wasn't a secular country like India. it was Pakistan or Afghanistan. Many girls go through worse than this in Pakistan with no way out. The victin knoes that the Sociey outside could be deadlier than an abusive mother.
I loved the prayer of seeking forgiveness .... powerful words emerging from the tender heart of you as an innocent child... yours is indeed an inspiring story... thanks for sharing with us..
This is a story of great courage. I am so happy that you were able to get away from the abuse and seek your own happiness. It takes guts to stand up for yourself and help others too. Sadly there are lots of toxic mothers out there who don't deserve to be raising children because they cause too much pain and trauma. keep going and continue to stay strong and positive.
As a person who had two loving moms & dads I couldn't nearly imagine how it feels to be treated like this by the very same people who are supposed to cherish, defend & support you. What a power house you & all the wonderful people in this thread are! How inspiring your stories & your survivals are to the millions of people who suffer this. I feel that I was quite blessed because I had two moms that were quite on the opposite ends but miraculously got along so well & made our lives cohesive & seamless everyday. One was not very touchy, and lovey dovy and while always gave us tough love & cold truths, did not wait a second to defend & support us when we needed it. She always told us you & I know who you are so if you really want to get somewhere in life, go ahead & pay no attention to silly talk & gossip or cultural limitations. The other one admired us loudly almost every time we entered the room and fueled our confidence by reminding us how beautiful & smart we are and how proud they are to have us in their lives. At the same time though a very small woman by physique she was like the running engine of our large family. With two different personalities, they both made things happen & work cohesively within our little society. One a trend setter & social leader in her own way, the other a poised, diplomatic, action taker. The men also knew how to & what to take care of and which one to direct the family's needs to based on certain circumstances. We were always told by our fathers the women are the pillars that keep a house standing and the men are it's roof. If the pillars crack or break, the roof will start crumbling too. Life brought many challenges but I always believed that the way my parents managed to work through their challenges & kept the large family together despite personal differences, is quite a rare gift that is often taken for granted until you have it no more. Many of us want families without knowing how to manage ourselves let alone other relations. There will always be some level of toxicity & trauma in each individual due to their life experiences but if not managed, it leads to severe cases like this. Regardless, smart and powerful people like these women will rise from their ashes time & time again and use the fire that burned them down to a fine powder to cleanse & heal other souls. We all know that it is easier said than done, but may we all find courrage when fear & pain overtake us or a helping hand to lift us from the ruins of our misery into the glory of hope & courrage in our darkest moments🙏
I am a male and my mother is my biggest enemy in my life , full of ego , lust , mentally disturbed, greed etc , finally I am not alone , with this problem , life is hell and leaving like this is worthless 😢
Be strong. And believe in yourself. Dont let anyone tell you that you are worthless. They are just jealous of your strength in yourself. Wait and see how one day they will be jelpus of your success too. That day you will know that you made it in life. There is no higher glory than showing your butt to your mean family members once you are more successful than them.
Can't believe a mother can be so cruel like this.. unimaginable. She doesn't deserve such silent daughter.. what an insane mom !! Gosh Padmaja Is so strong she might even haven't aware while going through this hell .
I really feel very sorry for her trauma, but I am so lucky that my mother loves me so much and I love her more than my life too. I hope everyone should get their mother's love.
The gossip could have come from any other child jealous of you or your watch. I know how horrible it is when you're not trusted. You managed to preserve your self-esteem, get away and improve your situation. Bravo.
When I was a kid ,my mother was very abusive,used slang languages, used to hit me very hard, always had doubt about my character..She thought I would elope with a boy when I grow up..But now I have showed her who I am, how my character is..I have also changed her way of thinking by constantly talking to her, showing to her movies and serials.. Actually when I was kid ,we lived in a joint family and there she was a victim of domestic violence.. that is why she was very disturbed..She never went to school..She didn't know how to take care of mental health and children..
After going through comments i realise so many of us hv faced the trauma which has scared us for life... 💔 Will never know how it feels to hv a happy home or loving mother..
To some extent you are correct. I live in Germany, there is lot of child abuse here too but also child helplines etc and children are taught to express thier mind. This should come in our country.
Western parents are just the other side of the coin. They give too much freedom to their children. Teenage pregnancies & school shootings are very common there
Your story is truly inspiring. And I like what you said that you are not the trauma you faced. You are yourself and it's wonderful that you are helping others
Mere mami ek the. Wo apni ek lauti 3 saal ki beti ko hi pyar nhi krte the. Aur aise case maine aur v dekhe hain jinki mummy apne hi beta ya beti ko pyar nhi krte.
I found your story to be horrific. Often I heard or read about girls from India, Pakistan or the middle East and cannot comprehend the horrors of what they go through in life. Sadly, even many of the married ones are living in fear and bondage as well. I wish there were more like you who has the courage to break away and speak up. Bless you.
My mom also sooo much cruel with me 😭😭😭😭😭 I don't know why....she always abuse me kick me hitting me....very dirty abusing....thants why I am suffering from stress dipressed....and harmonal imbalance pcod......but I got very sweet understanding husband who always consult me loves me sooo much caring....and very nice in laws who always loves me thank u god....🙏🙏
What a beautiful. touching and empowering story!! Thank you for sharing with the world of your story & struggles! Sometimes we may feel that our story(s) is too shameful and embarrassing to share, but it's stories like this that help make us stronger and better individuals! I'm so glad you found an angel to help you along the way when you needed someone to come to your rescue! God always makes ways to put guardian angels in the process of our struggles to help us accomplish and take us to where we need to be! I'm grateful on your behalf!
That person whoever gave birth to this woman, does NOT even deserve the title of being called a mother. I am so glad that this young woman was courageous enough to plan her escape from her abusive mother and start over in a new place far away from her abusive mother. Unfortunately, many abused children don't get the chance to escape such situations. She is one of the lucky ones.
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Padma you are very strong and powerful. Sending you love.
So proud of you Ma'am ....
Keep moving forward 👏 🥰
@joshtalks I watched this video and read a lot of comments. Many more r suffering like Padmaja. They HV messaged saying they need help. Could you please contact them and connect them to Padmaja ? That's the least U can do before it's too late for those who r suffering.
Thank you for being so inspiring and empowering despite the traumatic abuse you received from your mother.
Meri mummy v bhut marti thi ab v nfrat krti h mujhse...😭😭
Still, in our country, we hesitate to talk about toxic parenting.. It's time to open up and call out this cruelty because children r the future of our nation..
Exactly 😑😑
Right ❤️
My mom was also bad she had a bad end
It's our bad luck to get toxic parent maybe our karma she gave importance to my brothers who did not bother about her
These are witches in form of human
Such parents never change.. even when they grow old..
Every kid needs a mother but every mother doesn't deserve a kid
I completely agree with you
So true ...this is so sad !!
My prayers dear child for you !!
✔️✔️✔️
Never thought would come across this statement... But definitely true.
Agreed
Abusive mothers are very common & mostly the victims are girl childs. This is a social issue but sadly nobody talks about it.
If Indians cannot grow out of “marriage and kids is the norm” thought process then this can’t be managed. Because not every individual is fit to be a parent mentally (even if physically they are fit). And Indians have very little knowledge of mental health.
True
True
Right nobody talks on toxic parents.
Njn samsarikum.. Aval chathal polm nik snkdmilla... 😏i hate her
My mom was the same kind, abusive like hell. I couldn’t shed a drop of tear , totally numb when I saw her lifeless body but felt immensely FREE from her forever. Thanks for sharing your story.
Happy-go-lucky.
Take care of yourself. You are a beautiful soul!
My mother is abusive like hell.
How old r u now
@Anamika Rao, I always wonder how i would feel the day that happens. It will be tragic and shocking knowing that I will never get the love i craved for every second of my life. It will be a definte moment where i will know that i cannot crave any more. I have tried every second of my life to stop craving love but the heart wants what the heart wants. I just cannot bring myself to stop. I think i will die of grief that day knowing that this lifetime is done. That what i wanted will never come to be. But i also know that that is the day my heart will realize the truth (that my brain already does). It's my birthday today and the most tragic day of my life. The day I am always reminded of how my parents never wanted me to be born and how they never forgave me for being born.
Everyone has a story, but not everyone take risk to change their End of Story with Glory! So inspiring and Powerful Padmaja ❤
Great inspiration to many women....not to get dejected but face life with confidence.
Toxic parenting is very under talked topic ... I sympathize with her
This is 200% true
Not online as of lately but on T.V.
My mom was an angel , her whole life revolved around us 6 children . We are three daughters ,3 sons. But she never differentiated between boys and girls. She is no more . I thank God for such a kind ,most loving mother
You are most blessed.
I envy you
luckyone
That's honestly brutal how her mother traumatised her, but she's so confident and turned it into her power!
Whose mother?
The principal of her school is to be equally blamed as her mother. Teachers are supposed to be your protectors, guides yet most of them are toxic as many parents in India. I am happy for you to survive and come out a victor.
Principal must be blamed but not equally. That person is outsider. The person who should be blamed equally if not more is her father. How could he just ignored or not known what's happening in his own house right under his nose.
I think parents in India are the best parents one can find in the world, i don't know what sickness her mother was suffering from but my mother was a goddess, she use to beat us for very small reasons too but she loved like no body can love n now when she is not with us we miss her badly and just wish to tell her that I love you mom
True some teachers are extremely toxic, unfortunately even many parents are also extremely toxic for their own children. God bless you.
That is a huge over statement to say parents in India are the best. They can be manipulative, emotional blackmailing, expect too much from kids. In every culture, in every country you will find a mix of good and bad parents.
@@sudeshnamukherjee677 I agree but I can make out you don't understand what it is to be depressed ..
Atleas this woman did and still loves her father ..
There are a lot of psychopathic parents in the society and they get away because they show a totally different face to the society.
Absolutely true
@aahana, very true, coverts!
I still deal with toxic parents.. has affected me a lot, I carry a baggage of insecurities
100% true they are utter psychopath and enjoy hurting children physically and mentally many of the youth are stressed out because of these toxic parents ..
Yes completely true
@@sindhoorrsuryavamshi6965 me too. There's a certain heaviness I feel in my chest. It works like poison, screwed my physical and emotional health.
Now I love my Mom even more ,She was an Angel....She passed away couple of years ago , but always in my heart💕
Same, i don't know what bad luck this girl had in her life i see mother as the most committed person in one's life
Some individuals have personality disorders irrespective of gender ....family ..race or region ...it is horrible to live with people having certain personality disorders
@@dj-ux1jr There are many many such unlucky kids....they are just ashamed of comig forward because Indian society judges a bit too much and puts motherhood on a pedastal
*I'm not from India. But I was abused mentally, physically and emotionally by my whole family. I'm the last born and was neglected and isolated. When I was 2 years old my siblings abandoned me in the street and my step brother is the one who rescued me and told me the story. When I asked them? They never gave me a straight answer. My story is long. I'm now battling sicknesses just because of my family* 😢
@@artisthusnatalal3099 - So sad about your situation. Please take good care of yourself and seek some real therapy from a genuine professional. Please be careful as not all professional therapists are genuine in helping others. I too went through some difficult situations in the family. But now I am fine. All the best to you. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Seriously, in India, we are tagged as a bad child if we talk about bad and toxic and selfish parenting. This continues and continues and even if we raise voice to others, the society or relatives, the only question asked is why your parents should educate and feed you or keep you under shelter if they don't like you or treat you bad. My mother felt relieved and took sympathy from her friends and relatives showing how bad I am. Finally, when she was on her death bed, this bad son was only there to take care of her. But the irony is during her funeral, my relatives felt I am acting. Who gave them the licence to talk like this? MY PARENTS
I am in same zone… but I wont give my shoulder when they become old.. let them face what they did to me
@@chaithanyav6646 perfect punishment
@@chaithanyav6646 right!
Ayaan you are so right.....this needs to be addressed in India where motherhood is put on a pedastal...
Same here. I took care of my parent only to be the bad one in the end according to her. I gave my entire life up for everyone. It left me broken inside unfortunately. How can people who supposed to love you destroy you!? God is our true parent 🙏
The school tried to make me sacrifice my 10 year old daughter because of a note she wrote to a boy. My daughter was so afraid to tell me. The teachers traumatized her by passing the note among themselves at lunch time in front of my daughter and whispering while looking at my daughter. Then they sent a copy of the note home for me to read and acknowledge. I wrote back saying “Thank you very much for sharing this with me. As Sarah’s mother I will put this in our family scrapbook and in ten years from now I’m certain we will all get a great laugh out of this cute note.”
Lol. Screw them.
Kudos...I will do exactly the same
You are wonderful
👍❤️ mothers should be like this ❤️
Thank you for doing that, thank you for not treating your own daughter bad. Thanku for not spoiling your daughter childhood days, thanks for not giving truma to you girl. Since my childhood for no reason my mom keep saying to all tat my horoscope is bad, but during my marriage I found my horoscope is very good
😂😂😂❤️❤️
Wow going to school was a break from the trauma that I was experiencing at home…..this hits home.
S truly
Sad!
Sorry, I feel you
I joined any and every after school club or activity so I didn't have to go home!
This is so common between mothers hating daughters but no one talks about it.
Yes I've seen this..its very horrible...khud bhi to bachi hi thi na? These are narcissist personality...I'm glad to say my mom is not like this ❤
Very true
Hmm i too faced it nobody will believe what she did but she had a bad end
True
My mom too treats me the same way. I hate her
Now I know how Lucky I am to have Good mother, she is embodiment of divinity
I too had a similar time in my childhood, few mom's will always spy on the girls, abuse and scold when started going to college. Even though few girls are really interested to study higher studies, not allowed for that. No extra care, always scolding with bad nasty words and beaten sometimes. When I left home for job, i was free from this hell... Now i too earn, married and living happily with my husband. God blessed my good deeds...
We are just taught to worship parents no matter how toxic they are 😔😔😔
You shall worship your God only 🙏 and him only shall you serve, we are taught to respect them but abusive and toxic mothers 😭😭😭 it's hard my dear I have that experience. Sometimes i compare here like she doesn't exist ! Cz she doesn't believe that she is wrong too😪 till now.but I can't hate her as she hated and abandoned me to die !
It’s human nature for children to want their parents to love them. We turn it inward thinking we can become someone they will love by becoming something that pleases them.
Took me 20 years to come out of it, it's a long way of balancing our freedom and love for parents. Out of all the various types of toxic relations, toxic parents is the most difficult one. You can neither leave nor stay.
VERY VERY VERY TRUE.
It’s very true
Also nobody believes you
@@truthwithtarot_tanu becz a mother is exceptional in Expoliation and being this privilege this matter doesn't rise up
Brought tears to my eyes. She fought and became stronger is amazing!
More power to you. Lot of toxic parenting is happening at india but no one is allowed to talk about it. In pretext of respect elders, don’t question or call them out. Childhood trauma ruins ppl. I’m a psychologist, reach out for help, lead a fulfilling life. Life is worth living to the fullest
Thanks dear. I am a psychiatrist and that's why I was able to remain normal in my daddy's house. I have taken even 4mg of sleeping tablets because of my mom's ill-treatment.
@@dr.franciscanishatotalheal that’s really sad to hear & I’m glad that you are out the trauma & you are helping others as a psychiatrist. Awesome doctor, where do you practice
just having my TH-cam channel named Dr Francisca Nisha:Total Healing.
@@Madhuwellness on TH-cam I put up videos on my channel named Dr.Francisca Nisha:Total Healing.
@@gargisharma1468 children should be assertive now. When they come to know that the parents are harressing, they should tell the parents that they will move out of the house, do any part time job and complete their studies and just to frighten the parents should say that they will not come back anymore. Even if they are needed. This is the only permenant solution. And really find a safe place to stay and work only for half the day. Atleast after listening to this, the parents will most probably stop harressing the children. If they are doing too much, first find a place to stay, a part time job and move out and while leaving say that you will complain to the police. This will make even the worst parents normal 99'/. Unless they are having some mental health issues. If that is the case, go to the government mental health center and tell everything. They will send a doctor in common clothes to meet your parents.
My mother is completely opposite to this narcissist mother...she always protected me and guided me...she's just a housewife....my mum never just told me that 'lafdebaaz mat ban' told me 'you should find a person who respects you for who you are...for that you need to be financially and spirituality independent".....My heart goes out for the people who have faced abuse from mum...narcissist are the WORST people in world...dw karma will get them bad, stay strong ❤
Lucky u 😊
Amazing mother you have. I had a lot of narcissistic people around me while growing up, including my mother. I felt so out of place in my own family that I thought I was adopted. Years have passed and now I am a mother. The problem is because I have never received motherly love and caring from anybody, I don't know how much of a good mother I am. I do my best but I always doubt myself whether I am good enough for my child, because growing up i did not have any example of how a good mother should be.
It is people like u, who should be there for the tramatised abused souls...it will change the world... narssisium rules
@@sangeetharavindran87 oh don't worry...just do what your conciouns tells u...it will be the right thing ...
@@jfam729 Thank you for the suggestion. Will go through it.
The mother was projecting her own character onto her daughter.
Very true.
Yes
This is exactly what happened to me. . my mom projected her character on me but I had shitty friends who made me feel terrible about leaving my house. So I went back again three times and now I have severe mental health issues .
She’s kinda of a person who would think masturbating is the evilest sin. Well it is (a sin) if you are practicing celibacy. That to with your self decision, not by torture and force.
Every kid needs a mother but every mother doesn't deserve a kid.
My mom was the same kind, abusive like hell. I'm that child who is abandoned by her own mother. But I am very lucky that my dad loves me unconditionally.
Trust me this is also a societal issue and happens in society where mother's don't like their one child.
I am still told by my toxic relatives that "ek maa abhi ku-maata nahi ban sakti" but it really wasn't my case. So somehow I lacked Comfort/ Validation for this.
Thanks for sharing the story! Now I feel little relieved. I can say to the world that Mothers can Abandon their child / Can be abusers too.
❤️❤️ for you...
It was the same case with my mother too. Her mother loved only her eldest sister and younger brother. Totally discriminated my mom. Almost hated her. For what reason... No reason at all
I am sorry sister for undergoing a lot of torture from the woman who actually gave you birth . Happy to know your dad loves you immensely . Did you ever tell your dad how your mom would abuse you ? Atleast now you must tell everything to your father.
@@shishiranair4095 thanks for asing! My dad is happily married to someone else and I live with him. My mother left us 6 years back.
And yes, my family members know about the abuse I went through.
I felt this for almost 8 years after my father's death. It all ended after i left my home.
Same here
Omg
Felt this, like which incident
May you find your wings
Same
its brought tears to my eyes cause i never thought mothers like these existed , also i cant imagine to put myself in yours place . i am really thankful that i got a mother who is very very supportive and caring . (words gonna be less to describe her ) she pampers me but shows tough love wherever required ... more power to you guys 🤞✨
This is true..many girls suffer in their own home.
Yes , i can also relate to that
Yes.
Boys too
After listening to your experiences I can only thank God for my parents who sacrificed everything to give me the best they could afford. As the only daughter I was treated like a goddess and my father would literally thank God for giving him a daughter. My mother spoiled me rotten and I was not allowed to do anything that except my studies. Sadly I took them for granted and never really appreciated them. Your story is an eye opener.
If you have an ounce of empathy in your body. You would tell this woman that she deserved better
Instead of rubbing your good fortune in our faces 😮
'Spoiled rotten' is not a good way to bring up children. Basically your parents failed you miserably.
Spoiled and rotten is how narcissists are made
@@mdp4022 do you know what empathy means?
This is for every one who is going through the same thing as narrated in the story.
Alhamdulillah i have never been through anything like this, but then reading the comments really makes me sad 😣
I pray that everyone who finds this, finds peace and happiness ☮️
I am just not able to believe that moms like these exist. The amount of love my mom gave me in the few years we had together has lasted a lifetime. 30 years since she has gone and not a single day goes without me remembering her and missing her.
It is important to become aware of life stories like yours because they make me conscious about not taking my family for granted. It makes me realise how lucky I was even after I lost my mom because my family stood together ,supported each other and faced everything together. My conservative dad never let his orthodox beliefs stop me from living my life my way even though we don’t agree on most of the things. And here I was cribbing and complaining to God !!!!
Me too. I can never forget my mom. She is no more. My mom was God's greatest gift to me
Ew. Moms.
Luck you! Moms like this are very very common they have NPD. I know because my mom her mom and my moms whole family is filled with this
@Mariam Sher then don’t have your own kids if you think it’s genetic. Not being rude but you can have genetic cleansing like that.
@@tula__ narcissism is NOT genetic it is caused by nurture although some personalities are more susceptible to it than others
Very proud of you Padmaja! More power and a tight hug to you my dear! 😊❤
I felt she was telling my story. My mom used to beat me with utensils and slippers in the kitchen when I used to stand there to help her. She too loved my brothers but today she is very old and they had bought a wrong walker for her but because she is my mother and the 'Ten Commandments' say that we should honour our parents, I took a walker on my scooter with front wheels and gave her. Today she can roam around in the house. She only taught me whatever I wanted to learn. I too told my husband to get me out of that house. Only daddy used to like me and he is no more. Now I came to know that many girls are ill treated by the mothers and I am not the only one.
Can feel that and ur candid heart too girls are also being and angle if parents do love care without being biased but what's done can't be undone but i wish ur hubby give u all love and care and u raise up a daughter to break this myth of patriarchy society
@@rajbhardwaj2180 brother thanks.
@@dr.franciscanishatotalheal wlc dear 🙂can I connect u as u sound really positive and nice vibe interaction with u honestly
@@rajbhardwaj2180 brother you write to me here. I will reply. Or below my videos.
Her story is heart breaking. Kudos to her for walking away and pursuing success!
Even I too come across this trauma from my mother followed by my brothers in another form
Luckily my mother gave me higher education eventhough fighting everyday but I joined in college hostel and completed my studies . God Almighty gave me nice husband now I lead comfortable life
Dear ones don't give up your hope
Best wishes for ur next phase ❤
Her story is same as mine ..... My mother never accepted me ... She only loved her son .... She also use to beat me when ever she got chance, now I am 30 and she still hates me more than anything 😭😭
Where u belong
What the heck?
It's sad but it is true .... She thinks girls are waste of money coz they won't forever with them so to waste anything on girls 😔😭😭😭
So sorry
More power to u ❤
I am so sorry that your own mom was the way she was. Being a parent myself, I cannot imagine how traumatizing it would be to a child who couldn't find comfort and safety in their own parent. Kudos to your courage and will to do amazing in life. More power to you!
Your mum should be so grateful to have a daughter like you, bless you and wishing you a very happy life xx
Really some mothers don't deserve children. I think there must be a strict law to certify women who want to be mothers. Cruel people must not be allowed . I must say the girl was really level headed,and a strong woman. may she be happy in her life.
"I was constantly looking out for myself" Amazing thought! We all need to...
I was 12 years old dealing with unusual trauma! A time when everyone makes you feel worthless. You forget your worth! My mother didn't do anything wrong with me she supports me a lot!
But at that time when everything seems numb and i was depressed! No one stood up !
Morale of the story :- fight for yourself and enjoy your own company!
Literally no one I said literally no one is going to take charge of your happiness when you are at your worst!
I am 19 today grew up a very strong girl.
Bad times teaches you a lot!
If someone who is dealing with the same don't look for happiness in this world. Be a good human being, meditate and think that you are going to die alone only with your good deeds nothing else!
Just think that God is always going to stay with you! You are never alone
Praiseworthy ur efforts and ur determined intention yr and now u are grown up as a strong girl proud of u, u didn't lose ur gem like heart and dream ❤
@@rajbhardwaj2180 😊✌
@@anonymous-rm1zj proud of u buddy ❤
Mein zindagi ka saath nibhata chala gaya ... har fikr ko duvhan mein udata chala gaya . This was my life funda, when my very own people, unneccessarily gave me trauma.
Hope you are well bro ❤️🙏
In India, there is this notion of 'parents do whatever they do for the benefit of their children' which is used to justify all the atrocities and mal practices that the parents commit. Due to this, toxic parenting has had very strong roots and has grown beyond limit in India.
I too have suffered tremendously from my sociopath Mother... she even managed to manipulate my father to her will over the years. And almost all our extended family and relatives believe my parents over me due to the reputation they have created over the years... typical!
The thing is, just leaving home is not enough... we as their children, somewhere deep in our hearts, believe and want them to be a part of our lives and want them to realize their mistakes and forgive and live happily together...!!! But once we try to take actions for this dream to come true, they hit us where it hurts the most. It is critically important to remove them from our hearts and minds as well to truly heal and be happy.
It is painful... true.... But needs be done all the same. I learnt this the hard way... hope no one else does.
That sad thing is they are really not allowed use their brains (not education) but make their own judgements and decisions before marriage so lots of people in south east Asia grow up emotionally stunted. Hence a host of relationship problem with parents, with in-laws with partners and surprise surprise with their children.
This is why we see many people in old age homes , it's not always that only the offspring ditches , the background story is never known .., and with such abusive parent / parents am afraid things will turn bad for them once the children grow up ,leave and never come back.
Exactly, after doing all that favours to sons they r not taking care. Now they expect daughters to show love which most of the daughters cannot do. I can relate
Exactly
Exactly!!
Not many people see this side of the story....
True
Toxic parenting is true , even our parents has gone through it . Especially moms on their pregnancy, meno pause everything they have gone through hormonal issues alone without any support and care . May it has changed them as "Toxic" .
May Allah gave strength to our parents and us to get out from this toxicity .
This is such a sad story and it personally makes me respect my parents for sacrificing everything for my own happiness. There are truly very evil people around us.
You are beautiful young woman and may God and life give you nothing but the happiness now and always. You deserve good life❤️
Thank you for sharing your story, Padmaja. May we keep growing. Much love.
Your story brought tears to my eyes. I hope you will one day find peace and find a way to heal from all the hell you have been through. My heart goes out to you.
I had a wonderful mother who gave me the best of everything. I love her and thank God every moment for such lovely amazing mother. I am blessed 🙏🙏
Best comment it sounds soothing be happy dear❤
Kudos to you Padmaja!! Spoke with lot of confidence & composure.... your talk will help many of those that need to hear that hope exists.
Wow! When even the protectors become abusers, you got to seek the shelter of the Supreme Protector and He does help!!!. Kudos to the kids who fight the inner battle of healing from parental abuse.
Story of my life.....
Yes one can ask for help to The SUPREME POWER LORD KRISHNA ......and yes May GOD Bless Padmaja and other kids.....love n take care....
I thank God for my mum. Yes, I am from a broke family at times was ignored, abandoned but I really understood what she was going through and forgave her. Today we both are the best friends!!
I felt for you so much listening to your story. I had a similar experience and I lived in terror and agony. So I wrote a book call 'Who Can I Turn To?' simply to get the pain out of my system.
You're definitely an inspiration to many women out there ma'am ♥️
Very inspiring I hope a lot of women watch this and are going through similar experiences. Always talk to someone cos not everyone is strong
Unfortunately, in Indian society people don't believe/ understand that family of origin can be abusive/ toxic too. Other than physical hitting, emotional torture, mishandling money is also abuse. Parents, especially Mothers are considered next to or even better than God. No matter whatever they do, it is never considered a sin. I too am a survivor of dysfunctional family abuse by elder sisters and parents. In the name of blood relations, I was gaslighted not only to endure the treatment but also consider it as an expression of love.
It is bound to happen. Not all people are mentally fit. But the society thinks marriage and kids are the only things that matter in life. That’s how the Indian society is. Never thinks out of the box.
Omg
@@tula__ exactly...
Same in Eastern Europe. Parents can abuse, say whatever, disrespect you and we have to stay silent because they gave birth to us so pretty much in their minds - they own us. Crazy imo and very damaging…
Very true.. This is fate of many but not being discussed.
Hi Padmaja, I accidentally saw this video I am literally facing this problem not with my mother but by society
Hello ma'am, please do contact padmaja ma'am if you want to connect with her regarding this.
What caused u to face this?
That generation mothers were like that , my mother talked so abusively that tear my soul . Enitre childhood I was so confused of her behavior, became very quite . But as I grown older she couldn't beat me more . I started defending myself . And with the time I erased her from my memory . I hate that mother word so much , that I never wanted any kid .
I suffered a lot as well in my family. Difficult relation with my mother. If you get your kid you will love him and care for him. Child will fill your soul with love. God bless you 🙏🏻❤️
That’s not true. Not every mother is evil, but strict yes. If a person has issues they’ll be like that compared to normal (open minded, tolerant) ones.
Don't punish self. If you want child & have love for it then become a loving,caring mother. Children give purpose, energy to our life if loved properly
Toxic Parenting.....this word I came across in the comment below for the 1st time in my life. I have been searching for this word, could never understand a better word to describe my evil mother.
It is sad for any child to have toxic parenting. Its better not to have parents or such parents should never be blessed with children
Padmaja was finally freed from her toxic mother at 18 years. I am 51 years and I still continue to be emotionally tortured by my mother (I was not physically tortured but yes emotions have longer effect I guess). I am away from her, settled in my own life, have family of my own. We 4 siblings are away from parents but we still care for our parents but my mums ungratefulness, selfishness, lies, evilness continues and it hurts till this date as I write here. I fail to understand what is her motive, why is she against her own children?
She is 83 years old but evil to the core only towards her 4 children. The rest of the world she is the best lady on earth (thats how she projects)
Rightly as somebody commented, everybody has a story but only few like Padmaja have the courage to put it behind her and talk about it openly.
I am unable to put it behind and ever forgive my mother and i dont intend to see her even in her last days.
May God bless children who are struggling and may they find their own wings to fly away faster from such toxic parenting. God bless
Please cut ties dear....you cant heal a wound while staying in the battlefield!
No human being deserves to be ill treated like this. Starting 18 years old you had a choice of either stopping this torture and putting a distance between you and your mom or keep being a victim. You can still help your mom from far away by sending money for example. But nothing should force you to endure this torture. You can still change it. Start thinking of yourself as a parent and a grown up person in this relationship, and of your mom as of a poor traumatised child that she is. Keep distance. Cut ties if needed. Take care of yourself
I still suffer in the age of 60 & a grandfather. I am a ideal , obedient elder son who sacrificed a lot for family.whole life I searched answer to the question ' why me ' ? Answer is It is only our destiny !
My dad was like that to all of us including my mom. Me and my brother s were the best children any parent would be proud to have but we were never good enough for him. He was physically and mentally abusive to us. It was a blessing to get away from him. His health is failing and my children keep pressuring me to go visit him but I refuse to. I have no feeling of love towards him.
I went through an evil witch who was pretending sick drama, manipulative, narcissist but i abandoned that witch and that creature died a rotten death, but as you say projecting to be a good person in the family that creature still has sympathizers
God bless you my child. I wish I have a daughter like you. Just opposite to your mom i earned day n night to avoid debt towards my children education n marriage expenses depending on my mom but my daughter didn't understand me n shattered my happiness. I think show off love works than the silent love.
Thanks padmaja, you got opened.
Log bahut aise baat karte hain,
Ki maa toh maa hoti hai,
Devi maa ka roop hoti hai, maa ko galat mat samajho, maa ki takleef ko samjho. Maa ko galat kahne wale upper nahi ate hain, etc.
Lekin koi bacchi ki, beti ki takleef nahi samajte, naa paiso se madad karte hain, naa achi salah se, naa koi sacch ke liye fight karte hai, na koi mushkil mein saat dete hain.
Har ladki yudh kar rahi hai bachpan se hi. Sabhi log paraya hai, yah taki maa baap bhi.
Kuch ladkiyon ke saat bahar wale boora karte hain, aur kuch ladkiyon ke saat toh unke maa, baap, aur siblings hi boora karte hain.
Aur woh bahar bhi aakar nahi bata sakti.
Mere toh sabhi dushman nikle, bas mere friends bhale the.
Lekin meri health kharab kardi meri maa aur bhai ne, aur mere papa ne, abhi tak health problems hai, isiliye,
Mera koi naam nahi, mere paas koi naukri nahi, mere bare koi janta nahi aur na main kisi ko kuch motivate, help karpayi.
Bhagwan shakti, sehensheeltha ke saat health, buddhi aur chance bhi de taki hum yudha ladane ke saat Jeete bhi.
I am stunned to hear about such horrible things, a mother was doing to her own daughter ( not a step daughter) was there anything grossly wrong with her mental state ? What sins , wrong doings , she was talking about ? What was she punishing her own daughter for ?Everything is so strange, abnormal and eeky..
Thank God, she left the house, before it was too late ! I appreciate daughter 's patience,valour, and strength. All my blessings !
May God bless and help you continue to transform lives. You are a strong woman dear. It takes immense courage to keep it together and come out of it.
What mental strength, she had, prayers do help in de long run, thank god, blessings🙏.
Oh my goodness 😢so sorry for you!! I can’t even think of someone like her mom. Kudos to you girl! Be brave and strong like you are!! May god bless you immensely!!
Your life story is really, really heart wrenching! I'm glad you had the grit and courage to bear with it and come out unscathed. And now, you have the heart and reason to get girls out of their messed life - what a beautiful transformation, bless YOU! -
I'm really grateful to God that i was born to a mother who literally worked hard day n night to give a wonderful future.. hope no kid shud be cursed with such psyc gaurdian.. i don't want mention word mother to these kind of sick people
Hats off to you. Imagine if wasn't a secular country like India. it was Pakistan or Afghanistan. Many girls go through worse than this in Pakistan with no way out. The victin knoes that the Sociey outside could be deadlier than an abusive mother.
I loved the prayer of seeking forgiveness .... powerful words emerging from the tender heart of you as an innocent child... yours is indeed an inspiring story... thanks for sharing with us..
What forgiveness. The monster mom had a mental issue & she was subjecting the innocent child to torture.
Only our loving God can love us for who we are. Prayers is the only answer. No money no beauty can give us everlasting peace. Just GOD.
This is a story of great courage. I am so happy that you were able to get away from the abuse and seek your own happiness. It takes guts to stand up for yourself and help others too. Sadly there are lots of toxic mothers out there who don't deserve to be raising children because they cause too much pain and trauma. keep going and continue to stay strong and positive.
Good on you girl.
As a person who had two loving moms & dads I couldn't nearly imagine how it feels to be treated like this by the very same people who are supposed to cherish, defend & support you. What a power house you & all the wonderful people in this thread are! How inspiring your stories & your survivals are to the millions of people who suffer this. I feel that I was quite blessed because I had two moms that were quite on the opposite ends but miraculously got along so well & made our lives cohesive & seamless everyday. One was not very touchy, and lovey dovy and while always gave us tough love & cold truths, did not wait a second to defend & support us when we needed it. She always told us you & I know who you are so if you really want to get somewhere in life, go ahead & pay no attention to silly talk & gossip or cultural limitations. The other one admired us loudly almost every time we entered the room and fueled our confidence by reminding us how beautiful & smart we are and how proud they are to have us in their lives. At the same time though a very small woman by physique she was like the running engine of our large family. With two different personalities, they both made things happen & work cohesively within our little society. One a trend setter & social leader in her own way, the other a poised, diplomatic, action taker. The men also knew how to & what to take care of and which one to direct the family's needs to based on certain circumstances. We were always told by our fathers the women are the pillars that keep a house standing and the men are it's roof. If the pillars crack or break, the roof will start crumbling too. Life brought many challenges but I always believed that the way my parents managed to work through their challenges & kept the large family together despite personal differences, is quite a rare gift that is often taken for granted until you have it no more. Many of us want families without knowing how to manage ourselves let alone other relations. There will always be some level of toxicity & trauma in each individual due to their life experiences but if not managed, it leads to severe cases like this. Regardless, smart and powerful people like these women will rise from their ashes time & time again and use the fire that burned them down to a fine powder to cleanse & heal other souls. We all know that it is easier said than done, but may we all find courrage when fear & pain overtake us or a helping hand to lift us from the ruins of our misery into the glory of hope & courrage in our darkest moments🙏
You had 2
Moms. Pls share more. How?
I am a male and my mother is my biggest enemy in my life , full of ego , lust , mentally disturbed, greed etc , finally I am not alone , with this problem , life is hell and leaving like this is worthless 😢
Please focus on your studies, make a life you want for yourself. Remember your current situation is not permanent.
@@DoYourPartNoww i will try my best
Be strong. And believe in yourself. Dont let anyone tell you that you are worthless. They are just jealous of your strength in yourself. Wait and see how one day they will be jelpus of your success too. That day you will know that you made it in life. There is no higher glory than showing your butt to your mean family members once you are more successful than them.
@@Damien1_1 yes , you are right , waiting and grinding for that movement
Bro, this too shall pass! Don’t lose hopes just keep fighting with your current situation! You’ll sail through this!
So inspiring... It is possible to get out of someone's house but it is very difficult to when we are suffering from our own home
Can't believe a mother can be so cruel like this.. unimaginable. She doesn't deserve such silent daughter.. what an insane mom !! Gosh Padmaja Is so strong she might even haven't aware while going through this hell .
Love to the guys who denied marrying her for her age India needs more men like you: whoever y'all are i love you
So proud of u dear sister.whenever i watch a story in joshtalk,i felt like this episode is the best of all....
I happy to see you to empower more women, well done👏 Mam
God bless you dear & keep doing good always in your life for the women that u want to support 🙏👍
More power to you dear! Blessings!!
I really feel very sorry for her trauma, but I am so lucky that my mother loves me so much and I love her more than my life too. I hope everyone should get their mother's love.
Thank you for sharing this! And putting mothers off the pedestal
The gossip could have come from any other child jealous of you or your watch. I know how horrible it is when you're not trusted. You managed to preserve your self-esteem, get away and improve your situation. Bravo.
What a beautiful, intelligent and confident young woman she became after growing in such an abusive home
I am proud of you for speaking your truth. You are an inspiration! I'm so glad that you are here. You have great courage.
When I was a kid ,my mother was very abusive,used slang languages, used to hit me very hard, always had doubt about my character..She thought I would elope with a boy when I grow up..But now I have showed her who I am, how my character is..I have also changed her way of thinking by constantly talking to her, showing to her movies and serials.. Actually when I was kid ,we lived in a joint family and there she was a victim of domestic violence.. that is why she was very disturbed..She never went to school..She didn't know how to take care of mental health and children..
That explains a lot
Im that child whos abandoned by both of the parents. They started it since my childhood.
Me too I wish I could connect with you or someone with same pain. People do not understand.
I understand... Pls do connect..
Me too
Can we talk?
We really need to make a group
After going through comments i realise so many of us hv faced the trauma which has scared us for life... 💔 Will never know how it feels to hv a happy home or loving mother..
Sometimes I feel western parenting is good because they don't force kids on anything..education, sports,food etc
That's a delusion. There are sinners everywhere
To some extent you are correct. I live in Germany, there is lot of child abuse here too but also child helplines etc and children are taught to express thier mind. This should come in our country.
Western parents are just the other side of the coin. They give too much freedom to their children. Teenage pregnancies & school shootings are very common there
Your story is truly inspiring. And I like what you said that you are not the trauma you faced. You are yourself and it's wonderful that you are helping others
Mere mami ek the. Wo apni ek lauti 3 saal ki beti ko hi pyar nhi krte the. Aur aise case maine aur v dekhe hain jinki mummy apne hi beta ya beti ko pyar nhi krte.
I found your story to be horrific. Often I heard or read about girls from India, Pakistan or the middle East and cannot comprehend the horrors of what they go through in life. Sadly, even many of the married ones are living in fear and bondage as well.
I wish there were more like you who has the courage to break away and speak up.
Bless you.
My mom also sooo much cruel with me 😭😭😭😭😭 I don't know why....she always abuse me kick me hitting me....very dirty abusing....thants why I am suffering from stress dipressed....and harmonal imbalance pcod......but I got very sweet understanding husband who always consult me loves me sooo much caring....and very nice in laws who always loves me thank u god....🙏🙏
What a beautiful. touching and empowering story!! Thank you for sharing with the world of your story & struggles! Sometimes we may feel that our story(s) is too shameful and embarrassing to share, but it's stories like this that help make us stronger and better individuals! I'm so glad you found an angel to help you along the way when you needed someone to come to your rescue! God always makes ways to put guardian angels in the process of our struggles to help us accomplish and take us to where we need to be! I'm grateful on your behalf!
Great going girl..
Yes we are the unlimited power
Loved your story... I have toxic abusive parents so i can feel your pain.
What an INCREDIBLE story!! More power to you!
The truth, shines in your beautiful eyes. God bless you girl.
May God bless you with lots of love and strength.
That person whoever gave birth to this woman, does NOT even deserve the title of being called a mother. I am so glad that this young woman was courageous enough to plan her escape from her abusive mother and start over in a new place far away from her abusive mother. Unfortunately, many abused children don't get the chance to escape such situations. She is one of the lucky ones.
U will never know how truly strong you are until you reach a point where being strong is the only choice you have.