Why I Froze And Apologized During My SEXUAL ASSAULT | Mansi Poddar | Josh Talks
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- Mansi is an award-winning psychologist in Kolkata, West Bengal, who sees adults and teens for individual, family, and couples counseling. She faced a very difficult childhood. Sexually Abused and Sexually molested during her childhood, she felt neglected and at times broken. However, she stood up against all odds and now runs mansitherapy.com. Watch her Josh Talk to know her heart-breaking story.
The origin of the metoo (#metoo) movement bought in many frightening stories of sexual assault, rape, and sexual abuse in real life. All this made us realize the importance of why it is very necessary to be vocal about sexual knowledge and information from a very young age for children to be safe from sexual assault.
This Josh Talk was recorded in January 2018 at Josh Talks Kolkata.
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*Mansi not Masni (writing someone's name wrong isn't cool)
@@afshansiddiqui4323 well said dost!
my thoughts too - arre pehle spellings toh theek kar lo - saalon josh talks waalon !
She has the guts to reveal this unfair & cruel world.
True ma'am
@@divyachauhan361 surely
@Akash Palakk tysm
@@divyachauhan361 what is tysm
@@khaledali1773 thanks
My daughter was bullied by her English teacher at a Melbourne high school and told my daughter she will not get anywhere. She had put my daughter through so much stress and depression but our love and support helped her and she is a lawyer now. Some teachers are horrible to kids from different cultures.
Exactly... I m also facing the same situation. My son's teacher is just disgusting.
Our kids really needs our love care & support at any situations
It's not to do with being of different culture, any reason for being different, looks, weight, ethnicity, etc
Should have reported that teacher and had them sacked.
I truly appreciate you mam ,for this ,wish every parents could do the same thing.
“because I carry it well, doesn’t mean it ain’t heavy”
- Unknown
I still remember when i told my parents about a bad touch which made me uncomfortable... They just shut me up by saying you must be wrong he's not that kind of person n stuff.... Then what happened with me? Am i blind?...
Sorry to say indian parents just put societal pressure on their kids but when it comes about mental health or abuse they just keep num .
Agreed with this analysis...and this makes a point to happen these type of incidence repeat... otherwise it could have been curbed just in the beginning...
Its over
We won't let our kids go through this
@@april110 yeahh
@@abharajoriya4203 agreed👍
so relatable
Teachers are so so toxic in India. Makes me feel so sad what this girl went through, and many others because of poisonous adults
Teachers need to go to jail and receive harsh punishments
Lamo that's literally everywhere
The truth is that teachers mostly form the Rejected lot of India.. the built up frustration results in them being so salty and misanthropes.
It's South-Asian Culture... I was mocked by a teacher as a teenager in front of my friends and other teacher. Oh! Scar and Anxiety.. I developed..
@@indian8321342321 but that is not the student's problem. There is no excuse for child abuse
And she is a leading therapist in Kolkata today lighting up others lives. This story gave me shivers.
i am going through same because my skin become dull😓
@@Thinker68 love yourself,be real
You will go so far. 😊
I am alone 💑💑😍❤❤🌷🌷🙋🙋
@@samridhi9875 thnqu
@@Thinker68 my pleasure 😊
Listen up guys, someone who drowns in 7 feet of water is just as dead as someone who drowns in 20 feet of water. We need to stop comparing traumas and problems. Everyone deserves support and recovery.
I was in class 12th...and I'm a good student but kinda irresponsible and jolly.....one of my teacher who taught me English....she always mocked me in front of whole class in front of teachers as well....even she putt alligations of shouting on class teacher on me....which i have not done....that day I broke into tears....I came home told my mom toh talk to her about this....my mom went to the school..... confront her whole things but she shamelessly denied everything....and told me that I don't respect teachers I wander in corridors....even I dont pay attention in studies....and how will I can study and make my future....she make my mother believed that I was wrong and I have toh apologize by touching her feet and saying sorry mam for being molested and mocked.....on that day I broke down... suddenly after 4 years of my school I don't want to go to the school.... because of her every teacher targets me....I used to frightened....in every single class...I was mocked scolded for doing nothing wrong....I used to sat alone on the last bench and just want to go home.....whole years passed like this and I don't often go to schl and even I left my preboards and at the time of giving admit card they molested me mentally for a piece of paper which is nothing.... which is my right to have it...they took my test and my teacher read it not only for just 5 mins and cross it all by saying that you're not eligible to give board exams....they forced me to cry and beg me for tha single paper for 7 fucking days.....When results came I got 97 Mark out of 100 in English ☺️☺️.....and that English teacher used to say me that I can't do anything in future....and I got 97 in her subject.... because of my another English teacher Vaibhav sir....who encouraged me and make me do this.....One English teacher tear me apart from inside and another give me hope to write poetry to bind me from inside.....And from this situation I concluded that a teacher can make you a winnerr AR a looser ....and I want to became a teacher who doesn't only teach students but also who enlighten them😌
And I have that admit card in present day also I have laminated it😂😂😂😂😂
Main ne bari koshish se Ap ki batain parhi or understand ki han. Ap ne bari preshaniyan face ki Apni Taleem k doran laikin Ap ne phir b himmat na hari i Appriciate you and i salute you. Ap ki english boht Achi ha Masha Allah . Mujhe Ap se ye pochna ha k main kasay Ap ki tarha english sikh sakta hon ? Main Saudi Arab job krta hon. Please mujhe zroor Answer kijiye ga muje Ap k answer ka intizaar rahe ga.
Bravo ! Wish u best of luck Saumya Shukla.
Wish you a luck...more power to u❤️sis..
teachers bohot preshan krte h admit card dene mein sbse jyada
Shocking , I wonder what makes some teachers target some students who are sent by trusting parents to be under their care. Dont these teachers have children of their own, are they not parents themselves? What kind of society are we talking about. Shameful.
*I don't want my child life again* , *I can feel her pain*
Hiiii arpita
@@Villagemasti09 you are the reason for this
Arpita, I admire you for coming forward and expressing your views. Since you can feel the pain, you must come up with ideas and participate in programs with women's organization to relieve at least some of that pain to the next generations proactively. In this regard, please find below some doable ideas for your and your Government’s review:
1. Increasing Psychologists in all Hospitals, especially Marriage and Family Therapists. If you carefully observe the criminal patterns involving women issues, criminals are almost always from dysfunctional families. Even those committing suicides come from dysfunctional families.
2. Increasing visiting Psychologists to all colleges and universities to understand problems of students. Students are more likely to talk to Psychologists than Police.
3. Train Anganwadi, Asha workers and other women-related NGOs on how to pacify the fighting of husband and wife, fighting families, fighting siblings, fighting neighbors, love-failures, love-triangles, stalking etc. related to women issues.
4. Police in uniform may teach an hour class on sexual consent vs sexual harassment in all colleges and universities at least. They may also distribute a page pamphlet on the same.
5. In how many high schools, do they teach about ‘Good Touch’ and ‘Bad Touch’? That must be taught by uniformed police in schools as a special class.
6. All bus stops and railway stations must also carry posters on what is sexual harassment and how to report the same.
7. Before start of cinema, a news reel on different types of harassment may also be run for the sake of those dropped out of schools and working odd jobs. These public Ads may run on TV and Radio also.
8. All Government and Private Employees must be made to sign two or three pages of sexual harassment policy documents.
9. Indians have come to believe women are a property and not human beings. Women have the right to choose their partner. If they don’t like someone, they too have the right to leave that person just like men. Not all men are rich and paying taxes, therefore women tend to stay back instead of divorcing because if they divorce, they’d be on road homeless. When a woman expresses her intent to divorce, she must be helped proactively by Government with monthly stipend, job skills, shelter, kids’ education etc.
10. In India, when a man proposes, women must learn to say emphatic NO or give excuses that their marriage is already decided by their parents. Oddly in India, when a lover commits suicide, they charge the person for abetment to suicide. This is totally ridiculous. If anyone writes a love letter saying ‘I will die without you’ then that person must be immediately reported in the nearest police station instead of falling for it. The police must register case against the person for mental-disease and order psychological counselling.
11. There may be other points the esteemed Politicians, Professors, Activists, judges of High Court and Supreme Court may know of.
Culturally, India following patriarchal hierarchical system where elders always need to be respected, geriatric mental disorders devastate families due to incompetent decisions made by elders(with geriatric mental disorders). Similarly, elderly politicians, elderly celebrities and top bureaucrats with geriatric illnesses (mental/physical) may also devastate a nation’s well-being, thus putting lives at risk like this without striving to improve the mental health of the nation. As soon as someone tells anything scientific for common good involving teamwork, many Indians go through their checklist of discriminatory ideologies subliminally to trust, comprehend and discuss about same. By discriminatory ideologies, I mean religion, caste, race, last-name, tribe, sect, clan, cult, creed, language, region, direction of region(N/S/E/W), last name, pin code, language, skin-color, hair-color, eye-color, gender (women including LGBTQ), media, NGO, business, any Government institution, dress habits, food habits, exercise habits etc. Only when all Intellectuals (of all discriminatory ideologies and all genders) align towards the same ultimate goal of India’s Development ONLY then there will be peace, progress, prosperity and happiness in India.
The Mental health Equation of the entire nation is pretty bad compared to other developed nations. It is astonishing AND ANXIETY PROVOKING KNOWING that
1. 20% of Indian Population is suffering from some form of mental disorder. That’s roughly 40% of Indian adults or 24 crores of Indian adults.
2. As per an Indiatimes video of 2021, there are at least 9 crore mentally-ill Indians and just around 9000 Psychiatrists and just few thousand clinical Psychologists.
3. 1 in 4 Indian adults are suffering from anxiety disorder.
4. 35 lakh Indians need hospitalization for mental illness but only 40 institutions and less than 26 thousand beds.
5. 5.2% of Indian adults suffer from depression that is roughly around 4 crores of Indian Adults.
6. India is the suicide capital of the world. (more than 7 lakhs committing suicides every year, almost half of them women)
7. Another statistic for 2020 says 1 in 5 Indians has some form of mental illness. Is this representative of Demographic Dividend or indicative of an imminent Demographic Disaster?
Is this representative of Demographic Dividend or indicative of an imminent Demographic Disaster? Hence besides just “physical health & education”, law-enforcement & Judiciary, even the mental-health system, research and education in India must be immediately improved and increased/expanded. If there is one branch of medical sciences that needs largest number of seats, it should be mental health (Psychiatrists, Psychologists, Staff, Nurses, Marriage & family therapists, Social Workers, DeAddiction Experts etc.)
Even after diagnosing “all mental patients” in India, India still is not going to be safe just as obviously as USA is not safe. Only when Psychopaths are also diagnosed, then only one can expect India (world) to be safe. However, the definition of Psychopaths is still not clear. On top of it, diagnosis is also vague and subjective. Hence, hope Indian Psychologists/doctors/scientists do research on Psychopathology (group, individual etc.) too.
When criminals come out of their mothers’ wombs, they were as innocent as us when we came out of our mothers’ wombs. What changed since then in the criminals’ lives? Everyone where they lived, their parents, siblings, relatives, friends (current/previous), their teachers, their religious leaders, those who abused/discriminated them, the media(movies, tv, news etc.) they watched, the movie celebrities, sports honchos they followed etc. are all guilty and answerable to this crime though they all may not be punishable in a court of law. Therefore, as human beings let us objectively analyze these crimes not only from the perspective of only criminology but also from the view of Psychology (social, legal, organizational, humanistic, forensic, crowd etc.)
India has a wealth of age-old knowledge in religious domain (Hinduism, Christianity, Islam, Buddhism, Sikhism, Jainism etc.) extolling/respecting/protecting women. But could all the religions solve women’s issues and protect them from Psychopaths (includes women Psychopaths too)? If crimes against women are happening in states like Telangana and Andhra Pradesh where there is a huge proliferation of Christianity and Islam, can anyone imagine the blithe of atrocities on women in small towns and villages across India especially in states of North India and North East where Polygamy exists? If you were mature enough to understand uneven colonial laws of India depending on region and religions, you would start mulling on ‘Uniform Civil Code’ for all Indian women irrespective of their religions. China, Russia, USA, Brazil, Canada, France, Australia, New Zealand all have Uniform Civil Code with very few exceptions. Therefore, let us all pray together and wish ‘Uniform Civil Code’ is discussed and implemented as soon as possible to maintain the respect and dignity of Indian women ensuring their emancipation, empowerment and equality.
For Further research, let us beg all privileged (elected representatives, business magnets, political pundits/mullahs/fatheries, star celebrities, sports supermen/women and yourself if possible) to travel around India, USA, Canada and world. Let us wish they not only enjoy their trips, taking pictures/videos, opening bank accounts, learning/teaching/blaming religions and “experience foods, nature, imaraten/buildings/towers, shopping foreign mall, finding/giving/getting spouses, honey-moon, enjoying music, wine, dance, night-life, and cultures” but also advise/teach their fellow human-beings their experiences/wisdom (old & new) for progress, peace, harmony and prosperity of not only the entire world but also of India. (Given a chance, like you, they are also keen, highly adaptive and always refine themselves!)
SuperHero, Never ask someone who cannot feel the hunger of someone, find only those who can. Right now the problem of India's arranged marriages is such that Psychopaths with harmonal deficiency are born. Only by consensual sex, there is better chance of better human beings born. Therefore, don't accuse or force anyone who cannot empathize with your sexual needs and instead find those who like it.
What happened to you ?
I think Parents need to be trained and train their children.
@@MaheshReddy-05 with common sense or by seeing like this youtube channels.
@@MaheshReddy-05 It is not blaming, just a suggestion
sahi baat
No not only parents world need to train childrens in right way
@@MaheshReddy-05.vuyu
"Raise your standard and people will meet you there" Such a inspirational quote💜
I understand the struggle, I was molested, raped and bullied.. So proud that you can stand so strong speaking about this and for turning your mess into an awesome message and for being such a great inspiration for others to start on their healing journey. Certainly is a motivation for me to start telling my story.
It's so bad here in india Heather Lawne that most times victims are made to believe they provoked it , or they themselves r bad ie their behavior attracted others n the victim needs to correct herself. Most times except in metro cities , mother's r blamed n beaten along with the victim by father n grandmother etc for not teaching social morals ... v hard to tell n write the scenario here. social stigma attached to victim prevents them for talking about about , hence they get no help to counter it , forget about counseling after the incident. Atleast if u r in developed countries then there r ways to come out of this
This is a very sad phenomenon worldwide, i have had the opportunity to have a round table sit down with many woman from various countries and it felt as if they were telling my story. I think that its time to reach out to those in the undeveloped parts if the world, and find a way to be an encourage them. I feel a strong stirring to step up.
@@heatherlawrie325 at what age or was there any problem to be pregnant....i mean after marriage
Molested AND raped? I didn't know there was a difference.
Thus your rapist got punishment?
Raise your standards so that people meet you at that point.... I really inspired with this sentence...
Be an anime weeb and ur standards will spike high.😁😁😁 Cause i do that.😅😅
@@annyjolly4057 Men are getting gay wanting a girl take care of them like a baby while they do nothing for family. A man wants to takecare of his family and feel proud. Both genders have diff roles . Women are burdened to perform both and raise a big baby along with little ones aswell. And she feels noone to care for her.
No words for this brave girl.....yes therapy is for everyone
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I can totally relate with her story i have also went through this my teachers and my classmates even my relatives doesn't liked me because of my looks because i was academically poor.. i got fat i put on weight i was about 60 at the age of 14.. i remember my uncle told my dad that "aapko bht dikkt jane wali hai aapki ladki na padhai me acchi hai na hi dikhne me paisa b h nai aapke pass shadi mushkil h hona iski " I have never been appreciated by any one Never.. my relatives called me kali mata, bhains an all and i was very nice i was so introvert to i kept listening to them... i had no friends nobody was close to me i was depressed i was broken... But one day a friend of mine appreciated me he said " hiiii" that's it.. yes it was a complement for me.. mujhe hi to karna koi dekhta b nai tha meri taraf fr mujhse kisi ne hii kiya khud se!!!! Now i have a 2 master degree.. and about to start my own business 🙏
You gooo girl , you'll rock the world !!
God bless you..please after earning.. help such girls who are facing the same.
God bless you 😇
Being a girl am very proud of you.....Love u💛💛
Many many congratulations
Baap re it was so deep I was able to feel all those emotions 😲
Imagine that a woman this intelligent was told she was stupid by multiple teachers. Imagine all the other kids that went through the same, believed it, and never were able to rise above it.
I'm very happy to know that she shared her story. I know how tough it could be to reveal abuse. My family and I were raised around these things, you know.
@Richa Upadhyay my mother and sister were victims of the same crime.
@Richa Upadhyay yeah
All rapist deserves to be a painful death
Did something happen similar with you in the past?
She's such a strong women. Proud of her
Such a brave lady... Hats off to you..
Yaadoon ka karva it's not women it's woman 🙄🙄
woman.
@@amrita3000 girl 🤔
She is strong girl I ever seen
Sometimes the educated women even laugh at other women or girls who have been harassed by men.
Trrruuueee and such a huge shame
This can happen to them also or their daughters
All the time ..such a shame
They're not educated, they're good at the subject they studied so they got a paper certificate - education never achieved their objective never broadened their horizon.
That's why there is a saying " common sense is the most uncommon thing "
Being molested as a child and bullied by people in school, college and teachers can have a very bad impact on a person , it’s unimaginable, I too have gone through all of this.
School teacher needs therapist. most of them are heartless & rude.
Also college/ university teachers.
teachers only like students who give them gifts frequently
@@ds_DNA sometimes I feel they are there to make students quit , not to teach students .
When my 7 years old daughter said "No" to participate in school annual program, her class teacher told other students that not to play with her and disown her. Teacher also cut her 10marks from one subject as a punishment .
When my daughter told me this, I confirmed with other students and confronted her infront of other parents. She got scared and accepted this criminal act.
Everyone has right to say "No" if they don't want to do anything. No can force. Her school principal( 35years experience) said that if she doesn't listen to us now then she will be more rebellious in future.
To my surprise, that teacher had a master degree in psychology from Delhi university. But because of her husband's transfer to Mumbai she had to work as a teacher in school. This is what she told me.
There are many such incidences had happened in our family because of teachers. In India teachers are really toxic.
Oh my god
True
But did you ever file a police complaint? see, that is where the problem is.
Oh my god, a psychology masters ..did this! Scary!
Toxic teacher
I was bullied too in school...but today I'm more successful in life than those academically excellent classmates. Credit of my success goes to bullying teachers of QMS, KOLKATA.
What does more successful mean BIG INCOME ...how you consider yourself successful
@@chaitanyamarx3340 happiness in whats we doing 😁😁😁😁
Your school is in my neighborhood. I have heard many stories about teachers from your school from some the girls who ik. Pretty toxic stuffs happens at times.
@@chaitanyamarx3340 as long as she considers herself successful, it's fine.
Teachers bullied you in school but in my case i bullied teachers made them cry😂😂😂😂😂😂
Me as a teenage boy, I am feeling sorry for her childhood. I don't have any kind words to say other than God will bless India and other country by punishing the child abusers and to give good heart to teachers.
Ok I have a confession, I’m 37 , I was sexually abused at the age of 5 , I turned to food , I’m 120 kgs now and I don’t know what to do about it… Thankyou for making me realise I actually got bullied by some teachers as well.
Please please connect with over eaters anonymous. I turned to food for comfort
I applaud her courage! However, “Therapy is for everyone” needs to translate into both, availability and affordability.
Yeah . They say it's for everyone. But the kind of sum / fee u have to pay per session makes me more suicidal. Its definitely not for the masses at rs 2000 per session. If they really want to help out and remove stigma, first thing they should make it more economical for common man otherwise most people find it unapproachable from this point of view. I do understand its the livelihood of the therapist . But a balance ought to be maintained.
Really true..
@@shirinkaur627 so well outlined-I think the charges need to be means tested and the governments need to offer grants to support people who underprivileged-therapy needs to be given to all at school and parents needs to attend parent workshop therapy-There is nothing worst for young people who have not healed to go and enter realtionaships and have children -Traumas are passed to others around us if not treated properly. But it is never too late to have therapy -It take courageous people like Mansi to inspire others to drop all shame and seek help
If someone here want to become a teacher later or is a teacher. Make sure you help kids like her.
sure😊
@@boonie3571 Thats sweet priya. A lot of people don’t understand how horrible and harmful it can be for kids. Are you studying at the moment?
I went through the same story in my life, bullied everyday, beaten everyday by teachers, teachers were always rude to me, I thought negative about myself everytime, gained lot of weight and became obese too, now people say lose weight but no one will ever know from where this weight comes, I was so fit in my childhood loved playing sports and loved dancing but by then everything vanished somehow while growing up but now I suffer in life because of those people so never judge an obese person by his or her body there's always some reason behind it. I wish I recover myself soon too😢
Sure brother, you'll definetley come out of it. Start loving yourself and your body. Nobody i say nobody can snatch your happiness.
You surely will❤❤
Et 2 il 9 were
Currently am in 12th .. Just 2 yr ago tht means when I was in 10th , an incident happens wid me,
mere ek rude minded maths teacher ne mujhe pita tha kyuki mai us subject ke class test pe absent tha, fir se ek aur class test hua mai tab jaanbooj ke absent hua , fir jab class mai gaya tab usne firse mujhe pitne ki koshish ki, lekin tab wo danda mere hath mai tha, pata nahi tab mere andar kiska aatma ghus gaya tha itna rage hogaya tha , aur baaki teachers bhi mera roop dekhke dar gaye the tabse leke aaj tak wo teacher mujhe mere samne bhi nahi dikha. Sach me mar deta us din teacher ko, usko kaha tha mene, problem ke baare main)....literally bhai i almost killed him!
@@devop2006 can we have a conversation. If you are comfortable
Extremely heartbreaking. So sad that she or any other woman has to go through this in life. Bravo
No I'm not sorry for you, I'm proud of you, you're fighter wonder woman. God bless but women should be taught to fight for themselves and stand up for themselves from a very early age.
Ok
It is not just for women, it is for both men and women
@@falsecasesbywife4407 Absolutely correct but I know for sure in our country, a large section of women who get battered by their men. Surely that is not the case with most men? So referred to women only. Peace to you. 🙏🙏
@@adithitarafdar694 hi ...someone helps me.
Insensitive teachers and a horrible educational system!
Education system 🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮
Got it.. Correct 👍
There was this teacher in My class @ school (early 1990s),we used to call him Veerappan (yes the bandit).
He used to ask the name of our parents by asking " who is your producer".?
@@manojthomas9859 teachers only like students who give them gifts frequently
My teacher also misbehaved with me.. And my mother complaint against her to headmaster of my school.... She stopped to talk with me because she felt she was insulted by us.... Also told me she did not want to talk with me.....
I dont know why but my principle had targeted me in class 6-7, he used to beat me for the same problem others too cant solve. He just didnt liked me. Due to the ongoing mental pressure of everyday beating My face had became very dull and wrinkly like a old man. I had lost so much weight that time. My Parents used to ask me whats the issue, what is your tension but i hided because my classmates will laugh at me as i am complaining to my parents (yes it was thought funny, calling your parents to school). Still, I just hate that principle. I see him everyday and my blood boils to see him. That was the worst time of my life.
♥️♥️🤗 it's okay buddy
Currently am in 12th .. Just 2 yr ago tht means when I was in 10th , an incident happens wid me,
mere ek rude minded maths teacher ne mujhe pita tha kyuki mai us subject ke class test pe absent tha, fir se ek aur class test hua mai tab jaanbooj ke absent hua , fir jab class mai gaya tab usne firse mujhe pitne ki koshish ki, lekin tab wo danda mere hath mai tha, pata nahi tab mere andar kiska aatma ghus gaya tha itna rage hogaya tha , aur baaki teachers bhi mera roop dekhke dar gaye the tabse leke aaj tak wo teacher mujhe mere samne bhi nahi dikha. Sach me mar deta us din teacher ko, usko kaha tha mene, problem ke baare main)....i almost killed him
Well done, such teachers deserve it. I wish i had such powers in my 6th class.😂
My dad taught me when I was just in class 3 that I should run away if any man or even a woman tries to touch me or even calls me near them. It helped when a shop keeper at the road near my home asked me to come inside the shop I will give you a Cadbury chocolate. I went near him then he said come closer, I went more near almost near his knee and then he asked me to come more closer then I don’t know what happened to me I ran away from there to my home. I never went to his shop again. He used to look at me every time I passed by and he continued to look at me even as I became a teenager and my 20s as if he missed something. I didn’t had guts to tell this to my parents as they will scold me. Now he has become so old.
😂
@@AdityaJha-kk2qc 😄😄😄
Yes your story may be every day happen with someone
Correct... He's habitual. Others might had hurt
Your dads taught is not correct, its make you as an island,you always keep distance from man, then how did you know about men, its effect you in your family life.
The batter way is teach a girl to respect all men, also do not allow anyone to touch their private parts. even their relatives parents ....
Teachers shouldn’t be toxic ... they should be punished for that
Yeah true
Oh how my teachers will u punish they have education in teaching school acadamic psychology. I don't agree .my teacher said u r smile is very beautiful maths teacher she got encouragement.
Ig its a contervasal question
I think the teacher training should be improved.
No teacher teaches bad for their students. Their may b some other reason may b the ignition started from this girl. I am teaching maths and science since 30 years
This type of men make other men feel shy about themselves being a man.....
that's okay bro, there are women worse than those men, if anybody says all the men are same then you say yes we're all same and we proud of it 🤣🤣 they'll not mess with you again 😅
@@user-yc1vy6pt2u are u fkn crazy?
This just made me realize that there are so many things I personally went through & thank you ❤🥺
I am so afraid , what should I do so that my child will never hide any hardship she/he is facing ? Any idea ?? Why children are afraid to tell their parents about these things ??
@@Robin-il4ev cause they are scared of you. Try to build a friendlier relationship
@@Robin-il4ev coz parents aren't friendly, won't take their side ....
My mother is very friendly but when I was touched inappropriately (I was 9)by my father's friend, she didn't take my side..
Kept this a secret..
🙃he used to visit very often even after that..
That kills a child..seeing their parents not helping them..
@@SatvikSingh_ No they aren't scared of me , Jab honge tab too scared honge 😂. I was just curious
@@poojaKumari-oj3eg So does he visits now also , kya wo nazrein mila oata hai abhi tumse ? Have you confronted him now ? Why didn't you narrated all these to you father. Asking just so that I won't repeat these mistakes as a parent
Broken are the more evolved, so is you mansi
so true...👌
Fan of SPLIT 🙂
Preach 😊🙌🏻
don't judge people if u don't know theirs story!!!
True
lol. don't judge even after knowing their story.
@@VivekSingh06 right!
Exactly
What?? Are you defending the abusers?
I have been molested multiple times in my life. And I'm myself a living proof of being sexually harassed by both men and women. Your words gave me strength. Thank you so much Ma'am! 🙏
Sorry to hear
Sorry to hear 😢 did you get any justice?
@@AvTar257 Unfortunately, no!
The sad thing is that most often teachers join the profession of teaching to earn money. They dont realise that this an opportunity to help children particularly those who have had to face such difficulties and traumas . I admire the bravery of Manasi for coming out and making an effort to help other victims of bullying and abuse.
When I was in primary school [govt], parents of students usually had high respect for teachers. Because they themselves are illiterates but they wanted their kids to be educated. So they even encourage the teachers to beat the students to study hard.There is no way a kid can complain about teacher to his parents. Because their parents have much faith in teachers than their own kids.
I applaude her for overcoming her own adversities and making a career out of it.
So true I think somewhere this is relatable
Not having any unknown information make other vulnerable child or person have to pay heavy price.
Currently am in 12th .. Just 2 yr ago tht means when I was in 10th , an incident happens wid me,
mere ek rude minded maths teacher ne mujhe pita tha kyuki mai us subject ke class test pe absent tha, fir se ek aur class test hua mai tab jaanbooj ke absent hua , fir jab class mai gaya tab usne firse mujhe pitne ki koshish ki, lekin tab wo danda mere hath mai tha, pata nahi tab mere andar kiska aatma ghus gaya tha itna rage hogaya tha , aur baaki teachers bhi mera roop dekhke dar gaye the tabse leke aaj tak wo teacher mujhe mere samne bhi nahi dikha. Sach me mar deta us din teacher ko, usko kaha tha mene, problem ke baare main)....
Bro, it's not only with illiterate people it's also with literate , when my father use to visit tuition teacher or school teacher he use to say one thing 'Maar ke chahe haath pair tod dena , lekin number achhe aane chahiye' .
I use to thought it's normal bcz I m dumb but now i use to think how shitty my parents and the society thinks
This story is about 9 years back . I went to a tuition at my friends place. The teacher came very late that day. Me and my friend and his brother was playing in their balcony we were in class 6 or 7 . Suddenly we heard the neighbours fighting. The fight was a big one. The man threw the woman out of his house and the woman was standing naked. She was crying but not a single person came to her help. We all were standing in the balcony. That woman was crying for 2hours straight. That incident left me mentally disturbed
😂😂
@@heyavi2647 what's so funny about this?!
dont you have sense of humor ?.,,
what was the need to laugh.,
such a shameless person
@@heyavi2647 you piece of shit stop laughing, Don't u have a little bit of humanity
Does she have private hair or trimmed..?
i have no words to say anything. But she is brave and courageous. The most powerful woman I have ever saw.
It takes lot of courage to speak up about the abuse you have gone through. Thanks to people like Mansi who are sharing their stories and creating awareness on the subject. Awareness on these issues are Much needed. Love and God bless 🙏🙏💖💞
It’s so sad that teachers are able to talk shame small children....
I can relate to her. It’s a sad fate that molestation to child is so common yet never discussed freely. Every school , every parent should be trained how to prevent abuse and find clue to know if anything amiss is happening to a child. Even in a top private convent school most teacher are very rude. They show favouritism to some specific children of a class and believe me it crushes the confidence of other. They always feel low and down. They see teacher , parents and relatives comparing them with the few topper of the society and soon they accept what the immediate people around them say to them.
true bt we can’t do anything means kitna nazar rkhe
something very similar happened to me when i was a kid and it went on for years I'm glad you shared your story with us i still have that fear in me that if i wear something pretty i might get molested again i started wearing dull clothes and it became my personality
but you sharing it makes me realise i can also move ahead from this trauma do things to make my life better thank you really.
One of the most honest and unabashed personal disclosures of early childhood molestations that is so rampant in society. Indeed very appreciable that this young lady was able to fight against all terrible odds, even though she was in a helpless exploitative situation and has regained her self esteem and realized her purpose in life to become what she is today. I am sure her Frank and candid but rather sad story of having to go through such horrific experience at a young age and yet emerging victorious in life with the confidence she has demonstrated- should give great hope to others who may be in a similar situation to - take courage and rebuild their lives. Simply Fantastic!
Heartbroken... Shame on such teachers. Sometimes teachers fail to understand the impact of their words.
I love u am alone ❤❤😍😍
Even so called parents and brother sister
@@BLESSED_BY_GURUKRUPA true. How can your parents not understand your situation.
@VasiL here you are looking more frustrated. So mind your words
@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz go to hell
I have always been academically good in school but now when I look back, I remember how those who weren't were treated. It was not with everyone, it wasn't always intentional but yeah, casual jokes, comments, only for the rest of the students to laugh. Teachers often can be just be so toxic. Being such a big part of someone's childhood, they really are not well trained on how to deal with kids.
I feel so sorry for this lady for having to go through all this and glad that she ultimately found the courage and help to stand for herself.
I just totally relate her . when she started talking about her childhood i felt that someone is narrating mine , i was like this is my story. I was molested by several men some of them were my relative and some were people whom my know. I was so young that i was not aware what is going on. At the age of 14 i realized somehow what was going on my life. i was also gaining weight and being bullied . My mom was abusive and i felt that no one really love me except my father but he was also a busy person. so i couldnot share these things to anyone . Then i started hating myself and people around me . I started attempting suicide then one day i really did it but luckily survived . Things after that started changing my mom started understanding me and start providing me love and care . My life was really changed and i am happy that i attempted suicide . Now i am a different person and doing really well in my life.
I like golu molu people's bro, they looks so cute 😊
U mst stnd for ur self cmmon,
😂Currently am in 12th .. Just 2 yr ago tht means when I was in 10th , an incident happens wid me,
mere ek rude minded maths teacher ne mujhe pita tha kyuki mai us subject ke class test pe absent tha, fir se ek aur class test hua mai tab jaanbooj ke absent hua , fir jab class mai gaya tab usne firse mujhe pitne ki koshish ki, lekin tab wo danda mere hath mai tha, pata nahi tab mere andar kiska aatma ghus gaya tha itna rage hogaya tha , aur baaki teachers bhi mera roop dekhke dar gaye the tabse leke aaj tak wo teacher mujhe mere samne bhi nahi dikha. Sach me mar deta us din teacher ko, usko kaha tha mene, problem ke baare main)....
@@devop2006 hey bruh
U are great
If you don't mind I wanna talk with you
Oh My God
Such A strong women
Great daring great fighter
she is a gem of a person
NGL this woman's ordeal broke me. She's so cool in delivering this talk.
You know every second person in the audience has been molested.
Children dont have words for what is happening to them.
Amazing share Mansi! YOU ROCK!! You have just made me feel elated by your infection of how you have raised yourself above the situations. Great work! We need more of you in our society!! More than a mother!!!
I’m sorry dear that you had to go through such terrible trauma .. 😞😭
appreciate you for the courage for sharing this ... i totally understand the pain that u suffered for so many years ... and wish n pray that you heal fast .. Mansi .. you are truly beautiful and bright .. you have not let this traumatic experience stop you for moving ahead ., to help others in similar situations .. i salute you .. you r simply wonderful .. wish you all the best in your endeavours
God bless .. sending you healing Hugs ..🤗💌
I want to hug this woman.
Teacher in India used to do this with children even their own children are dump(in their language). Everyone takes opportunity to make fun of weak one.
The correct lines you said 👌
Me too. My maths teacher. I will never forgive her.
Such an inspiration. As a therapist and victim of childhood sexual abuse myself, I'm very passionate about protecting children. The main issue with Indian society even today is being brainwashed that you have to respect all your elders, worship your elders and teachers, they are always right. At the risk of sounding offensive, no they are not-treat child, adult and animal with respect if they deserve it. Sadly teachers are given the "Guru" status but many of them aren't deserving of it. They are not "Gurus", they are human beings, just as flawed, aren't all-knowing and need more training/ education in mental health.And oh please consider a police/ criminal check for all professionals who come in contact with children.
I was shivering while listening to these harsh truths. We don’t know how many children are going through such a horrific experiences every day around us. We as a society should be vigilant about our surroundings. Unfortunately we are all always doped in our own thoughts and moods.
That teacher was the worst who added to ur misery.
@@jashmersandhu Ig she had addend this point which she didn't face in her life cuz when she was child the dustbins are small we can't stand in it
After watching this, I think I also need a therapy. My parents never going to understand. I have to do this secretly.
Thank you for giving me courage.
We are very happy to see you get inspired by this Josh Talk.
All the best to you - take care and keep going forward
IamDaahDude want to talk to me? I am experienced in dealing with this.
Come-on go Ahead
If your parents never understand . Believe in yourself stay strong
If anything wrong happens to you raise your voice before truth dies. Always stay strong
Jesonmadi✝️ Jihadi🛐,Bharat🇮🇳 desh ki barbadi.
Jesonmadi✝️ Jihadi🛐,Bharat🇮🇳 desh ki barbadi.
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She has described the topic with a different perspective and that's quite an admirable thing. Keep going Mansi..
Hats off to you Mansi for opening up so much and guiding many who are going through struggles of life. God bless you.
This woman has survived so much thing in life, and emerges as a hero. Family and society needs to evolve. Children spent a quality time in schools. In India, most of people who become Teachers are for not the sake of teaching but as a job to get money. I am not talking about good teachers but about the bad ones, these scumbags are allowed to destroy and humiliates millions of children. I have also faced such scumbag teachers in my school days. The School system need to change drastically. It should be a place for learning and not bullying or destroying confidence and morale of young lives.
Teachers are the most ignorant in India. Inexperienced pathetic people are educating our children. Horrifying
Kindly don't generalize.
@@shiprabhanu9562 I am so sick of social justice warriors talking about generalizations. Obviously there are exceptions but india in general lacks exposure and is a backward society. The teachers are ignorant hailing from small towns and barely have seen anything in their lives. Ignorant bunch of twits.
💯 correct most of the teachers' eyes only see bright students they don't have extra eyes for academic failure students. I have also faced many times
@@goddessvibes08 true teachers expect everything to be sunshine and rainbows
@@laysathymangsang3872 I was high performing but was still harrassed!!! Teachers need to have emotional intelligence and understanding of children. We are human beings and need human touch in schools.
Thank you for having the courage to share your story. We desperately need these discussions to make a change. Too many suffer in silence while many others would rather ignore the reality around them as it is uncomfortable to accept the darkness in our society.
Here the no. Of people appreciating the maths teacher 👇
Parents should actually tell their kids before they even turn into a teenager. It's okay to break their innocence just to make them AWARE of what is right and what is not. Infact parents SHOULD ask/ talk/ make kids to confide to them. And support is really important. If the kids can't even talk freely to their parents I don't know how they'll ever have sufficient self-confidence to even be themselves.
When she said "ppl run away when the see you too talkative, this is true cause they don't like to hear negativity" this really hit me hard n I broke down...😭
@@Thinker68 yes n since lock down I realised that we are the only ones who can understand ourselves n also realised that mum is the only person who understands me deeply well...
@@Thinker68 yes...
@@Thinker68 sry I don't chat with anyone much on social media
@@Thinker68 ok...
To be honest I like talkative people .I like listing to them .I can listen to anyone speaking for hours.
This video is an eye-opener! This woman has a lot of guts! God bless her for her courage. If you want to change the world, speak up people 🙏
I hope Mansi gets this note, that I was so touched by her story that I cried, I wish her all the best, all the love and I hope she knows that she has turned out to be a very special woman, who is so inspiring, lovely and so well spoken.
This is so heartbreakingly sad.
Hats off to her courage.
Teachers in India should be made to undergo good training before they start teaching. It requires a lot of patience to handle children. People with anger issues cannot do this job. In our school teachers used to beat us black and blue on trivial things. Some sort of psychoanalysis test should be mandatory to check whether the person is fit for teaching.
Training the teachers won't make any difference....BAD people are bad.... everyone knows what is right & what is wrong
Exactly
They show their personal frustration on students
No training will work. In India, everyone is frustrated and ready to harm themselves unless they have some responsibilities.
@@VivekSingh06 NO. U can't give frustration as an EXCUSE for BAD BEHAVIOR!
You are brave dear to open up. God bless you! This isn't easy to talk about at all. Most of us women, I think, have been through some type of abuse. 💖🙏💖
Most moving Mansi. You have become who you are and are helping other children. I'm so sorry for what happened to you at school. Thank you for speaking up. I'm a teacher and teacher trainer and outraged.
She has no hesitation to tell Wt happened in her childhood... every girl should have this courage to pull out that creatures... not only their future...at present too...
True about bullying by teachers. It scars kids for life.
Yes effect their mental health progress
Absolutely..scars kids life
teachers only like rich students who give them gifts frequently
Wonderfully spoken by Manasi! It was a very daring speech needing much guts!! I would be happy to adopt her as my daughter!!! I love you, my dear Manasi. -- M.B. Jayaram, Chennai
It's very sad .... But you are an example who came over all these.. 👏👏👏
It's really difficult when you don't have support from family. . Or friends...
These school words are so relatable ... I hate my school life and my teachers .
I'm in absolute awe of this woman. I wish that every child on this planet has her courage to speak up that which she is doing now as an adult. 👏👏👏👏👏
In India it is not easy to speak out, you will be rejected by your relatives and friends. This is happening to lot of people in India.
So here is my story,,,
I was of only 4 to 5 years old... in my school, our drawing teacher molested me for 2 years. He pressed my chest in front of the class several times... he always tried to make me stand too close to him and ..............I have not shared this incident with anyone until now... yeah..that time I was not aware of good and bad touch. I let him do whatever he wanted to do... It made me feel a little wired that time..but according to my family's advice, teachers and elders can't be wrong... I realized this incident when I was in 10th standard. At first, I felt that I am responsible for it and then I watched few videos of such people who had gone through such situations... then I got a little bit inspired to share it... now I am 18 years old..actually co incidentally I met that man today at the market... .......... I was with my parents. I wanted to share it with them and gave that man punishment, but I failed..1st time I shared this incident with people, I am feeling little light... I will suggest guys raise your voice against such misdeeds... Don't be a fool like me..
A brave wise woman sorry you suffered so much. Well done for turning your life around and helping so many.
I was bullied in school too 4 years back jab m new school new logo k bich m aai , na ek properly hindi aati thi ,na dost the bcz log majak bante the meri hindi ki 11-12 zindgi ka sbse Bura time rha .. barish m class s bhar Kadha kr Dena jab class m max. Bacho Ko ans nahi aate the but still teacher used to make me stand outside the class room , har 2 din parents Ko bulana . Thank you God that they gave me supportive parents .. and also jab m new new school aai tab hindi tecaher n bot support krra and I am very thankful to her that she supported me when rest of the teacher bullied me ...
Something that needs to be changed in India along with the education system is the quality of teachers ...teachers today are selfish and apathetic...they are useless ...they do not know what real teacher means.....
Sab thik h
Totally correct yrr 👍
teachers only like rich students who give them gifts frequently
my cousin molested me for years and years until he left the country...
After a few years he had hid own child-a girl- and when we met in a family meeting, he casually apologized to me (when there were others around too) about 'everything'. I was seething inside yet i couldnt do anything to ruin the family atmostphere and just asked him 'for what?' and he just looked awkward and said...well,everything.
I was no more than 10 when he was 26 or so, and it countinued for years,and all he had to say was 'sorry' when he got a baby girl and finally probably understood how horrible it might have been.
I am literally crying hearing your story. You are a super brave lady.
My prayers for you.
God bless you with more & more strength day by day. Amen
I cried as I feel she has such horrible childhood. Because it is a treasure and you get it only once.basterds grabbed her treasure.
Have suffered more than her
@@simar3854 doesn't make it any better, if u go through shit, talk about it instead of bragging about it
@@mann_mishra05 who is bragging about it ..bragging is speaking high of yourself . Correct yourself first n stop being harsh on such topics being a woman
@@mann_mishra05 Everyone has their own situations. Don't judge.
@dimple7 the comment on the above " I have suffered more than her " makes the video content feels nothing or makes her suffering feels nothing so probably Mishra would have put it that way.. is what I feel. I don't think it's wrong bcz I got the same thought while reading that comment
As a teacher, we should give importance to the different facets of characteristics and condiotions of our students....Hats off to you mam...you are the living example of struggle and success...
Touched by her story.. It's a fact that we are living in the same place.. I know what's her feeling when everyone bullies us for low academics.. Even I faced it.. But now.. I'm no longer facing problems.. I also got so many helps and healed myself.. Also trying to compliment others and heal them..
I am sad and sorry to hear what happened to you.
You are a wonderful person, and more courageous than most of us. I respect you for your courage. Indian society needs to change and need to start calling out these monsters and bringing them to justice. The children need to be educated against such monsters - just the same way as they are taught to cross a busy road full of traffic.There is no shame in these matters - parents absolutely need to talk to their kids and take them seriously whenever they report any such incident rather than sweeping it under the rug. You are a wonderful person - I respect you for your courage and straightforwardness. People/Parents who have watched your video would have learnt something and hopefully that would prevent similar situations from happening to any other kid. By making this video, you have made an important contribution to the world - especially to Indian society where discussing these crimes is still a taboo.
It is really an eye opener to your inner feelings. Never really understood why anyone should stay in an abusive relationship.
Courageous & brutally honest. You are right, kids often lead a lonely, isolated and miserable existence. Both elders and other kids are extremely insensitive.
Hey I am your viewer too.
I hear so much of myself in this. It still reaches into my life today. So many of my choices have been toxic to me. Even as a mother of 4 adult children I am still often chained by my very damaged childhood. It's a daily struggle, sometimes I win the battle but more than often I lose. I may fail but ultimately I will be victorious. Thank you for uploading this talk.
How can adult people live with themselves after doing anything so gross with a child. They have also been a child, would they want smth like that. Its so devious playing with innocence like that. Things like these make me believe that world is coming to an end. Because as adults we have lost control over our body, soul and actions. What's the difference between us and animals. Even an animal such as dog is so caring and protective towards a child.
I hate being a human , instead I would be happy if I can become a turtle
😂😂😂😂(🐢)😂😂🤣🤣🤣💨
Oh ! Then you may easily become a meal time to a Tiger-shark or a Jaguar.Freed !
every species have their own difficulties in their life but difficulties on human beings are because of other humans
Walk like turtle 🐢🐢
I want to be a dolphin!!
Wow the way mansi mam delivered her thoughts I m shocked how she struggled in her life and now changing the life of other people's.reallu u r a great motivator.
Thanks so much
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I was also a victim....but I am lucky to have such parents....I opened this up to my bhaiya first...and he supported me...I am really proud of my family