Terri, your channel is like "Psychotherapy for Dummies" in the best way possible. I've read many self help/psychology books but the way you break everything down just clicks:) Keep up the good work!
I could listen to you talk for hours! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I wish everybody on this planet would see the part about ownership. If people started thinking about their relationship like that - lucky to be in a relationship with that person - I think a lot of relationships would be much happier. I look forward to your videos each week! 💛🌼💛
Kimberly- Thanks you so much for your comment and for being here with me! PS: Join us for a weekly live stream and ask me ANY questions We just launched our waiting list for The Real Love Revolution, lot's of free gifts and a free private Facebook Group ( just for women ) Click her to join for free: www.terricole.com/RLR
Excellent advice, Terri!! Thank you for sharing this with us! I heard a story of a man (might have even been a pastor) and his wife had really bad asthma and would sometimes need him to get her inhaler. The one day they got into an argument and they went to bed mad. In the middle of the night, the man felt his wife tapping him, but he ignored it, assuming it had to do with the fight. The next day, she was still asleep when he left for work. He went through his day and began to feel bad and wanted to make her feel better. He got her flowers and by the time he got home, she was still in bed. Dead. She was apparently having an asthma attack the night before and was trying to get her inhaler and he had let his wife die because he went to bed angry. I absolutely agree!!
Oh Terri, thank you SO very much for posting these videos for those of us who REALLY benefit from the beautiful voice and fantastic information. I only recently came across your videos and I assure you that the moment I found them...I'm completely hooked. This came at the most important time in my life. Feeling broken, lost and frustrated that the skills that are so needed to thrive as an individual were NEVER taught to me, too many of us. Thank you, thank YOU from the bottom of my heart. THANK YOU! Peace, love and happiness....
Kristie- I am so happy to be "found" by you and so grateful the content here is adding value to your evolution in this life! Keep learning and I will keep putting out content that can help. You are right MOST of us were never taught these skills but the best news is that we can all learn and create happy, healthy lives for ourselves. Keep up the great work!
Hi Terri- I only recently found your videos and love them! You are genuine and engaging and I always get something from them. I am having to work out some bad things in a relationship right now and your videos give me guidance and hope. They also make me look in the mirror which is painful but necessary. Thank you!
Awww thanks Levin! And yes yes yes to YOU having healthy, beautiful love ;) PS: Join us for a weekly live stream and ask me ANY questions We just launched our waiting list for The Real Love Revolution, lot's of free gifts and a free private Facebook Group ( just for women ) Click her to join for free: www.terricole.com/RLR
Terri Cole Real Love Revolution Done! Levin is my alias..... just so you know :) thank you so much for inviting me personally. It means a lot to me that you did.
Very good. Thank you so much, Terri. In my family there was interrupting, criticism, screaming, no listening etc.😶 I'm 57 and am learning to communicate in a correct, empathic and friendly way. Your videos help so much! 🤗
Basically, don't be a total jerk! (and actually be nice!) I feel these 20 rules apply to ALL relationships, with your mom, your kids, your friends. Don't criticize, don't blame, listen, let them have their dreams, be empathetic, say sorry! Don't be a jerk!
Love this video. Thanks for caring and sharing. I have been working on becoming a better person for the past 20 years. I am in a long term relationship and work daily on being a good partner. Love those tips. XO
LOL, point 20 was something my mother said often. Tried to explain that to my wife, bad move. Life is short you only get one go at it. No use holding bitterness on other people, let them go free in your heart. Still be careful with them, just let the bad emotions go. What's more funny, my wife said very horrible things about my mother to get a rise off me (I saw through it). I think it was because my mother saw through my wife, my mother was very discrete and would never say anything without me asking first (anything she thought was personal / advise). She passed away before I woke up, would have been good to have talked about it and let her know "The sleeper has awakened".
Thank you so much. My partner has NDP and he doesn't like intimacy or sex. This has caused me lots of pain and after years of no affection I have had to seek a divorce. It's very painful but we can't go on like this.
Thanks Rosemary! I'm so glad the content of the video resonated with you. PS: Join us for a weekly live stream and ask me ANY questions We just launched our waiting list for The Real Love Revolution, lot's of free gifts and a free private Facebook Group ( just for women ) Click her to join for free: www.terricole.com/RLR
great info....never heard these tips....thank you......My ex and I had to break up because firstly, and this is hard to admit, he binge drinks and gets sloppy and staggering and mean as a drunk and his personality changes so much he is nothing like his sweet and smart personality when he is sober...so that was confusing as hell...like a jeckyll and hyde...also I did not respect him for that and I felt like he chose alcohol over me and over taking care of himself...but as an addict perhaps he has no choice....secondly he had no vision for what our future looks like...we had no shared couples vision together....I tried to talk to i'm about it but he was blank...I have to forgive myself for not knowing....I had terrible relationship models growing up....I never learned healthy relationships until now...I am learning now...terri cole, alanon, coda....I also have so much shame for not knowing better but how could I?....
You did the best you could with what you had. And now you are seeking resources and you're learning. When you know better you do better. I am sending you strength and compassion for your own growth, and I am cheering you on!
This guy accuses me of punishing him. He lives 7 hrs away, I very rarely get to see him and we usually text a fair bit. Sometimes talk on the phone. He is friends with his ex wife and keeps me a secret from her and everyone. He promised I could spend his bday with him, then 3 weeks before, he said he has to now spend it with his sister and ex. I can still come, he says, but I have to hide and wait for his return. So. I didn’t go. And he is really angry with me. Saying I am jealous and punishing. I ruined his birthday. But I think it’s disrespectful and showing a lack of priority of me…
I feel powerless in this relationship and have been waiting for a year, A YEAR in limbo, with false promises to move towards us while he begs for my patience. No progress. More distance on my part. But he says he feels stronger than ever.
I am witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️ It sounds like you might need to make a choice on whether you want to stay or not. It does not sound like you are punishing, either.
I’m 24 and want to say BIG THANK YOU for Your wise words and for this channel being place where I can learn things right way❤️
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Thank you so much for your sharing. I am learning a great deal from you . ❤
So beautiful to have this resource in preparing to date again after ending a 19 year relationship. It should be called how to win at love 💕
Terri, your channel is like "Psychotherapy for Dummies" in the best way possible. I've read many self help/psychology books but the way you break everything down just clicks:) Keep up the good work!
Wow! Thank you, Bree. That makes me so happy to hear xoxoxo
I could listen to you talk for hours! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. I wish everybody on this planet would see the part about ownership. If people started thinking about their relationship like that - lucky to be in a relationship with that person - I think a lot of relationships would be much happier. I look forward to your videos each week! 💛🌼💛
Kimberly-
Thanks you so much for your comment and for being here with me! PS: Join us for a weekly live stream and ask me ANY questions
We just launched our waiting list for The Real Love Revolution,
lot's of free gifts and a free private Facebook Group ( just for women )
Click her to join for free: www.terricole.com/RLR
Excellent advice, Terri!! Thank you for sharing this with us! I heard a story of a man (might have even been a pastor) and his wife had really bad asthma and would sometimes need him to get her inhaler. The one day they got into an argument and they went to bed mad. In the middle of the night, the man felt his wife tapping him, but he ignored it, assuming it had to do with the fight. The next day, she was still asleep when he left for work. He went through his day and began to feel bad and wanted to make her feel better. He got her flowers and by the time he got home, she was still in bed. Dead. She was apparently having an asthma attack the night before and was trying to get her inhaler and he had let his wife die because he went to bed angry. I absolutely agree!!
Thank you for sharing such a poignant story- that really illustrates the point ❤️
Oh Terri, thank you SO very much for posting these videos for those of us who REALLY benefit from the beautiful voice and fantastic information. I only recently came across your videos and I assure you that the moment I found them...I'm completely hooked. This came at the most important time in my life. Feeling broken, lost and frustrated that the skills that are so needed to thrive as an individual were NEVER taught to me, too many of us. Thank you, thank YOU from the bottom of my heart. THANK YOU! Peace, love and happiness....
Kristie-
I am so happy to be "found" by you and so grateful the content here is adding value to your evolution in this life! Keep learning and I will keep putting out content that can help. You are right MOST of us were never taught these skills but the best news is that we can all learn and create happy, healthy lives for ourselves. Keep up the great work!
Hi Terri- I only recently found your videos and love them! You are genuine and engaging and I always get something from them. I am having to work out some bad things in a relationship right now and your videos give me guidance and hope. They also make me look in the mirror which is painful but necessary. Thank you!
I wANT THIS KIND OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! thank you Terri for sharing! you are adorable!
Awww thanks Levin! And yes yes yes to YOU having healthy, beautiful love ;) PS: Join us for a weekly live stream and ask me ANY questions
We just launched our waiting list for The Real Love Revolution,
lot's of free gifts and a free private Facebook Group ( just for women )
Click her to join for free: www.terricole.com/RLR
Terri Cole Real Love Revolution Done! Levin is my alias..... just so you know :) thank you so much for inviting me personally. It means a lot to me that you did.
I thank you ,i love you ,I am grateful and glad to meet you here and follow you X
You are loved
Wow, this is really amazing! Thank you Terri!
Very good. Thank you so much, Terri. In my family there was interrupting, criticism, screaming, no listening etc.😶 I'm 57 and am learning to communicate in a correct, empathic and friendly way. Your videos help so much! 🤗
So happy to hear it, Mireille! Thanks for being here ;)
Terri, you look STUNNING in this video. You remind me of those glamorous Hollywood stars of the 50s!
Basically, don't be a total jerk! (and actually be nice!)
I feel these 20 rules apply to ALL relationships, with your mom, your kids, your friends.
Don't criticize, don't blame, listen, let them have their dreams, be empathetic, say sorry! Don't be a jerk!
Hahaha I totally agree with you, Sarah! I think this is good advise for everyone!! Thanks for you comment xo
Love this video. Thanks for caring and sharing. I have been working on becoming a better person for the past 20 years. I am in a long term relationship and work daily on being a good partner. Love those tips. XO
LOL, point 20 was something my mother said often. Tried to explain that to my wife, bad move. Life is short you only get one go at it. No use holding bitterness on other people, let them go free in your heart. Still be careful with them, just let the bad emotions go.
What's more funny, my wife said very horrible things about my mother to get a rise off me (I saw through it). I think it was because my mother saw through my wife, my mother was very discrete and would never say anything without me asking first (anything she thought was personal / advise). She passed away before I woke up, would have been good to have talked about it and let her know "The sleeper has awakened".
Veritas,
Yes to releasing the bad emotions. Thank you for your comment and sharing your insight here with us.
Good Morning, you are spot on in many of your blogs.... You have addressed many red flags that had been facing... TY.
This was wonderful. Thank you.
Thank you so much. My partner has NDP and he doesn't like intimacy or sex. This has caused me lots of pain and after years of no affection I have had to seek a divorce. It's very painful but we can't go on like this.
Thank for sharing here, Jacqueline. Sending you strength for your journey ahead.
You are amazing!!❤
Thank you Cole, you really put thorough thoughts in you content.
I do AND I appreciate you taking the time to watch and comment. Thank you!!
Your voice is so soothing. LOVE your videos. I listen to you often on the Guided Mind APP :)
Awww thanks Pete! Guided mind is such a great app-thank you for listening and watching my stuff-I really appreciate you.
This is Your best video I've seen. Thanks!!!!
Absolutely love your videos! Oh, and that top is adorable lol. Thanks for all the great advice
Excellent! Thank you 🏖
Excellent video!
Thanks Rosemary! I'm so glad the content of the video resonated with you. PS: Join us for a weekly live stream and ask me ANY questions
We just launched our waiting list for The Real Love Revolution,
lot's of free gifts and a free private Facebook Group ( just for women )
Click her to join for free: www.terricole.com/RLR
I needed this, thank you
You're so welcome!
Keep up loading I love it all you thought in the Vedio
Thank you..I love this Terri you amazing :) So true.
thanks pal!
Ty again! Truly! 😊
Thank you very very much^^
You are so welcome, Annie! Thanks for being here with me.
You are more then awasome. Really great great work. It helping a lot. I am drown into it. Marvelous^^
you look very pretty in this video.
Thanks ;)
great info....never heard these tips....thank you......My ex and I had to break up because firstly, and this is hard to admit, he binge drinks and gets sloppy and staggering and mean as a drunk and his personality changes so much he is nothing like his sweet and smart personality when he is sober...so that was confusing as hell...like a jeckyll and hyde...also I did not respect him for that and I felt like he chose alcohol over me and over taking care of himself...but as an addict perhaps he has no choice....secondly he had no vision for what our future looks like...we had no shared couples vision together....I tried to talk to i'm about it but he was blank...I have to forgive myself for not knowing....I had terrible relationship models growing up....I never learned healthy relationships until now...I am learning now...terri cole, alanon, coda....I also have so much shame for not knowing better but how could I?....
You did the best you could with what you had. And now you are seeking resources and you're learning. When you know better you do better. I am sending you strength and compassion for your own growth, and I am cheering you on!
@@terri_cole Thank you for this loving support!
You’re so classy
‘…..forget about that…just close your eyes….do you want to do it….??🎯🎉🍰🍰ty Terri🪻🪻🪻🪻
This guy accuses me of punishing him. He lives 7 hrs away, I very rarely get to see him and we usually text a fair bit. Sometimes talk on the phone.
He is friends with his ex wife and keeps me a secret from her and everyone. He promised I could spend his bday with him, then 3 weeks before, he said he has to now spend it with his sister and ex. I can still come, he says, but I have to hide and wait for his return. So. I didn’t go. And he is really angry with me. Saying I am jealous and punishing. I ruined his birthday. But I think it’s disrespectful and showing a lack of priority of me…
I feel powerless in this relationship and have been waiting for a year, A YEAR in limbo, with false promises to move towards us while he begs for my patience. No progress. More distance on my part. But he says he feels stronger than ever.
I am witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️ It sounds like you might need to make a choice on whether you want to stay or not. It does not sound like you are punishing, either.