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@5:38 This slide made me realize something critically important about myself, and I can't stop going back and forth from weeping /for/ my inner child finally being properly acknowledged, and weeping /as/ my inner child finally feeling acknowledged. Literally hugging myself.
I appreciate these teachings. As an adult, when I get around a certain parent again, I get treated like a child, talked down to, and my inner child that was hurt over and over gets triggered and it takes me days or weeks to get over it again and feel okay and see myself right. The way this parent sees me in their mind is not who I am. So I struggle with trying to reject their filter and it damages my self image after I am around them again and yet, I dont want to cut off relationship as I love them, so I continue to struggle in this place over and over. This parent is not going to change so I my wound never heals. I am doing my best to love and also take care of my self. Some people can never treat their adult children with respect and continue to hold them to childhood. Its so frustrating. As I have gone through this I am also worried about the ways I am injuring or traumatizing my own children as things have been hard as a single mom and I know I dont respond to everything right. Im sure theyd say Im a hot mess. I also try to do well to apologize where I am wrong, and purposely affrirm their strengths especially if I noticed I have been on the negative side more.
WOW, WOW.. You have spoken directly into my life. I have a parent that treats and make me feel the same. For years I have not understood why I would feel so down, emotionally drained and frustrated after being around them. It would take weeks some times months to over come the pain. Your experience with your children, I too bare the same burden at times. I have chose to cut my ties because there is no change for my parent and I refuse 😅to allow them to continue to bewitch my mind any longer. Thank you for sharing this, you have helped me see and understand why I was feeling so down after seeing them. I really believe that they are aware of the pain and shame that they have put me through as a child, this video has helped to understand a lot. I also see that thier actions are intentionally done. I am now taking a stand, NO MORE will they abuse me with shame. Thank you again for sharing. God Bless
You give as much as an actual session with a therapist! Do you know, I do the same thing. My therapists never talked to me like this and this is much better. Some people know what they are doing and other do not, and she has a knack for it!
Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m truly touched that the video resonated with you in such a deep way. Reparenting the inner child can be a powerful journey towards healing and growth, and I’m so glad that it’s bringing a sense of renewal to your life. Additionally, if you're interested in more tips on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes. What part of the reparenting process has been the most impactful for you so far?
There is one problem with recognizing negative emotions in others. people often dont admit to being stressed, angry og sad... I found its best to regognize theese types of emotions within self and then trust your instinkts when people lie to you (this it for protection against further abuse)
I think this video touched me very much. I especially felt moved to the words you use "Ok. this is how you feel.", " I got this" "Let's practice some distress togheter" because i think those are some of the expressions my inner child needed and wished to hear during my childhood. I am so happy i can use them now to my little self, to other people and to my future children to try breaking the chain of unhappy childhoods in my family. Thank you Doc Snipes.
You’re so welcome! I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
Wow! Thanks for this! I tend to be so negative towards myself and can so easily spout any s*** against my past and present self. With this and your other videos about the inner child, I found out where my abandonment issues come from, though I can't still determine when this whole thing started as I may have been too young, it's helping me heal in retrospective, starting from my 20's, teenage years, preteen, and so on. My mom was basically forced to have children against her will so she could never love me. I think sabotaging me all the time and leaving her responsabilities on me was her only way to cope with her frustrations. Maybe I can finally break my forever single and friendless cycle. Thanks again.
You’re so welcome. I am sorry about your childhood and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? You said you’ve watched videos on the inner child, if you’re interested in videos on the inner child, you can find them at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
@@DocSnipes Thank you so much for replying to my comment. I think what I found most useful about your videos were the tools to get to know the inner child and also the tools you show to start working on the healing process. I've seen other videos on YT, but many of them are quite vague (like, start accepting yourself, asserting your feelings, etc.,so I say, ok, fine but how do I do that? Where do I start?) but yours are very down to earth which is what I truly appreciate (like there are actual exercises and things we can start doing, I have already started to try some of those!)
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This is really helpful thank you. Gave up drugs and alcohol bc and chose breathing , but I still was just disassociating…got to sit with the emotions and ground. Let the stress fade and then look at the situation more logically
I have been looking for this for a long time. Since Tom Bradshaw, I have had no one to help me with this. He told me there actually WAS an inner being inside me who did not want to serve anyone but herself, but did not actually get me past the many barriers to seeing who she was, what she wanted, and how to take care of her. It feels so much like home to have someone talking about this! Thank a bunch!
I really needed this! Going through a pretty tough break-up with my Ex fiance of 5 years. I’m learning about my anxious attachment and how I’m so attached to our little family and her family because they are “together” safe and reassuring validating and loved me for who I am compared to my childhood life (divorced dad had two separate families). This helped me understand a lot of why it’s so hard and what all these new feelings are and even understand why my fiancé got cold feet and couldn’t go through with everything!
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You’re so welcome, William! You are right, it’s never too late to learn or relearn. I am grateful for you and I appreciate you supporting the channel. Bless you!
I needed this video. Thank you for all the usefull info. It is a lot to process. I will probably need to see it few times, and try to use it in my life. Thank you❣️
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I like how you used Windows '95 as an example because 1. I grew up in the 90's and remember that slow old computer software 2. I conceptualize my neuronal mapping like a software which was developed solely on sensory information available to me in early childhood 3. I agree that my traumatic childhood left me with this old, slow, un-user-friendly software which only helps me shoot myself in the foot and confuse people around me
I know it's been a year since this video was uploaded, but thank you anyway, even if you don't see this. I'm in therapy at the moment, but I didn't realise until part way through your video that my inner child is scared a lot of the time. Now I can implement some of these strategies, with my therapist's help, to deal with my fear, and, hopefully, feel safer someday.
I'm so glad to hear that the video, along with your therapy, has been helpful for you! Reparenting the inner child is such a profound journey, and it's wonderful that you're finding strategies that resonate with you. Thank you for taking the time to share this-wishing you continued growth and healing on your path! Also, I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you're interested in more videos on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
Thank you so much for watching! I appreciate your kind words. Please let me know if there would be other topics on the inner child that would be of interest to you
I love this lady 😌 Thanks for the video, it was a great starting point for me to explore healing the deeper part of me that breaks through all of my surface work. Part of me thinks I developed a personality disorder from early childhood and adult years. I disbelief that personality disorders can’t be fixed or changed. Mood disorders, probably not, but if a personality is built brick by brick, then it can be dismantled and rebuilt, brick by brick. First need to inspect what it is though. This will help a lot in discovery. Then continued EMDR should hopefully help me re-organize it. Something has got to change though. Everything, really.
It's wonderful to hear that the video has been a helpful starting point for you on your healing journey. Your insight about the possibility of dismantling and rebuilding a personality brick by brick is powerful and encouraging. Recognizing the need to inspect and understand your personality is a crucial step, and it sounds like you're on the right path with your plans for continued EMDR therapy. Change is a challenging process, but with determination and the right support, it is definitely achievable. Wishing you strength and success as you continue to explore and heal. Also, please feel free to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you’re interested in finding more information on healing the inner child, please feel free to use my AI allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
@@DocSnipes Some things were re-affirming, and some things offered a perspective shift. The idea that you can react through the child I have understood for a while, but the idea that there might be positive things coming from the inner child, I never really have thought about, and will pay attention to. Challenging, black-and-white thinking, or generalizations by forcing yourself to recall a time that was not the case. Understanding that I react due to past things, I have historically written it off as I’m just reacting due to my nature from those things, but never validating it. I think what you said is important, to not just notice it, and relate it to something from the past, but to also recognize the feeling as legitimate. I also was able to relate to the idea where you cannot have clear thinking and a stressful state. I’ve been in pretty much two states since I was 10 years old (37 now), and that was either stressed out, or disassociating and unhooking from feelings (numbing). Now that I am engaging all of these trauma things, it might be important for me to be present, feel the stress, work it down, and then go into working on myself. I absolutely relate to the idea that you have to be careful not re-traumatizing yourself. I did that quite a bit. I could not sleep, and I was losing hair, breaking out, binge eating or starving myself, and disengaging from life. A book called, “The Body Keeps the Score”, alluded to what was happening, but I couldn’t understand that I was doing that. One of the biggest things I gained from childhood was reading people. Subtle shifts.. the slightest change in someone’s actions or words alert my brain in an instant- down to a period missing from a text. I’ve struggled with this because my brain is always right, there was a change, but my brain interprets it through the lens of my past experiences. I think it will be very helpful to ask, and be open-minded to people telling me what is going on. I think it’s also important to make sure you know what kind of person you’re dealing with, and that they will have strong communication skills and self-awareness to actually be able to tell you. Cutting out unhealthy people has been one of the biggest helps, because now those assumptions aren’t reaffirming, and I know that those around me will tell me the truth, which aids in my growth and change. I just wanna say that the work you do in helping people and making this information free and available is invaluable. People like me who grew up with mentally unhealthy and unstable people, who were all the people I loved, really grow up and feel so nasty about themselves. Despite knowing my heart, knowing my good, loving intentions, I’ve always felt like an unworthy monster- like a piece of trash. I know have a child to raise myself, and I don’t know how to help him if I don’t learn how to help myself. So, thank you!
Distress tolerance is a good one for me. when im in a stressful situation my body gets a huge rush of anxiety and it feels as if im paralyzed and i shut down.
What are some of your favorite strategies to show compassion for your inner child and help them recognize they are safe in the present and you will be there for them/yourself
I actually got a lot of healing when I envisioned a different version of my father and had him comfort me and carry me around as a little girl, rather than punish me as my real father did (I loved him very much, he was just clueless about healthy discipline when we were little). I found envisioning this nurturing version of my father for a couple of weeks did me a great deal of good.
You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching. Were those your favorite strategies? Here are some videos on emotion regulation: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=DBT Other videos that might help can be found at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
@@DocSnipes Yes Dr. Snipes, the emotional regulation skills and the distress tolerance skills are very important to me. The more I learn the easier it is to practice them. I have been through a Dialectical Behavioral Therapy course where I was introduced to these skills.
@@DocSnipes I liked the structure and could take notes. This is all new to me as I've not delved into childhood "stuff" before so this was a great explanation of childhood trauma a lot of which I could relate to.
Reparenting inner child is the panacea for narcissism psychopath and such harming personalities, apart from personal liberation. If narcissist is trained they can also be relieved from such nasty disorders. It also retrains the victims. So retraining is very beneficial in all aspects. ❤
Thank you for your comment! Reparenting the inner child can indeed be a powerful healing tool, both for those who have been harmed and, in some cases, for individuals who struggle with harmful behaviors like narcissism. By reconnecting with the inner child, a person can start to heal deep emotional wounds and unmet needs from childhood, which often play a role in developing unhealthy patterns in adulthood. For people with narcissistic tendencies or other harmful behaviors, reparenting can potentially be a way to increase self-awareness, empathy, and emotional regulation. However, it’s important to remember that not everyone with these traits will be open to or capable of this kind of deep introspective work. Narcissism, especially when it reaches the level of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), can make it very difficult for someone to acknowledge their own issues, because the disorder often involves a deep sense of defensiveness and difficulty accepting vulnerability. That said, for those who are willing to do the work, reparenting and other therapeutic approaches can help them develop healthier relationships with themselves and others. Similarly, for people who have been victims of narcissistic abuse, reparenting can be incredibly healing. It allows them to reclaim their sense of self, rebuild self-esteem, and learn to meet their own emotional needs in a healthy way, breaking the cycle of dependency on others for validation. In both cases, the concept of "retraining" or "reparenting" can be transformative, but it often requires a lot of support, patience, and self-compassion. It's not a quick fix, but as you mentioned, it can offer personal liberation and profound healing when done with intention.
@@DocSnipes I find it really straight forward, structured and no beating around the bush. Showing kindness and attentiveness with our judging was very valuable.
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Some people no matter how old we get, never really seems to grow up or mature, except in knowledge, young thinking, the inner child, the progressive self, having more in common with young people and animals, than your generation, except for the aging process, so one never really fits in, the guy who prefers to live alone than to be alone amongst others, we fantasize a lot, 😎
For reframing the concept of unlovable..I can totally relate and see validity here..as for being unloved by narcissistic adoptive parents who literally tell me to get out of the car and pretend to drive off..who emotionally diminished me in front of family members, gaslit, sexually abused me, performed exorcisms on me threw me in a mental hospital multiple times and ultimately disowning me.. reframing the concept that they didn't love me is going to be nearly impossible
@@DocSnipes Thank you and that's not even everything I went through... I'm sorry if I came across as short..I was upset..I appreciate not only your compassion but also your concise tools on reparenting.. healing..self validation..and rewriting of toxic thought patterns and beliefs.. excellent video that I will be returning to when I am in a more receptive headspace..Thank you for being the light at the end of the tunnel 💜
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Straight bad ass person right here. Valuable information to guide us all very nurturing and feminine. Now we just need to find a strong masculine form to give us that extra push.
@@DocSnipes I tell my inner child that I'm in a safe place when I feel I truly can be at home.. And that she can be whomever she wants to be. And doesn't need to be anxious during this time because I will keep her safe. She can look and feel how she wants! No one forcing her to do otherwise or tell her she's not allowed to cry or talk ✨️
I am trying to help my blind/ mentally impaired daughter with releasing trauma from a previous life. Do you have any pointers? I had her very young and admittedly I probably wasn’t the best parent, but she was NEVER abused.
I an relate to all of this.. I would say to a degree that I have been reparenting myself.. It almost seams like I have been letting the Inner Child run the show..
Hi Dr. Snipes! I am a therapist myself, how do I get to see videos that are unavailable to the public but only to members. How do I become a member? Thank you!💝
1. Review the concept of the inner self/child. 2. Identify the needs of your inner self child. 3. Develop secure-attachement based strategies to reparent your inner self.
@@DocSnipes I tried watching some Mr. Rogers and Sesame Street. I also started attending church again. I’m not sure what else to do. The concept of self love is elusive to me
Thanks for watching. You look to see if their words match their actions. What did you find most useful from this video? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
@@DocSnipes It is so nice to have a reply to know what it feels like to have someone else's responsiveness to something about my child. It affects me in a positive way, as if I have not had that before. My mother always used my little sisters as an excuse for not paying any attention to me... or simply that she did not have any time to respond appropriately to me. She told me I could do it by my self (which I could not) So what I do is to notice that the child is someone who has not been responded to at all because it feels so new to have it... and that I am angry about that.
this video is great from an objective scientific standpoint, but does not really incorporate tools for rewiring neurological damage from childhood abuse or abandonment. My best advice is, stay away from assholes. Working on healing inner child wounds comes before any relationship, in my opinion so i stay clear of inconsiderate people.
Thanks for watching. The video you have just watched is on reparenting the inner child. This is the video on healing the inner child: th-cam.com/video/IKJPtpaNP2A/w-d-xo.html
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establish a relationship between the inner child and your adult self so that you feel safe, heard and empowered. Explore your triggers with curiosity and decide if you are vulnerable in the moment or it is triggering a memory. Focus on helping yourself feel safe in the present. Tell yourself "I can't change the past and what made you feel scared, but I can help you feel safe in the present."
Thanks for watching. Sometimes deep breathing can lead to dissociation. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
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This video was like ten therapy sessions at one time. Thanks 🙏
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It is, great video!
Thank you Doc! I'm learning and practicing all of this at the age off 29! I feel like a kid again
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
@5:38 This slide made me realize something critically important about myself, and I can't stop going back and forth from weeping /for/ my inner child finally being properly acknowledged, and weeping /as/ my inner child finally feeling acknowledged. Literally hugging myself.
Thank you for watching. I am glad you are hugging. Is that your favorite strategy from the video?
My inner child remembers all the stress of childhood 😮. It’s true
I appreciate these teachings. As an adult, when I get around a certain parent again, I get treated like a child, talked down to, and my inner child that was hurt over and over gets triggered and it takes me days or weeks to get over it again and feel okay and see myself right. The way this parent sees me in their mind is not who I am. So I struggle with trying to reject their filter and it damages my self image after I am around them again and yet, I dont want to cut off relationship as I love them, so I continue to struggle in this place over and over. This parent is not going to change so I my wound never heals. I am doing my best to love and also take care of my self. Some people can never treat their adult children with respect and continue to hold them to childhood. Its so frustrating.
As I have gone through this I am also worried about the ways I am injuring or traumatizing my own children as things have been hard as a single mom and I know I dont respond to everything right. Im sure theyd say Im a hot mess. I also try to do well to apologize where I am wrong, and purposely affrirm their strengths especially if I noticed I have been on the negative side more.
You are most welcome. What tools from the video are you planning to use to reparent the inner child?
WOW, WOW..
You have spoken directly into my life. I have a parent that treats and make me feel the same. For years I have not understood why I would feel so down, emotionally drained and frustrated after being around them. It would take weeks some times months to over come the pain. Your experience with your children, I too bare the same burden at times. I have chose to cut my ties because there is no change for my parent and I refuse 😅to allow them to continue to bewitch my mind any longer. Thank you for sharing this, you have helped me see and understand why I was feeling so down after seeing them. I really believe that they are aware of the pain and shame that they have put me through as a child, this video has helped to understand a lot. I also see that thier actions are intentionally done. I am now taking a stand, NO MORE will they abuse me with shame. Thank you again for sharing. God Bless
Thanks! I really needed to hear this message ❤️ My inner child really enjoyed this video 🧘♀️
I am so glad to read that, Diane. What did your inner child find most useful from the video?
You give as much as an actual session with a therapist! Do you know, I do the same thing. My therapists never talked to me like this and this is much better. Some people know what they are doing and other do not, and she has a knack for it!
Good stuff!
Every word that came out of you is gold you don't know how this video is going to change my life a rebirth God bless you
Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m truly touched that the video resonated with you in such a deep way. Reparenting the inner child can be a powerful journey towards healing and growth, and I’m so glad that it’s bringing a sense of renewal to your life. Additionally, if you're interested in more tips on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.
What part of the reparenting process has been the most impactful for you so far?
Honesty is essential for a safe and healthy relationship
Thanks for watching
I agree. I never knew this was sooo true.
Your so right 🎉 about assertiveness is very hard for my inner child……
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Reparenting is tough! Thanks for this excellent video ❤️
You are so welcome!
There is one problem with recognizing negative emotions in others. people often dont admit to being stressed, angry og sad... I found its best to regognize theese types of emotions within self and then trust your instinkts when people lie to you (this it for protection against further abuse)
Thank you for watching and for sharing
Such valuable information, Doc. Thank you ✨️
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I think this video touched me very much. I especially felt moved to the words you use "Ok. this is how you feel.", " I got this" "Let's practice some distress togheter" because i think those are some of the expressions my inner child needed and wished to hear during my childhood. I am so happy i can use them now to my little self, to other people and to my future children to try breaking the chain of unhappy childhoods in my family. Thank you Doc Snipes.
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I don't have words to thank you 🙏 you're helping me so much
You are so welcome
Wow! Thanks for this! I tend to be so negative towards myself and can so easily spout any s*** against my past and present self. With this and your other videos about the inner child, I found out where my abandonment issues come from, though I can't still determine when this whole thing started as I may have been too young, it's helping me heal in retrospective, starting from my 20's, teenage years, preteen, and so on. My mom was basically forced to have children against her will so she could never love me. I think sabotaging me all the time and leaving her responsabilities on me was her only way to cope with her frustrations. Maybe I can finally break my forever single and friendless cycle. Thanks again.
You’re so welcome. I am sorry about your childhood and I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? You said you’ve watched videos on the inner child, if you’re interested in videos on the inner child, you can find them at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
@@DocSnipes Thank you so much for replying to my comment. I think what I found most useful about your videos were the tools to get to know the inner child and also the tools you show to start working on the healing process. I've seen other videos on YT, but many of them are quite vague (like, start accepting yourself, asserting your feelings, etc.,so I say, ok, fine but how do I do that? Where do I start?) but yours are very down to earth which is what I truly appreciate (like there are actual exercises and things we can start doing, I have already started to try some of those!)
ThaaaaaaNks for explaining the problem and providing the tools to deal with it unlike many other channels ❤
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This is really helpful thank you. Gave up drugs and alcohol bc and chose breathing , but I still was just disassociating…got to sit with the emotions and ground. Let the stress fade and then look at the situation more logically
I appreciate you watching. How are you planning to reparent your inner child?
I have been looking for this for a long time. Since Tom Bradshaw, I have had no one to help me with this. He told me there actually WAS an inner being inside me who did not want to serve anyone but herself, but did not actually get me past the many barriers to seeing who she was, what she wanted, and how to take care of her. It feels so much like home to have someone talking about this! Thank a bunch!
You’re so welcome. Other videos that might help can be found at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
Thank you for these very helpful videos. I hope they reach a lot of people.
You’re so welcome. What would you say it’s your favorite strategy for reparenting the inner child?
Making practical tools available to everyone - what a worthwhile mission. You are certainly helping me!
Thank you! I am grateful to be of service
Very helpful information about the wounded inner child thank you so much I took notes .
You’re most welcome. I appreciate you watching. Other videos that might help can be found at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
I really needed this! Going through a pretty tough break-up with my Ex fiance of 5 years. I’m learning about my anxious attachment and how I’m so attached to our little family and her family because they are “together” safe and reassuring validating and loved me for who I am compared to my childhood life (divorced dad had two separate families). This helped me understand a lot of why it’s so hard and what all these new feelings are and even understand why my fiancé got cold feet and couldn’t go through with everything!
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❣lovely to watch ❣lovely to listen too ❣ thanks so much - from New Zealand 🇳🇿🇳🇿🇳🇿🇳🇿🇳🇿🇳🇿
I appreciate you watching
I’ve been feeling so distressed my inner child says Thankyou
You’re so welcome. I am sorry you’re feeling distressed and I appreciate you watching the video
Thank you for every bit of work you are doing. It's never too late to learn or relearn. Bless you.
You’re so welcome, William! You are right, it’s never too late to learn or relearn. I am grateful for you and I appreciate you supporting the channel. Bless you!
I needed this video. Thank you for all the usefull info. It is a lot to process. I will probably need to see it few times, and try to use it in my life. Thank you❣️
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Ma’am thank you for this video. It is doing me a world of wonder. God Bless you 🙏💋
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
I like how you used Windows '95 as an example because 1. I grew up in the 90's and remember that slow old computer software 2. I conceptualize my neuronal mapping like a software which was developed solely on sensory information available to me in early childhood 3. I agree that my traumatic childhood left me with this old, slow, un-user-friendly software which only helps me shoot myself in the foot and confuse people around me
I am glad you like that example and I appreciate you watching the video. What was your favorite strategy for reparenting the inner child?
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I know it's been a year since this video was uploaded, but thank you anyway, even if you don't see this. I'm in therapy at the moment, but I didn't realise until part way through your video that my inner child is scared a lot of the time. Now I can implement some of these strategies, with my therapist's help, to deal with my fear, and, hopefully, feel safer someday.
Thank you for watching the video
In combination with my therapy, this video helped me, too to figure stuff out. Thank you 🙏🏼
I'm so glad to hear that the video, along with your therapy, has been helpful for you! Reparenting the inner child is such a profound journey, and it's wonderful that you're finding strategies that resonate with you. Thank you for taking the time to share this-wishing you continued growth and healing on your path!
Also, I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you're interested in more videos on the topic or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
Sounds like what I've been looking for.
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My Safety, restructure ing, 😮wow I have a lot to learn about my own childhood, to much trauma as a childhood
Excellent Video!
Gratitude and Appreciation! 💫
Thank you so much for watching! I appreciate your kind words. Please let me know if there would be other topics on the inner child that would be of interest to you
Thank you so much. This is so relevant for me and my family member at this time
I appreciate you watching. What was your favorite strategy for reparenting the inner child?
I love this lady 😌
Thanks for the video, it was a great starting point for me to explore healing the deeper part of me that breaks through all of my surface work. Part of me thinks I developed a personality disorder from early childhood and adult years. I disbelief that personality disorders can’t be fixed or changed. Mood disorders, probably not, but if a personality is built brick by brick, then it can be dismantled and rebuilt, brick by brick. First need to inspect what it is though. This will help a lot in discovery. Then continued EMDR should hopefully help me re-organize it. Something has got to change though. Everything, really.
It's wonderful to hear that the video has been a helpful starting point for you on your healing journey. Your insight about the possibility of dismantling and rebuilding a personality brick by brick is powerful and encouraging. Recognizing the need to inspect and understand your personality is a crucial step, and it sounds like you're on the right path with your plans for continued EMDR therapy. Change is a challenging process, but with determination and the right support, it is definitely achievable. Wishing you strength and success as you continue to explore and heal.
Also, please feel free to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you’re interested in finding more information on healing the inner child, please feel free to use my AI allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
@@DocSnipes Some things were re-affirming, and some things offered a perspective shift. The idea that you can react through the child I have understood for a while, but the idea that there might be positive things coming from the inner child, I never really have thought about, and will pay attention to. Challenging, black-and-white thinking, or generalizations by forcing yourself to recall a time that was not the case. Understanding that I react due to past things, I have historically written it off as I’m just reacting due to my nature from those things, but never validating it. I think what you said is important, to not just notice it, and relate it to something from the past, but to also recognize the feeling as legitimate. I also was able to relate to the idea where you cannot have clear thinking and a stressful state. I’ve been in pretty much two states since I was 10 years old (37 now), and that was either stressed out, or disassociating and unhooking from feelings (numbing). Now that I am engaging all of these trauma things, it might be important for me to be present, feel the stress, work it down, and then go into working on myself. I absolutely relate to the idea that you have to be careful not re-traumatizing yourself. I did that quite a bit. I could not sleep, and I was losing hair, breaking out, binge eating or starving myself, and disengaging from life. A book called, “The Body Keeps the Score”, alluded to what was happening, but I couldn’t understand that I was doing that. One of the biggest things I gained from childhood was reading people. Subtle shifts.. the slightest change in someone’s actions or words alert my brain in an instant- down to a period missing from a text. I’ve struggled with this because my brain is always right, there was a change, but my brain interprets it through the lens of my past experiences. I think it will be very helpful to ask, and be open-minded to people telling me what is going on. I think it’s also important to make sure you know what kind of person you’re dealing with, and that they will have strong communication skills and self-awareness to actually be able to tell you. Cutting out unhealthy people has been one of the biggest helps, because now those assumptions aren’t reaffirming, and I know that those around me will tell me the truth, which aids in my growth and change. I just wanna say that the work you do in helping people and making this information free and available is invaluable. People like me who grew up with mentally unhealthy and unstable people, who were all the people I loved, really grow up and feel so nasty about themselves. Despite knowing my heart, knowing my good, loving intentions, I’ve always felt like an unworthy monster- like a piece of trash. I know have a child to raise myself, and I don’t know how to help him if I don’t learn how to help myself. So, thank you!
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I've been watching your videos for years now, and I must say that you have a great taste in wardrobe.
Thank you and thank you for watching
Thank you i am having this problem. Just recently came to terms with it.
Thank you so much for watching. What is your favorite tip from the video, a tip you find extremely helpful to reparent your inner child?
Distress tolerance is a good one for me. when im in a stressful situation my body gets a huge rush of anxiety and it feels as if im paralyzed and i shut down.
Thank you so much for creating this video
I appreciate you watching. What would you say is your favorite strategy from the video for reparenting the inner child?
What are some of your favorite strategies to show compassion for your inner child and help them recognize they are safe in the present and you will be there for them/yourself
Putting my hand on my heart. Acknowledging the physiological happenings in my body due to the distressed inner child. Pep talks inside my head.
I actually got a lot of healing when I envisioned a different version of my father and had him comfort me and carry me around as a little girl, rather than punish me as my real father did (I loved him very much, he was just clueless about healthy discipline when we were little). I found envisioning this nurturing version of my father for a couple of weeks did me a great deal of good.
Very well illustrated and explained, thanks.
You’re most welcome. Thanks for watching. You can find more videos on the inner child at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
@@DocSnipes noted, thanks again.
Great video. Loved it. Thanks for covering the emotional regulation and distress tolerance skills and how to use them to help heal the inner child.
You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching. Were those your favorite strategies?
Here are some videos on emotion regulation: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=DBT
Other videos that might help can be found at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
@@DocSnipes Yes Dr. Snipes, the emotional regulation skills and the distress tolerance skills are very important to me. The more I learn the easier it is to practice them. I have been through a Dialectical Behavioral Therapy course where I was introduced to these skills.
Thank you for this video, much appreciated!
You’re so very welcome. What tips would you use first for reparenting the inner child?
@@DocSnipes Mindfulness; specifically increasing awareness of inner child wants and needs in general.
So timely ... thank you
You’re so welcome. If you don’t mind me asking, how are you planning to start reparenting your inner child.
So good. Wishes I heard this years ago.
I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?
@@DocSnipes I liked the structure and could take notes. This is all new to me as I've not delved into childhood "stuff" before so this was a great explanation of childhood trauma a lot of which I could relate to.
Thank you, I really needed this.
You’re most welcome. What strategy are you planning to use first to reparent your inner child?
I was waiting for this video! Thank Doc.
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching. How are you planning to start reparenting your inner child?
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Reparenting inner child is the panacea for narcissism psychopath and such harming personalities, apart from personal liberation. If narcissist is trained they can also be relieved from such nasty disorders. It also retrains the victims. So retraining is very beneficial in all aspects. ❤
Thank you for your comment! Reparenting the inner child can indeed be a powerful healing tool, both for those who have been harmed and, in some cases, for individuals who struggle with harmful behaviors like narcissism. By reconnecting with the inner child, a person can start to heal deep emotional wounds and unmet needs from childhood, which often play a role in developing unhealthy patterns in adulthood.
For people with narcissistic tendencies or other harmful behaviors, reparenting can potentially be a way to increase self-awareness, empathy, and emotional regulation. However, it’s important to remember that not everyone with these traits will be open to or capable of this kind of deep introspective work. Narcissism, especially when it reaches the level of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), can make it very difficult for someone to acknowledge their own issues, because the disorder often involves a deep sense of defensiveness and difficulty accepting vulnerability.
That said, for those who are willing to do the work, reparenting and other therapeutic approaches can help them develop healthier relationships with themselves and others. Similarly, for people who have been victims of narcissistic abuse, reparenting can be incredibly healing. It allows them to reclaim their sense of self, rebuild self-esteem, and learn to meet their own emotional needs in a healthy way, breaking the cycle of dependency on others for validation.
In both cases, the concept of "retraining" or "reparenting" can be transformative, but it often requires a lot of support, patience, and self-compassion. It's not a quick fix, but as you mentioned, it can offer personal liberation and profound healing when done with intention.
This video is a blessing ❤ thank you, doctor!
You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching the video
This was great, thanks
You’re most welcome. I appreciate you watching. What is the first strategy you are going to use to reparent the inner child?
I like your videos thank you
I appreciate you watching
This is hugely helpful, thank you 🩵
You’re welcome! Thank you for watching the video
Thank you so much, this was actually amazing.
You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching the video. What did you find most helpful from it?
@@DocSnipes I find it really straight forward, structured and no beating around the bush. Showing kindness and attentiveness with our judging was very valuable.
Thank you Doc really helpful ❤
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Thank you.
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
Thank you again
You’re so welcome, James. I am grateful to be of help. Thank you for watching
Love your videos, thanks a bunch for all the great info!
You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching. What is the first thing you are planning to do to reparent your inner child?
This is fantastic, is there any PDF to download, or transcript? I will defintely support this channel, greetings from Sweden.
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Your videos are therapy itself. Thank you. I'm learning and self reflecting so much more.
I love you doc Snipes
I appreciate you watching. What strategy are you planning to use first to reparent the inner child?
Some people no matter how old we get, never really seems to grow up or mature, except in knowledge, young thinking, the inner child, the progressive self, having more in common with young people and animals, than your generation, except for the aging process, so one never really fits in, the guy who prefers to live alone than to be alone amongst others, we fantasize a lot, 😎
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For reframing the concept of unlovable..I can totally relate and see validity here..as for being unloved by narcissistic adoptive parents who literally tell me to get out of the car and pretend to drive off..who emotionally diminished me in front of family members, gaslit, sexually abused me, performed exorcisms on me threw me in a mental hospital multiple times and ultimately disowning me.. reframing the concept that they didn't love me is going to be nearly impossible
That’s awful and I am deeply sorry it happened to you
@@DocSnipes Thank you and that's not even everything I went through... I'm sorry if I came across as short..I was upset..I appreciate not only your compassion but also your concise tools on reparenting.. healing..self validation..and rewriting of toxic thought patterns and beliefs.. excellent video that I will be returning to when I am in a more receptive headspace..Thank you for being the light at the end of the tunnel 💜
This was so helpful. Thank you
You're so welcome!
Thanks!!! this is so great
Great video and looking awesome as always!!
Thank you. I appreciate you watching the video
Thanks!
You’re so welcome, Dane! What strategies from the video are you planning to use to reparent the inner child?
❤ thank you so much
I appreciate you watching. How are you planning to start reparenting your inner child?
Very cool intro and video!
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Thank you 🙏🏿
You are so welcome
This was really helpful ❤
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Straight bad ass person right here.
Valuable information to guide us all very nurturing and feminine.
Now we just need to find a strong masculine form to give us that extra push.
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So helpful thank you
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Yeah inner child is a truth
Thanks for watching
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You're welcome 😊
46 and trying to be stronger and wiser than my inner child.
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amazing video ❤
Thank you
Thanks your a star
You’re so welcome. What strategy are you planning to use to reparent your inner child?
@@DocSnipes I tell my inner child that I'm in a safe place when I feel I truly can be at home.. And that she can be whomever she wants to be. And doesn't need to be anxious during this time because I will keep her safe. She can look and feel how she wants! No one forcing her to do otherwise or tell her she's not allowed to cry or talk ✨️
I am trying to help my blind/ mentally impaired daughter with releasing trauma from a previous life. Do you have any pointers? I had her very young and admittedly I probably wasn’t the best parent, but she was NEVER abused.
I would like a one on one with you Doc Snips
I an relate to all of this.. I would say to a degree that I have been reparenting myself.. It almost seams like I have been letting the Inner Child run the show..
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Hi Dr. Snipes! I am a therapist myself, how do I get to see videos that are unavailable to the public but only to members. How do I become a member? Thank you!💝
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1. Review the concept of the inner self/child.
2. Identify the needs of your inner self child.
3. Develop secure-attachement based strategies to reparent your inner self.
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I appreciate you watching. How are you planning to start repatriating your inner child?
@@DocSnipes I tried watching some Mr. Rogers and Sesame Street. I also started attending church again. I’m not sure what else to do. The concept of self love is elusive to me
My biggest question is how do you know you can believe their words when you ask their intention?
Thanks for watching. You look to see if their words match their actions. What did you find most useful from this video? Other videos you might be interested in can be found at th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=innerchild
It is hard to understand what "safe" is when you know you lost it a long time ago but don't know exactly why.
I am sorry about that. What strategy will you use first to reparent the inner child?
@@DocSnipes It is so nice to have a reply to know what it feels like to have someone else's responsiveness to something about my child. It affects me in a positive way, as if I have not had that before. My mother always used my little sisters as an excuse for not paying any attention to me... or simply that she did not have any time to respond appropriately to me. She told me I could do it by my self (which I could not) So what I do is to notice that the child is someone who has not been responded to at all because it feels so new to have it... and that I am angry about that.
Where can I download these slides from?
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this video is great from an objective scientific standpoint, but does not really incorporate tools for rewiring neurological damage from childhood abuse or abandonment. My best advice is, stay away from assholes. Working on healing inner child wounds comes before any relationship, in my opinion so i stay clear of inconsiderate people.
Thanks for watching. The video you have just watched is on reparenting the inner child. This is the video on healing the inner child: th-cam.com/video/IKJPtpaNP2A/w-d-xo.html
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What if you have Asperger's and applying this on my own and I can't afford the appropriate therapy to help me understand what my beliefs are.
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But most painful Trauma happens before the memory begins. What do you do then?
establish a relationship between the inner child and your adult self so that you feel safe, heard and empowered. Explore your triggers with curiosity and decide if you are vulnerable in the moment or it is triggering a memory. Focus on helping yourself feel safe in the present. Tell yourself "I can't change the past and what made you feel scared, but I can help you feel safe in the present."
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I can't do the breathing work, grounding is better.
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I wished mine had abandoned me. They tried burning me alive when I was 3. After that it got bad.
I am sorry that happened to you and I appreciate you watching
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I appreciate you watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
@@DocSnipes Easy to understand and practical tools were provided. I have already been applying them. Thank you Dr.!